Was diagnosed with leukemia in 2016. We sold everything and my wife and I hit the road in our motor home. The cancer stabilized, we hike every day, eat well and live fully. Not sure when the downhill run will start, but we have no regrets. “The love you make, is the love you take”. 🙏🏻
Sounds like you have lots of good times ahead! State of mind..... happiness......loving every day goes a long way. I agree with the other comments...... (sneak in some fast food just for the heck of it!)
The day my dad passed I woke up very early and saw a light soft fluorescent type go out and I knew I had to get to dad quickly. I got dressed and told my husband I wanted to be alone with my dad. I got to the facility an aide let me in. Sure enough I saw my dad and told the nurse my dad was dying. I knew he only had a couple of hours left. They moved him to a private room. I sang to him and prayed over him. I can’t sing I feel like it was someone else singing my father even turned towards me. My voice sounded amazing! 😆 I knew I was in a heavenly realm! His eyes closed quickly and opened slowly he was gone. I saw the second his soul was taken! A year before he went off the radar he woke up early (at my home) He said “God made a miracle for me, God made a miracle.” I said, “Tell me!” “He is going to help me cross the road but not yet, we need to avail the time we have left.” All Glory to God! So many miracles happened for me and dad it would just blow you away. I’m an only child and God was with me through the whole process.
I can relate. I too am an only child and lost my Dad on November 6th. I experienced so many God winks. Knowing God was seeing me through this loss was a blessing. Dad and I shared our home for his last 19 years and his very last at a Home. He lived to be 96. Thank you Julie for your wisdom.
God and Jesus ( for me, realizing we all find our saviors along the road) is such sweet respite. The love, the times God has held me, taken me by the hand, whispered that I wasn’t safe or needed to make a change. It pains me to hear when folks belief in nothing.
When I think of life's regrets, I remember a poem written by a 14 year old boy which I've shared here. It really is about stopping and appreciating where we're at in the season of life. I know I've wasted and wished time away... Present Tense It was Spring, But it was Summer I wanted, The warm days, And the great outdoors. It was Summer, But it was Fall I wanted, The colorful leaves, And the cool, dry air. It was Fall, But it was Winter I wanted, The beautiful snow, And the joy of the holiday season. It was Winter, But it was Spring I wanted, The warmth, And the blossoming of nature. I was a child, But it was adulthood I wanted, The freedom, And respect. I was twenty, But it was thirty I wanted, To be mature, And sophisticated. I was middle-aged, But it was twenty I wanted, The youth, And the free spirit. I was retired, But it was middle-age I wanted, The presence of mind, Without limitations. My life was over. But I never got what I wanted. By Jason Lehman Jason Lehman was 14 years of age when he wrote the above poem. It was sent to Abigail Van Buren, who after verifying that the poem’s author was indeed ‘a teenager wise beyond his years,’ published it in her newspaper column “Dear Abby” (14 February 1989).
Wow, that is profound. Reminds me very much of Harry Chapin's song, "Cat's in the Cradle". Same sentiment about always putting off the important things in life while in pursuit of what we THINK we want instead. Thanks so much for writing out that poem for us, so much gratitude to you
If we'd had a sweetheart like Julie when Mama was passing away, everybody would have been a little more comfortable about what was going on, every body would have been informed, the world needs more Julie's
As a retired Geriatric nurse, the one regret that I can truly understand is not taking care of one's body properly. This is a lesson I learned from my patients while I was still actively nursing and I made the decision to make changes early on. I greatly appreciate this video, as your points are indeed valid. Thank you, Julie, for sharing!
I am a dietitian and work with geriatric populations too. I also learned this same lesson from my patients. Specifically, TAKE CARE OF YOUR TEETH, YOUR FEET AND YOUR BACK. These 3 parts of our body are crucial to maintaining a good quality of life.
I remember asking my 80+ Yo Grandfather THIS question(he was not on Hospice at the time), “upon reflection, What would you have done differently in your younger adult life?” His reply, “I wish I would have taken more chances”.
These regrets of the dying are so well known now. But how clever to turn them into actionable advice for all of us. This youtube channel is remarkable and impactful. Bravo
I always think of Bob Hope who said 'if i had of known i would live this long I would have taken better care of myself'. I think we could plan better if we knew how long we have 😅
OMG that hit me hard! I have ME/CFS and have been bedridden for almost four years. I used to be able to do so much (volunteer fire fighter/EMT-I while full time law enforcement) and now I’m stuck in a dark room with just enough energy to make it to the bathroom, but not to shower, etc.
Ever since I’ve worked temporarily with paralyzed people at age 27 as a care worker, I still think how amazing it is to be able to walk and go to the toilet on my own. I’m not even joking, the most basic things can become miraculous when you have the opportunity to spend time with people who can no longer do those things. (Especially now that I live with a slow growing brain cancer which should have affected my motor skills, but it didn’t thanks to my brain plasticity - still young - so do sports regularly even more so now that I have to work on having energy for basic things, and enjoying still being able to walk, run, dance) Thank you for putting such an important and truly inspiring content online 😊
Many years ago, I worked in a hospital as an orderly and one of our patients was a young man around 20 years old who was paralyzed from the neck down. When he was 17 he dove into a lake and the water was very shallow. I cannot imagine the horror of the prospect of living decades more in such a condition. It still haunts me today.
Nurse Julie, your videos have been such a blessing to us for the last few months since my father-in-law went on Hospice. Today, we laid him to rest at the age of 90. He went peacefully in his sleep. You are an Angel and your work is noble. It takes a very special person to do what you do. I just wanted to say, thank you.
I am 70. I am alone and can't afford to retire. After some injuries, I am now dependent on a rollator walker. I see people zipping around and think I hope they appreciate that ability while they have it. I am getting tired and worn out of working, but have no options yet. I want to be home working on my quilts and enjoying life at my own pace. At least I work for a major hospital in a non-clinical role where I get great healthcare with premiums a lot less than Medicare. I worked in a hospice house for six years. Hospice is such a blessing. I would say a regret could be not getting on hospice soon enough to reap the benefits of that level of care. So many of our patients signed up for hospice less than a day before they died. Hospice could have done so much to make the latter days much more comfortable and address symptoms better. Thank you for all you do! ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. Both my parents use walking aids and witnessing them going from total inability to walk (after a fall or illness/muscle de-conditioning after long hospital stays) has made me much more aware of the gift of movement we can so easily take for granted. Bless you, too, for mentioning that signing up for Hospice is better sooner rather than later. Very important lesson. Thank you!
@@cathywestholt5324You indicate it would be much more beneficial for people to sign up for hospice early rather than waiting until they are near death. How do you sign up for hospice in advance? Doesn't that cost something? How much?
