Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid of Dying
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ก.พ. 2023
- At the Wheatland, CA stop of Dr Peterson's Beyond Order Tour, an audience member asked him how to be at peace with dying.
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My father moved in with us when he was 82 and his health was starting to fail. He died in our home at 88 under hospice care. As his son, I got to know him better in those final 6 years than I did in the previous 60 years. In his final days, he knew death was imminent. He said, "it's been a great ride". To this day I still take great comfort in his comment. He was more than ready to go. My wife and I were able to provide him with a loving warm environment to spend his final days. He died peacefully in his sleep at 2 AM. Goodbye Dad. Thank-you. I love you.
Been there with my dad . He died without being sick at 94 last year in his sleep at home . Couldn’t ask for a better way to go. Where do I sign up for such an end!
his comment gives me great comfort now - thank you for sharing a beautiful part of your life
May He Rest In Holy GOD'S Presence.
@@claudiocorleone7856 May He Rest In Holy GOD'S Presence.
2-3 A.M. is a judgement hour.''
My father died of cancer at 90 years old. Two weeks before he died I took him for a ride in his wheelchair, he was too weak to walk, and we went outside on a beautiful day. I eventually parked him in the driveway and I sat next to him on the cement. We had cookies and coffee, and I asked him if he was ready to die. He replied an affirmative reply, saying he was very much ready to go. Just when he finished his sentence a bird flew over and crapped right in his coffee. We just looked at each other and smiled. I sure miss him.
Wow - condolences- stay strong. P.s I’m tired off birds shitting on my truck soon as I get it washed. Like wtf
Oh Wow!! I'm sorry to hear that I'm very sorry for your loss my Condolences to you, and your Family. 🙏😞
Don't wash it and the birds will quit crapping on your truck.
Is it alright that I was reading your heartfelt remembrance intently and laughed at the surprise turn it took?
My best to you.
LOL the ending was great! Thanks for the laugh but so sorry for your loss. He took the bird craping in his coffee better then most would have.
I’m now a 71 year old man. At 62 I had a massive heart attack. In the ambulance on my way to the hospital at 5:30 am, I knew I was dying. What I felt at that moment was peace. The only thing I thought of was “did my ex wife have the pin # and access to my bank account so she could get what money was there and I was sad my children were going to be hurt because of my death. Other than that, I felt relief that my life on earth was done. Life on earth is challenging. Good, but challenging. I felt peace as I was dying and I had never felt anything like that. Needless to say, I didn’t die that day, but I know I will and I am no longer afraid of death.
I'm 38 yo and I suffered a heart attack too, a year ago, with exactly the same experience. When I was going into the OR, I remember having no fear, I was at peace. I asked God to look after my daughter, that's it. It is a very strange feeling that I think you can only understand if you lived through something like this. I whish you many more years my friend, glad to hear you're doing good.
With you brother🙏❤@@huracan200173
Good too know
It's not new under the sun People die every day it's a common thing living in A fallen dying world that Needs Jesus.
Wow you made me laff with pin and card number tho lol
I am dying from 2 Terminal Cancers and I am crying listening to this and I am not afraid of my Death or of Dying
May God protect you and give you comfort to the end. He is going to be by your side to the end. Amen 🙏
May you have peace until the end. My dad died 23 years ago from cancer when I was a teenager. He was ready to go at the end.
Trust in Jesus Christ friend, He is The Way, The Truth and The Life.
Lived 2000 Yrs ago, died and rose again so that we might have life everlasting. 🙏🏽
This may read a bit strange, but ... good luck~!
Don't give up the day job ... ye wanna buy a bridge in London? I have one at a bargain price, just for you.@@SQUISHBUBBLE
Not that my opinion matters too much but at 57, I feel I've done most of the things I wanted to do in my life, music, art, so many fullfilling things. As good as that is, I'm as ready as I will ever be to go. I enjoyed the journey and I've always been a grateful. I also learned that to be happy you need to learn to forgive and give generously if you can, not just for the other person, but for you. Life is a true miracle.. It seems to me there is more after this life, and If I'm wrong, I won't be there to regret it anyway right?...The best to you all.
Both my elder brothers died young, and for decades, I was scared of dying, too. I'm now much older than them, and I'm not frightened anymore. I wouldn't want to die for the sake of my family, but otherwise, it's a journey.
I agree 👍🏼
"As good as that is, I'm as ready as I will ever be to go." I hope this isn't a suicide note. I've never really understood the idea that a person can finish what they wanted to do. There is always more to do! There are millions of books as yet unread, thousands of languages as yet unlearnt, dozens of countries as yet unvisited, and countless ideas as yet unthought of.
And then there's the fact that the fuller your life is, the more you have to write in your memoirs - which for most people remain unwritten, perhaps to the regret of those who come after them - but a life well lived would always make a worthwhile read.
He didn’t mean it like that guys jeeze lol
@@iamnatekea Doctor in Psychology, right? No. Stop commenting nonsense.
In my Daddy's final days, he was bedridden with cancer, he looked at me and said, "Doll, I have No Regrets." WOW. What a life well lived!
I think is very important that all of us understand that "no regrets" is truly a mentality.
If we keep thinking about what we actually regretted in life, then we will really all be in regret all the way. (I mean life is always full of regrets but also there is happiness and acceptance and being content!)
I just turned 72, I’ve taken care of myself and always been healthy, active, positive. A little over a month ago. Diagnosed with 2 cancers Spots on my brain. Had 3 radiation treatments, so tired. The other is lung, I’ll do the chemo but the prognosis is not good. I’m not sad, but I had so much left to do with my life. I live in Colorado and I will not suffer in pain, if it isn’t successful. We have dignity to die.
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@@paulabrooks9316 Lord be with you and grant you an extension of life and health!
@@grandmaatthefarm125 thank you so much. Emotional roller coaster. New meds that are difficult to control my moods. I, going to do wat is needed and a lot of deep soul searching. Won’t ever be the same if all goes well.
His comment “ If you’re afraid of death, look at how you’re living.” says it all.
That's a great analogy.
How I’m living is exactly why I’m afraid of death. Life is so good. I don’t want it to end.
Life is like a really scary roller-coaster ride: you are glad you had the ride but once is enough.
Maaaannn. I love that!!!! Well put😮💨😮💨😮💨
I work as a Hospice Nurse here in Texas. It’s pretty intense having to work with death everyday. I find that it’s a privilege and a blessing to be allowed to take care of people at this stage in their lives.
Thanks for being there, I have massive respect for carers like you.
It’s a blessing and a privilege to you they are dying ??
Huge respect to you Kyle, I only faced such situations short term and would not personally be able to face it day in and day out.
Ignore the trolls. Thank you for all the wonderful care you and others give.
@@iamasmurf1122 Don't be a dick.
I lost the love of my life two months ago, 36 years together, over half my life. Struggling is putting it mildly. I’m grateful he’s not suffering or struggling anymore but lost and missing him, my heart is broken. I pray he’s at peace and joyful.
Please 🙏 know your LOVED one didn't die but they were Born into HEAVEN and you DO see them again I Promise you that. Peace and GOD Bless You From Saginaw Michigan
@@user-lo6bl2oo5o You don't know that, you can't promise that, so why don't you just stfu?
You promise that?@@user-lo6bl2oo5o
I'll send you some strength.
Om Nithyananda Paramashivoham! Let he rest in Paramashiva! Healing and completion blessings for you!
