I just told my best friend this. Despite what was done to me, i have to take responsibility for failing myself. For silencing my intuition and turning away from all the moments i felt uneasy without any evidence. God and our inner voices are all we need. When something doesn’t feel right, there’s a reason why. God took me to a point where i could no longer deny my intuition. He laid all my doubts on a plate before me to save me. God does not want to see his children hurt. Listen to Him and the Spirit, and don’t forget to forgive yourself as well. That’s where my healing started.
Cathy Greenia i think we spend so much time trying to pinpoint why it doesn’t feel normal when, in all reality, we don’t need visual evidence. Our intuition is more than enough.
@@icgreener Years and years of evidence, but the haunting question is always, WHY ? It's time. Stop looking for just the right evidence. Your body tells you there is something very wrong Your body knows first. The first time that you feel a lump in your throat or discomfort in your STOMACHS area, YOU KNOW, IT'S TIME FOR A COUNSELOR (ON THE SLIDING SCALE IF NO MONEY), OR WALK AND DO NOT LOOK AT FACEBOOK OR STALK THE NEW SUPPLY. NO LOOKING BACK. GOOD RIDDANCE.
Wow couldn’t have said this any better l! Exactly how I feel it’s like I ignored the signs. And now since I’m away I’m constantly thinking about all the signs and how crazy he made me feel. Smh. The entire time it was Gods protection.
I am learning about triangulation as he’s done exactly that. The pain and truth is mind blowing. Vile animal I am done forever just the divorce to finalise and that a shit shower full of tactics. I’m as dizzy and confused as he intended but I’m not a walk over any longer. Bring it on Nark I’ve got the instruction booklet now. What a sick minded person he truly is.
@@primsandwhims7533 You focus on yourself. You give yourself all the empathy, care and love you were giving to the narcissist and others, to yourself first. Identify and enforce your boundaries. Give yourself all the Love, affection and validation you seek from the narcissist/others.
Agreed Sister!!💜💪🏾🌹🌹Same here. Once I owned my part in the relationship, forgave myself for allowing it I literally felt an inside peace I'd never know. #Priceless. Healing's a daily walk but after a few months of peace & calm from his toxicity, those good feelings will continue to fuel more motivation necessary to win!! We got this!!💃🏽💃🏽🤗
I am glad my one is getting fat and old looking. Helping me get over her. She has a new dress makes her look uglier. Am still a bit devastated what she did. Cant understand why the new guy cant see all her red flags, dysfunctional relationship in the making.
I wasn't married to mine but we were living together. I told him two days before I was due to move out. One the last day when I was packing the last of my things, he went into a narcissistic rage and decided he wanted to fight me. I guess that's when it really sunk in that he no longer had control
I was new supply - we got married after 3 months - 2 WEEKS after we got married he was getting nudes from exes - he was distant on our wedding day - silent treatment night before the wedding - total time married: 15 months - it was over on the honeymoon - I held onto hope - divorce finalized last week - 2 years no contact #freedom
Thank you for sharing my husband left me with a 3month old baby and it’s pains me to know he haven’t even given me closure he just left without a words every time I ask him he keep on being rude and calling me names 😔😔
DANI LUX SHOW he left in Oct 2018 - when I would try to talk rationally he would be nasty and harsh - a bully - he even told me to stop contacting him - that was like Ice water being splashed in my face - I went no contact completely after that comment - then everything shifted - he was calling from diff numbers leaving voicemails 2-3 min long (which I did not listen to) - we had no children together - go grey rock since you a child with your narc - no matter how badly you may feel - it.will.change.everything. - trust me
the Empath is the only one keeping the entanglement together....Once we remove the rose colored glasses, the entanglement ends. YES We must look at ourselves...the whole reason this LESSON presented itself in our lives. Awesome Vid Hario ❤
I don't believe they are a mirror to anything except their own evilness but that's just me. We have internally what they want but it was a gift to us by the Most High ♥️
@@laurenmorgan3939 The very Elect will be deceived...and yes okay, we were all foolish to blindly trust and not test that spirit...now we have the Wisdom..lets start looking at the positive blessings coming now
😔Pain....Pain man this felt like I had a limb amputated.... This thing was soooo very painful‼️Thank You for helping me WIN and reattach my limb👌🏾#WINNING
They can sense empaths from afar ! Overwhelming you with kindness and love bombs only to rob your dignity, self esteem , happiness , and self love ....... but ....you can reverse the roll and ghost back with “No Contact “ feels great to payback their sick minds 😉
Thanks, you are correct. This one I'm doing a case study on, he like to gather them together like trophies and continue to use them he has them one from another like little trophies he puts away and uses them for different things, he is very manipulative, he uses them for sex and $$$, he gets them to buy him things he desires, most of them are married and with children but he make sure that he doesn't impregnate any of them. He uses sex and control over them, it's crazy. They are like walking zombies needing God in a real way.
Exactly!!! We got this now. When you know how something works, sometimes that's enough to stop it from happening in our lives. Be blessed without the mess🙏♥️
The new supply is dependant on him. He chose someone who he could have the one up over. The fact he wanted me to leave my job shows they want you to be all about them. They are DIRTY ! They won’t change. They may not be able to go about their ways initially but the current supply is gonna get it worse than you. My gut tells me his marriage is temporary
@@prudencel1652 oh God, so much better. I really had to understand that I had to go no contact. It's been a little over a year & words cannot express how thankful I am for having the strength to finally get out 13 yrs later... thank you beautiful 😍
Marriage to a narcissist is secured supply, and the only reason they married them is because they know that the new supply will put up with more of their BS because now they have an official title, which will make the new supply if they are an empath more susceptible to deal with longer abuse to try to make it work for the sake of the marriage
Yes Hario.We've betrayed ourselves by loving ONLY them and not OURSELF. That's why we're in pain. Lavish the love you gave them on yourself. ONLY then will the trauma bond pain go.
I needed to see this, I was so angry with him for betraying me and lying on me and making me lose everything, but I still had a shreads of hope that he would apologize and right his wrong, but the truth is he never will. And today, I have accepted that and moved on. I will no longer have false hope. It is what it is. He is the devil and devils don't change. He deserves all of the karma that is soon coming to him. Thank you for this video!
This message is on time for me..... If i must be honestly, i think about him every day...12years and 6 weeks i went no contact....i must say i dont ignore those feelings, i just take it to GOD for help, and it truly works....i just strive to take it one day at a time....i joined a fitness group with TH-camrs....for physical health I joined your group for mental health I joined t.d jakes sermon for spiritual health....good distractions...i try not to dwell on who he is with, i try to overcome the lonilness.
So happy I found these channels a year ago. So grateful that I lost the obsession with this zombie. I became a warrior I had to go through this painful experience to become the woman I am today. Ty God
@Starr God will bring healing you have pray to ask God to break soul ties with this person as well you are a strong woman of God ...I see blessings to you and your journey !!!
Yeah because we stay in a constant state of upset. It’s not a cliche anymore when you don’t love yourself or put yourself first these people walk all over you. They will try now but we will fight and fight back in the right ways that don’t make us look crazy🙂
Thank You For Sharing It’s Been 7 Yrs For Me I’m Still Struggling...... It Took Me Yrs To Realize That I Was Chosen Because The Narcissists Knew That I Was Vulnerable. Narcissistic Abuse It’s An Invasion Of Ur Head In Which The Narcissists Takes Over Ur Head . There’s Also Trauma Bonding. I Also Keep Thinking I Could Change This Person.Narcissists Will Never Change There Abuse Never Ends.
