68 here and lost my fear years ago. I fear losing my loved ones and pets (still recovering from the loss of my beloved 19 year old cat 6 months ago), pain and financial challenges making life more difficult... but dying? The older I get the less I fear it. If a lot of us dare to admit it I think many look forward to the end of the hardships and suffering in this world. I'm not suicidal...my health is good and I'll plug away here until it's my time. Nurse Julie is truly heaven sent.
Last words my daughter said to me was daddy am i dying? I said i dont know but we all die someday. I said i do see jesus by your shoulder thou. She whispered thats good and she passed. I miss het every minute of rvery day and vant wait till we meet again. The lord allowed me to have my special angel and i know her father in heaven is taking good care of her now.
@josephschaller2972 wow!. I'm sorry for your lost & you gave your daughter a awesome answer when she asked you if she is dying!.. it's so difficult on us especially a dad & mom when their children pass but as you said, we are all going to die one day! But the joy you must embrace is you were with your daughter till the end & Jesus will now take over & your daughter is in Heaven now!..God's Speed my friend & stay strong!.
My mom who was dying from pancreatic cancer was so comforted by the hospice nurses and team. She was reaching up to heaven when she took her last breath; she had a faint smile on her face….❤
Yes I did too! However now hearing from Nurse Julie the natural process of a body shutting down makes sense to me as I also watched my father pass away and though he was on pain killers he did go in peace, but before he passed he opened his eyes in astonishment stated his deceased daughter (my sister) and husband by name as if he was actually seeing them waiting for him at the end of his hospice bed! I truly believe in GOD, JESUS, and The HOLY SPIRIT for an eternal LIFE! ✝✝❤❤🙏🙏
They can be, there are also some who are pure evil. An Australian documentary with hidden camera footage showed some horrific happenings. Spitting in their mouth, wiping their bottom then rubbing it on their faces...truely horrendous. And these nurses although being fired, and sanctioned (imprisoned) will, after serving a few years disqualification, he able to work as carers once again.
I am sure some are angels, but my hospice team refused to supply me with any pain relief. Before I signed with them, they said don't worry, we will provide you with adequate pain relief. Then after I I am under their care, they say sorry, we can't provide any pain relief.
Thank you Julie for these videos. As a person who has about 2 more months to live, I will MAKE SURE that I know. God is love and I want to make sure He knows me. 😄
@@Anubis424242 That's an extremely rare condition. Heart disease and cancer are not. Take plenty of vitamin C and D, get serum D checked yearly. Avoid carbs and alcohol.
It's not a burden to take care of a family member in need. It's not easy. It may be even frustrating. It can set your plans back or affect your own life. But it's not a burden. To ease a loved person's life is a different kind of fulfilment. It's as serious as it gets. You take care of someone like that you acquire a different kind of strength.
Our 34 year old son died 16 months ago after struggling with depression and addiction since his teens. We did everything possible to help Alex. I pray that Julie is right.
I feel the same way everyday the justice system has me by the balls to. I’ve attempted it over 15 times and failed. If I can’t even unalive myself right then what’s this life for?
@@Anonymous-lq2bs I want to reach out to you but all I can offer is friendship. I don't know the answer to such suffering you're going through but Anonymous I'm thinking of you ♥️
Having been with my Dad as he passed, he showed no fear, refused pain medication and anti anxiety drugs telling the nurses, I am not in pain and not anxious. My Dad and I talked and listened to music. My brother called from NZ and as I put my Dad on the phone, he turned to me and just stopped, like a light being turned off. I knew immediately he was not "there" anymore, and the peace and calm I felt in the room waa beautiful. All my senses were weirdly enhanced, I had goosebumps and could hear like static electricity. I do not fear death.
I fear death. I've tasted it briefly. I fell down off of a 30 something foot balcony. I woke up on a ventilator almost two weeks later. Before I woke up I didn't feel anything, see anything, hear anything, taste anything, didn't know anything, didn't remember anything. I don't ever want to experience that again...
@@britneyfrench7878 I'm sorry you went through that, it must have been very scary. My dad was also on a ventilator for 10 days and he doesn't remember anything about it. I'm not sure though that's equivalent to death...
My father died suddenly from a heart attack in 1978. Everyone was in shock. That night I heard his voice clearly say I’m alright take care of your mother. My mother died in 2021. The hospital called me to tell me. As I hung up the phone I clearly heard her voice saying I’m alright I am with dad and we are at peace. I saw them both in my minds eye sitting by their favorite lake shoreline. I’m at peace with them and death.
Hi Julie, I have stage 4 breast cancer. Recurrence after 7 yrs, came back in my lungs and bones this time. Diagnosed Aug 23. I'm on targeted therapy which is keeping me stable for now. I find your videos very comforting, been a widow for 5 yrs and I asked my husband on his death bed to come and get me when it's my time. I have asked to pass in hospice not at home, feel it's less messy lol. I am living my best life at the mo, social life has never been better. As I'm from the UK we don't have to worry about the cost of hospice care either.love from Devon uk🇬🇧❤️
Prayers for you from me too. I got breast cancer and just had my mastectomy and breast reconstruction. They said I’m now cancer free but still need radiation. Recurrence is my biggest fear but I’m learning to live life without thinking negatively. Hope the best for you in your journey
I am so sorry to hear this! Bless you! Please, please start taking turkeytail mushrooms ASAP! They will help. I know people with different cancers who it has helped. It was featured in the Netflix documentary, "Fantastic Fungi".
As a hospice music therapist I had the privilege of treating a patient who left me a beautiful gift. Mr. R was lingering. He would say to me, “I don’t know why God hasn’t taken me yet.” We’d laugh about it together. We’d say our goodbyes, and the next week, there he was. I’d say, “Wait a minute, we said goodbye twice already!” He was so weak, but still he’d smile and laugh. One of my visits he told me that when he slept, the angels let him see where he was headed. He told me there aren’t words to describe it, that it was similar to here but beautiful. He spoke urgently and said, “God sent me back to tell everyone…we have to LOVE EACH OTHER. It’s more important than anything else. LOVE each other.” I don’t fear death, either. ❤
@BaadleaBeeleBop , "hospice music therapist":? I like the sound of that. I'm still capable of living independently, but I love music. Actually started my career as an 'old-school' DJ ("..here's a little tune you might like..") before I even graduated high school. Wasn't the best musician in the world (drummer in a Punk/New Wave 'cover' hobby band), but I still love it. Music is such a source for solace. I've loved the videos I've seen of dementia patients having moments of clarity when their favorite old tunes are played. Thanks for your work, I hope there's someone like you at where I end up when I'm not independent anymore.
The most important thing is that we need to be having these conversations openly in society, and doing everything we can to help people prepare for the inevitable, and have as much agency as possible to allow them to pass in dignity. Instead, we spend inordinate sums pretending we are immortal and hiding death away as something shameful, rather than the natural last season of the cycle of life. Thank you for being part of this important conversation, and for the amazing service in your work.
Working as a critical care flight nurse, one the patient we were transporting was dying. She was an elderly female. She opened her eyes and had a big smile on her face and asked me "Do you see them?" I said what do you see? and she looked around still with this beautiful smile and said, "All the angels around us" I was amazed and truly believed her. She looked so peaceful and accepting what was happening to her. Meanwhile we are at 3,000 ' I admit, I felt her peace. When you fly in a helicopter it can be noisy in the cab. But it seemed to silence the sounds and I felt like I was being hugged by those angels. She definitely felt the same way. It's one transport I will never forget. Even thinking about it gives me peace.
@@madelynhernandez7453I was thinking the same thing because having been a critical care flight paramedic as well as ground paramedic I have seen people die as well and it seems that people of faith have a better go of it
I suffered from mental illness most of my life. Not long after my Dad passed I found myself at the end of my rope. I was cycling through mania and depression and drinking heavily. I even attempted suicide. One afternoon I passed out on my bed and had a dream that changed my life. In it my Dad came to me and said in the most gentle way "I've come to take you home". It was strange because I had never dreamed about him before. After years of trying to prove I was okay I gave up my home, my job, everything. I came home and found the help I needed. That was 20 years ago and now I'm living my best life. I don't tell many people about it. In life my Dad and I had a strained relationship it's amazing that after his death he saved me. It makes me not fear death because I know it's not the end.
Mine when I was 13 was dying from pancreatic cancer, and we went the day before Christmas Eve to see her as we always went every day, told me that the steak in heaven was the best steak ever and that she couldn't truly describe it.
I have been in palliative care at the hospice for two years and find nothing but kindness and care from every member of staff I meet. I have had three kinds of cancer and have a heart condition and have no fear of death and am assured of a good end when it comes. Thank you Julie and the team at the local hospice.
Nurse Julie!! My neighbor died in hospice. The day she left I asked her if she would try to let me know what it was like. She told me she would and she would also visit her grandson George. The next morning I was planting a tree and she was hovering above it in her little blue nightgown, she was so happy as she imparted her joy to me and telepathically said "this is good." George came over later that day. He said "you are the only person that will believe me but Nan came to me today in her little blue nightgown. " I told him that she visited me too and.......we hugged forever and cried such tears of joy and love for my dear friend and George's sweet Nan. ❤
If we are spirits after we die why would we have need of clothing? Why would she need a blue nightgown if the physical body is dead and the spirit is alive? Perhaps for the sake of recognition? I don't doubt your story but I think my question is legit.
@@FriendofDorothy I've read that when spirits appear to people, they appear how they looked in real life, but at any age and any outfit they choose. Who wants to see a naked ghost? 😱
My father passed and was revived, he Said God waved his hand and was pushed back because of there is more life to live on earth. Dad said it's the most peaceful experience in his 75 year life !! My dad said he was kind of disappointed to be back here, but was definitely going back to God when the time comes. He lasted another 10 years as his body wore out.!! RIP DAD!! LOVE U HAPPY FATHER'S DAY EVERYDAY SEE YOU AGAIN.!! YOU'RE # 2 SON RICKY.!!😢
Thought I would share my story from the other side, had an NDE at 3 years of age while being brutally assaulted by my stepfather. My soul left my body, quite quickly once it started, I was floating towards the ceiling but then the best thing happened, I did not get as far as heaven, I was being hugged by Jesus for some minutes, I looked down on my body, still under attack, Jesus said "dont look at her" and hugged me tighter. It was the most peace, love, serenity, safety and lack of pain I ever had alive. He has the kindest eyes the sweetest smile and He is literally Love. He had a beautiful gold tinged light emanating from him. He must have sent me back for a reason, maybe this testimony, but I did not want to leave Him.
I can SO relate. when my sister passed away in August of 2022, I felt the same assurance. My husband of 35 years and I were climbing a large mountain in the dark, pulling a camper...it felt like slow motion. I had just lost my sister a few hours before. As we ascended this large hill, the BIGGEST, BRIGHTEST shooting star flew across the sky. We both saw it and both burst into tears. With that flash we both heard her say she was OK, and that the other side was amazing. Epic. Lots of people made comments like "lots of shooting stars that time of year" etc,trying to diminish what we experienced. Truly epic. It was NOT just a shooting star.❤💦
My mom passed away just after 7AM on March 1st of this year. When I came home a few hours later from the rehab facility, her hibiscus plant had nine huge yellow flowers that had bloomed. That plant never had more than a few flowers ever bloom at one time. I was awestruck...
It was a sign, I'm not a very superstitious person and I might not ascribe the same meaning but If you say it is a sign I will accept that. Plenty of people say similar things, and who am I to judge. BTW, my father passed on 5/20/24 at 12:40 am. My wife woke up right around that time, I did also but I'm more of a restless sleeper. She believes it was a sign. Me? I believe he's OK for other reasons. For me it's a more assessment thing, but too me it's just a different way of seeing things.
@@thomasdeebel6695 I agree with you. Knowing my mom, it was her way of sending me a message. We used to talk about that plant and we both used to admire its beauty. One thing I think about now, after almost three months have passed, what happens to that energy? Does it dissipate? The hibiscus has returned to its normal pattern. I get the feeling that it was a parting message...
Dear Julie, My beloved brother, my twin soul and best friend, passed away on April 26, 2024 leaving me with a shattered heart. I appreciate this video more than I can express as it has given me a modicum of peace. This is the kind of death I hope my brother experienced, as over a thousand miles separated us when he passed. Thank you again, Julie. I deeply honor your special calling as a hospice nurse.
I'm from a Christian family, and my dad had cancer and was only 6 weeks away from dying of it, when we all found out he had it. He died in hospice and a couple of hours after he died, (he was a caretaker and groundskeeper at 2 churches), my sister heard him saying to her, "you should see the flowers up here. The colors are so bright." We believe he's in heaven.
Wow, I stopped crying so much after my mother coming to me in a dream after she passed, and told me to stop crying because she said it's so beautiful and the flowers are beautiful and that she was ok😢😢😢
I lost my mum to cancer in January 2016. She was in a local hospice. She told me that somebody came for her in her subconscious state. She asked my mum to go with her but my mum was scared and turned back. Yes,I know that she would have been on drugs, etc, and this can cause hallucinations, etc. At my mum's wake, her best friend told me something bizarre. She told me that she got up in the night to get a drink from the fridge. She turned around, and there was my mum beautifully dressed with makeup on and looked so healthy and young. My mum lost a lot of weight because of her cancer and she looked very ill. My mum's friend asked her if she'd gone and my mum answered 'not yet.' It wasn't all of my mum's body. My mum lost her fight the following day. Now, I truly believe that somebody comes for you, but it's your 'guardian angel.' They then take you to see your loved ones who have crossed over. Thank you.
@IHaveNoLife-nc8wj Evidence? Basic common sense for a starter. Maybe you try explain the principles of how people can talk to you after they have died. High level overview will do.
❤ “Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, Nor have entered into the heart of man The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9 "I am the way, the truth and the life, no man comes to the Father but by me" John 14:6
I understand exactly what you are describing when you said you heard that gentleman's voice in your head. When my 21 year old son died, there were many, many days and nights I cried and cried and cried. One night, I was sitting at my kitchen table...just bawling... and almost could "feel" a hand on my shoulder and then "heard" my son who passed on say, almost sternly, "MOM, IT'S ALRIGHT!". I quickly turned around thinking he was behind me, that is how real it was. This has always stayed with me and the realness of it made me 100% believe he used all his spiritual energy to communicate with me. I needed that so desperately and it has helped me so much these past 22 years since his death. 💞 Reuniting with loved ones is also helpful to not fear death.
When I was a teen, an older friend told the story of her son dying in a tractor accident and she was in prayer and weeping and she heard her son’s voice say, “Mom, it’s so beautiful here.” Thinking of you.
