How To Know If You’re “IN LOVE” | our story, love vs lust, confusing feelings, the ONE!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 พ.ค. 2021
- This topic if HUGE! Knowing and living the correct definition of love versus what the world defines it as is paramount (big word alert) to our success in relationships. Knowing why you are doing something is just as important as your strategy to accomplish what you're doing... We can't get so caught up in pursuing a relationship and trying to get married that we forget why we desire a relationship in the first place. But trust us. It's easy for that to happen. Then you wake up one day, you have a lot of baggage from failed relationships and now we are viewing people we want to be with from a selfish and broken point of view because it becomes how can this person fit into OUR world and fulfill what WE need. We can't live like that. We need to find out WHY we are going after things and then set a healthy plan for our to pursue them. It will protect not only our hearts, but the precious hearts of others. After all, that's how Jesus lived. Anyways, I'll step off my soap box. lol
Love yall mucho,
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Awww yaay!!!! Thanks for reading it! You are so involved and we love watching it!!!
There's a reading plan group ? Oh my , I need to join back Patreon immediately !!!!!
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The way Tori talked about how she doesn’t like the phrase “Falling in love” and instead walk in love had my mind blown 🤯♥️
Right?!?! That blew my mind!
It's perfect, we walk through life with God everyday along with our partners. Real lovers live for each other, not for what they get out of it.
Yeah falling in love is actually falling in hate.
Because it’s fake Love.
You know Love.
Knowing Love causes you to show it in the way you live your life.
“Making love does not make it love” is STRAIGHT FIRE
I’ve heard this quote: “Love can wait to give, but lust can’t wait to take”
Love isn’t a feeling it’s an action. A choice to serve. So good!
YES AND AMEN!
Beautifully said! I would like to quote a TV show "love is a choice". Not downplaying what you said, I just like the idea that people should realize it's more than just saying the words.
If he or she only loves you in private it's lust. But around others they're distant act like they don't know you or are embarrassed.
yeah that doesn't sound healthy. We should be proud of the people we are in relationship with... whether friends, or dating or married.
*T and C disclaimer: It also depends on the culture here.
Although really friends of both of you should know, in some cultures you never really say it until the wedding date is set. It's considered public information.
Couple things: If you liked this video consider sharing it! It helps us! And watch till the end for a special message! Love yall!
Dear Tori & Chad,
I want to thank and encourage you for your TH-cam content. I rarely follow youtubers secular or Christian and there are many cute Christian couple youtubers.
What made me subscribe you is that:
1. Your Love for the Lord.
You people are very passionate about Lord Jesus and your relationship and videos are centred around Him. (Almost all Christian couple youtubers are just entertainers. If I really want to get entertained I would go to secular youtubers they are better at it.) And you I must say are not entertainers but evangelists.
2. Your Love for each other.
Trust me, I never thought that a Christian marriage can be that godly and fun like yours. Second reason I watch you is that you are not only lovers of Lord Jesus but because of Him your are madly in love with each other.
3. Your Love for Others.
You love spreading Gospel teachings. People of all faiths and even atheists love you.
Suggestion: Whenever you do some challenge or fun videos, please avoid sexual/vulgar questions, it reduces the effectiveness and reputation of our Lord and yours as well.
Lots of Love!
From India.
Wow, Vikas... That was powerful and really put into perspective why Tori and I do what we do... so thanks for such a humbling reminder that it is ABOUT JESUS and always should be ABOUT JESUS! We do try to be entertaining to a certain extent because we do want other people to see a joyful spirit filled life! But our hearts and passion are for encouraging people unto Christ! When people respond well to those videos, it means the world because that is our goal! So thanks so much for your encouragement, and wisdom (especially regarding your advice in #3)!Sending love to you in India!
This is the first christian couple I look forward to watch. I recently discovered you and I love you guys so much. I'm trusting God for this kind of relationship that you Two have. If he did it for you.. He'll do it for me too! Keep it up guys! Love from Kenya!
Hello to my "I've never clicked so fast" team
Hello there✌🏻
Is it weird that we watch out own videos?! lol Because I clicked pretty fast on my phone when I got the notification haha
Hiiii
“They’re scared to not have sex with their boyfriend because they might leave” GIRL he’s not the right man for you if he’s pressuring you into something you don’t want to do AND if you’re trying to be someone else for him then that’s another red flag that!!!
