Meh, a guy taking your advice in this current zeitgeist would be more likely to have a severe dry spell, and end up alone for years, here's the real advice: when your around women u want to emanate dark (satanic) energy talk down to them, be nonchalant, be selfish, they crave it, values and respect tend to repel them as they see that as weak and supplicating and loyalty is even seen as repulsive because they use other women's interest of you to determine your value, so if you focus only on them it will repulse them secretly.. sorry not sorry..
@@theironson1043 thats if you want to sleep with a woman. If you want a nice,sweet partner for the rest of your life then do what the she said, because thats what you will attract but if you want to sleep with a not so honourable girl for one night then do what you just said.
i also recommend having more female friends in your life. It will give you more confidence in talking to woman if you generally just have male friends. Meeting more females through her friends is also a great advantage.
Agreed. Always hated the whole “you’re either trying to smash or you’re gay if you hang out with women” thing that a lot of men my age put out there. I grew up with three sisters and a lot of female friends. Helped me understand them better, how to talk to them and what kind of behavior either upset or pleased them.
@@allbottledup9513 I agree with you, but let’s not pretend that there isn’t still the desire to smash IF she’s hot. At least in the beginning. I’ve had hot chicks as friends, and at least for the first year or so, I obviously would’ve been down to smash if they offered. Doesn’t mean I had ulterior motives or wasn’t rly their friend, it just meant I’m a normal dude who wouldn’t say no to sx with a foxy bish 😇. I will say though, after about 6-12 months, especially if you see them often, that feeling kinda passes as as you get used to seeing them, and then you don’t really have those thoughts anymore.
Grew up in a dance studio surrounded by girls. I didn’t date any of them, I didn’t even date at all in High School. But it left me with so much information and experience just interacting with girls that by the time I moved to a different city upon graduation, it was a completely different story. Not saying I’m a catch at all, just that this comment I’m replying to is totally correct. It takes time to get used to communicating properly with any group of people, unfortunately your boys can never help you as much as an honest female friend.
I remember watching a video and one man said an easy way to spark a conversation is to simply compliment their clothing or asking questions about them. Women love talking about their clothing (in general people like talking about themselves) if done right, you can start a partnership just from a simple compliment about them or a question you asked
From a woman, the best way is to start by complimenting small things like clothing, hair, makeup and then move on to calling her beautiful, attractive and stuff like that, it's super good to escalate slowly, if you start small she won't get bored. ;)
I usually wait for some window to apporach. Like if an event is going on I'll be like "hey isn't that pretty crazy?" then talk about random shit trying to gauge their personality type.
Yeah, complimenting them on things they can control in general like clothing, hairstyle and makeup (even though us guys don't care about makeup, women do) is a good idea. Because then you're complimenting her on her sense of style, rather than just a random uncontrollable aspect like her eyes.
I was genuinely and hopefully waiting for the 4th tip, anxiously watching the last seconds of the short go by .. demonstrating that “hope is a dangerous thing” 😜 .. I gotta say I’m a little bit disappointed .. I mean sure what you said is great .. hygiene, self-confidence and all is good at catching the interest of any person not just women .. but conversation-wise .. attractiveness-wise .. I think as a woman there’s also something so appealing about a respectful man that knows his boundaries .. is emotionally and socially somewhat smart .. passionate about something .. a good and genuine communicator .. has well thought reasons for the opinions he holds .. has goals and acutely works on accomplishing them .. to me .. that’s a hot guy right there .. looks and appearances are important but never enough .. I have encountered guys with really good looks and quite a high self-esteem but really shitty or hollow personalities, I immediately lost interest, cause they felt like a non-person to me and that WAS NOT sexy at all. I just found you on TH-cam, so I’m testing the waters really … SO curious about the abortion series, hope it’s well researched and convincing ..
Hey, I have some questions for you, as a young man, to understand better how you and probably more women think about these things: is it more or less a 'must have' for a man to have a high self esteem, or can you also like a guy who is quite shy (at first)? In the scenario that that guy did take the initiative to start a conversation with you, but he seems quite shy while doing so and while talking more with you. Is that a dealbreaker already, or can you see through that and have like 'the patience and understanding for it'? And to be completely honest, yes, I am talking about my own personality here. I have a mild type of autism, Asperger's, and mainly because of that, it's really really hard for me to flirt or to socialize, especially with women around my age (25). I know you have named several things that you find attractive in guys, but one other thing I don't really understand myself, is that looks and appearances are mainly the 'first impression' you get, from anyone. So if I am not that tall and if I look as a a normal guy (not really hot, but also not really unattractive I think..) how could I break the 'barrier' in a good way? In the Netherlands were I live, the women around my age are mostly self confident and they seem quite picky... It feels really hard to get a positive vibe and a good one on one conversation with a nice woman.
The working out for your own benefit I totally support. I am 6ft9in but did not have it easy growing up, which led me down a path of self dislike and habits like smoking cigs and eating a lot to feel better. I have smoking under control now to just social in Univ, and the eating is getting better, but I still don't like that I am kinda chubby. There was a period last year or so when I was working out a lot between classes and even though I was still relatively chubby, I pulled a mutual friend as my then girl friend off the confidence that the working out did for me. Granted, things didn't work out and I broke it off, but it goes to show. I have yoyo'd this past year due to an intensive senior Univ year, but going into my MBA I should have a lot more free time and hope that daily swimming and weights will get me to where I need to be mentally FOR MY OWN SELF, not for things like dating. That comes later as a byproduct
I recommend to just be yourself and not the whole great shape thing. It's not so much your physical appearance, but how you carry yourself, and how you approach a woman. I recommend you make small talk about anything in your environment, and if a woman is interested the conversation will continue for a while. Before departing you should either ask for their number, or if they're hungry and would like join you for meal somewhere. If the small talk doesn't continue walk away, or simply keep to yourself and do not ask them for their number. Studies show that most women are not to concerned if a man is fit. They'll look at your structure and if you're appealing to them. Most people are not fit. BTW I'm 56 years old now and was married with children for 20 something years(divorced not by choice but societies influence to womens independentance which is not making women happier. Most regret leaving due to the advises they've received and wish they never left their marriage. Whole different topic). So although I can't say I'm full of wisdom. I can say I have experience with women and how to approach them. Wish you the best and as I like to say. The uglier the luckier.
