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I’ve got a widow friend of mine and managing the finances alone is overwhelming for her. Any advice?"

Poor you.... Having to look after yourself

Great video, so many good ideas and thoughts to reflect on. Thank you for sharing! ❤

Excellent video! Boundary setting is not easy for me, especially with people who react quickly in a defensive or angry way. It's so true though, the more clear we can be about our boundaries, the better and the more likely that we don't get a lot of backlash (and even if we do we can be ok with it). It's definitely a learning process. I like how you reinforce/ highlight your messages with written text popping up in your older videos.

How did I get this same book of rules!

Excellent video! I'm very impressed how many bad habits you were able to give up! I am currently trying to reduce my coffee intake long- term, I don't necessarily want to give up on it completely but just not be so dependent on it, especially when I feel stressed or tired. It backfires as it makes me feel more anxious and my energy levels are going up and down in a very unsteady way. I managed to reduce it from a lot to two cups normal coffee mixed with decaf per day, but I still have cravings for more in the morning. What helps me is keeping busy and going outside to get some fresh air. I like your affirmation: "I don't do that anymore." Waiting like an hour until I have my first cup in the morning helps me as well.

I have a notepad where I oftentimes write some things down in the morning that I want to do on that day. Then I write down later what I accomplished, how it went for me and oftentimes also thoughts that pop up in my head. I don't do this every day though, but the days I am, I find it very helpful and encouraging. I do like your idea with the book, just writing down the words and then the thoughts that are coming up. It reminds me of how I used to study in college. You are so right by the way, I have several self-help books sitting at home already that I could use... Thank you for this encouraging video! ❤️

I am good enough and I am worthy of love, stability, and fulfillment in my life.

She's basically saying Jesus is the way, maybe she shy

I am good enough and worthy of love

I havent convinced myself deep down, l can say it, but decades of not believing is a hard nut to crack subconsciously

I am good enough. I am worthy.

I am good enough, I am worthy.

I am good enough, I am worthy. I can't really believe it yet but I'm desperately trying to. Thank you so much for this video. ❤

It's a very powerful and simple tool that have strong impact so thank you so much for being brave, open and kind enough to share this message Melony. You are an inspiration

I am good enough ❤

I am Good Enough, I am Worthy❤

I am good enough and I am worthy.

Thank u so much, i needed this ❤

Thank you for sharing 💗 I think you are amazing, strong, brave, courageous and inspirational. That’s a pretty amazing human then! 💖

So great that you are so structured and even manage to wake up that early every day! I'm impressed! I am not as structured, I think for me personally, I need a bit of freedom and flexibility throughout my day- but you do have a point that everything we have already scheduled in- we don't need to think about and it requires less effort for us. I think it's great you schedule meditation into your day! For myself, I would like to get back into a Yoga practice, and I should probably reserve a specific time each day for that. Thank you for reminding us what's truly important and that we are allowed to make time just for us, for what we need!

I am good enough. I am worthy. Thank you for this message. It hit me deeply. Shanon (26, UK)

i am enough.

I am worthy.

You are courageous with everything you have done for yourself and learned and now for sharing your insights with us! ✨ I like how you encourage therapy as a way to be validated in our experience and for getting an outside perspective/ a direction to move towards. So far, I have been a bit hesitant to start therapy myself, but that's a good encouragement! Even if we aren't in a place to afford therapy, there are always ways to do studying and work on ourselves though and I like how you emphasize that as well.

I am good enough.

I am good enough and worthy of love.

So many valuable lessons in this one, thank you! ❤ Like you, I was also proud of being such a kind and nice person and I got praised for it as well. But I totally agree with your message, we are more than just nice people, we deserve to express all our emotions and to show our real selves to the world! Thank you for all your tips to overcome people pleasing! That book sounds interesting.

This is a beautiful, very compassionate and encouraging video! ❤️ One of my favorites that I've seen from you yet. I love how you get personal and share your story. It must have been so hard for you as a child. You have come so far! ✨ Thank you for inspiring us to keep working on ourselves and also to consider the spiritual side of life and how it can help us feel connected and loved.