Don’t sacrifice your purity for his lust.
Oh please it takes two to tango. What about the women who pressure the men to get engaged, to move in together etc etc. You women are not as innocent as you profess to be.
@@65NART I wasn't professing that I was innocent at all. I know I need jesus to cleanse me from my sins. I also know that I won't sacrifice my purity to please someone outside of the marriage covenant. We should all do the same as it is a form of respecting ourselves and the other person that might be involved.
I agree it takes two to tango, but if he/she is pressuring you into doing something you're not comfortable with that's a red flag. period!
Personally I wouldn't pressure any guy to propose, it truly is God's timing, if I am with a Godly man then I trust that he is obeying God in how to lead our relationship.
"What about the women who pressure the men to get engaged, to move in together etc etc. " what about them? not sure if you finished your thought? Sounds like the relationship needs to be recentered and find it's why.
I'm sorry that you've been hurt or seen other men hurt by women, dating can be messy.
@@chaelibrunotte1693 you responded with such grace
I probably say this every video but Y’ALL ARE A BLESSING TO THIS GENERATION 👏🏼🤍 thank you for praising Christ and His teachings. God bless you two!
Aww thanks for saying that... means a lot... God bless you too!
My pastor once said that if you are unsure if you married the right person, just check your marriage certificate. Lol. I liked what you said about choosing to love someone unconditionally and how it doesn’t revolve around what they can give to you
This is hilariously grounding. “Just check your marriage certificate.” O ok 🤣 i will be saying this to my husband lolol
So true when y'all said, "we shouldn't enter into a relationship with the intent of 'fixing' the other person."
Even I believe that the only project we are called to work on is "ourself". And we are not called to make the "other person" our project. ✔️
Love these videos. Really builds me up! ❤️
YES YOU BETTER SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK, RINNAH!
Hahaa.. Yes :) 🙆@@ToriAndChad
"I don't want to fall in love, I want to walk in love". This is sooo good!
“Love is placing value on someone, not grasping something away from them to please your ego.” 🔥
"It is not your job to fix them" 100% agree!! In addition to that, _because_ it isn't your job to fix them, if you try to fix them, you'll find yourself constantly exhausted and frustrated because they're not doing what you want them to do. The truth is, you can only control yourself. You can only make decisions for yourself. You can't make decisions for others of how they will feel, or what they will think, or believe. We, as humans, were not designed or intended to fix one another. That's the Father's job. Like you said, Tori, we can pray for them, encourage them, respect them, love on them all while remaining genuinely surrendered to the Father. And the Father can use us in this capacity that can lead to a positive change in our spouse. But changing them is not _our_ job, nor are we designed to do so.
On a side note, when we're praying for our spouse, be prepared to pray that the Father helps them (your spouse) to become who He intended them to be - NOT pay that they fulfill any/every one of our selfish desires.
"Something I adored about Chad, especially at the beginning..." - Tori
"My body!?" - Chad
Hahahaha
hahaha my bad! ;)
We say "fall" in love because when we are attracted to someone, usually we can't control that. It's just that someone attracts you and you simply "fall" for them. Later, when you get into relationship, then you can eventually "walk" in love. One thing doesn't exclude the other.
"Peace before Love", I love this phrase.
"Making love doesn't make it love" wow! 👏👏
"walk in love"!!! That is a sermon right there.
I wonder how many miniature items Chad has...Tiny hands, tiny feet, and now a tiny mic 😂😂
hahahah stay subscribed to find out!
You should get a tiny spatula for Cooking with Chad lol
OH MY GOSH! Great idea. hahah *goes to amazon*
This...is a really good observation.
And the tiny coffee cup
This really touched my heart. My boyfriend and I definitely have had difficulties with how passionate we get. This reminded me about the desire I had earlier in our relationship, to test our love and see if it really is pure and true love. I’m scared that we are falling into lust instead of rising into love.
Thanks for sharing 💕 Praying for you and your boyfriend
"The eyes lead in love," as the ancient Romans said; but real, lasting love between two people embodies so much more.
me when chad says something I've never thought about: omg wow, that hit me. Thats so good.
