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Graine Mediation - Fairfax
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The divorce mediator Robin Graine, JD, CDFA™ is certified by Supreme Court of Virginia at circuit court family & juvenile and domestic relations division as a divorce mediator and is a former divorce lawyer
Robin has the skills to manage complex financial and tax matters; and understands the impact of divorce on children. Since opening Virginia's preeminent mediation service in 2009, Graine Mediation has helped hundreds of families successfully mediate their divorce settlements including property settlement agreements, child custody and visitation, etc:
www.grainemediation.com/
Robin has the skills to manage complex financial and tax matters; and understands the impact of divorce on children. Since opening Virginia's preeminent mediation service in 2009, Graine Mediation has helped hundreds of families successfully mediate their divorce settlements including property settlement agreements, child custody and visitation, etc:
www.grainemediation.com/
What Does Child Support Actually Cover
What Does Child Support Actually Cover?
In this video, I will lay out what child support is intended to cover, what it doesn’t cover, and how other child-associated costs are addressed in a divorce settlement agreement.
Child support is intended to cover:
#1: A portion of the roof over the child’s head, whether that be rent or a mortgage
#2: A portion of the utilities
#3: A portion of the child’s food,
#4: A portion of the child’s clothes, and
#5: A portion of the child’s school supplies
That leaves a lot unaccounted for. How do you cover everything else, such as extracurricular activities, camps, tutoring, college application expenses, out-of-pocket medical costs, automobile insurance, and more?
To cover these expenses, many of my clients agree to pay a percentage of the costs. This percentage may be 50/50 or based on how much money each one makes compared to the other (pro rata). Through mediation, the two parties can ensure that all of these expenses are accounted for in the final settlement agreement.
HELPFUL BLOGS:
6 Positive Impacts of Divorce on Children: www.grainemediation.com/2020/07/6-positive-impacts-of-divorce-on-children/
Writing Divorce Settlement Agreements that Stand the Test of Time: www.grainemediation.com/2018/11/writing-divorce-settlement-agreements-that-stand-the-test-of-time/
What is a Marital Settlement Agreement and MSA in a Virginia Divorce?: www.grainemediation.com/2018/12/what-is-a-property-settlement-agreement-psa-in-a-virginia-divorce/
In this video, I will lay out what child support is intended to cover, what it doesn’t cover, and how other child-associated costs are addressed in a divorce settlement agreement.
Child support is intended to cover:
#1: A portion of the roof over the child’s head, whether that be rent or a mortgage
#2: A portion of the utilities
#3: A portion of the child’s food,
#4: A portion of the child’s clothes, and
#5: A portion of the child’s school supplies
That leaves a lot unaccounted for. How do you cover everything else, such as extracurricular activities, camps, tutoring, college application expenses, out-of-pocket medical costs, automobile insurance, and more?
To cover these expenses, many of my clients agree to pay a percentage of the costs. This percentage may be 50/50 or based on how much money each one makes compared to the other (pro rata). Through mediation, the two parties can ensure that all of these expenses are accounted for in the final settlement agreement.
HELPFUL BLOGS:
6 Positive Impacts of Divorce on Children: www.grainemediation.com/2020/07/6-positive-impacts-of-divorce-on-children/
Writing Divorce Settlement Agreements that Stand the Test of Time: www.grainemediation.com/2018/11/writing-divorce-settlement-agreements-that-stand-the-test-of-time/
What is a Marital Settlement Agreement and MSA in a Virginia Divorce?: www.grainemediation.com/2018/12/what-is-a-property-settlement-agreement-psa-in-a-virginia-divorce/
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In Ohio I own my house. Spouse not on mortgage or title. I paid all mortgage payments last 12 years automatically deducted from my checking account. Second marriage and we never combined accounts of any kind. Is he going to be able to get half the equity?
No kids.
My wife filed a divorce in california. When im still single i cosigned with my dad a house mortgage loan, just for a better credit score requirement. The house is in south carolina. My exwife and i have not contributed nor share on monthly mortgage payment and utilities. Will this be included as community property?
Where's a divorce lawyer ad when ya want one.
I spoke with Mrs. Graine over the phone, and despite us being in different states, she was incredibly helpful. She provided me with specific guidance on what to say and consider when speaking to my lawyer about my case. I am grateful for the 25 minutes she spent assisting me, and I highly recommend reaching out to her for legal advice. Thank you.
I filed for divorce last year and my husband is 64 years old. I am 61 here in California. I was awarded half of his pension. He’s already collected inspection. When can I start collecting my my pension and who do I call because he had to pay to an attorney to take care of this? I have his information should I call them? Please let me know, when I can start my part of his pension, thank you so much
I’m sorry he is 65. I am 61 years old. Can I collect my half of his pension now I did get divorced and I was qualified to get half. Please let me know. Thank you so much because he’s already getting it almost a year and if I do, how much do I get, do I get what I started apply or do I get when he started getting paid to and they will backpay me thank you so much. God bless you.
I’m sorry he is 65. I am 61 years old. Can I collect my half of his pension now I did get divorced and I was qualified to get half. Please let me know. Thank you so much because he’s already getting it almost a year and if I do, how much do I get, do I get what I started apply or do I get when he started getting paid to and they will backpay me thank you so much. God bless you.