I cannot tell you how helpful it is just to TALK to a lot of people. Now a days everyone is so plugged in all the time they get weird talking to anybody at all, let alone someone they find attractive. People get so wrapped up in their head about not only saying Hello, but what to say next, where it's going to go, am I going to get this girls number, blah blah blah. Stop it. Calm down. Talk to a lot of people, and learn to back off respectfully. We all talk, and if you're the guy who cusses out the girl for not wanting to give you her number, word gets around. If she says, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend," or "Not interested", just stay chill and say, "That's alright. Have a nice day, ladies." Getting angry at rejection SHOWS DESPERATION.
Thank you for not saying that men doesn't have to work out for us but for themselves a way from that mentality & low self esteem that a lot of people have Thank you for simplifying what attracts us to real men
It doesn't matter if you're tall, neither is short, buff or skinny. Doesn't matter if you look above or below average. Doesn't even matter if you're ugly af. The only way to attract women is by using one key element, and that's 'Personality'.
ur physique also matter as it will show if u worked hard on it or if you have completely let urself go and indulged in fast food both personality money and physique are important youd want all in a man
What sucks is that I've been working out consistently since I was in 7th grade and have a 1% physique, as well as also spending plenty of time focusing on my hygiene and fashion sense. I'm now 17 and still have zero confidence in my appearance, probably mainly because I've pretty much always looked this way. I feel like there's nothing I can do to improve my confidence.
It's not complicated, women just want someone who's kind to us and safe to be around. Yes, those tips would work (except for the cold approach, which won't be welcome most of the times), but what really makes most undateable men that way is their attitude.
See you say that, but that is not true, women want status, money, height, then if he has some of that they then need the rest, I am not talking about you in particular btw, but I could have the best attitude but just because Im average you wouldnt even consider me as an option, again, this is for the majority
@@mixalis295 Lol, you just listed a bunch of things that men want. Men are impressed by money, height etc. I don't know any woman who hasn't had average boyfriends, and we all broke up not because they failed to be some alpha-roid-rage fantasy, but because they failed at being decent, caring human beings. It's really simple.
I apreciate this, unfortuantly for me most of the women in my life are very close friends of mine who have no intention of being in a relationship. I'm pretty sure I've reached the point in my life where I am starting to care about that A LOT MORE than I usually would (im 16) and its getting harder to try and get to the point of being in a relationship.
Thought it was gonna be those cheesy pickup artist advice instead it was good advice. Fair points and true. Gym and a little effort into looking better physically goes a long way.
I agree. Lifting heavy weights isn't easy. What you're likely referring to is the social aspect, which is easy to overcome when you realize that everyone else there is there for the same reason you are: self improvement. They are worried more about themselves than they are about you. That's why they're there!
I'm was not so good with talking to women. Im a fairly good looking dude but starting a convo was difficult. Even tough I have good income in my real estate business I got a job at a clothing store which requires me to speak to people. I have improved so much. I used to look away with speaking to women and now I look them directly in their eyes when speaking.
I completely agree with the gym point. Hitting the gym with discipline drastically improves the confidence and brings some charisma too! I used to be a super awkward guy when it came to conversation with girls UNTIL I started hitting the gym. Best part is, you don’t even have to grind on it like it’s your full time job. Just do a little bit of research about weights or martial arts. It’ll create wonders in every other field you involve yourself in
As a woman, I would recommend all of these tips. Perfection isn’t necessary, but confidence is. Because if you can’t love yourself, how are you supposed to love someone else?
So.... You're telling me.... that I don't have to wait for another man to say a word to her.... and I don't have to approach all trousered up and say "I think the lady wants you to leave her alone" and expect her to swoon for me after
Keep trying to be the most healthy version of yourself you can be, and stop looking for a woman. You'll then find a woman that is doing the same thing, and you will truly love one another.
The issue i find with talking to women is you often have to be very careful what you say. Women do not lile banter or jokes at their expense, which makes it very difficult to be friends with them, not all but the vast majority take themselves way too seriously and are far too insecure. Not that im in the game anymore as im married now, but even with my wife i can never be myself because theres too much emotion that can be triggered by the words said. So for me personally i find it best to avoid women entirely. I have my wife and my kids and thats all i want.
Today, I'm past my prime. BUT, I used to get shot down alot because I was awkward, shy , with a guarded ego. By Relaxing, not afraid to make fun of myself in front of a crowd, practicing a few well timed jokes at my expense, and acting like I don't give a damn, (not being too eager)....I got more dates, and nailing the first impression....you get more "returning customers" so to speak....and yes, good hygiene, sharp appearance, not looking run down is key as well
The gym part is definitely true. Even tho I will admit I’m too pussy to cold approach sense hitting the gym consistently and dialing in my physique I no longer am self conscious at all about my appearance when around women.
Hi , I just came across a short of yours found it stating a few things that were obvious to me but I found refreshing. So I followed the rabbit hole watched a couple more and was just as impressed so much that I decided to sub. Then I saw “how to spot a guru” ….the next I watched was “how to be more attractive to women” what you were saying and was so similar that I had found I had fallen into the trap that you yourself warned me against….I had to unsubscribe.
