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The age factor is definitely true. I’m just finding peace now at 44.

i absolutely know what you mean about getting sick, sarah! there's also this very complicated component where sometimes i feel thankful if i have the flu since i often lose all appetite, and it's one of the only breaks all year i get from all the food noise.

The Price Is Right! So great. My grandmother loved it and I loved watching with her ❤

I’m having now a substantial binge , I haven’t had it this way quite a long time. I’m one month since my first lipoedema surgery, I’m still in pain and the result is still not what I expected. I tried to move more, but my pain became worse. I can’t even complain and ask for help, I don’t want my husband to know. It’s hard physically and emotionally and I turned to food to cope again:(

My own issue at this time is that I've had stomach issues (IBS) for 2.5 months which led me to eating less which in turn has made my weight go down a bit. This has triggered my disordered eating and to top it off a tooth has broken which has never happened before and it's also affecting my eating food options. It's so complicated at the moment.

Sarah, I’ve heard you say how your bingeing began shortly after a diet. However, you’ve also spoken about being naturally slim and unconcerned about weight before then. What had changed in your life to prompt you to seek out that original diet? Just curious 🤓

Waiting until your garden is extremely overgrown instead of regularly cutting the grass - metaphor on self care in reference to when you said waiting to take care of yourself when going through something traumatic instead of regularly doing acts of self care- love your videos thank u for this content 😊 ❤xxx

Indulgence has a negative connotation but self care does not. I think we give our power away to words. Indulgence is not bad and self care is not bad, there is no guilt in either one.

Love it

thank you SO much for your insight at 26:00, about feeling like there might be TOO much of a "good thing" with comforting yourself for some folks. It feels a lot like what the media tells us self love is - oh, just order that take out! eat that dessert! stay in bed all day! but as someone who has a past of restriction AND binging and has recently fallen into a pretty depressed state where all i've been able to do is "treat myself" way, way too much with nights in a row of take out, eating past the point of comfort, to the point of discomfort/numbing out, i'm so relieved to hear y'all talk about this side of things rather than just strictly the restriction side. self love is active, hard work, and yes! i need rest, i need comfort (in the form of food, which i don't think is inherently bad), i need to stay in my apartment and veg out sometimes, but i find that when i'm able to break out of that pattern and take care of myself in harder ways, (moving my body, cooking myself healthy meals that excite me, getting outside for fresh air, connecting with people, keeping my space tidy, etc) i feel 10x better. i always have to be careful that it doesn't come at the expense of falling back into restriction again, but right now, addressing binging and compulsive eating/behaviors is my main goal, and i can't explain the comfort it gives me to hear that side of things as well. thank you both <3

Amazing story. Thank you for your honesty.

Where’s your cat today?!

Overjoyed that you posted this episode. Was looking for it on Tuesday😂also 18:00 and 23:28 are both spot on. The question is what do I really need right now. If food and snacking is the only time I give myself time to "relax" and release my stress and there are not any other options I allow myself to take a break without food, than there is a problem. Also the association in our heads and habit of sitting, eating and finally having me-time, but realzing that you can also relax without having to eat. This is mainly an issue I have to work on.

"If you only have 40% to give and you give 40%, you've given 100%" is a quote I'll definitely keep in mind. Thank you!

Me too with the massages. My pressure preference is “drill”: the harder, the better.

I use magnesium and flaxseed for constipation . Having oats, flax with apples everyday works too. When it gets severe I take magnesium. Yes air travel really stops me up. Love your podcasts

How do you differentiate intuition from capriciousness?

I think I’m the only American who eats pizza with a knife and fork 😅

My scarcity story is complete lack of age-appropriate freedom and autonomy growing up. Overprotecting kids is a huge disservice in so many ways, and I try very hard not to do that now with my son.

I suspect that the extent to which we genuinely want to eat nutritious foods depends on how much we ate them as children or how early on we were introduced to them. The traditional American diet is not nutritious.

I’ve made a deliberate choice to keep social media to an absolute minimum. It frees up so much time to put toward self-care.

I have my doubts about how real “thin privilege” is: I would concede that “attractive privilege” is even above that. Attractive facial features, or whatever one finds pleasing, are much more compelling that a so-called perfect figure 🤔

I think before we reach middle age, we tend to think that we have plenty of time to undo the health problems connected to disordered eating. For me, I’ve just recently made some significant shifts at 44.

I can relate to the taste hunger: I could eat peanut butter on toast and spicy pad thai every day 😆

Stefanie, I’m curious if you were able to complete your college courses despite missing so much class?

My only motivation for cooking is making homemade food for my son. Otherwise, I can’t stand cooking!!

Nicole, I commend you for sharing your story. You’re an amazing lady, NOT a failure.

I love love love this conversation! Please do more on stress. I have low level stress for years and as much as i try to understand what's going on with me, a lot of it doesn't make sense so thank you for making me feel normal. I'm 100% in the delayed stress category. I tell myself I'm coping fine in really stressful situations (like a car crash recently) but then it gets worse and worse in my head after days and weeks. But i pretend I'm fine to everyone else around me ❤

Krumpets are pancakes one side and holes on top. Made of pancake type batter. Trader Joe’s sells them in the US but not as good as homemade.

I purposely don’t track or log my food because it lends itself to obsessive mental math. I have a general idea of what I eat daily and weekly.

Is cautious versus all-in recovery possible? I feel like I’m approaching cautious recovery because I’m still vigilant without judging my choices.

