Can y’all do an episode that is themed: nobody saw that coming, Just have stories with the most unexpected updates, like shocking updates. Love the podcast keep the wonderful guests and episodes coming.
Love this idea! If I may also offer my own suggestion, I also want an episode themed “clap back” where the person the post is about claps back in the comments or makes their own Reddit post.
Story 1: It’s not violating a medical professional’s consent to talk about things like that, it’s literally their job. If she came up to her on the street and started talking about her piercing that would be different. I really hope OP’s friend saw the thread and reflects on it because she has a problematic viewpoint for a future nurse.
Exactly!!! It reminds me of that therapist that blew up on tiktok for complaining about her clients "trauma dumping". When you join a field like that you are consenting to patients sharing ANY information that may be pertinent to their health and treatment. I would not want to have OP's friend as a nurse. I would be extremely uncomfortable.
Totally agree. Not to mention, if you're uncomfortable talking about sexual health with patients, don't take a nursing job! You're going to get so many weird/gross/off-putting questions about anything that has to do with a human body for the rest of your career, my dear.
IM SORRY WHAT. The nurse refused to get the on call Dr. and wanted to know. Her response was so rude and uncalled for! She strayed from being professional and decided to state her take that OP didn’t ask for. I agree, plenty of people in the medical industry go unchecked.
My dad went to the doctor with chest pain, talked to a nurse who dismissed him without getting checked by an actual doctor. The next day he died at work.
That nurse's management and staff need to be at minimum notified of the unprofessional conduct. As someone myself training in the medical field (Medical Imaging) the first aspect of medical professionalism is to act NEUTRAL and IMPARTIAL towards the patient. Neither which was demonstrated by the Nurse!
I got into it with a charge nurse who was telling me I should "go to the emergency room" instead of seeing a doctor where I was already an established patient. This was because I was dealing with leg numbness because I had two serious car accidents in less than two years.
Honestly. I know the profession is hard and that they are often overworked and patients can be assholes. But I have met so many nasty nurses that are nasty for no reason.
I always thought the mean girl nurse theory was a stretch until my VILE sister and some of her truly evil friends became nurses.. These are people that screwed any and everyone over in the worst way for their own gain/entertainment and then blasted THEM on social media and irl for defending themselves. I wonder if it’s just another way to achieve a power trip.. Being in control of other people’s lives.
For the first AITA story about the piercing, the nurse asked and she answered. The nurse’s response was very unprofessional. If she can’t keep her thoughts to herself, the nurse should not answer at all I missed Alejandra on the show. I really like hearing her mature and collected thoughts! 😊
@@TimeQuxxn well the nurse friend is HER friend, not the rude nurse’s friend, she should’ve supported her not make her feel bad for asking a genuine question
@Sara Alcani agreed! That's why I'm thinking she had some weird camaraderie with the other nurse or she probably wanted to use the same excuse to treat a patient terribly in the future
People were probably looking at the guy crying over his dog because they were worried about him! And the staff at the clinic are used to things like that. How could she have so little sympathy? Pets are so special, I feel so terrible for him.
Yes! Most people tend to be kind and concerned if they see someone crying like that. I understand feeling embarrassed because often society can put expectations on managing emotions and “appropriate” public behavior but she just seems so heartless.
She had no care for his feelings. Pets are family, losing them is a great loss. Not everyone can go stone faced and pretend they don't have emotions in such a deeply emotion moment.
That first OP's friend should absolutely not be a nurse if they are triggered by someone asking a valid question about their body to a NURSE. Literally your job to look at bodies unobjectively
Thank u for helping that Hispanic man. I almost started crying. You don’t understand how immigrants don’t have a voice and are super confused all the time. (Bc of stuff like this) I would have 10000000 % reported that doctor
That one made me cry too. My dad speaks primarily Spanish and has a hard time understanding people that are me and my brothers or my mom. The idea that someone would (and have) treat/treated him that way kills me.
Asking TMI sex questions is literally in the job description for medical workers, no matter the field, but especially in the OB/GYN field. She was NOT breaking rules of consent AT ALL. It was so out of line for the friend to be saying she was crossing the line. The OB/GYN field is all about sexual health. That made me MAD.
Responses like the friend's / nurse's are exactly why people can be too uncomfortable to tell the doctor embarrassing medical stuff! Good medical professionals should make you feel like "I've heard it all, it's just science, I won't make you feel embarrassed at all, this is a safe place to be honest."
For the one with the wedding, it’s not about the baby wearing white it’s the fact the mom feels so entitled to do whatever at a wedding that isn’t hers.
My take on the baby wearing white to the wedding - the mom totally wants extra attention for the baby & her on the wedding day. She's 3 AND the only grandchild? The baby's mom might be too passive to wear white to someone's wedding, but she could totally achieve some 2nd hand attention from having the only grandchild/baby at the wedding. Especially if she makes her a "tiny bride".👀☕
the 3yo is already going to be getting attention being the only kid, that’s one of the reasons why some people have kid free weddings. the little girl is going to be dancing and talking to people, she’s probably going to be fussed over. like she will have enough attention, i think the mom wants some “oh she would’ve made a perfect flower girl” comments. like OP’s wife wants attention/attention for her daughter so badly, knowing that she would upset the bride and groom, upset her husband, and for what? to make it known she wasn’t picked as a flower girl?? definitely ick behavior. if i was the bride, i would strongly consider uninviting the wife, tell OP that he is welcome to come and she can’t wait to see the little one’s yellow dress. or straight up uninvite the daughter as well, because the three year old isn’t going to care about not being at the wedding, and it would make it clear to the wife that she does not call the shots and her desperate grab at attention is not being tolerated in the slightest
@@abbychurchya3496 exactly. I had a child free wedding for multiple reasons, this being one. My husband's sisters made a huge deal out of it. They thought it was because we didn't like their children 🤦 I honestly just don't believe 10+ children should be at a wedding!!
Wedding story is a total teachable moment for a kid - "we're going to pick a different dress for you, because it's SUCH a special day for the bride, and she gets to be the only person at the whole wedding wearing white. So we get to give her a special gift and help her day be amazing by wearing different colors." You can't manufacture those chances for your child to learn, so it pays to embrace them when they come along. Love love love the show!
Right!? And you could even make a day of it to create a fun memory for your daughter. Bring her to the store and let her pick out her own dress. Take her to Claire’s and let her pick out some jewelry to wear with it or some new nail polish. She’ll be excited to wear the dress that she picked out, the bride will be happy that she’s the only one in white, and you’ve spent a nice day out with your child.
I highly doubt a three year old gives a crap what she wears. It’s the mom giving a finger to the bride for not asking her daughter to be the flower girl. Besides, why are we teaching little girls how important and special weddings are? They will grow up dreaming and fantasizing about the “big day”. That’s how bridezillas are made. There are more important things in life.
@@smellykellybelly I nanny a 3 year old girl who certainly has some strong opinions about what she wears and she makes sure to vocalize them. A plain white dress, though, would not be at the top of her list. Hahaha
I went to the gynecologist to get an IUD. IUDs are extremely painful as it is but my doctor ended up putting mine in wrong which caused me to black out and vomit. I didn’t even ask for medicine but the doctor rolled her eyes at me, said that I was faking because “the pain wasn’t that bad” and told the nurse “oh great another college student wanting narcotics.” I have been afraid to ask for any kind of medicine from a doctor in fear they will think I just want drugs. I have never abused drugs in my life but she is not the only doctor to treat me like an addict. On that note, they shouldn’t even treat people with substance abuse issues badly to begin with. But yeah, it was a really terrible experiencing and when I went back to her a couple weeks later after severe pain, she refused to take my IUD out and prescribed me the birth control ring to go along with it. She also said that I had endometriosis and wanted induce early menopause on me when I was just 18. She gave me a bunch of pamphlets and I went home crying. My IUD ended up falling out a few days later and I was perfectly fine afterward. I never ever went back to her.
That is so wrong. I'm sorry this happened to you. I've had a similar experience while getting my blood drawn. The phlebotomist didn't know how to properly draw blood, so she stabbed me multiple times. I get very lightheaded from getting my blood drawn, so I almost ended up passing out. The phlebotomist told me I was being overly dramatic and getting your blood drawn isn't a big deal. I'm like dude... I can't help the physical reaction I have. Some people should not work in healthcare.
