How Doctors Tell Patients They're Dying | Being Mortal | FRONTLINE
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- When Clyde Earle checked into a hospital expecting to return home, his doctor, Kathy Selvaggi, had to deliver some bad news. Our film "Being Mortal" explores issues of death, aging, and what is important in the last days of life.
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Almost two years ago, I watched this and the full documentary. I learned a lot from it, and I'm glad, because in February, if found out I have palliative anaplastic thyroid cancer, with not much longer to live. (months, likely.) Thanks for posting.
I wish I could have given this woman a great big hug,God bless you😥❤♣️
It looked like my husband in the last few days of his life.
God bless
I want people to know about the young man who found us who had jumped the train traveling. He got to Canada, but told the RCMP that he had gotten drunk and fell asleep and that's how he got over the Border. I told him that if he got to Canada again to tell them he wanted to stay. He wears Tattoos of Tear's on his face that are indicative of a homicide victim and/or someone seeking Justice for a homicide. He has a Tattoo on his arm that say's Too Stubborn To Die. If you see him see he gets someplace where people are human beings. I have a life threatening Medical Condition & numerous times have not been able to get the medication because somebody else who has been using my Stolen Identity doesn't need it. Without the medication Coma & death. One time I heard my husband in the hallway of the hospital telling the Medical Staff that they were supposed to give me IV'S that are proper procedure and protocol & without it I would likely die. He went to the parking lot to go to our vehicle and had a gun held to his head and told him that I had died (he was wearing Military Insignia on his back). He was detained, but obviously got to me. I made him promise that we won't die in the Country that we worked for & my children were kidnapped in. I wear scar's from when I nearly lost my life shortly after the kidnapping of the children and the theft of my Identity at that time...
Marriage is literally agreeing to live with each other until you die. The worst part of marriage is one of you will watch the other die.
Anthony R or until Karen takes all your money in a divorce
Not always.
In Phil Hartmans case that sadly was too true
Even through cheating, lies, drama etc
If the love is there, it’s still painful af. So sad
Not if you die together in a car accident or something...
Two things I learned I don’t want to see:
1. An old person crying, and
2. Dr Selavaggia walking through my door
THE 2ND ONE LOL
@@butterboy8594 LOL shut up you insensitive little fuck
@@DUCKSXLE LOL you said LOL to you insensitive fuck
Honestly, having a father who is undergoing palliative care (Granted no where near the level of this gentleman, but still we are aware he is not going to recover) I have to say I would be at first apprehensive, and then deeply comforted to have someone like Dr. Selavaggia working my father's case. That being said, the Palliative team who has been working with him to date have been awesome. They are encouraging and push Dad to do everything he can, but are also compassionate when it comes to the real truth that he will only be able to manage so much, and eventually even that will become a challenge. My heart goes out to professionals in this field, who have the challenge of balancing a need for compassion toward their patient with the requirement of explaining what is going to happen at the same time.
lmao
The fact that he was able to say “I love you” in that state is beautiful. Rest In Peace, Clyde
It broke me with a very strong intensity.
The cycle of life and death is a mystery so sad to see him leave her like that 😞 May he Rest In Peace
agreed, I wasn't expecting that was a blessing. My Grandma's last words to me on the phone were exactly that too.
i was 18 when my mum was given the "only a few days left" diagnosis. cancer. couldnt speak, couldnt move, severe pain. she told me "i love you" and it was like strained and mumbled but i got it. and i dont think ill ever forget it. until i die. you know when someone is in so much pain and they give everything within them to say that to you, that they mean it.
absolutely
Poor thing. When she began to cry, I did, too. No matter our age, we are always still little children inside.
but crying about someones death at any age is normal
@@geoverse2921 That's true. It's just the way she looked when she began to cry. Her expression was so heartbreaking in its sweet childlike quality.
Your comment made me emotional, but I do have to agree.
@@biri_o Hi. Thanks for your comment. 😊
@@geoverse2921 its normal to cry about anything at any age, anyone who doesn't is considered more weak than someone who does cry
I’m not afraid of dying. I’m afraid that somebody that I love dies.
I would rather die before my parents. I would not be able to handle pain.
@@flame9999 i tough that too, just spend as much as u can time with them
FlameTheLava FlameTheLava same
Same over here I struggle with separation anxiety so I can't imagine when they die I'm the youngest and I don't wanna be alone
I've been suffering for months and I dont wanna die there's a lot of things I want to do.
The walls of Hospital's have heard more prayers than any other church, mosque & temples
Also Prisons
And still these “gods” don’t answer and kill these people with great pain. How can you still believe in a god when there’s so much suffering?
True true
Lithostheory that’s why they die as to relieve the suffering
cool cat But why would God make them suffer in the first place?
“We’re going fishing…” and he never got to leave the hospital. 😢 May he rest in peace. He is so lucky to have such a loving wife by his side the entire time.
fishing is bad
@@goVegan-pm6rv I was crying and idk why but your comment cracked me up lol
@@joltyflare im glad
@@goVegan-pm6rv I'm a vegetarian punk I'm not supposed to be disagreeing with you but what kind of a s_ithead do you have to be to comment that under a video like *THIS*
@@rafaeldejesus8199fish overpopulating is also pretty bad
When she said "I don't like it" and was holding back her tears, trying to be strong, that got me instantly. I've never dealt with loss in my family before. I don't know how I would manage losing my grandmother, mother, or partner.
My dad died on my birthday
@@kingskid5130I’m so sorry to hear that. Sending my condolences x
@@bethanwatkins1164 thank you
I would tell them “Rejoice, because the Holy Mother Mary is bringing you home!” 🙏🙏🙏
my grandfather died about 1 1/2 years ago. this sounds corny to some, and im sure youve heard it a million times, but my first regret was not being able to spend more time with him. yes it was out of my control (him living in India and me in the US, and i had school going), but i still felt horrible that we couldnt play one last game of carom with him. just one last game...
pretty difficult for me, as an atheist, to deal with it, and i began to see why people followed religion. best i can say is just enjoy your time with your loved ones, and when they pass, stay strong :)
Worst thing about life is seeing others end.