I too lost my 22-year-old son 12 years ago...A few weeks after he passed I was lying down, but not asleep yet and I felt as if someone was hugging me...I should back up, the night before I was thinking how much I missed him and especially his hugs and said something to the effect of how much I wished I could have one more hug from him...Anyway, back to the hug the next day...I wasn't sure what I was feeling or if I was imagining the hug, but a few seconds after it ended I heard my son's voice say my name...It was so real and distinct, I'll never forget it...And then something made me turn over and I saw my son sitting in a chair in my bedroom and I said, "It's you, it was you"!! and he just smiled and then faded away...I've never experienced anything more real in my life and I'll also note that I was home alone and hearing, feeling, and seeing him, did not scare or startle me in any way ( as you might think it would )...I think that's another reason I knew it was real...I haven't shared that with too many people ( for obvious reasons ), but from one mother to another I have no doubt what we experienced was our boys reaching out to us.
@Jules21567 that is beautiful, and I completely believe what you saw and heard. I also know what you mean when you said you weren't scared at all and the realness of it. I really appreciate you sharing your story. It helps so much. 💞
As a hospital pharmacist, I can truly appreciate all of the mental, emotional, and physical demands placed on hospice care colleagues. Thank you for fulfilling the difficult role of end-of-life patient care. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your amazing experience and the courage shown to speak it. I KNOW first hand these things are REAL!!What a gift you are to so, so many by helping relieve much fears and anxieties during pts ad family members most difficult times of their lives. You are definitely a blessing!!! ❤🙏🏻
All of your videos have been wonderfully informative and even comforting. I am an old nurse (68) still working. But i never worked with dying patients. Never too old to learn something new about the human body and spirit. Thank you so much.
Same here. My dad (big guy) was paralyzed from the chest down for three months before passing away (metastatic prostate cancer). Very very tough situation. I'm so afraid of the same situation happening with me.
My wife recently passed at the hospice.Cancer took her in only 8 weeks.I was lucky enough to be there to say goodbye.I heard her death rattle and it is a sound that i will never forget.I dont know how these special folks can function with compassionate care 24/7 but i am glad that my wifes last days were spent there and not in a hospital ward with the traffic and busy noises..
Having worked as a Nurse in Hospice, we KNOW that death is nothing to fear. We see death often and the peace often achieved prior to death, and seeing dying people respond to and reach out for others we can't see, but are spirit come to accompany the person into the next realm. I have zero fear of death. 😊 Thanks Julie for the education you provide to so many, so that they won't be in any fear. 🙏
My mum passed away in a hospice. As I held her . Just before she passed she reached out and pointed to something / someone I couldn't see . Thank you for mentioning this I now no what she was doing bless her ❤️
"Don't fear those who kill the body but are not able to kill the soul; rather, fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell." -Jesus Christ
My son Michael died from Oesophageal cancer aged 36 in Trinity Hospice London UK. 8th September 2018. His care was above and beyond anything I could have wished for. A month or two before Michael died and before he went to the hospice he bought two budgies! Just because he could.. he named them Swift and Bold, after his Green Jackets motto ( he served in the British Army ) The hospice actually allowed him to have the birds in his room and he cared for them until he no longer could.. Whilst he slept the birds twittered and did whatever budgies do. He went into eternal sleep on 6th September ( his sisters birthday ) and died two days later. He never regained consciousness. Before he died I whispered in his ear that he was about to go on an amazing journey and I was saying goodbye. I hope he heard me 💔
OMG... You will never know how powerful this video is. After 26 years in healthcare, like you, I have seen the good, the bad and the ugly. A Hospice nurse reigns supreme IMO as Angels among us! Your smile alone conveys the joy and heartfelt compassion you have in your line of work. Nurses are truly undervalued. You are the front-line in healthcare!...GOD bless you and, thank you for sharing this video. Love, smiles and gratitude to you
My mother lived for six weeks after her stage four lung cancer diagnosis. She passed away at home under hospice care with her four children, two grandchildren and two nephews by her bedside. She lived with us for 15 years till she passed, and loved sitting out on the patio near a jasmine bush because she enjoyed the smell of the flowers. After her funeral in another city, when we got back home, there was a strong smell of the flowers in the house even though there no flowers in the house. Left us with a tingling feeling and a sense of comfort that she was in a good place.
@@cindybucholtz9642, 100% correct! It's so amazing that there are so many people who claim to have no fear of death and are only afraid of the pain they have to suffer before dying. These people have absolutely no idea that their worst fear is coming true. They really don't know what fear is when they meet the demons who know their fears better than they do. They ended up in a real party and there is no escape. The souls of these wicked people will be punished forever, suffering forever and why? because the people were so wicked, stubborn and haughty to reject the Savior of the world: The Lord Jesus Christ, Who died for the sins of all men on the cross on Calvary. His sacrifice is free for all people and yet billions of people reject His Grace and Salvation. Incomprehensible!
I ABSOLUTElY LOVE that story.!! My DADDY died at 36 years old, I was 10…… He came to me in my bedroom to say goodbye! I woke up to a lot of my MOMs friends in the house and I knew before they told me that he died! ❤❤❤
One of the last things my dad said to my mom was, "I wish you could see all these colors." I know he was seeing heaven, and I'm so glad he was able to share it with my mom.
@@obscene-c1 That's incredibly rude man. There are millions of videos where people argue about religion 24/7, did you really have to try to start something on a comment describing their father's passing? That's just very mean. We're all trying to figure this out together.
@@Filbertfriend it disgusts me how people lessen the impact of death by believing in stuff like eternal life, this shit causes real harm to society. I dont like to be rude but its the only response to religious bs like that, and im sorry but i cant take this stuff seriously.
My mother died at home while on Hospice. She had head and neck CA. Cancer of the right tonsil to be specific. She required only minimal amount of Morphine during the entire ordeal. During her last 2 months she was what "appeared" to be semi comatose. During that time she often with her eyes closed moved her lips as if she was talking to someone. My sister asked her, "Mama who are you talking to?" She answered, " Jesus." She passed away a few weeks later. On the day of her death she quietly and peacefully took her last breath, her eyelashes were "blown" all the way back and the expression on her face looked as if she had seen something spectacular! We believe that she be held our Lord. When the mortuary came to pick up her body the technician told us," I've seen a lot of people die of this type of cancer and this is the first time I've seen someone look so peaceful and in awe at their death." 2 Corinthians 5:8 Amplified Bible 8 we are [as I was saying] of good courage and confident hope, and prefer rather to be absent from the body and to be at home with the Lord.
I completely believe that personal story you had about your patients passing. I experienced my own telepathic communication with a loved one who had passed. It lasted seconds, I felt an intense heat and heard him say my name . Very comforting
I've felt something like a blanket of heat surrounding me. It was a few weeks after his passing, when I was in so much distress. It was like being given an incredibly warm full body hug. I had no beliefs in life after death at that stage, so that was interesting.
Wonderful. My late wife was a hospice nurse. She stayed home with me as she gradually died fairly peacefully at home from Alzheimers. I was her caretaker. She had taken care of so many and wanted to stay home.
While I don't fear death, I DO fear getting older, and losing my independence; there's no family to even take care of me, so I'll most likely end up wandering the streets when I can't work anymore.
Oh honey don’t believe that. There is nothing that God can’t do! He loves you and wants to take care of you, if you will let Him and trust Him for it. 🙏🙏🙏❤️
I can tell you not to worry. I’m in that situation, 9 cancer surgeries, 2 spinal fusions, and a few other misc in between. I couldn’t go back to my job of 28 years, no longer allowed to drive. I lost both parents to cancer and my brother. I was a non stop human, active always, liked my job and then my life changed. I have had a lot of help via home nurses, I’ve had deliveries for my everyday needs and have made friends with some of the sweet delivery workers that they actually check to see if I need anything and have picked up my meds for me. It was hard the first year, but I’ve adapted and after all that I found such a peace to have this time for myself to heal. This goes out to anyone ready these posts, you are not alone in life. Please reach out if you are struggling 🩷🩷🩷
It's not good to fear the future. Things are exponentially worse in your mind than what they might be in reality. In your mind, it's likely you feel helpless and hopeless about what might happen. In reality, your fears might not actually happen. Even if they do, you have much more control over your situation when it's actually happening.
I will be in the exact same situation Edit: I am in pain from previous injuries. Two bulging disc in my back and neck, scatica in my leg, rotator cuff surgery.............haven't worked in over year, after my mother dies, probably within the next 5 years, I will probably end myself
death is part of life. Im from uk and have looked into death. I lost my son few years ago. my dad followed 2 yrs after. My mom is 98 and thought when lost son and dad that my mom would follow. She is still here and looks so young.
My beloved dog of 19 years shared his death with me a year and a half later. He wanted to reassure me he was ok so I wouldn’t be so sad. It helped me quite a bit.
When my mother and I were at the vet's , unexpectedly putting my dog out of suffering, we watched in our minds eye's (at the same moment) my dog running excitedly to my husband who is in heaven. ;)
My cat found me too and told me how he passed too. I thought I was weird for even talking about that to others cuz they all think I’m crazy. So glad to see someone else has had the same experience. I loved my cat like my baby but had to give him to my neighbor cuz my toddler tormented him and he would run off to the neighbor’s who grew to love him. When they moved to Arkansas they begged me to let them take him. About a year later I was in bed when I felt something jump onto my bed. It was him. He lay on my belly and I was in shock but so happy all at once. I rubbed him and fell asleep. He was gone when I woke up but I knew it was his spirit and that he had passed. I couldn’t believe he found me. I moved and he never saw where I moved. But he found me. I can’t believe it. Then recently I got diagnosed with cancer and started treatment. His spirit found me again (in a new home now) and actually talked to me. He told me how he passed and said it was peaceful. Man how I loved that cat. When my dad died my daughter was four. My daughter said my dad’s spirit came to her and told her he had found Kittyboy where he had gone and that they played fetch. I know she wasn’t making it up because she knew nothing of my cat especially that he played fetch like a dog. How many cats do that?
My dad died at 98. He had a brother who died when he was four years old and he was a little preacher and right before he died they were all around his bed and he said “they’re everywhere. The angels are everywhere they’re coming to get me “ died with a smile. You are definitely an angel Julie.❤
I had a somewhat similar experience when my Dad died. He was in a hospital, in a comma from a stroke. I was holding his hand when he passed. I could see the heart monitor screen and saw it flatline. A few seconds later, I had a tremendously powerful feeling of love, peace and joy that lasted for several seconds; there was no vision or sound just these incredibly beautiful sensations. No one else in the room (my Mom, sister and my wife) felt them. I am convinced this is what Dad felt. I have never experienced anything so wonderful or powerful before or since than that moment. I believe we'll all feel these constantly forever in heaven. This really changed my feelings of death. I was not a religious person back then but am now.
No fear here. I’ve witnessed the end of life for every family member, my sweet partner, many friends. My life is lived fully conscious my end is coming with no denial and I’m living a bold life that scares the hell out of most. Grateful to have been there for many when they needed me and no one else showed up 🙏🏼
"Don't fear those who kill the body but are not able to kill the soul; rather, fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell." -Jesus Christ
My mom just died the day before Mother's Day. I didn't know she had cancer. She hid it from us and we all stood by her bed as she went home and cancer had completely destroyed her body. It's been heart breaking but today, I can feel her in my house and a supernatural connection to her and an understanding of her that I never had.
Julie my mom passed two weeks ago in a hospice, her body shut down and we could see it. Julie you described my moms ending perfectly, she slept 20 yrs a day for a few days at the end , we got to say good bye and the nurses made her comfortable with meds and she passed 10 hrs later with zero pain at any point. Thank you for what you and your staff do.
I work in health care too, Julie and what I hear my patients is this: they fear being alone, they fear being alone AND sick, they fear the loss of their mobility/independence/freedom to do the things they love, they fear grieving the loss of their spouse. I worked in dialysis for 17 years and many of these patients wanted to die and end their suffering, but their families guilted them into continuing ESRD treatments. Yes the machine was keeping them alive, but the progression of uncontrolled diabetes or blood pressure really caused an undignified life. Many of them died blind and had multiple amputations (feet, legs, forearms) and these came AFTER they started dialysis.
@@Loumag-ky9bz is that the key? Staying busy? My mom is in her 60s and I'm in my 30s. I fear her death and worry about my eventual death as well. Being an only child I wonder what my end of life will look like with no kids and no spouse.
I was with my mom when she passed. She had lung cancer and heart disease. It was her heart that wasn’t able to pump enough blood to her organs and they had already started dying. Her ICU nurse was wonderful and frank with me that she was not going to walk out of the hospital. With her informed guidance, I made the decision to move her from ICU to hospice where she only lasted a few hours. I got a call from her hospice nurse at 11:00 pm telling me to get to the hospital quickly as she didn’t have long. It was after hours, so I had to wait for a security guard to escort me to her floor and I was so upset I wouldn’t make it time. Thankfully, I did. Her nurse told me my mom waited for me to get there. I had about 10 minutes with her and saw her take her last breath. It was peaceful and I’m told she felt no pain.
First of all, Julie, thank u for what u do. I am a firefighter, first responder, and I've seen things Hollywood couldn't script. I can't say I fear death, but then u get a page out of a fatal vehicle accident, and then you question that. I needed to hear this video of peaceful passing. Thank you
Dear nurse Julie, my husband had cancer for 6 years. I started watching you on TH-cam about a year before my husband passed. I was so happy with all the information you talked about so when he was getting close I had no fear at all when it took place. My husbands cancer doctor suggested that he get Hospice for us. I was happy that Hospice was coming to our home to actually care for my husband & me. They came 2 months before, the main nurse was so wonderful, then other nurses came , volunteer bathing him. Every was so loving to us. The evening I called his regular nurse, because thing where changing with him. She came & told me he would probably go today. He made that gurgling noise. I was ready to lay on the couch near his hospital bed. I knew he was gone right in front of my eyes. It was beautiful. Thank you
Same here. I watched my dad battle terminal cancer for 5 years and the suffering that went with it and I also watched my favorite aunt become some angry shell of herself from dementia. If that's in the cards for me, I plan on taking a big 'ol swan dive into the great abyss on my own terms.
Near the end, my father was shutting down. He was in and out of coherence. Four days before my dad passed, I was visiting him at his personal care home. At one point, he became quite clear, looked at me, and said, "This will all be over soon." His whole life, he worried about dying. On the day he said that to me, I ultimately realized my dad was comfortable with it and ready.
I was lucky enough to hear my gf speak in her own voice on my recorder, clearly, over 2 months after her death.. I ended up hearing her a few more times over a period after..... It was mind blowing... I believe in an afterlife to the 100th percentile....