I also have an IUD horror story. My doctor told me to take ibuprofen before I came, as if that was going to help. Left me in the room alone legs still in stirrups, & left the door wide open, I had blood down my legs & I was so dizzy and sick. They just left me there until my mom came and cleaned me up & helped me. They came in while I was cleaning myself up to tell me to hurry because they needed the room.🥲
@@randiwest4221 god that is so awful. Im so sorry you went through that. Seems like many of us have traumatic stories like this. They also told me to leave when I got mine. They were annoyed at me because I was in so much pain I couldn’t move without puking so I laid on the bed and she got super impatient with me. One of the nurses was actually advocating for me and helped me to the bathroom and tried to ask the doctor to prescribe me medicine. Such a horrible doctor.
Okay, the boob job story- throw the whole guy away. Being a woman who actually likes her body and now he’s withholding sexual intimacy from her because of a part of her that she’s confident about? He’s not a man, he’s a child. My heart is with her because she’s always going to have it in the back of her head that someone she liked, didn’t like them.
It really pissed me off!!! I felt so triggered. My ex wanted me to get a boob job, too and always made me feel inadequate. I’ve got a 34C so they’re not huge but wtf.
I've also struggled with my boob size and have considered wanting a reduction. Saying her boobs are "kinda gross" um first of all they're boobs they are not gross (lol). But second that sort of comment will definitely stay with her and she will always feel like the guy that she is with silently judging her. Also the fact that he's refusing to have sex with her or go down on her because of her boobs (???) Is completely stupid and feels a little manipulative. Also him saying he just had too much to drink, as if it makes yelling and kicking her out better? This one got me heated lol
I just wanted to comment about the story about the deleted text about the baby. Interestingly enough, I got pregnant by a man 7 years ago who didn’t want anything to do with me or the baby and blocked ME after I told him about it. Fast forward to now, I’m married to my husband who wants to adopt my son. The court made me hire a private investigator to find this man so I could have his rights terminated before the adoption could take place, despite me having proof of the texts that said he was blocking me and no contact whatsoever for over 7 years. There’s virtually no chance this woman would be able to keep him away from their kid, especially when he wants to be there and is willing to pay the child support.
I’m doing my makeup while watching and I literally paused and stopped my makeup to write this. I cannot believe the AUDACITY of that girlfriend telling her boyfriend she is embarrassed of him for crying after finding out his dog has cancer. She must be a heartless person because what the fuck.
no literally i did this morning too! could not BELIEVE someone could be so heartless. when i dropped off my guinea pig that passed the same day on christmas eve 2021, all the woman in the waiting room had to say to me was "hi sweetie" and i started sobbing. i could barely get a word out while saying thank you. i wish i wouldve had someone there to hug me or something.
I think the gfs emotions were consider embarrassing and dismiss by the people around her. She said that when her dad died she cried in private. Showing emotions is considered a weakness and you shouldn’t make them other peoples problems in my family. I have to remind myself sometimes I’m not the only one who has feelings and its normal to show them to others so don’t feel comfortable/embarrassed. She’s probably not heartless but she should go to therapy bc that can turn into a much bigger problem.
Vet clinics ARE an appropriate place to have an emotional breakdown over a pet, I just did it last month. She was just back-pedaling to make herself look better lol
The toxicity in l&d nursing needs to go. Here is a story. I was 20 when I had my kid. At 23 weeks, I was having extreme cramping. I was telling the nurse and she ask if I was drinking enough water. Or your probably having a uti. Nope. Those were real contractions and I dilated 0.75. My doctor heard her and asked if she was the doctor. To which she replied no. So my doctor say don't diagnose my patients then.
My friend lost her baby because a nurse kept dismissing her symptoms. She was pregnant and in severe pain and the nurse kept saying she was fine.. She wasn't fine, and full term baby died shortly. So fucked.
@@Naejakire3 that person can not be in the medical field anymore and should be charged for manslaughter. My mom started having contractions in the middle of the night and the nurse told her to hold it in and not push cuz she wanted to nap. The morning round doctor did an emergency delivery after seeing my mom and I was born purple. Thank god I was fine.
My dad's best friend started flirted with me at 12 and 20 years later still does. My dad doesn't care. It's so uncomfortable. Once he called me sexy at 14 when he was 55. I feel OP's pain on that one.
With the uncle story, the parents are not only doing a disservice to their child but also to the uncle himself. They are enabling him and eventually he will feel emboldened to act physically. They are leading him straight to a prison cell instead of helping him learn how to cope with his impulses.
Exactly, and boundaries can be set with people who act out sexually. The issue is they will have to make themselves uncomfortable by asking for outside help from professionals. Could be the case that he needs medication so he can better manage his behavior or a therapist can help them learn how to redirect him when he is sexually inappropriate. Very sad that they don't care about their child's comfort and instead turns it into a competition of who has it worse. It's also crazy how a parent can just sit there and listen a to a grown man flirt with their child and from the sounds of it, he's been doing this since she was very young
Yeah these parents absolutely fucking suck because eventually he will escalate cuz he sees there's no consequences for what he's doing. And they've already traumatized their child enough they should go to jail with him
this reminds me of a chicago med episode with a really genuine sweet couple, the episode starts with the husband rushing in the hospital and telling the staff he needs to speak to a doctor and then the wife coming in after him. they have a good relationship but recently he was having thoughts of harming his wife and he cant control his thoughts but he hasnt acted upon it yet so he decided to head straight to the hospital before something happens cause he acknowledges that he needs help.
I had an adult autistic male for a neighbor once and he would always flirt with the women around. Me and two other female neighbors spoke with his sister more than once about it but She always dismissed it, saying he was harmless and didn’t know any better. Some months later, he did it on the street with a random woman and got beat up so bad he had to spend months in the hospital. He stopped harassing women after that, but it is a shame it had to get to this… i feel like his sister could have prevent This if She had listened
I have had the same piercing for 10 years now and have had 3 kids and was never treated like this. I forgot to take it out when I went into labor with my first and the nurse just reminded me that we should probably remove it but it was up to me. There is nothing that fazes OB nurses in my experience, this nurse was out of line. For anyone that wants the advice, TAKE IT OUT FOR BIRTH! I tore both directions with my oldest and my cliterous was involved 🥴 it was easy enough to put the barbell back in after a week with it out. I personally wouldn’t use a retainer in case of tearing or someone hitting it or accidentally yanking it out. Childbirth can get pretty hectic and no one is watching for jewelry.
The wedding dress story happened at my wedding sort of and im still annoyed by it. A woman in my husbands family brought her 3yr daughter in white dress and veil and then proceeded to parade the kid all over and interrupt the wedding photographer to take photos of her daughter with me and my husband and every person and item in the wedding. It was so narcissistic. I then found out she does this at other ppl’s weddings too. Once she interrupted a bride’s walk down the isle to take a pic of the bride with her daughter
I think you're 100% with this. The 3yo's mom is the issue here, sounds like she's got a beef with the bride and groom or is wanting to do it to divert attention from the wedding couple. Feels narcissistic.
@@lunaisbellavalentine1823 I’m not a mother yet but I can definitely see myself doing this when I have children. I absolutely love taking baths! It’s so therapeutic for me!
My boyfriend and I love listening to THT together and then pausing and having our takes on the story. I feel like I have learned so much about him from these podcats. It also helps with our intimacy because we don't do "the deed" lol
from the uk and i've just recently left medicine because of things i saw firsthand that you guys discussed in the first story. i was reprimanded for taking time with patients, actually speaking with care, advocating for patients and trying to give them good care. i couldn't stand it, so i left. it's so unbelievably frustrating, because that takes a toll on the mental health of people trying to help people (which is why i decided to take a break initially) - it's awful. we aren't here to judge, we're here to HELP. but no one actually wants to, and when you do you're bullied.