Terrific video. Sometimes it's not all about travelling too, it's about appreciating where you are and what's around you. We do take so much for granted.
your health is your wealth! So true,I lost my health and my mobility after a massive stroke, losing your health and your mobility is the worst thing that can happen, it'll steal your whole life!
Amen Julie. 🙏 I'm 69, third year of my paleo journey and in better shape than age 40. My purpose is to help my veteran neighbors, show by example things CAN improve. Then Karma and self-validation. Finally being informed politically, hoping to leave the world a little better off. 💪🙏
The one about not living for other peoples expectations hit hard. I’m 24 and lived almost entirely for everyone else to the point that last year I almost took my own life. Realized I had to start doing the right things for ME and although I’ve lost some people along the way, most of my relationships, especially with my parents, are deeper and closer and more real than they ever were before. Live as your real self and the right people will stick around
I’m a 68 year old grandmother. As you age, pleasing others is less important. What others think is absolutely irrelevant. Live according to your beliefs and don’t even think about those who would criticize you. Remember, it’s your life to live, no one else’s .
You are absolutely right. Ppl hang around us for what they can get out of us. After my son died I lost so many friends and learned a painful lesson,some walked away on their own,some I had to leave behind,but I realized that I can survive without those ppl,as the important real friends stayed by my side.❤️❤️
I don't think we ever truly appreciate what we have...until we don't have it anymore. I'm a prime example of that. I acquired bacterial pneumonia earlier this year, which...with the help of COPD...caused my heart to go into A-Fib. The A-Fib, in turn, caused acute congestive heart failure. After 1 week in the hospital and 3 weeks in Rehab, I was released on my own recognisince. No one to help me and so weak I could barely walk across a room. So tired...had the energy of a "slug". I'm now on no less than 15 prescription drugs which I'm told will be part of life till the day I die. "Denial" was the name of the game for me. Although in my late 70's, I refused to believe....much less "accept"... that I too was going to die some day. It was so much easier to believe that "major health issues and dying" are things that happen to OTHER people, not to me. What a stupid fool I have been! (until now). A real honest "wake up call"! Thank you Lord for helping me to "see the light", and for giving us "Hospice Nurse Julie" to show us the way! ❤️
Your health history almost exactly mimics my father's journey. If he makes it, he'll be 90 in a few weeks (he's on Hospice). I am learning from your experience of not taking anything health-related for granted. Thanks for your sharing your story!
@elbee1290 ❤️❤️ You're welcome, as sharing my story was therapeutic for me too. I hope your Father has a peaceful transition into the spiritual after life. Take care! ❤️❤️
Thank you. I've known many people diagnosed with diseases that took their lives before they reached retirement. I've seen them try to cram those once-in-a-lifetime trips into whatever time they have left. Hard to fit a trip to Costa Rica into the chemo schedule. I'm watching my husband, who planned to retire early, keep working because a financial advisor said we might live to age 90 and therefore we'd run out of money. Fear is the worst emotion to live with daily. Don't live life looking back and regretting the past, looking forward and fearing the future, and missing the life that we have right now. Life is short. There's never "enough" time, money, whatever. We're squandering this gift of life we've been given.
I just want to Thank You Nurse Julie 😊 I am 55 and I am terminally ill and your videos really help me and give me answers to questions that I think about.
Such an important message ..at 65 , I am so pleased to have put my horses , riding and travel with my horses ahead of better employment or home ownership ..Ive lived snd enjoyed life
Old and stopped riding when my last horse had to be put down (roping champion, 28 years old). Life always seemed better when looked at from between your bestest friend’s two warm🐴 ears ❣️
@@lleocttx2326. You are so absolutely right. There is nothing like being on the back of one of your best friends, smelling mountain air and praying and thanking God for all the gifts you’ve been given. And knowing that you’re being taken such good care of. And loved.
I watched from the UK over the last year. MY Mum passed away 3 weeks ago,her end of life was brave, and so dignified. As her advocate, I used your advice and guidance, I feel I did the best I could, and Mum died very well. I took your advice to her care team in her care home, I am heartbroken, but with no regrets for mum❤❤❤❤
You acted well for your mom and for yourself. May God give you the peace to remember all of those wonderful memories and take comfort in them. You are a good daughter and your mother was blessed to have had you there with her.
Great insights, thanks for sharing. I had cancer at 26, thankfully I got through it. 16 years on, I certainly got to experience a very different side to life and makes living way more appreciated.
Julie, your talks are always most helpful. They are thought-provoking and make me think about how I am living my life (and what if I had only a small amount of time left -- what would I want or need to do). I've never understood why people are so afraid to talk about dying. We are all going to die. It's just the timing that we don't know.
My mum mainly regretted not doing things just for herself, not travel, not move to another country which she would have loved to have done. Just do things for herself without having to think about others (mainly me and my brother). It helped me decide to actually do things without thinking too much about how it makes others feel. And yes, I HAVE moved to another country. One of my best decisions ever!
That's so brave. I only fantasize about moving abroad but suspect I'd be happy (though a period of adjustment would probably have to be gone through first....it's a big change) Thanks for sharing your story ...
@@elbee1290 Thank you. It doesn't even have to be as big as moving. It's just not wrong doing things that make YOU happy, even if loved ones might be dissapointed. 😘
I have had pretty severe ME/CFS and I really feel the first one in my core! I always think about, if I had a time machine, I would go back and say, "go outside and feel the sun on your face and run as fast as you can. And dance as much as you can."
This was really salient. You have a great perspective due to your career. I have always thought alot about death (don’t know why) and I have always felt incredibly grateful for my life and my health. I hope that helps me to have a peaceful death. Thank you Nurse Julie. ❣️🍀
I think that we all will regret how much we had to work for the majority of our lives, sometimes in a position that is not good and doesn't particularly pay well. Unfortunately that's the reality of life these days. It's great if you can afford to retire but for many people that's just not going to ever happen. So while people may end up regretting having to work so hard and so long, there may not be anything they could have done differently. I think that's important that people know that
I've never had good health, but I have declined as I've aged as expected. I've almost died twice. I've always lived every day in constant pain which has also gotten worse I've aged. But I'm still trying to do what I can to enjoy every day. I'm old now and know that I could die any day. Time is short and every day is a gift. My biggest regret is that I didn't have more children because of my health issues. Also, my husband didn't want more children. Some things are beyond our control. I do wish that I could help my daughter and her husband financially, but again, some things are beyond our control. I am there for them in all the ways that I can be. That will not be a regret. My daughter had a good childhood. That will not be a regret. I visit with my sister as much as I can. Being close with family is one of the most important things in life that I can think of. Maybe that comment will help others.
Thank you so much for sharing these four regrets. Last year was my family’s impossible year as we lost my wife of 45 years and my mom. It’s never too late to appreciate time, health, friends, and family. I like to say, “good friends add years to your life and life to your years.”