Your so right😭
It's the most painful thing in the world. Heck it hurts even if you don't know them very well. I cried for hours after learning my next door neighbor died, even if we didn't speak much it was scary to see that the woman who would smile and wave each morning is just...gone.
It's a part of life, our eventual end. And it's not a bad thing; it happens whether we're ready or not. It's important to love as much as you can everyday you're here, you never know. I wish all of you much love in life❤
@@mai227_ yeah like on the news and stuff. Not many people seem to think into it as much as I do.
@@janedoe-ex5wo it's still scary. And thank you, I wish you love too xxx
Hospitals.
*The place where it all begins and ends.*
you spelt where wrong, and people die in places other than a hospital
Minty Cold It’s an old saying Captain Literal
attoghaveympops Yeah a crap saying that’s not always true
Unless you die on Mars👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽🐭🐭🐭🐭🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🌙🌙🌙🙋
Oʀʀɪɴ Bᴇsᴛᴇʀ it’s not fictitious if people actually say it.
I never thought a 5 minute video could put me on the verge of tears. I have a soft spot for the elderly. RIP Clyde.
I love the stories they tell, of a bygone age. I like to imagine them full of energy and smiling, just living life.
My mum tells the same stories over and over again but I just smile and nod ❤
i work as a carer in a care home for elderly with dementia and it’s the best job ever honestly. the shit they come out with, the stories they tell, the advice they give. it’s truly magical.
There are 30 second TH-cam shorts that make us cry… I knew this would bring tears
Yeah I remember this. It wasnt even supposed to be this big it was just a little PSA about discussing end of life care. But its real AF.
When my husband was dying at home from pancreatic cancer, we had hospice coming in and, unfortunately, it was not a positive experience. The caring doctors in this story make a world of difference, not just for the patient, but for the loved ones who must carry on. Kudos to such wonderful physicians!
Sorry for your loss. I hope he was in good hands
@@mangaming1942 you're very kind! Thank you.
I’m sorry for your lost I know by your comment your husband was loved
Prayers to you and your family. I had a negative experience with Hospice with my Gigi.. 😢😢😢
@@chesiedengun It was shocking, right? We only ever hear of hospice being a soft place to fall in a time of need, but not always, I guess. Feel free to tell me about your experience. Grief is lessened when shared:)
I’m more afraid of my mother’s death then my own
Same. I’d rather me die than me dog. I just tear up thinking of life without them.
same🥺 I would rather go first coz I’d be miserable my whole life after
We all are
@@ayeyae6244 your mom wouldn't like you to be miserable after she's gone, Don't think that way.
João Costa I know but I’m currently battling with a mental illness and my mom is the only who’s always been there so if she goes I’m gonna lose interest in life
Last thing my sister told me before she died, on her death bed she said, “I’ll still be prettier than you.” And laughed, saying she was kidding and she loved me. She was 15 and fighting cancer ❤️ rip sis ily ❤️🕊
Edit: thank you for the replies, it means a lot ❤️
I lost my mother to cancer
Lmao feelsbad
so sorry
🙏🙏🙏
I Don’t Know What To Call This I’m sorry for loss, May god grant her heaven ❤️
That second doctor they brought in has such a calm, reassuring presence. You can really tell she's good at what she does. She's so comforting and she says just what is needed to be said, no more and no less. All doctors should strive to be like this.
I don t agree. This was a ridiculous scene and disrespectful.
@cloudman8911 How was it ridiculous and disrespectful? I'm genuinely curious.
@@mannygonzalez7735 Its not dying its murder. The NO1 leading cause of death is pharmaceutical MD direct treatments. The MD`s make direct cuts from prescribing drugs and getting as many people onto a payroll prescription as possible. They get houses bought for them, luxury holidays, hotels, all different kinds of benefits. High grade pure THC oil and diet change would have cured the cancer very quickly.. An MD does not even know how to cure heartburn. The average cancer patient is worth upto $1.5million dollars in the USA alone. GOOGLE IMAGES - ACIDOSIS CYCLE.
@@cloudman8911What are you talking about?
She's a physician who specializes in end of life care. The average practical nurse is capable of doing that job, and for much less money. What is the worst that could happen?
Kudos to that poor woman for letting them film her in such a vulnerable moment. Because of her and her husband, we can be educated on how this conversation will go down and what to expect (if we're lucky to have compassionate doctors). A lot of us will be in her shoes some day. RIP Clyde.
I hope Clyde is sitting by a lake fishing someplace at peace.
I'm sure he's fishing free from pain. 😪
Uhmm....based on his final wishes he's more than likely just wormwood at this point. The bright side is, once those worms get nice and full you can catch them and fish for yourself...y'know cos you're alive and stuff...
Claire Harrison yes! I was sad he didn’t get to go fishing 😞
If he was buried, he is being eaten by worms and insects and if he was cremated, he is now a cloud floating around because he evaporated. 🙋🙋😂😂🐭🐭🐭🐜🐜🐜🐜🐙🐙🐛🐛🐛🐉🐉☁️☁️☁️☁️☁️⛅🌙🌙🌙
@i n f i n i t e T y l e r Have I not stated the absolute truth? Oh let me guess, the truth offends you.. 😀😀😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🐭🐭🐭🌙
Last thing my sister told me on her death bed was "It isn't fair"....she was only 44
i’m so sorry. may she rest in peace. ❤️
SO WAS MY DAD 44 WHEN HE PASSED. HE LEFT 9 CHILDREN. TO THIS DAY I NEVER MET ANYONE THAT COULD MATCH HIS WORK ETHICS. ALL HE WANTED WAS A LARGE FAMILY. THANKS TO HIS HARD WORK, MY MOTHER WAS ABLE TO RAISE US NICELY.
So sorry for your loss, hope youre healthily coping and living to your best 👍
That's actually old asf
888 ??? A prayer for the loss of your father but that’s so rude saying SO? like man yeah your father was probably a amazing person but you being a jerk to a person who lost their sister is disgusting I hope u learn and forgive.