No one can afford a divorce lawyer exspially when he controls EVERYTHING! I feel like these videos do nothing but get us woman battered more! You need to be more careful 😢
If you are being battered, you need the police. Not a lawyer. Lawyers later. Police now.
I hear one reason categorized five times, not five separate categories. Women enter relationships seeking financial security, emotional validation, children, and sex. Once they no longer require one or more of these things, they may leave. Women tend to have a "what can you do for me" kind of loyalty. On the other hand, men believe that the sacrifices they have made should ensure the relationship remains constant as they age. It's important for us to be more honest about how women perceive relationships. Providing men with advice about the ruthless nature and dark side of women can be helpful. We don't have any issue with openly discussing male dark dating strategies.
For taxes, if we were divorced summer of 24 and together half of 24 don’t we still have to do taxes together because we were together the first few months of the year 24. Don’t we still pay that together
The IRS views you as either married or divorced for the entire year. They do not count partial years. For example, if your divorce is finalized (divorce decree signed by the judge) on 12/31, the IRS will consider you divorced for that entire year. That is why a lot of people get divorced in January. So can have a full year to file as "married filing jointly".
Books. I would need zero fingers to count how many books every adult in my family has read. Everyone is dumb and boring. THAT is the problem with this world. Everyone is obese or thinking about food all the time. No one works out or reads. I never thought an earth that has it all would blow it on mediocrity.
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Pro-tip, don't get married!
That seems to be advice that many people are taking these days. That goes along with not having children. Being a single person, with only a dog or cat to care for, has become a very popular lifestyle. If this floats her boat, have at it.
Older women want divorce because they are tired of waiting for their husband to make them happy. They only have another 15 years to go, so she may as well taje the money and run. She finds out later that the next guy was worse than the one she had.
It sounds like what you are saying is that if a woman picked an unsupportive, unloving, unhappiness-creating husband the first time that she is just a bad picker of husbands. Right? Or, are you saying that all men are bad? That could not be true. I know many wonderful men who are good husbands. Maybe you are saying that the type of woman that divorces her husband will be miserable no matter what? That does happen, but that is not the usual order of business. Most women feel relieved after divorce and, in my area, the money that they have "run off with" was often earned by them as much as by their husband. I hope the best for everyone who ends up divorced. Even if they were a jerk during the marriage. Everyone deserves to be loved.
I purchased the home in my name (title and deed). All monies for the down payment/closing costs were paid by me. Currently, husband wants me to buy him out. He committed adultery and dv and I can’t believe I’ll have to pay my abuser. Have a 13 year old who is I’d like to keep stable in her very good school district.
A lot of this will depend on the laws in your State. You will also need to be clear on where the money came from for the down payment. If it can be proven that that money came from your pre-marital earnings/savings, you will have a better chance at retaining that portion of the equity (the amount of the down payment, not usually the closing costs). If that money came from income earned during the marriage, that will be a much tougher road. The adultery might play a part in your husband receiving less of the marital estate; but usually that doesn't count for a whole lot (except in terms of the attorney fees trying to show a judge that the adultery came out of nowhere, versus it was an accident waiting to happen considering the marriage was already broken down -- don't get mad at me. I just report what I see!). The DV is a whole other level, though. I would never mediate with a couple where there was DV. You need an attorney and the legal system/police to protect you. You cannot sit in a room with a violent person, say what you need to say in the mediation, and expect to be safe upon returning home. Get a lawyer. Good luck.
Once she said she is a parent of "adult children " i clicked out of the video
How is that a problem? Once you are a parent, you are always a parent. My kids are fully launched, making money, independent human beings. No one holding onto my apron strings, sir.
Because they think the man has served their purpose. Some women can be very cold hearted
I think what the middle-aged and older women I deal with are saying is that their husband's are not meeting their purpose but, if they did, they wouldn't be divorcing them. What these women are looking for is emotional support, appreciation, affection, and help with chores and keeping tracks of matters around the house. If you are referring to the man serving the money purpose, that is not what most of my cases are about. Most women where I live make plenty of money. If you are talking about having a father for their children, most of women I deal with are not grasshopper types where they kill off the man after reproduction duties are done. It is true, though, that many women are cold. That is also true of men. People, in general, can be cold. This usually happens after poor treatment by parents, society, and/or spouses.
@@GraineMediation Hmm when a man gives a woman that reason they get outraged. double standards, go figure.
@@markp8581 It is true. Men and women are held to all kinds of differing standards in our personal lives and our professional lives. That is the truth of humanity, at least as far as things stand today.
i have been seperated for 9 months now. My 44-year-old husband refuses to leave the house and works just enough to pay his food and gas. He refuses to contribute to the household expenses like a roomate would do because he says he has no money but he wont get a job. he says. he cant. Our mediator encouraged him to work but understood why he would not work, essentially validating him. He made several charges to the credit card for car expenses. I have since stopped working with this mediator and we are arguing over the next step. This is hell. he is financially taking advantage of me and the house is an intollerable space for me. What can I do.
