How Do Mediators Settle Divorces?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ต.ค. 2020
- You may be wondering, what do mediators really do? In this video, I take you through my process of settling divorces. The 4 key areas of my mediation method are:
1) Pinpointing the issues
2) Sharing information related to Law, Finance, Children, and Taxes
3) Communication/Refereeing
4) Drafting court-ready Settlement Agreements
Mediation is an efficient and fair process of settling all of your divorce matters.
If you have any questions, please leave them in the comment section below.
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My mediator does not regulate very well. I'm noticing that she cuts me off but lets my husband go on and on. I feel she has a bias but since my husband has narc tendencies I think he is winning her over. I feel attacked a lot by my husband in mediation and I don't think she does a good job stopping him. He uses a lot of blameful language and he gets outwardly agitated. I assert myself and I get the condescending name before sentence dialogue. I'm afraid to start over with someone else because he might not go. But our sessions are so slow. He beats topics down and down until 45 minutes has passed and I cut him off. Then I'm the aggressor and " controlling" I've decided to cut our sessions down to one session a month at this rate. I'm not going to be paying her fee (which is a lot ) weekly anymore. I have doubts about her skill but feel stuck.
NUMBER ONE: If you doubt your mediator's skills, that is a big problem. You need to feel confident that your mediator can steer the ship and keep everyone safe. Otherwise, there is a great risk that you will never feel right about the outcome, either. It won't feel fair. I understand your reasons for not seeking out a new mediator; so you must try and do the best you can with the mediator you have. Talk with her and let her know that you feel the the playing field is uneven and that you are looking to her to even it up. If she dismisses you and/or does nothing to rectify the situation, you probably will need to look elsewhere. NUMBER TWO: As for the mediator letting your husband drone on and on, that might be part of the mediator's strategy. She might sense that your husband needs to feel that he has the stage for long periods of time -- because he is has those narcissistic tendencies -- and, once he has exhausted himself of things to say, she will take over. This is a stretch in thinking, but possible. She just might not know what to do; in which case you should not be allowing her to guide you through settlement. She is not qualified. NUMBER THREE: Unless your case is extremely complicated, you should be all settled in a few sessions. I don't understand what you mean "weekly" and "one session a month". I settle the vast majority of my cases in two 3-hour sessions. Sometimes a little less and sometimes a little more. Mediation is supposed to be efficient. Good luck.
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