I agree with Nurse Julie, I was with my Father when he passed , he was ready to go and had a relaxed smile. He indicated, “they were waiting for him” not long after he let out his last breath and passed. It was a peaceful moment.
That relaxed smile wasn't what he voluntarily did, it was his organs shutting down. An old woman with tons of wrinkles turns skin smooth right before she dies. A hundred yr old lady skin looks like a 15 yr olds skin when they die.
My dad ended his life in 1968, and in 2001 while walking in a wilderness area, I had this overwhelming sense of my dad's presence. I can't describe it, but I remember asking him out loud if he was present right now. Then this silent voice inside my head told me to go back to my car and turn on the radio because my dad had a message for me. I told myself this sounds absolutely crazy and it didn't make any sense, but I went back to my car and turned on the radio. The song "Tears From Heaven" by Eric Clapton had just started, and it was the first time I felt like my dad was okay. That's the last time I ever heard from him.
"That's the last time I ever heard from him" You got his message. That's all that's needed. When you die, he'll be there to greet you. He'll be eager to hear about your life stories.
Many many years ago my ex husband's grandmother passed. I was very close to her. A few months after she passed, I dreamt that we were meeting for lunch. I asked her what it was like on the other side and she said, "pet, people worry their whole life about dying, if only they realized it was another phase of life. " To this day this dream gives me comfort.
I lost my 24-year-old son seven years ago to a fentanyl overdose I hope and pray that that was his experience leaving this earth. I hope he was welcomed by every relative and friend I’ve lost in my life. I hope they are all together and happy.
My late mother died of cancer in 2014, after several months of being in hospital. The last few weeks before her death we brought her home where me and my daughter looked after her, as well as my father who'd had a suffered strokes before hand. The aftemath of those stokes, left my father unable to say much, which was difficult to see because he was always had a great sense of humour and always something to say. Well, the week before my mother died, she had to be admitted to the hospital again because her health was deteriorating, it was a Wednesday, i remember it well. The next day, after my mum was admitted, 12 hrs later, my father took a heart attack and he was also admitted to the same hospital. He was in ICU, and we all gathered around his bed, he was like his old self again, laughing and joking. We couldn't believe it. My father told me to tell my mum that he loved her. We all as a family, took turns to visit them both, every day, twice a day. A week later to the very day, my mother died, and 12 hrs later my dad passed too, he'd died of a heart attack. You see, my mother used to say that she'd go before my dad, well before she ever became ill, my dad used to chime in that he'd be going with her, it was a bit of banter between them both, which they'd been saying for years. I believe my mother came for my dad, and they went together. I miss them both, we all do. That's the comfort we are left with after both their passing. Love and blessings to you all, from Ireland 🍀🍀
So true! Cardinal Bernadine who passed away from cancer yrs back said, "do not fear death, but embrace it as a friend". I'm so aligned with my faith and my fate. You are correct from every angle I look at it. There's a spiritual nature at work with awesome power to give life/take life. No arguments here, from this disabled Army veteran - terminally ill. Thank you very much. God as I know him, Bless ya's!🙏
My dad died when I was 18. He came to me a few days later and sat next to me. I wasn't afraid and he talked to me telepathically about how wonderful it was and the secret to everything was love. I sometimes want to tell myself it didn't happen but the memory never faded. He touched me at the end and showed me a glimpse
The other side of the end-of-life is when the person does not go peacefully. My Mum fought to the end, through the anxiety meds, through the morphine, yelling out and fighting to get up out of bed until her last few hours. Gawd, it was so hard for her. She wasn't ready to go because of the fam. My fam, husband and sibling, had been such a drain on her throughout life. She babied them incessantly, sacrificing herself and her happiness for people that couldn't/wouldn't extend a similar selflessness; they couldn't even sit with her for more than half an hour in the hospital's hospice room. She fought to the end because of that sense of duty to them. I hope she has peace now.
I’m pretty sure the realization that we continue with the flow of time.. that time is what we sometimes call the hand of the Lord and that we continue with it and the state of death is not absence but instead inclusion with something greater.. I am positive that she is in a better place and that she continues with the rest of us.. good luck
Thank you so, so, so much for helping us understand the unknown. I just came to the realization that I am going to die alone as I have no kids and am not close with my 2 brothers. As long as I am not in pain during my death journey, I am comforted by the fact that the transition may even be peaceful. Your knowledge has given me comfort as a healthy enough (with depression/anxety) 53 year-old that when my time has come, I will be ok. You are a gem. Your name should be spelled Jewel-ie. Hugs from Florida!
Having kids is no guarantee they will be there for you. I have seen that many times. Please don't let it worry you as we always have loved ones that are with us everyday even though we don't see them. Thoughts count ... you are special. God Bless you!
I just happened to have this come up in my TH-cam choices and I watched it. This is exactly what happened when my brother died! I was driving over to his house in tears after my sister-in-law called me with the news and I suddenly got the sense of my brother "flying around" exploring Heaven, that place, the other side. He kept saying to me this is amazing, and I felt his happiness and his awe of what he was seeing and experiencing. I just told someone about this the other night and today I watch your video! Very affirming!
This made me tear up. I lost my brother and father within the same year. My brother got hit by a car and it was instant, my father died by cancer. My dad was terrified of dying and my brother didn’t even know it was coming so as someone who doesn’t believe a whole lot in the afterlife, if freedom and peace is what they both felt at the end, I’m grateful for that. Thank you for sharing :)
My mom used to say "I'm not afraid of dying but I am afraid of getting older." She's 92 now and in her last days with hospice care and her four kids by her side, 4 who love her and will miss her! ❤
@@jamesortiz5388 omg. Those are the words my mom said right before her heart gave out. Those words have haunted me some. But I try to remember that she is no longer suffering and having breathing problems. It's difficult still. Hugs to you.
When I view death as the end, I become fearful. When I tell myself it's simply a transition to something else I actually look forward to that discovery.
My Mother passed away in hospice and she was completely at peace, and cheerful, with the entire process. When it's my time to depart my Mom will be my model and who I will emulate. My hero!
My mother passed the same way. It wasn't scary at all to her. We were all gathered around at home hospice because we knew she was fading fast. When she had a few moments of clarity we got her on the phone with her best friend of the same age. She says to her: "You know you're next" and they both joked about it. My cousin who is a good singer was trying to find a song on his phone to sing to her. He fumble fingered the phone and a song came on. We're all looking at each other and my sister recognized it. It was "The Final Countdown". OMG, we couldn't contain ourselves and started cracking up. Crazy! She passed that night very peacefully.
I don’t fear death either. I was saved by an “angel” from boiling oil. My hand was about to fall into the pot. All of a sudden, I felt a thumb and an index pushing my wrist away. I was 24 years old. It changed my life. It felt so loving. I couldn’t stop touching my wrist for the rest of the day looking around me hoping it would happen again. If there is no life after death then who touched me? I know there is without a doubt. I also don’t tell people my story fear of being ridiculed. But it did happen. I don’t do drugs, I don’t smoke nor drink and I don’t take any medication. I did not hallucinate either. It was real. I wish this experience to anyone.
Thank you for sharing your own personal experience - one never forgets those. (I've had some) Kinda reminded me of this quote.... “When you realize that eternity is right here and now, that it is within your possibility to experience the eternity of your own truth and being, then you grasp the following: That which you are was never born and will never die." --- Joseph Campbell (author of Hero's Journey):
I believe you because I have also experienced things. I have had visitations from my mother, and a few times of my mother and my father together, and once that my dad briefly showed himself to me. When I was a child, I was terrified to go to sleep because I was afraid that I would die. I was maybe 3 or 4. I had an experience of being in my backyard, and a man was with me. He picked me up and we looked at my father’s flowers, and he was telling me that I didn’t need to be afraid of dying. He said that I wouldn’t die until I was very old. I don’t know who he was but it was like I knew him before. I was very comfortable with him and he felt very loving. I have had other things happen, and I am convinced that there’s life after we die.
Thank you so much! Don’t know how I found your channel but glad I did! I’m 53 facing a cancer dx and don’t know what to do. I have 4 grown kids 6 grandkids and I’m so lost. I was tough and strong I was a Green Beret and Ranger, I never needed help I helped! Now I sit and hide as I go through this journey, not want to let anyone know I’m scared to death it hit me this might be it! I have faith and all but I still want to be and do so much for my family yet I can’t. This weakness is something I’m not use to! Sorry for rambling but thank you for what you do!! You’re a special person!!
Ron, I am going to pray for you right now. And also tell you there are a lot of breakthroughs with regards to cancer treatment. My mom was dx with stage four metastasized breast cancer, which went to bone cancer. Told she had a few months to live. That was almost 8 years ago. She takes ibrance , as well gets infused. It's not painless and she struggles at times, she is 77 though. Hang in there.
Ron learn to fast. Fasting rids the body of all toxins. If you're not used to it do it for a day then increase. Eat nothing and drink water. No sugery foods or sweets. Cancer feeds on processed foods.. You'll be glad you did. Don't give up and stay positive! Meditate and clear your thoughts. It works for many. Research it please.
You have nothing to be ashamed of, we all feel fear no matter the background you come from. It's called being human! Take each day as it comes, just as everybody should do. Because non of us know when it will be our last moment. I was diagnosed with Cancer in 2022 and it didn't look good for me, yet I'm still here and my Doctor who diagnosed me, died last year in his early 50s. You are never alone!
My mum just passed a few hours ago. This video is so helpful to reinforce my belief of the beautiful afterlife. Thank you so much for all your videos ❤
My beautiful cousin just died less than an hour ago. She had cancer spread throughout her entire body. She was young and a mother one 1, and stepmother of 3. She was like a sister to me, and I LOVED her so much. She was one of my fave people on this Earth. She was AMAZING, and the strongest woman I knew. I want to be with my family, but they are in another country whilst my other family is 9 hours away. I can't get a plane ticket yet, but will be there via flight for her service which is being planned now. She will be cremated. I can't believe I'll never see or speak to my cousin again. She did not suffer. Thank you, Hospice Nurse Julie. I really needed you. 💜
@@jm7804 I don't have any family here. And my cousin's body is 9 hours away. In between waiting for calls from my aunt, I'm online looking at helpful videos. Btw, *THIS* is said with utmost DIGUST as I know troll ppl like you love it. You have absolutely NO BUSINESS saying what you said to me to ANYONE. Kindly F & O.
@@jm7804 Please get off the internet. My family is 9 hrs away, and I have no family near me; in addition usually people who've lost a loved one come to places like this for healing.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Julie I believe you very much. I had an experience similar to yours when my dad passed. I asked him to tell me how heaven is and few weeks later, while I was lying in bed thinking about how sad I was without him, I suddenly felt like I was being dragged up into space. I passed the clouds and everything and when those cleared up, I entered this amazingly clear and beautiful world. The colors were brighter and more vibrant and it seemed so peaceful. There were people and animals walking side by side and they all looked so calm and peaceful. There was nothing but positivity and calmness around. Then I saw a large green, beating heart which baffled me. As I was trying to make sense of that, I dropped back down and seemed to return back to my body lying on my bed as if nothing had happened. I was soooo baffled. I couldn’t make sense of it all. I had never had such an experience in my life. I thought I was coockoo for a bit but then I realized that my father had found a way to share his world with me as I had asked him to tell me how it was. His heaven was more amazing than this world could ever be and the level of peace is nothing like any sense of peace we can experience in this world and in this lifetime. And I finally understand the beating green heart. My dad died of a heart attack. He was trying to tell me that in his new place, his heart continues to beat and is green like the color of life and nature. His heart is a part of heaven as it’s all intertwined. I don’t tell many people my story as I think they will just think me crazy. I’m so glad to see someone else have a similar experience cuz I can relate to it and understand it just like I’m sure u can understand mine.
I am an 80-year-old man in very poor health. I don't fear death it may be a blessing for me. However, I worry about leaving my wife to cope after my death. She is not a practical lady, I have always dealt with the practical issues around our home. I pay all the bills and deal with all the repairs and she has never had to do these things. She is a wonderful homekeeper but she has never had to deal with practical matters, she leaves that to me. She can not use a computer and just will not learn how to. The problem there is nearly everything is now done on a computer. She is not a big spender and leaves savings and investments to me. I guess I will just have to stay alive until she's gone, God bless her.
This could be my husband talking. I need to get with it.He is not in poor health but he is soon to be 81. I do use the computer, but do not know all he does. I know he has the same worry as you.
This is the unfortunate toll sexism has taken on our older population of women. My grandmother doesn't know how to refill the petrol in her car because her husband always did it for her. Many older men don't know how to cook or clean, so it's taken a toll on them too. Life is better for everyone know that we're all equals but it is very sad to see the older generation struggle with the outcome of "A woman's place is in the kitchen" thinking.
@@madelinebitts2766 My wife is a free spirit. She also has a temper. I have tried to teach her how to use a computer, but she is not interested. It's the same with banking and household accounts, she refuses to do them and is happy to leave everything to me. When I asked her how she would manage when I was gone, she replied that she would cross that bridge when she came to it. We share the household chores., she is a good seamstress, I can not sow. I like to cook, but she won't let me do the laundry. We share the decorating and gardening. We have been married 55 years and we are still together, even though our marriage has been rocky at times. I wouldn't swap her for a 19-year-old dolly bird.
When my grandmother passed, I wasn’t with her. That night about 3:30 in the morning I woke up and felt someone sitting on the edge of my bed. I rolled over thinking someone was there, I immediately knew it was my grandmother letting me know she was OK. I said in my mind, I got the message grandma love you! I went back asleep only to be woken by the ringing of the telephone at 7:30 am. It was my mother, she said I’m sorry to tell you that grandma passed last night about 3:30. I said, I know mom she came to visit me and she is OK.
I didnt have that specific.. but when my grandma died, it was early in the am. I was walking around outside smoking a cigarette and just had this weird hit of Deja vu like ive never had before. I just knew something was wrong. I found out she passed away about 10am from the nurses. Same thing with my mother. She died throughout the morning sometime, but i woke up at like 3-4am and just sat up in bed knowing something was wrong. I couldnt shake it.. Same deja vu feeling hit me so hard. Boom i get a call and find out she passed away. I know they contacted me. I just couldnt articulate it well.
Something similar happened to me. The night my mom died I was sleeping on my side and it felt like somebody was hovering over me against my back. It didn't scare me but for some reason I didn't turn over. The next morning without me saying anything my sister asked me did it feel like somebody was in the room with u last night and I said wow you too?