This was me HOWEVER.... I’ve since found and subscribed to several channels that discuss similar topics literally describing my situation from start to finish only further validating he’s a narcissist and gaining my own closure and clarity. Purposely got me pregnant allowing me to believe we “planned” our son knowing I was in a state where I had no supports and would inevitably “need” him to be “forever supply” but 😜 jokes on him... I moved 1400 miles away WITHOUT his knowledge while pregnant AND... filed for child support WITHOUT his knowledge 🤓🥳 talk about narcissistic injury 😂😂😂😂😜 #IWIN
Man I love this guy. so I'm cleaning my room I almost dropped my phone so I put it in my pocket and I realized Herios video was still going. I highly suggest to anybody put his video in your pocket. Go wash your car, take a walk, work out, kick a Narcs ass!!! Lol j/k No but, just cleaning my house I've been having nightmares of my ex coming back. So I pop this sucker in today. Man Hario you've got a natural talent. I know it when I see it. I pray God will keep you just like you are you will go 🙏 far!! I wasn't going to say this but, you kept me from ending my life. She destroyed me after 2 years of Love bombing. 8 straight years of utter Hell. If I told you you wouldn't believe me. Anyways her last words were he's so gentle with me.. ??!!! WTF!!! Oh and also she said ,"you're dying"!! I literally saw her eyes turn black when the mask slipped. Everybody out there listen to me. I'm in Bible college, Long story.. These people are one-hundred-percent demonic and they know it!!! Let that sink in how evil they are 😠😡😠 Charmas a bitch. I learned the other day from somebody.. when you go complete no contact with a narcissist. The karma begins... Meditate on that last sentence.. no contact equals karma. They're being tortured when you go no contact 🤙🏄😎😇✝️ Oh ps. I've always wanted to do this I've been single nine months. NO CONTACT!. 🏃... 💃🥃🔥👺🤯🤕💔😬🤐🤫🧐🙃😉🥰😠😡🤧😐😴😴😴🤡😇🌞🌜😡😠👹👹👺👺👺👹☠️☠️THEN GHOSTED..👻👻👻👻👻👻 then 😞😞😞😷😤😠😠🙈🙈👿💩💩💩💩🤡🥳🥳🥳☠️☠️👽🤑🤑🥳🥳🥳🙊🙉🙈🙉🙊👻👻👻👻☠️☠️😎😎😎🤑🤑🤡🤡🤠🤠😇😇👹👹👹😿😺💩🌚🌚🌞🌞🌚🌚😴😴😴😪😪😪😴😴😴😴😴😶😶😶😶😐😑🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤕🤕🤕🥴😷🤧🤮🤢😞😞😠😡😵😵😱🥵🤒🤒🤒🤬🤬💩💩🌝🌜😴😴😴🤮🤮🤮😓😨😰😫😫😫😫😲🤯🤫🥰😅😅🤗🤗😉😡😡🥵😆😁😘🙃🧐🧐🤔🤥🤥🤓🤬🤬🥴😖😩😩😫🤯🤐🥺🙄🤔🤓😛😛😯😈👹👹👹👹🙉🙊😸👻👻👻❤️🔥🔥💤💤👁️👁️👀👎👍👎👍👄💀🧠🧠🧠👁️🗨️💬💫💬💬😇👺💔💔💔💬💬💬🤞💅🙋🙇🧘🛀🤸🏃🧗🤹🏌️🚶🤸🤼🏄🏇🤺🏇🤺🏇🤺💇💆🙅🧘🦹🦸🧞🧚🎅🤶👮🕵️👩✈️💂👶👶👵👶💃🧔🧔💃🧔🧔🧔👯💃🕺👭👭👭👩❤️💋👨👩❤️👩🗣️🗣️🥀🥀🌺🌸🌷🌹💐🌸🏵️🌻🌻🌼🍁🍂🌾🍀☘️🌊🌊🌪️🔥🔥🔥🌥️⛅🌤️🌅🌇☀️🌈 🌾🌾🐍🐒🐒 🌾🌾🐍🐍🌾🤺🏇🏋️🤼🚵🏌️🤸🏂⛷️🏋️🏋️🏄🏂⛷️🏊🚣🤽🧜🧜👷👷👷🧟🧟👷🤾🤾🤾🌅☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️🌤️🌇🌃. Yeah I think that's proof. If you look at all their moods in one day. It was just trauma Bond you don't miss them. Wow it just occurred to me. You got to be a pretty big loser if you know you can't keep a relationship, and you're so sure of this you have to study how to trauma Bond someone to you? And someone should tell Satan's minions to tell the Narcs, hey dummy when you burn the bridge too much you can't come back.. f stupid empty meat suits.
Similar situation to mine KRS 1. But i left her but went back for three more years of shear hell. She fired a few parting shots as a gift to help me forget her. The new supply must be just a sucker. With a married woman, who has a present long term boyfriend and she cheats on him to be with you. She will kill him. His health is about to deteriorate as well as his wealth.
The one I had who was trying to 'Ruin me' his words !!!! what a demonic fuk. Well .I saw a dark face another face overlap over his normal face. Told him too...
There were HUGE warning signs from minute one. I chose to ignore them. I am - after all this pain and chaos - a different person. Hopefully a wiser, more mature person - but also much more cynical. Hario, once again is hitting the nail right on the head.
I'm from Guyana South America , and I really benefit from you sessions. The way you put things over is very clear and it's like you're living in my home . I'm a super Empat and my spouse is a full blown narcissist. Thanks for giving me strength in this situation. I'm a Christian and a Capricorn born 23rd December. Bless love and respect always.
Wow you’re the first survivor that actually admits to being toxic! I always wondered if their any survivors out there that were toxic while with their ex narc...my ex was covertly demonic that I would find myself saying ugly things to him and than regretting all I had said wondering what is wrong with me I don’t even use curse words but with him I was cursing up a storm! Thank you Hario for being extremely honest and real!!!
I left my narc... i dont contact him but I am mourning the relationship... i try to get my mind off of it. When I am at work sometimes those failed scenarios pop up in my head and its like the truth comes out... like " oh thats why he did that cause he was with her". I kind of get upset but I have to remind myself im done with him.. i just want this to be over.
I recently walked away from a 3 year entanglement with an narcissist...played the hell out of me, but im still standing. I finally realized my worth and stopped settling. It was time to love myself more and walk away from the "devil in disguise" who has been destroying me for so long. I am disappointed but I feel so free and at peace! Some day I will meet the right man for me, but right now I am focused on loving and improving myself.
They are cowardly narc doesn't end a relationship like an adult because they want to have their cake and eat it too!!! They are very cocky because there getting fuel from the new doormat!!!! great video!!!! Thanks. I feel like I'm doing right things but not getting rewarded.
After NC we have to start working on our selves. Shut out the negativity from this toxic person and start our recovery. For me it was the 12 steps of A.A. I admitted I was powerless over the Narc and that my life had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity
You are exactly right. My exit was guided and enforced by sheer pain and in recovery we heal from it by apologizing to ourselves. By telling our inner child the adult messed up and it ain’t going to happen again.
@ DANI LUX SHOW GO AND DON'T HOPE WITH A NARCISSIST THAT REFUSES TO GO TO A COUNSELOR. EVEN WITH A COUNSELOR THEY RUN AWAY FROM ALL PROFESSIONAL HELP. THEY ARE GAME PLAYERS AND NOT HONEST. THEY ARE DESTRUCTIVE FOREVER.
@@TamaraGarrettAlpha Unfortunatly me too. 12 years and a 5 year old. When U think the games are over, they turn up the bullshit. I left mine and went 2 a shelter briefly, I wish I hadn't come back. He wouldn't bring me our daughter, held her over my head. I panicked and left. Like I have the last 3 times I fled.
I was main grade A supply for almost 7 years. I made more money than all but one of his recycled supplies. I had the nicest home. It doesn’t matter how much you make or how nice a home you have - they want more and more because they aren’t happy or content with themselves. They can’t be with that demon inside looking to destroy others. I accepted his proposal four weeks ago. I broke it off a week ago. I moved back to my home state and I’m never looking back.
my recovery means a lot to me because I now realize. I started working hard just to show her how I take care of her. And now that we are no longer in a relationship, I now enjoy my money and my hard work, she was never satisfied.
Thanks I remember many years ago when I finally got rid of my ex husband. He had someone immediately and that was such a surprise but a blessing in disguise. Believe it people. He was with that person married her to try and take our daughter. Didn’t work I stood up and hired a good lawyer and demolished that. There divorced. She even gave up her own daughters for that narcissist. I won 😃 and you will too. Believe in God, he will be there for you. Things will be better. Get counseling.