True heroes.
Loss is the worst. I lost my Father when I was 8, and the care and honesty received by folks like these meant the world to my mother and I.
Doctors are not heroes. All they do is push drugs and offer no hope for a real CURE. Your diet is KEY! EATING FRUITS LIKE BERRIES,GRAPES,CITRUS FRUITS AND MELONS CAN REVERSE ANY DISEASE NO MATTER WHAT STAGE.
I lost my father at the exact same age
My father lost his father at 8 too because of cancer. His friends at school helped him through and gave him something to live for. 40 years later my father is doing fine and those friends he was helped by message him every day. Just goes to show that there is some love in this world ❤
My Dad died looking like this at 74 years old, riddled with a cancer that took hold very quickly. He had been so fit and active just months before. It was unbelievable.
May he rest in peace
Seen it happen 4 times in my life to close relatives. Definitely not a good thing to watch.
It really hurts when the person who gave you the best memories becomes a memory
This is true..
Holy, just reading that brought me to tears :(
I'm getting juicy eyed
Bro, I'm not crying. My eyes are just sweating
Memory either way?.. no disrespect just saying
Nobody:
TH-cam recommended: you haven’t cried in a while
I know right. Damn Algorithm!
Jake Ostler yes true
So true 😂
Yep and it’s 6am I haven’t slept at all IM BAWLING😭
This made me laugh after watching this video.
Impossible not to cry with her “I love you”.
So touching.
RIP Clyde!
😔
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
When the doctor pat on Audrey's shoulder at 3:26, she clearly wanted to say something but it was inhibited.
It's this scene that puts me to tears every single time.
He was once a young healthy boy hanging out with his friends
Its crazy to think that most of us will be in his position one day..
Yea.. I can feel it ..
Subhan003 if we’re lucky
@@subhan6363 if we're lucky.
@Flight 32X could you do it though? With Coronavirus, I've been forced to thinking of suicide should I catch it bad as i don't fancy struggling for breath and drowning in my own fluids for possible days on end. I dont know if I could actually do it though.
I feel so bad for the old lady. She’s hiding her pain and we all know it
@@unshdhGbzbs What a horrible thing to say. It's very painful to see a loved one decline or in the dying process ITS NEVER EASY NO MATTER WHAT AGE!!! DO YOU HAVE ICE WATER IN YOUR VEINS?...........Oh wait.......YES YOU DO!!
@Psychic Medium Di yes, but Victor's heart is stone cold already..........very sad........very
I did twist ur mind on ur comment
@Joey Robertsonson bla bla funny guy spare us your fairy tales
@John Locy thank you for your service 🙂😇
Palliative care was really critical in my grandmothers last stage of her disease. They gave us that permission structure to talk about planning, which we had been wanting to do for her but felt like we couldn’t because doctors who treated her didn’t tell us where she was heading. We could sense that the end was near but did not know how soon. Palliative professionals really made the end clearer and easier for us and helped my grandmother lived the last eight months of her life how she wanted it.
In 2000 i was diagnosed with hydrocephalus at 46 years old. I went through 9 brain surgeries, I was in a COMA on my 7th surgery. As i was told i was near brain dead. During that time i was in the coma, I felt as if i was in a room. I was drawn into this room deeper. i did not walk as i can remember, i floated. (if you close your eyes really tight, you will see speckles of flashing light.) The further i went into this room, I became more at peace. I though about my 4 kids who were very young. But I was at peace knowing they will be fine and i would see them soon. As i went deeper into this room the speckles of like faded away, and it was very very peaceful. When I was in this room I had no worries at all. Nothing bothered me at all. Its very hard to explain.,,,, Then my father who passed away 20 years ago, stepped in front of me. We had a very long talk, at the end of this talk, he said to me, "Sonny you have to turn around, this is not your time." I said to him "yes dad." and i turned away from him and floated, as I went back the speckles of light came back slowly. I woke up to see my sister holding my hand, I had a oxygen tube in my mouth. I pulled the tube from my mouth and said to my sister, "I just got done talking to daddy", she looked at me as if I had 2 heads. she was in disbelief. I know what I saw and experienced. It was real. I tell my experience to people but no one believes me. People think it was the drugs.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
I always believe this types of stories. There is always beyond this life ❤
I'm not afraid of passing away , I'm just afraid of how I go , how my family would feel and if there's really an afterlife
Yeah, being dead will be the easy part. It's how you get there is what is hard.
There certainly is an afterlife, the Bible tells us so. There’s a heaven and a hell. Hell for those that reject the Lord Jesus, heaven for those that believe He died for us on the cross. Read it all in a King James Bible, year 1611, not revised one. God bless you.
@@janisewellington3971 yeah bible this bible that , I believe in god but sometimes I really question if there's a heaven or hell because it's a BELIEF. See if scientists could prove that's where you go to then I wouldn't question it at all.
@@daerituals3465 Scientists are the same humans as we are and it's not In a human mind to answer those questions
@@txrzandd6577 We are human because we seek answers and question things. That's what a human is
I could never be a doctor.
They're such strong people. They can't cry. They have to be strong for the patients.
I would be a mess
We do cry when noone sees us.
@@emis4608
Thank you for saying that.
I'm a nurse but yes, we do cry. Sometimes we sit in our cars to sob, sometimes we shed some tears during our breaks or when we step off to the side, sometimes we sit with the patient and wipe away tears with them
But we've seen so many deaths that we've learned to push past it in the moment until we have the opportunity to let it out
medical professionals do cry. but yes, they are strong people for not showing their emotions in front of these people.