When my son was born, my weight went way down in that first year because I literally didn’t have time to take care of myself. For the longest time, I tried to recreate that “newborn diet.” But I finally abandoned that pursuit because it wasn’t realistic or healthy. It took years to overcome that resistance, however.

I thought that motherhood had “cured” my disordered eating, and it did the first year or two. But then the bingey urges eventually returned in the evenings, after my son was in bed for the night. I still enjoy a snack at night, but it doesn’t feel compulsive anymore, after months of watching you ladies and working on my issues on my own terms.

Omg yes it’s neurological dysregulation not emotional dysregulation often. I just realized this last week and you are the first to address it. More on this please!

Hope that Sarah's home buying will go well and that the people in charge will stick to the dates they said ! Sarah, if I may suggest smg : during black friday sales, buy yourself a yoga bolster (mine is from Manduka, I'm not affiliated to them). Some days, when my body holds a ton of tensions, the bolster helps me ground. If brings such a wonderful (emotiona and physicall) support. And some yin classes can do wonders to alleviate anxiety. Stef : even Huberman himself says that he eats starchy carbohydrates (he doesn't specify if it's bread or other foods) at dinner, bc they allow him to relax ! Thank you girls for your insights on this topic. I could completely relate on several of your examples !

We have pizza huts in Oklahoma

My thing about the passage of time is that I simply can’t bear to add more regrets to my lengthy list. There’s less time to waste.

“Wistfulness,” perhaps?

EXCELLENT EPISODE! My experience is exactly the same as Steph's. Militant restriction, guilt, shame, abusing fasting techniques. Not regulated enough for half the IE principles. I didn't have the terminology, but All-In Recovery is what I've been doing and the only thing that's worked. I am seeing results. It's opened me up to the IE finally. I'm enjoying Sarah's program too. Learning so much about my relationship with myself! Thanks Ladies. 🙏😇💜

I hear you guys talking about regulation vs. dysregulation. I find actually tracking my food and calories to be regulating and not doing that to be dysregulating. I am curious what your take on this is? Is ny experience wrong? Am i deluded by an eating disorder?

Contented 😊

This is one of my favourite episodes and I’ve listened to them all at least once. I was trying to work out why but I think Steph explaining the difference between what a binge feels like ( out of control, fast and furious, shameful) versus allowing yourself to eat more food until you are satisfied was super helpful. I also realised that both of you have quite a lot of crossovers in what worked and didn’t. From what I can understand the big one is letting go of intentional weight loss and self compassion as well as presence. It sounds so simple but I think the reason why I’m still on the roller coaster is my resistance to let go of the weight loss which is interesting because to me it shows me that I need to work on self acceptance and body neutrality which is very hard for me. I also found it really helpful that Steph talked about the conversations she had with Mike about wanting to give up and him gently reminding her of the long game. It shows how important having a support system is. Great job ladies. I think you are both so good at this. Xx

Crippling comes to mind for me

Can you ladies do an episode on unintended binges that are triggered from guilt or discomfort from having eaten too much versus binges that are entirely planned and pre-meditated? Thank you.

Thank you for this episode.. and this podcast in general! I relate so much to what was said in this episode but the huge question for me is what do you do when you are obese and you want to recover by going all in and you are afraid of getting to be so heavy and sick by doing so

This episode was really helpful. I go through life with a chip on my shoulder. It’s definitely not productive anger 🙈

Hi Everyone! I'm Vicki, 62 years old, female and a binge/over-eater since early childhood, with the pendulum swinging back and forth since I started dieting around age 16. I've been doing my work of recovery for about 10 months now, reading the Intuitive Eating book, looking for insights from others who have recovered AND weekly one-on-one therapy. I'm loving this conversation but why not refer directly to "processed foods"? I mean, objectively speaking isn't what we're talking about when we mean things that come in packages, from a bakery, or made at home, and containing large proportions of sugar, flour , salt or refined fats (or all of the above). I've absorbed enough of the intuitive eating ethos that I even find myself policing my own language in one-on-one with my therapist. I'd love to know what the most effective and compassionate language is around this. Love your channel, Sarah. Your insights are making a real difference in my life and boosting me on my path to recovery. I'm overjoyed to find your podcast and get to know Stef too!

Stef it is so true I’m going through the terror of gaining weight right now but I don’t want to go back to the roller coaster of bingeing and so true about the context of readiness thank you This video is real

This was one of my favorite episodes! Thank you guys! I have a (pretty unrelated😅) question/topic that I would love to hear anything either of you might have to say about it! I don’t know if this is something either of you experienced, but I know that other people with restrictive EDs and even other mental illnesses experience. It is just the general feeling of not wanting to recover because there is a part of you, deep down, that wants to stay sick. It sounds kind of absurd when put into words, but I often feel an attachment to my disordered thoughts and actions and an unwillingness to fully let go and pursue freedom and health. In my rational brain I know my life could be so much better without these problems, but they are hard for me to let go of. In a way I feel like if I am restricting, binging, then I am unique, special, troubled, even though these things cause me so much distress. Its not the fear of weight gain holding me back necessarily, just more the disdain for being a normal, healthy, boring old person. Maybe it is just a matter of waiting to hit rock bottom to experience that readiness that you talked about in this episode, or maybe part of me feels like I don’t deserve recovery? I hope this made a little bit of sense!

My inner rebel refuses to get sucked in to social media. I have exactly one, the outdated one, just to maintain a basic connection to current events.