Thank you for the reminder of these basic but often forgotten priorities. I retired a few months ago. Decided to be a volunteer in hospice care. Im currently in training.Thank you for taking the time to make these videos.
1. Be grateful for your working body. 2. Don’t work your life away. 3. Relationships - spend more time with family/friends. Mend broken relationships. 4. Don’t live life for what others think of you.
And family Amen & amen These ppl that say, getting old is better than the alternative make me scratch my head They obviously still have many loved ones around & a vibrant life! Death does not scare me, the alternative of living in pain/inability & destitution does.
I do not have a job my husband has some health issues so I made it my job to care about as much I can do to help him take care with him so I make meals he can eat with a bit more love and care his body can handle and whatever things come our way we handle it with love : ) If he is happy I am happy but it starts in yourself to love whom you are and think why doing the things we do and what you said appreciate the things we still can do makes it life easier. Thank you for sharing and have a lovely day.
My father passed when I was 17. The last time I saw him I ran back to his hospital room to tell him I loved him but the nurses were in and I decided…I’ll do it tomorrow. NEVER put off or neglect telling your loved one they are loved. Next time may never come. I was with my sister the last 48 hours of her life and tried to tell and show her how much she meant to me. That was exactly 5 years ago today.
You really are lovely I have listened watched your vids & learnt a great deal from you. Thank you so much for what you've put in these vids. You're an amazing lovely lady. You care a great deal about your patients thier loved ones. You've helped us too. God bless
Love this! I retired at age 61 to ENJOY my life. And I am. There was a lady who I worked with who retired the same exact day I retired. She was 68 years old. She died five months later. I stopped living my life for other people and for myself. I also lost weight, and have incorporated more fruit and veggies in my diet. And also not get all caught up in the news. My regret if I knew I was dying would be not traveling more.
Oh julie , when you were talking about the sip of coffee and to really enjoying it I was petting my poodle. As my fingers were passing thru her coat you then said something to the fact of appreciating your dog laying beside you Wow what timing, it made me think! You are so right we need to slow down and experience life before it’s gone. I will definitely start doing the exercises you mentioned. Love your book by the way! Take care Tracy ❤🐩
I live my life in gratitude. To focus on all the good I have instead of my woes gives me the strength to enjoy life. I am not a polly anna, however, positive thoughts do equal a positive life. Somethings cannot be changed, the past is the past, I let it go. Being kind is a great gift to self and others.
Yup, not actively dying but 5 years into retirement. Yes, that goal most of have from the first day we start our career. I saved and look forward to retirement as if that was the main goal of life. Well, it isn't. I couldn't wait to have the freedom to do what I want when I want and have money to do anything I want. I put off a lot of things and derived myself of many things all in the name of saving for my retirement. Well, I did well and I have money. What I don't have is the ambition or desire to do much of anything. I feel useless still with talents but no place to use them. I thought I would travel and play a ton of golf etc. I don't have a desire to travel at all and I play golf once a week or so but I did not recapture the "golf bug." Some Thursdays because of weather or a doctor's appointment and I can't play golf it is almost a relief. So, golf is not something I crave. Even though I know it is not good for me, I spend most of my time in my recliner watchin TH-cam videos. Retirement is not all it is cracked up to be. Secretly, I am ready to go but I have good genes and even though I live an unhealthy lifestyle I will probably live well into my 80's. Ugh. What do I regret. Not doing the things I loved in my 30's, 40's, 50's that I wanted to do but I had too much responsibilities and I was obsessed with saving for retirement. Not a great choice but better than my brother who was 180 degrees the other way and now has literally no savings and nearing retirement age. Can't there be a happy medium?
Hey friend. Don’t fret. Don’t overthink this. Enjoy your morning coffee and go meet a friend or two for lunch. Plan an event every other day. Go exercise and speak to new people. Please enjoy each day!
The things that we take for granted when illness comes. I have had chronic health issues most of my life. I'm about to be 70yrs old and I have arthritis everywhere and I need knee replacements and a shoulder too. I need surgery on both of my wrists, too. My husband died 5yrs ago and I miss him so much. If he was here, I could get these surgeries, but now I have no one to help me. We talked about things we wanted to do, like travel, and never did. I regret that we didn't. I regret not pushing myself more to pursue some things I wanted to do. Life has been rough for a part of my life, but it kept me closer to God. One day, you look up, and you realize that time has gotten shorter, and you can look back and regret or make peace with it. My father taught me that family is so important, and I have tried to instill it in my son's and their kids. Don't let life catch you up with the regret. Do something before it's too late. And take better care of yourself.
I speak, not only for myself, but for the many chronic illness patients that live for years missing a healthy body, losing relationships because friends and family give-up on them, and depending on others for daily activities of living. It’s a lonely club no of us wish on our worst enemies.
My husband died suddenly at only 45 years old. He was the hardest worker I know, working 14-16 hour days. He went in at 3am so he could see our kids for sometime in the evenings, but I always tried to get him to take time off. He only ever took vacation time when we had a baby or someone needed surgery. Our children were aged 6 yrs old to 23 yrs old. We don't get that time back with him, and it kills me because I know he worked so hard for us. 😢😢
That’s horrible he wouldn’t stop only wkg I’m so sad for ur kids never having a daddy I hope u find a way to keep a roof over ur head. Making less than $40 an hr won’t do it.
Nurse Julie, you are a true inspiration. Thank you for your positive light. I’m living in a bizarre dream that I can’t wake from because I recently lost my wife of 35 years unexpectedly. We were inseparable and to not have her here with me is a loss that I cannot quantify. I appreciate the kind and honest words that you give others and myself.
That's a really hard loss, Mark....I'm sorry for the pain this has brought you. If you're at all attracted to the idea that life continues, there are some amazingly inspiring Near Death Experience channels here on TH-cam, like NDE Diary. I get so much solace from knowing my loved ones might have transitioned but I can still connect to them, and they to me. Really heals my heart....Hoping you find more peace as you go through the grieving process. 🩷
Julie is great! As a seasoned Hospice- Crises Care, I agree with 100% With you. I think the 2 worst cases I have ever had was one family refused pain meds up to the last day & it broke my heart. The other was the one of the patients chilren was taking electronic & Jewelry . I was in shock! I couldnt do anything.😢
I have been a caregiver for 15 years. 99% of people do not talk to their partner or family about end of life. Things they want or don't want. So frustrating. It leaves everyone else guessing and hoping they are doing it right. It's an uncomfortable conversation, but have it.