You get used to it
I am 49 and the youngest of 8 siblings and I am faced now with seeing my loved ones die one by one from the cancer that seems to be almost a given in my family. In the past 10 years I have lost 3 siblings who were all young and saw my parents off in the decade before that. When I hear the word hospice my heart just sinks and I think OhGod not again. . I am scared not for myself but for my kids who are 11 and 14 . The thought of them going through the pain of loss is so saddening to me but I try hard to be positive and take care of myself the best I can. My heart goes out to people who have to constantly deal with losing loved ones although I know it's a part of being human
I'm so sorry for your losses. Cherish ea h and every moment. Our mum died within six weeks of a horrific type of leukaemia. She was quite camera shy, we still had some great photos but I wish we had more videos. Seeing them alive and hearing their voice really helps, even log after they pass. It might be something nice to start doing for your kids, just in case. I hope you stay lucky and we'll though
You are a good person. Always take care of yourself. Being healthy of mind and body allows us to be a blessing to others
@@kristen7948 thank you very much for the kind words I really do appreciate it. I live one day at a time and try to be happy and the best Dad I can be for whatever time I have, be it one year or 40
@@zitimotleyxxjmxx I appreciate that and I hope I can be a good person for whatever time I get to share with my family. God Bless you
I am 51 year's old and fighting stage 4 Cancer. This video broke my heart. I have to get my affairs in order.
Hey man are you doing alright?
@@freevipservers I think not...
@@reactivelemur846 😢
I cant believe "End of life care" is a specialty, mad respect to the people who has the balls to do it
When it was clear my sister was going to pass, they moved her to the hospice floor of the hospital. She only lasted two days and she passed away after all the family had gone home for the night. A nurse was with her in her final moments. I’ve always been very grateful for that. Can you imagine their courage?
@@sarahewson3607 o so sorry to hear that are you alright?
(the doctor was a girl)
@@maisiewilson9103 it’s been ten years since she passed away, she had been sick for a few years before that. I find comfort in knowing her suffering is over. Her youngest daughter lives with me and she’s so much like my sister, it’s almost like having her with us still. Sometimes that makes the sad days sadder, but in a way my children are growing up with that same spark that I did. The love never goes away, she left us with a lot of love. ♥️
@@sarahewson3607 She is an angel and is in heaven watching over you and your beautiful family God bless 😊💖
"The future is unpredictable, but the past is unforgettable"
Edit: don't use this quote, everyone just made me realize how terrible it is
Unless your the Simpsons
Yeah the future is unpredictable, but I cant even Remember What i ate for dinner
Just realized after you guys replied, WHY
Till alzheimer's sets in
Tell that to people with Alzheimers
This lady was so sweet and real. The pain is palpable, but she was so strong.
I hope all the people who take care of end of life stage, stay strong and healthy themselves. It's not an easy task to take care of their own mental health surrounded by people mourning for their loved one and having to constantly break the news. Most importantly I hope they really care about the patients cause they deserve honorable final moments. May all the departed souls rest in peace.
“We’re going fishing after we leave here.” That broke my heart! 💔🥺
One day they’ll be reunited and able to go fishing again❤️
🥺
“til we meet again.”
No matter if she goes fishing alone, he will always be there 🥺
😢
Why does it hurt so hard watching other people die, even if I don’t know them
Cause u are Human.
Mr. Cringe nah I’m a carrot
It’s because u have a loving heart..
@@cocraine a Carrot with a Human Feelings
That's emotion and that us what makes us human
This video is a powerful reminder of the difficult conversations that doctors have to have with patients and their families. It takes incredible empathy and skill to navigate these discussions
Such display of kindness by the doctors is heartwarming. Say THANK YOU to your healthcare provider every time you see them…the feedback you provide will keep their hearts replenished ❤
imagine being with someone for more than 50 years and one of them die ,could you imagine the feeling , damn we cry over breakups for 1 or 2 year.
Didn't she also say newlyweds?
Edit: exectly why does this comment get 80 likes. It's unimportant.
Kinda break up have u been going thru 😂they last weeks maybe 2 months tops
@@truthmatters758 deadass 1 month tops shawty out the way
There newlyweds, but still!
@@megansmoker9982 oohhh 50 mins ago 😂
It hurts me the most whenever I see old couples and one is looking at the other dying one.. They have spent so much of their life together, and just looking at the other after one has passed away is heartbreaking
At least one of them is not alone when dying.
My great Grandma passed away and my great grandpa had dementia and was always asking where she was, he ended up passing away a few weeks later though so they weren’t apart long
Usually the other is not far behind.
You do realize they just met
Don't be hurt, they just met each other as newlyweds.
as someone who just lost their grandfather and who’s grandmother is also named audrey, this made my heart swell with admiration and sorrow. i got to see my grandfather 5 days before he passed and he got to meet my boyfriend, the only one he’s ever met. these doctors and nurses who work with patients at the end of their life will always have a special place in my heart
I watched this video six or seven years ago because it was recommended by TH-cam. For whatever reason, TH-cam wanted me to see it again. I am currently taking a medical/linguistic anthropology class where we have been discussing how doctors talk with dying patients and how important it is for doctors to assess the goals of the patient in regards to what they'd like to do or accomplish before they pass before it's too late for them. This video demonstrates what I have been learning perfectly. Thank you for sharing your final moments with us, Clyde. Rest in peace.
All he wanted to do was go fishing....
Damn my heart
Lmao
My grandpa promised he would take me fishing some day but unfortunately he passed away and till this day I never went fishing.
@@kostalazic6531 dude... I feel for ya
That man’s last words were MILF. Man, I love fishing...
@@petergriffin8767 XD NICE
Clyde knew he was dying when he said “ I love you” back to his wife. It’s good that he got a final chance to say that to her before he left this world.
5:03
what was his COD?
that broke me
I mean I feel like he could hear the conversation between his wife and the doctor as well.
Yes
Couldn't imagine having the job to deliver this type of news every day
Maybe you'd find some creative approaches...
- Hello, patient. I guess you're rock fan, aren't you? I checked your analysis, and I have good news for you. In few weeks, you'll be able to go to Nirvana gig.
- Oh, that's cool! Hey, wait, doc... But Curt Cobain is dead...
- I know.
Very beautiful, I feel honored that Clyde shared this moment with us. He is forever in our hearts
This is why I wouldn’t be able to be a doctor.