Same thing when my grandpop died on April 16th, 2023. He has been close to death when we got there the day before. I was sleeping in the hotel room and suddenly I wake up “fresh” like it was day around 2:45am as if something was wrong. I see my dad and brother moving around in bed too like almost if he was touching us to say his final farewell. Even though my grandpop passed 12:30am, the time my grandmother got back to the apartment from the hospice center was 2:45. I went back for a few more hours until 6:30am, and the first thing my mom said to me as I was awaking was “My father died”…..she was on/off the phone with my aunt and my grandmother.
Thank you for sharing. Im still learning to accept death, its always very grief filled. I take in unwanted animals, mostly guinea pigs, for what remains of their life. Give them care, make friends, and help them across. One is dying tonight, and going to the vet tomorrow to be sent on in peace. Each time I grow a little but the goodbyes are still very hard.
It's depressing, many people cannot work in animal shelters hospices hospitals and so on. It gets to them and they grow depressed and suicidal. It's not good for mental health and the body. This life here is very anxiety filled sad and tragic and what you wrote describes exactly that
My mother's eyes changed colors one week before she died. I was not there when she died but the nurse's aide said she wanted to clean up and then she went back to sleep and that was it. She had been preparing to go for weeks. Strive to be the best at what you do, make friends easily, help others, and don't expect anything in return. That is my mantra as I get older and move through retirement. It is to help family and friends and live a healthy life in this final stage of life.
That’s a beautiful message. Is there anything you wish you would have done differently if you could go back to your younger years, specifically your 30s?
I've been close to many loved ones who have died. It is sad, but it has also made me understand and brought comfort. When my aunt was dying, I knew when I saw her that she would die that day. And everyone had left her in bed alone, so it was just her and I. She was asleep, and I just held her hand and I told her in my heart, that it was okay. I told her that she did a good job and she didn't need to fight anymore, that we would miss her but that it was okay for her to let go and move on. As soon as I said this to her in my heart, I felt a warmth and she took her last breath. I was so happy for her, and I'm still so thankful to have had such a beautiful moment with her. Thanks for all the great times, love and miss you Aunt Susan!
Reminds me of what Stan Laurel (of Laurel and Hardy fame) said on his deathbed. He told the nurse he'd rather be skiing and she said I didn't know you knew how to do that and he replies I don't but I'd rather be doing that than this!
That wonderful young man gave you such a gift! Thank you, Julie, for helping so many of us stop fearing death. You’re amazing. I totally believe what you witnessed. ❤
As a person who has from time to time had a fear of death, I can say that it isn't about the act of dying and what the body goes through during the period right before death. The fear of death is about what is beyond this life when it ends, if anything. It is about leaving behind milk shakes, orgasms, sunsets, roller coasters, and of course loved ones for a (possible) trip into the unknown.
I totes agree 3o5ninethousandfourtyone. My biggest fear is about what's next. Who wants to leave behind milkshakes, orgasms and all those other cool things you mentioned. What FREAKS me out the most is the thought that there is NOTHING after life. If you think about it long enough, it is scary and bizarre (at least to me). What if there is nothing. What if there had never been anything. The mind cannot comprehend it.
@@scottlepore7613 You hit the nail on the head. I don't know a way around that. If it is really a problem in that it is constantly on the mind and effects the quality of life, there is something called "exposure therapy" where a person would dwell on the scariest prospects of death. Eventually they become more accepted, cognitively, and less scary.
That's only because you're not ready yet. I saw my grandmother in hospice, she mid 80s and dying just like video said. The shutdown, lot of sleep. and they it was over. Before that day she told us all she was done. My other grandmother didn't go like that, she went on her own term. She wasn''t sleeping she just gathered the family for one last time. I left and said my mother the grandma was be dead in the morning and this was her saying good bye. That night she passed away in her bed alone, that's how she wanted it.
My dear nephew died in March in a tragic sudden accident and he was only 19 months, my brother and sister in law live a 4 hour flight away from us so we flew up there to support them and their other 2 sons well on the flight back something urged me to look out the window and an image of my nephew appeared in the clouds of him sleeping on his side with distinct angel wings behind him I couldn’t believe it! I scrambled for my phone to take a photo and as soon as I did it disappeared. At least I know he is safe in heaven our precious little guy😢❤
This is beautiful. Verifies a lot of the feelings I get when people close to me have passed. It’s a beautiful feeling that softens the sadness. It’s also a reminder that energy disperses and does not die. It literally can’t and time standing still almost seems like he was sharing with you the timeless dimension. I’m grateful he is out of pain both physically and mentally and had someone like you to talk to near the end of the journey. I fear the dying process more than death itself. I used to struggle with the concept of “no beginning or end” until I started to focus outside the realm of mental capacity and once again I’m talking like I’m in a cult. 😂 Thank you for sharing your insights.
My Dad was on a business trip where he had to take some training for his job for three days. One of his friends, who was a very healthy man, told him that he was going to skip the training because he was going to die in three days. He was calm about it. Everybody tried to get him to stay, but he went off. Came the news, three days later, he had died of a massive heart attack out of nowhere. He had no history of heart disease, no one told him that he was going to die, he just knew.
Julie, I'm not 'spiritual' at all..but I'm smart enough to realize I could be wrong. The things you said about physical comfort during the process are helpful to me (Stage 4 lung cancer). I've often said that I don 't fear death - I fear dying. Just don't want it to be painful. Among older atheists like me, we share a joke. "I want to die in my sleep like my grandfather. Not screaming in panic like his passengers." Thanks again, I'm so glad I discovered your channel.
I feel the same way as you in beliefs & fears. Sending well wishes for a pain-free transition. I know you must be scared, but I hope that you've had a good life and feel peace when your time comes. 🌷
@@Wishpool , I'm actually kind of cool with it. I'm 62. Had a wonderful career in TV (most of it with Cartoon Nework! Oh, so much joy). My daughter's an adult now, married to a wonderful guy. There are things I'd love to do before I 'go out', but I'm just not physically able to do now. When I was 8rys old, I said I was going to do three things. Race cars (did it as an amateur in SCCA), dive to the bottom of the ocean (only 50ft deep on a shipwreck back home in coastal NC, but I'll 'take the win'), and walk on the moon. "Two out of three ain't bad..", right? 😆 Thanks for the good words.
@@Outsider4JC , please don't insult me (or any other non-believer) with that stuff. Out of respect for Julie, I won't share the full venom of my anger with your comment, but please understand that atheism isn't a 'choice'..it's a 'discovery'. Most of us have heard nonsense like you posted for our entire lives. It isn't welcome, it isn't helpful, and it's certainly not comforting. Only thing I can add without being profane is to tell you that I personally consider Christian mythology obscene. Condemnation simply because people were born human? Infinite punishment for finite crimes? Immoral. I respectfully request that you do not make comments like this to others who do not share your worldview. It might make *you^ uncomfortable if someone with less patience than I tells you what to do with your dead heretical Rabbi on a stick one day.
@@panamafloyd1469 Thats up to you. That is why God gave you free will to choose where you want to spend eternity. It doesnt bother me at all. I am used to people who are blind to the truth. Because you cant talk anyone into believing and trusting in Christ, only the Holy Spirit can change their hearts. It really shouldnt bother you so much , because its a wonderful message of salvation. Why would you hate that? Thats because the devil has you blinded. But you will find out one day, and hopefully you have a change of heart before then, because you cant tell me you are 100% certain there is no God. And once your time is up, its gonna be too late. You will end up spending eternity begging God for 1 more chance to repent.
At the end of my wifes life she had conversations with her dead mother and grandmother. I ask her who she was talking to and she said it was her mom and grandma. She past two days later at home with me while I was drying her hair after a bath she insisted on. She said "I feel dizzy" and fell back in my arms. Im a former police officer I've seen a lot of dead people and I knew she was gone despite CPR I tried until EMS arrived. She was only 52.
I'm sorry for your loss. I wish you the best over the next few years. Stay Strong. I was holding my friend's hand, 94 years old on hospice, when she started talking to her husband who had passed away 45 years earlier. It was the first night she was home from the hospital, and day one of hospice. I knew that she was letting go, and I told her daughter to call the family to come and say goodbye. Her daughter was quite surprised because she was sitting on the couch reading a book on how to take care of her mother while on hospice. She thought she would be on hospice for several weeks or even months. Her mother passed away within about 20 minutes while I was holding her hand. It was an experience that I will never forget.
Sorry for your loss, I also lost mine young at 47, managed to look after her at home until the day before she passed when I could no longer manage her pain well enough and she needed hospice care. She passed peacefully in hospice surrounded by all her loved ones and me holding her hand. In a way it was a relief she was no longer suffering as that still haunts me 4 years later. Hope you're doing ok as I know how hard it is. Best wishes going forward.
Absolutely the honest truth. This video is true and many times I have experienced this. It is my hopes that watching this video and the following words help comfort you. Fear is a natural response to challenges or the unknown. It’s an emotion that serves a valuable purpose (think fight or flight response), but it can quickly become unhealthy when it paralyzes us or propels us into frantic behavior. Negative outcomes aside, the Bible actually commands us to not be afraid. In fact, there are over 300 variations of the command to “fear not” throughout Scripture. “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
The last words my dad said to me were” Oh Sandy…….it’s SO beautiful”
I can still hear him 26 years later💙
Nobody can ask for a more perfect experience in closure.
Wow you’re so lucky to have caught those words and feelings 🌟
Thank you for sharing this.
68 here and lost my fear years ago. I fear losing my loved ones and pets (still recovering from the loss of my beloved 19 year old cat 6 months ago), pain and financial challenges making life more difficult... but dying? The older I get the less I fear it. If a lot of us dare to admit it I think many look forward to the end of the hardships and suffering in this world. I'm not suicidal...my health is good and I'll plug away here until it's my time. Nurse Julie is truly heaven sent.
@@gobsmacked230 78 & SO TRUE NO FEAR THE ONLY FEAR I HAVE IS A TOO LONG DEATH OF LIFE
My mother's last coherent words before she would die a few days later, were "Everyone is here!". She smiled consistently til the end.
Wow!
That's what my mom said too. I knew she was about to Pasa when she said she saw my deceased dad and sister. 😢 I miss her..
Last words my daughter said to me was daddy am i dying? I said i dont know but we all die someday. I said i do see jesus by your shoulder thou. She whispered thats good and she passed. I miss het every minute of rvery day and vant wait till we meet again. The lord allowed me to have my special angel and i know her father in heaven is taking good care of her now.
My mom said exactly the same thing.
@josephschaller2972 wow!. I'm sorry for your lost & you gave your daughter a awesome answer when she asked you if she is dying!.. it's so difficult on us especially a dad & mom when their children pass but as you said, we are all going to die one day! But the joy you must embrace is you were with your daughter till the end & Jesus will now take over & your daughter is in Heaven now!..God's Speed my friend & stay strong!.
I dont fear death...I fear leaving my children behind in this crazy world once I'm gone
That's exactly how I feel. I pray to God that he's able to become an adult and move on with his life before I go.
Same!
Haven't you made it?
@@Gernot66 Yes, but the world wasn't as crazy when I was growing up
@@philipwood8776 You won :(
My mom who was dying from pancreatic cancer was so comforted by the hospice nurses and team. She was reaching up to heaven when she took her last breath; she had a faint smile on her face….❤
Kinda smurky huh? I know that look, they are released from here and we are still in bondage!!!! That's what that means!!!!
I don’t fear dying. I just fear suffering miserably right before I die.
What about missing out on what you want to do?
If my quality of life gets that bad, there's a nice High Bridge right down the road.
Yes I did too! However now hearing from Nurse Julie the natural process of a body shutting down makes sense to me as I also watched my father pass away and though he was on pain killers he did go in peace, but before he passed he opened his eyes in astonishment stated his deceased daughter (my sister) and husband by name as if he was actually seeing them waiting for him at the end of his hospice bed! I truly believe in GOD, JESUS, and The HOLY SPIRIT for an eternal LIFE! ✝✝❤❤🙏🙏
Most.likely if we mostly all go to hell it won't be good....
Yeh because we're not all going to die in a hospital bed loaded up on morphine
Hospice caregivers are truly ANGELS!! Thank you!
They can be, there are also some who are pure evil.
An Australian documentary with hidden camera footage showed some horrific happenings.
Spitting in their mouth, wiping their bottom then rubbing it on their faces...truely horrendous.
And these nurses although being fired, and sanctioned (imprisoned) will, after serving a few years disqualification, he able to work as carers once again.
"Fascinating and comforting"
.... and terrifying
I am sure some are angels, but my hospice team refused to supply me with any pain relief. Before I signed with them, they said don't worry, we will provide you with adequate pain relief. Then after I I am under their care, they say sorry, we can't provide any pain relief.
Not all of them. Some are sickos.
absolutely
Thank you Julie for these videos. As a person who has about 2 more months to live, I will MAKE SURE that I know. God is love and I want to make sure He knows me. 😄
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Praying that you feel God's love throughout your journey.❤
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You'll be just fine, I know it. God bless ♥️
I hope there's are a million beautiful Great Danes up there waiting to greet you.
The heartwarming service this video is providing to so many in desperate need of such a message is near Biblical in proportion.
I am 74, I sure hope that when my time comes that there is someone like you there. You are a treasure.
Jesus will carry you through if you put your trust in Jesus
74 years old also and totally agree with you
@@janetomdebenedetto837 as a 19 year old if I make it to 74 I don’t think I’m going to forget this comment
@@peteblum2143or yours either
@@aliaschannel8877 Jesus does NOT exist. So how can you put your trust into a nonexistent being?
I don't fear death. I fear a prolonged illness that turns me into a burden on my family.
In Canada we have MAID ;)
I'm also terrified of the possibility of ending up trapped in my body and being a prisoner inside it too.
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That's an extremely rare condition. Heart disease and cancer are not.
Take plenty of vitamin C and D, get serum D checked yearly. Avoid carbs and alcohol.
It's not a burden to take care of a family member in need. It's not easy. It may be even frustrating. It can set your plans back or affect your own life. But it's not a burden. To ease a loved person's life is a different kind of fulfilment. It's as serious as it gets. You take care of someone like that you acquire a different kind of strength.
@@OceanFrontVilla3 No it isn't a rare condition. This could happen to anyone from an injury or illness very easily.
Our 34 year old son died 16 months ago after struggling with depression and addiction since his teens. We did everything possible to help Alex. I pray that Julie is right.
May God give you comfort, conformation and understanding
I feel the same way everyday the justice system has me by the balls to. I’ve attempted it over 15 times and failed. If I can’t even unalive myself right then what’s this life for?
@@Anonymous-lq2bs I want to reach out to you but all I can offer is friendship. I don't know the answer to such suffering you're going through but Anonymous I'm thinking of you ♥️
Wow. So sad. I am that age as well.