When my son was in hospital and we told him to fight he shook his head no. He had a hard life and a difficult disease. He had enough. I still miss him & have that picture in my head. He was more tired& suffering at 28.
Hugs and prayers ❤
I hope you find peace, may some happy memories with your son live.
@marymars2842 thank you.
@annafabian8281 thank you
sending you a big hug
My dad is on his deathbed rn but I enjoyed him in my early years thru my stupid teen years, mid 20’s and now early 30’s. He is about to leave us in his young 50’s and one advice he gave me was to always do what you say, a man’s word is important. Dad I love you, you are my friend and I will honor you and your word. I will see you soon, wait for me.
I‘m sorry, friend.
How are you doing?
He sounds like a very decent,and honest person,God bless him.If only there were more honorable people like him in government today,especially at the Federal Level,my friend.Anyway,you were truly blesed to have him as your father,my friend.Kudos,and God .less him.
What's wrong with his health?
Living up to your word is the mark of integrity and good character.
My grandfather is 89. He watched all 3 of his wives die and two of his children and many of his friends. When you live a long life but the people around you don't, its painful.
I used to be a pastor…an older lady (okay quite old, she was 97 when she passed) my wife and I would visit and check in on and bring groceries too went for a drive with us once and it seemed every block in town shed point to a house and say who used to live there and how she knew them, followed by…”but they died a long time ago”. Dozens of people. She too had buried a husband, children, and even one of her grandkids. She wasn’t suicidal or miserable even, but she plainly didn’t want to be here anymore and was very ready to go.
Mom was 92 when she died. She had cancer but at 92 wasn’t fighting it. People would say to her that they hoped she felt better soon because it seemed like the right thing to say. She would reply calmly that she was ready to go. I loved her dearly but totally supported her position. I was with her when she passed. I was happy for her. Sad for me, but mostly just happy for her.
@@steverogers2603 she lived a long life, people get tired when they're that old. Everything starts to not work the way it used to. You become like a baby again.
@@steverogers2603 Sounds like a beautifully lived life, Steve.
It’s not dying that’s hard it’s leaving behind everything you love.
coffee
Self love lol
I felt that
Yes
Leaving earthly life
The bulk of my loved ones, heroes and friends have passed. I look forward to seeing them again.
To you people who care for the dying, all I can say is, thank you. You are in a realm of your own.
I agree with you. Why tf do people act all insincere?
Fuck that! They're gone, and better off than we are.
As a hospice nurse it is the most rewarding thing in the world.
All U people who do not know and accept Christ are all in pitiful LOST STATE SPIRITUAL. ALL go straight to HELL. Eternally Lost separated from God FOREVER and will never know the pure joy of having life Eternally.
@@maryquitecontrary6658 Nice. I guess that’s when you know you’ve answered your calling.
@@AntonioCarlos-ce4sj go speak to someone could do some help
I have been a funeral professional for 38 years now...I have witnessed much death...I have visited and discussed death with many of my elders and I come to a firm conclusion. Death is easy, Life is hard! And so the story ends!
@johncollins7062Edwin Starr "Dying is easy Comedy is Hard"
Thankyou for this perspective
A six word short story !
Either way not a transition I'm looking forward to. But perhaps as one door closes, another opens, no? (Millions think so ... me, I'm not eagerly anticipating the finding out thereof.)
@johncollins7062Miracle on 34th Street. He played Santa Clause. I've seen that movie multiple times.
My dad moved in with me at 94 and it was wonderful. He wanted new experiences so we had lunches in new places, flew to Baha peninsula for his 95th birthday and enjoyed his last days. He confided his fears and values to me and we grew closer. U am so thankful for this time and my dad wasn't afraid of death, he loved life. He died at 96. I miss him so much but celebrate his life.
Many men today have decided never to marry and never have children...they are doing this as they believe its the only way to survive financially. They know if they really need to satisfy their eurges they can pay for it.
My brother committed suicide after struggling with drug use and depression for 15 years. He was very open about it in his last 5 years, and I spent a lot of time and (emotional) energy trying over and over to talk him out of it during that time.
Three weeks before he died we had the conversation again, and he said something that i'll never forget.
He said, "It's not like i'm going to die and you are not. We're both going to die. I'll just die before you, and that's okay. I'm ready to go now, and you're not, and that's also okay. But accept that one day your life will also be over. I get to choose when my time is, but you might not - so enjoy your life as much as you can, while you can."
Wow! What a great brother and what incredibly wise words. I feel for you and family for your loss, however that sentence was incredibly powerful and meaningful and has really struck a chord with me. Never a truer word spoken. ❤
@@Rusco17 thanks, and yes I'll never forget it. If course, three weeks later when the police knocked on my door to tell me his body had been found, my legs still buckled underneath me and I fell onto the ground - but later what he said did give me comfort, and I know he said it literally to get his little brother ready (as much as possible) for what was coming.
That's a hard conversation that must of broke your heart cause u love someone so much
Read the book death by sadhguru
That’s hitting me hard right now. May he rest in peace and you live in peace .
I lost my mother in January this year at just 55, she had zero symptoms so to learn she had stage 4 lung cancer was beyond a shock. I'm an only child and my parents was all I had as a kid... She caught COVID whilst receiving radio therapy and died a month later. Seeing her weakened state crushes me to this day, my mother had so much love and so much life left to live having only becoming a grandmother 2 years prior. It angered me so much that she was taken in such a way, a week before she died she grabbed me as tight as she could and said she loves me more than I'll ever know, that she is so proud of me and that I'm a great father.
I think about her every single day and would give anything to feel her hug me just one more time.
She took the vaccine I presume ?
Very sorry for your loss….I lost my dad to Covid in 2020
We will see them one day
I do believe that !!!
🙏🏻
I’m so sorry. This world and its creator are very cruel
@@talksick508He died of Somthing Else, a friend of me died in a car acident, and one his dead afirming Was writen covid.
@@ShabanAjeti sorry for your loss :(
Dr Peterson … my Father called me to the nursing home to tell me he was tired and wanted to go home to the Lord. Two weeks later he died. Dad just stopped eating and drinking. I was holding his hand reading scripture when he started to slip away. I held his hand as he died… but I got to tell him how much I loved him and how great a dad he had been. He squeezed my hand and was gone …. I know were my dad is .. but I still miss him … but know I’ll see him again.
That's alot better than my experience . I told my Dad shortly before he died that he was not a good father . He got real angry . I could care less
That's very nice; maybe it would fit for a Walt Dysney movie. In my case, similar to the reply before this, I regret not having been next to my father when he was dying because I have a bunch of stuff in my throat that didn't let go then. And it would have sounded horrible. But he did a lot of harm to my mother and to me. That would have been his punishment, to give him a piece of my mind: but like said, I wasn't there to tell him: "Hell is waiting for you,, daddy. Screw you."
