True love means that no matter what problems the relationship might have, that your partner will be there to try to solve them. Leaving you for another guy is not love, it's betrayal at its worst
@@gertwallen I wanted to take time off from each other to heal it was getting to toxic but now she's in a new relationship while I'm still healing I believe it's a good thing but it don't feel like it
It always ends in disaster. Can’t fix dysfunction. After the newness and excitement wears away, the relationship ends. I say better yourself and move the heck on in life.
Same here mannn. I had this special person, when she cut all communication with me (its because of my fault not giving her commitment before) she was with someone else whom she gave everything to that guy which later i found out ghosted her. When we started talking i still couldn’t give her commitment because of what happened with her and that fruitcake, which was disappointing to me. However when i was ready to give it all, she rejected me and I tried so hard to get her back. Its been months of no contact and she has blocked me everywhere. Oh well life as we know😆if she has someone else now, i am 💯 sure i am so better in my mind i know. I wish her well.
I used to be the one who would look for novelty and attention. Then I met a guy, and I took it very slow-he was supposed to be just a friend to hang out with. But with all the time we spent together, and all the effort and devotion on his side, I don’t even know when I developed strong emotions for him. We were great together, sharing the same hobbies, passions, and beliefs. It lasted for 5 years until I had to break up with him because he started seeking novelty online, texting and seeing other girls behind my back... But, I basically wanted to say that some people do change or just get older and their need for novelty ends....
At the earlier stages of the break up, it matters a lot… due to all the reasons that I mentioned in this video. But I can see your point, I wish we could understand that it DOESN’T METRER! The mind say one thing and the heart another…
@@isabelle5003 NEVERRRRR!!!! They taught you what you needed to know for your soul of evolution, they have done their part, now it’s time to say goodbye 👋🏽
Nope, “better than you” is not possible unless YOU were an asshole, an abuser, and/or a narcissist. You have NO competition. YOU gave them something NO ONE else ever could, and no matter how “amazed” they are by their new (and likely very temporary) focus, they will ALWAYS be looking for YOU in the new fixation. You’ve set a bar so high that NO ONE can match, no matter how many “boxes they may tic” for your ex. YOU are the prize, and remember that THEY showed their fucked up and low and foul character by cheating, monkeybranching, and/or rebounding. They are no longer worth your love, time, and energy, especially if you gave it all purely and selflessly. Show your OWN qualities, value, worth, and dignity by giving them your back. They WILL regret what they did, especially when the new toy’s novelty wears off. And, believe in it or not as the more metaphysical concept (and if you don’t, call it ‘cause and effect’ - Nature abhors a vacuum, and water will ALWAYS find its level), Karma is a real thing. None of us can get away with hurting someone else for long - especially if it’s done intentionally or through carelessness and/or thoughtlessness. No one gets off Scot free… And, remember this: the new thing is already doomed! Not only is your ex taking their bullshit and messed up character into this thing, but the new “partner” KNOWS how and why your ex came in…that will sit with the new person, making them jealous, and waiting for when your ex pulls the same shit with THEM! They’ll be waiting for the other shoe to drop and be on edge constantly. Let the less fortunate have your used and tarnished CRAP - you don’t need it anymore.
My ex left me exactly 1 year ago today to either a monkey branch or rebound, but they are still together, so I guess it’s working out for them. I don’t think he knew about me, but either way she’s not welcome back in my life ever again.
She monkey branched on a guy who had money, a cool car, and who could offer her stability, while I was still working hard to secure a good job. I would have made it eventually. It's sad. She will never get the love, care, emotional intimacy - that I gave her, from him who has a repuatation of being a player.
Dude, I was the guy with a good job, two coveted sports cars, and stability and she still blindsided me and discarded me after telling me she wanted to marry and loved me so much it ached. Back in June I run into her in my gym that I tried to bring her with me to. Turns out she’s dating some guy that is not fit, average looking, and I doubt has a career yet. Now, I wasn’t a bad bf. I was great and she even cried in my arms after telling me she wanted to break up and said I was a good man and she loved me so much. She even told me the next day that I was the most compassionate person she had ever met. She mainly broke up with me because she didn’t want to introduce me to her family (I am much older than her and I have a kid) and she tried to blame me for her anxiety. She suffered serious anxiety.