I was cuddling with my bf and listening. He grabbed my body and told me “I love your body, I’d never ask you to change it” it made me cry. I’ve had weight loss/gain so I have some saggy skin on my thighs and belly. I’ve considered getting surgery but dread the idea of the pain and money of it. I said “you don’t think I should get my fat removed?” He said “of course not. Didn’t I lay my face there yesterday? I love you for you. Don’t pay money to change yourself when you don’t need too” 🥺💕 I can’t believe assholes like the guy in that story exist. But I feel so lucky to have my bf. I’m seeing myself through his eyes, and it’s making me love myself. I know that’s cheese. It’s been an uphill battle my entire life with my body
This is so lovely, I'm so glad you have such a wonderful partner who loves you for you ❤That is true love to me. Our bodies will change and age our entire lives, and someone that accepts you wholly for who you are, regardless of how you look, is someone you can grow old with. Thanks for sharing this
I never understood dressing up the baby to also look like a bride, like let the kid look cute, but sometimes those flower girls look like a mini bride, and the dress looks like a miniature version of something an Adult Woman would wear
@@clairesmallwood2953 yeah my dress as a flower girl when i was in my aunt and uncle’s wedding was white and definitely resembled a brides dress. i don’t see it as weird per se but it does make me wonder why that’s the norm.
As a nurse I'd say all legitimate medical questions should be comfortable to talk about. The only time I feel like I've had my consent violated was by co-workers, friends or family. No! I don't want to hear about you ball problems. You are not my patient and I don't want to talk about that.
The dog one got me. I worked in a vet clinic and we often had people breakdown during euthanasias. We had a couple come in to have their elderly dog put to sleep. They both cried. People should not police others’ displays of grief and despair. I’ve had a dog put to sleep and I’m pretty sure the whole vet clinic heard me bawling my eyes out. It felt like someone ripping my heart out.
Hey for the last story, the guy did a final update in May; "It's quite a long story so the more condensed version is that I've met my daughter, my ex and I handled the custody and support agreement ourselves (still signed off by the court), we're both committed to making this co-parenting thing work and it's been going well so far. My wife and I are back at home and both excited about her nearing due date. We've decided to move on. The longer version: The last update ended with my ex threatening to fight me in court. Well, the lawyer I'd arranged suggested we give mediation a try and set that up with her lawyers and this mediator. Overall the mediation went quite shit and seemed to be more detrimental to us ever cooperating. We only had two actual sessions and both were just filled with unnecessary fighting and no resolution. Funny enough it was the chaos at the mediation that kind of proved to both of us we weren't interested in fighting each other indefinitely and she reached out late in the evening after the 2nd mediation asking to meet up the next day. In that meeting, we talked things out and listened to one another. Sorted through some baggage from our relationship as well as spoke about what exactly had been going on the past 5 years. Hours long conversation but it was totally worth it. We agreed that we'd make it work and put our daughter in the forefront. A meeting was arranged for me to drive over and see my daughter face to face and I did. At the time I wasn't introduced properly to her as her father and she obviously was cagey around this random dude around but it was still great seeing her that first time. She was/is seeing someone to help with my transition into her life and i've since been properly introduce to her and she's started calling me papa so things are going stunningly smooth and she's coping really well with it all. Plus my ex has floated around the idea that if she could find a job/better job where I am she'd consider moving so distance isn't too big of a problem though that's still a big if. For now, I'll just keep driving up to her until we're acquainted enough to allow her to make the trip to me. The last update on my wife left things at my sister posting about everything and my family fighting with my wife. My sister has removed the post and apologized to my wife although not sincere but still an apology. Still ongoing but attempts of reconciling my family and wife are going more or less well. My wife momentarily moved to stay with her parent to get away from everything for about a month but has since moved back to the house with me as we're soon expecting the birth of our child in the up and coming weeks. All extremely excited over that and we've worked through our issues. I'm sure most of you will be disappointed by this but I do 100% believe my wife and trust that she isn't some conniving person. She's still the woman I love and we're all to blame for the circumstance that led to this whole situation. All we can do is focus on the future. Big thanks to everyone who's offered their support and wishes as well as advice. I truly do appreciate all of it. And that's it. Signed off- a happy dad of (almost) 2"
My Golden Rule: never go down on a man before he has done anything for me. Haven't had penetrative sex or him go down on me yet? hahaha never. pull your weight my dude.
My dog of 10 years died last month. I cried so hard and ao loud I thought my lugs were going to give out before I calmed down. I'm sure the whole clinic heard me. But my family, and the vets were nothing but supportive. My girl meant everything to me. I had a rough up bringing and she was all I had sometimes. My whole face was bright pink and I was physically weak walking out of there holding the box that my baby was in. Everyone was looking and honestly I'm sure they felt nothing but sympathy.
Hypothetically, if you deleted a message 5 years ago from an ex, how would you know immediately that what it said was about his child... If she hadn't read it she probably wouldn't even remember doing it, let alone bring it up the second he finds out. That's my take.
The dog guy one made me so angry, my dog passed away last year and i couldn't say goodbye and i found out a few days later, i broke down at work, ugly crying; LOUDLY ugly crying, and no one dared to show anything but empathy, one of my coworkers teared up with me while holding my hand; my boss (who is an awful person) told me to go home to cry it out, gave me money for a taxi and next day asked me if i felt like going, even awful people have soft spots for pets, you have to be an special kind of horrible to react like that to your super vulnerable boyfriend. This is a posible traumatic event, how can you react like this. If someone tells you your friend is dying, of fucking course you're going to breakdown
I literally asked a nurse about my BELLYBUTTON PIERCING when I was pregnant and whether or not to use a retainer and she responded the SAME WAY. It made me feel terrible about myself 😔
So for the 1st story, as a nurse myself, that’s is an absolutely unprofessional and disgusting response from the nurse and it should be reported. As for the friend, there is a reason she is ‘studying to be a nurse’ and not an actual nurse. You learn the most once you have your license and are out of the floor yourself and anyone who is an actual professional in the friend can tell you that was completely inappropriate. As for the wedding dress story, I will be wearing a black dress but only my closest friends know that and our wedding invite will explicitly say no white dresses despite that. I’m fine with simple black dresses for guests if they want, since they won’t know what I’m wearing, but EVERYONE knows that the automatic rule is don’t wear white to the wedding. The OP handled it so well, however the wife is completely in the wrong. Yes it a child so I would not be threatened, however the bride was appropriately asked prior and said no. They reason it’s not ok is because the child at 3 doesn’t care about what she is wearing and the mother KNOWS that rule of no white dresses and thinks that her opinion is more important than the actual bride’a and her event.
Yeah, I think it's a little weird that the wife got really mad about that. I'm sure there's something going on, but I don't want to think that she was purposely doing it to be petty. If she's the only grandchild she was more than likely trying to bank off more attention and thought she could play it off because no one can get mad if she's the only grandchild.
as a student radiographer I totally agree. Yes you get asked random questions all the time but in this case the patient was prompted by the Nurse to ask her question. As medical staff you are to act impartial and neural no matter the circumstances. When I ask my AFAB patients if there is the possibility or chance of pregnancy for radiation safety I responded calmly and provide a neural answer. I was horrified at the first story!!
thank u for using translating services 💓 Im a medical interpreter and work on the daily with thousands of doctors and nurses. Every patient is always thankful for the services provided towards them with interpretations. Everyone deserves the right to not have a language barrier interrupt their health care❣️
The breast augmentation one struck a nerve for me. My college boyfriend chose the moment that I got home from having my wisdom teeth removed to lay there and ask me if I would consider getting a boob job. I was a mess, I had a rough surgery because they were impacted. I bawled my eyes out and he left me there recovering from surgery to go play beer pong. I was done. I dumped him and my roommate helped me recover from surgery. Come to find out, he swiped a couple of my pain pills while he was using my bathroom. Bullet 🚄 dodged 🔫 Edit: I did end up getting it done, 5 yrs later. But his ass never got to enjoy them. 😂🤓
The story with the wife deleting the message from the ex: my God, what an awful story. This is an impossibly difficult situation. OP will never not resent his wife every single day for the rest of his life. She took a choice away from him, a life altering choice. BIG YIKES. The best thing she can do is give him space to heal. It's up to him if he decides to forgive her and she needs to understand that.
Also, what’s the timeline of the wife being pregnant, is she lying not to get left? Feels like his life was stolen (at least to be it would be), seems super creepy.
@marianadineva14 I know this is old but OP's wife is 21 weeks pregnant, op knew for two weeks, and it happend 5 years prior. Saying it was on purpose to not get left behind is a mega reach there. If that were the case she'd have gotten pregnant way earlier.