No u DONT KNOW YOU WILL SEE HIM AGAIN, YOU BELIEVE YOU WILL U HOPE U HAVE FAITH BUT NO ONE KNOWS AND ITS VERY LIKELY DEATH IS JUST NOT EXISTENCE JUST LIKE U DONT HAVE ANY MEMORIES OF EXISTENCE BEFORE U WHERE BORN IT U LIKELY THERE WILL BE ANYTHING AFTER WE DIE. YES I TRY TO BELIEVE N HAVE FAITH IN GOD N EVERYTHING BUT TOO LIE TO MYSELF N OTHERS N SAY I KNOW NO I WONT DO THAT
Learned from these replies to never share an intimate moment about the death of a loved one with a bunch of bitterly cynical and non empathetic atheist vampires on the internet. Woof you guys are repressed. This person actually cared about their father and witnessed them pass on, how bout show some class and respect. Don’t punish someone for loving their father because you don’t like yours. Keep it to yourselves. Not everyone’s father was horrible and perhaps it isn’t you’re duty to “punish” people. All you can do is try not to repeat their mistakes if you have kids by treating you’re children better than you were
@MeshKingVideos I'm sorry I wasn't not at all meaning too you. I was commenting on the speaker in the video. Saying that ppl only feared death because of not living a full life. Not in any way to you or your father so sorry.
The comments here make me cry AND smile. I held my 95 year old dad's hands as he passed... I did it from 10 in the morning till 6:42pm when he passed. I told him I loved him, that I will take care of mom, that my brother (who had passed suddenly seven years ago -- my parents' only son and my only sibling) was waiting for him... my dad squeezed my hands many times, looked right into my eyes throughout that day... he could not speak, and had difficulty breathing... but I knew he knew what was happening, and he wanted to die knowing that he was leaving mom in my hands. The seven years I spent with him and mom... after my brother passed... brought him and me very, very close together. He and my brother were always close and while he and I were close, we weren't emotionally as close as he and my brother were. Those seven years mended that gap and closed the distance between us. So in some way my brother did that for us. I will be forever grateful for having been able to "give our dad" to my brother. I consider it a privilege and a blessing. I believe that I will be blessed if I can do it for my mother who I feel does not have long to live. I will miss them all deeply... and I never will forget what being part of this family has meant to me.
So nice of you to wish that. Not many people feel connected to their family members, I hope you live a long life❤
I’m 45 and I lost both my parents to cancer
My mum in 2009 to bone cancer she was 53 & my father in May 2022 to stomach cancer..he was 70.
I looked after my Dad in his final six months and it’s had a very profound & deep impact on me…it’s completely altered my perspective on life & death.
Everyday I wake up loving being alive and being grateful for everything..the birds,the weather..all the little things that make life so magical & amazing & if I have setbacks I just take them on the chin & move on..I feel like I have my Dad by my side still guiding me ✌🏾
ABSOLUTELY YOU DO!!! 🙏 ❤
That's a great testimony.
Well done.
I was afraid of death. Until I lost my younger brother unexpectedly in 2021. We were so close and I feel his presence so much, I know I will get to see him again one day . R.I.P hermanito🤍 E.C.F
Sorry to hear that
I'm so sorry. How old was he? How old are you? You no longer fear death because you believe you will get to see him again on the other side?
My friend was killed in a car crash last week aged 32 along with two other men (aged 36 and 21). That's rough. But I am 49 and I think my friend probably squeezed more into his short life than I have so far, probably more than I ever will. Rest in peace, Jonny.
I can relate, brother. RIP Jonny.
Sorry for your loss, may they maybe find friends with mine who are gone as well.
Sorry for your loss❤
LISTEN TO ME MATE...
1. Sorry for your loss, My condolences
2. I'm also 49
3. My friend also died in a car crash.
He was 18 though and so was i at the time
I can tell you this much , when it happens at 18 it's a lot more tragic.
when he is 18 it's tragic, when you are 18 and going through it it's a lot harder.
32 is still young but 32 is a good age as well , and you are 49 and more eqipped to deal with it.
Take it a day at a time mate, Just remember him always, that's what i've always done for my mate , we remember them and they remain our mates forever.
death doesn't kill friendship, it only takes life
Jonny sounded like a cool bloke, May he rest in peace and may you get through it ok
A lot of my friends died younger than me. It does not seem right, I know. Peace be with you friend.
My father told me when he was dying that he wasn't afraid of death, he said he can't wait. This gave me strength and now I'm not afraid of death, I welcome it.
Depends if you opt out peacefully .
@@phillylarkin.s1930 painkillers
Ya know my dad said the same thing. Of course suffering on dialysis for almost 3 years at 91 maybe was enough for him to say that. But, if you believe the Truth Jesus Christ spoke on eternity, and I do, then what's to be afraid of?
do you think that there is an afterlife
Bring it!
Hello everyone! I have worked with hospice patients, I have vigil sat holding ones hand while a person was transitioning from this life to the next, I have seen and heard many things that would indicate to me that there is a place beyond the place we are currently at. I'm not an expert on this topic none of us are due to this is the only place at this point that we truly are aware of. My advice to all of you is LIVE! for you will go on to somewhere else, but it won't be a minute before your time. And as far as the 57yr old, good for you for stating your truth and how gratified you are.
I was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer two years ago. Currently, my kids are 8 and 12. The hardest thing about dying is leaving my kids behind. Hopefully I won’t go until they are in their 20s and moving on with their lives but it’s a real possibility I might not survive some of the treatments I have to go through.
I’m ok with dying. I’m kinda looking forward to it. I believe in an afterlife and I think it’s going to be great. I don’t have to worry about the tragedies of humanity anymore.
But leaving my children behind is hard. Being sick and not being able to be a mom that is emotionally available to meet their needs until I pass is hard. My children and I won’t have a lifetime together to fight and create boundaries and grow from parent and child to friends. That’s the hardest thing about dying. It’s the people I have to leave behind.
Praying for your complete healing 🙏🏼
Damn , I made it to see them grow (currently 22 and 24)
It saddens me for you . Hopefully there is at least good support for them when you go 🙏❤
I have a friend who was diagnosed with breast cancer that metastasized, she was given 18 months to live, that was 14years ago and she is still with us. My own spouse has cancer, stage 4 metastatic prostate cancer to be exact, oh by the way I'm a woman using my husband's account which he doesn't mind me doing. His oncologist is amazed as to how well he looks and is . He has been at the metastatic level for almost 6 years now and like my friend he is still going strong. A little fatigue here and there but no big deal. Most of the time he is pouncing around the kitchen listening to Elvis while eating a fist full of blueberries and raspberries or sneaking his beloved chocolate biscuits which he doesn't think I'm aware of.
Let me tell you this if I may. Just do what needs to be done medically, and watch your diet, doctors never look at that and they should. Try and reduce or even eliminate meat and dairy products as much as you can, in addition to sugar intake as well, because cancer loves those inflammatory foods. You don't have to be completely vegan. Just increase your plant-based foods which in turn increase your fibre. High fibre foods are very important in cancer patients. Above all don't worry, don't fret it, don't sweat it. keep a positive attitude, that is vital. Both my friend and husband are silly clowns . LOL ... truly. There is a lot of laughter that goes on with family and friends here.
Please be encouraged, and finally trust God. It's he that delivers the final report, not the medicos, that has been my experience in life. Take care and God bless you dear, you will be in my prayers. Cheers.
Belief in Allah as he is the most merciful.
YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT'S AROUND THE CORNER...STAY STRONG AND GOD BLESS (YOU ARE NOT YOUR BODY) 🫵😠 REMEMBER THAT!
I was at the bedside of my best friend when he died a year ago. I would describe his emotional state as "joyful anticipation". I've never seen anything like it. He was experiencing something that was beyond my understanding.
One should part from life as Ulysses parted from Nausicaa-- blessing it rather than in love with it.