Man this is spot on had to admit to myself that I let myself and standards down man I was bamboozled, tricked and I'm absolutely mad at myself that I got caught slipping narcissists are slick man but we see it coming and don't take heed smh
So true, Hario. "You can never satisfy one of them." Doing everything they ask is never enough - and they absolutely refuse to reciprocate. It's a living hell. I wish he could heal - for the sake of his current & next "victims." I wish him joy - and know how virtually impossible that is for him. If he had joy and inner peace, he would never have done the things he did. It is impossible for any one of us to give that to someone else. Joy is an inner creation, connected with Spirit. I gave him the benefit of the doubt instead of listening to my Inner Guide and staying connected with Spirit. Unfortunately, they choose empaths who can love and whom they think they can abuse, without ever working on themselves - as though hurting us gives them some sort of sick satisfaction?!? I take responsibility for misinterpreting his charm for love, and for not listening to that Inner voice and respecting / loving myself first.
It's been almost a year, since leaving my narc, completely alone,. I've been watching and listening to several coaches.. and I appreciate all the work you guys do to help us in our situations... I'm loving me, taking care of me... giving love to my gbabies, sons, family and GOD.. Life is so beautiful and I'm going to enjoy everyday of it, even if I have to do it alone.. GOD BLESS YOU AND THANK YOU...
Especially when after he discarded me he died within the year. No closure and felt he was coming around again and then boom! Dead... It has played with my heart and mind..
I came across your video because I am involved with a Narc. You are so right from all angles. I just blocked him from everything. Its hard. The sad thing is he got to me through my kids. He tried to turn my small kids against me. Speaking bad things like I'm not a fun person and he is. He was awful. I felt dead all the time especially when he ghost me. No calls or anything. Today- I feel like new life. I had been done but wanted to get confirmation and he knew it. I thought he changed but he hadn't. I'm done!!
need you to know that your videos helped me understand so much more about narcs. i recently divorced one after 8yrs of hell and i’m now living my best life. thank you
A narc is a narc regardless of who they are dealing with. I know a male narc who discarded his empath girlfriend for a new supply. Got married to the new supply. Interestingly, the new supply is also a narc. They have been separated ten times, they fight over petty things, both are pathetically lazy. The reason they are together is that the narc wife is an orphan and has nowhere else to live. Narcs don't get better with anyone. If anything, the abuse gets worse on the new supply.
The pain they inflict always pulses no matter how long you've been away from them. That's why we can't get over them, the pain and betrayal. We're so hard on ourselves, we feel guilt that we were humiliated.
It was when I turned my finger around at myself and tell myself accountable for allowing all the b******* to continue. When I realized that I was an enabler and that he couldn't do anything to me that I didn't allow... It changed my entire perspective! The first step in healing is coming out of denial and I'm telling you once you see things from that perspective, it'll change your entire outlook on things. It'll also jump start your healing process so that you can evolve into a better version of yourself for your future.
The pain is real! I betrayed myself absolutely for a pos; yes it was me I take responsibility because I knew better. I’m trying to heal me for me. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear 💙
The biggest lesson I learned was self care. Now I give myself all the love I was giving to him. I cater to myself now. He’s not even with the stripper he triangulated me with anymore. He devalued and discarded her a few weeks later. I’m happy I was strong enough to walk away.
Hario, I have viewed hundreds of channels since my discard, and as valuable as many of them are, NOT a one has put forth the ideas you have in this message. You’re right! We have to take accountability as well. How can we ever move forward until we recognize this and forgive ourselves? If we don’t take some accountability, are we not also remaining a victim? And... how is that any different than the victim we all saw play out in our own narcissist? These are some very prophetic concepts here. Thank you so much! I truly enjoy your channel and look forward to each one.
Very Good! Yes I realized that I had to forgive MYSELF!! not him. I can’t forgive an empty shell, but I DID hurt myself so badly by staying and not listening to my inner voice that something was wrong!!! I am doing my best to forget him and forgive me!! Thanks, good video! TRUTH!
WOW!! This one was deep for me! Especially when you said everything we’ve done for them we havnt even done for OURSELVES....!! I’m listening at work at the moment and I have to wait to go home and cheers to this ONE RIGHT HERE!!! 💃🏻🍸Great job Hario!
Games? Dungeons and Dragons. My 18 year old calls her father pig vomit now since being abandoned. About his new supply she says “ mom ignore her. She’s a crack whore “ These are not exaggerations.
@@marybutler-kobziar6020 Yeah games. I assume because I finally stop loving the abuse more than I loved myself. I use to be so hurt about the random supplies but now that's their problem with him. They wanted my spot for so long, but he was treating them better than me. I refuse to bad talk them. That's energy for me to keep smiling and building for a better future. We Got This, Screw Them!!
Mine was clinically diagnosed in college as cluster b, presenting as borderline. She once explained why she was so horrible, being first, being the best, or being the worst, are all memorable. So she felt folk would care and remember her better this way. They only improve at being horrible. Move on, never look back.
Yes, you have to be accountable for the role you played in it. I ended a new relationship in a 1 1/2 months because I seen the warning signs. You are a great coach. I love myself way too much to get caught up in another bad relationship. Yes, the intuition is always right!
Be careful My spirit was corrupted and twisted by years of normalised manipulation. The spirit was telling me to stay with the narcissist, but my inner intuition said to leave. For the first time in my life, I opposed that spirt. To be honest, although it's just been about a week, I can testify that my mind and life haven't been clearer. And I learnt today that my old spirt was corrupted. Now, I'm healing and growing. And, to express it in a good metaphor, my spirit is now like a free mint breeze that brings nothing but joy to my soul. I thank God for that.
I got introduced to a friendship to a narc, that had been married to a young lady he had multiple affairs on for over 16 years. She finally moved away in June 2020 and still haven't filed for a divorce yet. I'm praying for her. Before coming across your TH-cam videos, I thought the jerk was an Incubus. After hearing your 1st video now I know who and what he really is. He is like the devil walking on earth himself. He is so stuck on his self, has women buying him gifts, bringing him food and a real smooth talker, he is very Sneaky, he will date, have sex with his customers, and his customers wives, girlfriend's and sisters, mothers and their daughters too. This man is a big liar. He is a despicable person, the worst person I have ever seen in my life. There needs to be a special place for people like this.
Thank you for confirming the devil theory. I actually said that the narc I was involved with was a devil, a wolf in sheep's clothing (army uniform). He was a narc of the worst kind. I'm so relieved to know it was not me and I'm not crazy. I was crazy to waste so many years trying to change this devil narc.
The devil narc I delt with was, quite, sneaky, and hid behind the military uniform. He was the type that would not put you on blast through means of social media or friends because this narc would never let me in his friendship circle or social media circle. I know that now he did not let me in those circles because I am a super empath and I would have destroyed him. I felt sorry for him because he was wounded in Afghanistan. I thought he was quiet and shy and anti-social because he was wounded in Afghanistan. It took 10 years to finally figure out what all of that was all about. The lying cheating craziness Time after Time. This narc never talked about his childhood never talked about anything. I thought it was all because he was, did I say, wounded in Afghanistan? Wow I can't believe all of that was a lie. It's okay, I know now my supply is out of stock for the narc. I feel so good, I feel so empowered, I feel so strong. Thank you so much for the videos I've learned so much. My heart and my head are connected and no narc will ever get between that ever again.
Hario, I do desire counseling with you, however I could not access PayPal to schedule a session with you on last night. Went to your Facebook, but I understand you are busy. Please let me know the proper way to book a counseling session. PayPal was not allowing me access
This is so true I wasn't doing for myself what I was doing for him. I use to spend over 700.00on gifts and go on big trips for his birthday pay for everything and he never once did that for me in all the 5yrs we were together. In the end he said you really do give good gifts. That's all he had to say he was so selfish and he would tell me that he was but I wasn't listening. 😭 I have never spent over 100 on myself for my birthday and barely spent 100 on me for anything. Smh...damn I was so stupid and foolish ☹😞
We have all been there. Accept it and move on and start healing. One day at a time. Start lavishing yourself. I did the same thing. I stopped doing for myself I even stoped doing my hair. Told myself I was trying to save money while he was buying things for himself.