Alejandra supremacy!!!! Love her takes and also how she talked about her first initial response vs validating afterward. I always talk about how your first thought is what you formed from society (“eww”/second hand embarrassment) and your second thought (no they’re able to do that/validating the choice/action) is what you yourself formed!❤️
As one of the multiple girls in my family who has been sexually groomed, molested, and raped by the “weird/ funny uncle” in the family, the family always makes excuses for these creeps. I wasn’t the first or the last and it has been 10 years since he actually assaulted me, let alone the grooming, and I have told many people in my family exactly what he did to me, including cyber bullying and blackmail, and they don’t care because “he is family”… GIRL GO NO CONTACT. It was the best thing for my mental health.
Agreed. My sister was sexually assaulted by one of the uncles and he's always been a creep and trying to touch our thighs and make jokes about our clothing etc. So we always wear less form fitting clothing around him because the rest of the family won't stop inviting him to events. He works a lot so it's rare he's around at events but when he is there, we stay away from him and we don't stay long. No one in our close family (parents/ siblings) like him and we all make sure to look out for each other but other family (aunts/grandparents) pretend it didn't happen. It's so stupid.
The mom wanted everyone to assume the 3 year old was the flower girl, and assumed the bride and groom wouldn't cause a scene over it .and by asking he ruined her "plan"
For the baby in a white dress story It's not about being upset that the baby is wearing white to your wedding. The baby(like you all pointed out) would be happy in anything. It's the mom that made her wear white. That's why it's ick . It's not being mad that the baby is wearing wearing a white dress, it's being mad that the mom intentionally put her in a white dress.
This podcast really helps me in making informed decisions but also being able to understand different perspectives and I really think just that alone is important for emotional maturity
The part you mentioned where the doctor was really apathetic towards the stroke patient reminds me of my own mom. She was left paralyzed, couldn’t speak, couldn’t write, etc and all the doctors and nurses I met were so rude to her and the home health care nurse she had abused her and even outside of a health care perspective people in general were rude and I hate this lack of empathy people have. That might’ve been the 40th stroke that doctor diagnosed that day but that doesn’t mean you can just roll your eyes and be annoyed
The second story makes me so angry. My uncle SA-ed me when I was little. He has bipolar and it really pisses me off when they bring up the fact that he has mental illness and life is hard for him. While I can empathize with him and what he goes through I am always reminded of the fact I have PTSD now because of him and his actions. (I also have Borderline Personality Disorder from other familial trauma). I have made the decision as an adult to stop seeing him, since he is also violent. This might be my trauma talking but F*ck OP’s family. It’s ridiculous this whole mentality of “well let’s just wait for something bad to happen.” And even when something happens people turn a blind eye. I only know of ONE person who established boundaries and pressed charges when their child was SA-ed by a family member, AND their family refuses to see THEM not because they pressed charges. Family shouldn’t equal a “free pass” to SA. NOTHING should ever equal a “free pass to SA”
You’re so strong and I’m sorry you had to go through this. You’re absolutely right it’s unfortunately common and I’m sorry you didn’t have the support from your family in that time but we hear and see you ❤️
I can relate to you in so many ways! It’s gross that people excuse predatory behavior bc it’s their brother, uncle, son! It’s so unfair to children who have absolutely no way to advocate for themselves.
OK this nurse does not work at an ophthalmologist office. For her friend to say that talking about a piercing in her genital region is violating an Obgyn nurses consent is the stupidest shite I’ve ever heard.
I literally was on the verge of tears hearing the story about the guy and his dog. I have had to experience my husband putting down his dog, who he has had with him for 13 years. I had to hold back my own tears to allow him his time to grieve and hold her as she passes. A dog/cat or any animal is not just a pet, they are family as you both put it. Loss is loss, pain is pain and I'm so sorry that man did not have the support he needed at that difficult time.
About the flirty uncle story: It depends on what kind of mental illness is present. In cases of hypersexuality or sex addiction or a mental disability that affects the recognition of boundaries, it would make some sense why he’s very sexual/flirty in general interactions - *BUT* if those traits influence the people around them negatively in a „not feeling safe“-way (not in a „I’m uncomfortable with seeing symptoms of mental illness“ way) then the caretakers are *obligated* to guide them and talk about boundaries and consent. This should already be a part of their treatment as well. Having a mental illness is a reason but not an excuse for the caretakers of the affected to not do their job.
I agree. My stepdad's father had actual delusions (this was just before he was diagnosed with brain cancer) and one time thought I was a waitress at a bar in Cuba. He flirted with me as if I was that woman because that's what he saw me as. It wasn't malicious, it was a delusion. OP mentions in her post that she thinks the flirting from her uncle is because of his delusions, so I'm wondering if it's a similar thing? There is a big difference between uncle having depression and delusion. But the parents are huge assholes.
I agree completely however OP sounds like she is an adult. I KNOW times are difficult but if the reason the uncle is doing this is mental illness ( that we are unaware what it is and how desabling it is) then he probably needs lots of help. We don't know if grandparents are still around and may be the reason the dad feels responsible. Being an adult if I don't feel comfortable I remove myself from the situation and figure it out.
The girlfriend who was embarrassed by the boyfriend crying: 1000% sure this is a taught behavior. Likely was told repeatedly at an early age something like "look at everyone watching you cry" as a way to embarrass her into stop crying in public. To be clear, it doesn't justify her toxic values
@@HannahCrier You’re so sweet 🥺 I’m super thankful that it doesn’t cause me any discomfort or pain but it does make getting pregnant difficult. Thank you for your kindness ❤️
My dogs are my babies and I would be bawling at the vet if I got that news as well. That’s like people who says “it’s just a dog” like geez, no they are practically my children who I’ve had since they were puppies.
Exactly!! They’re our babies. If someone can’t understand how important a pet’s life is to me, out of my life. I have no patience for someone who’s going to disregard and invalidate my feelings, let alone say that my pet’s life is not important.
Yup... When I went to my first baby doctor appt i brought my husband (bf at the time) in the room bc i was terrified. During, the male gyno went on a rant about me potentially lying about the father... While my husband (who is the father) in the room. I was horrified and embarrassed he would eben assume that. Quietly told the nurses station after i never want to see that man again
@@mcrfanabasowattvon the wonderful nurses understood completely. It wasnt the first time this had happened. He was an old man with old values of being married before having kids. Me being 20 and unwed was a huge bother to him.
In relation to the last story. My boyfriend found out his ex is pregnant about a month after we started dating. I would NEVER do anything to prevent him from speaking to the ex or him seeing his child. If you love someone you want the best for them. Deleting it is so selfish.
I'm a 24M, im from France and since I discovered THT i realy watched everything from the most recent up to 8~9 months back, I really think it helps me to step back and grow (as a person/as a man) and I think it makes me evolve even if I already thought I was someone quite open-minded person
For the last story, I 100% believe the wife read the message and got scared that the ex would baby trap her future husband and destroy her ‘future’ with him. But even if he did read the message I say that the ex would just want child support and not him based off the fact he said he was a terrible boyfriend to her.
The first story GRINDS my gears. When I was pregnant it was peak Covid-19 and during the boom of pandemic babies, my doctor was always busy, but you better believe if I had a question they would do everything in their power to answer! This is a time of vulnerability and what you need the most is support, especially from your OBGYN or whoever is taking care of you during that time Also edit: why does a piercing, tattoo, or anything on your body dictate if you’re a good/loving mother😭
I was in a car crash and needed to get my neck and upper chest x-rayed, I have piercings on my chest and when I asked the nurse about it she was EXTREMELY professional and sweet, she laughed gently and said no I should be fine. That is how the first story should have been handled. They are NURSES AND DOCTORS?!? She wasn’t inviting them into her bedroom life, she was asking a medical question about her body and since she’s having a baby, and they are assumably doctors and nurses in that specific field who are tending to a lady’s bits all day, it shouldn’t have made her that uncomfortable??
White dress to the wedding one: A) how stressful keeping the kid clean all day in white. B) it's a hand me down dress so it's not that big a deal to get another C) it's polite to ask and if that's how the bride feels that's how the bride feels 🤷♀️ Personally I wouldn't care but the husband 100% did the right thing
@@deltaloraine my guess with the dress being a described as a hand me down is that it the dress was previously a flower girl dress and wife is actually upset that her daughter isn't one so is dressing her to look like one otherwise why the over reaction 🤷♀️
Thank you so much for the things you said about body image. Especially finding someone that loves you where you're at. I needed that and I feel so encouraged!