Chad when Tori says something neither of us has thought about: 😲 I am deceased right now
So good. I just got out of a relationship. Realized that he wasn't really willing to sacrifice anything for it. I know he loved me, but not in the sense that it should be for a relationship. This video gives me so much peace in the decision I made to break it off
I was in such a relationship before. I left the guy
Me here watching Tori smiling as she explains males me feel the worth of waiting for the right person 🙏❤
right?!?! she delivers it so well!
@@ToriAndChad yeahhh
Makes not males 💀🥰
I caught that! haha
@@ToriAndChad 🙊🙈 when you multitask
okay i literally had the same reaction as Chad when Tori said walking in love instead of falling 😶😶 AND MY DUTCHIE FRIENDS AND THEIR TINY HANDS ARE SOOO CUTE AWH!!!! 🤩
I LOVE how the fam is growing!!!
I've been contemplating this a lot lately and really loving someone is loving/admiring who they are (their character traits, quirks, personality, interests), regardless of who they are in relation to yourself.
Like, if I only loved and admired my friends or a boyfriend because they were *my friend/significant other* then that is not fully valuing them as a person.
Okay, that's all!
this is exactly what i needed to hear! thank you guys
This is so so good! So much truth and wisdom!
That's awesome what a great community of Patreons you have!
Ya’lls videos are incredible!! I can see a whole ministry forming from this!! I pray blessings over your life!! 💜💜
So excited for this topic🙌🏻
We are too! lol
This was so good! I needed to hear this today!
Yay!! so excited for this topic! 💛
Wooo! We hope it encourages you!
so much clarity right now❤️ thanks!
Soo good. 'Walk in love' was an eye opener. 😍
So excited to watch!!!
WOOOO SAVANA IN THE HOUSE!
“I don’t want to fall in love, I want to walk in love”
You can tell she is loved well bc she glows.
Y’all have amazing timing! I needed this, thank you🙏🏻😁
Aww that means a lot to us!!!
You guys are awesome. These videos are such a blessing to me. 💓
wow so grateful for y’all sharing the wisdom the Lord has given you!!
I just love how you can mix humor and honesty and advice so well to make a video that is inspiring and helpful to everyone. I appreciate you guys no end!!! Thank you for what you do.
This was great! Love and lust are so different but you guys should also talk about people in love that have to battle with lust for each other.
God bless y’all💛! Much love from Canada 🇨🇦
Aww God bless you too! Eh! lol
I don't think I've ever commented on a TH-cam video before, but thank you so much for all the truth in this video!
WOW. So many great pieces of advice here!! I was taking notes😂 thank you so much!!❤❤❤
This really helped me ❤️ thank you so much for being honest and transparent! This never goes to waist
Yayy! You guys are my ideals! You guys bring in a lot of positivity! So blessed to watch all your videos. God bless!💛
Aww we are thankful we can encourage you a bit! God bless you and thanks for being here!
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Peace over passion. I love that. ❤
thank you guys! ❤️ So much, I took notes and wow even a year later and late to this vid, I absolutely needed to hear this
love the last part of this video
Good stuff as always! Love the end, so awesome how you let some of the masters Fam be a part of this!
We love how much it's growing and becoming even more close! What a blessing!
WATCH THIS ENTIRE VIDEO!
It doesn’t matter what season of life you are in, this is something everyone needs to hear. 🤍
awww thanks for saying that, Allison!
@@ToriAndChad thank you for speaking truth to the world every time you post 🤍
Wow Chad thank you and Tori for your clear words!!!
I'm so excited for this video! Btw, Tori you are looking fabulous as always!!!
Awww so sweet!!
Another wonderful video Tori and Chad! 😃 Sending my appreciation from Canada! ❤️ I re-watched it a second time, so many great points and teachings! I love Tori’s explanation of falling in love vs walking in love, what a powerful difference between them- things of this world vs those in Christ. I never thought of it like that, hearing the former in society a lot. Thanks for that wisdom-filled perspective! 💕 You guys hit the nail on the head about not giving what you don’t have, so true! Peace, safety and value in a relationship also resonate with me. Thanks Masters! 🤗
Got your video notification during a meeting and couldn't wait to watch it. Now atlast i am going to start watching...
