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Thank you.

Can OCD make a memory seem so vivid and real that it's like convincing?

Waiting for more of your videos… These days I have been going backward to the pre-OCD period of my life, where it was dormant. Then I had very low insight, life was filled with a stagnancy where everything seemed to be in a different isolated and separated reality with no happiness and constant rumination about basically everything. This is making me fall into a comfort zone because it was the period where I was all 20 years however, I am not at all happy and can’t do anything which I still was able to as I was making progress. I don’t know honestly where am I falling… 🤔 I have blended stuff for 20 years in my life- and this insight tool helped me come out of a major spike I was facing-

For the past five years, I've bravely exposed myself to social interactions, yet every encounter leaves me feeling defeated. The difficulty is that I seem to make people feel awful around me. They can sense my toxic shame - it radiates from me, making them so uncomfortable because I'm painfully self-conscious and extremely awkward. I can't control this feeling. I never feel at ease with myself when I have to talk to people. I don't understand what's happening to me. I don't want to avoid people, and I certainly don't want to hide from them. But this overwhelming sense of toxic shame persists, even though I've been working in public for about six years in a restaurant. I'm 31 years old and have never been in a relationship with a woman; they all avoid me. I try my best to look charming; I take care of myself and dress well, but this toxic feeling of shame makes people suspicious of me. They keep me at a distance. Every morning when I arrive at work, my co-workers notice me. Their eyes blink, and they look in the other direction. This silent rejection is crushing. I don't know how to overcome this awful feeling of toxic shame. It's a relentless shadow over my life, keeping me isolated and longing for a genuine connection. Please, if anyone understands or can offer some guidance, I desperately need it. This is a cry for help from someone who just wants to feel normal and accepted.

My ocd has me thinking i did something to my dog! And i have no proof also i dont remember doing anything which doesnt mean i didn't do anything

Good adition would be mentioning anything about mixing real events with deep diving into memories. Like I’ve cheated on my gf when i was drunk like hell and this was traumatasing event for me. The same day when I was allready sober I told it her and like she was chill about it but it was my last chance. Now Im deep diving into my memories if i did the same thing before actual cheathing. Like you said, there is no proof i did the same thing but there is that doubt and im into this whole OCD pattern. Even I ask friend i meat if i cheated my gf with them and answear is always „no” but its not enought for me

There is a good rule in Catholic Church , If you doubt you commit a mortal sin , you did not ,because you would not doubt it. plus to commit a mortal sin you need grave sin like 10 Commandments , you need before committing a sin not after you did it - full knowledge and full constant. You can not sin mortally by accident or by not knowing at that time.

Hi, do you know if I-CBT will work on just right or perfectionism OCD? If so, how does it work? I'm having just right OCD for posting comments on social media like Instagram or Facebook where I posted a comment and I kept on deleting it and retyping the same comment until I think it's perfect. Thank you

I have a question in regard to trusting one's senses as one aspect of the treatment for OCD. Sometimes I lose an item, and I can't believe my eyes I can't find it in the most likely places for it to be found. So, I check over and over those places for fear of having missed it the last time I searched. My question is, I can't believe my eyes it's not there because I can't accept the fact it's gone, or is the reverse?

thank you

thank you

Being stuck in the OCD bubble for the vast majority of the day is something I’d only wish on the worst of the worst

Can you make a video (if you haven’t yet) about how to build trust with ourselves ?

I'm about to start I- CBT. Something i cant find info on is fear of ones intentions or the fear of the meaning of my actions. My main obsession is my intentions. I question them all. I'll have a thought and then I'll do a thing which activates intense anxiety. Did I do the thing because of the thought? Its to a point where my body is almost unable to move outta fear of what the movements mean. Am I trying to hurt this person cuz I had a thought about it? How do I implement I CBT when the though is so closely attached to "evidence" that I'm a horrible and violent person?

“I don’t have to live my life according to this one ‘what if’ anymore.” Wow, this is such a powerful and freeing statement. Thank you sir 🙏🏼

So grateful I found your channel. Everything you say makes so much sense to me. Subscribed!

Question: Can OCD make you think 1. you JUST tried to do something bad, or 2. that you ARE going to _in the moment._ False memory about the past is absolutely a thing in OCD, but what about _in the moment_ ? Like, "Did I JUST try to...?" Or _in the moment,_ "I'm gonna do this," YET you weren't ACTUALLY gonna do it, it was just a false "intention" triggered randomly. You felt it, you thought you were about to do it, you "consciously" planned to _in the moment_ until you snapped out of it or you didn't do it. Is either a thing in OCD? For example, _in the moment_ someone comes at you, you dodge, naturally. It was a conscious/subconscious choice. Does that help clarify?

Do you know of any icbt therapists in the uk?

