For the pregnant sister post: Update: the pregnant sister saw her Reddit post and apologized for being such a brat. She read the comments and it gave her a reality check. The other sister is buying out the other half and the pregnant sister is going house hunting to buy a new home for their new family
Looks like there was an update for story 4 about the pregnant sister. OP is buying her out! The sister found the post and apologized to OP for how she was acting. They discussed it over and decided it was best for OP to buy her sister out. All seems to be well and they are in talks with lawyers to figure it out.
So happy for her. Was lowkey worried bc it was sounding like the boyfriend was going along with it bc he’s benefiting by getting a house without having to pay anything tbh
For the sixth story, i was surprised yall were siding with the in laws. And then yall said you did forget the in laws were insulting the mom and the cleanliness of the household 😂 i do think it's a little sad to cancel the party but they are being really mean and cruel to mom. Even if grandma felt upset about the childcare arrangement, that should be the focus of her discussion, not outright insults. It's pretty disrespectful and i understand the parents distancing themselves for a bit.
My thoughts exactly. Latina here but that would definitely happen here. We're no longer going to have a party if we're not all getting along at the moment, the birthday party can wait until we get an apology. Honeslty i didnt like the take there.
Yeah they definitely could have handled it better! I felt bad for the gran ngl, sounds like she was doing her best to help out but they scold her for the one shortcoming? You’d clean it all up, replace the toothbrushes etc and then have a gentle word with her like “thank you so much for helping us out when we were sick. Btw we’ve decided to not wash them in the sink anymore as it’s unhygienic and toothbrushes etc could easily get contaminated”. Now she can’t see as well, my grans house is a little dusty, plates not fully cleaned etc if you can’t see you miss bits. They could’ve all put on their big boy pants and used the party as an opportunity to make up.
I also was surprised! Her sister’s also began to berate her and it felt like they almost glossed over that? If the parents wanted to distance themselves from the grandma and toxic sounding aunts they are in their reason to. Is cancelling the party petty? Yes. I’m sorry if grandma signs up to babysit and doesn’t clean like that to me it’s concerning, how would she “not see it” 😭😭😭. I feel if any of the hosts came home and saw a mess from someone who was pet or baby sitting they wouldn’t be too happy about it either. This might have been the wake up call that the parents needed that they NEED to find someone else to take care of their kids.
@@GrungeGalactica it’s mentioned in the story though that it isn’t the only time there’s been hygiene issues like that from grandma Also shit on a toothbrush isn’t really the same as the house being a bit dusty It was a legitimate health hazard and when they talked to her about it they immediately started getting bombarded by both the sisters and mom
For the first story, I’ve done shrooms PLENTY of times and first of all you don’t forget anything, shrooms doesn’t affect your memory. You also do not really lose all control of yourself, I’ve taken godly dosages and been completely aware of what I’m saying to whoever is with me. Her boyfriend is being blatantly abusive.
I will say shrooms can make you more talkative and just blurt stuff out. But you’re aware enough while on shrooms to be like,” oh that was rude. I’m sorry. I’ll remember to think before I blurt something out. “ Like your minds racing faster, but your aware of what your doing.
The first time I took shrooms, my friend had to come tell me to stop screaming as I was on her bathroom floor, unaware I was screaming, and then spent the rest of my trip talking nonsense. It definitely can make you lose control, maybe not in this case, but it happens.
for the onlyfans mom, if you guys have never had a family member that's an addict, a lot of that is likely the drugs talking. she may have even been hoping mom would offer her money out of guilt or something. she needs to reach out to whatever programs and groups near her offer support for families of addicts for advice on how to get her help.
Definitely the drugs. I’ve watched so many family members change from addiction growing up. The best people turn into despicable human beings all because they want their next fix. But the mom should NOT blame herself, it’s not her fault. Her daughter was an adult and made decisions that lead her to this point and her mother had no part in that. I agree with Morgan, what mom can do is to try to get her to rehab but tbh that has to be her daughters choice. Best thing to do is distance yourself but be there when it’s necessary and when it isn’t a cost to her own well-being.
For sure, active addiction makes people say a lot of things they would never dream of sober. I really hope her daughter can get help, and they can eventually reconcile
I feel like for the poop story that they all just kinda forgot that OP wasn’t the one who went off on the MIL. It was his wife who went off on her own mother. So for the sisters to turn around and attack OP and their household was uncalled for. So I think OP had a perfectly good reason not to want their child around all that drama. Cause there’s no way in hell that they wouldn’t have started a problem at the party. I feel like the MIL switching and being rude to them and insulting them aaannnnnnnd no showing after the entire interaction was over, all bcuz the sisters had to throw in their opinions even though it was none of their business is crazy and I definitely wouldn’t that around my kids. The MIL was apologetic and was completely understanding until the two negative entities entered the chat. SMH.
Exactly. I'm only 24 and I scold my mom for many things, and while to others it may seem too much, I know the relationship I have with her. The issue here was the mom and sisters. Hubby was disrespected and said, nope. He's gonna get sideyed at his child's birthday party? They can celebrate something small until the apology is delivered and then we can all do our own thing for a big party. We do that in my family (latina)
The tooth story makes me so sad. My fiancé has lost majority of his teeth because of medication he was forced on as a child. I know the pain and insecurity he lives with everyday. Absolutely killed me hearing her try to explain it out. Everytime they smile or even laugh is like a kick in the gut. Sorry for rambling. Just kills me someone could try to make someone feel less than for something that's not easily controlled without access to ALOT of money.
My dad got all his teeth removed at 45 due to having a difficult childhood, and not having great dental care. He has dentures now, and he smiles so much more! We also love when he takes them out and shows off his gummy smile lol 😂 Any person with true unconditional love for someone would not let something so conditional in the way of that.
@@SillyGirlBlueeaww you guys give me lifeee !! Humanity is real ❤ if someone loves you they’ll either help you if you ask for it but if not don’t mention it and love them as they are. If not then they can go.
On the 6th story (the poop story) I feel like you guys glossed over the fact that those kids are probably getting sick BECAUSE OF MIL'S POOR HYGIENE. I'm also latina and that was a normal issue in my family (I don't know if it is in general). Some people from older generations lack basic hygiene and put kids in danger, since they are still developing antibodies. I've lived that situation and had to learn early how to protect myself from family whilst not letting them notice so no one would get offended. I was served spoiled food, was told that I could eat dirty fruits (once I was told it was ok for me to eat food that fell on the sand at the beach, just blow on it) and was told that I was too precious for washing my hands before meals, and stuff like that. My mom was always around us to protect us, but also teaching us how to avoid it without making a fuss. Another thing is, I don't think Spanish or Portuguese sounds aggressive, so I assume the wife was a bit rude with her mother on the phone, but to be honest, I would be too, since that wasn't the first time and they've already had that conversation. So I was with OP up until he cancelled the party. Ideally, he should have just changed the location to OPs house and had the party there, instead of MIL's house. And if their relatives misbehaved in the party, he should just make them leave. The kid shouldn't miss on their birthday party and gifts because of adult drama. In fact, if you are waiting for a time with no drama to have a party in a latino family , you will never have a party. Lol
I agree. The party decision was an asshole move. The poop on the toothbrush should NOT be forgotten. And not just any old poop - sickly flu poop. The MIL's actions could have led to the entire family being sick. If my MIL made mistakes like that, even if it was my mom, I would get a different caretaker. I wouldn't burn bridges over it, but I wouldn't endanger myself or my family. I feel like this an ESH situation.
I am cuban and have some family like the MIL and SIL… having kids around these types of people is no better for the kids environment (personal experience as a kid growing up with them, you’ll see the way they treat your parents or siblings, being blamed/scrutinized for things they either can’t help or straight up didn’t do which can rly mess up perceptions of yourself or your family.) I would say still have the party but maybe at your house and make your boundaries clear with them. Let them know that it is unappreciated and unacceptable to speak like that to me, my partner or around my children. If they want to have a relationship with my family then they have to respect our boundaries. Being in your life is optional and it is in your hands to decide if your ego is worth losing contact with your family. For my family we do not expect payment to each other to watch grandchildren/cousins/etc. because family should do that for one another but usually offer compensation regardless. For MIL and SIL to throw it back in their faces that their house is messy and calling her fat… that’s your DAUGHTER who is a MOTHER, to a small baby mind you, and especially after they OFFERED to help??? Also what do you expect a house full of sick shitting kiddos to look like… the Taj Mahal? At the end of the day it is their life no one else’s. No one else can decide what is in the best interest and health for their children.
From someone who is always surprised i don't get anything from my grandma's house and i avoid food cooked by her like the plague, old people neglect a lot of hygiene stuff. Hell even my mom does, i can tell her leaving rice to cool overnight and defrosting chicken on the sink over a full day helps in developing tons of bacteria until i'm blue in the face, she'll still say that that's how she's always done things and none of us ever got sick, so i'm wrong for sure. Also, idk, latin languages are pretty fast and tend to sound angry to other people. We are a concentration of romanian people in my factory and at some point we all hapened to be in the canteen at the same time, the discussion was getting heated, but not in an angry way, just in a concerned advice way and we got told to stop fighting.
Can I just say… your poop stories… normally I can stomach them easily. But a few months ago I was GAGGING and dying. Long story short, your poop stories led me to find out I was pregnant 😂
Story 6: I wouldn't want my family around my children if that's how they were speaking about and to my wife, especially when we weren't the ones who made it into a bigger issue it didn't need to be. The sisters and then MIL made that into drama and a supposedly big issue, not OP and his wife. Also, were the children just not around when the MIL came back to the house parroting all those nasty things about OP's wife? Even if they weren't there, why leave room for it to happen at another time at that point? "But the kids deserve to see their grandma and aunts!" So they can just get away with the nasty things they say and do regarding their parents for "the sake of the children?" Those kids are going to pick up on that tension and unease eventually, and as someone who's gone through this personally, they're going to realize their grandma and aunts weren't the people they thought when they do. I don't want anything to do with the people who treated my parents horribly like that, and I wish my parents didn't feel like they had to for our sakes because it wasn't right. OP canceling the party at MIL's house doesn't mean their son isn't going to get a party at all - they can have one elsewhere and do something else. OP barring them from seeing the kids until their behavior changes might suck, but sometimes that's what you have to do with people like that. If they want to see the kids and be around, they need to stop being so horrible to OP and his wife over something that, again, never had to be as big of an issue as they made it. An apology for what they said would also be nice, but it's doubtful they'd get one judging by who these people seem to be.
Listening to that poor girl in the cavity story gaslight herself was heartbreaking. Speaks volumes to how often he must be putting her down if she's already started doing it for him when he's not around.
For story two, I was so ready to say YTA for OP based on the title. But she asked her friend. Her friend said it was okay. Do I get exMOH being hurt and upset? Yeah, completely valid. But she told OP it was okay. It's on her that that's not true. She can't hold it against OP that she herself lied.
Yeah I agree. Would I, personally, decide to try on a dress my friend loved so much? Probably not. But the exMOH needed to be honest and advocate for herself. They both kinda suck, but exMOH sucks more. OP just sounds oblivious tbh.
also when she said it felt like op doesn't want her in the wedding when she said she did, really reminds me of an ex-friend that always needed constant reassurance and was similarly bad at communicating needs.
Yeah exactly. As someone who has suffered from being a people pleaser I knew exactly what was going on in her head. I wouldn’t have risked trying on and getting the dress in the first place, but OP did ask her out right AND tried to talk it out multiple times after the fact to make up, but the maid of honor just never opened up. She kept saying she was okay in person, but then would text back that she wasn’t okay. It’s hard to communicate with someone who doesn’t know how. It’s okay to struggle with that, but she can’t blame other people for not reading her mind. It takes time to learn to communicate your true feelings (took me a long time, slow process), and I think she needs to go work on that. And for the sake of OP it might be best to just let her go and hope she comes around one day.
I think the friend in story 2 is insane. She didn't get the dress? It's not like she owns the rights to it because she almost got it- that's not how it works. Op even went out of her way to consult with her, she said okay, and _then_ she got mad? How does a f****** dress you didn't even get ruined a friendship?