I'd add to hygine, skincare, dental hygine( please brush that tongue), be yourself, but the version of yourself, no need to copy someone's personality or act. Oh and to get a woman and keep her it's really easy, be fun, humor, vacations, campings, whatever, don't just play video games all day
Don't try to attract women. They either are attracted to you, or they're not. If you're not Chad, make women irrelevant in your life. Live your life for yourself, not for them. Hit the gym because you take pride in your health and your physical fitness. Because you are not satisfied with mediocrity, and you want to be stronger and faster than the other guy. Make career moves because you want to be the best at what you do and make money doing it. Understand that most women are mediocre, even below average, cause they don't have the burden of performance on them like men do. A woman can ruin her life, yet still have legions of simps willing to bail her out. You don't have that safety net. Never cold approach. They get approached, cat-called, hit up, DM'd, etc. more than you could imagine. If you're not the guy she thinks about when she masturbates, then you're just another NPC to her, no matter how clever or original your opening line was. If you are that guy, she will make it obvious, and you can be straightforward. Most women cannot offer you more than sex, which comes with arguments and drama. Most men are willing to put up with the drama in exchange for the sex. Most modern women are not less promiscuous than actual pros, only less responsible. The woman you tried to impress on your last dinner date, has at least one guy she hooks up with casually, who doesn't try to impress her. Prioritize your happiness and emotional stability. If sex and companionship with a beautiful woman is what you need to be happy, go where it's legal and pay for it. It's cheaper than dinner dates and therapy bills after your self-esteem has been crushed from countless rejections. Commit to self-betterment, but do it for yourself. You can spend years working to become the best version of you, only to still get rejected by the worst version of her.
So basically if your not in the gym 5hrs a day, not packing a subway 12’ package, don’t have a bank balance that’s 6 figures or don’t have a luxury car (ideally a Bugatti), pay a pro or live a monk life ?
None of the relationship stuff from self-help bros does. Same-sex attractions don't exist in their world. If they do, it's as a punchline or "Oh I love gay guys more women for me hurr durr." Which is just as well I suppose, as the toxicity among gay guys is at a level inconceivable to self-help bros, or those not in the community in general.
I can move around my city and i can't find a single(who unmarried or without a boyfriend) women to talk to. It feels like they teleport from my line of sights. Also gynophobia makes it harder for me to go anywhere near them even if i manage to find one.
I like your videos and I agree with the first two... but I'm in splitted opinion at the last one... Showing a women that I have a good body at gym is like showing her that I have a nice car... It's like fishing a golddigger.. If I want a woman who take it serious, I'm definitely NOT looking for a woman at the gym, sorry x) I'd rather talk to a woman at the supermarket. Talking to women in gyms is like talking to women at partys. They feel to special at these places and they think that everyone is approaching them at these places so your chances go down. It's kinda hard to explain.. but the more people are around a woman and especially when she KNOWS this is a place where men are watching her, the worse your chances are to get connected with her. Especially because gyms are for workout and not for smalltalks and dates...
I been consuming MGTOW, I'm sure you are familiar with MGTOw, I don't like cold approach because I'm not 6'0, I'm not rich, I'm working on it, my height 5'8 isn't very attractive to girls, I'm not avoiding cold approach because I don't feel comfortable talking to women, I've seen so many videos of women calling guys who don't qualify as a high value man "creeps". Any opinions on the MGTOw movement
You don’t want a snobby female that calls you a creep for talking to her. Walk away and pat yourself on the back for not buying the snob dinner. Also ignore any girl that uses the words “high value man”. She’s ruined by the internet and her priorities are all wrong.
MGTOW is just as toxic and detrimental to society as feminism is. Stay well away from this dog shit. Unless there are factors like wealth involved, women tend to go for men who are as attractive as themselves. Stay away from woke feminists, they tend to hate men in general. Also, stay away from women who are obsessed with their looks and spend all of their time taking selfies and posting videos of themselves on social media. Go find yourself a nice, down to earth, woman who has the same morals, values, and hobbies as yourself. Good luck.
5’8” is not short, if that is your real height. Most female models are 5’9. If you’ve stood next to one, they are very tall. Most men just lie when self-reporting height. According to the DMV, 14% of men in the US are over 6 foot. By going outside in my city of Los Angeles, I can tell you that 14% is BS. I had to audit a pharmacy the other day, and the owner’s drivers license said 5’9”. I swear to god, this dude was shorter than I am. I’m a 5’5” Asian female. 5’8” only sounds short because 5’9” is the “minimum acceptable height” for men to report. PS: like the other guy said, don’t go after girls that only care about such superficial things. Don’t try to make a wife out of a (rhymes with Charlotte). Being with a horrible woman is not better than being alone or with friends.
Easy fix…lie if your using online dating, a lot of girls are terrible at gaging height (not all) refine your search to minimum - 5’0 and say your 6’0, in person wear shoes that add an inch and again approach shirt girls. 😂 no but serious take 3-6months and work on yourself, physically get in shape (you don’t have to be a body builder) the confidence you’ll get from that alone will be a huge help, if your abit shy it ain’t easy but put yourself out more try to engage with people even something silly like strike up a convo with 1 new person every few days. Come back in 6 months and respond, I’m sure expecting a different man when you return bro 😎
The number one thing in this list is, ironically, the first one. Just talk to women. They are humans, and most of us live around quite a few of them who speak the same language we do. Also, approaching an attractive woman shouldn't always be with the intention of getting poon. If you talk to her first as a human, when you decide to go after it (which shouldn't be after 10 minutes of talking to her), there will be a natural transition to that available because you've already talked
I mean sure but can't we do this to work on ourselves first? And interact socially with friends and colleagues on an occasional basis? To improve And also i disagree with the approaching women part because in this day and age not only do you have to face rejection from a woman ( which is fine every man has gone through it ) but we as men also have the risk of being called a creep and possibly be charged with sexual harrasment ( Preety much "me tooed" ) Whats the gain in that? Now alot of wonen might say its jow you approach and what you say which i think is bs because what determines whether your gomna be "me tooed" or not is his attractiveness If hes attractive 😍 If hes unattractive 🤨😒🤢🤮
"Excuse me, my phone died, would uou hapoen to have the time?" "Oh my goodness, what a cute dog, what's their name?" "Isnt there a coffee place around here, would you happen to know where it is?" If she answers to any of these, that's a "conversation". It really is THAT easy...