You are DEFINITELY reading out of the book of my life. These videos have tremendously help Me to recover and gain far more understanding of what I've gone through. It just seems surreal at times that all of your videos are the life I lived. I went through therapy for over a year following the court ordered discard. I was devastated. Although I'm grateful for my therapist I've received more healing and understanding from your videos than the therapy gave me. Because I just did not understand why. We're still married but separated for almost 2 years. I've received 4 different divorce packets full of errors, not court filed, incorrect info etc. He was engaged 4 months after he had to leave our house and 5 days after being with Me. He's now gone silent. New supply talks to me like she knows me so well, she's better, she's older, and it's my fault I lost him. He's doing everything identical that we did. It's just unbelievable people put this much EFFORT into being the devious. SIR you are spot on with EVERY VIDEO! Keep doing what you're doing.
Your videos have been so helpful. I am 8 months separated from my very manipulative and emotionally abusive husband, but he lives nearby, and we have two children, so every day is a battle. You have been a lifesaver in my lowest moments.
POISON! A long time ago, I went to a fancy restaurant. Food was great looking and great tasting. By the time I was done with the seven course meal, I was full. Love- bombing phase. Later that night, because of something I ate, I developed the worst case of food POISONING possible. I knew I was going to die. My gut felt like it was on fire and shards of glass were slowly tearing my insides. Devaluation phase. I called the hospital and asked them what could be done to help me. I'll never forget, the doctor said, "There's nothing to do until the POISON passes completely thru your system." Discard phase. Unfortunately, this is the process we go thru when we have been POISONED by a narcissist. Fortunately, with time, this too will pass ; and we will be healed, healthy and happy.
I never knew I was dealing with a Narc in my life. I went through years of torment and just did not understand. However, I knew it was Demonic. I wrestled with God for not delivering me from this entanglement. Then one day I found these TH-cam videos, I'm grateful, and it's been 9 months being Narc free! I discarded the Narc
I never saw it like that! I went against myself and everything my own body and mind was telling me not to that my spirit was crying out in pain for something I let happen that should have never happened!
Hi Hario my name is Shonda I want tell thank you for the uplifting videos on dealing with a Nac , this helping so much with the pain I'm going through now, After 20 of my life dealing with this I'm finally waking up finally!!! I'm beginning to heal and giving myself, self-love.
Your absolutely correct! We have to heal self because what we see in them is something we have in ourselves. We can't change anyone but ourselves to be happy...
It really helps to Not think about it. Think about things that matter. Good things. Don't let them take up any more room in your brain. Your heart loves. That's okay. But your brain must use logic and self care for survival. Change. Because they do not change.
first of all I want to thank you for not going on tangents, you get straight to the point, and you don't have a "potty mouth", You're ALWAYS a gentleman...and lastly you don't come across as "broken" or angry.thank you so much for your intelligence.
Just omg every word you say is 100 percent right on and true ! I got goosebumps . You ready for this one guys.. my narc told me they would fly out to see me in a week I spent money on beautiful extensions !! Yup .. I can’t tell you how much money I spent on myself ! It don’t matter cause i ❤️myself now. He never showed up yup !! All talk no action . Last year I sent them a beautiful ❤️gift in the mail never said thank you who does this.. yup people a narc!!!!
Perfect example: I been asking the narc to leave for 4 months. When he finally left he left to go back to his ex/ BM. One week after he moved in with her. My son tells me that he was trying to talk to some Spanish girl but he failed miserably. Smh I thought he was happy with the new supply, why is he still looking? BECAUSE HES ALWAYS BEEN LOOKING, even when with me. He was just more careful about it then. THESE ARE EMPTY PEOPLE, empty souls, Empty hearts and most of the time an empty head to go along with it all.
This is true. I take responsibility for ignoring the red flags early on. It lasted 2 months. I broke it off but went back to him again weeks later and finally I started seeing the mask slipping. Broke up with him again after 1 month. I have to stop beating myself up and stop thinking of him. I wish I can just heal quickly. It's been nearly a month and I'm still reeling and wrapping my mind around the reality of who he is and coming to terms with that.
"I'm heartbroken, the reality is, is that you were betrayed." Exactly.
I feel this. So very true. It sucks too. I was very frustrated for a long time..but I'm healing thank you Lord💪🏽🙏🏽💋❤ and i hope you are doing well..
Narcissist is pure evil in person.
4 year olds in adult bodies - that's all they are.
The devil.
So true, narcissist is an abuser. Let him go to hell. God please bless us, good people🙏
I just told my best friend this. Despite what was done to me, i have to take responsibility for failing myself. For silencing my intuition and turning away from all the moments i felt uneasy without any evidence. God and our inner voices are all we need. When something doesn’t feel right, there’s a reason why. God took me to a point where i could no longer deny my intuition. He laid all my doubts on a plate before me to save me. God does not want to see his children hurt. Listen to Him and the Spirit, and don’t forget to forgive yourself as well. That’s where my healing started.
Amen to that!
Uneasy without evidence .. 🤔 you are so very right 😇
Cathy Greenia i think we spend so much time trying to pinpoint why it doesn’t feel normal when, in all reality, we don’t need visual evidence. Our intuition is more than enough.
@@icgreener Years and years of evidence, but the haunting question is always, WHY ? It's time. Stop looking for just the right evidence. Your body tells you there is something very wrong Your body knows first. The first time that you feel a lump in your throat or discomfort in your STOMACHS area, YOU KNOW, IT'S TIME FOR A COUNSELOR (ON THE SLIDING SCALE IF NO MONEY), OR WALK AND DO NOT LOOK AT FACEBOOK OR STALK THE NEW SUPPLY. NO LOOKING BACK. GOOD RIDDANCE.
Wow couldn’t have said this any better l! Exactly how I feel it’s like I ignored the signs. And now since I’m away I’m constantly thinking about all the signs and how crazy he made me feel. Smh. The entire time it was Gods protection.
"The Narc tells you one thing, and does the opposite" -Hario #bigFACTS
Omggg so true all talk o action!
Exactly crazy right
I'm still confused smh
@@tashaequeen8935 what u confused about
I am learning about triangulation as he’s done exactly that. The pain and truth is mind blowing.
Vile animal I am done forever just the divorce to finalise and that a shit shower full of tactics.
I’m as dizzy and confused as he intended but I’m not a walk over any longer. Bring it on Nark I’ve got the instruction booklet now.
What a sick minded person he truly is.
The pain is from abandoning ourselves. Return to yourself, love yourself, commit to yourself and you will be and feel better than you ever imagined.
Beautifully said
How?
@@primsandwhims7533 You focus on yourself. You give yourself all the empathy, care and love you were giving to the narcissist and others, to yourself first. Identify and enforce your boundaries. Give yourself all the Love, affection and validation you seek from the narcissist/others.
Thank You
I had to take responsibility for the PLETHORA of red flags I ignored. The self work has to be done to heal! Thank you for your message today.
Agreed Sister!!💜💪🏾🌹🌹Same here. Once I owned my part in the relationship, forgave myself for allowing it I literally felt an inside peace I'd never know. #Priceless. Healing's a daily walk but after a few months of peace & calm from his toxicity, those good feelings will continue to fuel more motivation necessary to win!! We got this!!💃🏽💃🏽🤗
@@etoyiamagee2983 Alright ladies. Yes,yes, and yes💙
Yes I’m blaming my own toxic and inner child issues but being with him jus brought out all the inner childhood issues that I haven’t healed from
Same lol
So many red flags
Amen! Work on expressing your truth and your boundaries x
Whena narcissist is gorgeous you can’t get over the fact they are so terrible.What glitters isn’t always gold.
Lumina right.
I am glad my one is getting fat and old looking. Helping me get over her. She has a new dress makes her look uglier.
Am still a bit devastated what she did. Cant understand why the new guy cant see all her red flags, dysfunctional relationship in the making.
Yup so true my narc looks like Blake Shelton omg if the real Blake ever knew what he did to me !!!!!
Omgg so true mine looked like Blake Shelton omg 😳 if the real Blake knew how my narc was he would be speechless 😶
Im still in disbelief cuz hes really nice..but i knew i was in an entanglement
It ain’t safe out here...
Exactly!! The Narc was so shocked when I filed for divorce without a word of warning ⚠️.
Totally shook him up😂
The element of suprises on that on that ass
YES!!