It's because this life isn't really real; we are energy in darkness, and move to another dimension after this Earth walk. NDE here.
God speed 🙏
Your friend was happy to meet God, he was excited to enter paradise 🙏🏻
There’s a great book called, TELLOS, The Scientific Basis for a Life of Purpose. By: Stephen J. Iacoboni, MD
He shares a Powerful story, very similar to your friend.
Thanks for that share.
I held the hand of both my parents while they were dying 18 months apart.....I whispered into their ear how much I loved them, they both were unconscious, but still squeezed my hand RIP ✝️✝️✝️ My love for you both goes beyond time itself
that is sad for them because if they did that they didnt want to leave you, the bond we can have with those we care for who we see as vulnerable like children or small animals is one of the strongest emotions in nature
@@jamesirvine9493I politely disagree, the pressure felt on your hand is them letting you know they are ok and returning their love towards you.😊
@@Saxondog it isnt much different from what i said except i described the emotion as being primal and deeply ingrained in all animals for a set period of time, i.e. animals only care for young for so long but humans can carry that bond on a lot longer like the bond between a dog and its master
I too experienced that hand squeeze. My Grandmother wasn't able to talk and was heavily sedated but was able to squeeze my hand in her final moments as I told her I loved her .
@@jamesirvine9493 You are making unbased assumptions. Move on, son.
When my mum was in a hospice with bad cancer just days before she died we sat outside and chatted about things I wanted to ask and put strait, she said one thing to me which was quite amazing even though she knew death was imminent, she said don't be afraid of dying don't be scared. Those words have eased my fear of the inevitable also being at her bedside with her at the end. The music she chose at her funeral was the kinks, thank you for the days
I had a similar interaction with my mother. Besides giving me life, it was the greatest gift she ever gave me.
It’s day to day. Ten years ago my wife died aged 53. Her parting words were don’t waste the rest of your life.
I lost my wife on 8.24.19. She died of chronic alcohol abuse. It was JPB (thank you sir) whose explanations of meaning and suffering helped me get up everyday and keep going. But my fear of death died with her. Not that I welcome it either, but everything changed that day.
May I ask how old was she?
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m trying to quit.
That’s really sad. For people that have crossed the line into addiction in order to stop they need to hit that point where they look in the mirror and are disgusted with what they’re doing and truly see it. At that point your brain won’t let you even get close to that point again, because it will make you nauseous even thinking about getting too drunk. You’ll still be able to drink, but you’ll not want to go too far.
Hope you are doing ok. I have lost people too, and to be honest, we never "get over it", we just learn to live with it and that thing I really admire about human beings.
Thank you 🙏 I hope you're doing ok?
When my mother passed a year ago I couldn’t leave her until they finally took her by ambulance two hours later. She struggled with brain cancer and tumor for the last 10 years and aged incredibly during that time. Yet in death she looked younger than I had seen her in years. I’ll miss her every day until I pass
She will be there to greet you.
RIP to your mom
Im so sorry for your greif.
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I have stage 4 stomach cancer. Your podcast with Theo von about cancer really hit me. It taught me how to take a bad situation and making it a good thing. Thanks Jordan Peterson ❤️
Sorry to hear this, life can be devastating
One word: Macrobiotics.
He is great isn’t he :) (JP) I’m no doctor. But I would watch a video of Dr Eric Berg about good ways to help with the cancer.
Try eating apricot seeds. Research this. Natural remedy.
I'm sorry to hear that.
The hardest i ever cried was when my best true friend died. My dog died and i lost my way for awhile. But realized that it opened the door to help and save another. And he has become my best friend. I will be crushed when ge goes one day. Such a tiny moment in time a second in time. Has such a impact on entire life span. That tiny second in time i will remember for ever. Along with all the memories. It helped me realize that even a hundred years on this realm dont stand for a second. So short. Its ashame we waste it on stupid worries. No matter what situation you are in relize its so little and we should be grateful for the moment. Its only as bad as we think it up to be. Its only time. Enjoy every moment,second. Take care all
I understand you. I've lost a lot of people in my life including my dad who I loved. But when I said goodbye and watched the life leave my doggy Maggie's eyes I've never felt my heart break like that. She greeted me every morning for eight years with love. I miss her so much
I've been a registered nurse for 4 years. I spent my first year as a nurse working in end of life hospice care. That job truly changed my life and how I live my life. Live each day to the fullest. I never heard a single person talking about possessions or money on their death beds. However, they did talk about family, love, and experiences.
I know “House MD” is a show but the main reason I love watching house was how each patient reacting to near death. At that time is when one really show their most inner core. Almost all never mentioned they had wish to work more or be more rich. Some full of regrets of the thing they treat their family and friend or their mistakes.
i work with the elderly and an old timer told me one time..." nothing worse than coming to the end of your life and realize you never lived in the first place" i always remembered that...
My grandmother passed away today. I am comforted by the fact that my grandmother died while unconscious , just as she wished. Her life ended with peace. She lived an eventful life, and she took risks. Everyone reading this, let's take risks to better our lives so then death can take our souls peacefully.
For me my life has not been what I hoped it to be but when my life does come to an end it will actually be a blessing.
Keep your head up mate, I'm struggling myself at the minute, hopefully things get better soon👍
My mother died of cancer at 42. My son was senselessly murdered at 24. I’ve had cancer twice, the 2nd time recently, and then hit a deer on the highway, and at the hospital because of the crash found pulmonary embolism that should have killed me. I’m still here. I’m a firm believer in when it’s our time to go, nothing can stop it. It’s not my time. I’m glad because I don’t want to leave my other children, but I’m 52. When my time comes, I know it’s just my time and welcome the rest. I just hope it’s at a time that won’t be so difficult for my other children. My heart longs to see my murdered son again some day
😢I’m so sorry you have had to endure so much pain, trauma and loss. I admire your resilience, greatly.
@@lauriedee7862 Thank you 🫶🏽🌷
Someone once said that life is like a box of chocolates.
Blessings
Wow, thanks for sharing. Sometimes we forget life is a struggle and there's always someone else with a harder life than ours. I'm very sorry to hear all that, specially the loss of your son. I pray you find peace and comfort and live a happy rest of your life
I feared death when I was younger (7 years old), so much so, the concept of ageing could bring me to tears, the idea that we grow old, and eventually pass was insurmountable. After losing a parent at a young age, that fear worsened, not only could one die of old age, you could die any day, from something completely out of your control. Then death took much more: friends, grandparents, and father figures. An unfortunate death cluster in my early adult life sent me down a downward spiral of depression, alcoholism, drugs and cynicism.
I had a friend at the time, who I worked with, and studied, who was like a twin-version of me, but with responsibility, work ethic and determination. He reminded me of my former self before depression and substance abuse. He was doing everything right and had everything going for him. He passed his studies with the highest honours and launched into the career of my dreams. I fell into the bottle, pills, powders and misery. He was killed in a motorcycle accident at 23 years old. Wiped off the face of the Earth, his life snuffed out seemingly at random.
That day, a light bulb went off on me. He was someone who was doing so well for themselves. He had worked so hard and achieved so much. We can leave the world's stage at any time! I owed it to him, to try as hard as he did, and make the most of this brief dance. Live a full life for the dead who never could. Our time on this wicked stone is fleeting. What use is it to make it more miserable on purpose? Why not, make it playful, for us and those around us? So we can all enjoy our precious and limited time with each other.
beautifully said sir
What was the career of your dreams?