She is his long distance situationship from three years ago. He said he didn't like her looks and behaviour, also his family didn't like her (very important to him). She was still around and told him she would do anything for him. He breaks up with me and tells me he is gonna marry her, although he has deep feelings for me and not for her, because she is more convenient. Now he reached out, wanted to meet, but together with other people. Even his sister reached out and invited me. The other girl first posted happy pictures, when he visited her, indicating he will propose to her the next time they meet. Now she posted something sad, about how she doesn't want to suffer. But they will meet again in three weeks. I don't know what to make of it.
I never compared myself to my replacement. I am secure. My mental and emotional health are good. I am mentally tough. I have many good qualities, not bragging, just facts. Not to put anyone down since I don't even know my replacement, but from my ex's description, she is a victim of narcissistic abuse who is still grieving her deceased spouse. My ex was manipulated by her family. He is such a people pleaser who can't say no. I guess he wanted to "save" her. It's really weird from what he told me when leaving. (I can't make this craziness up). Oh, he wanted to be friends with me. Hell no. I let him go without tears or drama. I am happier now without him. Forever free of that toxicity. My year of hours each day of inner work has paid off. Revisiting your videos to review "red flags". Excellent description of monkey branching.💕🙏
From what i heard, he’s the type to not really care or afraid to lose her, just there for the physical parts and she’s into him more then he’s into her. Hope she comes back to make up for my mistakes
I would take a step back and really think about whether you really want her to come back. After reading your first sentence I don't think I would want her back.
Another excellent video Brother Paz. You are most genuine and straightforward relationship coach. We both have been monkey branched, but the way you are guiding people is beautiful. Respect to my Mexican brother💐
My husband’s girlfriend definitely knew he was married with kids. Our family pics are in his instagram. Obviously she didn’t care. We separated a year ago and he’s still with her and yes we are still married. She’s 15 years younger than me with no kids so I’m pretty sure he’s happy with her. Me I’m working on myself and moving forward.
Oh man, you are on point 100 percent. I am a professional and highly educated man who works a lot. She monkey branches to somebody who is hardly working and he has a lot of time to supply. And he is not better by any means, lol. I told her he is not even half the man that I am 😂😂😂She was able to do this after 13 years of being together. Thanks goodness we don't have any kids, and I am doing a lot better. It's only been 20 days, but I am in a much better place.
Thanks for sharing! I feel you my friend! Take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this! Feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
So true what you said. My ex monkey branched and everything she said was wrong in our relationship is also wrong in her new relationship times 100. I did not understand why she pictured me as a narc. But the new guy mirrored his bad treats on me to trick her into cheating on me. Now she is scared of him because he threatened her with her life if she would do it to him. She is not allowed to do anything and even ignores her old friends, family and even our kids.
Going through it now. Ghosted 3 months ago just found out she had been cheating from her sister. We had been together for a year. I took her back after a 5 month ghosting. She had begun therapy as a stipulation but to no avail. Dam
@@As-cc9ug already did my friend! Here’s the link : My EX Is Back with THEIR EX?! 😱 Why They Reconnected & Will It Work THIS TIME?! th-cam.com/video/ezP0UCzJznI/w-d-xo.html
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The crazy part is my soon to be ex wife. She has been saying I have been cheating on her for two years. That is a lie. But if she thinks she found someone better than me he must be my twin that don’t know anything about.
perfect example that women are emotional. their actions are based on emotions and if you are boring she will go somewhere else with no remorse (vide Kaka). if you give her drama she will enjoy it.
@@PazGoldmanOfficial psz shes ukranian that territory women only looking this i worked 2 diferent jobs 2 months with broken arm she was love of my life its been 8 month i still crying
My ex left me for another supply of money I found out by ask her out for meal for her birthday she told me she has new partner if I posted her birthday card that be wonderful she said what sort of narcissists lady was I dealing with nut case I think
Six months since the monkeybranch. The only thing the new person has on me is money, but that’s because his dad is rich. He’s an artsy type, so I think they’re both narcissists.
@@Bloodsport1337 I KNOW my ex is a narc. Had a harem. Pathological liar. Unable to take accountability. Gaslit me. Etc. She meets the 9 criteria. I suspect the new supply is as well because he knew about me when she monkeybranched. He is an aspiring actor and is a bartender, so I have a feeling he is too. If not, he is probably toxic as hell.