Hey, people of youtube. How can I get my exercise without going to the gym because I live in the woods and I'm too poor to pay a subscription for a gym.
There are multiple ways to go about our lives, remember what people tell you is no more than guidelines, you dont have to do anything in such a specific way and you do what you decide you want to do within the actual rules of your life. I do consider this to be decent advice but if you take it in a way as if it is against your own wants and you need to do it, that is unhealthy, it is completely contradictory to what this is advice is for.
Just be healthy. don't be blinded with over masculinity it may lead you to "asteroids". fix some diet plans. attractiveness boils down to looking healthy too much plastic or augments looks unnatural and overboard. and remember some things are just genetics and out of your control like most things in life for example like maximum muscle growth and abs shapes and size. it's like boob sizes but for men. best to start anywhere than nowhere.
Also make money. A lot of young men don't understand why they aren't a hot commodity and its because they're at the age when they're still building their careers. When theyre older more wimen will be interested because they are more established. Its a nesting instinct that women need providers for their future children
Losing weight needs time and motivation from people around you, i lost 8 stone due to circumstances with health. But i could not do that with a sinlge video on TH-cam telling me to hit the gym for the sake of women.
These are the things that get you noticed but the things that make them want to stay or be more serious: money, status, perks (property, lifestyle, etc). Have enough of the last three and looks also don’t matter.
I'm gay, girls like me a lot 'cause I'm kind and like to debate many things. The biggest problem is when they say "I'm in love with you". Man, being gay not only mean having a man on your side for the rest of your life, but also breaking the hearts of many girls, 'cause you like men :I
you know a lot off people shame you, and people like you for wearing a mask. But is respect it because it shows you dint care about the fame, but you care about the message that you are trying to send. and I think you have said this in one of your videos but if you didn't have the mask, you probably wouldn't have been able to touch so many people. I think you understand that the with the mask it can make something more than a man, it can make you a symbol and that is everlasting, but it can be dangerous if it is used for the wrong reasons, but you know the difference and that is on of the big reasons why is respect you so much bot just for the mask but as a person aswell your not gonna see this, I mean you have better things to do then read a massive comment. this will probably just get berried underneath all the others but I will still say what I think.
Personally coming from a female, I understand lots of women are into this type of man that’s buff, tall etc. And I find this interesting because women use tv series, films and socials to sculpt the idea of this “perfect man”. In my opinion, I realistically don’t care about the looks, as long as the basics are written off like being healthy, then it’s fine. What I care about more so is if the person has a similar mindset as me. I’ve gone through a couple people that do care about the looks, but then say the most unbelievable shit to me, which i then proceed to disagree with, and therefore turns into an unhealthy relationship due to the different ideologies of one another.
[Thanks Hormozi] Solid advice tho. But we (literally all) gotta go "callisthenics", & be better for it. ...Ask The Rock about 'backne'. Wash your own back gentlemen.
Have values. Be loyal. Be honest and respectful.
Meh, a guy taking your advice in this current zeitgeist would be more likely to have a severe dry spell, and end up alone for years, here's the real advice: when your around women u want to emanate dark (satanic) energy talk down to them, be nonchalant, be selfish, they crave it, values and respect tend to repel them as they see that as weak and supplicating and loyalty is even seen as repulsive because they use other women's interest of you to determine your value, so if you focus only on them it will repulse them secretly.. sorry not sorry..
@@theironson1043 thats if you want to sleep with a woman. If you want a nice,sweet partner for the rest of your life then do what the she said, because thats what you will attract but if you want to sleep with a not so honourable girl for one night then do what you just said.
@@faizanhussain7139BETA!
@@theironson1043”satanic energy” bro what
@@tigerchild3676 In layman's terms- "selfishness" +narcissism.
i also recommend having more female friends in your life. It will give you more confidence in talking to woman if you generally just have male friends. Meeting more females through her friends is also a great advantage.
Agreed. Always hated the whole “you’re either trying to smash or you’re gay if you hang out with women” thing that a lot of men my age put out there. I grew up with three sisters and a lot of female friends. Helped me understand them better, how to talk to them and what kind of behavior either upset or pleased them.
Yeah I agree. But don’t give up on your bros either
@@allbottledup9513 I agree with you, but let’s not pretend that there isn’t still the desire to smash IF she’s hot. At least in the beginning. I’ve had hot chicks as friends, and at least for the first year or so, I obviously would’ve been down to smash if they offered. Doesn’t mean I had ulterior motives or wasn’t rly their friend, it just meant I’m a normal dude who wouldn’t say no to sx with a foxy bish 😇.
I will say though, after about 6-12 months, especially if you see them often, that feeling kinda passes as as you get used to seeing them, and then you don’t really have those thoughts anymore.
@Mr. K
I get what your saying but it's also with getting older. I'm 32 and I don't have those feelings about my hot friends anymore.
Grew up in a dance studio surrounded by girls. I didn’t date any of them, I didn’t even date at all in High School. But it left me with so much information and experience just interacting with girls that by the time I moved to a different city upon graduation, it was a completely different story. Not saying I’m a catch at all, just that this comment I’m replying to is totally correct. It takes time to get used to communicating properly with any group of people, unfortunately your boys can never help you as much as an honest female friend.
finally some real advice that isn't "GO TO THE GYM FOR 10 HOURS AND GET A BUGATTI"
So guessing there’s no point in me asking you, what colour is your Bugatti ? 🫠
@@SP-mv7ob I got like 10 which one?
Being bald watching this video.