I wasn't married to mine but we were living together. I told him two days before I was due to move out. One the last day when I was packing the last of my things, he went into a narcissistic rage and decided he wanted to fight me. I guess that's when it really sunk in that he no longer had control
@@dria100 YOU WERE VERY LUCKY. YOU COULD HAVE BECOME PREGNANT OR WORSE WHEN YOU TOLD HIM. PEOPLE USE YOUR HEAD......!
Bit of a narc thing to do are you a narc
We fell in love with the Narc's "representative" not the abusive imposter. To truly be free, you have to see them for who they are.
I was new supply - we got married after 3 months - 2 WEEKS after we got married he was getting nudes from exes - he was distant on our wedding day - silent treatment night before the wedding - total time married: 15 months - it was over on the honeymoon - I held onto hope - divorce finalized last week - 2 years no contact #freedom
Pepper Jones thanks for sharing, so many people believe that when the Narc gets married that everything is perfect for the new supply.🙏🏿
Congratulations on moving forward
Thank you for sharing my husband left me with a 3month old baby and it’s pains me to know he haven’t even given me closure he just left without a words every time I ask him he keep on being rude and calling me names 😔😔
Same , the love boming had stopt on the honeymoon.
DANI LUX SHOW he left in Oct 2018 - when I would try to talk rationally he would be nasty and harsh - a bully - he even told me to stop contacting him - that was like Ice water being splashed in my face - I went no contact completely after that comment - then everything shifted - he was calling from diff numbers leaving voicemails 2-3 min long (which I did not listen to) - we had no children together - go grey rock since you a child with your narc - no matter how badly you may feel - it.will.change.everything. - trust me
the Empath is the only one keeping the entanglement together....Once we remove the rose colored glasses, the entanglement ends. YES We must look at ourselves...the whole reason this LESSON presented itself in our lives. Awesome Vid Hario ❤
I feel foolish.
Lauren don't feel foolish. Evil is extremely cunning.
I don't believe they are a mirror to anything except their own evilness but that's just me. We have internally what they want but it was a gift to us by the Most High ♥️
@@laurenmorgan3939 The very Elect will be deceived...and yes okay, we were all foolish to blindly trust and not test that spirit...now we have the Wisdom..lets start looking at the positive blessings coming now
😔Pain....Pain man this felt like I had a limb amputated.... This thing was soooo very painful‼️Thank You for helping me WIN and reattach my limb👌🏾#WINNING
Yes peaches, I know that feeling. With GODS help we keep it moving 💪💯🙏💙
It will get better
I have to admit your now my favorite coach, after finding so much on TH-cam.
Ditto‼️ Watch his video WIN!
Yes him and another called spiritual whistleblower ooh wee they are raw .
I feel the same way...love him awesome coach
Me too
Hario is an excellent at communication. 💖 thank you Hario.
They can sense empaths from afar ! Overwhelming you with kindness and love bombs only to rob your dignity, self esteem , happiness , and self love ....... but ....you can reverse the roll and ghost back with “No Contact “ feels great to payback their sick minds 😉
His ex wife tryd to tell me...same script..different cast.
I learned the hard way location don’t change sickness. They are somewhere doing the same stuff to some one new.
Same. I should have listened to the woman he and his minions said was crazy
@Mary Lane pretty much
I'mA Star YES! Here I was thinking she just wanted him back, sis really was trying to worn me.
@@sharongilyard8693 one of paper husbands ex always used to look at me funny. I was always like what's wrong with her, I see now. Lol.
Sometimes they utilize the new supply for a week or two then ghost them. They probably did this to this person several times when they were with you
Thanks, you are correct. This one I'm doing a case study on, he like to gather them together like trophies and continue to use them he has them one from another like little trophies he puts away and uses them for different things, he is very manipulative, he uses them for sex and $$$, he gets them to buy him things he desires, most of them are married and with children but he make sure that he doesn't impregnate any of them. He uses sex and control over them, it's crazy. They are like walking zombies needing God in a real way.
Exactly!!! We got this now. When you know how something works, sometimes that's enough to stop it from happening in our lives. Be blessed without the mess🙏♥️
Exactly
The new supply is dependant on him. He chose someone who he could have the one up over. The fact he wanted me to leave my job shows they want you to be all about them. They are DIRTY ! They won’t change. They may not be able to go about their ways initially but the current supply is gonna get it worse than you. My gut tells me his marriage is temporary
Wow! That point about the pain being the betrayal of self was deep.
I think it's because we rely on people being decent so we give our love. It's never enough. They are just flawed evil people.
😭😭😭 utterly & grossly painful
@@inspirationalt2143 Hope you're doing better now 🙏
@@prudencel1652 oh God, so much better. I really had to understand that I had to go no contact. It's been a little over a year & words cannot express how thankful I am for having the strength to finally get out 13 yrs later... thank you beautiful 😍
They damage they do make you feel like everyone out there operates like they do. And it’s hard not to think so they way the culture is in 2020
Struggling with that right now
Wow I agree. When I tell you I am literally afraid to date again. It’s sad smh
@@Ari-pb4uo I'm in the process of healing as well. 💙
Tamara Garrett we can do this QUEEN❤️❤️
Same conclusion here . All political systems support and favor narcissism. It is a cold, heartless world.
Marriage to a narcissist is secured supply, and the only reason they married them is because they know that the new supply will put up with more of their BS because now they have an official title, which will make the new supply if they are an empath more susceptible to deal with longer abuse to try to make it work for the sake of the marriage
Yes Hario.We've betrayed ourselves by loving ONLY them and not OURSELF. That's why we're in pain. Lavish the love you gave them on yourself. ONLY then will the trauma bond pain go.
Yes💪👌
Yes indeed Lord
I soooo thank GOD for you, helping me.
I needed to see this, I was so angry with him for betraying me and lying on me and making me lose everything, but I still had a shreads of hope that he would apologize and right his wrong, but the truth is he never will. And today, I have accepted that and moved on. I will no longer have false hope. It is what it is. He is the devil and devils don't change. He deserves all of the karma that is soon coming to him. Thank you for this video!
That's right u have to understand that we were toxic too!
This message is on time for me.....
If i must be honestly, i think about him every day...12years and 6 weeks i went no contact....i must say i dont ignore those feelings, i just take it to GOD for help, and it truly works....i just strive to take it one day at a time....i joined a fitness group with TH-camrs....for physical health
I joined your group for mental health
I joined t.d jakes sermon for spiritual health....good distractions...i try not to dwell on who he is with, i try to overcome the lonilness.
So happy I found these channels a year ago. So grateful that I lost the obsession with this zombie. I became a warrior I had to go through this painful experience to become the woman I am today. Ty God
Wow that is a long time of no contact! May God bless your soul and brings new soul mate, true love into your life!🙏❤💋
@Starr God will bring healing you have pray to ask God to break soul ties with this person as well you are a strong woman of God ...I see blessings to you and your journey !!!
You don't know how lucky you are I would love to be in your shoes
@@НаталиИзмаилова-ф2х lol..to clear it up...we been married 12 years....my no contact has only been 6weeks...sorry for wording it wrong
It was all a set up
Amen thats what is feels like. They are nothing but snakes 😏
Yeah because we stay in a constant state of upset. It’s not a cliche anymore when you don’t love yourself or put yourself first these people walk all over you. They will try now but we will fight and fight back in the right ways that don’t make us look crazy🙂
Thank You For Sharing It’s Been 7 Yrs For Me
I’m Still Struggling......
It Took Me Yrs To Realize That I Was Chosen Because The Narcissists Knew That I Was Vulnerable.
Narcissistic Abuse It’s An Invasion Of Ur Head In Which The Narcissists
Takes Over Ur Head .
There’s Also Trauma Bonding.
I Also Keep Thinking I Could Change This Person.Narcissists Will Never
Change There Abuse Never Ends.
Feel your pain ..7 years for me x
what stops you from leaving? (religion/family/judgment/fear/income) what is it?
saba bajwa fear
Thinking I Can Change This Person.
Trauma Bond I Struggle
Going No Contact
Belinda Oleary
I Understand Believe
Me 7 Yrs Of Hell.
Me to I was Chosen as well because I was super in impasse
Absolutely. I wanted the house and picket fence and the kids so badly that I didn't listen to my soul.