I’ve watched this video like 3 times

I LOVE THE SHIRT!!! (Also ngl your channel is the most helpful OCD channel, I’m starting to prefer I-CBT over ERP a lot because I’ve already been analyzing the inner and outer machinations of my OCD a little)

How would this work with memory based OCD, especially based on something someone said about you? I sometimes don’t know whether the “false” memory that feels extremely real is real and I’m obsessively doubting it, or if the “false” memory is me doubting my innocence and thus, I should doubt it

Thanks Michael for these super helpful videos!

Do you think you could do a video on ROCD treatment under the I-CBT model?

I have no hope im dealing with hocd and i feel convinced and have anxiety 24/7

Thank you for these vids.

Thank you, this video was very helpful. Also life of agony rules

So for me idk if this is false memory or just real event but what happened is that I know something happened but I don't remember the exact details and when I ruminate on it puts something that gives me so much anxiety but I start to ask did it happened that way because I had this thought before and it was a obsession and i was able to dismiss it because i said i know something happened but i didn't do anything but it seems ocd says i did and feels soo real and vivid thoughts idk if it's me or its false memory it feels liek im lying to myself

Thank you so much. I’ve started having the doubt of “am I remembering that correctly? Did I leave something out when I asked this question? Maybe they didn’t answer my question fully because I wasn’t clear enough. Maybe I didn’t ask the right question.” Even though I remember this info, I’m starting to question if I even asked for it in the first place. Obviously I could just ask again, but that’s just a compulsion. There is not evidence in reality telling me that I’m misremembering/forgetting this. The evidence would be info presented to me that contradicts my memory or genuinely not remembering, and the genuine not remembering would feel correct and I would feel no conflict over if I was wrong or not. Because I do remember the info, it’s simply the “what if” of possibly not remembering that’s getting me.

Thank you for sharing 😊

Im so glad ive come across this video i have ocd false memory and i keep thinking ive done somthing wrong in my relationship and its made me feel like a bad pwrson. Causing me panic attacks and suicidal thoughts even though i know i would never cheat or harm my partner. And i couldnt understand why i was getting like this and this video has been a life saver so thank you so much!❤

Thanks for your Videos! I suffer from ROCD for 14 years and this video was helpful.

Very helpful! Thank you.

So clearly explained and immensely helpful, as always. Thank you Mike!

Mike, your videos are so insightful! The concept that one should only be concerned about something if they are receiving direct sensory information about it (and conversely, that they shouldn't if they aren't) has been immensly helpful in managing my OCD. P.S. What would you say is the vulnerable self theme of someone whose obessions revolve around being suspected of, arrested for, charged with, or convicted of some crime, or otherwise getting in trouble with the law?

Welcome back! It's been too long 😇

Thank you for posting! I have been checking weekly

Well done. I will assign this to my clients. Thanks for your contribution to the I-CBT body of work.

Hi brother, thanks for the video. I'm from Brazil and we don't have any I-CBT therapits here. Can you help me with my OCD? And, who knowks, maybe it can be a door to I-CBT grow here.

What if you can't get proof in the real world because your obsessions cannot be proven in this world? Thank you 😊

Very clearly explained as always. Thanks Michael.

Why isn’t ICBT a compulsion in it of itself?

Lame video, gives no strategies for quieting down the ocd imagination

This is exactly the problem I face. I believe I’m incompetent. So I get incredibly hard on myself to make myself look in front of others that I am not. I believe I’m a bad person as verbatim, so I do everything morally just to myself to look like to myself that I’m good and do not belong to evil. I wish instead of thinking that they are giving reassurance, the other therapists should opt for the same approach to tell their clients and audience this.

"I do not believe in believing." -Osho Don't believe, just do.

I miss your videos! You were my entry into I-CBT and it’s changed my life!

Thank you for the vid! This helps me with the concept a good deal.

I want to point out something I think is extremely important for OCD. I got educated about OCD through various sources here in youtube, but nobody explains to us what normal is, what people think about or do. This education is critical because we can’t have a normal life unless atleast we know what normal is, and hence what is making our thinking so abnormal or unnatural. Even though this education is important, IDK why many therapists do not tell this to us with chronic OCD (who don’t have any clue of what life is)

Hello sir. I have been suffering from all kinds of ocd for the past two years. Many themes like HOCD, ROCD, POCD, Schizophrenia OCD ,etc. Right now my HOCD has spiked. My brain is like you are disgusted by vaginas and dont want to have intercourse with women. It is better with men. It is really scary sir. I have never been attracted to men in my entire life. And never have i thought of that before HOCD began. Can OCD create false disgust?

I have several questions on this topic - Can you have several Vulnerable Self Themes? What would be an example of a VST for sensorimotor / hyperawareness OCD, or meta-OCD? Can I-CBT be applied to all "themes" of OCD? Could a VST be something like "I could be a mentally weak person"?

And don’t try calculating probabilities of what is possible! I fell into that trap, and wound up obsessing about probabilities and percentages. Did I calculate them correctly? Am I safe at an 80%, or 75%, or 40%, or 10% chance?? Big mistake doing this! Instead, look to your immediate five senses and rely on their immediate information alone!