I agree, she doesn't own every dress she tried on and liked... Op had the courtesy to ask her friend if she would be upset if she tried the dress which she didn't have to do. If she had a problem and you're that good of friends you shouldn't have a problem saying that would make you feel uncomfortable. She can't get huffy after op did everything she could to be a good friend on her part, and then to have the guts to try and flip it and say op is a bad friend when she did everything the friend expected of her for her wedding, this friend made a scene at the dress shop; which as a 2023 bride who just did all the wedding stuff too, trying on the dresses was a big event for me and it was very special so if someone made it all about them over a dress they didn't even buy and I even asked if they minded I'd be so upset
The friend wasn't able to stand up for herself, not the first time when she didn't get the dress because of her mom and not the second time when OP asked her if it would be a problem. Only after it was all done she started acting like a victim. She can't have it both ways.
What pisses me off is that I found the post and ppl were telling her she was the AH so she said she's going dress shopping to find another dress bc "I've been a shi friend and have to deal with the consequences"😐 imo let this story be about 2 grown ass men fighting over a piece of clothing and everybody would've told them to grown tf up
Story 6: immediately NTA, the freaking sisters called their sister fat, insulting their home and all kinds of horrible names. That’s unacceptable. No way I’m bringing assholes like that around me and my family. Byyyye
Story 5: depending on the culture, giving guests your own bed is a sign of hospitality and generosity, so it might be as simple as that. But yeah, as long as the guest room isn’t an office with an inflatable mattress, there’s no problem
English isn't my first language so I don't know exactly if this is what I'm thinking of. I had an old filling and black markings on my teeth for years. Both people I know who are educated on this topic and my dentist said this is normal and not something to worry about. However, last month I got it replaced and she (the dentist) made my tooth white again, but as I understood this it was purely for aesthetic reasons as it looks more "natural"
How y’all were confused on story 4 is WILDDDD to me. OP IS CLEARLY NTA. If pregnant sis needs more space then she needs to find another spot. NOT the one who’s causing NO issue and has offered her multiple solutions.
Exactly! The home is owned by 2 people, that's 2 rooms per person. I can't imagine making my only sibling's life harder because I had a baby. If anything, they're a couple and more capable of finding a new place.
Right! I have 2 children and I had them young. I would not have behaved like that at all! The pregnant sister should buy her sister out and first and foremost get a grip. Hormones or not
Totally agree. Just because sis decided to get pregnant, doesn't mean she now owns more of the house. She can either buy OP out of the house, or sell and split.
It’s the whole it’s family toxic shit, just because it’s family doesn’t mean you got her bend over for them and let them screw over, and take it just because it’s family. That’s why it’s hard for them. Look how they went hard on the guy before the last story, nah if they are toxic, you don’t get a relationship with the children. The parents are being toxic. Dusty thunder says it all the time, if you’re going to be toxic and mean to the parents, you don’t get a relationship with the children.
Story number 2, I’m with the girl who tried on her friends dress. She asked her out right if it was okay, and her friend said yes. Furthermore, just because her friend wanted the dress and allowed her mother to dictate that decision is not the friends problem. That dress isn’t solely reserved for her. The friend has zero right to act that way especially how considerate the other girl was to even bother to ask before purchasing it
@@threestars4331 furthermore, she is already married. I never understood the whole wedding cult. I mean, you get your year of planning. Then you get one day to be the center of the universe. After that, I mean, it should be over, right? Or is nobody else gonna wear that dress or use your colors or play the same music you played. You might as well have the venue demolished or something.
@@ixsam3306 For real. It's bonkers. I know on THT we buy into a lot of the traditional wedding do's and don'ts, but a lot of them just go too far for my taste. Pretty much anything that brides lose their shit over, while grooms just wouldn't mind. The events enable too much conventionally shallow or insecure behaviour.
My thoughts exactly!! Like she already had her wedding how is she dictating what others do?? Is she gonna flip if she sees another random person wearing that dress? Or uses her venue? Or God forbid dances to the same music that she wanted to but couldn’t 😂. People are so weird man
I love it overall. But is anyone else REALLY DISTURBED that Morgan is not on the left? 😂 I'm the type who is not neurodivergent but DAMN do I understand when "little" things like this bug me THIS MUCH! 😁💞
It's so beautiful but damn it lack some colors I feel ! Morgan and her guests are so bubbly sweet people, I feel like the old studio was cozy and cute, just like THT is ! Maybe it's my change aversion speaking, give me few episode to adapt 🤣
Story 2: OP is NTA. Best friend made dress shopping for OP’s wedding about HER. Focus should be on OP during this time. Best friend got her special day already, suck it the f up honestly.
Exactly! She sounds very childish and selfcentered. She didn’t wear the dress to her wedding so it shouldn’t matter that other people do. It’s just a dress.
Yeah same like it's literally a piece of clothing? What special is the person wearing it. It's not like she chose the same wedding dress as her and honestly even if she did what's the big deal. Her wedding will remain her wedding and yours would be yours. I put myself in this scenarios and I just can't seem to get mad at my friend for picking the dress I love. I would actually be like " isn't my taste so good" and would be smug
there was an update on the sister refusing to switch rooms story!!! OP was able to convince her sister to sell her half so that she could get a larger house for her and her growing family in a more affordable area!! HAPPY ENDING YAYYY
I feel like there’s some heteronormative entitlement at play in the sisters sharing a house story. The OP mentions having a gf and the sister’s bf makes a jab at OP not wanting kids. I feel like they think cause they’re a more traditional family that they deserve the house. Whereas the OP has a life and OP didn’t change the dynamics the sister did. So I think it’s unfair for the OP to have to hide in her one room of a house that she has equal ownership of. I think they need to go separate ways tbh.
Story 2: I heard on 2 idiot girls Drew talked about how her therapist said when you don’t hold your own boundaries you turn into that resentful, snippy, and bad person you really tried to avoid becoming by being a people pleaser. That really stuck with me. Sounds like this is what has happened to OPs friend. She didn’t want her friend upset with her or mad at her, now her friend is super stressed and probably sad about maybe losing a friend.
Story 4… your sister should buy you out of the house if she wants a majority share of the house for her intended use. You get one bedroom? Nope. EDIT: just finished and listened to how sister got her Range Rover and can’t afford to buy OP out. I hope OP goes through with it and buys her out! Love it.
Found the post and OP did update. She is indeed buying her out. The sister found the post since it went viral and they talked. She apologized and they agreed that preggo sis will be bought out and she is excited to house hunt. So I guess that story has a happy ending.
As someone who had many addicts in their lives growing up, what the daughter is doing to her mom is very very VERY common. When you’re in the thick of that addiction, a lot of the time you’ll lash out at the people who tried to help you because you’re ashamed you didn’t listen to them and it comes out as misplaced anger. I know someone who even sober still does that a lot. It’s a way to shift blame off of themselves and not take accountability. It doesn’t make it hurt any less, but hopefully that mom can get her daughter help and work through that in the recovery process. It breaks my heart for both of them, but if that mom hadn’t been supportive of her daughter, the daughter wouldn’t have had a safe place to fall apart like she does now. She could have been taken advantage of when trying to seek help. Thank god for the mother for not turning her back on her kid.
I totally agree. It’s almost as if they are so full of shame that they don’t know how to cope with it, so they take it out on family members. It’s easier to blame everyone else, because taking on all the blame themselves can just lead to more drug use. When my sister was going through this she would throw a lot of hurtful comments towards our family, and at a certain point you just detach and realize that they’re not themselves in that moment. They’re angry with the world, themselves and they feel shame because they don’t recognize themselves anymore. The only thing the mom can do right now is support her daughter, and try to give her a comfortable and safe space to heal and find herself again. The daughter will come to appreciate it one day even if that day isn’t today. ❤️ I really appreciated your comment!
Yeah, that's weird to me too. I'm also a latina and know for certain my mom would refuse to take money for babysitting grandkids. I didn't know that wasn't normal.
I'm not a Latina but I'm from Europe and that's wild to me too. But possibly because people here don't really have full time babysitters and daycares are virtually free. So you wouldn't be paying anyone that amount of money to look after your kids. It only makes some sense to be paying her if she'd be otherwise going to a job that earns her more. But idk if that's the case here.
@@tinnie75 A lot of older latinos own houses and have either some form of pension or some side job like crafting clothes that covers most of whats needed. If not, their kids are pretty happy to cover some. A lot also simple live with their kids and have everything covered. Either way, parents bringing kids to work or a family member, especially grandparents, babysitting during work was the norm ( this is currently changing). A lot of grandparents did do it for free simply because they love their grandkids that much, and the money was just unnecessary to them. The oldest daughter also used to be expected to babysit for free starting pretty young. Most lations have a family connection that's unrivaled worldwide. Its kinda difficult to explain to outsiders.
i get that, but nobody should EXPECT their parents to watch their children all the time. that could even take away from it being quality time with your grandkids, especially if you didn’t want or plan to be caring for them as much as you are.
@@callajones9848 i think it’s normal tbh. If you’re not in that situation it’s easy to say no you shouldn’t have to do that for your family. But depending on your cultural norma and the way you grew up, you just accept the fact that you HAVE to watch your family without thinking of it as a bad thing
Story 3: daughter lacks accountability, parents can't not allow you to do anything just because they are your once you become an adult. A lot of young adults needed supportive parents but you can't blame them for every time you fall on your face.
Yeah I support s€x workers and OF creators but there are soo many grey areas. On one hand it’s great that people over lockdown/in poverty are able to use OF as as a tool to survive. But it’s similar to working any other you hate but have to do to live. With any job you’re wh0ring out your body through labour, mental energy, intelligence etc and s£x work should be viewed the same imo, your filling a demand after all. I hate that it’s become a way to black list people would’ve survived through desperate situations, from being hired for stable careers later on. Equally tho people going into it who have to, to live, must be damaging af. I think the age should change to 21/25 for starters. The mum’s probably always going to feel guilty about this now. But I think she did her best and is doing her best being there for her daughter after the fallout. No one’s really to blame here besides the goons running the country and letting get this dire.
Story 4: Sister should buy out OP. That’s it. Period. If she is so entitled to basically the entire house, she can PAY to have the privilege of having the entire house to herself. EDIT after OPs Comment: Babe, you can’t afford to buy out OP? You can take your entitled pregnant butt to your room, things will stay exactly the way the are. You get a bassinet, baby doesn’t get a bedroom until YOU can afford it. 👍🏻
Yeah, she and boyfriend are acting like they are doing OP a favor by "allowing" her to live there, but OP literally owns half the house. It's super entitled behavior. Edit: I've seen an update in the comments where they worked it out, so it sounds like it was a fluke in their relationship, which is a relief.
OP posted an update on her account. After her sister found the post (it went viral) she apologized to OP and they talked about the situation. They agreed to have OP buyout her sister and her sister will be able to use those funds to purchase a home of her own. It looks like they are both definitely on better terms now that they have come to a solution and looks like all is good now.
the friend in story 2 brought it on herself by saying it wouldn't upset her. and idk i just do not get the wedding ones most of the time. i get the dress is special but if you made the choice to not only not get it for YOUR wedding (screw the mom's opinion) but also tell your friend you're okay with her getting it, you have no right to be mad at OP for then buying it
The post about him freaking out about her teeth and treating her like absolute trash literally raised my blood pressure and anxiety from anger She deserves so so sooo much better He deserves no one
Listening to her list all her boyfriend's toxic behavior and then minimize/gaslight herself for her justifiable anger was heartbreaking and I really hope she leaves him.
He is JUST GARBAGE. That story eventually made me furious, too. Also, I don't want to go back to relisten but were ages 24f and 30m? Even worse. JUST a Jerk. Nothing else to see, here. Dtmfa.
I know, I don’t know what to the point of reading that story was because there was no dubious aspect or question, it was just a story of a girl abused.
Same!!! Like what if it was actually was cavities??? Having bad teeth doesn’t automatically mean you don’t take care of your teeth.. in some cases sure that’s the case whether they weren’t taught how to clean them properly(which most people actually aren’t cleaning their teeth properly! At 23 I had to have the dentist show me and I was like dang I was doing this wrong all this time lol) but it can just be hereditary. Can you imagine how insecure and low she would feel if they were actually cavities and couldn’t afford to fill them yet? What a jerk of a man
Morgan you don't know how much we appreciate your hard work. I tune in every Thursday when the episode JUST drops knowing full well I will 100% love the episode. That's rare from other podcasts, I usually just cherry pick episodes that seem interesting, but THT is the exception where I know I will listen from start to finish to every single one. Just want to let you know your meal presentation for us is always amazing and fun. We love it! We lobe you guys and I hope you find as much joy doing this for us as it is for us consuming it.