I know he branched to someone worse but it still hurts seeing the person I cared for so much going to some fucker who can’t even respect his pronouns like where the hell is his self respect that new person even managed to alienate the entire long time friend group and somehow my ex still doesn’t see that fucker as a red flag
This is so true avoidant phantom ex always is someone who is toxic emotionally unavailable and can be abusive as well. Bc avoidants are familiar with toxicity not kind loving partner. Also avoidant always have long term relationships with toxic narcissistic partner than healthy one bc there is no emotional intimacy involved only sexual. Caught my FA cheating on me with an old fat married guy 20 years older than her. Made me disgusted about her and felt something really wrong with girl. I am a guy who is close to her age, athletic, medical professional and a secure person. If she could have been vulnerable me, most definitely I would help her trauma and childhood wounds. Unfortunately, she lost very good person for a toxic married guy getting into triangle relationship.
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True love means that no matter what problems the relationship might have, that your partner will be there to try to solve them. Leaving you for another guy is not love, it's betrayal at its worst
@@gertwallen you said it, drop the mic 🎤
Exactly, this is why it hurts so bad 😞💔😢
@@gertwallen I wanted to take time off from each other to heal it was getting to toxic but now she's in a new relationship while I'm still healing I believe it's a good thing but it don't feel like it
Women like to betray. They enjoy it
It always ends in disaster. Can’t fix dysfunction. After the newness and excitement wears away, the relationship ends. I say better yourself and move the heck on in life.
The experience I gave her she won’t get with anyone else. I am unique. fuck this guy. She downgraded.
Fuck yeah brother!!!! That’s the spirit 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
Same here mannn. I had this special person, when she cut all communication with me (its because of my fault not giving her commitment before) she was with someone else whom she gave everything to that guy which later i found out ghosted her. When we started talking i still couldn’t give her commitment because of what happened with her and that fruitcake, which was disappointing to me. However when i was ready to give it all, she rejected me and I tried so hard to get her back. Its been months of no contact and she has blocked me everywhere. Oh well life as we know😆if she has someone else now, i am 💯 sure i am so better in my mind i know. I wish her well.
Facts.
I used to be the one who would look for novelty and attention. Then I met a guy, and I took it very slow-he was supposed to be just a friend to hang out with. But with all the time we spent together, and all the effort and devotion on his side, I don’t even know when I developed strong emotions for him. We were great together, sharing the same hobbies, passions, and beliefs. It lasted for 5 years until I had to break up with him because he started seeking novelty online, texting and seeing other girls behind my back... But, I basically wanted to say that some people do change or just get older and their need for novelty ends....
"This person seeking novelty will seek it again and again and again" So true!
Yessss
@@Beans300 indeed this will go on until the dumper chooses to heal
The correct answer is:
Does it matter?
At the earlier stages of the break up, it matters a lot… due to all the reasons that I mentioned in this video.
But I can see your point, I wish we could understand that it DOESN’T METRER! The mind say one thing and the heart another…
Women can easily say (lie) to the rebound man, that you was a horrible person and and the rebound man can easily believe it.
all her exes were toxic. had the same.
he'll most probably be next
@@cameronaustin4997 women usually keep rebounds long time
Coach Paz, you are so right on the “never take them back. “💫
@@isabelle5003 NEVERRRRR!!!! They taught you what you needed to know for your soul of evolution, they have done their part, now it’s time to say goodbye 👋🏽
Nope, “better than you” is not possible unless YOU were an asshole, an abuser, and/or a narcissist.
You have NO competition. YOU gave them something NO ONE else ever could, and no matter how “amazed” they are by their new (and likely very temporary) focus, they will ALWAYS be looking for YOU in the new fixation.
You’ve set a bar so high that NO ONE can match, no matter how many “boxes they may tic” for your ex.
YOU are the prize, and remember that THEY showed their fucked up and low and foul character by cheating, monkeybranching, and/or rebounding. They are no longer worth your love, time, and energy, especially if you gave it all purely and selflessly.
Show your OWN qualities, value, worth, and dignity by giving them your back. They WILL regret what they did, especially when the new toy’s novelty wears off.