Thankmyou Julie, this was such a great video. You help me to keep a better perspective and how to LIVE it better. In the morning, I usually do my beatitudes and gratitudes. However, I will start using a little time at night to reflect on my regrets and not only to write them down but to possible solutions. I wish you well.❤❤ ❤❤
Julie you are a very wise person I want to thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences. I was a volunteer with the local hospice here where I live. Sitting with a person who is under hospice care was so enlightening to me. I was very disappointed when due to health issues I had to leave that volunteer work that I had come to cherish. My mom had some those little magnets on her refrigerator door. One of them made me realize some important things. The message on the magnet was..." It's not until you give of yourself that you truly give. " Keep doing the things you are doing . I really enjoy your videos. I
Just lost my father -in -law after a 6 month Hospice journey. I really appreciate your materials. They helped me understand and be able to lead my family as we marched the path. Thank you again and this evenings release was spot on!
Thank you Julie. Trying to help my mid 90yo parents but also trying to prepare myself for the inevitable has been so hard. I’ve been watching your videos for awhile and feel so much better equipped in both regards. Thank you 💞
I don't believe in regrets because I did exactly what I wanted to do at the time I wanted to do it and right, wrong or indifferent it is what it is and I can't change it now. My family already knows how much I love them since we are very close and say those words to each other all the time so the only thing I would do if I found out I had a short time left would be to hand my sister all my passwords, remind her where my will is, have as many family meals together as possible and then post a heartfelt message on You Tube with some added humor to tell everyone how much they are loved, that they are never alone and that there is nothing to be afraid of and Yes I will be going home because apparently I've played the game well enough to advance to the next level.
I have fibromyalgia and I often think, when I’m doing a chore I don’t enjoy, how lucky I am to be able to do this. I have learned from a rally early age to be grateful for what I can still do.
I read that in the UK the average number of years a person is retired between work and death is only 8 years ! I pre-retired in 2016 then retired fully last year and when I saw the amount of money I would have to live on I instantly thought back on all the hours and extra unpaid hours (as an exec, we had no overtime) and the holidays I didn't take, never treating myself. If I had to do over I would not have given so much of my life to coporations, sacrificing family and children for work. I now live alone, my mum passed two months ago so no more family, no partner, no kids, few friends and not enough money to travel. It cannot be done over so I just suck it up and get on with it.
There is nothing more painful than losing a parent and realizing that there are many unsaid words. Say you love them while they are still around... Praise God, I had time to tell my dad that I love him very much.❤❤❤
Thank you Julie you are a wonderful person to take your precious time to help others. I watched the love of my life slowing passing with dementia and I had a great hospice nurse but she really didn’t share the information you share in your videos. It would have helped me understand more about the dying process. May God continue to bless you and thanks again for your videos. I can now help others to understand and tell them about your wonderful shows . 🥰🥰
I was told I could die in the next 4 hours (I was 39) - I remember thinking I wish I had spent more time in the office (I own the company). That was 25 years ago . I like working - not sure wheat else I would do with my day.
Thank you so much for this video! You are awesome! I am grateful that I am young enough and have realized some of these things early enough to hopeful not have these regrets.
My greatest joy in working at my job at my age, 61, is getting the young ones to think, create and make their own career. As a supervisor, they ask me, "what do you want me to do today?" . I say if your your duties are done, "learn, find a way to do things differently, and write down your thoughts, observations, and failures."
Absolutely I'm only on your 1st point. As a Christian, I've found if you tap into gratitude for the little things everyday helps. Daily basis 100% thank you Julie. There is good in everyday, even though not everyday is good. May everyone get to know Jesus. Make Heaven crowded.✝️🙏
Such a good video , Julie. I've had health problems all my life, the latest being cancer, but I appreciate any part of me that functions and always have. Work, for me, was just a means to be able do the kinds of service work I enjoyed in my off time and to be with my friends. I liked it( I'm in my 70's now) but it was a means to an end and not something I placed importance on. I even turned down a chance to be famous because I didn't want my career to overwhelm what matters to me. I'm not sure how long I have, but I will die with zero regrets and nothing undone that I feel matters. I feel very fortunate indeed.
Thank you for this, Julie 💗
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@@meghancronin9156 🙏🏼😘💕
Was diagnosed with leukemia in 2016. We sold everything and my wife and I hit the road in our motor home. The cancer stabilized, we hike every day, eat well and live fully. Not sure when the downhill run will start, but we have no regrets. “The love you make, is the love you take”. 🙏🏻
Sounds like you are healed up.
Sending you prayers for good health.🙏🏼🙏🏼
Sounds like you have lots of good times ahead! State of mind..... happiness......loving every day goes a long way. I agree with the other comments...... (sneak in some fast food just for the heck of it!)
@@Wanderingsomewhere145 wishing you all the best!🤍✨
You’ve done everything right to heal yourself. Without knowing it, you developed the right mindset.
The day my dad passed I woke up very early and saw a light soft fluorescent type go out and I knew I had to get to dad quickly. I got dressed and told my husband I wanted to be alone with my dad. I got to the facility an aide let me in. Sure enough I saw my dad and told the nurse my dad was dying. I knew he only had a couple of hours left. They moved him to a private room. I sang to him and prayed over him. I can’t sing I feel like it was someone else singing my father even turned towards me. My voice sounded amazing! 😆 I knew I was in a heavenly realm! His eyes closed quickly and opened slowly he was gone. I saw the second his soul was taken! A year before he went off the radar he woke up early (at my home) He said “God made a miracle for me, God made a miracle.” I said, “Tell me!” “He is going to help me cross the road but not yet, we need to avail the time we have left.” All Glory to God! So many miracles happened for me and dad it would just blow you away. I’m an only child and God was with me through the whole process.
@@TheSwordComes Amen
@@TheSwordComes I love your story.
I can relate. I too am an only child and lost my Dad on November 6th. I experienced so many God winks. Knowing God was seeing me through this loss was a blessing. Dad and I shared our home for his last 19 years and his very last at a Home. He lived to be 96. Thank you Julie for your wisdom.
God is our comfort and strength
God and Jesus ( for me, realizing we all find our saviors along the road) is such sweet respite. The love, the times God has held me, taken me by the hand, whispered that I wasn’t safe or needed to make a change. It pains me to hear when folks belief in nothing.
When I think of life's regrets, I remember a poem written by a 14 year old boy which I've shared here. It really is about stopping and appreciating where we're at in the season of life. I know I've wasted and wished time away...
Present Tense
It was Spring,
But it was Summer I wanted,
The warm days,
And the great outdoors.
It was Summer,
But it was Fall I wanted,
The colorful leaves,
And the cool, dry air.
It was Fall,
But it was Winter I wanted,
The beautiful snow,
And the joy of the holiday season.
It was Winter,
But it was Spring I wanted,
The warmth,
And the blossoming of nature.
I was a child,
But it was adulthood I wanted,
The freedom,
And respect.
I was twenty,
But it was thirty I wanted,
To be mature,
And sophisticated.
I was middle-aged,
But it was twenty I wanted,
The youth,
And the free spirit.