1st poop Story: Op had every right to cancel that party as long as he still celebrated his child’s bday. You can’t be disrespectful to the parents and expect access to the children. At that point you risk going to a party where tensions are high and could possibly become combative and ruin the party anyway
Story 6… as someone who has been having to come to terms with the fact that a lot of my family members are not good people, I wish my parents had protected me from them. These were people that I loved and looked up to my entire childhood while also being harmed or judged by them. Then I find out that it was not ok to be treated that way and saw new sides of them that were always hidden from me before then. I wish that I wouldn’t have all of my good memories with them tainted by who they actually are. If ANYONE treats your child or you poorly then they should not be around your child. Being related to someone does not entitle them to harm you or even see you at all.
the dress one makes me angry cus it just sounds like the friend is expecting the bride to read her mind the entire time. as an autistic person, these people make me so fucking angry cus i take people at their word cus i don’t understand why you’re not just COMMUNICATING. Also cus i genuinely can’t understand it. i think the friend is the asshole tbh. but to be fair it’s cus i’m seeing it from an autistic perspective. you need to say what you mean when you’re friends with an autistic person cus they’re going to take it at face value. COMMUNICATION IS KEY. i always ask people around me to use direct communication with me for this reason. also these are the same people who tell me what i “really mean” from something i say. when i never meant or said that. i mean what i say and say what i mean always. and they put their own projection onto me when i never said that & never inferred that. i don’t infer ANYTHING. i make this known in relationships early on now so it’s better but growing up undx was traumatic cus this happened and the entire time i thought i was broken and i hated my “personality”. nope just autistic
Only fans doesn’t cause drug addiction. Whether the daughter did OF or not, they could have developed an addiction. Maybe the trauma of doing OF played a part for them but s3x work doesn’t automatically mean trauma & addiction. And they were 18 what could the mom do? Beyond kicking them out which could have caused a whole other set of problems. They also ended up moving out anyways. I’m sure the daughter is just in a bad place and hopefully once she gets herself sorted she will take some accountability & see that it’s not her moms fault. Her mom can’t control her. She’s obviously struggling and needs mental health & addictions support but it’s also up to her to accept that support.
The second story about the wedding dress.. from choosing my own dress a few months ago I will say once you fall in love with a dress there’s no turning back! That’s just my opinion but I couldn’t of possibly said no to my dress once I knew I just knew even though it was over budget! Personally I think if the friend who wanted the dress originally then she clearly has regrets still about choices for her wedding and that’s quite sad as I personally think you shouldn’t have any regrets! It’s your day and it’s amazing regardless! They can cause a lot of drama though yes! I and my partner have the most chilled out families ever yet we have still come across problems 😂 it is what it is!
For the story with the onlyfans, you're not a bad mom or an asshole, it's the drugs. Addicts tend to blame people for their life going down hill. She could of been a doctor, a lawyer, a nanny, a businesswoman, and she still would have found some way to blame you. As someone who has dealt with addicts my entire life, it's the road they walk on, until hopefully, one day, she gets help and accepts her responsibility in her life. All you can do is continue to love her and help her get help if she'll accept it. I'm so sorry for what she said to you. I've listened to a sibling, who is an addict, curse out and blame our mother for her life. I think therapy would be great to help work through this as well. ❤
not quite as bad as poop on a toothbrush, but when I visit my parents (who are both past retirement age), I always have to rewash any dishes i want to use because my mom's vision isn't great. She saw me do it a couple times and got super offended, even though I was actively addressing the problem and didn't call her out or anything like that. people can get defensive easily over things like how they handle a househould/cleaning, so coming at the op's MIL like that definitely wasn't wise or tactful.
The first story: if he has OCD, it could be a kind of contamination OCD. It could be incredibly overwhelming when your brain lies to you and tells you disgusting things about health and cleanliness- but it’s his job to manage those thoughts and not hurt the people around him with them. If I said every insane OCD thought about the people I love wouldn’t have anyone to love. When good people have OCD it comes with layers and layers of guilt and honestly trauma for and from their own thoughts. If he decides to lean into them regularly despite the fact it’s hurts you, you have to leave. People with OCD are solely responsible for filtering and monitoring their thoughts.
As someone who started microdosing mushrooms a few months ago for my mental and chronic psychical health issues, I cannot say enough good things about it. I know everyone is different but for me it truly has been life changing. Morgan you are so right, the amount and kind of mushroom do make a big difference. Edit: I have tonsil stones too!!! I have one right now. I’m going to take your advice and get a waterpik!
@@TwoHotTakesI’m on a 4 days on, 3 days off regimen but sometimes I’ll take a little bit more time off. The great thing is studies have shown that even microdosing in the short term can have benefits that last up to a year within our brains- I thought that was so cool!
I'll never forget the first time I sneezed up a tonsil stone 🤢 of course it was THE WORST smell ever & my dumbass squished it in my fingers. Haven't had many since, but it was traumatic lol ** edit for the 2nd story - it's not like the bride who didn't get the dress she wanted would be the ONLY person who ever wore that gown. Especially if it's at a franchise bridal store, hundreds of people also have it, ya know? Plus she still got to wear a beautiful gown, had a wedding, & is married now. You can't claim a dress that you never bought. Idk that's just my take on it. She should just be happy for OP & move on, because she already got to have her special day. The pouting in the dressing room made my eyes roll. OP even offered to get her a MOH gown that she absolutely loved to make her feel special. This is why I went to the courthouse 😂
@@maanamanaa yeah I sneezed & this tiny little cheese nugget looking thing came out, & it smelt like bad breath concentrate lol. Think of the worst uncle breath in the world lol but in a solid form. & then my fingers stunk for a bit even after washing my hands. Sorry if that's a lot of info 😅
@@stephaniesands119 yes, the first time I got a tonsil stone I coughed it up. It must have just fallen out into my throat. I didn't know WHERE in my body it came from! 😲😂 I BIT INTO IT!!! 😭😵😲😵😲 I am an old lady (50s 😁) so this was PRE-INTERWEBS and even talking to other people about it then, I still had to wait about about 20 years to find out what the heCK that was!!!! 😂
For the second story she isn’t the asshole, the girl couldn’t get the dress unless she is planning on getting a divorce why is she so upset about the dress? I think it’s honestly kinda selfish of her to be so upset over a dress she couldn’t originally get… I mean she already had her wedding for goodness sake. It would be different if she originally wore it for her wedding but she didn’t 🤷🏽♀️ she honestly reminds me of a old friend I had who would go back on their word and it’s the worst feeling ever. I honestly don’t even think l the op needed to ask if she could wear the dress but out of respect she did so idk.
1st story is suchhhhhh a classic case of abuse and trying to control by continued insults and belittling. Making you think no one else could ever love you. GTFO GIRL! RUN!!!
For story 5 I feel it could be a cultural thing, in my family even if a have my bedroom sometimes I take naps in my mom’s bedroom, so does my brother, and my cousins and it is totally normal. It’s not a power play, it’s just the way that we are used to living.
I literally talked about this in therapy yesterday and said “if someone gets upset when you set a boundary with them, it’s a good indication you really needed to set that boundary”
All girlies are gross. We all pick noses, scratch our butts and then sniff our fingers, have tonsils with stones, fart like a trucker and have lots of stories about said grossness. If you don't, you are not human.
Story 3 NTA obviously like how do you blame your mom for your decision. You got into drugs, you still pursued only fans, you decided to splurge out and live lavish like that has nothing to do with your mom, who provided for you the best way she could with what she had which was very little.
Story 1: I got composite (tooth colored) fillings when I was 15. The doctor saw my previous fillings were silver, discussed my insurance and oral hygiene habits with my mother (she confirmed I always had decent oral hygiene and that her having to have multiple teeth removed in her 40s scared me into near flawless dental care minus flossing), asked her how I would reply if offered composites and she told him “she’s going to say no. She knows more about her insurance than I do.” I had TriCare through my daddy and a single mom. I read my insurance coverages every time I had an off-base medical appointment because I knew I didn’t have great coverage for civilian dentists, so I was very careful not to incur extra charges my mama would have to pay out of pocket. He asked me what I wanted, I replied “silver, please.” He responded “is this your actual answer or are you concerned about money? Your mom told me you read your insurance policy; says you know it better than she does.” I shrugged and said “I’ve had TriCare my whole life and it only covers certain things. I know because my aunt works in medical billing and coding, so I ask her things all the time if I don’t understand. I don’t want mama to waste money on things I don’t need.” Mama said he looked at her for a second and looked…sad? Almost? That a kid had done that much homework because they worried about money instead of being a kid? He tried to give me nitrous, and I said no because it wasn’t covered. He said it was free and I made a face, “mom said nothing is free.” Mom snorted and he said, “okay, it’s a tax write off. Do you know how to do taxes?” “No??? I’m bad at math.” “Just know I’ll still get paid.” I agreed and when he was done, I saw I had composite fillings and freaked out. He said “tax write off, remember? You’re young. You’re in high school. Whether you admit it or not your looks matter to you. I just wanna give you one less thing to worry about.” I’ve been paying it forward for the last 15 years.
I love that Minnesota is taking over the podcast but everyone always so hot!! If you ever need minnesota mid representation for an episode I volunteer as tribute 🙋🏼♀️
Coming from someone who was born & raised in Minnesota, I’m always intrigued whenever someone from Minnesota has a big audience on TH-cam. I lovedddd this episode and your guests have been my favorite so far!
For the OF story- I feel like the daughter was dealing with a drug addiction and anger towards her situation and her mom was the easiest target to lash out on and it’s much more comfortable to place blame than take accountability for negative outcomes in life. I have said/blamed shitty things on my mom when I was in a bad place a few years back but I was really just angry with myself and not ready to confront that (I have since shared that with my mom and apologized and we will always be besties) but I empathize with both and mom is not the asshole.
Morgan! I have chronic constipation from my medication with severe internal and external hemorrhoids and prolapse I THINK BUTTTTTTT I finally have my colonoscopy scheduled! Aka my butthole burns every single day! So thank you for pushing this 34 year old mama get her health checked!
Oh man, you are going to poop so hard with that stuff you need to drink before your appointment. Constipation is the only thing that can drive me up the walls with pain. It triggers my slumbering endometriosis which is every where on my intestines. Good on you to get that looked at.
@@MsDrientje I know!!! I am seriously counting down the days -it’s getting to my mental health at this point and I just want to wake up and be okay. When you feel good you do good- I gotta do this. Sending love!
@@TwoHotTakes Morgan I finally got my colonoscopy! Nothing but a sh*t ton of hemorrhoids! Yayyy!! Lol I’ve been really working on hydrating and taking supplements that help with inflammation/ eating anti inflammatory foods. My butt has been feeling better aaaand mainly my mental health has gotten much better which I honestly think contributed to the inflammation of my hemorrhoids (on top of many other factors- too much to say here). Long story short I’m good and don’t need to get another one for like 10 years! Yeeee!!! I hope you get yours soon we wanna know! Everyone go get a colonoscopy! The prep is the worst part but so worth the piece of mind! 🫶🏼❤️
Just here to say… tonsil stone solidarity! Mine started when I had mono at 18, hate them so much that I’ve debated having my tonsils removed. Thank y’all for talking about this!!!
literally same. Got mono at 19 during the lock down (thanks uber driver) and ever since then I got tonsil stones. I'm thinking of having them removed next summer.
Tonsil stone solidarity! I fortunately only get them occasionally, so I just put up because I can’t have my tonsils removed, and also dietary changes improve them. But even then, so annoying!
I had mono at 14, but i spent my whole childhood before and after that, having tonsil infections. I got them out in 2020 during the pandemic, at 29, it was the worst pain of my life and it felt like hell for like 10 days, but I would do it again 1000 times. I don't get infections anymore (no, they didn't move to my throat or anything else that I had been told could happen) and I don't have tonsil stones or bad breath, I even breathe better because I don't have those huge overgrown tonsils blocking my airways. I totally recommend it
I got strep throat all the time as a kid and preteen. In my teens is when I started getting tonsil stones. I had my tonsils and adenoids removed when I was 14 and I’ve never had any since but sometimes I think I feel something
Story 4: So this girl has no money to pay the house but has enough money to afford to have a baby? So she's either lying to her sister or this poor baby will have the worst childhood.