My condolences to you and your family. I pray God provides the strength and peace you need 🙏🏻❤️✨
Having been with my Dad as he passed, he showed no fear, refused pain medication and anti anxiety drugs telling the nurses, I am not in pain and not anxious. My Dad and I talked and listened to music. My brother called from NZ and as I put my Dad on the phone, he turned to me and just stopped, like a light being turned off. I knew immediately he was not "there" anymore, and the peace and calm I felt in the room waa beautiful. All my senses were weirdly enhanced, I had goosebumps and could hear like static electricity. I do not fear death.
So nice to read it , sending greetings and respect from india
Amazing.
I'm drinking mugs of German beer if I was about to pass away. Why not? I'm dying already. 😅
I fear death. I've tasted it briefly. I fell down off of a 30 something foot balcony. I woke up on a ventilator almost two weeks later. Before I woke up I didn't feel anything, see anything, hear anything, taste anything, didn't know anything, didn't remember anything. I don't ever want to experience that again...
@@britneyfrench7878 I'm sorry you went through that, it must have been very scary. My dad was also on a ventilator for 10 days and he doesn't remember anything about it. I'm not sure though that's equivalent to death...
My father died suddenly from a heart attack in 1978. Everyone was in shock. That night I heard his voice clearly say I’m alright take care of your mother. My mother died in 2021. The hospital called me to tell me. As I hung up the phone I clearly heard her voice saying I’m alright I am with dad and we are at peace. I saw them both in my minds eye sitting by their favorite lake shoreline. I’m at peace with them and death.
Do you often hear voices?
It’s funny my dad died at 49 when I was 20 and I didn’t hear or see a damn thing.
@@chrismathis4162 some people are gifted with the ability to hear voices inside their head
It's how we(our brain) cope with the death of our loved ones. It's not actually messages.
God gave you that gift. Do whatever you can to walk the path to Heaven. Help others get there as well. God bless you.
Hi Julie, I have stage 4 breast cancer. Recurrence after 7 yrs, came back in my lungs and bones this time. Diagnosed Aug 23. I'm on targeted therapy which is keeping me stable for now. I find your videos very comforting, been a widow for 5 yrs and I asked my husband on his death bed to come and get me when it's my time. I have asked to pass in hospice not at home, feel it's less messy lol. I am living my best life at the mo, social life has never been better. As I'm from the UK we don't have to worry about the cost of hospice care either.love from Devon uk🇬🇧❤️
Prayers for you.......
Prayers for you from me too. I got breast cancer and just had my mastectomy and breast reconstruction. They said I’m now cancer free but still need radiation. Recurrence is my biggest fear but I’m learning to live life without thinking negatively. Hope the best for you in your journey
I am so sorry to hear this! Bless you! Please, please start taking turkeytail mushrooms ASAP! They will help. I know people with different cancers who it has helped. It was featured in the Netflix documentary, "Fantastic Fungi".
I will look into it
@@nmelgar74 I'm glad to hear that. I wish you the best.
As a hospice music therapist I had the privilege of treating a patient who left me a beautiful gift. Mr. R was lingering. He would say to me, “I don’t know why God hasn’t taken me yet.” We’d laugh about it together. We’d say our goodbyes, and the next week, there he was. I’d say, “Wait a minute, we said goodbye twice already!” He was so weak, but still he’d smile and laugh. One of my visits he told me that when he slept, the angels let him see where he was headed. He told me there aren’t words to describe it, that it was similar to here but beautiful. He spoke urgently and said, “God sent me back to tell everyone…we have to LOVE EACH OTHER. It’s more important than anything else. LOVE each other.”
I don’t fear death, either. ❤
@BaadleaBeeleBop , "hospice music therapist":? I like the sound of that. I'm still capable of living independently, but I love music. Actually started my career as an 'old-school' DJ ("..here's a little tune you might like..") before I even graduated high school. Wasn't the best musician in the world (drummer in a Punk/New Wave 'cover' hobby band), but I still love it. Music is such a source for solace. I've loved the videos I've seen of dementia patients having moments of clarity when their favorite old tunes are played. Thanks for your work, I hope there's someone like you at where I end up when I'm not independent anymore.
Reminds me of the movie Astral City. Such a beautiful depiction of what happens after thus
@@panamafloyd1469😊
AMEN😢❤😊
The most important thing is that we need to be having these conversations openly in society, and doing everything we can to help people prepare for the inevitable, and have as much agency as possible to allow them to pass in dignity. Instead, we spend inordinate sums pretending we are immortal and hiding death away as something shameful, rather than the natural last season of the cycle of life.
Thank you for being part of this important conversation, and for the amazing service in your work.
Working as a critical care flight nurse, one the patient we were transporting was dying. She was an elderly female. She opened her eyes and had a big smile on her face and asked me "Do you see them?" I said what do you see? and she looked around still with this beautiful smile and said, "All the angels around us" I was amazed and truly believed her. She looked so peaceful and accepting what was happening to her. Meanwhile we are at 3,000 ' I admit, I felt her peace. When you fly in a helicopter it can be noisy in the cab. But it seemed to silence the sounds and I felt like I was being hugged by those angels. She definitely felt the same way. It's one transport I will never forget. Even thinking about it gives me peace.
Do you know if she was of a particular religion and what it was?
@@madelynhernandez7453 I don't. Sorry
@@madelynhernandez7453I was thinking the same thing because having been a critical care flight paramedic as well as ground paramedic I have seen people die as well and it seems that people of faith have a better go of it
Nice story. Thanks for sharing it.
@madelynhernandez7453 the one that matters jesus!
I suffered from mental illness most of my life. Not long after my Dad passed I found myself at the end of my rope. I was cycling through mania and depression and drinking heavily. I even attempted suicide. One afternoon I passed out on my bed and had a dream that changed my life. In it my Dad came to me and said in the most gentle way "I've come to take you home". It was strange because I had never dreamed about him before. After years of trying to prove I was okay I gave up my home, my job, everything. I came home and found the help I needed. That was 20 years ago and now I'm living my best life. I don't tell many people about it. In life my Dad and I had a strained relationship it's amazing that after his death he saved me. It makes me not fear death because I know it's not the end.
What a beautiful story, thank you for sharing that. Hope you are well.
Jesus.❤
Beautiful ❤ I am proud of you for your sobriety. Stay well. 😊
Thank you. Beautiful post.
God loves you so much its not even measurable
When my grandmother was about to die, she said the gates of Heaven are beautiful beyond description.
Mine when I was 13 was dying from pancreatic cancer, and we went the day before Christmas Eve to see her as we always went every day, told me that the steak in heaven was the best steak ever and that she couldn't truly describe it.
Is there such a place it's only in our imagination..
@@balticstain7150 or maybe not
Your grandma lives forever in Christ.
@@Alonenotlonely000 I feel that.
People that do what you do are among the best people on the planet. Thank you and your co-workers for your love and goodness.
I have been in palliative care at the hospice for two years and find nothing but kindness and care from every member of staff I meet. I have had three kinds of cancer and have a heart condition and have no fear of death and am assured of a good end when it comes. Thank you Julie and the team at the local hospice.
Nurse Julie!! My neighbor died in hospice. The day she left I asked her if she would try to let me know what it was like. She told me she would and she would also visit her grandson George.
The next morning I was planting a tree and she was hovering above it in her little blue nightgown, she was so happy as she imparted her joy to me and telepathically said "this is good."
George came over later that day. He said "you are the only person that will believe me but Nan came to me today in her little blue nightgown. " I told him that she visited me too and.......we hugged forever and cried such tears of joy and love for my dear friend and George's sweet Nan. ❤
That's such a beautiful story! 💕
If we are spirits after we die why would we have need of clothing? Why would she need a blue nightgown if the physical body is dead and the spirit is alive? Perhaps for the sake of recognition? I don't doubt your story but I think my question is legit.
@@FriendofDorothy I've read that when spirits appear to people, they appear how they looked in real life, but at any age and any outfit they choose. Who wants to see a naked ghost? 😱
@@FriendofDorothy if you find someone that has the answer - let us know.
@@FriendofDorothy Ghost clothes do exist
My father passed and was revived, he Said God waved his hand and was pushed back because of there is more life to live on earth. Dad said it's the most peaceful experience in his 75 year life !! My dad said he was kind of disappointed to be back here, but was definitely going back to God when the time comes. He lasted another 10 years as his body wore out.!! RIP DAD!! LOVE U HAPPY FATHER'S DAY EVERYDAY SEE YOU AGAIN.!! YOU'RE # 2 SON RICKY.!!😢
Thought I would share my story from the other side, had an NDE at 3 years of age while being brutally assaulted by my stepfather. My soul left my body, quite quickly once it started, I was floating towards the ceiling but then the best thing happened, I did not get as far as heaven, I was being hugged by Jesus for some minutes, I looked down on my body, still under attack, Jesus said "dont look at her" and hugged me tighter. It was the most peace, love, serenity, safety and lack of pain I ever had alive. He has the kindest eyes the sweetest smile and He is literally Love. He had a beautiful gold tinged light emanating from him. He must have sent me back for a reason, maybe this testimony, but I did not want to leave Him.
@@rickyricochet5393 Good story. Thnx for posting.
Thank you so much for sharing that!
Wow ...such hope there.
@@AnnDaly-lt7sb I believe you. That's just how He is. Thank you for sharing that.
I can SO relate. when my sister passed away in August of 2022, I felt the same assurance. My husband of 35 years and I were climbing a large mountain in the dark, pulling a camper...it felt like slow motion. I had just lost my sister a few hours before. As we ascended this large hill, the BIGGEST, BRIGHTEST shooting star flew across the sky. We both saw it and both burst into tears. With that flash we both heard her say she was OK, and that the other side was amazing. Epic. Lots of people made comments like "lots of shooting stars that time of year" etc,trying to diminish what we experienced. Truly epic. It was NOT just a shooting star.❤💦
My mom passed away just after 7AM on March 1st of this year. When I came home a few hours later from the rehab facility, her hibiscus plant had nine huge yellow flowers that had bloomed. That plant never had more than a few flowers ever bloom at one time. I was awestruck...
It was a sign, I'm not a very superstitious person and I might not ascribe the same meaning but If you say it is a sign I will accept that. Plenty of people say similar things, and who am I to judge. BTW, my father passed on 5/20/24 at 12:40 am. My wife woke up right around that time, I did also but I'm more of a restless sleeper. She believes it was a sign. Me? I believe he's OK for other reasons. For me it's a more assessment thing, but too me it's just a different way of seeing things.
@@thomasdeebel6695 I agree with you. Knowing my mom, it was her way of sending me a message. We used to talk about that plant and we both used to admire its beauty.
One thing I think about now, after almost three months have passed, what happens to that energy? Does it dissipate? The hibiscus has returned to its normal pattern.
I get the feeling that it was a parting message...
NOGGY SHOOTING STAR!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA
I bet you still get goosebumps (in a good way) thinking back of that moment 😉do not let others diminish the experience 👍
Dear Julie, My beloved brother, my twin soul and best friend, passed away on April 26, 2024 leaving me with a shattered heart. I appreciate this video more than I can express as it has given me a modicum of peace. This is the kind of death I hope my brother experienced, as over a thousand miles separated us when he passed. Thank you again, Julie. I deeply honor your special calling as a hospice nurse.
My Condolences
❤ and he is always with you. I’m so sorry
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I'm from a Christian family, and my dad had cancer and was only 6 weeks away from dying of it, when we all found out he had it. He died in hospice and a couple of hours after he died, (he was a caretaker and groundskeeper at 2 churches), my sister heard him saying to her, "you should see the flowers up here. The colors are so bright." We believe he's in heaven.
Wow, I stopped crying so much after my mother coming to me in a dream after she passed, and told me to stop crying because she said it's so beautiful and the flowers are beautiful and that she was ok😢😢😢
@IHaveNoLife-nc8wj They are not real though
I lost my mum to cancer in January 2016. She was in a local hospice. She told me that somebody came for her in her subconscious state. She asked my mum to go with her but my mum was scared and turned back. Yes,I know that she would have been on drugs, etc, and this can cause hallucinations, etc. At my mum's wake, her best friend told me something bizarre. She told me that she got up in the night to get a drink from the fridge. She turned around, and there was my mum beautifully dressed with makeup on and looked so healthy and young. My mum lost a lot of weight because of her cancer and she looked very ill. My mum's friend asked her if she'd gone and my mum answered 'not yet.' It wasn't all of my mum's body. My mum lost her fight the following day. Now, I truly believe that somebody comes for you, but it's your 'guardian angel.' They then take you to see your loved ones who have crossed over. Thank you.
@IHaveNoLife-nc8wj Evidence? Basic common sense for a starter. Maybe you try explain the principles of how people can talk to you after they have died. High level overview will do.
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“Eye has not seen, nor ear heard,
Nor have entered into the heart of man
The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” 1 Corinthians 2:9
"I am the way, the truth and the life, no man comes to the Father but by me" John 14:6
I understand exactly what you are describing when you said you heard that gentleman's voice in your head. When my 21 year old son died, there were many, many days and nights I cried and cried and cried. One night, I was sitting at my kitchen table...just bawling... and almost could "feel" a hand on my shoulder and then "heard" my son who passed on say, almost sternly, "MOM, IT'S ALRIGHT!". I quickly turned around thinking he was behind me, that is how real it was.
This has always stayed with me and the realness of it made me 100% believe he used all his spiritual energy to communicate with me. I needed that so desperately and it has helped me so much these past 22 years since his death. 💞
Reuniting with loved ones is also helpful to not fear death.
When I was a teen, an older friend told the story of her son dying in a tractor accident and she was in prayer and weeping and she heard her son’s voice say, “Mom, it’s so beautiful here.” Thinking of you.
@marianclaassen8127 thank you for sharing that. 💞 It is very comforting knowing others have had similar experiences.
I too lost my 22-year-old son 12 years ago...A few weeks after he passed I was lying down, but not asleep yet and I felt as if someone was hugging me...I should back up, the night before I was thinking how much I missed him and especially his hugs and said something to the effect of how much I wished I could have one more hug from him...Anyway, back to the hug the next day...I wasn't sure what I was feeling or if I was imagining the hug, but a few seconds after it ended I heard my son's voice say my name...It was so real and distinct, I'll never forget it...And then something made me turn over and I saw my son sitting in a chair in my bedroom and I said, "It's you, it was you"!! and he just smiled and then faded away...I've never experienced anything more real in my life and I'll also note that I was home alone and hearing, feeling, and seeing him, did not scare or startle me in any way ( as you might think it would )...I think that's another reason I knew it was real...I haven't shared that with too many people ( for obvious reasons ), but from one mother to another I have no doubt what we experienced was our boys reaching out to us.