I was retired,
But it was middle-age I wanted,
The presence of mind,
Without limitations.
My life was over.
But I never got what I wanted.
By Jason Lehman
Jason Lehman was 14 years of age when he wrote the above poem. It was sent to Abigail Van Buren, who after verifying that the poem’s author was indeed ‘a teenager wise beyond his years,’ published it in her newspaper column “Dear Abby” (14 February 1989).
Wow, that is profound. Reminds me very much of Harry Chapin's song, "Cat's in the Cradle". Same sentiment about always putting off the important things in life while in pursuit of what we THINK we want instead. Thanks so much for writing out that poem for us, so much gratitude to you
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thx for sharing🕊️🌸
Def the “middle aged but it was 20 I wanted” is very very true even if none else is!
Youth WITH knowledge & wisdom- wouldnt that be a TRIP
Phenomenal 🖊thank you for sharing this gem 💎
If we'd had a sweetheart like Julie when Mama was passing away, everybody would have been a little more comfortable about what was going on, every body would have been informed, the world needs more Julie's
I second that ♥️🙌
100 Amens to that
@southernsass2937 thanks for stopping by
@southernsass2937 if you don't mind I'll be looking at your channel, God bless you
@@johnduffy6546 God bless you and your family John
As a retired Geriatric nurse, the one regret that I can truly understand is not taking care of one's body properly. This is a lesson I learned from my patients while I was still actively nursing and I made the decision to make changes early on. I greatly appreciate this video, as your points are indeed valid. Thank you, Julie, for sharing!
I am a dietitian and work with geriatric populations too. I also learned this same lesson from my patients. Specifically, TAKE CARE OF YOUR TEETH, YOUR FEET AND YOUR BACK. These 3 parts of our body are crucial to maintaining a good quality of life.
I’ve got terminal cancer and I didn’t dream I’d be facing my mortality this early in life. There is so much I wanted to do and achieve.
Do what you can and makes you happy. You have to really live every minute that you can now. I've nearly died twice, I hope this helps.
I pray you find joy and meaning in every moment you DO have....and know that you're not alone. Blessings to you....
Make a new list!!!
Prayers
I'm so sorry. I hope you have peace.
I remember asking my 80+ Yo Grandfather THIS question(he was not on Hospice at the time), “upon reflection, What would you have done differently in your younger adult life?” His reply, “I wish I would have taken more chances”.
Since my 50th bday 7 years ago, I’ve been on a mission to make peace with all things and people in my life and to focus more on TIME.
These regrets of the dying are so well known now. But how clever to turn them into actionable advice for all of us. This youtube channel is remarkable and impactful. Bravo
I agree. Julie is awesome and has taught me so many valuable lessons! ❤️
You're so right! I hadn't quite thought of it this way, but I agree with you. Thank you for your insight!
I always think of Bob Hope who said 'if i had of known i would live this long I would have taken better care of myself'. I think we could plan better if we knew how long we have 😅
OMG that hit me hard! I have ME/CFS and have been bedridden for almost four years. I used to be able to do so much (volunteer fire fighter/EMT-I while full time law enforcement) and now I’m stuck in a dark room with just enough energy to make it to the bathroom, but not to shower, etc.
Hi Amy 👋👋
Your not alone in this journey I too have several autoimmune diseases that limit me deeply. Sending you warm gentle hugs 🤗
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Ever since I’ve worked temporarily with paralyzed people at age 27 as a care worker, I still think how amazing it is to be able to walk and go to the toilet on my own. I’m not even joking, the most basic things can become miraculous when you have the opportunity to spend time with people who can no longer do those things. (Especially now that I live with a slow growing brain cancer which should have affected my motor skills, but it didn’t thanks to my brain plasticity - still young - so do sports regularly even more so now that I have to work on having energy for basic things, and enjoying still being able to walk, run, dance) Thank you for putting such an important and truly inspiring content online 😊
Many years ago, I worked in a hospital as an orderly and one of our patients was a young man around 20 years old who was paralyzed from the neck down. When he was 17 he dove into a lake and the water was very shallow. I cannot imagine the horror of the prospect of living decades more in such a condition. It still haunts me today.
Nurse Julie, your videos have been such a blessing to us for the last few months since my father-in-law went on Hospice. Today, we laid him to rest at the age of 90. He went peacefully in his sleep. You are an Angel and your work is noble. It takes a very special person to do what you do. I just wanted to say, thank you.
Spot on... signed retired RN at 68 years old.
Same here, a retired nurse at age 66.
@@joecooksey4331 Jesus follower here. Knowing where I’m going after I die
I am 70. I am alone and can't afford to retire. After some injuries, I am now dependent on a rollator walker. I see people zipping around and think I hope they appreciate that ability while they have it. I am getting tired and worn out of working, but have no options yet. I want to be home working on my quilts and enjoying life at my own pace. At least I work for a major hospital in a non-clinical role where I get great healthcare with premiums a lot less than Medicare.
I worked in a hospice house for six years. Hospice is such a blessing. I would say a regret could be not getting on hospice soon enough to reap the benefits of that level of care. So many of our patients signed up for hospice less than a day before they died. Hospice could have done so much to make the latter days much more comfortable and address symptoms better. Thank you for all you do! ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. Both my parents use walking aids and witnessing them going from total inability to walk (after a fall or illness/muscle de-conditioning after long hospital stays) has made me much more aware of the gift of movement we can so easily take for granted. Bless you, too, for mentioning that signing up for Hospice is better sooner rather than later. Very important lesson. Thank you!
How much does it cost?
@nosac1230 how much does what cost?
@@cathywestholt5324You indicate it would be much more beneficial for people to sign up for hospice early rather than waiting until they are near death.
How do you sign up for hospice in advance? Doesn't that cost something?
How much?
Wishing you all the best! 💜
Terrific video. Sometimes it's not all about travelling too, it's about appreciating where you are and what's around you. We do take so much for granted.
your health is your wealth! So true,I lost my health and my mobility after a massive stroke, losing your health and your mobility is the worst thing that can happen, it'll steal your whole life!
Amen Julie. 🙏 I'm 69, third year of my paleo journey and in better shape than age 40.
My purpose is to help my veteran neighbors, show by example things CAN improve.
Then Karma and self-validation.
Finally being informed politically, hoping to leave the world a little better off. 💪🙏
The one about not living for other peoples expectations hit hard. I’m 24 and lived almost entirely for everyone else to the point that last year I almost took my own life. Realized I had to start doing the right things for ME and although I’ve lost some people along the way, most of my relationships, especially with my parents, are deeper and closer and more real than they ever were before. Live as your real self and the right people will stick around
I’ve discovered through life’s experiences that it’s always best to follow your own heart. ❤ Best wishes to you.
This is so true ! Wishing you a great future. ❤
I wish you well going forward in YOUR life.