Story 6 hit me on a personal note. My brother and his girlfriend have taken advantage of my mom for YEARS when it comes to taking care of my niece. They’ve never paid her or done anything nice for her either in return. They treat her like straight up shit. Mind you my mom CHANGED her work schedule for 7 years to help them with taking care of their kid. She worked full time and always made sure my nieces needs were met along with making sure my brother and his gf were comfortable. Some people truly take advantage of kind hearted people. I should also say that when my sister and I try and talk about this to my mom she just defends them.. idk why because they use her like crazy.
I love tuning in, it helps me get things done while casting my opinions out loud. I get motivated to clean, cook and work. Keep them coming. Side note: I need those couches! Link please!
"Kids with strict parents are the ones who went crazy in college with alcohol poisoning, hospital visits etc". Oops. It's me, hi, i'm the problem its me xD
' I kinda wanna hump this armchair ' Yeahh. I definitely did this and then remember it being hilarious when seeing my sister go through the same phase 6 years later 😂
This might be controversial but I don’t fault OP in the dress story at all. The fact that her friend was that upset over a dress means there are some very deep insecurity issues with her. If my best friend got married in the dress I was in love with but couldn’t have, it would sting but I wouldn’t be angry with her. That is so incredibly selfish and entitled. A beautiful dress will look beautiful on basically anyone. It’s fabric. That friend needs therapy and self-reflection.
There are millions of dresses. Choosing the one your friend couldn’t have seems intentional. You’re right it’s just fabric, it’s the principle that I have a problem with.
@@yazmintorres9084 She made it clear she choose it because she also liked it tho. What’s is the harm in that? Is the world really going to end because two people like the same dress.
@@yazmintorres9084 more than one person can try on a dress and feel like its “the one.” And why should two brides have to be disappointed with their dress when one is able to wear it. I am especially a stubborn person when it comes to clothes that actually look good on me. When I find the dress that I want someday, I’m going to have that dress. Period.
The sister story pissed me off. Having a baby doesn’t make it okay to take over the house your parents left to both siblings !! That sister should either buy her out or come to an agreement with her,
She sounds very entitled and selfish. I personally would not let my sister walk all over me like this let alone allow her BF to speak to me in that way
I think this one is a bit of a “It’s not about the yoghurt” story. OCD is no joke and I can imagine fillings and teeth anything could be triggering. That’s something a strong relationship works through. This whole man is long distance taking shrooms and describing his office crush to his GF. The teeth are the least of her problems.
As a new mom, I felt that mom talk it's so scary trying to just keep them alive and I always feel panic and make sure he's breathing all night. It is very stressful 😫
Okay, I just started the video but with this first story….why do y’all tolerate a guy like this? Seriously, women need to realize they’re incredible and shouldn’t give two seconds to these types of degenerates! The moment a man disrespects you, pack up and leave him behind. Yikes!
I’m kinda fascinated by the difference of stigma between underage drinking in the USA and underage drinking in Canada, although Canada’s legal drinking limit is even lower than America’s. It kinda fascinates me how countries so close together are so different in reality! It was common to have been drinking and smoking weed at 14 y/o in Canada. Not saying that’s a good thing by ANY means, but it’s different!
The story of sleeping in the master bedroom may have a cultural element you may not be aware of. It was common in my family to give up our bedrooms for our guest(s) and move to a different room, so that the guest(s) had the nicer room. However, we have a guest space now and that is what our guests use when they come to our house.
Me and my partner have been drunk and high on mushrooms and neither of us ever said anything even slightly mean to each other. In fact we were extra lovey and cute towards each other. This guy is just trying to use his altered state as an excuse to be an asshole. He needs to go! He's very uncaring and selfish.
drug addicts always blame other people to distract from their own ugliness inside, because guess what....They feel guilty, they feel shame. It's not your fault mom, all you can do now is hold her accountable, be there for your baby and get her help.
If you litterbox smells, you're doing something wrong. You're either not cleaning it often, not getting rid of the litter and replacing it often or your using cheap litter
The pregnant sister in the 4th story is the AH. Being pregnant is not excuse to be an AH and go back on a deal. Also there is an update to that story. The sister took the offer for a buyout.
Story 6 NTA the family in laws literally said watching the kids is a favor which insinuates they don't want to watch them ever like no. The mom should still have a bday party for him but they got get invited. She left poop everywhere and the mom talked to her about it, the husband said it sounded harsher than it was so The husband or spouse should've went off on his sister's for the way they spoke to the wife.
Who really want to watch 3 small kids?! It is a favore I love VISITING my nieces and nephews but I like handing them off to their parent when they get hungry or need a diaper need … and the women is old too watching 3 small kids at that age .. wtf entitled parents much
The poop story hits close to home. I had a cousin who had her first period in our house when I was about 15 and she was 13. She got it on the sink, the walls, door, doorknob and the floor and didn’t clean it up, my mom talked to her mom about it and her mom said my mom doesn’t understand because she doesn’t have daughters and that she was out of line for teaching her about sanitation and how to handle a period. My aunt kept calling my mom an AH until my cousin had that issue at a friend’s house and was embarrassed so bad she begged her mom to transfer to a new school
Had a man shame me not for my body count (at the time 1) but number of TIMES I had had sex with a single person. (About 500 more times than his single time) lmaooo 😅
Wow speaking my love language, cozy socks, M&M’s with popcorn and hot chocolate! I started drinking a night time blend hot chocolate and it’s the perfect way to end a night, it’s fantastic!
Story 2 NTA because k couldn't get the dress, bride asked, k said it'd hurt but you can if you like it(or whatever) she can't be mad then she wants to say she treated her poorly during her process like when? Bride asked her if she still wanted to be her MOH because she'd really wants her to me but she won't force it, so k's thought is she don't want her to be the MOH like girl get over yourself. She's doing entirely too much. Bride even wanted to give k the experience of not having to worry about a cost of whatever dress she wanted to wear for the wedding. Next time speak your mind and put your foot down, get the dress you want it's YOUR DAY PERIOD no matter what
For story 3: OHH HELL NO, how dare a child blame the mother for their own actions. She needs to take accountability for her own actions and stop pointing fingers especially not at her mother. It’s not her mother fault it’s hard to make a living being a single mother.
The health insurance policy in America is wild. I'm from Germany and have fillings, all of them are white. My teeth are , no flex, the whitest on the spectrum yet i didn't have to pay anything for them. I get refills and "teeth stone" removed every single time. We pay for braces but get money back if we've taken good care of them.
In story 5, I would guess the woman is latina. It's a bit of a cultural thing that has been dying out, but, for a long time, people in the middle and lower class didn't have access to guest bedrooms or proper accomodations for sleep-in guests, so as to make them more confortable they would offer the main bedroom. The catch is, this had become normal for some families, and a sign of trust, and it hasn't been questioned by the younger ones. Hence her shifting her opinion after the husbands POV.
Does anyone else notice that Morgan kind of shifts her stance on certain topics depending on the guests? I feel like it really stood out in this episode with two guests who were way too willing to make excuses for some bullshit in a lot of these stories. Whereas with other guests or even with her dad and Justin I think Morgan would have taken a much firmer stance.
I honestly wouldnt have even told them the party cancelled and just NOT SHOWED UP...screw them they gonna talk all that shit about the fam and their kids and u think they should get time with them? Wtf....u wild to think that. Why would u want ur kids to be around that person. Nah toxic people
For the new parents who are trying to take over the house, get over yourself. As a parent myself, this is pathetic. People don't owe you anything just because you are raising a child. It's a glorious and pleasant surprise when people show extra kindness, but you aren't owed a thing. Someone who doesn't have children matters just as much as someone who does. One other thing to never forget, your child is your responsibility. It's on you. Not everyone around you.
I would think she would want her sister close because their parents are dead & they only have each other. She's kicking the sister out of her family home, that's so fucked up.
Number one: I'm baffled at how many girls don't realize that they're in toxic relationships. I'm guessing she's young? Number two: I think that this is why so many girls don't want to be friends with girls. The girl that got mad made a decision not to get the dress but then her friend gets it and she cuts her out? I think it's an issue of jealousy. maybe she doesn't have as much money? Either way, grow up and be kind to your friend. After all she did ask you if it was okay if she got the dress.
Maybe I'm the weird one, but I think the parents in the bed story is really grey. If the sheets are changed, I dont consider it much weirder than a hotel room. That being said, we have a guest room but it is a poor man's guest room. The bed is very small and NOT comfortable. We also have 3 dogs, so if someone is house sitting they would need enough space for multiple bodies. It probably wouldn't be my FIRST choice, but as we are all adults, I'm not that grossed out. Again, maybe its just because I am from a demographic with less money.
Fellow tonsil stone girly over here😭 I finally had my tonsils removed last year because of all the strep infections i would get and then had mono and my tonsils never shrunk back down to size😭 but also do not recommend tonsillectomy when you’re an adult, it was HELLLLL
i would love to see my best friend of 17 years wear the dress even if it was one that i dreamt of. I litteraly was happy for her when i saw her travel to my dream countries that i still haven't visited.
For the pregnant sister post:
Update: the pregnant sister saw her Reddit post and apologized for being such a brat. She read the comments and it gave her a reality check. The other sister is buying out the other half and the pregnant sister is going house hunting to buy a new home for their new family
Thank you!
Looks like there was an update for story 4 about the pregnant sister. OP is buying her out! The sister found the post and apologized to OP for how she was acting. They discussed it over and decided it was best for OP to buy her sister out. All seems to be well and they are in talks with lawyers to figure it out.
That sounds like an amazing solution for them!
Came to say this!
Here, get a thumbs up and a like to up this in the comments
So happy for her. Was lowkey worried bc it was sounding like the boyfriend was going along with it bc he’s benefiting by getting a house without having to pay anything tbh
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This is what I thought when I first heard it
For the sixth story, i was surprised yall were siding with the in laws. And then yall said you did forget the in laws were insulting the mom and the cleanliness of the household 😂 i do think it's a little sad to cancel the party but they are being really mean and cruel to mom. Even if grandma felt upset about the childcare arrangement, that should be the focus of her discussion, not outright insults. It's pretty disrespectful and i understand the parents distancing themselves for a bit.
My thoughts exactly. Latina here but that would definitely happen here. We're no longer going to have a party if we're not all getting along at the moment, the birthday party can wait until we get an apology. Honeslty i didnt like the take there.
Yeah they definitely could have handled it better! I felt bad for the gran ngl, sounds like she was doing her best to help out but they scold her for the one shortcoming? You’d clean it all up, replace the toothbrushes etc and then have a gentle word with her like “thank you so much for helping us out when we were sick. Btw we’ve decided to not wash them in the sink anymore as it’s unhygienic and toothbrushes etc could easily get contaminated”. Now she can’t see as well, my grans house is a little dusty, plates not fully cleaned etc if you can’t see you miss bits. They could’ve all put on their big boy pants and used the party as an opportunity to make up.
I also was surprised! Her sister’s also began to berate her and it felt like they almost glossed over that? If the parents wanted to distance themselves from the grandma and toxic sounding aunts they are in their reason to. Is cancelling the party petty? Yes. I’m sorry if grandma signs up to babysit and doesn’t clean like that to me it’s concerning, how would she “not see it” 😭😭😭. I feel if any of the hosts came home and saw a mess from someone who was pet or baby sitting they wouldn’t be too happy about it either. This might have been the wake up call that the parents needed that they NEED to find someone else to take care of their kids.
I was listening on Spotify but came here to TH-cam just to find this comment. It seems like they collectively forgot half of the reddit post.
@@GrungeGalactica it’s mentioned in the story though that it isn’t the only time there’s been hygiene issues like that from grandma
Also shit on a toothbrush isn’t really the same as the house being a bit dusty
It was a legitimate health hazard and when they talked to her about it they immediately started getting bombarded by both the sisters and mom
For the first story, I’ve done shrooms PLENTY of times and first of all you don’t forget anything, shrooms doesn’t affect your memory. You also do not really lose all control of yourself, I’ve taken godly dosages and been completely aware of what I’m saying to whoever is with me. Her boyfriend is being blatantly abusive.