When you are dealing with nonsense you have to hire an attorney.
@@robin-personal2039 Thank you for the response. We just switched mediators and that made a world of difference.
My former attorneys didnt request disvovery from the opponet atty or party . I only found this recently , i requested production of documents but i believe they wont be on time for me to prepare. ??? My divorce DBB WAS GRANTED maily for financial abuse so i dont have any idea what we have or owe . My husband submitted one month of documents and i cant verify anything . What should i do if im forced to represent myself with no info to get a fair distribution?
I love your videos , best ones i've found in a year!
Thank you!
My mediator was chosen by my former atty and i don't know ANYTHING about her , my mediation is in 15 days and being Pro Se it causes me great anxiety n Fear. What can be done?
You should not have to appear in a mediation when you know nothing about the mediator. Reach out to the mediator and let them now that you would like the opportunity for a short conversation, before the mediation, so you know what you are getting into. Also, look for reviews of the mediator online. Remember, too, that the mediator will not be making decisions for you. The mediators job is to help you and your spouse make mutually agreeable decisions. Also, check what the mediators background is. If you have complex finances, you need someone who understands money. If there are child-related issues, you will want to be sure the mediator has experience with those types of matters, too. Good luck.
72 yo, husband social security is $2K more than mine per month, 22 year marriage. Can my husband pay spousal support to equalize that income so that it becomes 50/50?
Yes. If you agree or if a judge orders it.
Women are quitters!!! It's not 1/2 of the assets, it's usually 3/4 .
because they listened to demon possessed left wing DNC feminist scumbags and the law is always against the man thats why
I called Ms Graine, very informative and very helpful. Thank you, Ms Graine
Thank you. I always try to get people pointed in the right direction and answer their questions to the best of my ability. I became a lawyer to help people solve problems. Mediation is the best way to do that, in my opinion. Thank you for your nice compliment!
Any specific tips for no fault states?
Most states have some form of no fault divorce (although it may be termed differently). Whether your state has fault grounds or not, everyone should attempt to settle their case before moving forward with a contested, fault-based divorce. My advice is the same for all 50 states: if there is no suspicion that a spouse is hiding money, and if there is no domestic violence, mediate your case to settlement. Focus on settlement. Not litigation.
By the time women get older they have over looked how men are…after all the years of giving and investing themselves into their marriage and men not pouring back into them they’re done. They're done with lack of attention, the meanness, unfairness, their grumpy old men!! Honestly, they are at the point if going to be alone into marriage might as well be alone single, at least, I don't have to put up with someone is mean, grumpy and never wants to something
I suppose, whether man or woman, no one wants to spend the last years of life with someone who meets your description. I bet those grumpy older people don't even enjoy their own company!
I am 100% disabled from an on the job injury as a police officer. My total income each year on disability is $17,000. My wife and I work at an airline where my income was $75,000 but now that I’m 100% disabled because of my on duty injury, my total income per year is $17,000. I am totally dependent upon her for just about everything as my mother is totally dependent upon me to pay all of her bills. All of my money pays my mother‘s bills my wife has to take care of me. I have become too much of a liability and my wife is threatening to get rid of me. I have difficulty walking. I can no longer cook. Looks like I’m going to have my drivers license taken away shortly. How do I deal with this? I have absolutely no money to seek legal advice where she has already retained an attorney
You need to seek the advice of an attorney. Though you might not be able to afford a lawyer, your state or county may have programs where you can receive legal assistance. It is never a good idea to go against someone who has an attorney when you do not. You should also look into Legal Aid where you live. If you cannot find a lawyer to help you, you might want to try mediation with someone who knows the law (a lawyer-mediator) who will be able to tell you if the settlement proposals are in line with what would happen in court. Good luck to you. Sorry for your troubles.
Great information! Thank you! How about if a couple is separated already and they are in the process of filing a divorce. Will future Retirement plan ( purchase an Annuity in near future) be affected by divorce?
If the husband hides the money, the wife doesn't have any savings. What should the wife do?
Get an attorney. Immediately.
Any suggestions for a qualified mediator in the northern Illinois area? McHenry county?
My wife and I sleep in separate bedrooms. Should I do a separation agreement even though I would say I would cover all living expenses (she is a stay at home wife/mom) while we lived in the same house? Then specify the different alimony/child support arrangements upon divorce? We live in North Carolina.
It is almost always best to mediate your case to settlement, and have the settlement agreement written up and signed, as soon as possible following a decision to divorce. Sometimes this is not a good strategy; but that is not usually the case in situations where both spouses are reasonable and ready to move on with their lives. I do not usually recommend that one person go to an attorney and have a settlement agreement drafted by that attorney and then presented to the other spouse. This IS, however, the common way to do things. When the terms are not agreed, however, this usually starts fires up the litigation process. Best to sit down together, agree on the terms, and then have the mediator write up what you agreed to.
Very informative and Eloquent!
Thank you!
Because even a washed up, 50 plus year old female will act 25 and think she can do better. Blame society and blame men for allowing it to begin with.
We can all do our children a huge favor --- tell them not to get married.
...or prepare them with information about how much work it is to keep a marriage alive and well.