Yeah same, that and I'm pretty dumb lol
@@collinkelley9906 lmao im dead
@@emmavaccova8695 sorry for your loss
You could be a dentist!
Well you don't really have to deal with that, it was transfered to the end of life specalist like in the video
At one point, everyone in this video was a young, happy, carefree child. Life moves by pretty quickly. Never pass up an opportunity to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you.
Everything is tampon, so be happy and Forever Living.
💓 💓 💓
@@fonainfinity5964 yes, everything in life is a tampon. I couldn’t have put it better
Lmao
@@bob2k375 the fact that you say lmao after people grieve just make you a bad person and noone thinks you’re funny
@@buenoazzbeaten5607 bruh I laughed at the tampon joke
Relax
100% courage and love to the patients and their family who allow this to be filmed.
Greetings from Mexico, I love what I am seeing on your profile. I apologize for jumping into your comment in such a way. I'm really looking forward to get to know you better. If you're comfortable with it, I'd love to talk somewhere outside the TH-cam comment section. and get to know each other a bit more intimately. What do you think?
I started to cry with Clyde's sudden onset of deterioration, it was so hard to watch... I held my mother's hand in palliative care when she passed away in a similar fashion three years ago. Heartbreaking, but heaven needs angels 😭
It sucks being the only living creatures on earth to be cursed with the knowledge of our own mortality.
A blessing and a curse
But how do you know that what if other animals know that like cats usually take themselves off to die so that their owners won’t feel so bad, it’s as if they can tell when they will die even if it’s a habit it’s still an understanding of some degree.
Well, I think others’ mortality is much worse, and many animals can certainly feel it, such as elephants.
KoKane exactly
animals know it too.
I well remember how a surgeon broke the news to my father who was stricken with cancer. He looked at my dad and said, "Get your affairs in order, make peace with your God as your life is coming to an end." My father was born in 1929...part of that generation who were bred tough. He listened to the doctor, thanked him for his honesty and forthrightness and stood up and walked out of his office. I was in tears but my father grabbed me by the arms and said, "Son, I need you to be strong because you are going to have to help me on this journey...so wipe away the tears and take me home. I'm not dead yet...I have some months to go so don't cry for me now." He was brave right to the end. They made his generation out of very strong stuff.
Thank you for sharing..
I am sure he is in peace now.. 🍀
No other comments made me cry besides this. Your father was a strong man.
What a strong man
This touched my heart and I know your Dad was strong. And so are you.
That’s badass. RIP
Talk about heartbreaking, this brought a tear to my eye. You have to give credit to the doctors and staff who show a brave face when telling others their loved ones are at the end of their life.
I'm grateful, having gone through this with my father and stepmother, for the wonderful people whose job it is to be with those who are losing loved ones. It takes a special person to be able to do this. I remember vividly the palliative care doctor having the "DNR" discussion with my father two days before he died. He was very much aware of what was happening but it was still a difficult conversation.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
I never really understood when people said they felt their heart jump when receiving bad news until I witnessed a doctor tell my brother he only had a few months to live. I literally saw the blood drain from his face and felt my heart in my throat. RIP dear Brother.
that’s tough man 🙏🏽 god bless you .
This kind of comments always make me cry... May he rest in peace, I'm sure that at the end he was really grateful for everything
J E Your brother is fine now. Circumstances surrounding death can be very tragic, but death itself isn’t, it’s
just the gateway to reality. One can see people age 3O years when they are suddenly told they have weeks to live, proving time is a psychological construct and birth and death mental concepts, so no worries my friend all works out fine in the end. Good luck
J E I'm really sorry for your loss...
I wish you the best in the future. Keep believing and know that God is watching you always along with your brother. Especially in the times you need him. 🙏
I just learned that the woman died in 2016 just few months after his death, so sad hope they can go fishing with peace in heaven
RIP❤️😢🥺🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
R u sure?? Where did u found tht news??
Jayarambr Ram yes
Oh far out,nine months later...that was her love of her life,she couldn't handle life without her love bittersweet.
Better up there’s lake at heaven or else I’m filing a complaint.
Sad but inevitable will happen to us all..... and sadly there ''Won't be any fishing either''......
I admire these professionals so much! I'd never be able to break news like this on a regular basis without becoming an emotional wreck.
My main fear is seeing my girlfriend (future-wife) pass away. I've lost so many people in my life within a few years and you know when you're 19 years old, anything can happen when you leave the house and even when you are at home. I cannot even imagine a life without my baby man🥺💔
I’m sorry for your loss.
okay but imagine trying to get permission to film this
"we're gonna film this, is that okay?"
"sure but what for..?"
"...nothing don't worry about it fam"
🤣🤣🤣
Oh I needed this I was bawling at this video
wonder how they treated people especially minorities back in the day?
imagine they were just like the prank channels and said "it's just for a stupid youtube video, i make this kind of things"
fam
"Death smiles at us all,but all a man can do,is smile back"
-Marcus Aurelius
And his son, Commodus was a megalomaniac and hated his papi.
@@vasishtsudharsan8867 whatever happened to that commodus dude? I heard he dresses as a clown nowadays
@@williamquantrill9076 he’s busy being dead rn.
And I'm smiling at it first😃
Smile for me now brother! 😀😀😀😀😀😀👄👄🙌
Such a sad story!
Gosh, these women were so utterly empathetic and loving. They delivered the hard truth with the utmost compassion and kindness as humanly possible.
Thank you to that beautiful lady for allowing us to watch and learn from her saddest of times and for that lovely hospice doctor showing the compassion and humanity that was so needed in that moment. As a nurse I held many hands and tried to comfort both patients and relatives through times like these and my heart was heavy for each of them. I sat with and held my brother’s hand as he died unexpectedly within days of a diagnosis, no real warning or preparation, and even as a health professional the rawness and pain of those few days and the full process involved will stay with me forever. Take the time to speak to those you love about the end of life we are so focussed on celebrating the beginning let’s prepare a little for the end without being so frightened it remains a taboo subject.
My grandpa was told he was going to die, he said "i could of told you that" that son of a bitch is still alive today
Bless your grandpa XD
Can't always go by what doctors say. They can only give their opinionated time frame.