Your channel keeps me so much company while I am home alone working late night hours, i’m always hoping for a new video and I’m so glad you enjoy doing what you do because I feel a bit less alone thanks to you 💕 Well actually I had never thought about this but you allow me to enjoy my alone time so much more and in a very different way, hugs
im right there with you girl. I caught some nasty flu or something, its not covid because i tested negative but omg im barely getting thu. Thank god you all uploaded. finally something to help sleep through the night XD
Time stamps because I don't know how to work them apparently lololol 00:01:53 : Story 1 The Nurse TW: SA !!!! 00:18:31 : Story 2 The Uncle 00:29:44 : 3 y.o in White Dress at a wedding 00:40:04 : BF mad about boob Job 00:56:40 : BF + dog at the vet 01:13:39 : Wife and text message...
(TW for mentions of SA) For the first story: the nurse was completely in the wrong. But I’d like to add, while this piercing IS a sexual piercing, not all genital piercings are done for sexual reasons, for example: I got my nips pierced after I was assaulted. It was extremely healing for me, and not sexual at all. I did it to reclaim my body as my own and I felt incredible and confident and brave after, knowing that it was my body for me to do with what I please.
Why is it sexual? You think nipples are also sexual piercings? Just because it's on a part of the body covered by underwear doesn't make it sexual. If someone has a tattoo in those areas are they also sexual? This concept is so weird.
@@CamDollar also, if you’re asking why a CHP is sexual-it’s because it actively aids in the achievement of orgasms for people who have issues orgasming. But yeah, you just ignored the whole point that I made which is that: it’s not sexual for all of us? Breasts are erogenous zones. That’s science. But… again… my point was that it’s NOT SEXUAL FOR SOME OF US
@@faceofvision yeah, you’re right. That wasn’t the point. A woman opens up about being assaulted, and her healing journey there after and your first thought was “gotta fight semantics”. Read the fucking room.
@@mars4541 it literally wasn't a personal attack or an attack on your trauma. I'm sorry for what happened to you, and I myself have nip piercings for non sexual reasons, so I relate on some level. I'm just correcting one word, and you're acting like I invalidated your assault. Nipples/boobs not being genitalia doesn't invalidate whatever happened to you and in no way was I trying to do it.
Alejandra laughing at Morgan for being hypothetically mad a baby would show up in white made me cackle 😂😂😂😂 I gotta agree with Alejandra on this one lol
I took my cat into the vet when he was choking, literally struggling to breathe and I was a complete MESS. When they took him into the back my heart started racing and everything went black for a few moments. I was taken to the far back room, had a full panic attack with the kindest staff giving me hugs and water and checking on me almost every 30 seconds with updates on my boy. For anyone wondering, he is perfectly fine now, he has an obsession with plastic and my house is now on such a lockdown that I cannot even have plastic trash bag liners because he went so crazed not having any sort of plastic around that he might be able to find that he started eating things he normally would leave alone - including trash bags. It’s been a weird change, but pets are family and you cannot blame someone for how they react to their diagnosis or injury. The AITA Reddit says accept your label and she CLEARLY refused to accept she is TA.
My daughter (8 yr) had to go under anesthesia to get two molars pulled and I have bad anxiety. So I was the only parent at the dental surgery lobby sobbing and I kept calling my sisters and mom and they kept telling me everything would be ok. After we left I felt a tiny bit embarrassed but honestly I don’t think any other parent even took notice to me, like they where probably worried about their own tiny human,
I've been listening to you guys for a while and you're one of the only podcasts that my boyfriend will sit and listen to with me. Obviously I get more heated than he does during them, but to see that he would be with me 100% in situations like this has made me feel so much better about our future together. We absolutely love you guys
THE UPDATE ABOUT THE TEENAGER DATING THE 30+ YEAR OLD MAN!!! I could cry, good for her. I'm so shocked that neither of you mentioned the 14 year age gap.
My mom refused to let me go to where my dog was being buried because “I was going to make a scene by crying and make everyone else feel worse”. I was 12/13 and this was my family dog we’ve had since I was 2.
For the obgyn one- you can deny to talk to a nurse about things when you’re pregnant and only talk to a obgyn. It is perfectly normal to ask about all piercings pertaining to pregnancy and birth
When I lost my 6.5 year old furbaby to cancer I was a complete trainwreck. A hysterical, sobbing, snotty mess. She would have been mortified by me. What a terrible person. She clearly has never owned a pet of her own.
At a friends wedding they had the whole traditional flower girl thing, but they had a grown man be a “beer guy” instead of having a ring bearer. He walked down the aisle with a small cooler handing out beers to the guests right before the start of the ceremony.
Can y’all do an episode that is themed: nobody saw that coming, Just have stories with the most unexpected updates, like shocking updates. Love the podcast keep the wonderful guests and episodes coming.
I'd watch this for sure! Great idea ☺️
Love this idea
Yesss, I so want this to happen!
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Love this idea!
If I may also offer my own suggestion, I also want an episode themed “clap back” where the person the post is about claps back in the comments or makes their own Reddit post.
Story 1: It’s not violating a medical professional’s consent to talk about things like that, it’s literally their job. If she came up to her on the street and started talking about her piercing that would be different.
I really hope OP’s friend saw the thread and reflects on it because she has a problematic viewpoint for a future nurse.
Thank you!!!! Took the words right out of my mouth
She did that because she knows it's a reprimandable offense and she KNEW how much trouble that nurse would get into
@@infjandcoping4614 I meant the friend defending the nurse. What is she on??? She just wants to be able to complain in the future lol
Exactly!!! It reminds me of that therapist that blew up on tiktok for complaining about her clients "trauma dumping". When you join a field like that you are consenting to patients sharing ANY information that may be pertinent to their health and treatment. I would not want to have OP's friend as a nurse. I would be extremely uncomfortable.
Totally agree. Not to mention, if you're uncomfortable talking about sexual health with patients, don't take a nursing job! You're going to get so many weird/gross/off-putting questions about anything that has to do with a human body for the rest of your career, my dear.
IM SORRY WHAT. The nurse refused to get the on call Dr. and wanted to know. Her response was so rude and uncalled for! She strayed from being professional and decided to state her take that OP didn’t ask for. I agree, plenty of people in the medical industry go unchecked.
My dad went to the doctor with chest pain, talked to a nurse who dismissed him without getting checked by an actual doctor. The next day he died at work.
@Jen Agrippa No! It’s okay, it was so long ago! I was just agreeing, some people are not qualified.
That nurse's management and staff need to be at minimum notified of the unprofessional conduct. As someone myself training in the medical field (Medical Imaging) the first aspect of medical professionalism is to act NEUTRAL and IMPARTIAL towards the patient. Neither which was demonstrated by the Nurse!
Yeah I’m a CNA the nurse was unprofessional and needs to be reported
I got into it with a charge nurse who was telling me I should "go to the emergency room" instead of seeing a doctor where I was already an established patient. This was because I was dealing with leg numbness because I had two serious car accidents in less than two years.
of course the nursing student defended the mean nurse. it seems like at least half of nurses are mean girls
Not all nurses are mean girls but most mean girls become nurses
Literally most of my highschool bullies went directly to nurse school.
Oh for sure.. Sooo many mean girls become nurses or like, military wives
Honestly. I know the profession is hard and that they are often overworked and patients can be assholes. But I have met so many nasty nurses that are nasty for no reason.
I always thought the mean girl nurse theory was a stretch until my VILE sister and some of her truly evil friends became nurses.. These are people that screwed any and everyone over in the worst way for their own gain/entertainment and then blasted THEM on social media and irl for defending themselves. I wonder if it’s just another way to achieve a power trip.. Being in control of other people’s lives.
For the first AITA story about the piercing, the nurse asked and she answered. The nurse’s response was very unprofessional. If she can’t keep her thoughts to herself, the nurse should not answer at all
I missed Alejandra on the show. I really like hearing her mature and collected thoughts! 😊
yes i agree with everything you said. alejandra is always such a great guest i love all the podcast eps shes in.
Dude the peircing???? Of course her nurse friend said don't report her, she knew it was a very punishable offense
That nurse is the asshole. If you can’t handle deeply personal things don’t become a medical professional.
@@TimeQuxxn well the nurse friend is HER friend, not the rude nurse’s friend, she should’ve supported her not make her feel bad for asking a genuine question
@Sara Alcani agreed! That's why I'm thinking she had some weird camaraderie with the other nurse or she probably wanted to use the same excuse to treat a patient terribly in the future
People were probably looking at the guy crying over his dog because they were worried about him! And the staff at the clinic are used to things like that. How could she have so little sympathy? Pets are so special, I feel so terrible for him.