Beautifully said and very true
That is the best ever I heard. Do it for the dead. Yes. I see my ancestors in the distance who did it for me. Now I must for them. Very glad I stumbled upon you.
@@charlotte8659 Software Engineering
It is not death we are afraid of; it is the potential suffering that leads to death we all dread.
Or, more suffering after death...
I love listening to Jordan. Such wisdom. Incredibly smart, deep thinker, big reader, full of life skills, can talk to anyone. Just amazing
Wisdom ?? where? hahahaha.... read a book or something.
I stopped being afraid of death when I realized that everyone’s coming with me.
I’ll be late I’m always late 😂😂😂
You won't be lonely that's for sure . . . Death is going to get everybody at some point . . . Weather your scared of dieing or not . . . It will get you sooner or later . . . That's the price you pay for life . . . Everybody is born with a birthday and death date . . . And you can't change either one of them dates .
@@jameskox872 that was a cheery read whilst eating my breakfast 😂😂😂
didnt bother me for billions of years before i existed i wasnt sad lonely bored or scared i wont be when im dead forever and ever when i go back to not existing
No one gets out of this experience alive.
I'm not afraid of dying, it's life that terrifies me. It's having to get through all these years that are probably going to be worse than the ones I've already lived
I feel the same. 🙂
True for many
life and death are the same, it's always been eternity
Well put Ian. We like to thing that the best in life is yet to come, but honestly as we get older we feel like the best is behind us because as we age, we typically look worse, we move slower, can’t do the enjoyable things that we once could.
You're right life gets harder and there's no such thing as happiness forever...This life is temporary and the hereafter is eternity.. people are buried alot longer than they were alive..
˹He(Alah) is the One˺ Who created death and life in order to test which of you is best in deeds. And He is the Almighty, All-Forgiving. 67:2
˹He is the One˺ Who created seven heavens, one above the other. You will never see any imperfection in the creation of the Most Compassionate.1 So look again: do you see any flaws?67:3
Read the quran the creator's words and get answers to the purpose of life and why you're created.. Death can be great experience if you are good muslim and terrible experience if you're not muslim and after death it gets worse..
It doesn’t matter if your afraid of dying or not you’re going to die at some point so just enjoy life and don’t worry about it if the is nothing at the end you won’t know anything about it 👍
Best advice I ever got, came from my great grandfather. He said "Live every day like it's going to be your last, cuz someday, you'll be right."
"exhaust yourself in the service of your life" goosebumps. are we scared of death or just by the fact that we won't have the option to do what we wanted to?
Great question
Dimentia eternal time consciousness I had it once on shrooms and it literally feels like forever
@Itachi Uzumaki "Read More!"
" And behold, I tell you these things that ye may learn wisdom; that ye may learn that when ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God.
Behold, ye have called me your king; and if I, whom ye call your king, do labor to serve you, then ought not ye to labor to serve one another? "
Dont be afraid of dying, be afraid of not living, is the message i got from him
Ever since I was given a near death experience in 1979 I have not been afraid of death. In fact, I am actually happy that I will eventually return Home. ❤️
I wonder if the reason we are not generally given this insight to the 'hereafter' is because if we knew it was all going to be wonderful then we'd either not take care of ourselves and one another, or we'd fail to try and learn the lessons we've been sent here to learn.
Where is home? Are you sure?
❤
Same here! Died twice from blood clots in my heart. Heaven is real and no words can describe it. It's all real. I feel the exact same way. Can't wait to get back... we just gotta keep on the right path to make it back.
Wow the first time someone had the same experience. I was 6 and had a near death experience in 1977 and I have no fear of death also, I never questioned the exitance of God either.
More troubling than the prospect of death is the possibility that we will be forced to keep coming back, again-and-again, until we "get it right," i.e., learn what we need to learn in a spiritual sense through the physical existence.
well they say you should reject a life review. so you cant plan your next life.
I will be 63 in less than two months. I've been here long enough. If I die, I'll be fine with that. There's nothing else I feel that I need to do. Other than, enjoy my time with the people I love.
But there's SOMETHING that God still needs you to do. You'll die when God's work for you is finished. Enjoy the time God has given you. Blessings!
@@TheRapnep you're barking up the wrong. Go preach in a church, I'm not interested in your mythology.
@@TheRapnepok buddy.. the creator needs a meat puppet to fulfill his master plan... When did humans become so delusional?
I'm not afraid of dying. I'm afraid of going through pain before I die.
Same......good observation.👍
yea, im afraid of the terror and pain of a tragic death. In many cases I imagine that death is a relief. in the very moment I mean. Just letting go of the last bit of fear and anxiety
Not many people die in a lot of pain nowadays. Delirium is what I don't want.
@Mr. E No such thing as a white person, white is white, you are not white, ur a person of colour, do you go around calling yourself a cueball from being white!! Did you come out of the womb looking like a wet white tic tac ??? The same goes for other races, its a weapon to divide! White and black is a weapon!!! We are ALL poc!!
There is no colour in the spiritual. It is a sin problem not a skin problem. Repent because there is no racist in heaven. Also Jesus is not white.
My sister passed at age 71 from Parkinson’s disease a couple week ago. I had to say good-bye and started crying, she told me to stop crying. She was at peace with the situation.
Damn, sorry for your loss brother.
She fortunately lived a very long life and sounds as though she was happy with what she completed. Thank you for being a great sister to her.
there's no death, use quote to find this on youtube
“Life After Death Experience (NDE) with Steve Gardipee, Vietnam War Story”
“Doctor Struck By Lightning; Learns The Secret Of Creation And Consciousness (NDE)”
“Famous Cardiac Surgeon's Stories of Near Death Experiences in Surgery”
“Lawyer Encounters Near Death Experience”
Everyday remember you that you deserve peace forever, during this life and afterlife, And that is how it is going to be!❤🕊️
I am 36 and with the state of the world right now I am more afraid of living for a very long time than I am of dying.
You say that cause you're young and healthy. Don't waste your life, live a long fulfilling life.
Likewise, and I am 41. It has nothing to do with how young you seem to be, it has everything to do with the interconnected systems of what we all know as a collective, breaking down, collapsing, or fueling greed and needless wars
@@huracan200173 Do you understand what is going on in the world ?
That's because you're delusional. The state of the world now, is better than ever, factually. Be glad you don't have a real reason to hate life.
I used to be afraid of death, but not anymore. I went into cardiac arrest and died in April. I was in my grandmas arms again when it happened. I could smell her perfume! She’s been gone for 12 years. I know what’s waiting for me now, so death isn’t scary at all. Life is the scary part.
From what I've heard is that just before you die, your brain releases all the endorphins and other hormones at once and that that is how you get the famous "life flashed before my eyes".
What a beautiful comment. I too long for the comfort of relatives that have passed. Including my own mother. She died when I was just 4.
Can you please explain more? Did you feel it like a dream or more let's say real ?
You didn’t die, it was just an hallucination.
Eh there's subconscious aversion to death that's impossible to scrub without brain damage. But I suppose one can calm the conscious fear of death by thinking.
I always love how cautious and considerate JP is when asked a tough ass question like this. You can really feel that he is giving his full attention to it, and displays great empathy when asked about topics that we all struggle with.
Dear Professor, wise good comments, thank you. Some of the best thoughts I have ever heard. Very helpful.
I love this absolutely classic Canyon Spenny having their arguments just like old times. Absolutely amazing and even better.