Fr shrooms are more likely to make you be more lovey, not the opposite
I doubted he was actually on any drugs, he did this to mess with her
I will say shrooms can make you more talkative and just blurt stuff out. But you’re aware enough while on shrooms to be like,” oh that was rude. I’m sorry. I’ll remember to think before I blurt something out. “
Like your minds racing faster, but your aware of what your doing.
Agreed. If anything in my experience shrooms make you hyper aware of your surroundings.
The first time I took shrooms, my friend had to come tell me to stop screaming as I was on her bathroom floor, unaware I was screaming, and then spent the rest of my trip talking nonsense. It definitely can make you lose control, maybe not in this case, but it happens.
for the onlyfans mom, if you guys have never had a family member that's an addict, a lot of that is likely the drugs talking. she may have even been hoping mom would offer her money out of guilt or something. she needs to reach out to whatever programs and groups near her offer support for families of addicts for advice on how to get her help.
Definitely the drugs. I’ve watched so many family members change from addiction growing up. The best people turn into despicable human beings all because they want their next fix. But the mom should NOT blame herself, it’s not her fault. Her daughter was an adult and made decisions that lead her to this point and her mother had no part in that. I agree with Morgan, what mom can do is to try to get her to rehab but tbh that has to be her daughters choice. Best thing to do is distance yourself but be there when it’s necessary and when it isn’t a cost to her own well-being.
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For sure, active addiction makes people say a lot of things they would never dream of sober. I really hope her daughter can get help, and they can eventually reconcile
@@wellhowthehellareya 18 is barely an adult
I feel like for the poop story that they all just kinda forgot that OP wasn’t the one who went off on the MIL. It was his wife who went off on her own mother. So for the sisters to turn around and attack OP and their household was uncalled for. So I think OP had a perfectly good reason not to want their child around all that drama. Cause there’s no way in hell that they wouldn’t have started a problem at the party.
I feel like the MIL switching and being rude to them and insulting them aaannnnnnnd no showing after the entire interaction was over, all bcuz the sisters had to throw in their opinions even though it was none of their business is crazy and I definitely wouldn’t that around my kids. The MIL was apologetic and was completely understanding until the two negative entities entered the chat. SMH.
this is exactly what i said!!!
Exactly. I'm only 24 and I scold my mom for many things, and while to others it may seem too much, I know the relationship I have with her. The issue here was the mom and sisters. Hubby was disrespected and said, nope. He's gonna get sideyed at his child's birthday party? They can celebrate something small until the apology is delivered and then we can all do our own thing for a big party. We do that in my family (latina)
The tooth story makes me so sad. My fiancé has lost majority of his teeth because of medication he was forced on as a child. I know the pain and insecurity he lives with everyday. Absolutely killed me hearing her try to explain it out. Everytime they smile or even laugh is like a kick in the gut. Sorry for rambling. Just kills me someone could try to make someone feel less than for something that's not easily controlled without access to ALOT of money.
My dad got all his teeth removed at 45 due to having a difficult childhood, and not having great dental care. He has dentures now, and he smiles so much more! We also love when he takes them out and shows off his gummy smile lol 😂 Any person with true unconditional love for someone would not let something so conditional in the way of that.
@@SillyGirlBlueeaww you guys give me lifeee !! Humanity is real ❤ if someone loves you they’ll either help you if you ask for it but if not don’t mention it and love them as they are. If not then they can go.
On the 6th story (the poop story) I feel like you guys glossed over the fact that those kids are probably getting sick BECAUSE OF MIL'S POOR HYGIENE. I'm also latina and that was a normal issue in my family (I don't know if it is in general). Some people from older generations lack basic hygiene and put kids in danger, since they are still developing antibodies. I've lived that situation and had to learn early how to protect myself from family whilst not letting them notice so no one would get offended. I was served spoiled food, was told that I could eat dirty fruits (once I was told it was ok for me to eat food that fell on the sand at the beach, just blow on it) and was told that I was too precious for washing my hands before meals, and stuff like that. My mom was always around us to protect us, but also teaching us how to avoid it without making a fuss. Another thing is, I don't think Spanish or Portuguese sounds aggressive, so I assume the wife was a bit rude with her mother on the phone, but to be honest, I would be too, since that wasn't the first time and they've already had that conversation. So I was with OP up until he cancelled the party. Ideally, he should have just changed the location to OPs house and had the party there, instead of MIL's house. And if their relatives misbehaved in the party, he should just make them leave. The kid shouldn't miss on their birthday party and gifts because of adult drama. In fact, if you are waiting for a time with no drama to have a party in a latino family , you will never have a party. Lol
I agree. The party decision was an asshole move. The poop on the toothbrush should NOT be forgotten. And not just any old poop - sickly flu poop. The MIL's actions could have led to the entire family being sick. If my MIL made mistakes like that, even if it was my mom, I would get a different caretaker. I wouldn't burn bridges over it, but I wouldn't endanger myself or my family. I feel like this an ESH situation.
@@Vanessa-fs7oz Totally agree.
@Twohottakes
I am cuban and have some family like the MIL and SIL… having kids around these types of people is no better for the kids environment (personal experience as a kid growing up with them, you’ll see the way they treat your parents or siblings, being blamed/scrutinized for things they either can’t help or straight up didn’t do which can rly mess up perceptions of yourself or your family.)
I would say still have the party but maybe at your house and make your boundaries clear with them. Let them know that it is unappreciated and unacceptable to speak like that to me, my partner or around my children. If they want to have a relationship with my family then they have to respect our boundaries. Being in your life is optional and it is in your hands to decide if your ego is worth losing contact with your family.
For my family we do not expect payment to each other to watch grandchildren/cousins/etc. because family should do that for one another but usually offer compensation regardless. For MIL and SIL to throw it back in their faces that their house is messy and calling her fat… that’s your DAUGHTER who is a MOTHER, to a small baby mind you, and especially after they OFFERED to help??? Also what do you expect a house full of sick shitting kiddos to look like… the Taj Mahal? At the end of the day it is their life no one else’s. No one else can decide what is in the best interest and health for their children.
From someone who is always surprised i don't get anything from my grandma's house and i avoid food cooked by her like the plague, old people neglect a lot of hygiene stuff. Hell even my mom does, i can tell her leaving rice to cool overnight and defrosting chicken on the sink over a full day helps in developing tons of bacteria until i'm blue in the face, she'll still say that that's how she's always done things and none of us ever got sick, so i'm wrong for sure. Also, idk, latin languages are pretty fast and tend to sound angry to other people. We are a concentration of romanian people in my factory and at some point we all hapened to be in the canteen at the same time, the discussion was getting heated, but not in an angry way, just in a concerned advice way and we got told to stop fighting.
Can I just say… your poop stories… normally I can stomach them easily. But a few months ago I was GAGGING and dying. Long story short, your poop stories led me to find out I was pregnant 😂
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Congratulations!!! Wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy
Story 6: I wouldn't want my family around my children if that's how they were speaking about and to my wife, especially when we weren't the ones who made it into a bigger issue it didn't need to be. The sisters and then MIL made that into drama and a supposedly big issue, not OP and his wife.
Also, were the children just not around when the MIL came back to the house parroting all those nasty things about OP's wife? Even if they weren't there, why leave room for it to happen at another time at that point?
"But the kids deserve to see their grandma and aunts!" So they can just get away with the nasty things they say and do regarding their parents for "the sake of the children?" Those kids are going to pick up on that tension and unease eventually, and as someone who's gone through this personally, they're going to realize their grandma and aunts weren't the people they thought when they do. I don't want anything to do with the people who treated my parents horribly like that, and I wish my parents didn't feel like they had to for our sakes because it wasn't right.
OP canceling the party at MIL's house doesn't mean their son isn't going to get a party at all - they can have one elsewhere and do something else. OP barring them from seeing the kids until their behavior changes might suck, but sometimes that's what you have to do with people like that. If they want to see the kids and be around, they need to stop being so horrible to OP and his wife over something that, again, never had to be as big of an issue as they made it. An apology for what they said would also be nice, but it's doubtful they'd get one judging by who these people seem to be.
Listening to that poor girl in the cavity story gaslight herself was heartbreaking. Speaks volumes to how often he must be putting her down if she's already started doing it for him when he's not around.
For story two, I was so ready to say YTA for OP based on the title. But she asked her friend. Her friend said it was okay. Do I get exMOH being hurt and upset? Yeah, completely valid. But she told OP it was okay. It's on her that that's not true. She can't hold it against OP that she herself lied.
Yeah I agree. Would I, personally, decide to try on a dress my friend loved so much? Probably not. But the exMOH needed to be honest and advocate for herself. They both kinda suck, but exMOH sucks more. OP just sounds oblivious tbh.
She definitely is the asshole. She knew how much her friend loved that dress in the first place.
also when she said it felt like op doesn't want her in the wedding when she said she did, really reminds me of an ex-friend that always needed constant reassurance and was similarly bad at communicating needs.
@@CaitlynHert It just seems so petty and childish at the end of the day it’s just a dress. Are no one allowed to wear it just because she couldn’t?
Yeah exactly. As someone who has suffered from being a people pleaser I knew exactly what was going on in her head. I wouldn’t have risked trying on and getting the dress in the first place, but OP did ask her out right AND tried to talk it out multiple times after the fact to make up, but the maid of honor just never opened up. She kept saying she was okay in person, but then would text back that she wasn’t okay. It’s hard to communicate with someone who doesn’t know how. It’s okay to struggle with that, but she can’t blame other people for not reading her mind. It takes time to learn to communicate your true feelings (took me a long time, slow process), and I think she needs to go work on that. And for the sake of OP it might be best to just let her go and hope she comes around one day.
I think the friend in story 2 is insane. She didn't get the dress? It's not like she owns the rights to it because she almost got it- that's not how it works. Op even went out of her way to consult with her, she said okay, and _then_ she got mad? How does a f****** dress you didn't even get ruined a friendship?
I agree, she doesn't own every dress she tried on and liked... Op had the courtesy to ask her friend if she would be upset if she tried the dress which she didn't have to do. If she had a problem and you're that good of friends you shouldn't have a problem saying that would make you feel uncomfortable. She can't get huffy after op did everything she could to be a good friend on her part, and then to have the guts to try and flip it and say op is a bad friend when she did everything the friend expected of her for her wedding, this friend made a scene at the dress shop; which as a 2023 bride who just did all the wedding stuff too, trying on the dresses was a big event for me and it was very special so if someone made it all about them over a dress they didn't even buy and I even asked if they minded I'd be so upset
The friend wasn't able to stand up for herself, not the first time when she didn't get the dress because of her mom and not the second time when OP asked her if it would be a problem. Only after it was all done she started acting like a victim. She can't have it both ways.
What pisses me off is that I found the post and ppl were telling her she was the AH so she said she's going dress shopping to find another dress bc "I've been a shi friend and have to deal with the consequences"😐 imo let this story be about 2 grown ass men fighting over a piece of clothing and everybody would've told them to grown tf up
@@tinnie75exactly!!!
Story 6: immediately NTA, the freaking sisters called their sister fat, insulting their home and all kinds of horrible names. That’s unacceptable. No way I’m bringing assholes like that around me and my family. Byyyye
Story 5: depending on the culture, giving guests your own bed is a sign of hospitality and generosity, so it might be as simple as that. But yeah, as long as the guest room isn’t an office with an inflatable mattress, there’s no problem
I agree, my first thought was it may be a cultural thing and a sign of respect.
Dentist here, fun fact, Cavities can happen in less than 2 months and they dont have to be black, they could be white, yellow, brown and black
So is it absolutely necessary to go 2 times a year? Or is once a year acceptable?
@@corablah9809 every six months is perfect, more if you have high risk of decay and/or gum disease
English isn't my first language so I don't know exactly if this is what I'm thinking of. I had an old filling and black markings on my teeth for years. Both people I know who are educated on this topic and my dentist said this is normal and not something to worry about. However, last month I got it replaced and she (the dentist) made my tooth white again, but as I understood this it was purely for aesthetic reasons as it looks more "natural"
Also, bacteria from the decay can be spread to another person through saliva
@@justbeinhien5790 and can't decay cause the breathe to smell?
How y’all were confused on story 4 is WILDDDD to me. OP IS CLEARLY NTA. If pregnant sis needs more space then she needs to find another spot. NOT the one who’s causing NO issue and has offered her multiple solutions.