Right?! I don't understand how anyone can see someone they love so upset and feel embarrassed. I would just want to comfort them.
i mean.. his gf said hey can we please go to the car…
Yes! Most people tend to be kind and concerned if they see someone crying like that. I understand feeling embarrassed because often society can put expectations on managing emotions and “appropriate” public behavior but she just seems so heartless.
She had no care for his feelings. Pets are family, losing them is a great loss. Not everyone can go stone faced and pretend they don't have emotions in such a deeply emotion moment.
pets aren't just special but they’re your family
That first OP's friend should absolutely not be a nurse if they are triggered by someone asking a valid question about their body to a NURSE. Literally your job to look at bodies unobjectively
Exactly!!! She’s gonna be biased and kill patients by not listening. You’re a nurse get a dr wtfff. Nothing is inappropriate
Thank u for helping that Hispanic man. I almost started crying. You don’t understand how immigrants don’t have a voice and are super confused all the time. (Bc of stuff like this) I would have 10000000 % reported that doctor
That one made me cry too. My dad speaks primarily Spanish and has a hard time understanding people that are me and my brothers or my mom. The idea that someone would (and have) treat/treated him that way kills me.
Asking TMI sex questions is literally in the job description for medical workers, no matter the field, but especially in the OB/GYN field. She was NOT breaking rules of consent AT ALL. It was so out of line for the friend to be saying she was crossing the line. The OB/GYN field is all about sexual health. That made me MAD.
Responses like the friend's / nurse's are exactly why people can be too uncomfortable to tell the doctor embarrassing medical stuff! Good medical professionals should make you feel like "I've heard it all, it's just science, I won't make you feel embarrassed at all, this is a safe place to be honest."
It wasn't even a sex question 😂 this nurse needs to call the on duty doctor to remove the stick out her ass.
For the one with the wedding, it’s not about the baby wearing white it’s the fact the mom feels so entitled to do whatever at a wedding that isn’t hers.
YEP - it’s absolutely the mom needing some weird form of attention all to herself
My take on the baby wearing white to the wedding - the mom totally wants extra attention for the baby & her on the wedding day. She's 3 AND the only grandchild? The baby's mom might be too passive to wear white to someone's wedding, but she could totally achieve some 2nd hand attention from having the only grandchild/baby at the wedding. Especially if she makes her a "tiny bride".👀☕
☕ This 100%. I bet the mom is an attention seeker
Yes she wants everyone to think she is the flower girl and get extra attention and photos.
the 3yo is already going to be getting attention being the only kid, that’s one of the reasons why some people have kid free weddings. the little girl is going to be dancing and talking to people, she’s probably going to be fussed over. like she will have enough attention, i think the mom wants some “oh she would’ve made a perfect flower girl” comments. like OP’s wife wants attention/attention for her daughter so badly, knowing that she would upset the bride and groom, upset her husband, and for what? to make it known she wasn’t picked as a flower girl?? definitely ick behavior. if i was the bride, i would strongly consider uninviting the wife, tell OP that he is welcome to come and she can’t wait to see the little one’s yellow dress. or straight up uninvite the daughter as well, because the three year old isn’t going to care about not being at the wedding, and it would make it clear to the wife that she does not call the shots and her desperate grab at attention is not being tolerated in the slightest
@@abbychurchya3496 exactly. I had a child free wedding for multiple reasons, this being one. My husband's sisters made a huge deal out of it. They thought it was because we didn't like their children 🤦 I honestly just don't believe 10+ children should be at a wedding!!
@@abbychurchya3496 well said!
Wedding story is a total teachable moment for a kid - "we're going to pick a different dress for you, because it's SUCH a special day for the bride, and she gets to be the only person at the whole wedding wearing white. So we get to give her a special gift and help her day be amazing by wearing different colors." You can't manufacture those chances for your child to learn, so it pays to embrace them when they come along.
Love love love the show!
Right!? And you could even make a day of it to create a fun memory for your daughter. Bring her to the store and let her pick out her own dress. Take her to Claire’s and let her pick out some jewelry to wear with it or some new nail polish. She’ll be excited to wear the dress that she picked out, the bride will be happy that she’s the only one in white, and you’ve spent a nice day out with your child.
I highly doubt a three year old gives a crap what she wears. It’s the mom giving a finger to the bride for not asking her daughter to be the flower girl. Besides, why are we teaching little girls how important and special weddings are? They will grow up dreaming and fantasizing about the “big day”. That’s how bridezillas are made. There are more important things in life.
@@smellykellybelly I nanny a 3 year old girl who certainly has some strong opinions about what she wears and she makes sure to vocalize them. A plain white dress, though, would not be at the top of her list. Hahaha
I went to the gynecologist to get an IUD. IUDs are extremely painful as it is but my doctor ended up putting mine in wrong which caused me to black out and vomit. I didn’t even ask for medicine but the doctor rolled her eyes at me, said that I was faking because “the pain wasn’t that bad” and told the nurse “oh great another college student wanting narcotics.”
I have been afraid to ask for any kind of medicine from a doctor in fear they will think I just want drugs. I have never abused drugs in my life but she is not the only doctor to treat me like an addict. On that note, they shouldn’t even treat people with substance abuse issues badly to begin with.
But yeah, it was a really terrible experiencing and when I went back to her a couple weeks later after severe pain, she refused to take my IUD out and prescribed me the birth control ring to go along with it. She also said that I had endometriosis and wanted induce early menopause on me when I was just 18. She gave me a bunch of pamphlets and I went home crying. My IUD ended up falling out a few days later and I was perfectly fine afterward. I never ever went back to her.
That is terrible and very unprofessional. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Some people can be truly cruel.
That is so wrong. I'm sorry this happened to you. I've had a similar experience while getting my blood drawn. The phlebotomist didn't know how to properly draw blood, so she stabbed me multiple times. I get very lightheaded from getting my blood drawn, so I almost ended up passing out. The phlebotomist told me I was being overly dramatic and getting your blood drawn isn't a big deal. I'm like dude... I can't help the physical reaction I have. Some people should not work in healthcare.
I also have an IUD horror story. My doctor told me to take ibuprofen before I came, as if that was going to help. Left me in the room alone legs still in stirrups, & left the door wide open, I had blood down my legs & I was so dizzy and sick. They just left me there until my mom came and cleaned me up & helped me. They came in while I was cleaning myself up to tell me to hurry because they needed the room.🥲
Im so sorry you had this terrible experience... that was so bad D:
@@randiwest4221 god that is so awful. Im so sorry you went through that. Seems like many of us have traumatic stories like this. They also told me to leave when I got mine. They were annoyed at me because I was in so much pain I couldn’t move without puking so I laid on the bed and she got super impatient with me. One of the nurses was actually advocating for me and helped me to the bathroom and tried to ask the doctor to prescribe me medicine. Such a horrible doctor.
Okay, the boob job story- throw the whole guy away. Being a woman who actually likes her body and now he’s withholding sexual intimacy from her because of a part of her that she’s confident about? He’s not a man, he’s a child. My heart is with her because she’s always going to have it in the back of her head that someone she liked, didn’t like them.
I have the same opinion
It really pissed me off!!! I felt so triggered. My ex wanted me to get a boob job, too and always made me feel inadequate. I’ve got a 34C so they’re not huge but wtf.
@@KitCat898 ugh that's so awful, I would have told him to get a D*ck job. All men have is the audacity
I've also struggled with my boob size and have considered wanting a reduction. Saying her boobs are "kinda gross" um first of all they're boobs they are not gross (lol). But second that sort of comment will definitely stay with her and she will always feel like the guy that she is with silently judging her. Also the fact that he's refusing to have sex with her or go down on her because of her boobs (???) Is completely stupid and feels a little manipulative. Also him saying he just had too much to drink, as if it makes yelling and kicking her out better? This one got me heated lol
He's a whole men. They met just before she turned 18 (so 17) and he would've been 31-32. very icky
I just wanted to comment about the story about the deleted text about the baby. Interestingly enough, I got pregnant by a man 7 years ago who didn’t want anything to do with me or the baby and blocked ME after I told him about it. Fast forward to now, I’m married to my husband who wants to adopt my son. The court made me hire a private investigator to find this man so I could have his rights terminated before the adoption could take place, despite me having proof of the texts that said he was blocking me and no contact whatsoever for over 7 years. There’s virtually no chance this woman would be able to keep him away from their kid, especially when he wants to be there and is willing to pay the child support.