Ritsu Haneuka My other grandpa who actually did stuff for him and his family ended up dying, life is a conundrum.
The one who does drugs and abandoned his daughter, and ignored his grandchildren is alive, aint that a bitch
DemoLegends All the sour ones live longest -.-
Why does being bitter keep you alive longer? Probably because being happy-go-lucky all the time makes you vulnerable, probably.
I was shaving my dying Grandfather, shaking and barely holding it together when he looked up and said, "Awe, it's gonna be ok". I was a teenager and will take that memory to the grave.
😢😢u made me tear. I lost my grandfather too, and it so sad.
I still spend time with my grandfather and he means the world to me. I prefer sitting with him and listen to his stories rather then going out with other people.
Same with my grandma. She is having an operation in a few weeks and I'm afraid to lose her.
It was her 70th birthday yesterday
@Ranjit Tyagi I'm sorry for your loss. Sure, times are hard but everything heals some day and you should never forget the positive memories you had. If you remember them, a person is never completely gone. And I'm sure they loved their lives to full extent💜
Thank you, it means a lot to me. I send all love back too you from East Germany❤️I hope all your dreams come true and that you will find true love soon! My mum is 45 on 06/30 and single too. I think sometimes true love is hard to find. Especially if you are a hard working person who deserves so much, that God had to create special people for you😄💜
Please stay safe in those trying times🌺
@Chris Craft: Oh, the same happened to me. We visited my grandpa and he was doing pretty fine that day. He even managed to get out of bed and my mom showered him in the shower cabin. Later on he came back to bed where I shaved him. Then we talked about me going abroad soon and starting a new life. We talked about more and less serious stuff. Just a casual talk, one of hundreds we'd had. And then we got up because it was time to leave. He said goodbye to my parents the usual way and when I came closer he grabbed my arm and looked me in the eyes like he never had before. It was that typical you-are-going-away-and-I-am-dying-and-we-both-know-we-won't-see-each-other-anymore look. It broke my heart. He indeed died 1,5 months later when I was abroad and I couldn't come to the funeral. He had bowel cancer but died of a heart failure.
@@abdelkaderelbrazi Yes...I felt that pain.
I remember when my Dad passed away just a few Years ago in 2019 from Lung Cancer. He Died at Home, but I was able to see him 4 Days before he passed away. He passed away on like a Thursday Night, and I was able to see him that Sunday before which was on Father's Day matter of a fact. I was able to spend my last Father's Day with him, but when I saw him on that Sunday (Father's Day) he was definitely not himself. I was talking to Him, and he was talking back, but you can tell he was struggling to even talk he was very weak. He had lost so much weight to where there was nothing to Him even in his Face. He literally looked like a Skelton, and it really broke my Heart to see my Dad like this. I miss my Dad so much it's only been a few Years ago, but it doesn't get any easier no matter what People say. 😢💔
Two years ago, I lost my younger brother to a liver failure disease which progressed and caused multiple organ failure. He was there in the hospital for about 17 days and everyday we had to see him dying, not able to save him was immensely painful and still it is.. This video bought those painful memories back to life again…
RIP Clyde
I'm truly sorry for your loss.
When Mr Earle's wife said: "I don't like this"
My heart just shattered.
same, jesus christ that hit like a ton of bricks
this is exactly im facing with my father right now...
@@kenrock2 I wish you the best of luck, and I am sorry to hear that
@@lemon.3560 Tq.. God bless u
@@kenrock2 I am sorry to hear that my friend . Wish u strength.
Why do I do this to myself? Watch videos like this and make myself cry at 3AM? I hope you’re somewhere peaceful now, Clyde. May your soul rest in blissful tranquility.
люблю if u r watch this at 3am that means u r unemployed!)
ITS LITERALLY 3:00 AM EXACTLY
@sunrise you make no sense, i am employed and im not a student lol
12:11am here.
@@allengarcia9152 or it means you're an as sumptuous asshole....people work night shift and stay up late on nights off dick head
Seeing the wife cry made me cry so hard. I could never ever tell someone that their loved one was dying… ever 😭
My mom's MD talked to me about her prognosis. I'm thankful that my sister wasn't there, as I was able to ask hard questions and get hard answers. He said he was looking at her passing within 2 weeks. Hearing that was able to help me make my peace with her passing and prepare, as I was with her in hospice when she died, and made the necessary phone calls.
I remember my dad had stage 4 colon cancer and didn't know it. He collapsed in the living room and was rushed to the hospital. The doctor said that this cancer is very aggressive, and that he would barely survive the week after the collapse. He gave it so gently, and wished my family the best. He surprisingly survived it through a lot of prayer and love and effort. He's now cancer free. It's been nearly 8 years and my dad is still with me. I feel so bad for those who don't have the same outlook, and I hope their families are shown the most love possible
The power of God is amazing
@@stephen_boss power of belief and law of attraction.
Hi my mom also has stage 4 colon cancer, I dont know how old you are but it turns out we had a genetic disease that made us have a 50 chance of having it in the future. I dont know if you have this but just in case
@@tubbier I'm 16. And I'm likely to have it
@@baronzemo8871 get tested when you turn 20-ish, you gotta push for the testing because they might say you are too young. The earlier the better, stay strong
Imagine the doctor starts the conversation with: “were all gonna die at some point am i right, haha?”
It’s a serious and sad topic but this just made it a lot better too watch this video
@@i_throw_ched289 agreed
Haha jk
...unless 😳😳😳
She would get fired
@@soiboi8147 which is sad...because it’s true.
We live in a death phobic culture, who is addicted to lies...covering up signs of aging, and trying to run from death.
A doctor saying that would be so much better than the ones who dance around the topic to “make the patient feel better”
Doesn’t change the outcome.