Exactly! The home is owned by 2 people, that's 2 rooms per person. I can't imagine making my only sibling's life harder because I had a baby. If anything, they're a couple and more capable of finding a new place.
Right! I have 2 children and I had them young. I would not have behaved like that at all! The pregnant sister should buy her sister out and first and foremost get a grip. Hormones or not
THIS
Totally agree. Just because sis decided to get pregnant, doesn't mean she now owns more of the house.
She can either buy OP out of the house, or sell and split.
It’s the whole it’s family toxic shit, just because it’s family doesn’t mean you got her bend over for them and let them screw over, and take it just because it’s family. That’s why it’s hard for them. Look how they went hard on the guy before the last story, nah if they are toxic, you don’t get a relationship with the children. The parents are being toxic. Dusty thunder says it all the time, if you’re going to be toxic and mean to the parents, you don’t get a relationship with the children.
Story number 2, I’m with the girl who tried on her friends dress. She asked her out right if it was okay, and her friend said yes. Furthermore, just because her friend wanted the dress and allowed her mother to dictate that decision is not the friends problem. That dress isn’t solely reserved for her. The friend has zero right to act that way especially how considerate the other girl was to even bother to ask before purchasing it
Furthermore, it's just a dress.
@@threestars4331 furthermore, she is already married. I never understood the whole wedding cult. I mean, you get your year of planning. Then you get one day to be the center of the universe. After that, I mean, it should be over, right? Or is nobody else gonna wear that dress or use your colors or play the same music you played. You might as well have the venue demolished or something.
@@ixsam3306 For real. It's bonkers. I know on THT we buy into a lot of the traditional wedding do's and don'ts, but a lot of them just go too far for my taste. Pretty much anything that brides lose their shit over, while grooms just wouldn't mind. The events enable too much conventionally shallow or insecure behaviour.
Imagine if she was a guest at another wedding and saw it. Is she going to have a fit then, too??
My thoughts exactly!! Like she already had her wedding how is she dictating what others do?? Is she gonna flip if she sees another random person wearing that dress? Or uses her venue? Or God forbid dances to the same music that she wanted to but couldn’t 😂. People are so weird man
MORGAN!!! The new studio 😍😍 does this mean you’re all settled into your new apartment? Ahhh it looks so good!
Is anyone able to find the couch and chair? I can’t find it!
I love it overall. But is anyone else REALLY DISTURBED that Morgan is not on the left? 😂
I'm the type who is not neurodivergent but DAMN do I understand when "little" things like this bug me THIS MUCH! 😁💞
@@_Lullabye_ Morgan said they got it at wayfair
Me 😅
It was hard coz I m so conditioned to see her on the left😂
It's so beautiful but damn it lack some colors I feel ! Morgan and her guests are so bubbly sweet people, I feel like the old studio was cozy and cute, just like THT is ! Maybe it's my change aversion speaking, give me few episode to adapt 🤣
Story 2: OP is NTA. Best friend made dress shopping for OP’s wedding about HER. Focus should be on OP during this time. Best friend got her special day already, suck it the f up honestly.
Exactly! She sounds very childish and selfcentered. She didn’t wear the dress to her wedding so it shouldn’t matter that other people do. It’s just a dress.
Exactly! I don’t understand why people get so upset about it when she already had her special day! It’s so petty for why..
Yeah same like it's literally a piece of clothing? What special is the person wearing it. It's not like she chose the same wedding dress as her and honestly even if she did what's the big deal. Her wedding will remain her wedding and yours would be yours. I put myself in this scenarios and I just can't seem to get mad at my friend for picking the dress I love. I would actually be like " isn't my taste so good" and would be smug
there was an update on the sister refusing to switch rooms story!!! OP was able to convince her sister to sell her half so that she could get a larger house for her and her growing family in a more affordable area!! HAPPY ENDING YAYYY
I feel like there’s some heteronormative entitlement at play in the sisters sharing a house story. The OP mentions having a gf and the sister’s bf makes a jab at OP not wanting kids. I feel like they think cause they’re a more traditional family that they deserve the house. Whereas the OP has a life and OP didn’t change the dynamics the sister did. So I think it’s unfair for the OP to have to hide in her one room of a house that she has equal ownership of. I think they need to go separate ways tbh.
Not everything hasta do with that....they just figured since she has a baby coming she needs more space shes a new mom.and doesnt know what to expect.
i agree. sister’s boyfriend thinks he’s superior because he doesn’t perceive op and her girlfriend to be a “real” family
Story 2: I heard on 2 idiot girls Drew talked about how her therapist said when you don’t hold your own boundaries you turn into that resentful, snippy, and bad person you really tried to avoid becoming by being a people pleaser. That really stuck with me. Sounds like this is what has happened to OPs friend. She didn’t want her friend upset with her or mad at her, now her friend is super stressed and probably sad about maybe losing a friend.
Story 4… your sister should buy you out of the house if she wants a majority share of the house for her intended use. You get one bedroom? Nope.
EDIT: just finished and listened to how sister got her Range Rover and can’t afford to buy OP out. I hope OP goes through with it and buys her out! Love it.
Agreed! She’s very selfish! Especially when they mentioned she wanted a flashy car and couldn’t buy her out. Like sorry nope!
Found the post and OP did update. She is indeed buying her out. The sister found the post since it went viral and they talked. She apologized and they agreed that preggo sis will be bought out and she is excited to house hunt. So I guess that story has a happy ending.
@@crisjo6973 Thanks for the update! I'm glad they're working it out.
@Rook yup I'm glad to hear they both found a solution with no extra drama. It definitely was the best for both of them
@@crisjo6973 Nice! Thanks for the update! 🫶🏻
As someone who had many addicts in their lives growing up, what the daughter is doing to her mom is very very VERY common. When you’re in the thick of that addiction, a lot of the time you’ll lash out at the people who tried to help you because you’re ashamed you didn’t listen to them and it comes out as misplaced anger. I know someone who even sober still does that a lot. It’s a way to shift blame off of themselves and not take accountability. It doesn’t make it hurt any less, but hopefully that mom can get her daughter help and work through that in the recovery process. It breaks my heart for both of them, but if that mom hadn’t been supportive of her daughter, the daughter wouldn’t have had a safe place to fall apart like she does now. She could have been taken advantage of when trying to seek help. Thank god for the mother for not turning her back on her kid.
I totally agree. It’s almost as if they are so full of shame that they don’t know how to cope with it, so they take it out on family members. It’s easier to blame everyone else, because taking on all the blame themselves can just lead to more drug use. When my sister was going through this she would throw a lot of hurtful comments towards our family, and at a certain point you just detach and realize that they’re not themselves in that moment. They’re angry with the world, themselves and they feel shame because they don’t recognize themselves anymore. The only thing the mom can do right now is support her daughter, and try to give her a comfortable and safe space to heal and find herself again. The daughter will come to appreciate it one day even if that day isn’t today. ❤️ I really appreciated your comment!
as a latina the concept of you having to pay hundreds of dollars for your PARENT to watch your kid is crazy
Yeah, that's weird to me too. I'm also a latina and know for certain my mom would refuse to take money for babysitting grandkids. I didn't know that wasn't normal.
I'm not a Latina but I'm from Europe and that's wild to me too. But possibly because people here don't really have full time babysitters and daycares are virtually free. So you wouldn't be paying anyone that amount of money to look after your kids.
It only makes some sense to be paying her if she'd be otherwise going to a job that earns her more. But idk if that's the case here.
@@tinnie75 A lot of older latinos own houses and have either some form of pension or some side job like crafting clothes that covers most of whats needed. If not, their kids are pretty happy to cover some. A lot also simple live with their kids and have everything covered. Either way, parents bringing kids to work or a family member, especially grandparents, babysitting during work was the norm ( this is currently changing). A lot of grandparents did do it for free simply because they love their grandkids that much, and the money was just unnecessary to them. The oldest daughter also used to be expected to babysit for free starting pretty young. Most lations have a family connection that's unrivaled worldwide. Its kinda difficult to explain to outsiders.
i get that, but nobody should EXPECT their parents to watch their children all the time. that could even take away from it being quality time with your grandkids, especially if you didn’t want or plan to be caring for them as much as you are.
@@callajones9848 i think it’s normal tbh. If you’re not in that situation it’s easy to say no you shouldn’t have to do that for your family. But depending on your cultural norma and the way you grew up, you just accept the fact that you HAVE to watch your family without thinking of it as a bad thing
Story 3: daughter lacks accountability, parents can't not allow you to do anything just because they are your once you become an adult. A lot of young adults needed supportive parents but you can't blame them for every time you fall on your face.
she’s also an addict. unfortunately they tend to displace their anger and hash out on their support ):
Yeah I support s€x workers and OF creators but there are soo many grey areas. On one hand it’s great that people over lockdown/in poverty are able to use OF as as a tool to survive. But it’s similar to working any other you hate but have to do to live. With any job you’re wh0ring out your body through labour, mental energy, intelligence etc and s£x work should be viewed the same imo, your filling a demand after all. I hate that it’s become a way to black list people would’ve survived through desperate situations, from being hired for stable careers later on. Equally tho people going into it who have to, to live, must be damaging af. I think the age should change to 21/25 for starters. The mum’s probably always going to feel guilty about this now. But I think she did her best and is doing her best being there for her daughter after the fallout. No one’s really to blame here besides the goons running the country and letting get this dire.
It’s sad bc it’s most likely the drugs talking
Story 4: Sister should buy out OP. That’s it. Period. If she is so entitled to basically the entire house, she can PAY to have the privilege of having the entire house to herself.
EDIT after OPs Comment: Babe, you can’t afford to buy out OP? You can take your entitled pregnant butt to your room, things will stay exactly the way the are. You get a bassinet, baby doesn’t get a bedroom until YOU can afford it. 👍🏻
Yeah, she and boyfriend are acting like they are doing OP a favor by "allowing" her to live there, but OP literally owns half the house. It's super entitled behavior.
Edit: I've seen an update in the comments where they worked it out, so it sounds like it was a fluke in their relationship, which is a relief.
OP posted an update on her account. After her sister found the post (it went viral) she apologized to OP and they talked about the situation. They agreed to have OP buyout her sister and her sister will be able to use those funds to purchase a home of her own. It looks like they are both definitely on better terms now that they have come to a solution and looks like all is good now.
LMAo!!!! you said this perfectly
the friend in story 2 brought it on herself by saying it wouldn't upset her. and idk i just do not get the wedding ones most of the time. i get the dress is special but if you made the choice to not only not get it for YOUR wedding (screw the mom's opinion) but also tell your friend you're okay with her getting it, you have no right to be mad at OP for then buying it
The post about him freaking out about her teeth and treating her like absolute trash literally raised my blood pressure and anxiety from anger
She deserves so so sooo much better
He deserves no one
Listening to her list all her boyfriend's toxic behavior and then minimize/gaslight herself for her justifiable anger was heartbreaking and I really hope she leaves him.
I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s cheating (since they’re long distance) or wants to, so he’s acting out and creating issues
He is JUST GARBAGE. That story eventually made me furious, too. Also, I don't want to go back to relisten but were ages 24f and 30m? Even worse.
JUST a Jerk. Nothing else to see, here. Dtmfa.
I know, I don’t know what to the point of reading that story was because there was no dubious aspect or question, it was just a story of a girl abused.
Same!!! Like what if it was actually was cavities??? Having bad teeth doesn’t automatically mean you don’t take care of your teeth.. in some cases sure that’s the case whether they weren’t taught how to clean them properly(which most people actually aren’t cleaning their teeth properly! At 23 I had to have the dentist show me and I was like dang I was doing this wrong all this time lol) but it can just be hereditary. Can you imagine how insecure and low she would feel if they were actually cavities and couldn’t afford to fill them yet? What a jerk of a man
Morgan you don't know how much we appreciate your hard work. I tune in every Thursday when the episode JUST drops knowing full well I will 100% love the episode. That's rare from other podcasts, I usually just cherry pick episodes that seem interesting, but THT is the exception where I know I will listen from start to finish to every single one. Just want to let you know your meal presentation for us is always amazing and fun. We love it! We lobe you guys and I hope you find as much joy doing this for us as it is for us consuming it.