Thank you for these helpful suggestions for better communication! I think with some people, I would probably state what I want first, in a clear and not too emotional way like you suggested. And then I would state the facts. In my experience, some people feel offended/ attacked just when you state the facts (even if you try not to do it in an aggressive way). Then they get into a defensive mode easily. So by stating what I want/ need first, I would put the focus on the fact that there needs to be a change. I think it could even be combined with a boundary, what I would do for myself, in order to get what I need if the other person isn't willing to change. That way I'm not dependent on their reaction. But it obviously depends on the other person and how much they are willing to listen/ make changes. Other than that, I do like that you make us reflect on all the different types of reactions and which one we most likely display ourselves in a certain situation. Oftentimes, we react so quickly in a non conscious way, even if it's not helpful, just because that behavior pattern is so deeply ingrained into us.

These questions are very helpful, thank you for sharing! I like how you take insights from a book and then make it more personal and adjust it for your needs. I'm glad you found TH-cam as a way to create! Any way we can find to create more in our lives can be truly so helpful! I think we are oftentimes guided by society to consume a lot, more than is good and healthy for us. Creating can truly lead us back into our own power. For this specific video, I found your introduction a bit long. I think since so many people these days have short attention spans, maybe a slightly shorter introduction could get you even more views. Just a suggestion. Thank you for sharing your insights and reflections, as always, they are very valuable!

on the same page....💜

The more you feel free to be yourself, the better it translates and touches us! ❤️ ✨ Thank you for being you, for showing up and sharing your story and your thoughts! I find it very inspirational that you started TH-cam in your 50s. (I just turned 50 myself.) I feel there's a lot we can share at this age, it's so cool if we keep growing and trying new things! Well done for being persistent, for learning from what didn't work for you and for not giving up so quickly!

Thank you for this encouragement to feel into our emotions and to name them! I agree with you, this is so important! I still get overwhelmed by my emotions (or just by life in general) easily. So for me, it's really essential to take some quiet time for myself and to rest and reflect often. When an emotion that's coming up for me is particularly intense or tough, I like to feel how it shows up within my body, where do I feel it, where do I feel tense, heavy etc. And then relax into it, relax my muscles and talk compassionately and in an understanding way towards myself and my feeling. It helps! I like your idea with going through the day and journaling about our feelings as well. I think for us women especially, it's not only childhood experiences/ programing, that can lead us to push our feelings down and instead, focus on others. It's also role expectations in society. Women are still seen as the ones who are supposed to care for others and not be too selfish etc. It can get so draining though! Thank you for reminding us to take time for ourselves and our inner state, who we are and what we truly want in life! ❤️

This is my situation If feel completely lost my whole life I'm now wondering Is this why I'v never been happy in myself

This was incredibly helpful and validating. Thank you

I like this idea of naming our different personality sides, it helps to see ourselves and our behaviors with a bit of inner distance and also humor. Not taking ourselves too seriously. We are truly complex creatures and it pays off to face ourselves bravely! Personally, what helps me a lot is to try to be loving and accepting to all of my sides, as some of my behaviors (like my scared and anxious self) got shamed a lot as a child, so I would probably not call one of my sides "bitchy" but I get what you mean. It's a relief to know that we all have those different sides, none of us is "perfect" and sometimes, society or how we were raised is the "broken" part in all of this, not really us. Thank you for sharing all of your thoughts and ideas!

Thank you for the video. Your journey reminds me of my own. When I stopped being responsible for my husband to change and started working on myself and my own goals I started feeling empowered versus drained ,deflated and depressed. Difference in mindset brings freedom to our lives. I like the words you use creator instead of rescuer and the victim. Good stuff!

Yes purpose ..it also does give meaning to one's whole life.. The Creator

It's like going through a rabbit hole and finding nothing.. unhappiness

Very well said! I like how you explain this all in a very compassionate and also clear and direct way. I'm glad you took the step to become a creator and empower others as well! I can relate to a lot of the things you say and I think that's the direction to go for me as well.

love the insights in this!

Needed to hear this today! Thank you!

I have struggled with this long time in my life. Thank you for sharing so I can know I am not alone.

No need to aspire to be happy, happiness is for children, just be content