"First thing. Get a haircut"
😭😂
I mean in your case, step one is done ✅ move on to step two 😂
Nah, you don't need to bother😂😂
bro failed at the first hurdle
😂😭😭
Don’t worry I got you covered bro
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My dad went bald at 25 and I am basically pure dad genes, brown hair, brown eyes, tall af. its inevitable
I remember watching a video and one man said an easy way to spark a conversation is to simply compliment their clothing or asking questions about them. Women love talking about their clothing (in general people like talking about themselves) if done right, you can start a partnership just from a simple compliment about them or a question you asked
From a woman, the best way is to start by complimenting small things like clothing, hair, makeup and then move on to calling her beautiful, attractive and stuff like that, it's super good to escalate slowly, if you start small she won't get bored. ;)
Or say "hi! How are you?"
Hi everyone,Do anyone know .Where i can watch full podcasts?
I usually wait for some window to apporach. Like if an event is going on I'll be like "hey isn't that pretty crazy?" then talk about random shit trying to gauge their personality type.
Yeah, complimenting them on things they can control in general like clothing, hairstyle and makeup (even though us guys don't care about makeup, women do) is a good idea. Because then you're complimenting her on her sense of style, rather than just a random uncontrollable aspect like her eyes.
Seeing yourself change for the better definitely boosts your confidence in general. So hit the gym and take care of yourself
Be you and let your worth be the determining factor, not what you are told to be.
That's how female world works not men
lol this video and the entire comment section is a big bundle of coping permavirgins lying to each other.
Repulsive and hilarious
I swear this man's words are the best. Probably my favorite TH-camr.
Thank you for the tips 🙏🏼 I'll try my best
I was genuinely and hopefully waiting for the 4th tip, anxiously watching the last seconds of the short go by .. demonstrating that “hope is a dangerous thing” 😜 .. I gotta say I’m a little bit disappointed .. I mean sure what you said is great .. hygiene, self-confidence and all is good at catching the interest of any person not just women .. but conversation-wise .. attractiveness-wise .. I think as a woman there’s also something so appealing about a respectful man that knows his boundaries .. is emotionally and socially somewhat smart .. passionate about something .. a good and genuine communicator .. has well thought reasons for the opinions he holds .. has goals and acutely works on accomplishing them .. to me .. that’s a hot guy right there ..
looks and appearances are important but never enough .. I have encountered guys with really good looks and quite a high self-esteem but really shitty or hollow personalities, I immediately lost interest, cause they felt like a non-person to me and that WAS NOT sexy at all.
I just found you on TH-cam, so I’m testing the waters really … SO curious about the abortion series, hope it’s well researched and convincing ..
Hey, I have some questions for you, as a young man, to understand better how you and probably more women think about these things: is it more or less a 'must have' for a man to have a high self esteem, or can you also like a guy who is quite shy (at first)? In the scenario that that guy did take the initiative to start a conversation with you, but he seems quite shy while doing so and while talking more with you. Is that a dealbreaker already, or can you see through that and have like 'the patience and understanding for it'? And to be completely honest, yes, I am talking about my own personality here. I have a mild type of autism, Asperger's, and mainly because of that, it's really really hard for me to flirt or to socialize, especially with women around my age (25).
I know you have named several things that you find attractive in guys, but one other thing I don't really understand myself, is that looks and appearances are mainly the 'first impression' you get, from anyone. So if I am not that tall and if I look as a a normal guy (not really hot, but also not really unattractive I think..) how could I break the 'barrier' in a good way? In the Netherlands were I live, the women around my age are mostly self confident and they seem quite picky... It feels really hard to get a positive vibe and a good one on one conversation with a nice woman.
The working out for your own benefit I totally support. I am 6ft9in but did not have it easy growing up, which led me down a path of self dislike and habits like smoking cigs and eating a lot to feel better. I have smoking under control now to just social in Univ, and the eating is getting better, but I still don't like that I am kinda chubby. There was a period last year or so when I was working out a lot between classes and even though I was still relatively chubby, I pulled a mutual friend as my then girl friend off the confidence that the working out did for me. Granted, things didn't work out and I broke it off, but it goes to show. I have yoyo'd this past year due to an intensive senior Univ year, but going into my MBA I should have a lot more free time and hope that daily swimming and weights will get me to where I need to be mentally FOR MY OWN SELF, not for things like dating. That comes later as a byproduct
Bro ur 6ft 😭
I recommend to just be yourself and not the whole great shape thing. It's not so much your physical appearance, but how you carry yourself, and how you approach a woman. I recommend you make small talk about anything in your environment, and if a woman is interested the conversation will continue for a while. Before departing you should either ask for their number, or if they're hungry and would like join you for meal somewhere. If the small talk doesn't continue walk away, or simply keep to yourself and do not ask them for their number. Studies show that most women are not to concerned if a man is fit. They'll look at your structure and if you're appealing to them. Most people are not fit. BTW I'm 56 years old now and was married with children for 20 something years(divorced not by choice but societies influence to womens independentance which is not making women happier. Most regret leaving due to the advises they've received and wish they never left their marriage. Whole different topic). So although I can't say I'm full of wisdom. I can say I have experience with women and how to approach them. Wish you the best and as I like to say. The uglier the luckier.
I cannot tell you how helpful it is just to TALK to a lot of people. Now a days everyone is so plugged in all the time they get weird talking to anybody at all, let alone someone they find attractive. People get so wrapped up in their head about not only saying Hello, but what to say next, where it's going to go, am I going to get this girls number, blah blah blah. Stop it. Calm down. Talk to a lot of people, and learn to back off respectfully. We all talk, and if you're the guy who cusses out the girl for not wanting to give you her number, word gets around. If she says, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend," or "Not interested", just stay chill and say, "That's alright. Have a nice day, ladies." Getting angry at rejection SHOWS DESPERATION.
This dude can actually be the real Wisdom king
Thank you. Phenomenal insight
Speaking as a woman, this is really damned good advice!