This was me HOWEVER.... I’ve since found and subscribed to several channels that discuss similar topics literally describing my situation from start to finish only further validating he’s a narcissist and gaining my own closure and clarity. Purposely got me pregnant allowing me to believe we “planned” our son knowing I was in a state where I had no supports and would inevitably “need” him to be “forever supply” but 😜 jokes on him... I moved 1400 miles away WITHOUT his knowledge while pregnant AND... filed for child support WITHOUT his knowledge 🤓🥳 talk about narcissistic injury 😂😂😂😂😜 #IWIN
Mine would have "accidents" during sex when he felt I was halfway out the door. Wouldn't let me work, didn't take my goals or opinions seriously.
Man I love this guy. so I'm cleaning my room I almost dropped my phone so I put it in my pocket and I realized Herios video was still going. I highly suggest to anybody put his video in your pocket. Go wash your car, take a walk, work out, kick a Narcs ass!!! Lol j/k
No but, just cleaning my house I've been having nightmares of my ex coming back. So I pop this sucker in today. Man Hario you've got a natural talent. I know it when I see it. I pray God will keep you just like you are you will go 🙏 far!!
I wasn't going to say this but, you kept me from ending my life. She destroyed me after 2 years of Love bombing. 8 straight years of utter Hell. If I told you you wouldn't believe me.
Anyways her last words were he's so gentle with me.. ??!!! WTF!!!
Oh and also she said ,"you're dying"!!
I literally saw her eyes turn black when the mask slipped. Everybody out there listen to me. I'm in Bible college, Long story..
These people are one-hundred-percent demonic and they know it!!!
Let that sink in how evil they are 😠😡😠
Charmas a bitch.
I learned the other day from somebody.. when you go complete no contact with a narcissist. The karma begins...
Meditate on that last sentence.. no contact equals karma. They're being tortured when you go no contact 🤙🏄😎😇✝️
Oh ps. I've always wanted to do this I've been single nine months. NO CONTACT!. 🏃... 💃🥃🔥👺🤯🤕💔😬🤐🤫🧐🙃😉🥰😠😡🤧😐😴😴😴🤡😇🌞🌜😡😠👹👹👺👺👺👹☠️☠️THEN GHOSTED..👻👻👻👻👻👻 then 😞😞😞😷😤😠😠🙈🙈👿💩💩💩💩🤡🥳🥳🥳☠️☠️👽🤑🤑🥳🥳🥳🙊🙉🙈🙉🙊👻👻👻👻☠️☠️😎😎😎🤑🤑🤡🤡🤠🤠😇😇👹👹👹😿😺💩🌚🌚🌞🌞🌚🌚😴😴😴😪😪😪😴😴😴😴😴😶😶😶😶😐😑🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤕🤕🤕🥴😷🤧🤮🤢😞😞😠😡😵😵😱🥵🤒🤒🤒🤬🤬💩💩🌝🌜😴😴😴🤮🤮🤮😓😨😰😫😫😫😫😲🤯🤫🥰😅😅🤗🤗😉😡😡🥵😆😁😘🙃🧐🧐🤔🤥🤥🤓🤬🤬🥴😖😩😩😫🤯🤐🥺🙄🤔🤓😛😛😯😈👹👹👹👹🙉🙊😸👻👻👻❤️🔥🔥💤💤👁️👁️👀👎👍👎👍👄💀🧠🧠🧠👁️🗨️💬💫💬💬😇👺💔💔💔💬💬💬🤞💅🙋🙇🧘🛀🤸🏃🧗🤹🏌️🚶🤸🤼🏄🏇🤺🏇🤺🏇🤺💇💆🙅🧘🦹🦸🧞🧚🎅🤶👮🕵️👩✈️💂👶👶👵👶💃🧔🧔💃🧔🧔🧔👯💃🕺👭👭👭👩❤️💋👨👩❤️👩🗣️🗣️🥀🥀🌺🌸🌷🌹💐🌸🏵️🌻🌻🌼🍁🍂🌾🍀☘️🌊🌊🌪️🔥🔥🔥🌥️⛅🌤️🌅🌇☀️🌈 🌾🌾🐍🐒🐒 🌾🌾🐍🐍🌾🤺🏇🏋️🤼🚵🏌️🤸🏂⛷️🏋️🏋️🏄🏂⛷️🏊🚣🤽🧜🧜👷👷👷🧟🧟👷🤾🤾🤾🌅☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️🌤️🌇🌃. Yeah I think that's proof. If you look at all their moods in one day. It was just trauma Bond you don't miss them. Wow it just occurred to me. You got to be a pretty big loser if you know you can't keep a relationship, and you're so sure of this you have to study how to trauma Bond someone to you? And someone should tell Satan's minions to tell the Narcs, hey dummy when you burn the bridge too much you can't come back.. f stupid empty meat suits.
Similar situation to mine KRS 1. But i left her but went back for three more years of shear hell.
She fired a few parting shots as a gift to help me forget her. The new supply must be just a sucker. With a married woman, who has a present long term boyfriend and she cheats on him to be with you. She will kill him. His health is about to deteriorate as well as his wealth.
11 months nc
The one I had who was trying to 'Ruin me' his words !!!! what a demonic fuk. Well .I saw a dark face another face overlap over his normal face. Told him too...
There were HUGE warning signs from minute one. I chose to ignore them. I am - after all this pain and chaos - a different person. Hopefully a wiser, more mature person - but also much more cynical. Hario, once again is hitting the nail right on the head.
Yeah I'll never be the same!!
I'm from Guyana South America , and I really benefit from you sessions. The way you put things over is very clear and it's like you're living in my home .
I'm a super Empat and my spouse is a full blown narcissist.
Thanks for giving me strength in this situation.
I'm a Christian and a Capricorn born 23rd December.
Bless love and respect always.
Wow you’re the first survivor that actually admits to being toxic! I always wondered if their any survivors out there that were toxic while with their ex narc...my ex was covertly demonic that I would find myself saying ugly things to him and than regretting all I had said wondering what is wrong with me I don’t even use curse words but with him I was cursing up a storm!
Thank you Hario for being extremely honest and real!!!
I’ve definitely been equally as toxic and have to unlearn a lot of my toxic ways of dealing in relationships
I left my narc... i dont contact him but I am mourning the relationship... i try to get my mind off of it. When I am at work sometimes those failed scenarios pop up in my head and its like the truth comes out... like " oh thats why he did that cause he was with her".
I kind of get upset but I have to remind myself im done with him.. i just want this to be over.
Supply, supply , supply. They will use anyone or anything as supply, dating sites, social media, family , friends, pets ect.
and it aint even who gives the most praise...all they want is endless supply with a multitude of people that they will never be loyal to...Period
Exactly well spoken this is so true and they want change !!
The sad part is that they will never know what real love is. The ultimate gift from God is love 🥰🥰🤗
I recently walked away from a 3 year entanglement with an narcissist...played the hell out of me, but im still standing. I finally realized my worth and stopped settling. It was time to love myself more and walk away from the "devil in disguise" who has been destroying me for so long. I am disappointed but I feel so free and at peace! Some day I will meet the right man for me, but right now I am focused on loving and improving myself.
They are cowardly narc doesn't end a relationship like an adult because they want to have their cake and eat it too!!! They are very cocky because there getting fuel from the new doormat!!!! great video!!!! Thanks. I feel like I'm doing right things but not getting rewarded.
After NC we have to start working on our selves. Shut out the negativity from this toxic person and start our recovery. For me it was the 12 steps of A.A. I admitted I was powerless over the Narc and that my life had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity
You are exactly right. My exit was guided and enforced by sheer pain and in recovery we heal from it by apologizing to ourselves. By telling our inner child the adult messed up and it ain’t going to happen again.
That’s me right now I can’t get over him I’m still asking myself what wrong with him my heart 💔
It's so hard sometimes but God is Great🙌🙌☝️
Pray you are going to be able to run fast from his old dirty ass
DANI, they are just crazy/and or Evil. I'm married with kids to one. He loves playing games.