I’m doing my makeup while watching and I literally paused and stopped my makeup to write this. I cannot believe the AUDACITY of that girlfriend telling her boyfriend she is embarrassed of him for crying after finding out his dog has cancer. She must be a heartless person because what the fuck.
Just paused my workout for the exact same reason. Seriously girl, what the fuck? He's really sad, get down on your knees and comfort him.
no literally i did this morning too! could not BELIEVE someone could be so heartless.
when i dropped off my guinea pig that passed the same day on christmas eve 2021, all the woman in the waiting room had to say to me was "hi sweetie" and i started sobbing. i could barely get a word out while saying thank you. i wish i wouldve had someone there to hug me or something.
Omg i literally was also doing my makeup💀💀💀🤚
I think the gfs emotions were consider embarrassing and dismiss by the people around her. She said that when her dad died she cried in private. Showing emotions is considered a weakness and you shouldn’t make them other peoples problems in my family. I have to remind myself sometimes I’m not the only one who has feelings and its normal to show them to others so don’t feel comfortable/embarrassed. She’s probably not heartless but she should go to therapy bc that can turn into a much bigger problem.
Vet clinics ARE an appropriate place to have an emotional breakdown over a pet, I just did it last month. She was just back-pedaling to make herself look better lol
The toxicity in l&d nursing needs to go. Here is a story. I was 20 when I had my kid. At 23 weeks, I was having extreme cramping. I was telling the nurse and she ask if I was drinking enough water. Or your probably having a uti. Nope. Those were real contractions and I dilated 0.75. My doctor heard her and asked if she was the doctor. To which she replied no. So my doctor say don't diagnose my patients then.
My friend lost her baby because a nurse kept dismissing her symptoms. She was pregnant and in severe pain and the nurse kept saying she was fine.. She wasn't fine, and full term baby died shortly. So fucked.
@@Naejakire3 I hope she got fired or sued because that’s horrible
@beth9199 👏👏👏 what a wonderful Doc
@@Naejakire3 that person can not be in the medical field anymore and should be charged for manslaughter. My mom started having contractions in the middle of the night and the nurse told her to hold it in and not push cuz she wanted to nap. The morning round doctor did an emergency delivery after seeing my mom and I was born purple. Thank god I was fine.
@@smellykellybelly I read this and had to pause my life for 10 seconds in order let that sink in.
Intro: 00:00-2:23
Story 1: 2:24-17:22
This weeks partners: 17:23-18:33
Story 2: 18:48-29:54
Story 3: 29:55-38:34
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Thankyou so much for this!!
Thank you. They upload a lot of their episodes separately which is fine, but when I watch these I gotta skip around lol
All of these times are incorrect
My dad's best friend started flirted with me at 12 and 20 years later still does. My dad doesn't care. It's so uncomfortable. Once he called me sexy at 14 when he was 55. I feel OP's pain on that one.
May I suggest if you can, drop that father -
That’s disgusting. Your dad is disgusting for not giving a sh*t and protecting you
@@alexshaw8167thanks, I totally agree
People always take the easy route and just push these issues to the side rather than face them. It’s so frustrating.
@@deltaloraine so frustrating🤦🏾♀️
With the uncle story, the parents are not only doing a disservice to their child but also to the uncle himself. They are enabling him and eventually he will feel emboldened to act physically. They are leading him straight to a prison cell instead of helping him learn how to cope with his impulses.
Exactly, and boundaries can be set with people who act out sexually. The issue is they will have to make themselves uncomfortable by asking for outside help from professionals. Could be the case that he needs medication so he can better manage his behavior or a therapist can help them learn how to redirect him when he is sexually inappropriate. Very sad that they don't care about their child's comfort and instead turns it into a competition of who has it worse. It's also crazy how a parent can just sit there and listen a to a grown man flirt with their child and from the sounds of it, he's been doing this since she was very young
Yeah these parents absolutely fucking suck because eventually he will escalate cuz he sees there's no consequences for what he's doing. And they've already traumatized their child enough they should go to jail with him
this reminds me of a chicago med episode with a really genuine sweet couple, the episode starts with the husband rushing in the hospital and telling the staff he needs to speak to a doctor and then the wife coming in after him. they have a good relationship but recently he was having thoughts of harming his wife and he cant control his thoughts but he hasnt acted upon it yet so he decided to head straight to the hospital before something happens cause he acknowledges that he needs help.
I had an adult autistic male for a neighbor once and he would always flirt with the women around. Me and two other female neighbors spoke with his sister more than once about it but She always dismissed it, saying he was harmless and didn’t know any better. Some months later, he did it on the street with a random woman and got beat up so bad he had to spend months in the hospital. He stopped harassing women after that, but it is a shame it had to get to this… i feel like his sister could have prevent This if She had listened
@@isacarral2736whats crazy about that is he clearly had enough control to stop after he got his ass beat. So he should've been able to stop before.
I have had the same piercing for 10
years now and have had 3 kids and was never treated like this. I forgot to take it out when I went into labor with my first and the nurse just reminded me that we should probably remove it but it was up to me. There is nothing that fazes OB nurses in my experience, this nurse was out of line.
For anyone that wants the advice, TAKE IT OUT FOR BIRTH! I tore both directions with my oldest and my cliterous was involved 🥴 it was easy enough to put the barbell back in after a week with it out. I personally wouldn’t use a retainer in case of tearing or someone hitting it or accidentally yanking it out. Childbirth can get pretty hectic and no one is watching for jewelry.
this might be a tmi question but did it affect your ability to orgasm? feel free to ignore my comment if it makes you uncomfortable.
it tore in half?? 😨 oof ow i hope there wasnt any nerve damage :(
The wedding dress story happened at my wedding sort of and im still annoyed by it. A woman in my husbands family brought her 3yr daughter in white dress and veil and then proceeded to parade the kid all over and interrupt the wedding photographer to take photos of her daughter with me and my husband and every person and item in the wedding. It was so narcissistic. I then found out she does this at other ppl’s weddings too. Once she interrupted a bride’s walk down the isle to take a pic of the bride with her daughter
would be booted out of my wedding
@@doinkeykong right? try to interrupt me walking down the aisle and you’re getting thrown out lmao
Uhm....what
People lose their damn mind at weddings. That mom must have major main character syndrome.
I think you're 100% with this. The 3yo's mom is the issue here, sounds like she's got a beef with the bride and groom or is wanting to do it to divert attention from the wedding couple. Feels narcissistic.
As a mom with insomnia, this couldn’t have uploaded at a better time. Random bath at 3:00am and some ✨tea✨
a student doing her final project lol
Glad to know I’m not the only insomniac that likes to take a late night bath! ❤️
As a mother, those 3am baths just hit different. Surreal and magical 💕💖
@@lunaisbellavalentine1823 I’m not a mother yet but I can definitely see myself doing this when I have children. I absolutely love taking baths! It’s so therapeutic for me!
These girls are so calming too!
My boyfriend and I love listening to THT together and then pausing and having our takes on the story. I feel like I have learned so much about him from these podcats. It also helps with our intimacy because we don't do "the deed" lol
from the uk and i've just recently left medicine because of things i saw firsthand that you guys discussed in the first story. i was reprimanded for taking time with patients, actually speaking with care, advocating for patients and trying to give them good care. i couldn't stand it, so i left. it's so unbelievably frustrating, because that takes a toll on the mental health of people trying to help people (which is why i decided to take a break initially) - it's awful. we aren't here to judge, we're here to HELP. but no one actually wants to, and when you do you're bullied.
Thank you so much for sharing. Makes me so sad that medicine lost someone like you, when its exactly what it needs!