This was a fresh breath of air honestly
I love this man deeper
I'm okay at #1 bad at #2 and really good at #3, confidence in daily activities I have plenty
now thats some good advice!!
Thank you for not saying that men doesn't have to work out for us but for themselves a way from that mentality & low self esteem that a lot of people have Thank you for simplifying what attracts us to real men
It doesn't matter if you're tall, neither is short, buff or skinny. Doesn't matter if you look above or below average. Doesn't even matter if you're ugly af. The only way to attract women is by using one key element, and that's 'Personality'.
'Personality' 💵
But how to develop a personality?
Be happy without relying on others. Go out and socialise. Maybe even get a hobby with a community
ur physique also matter as it will show if u worked hard on it or if you have completely let urself go and indulged in fast food both personality money and physique are important youd want all in a man
confidence is key
Youve never had a gf have you
What sucks is that I've been working out consistently since I was in 7th grade and have a 1% physique, as well as also spending plenty of time focusing on my hygiene and fashion sense. I'm now 17 and still have zero confidence in my appearance, probably mainly because I've pretty much always looked this way. I feel like there's nothing I can do to improve my confidence.
Fake it til you make (become) it.
Your too young to put up weight...
It's not complicated, women just want someone who's kind to us and safe to be around. Yes, those tips would work (except for the cold approach, which won't be welcome most of the times), but what really makes most undateable men that way is their attitude.
See you say that, but that is not true, women want status, money, height, then if he has some of that they then need the rest, I am not talking about you in particular btw, but I could have the best attitude but just because Im average you wouldnt even consider me as an option, again, this is for the majority
@@mixalis295 Lol, you just listed a bunch of things that men want. Men are impressed by money, height etc. I don't know any woman who hasn't had average boyfriends, and we all broke up not because they failed to be some alpha-roid-rage fantasy, but because they failed at being decent, caring human beings. It's really simple.
But those women are will to be kind to men in return.
@@mixalis295wow awesome, a woman is saying she doesn't want any of those but obviously a guy knows woman more than woman😂😂😂shut up already
@@drewyettisays the single loser
I apreciate this, unfortuantly for me most of the women in my life are very close friends of mine who have no intention of being in a relationship. I'm pretty sure I've reached the point in my life where I am starting to care about that A LOT MORE than I usually would (im 16) and its getting harder to try and get to the point of being in a relationship.
and be smart, women love smart man
Doesn't matter as a friend, cousin or anything. You should interact with females more often. You'll get good at this automatically
Thought it was gonna be those cheesy pickup artist advice instead it was good advice. Fair points and true. Gym and a little effort into looking better physically goes a long way.
Going to gym is not that easy for everyone.
I agree. Lifting heavy weights isn't easy. What you're likely referring to is the social aspect, which is easy to overcome when you realize that everyone else there is there for the same reason you are: self improvement. They are worried more about themselves than they are about you. That's why they're there!
Body weight workouts are a thing, you have a body use it to your own advantage, calisthenics is an option.
I an a woman and can attest this is 100% true
I’ll add two more.
Put on a shirt that is not too vibrant in color.
Close the front buttons on your shirt.
I'm was not so good with talking to women. Im a fairly good looking dude but starting a convo was difficult. Even tough I have good income in my real estate business I got a job at a clothing store which requires me to speak to people. I have improved so much. I used to look away with speaking to women and now I look them directly in their eyes when speaking.
I completely agree with the gym point. Hitting the gym with discipline drastically improves the confidence and brings some charisma too!
I used to be a super awkward guy when it came to conversation with girls UNTIL I started hitting the gym. Best part is, you don’t even have to grind on it like it’s your full time job. Just do a little bit of research about weights or martial arts. It’ll create wonders in every other field you involve yourself in
Dude that's what he says
@@irelandcm yep :) just agreeing with him and sharing my experience :)
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Physical appearance and physical appearance,got it. As for the second tip,you can have that one.
As a woman, I would recommend all of these tips. Perfection isn’t necessary, but confidence is. Because if you can’t love yourself, how are you supposed to love someone else?
I saw one controversial take. Then another. And was like YUP that's a new subscriber! 👍
The chicklet man is wise.
Can you paste the link to the website you buy cloth.
I will say that this video from pixelated Michael Myers ain't half bad
Where do I get that mask
So.... You're telling me.... that I don't have to wait for another man to say a word to her.... and I don't have to approach all trousered up and say "I think the lady wants you to leave her alone" and expect her to swoon for me after
step 4, unbutton 4 buttons of ur shirt
🌻
How to be more attractive to women: stop hiding behind a mask
Where does he get his shirts
Keep trying to be the most healthy version of yourself you can be, and stop looking for a woman. You'll then find a woman that is doing the same thing, and you will truly love one another.
I'm already doing two of the three things. Just talking to a woman gives me anxiety. 💀
The issue i find with talking to women is you often have to be very careful what you say. Women do not lile banter or jokes at their expense, which makes it very difficult to be friends with them, not all but the vast majority take themselves way too seriously and are far too insecure. Not that im in the game anymore as im married now, but even with my wife i can never be myself because theres too much emotion that can be triggered by the words said. So for me personally i find it best to avoid women entirely. I have my wife and my kids and thats all i want.
Today, I'm past my prime. BUT, I used to get shot down alot because I was awkward, shy , with a guarded ego. By Relaxing, not afraid to make fun of myself in front of a crowd, practicing a few well timed jokes at my expense, and acting like I don't give a damn, (not being too eager)....I got more dates, and nailing the first impression....you get more "returning customers" so to speak....and yes, good hygiene, sharp appearance, not looking run down is key as well
1) respect her
2) respect her
3) respect her
Found a Gem out of TH-cam shorts !