I literally just had this conversation with my father's doctor in June when he had to break the news to me that after a year of fighting his cancer, he was not going to be leaving the hospital. The way she was gentle and asked what the expectations were but then having to tell them about hospice, that's exactly how they talked to me, and I was grateful that they were so open and honest and I told them that I would rather have brutal honesty so I could make the best decision for my father's pain management as he went into hospice care. I give that hopsitalist all of the credit in the world that he was honest with me and told me the truth and then hugged me when I had to make the decision to place the DNR for my dad.
I always find this difficult to discuss with the patient although this is my job. There are so emotions running through.
When i told one of my patients that she would die within 2 weeks she replied " Oh! I thought i would be able to see the birth of my grandchild whose birth was due only 2 months. " She called the daughter infront of me and said " I will go faster than i expected " then she broke down in tears. I remained with her for another 30 minutes. She thanked me and it touched my heart.
I know it's sad im in tears from all the comments but just wanted to say hey Dexter 🥲
I just hope my death is painless. Thats all.
Ok painless as possible. Lol i hope i dont have to kill myself due to a painful death.
Painless,quick, and when im old. When i cant fuck move and barley enjoy life. Then i would be like, well then i rather be dead.
Same
hehe my death is gonna end up being shot... by someone I know
JessRyePlayz ohh lucky you. A mystery :) i get a boring usual death :(
I’m currently 14 and I just wanna say this will all be us some day so let’s live now and I just wanna say I love all u guys no matter who u are.
Keith busjs I love you, too!!
:)
gross bunny aww thank you
Coder boi thanks bro
Thank you as a 15 year old that makes me smile
watching this just brought flashbacks of seeing my grandparents and other family members on their death beds, with their heads tilted back and mouths open gasping for air while the machines in the hospital beeped and hissed sporadically- memories that i’ve repressed and forgotten. it was necessary trauma in my opinion. seeing the end of my loved ones lives as a child made the idea of death more palpable to me, more aware of my own mortality and appreciative of my time on earth. seeing the loss of a loved one up close, and the grief afterwards, makes you feel so intensely that it inspires you to appreciate your own humanity and ability to feel pure love for another soul, how another living being meant so much to you that they hurt so much to lose.
I can sympathize with the families; I lost my wife, of almost 27 years, after having the privilege of meeting her almost 30 years ago. She was young and beautiful and I miss her so much after two years of her loss. She passed at home and I devoted myself to taking care of her in her final weeks, hours, and seconds in this world. I would do it all again if I have to. Although we know that death is certain, we do not get used to that reality, not even the very fine doctors and care professionals in this video. I guess that a measurement of how much one's mission on earth has accomplished is how much we are going to be missed once we start the journey into the sunset.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
*The worst thing about this, is the woman going home and being alone, having that gap in here life, remembering the old times, having that empty side on the bed.*
My grandma was like that since my grandpa passed away nearly a month ago, 11 January.
been there
Life is full of challenges and great pain.
@@zaf2774 damn that's my birthday
@@MarstJohnson ??
Can I please get a prayer for my great grandma. She passed away peacefully in her sleep of natural causes she was 86 Feb 18 2018 R.I.P🙏🏻
Northern Sea , please tell me why I would so desperately want a like in a god damn “COMMENT”? The likes don’t do anything, they are pointless, and to disrespect my family like that is just uncalled for. If a your here to do is to just give hate and “TRY” to upset us then you are just wasting your already pointless life. So do us all a favor and just fuck off.🖕
Oh and btw you didn’t tell me what likes on a comment do for me.🤣🖕🧐
May she rest in peace
Thank you, and if you have lost a loved one recently, I’m sorry for your loss🙏🏻
Sorry for your loss i'll keep u and your great grandma in my prayers
Wow, that’s not an easy job Dr. Copper. May God bless you.
RIP Clyde, my heart goes out to his widow and family 💔
This is really informative.... as someone who has lost all senior members of my family, I commend the hospital staff at the Palliative stage, very gruelling thing to deal with daily. Takes a special person... 🎉🎉🎉
My man Clyde is up there fishing and having the time of his life.
William Hall clyde is a bro for life
@@Doors067 and death.
William Hall all the good works of a man cannot cover up his one single bad work. Just like when you take a criminal to court for a bad offense he committed by breaking the law of a country, all the good things he has done in his entire life cannot cover up that bad offense he committed. He will be sentenced to prison no matter how hard he begs for mercy and promises never to do it again. That is justice not wickedness. That is how it is with GOD. And throughout the bible GOD calls himself a just judge who will also judge all people that ever lived on judgment day.
When someone sins, he breaks GOD'S law and commandments. The punishment for sinning against GOD, is death, hell and be thrown into the lake of fire on judgment day. For that reason, GOD showed mercy because of his love for mankind, and the mercy is, he sent his only son into the world in human form as a man named YAHUSHUA whom the world calls JESUS, to suffer and die for the sins of the world so that whoever repents and turns away from his sins which includes, sexual immorality, drinking, disobedience to parents, disrespect, curse, or insult one’s parents, or one’s elders. smoking, partying, clubbing, tattoos, drugs, fornication, adultery, must not commit incest; which is, unlawful and forbidden sexual relations between siblings, or other close relatives. violence, pride, cursing, using the title GOD. And the name of his son JESUS as curse words, many christians said that Jesus warned them in visions, dreams and death experiences that women and girls who are using makeup, bleaching of skin, relaxation of hair, curling of hair, dyeing of hair, ornaments, wigs, short skirts, trousers, tight clothes or half naked clothes, artificial nails or eyelashes and wearing high heels will end up in hell because these impure things lead men and boys into sin of lust, fornication and adultery. and stopped doing to others what he does not want others to do to him,
and believes that JESUS the divine son of GOD came to this world in human form to suffer and die for the sins of the world and his sins and rose again from the dead on the third day after his death, and beg him in prayer for forgiveness, and to be his lord and savior and that he believe he is the divine son of GOD who came down to this earth to suffer and die for the sins of the world and rose again from the dead on the third day after his death, return double what he stole from others, forgive those who wronged him, apologizes to those he wronged, is baptized in the name of the father, the son and the holy spirit. Then GOD Will forgive and save him from The end of the world and the end of the universe, where God will send fire down from heaven to the earth, to consume and destroy the whole universe, the whole earth, all people, houses, cars, mountains, everything on earth and the universe will be melted by the fire. and God will also save him from hell, judgment day and the lake of fire. And will then be given everlasting life in heaven and the new indescribable, beautiful, Heavenly earth, where there is no sorrow, pain, suffering, sadness, crying, hunger, thirst, sickness, disease and death. Only everlasting happiness.
