Your coversations are so honest talking about sensitive topics. I don't know how you do it but It feels "cozy" to watch your videos, your voices are very calm too.
My husband is like Mike, and I can relate to everything you said about how you ended up choosing him as a mate. I have healed a lot because of my husband's steadiness (not in everything, he's not perfect, but in the things that matter most). There is a huge amount of safety I feel with him. He sees and understands me in a way that I never felt growing up, not because he is smooth or something, but because he had the character (trust in God) and patience with me.
Girls, this was so profund ! I had to listen to it twice, bc (first, english isn't my mother language, and) I felt smg was itching and I couldn't point what it is. You made me ask myself questions I never asked before. I realized a lot of things : * when I was in my deep deep restriction (A.N.) phase, I thought I had no emotions. Remember The Vampire Diaries ? "Turn off your emotions" . That was my mantra * now, without considering the angle of food, what bothers me the most is : I am independant and have always been. Never needed a relationship, just allowed some to occur here and then, only if it didn't ask me too much efforts. So, basically, I'm in the avoidance group. BUT I also have insecure attachment, bc I tend to be attracted by (or seek a bit of attention, or be attached to) people that I am ABSOLUTELY NOT allowed to (at work - can't give more details). Does this unsecure (and unsafe !) attachment pattern still puts me into the avoidance group ? ? 🤔 Thanks a lot 🙏❤
Insecure includes avoidant, anxious AND disorganised. What you describe is closer to what Stef shared about her attachment style (which has become more secure over the years) and that is the push pull between avoidant and insecure, which would be disorganised. I wouldn't get too bogged down in labels though; they can be a helpful pointer to understanding ourselves better, but also risk us pathologising some very human traits Sarah xx
@@lifeafterdietspodcast4229 thank you Sarah for making it clear ! I think the push pull btw avoidance and insecure is quite accurate for me. But, you're right, let's not get too much attached to labels (and I don't like the idea of fitting into a box !), but at least it gives me a HINT of the type I can relate the most to. 🙏
This discussion was very helpful. Thank you, both!
The thumbnail 😊 So sweet! Great video ❤
Your coversations are so honest talking about sensitive topics. I don't know how you do it but It feels "cozy" to watch your videos, your voices are very calm too.
Every video you make together is so interesting! I'm always looking forward to the next one!
That’s a really nice thing to hear! Thank you ❤
My husband before he died was very steady and sensible. I have struggled ever since he died
My husband is like Mike, and I can relate to everything you said about how you ended up choosing him as a mate. I have healed a lot because of my husband's steadiness (not in everything, he's not perfect, but in the things that matter most). There is a huge amount of safety I feel with him. He sees and understands me in a way that I never felt growing up, not because he is smooth or something, but because he had the character (trust in God) and patience with me.
Thank you very much for your experience! Greetings from Poland 🇵🇱 ❤️ 🤗
Stephanie cut her hair! It looks fine, but just noticed
The advice you share is valuable helpful and appreciated😊 You are doing a great service for me and others ❤
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Girls, this was so profund ! I had to listen to it twice, bc (first, english isn't my mother language, and) I felt smg was itching and I couldn't point what it is. You made me ask myself questions I never asked before.
I realized a lot of things :
* when I was in my deep deep restriction (A.N.) phase, I thought I had no emotions. Remember The Vampire Diaries ? "Turn off your emotions" . That was my mantra
* now, without considering the angle of food, what bothers me the most is : I am independant and have always been. Never needed a relationship, just allowed some to occur here and then, only if it didn't ask me too much efforts. So, basically, I'm in the avoidance group. BUT I also have insecure attachment, bc I tend to be attracted by (or seek a bit of attention, or be attached to) people that I am ABSOLUTELY NOT allowed to (at work - can't give more details). Does this unsecure (and unsafe !) attachment pattern still puts me into the avoidance group ? ? 🤔
Thanks a lot 🙏❤
Insecure includes avoidant, anxious AND disorganised. What you describe is closer to what Stef shared about her attachment style (which has become more secure over the years) and that is the push pull between avoidant and insecure, which would be disorganised. I wouldn't get too bogged down in labels though; they can be a helpful pointer to understanding ourselves better, but also risk us pathologising some very human traits
Sarah xx
@@lifeafterdietspodcast4229 thank you Sarah for making it clear ! I think the push pull btw avoidance and insecure is quite accurate for me. But, you're right, let's not get too much attached to labels (and I don't like the idea of fitting into a box !), but at least it gives me a HINT of the type I can relate the most to. 🙏