I’m a 68 year old grandmother. As you age, pleasing others is less important. What others think is absolutely irrelevant. Live according to your beliefs and don’t even think about those who would criticize you. Remember, it’s your life to live, no one else’s .
You are absolutely right. Ppl hang around us for what they can get out of us. After my son died I lost so many friends and learned a painful lesson,some walked away on their own,some I had to leave behind,but I realized that I can survive without those ppl,as the important real friends stayed by my side.❤️❤️
I don't think we ever truly appreciate what we have...until we don't have it anymore.
I'm a prime example of that. I acquired bacterial pneumonia earlier this year, which...with the help of COPD...caused my heart to go into A-Fib. The A-Fib, in turn, caused acute congestive heart failure. After 1 week in the hospital and 3 weeks in Rehab, I was released on my own recognisince.
No one to help me and so weak I could barely walk across a room. So tired...had the energy of a "slug". I'm now on no less than 15 prescription drugs which I'm told will be part of life till the day I die.
"Denial" was the name of the game for me. Although in my late 70's, I refused to believe....much less "accept"... that I too was going to die some day. It was so much easier to believe that "major health issues and dying" are things that happen to OTHER people, not to me.
What a stupid fool I have been! (until now). A real honest "wake up call"!
Thank you Lord for helping me to "see the light", and for giving us "Hospice Nurse Julie" to show us the way! ❤️
Your health history almost exactly mimics my father's journey. If he makes it, he'll be 90 in a few weeks (he's on Hospice). I am learning from your experience of not taking anything health-related for granted. Thanks for your sharing your story!
@elbee1290 ❤️❤️ You're welcome, as sharing my story was therapeutic for me too. I hope your Father has a peaceful transition into the spiritual after life. Take care! ❤️❤️
Starting with COPD was not helping at all lol
U had a very optimistic view for someone w/copd!
Thank you. I've known many people diagnosed with diseases that took their lives before they reached retirement. I've seen them try to cram those once-in-a-lifetime trips into whatever time they have left. Hard to fit a trip to Costa Rica into the chemo schedule. I'm watching my husband, who planned to retire early, keep working because a financial advisor said we might live to age 90 and therefore we'd run out of money. Fear is the worst emotion to live with daily. Don't live life looking back and regretting the past, looking forward and fearing the future, and missing the life that we have right now. Life is short. There's never "enough" time, money, whatever. We're squandering this gift of life we've been given.
I just want to Thank You Nurse Julie 😊 I am 55 and I am terminally ill and your videos really help me and give me answers to questions that I think about.
Such an important message ..at 65 , I am so pleased to have put my horses , riding and travel with my horses ahead of better employment or home ownership ..Ive lived snd enjoyed life
That's so inspiring, thank you!!
If u have n even travelled w/horses I’m thinking ur finances will hold out ok the next decade or so
Good for u making 65 so active
Old and stopped riding when my last horse had to be put down (roping champion, 28 years old). Life always seemed better when looked at from between your bestest friend’s two warm🐴 ears ❣️
@@lleocttx2326. You are so absolutely right. There is nothing like being on the back of one of your best friends, smelling mountain air and praying and thanking God for all the gifts you’ve been given. And knowing that you’re being taken such good care of. And loved.
Love your channel Julie. I am 55 years old and have been fortunate. thinking of leaving corporate America. You have given much insight..
@@julieshelley-fd5kp absolutely leave corporate America. I did… to follow Jesus 12 years ago. No regrets!!
I returned 10 years ago at age 60. Never regretted it for a minute.
I watched from the UK over the last year. MY Mum passed away 3 weeks ago,her end of life was brave, and so dignified. As her advocate, I used your advice and guidance, I feel I did the best I could, and Mum died very well.
I took your advice to her care team in her care home, I am heartbroken, but with no regrets for mum❤❤❤❤
You acted well for your mom and for yourself. May God give you the peace to remember all of those wonderful memories and take comfort in them. You are a good daughter and your mother was blessed to have had you there with her.
Great insights, thanks for sharing. I had cancer at 26, thankfully I got through it. 16 years on, I certainly got to experience a very different side to life and makes living way more appreciated.
Good advice Julie. Live each day to it's fullest. You never know when your last day on this Earth is going to be.
You are an angel on earth. God bless.❤ xo
Julie, your talks are always most helpful. They are thought-provoking and make me think about how I am living my life (and what if I had only a small amount of time left -- what would I want or need to do). I've never understood why people are so afraid to talk about dying. We are all going to die. It's just the timing that we don't know.
My mum mainly regretted not doing things just for herself, not travel, not move to another country which she would have loved to have done. Just do things for herself without having to think about others (mainly me and my brother). It helped me decide to actually do things without thinking too much about how it makes others feel. And yes, I HAVE moved to another country. One of my best decisions ever!
That's so brave. I only fantasize about moving abroad but suspect I'd be happy (though a period of adjustment would probably have to be gone through first....it's a big change) Thanks for sharing your story ...
@@elbee1290 Thank you. It doesn't even have to be as big as moving. It's just not wrong doing things that make YOU happy, even if loved ones might be dissapointed. 😘
I have had pretty severe ME/CFS and I really feel the first one in my core! I always think about, if I had a time machine, I would go back and say, "go outside and feel the sun on your face and run as fast as you can. And dance as much as you can."
Health is wealth
OMG!!!! What i have been saying for 10 years now, to all my kids and even my wife. Im 53
I needed to hear this. Thank you for making me think.
Enjoy life when your young. Get out and have FUN, chase your dreams before it's to late.
This was really salient. You have a great perspective due to your career. I have always thought alot about death (don’t know why) and I have always felt incredibly grateful for my life and my health. I hope that helps me to have a peaceful death. Thank you Nurse Julie. ❣️🍀
live every day as if it were your last, then be glad every day that you were WRONG !
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I think that we all will regret how much we had to work for the majority of our lives, sometimes in a position that is not good and doesn't particularly pay well. Unfortunately that's the reality of life these days. It's great if you can afford to retire but for many people that's just not going to ever happen. So while people may end up regretting having to work so hard and so long, there may not be anything they could have done differently. I think that's important that people know that
Go see your parents. I miss mine so much. It's hard for me to go visit them in India but I'm hoping next year. Go see your parents.. ❤❤
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I've never had good health, but I have declined as I've aged as expected. I've almost died twice. I've always lived every day in constant pain which has also gotten worse I've aged. But I'm still trying to do what I can to enjoy every day. I'm old now and know that I could die any day. Time is short and every day is a gift. My biggest regret is that I didn't have more children because of my health issues. Also, my husband didn't want more children. Some things are beyond our control. I do wish that I could help my daughter and her husband financially, but again, some things are beyond our control. I am there for them in all the ways that I can be. That will not be a regret. My daughter had a good childhood. That will not be a regret. I visit with my sister as much as I can. Being close with family is one of the most important things in life that I can think of. Maybe that comment will help others.