And, believe in it or not as the more metaphysical concept (and if you don’t, call it ‘cause and effect’ - Nature abhors a vacuum, and water will ALWAYS find its level), Karma is a real thing. None of us can get away with hurting someone else for long - especially if it’s done intentionally or through carelessness and/or thoughtlessness. No one gets off Scot free…
And, remember this: the new thing is already doomed! Not only is your ex taking their bullshit and messed up character into this thing, but the new “partner” KNOWS how and why your ex came in…that will sit with the new person, making them jealous, and waiting for when your ex pulls the same shit with THEM! They’ll be waiting for the other shoe to drop and be on edge constantly.
Let the less fortunate have your used and tarnished CRAP - you don’t need it anymore.
Thank you for this comment idk why this gave me so much hope
My ex left me exactly 1 year ago today to either a monkey branch or rebound, but they are still together, so I guess it’s working out for them. I don’t think he knew about me, but either way she’s not welcome back in my life ever again.
It won’t last. I’ve had people come back years later saying they never could get me out of their head
@@Bloodsport1337 it actually didn’t last. They broke up in Aug/Sept. haha 🤣
She monkey branched on a guy who had money, a cool car, and who could offer her stability, while I was still working hard to secure a good job. I would have made it eventually. It's sad. She will never get the love, care, emotional intimacy - that I gave her, from him who has a repuatation of being a player.
Dude, I was the guy with a good job, two coveted sports cars, and stability and she still blindsided me and discarded me after telling me she wanted to marry and loved me so much it ached. Back in June I run into her in my gym that I tried to bring her with me to. Turns out she’s dating some guy that is not fit, average looking, and I doubt has a career yet. Now, I wasn’t a bad bf. I was great and she even cried in my arms after telling me she wanted to break up and said I was a good man and she loved me so much. She even told me the next day that I was the most compassionate person she had ever met. She mainly broke up with me because she didn’t want to introduce me to her family (I am much older than her and I have a kid) and she tried to blame me for her anxiety. She suffered serious anxiety.
She is his long distance situationship from three years ago. He said he didn't like her looks and behaviour, also his family didn't like her (very important to him). She was still around and told him she would do anything for him. He breaks up with me and tells me he is gonna marry her, although he has deep feelings for me and not for her, because she is more convenient. Now he reached out, wanted to meet, but together with other people. Even his sister reached out and invited me. The other girl first posted happy pictures, when he visited her, indicating he will propose to her the next time they meet. Now she posted something sad, about how she doesn't want to suffer. But they will meet again in three weeks. I don't know what to make of it.
I never compared myself to my replacement. I am secure. My mental and emotional health are good. I am mentally tough. I have many good qualities, not bragging, just facts. Not to put anyone down since I don't even know my replacement, but from my ex's description, she is a victim of narcissistic abuse who is still grieving her deceased spouse. My ex was manipulated by her family. He is such a people pleaser who can't say no. I guess he wanted to "save" her. It's really weird from what he told me when leaving. (I can't make this craziness up). Oh, he wanted to be friends with me. Hell no. I let him go without tears or drama. I am happier now without him. Forever free of that toxicity. My year of hours each day of inner work has paid off. Revisiting your videos to review "red flags". Excellent description of monkey branching.💕🙏
In addition, my ex is fearful avoidant.
In addition, my ex is fearful avoidant.
From what i heard, he’s the type to not really care or afraid to lose her, just there for the physical parts and she’s into him more then he’s into her. Hope she comes back to make up for my mistakes
I would take a step back and really think about whether you really want her to come back. After reading your first sentence I don't think I would want her back.
Another excellent video Brother Paz. You are most genuine and straightforward relationship coach. We both have been monkey branched, but the way you are guiding people is beautiful.
Respect to my Mexican brother💐
Didn’t think he was Mexican, lol!
My husband’s girlfriend definitely knew he was married with kids. Our family pics are in his instagram. Obviously she didn’t care. We separated a year ago and he’s still with her and yes we are still married. She’s 15 years younger than me with no kids so I’m pretty sure he’s happy with her.
Me I’m working on myself and moving forward.
@@silkiar6297 You are valuable and he will learn the loss.Younger is not better...remember your worth you will find better x
Oh man, you are on point 100 percent. I am a professional and highly educated man who works a lot. She monkey branches to somebody who is hardly working and he has a lot of time to supply. And he is not better by any means, lol. I told her he is not even half the man that I am 😂😂😂She was able to do this after 13 years of being together. Thanks goodness we don't have any kids, and I am doing a lot better. It's only been 20 days, but I am in a much better place.