Very much intrigued my the title of the video 😁
Really enjoyed this video!!
thanks a ton my man!
Wow wow God really knows what we need to hear! ❤️ I’ve been dating a guy but definitely been listening to what society has been saying about love and dating and it’s been super confusing, after watching this I feel a lot more clearly about things 😊
I don't normally like sitting through longer youtube videos, but I always enjoy watching yours. Every minute is packed with wisdom. Thank you for sharing!
Aww thanks for saying that, Allison! Sorry if the videos get long... but we can't help but share it!
@@ToriAndChad no they are amazing!
Thank you so much, for sharing the Godly perspective of love
From a personal experience, I was getting to know someone who definitely wasn't good for me. I thought it was my duty to "fix them", but I was hurting myself in the process. Your videos are not only so clear and provide so much guidance, but they have also helped me to understand what I need to be looking for in a person and how important and life-changing that can actually be. It took me a really long time to get over that person, because I lacked the guidance to see why I need to walk away. Thank you for being so opened and transparent!
This gave me soo much perspective!! Thank you for this video. As someone who's and adult and never been in a relationship i have no experience to "rely" on so this video gave me soo many points to look out for. ❤
I can't wait for you guys' testimonies 😭😭😭😍😍😍
Oh my goodness! I started crying when you talked about how Chad never complemented your looks. The way he is looking at you when you said "Do you not think that I'm pretty?" is just so amazing! Imma look for that in a husband, thanks so much for being great examples of that!
I just discovered this channel and it has blessed me so much. I admire your honesty. It’s such a relief to find people who can give advice that leads to the right path because it’s based on scripture. Every video about relationships from people who don’t care about what God says it’s different and changes with culture. I’ve never had a serious relationship and I’m so happy I found your channel before I do
this 🤍 thank you all for sharing this video! i learned so much !!
Yaaaaas! Fellow Dutchies at the end! That was so cool!! Loved the tiny hands, hahahahaha!! 😆 This video was great again, Tori & Chad! ❤ I could relate to so many things! God's timing really is perfect. The Lord brought me a godly man at His apointed time and things are exactly what I prayed for. Bart and I are completely different from each other, but we are a great match. Only God can prepare such a thing! 🙌🏽 Bart and I are celibate until we're married, but we did cross a few lines in the past months. 🙈 We repented from that and now we're taking things down a notch. It actually felt like married life already because we spent so much time together, also with Bart's son of 9 years old. Tori, you inspired me to not give 'marital perks' anymore like cooking every day and feeling responsible for our little family. Fortunately Bart understood how I felt and agreed on going back to a dating phase again, instead of 'playing house every day'. 🏠 It was something I felt for a while already, but your videos confirmed it. Right now I'm all by myself eating snacks and bingewatching your vids. Tomorrow morning I will meet up with Bart and we'll go to church together. Afterwards I have to work again. Going back to 'date phase' feels so freeing! My mom passed away last year. It happened 1 month after Bart and I met each other, so we got into Serious Mode very fast. After my mom's stroke she breathed out her last breath after 3 weeks in the presence of Bart and me. I'm grateful my mom got to meet Bart the day before her stroke. God's timing and grace are always on point! 🙌🏽 He knew He would bring my mom home and therefore sent Bart my way. The man I truly prayed for. ❤
To whoever is reading this:
Wait on the Lord. ✨ His timing and will for our lives really is perfect! Even tho we don't always understand or agree with it. God knows best! He really does. 🙌🏽 Stay close to Jesus. Read your Bible and apply to your daily life what you've read. A waiting season isn't a wasted season when you spend it with Jesus. 👑 Big hug and blessings from the Netherlands! 🤗🙌🏽💕🌸
I couldn't agree more about everything you've shared with us today,guys. I loved the part where Tori said about her commitmtent to walk in love with Chad. That's so deep! Falling in love with someone is something temporary, but walk in love with someone that is so different of you, requires time,effort patient, and too much understanding!
Thanks for this wonderful content!