Thank you so much for sharing these four regrets. Last year was my family’s impossible year as we lost my wife of 45 years and my mom. It’s never too late to appreciate time, health, friends, and family. I like to say, “good friends add years to your life and life to your years.”
Thank you for the reminder of these basic but often forgotten priorities. I retired a few months ago. Decided to be a volunteer in hospice care. Im currently in training.Thank you for taking the time to make these videos.
It’s called life’s wisdom. Hear it loud. Thank you
1. Be grateful for your working body.
2. Don’t work your life away.
3. Relationships - spend more time with family/friends. Mend broken relationships.
4. Don’t live life for what others think of you.
Having Hospice Nurse Julie share this is such a gift. Working in hospice is an amazing gift. This is so important. Thank you!
I think of this everyday 👍🏻🤩😁🥰
One thing worse than getting old is when you outlive all you're friends.
And family
Amen & amen
These ppl that say, getting old is better than the alternative make me scratch my head
They obviously still have many loved ones around & a vibrant life!
Death does not scare me, the alternative of living in pain/inability & destitution does.
I do not have a job my husband has some health issues so I made it my job to care about as much I can do to help him take care with him so I make meals he can eat with a bit more love and care his body can handle and whatever things come our way we handle it with love : ) If he is happy I am happy but it starts in yourself to love whom you are and think why doing the things we do and what you said appreciate the things we still can do makes it life easier.
Thank you for sharing and have a lovely day.
My father passed when I was 17. The last time I saw him I ran back to his hospital room to tell him I loved him but the nurses were in and I decided…I’ll do it tomorrow. NEVER put off or neglect telling your loved one they are loved. Next time may never come. I was with my sister the last 48 hours of her life and tried to tell and show her how much she meant to me. That was exactly 5 years ago today.
I love this video and I thank God for the gifts
Don't spend so much time making a living that we forget to make a life. Great video, thanks!
You really are lovely I have listened watched your vids & learnt a great deal from you. Thank you so much for what you've put in these vids. You're an amazing lovely lady. You care a great deal about your patients thier loved ones. You've helped us too. God bless
Love this! I retired at age 61 to ENJOY my life. And I am. There was a lady who I worked with who retired the same exact day I retired. She was 68 years old. She died five months later. I stopped living my life for other people and for myself. I also lost weight, and have incorporated more fruit and veggies in my diet. And also not get all caught up in the news. My regret if I knew I was dying would be not traveling more.
We are truly a blessed people. Hopefully we'll recognize this and thank God for our bodies/lives
Oh julie , when you were talking about the sip of coffee and to really enjoying it I was petting my poodle. As my fingers were passing thru her coat you then said something to the fact of appreciating your dog laying beside you Wow what timing, it made me think! You are so right we need to slow down and experience life before it’s gone. I will definitely start doing the exercises you mentioned. Love your book by the way! Take care Tracy ❤🐩
I live my life in gratitude. To focus on all the good I have instead of my woes gives me the strength to enjoy life. I am not a polly anna, however, positive thoughts do equal a positive life. Somethings cannot be changed, the past is the past, I let it go. Being kind is a great gift to self and others.
Yup, not actively dying but 5 years into retirement. Yes, that goal most of have from the first day we start our career. I saved and look forward to retirement as if that was the main goal of life.
Well, it isn't. I couldn't wait to have the freedom to do what I want when I want and have money to do anything I want. I put off a lot of things and derived myself of many things all in the name of saving for my retirement. Well, I did well and I have money. What I don't have is the ambition or desire to do much of anything. I feel useless still with talents but no place to use them.
I thought I would travel and play a ton of golf etc. I don't have a desire to travel at all and I play golf once a week or so but I did not recapture the "golf bug." Some Thursdays because of weather or a doctor's appointment and I can't play golf it is almost a relief. So, golf is not something I crave. Even though I know it is not good for me, I spend most of my time in my recliner watchin TH-cam videos.
Retirement is not all it is cracked up to be. Secretly, I am ready to go but I have good genes and even though I live an unhealthy lifestyle I will probably live well into my 80's. Ugh.
What do I regret. Not doing the things I loved in my 30's, 40's, 50's that I wanted to do but I had too much responsibilities and I was obsessed with saving for retirement. Not a great choice but better than my brother who was 180 degrees the other way and now has literally no savings and nearing retirement age. Can't there be a happy medium?
Hey friend. Don’t fret. Don’t overthink this. Enjoy your morning coffee and go meet a friend or two for lunch. Plan an event every other day. Go exercise and speak to new people. Please enjoy each day!
@@jws3925 did you find Jesus? That is all that really matters
@@kentspeigner8738 Great advice, especially the not overthinking it part.
The things that we take for granted when illness comes. I have had chronic health issues most of my life. I'm about to be 70yrs old and I have arthritis everywhere and I need knee replacements and a shoulder too. I need surgery on both of my wrists, too. My husband died 5yrs ago and I miss him so much. If he was here, I could get these surgeries, but now I have no one to help me. We talked about things we wanted to do, like travel, and never did. I regret that we didn't. I regret not pushing myself more to pursue some things I wanted to do. Life has been rough for a part of my life, but it kept me closer to God. One day, you look up, and you realize that time has gotten shorter, and you can look back and regret or make peace with it. My father taught me that family is so important, and I have tried to instill it in my son's and their kids. Don't let life catch you up with the regret. Do something before it's too late. And take better care of yourself.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom here, Very helpful and touching, too. May you find peace every day.
I speak, not only for myself, but for the many chronic illness patients that live for years missing a healthy body, losing relationships because friends and family give-up on them, and depending on others for daily activities of living. It’s a lonely club no of us wish on our worst enemies.
My husband died suddenly at only 45 years old. He was the hardest worker I know, working 14-16 hour days. He went in at 3am so he could see our kids for sometime in the evenings, but I always tried to get him to take time off. He only ever took vacation time when we had a baby or someone needed surgery. Our children were aged 6 yrs old to 23 yrs old. We don't get that time back with him, and it kills me because I know he worked so hard for us. 😢😢
That’s horrible he wouldn’t stop only wkg
I’m so sad for ur kids never having a daddy
I hope u find a way to keep a roof over ur head. Making less than $40 an hr won’t do it.
Nurse Julie, you are a true inspiration. Thank you for your positive light. I’m living in a bizarre dream that I can’t wake from because I recently lost my wife of 35 years unexpectedly. We were inseparable and to not have her here with me is a loss that I cannot quantify. I appreciate the kind and honest words that you give others and myself.