@Jules21567 that is beautiful, and I completely believe what you saw and heard. I also know what you mean when you said you weren't scared at all and the realness of it.
I really appreciate you sharing your story. It helps so much. 💞
Nonsense.
As a hospital pharmacist, I can truly appreciate all of the mental, emotional, and physical demands placed on hospice care colleagues.
Thank you for fulfilling the difficult role of end-of-life patient care. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your amazing experience and the courage shown to speak it.
I KNOW first hand these things are REAL!!What a gift you are to so, so many by helping relieve much fears and anxieties during pts ad family members most difficult times of their lives. You are definitely a blessing!!! ❤🙏🏻
All of your videos have been wonderfully informative and even comforting. I am an old nurse (68) still working. But i never worked with dying patients. Never too old to learn something new about the human body and spirit. Thank you so much.
I don’t fear death. I fear suffering.
Quite! 💛
Same! I hope when my time comes, it will be quick.
Coward.
The whole life is suffering!
Same here
I fear disability and pain, not death.
Yes, same here. It's not the actual death part, it's the possibility of pain, suffering and agony to that point.
I fear losing my mind. My mother had Alzheimer’s.
Same here. My dad (big guy) was paralyzed from the chest down for three months before passing away (metastatic prostate cancer). Very very tough situation. I'm so afraid of the same situation happening with me.
Me too.
I just fear leaving my children behind. I grew up motherless for the most part. I don't want that for them.
My wife recently passed at the hospice.Cancer took her in only 8 weeks.I was lucky enough to be there to say goodbye.I heard her death rattle and it is a sound that i will never forget.I dont know how these special folks can function with compassionate care 24/7 but i am glad that my wifes last days were spent there and not in a hospital ward with the traffic and busy noises..
Having worked as a Nurse in Hospice, we KNOW that death is nothing to fear. We see death often and the peace often achieved prior to death, and seeing dying people respond to and reach out for others we can't see, but are spirit come to accompany the person into the next realm. I have zero fear of death. 😊 Thanks Julie for the education you provide to so many, so that they won't be in any fear. 🙏
My mum passed away in a hospice. As I held her . Just before she passed she reached out and pointed to something / someone I couldn't see . Thank you for mentioning this I now no what she was doing bless her ❤️
"Don't fear those who kill the body but are not able to kill the soul; rather, fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell."
-Jesus Christ
My son Michael died from Oesophageal cancer aged 36 in Trinity Hospice London UK.
8th September 2018.
His care was above and beyond anything I could have wished for.
A month or two before Michael died and before he went to the hospice he bought two budgies! Just because he could.. he named them Swift and Bold, after his Green Jackets motto ( he served in the British Army )
The hospice actually allowed him to have the birds in his room and he cared for them until he no longer could..
Whilst he slept the birds twittered and did whatever budgies do. He went into eternal sleep on 6th September ( his sisters birthday ) and died two days later. He never regained consciousness.
Before he died I whispered in his ear that he was about to go on an amazing journey and I was saying goodbye.
I hope he heard me 💔
I'm so so sorry for the loss of your dear son. And I just know he heard you.
Keeping budges in cages is cruel
Sept 8th is Jesus’ mom’s birthday. Very holy day.
@@linzieloo1 letting them go in a country where they are not from us even worse
@@joanneford356 I think Michael would have heard you, hearing is the last sense to go.
OMG... You will never know how powerful this video is. After 26 years in healthcare, like you, I have seen the good, the bad and the ugly. A Hospice nurse reigns supreme IMO as Angels among us! Your smile alone conveys the joy and heartfelt compassion you have in your line of work. Nurses are truly undervalued. You are the front-line in healthcare!...GOD bless you and, thank you for sharing this video. Love, smiles and gratitude to you
Thanks for having the courage to share that last story. It was incredibly moving. ❤
My mother lived for six weeks after her stage four lung cancer diagnosis. She passed away at home under hospice care with her four children, two grandchildren and two nephews by her bedside. She lived with us for 15 years till she passed, and loved sitting out on the patio near a jasmine bush because she enjoyed the smell of the flowers. After her funeral in another city, when we got back home, there was a strong smell of the flowers in the house even though there no flowers in the house. Left us with a tingling feeling and a sense of comfort that she was in a good place.
She gave you a gift.❤️🌺
If you don't know Jesus. Then you need to fear death
@@cindybucholtz9642 Superstitious nonsense
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Don't be arrogant & obnoxious. You don't "need Jesus" to not fear death.
@@cindybucholtz9642, 100% correct!
It's so amazing that there are so many people who claim to have no fear of death and are only afraid of the pain they have to suffer before dying.
These people have absolutely no idea that their worst fear is coming true. They really don't know what fear is when they meet the demons who know their fears better than they do. They ended up in a real party and there is no escape. The souls of these wicked people will be punished forever, suffering forever and why? because the people were so wicked, stubborn and haughty to reject the Savior of the world: The Lord Jesus Christ, Who died for the sins of all men on the cross on Calvary. His sacrifice is free for all people and yet billions of people reject His Grace and Salvation.
Incomprehensible!
I ABSOLUTElY LOVE that story.!! My DADDY died at 36 years old, I was 10…… He came to me in my bedroom to say goodbye! I woke up to a lot of my MOMs friends in the house and I knew before they told me that he died! ❤❤❤
Very similar to me my dad died when I was 9 .. a few yrs later he stood at the end of my bed…
One of the last things my dad said to my mom was, "I wish you could see all these colors." I know he was seeing heaven, and I'm so glad he was able to share it with my mom.
Beautiful
lmao heaven 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@obscene-c1 That's incredibly rude man. There are millions of videos where people argue about religion 24/7, did you really have to try to start something on a comment describing their father's passing?
That's just very mean. We're all trying to figure this out together.
@@Filbertfriend it disgusts me how people lessen the impact of death by believing in stuff like eternal life, this shit causes real harm to society. I dont like to be rude but its the only response to religious bs like that, and im sorry but i cant take this stuff seriously.
My mother died at home while on Hospice. She had head and neck CA. Cancer of the right tonsil to be specific. She required only minimal amount of Morphine during the entire ordeal. During her last 2 months she was what "appeared" to be semi comatose. During that time she often with her eyes closed moved her lips as if she was talking to someone. My sister asked her, "Mama who are you talking to?" She answered, " Jesus." She passed away a few weeks later. On the day of her death she quietly and peacefully took her last breath, her eyelashes were "blown" all the way back and the expression on her face looked as if she had seen something spectacular! We believe that she be held our Lord. When the mortuary came to pick up her body the technician told us," I've seen a lot of people die of this type of cancer and this is the first time I've seen someone look so peaceful and in awe at their death."
2 Corinthians 5:8
Amplified Bible
8 we are [as I was saying] of good courage and confident hope, and prefer rather to be absent from the body and to be at home with the Lord.
I completely believe that personal story you had about your patients passing. I experienced my own telepathic communication with a loved one who had passed. It lasted seconds, I felt an intense heat and heard him say my name . Very comforting
I've felt something like a blanket of heat surrounding me. It was a few weeks after his passing, when I was in so much distress. It was like being given an incredibly warm full body hug. I had no beliefs in life after death at that stage, so that was interesting.
Wonderful. My late wife was a hospice nurse. She stayed home with me as she gradually died fairly peacefully at home from Alzheimers. I was her caretaker. She had taken care of so many and wanted to stay home.
While I don't fear death, I DO fear getting older, and losing my independence; there's no family to even take care of me, so I'll most likely end up wandering the streets when I can't work anymore.
Oh honey don’t believe that. There is nothing that God can’t do! He loves you and wants to take care of you, if you will let Him and trust Him for it. 🙏🙏🙏❤️
I can tell you not to worry. I’m in that situation, 9 cancer surgeries, 2 spinal fusions, and a few other misc in between. I couldn’t go back to my job of 28 years, no longer allowed to drive. I lost both parents to cancer and my brother. I was a non stop human, active always, liked my job and then my life changed. I have had a lot of help via home nurses, I’ve had deliveries for my everyday needs and have made friends with some of the sweet delivery workers that they actually check to see if I need anything and have picked up my meds for me. It was hard the first year, but I’ve adapted and after all that I found such a peace to have this time for myself to heal. This goes out to anyone ready these posts, you are not alone in life. Please reach out if you are struggling 🩷🩷🩷
It's not good to fear the future. Things are exponentially worse in your mind than what they might be in reality.
In your mind, it's likely you feel helpless and hopeless about what might happen. In reality, your fears might not actually happen. Even if they do, you have much more control over your situation when it's actually happening.
I will be in the exact same situation
Edit: I am in pain from previous injuries. Two bulging disc in my back and neck, scatica in my leg, rotator cuff surgery.............haven't worked in over year, after my mother dies, probably within the next 5 years, I will probably end myself
Thank you Julie. You are such a breath of fresh air.
Love you sister, thanks again.💖🤗🌻✝️
I had a similar experience after my son passed away a internal happiness came over me I knew it was my son showing me how he felt
Thank god he is happy, sorry for your loss hun❤
death is part of life. Im from uk and have looked into death. I lost my son few years ago. my dad followed 2 yrs after. My mom is 98 and thought when lost son and dad that my mom would follow. She is still here and looks so young.
So sorry to hear, thank you for sharing ❤️
God has a plan for us all Angela.
@@realone4341 i know
Sorry for your losses and happy you still have your mom I lost my mom a few months ago
@@ricciwilson588 so sorry ive got nobody now only my son after my mom goes
My beloved dog of 19 years shared his death with me a year and a half later. He wanted to reassure me he was ok so I wouldn’t be so sad. It helped me quite a bit.
When my old girl went I used to sing her song ( one I made up for her) and I would just FEEL her beside me
@@missfittrr ❤️
When my mother and I were at the vet's , unexpectedly putting my dog out of suffering, we watched in our minds eye's (at the same moment) my dog running excitedly to my husband who is in heaven. ;)
My cat found me too and told me how he passed too. I thought I was weird for even talking about that to others cuz they all think I’m crazy. So glad to see someone else has had the same experience. I loved my cat like my baby but had to give him to my neighbor cuz my toddler tormented him and he would run off to the neighbor’s who grew to love him. When they moved to Arkansas they begged me to let them take him. About a year later I was in bed when I felt something jump onto my bed. It was him. He lay on my belly and I was in shock but so happy all at once. I rubbed him and fell asleep. He was gone when I woke up but I knew it was his spirit and that he had passed. I couldn’t believe he found me. I moved and he never saw where I moved. But he found me. I can’t believe it. Then recently I got diagnosed with cancer and started treatment. His spirit found me again (in a new home now) and actually talked to me. He told me how he passed and said it was peaceful. Man how I loved that cat. When my dad died my daughter was four. My daughter said my dad’s spirit came to her and told her he had found Kittyboy where he had gone and that they played fetch. I know she wasn’t making it up because she knew nothing of my cat especially that he played fetch like a dog. How many cats do that?
@@rachellicee2380 I thought that the Bible says that pets don't go to Heaven...
My dad died at 98. He had a brother who died when he was four years old and he was a little preacher and right before he died they were all around his bed and he said “they’re everywhere. The angels are everywhere they’re coming to get me “ died with a smile. You are definitely an angel Julie.❤
Wow that's so beautiful 😍 God bless you
I had a somewhat similar experience when my Dad died. He was in a hospital, in a comma from a stroke. I was holding his hand when he passed. I could see the heart monitor screen and saw it flatline. A few seconds later, I had a tremendously powerful feeling of love, peace and joy that lasted for several seconds; there was no vision or sound just these incredibly beautiful sensations. No one else in the room (my Mom, sister and my wife) felt them. I am convinced this is what Dad felt. I have never experienced anything so wonderful or powerful before or since than that moment. I believe we'll all feel these constantly forever in heaven. This really changed my feelings of death. I was not a religious person back then but am now.
No fear here. I’ve witnessed the end of life for every family member, my sweet partner, many friends. My life is lived fully conscious my end is coming with no denial and I’m living a bold life that scares the hell out of most. Grateful to have been there for many when they needed me and no one else showed up 🙏🏼
I wanna be you when I grow up. 🙌🏻
What is so bold about your life please share it with us
"Don't fear those who kill the body but are not able to kill the soul; rather, fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell."
-Jesus Christ
Good on u ❤
My mom just died the day before Mother's Day. I didn't know she had cancer. She hid it from us and we all stood by her bed as she went home and cancer had completely destroyed her body. It's been heart breaking but today, I can feel her in my house and a supernatural connection to her and an understanding of her that I never had.
Julie my mom passed two weeks ago in a hospice, her body shut down and we could see it. Julie you described my moms ending perfectly, she slept 20 yrs a day for a few days at the end , we got to say good bye and the nurses made her comfortable with meds and she passed 10 hrs later with zero pain at any point. Thank you for what you and your staff do.
May your mom rest in peace ❤
Hospice Nurses are Definitely Angels,did wonders for our family when my Dad passed, You're the Best Thanks
I work in health care too, Julie and what I hear my patients is this: they fear being alone, they fear being alone AND sick, they fear the loss of their mobility/independence/freedom to do the things they love, they fear grieving the loss of their spouse. I worked in dialysis for 17 years and many of these patients wanted to die and end their suffering, but their families guilted them into continuing ESRD treatments. Yes the machine was keeping them alive, but the progression of uncontrolled diabetes or blood pressure really caused an undignified life. Many of them died blind and had multiple amputations (feet, legs, forearms) and these came AFTER they started dialysis.
That is so sad. Thank you for caring for your patients.
That is the reality. Be prepared! I work at distracting myself now that I am in my sixties the reality has sharpened.
@@Loumag-ky9bz is that the key? Staying busy? My mom is in her 60s and I'm in my 30s. I fear her death and worry about my eventual death as well. Being an only child I wonder what my end of life will look like with no kids and no spouse.
@@Loumag-ky9bz
Same here. I'm almost 70 and it bothers me a lot.
When you think it's a real quick journey it makes no sense😮
I was with my mom when she passed. She had lung cancer and heart disease. It was her heart that wasn’t able to pump enough blood to her organs and they had already started dying. Her ICU nurse was wonderful and frank with me that she was not going to walk out of the hospital. With her informed guidance, I made the decision to move her from ICU to hospice where she only lasted a few hours. I got a call from her hospice nurse at 11:00 pm telling me to get to the hospital quickly as she didn’t have long. It was after hours, so I had to wait for a security guard to escort me to her floor and I was so upset I wouldn’t make it time. Thankfully, I did. Her nurse told me my mom waited for me to get there. I had about 10 minutes with her and saw her take her last breath. It was peaceful and I’m told she felt no pain.