Do that now for after death it is too late.
Everything i have written here is truths from the bible.
Samuel Fritz i know. I came here to preach the gospel. In the Bible, in Mark 1:15 Yahushua Jesus said: The right time has come,“and the Kingdom of God is near! Turn away from your sins and believe the gospel!” The gospel is about how Yahushua Jesus the divine son of God came to this earth and paid for our sins, so that if we repent of our sins and believe in him as our lord and savior and beg him for mercy and to forgive our sins, and are baptized in the name of the father, son and Holy Spirit, then God will forgive and save us from the end of the world, where he will destroy the whole earth with fire from heaven everything on earth will be destroyed and melted by the fire. He will also save us from hell fire after death and from the lake of fire on judgment day; and will give us everlasting life in the kingdom of heaven and the new indescribable, beautiful, heavenly earth. Where there is no sorrow, pain, sadness, crying, hunger, thirst, suffering, sickness, disease and death. Only everlasting happiness with God forever.
Samuel Fritz What do you mean by general thread? This is definitely the place to preach. A place full of unbelievers. Jesus wants us to preach to unbelievers.
When I tell people that Jesus died and rose again from the dead so that their sins can forgiven, so that they would escape hell fire and the lake of fire, so that God would give them everlasting life in heaven and the new indescribable, beautiful, heavenly earth. Where there is no death, sorrow, pain, crying, sickness, disease, suffering, hunger, and thirst. only everlasting happiness with God.
is that not Gods love? they will know that Jesus did that because of his love.
Damn when she said "I don't like it..." oh my Lord....
Right. It crushed my heart. Crushed it.
@Psychic Medium Di Sad to say, if you truly love that person, their dying moments will just stay with you for life, you just need to learn to be stronger to keep on going and always remember the good times.
Immmm crying so hard
We are fucking helpless. After centuries of research and study, still powerless to our own mortality. Even single one of us must face this completely on our own.
I have made it through tons of movies of all sorts, videos, you name it. Never cried once, I even laughed during Titanic. My own parents joked that I had a heart of stone because I never felt any emotion during these movies and such. But this is the video got me. This was the one that choked me up and got me on the verge of tears. RIP Clyde. 🕊️ ❤️
The expression on that poor woman’s face is heartbreaking
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
The old woman came across as a lovely person...
I hope she’s ok now.
Sadly she died too
VIOZO how do you know?
They look like a beautiful couple
She died 2016 😔
Aww that's so sad that she died... rip 💔😭
Hey you scrolling through the comments - you - smile, and make the most of life.
Thank you, i actually smiled, i was sad after this video.
:)
Thank you sweetheart
Don't tell me what to do peasant.
😌
He went back to Dumnezeu and he doesn't suffer anymore.
Have a good afterlife, Mr. Earle
Clyde's wife saying "i know" and holding tears back made me cry :(
People killing each other over religion
@@paulineheaney1981 tacky, what does that have to do with anything here?
@@paulineheaney1981 wt 😆😆stupido
@@paulineheaney1981 wtf does this have to do with anything in this video you deranged FOOL.
@@paulineheaney1981 so what? so ur saying there is no god? stupid
I've had "the talk" with a doctor and my husband survived, it's 37 years later and he is still surviving.
Which is great. No one can predict death. It just helps you prepare for the worst. Should It come.
Doctors are not god, dont trust them when they want you in a nursing home or hospice. It is your choice, I choose to forget what they wanted and will continue to live till god desides.
@@kayt9576 No doctor wants anyone to die, and it's always your choice how to live your final days. But it's important that you make that choice with all the information laid out in front of you, and with expert advice to guide you. To tell you "you definitely won't die, just keep fighting no matter what" would be inhumane and amoral.
A doctor's job is neither to play God nor to control lives as they see fit, it's to provide medicine and medical care for which they've been trained. It's our job to listen and respect we can't be all-knowing, even when it comes to our own bodies.
Allow me to present an alternative. I've had "the talk" with a doctor about my father. Hours later and he indeed died. If that doctor had done anything other than prepare me, I would've been substantially more devastated than I already was.
@@kayt9576 Then don't go to hospitals from now on.
Let's get it 💪
He's in pain and all that but you can still see him reacting to the 'good morning' and all that. So he is clearly hearing all of this and I wonder what's going through his mind when he hears them saying he's going to die soon. Heart crushing.
man I cant stop crying that old lady with the blue striped shirt reminds me of my mom so sad she is a tough lady. So much admiration and respect to those in healthcare who deal with death and injury for all us, I salute you!!
The weird thing is we are all dying just at a different pace
First person in this comment section to die first wins
ah shit you beat me ^
Peace out suckers I win
I wiiinnn
Giovanni B ahaha
When he tried saying “I love you” back... My fucking heart
Oh my God I didn't even realize that. That really sucks.
😭
Absolutely heartbreaking..
He did say I love you back. I see people in that state a lot and many of them cannot speak.
I’m in tears at that part 😭
One of my very best friends died of cancer March 31st and it was very, very hard. I stayed with him to the end and comforted him as he passed. He started gasping for air right before he went and I tried to give him mouth to mouth out of instinct but a couple nurses told me that it was not necessary and then he passed. I miss you dude. I always will.
I am so thankful for all the wonderful people that were caring , honest and helpful at the end of my parents’ lives. My mother didn’t have the same peaceful passing as my dad did and didn’t have warm, loving people by her side. They didn’t help her prepare for her passing. She was another warm body in their facility. My sister and I spoke to her less than 24 hours before her passing and we gave her the choice to let go or fight. She let go. Thank you God, for the good caregivers they both had.