Same here
interesting, now i challenge you to do a video like this for woman without being cancelled
“Mom, I like Men”
Just be yourself and be confident. And wear a mask 😉 💜
The gym part is definitely true. Even tho I will admit I’m too pussy to cold approach sense hitting the gym consistently and dialing in my physique I no longer am self conscious at all about my appearance when around women.
is this guy wearing the mask kanye wore during the yeezus tour in san antonio?
Hi ,
I just came across a short of yours found it stating a few things that were obvious to me but I found refreshing. So I followed the rabbit hole watched a couple more and was just as impressed so much that I decided to sub. Then I saw “how to spot a guru” ….the next I watched was “how to be more attractive to women” what you were saying and was so similar that I had found I had fallen into the trap that you yourself warned me against….I had to unsubscribe.
I'd add to hygine, skincare, dental hygine( please brush that tongue), be yourself, but the version of yourself, no need to copy someone's personality or act. Oh and to get a woman and keep her it's really easy, be fun, humor, vacations, campings, whatever, don't just play video games all day
Easy for you to say. You got muscular chest, I got a pushed in one that makes it look like a have breasts.
Don't try to attract women. They either are attracted to you, or they're not. If you're not Chad, make women irrelevant in your life.
Live your life for yourself, not for them.
Hit the gym because you take pride in your health and your physical fitness. Because you are not satisfied with mediocrity, and you want to be stronger and faster than the other guy.
Make career moves because you want to be the best at what you do and make money doing it.
Understand that most women are mediocre, even below average, cause they don't have the burden of performance on them like men do. A woman can ruin her life, yet still have legions of simps willing to bail her out. You don't have that safety net.
Never cold approach. They get approached, cat-called, hit up, DM'd, etc. more than you could imagine. If you're not the guy she thinks about when she masturbates, then you're just another NPC to her, no matter how clever or original your opening line was. If you are that guy, she will make it obvious, and you can be straightforward.
Most women cannot offer you more than sex, which comes with arguments and drama. Most men are willing to put up with the drama in exchange for the sex. Most modern women are not less promiscuous than actual pros, only less responsible. The woman you tried to impress on your last dinner date, has at least one guy she hooks up with casually, who doesn't try to impress her.
Prioritize your happiness and emotional stability. If sex and companionship with a beautiful woman is what you need to be happy, go where it's legal and pay for it. It's cheaper than dinner dates and therapy bills after your self-esteem has been crushed from countless rejections.
Commit to self-betterment, but do it for yourself. You can spend years working to become the best version of you, only to still get rejected by the worst version of her.
The wisest advise here.
So basically if your not in the gym 5hrs a day, not packing a subway 12’ package, don’t have a bank balance that’s 6 figures or don’t have a luxury car (ideally a Bugatti), pay a pro or live a monk life ?
@@SP-mv7ob yea, basically.
I disagree abt the cold approach stuff. I do cold approaches,non of the women I met wouldav approached me first. So I won by approaching
easy work when you live in Canggu
I'm gay so I guess this does not apply to me
None of the relationship stuff from self-help bros does. Same-sex attractions don't exist in their world. If they do, it's as a punchline or "Oh I love gay guys more women for me hurr durr." Which is just as well I suppose, as the toxicity among gay guys is at a level inconceivable to self-help bros, or those not in the community in general.
I envy you.
1) Put a bunch of mints on your face to make yourself more mysterious and refreshing
I don't need any women with me since I rejecting them because of their religion.
Become the man of your dreams
I can move around my city and i can't find a single(who unmarried or without a boyfriend) women to talk to. It feels like they teleport from my line of sights. Also gynophobia makes it harder for me to go anywhere near them even if i manage to find one.
Wait till you find out in the books he was actually motivated by becoming the king of Gondor.
I like your videos and I agree with the first two... but I'm in splitted opinion at the last one...
Showing a women that I have a good body at gym is like showing her that I have a nice car... It's like fishing a golddigger..
If I want a woman who take it serious, I'm definitely NOT looking for a woman at the gym, sorry x)
I'd rather talk to a woman at the supermarket. Talking to women in gyms is like talking to women at partys.
They feel to special at these places and they think that everyone is approaching them at these places so your chances go down.
It's kinda hard to explain.. but the more people are around a woman and especially when she KNOWS this is a place where men are watching her, the worse your chances are to get connected with her. Especially because gyms are for workout and not for smalltalks and dates...
Another tip: Close your shirt!
I been consuming MGTOW, I'm sure you are familiar with MGTOw, I don't like cold approach because I'm not 6'0, I'm not rich, I'm working on it, my height 5'8 isn't very attractive to girls, I'm not avoiding cold approach because I don't feel comfortable talking to women, I've seen so many videos of women calling guys who don't qualify as a high value man "creeps". Any opinions on the MGTOw movement
You don’t want a snobby female that calls you a creep for talking to her. Walk away and pat yourself on the back for not buying the snob dinner. Also ignore any girl that uses the words “high value man”. She’s ruined by the internet and her priorities are all wrong.
MGTOW is just as toxic and detrimental to society as feminism is. Stay well away from this dog shit. Unless there are factors like wealth involved, women tend to go for men who are as attractive as themselves. Stay away from woke feminists, they tend to hate men in general. Also, stay away from women who are obsessed with their looks and spend all of their time taking selfies and posting videos of themselves on social media. Go find yourself a nice, down to earth, woman who has the same morals, values, and hobbies as yourself. Good luck.
5’8” is not short, if that is your real height. Most female models are 5’9. If you’ve stood next to one, they are very tall. Most men just lie when self-reporting height. According to the DMV, 14% of men in the US are over 6 foot. By going outside in my city of Los Angeles, I can tell you that 14% is BS.
I had to audit a pharmacy the other day, and the owner’s drivers license said 5’9”. I swear to god, this dude was shorter than I am. I’m a 5’5” Asian female. 5’8” only sounds short because 5’9” is the “minimum acceptable height” for men to report.