That's a really hard loss, Mark....I'm sorry for the pain this has brought you. If you're at all attracted to the idea that life continues, there are some amazingly inspiring Near Death Experience channels here on TH-cam, like NDE Diary. I get so much solace from knowing my loved ones might have transitioned but I can still connect to them, and they to me. Really heals my heart....Hoping you find more peace as you go through the grieving process. 🩷
Thank you for your kind words. I do believe I will see her again and this is what keeps me going. Thank you again for sending your positivity.
Julie is great! As a seasoned Hospice- Crises Care, I agree with 100% With you. I think the 2 worst cases I have ever had was one family refused pain meds up to the last day & it broke my heart.
The other was the one of the patients chilren was taking electronic & Jewelry . I was in shock! I couldnt do anything.😢
I have been a caregiver for 15 years. 99% of people do not talk to their partner or family about end of life. Things they want or don't want. So frustrating. It leaves everyone else guessing and hoping they are doing it right. It's an uncomfortable conversation, but have it.
Thankmyou Julie, this was such a great video. You help me to keep a better perspective and how to LIVE it better. In the morning, I usually do my beatitudes and gratitudes. However, I will start using a little time at night to reflect on my regrets and not only to write them down but to possible solutions. I wish you well.❤❤ ❤❤
Julie you are a very wise person I want to thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences. I was a volunteer with the local hospice here where I live. Sitting with a person who is under hospice care was so enlightening to me. I was very disappointed when due to health issues I had to leave that volunteer work that I had come to cherish. My mom had some those little magnets on her refrigerator door. One of them made me realize some important things. The message on the magnet was..." It's not until you give of yourself that you truly give. " Keep doing the things you are doing . I really enjoy your videos. I
Great refrigerator magnet and so true. Thanks for sharing this!
@@elbee1290 You are welcome.
Just lost my father -in -law after a 6 month Hospice journey. I really appreciate your materials. They helped me understand and be able to lead my family as we marched the path. Thank you again and this evenings release was spot on!
Thank you Julie. Trying to help my mid 90yo parents but also trying to prepare myself for the inevitable has been so hard. I’ve been watching your videos for awhile and feel so much better equipped in both regards. Thank you 💞
so very true Julie ❤
I do my gratitude list every day ❤
I don't believe in regrets because I did exactly what I wanted to do at the time I wanted to do it and right, wrong or indifferent it is what it is and I can't change it now. My family already knows how much I love them since we are very close and say those words to each other all the time so the only thing I would do if I found out I had a short time left would be to hand my sister all my passwords, remind her where my will is, have as many family meals together as possible and then post a heartfelt message on You Tube with some added humor to tell everyone how much they are loved, that they are never alone and that there is nothing to be afraid of and Yes I will be going home because apparently I've played the game well enough to advance to the next level.
Beautiful 🎉
We often use work to gain stuff that we think makes us happy…
Thanks for the video, we don't have enough time to appreciate life to the fullest 💕🙏
thank you....I have heard these things so many times in the patients I care for.....and sometimes dont listen to...thank you for reminding me
I have fibromyalgia and I often think, when I’m doing a chore I don’t enjoy, how lucky I am to be able to do this. I have learned from a rally early age to be grateful for what I can still do.
I read that in the UK the average number of years a person is retired between work and death is only 8 years ! I pre-retired in 2016 then retired fully last year and when I saw the amount of money I would have to live on I instantly thought back on all the hours and extra unpaid hours (as an exec, we had no overtime) and the holidays I didn't take, never treating myself. If I had to do over I would not have given so much of my life to coporations, sacrificing family and children for work. I now live alone, my mum passed two months ago so no more family, no partner, no kids, few friends and not enough money to travel. It cannot be done over so I just suck it up and get on with it.
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Thank you for these clips. It's good to hear what mite happen and why.
You bet
This was so GREAT Julie! Thank you so much! 🤗🥰💐
There is nothing more painful than losing a parent and realizing that there are many unsaid words. Say you love them while they are still around... Praise God, I had time to tell my dad that I love him very much.❤❤❤
TLDR: Enjoy your health now, spend less time at work, improve your relationships, and don't live your life for others. ☮
Every day, every moment is a gift. I am grateful to have my health, my friends. Thanks for the exercises. Be aware. Be present.
Very good talk today. I'm making a list. Thank you.
Pure COMMON SENSE. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!!❤
You are truly an asset to others. Unselfishness and love are always expressed in your book and all your work 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🐝❤️
Thank you Julie you are a wonderful person to take your precious time to help others. I watched the love of my life slowing passing with dementia and I had a great hospice nurse but she really didn’t share the information you share in your videos. It would have helped me understand more about the dying process.
May God continue to bless you and thanks again for your videos. I can now help others to understand and tell them about your wonderful shows . 🥰🥰
Julie, you are doing it; dispelling the fear of death one thought one person at a time. Very useful practice. Thank you.
Thank you so so much 💕
I was told I could die in the next 4 hours (I was 39) - I remember thinking I wish I had spent more time in the office (I own the company). That was 25 years ago . I like working - not sure wheat else I would do with my day.
The one thing I would regret the most is not giving an honest hug to the people I truly love!
Thank you Julie i needed to hear this today. Blessings
Thank you so much for this video! You are awesome! I am grateful that I am young enough and have realized some of these things early enough to hopeful not have these regrets.
Thank you Julie what a beautiful video!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for sharing this. May God bless you and continue to watch over you❤
My greatest joy in working at my job at my age, 61, is getting the young ones to think, create and make their own career. As a supervisor, they ask me, "what do you want me to do today?" . I say if your your duties are done, "learn, find a way to do things differently, and write down your thoughts, observations, and failures."
Even though I am a surgical bionic woman 2.0, I am grateful I can do things on my own EVERY day. I don’t take any of it for granted.
Absolutely I'm only on your 1st point. As a Christian, I've found if you tap into gratitude for the little things everyday helps. Daily basis 100% thank you Julie. There is good in everyday, even though not everyday is good. May everyone get to know Jesus. Make Heaven crowded.✝️🙏
Such a good video , Julie. I've had health problems all my life, the latest being cancer, but I appreciate any part of me that functions and always have.
Work, for me, was just a means to be able do the kinds of service work I enjoyed in my off time and to be with my friends. I liked it( I'm in my 70's now) but it was a means to an end and not something I placed importance on. I even turned down a chance to be famous because I didn't want my career to overwhelm what matters to me.
I'm not sure how long I have, but I will die with zero regrets and nothing undone that I feel matters. I feel very fortunate indeed.
So happy to have your channel Julie, I come here often and you are a wonderful inspiration. Thank you so much and all the best ❤️
Don't regret anything just change what you doing.
Great vid. Time flies.........enjoy every second, every breath....... beyond love.
I just wish my kids lived closer since I retired.
@@elizabethlewis3509 move closer to them 🥰