@ DANI LUX SHOW GO AND DON'T HOPE WITH A NARCISSIST THAT REFUSES TO GO TO A COUNSELOR. EVEN WITH A COUNSELOR THEY RUN AWAY FROM ALL PROFESSIONAL HELP. THEY ARE GAME PLAYERS AND NOT HONEST. THEY ARE DESTRUCTIVE FOREVER.
@@TamaraGarrettAlpha Unfortunatly me too. 12 years and a 5 year old. When U think the games are over, they turn up the bullshit. I left mine and went 2 a shelter briefly, I wish I hadn't come back. He wouldn't bring me our daughter, held her over my head. I panicked and left. Like I have the last 3 times I fled.
The other person had more money and provided him a place to stay 🤷🏿♀️
You are the best
I was main grade A supply for almost 7 years. I made more money than all but one of his recycled supplies. I had the nicest home. It doesn’t matter how much you make or how nice a home you have - they want more and more because they aren’t happy or content with themselves. They can’t be with that demon inside looking to destroy others. I accepted his proposal four weeks ago. I broke it off a week ago. I moved back to my home state and I’m never looking back.
And there its .. facts..
.and a bit of hypergamey
my recovery means a lot to me because I now realize. I started working hard just to show her how I take care of her. And now that we are no longer in a relationship, I now enjoy my money and my hard work, she was never satisfied.
Thanks I remember many years ago when I finally got rid of my ex husband. He had someone immediately and that was such a surprise but a blessing in disguise. Believe it people. He was with that person married her to try and take our daughter. Didn’t work I stood up and hired a good lawyer and demolished that. There divorced. She even gave up her own daughters for that narcissist. I won 😃 and you will too. Believe in God, he will be there for you. Things will be better. Get counseling.
Man this is spot on had to admit to myself that I let myself and standards down man I was bamboozled, tricked and I'm absolutely mad at myself that I got caught slipping narcissists are slick man but we see it coming and don't take heed smh
So true, Hario. "You can never satisfy one of them." Doing everything they ask is never enough - and they absolutely refuse to reciprocate. It's a living hell. I wish he could heal - for the sake of his current & next "victims." I wish him joy - and know how virtually impossible that is for him. If he had joy and inner peace, he would never have done the things he did. It is impossible for any one of us to give that to someone else. Joy is an inner creation, connected with Spirit. I gave him the benefit of the doubt instead of listening to my Inner Guide and staying connected with Spirit. Unfortunately, they choose empaths who can love and whom they think they can abuse, without ever working on themselves - as though hurting us gives them some sort of sick satisfaction?!? I take responsibility for misinterpreting his charm for love, and for not listening to that Inner voice and respecting / loving myself first.
Connection to Spirit released me.
Sounds like my story
@@barbarawarren9443 yes I believe this. God delivers...and opens our spiritual eyes
It's been almost a year, since leaving my narc, completely alone,. I've been watching and listening to several coaches.. and I appreciate all the work you guys do to help us in our situations...
I'm loving me, taking care of me... giving love to my gbabies, sons, family and GOD.. Life is so beautiful and I'm going to enjoy everyday of it, even if I have to do it alone..
GOD BLESS YOU AND THANK YOU...
Especially when after he discarded me he died within the year. No closure and felt he was coming around again and then boom! Dead... It has played with my heart and mind..
Search for the lesson. It's there nothing happens without reason season or lifetime Lesson. Find it. It's in you.👍
Almost instant karma!!
Yup. Wow. His Time ran out doing people wrong
i had a narc discard me then a couple of years later he killed himself
I came across your video because I am involved with a Narc. You are so right from all angles. I just blocked him from everything. Its hard. The sad thing is he got to me through my kids. He tried to turn my small kids against me. Speaking bad things like I'm not a fun person and he is. He was awful. I felt dead all the time especially when he ghost me. No calls or anything. Today- I feel like new life. I had been done but wanted to get confirmation and he knew it. I thought he changed but he hadn't. I'm done!!
need you to know that your videos helped me understand so much more about narcs. i recently divorced one after 8yrs of hell and i’m now living my best life. thank you
A narc is a narc regardless of who they are dealing with. I know a male narc who discarded his empath girlfriend for a new supply. Got married to the new supply. Interestingly, the new supply is also a narc. They have been separated ten times, they fight over petty things, both are pathetically lazy.
The reason they are together is that the narc wife is an orphan and has nowhere else to live.
Narcs don't get better with anyone. If anything, the abuse gets worse on the new supply.
The pain they inflict always pulses no matter how long you've been away from them. That's why we can't get over them, the pain and betrayal. We're so hard on ourselves, we feel guilt that we were humiliated.
I love seeing your subscriber numbers go up more and more every day.. it means people are receiving your Truth and embracing it :)
I love your topics on the narcissist...you have hit home
It was when I turned my finger around at myself and tell myself accountable for allowing all the b******* to continue. When I realized that I was an enabler and that he couldn't do anything to me that I didn't allow... It changed my entire perspective! The first step in healing is coming out of denial and I'm telling you once you see things from that perspective, it'll change your entire outlook on things. It'll also jump start your healing process so that you can evolve into a better version of yourself for your future.
The pain is real! I betrayed myself absolutely for a pos; yes it was me I take responsibility because I knew better. I’m trying to heal me for me. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear 💙
Your not alone brother..
I am very happy that I’ve found this video. This is really helping my healing. Thank you sir
This is literally the first time I’m understanding what’s happening. This coach actually speaks to my confusion. Thank goodness.
The biggest lesson I learned was self care. Now I give myself all the love I was giving to him. I cater to myself now. He’s not even with the stripper he triangulated me with anymore. He devalued and discarded her a few weeks later. I’m happy I was strong enough to walk away.
Hario, I have viewed hundreds of channels since my discard, and as valuable as many of them are, NOT a one has put forth the ideas you have in this message. You’re right! We have to take accountability as well. How can we ever move forward until we recognize this and forgive ourselves? If we don’t take some accountability, are we not also remaining a victim? And... how is that any different than the victim we all saw play out in our own narcissist? These are some very prophetic concepts here. Thank you so much! I truly enjoy your channel and look forward to each one.
Very Good! Yes I realized that I had to forgive MYSELF!! not him. I can’t forgive an empty shell, but I DID hurt myself so badly by staying and not listening to my inner voice that something was wrong!!! I am doing my best to forget him and forgive me!! Thanks, good video! TRUTH!
WOW!! This one was deep for me! Especially when you said everything we’ve done for them we havnt even done for OURSELVES....!! I’m listening at work at the moment and I have to wait to go home and cheers to this ONE RIGHT HERE!!! 💃🏻🍸Great job Hario!
The narc was cheating the whole marriage. 18 months of "legal dating" I left and now in their mind, I'm playing games🤷
Games? Dungeons and Dragons. My 18 year old calls her father pig vomit now since being abandoned. About his new supply she says “ mom ignore her. She’s a crack whore “
These are not exaggerations.
@@marybutler-kobziar6020 Yeah games. I assume because I finally stop loving the abuse more than I loved myself. I use to be so hurt about the random supplies but now that's their problem with him. They wanted my spot for so long, but he was treating them better than me. I refuse to bad talk them. That's energy for me to keep smiling and building for a better future. We Got This, Screw Them!!
@@manifestationofgod1379 yes, WE are always playing the games. Just hilarious. 😂
@@marybutler-kobziar6020 she telling it right. Lol
Mine was clinically diagnosed in college as cluster b, presenting as borderline.
She once explained why she was so horrible, being first, being the best, or being the worst, are all memorable. So she felt folk would care and remember her better this way. They only improve at being horrible. Move on, never look back.
Yes, you have to be accountable for the role you played in it. I ended a new relationship in a 1 1/2 months because I seen the warning signs. You are a great coach. I love myself way too much to get caught up in another bad relationship. Yes, the intuition is always right!
😳 wow how enlightening can you be...this is 💯% accurate. I needed to hear this.
Be careful
My spirit was corrupted and twisted by years of normalised manipulation.
The spirit was telling me to stay with the narcissist, but my inner intuition said to leave.
For the first time in my life, I opposed that spirt. To be honest, although it's just been about a week, I can testify that my mind and life haven't been clearer.
And I learnt today that my old spirt was corrupted. Now, I'm healing and growing. And, to express it in a good metaphor, my spirit is now like a free mint breeze that brings nothing but joy to my soul.