I lost my dad recently. He had survived radical cancer surgery a few years ago, then had a bad fall one day that left him paralyzed. As his body was failing him, he was in constant pain he told me right before his death that he always feared death, but he is embracing it now because if you live long enough, living becomes harder than dying. He had gotten all of the mileage he could out of his body. He lived a very full life and accomplished a lot during his 82 years on the planet.
Only comparing it to dire health situations doesn’t really answer this question. If he had been healthier at that age maybe he would have wanted to live. His embracing death is the release from that pain not life.
Just like the late Jack LaLanne used to say, "dying is easy, living is a pain in the butt"
Here are some of my key thoughts on the subject of death:
(1) It's going to happen no matter what so it's better to just accept it instead of going against the grain, etc.
(2) It happens to EVERYONE, no exceptions, so it's not like any of us are going to get left out in the cold while everyone else is inside having a good time.
(3) What would the alternative be anyway? Life lasting forever? For any number of reasons, I'm not so sure I'd even want that.
No matter what you did in life or not your body tells you when is ready to turn the lights off and you accept because death now is your best friend.
Death is not your best friend. But death is already defeated only through JESUS CHRIST.
JESUS CHRIST is the resurrection
My father died from lung cancer two months ago. I was working on my PhD dissertation when he was hospitalized. There are just my father and me in the family, but because I'm gay my father and I are not close. Few weeks before his passing, while I was working on the conclusion chapter, my father asked me to come to his bed and said he's grateful for having a son like me and that he's sorry for not taking his son as the way he is. All his friends told me that my father is very proud of me. But it's strange that I seldom got to hear this from him. I am glad that he witnessed the moment when I passed the oral defense and got my doctoral degree. He told the doctor and all the nurses that his son is a brilliant PhD who comes to the hospital and takes care of him everyday. It's a complex father-son relationship, but I will always remember the light that he brought into my life.
For me it's not about the death itself but how I die that concerns me. Death is sad, even if you're ready to go. I'm currently looking after my father who is 86, my mother passed away 8 years ago at 86, she didn't want to go she loved life and voiced this to a doctor a month before she passed. It seems cruel to build these bonds with people around us with the knowledge one day they will be a stranger to us, disappear like a spec of dust in the wind. It's difficult to find the meaning in that.
The Holy Scriptures are the main thing that can give us meaning to the tragedy’s of life. Then, they give us joy and internal and eternal peace🌹
It’s about the journey- we are spirits passing through in an earthly body.
You are very perceptive. Loving bonds between people are what makes life rich and what makes death--the loss of those bonds--sad no matter the circumstances. I'd like to suggest another way of approaching death that redeems the sadness of it: from a Christian perspective.
One human broke the death barrier that we all face: Jesus. Eyewitness accounts of his life, death, and resurrection exist today in the four Gospels. Jesus offers an amazing promise--that one day he will reunite our eternal souls with new physical bodies, and all who love him will live with him for eternity. But don't take my word for it! The Gospel of John is a great place to discover that for yourself.
I cannot even imagine living another 30 plus years . I am 52 and just hope when i go its quick and not too painful .
@@KW-es2bz Tragedies.
'When you are afraid of dying, consider how you are living'. Awesome wisdom from Jordan
Damn - I gotta stop eating shit and more - or I’ll see and early grave
why dosent idiot Peterson ask, why he is afraid of dying?
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day??
As if he's living the exemplary life.
@@maryberon4193don’t think he claimed that
Death is like falling asleep ,you didn't know you were asleep until you woke up
One of the things that distinguishes Jordan Peterson from so many other public intellectuals is he doesn’t pretend to have answers for everything and actually is willing to think with people rather than just talk at them. ❤
True
unless of course youre a "coltyoural morxist"
Thats absurd! If he doesn’t specify the answer he eludes to it! This is his appeal to the weak minded! His most appealing attribute is having answers for the simple minded religious zealots looking for affirmation!
@@bubbafatas2588 "Simple-minded religious zealots" such as evangelistic atheists that have knocked on my door, trying to get me to quit going to church? (I need to meet with THEM instead, they say. It's not church. It's a meeting where they mock religion. Totally different.)
I think it's safe to say, you're missing something.
seriously? He had no answer and babbled nonsense for 5 minutes. He's not an intellectual in my book. He's a joke.
Everything I learned about preparing to die I learned from my wonderful mother. When my time comes I will face my final transition , hopefully, with the same class and grace that she did it.
I love you, Mother. I will see you again.....
I had cancer last year and was worried I was going to die . I remember telling myself that I wouldn’t change a thing .
Its comforting to think there is somthing better than life
I am 74 and I am not afraid to die. My belief in Jesus and forever life with Him is very important! Thank you Dr Peterson!❤
If that helps you cope with death then fair enough, but ultimately it's a fairytale. Edit: I know this was harsh. I understand the concept of Christ as an archetype but I just feel that the average Christian perspective and interpretation is very naive.
Only His light is warm enough to desire death
@@frankschrodinger1424 Ooh, you make such compelling arguments! Now, I am convinced more than ever that it's all just a fairytale 😆😜
@@DonaldPierce-ii1ks all the Christians routinely performing miracles as impressive as Jesus did is all the proof you need. You can't go to a church without falling over healed cripples.
@@frankschrodinger1424 Frank, quite frankly, you’re a silly goose. I hope for the sake of your eternity that you don’t stay that way.
You have been alive for thousands of years. In Various forms. Still the same energy. When our Mother died in 1978 of Cancer at age 46, she went through every cell of me. From 40 miles away. Woke me from a sound sleep, and gave me the most peaceful feeling I’ve ever experienced. The phone rang within a couple minutes. It was dad calling to tell me her suffering had ended. But I already knew. I haven’t feared Death from that moment 7:35 am Sunday Sept 17th 1978.
Lovely thing to say ❤
Beautifully stated. You have reached a wisdom most of us search for our entire lives.
My brother commited suicide. I was four time-zones away. At the precise moment of his death, adding in the time difference, I awoke strangely knowing something of importance had just happend. I was able to comfort my Mother later with the fact that the feeling I felt then was not 'bad', just that it occured. I know in my heart that we are all 'connected' by Love.
@@rockwellrhodes7703 I learned later that day of my brother's suicide by the RCMP knocking on my door to phone home and that someone had passed, I did not get a phone call. I called my parents. Regardless, why would I not be open to the idea of something/Power/whatever loving me and able to guide me? I can not believe that my own ideas/and being are all that there is to life and when I die, it's all over? Can I be that egotistic? Since opening my mind even to the possibility of this, I started to see miracles and incredible coincidences that could not be possible. Over time, my belief strengthened and now, I have found a lovely serenity that I wish everyone could have. Oh, at times my ego still wavers and this serenity webs and flows but, I am my own evidence and I know it is always with me.
Rockwell Rhodes...this 'Power of Good' is something personal to me and I believe everyone has to find their own definition of it. Therefore, all the 'Loving' religions work (although I had to tweek some of the unloving features and ancient silliness out of mine.
On the 13th of December at about 3:10pm my dearest Dog, Holly died after 14 years of love and joy. I was right there with her until the end. I held her in my arms as they administered the injection and it was something that has deeply affected me. To be there and whispering in her ear "it's okay and everything will be alright" was something that I just did. I felt her warmth enter into my body and it was indescribable but something I will never forget. I have tossed and turned for the last few days about what it might have been like for her in those final moments, but she had a diminished future, starving with ribs showing and I have found it so hard. It is the deepest pain I can imagine.