PS: like the other guy said, don’t go after girls that only care about such superficial things. Don’t try to make a wife out of a (rhymes with Charlotte). Being with a horrible woman is not better than being alone or with friends.
I never minded dating shorter guys. What attracts women the most is confidence.
Easy fix…lie if your using online dating, a lot of girls are terrible at gaging height (not all) refine your search to minimum - 5’0 and say your 6’0, in person wear shoes that add an inch and again approach shirt girls.
😂 no but serious take 3-6months and work on yourself, physically get in shape (you don’t have to be a body builder) the confidence you’ll get from that alone will be a huge help, if your abit shy it ain’t easy but put yourself out more try to engage with people even something silly like strike up a convo with 1 new person every few days. Come back in 6 months and respond, I’m sure expecting a different man when you return bro 😎
Alright, I'll see you at the gym
Honorable mention: just don’t be a dick, the bar is on the ground, just show respect you’d show anyone else and your set
Juan ?
The number one thing in this list is, ironically, the first one. Just talk to women. They are humans, and most of us live around quite a few of them who speak the same language we do. Also, approaching an attractive woman shouldn't always be with the intention of getting poon. If you talk to her first as a human, when you decide to go after it (which shouldn't be after 10 minutes of talking to her), there will be a natural transition to that available because you've already talked
Says the man with a mask on
Says the pug…
The man with a mask is so hot
@@interesting2491Says the field
I mean sure but can't we do this to work on ourselves first? And interact socially with friends and colleagues on an occasional basis? To improve
And also i disagree with the approaching women part because in this day and age not only do you have to face rejection from a woman ( which is fine every man has gone through it ) but we as men also have the risk of being called a creep and possibly be charged with sexual harrasment ( Preety much "me tooed" )
Whats the gain in that? Now alot of wonen might say its jow you approach and what you say which i think is bs because what determines whether your gomna be "me tooed" or not is his attractiveness
If hes attractive 😍
If hes unattractive 🤨😒🤢🤮
Okay, now make one about how I can be more attractive to men?
I hate being so intimidating to them, but I can't help being 6 feet and full figured.
"Excuse me, my phone died, would uou hapoen to have the time?"
"Oh my goodness, what a cute dog, what's their name?"
"Isnt there a coffee place around here, would you happen to know where it is?"
If she answers to any of these, that's a "conversation". It really is THAT easy...
The lazy man watching this: Oh there goes another influencer I'm gonna stop to watch because he also told me to get fit.
Hahhaha
I know this video is for men only, but I have a feminine question, how do women keep men from losing interest in the long run?
Here's a resource you can use if you'd like: (Allison Armstrong) The Queens Code..
Hey, people of youtube.
How can I get my exercise without going to the gym because I live in the woods and I'm too poor to pay a subscription for a gym.
There are multiple ways to go about our lives, remember what people tell you is no more than guidelines, you dont have to do anything in such a specific way and you do what you decide you want to do within the actual rules of your life. I do consider this to be decent advice but if you take it in a way as if it is against your own wants and you need to do it, that is unhealthy, it is completely contradictory to what this is advice is for.
Just be healthy. don't be blinded with over masculinity it may lead you to "asteroids". fix some diet plans. attractiveness boils down to looking healthy too much plastic or augments looks unnatural and overboard. and remember some things are just genetics and out of your control like most things in life for example like maximum muscle growth and abs shapes and size. it's like boob sizes but for men. best to start anywhere than nowhere.
You need to hit up the gym bird 🦢 ass chest 😂
I rather DELETE myself than TRY....NOOOO!!!!
Also make money. A lot of young men don't understand why they aren't a hot commodity and its because they're at the age when they're still building their careers. When theyre older more wimen will be interested because they are more established. Its a nesting instinct that women need providers for their future children
Losing weight needs time and motivation from people around you, i lost 8 stone due to circumstances with health. But i could not do that with a sinlge video on TH-cam telling me to hit the gym for the sake of women.
These are the things that get you noticed but the things that make them want to stay or be more serious: money, status, perks (property, lifestyle, etc). Have enough of the last three and looks also don’t matter.
Does the mask help get the chics?
I'm gay, girls like me a lot 'cause I'm kind and like to debate many things. The biggest problem is when they say "I'm in love with you". Man, being gay not only mean having a man on your side for the rest of your life, but also breaking the hearts of many girls, 'cause you like men :I
you know a lot off people shame you, and people like you for wearing a mask. But is respect it because it shows you dint care about the fame, but you care about the message that you are trying to send. and I think you have said this in one of your videos but if you didn't have the mask, you probably wouldn't have been able to touch so many people. I think you understand that the with the mask it can make something more than a man, it can make you a symbol and that is everlasting, but it can be dangerous if it is used for the wrong reasons, but you know the difference and that is on of the big reasons why is respect you so much bot just for the mask but as a person aswell
your not gonna see this, I mean you have better things to do then read a massive comment. this will probably just get berried underneath all the others but I will still say what I think.
someone’s heartbroken
Personally coming from a female, I understand lots of women are into this type of man that’s buff, tall etc. And I find this interesting because women use tv series, films and socials to sculpt the idea of this “perfect man”. In my opinion, I realistically don’t care about the looks, as long as the basics are written off like being healthy, then it’s fine. What I care about more so is if the person has a similar mindset as me. I’ve gone through a couple people that do care about the looks, but then say the most unbelievable shit to me, which i then proceed to disagree with, and therefore turns into an unhealthy relationship due to the different ideologies of one another.
What if I was gay? lol
Wait! What abt men?
'The gym' - You're in the 1%
[Thanks Hormozi]
Solid advice tho. But we (literally all) gotta go "callisthenics", & be better for it.
...Ask The Rock about 'backne'. Wash your own back gentlemen.
Rejection is great because it frees you up for that other cutie you were looking at
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This is All common sense.