First of all, Julie, thank u for what u do. I am a firefighter, first responder, and I've seen things Hollywood couldn't script. I can't say I fear death, but then u get a page out of a fatal vehicle accident, and then you question that. I needed to hear this video of peaceful passing. Thank you
Dear nurse Julie, my husband had cancer for 6 years. I started watching you on TH-cam about a year before my husband passed. I was so happy with all the information you talked about so when he was getting close I had no fear at all when it took place. My husbands cancer doctor suggested that he get Hospice for us. I was happy that Hospice was coming to our home to actually care for my husband & me. They came 2 months before, the main nurse was so wonderful, then other nurses came , volunteer bathing him. Every was so loving to us. The evening I called his regular nurse, because thing where changing with him. She came & told me he would probably go today. He made that gurgling noise. I was ready to lay on the couch near his hospital bed. I knew he was gone right in front of my eyes. It was beautiful. Thank you
Your patient (friend) gave you a priceless gift. Thank you for sharing. I believe you.
I don't fear death, I fear the process.
Yes.. I think most of us..
This is an important distinction
Same here. I watched my dad battle terminal cancer for 5 years and the suffering that went with it and I also watched my favorite aunt become some angry shell of herself from dementia. If that's in the cards for me, I plan on taking a big 'ol swan dive into the great abyss on my own terms.
@@brucesteele3052 I don't hate the player, I hate the game
@@brucesteele3052 I think a lot of us do..we'll said.
Near the end, my father was shutting down. He was in and out of coherence. Four days before my dad passed, I was visiting him at his personal care home. At one point, he became quite clear, looked at me, and said, "This will all be over soon." His whole life, he worried about dying. On the day he said that to me, I ultimately realized my dad was comfortable with it and ready.
Worring about anything in life is not worth the effort. Live is to short and precious.
I was lucky enough to hear my gf speak in her own voice on my recorder, clearly, over 2 months after her death.. I ended up hearing her a few more times over a period after..... It was mind blowing... I believe in an afterlife to the 100th percentile....
I agree with Nurse Julie, I was with my Father when he passed , he was ready to go and had a relaxed smile. He indicated, “they were waiting for him” not long after he let out his last breath and passed. It was a peaceful moment.
That relaxed smile wasn't what he voluntarily did, it was his organs shutting down. An old woman with tons of wrinkles turns skin smooth right before she dies. A hundred yr old lady skin looks like a 15 yr olds skin when they die.
My dad ended his life in 1968, and in 2001 while walking in a wilderness area, I had this overwhelming sense of my dad's presence. I can't describe it, but I remember asking him out loud if he was present right now. Then this silent voice inside my head told me to go back to my car and turn on the radio because my dad had a message for me. I told myself this sounds absolutely crazy and it didn't make any sense, but I went back to my car and turned on the radio. The song "Tears From Heaven" by Eric Clapton had just started, and it was the first time I felt like my dad was okay. That's the last time I ever heard from him.
"silent voice inside my head told me to go back to my car and turn on the radio"
That voice was the Holy Spirit.
"That's the last time I ever heard from him"
You got his message. That's all that's needed.
When you die, he'll be there to greet you. He'll be eager to hear about your life stories.
Many many years ago my ex husband's grandmother passed. I was very close to her. A few months after she passed, I dreamt that we were meeting for lunch. I asked her what it was like on the other side and she said, "pet, people worry their whole life about dying, if only they realized it was another phase of life. " To this day this dream gives me comfort.
Wow I absolutely love that, thank you!
Wow I absolutely love that, thank you!
I lost my 24-year-old son seven years ago to a fentanyl overdose I hope and pray that that was his experience leaving this earth. I hope he was welcomed by every relative and friend I’ve lost in my life. I hope they are all together and happy.
Very sorry for your loss
My late mother died of cancer in 2014, after several months of being in hospital. The last few weeks before her death we brought her home where me and my daughter looked after her, as well as my father who'd had a suffered strokes before hand.
The aftemath of those stokes, left my father unable to say much, which was difficult to see because he was always had a great sense of humour and always something to say.
Well, the week before my mother died, she had to be admitted to the hospital again because her health was deteriorating, it was a Wednesday, i remember it well.
The next day, after my mum was admitted, 12 hrs later, my father took a heart attack and he was also admitted to the same hospital. He was in ICU, and we all gathered around his bed, he was like his old self again, laughing and joking. We couldn't believe it. My father told me to tell my mum that he loved her.
We all as a family, took turns to visit them both, every day, twice a day.
A week later to the very day, my mother died, and 12 hrs later my dad passed too, he'd died of a heart attack.
You see, my mother used to say that she'd go before my dad, well before she ever became ill, my dad used to chime in that he'd be going with her, it was a bit of banter between them both, which they'd been saying for years.
I believe my mother came for my dad, and they went together.
I miss them both, we all do.
That's the comfort we are left with after both their passing.
Love and blessings to you all, from Ireland 🍀🍀
That's beautiful..
I'm so sorry you lost both tour parents at the same time. But comforting to know they went together🙏
@@zipinha Thankyou ♥️
“I'm not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens.” ~Woody Allen
Loser
@@PankZhanna What exactly has he done?
I wish USA taught these concepts in their man made religions & CULTures!
oh come one anything coming out of Woody Allen is pathetic.
@todor7906
She looks like death warmed up!
I can’t say you’ve eased my fear of death, but you’ve definitely given me some comfort that the end isn’t so bad.
So true! Cardinal Bernadine who passed away from cancer yrs back said, "do not fear death, but embrace it as a friend". I'm so aligned with my faith and my fate. You are correct from every angle I look at it. There's a spiritual nature at work with awesome power to give life/take life. No arguments here, from this disabled Army veteran - terminally ill. Thank you very much. God as I know him, Bless ya's!🙏
My dad died when I was 18. He came to me a few days later and sat next to me. I wasn't afraid and he talked to me telepathically about how wonderful it was and the secret to everything was love. I sometimes want to tell myself it didn't happen but the memory never faded. He touched me at the end and showed me a glimpse
Thank you.
Guessing that Love is the actual reason for our existence on earth ....
@@joecruiseryes, it is love that endures beyond death.
The other side of the end-of-life is when the person does not go peacefully. My Mum fought to the end, through the anxiety meds, through the morphine, yelling out and fighting to get up out of bed until her last few hours. Gawd, it was so hard for her. She wasn't ready to go because of the fam. My fam, husband and sibling, had been such a drain on her throughout life. She babied them incessantly, sacrificing herself and her happiness for people that couldn't/wouldn't extend a similar selflessness; they couldn't even sit with her for more than half an hour in the hospital's hospice room. She fought to the end because of that sense of duty to them. I hope she has peace now.
I’m pretty sure the realization that we continue with the flow of time.. that time is what we sometimes call the hand of the Lord and that we continue with it and the state of death is not absence but instead inclusion with something greater.. I am positive that she is in a better place and that she continues with the rest of us..
good luck
Thank you so, so, so much for helping us understand the unknown. I just came to the realization that I am going to die alone as I have no kids and am not close with my 2 brothers. As long as I am not in pain during my death journey, I am comforted by the fact that the transition may even be peaceful. Your knowledge has given me comfort as a healthy enough (with depression/anxety) 53 year-old that when my time has come, I will be ok. You are a gem. Your name should be spelled Jewel-ie. Hugs from Florida!
Having kids is no guarantee they will be there for you. I have seen that many times. Please don't let it worry you as we always have loved ones that are with us everyday even though we don't see them. Thoughts count ... you are special. God Bless you!
I just happened to have this come up in my TH-cam choices and I watched it. This is exactly what happened when my brother died! I was driving over to his house in tears after my sister-in-law called me with the news and I suddenly got the sense of my brother "flying around" exploring Heaven, that place, the other side. He kept saying to me this is amazing, and I felt his happiness and his awe of what he was seeing and experiencing. I just told someone about this the other night and today I watch your video! Very affirming!
This made me tear up. I lost my brother and father within the same year. My brother got hit by a car and it was instant, my father died by cancer. My dad was terrified of dying and my brother didn’t even know it was coming so as someone who doesn’t believe a whole lot in the afterlife, if freedom and peace is what they both felt at the end, I’m grateful for that. Thank you for sharing :)
My mom used to say "I'm not afraid of dying but I am afraid of getting older." She's 92 now and in her last days with hospice care and her four kids by her side, 4 who love her and will miss her! ❤
I will be thinking about you all. I know it difficult. I lost my mom 2 years ago. She was the best. I'm glad you will be with her.. hugs to you all.
Mom was 99 in hospice and her poor little heart didn't want to keep working. She said I don't want to die.
@@jamesortiz5388 omg. Those are the words my mom said right before her heart gave out. Those words have haunted me some. But I try to remember that she is no longer suffering and having breathing problems. It's difficult still. Hugs to you.
@@Velvetsky831 🙏
When I view death as the end, I become fearful. When I tell myself it's simply a transition to something else I actually look forward to that discovery.
I had the same thing happen as your number 2 reason. It's amazing to hear, telepathically, your loved one tell you how amazing the other side is.
My Mother passed away in hospice and she was completely at peace, and cheerful, with the entire process. When it's my time to depart my Mom will be my model and who I will emulate. My hero!
OMG my mom is my hero too! So cool how your mom acted.
My mother passed the same way. It wasn't scary at all to her. We were all gathered around at home hospice because we knew she was fading fast. When she had a few moments of clarity we got her on the phone with her best friend of the same age. She says to her: "You know you're next" and they both joked about it. My cousin who is a good singer was trying to find a song on his phone to sing to her. He fumble fingered the phone and a song came on. We're all looking at each other and my sister recognized it. It was "The Final Countdown". OMG, we couldn't contain ourselves and started cracking up. Crazy! She passed that night very peacefully.
I don’t fear death either. I was saved by an “angel” from boiling oil. My hand was about to fall into the pot. All of a sudden, I felt a thumb and an index pushing my wrist away. I was 24 years old. It changed my life. It felt so loving. I couldn’t stop touching my wrist for the rest of the day looking around me hoping it would happen again. If there is no life after death then who touched me? I know there is without a doubt. I also don’t tell people my story fear of being ridiculed. But it did happen. I don’t do drugs, I don’t smoke nor drink and I don’t take any medication. I did not hallucinate either. It was real. I wish this experience to anyone.
Thank you for sharing your own personal experience - one never forgets those. (I've had some)
Kinda reminded me of this quote....
“When you realize that eternity is right here and now, that it is within your possibility to experience the eternity of your own truth and being, then you grasp the following: That which you are was never born and will never die."
--- Joseph Campbell (author of Hero's Journey):
I BELEIVE YOU, I HAD EXPERIENCES
Jesus is alive. He loves us and he doesn’t want any of us to spend eternity separated from him. That was Jesus touching you.❤
@@kathyashby6019There is only one truth, and it is defined by the one and only God, Jesus.
I believe you because I have also experienced things. I have had visitations from my mother, and a few times of my mother and my father together, and once that my dad briefly showed himself to me. When I was a child, I was terrified to go to sleep because I was afraid that I would die. I was maybe 3 or 4. I had an experience of being in my backyard, and a man was with me. He picked me up and we looked at my father’s flowers, and he was telling me that I didn’t need to be afraid of dying. He said that I wouldn’t die until I was very old. I don’t know who he was but it was like I knew him before. I was very comfortable with him and he felt very loving. I have had other things happen, and I am convinced that there’s life after we die.
Thank you so much! Don’t know how I found your channel but glad I did! I’m 53 facing a cancer dx and don’t know what to do. I have 4 grown kids 6 grandkids and I’m so lost. I was tough and strong I was a Green Beret and Ranger, I never needed help I helped! Now I sit and hide as I go through this journey, not want to let anyone know I’m scared to death it hit me this might be it! I have faith and all but I still want to be and do so much for my family yet I can’t. This weakness is something I’m not use to! Sorry for rambling but thank you for what you do!! You’re a special person!!
Ron, I am going to pray for you right now. And also tell you there are a lot of breakthroughs with regards to cancer treatment. My mom was dx with stage four metastasized breast cancer, which went to bone cancer. Told she had a few months to live. That was almost 8 years ago. She takes ibrance , as well gets infused. It's not painless and she struggles at times, she is 77 though. Hang in there.
@@mythoughts6922 ❤️❤️
Ron learn to fast. Fasting rids the body of all toxins. If you're not used to it do it for a day then increase. Eat nothing and drink water. No sugery foods or sweets. Cancer feeds on processed foods.. You'll be glad you did. Don't give up and stay positive! Meditate and clear your thoughts. It works for many. Research it please.
@ronbenjamin4351 if youre reading this look into sound wave frequency therapy to kill the cancer cells
You have nothing to be ashamed of, we all feel fear no matter the background you come from. It's called being human! Take each day as it comes, just as everybody should do. Because non of us know when it will be our last moment. I was diagnosed with Cancer in 2022 and it didn't look good for me, yet I'm still here and my Doctor who diagnosed me, died last year in his early 50s. You are never alone!
My mum just passed a few hours ago. This video is so helpful to reinforce my belief of the beautiful afterlife. Thank you so much for all your videos ❤
My beautiful cousin just died less than an hour ago. She had cancer spread throughout her entire body. She was young and a mother one 1, and stepmother of 3. She was like a sister to me, and I LOVED her so much. She was one of my fave people on this Earth. She was AMAZING, and the strongest woman I knew. I want to be with my family, but they are in another country whilst my other family is 9 hours away. I can't get a plane ticket yet, but will be there via flight for her service which is being planned now. She will be cremated. I can't believe I'll never see or speak to my cousin again. She did not suffer. Thank you, Hospice Nurse Julie. I really needed you. 💜
@@jm7804 I don't have any family here. And my cousin's body is 9 hours away. In between waiting for calls from my aunt, I'm online looking at helpful videos. Btw, *THIS* is said with utmost DIGUST as I know troll ppl like you love it. You have absolutely NO BUSINESS saying what you said to me to ANYONE. Kindly F & O.
@@jm7804 Please get off the internet. My family is 9 hrs away, and I have no family near me; in addition usually people who've lost a loved one come to places like this for healing.
Anyone reading this: *please report* @jm7804 for the deplorable harassment of me, and my cousin who passed away today. Thank you.
Just so that you know. She is safe now.
I’m sorry
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porass.