1st poop Story: Op had every right to cancel that party as long as he still celebrated his child’s bday. You can’t be disrespectful to the parents and expect access to the children. At that point you risk going to a party where tensions are high and could possibly become combative and ruin the party anyway
Right they are making too much excuses for this rude bish
Story 6… as someone who has been having to come to terms with the fact that a lot of my family members are not good people, I wish my parents had protected me from them. These were people that I loved and looked up to my entire childhood while also being harmed or judged by them. Then I find out that it was not ok to be treated that way and saw new sides of them that were always hidden from me before then. I wish that I wouldn’t have all of my good memories with them tainted by who they actually are. If ANYONE treats your child or you poorly then they should not be around your child. Being related to someone does not entitle them to harm you or even see you at all.
the dress one makes me angry cus it just sounds like the friend is expecting the bride to read her mind the entire time. as an autistic person, these people make me so fucking angry cus i take people at their word cus i don’t understand why you’re not just COMMUNICATING. Also cus i genuinely can’t understand it. i think the friend is the asshole tbh. but to be fair it’s cus i’m seeing it from an autistic perspective. you need to say what you mean when you’re friends with an autistic person cus they’re going to take it at face value. COMMUNICATION IS KEY.
i always ask people around me to use direct communication with me for this reason. also these are the same people who tell me what i “really mean” from something i say. when i never meant or said that. i mean what i say and say what i mean always. and they put their own projection onto me when i never said that & never inferred that. i don’t infer ANYTHING. i make this known in relationships early on now so it’s better but growing up undx was traumatic cus this happened and the entire time i thought i was broken and i hated my “personality”. nope just autistic
Only fans doesn’t cause drug addiction. Whether the daughter did OF or not, they could have developed an addiction. Maybe the trauma of doing OF played a part for them but s3x work doesn’t automatically mean trauma & addiction. And they were 18 what could the mom do? Beyond kicking them out which could have caused a whole other set of problems. They also ended up moving out anyways.
I’m sure the daughter is just in a bad place and hopefully once she gets herself sorted she will take some accountability & see that it’s not her moms fault. Her mom can’t control her. She’s obviously struggling and needs mental health & addictions support but it’s also up to her to accept that support.
The second story about the wedding dress.. from choosing my own dress a few months ago I will say once you fall in love with a dress there’s no turning back! That’s just my opinion but I couldn’t of possibly said no to my dress once I knew I just knew even though it was over budget! Personally I think if the friend who wanted the dress originally then she clearly has regrets still about choices for her wedding and that’s quite sad as I personally think you shouldn’t have any regrets! It’s your day and it’s amazing regardless! They can cause a lot of drama though yes! I and my partner have the most chilled out families ever yet we have still come across problems 😂 it is what it is!
For the story with the onlyfans, you're not a bad mom or an asshole, it's the drugs. Addicts tend to blame people for their life going down hill. She could of been a doctor, a lawyer, a nanny, a businesswoman, and she still would have found some way to blame you. As someone who has dealt with addicts my entire life, it's the road they walk on, until hopefully, one day, she gets help and accepts her responsibility in her life. All you can do is continue to love her and help her get help if she'll accept it. I'm so sorry for what she said to you. I've listened to a sibling, who is an addict, curse out and blame our mother for her life. I think therapy would be great to help work through this as well. ❤
not quite as bad as poop on a toothbrush, but when I visit my parents (who are both past retirement age), I always have to rewash any dishes i want to use because my mom's vision isn't great. She saw me do it a couple times and got super offended, even though I was actively addressing the problem and didn't call her out or anything like that. people can get defensive easily over things like how they handle a househould/cleaning, so coming at the op's MIL like that definitely wasn't wise or tactful.
The first story: if he has OCD, it could be a kind of contamination OCD. It could be incredibly overwhelming when your brain lies to you and tells you disgusting things about health and cleanliness- but it’s his job to manage those thoughts and not hurt the people around him with them. If I said every insane OCD thought about the people I love wouldn’t have anyone to love. When good people have OCD it comes with layers and layers of guilt and honestly trauma for and from their own thoughts. If he decides to lean into them regularly despite the fact it’s hurts you, you have to leave. People with OCD are solely responsible for filtering and monitoring their thoughts.
First story 5:23
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Third story 33:54
Fourth story 56:11
Fifth story 1:15:43
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Are mine not working? Awhhh
@@TwoHotTakes I didn’t see any in the description when I started watching, maybe I’m dumb?
@@TwoHotTakes it looks differently so I didn’t see them. Usually they are giant thumbnails and this time they are kind of hidden in the description.
@@TwoHotTakesthey work! I can see your time stamps.
@@TwoHotTakes can you link the pure romance O cream you use? Pleaseee♡
As someone who started microdosing mushrooms a few months ago for my mental and chronic psychical health issues, I cannot say enough good things about it. I know everyone is different but for me it truly has been life changing. Morgan you are so right, the amount and kind of mushroom do make a big difference.
Edit: I have tonsil stones too!!! I have one right now. I’m going to take your advice and get a waterpik!
I love hearing this!! I’ve been sporadic with my use and noticed some benefits. This is encouraging me to be regular
@@TwoHotTakesI’m on a 4 days on, 3 days off regimen but sometimes I’ll take a little bit more time off. The great thing is studies have shown that even microdosing in the short term can have benefits that last up to a year within our brains- I thought that was so cool!
Which type of mushroom do you take?
I'll never forget the first time I sneezed up a tonsil stone 🤢 of course it was THE WORST smell ever & my dumbass squished it in my fingers. Haven't had many since, but it was traumatic lol
** edit for the 2nd story - it's not like the bride who didn't get the dress she wanted would be the ONLY person who ever wore that gown. Especially if it's at a franchise bridal store, hundreds of people also have it, ya know? Plus she still got to wear a beautiful gown, had a wedding, & is married now. You can't claim a dress that you never bought. Idk that's just my take on it. She should just be happy for OP & move on, because she already got to have her special day. The pouting in the dressing room made my eyes roll. OP even offered to get her a MOH gown that she absolutely loved to make her feel special. This is why I went to the courthouse 😂
I didn't even know that was possible!!!! What???
@@maanamanaa yeah I sneezed & this tiny little cheese nugget looking thing came out, & it smelt like bad breath concentrate lol. Think of the worst uncle breath in the world lol but in a solid form. & then my fingers stunk for a bit even after washing my hands. Sorry if that's a lot of info 😅
@@stephaniesands119 yes, the first time I got a tonsil stone I coughed it up. It must have just fallen out into my throat. I didn't know WHERE in my body it came from! 😲😂 I BIT INTO IT!!! 😭😵😲😵😲
I am an old lady (50s 😁) so this was PRE-INTERWEBS and even talking to other people about it then, I still had to wait about about 20 years to find out what the heCK that was!!!! 😂
@J W noooooo!!! Lol. God that would tear me up for decades, I wouldn't be able to function until I got an answer 😂
I am SHOCKEDDDDDDD about the cost of fillings in America. In Australia fillings are almost always white and definitely not $600 a tooth 😵💫
Ahhh love the special guest episodes!!! It’s so interesting to see takes from such vastly different backgrounds. ❤
For the second story she isn’t the asshole, the girl couldn’t get the dress unless she is planning on getting a divorce why is she so upset about the dress? I think it’s honestly kinda selfish of her to be so upset over a dress she couldn’t originally get… I mean she already had her wedding for goodness sake. It would be different if she originally wore it for her wedding but she didn’t 🤷🏽♀️ she honestly reminds me of a old friend I had who would go back on their word and it’s the worst feeling ever. I honestly don’t even think l the op needed to ask if she could wear the dress but out of respect she did so idk.
1st story is suchhhhhh a classic case of abuse and trying to control by continued insults and belittling. Making you think no one else could ever love you. GTFO GIRL! RUN!!!
For story 5 I feel it could be a cultural thing, in my family even if a have my bedroom sometimes I take naps in my mom’s bedroom, so does my brother, and my cousins and it is totally normal. It’s not a power play, it’s just the way that we are used to living.
I literally talked about this in therapy yesterday and said “if someone gets upset when you set a boundary with them, it’s a good indication you really needed to set that boundary”
First story start at 4:48 (:
I love when Morgan shares her "gross" stories. It makes me feel normal and kind of better about myself. I am also a gross girlie.
All girlies are gross. We all pick noses, scratch our butts and then sniff our fingers, have tonsils with stones, fart like a trucker and have lots of stories about said grossness.
If you don't, you are not human.
Story 3 NTA obviously like how do you blame your mom for your decision. You got into drugs, you still pursued only fans, you decided to splurge out and live lavish like that has nothing to do with your mom, who provided for you the best way she could with what she had which was very little.
Story 1: I got composite (tooth colored) fillings when I was 15. The doctor saw my previous fillings were silver, discussed my insurance and oral hygiene habits with my mother (she confirmed I always had decent oral hygiene and that her having to have multiple teeth removed in her 40s scared me into near flawless dental care minus flossing), asked her how I would reply if offered composites and she told him “she’s going to say no. She knows more about her insurance than I do.”
I had TriCare through my daddy and a single mom. I read my insurance coverages every time I had an off-base medical appointment because I knew I didn’t have great coverage for civilian dentists, so I was very careful not to incur extra charges my mama would have to pay out of pocket.
He asked me what I wanted, I replied “silver, please.” He responded “is this your actual answer or are you concerned about money? Your mom told me you read your insurance policy; says you know it better than she does.”
I shrugged and said “I’ve had TriCare my whole life and it only covers certain things. I know because my aunt works in medical billing and coding, so I ask her things all the time if I don’t understand. I don’t want mama to waste money on things I don’t need.”
Mama said he looked at her for a second and looked…sad? Almost? That a kid had done that much homework because they worried about money instead of being a kid?
He tried to give me nitrous, and I said no because it wasn’t covered. He said it was free and I made a face, “mom said nothing is free.”
Mom snorted and he said, “okay, it’s a tax write off. Do you know how to do taxes?”
“No??? I’m bad at math.”
“Just know I’ll still get paid.”
I agreed and when he was done, I saw I had composite fillings and freaked out. He said “tax write off, remember? You’re young. You’re in high school. Whether you admit it or not your looks matter to you. I just wanna give you one less thing to worry about.”
I’ve been paying it forward for the last 15 years.
I love that Minnesota is taking over the podcast but everyone always so hot!! If you ever need minnesota mid representation for an episode I volunteer as tribute 🙋🏼♀️
I see your little circle pic you ain’t mid !!
Coming from someone who was born & raised in Minnesota, I’m always intrigued whenever someone from Minnesota has a big audience on TH-cam. I lovedddd this episode and your guests have been my favorite so far!
For the OF story- I feel like the daughter was dealing with a drug addiction and anger towards her situation and her mom was the easiest target to lash out on and it’s much more comfortable to place blame than take accountability for negative outcomes in life. I have said/blamed shitty things on my mom when I was in a bad place a few years back but I was really just angry with myself and not ready to confront that (I have since shared that with my mom and apologized and we will always be besties) but I empathize with both and mom is not the asshole.
Morgan! I have chronic constipation from my medication with severe internal and external hemorrhoids and prolapse I THINK BUTTTTTTT I finally have my colonoscopy scheduled! Aka my butthole burns every single day! So thank you for pushing this 34 year old mama get her health checked!
YAY!!! I'm so happy you're taking the next step to make sure you're all a-okay
@@TwoHotTakes I absolutely will! Staying positive 🥰🫶🏼🙏🏼
Oh man, you are going to poop so hard with that stuff you need to drink before your appointment. Constipation is the only thing that can drive me up the walls with pain. It triggers my slumbering endometriosis which is every where on my intestines.
Good on you to get that looked at.
@@MsDrientje I know!!! I am seriously counting down the days -it’s getting to my mental health at this point and I just want to wake up and be okay. When you feel good you do good- I gotta do this. Sending love!
@@TwoHotTakes Morgan I finally got my colonoscopy! Nothing but a sh*t ton of hemorrhoids! Yayyy!! Lol I’ve been really working on hydrating and taking supplements that help with inflammation/ eating anti inflammatory foods. My butt has been feeling better aaaand mainly my mental health has gotten much better which I honestly think contributed to the inflammation of my hemorrhoids (on top of many other factors- too much to say here). Long story short I’m good and don’t need to get another one for like 10 years! Yeeee!!! I hope you get yours soon we wanna know! Everyone go get a colonoscopy! The prep is the worst part but so worth the piece of mind! 🫶🏼❤️
Just here to say… tonsil stone solidarity! Mine started when I had mono at 18, hate them so much that I’ve debated having my tonsils removed. Thank y’all for talking about this!!!
literally same. Got mono at 19 during the lock down (thanks uber driver) and ever since then I got tonsil stones. I'm thinking of having them removed next summer.