Thanks for sharing! I feel you my friend!
Take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this!
Feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
Curious has she tried to come back
Thank you coach Paz Goldman, this presentation is very valuable and uplifting ❤❤❤❤
So true what you said.
My ex monkey branched and everything she said was wrong in our relationship is also wrong in her new relationship times 100.
I did not understand why she pictured me as a narc. But the new guy mirrored his bad treats on me to trick her into cheating on me.
Now she is scared of him because he threatened her with her life if she would do it to him. She is not allowed to do anything and even ignores her old friends, family and even our kids.
That's a situation that needs intervention.
Thank you for this 💔
You're so welcome!
Thanks Paz for the videos. Our self esteems took a big hit.
Awesome content!
Going through it now. Ghosted 3 months ago just found out she had been cheating from her sister. We had been together for a year. I took her back after a 5 month ghosting. She had begun therapy as a stipulation but to no avail. Dam
He just offered a better retirement plan for her then l could she will never love him as much, but love has nothing to do with it.
Can you make a video on when your ex rebounds with their ex?
@@As-cc9ug already did my friend!
Here’s the link :
My EX Is Back with THEIR EX?! 😱 Why They Reconnected & Will It Work THIS TIME?!
th-cam.com/video/ezP0UCzJznI/w-d-xo.html
@@PazGoldmanOfficial you're the best !
@@As-cc9ug I got you 😉
Now it’s your time to shine✨
Take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this!
Feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
So true 🙏
She is better than me. Shes younger, prettier, more talented, more intelligent, more successful. I'm nothing compared to her.
The crazy part is my soon to be ex wife. She has been saying I have been cheating on her for two years. That is a lie. But if she thinks she found someone better than me he must be my twin that don’t know anything about.
perfect example that women are emotional. their actions are based on emotions and if you are boring she will go somewhere else with no remorse (vide Kaka). if you give her drama she will enjoy it.
She no where near better than me but she can offer more than I can
And even then tho it’s funny cause actually that’s true but it’s still not true actually really
@@mjennifer142 ??? Confused😁
My ex s new boyfriend richer than me! end of story thats the reason she break up
I promise you this is NOT the main reason!!!!!!
@@PazGoldmanOfficial Novelty.... Out with the Old, in with the New.
@@PazGoldmanOfficial psz shes ukranian that territory women only looking this i worked 2 diferent jobs 2 months with broken arm she was love of my life its been 8 month i still crying
No one’s better than me , her fkn loss !!!!
After 5 moths since she left me, I still dont know if she has someone else which I wish Id know.
My ex left me for another supply of money I found out by ask her out for meal for her birthday she told me she has new partner if I posted her birthday card that be wonderful she said what sort of narcissists lady was I dealing with nut case I think
Six months since the monkeybranch. The only thing the new person has on me is money, but that’s because his dad is rich. He’s an artsy type, so I think they’re both narcissists.
Unlikely. Narcs are extremely rare
@@Bloodsport1337 I KNOW my ex is a narc. Had a harem. Pathological liar. Unable to take accountability. Gaslit me. Etc. She meets the 9 criteria. I suspect the new supply is as well because he knew about me when she monkeybranched. He is an aspiring actor and is a bartender, so I have a feeling he is too. If not, he is probably toxic as hell.
I know he branched to someone worse but it still hurts seeing the person I cared for so much going to some fucker who can’t even respect his pronouns like where the hell is his self respect that new person even managed to alienate the entire long time friend group and somehow my ex still doesn’t see that fucker as a red flag
Gold
Wife mb after 16 years and 2 kids to a rich guy, is he better? Dont think so but money talks maybe
No doubt he may be better, but do I care? Naaah
This is so true avoidant phantom ex always is someone who is toxic emotionally unavailable and can be abusive as well. Bc avoidants are familiar with toxicity not kind loving partner. Also avoidant always have long term relationships with toxic narcissistic partner than healthy one bc there is no emotional intimacy involved only sexual. Caught my FA cheating on me with an old fat married guy 20 years older than her. Made me disgusted about her and felt something really wrong with girl. I am a guy who is close to her age, athletic, medical professional and a secure person. If she could have been vulnerable me, most definitely I would help her trauma and childhood wounds. Unfortunately, she lost very good person for a toxic married guy getting into triangle relationship.
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Immature bullshit