Julie I believe you very much. I had an experience similar to yours when my dad passed. I asked him to tell me how heaven is and few weeks later, while I was lying in bed thinking about how sad I was without him, I suddenly felt like I was being dragged up into space. I passed the clouds and everything and when those cleared up, I entered this amazingly clear and beautiful world. The colors were brighter and more vibrant and it seemed so peaceful. There were people and animals walking side by side and they all looked so calm and peaceful. There was nothing but positivity and calmness around. Then I saw a large green, beating heart which baffled me. As I was trying to make sense of that, I dropped back down and seemed to return back to my body lying on my bed as if nothing had happened. I was soooo baffled. I couldn’t make sense of it all. I had never had such an experience in my life. I thought I was coockoo for a bit but then I realized that my father had found a way to share his world with me as I had asked him to tell me how it was. His heaven was more amazing than this world could ever be and the level of peace is nothing like any sense of peace we can experience in this world and in this lifetime. And I finally understand the beating green heart. My dad died of a heart attack. He was trying to tell me that in his new place, his heart continues to beat and is green like the color of life and nature. His heart is a part of heaven as it’s all intertwined. I don’t tell many people my story as I think they will just think me crazy. I’m so glad to see someone else have a similar experience cuz I can relate to it and understand it just like I’m sure u can understand mine.
I am an 80-year-old man in very poor health. I don't fear death it may be a blessing for me. However, I worry about leaving my wife to cope after my death. She is not a practical lady, I have always dealt with the practical issues around our home. I pay all the bills and deal with all the repairs and she has never had to do these things. She is a wonderful homekeeper but she has never had to deal with practical matters, she leaves that to me. She can not use a computer and just will not learn how to. The problem there is nearly everything is now done on a computer. She is not a big spender and leaves savings and investments to me. I guess I will just have to stay alive until she's gone, God bless her.
This could be my husband talking. I need to get with it.He is not in poor health but he is soon to be 81. I do use the computer, but do not know all he does. I know he has the same worry as you.
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This is the unfortunate toll sexism has taken on our older population of women. My grandmother doesn't know how to refill the petrol in her car because her husband always did it for her. Many older men don't know how to cook or clean, so it's taken a toll on them too. Life is better for everyone know that we're all equals but it is very sad to see the older generation struggle with the outcome of "A woman's place is in the kitchen" thinking.
@@madelinebitts2766 My wife is a free spirit. She also has a temper. I have tried to teach her how to use a computer, but she is not interested. It's the same with banking and household accounts, she refuses to do them and is happy to leave everything to me. When I asked her how she would manage when I was gone, she replied that she would cross that bridge when she came to it. We share the household chores., she is a good seamstress, I can not sow. I like to cook, but she won't let me do the laundry. We share the decorating and gardening. We have been married 55 years and we are still together, even though our marriage has been rocky at times. I wouldn't swap her for a 19-year-old dolly bird.
Thanks. It is a lesson for us to learn and get ready our partner if sth happens with one of them.
When my grandmother passed, I wasn’t with her. That night about 3:30 in the morning I woke up and felt someone sitting on the edge of my bed.
I rolled over thinking someone was there, I immediately knew it was my grandmother letting me know she was OK. I said in my mind, I got the message grandma love you!
I went back asleep only to be woken by the ringing of the telephone at 7:30 am.
It was my mother, she said I’m sorry to tell you that grandma passed last night about 3:30.
I said, I know mom she came to visit me and she is OK.
I didnt have that specific.. but when my grandma died, it was early in the am. I was walking around outside smoking a cigarette and just had this weird hit of Deja vu like ive never had before. I just knew something was wrong. I found out she passed away about 10am from the nurses. Same thing with my mother. She died throughout the morning sometime, but i woke up at like 3-4am and just sat up in bed knowing something was wrong. I couldnt shake it.. Same deja vu feeling hit me so hard. Boom i get a call and find out she passed away. I know they contacted me. I just couldnt articulate it well.
Your grandma is safe now. It's all you need to know.
Same thing happened to me at 12.....❤
Something similar happened to me. The night my mom died I was sleeping on my side and it felt like somebody was hovering over me against my back. It didn't scare me but for some reason I didn't turn over. The next morning without me saying anything my sister asked me did it feel like somebody was in the room with u last night and I said wow you too?
Same thing when my grandpop died on April 16th, 2023. He has been close to death when we got there the day before. I was sleeping in the hotel room and suddenly I wake up “fresh” like it was day around 2:45am as if something was wrong. I see my dad and brother moving around in bed too like almost if he was touching us to say his final farewell. Even though my grandpop passed 12:30am, the time my grandmother got back to the apartment from the hospice center was 2:45. I went back for a few more hours until 6:30am, and the first thing my mom said to me as I was awaking was “My father died”…..she was on/off the phone with my aunt and my grandmother.
Thank you for sharing. Im still learning to accept death, its always very grief filled. I take in unwanted animals, mostly guinea pigs, for what remains of their life. Give them care, make friends, and help them across. One is dying tonight, and going to the vet tomorrow to be sent on in peace. Each time I grow a little but the goodbyes are still very hard.
Thank you for caring for those little babies
What a kind and beautiful person 🥰🥰🥰
God bless you. ❤
Guinea pigs are beautiful little souls…glad you are giving them the love they deserve…🫶
It's depressing, many people cannot work in animal shelters hospices hospitals and so on. It gets to them and they grow depressed and suicidal. It's not good for mental health and the body. This life here is very anxiety filled sad and tragic and what you wrote describes exactly that
My mother's eyes changed colors one week before she died. I was not there when she died but the nurse's aide said she wanted to clean up and then she went back to sleep and that was it. She had been preparing to go for weeks.
Strive to be the best at what you do, make friends easily, help others, and don't expect anything in return. That is my mantra as I get older and move through retirement. It is to help family and friends and live a healthy life in this final stage of life.
That’s a beautiful message. Is there anything you wish you would have done differently if you could go back to your younger years, specifically your 30s?
@@LovelornLoveThorns yEAH, INVESTED MORE MONEY IN MY 401K. lol
I've been close to many loved ones who have died. It is sad, but it has also made me understand and brought comfort. When my aunt was dying, I knew when I saw her that she would die that day. And everyone had left her in bed alone, so it was just her and I. She was asleep, and I just held her hand and I told her in my heart, that it was okay. I told her that she did a good job and she didn't need to fight anymore, that we would miss her but that it was okay for her to let go and move on. As soon as I said this to her in my heart, I felt a warmth and she took her last breath. I was so happy for her, and I'm still so thankful to have had such a beautiful moment with her. Thanks for all the great times, love and miss you Aunt Susan!
'I'm not afraid of death; I just don't want to be there when it happens.'
- Woody Allen
One of my favorite quotes, even though Woody Allen is gross.
I have stage 4 bowel cancer. I don't fear death. I just don't want to die yet.
'Growing old is easy - all you have to do is live long enough'
- Groucho Marx.
Reminds me of what Stan Laurel (of Laurel and Hardy fame) said on his deathbed. He told the nurse he'd rather be skiing and she said I didn't know you knew how to do that and he replies I don't but I'd rather be doing that than this!
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That wonderful young man gave you such a gift! Thank you, Julie, for helping so many of us stop fearing death. You’re amazing. I totally believe what you witnessed. ❤
As a person who has from time to time had a fear of death, I can say that it isn't about the act of dying and what the body goes through during the period right before death. The fear of death is about what is beyond this life when it ends, if anything. It is about leaving behind milk shakes, orgasms, sunsets, roller coasters, and of course loved ones for a (possible) trip into the unknown.
For you... Can't speak for others
@@oneseeker2 The video's title was "Fear of Death" but most of the video spoke of a fear of dying. The two are not the same thing.
I totes agree 3o5ninethousandfourtyone. My biggest fear is about what's next. Who wants to leave behind milkshakes, orgasms and all those other cool things you mentioned. What FREAKS me out the most is the thought that there is NOTHING after life. If you think about it long enough, it is scary and bizarre (at least to me). What if there is nothing. What if there had never been anything. The mind cannot comprehend it.
@@scottlepore7613 You hit the nail on the head. I don't know a way around that. If it is really a problem in that it is constantly on the mind and effects the quality of life, there is something called "exposure therapy" where a person would dwell on the scariest prospects of death. Eventually they become more accepted, cognitively, and less scary.
That's only because you're not ready yet. I saw my grandmother in hospice, she mid 80s and dying just like video said. The shutdown, lot of sleep. and they it was over. Before that day she told us all she was done. My other grandmother didn't go like that, she went on her own term. She wasn''t sleeping she just gathered the family for one last time. I left and said my mother the grandma was be dead in the morning and this was her saying good bye. That night she passed away in her bed alone, that's how she wanted it.
People are scared of actively dying but what they should be scared of is passively living.
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Excactly
True
living is worse than dying, if you werent alive then you wouldnt die
That is such a powerful story and event that happened to you. Life and death really is a mystery until we actually experience it.
My dear nephew died in March in a tragic sudden accident and he was only 19 months, my brother and sister in law live a 4 hour flight away from us so we flew up there to support them and their other 2 sons well on the flight back something urged me to look out the window and an image of my nephew appeared in the clouds of him sleeping on his side with distinct angel wings behind him I couldn’t believe it! I scrambled for my phone to take a photo and as soon as I did it disappeared. At least I know he is safe in heaven our precious little guy😢❤
Hospice nurses are angels on earth. God sends them to give us comfort and love. Thank you Julie.
Get real.
Exactly, you nailed it
This is beautiful. Verifies a lot of the feelings I get when people close to me have passed. It’s a beautiful feeling that softens the sadness. It’s also a reminder that energy disperses and does not die. It literally can’t and time standing still almost seems like he was sharing with you the timeless dimension. I’m grateful he is out of pain both physically and mentally and had someone like you to talk to near the end of the journey. I fear the dying process more than death itself. I used to struggle with the concept of “no beginning or end” until I started to focus outside the realm of mental capacity and once again I’m talking like I’m in a cult. 😂 Thank you for sharing your insights.
My Dad was on a business trip where he had to take some training for his job for three days. One of his friends, who was a very healthy man, told him that he was going to skip the training because he was going to die in three days. He was calm about it. Everybody tried to get him to stay, but he went off. Came the news, three days later, he had died of a massive heart attack out of nowhere. He had no history of heart disease, no one told him that he was going to die, he just knew.
Some advanced Buddhist monks can also feel/predict when they are going to die. Quite fascinating.
Julie, I'm not 'spiritual' at all..but I'm smart enough to realize I could be wrong. The things you said about physical comfort during the process are helpful to me (Stage 4 lung cancer). I've often said that I don 't fear death - I fear dying. Just don't want it to be painful. Among older atheists like me, we share a joke. "I want to die in my sleep like my grandfather. Not screaming in panic like his passengers." Thanks again, I'm so glad I discovered your channel.
If you need a friend I'm here :)
I feel the same way as you in beliefs & fears. Sending well wishes for a pain-free transition. I know you must be scared, but I hope that you've had a good life and feel peace when your time comes. 🌷
@@Wishpool , I'm actually kind of cool with it. I'm 62. Had a wonderful career in TV (most of it with Cartoon Nework! Oh, so much joy). My daughter's an adult now, married to a wonderful guy. There are things I'd love to do before I 'go out', but I'm just not physically able to do now. When I was 8rys old, I said I was going to do three things. Race cars (did it as an amateur in SCCA), dive to the bottom of the ocean (only 50ft deep on a shipwreck back home in coastal NC, but I'll 'take the win'), and walk on the moon. "Two out of three ain't bad..", right? 😆 Thanks for the good words.
@@Outsider4JC , please don't insult me (or any other non-believer) with that stuff. Out of respect for Julie, I won't share the full venom of my anger with your comment, but please understand that atheism isn't a 'choice'..it's a 'discovery'. Most of us have heard nonsense like you posted for our entire lives. It isn't welcome, it isn't helpful, and it's certainly not comforting. Only thing I can add without being profane is to tell you that I personally consider Christian mythology obscene. Condemnation simply because people were born human? Infinite punishment for finite crimes? Immoral. I respectfully request that you do not make comments like this to others who do not share your worldview. It might make *you^ uncomfortable if someone with less patience than I tells you what to do with your dead heretical Rabbi on a stick one day.
@@panamafloyd1469 Thats up to you. That is why God gave you free will to choose where you want to spend eternity. It doesnt bother me at all. I am used to people who are blind to the truth. Because you cant talk anyone into believing and trusting in Christ, only the Holy Spirit can change their hearts. It really shouldnt bother you so much , because its a wonderful message of salvation. Why would you hate that? Thats because the devil has you blinded. But you will find out one day, and hopefully you have a change of heart before then, because you cant tell me you are 100% certain there is no God. And once your time is up, its gonna be too late. You will end up spending eternity begging God for 1 more chance to repent.
At the end of my wifes life she had conversations with her dead mother and grandmother. I ask her who she was talking to and she said it was her mom and grandma. She past two days later at home with me while I was drying her hair after a bath she insisted on. She said "I feel dizzy" and fell back in my arms. Im a former police officer I've seen a lot of dead people and I knew she was gone despite CPR I tried until EMS arrived. She was only 52.
I am so sorry that your mom passed, and she was so young.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I wish you the best over the next few years.
Stay Strong.
I was holding my friend's hand, 94 years old on hospice, when she started talking to her husband who had passed away 45 years earlier.
It was the first night she was home from the hospital, and day one of hospice.
I knew that she was letting go, and I told her daughter to call the family to come and say goodbye.
Her daughter was quite surprised because she was sitting on the couch reading a book on how to take care of her mother while on hospice. She thought she would be on hospice for several weeks or even months.
Her mother passed away within about 20 minutes while I was holding her hand.
It was an experience that I will never forget.
Sorry for your loss, I also lost mine young at 47, managed to look after her at home until the day before she passed when I could no longer manage her pain well enough and she needed hospice care. She passed peacefully in hospice surrounded by all her loved ones and me holding her hand. In a way it was a relief she was no longer suffering as that still haunts me 4 years later. Hope you're doing ok as I know how hard it is. Best wishes going forward.
I’m so sorry for your loss & have no doubt that your dear wife is in heaven with her loved ones!
So very sorry for your loss. 😢 Amazing gifts so many receive while in the process of leaving this world and crossing over.
Absolutely the honest truth.
This video is true and many times I have experienced this.
It is my hopes that watching this video and the following words help comfort you.
Fear is a natural response to challenges or the unknown. It’s an emotion that serves a valuable purpose (think fight or flight response), but it can quickly become unhealthy when it paralyzes us or propels us into frantic behavior. Negative outcomes aside, the Bible actually commands us to not be afraid. In fact, there are over 300 variations of the command to “fear not” throughout Scripture.
“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10