Tonsil stone solidarity! I fortunately only get them occasionally, so I just put up because I can’t have my tonsils removed, and also dietary changes improve them. But even then, so annoying!
I had mono at 14, but i spent my whole childhood before and after that, having tonsil infections. I got them out in 2020 during the pandemic, at 29, it was the worst pain of my life and it felt like hell for like 10 days, but I would do it again 1000 times. I don't get infections anymore (no, they didn't move to my throat or anything else that I had been told could happen) and I don't have tonsil stones or bad breath, I even breathe better because I don't have those huge overgrown tonsils blocking my airways. I totally recommend it
I got strep throat all the time as a kid and preteen. In my teens is when I started getting tonsil stones. I had my tonsils and adenoids removed when I was 14 and I’ve never had any since but sometimes I think I feel something
Story 4: So this girl has no money to pay the house but has enough money to afford to have a baby? So she's either lying to her sister or this poor baby will have the worst childhood.
I was bullied in high school too and took online college classes to avoid my peers too😂 sad then but I'm honestly better for it!
samee 😭🤣🤣
Story 6 hit me on a personal note. My brother and his girlfriend have taken advantage of my mom for YEARS when it comes to taking care of my niece. They’ve never paid her or done anything nice for her either in return. They treat her like straight up shit. Mind you my mom CHANGED her work schedule for 7 years to help them with taking care of their kid. She worked full time and always made sure my nieces needs were met along with making sure my brother and his gf were comfortable. Some people truly take advantage of kind hearted people.
I should also say that when my sister and I try and talk about this to my mom she just defends them.. idk why because they use her like crazy.
I love tuning in, it helps me get things done while casting my opinions out loud. I get motivated to clean, cook and work. Keep them coming. Side note: I need those couches! Link please!
I do the same thing talking out loud haha
"Kids with strict parents are the ones who went crazy in college with alcohol poisoning, hospital visits etc". Oops. It's me, hi, i'm the problem its me xD
' I kinda wanna hump this armchair '
Yeahh. I definitely did this and then remember it being hilarious when seeing my sister go through the same phase 6 years later 😂
This might be controversial but I don’t fault OP in the dress story at all. The fact that her friend was that upset over a dress means there are some very deep insecurity issues with her. If my best friend got married in the dress I was in love with but couldn’t have, it would sting but I wouldn’t be angry with her. That is so incredibly selfish and entitled. A beautiful dress will look beautiful on basically anyone. It’s fabric. That friend needs therapy and self-reflection.
Exactly! Sounds like the friend is taking her insecurities out on her friend.
There are millions of dresses. Choosing the one your friend couldn’t have seems intentional.
You’re right it’s just fabric, it’s the principle that I have a problem with.
@@yazmintorres9084 She made it clear she choose it because she also liked it tho. What’s is the harm in that? Is the world really going to end because two people like the same dress.
@@yazmintorres9084 more than one person can try on a dress and feel like its “the one.” And why should two brides have to be disappointed with their dress when one is able to wear it. I am especially a stubborn person when it comes to clothes that actually look good on me. When I find the dress that I want someday, I’m going to have that dress. Period.
The sister story pissed me off. Having a baby doesn’t make it okay to take over the house your parents left to both siblings !! That sister should either buy her out or come to an agreement with her,
She sounds very entitled and selfish. I personally would not let my sister walk all over me like this let alone allow her BF to speak to me in that way
the cavity thing: I understand it, I'm actually the same, but the way he went about telling her and the way he made her feel is just terrible
He was also incorrect and saw her fillings.
I think this one is a bit of a “It’s not about the yoghurt” story. OCD is no joke and I can imagine fillings and teeth anything could be triggering. That’s something a strong relationship works through. This whole man is long distance taking shrooms and describing his office crush to his GF. The teeth are the least of her problems.
As a new mom, I felt that mom talk it's so scary trying to just keep them alive and I always feel panic and make sure he's breathing all night. It is very stressful 😫
@@Adnon1023 why do you think that?
Okay, I just started the video but with this first story….why do y’all tolerate a guy like this? Seriously, women need to realize they’re incredible and shouldn’t give two seconds to these types of degenerates!
The moment a man disrespects you, pack up and leave him behind. Yikes!
*Mic drop*
I’m kinda fascinated by the difference of stigma between underage drinking in the USA and underage drinking in Canada, although Canada’s legal drinking limit is even lower than America’s. It kinda fascinates me how countries so close together are so different in reality!
It was common to have been drinking and smoking weed at 14 y/o in Canada. Not saying that’s a good thing by ANY means, but it’s different!
The story of sleeping in the master bedroom may have a cultural element you may not be aware of. It was common in my family to give up our bedrooms for our guest(s) and move to a different room, so that the guest(s) had the nicer room. However, we have a guest space now and that is what our guests use when they come to our house.
I came here to say this exact thing. In my culture it would be considerd rude not to give your guests the nicest room, especially your parents.
Me and my partner have been drunk and high on mushrooms and neither of us ever said anything even slightly mean to each other. In fact we were extra lovey and cute towards each other.
This guy is just trying to use his altered state as an excuse to be an asshole. He needs to go! He's very uncaring and selfish.
drug addicts always blame other people to distract from their own ugliness inside, because guess what....They feel guilty, they feel shame. It's not your fault mom, all you can do now is hold her accountable, be there for your baby and get her help.
If you litterbox smells, you're doing something wrong. You're either not cleaning it often, not getting rid of the litter and replacing it often or your using cheap litter
First story, I hope she's leaving him, not even done with the story lol
The pregnant sister in the 4th story is the AH. Being pregnant is not excuse to be an AH and go back on a deal. Also there is an update to that story. The sister took the offer for a buyout.
Story 6 NTA the family in laws literally said watching the kids is a favor which insinuates they don't want to watch them ever like no. The mom should still have a bday party for him but they got get invited. She left poop everywhere and the mom talked to her about it, the husband said it sounded harsher than it was so The husband or spouse should've went off on his sister's for the way they spoke to the wife.
Who really want to watch 3 small kids?! It is a favore I love VISITING my nieces and nephews but I like handing them off to their parent when they get hungry or need a diaper need … and the women is old too watching 3 small kids at that age .. wtf entitled parents much
L&D nurse here, PLEASE DO NOT CO-SLEEP!!!!!!!!!
The poop story hits close to home. I had a cousin who had her first period in our house when I was about 15 and she was 13. She got it on the sink, the walls, door, doorknob and the floor and didn’t clean it up, my mom talked to her mom about it and her mom said my mom doesn’t understand because she doesn’t have daughters and that she was out of line for teaching her about sanitation and how to handle a period. My aunt kept calling my mom an AH until my cousin had that issue at a friend’s house and was embarrassed so bad she begged her mom to transfer to a new school
Comparing psychedelics to cocaine is wilddddd
Lmao right....one is natural the other usually not so much.
I heard a voice in the back of my head go: "let's go girls..."
As soon as I saw the upload.
Very fitting for this ep!!
Tonsil stone girlies unite 😂😅🙌 those things make me fucking gag but god damn is it satisfying to get them out 🙈🤣
they’re so disgusting but sooo satisfying 😩
Had a man shame me not for my body count (at the time 1) but number of TIMES I had had sex with a single person. (About 500 more times than his single time) lmaooo 😅
That first story, I would break up so fast with that jerk dude.
Morgan this episode was full of you making funny little sounds lol! Like when you were talking about people stealing your stories 😂 so funny
Wow speaking my love language, cozy socks, M&M’s with popcorn and hot chocolate! I started drinking a night time blend hot chocolate and it’s the perfect way to end a night, it’s fantastic!
Story 2 NTA because k couldn't get the dress, bride asked, k said it'd hurt but you can if you like it(or whatever) she can't be mad then she wants to say she treated her poorly during her process like when? Bride asked her if she still wanted to be her MOH because she'd really wants her to me but she won't force it, so k's thought is she don't want her to be the MOH like girl get over yourself. She's doing entirely too much. Bride even wanted to give k the experience of not having to worry about a cost of whatever dress she wanted to wear for the wedding. Next time speak your mind and put your foot down, get the dress you want it's YOUR DAY PERIOD no matter what
For story 3:
OHH HELL NO, how dare a child blame the mother for their own actions. She needs to take accountability for her own actions and stop pointing fingers especially not at her mother. It’s not her mother fault it’s hard to make a living being a single mother.
Co-sleeping is so dangerous people please look at the research as someone who has known families who have loss a child this way. Please.
The health insurance policy in America is wild. I'm from Germany and have fillings, all of them are white. My teeth are , no flex, the whitest on the spectrum yet i didn't have to pay anything for them. I get refills and "teeth stone" removed every single time. We pay for braces but get money back if we've taken good care of them.
In story 5, I would guess the woman is latina. It's a bit of a cultural thing that has been dying out, but, for a long time, people in the middle and lower class didn't have access to guest bedrooms or proper accomodations for sleep-in guests, so as to make them more confortable they would offer the main bedroom. The catch is, this had become normal for some families, and a sign of trust, and it hasn't been questioned by the younger ones. Hence her shifting her opinion after the husbands POV.
Morgan you and your guests this episode have great chemistry. Loved the episode!
Does anyone else notice that Morgan kind of shifts her stance on certain topics depending on the guests? I feel like it really stood out in this episode with two guests who were way too willing to make excuses for some bullshit in a lot of these stories. Whereas with other guests or even with her dad and Justin I think Morgan would have taken a much firmer stance.
First story- 5:26
Second story- 20:23
Third story- 33:54
Fourth story- 56:14
Fifth story- 1:15:47
Sixth story- 1:23:40
Seventh story- 1:39:46
I honestly wouldnt have even told them the party cancelled and just NOT SHOWED UP...screw them they gonna talk all that shit about the fam and their kids and u think they should get time with them? Wtf....u wild to think that. Why would u want ur kids to be around that person. Nah toxic people
For the new parents who are trying to take over the house, get over yourself. As a parent myself, this is pathetic. People don't owe you anything just because you are raising a child. It's a glorious and pleasant surprise when people show extra kindness, but you aren't owed a thing. Someone who doesn't have children matters just as much as someone who does.
One other thing to never forget, your child is your responsibility. It's on you. Not everyone around you.
I would think she would want her sister close because their parents are dead & they only have each other. She's kicking the sister out of her family home, that's so fucked up.
Number one: I'm baffled at how many girls don't realize that they're in toxic relationships. I'm guessing she's young?
Number two: I think that this is why so many girls don't want to be friends with girls. The girl that got mad made a decision not to get the dress but then her friend gets it and she cuts her out? I think it's an issue of jealousy. maybe she doesn't have as much money? Either way, grow up and be kind to your friend. After all she did ask you if it was okay if she got the dress.
Fun fact: you can still get tonsil stones without tonsils!
My friend doesn't have tonsils but still gets tonsil stones. He hates it
What?!?! Where do they sit?! How?! Awhh
You still have some tissue of the tonsils after surgery. They do not remove them completely.
Maybe I'm the weird one, but I think the parents in the bed story is really grey. If the sheets are changed, I dont consider it much weirder than a hotel room.
That being said, we have a guest room but it is a poor man's guest room. The bed is very small and NOT comfortable. We also have 3 dogs, so if someone is house sitting they would need enough space for multiple bodies. It probably wouldn't be my FIRST choice, but as we are all adults, I'm not that grossed out. Again, maybe its just because I am from a demographic with less money.
Fellow tonsil stone girly over here😭 I finally had my tonsils removed last year because of all the strep infections i would get and then had mono and my tonsils never shrunk back down to size😭 but also do not recommend tonsillectomy when you’re an adult, it was HELLLLL
Currently going through my millionth round with strep. Going to go to my doctor on Monday to ask about a tonsillectomy. With me luck 😅
i would love to see my best friend of 17 years wear the dress even if it was one that i dreamt of. I litteraly was happy for her when i saw her travel to my dream countries that i still haven't visited.