Sending heartfelt condolences to you 😢, our dogs are our family too, having done the same as you twice I also felt such comfort that our precious girls died in our arms when receiving their injection one of them on her favourite couch at home. It is heartbreaking, people who don’t have 4 legged family don’t comprehend or have benefited from that constant unconditional love and joy. Time will ease your pain a little and now we openly giggle at all the fun things we did together. I’m sure your dog was so loved and knew that, take comfort, sending you hugs from Scotland. 😂🏴🇬🇧
Bless you@@Diana-007 that means a lot to me and I am grateful for you having told me your story. I do admit that it is easier, it is almost scary how much better I feel but as you say time will continue to heal and you begin to forget. I love dogs so much but I am honouring Holly's life before I even dream of thinking about getting another. Take care.
You're talking about a dog right😅 isn't this video about expressing yourself as a human who's afraid to die😮 these mutts don't have feelings like we do😅 I mean come on it's a dog😅 hahaha hahaha
God bless you. I lost the 'dog of my life' last May, and it destroyed any happiness I had in life. Now I take comfort knowing I shall see her again, and it won't be that long. I know exactly how you are feeling.
@XxKINGatLIFExX The greatest honour you can do Holly is to give another dog a happy life. Don't waste the love you have to give. Holly will watch you, and be pleased that she can run off for a while and enjoy all heaven has to offer, and need not worry about you as much.
Dr. Jordan Peterson 's take on this delicate subject is always interesting but comforting!!!
I recently had a doctor stand at the end of my hospital bed and say, “You have Stage IV esophageal adenocarcinoma. It can be treated, but not cured.” Another oncologist told me, “typically; 3 months. Get your affairs in order.” Over the next three months we did this, as a family, who were magnificent during this ordeal. In other words, we all faced mortality while my husband and three daughters were amazing and did outstanding things.
Actually, that was nearly three years ago, and it is apparent that there has been a miracle. Last year an MRI showed “no signs of metastases”.
My reaction? Disappointment. I was looking forward to waking up in Glory. Instead I get to watch my country and my culture and my society fall into terminal decline. Short of Divine intervention, I see no hope whatever for a good future for my children and grandchildren in Canada, or anywhere else .
PS. I am now 84.
Thank you for your humor
There is hope but it can only be found in Jesus, He will return and there will one day be a beautiful new heaven and a new Earth for all who's name is written in the Lamb's book of life.
Bless you , I hope it stays that way and you live another 20 years or more , if not I hope you know Christ .
Amen
Maybe the terminal decline of your country and culture is not going to follow that prognosis either, it may look that way due to the shifting landscapes, but human cultures and that of your native land is always in flux, there's not been a time that it wasn't changing.
Enjoy your third act to the utmost, Grace
_"whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should."_
Since I lost my beautiful kind selfless mother last year I no longer am afraid of dying. I truly wish I am able to meet her once my time is over.
You will❤
The only thing about death one should fear is when it happens to someone we love and the grief we will suffer through. Our own death is nothing to fear as we won't experience it.
One of the great thinkers and communicators of our time, and mthanks to TH-cam
I love the way Betty White put it when asked if she was afraid of death. She said “No, because if there is an afterlife and Heaven it’s going to be fantastic and I will be happy and if there isn’t I won’t know it so there’s nothing to be afraid of.”
Well, there's not only heaven...there's also hell. So many people talk about heaven, but where did they hear about heaven? The Bible is the source of the knowledge of heaven and along with that is the knowledge of hell. Where a person ends up when they die is also revealed in the Bible and for sure, according to the Bible, MOST will not get to heaven.
@@pierrefourie1786 I don’t think it’s up to you to determine whether or not an individual is going to get into Heaven. You make a lot of assumptions as to what others believe or don’t believe simply because they don’t mention it. In short, mind your own business.
@@Gemmarose9012they act as though they're the liason for heaven and hell.
@@pierrefourie1786 there is no place of eternal torment, if you believe in a loving and just God.
@@pierrefourie1786hell is only on earth. Nobody came back to this place.
"If you are afraid of Death, take a look at how you are Living"...no truer words have been spoken!
I lost my wife to cancer at 33. Toward the end she said 'ive had a good life but will miss seeing our children (we had / have 2) grow up."
Im 66 now and have had the joy of seeing them grow up. That's a blessing i think of often.
😢
In all my time online…Hope others in your part of this trip find you so can relate…Everyone on the planet is with you as we will all be where you are soon enough.🔥
I wasn't afraid of dying until my mom passed away suddenly on December 25th 2022. She died in hospital in tremendous pain and this changed everything for meDespite the fact that I called the doctor and they repeatedly gave her meds, she suffered full blown 1 1/2 days .. I am not afraid of death but dying like that is inhuman and it broke my heart. I couldn't do anything to ease the pain, but hold her hand the whole time and called the doctors repeatedly. Something is seriously wrong with hospital policy in Germany, man. Every animal of mine got a faster and smoother transition over the rainbow bridge, once it's clear that there's no cure...
It's not just in Germany but in the US too. My father passed about a year ago from today and he suffered about 4 months. They tossed him back and forth between the ICU and the main hospital rooms. Started with a hernia surgery to remove ruptured mesh, then he contacted Covid in a regular hospital room, then surviving that it became mismanagement of his medications, then finally kidney dialysis which put him on life support. He suffered enough and he was a fighter throughout all those years. Recently lost my dog of 16 years but I think deep down inside they are reunited in a better place. It just sucks for the living that have to live with the scars.
That is sad. In the US we have the option of going on a hospice program. It does not facilitate death, nor does it prevent it...just makes the process less painful. Both my parents opted for this (you need to be on a DNR order, however - and that may not be for everyone); both had the pleasure of dying in their home, as they wanted.
The hospitals only care about the money not the patients…… Only reason to string somebody out that long if they are terminal , in my opinion.
@@LostNspace94 That's why you need a DNR directive. The medical industry (at least in the States) is to save lives - by any means possible. Often times families make the situation worse by not making a decision in advance. With a DNR in place before an event happens, it unties the doctors hands. As for 'the money', I don't know how they stay in business. I was in the hospital for a week - on my death bed - with round the clock care. The total bill was over $75k; I paid my $1500 deductible. My insurance company somehow negotiated their sweet heart deal: $7,000. Less than $10k for all the people running in and out of my room - for 8 days. The hospital didn't even break even, IMO.
@katja6332 Same here… I lost my mom 6/14/22. She had full blown dementia. The pain she was in was scary. She had no voice in the end and her eyes let me knew the pain she was in. I felt so helpless. I miss her so much 😢.
I'm not afraid of death, I'm afraid to not be able to grasp every single beauty of life before death.
Same
What I ❤ about @jordan is he is so spot on and is not fearful from speaking. I very much relate to this video and the contents therein. Many thanks for what you say, and for your steadfastness in word. 🤗
People aren't afraid of dying. As my 95 year old mother in law put it, "I just want to wake up dead!" It's the PROCESS of dying that scares people. The long, drawn out illness. The lying in bed for weeks or months knowing. The pain. The sadness in the faces of loved ones.
yup, you nailed it. Just not waking up would be ideal if you could choose how you'd like to exit.