I thank God for that.
I got introduced to a friendship to a narc, that had been married to a young lady he had multiple affairs on for over 16 years. She finally moved away in June 2020 and still haven't filed for a divorce yet. I'm praying for her. Before coming across your TH-cam videos, I thought the jerk was an Incubus. After hearing your 1st video now I know who and what he really is. He is like the devil walking on earth himself. He is so stuck on his self, has women buying him gifts, bringing him food and a real smooth talker, he is very Sneaky, he will date, have sex with his customers, and his customers wives, girlfriend's and sisters, mothers and their daughters too. This man is a big liar. He is a despicable person, the worst person I have ever seen in my life. There needs to be a special place for people like this.
Thank you for confirming the devil theory. I actually said that the narc I was involved with was a devil, a wolf in sheep's clothing (army uniform). He was a narc of the worst kind. I'm so relieved to know it was not me and I'm not crazy. I was crazy to waste so many years trying to change this devil narc.
The devil narc I delt with was, quite, sneaky, and hid behind the military uniform. He was the type that would not put you on blast through means of social media or friends because this narc would never let me in his friendship circle or social media circle. I know that now he did not let me in those circles because I am a super empath and I would have destroyed him. I felt sorry for him because he was wounded in Afghanistan. I thought he was quiet and shy and anti-social because he was wounded in Afghanistan. It took 10 years to finally figure out what all of that was all about. The lying cheating craziness Time after Time. This narc never talked about his childhood never talked about anything. I thought it was all because he was, did I say, wounded in Afghanistan? Wow I can't believe all of that was a lie. It's okay, I know now my supply is out of stock for the narc. I feel so good, I feel so empowered, I feel so strong. Thank you so much for the videos I've learned so much. My heart and my head are connected and no narc will ever get between that ever again.
Hario, I do desire counseling with you, however I could not access PayPal to schedule a session with you on last night. Went to your Facebook, but I understand you are busy. Please let me know the proper way to book a counseling session. PayPal was not allowing me access
Thanks Hario for all the effort you put into to help people to get over some real difficulties. Again thank you brother. 🙏🏾
#AMEN thank you so much for this words 🙏🏻
They treat us like we belong on the Island of Misfit Toys from Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. . Where the train has square wheels. 😂
“They gave this new person all this new act right ...” LMBO❗️
You must be a Empath healer. You just speak so much truth an I always feel better after watching one of your videos. Thank you 😊
I am now over the pain ! Thank you paradise most for this message
This is so true I wasn't doing for myself what I was doing for him. I use to spend over 700.00on gifts and go on big trips for his birthday pay for everything and he never once did that for me in all the 5yrs we were together. In the end he said you really do give good gifts. That's all he had to say he was so selfish and he would tell me that he was but I wasn't listening. 😭 I have never spent over 100 on myself for my birthday and barely spent 100 on me for anything. Smh...damn I was so stupid and foolish ☹😞
We have all been there. Accept it and move on and start healing. One day at a time. Start lavishing yourself. I did the same thing. I stopped doing for myself I even stoped doing my hair. Told myself I was trying to save money while he was buying things for himself.
Don't beat yourself up. You have an open heart for giving. Recovery by the the GRACE of God and keep moving forward.
You are DEFINITELY reading out of the book of my life. These videos have tremendously help Me to recover and gain far more understanding of what I've gone through. It just seems surreal at times that all of your videos are the life I lived. I went through therapy for over a year following the court ordered discard. I was devastated. Although I'm grateful for my therapist I've received more healing and understanding from your videos than the therapy gave me. Because I just did not understand why. We're still married but separated for almost 2 years. I've received 4 different divorce packets full of errors, not court filed, incorrect info etc. He was engaged 4 months after he had to leave our house and 5 days after being with Me. He's now gone silent. New supply talks to me like she knows me so well, she's better, she's older, and it's my fault I lost him. He's doing everything identical that we did. It's just unbelievable people put this much EFFORT into being the devious. SIR you are spot on with EVERY VIDEO! Keep doing what you're doing.
Your videos have been so helpful. I am 8 months separated from my very manipulative and emotionally abusive husband, but he lives nearby, and we have two children, so every day is a battle. You have been a lifesaver in my lowest moments.
Good to hear someone got out still healing from my Narc 4 years free now.
Who the son set free is free indeed. Good God almighty
POISON!
A long time ago, I went to a fancy restaurant. Food was great looking and great tasting. By the time I was done with the seven course meal, I was full. Love- bombing phase.
Later that night, because of something I ate, I developed the worst case of food POISONING possible. I knew I was going to die. My gut felt like it was on fire and shards of glass were slowly tearing my insides. Devaluation phase. I called the hospital and asked them what could be done to help me.
I'll never forget, the doctor said, "There's nothing to do until the POISON passes completely thru your system." Discard phase.
Unfortunately, this is the process we go thru when we have been POISONED by a narcissist.
Fortunately, with time, this too will pass ; and we will be healed, healthy and happy.
I never knew I was dealing with a Narc in my life. I went through years of torment and just did not understand. However, I knew it was Demonic. I wrestled with God for not delivering me from this entanglement. Then one day I found these TH-cam videos, I'm grateful, and it's been 9 months being Narc free! I discarded the Narc
I'm happy for you.
I never saw it like that! I went against myself and everything my own body and mind was telling me not to that my spirit was crying out in pain for something I let happen that should have never happened!
Hi Hario my name is Shonda I want tell thank you for the uplifting videos on dealing with a Nac , this helping so much with the pain I'm going through now, After 20 of my life dealing with this I'm finally waking up finally!!! I'm beginning to heal and giving myself, self-love.
You are such a beautiful person for helping us all. Your words have helped me more than anything. 🙏🏼🤍
Your absolutely correct! We have to heal self because what we see in them is something we have in ourselves. We can't change anyone but ourselves to be happy...
Thank you so much! So needed to hear this. I am FINALLY seeing the light. 💡
Your spirit is your guide...every time. I need to use this as my daily mantra and REMINDER.
It really helps to Not think about it. Think about things that matter. Good things. Don't let them take up any more room in your brain. Your heart loves. That's okay. But your brain must use logic and self care for survival. Change. Because they do not change.
first of all I want to thank you for not going on tangents, you get straight to the point, and you don't have a "potty mouth", You're ALWAYS a gentleman...and lastly you don't come across as "broken" or angry.thank you so much for your intelligence.
Just omg every word you say is 100 percent right on and true ! I got goosebumps . You ready for this one guys.. my narc told me they would fly out to see me in a week I spent money on beautiful extensions !! Yup .. I can’t tell you how much money I spent on myself ! It don’t matter cause i ❤️myself now. He never showed up yup !! All talk no action . Last year I sent them a beautiful ❤️gift in the mail never said thank you who does this.. yup people a narc!!!!
I kept saying to the narc what do they have that I dont(the new supply)? He could never answer! Its not you!!!!!!!!!!! Trust me!
Mine treats me like I'm the narcissist and everything you suggest, he does to me. He sends texts and I don't answer
You’re videos make sense at any angle, God bless you !!
OMG Thank you , Thank you ! I so needed to hear this today . It’s so true we were the ones that allowed things to continue 😢🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Perfect example: I been asking the narc to leave for 4 months. When he finally left he left to go back to his ex/ BM. One week after he moved in with her. My son tells me that he was trying to talk to some Spanish girl but he failed miserably. Smh I thought he was happy with the new supply, why is he still looking? BECAUSE HES ALWAYS BEEN LOOKING, even when with me. He was just more careful about it then. THESE ARE EMPTY PEOPLE, empty souls, Empty hearts and most of the time an empty head to go along with it all.
Yes!!! I understand. Thank you! You are blessed.
Oh....this is a good one!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!! ❤️🙏
This is true. I take responsibility for ignoring the red flags early on. It lasted 2 months. I broke it off but went back to him again weeks later and finally I started seeing the mask slipping. Broke up with him again after 1 month.
I have to stop beating myself up and stop thinking of him. I wish I can just heal quickly. It's been nearly a month and I'm still reeling and wrapping my mind around the reality of who he is and coming to terms with that.