This was so so good!!! Thanks to God for his unconditional love and for Him changing our hearts and thanks to you for this good words!! ♥️ Hello from Germany 🙋🏽♀️
I definitely need to reevaluate the way I approach my relationship thanks for calling me out kindly and encouraging me to approach love the right way❤️❤️❤️you both are amazing!
Also nothing makes me happier than that one patreon wearing Mi's merch🥺🥺
it's so perfect!
Wow you guys! Speaking straight facts from the beginning til the end. Thank you for being so encouraging!!
Awww thanks for watching!!!
Through your videos it feels like i am getting mentored by you. Thanks alot 😊
So crazy how often God uses you guys to impact my life in the exact time that I need it. Love you guys! Thanks!
Loved this video! I think the “self love” / “love yourself first” culture has also made people misunderstand what true love is supposed to be
I also love how Chad gets when Tori goes offfff🙌..it's so cute ahah
hahaha gotta hype my girl up!
Came from the The AFMH channel! So excited to be on board.
I loved what Tori said about not using the language "falling in love". I'm going to use "walk in love" from now on :)
Thanks for that inspiring thoughts!
I like the term "walking in love" vs. "falling in love".
And i love your interpretation of "being in love" vs. "being in lust". Cause, up to now i understood "being in love" as something like being in lust. And so being in love becomes something bad. This video really helps! Thanks :)
Wowow! That sentence/quote at the very end of the video is so good!
"don't let the world re-define something God has already given a definition to"
Thank you!
You guys are absolutely hysterical ❤️😂😂😂
hahah thanks a ton!!!
It’s my first time to listen to u guys but ur words are really biblical and 100% true ! God bless you and use u for many !!!
I just wanted to share my story too, since this is such a friendly community!! I’m Orthodox Hindu, my Gf is Romanian and Catholic so we are from two different worlds. We met at a classical literature club at my college and have been together for a year now. Despite our cultural differences, our values are very much the same and so I think the fact that she has those values is something that drew me to her. I believe that the same God who made me also made her, and called me to be there for her. Whenever I’m having a horrible day at university or at work, she is a safe haven for me. She’s the motivation that Keeps me going at the gym, at work, at school. Thanks for making this video, it really hit home for me! And thanks for being so welcoming as a community to me, I do not know much of Christian faith, but I know how much you all hold God in your hearts and souls, as do I in my own way. So thank you, and have a wonderful day!
Wow thanks for sharing that... I know it can be weird to hear advice from a difference background but we do appreciate you being so open to watching and even sharing your story!
@Anny AmayaAyala Well that is very kind of you haha but I am quite set in my Hindu practices. Believe it or not, we share a lot of values and the lifestyle of Hindus and Christians, although different in customs, is quite similar in general value systems. Anyways, thanks and God bless you!
This is amazing!
Wow packed with wisdom - thanks so much for sharing - you guys are so real. love you guys
So much to learn here regarding my Sunday school class and friendships
That part about "Falling in love" and "Walking in love" - boooom. Such a great insight! :)
Chad's reaction to walk in love was exactly me... U guys inspire me soo much to walk with God and make my life jesus centered
I trust your opinions and advice so much, and when it comes to love, you are the perfect couple to talk about it! 🤍 Your wisdom and encouragement are priceless! I appreciate you so much! 🤗
Aww thank you for the love, Lulia!!! We appreciate it!
My favourite couple on youtube, posting useful, meaningful and respectful content. Y'all taught me so much and helped me grow a lot, so thank you❤
Awww thanks for saying that, Yara! It keeps us encouraged to keep going!
Y'all are so personable and engaging that for a second I forgot that y'all were in the video because I kept nodding my head and saying, "Yes, that's right," like y'all were in the room with me. Lol! God bless you both and I pray the Lord continues to use you to minister to other young Christians like me.
I absolutely love watching you’re videos!! This was so very encouraging!!! It’s so discouraging when there aren’t Christ center marriages so to see you proclaim Gods word and encourage us with the Word of God is so powerful! I love hearing your hearts in each video and podcast! Thank you for being so bold, open and pouring out so deeply! ❤️❤️
Spitting fire over here guys 🔥
Great perspective on Biblical love!
Walking in love with the person is so true. Slowly learning them and loving everything about them