Watching my mum slowly dying of stage 4 colon cancer has absolutely scared me for life. But when she was still vocal & not under heavy pain sedation. You could tell she'd just had enough of life and the fight. You could see she was ready to go.
Even at the age of what you could say young age of 67.
I’m a 67 year old mother/grandmother and not afraid to die, my only fear is to die alone or in pain. I look forward to the day I can meet up with my family and friends that have gone before me. However, I do worry about my children and grandchildren because this world is not the same one I grew up in. I hate the fact that my children didn’t grow up with family like I did. Everyone is so distant and move far away these days, some don’t even want to live among relatives. I wish families lived close together or even in the same house. I hate being alone and do not enjoy the empty nest syndrome. I pray to God that my children are happy, healthy, and live good lives so I can die in peace. I hope they don’t mourn me for very long, keep in touch and help one another, and realise love is what’s important not money. I’m sorry for the rant, but money truly is the root of all evil. I believe in life after death.
and if there is nothing after death, we wont know it so there is no suffering there.
Im a 61 year old Australian. What you are saying is so true. I too worry about my kids and grandkids. The world is not like it was when i was growing up. My beautiful wife of 40 years today and belief in God keeps hope in my heart.
I myself have married into a large, happy family which holds 12 children under 12, and my own due Aug 1st. The 'big happy family' DOES still exist. If anything, rest knowing folks do still experience this. It is just not as common as one would hope. God Bless
How do you know you will meet them? Has anybody told you that you will be more than bones and dust? I have been searching for this answear all my life. Schopenhauer said: " the only world I know is the one I see when I open the window of my room every morning".
Point final; à la ligne_ as the french say.
They most likely are not life after death but even if it's not we will t be hurting
I am epileptic and in Nov. 2018 my ordeal began. This will seem perverse at first, but I am GRATEFUL for the experience. I am grateful because it presented me the opportunity to assess my life thus far and make adjustments whilst I am still capable.
I was raking leaves in my front yard and suddenly I saw a bright white flash of light as every muscle in my body contracted at once. As gravity pulled me to Earth, my skull struck my driveway HARD, causing traumatic brain injury.
After more than five (5) years, I am still living in a Skilled Nursing Facility. I have had A Lot of time to consider how I have spent my life. My only regret is that I spent too much of my time working to make other men wealthy who did NOT appreciate my sacrifices.
If I were born just a few decades earlier, before the advancements in Neurosurgery which saved my life, I would NOT be here.
Every day is a "Gift from God," and I know that it would be a sin to waste it. Therefore, I rise every morning at 4:00 am to rehearse my piano. After that, on M, W & F, I exercise, so that I will live as long as I can in a body that is capable of doing all that I want to do.
I have "found Jesus" and pray a few times per day (usually before meals and retiring.) I participate in a weekly "Bible Study" group and will begin "shepherding" it soon.
I am converting from Roman Catholicism to a religion that "speaks to me," "Lutheranism."
Although I am NOT afraid to die, as I believe that it will mean living eternally in Heaven with Jesus and all of my God-fearing (Christian & Jewish) friends and relatives, I am certainly in no HURRY for that to happen. I appreciate the beauty of this Earth that God created for us, and I LOVE it very much! 🥰
Everyone dies, its just a matter when is it your turn. You can't stop it, so its best to except it and enjoy what time you have left.
Accept it.
My father died at 49, he fell severely ill and only lasted a few months. My family regard his sudden way of passing a horrible thing myself included, but I always kept in mind that I know for a fact, he did live very intensely and by his own rules. To this day, 11 years later, knowing this still makes me feel grateful for the full life he got to live and the father I had. This video marks that to be true.
my father died at 56, 14 years ago. We were dealt a shit hand at life to have to traverse life without our fathers' guidance at such a young age. The fact you are here tells me that you are going to be a good man in spite AND despite your tragedy. Godspeed friend.
In a couple of years I will have lived two of my dad’s lifetimes. It’s sad to think of what all he missed & how blessed I am.
He was 42 😢
@@italianmiltyfriedman6264 That's a very kind thing to say, I hope you're right.
My faith allows me to not just be at peace but to welcome it. This world is a tough place...
World is definitely a tough place, but I hope you've met some people who can help you make it less tough.
I'm with you on most days. If the nukes started flying tonight, I would smile and pop a beer.
Is your faith based on tangible reason?
It is my utter conviction that my village soccer team will win the Champions League next season. That belief sustains me day by day in a tough world and brings me great comfort. I don't mean to disrespect your faith but we should never conflate what we deeply believe for whatever reason and that which is true, which requires evidence.
faith is a delusion
As for death and what it’s like I often say ‘can you remember what it was like before you were born?’ Well, I believe that is death. No thoughts, no worries, just eternal peace and oblivion.
I'm not afraid of dying. I'm afraid of leaving a mess for someone else to have to deal with
My wife passed at 47, just last July. She was seriously ill for a long time fought the idea of dying, but she eventually she got to the point of saying she had had enough and asked for permission to go. She left us a week later. Eventually you come to terms with it and accept it. I think that's a consequence more of running out of fight. You acknowledge it's a losing battle and inevitable and you accept it. Being scared of it is good, because you know you have things to live for .... or the will to live is greater than the will to give up.
I've had stage IV cancer for almost 6 and a half years. I get tired of this fight, but I promised my kids I would continue the fight, since they were only 11 and 14 when I was diagnosed.
@@madmarlowe1422 Much love
People only stop wanting to live when life gets painful. If you are happy, healthy and content, you will not want to die.
@@jimj2683 Kind of agree. We're not really talking about suicide. I apologise if I take your inference the wrong way, but you gave two ends of a broad spectrum. On the fundamentals of your statement I do agree. People survive on pure will to live even though many of those people will pass eventually regardless of the fight in them. I witnessed it.
We all die eventually. It's actually kind of comforting when you think about it. We all lose loved ones. Every single one of us has to go through it. One day we will be the one to go. Nothing stays the same. It's a constant change.
My father is dying of mesothelioma cancer (asbestos on the lungs). He has had a full and active life. Everyone that meets him really loves him and enjoys his witty company. He's worked as hard as at least two men in a manual job that caused this horrible disease. He has given his family everything. As I write this, the tears are soaking my cheeks. I'll miss him like hell, but thanks for this Jordan. It's comforting. God bless you and your family.
I can understand your pain Katherine...I too lost my dad..pain unbearable...God us wd us...trust him..we too will be there one day..
I told my husband. Let me say my goodbyes, then hook me up to a morphine pump. I just don't want to suffer.
But I have heard people say at the end there is no pain, just a rush of endorphins. IDK.
@@knitwit7082 I am praying for you
My Dad also died from Mesothelioma. This was in 2008. He was taking chemo and doing well ( I thought) and he decided to stop the chemo. I was so naive that I didn't realize that he was pronouncing his own death sentence. He passed away; in peace; in hospice. He smiled, at the end. I've been with two other people; since then; who died. My Dad's death was the most peaceful. It was like he just gave up and passed into another existence. I do wish I hadn't been so naive and that mabe I should have asked him to stay with us and not stop his chemo.
Shalom my dear!
I’m not afraid of dying. I simply resent it.
Why you shouldn't be afraid of dying? Because it happens to everyone, you're not special, and there isn't a thing you can do about it.
A friend of my grandmother's used to say it was as natural to die as it was to be born, which is true, so she said she had no fear of it.