@@TwoHotTakes thank you for replying something so kind
I was cuddling with my bf and listening. He grabbed my body and told me “I love your body, I’d never ask you to change it” it made me cry. I’ve had weight loss/gain so I have some saggy skin on my thighs and belly. I’ve considered getting surgery but dread the idea of the pain and money of it. I said “you don’t think I should get my fat removed?” He said “of course not. Didn’t I lay my face there yesterday? I love you for you. Don’t pay money to change yourself when you don’t need too” 🥺💕 I can’t believe assholes like the guy in that story exist. But I feel so lucky to have my bf. I’m seeing myself through his eyes, and it’s making me love myself. I know that’s cheese. It’s been an uphill battle my entire life with my body
This is so lovely, I'm so glad you have such a wonderful partner who loves you for you ❤That is true love to me. Our bodies will change and age our entire lives, and someone that accepts you wholly for who you are, regardless of how you look, is someone you can grow old with. Thanks for sharing this
Thr
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Reisurrance is my love language
The dog with cancer one pissed me off .
When my girl died I was Howling at the vet, they had to take me out the back door .
I’m sorry for your loss
I wouldn’t be mad at a baby for wearing white Id be mad at the parents for putting the baby in white lol
I wouldn't care that a kid was wearing white but also WHY?? Kids are messy. That dress is gonna be ruined in 5 seconds
I never understood dressing up the baby to also look like a bride, like let the kid look cute, but sometimes those flower girls look like a mini bride, and the dress looks like a miniature version of something an Adult Woman would wear
@@clairesmallwood2953 yeah my dress as a flower girl when i was in my aunt and uncle’s wedding was white and definitely resembled a brides dress. i don’t see it as weird per se but it does make me wonder why that’s the norm.
Kind of creepy, is the idea for a small child to look like a bride or the bride to look like a child…?
For the boob job story that’s very typical “I’m 34 and dating a 20y/o” behavior
i was fr WAITING for someone to mention how weird this is 😭
Righttt?? lmao
She’s 20, he’s 34
Not to mention she said they met right before her 18th birthday making them 17 and 31
Seriously, the whole time I was thinking in my head “ DUMP HIM DUMP HIM DUMP HIM”
As a nurse I'd say all legitimate medical questions should be comfortable to talk about. The only time I feel like I've had my consent violated was by co-workers, friends or family. No! I don't want to hear about you ball problems. You are not my patient and I don't want to talk about that.
Horrified that the nursing student friend said she was in the wrong for asking. Two bad nurses in that story.
The dog one got me. I worked in a vet clinic and we often had people breakdown during euthanasias. We had a couple come in to have their elderly dog put to sleep. They both cried. People should not police others’ displays of grief and despair.
I’ve had a dog put to sleep and I’m pretty sure the whole vet clinic heard me bawling my eyes out. It felt like someone ripping my heart out.
My babysitter who I’m still close with to this day asked me to be her flower girl! I was 19 and so excited hahaha everyone loved it!
thats so cute
Hey for the last story, the guy did a final update in May;
"It's quite a long story so the more condensed version is that I've met my daughter, my ex and I handled the custody and support agreement ourselves (still signed off by the court), we're both committed to making this co-parenting thing work and it's been going well so far. My wife and I are back at home and both excited about her nearing due date. We've decided to move on.
The longer version: The last update ended with my ex threatening to fight me in court. Well, the lawyer I'd arranged suggested we give mediation a try and set that up with her lawyers and this mediator. Overall the mediation went quite shit and seemed to be more detrimental to us ever cooperating. We only had two actual sessions and both were just filled with unnecessary fighting and no resolution. Funny enough it was the chaos at the mediation that kind of proved to both of us we weren't interested in fighting each other indefinitely and she reached out late in the evening after the 2nd mediation asking to meet up the next day. In that meeting, we talked things out and listened to one another. Sorted through some baggage from our relationship as well as spoke about what exactly had been going on the past 5 years. Hours long conversation but it was totally worth it. We agreed that we'd make it work and put our daughter in the forefront.
A meeting was arranged for me to drive over and see my daughter face to face and I did. At the time I wasn't introduced properly to her as her father and she obviously was cagey around this random dude around but it was still great seeing her that first time. She was/is seeing someone to help with my transition into her life and i've since been properly introduce to her and she's started calling me papa so things are going stunningly smooth and she's coping really well with it all. Plus my ex has floated around the idea that if she could find a job/better job where I am she'd consider moving so distance isn't too big of a problem though that's still a big if. For now, I'll just keep driving up to her until we're acquainted enough to allow her to make the trip to me.
The last update on my wife left things at my sister posting about everything and my family fighting with my wife. My sister has removed the post and apologized to my wife although not sincere but still an apology. Still ongoing but attempts of reconciling my family and wife are going more or less well. My wife momentarily moved to stay with her parent to get away from everything for about a month but has since moved back to the house with me as we're soon expecting the birth of our child in the up and coming weeks. All extremely excited over that and we've worked through our issues. I'm sure most of you will be disappointed by this but I do 100% believe my wife and trust that she isn't some conniving person. She's still the woman I love and we're all to blame for the circumstance that led to this whole situation. All we can do is focus on the future.
Big thanks to everyone who's offered their support and wishes as well as advice. I truly do appreciate all of it. And that's it. Signed off- a happy dad of (almost) 2"
honestly Alejandra is my all time favorite guest like i’ll even rewatch the episodes with her i value her opinions so much
My Golden Rule: never go down on a man before he has done anything for me. Haven't had penetrative sex or him go down on me yet? hahaha never. pull your weight my dude.
period exclamation point
I won't even be with a man who isn't willing to give oral, especially when he expects it. I'm so tired of guys like that.
My dog of 10 years died last month. I cried so hard and ao loud I thought my lugs were going to give out before I calmed down. I'm sure the whole clinic heard me. But my family, and the vets were nothing but supportive. My girl meant everything to me. I had a rough up bringing and she was all I had sometimes. My whole face was bright pink and I was physically weak walking out of there holding the box that my baby was in. Everyone was looking and honestly I'm sure they felt nothing but sympathy.
Hypothetically, if you deleted a message 5 years ago from an ex, how would you know immediately that what it said was about his child... If she hadn't read it she probably wouldn't even remember doing it, let alone bring it up the second he finds out. That's my take.
The dog guy one made me so angry, my dog passed away last year and i couldn't say goodbye and i found out a few days later, i broke down at work, ugly crying; LOUDLY ugly crying, and no one dared to show anything but empathy, one of my coworkers teared up with me while holding my hand; my boss (who is an awful person) told me to go home to cry it out, gave me money for a taxi and next day asked me if i felt like going, even awful people have soft spots for pets, you have to be an special kind of horrible to react like that to your super vulnerable boyfriend. This is a posible traumatic event, how can you react like this.
If someone tells you your friend is dying, of fucking course you're going to breakdown
I am sorry for your loss. Your story shows really well, how most people get the love between humans and pets. It is universal.
I literally asked a nurse about my BELLYBUTTON PIERCING when I was pregnant and whether or not to use a retainer and she responded the SAME WAY. It made me feel terrible about myself 😔
Wtffffff people need to not be a nurse if they can’t keep their mouth shut
I think those types of women are jealous of free spirits.
So for the 1st story, as a nurse myself, that’s is an absolutely unprofessional and disgusting response from the nurse and it should be reported. As for the friend, there is a reason she is ‘studying to be a nurse’ and not an actual nurse. You learn the most once you have your license and are out of the floor yourself and anyone who is an actual professional in the friend can tell you that was completely inappropriate.
As for the wedding dress story, I will be wearing a black dress but only my closest friends know that and our wedding invite will explicitly say no white dresses despite that. I’m fine with simple black dresses for guests if they want, since they won’t know what I’m wearing, but EVERYONE knows that the automatic rule is don’t wear white to the wedding. The OP handled it so well, however the wife is completely in the wrong. Yes it a child so I would not be threatened, however the bride was appropriately asked prior and said no. They reason it’s not ok is because the child at 3 doesn’t care about what she is wearing and the mother KNOWS that rule of no white dresses and thinks that her opinion is more important than the actual bride’a and her event.
Yeah, I think it's a little weird that the wife got really mad about that. I'm sure there's something going on, but I don't want to think that she was purposely doing it to be petty. If she's the only grandchild she was more than likely trying to bank off more attention and thought she could play it off because no one can get mad if she's the only grandchild.
I really thought the nursing student friend would tell her to report it, but no, she had weird opinions too!!!
as a student radiographer I totally agree. Yes you get asked random questions all the time but in this case the patient was prompted by the Nurse to ask her question. As medical staff you are to act impartial and neural no matter the circumstances. When I ask my AFAB patients if there is the possibility or chance of pregnancy for radiation safety I responded calmly and provide a neural answer. I was horrified at the first story!!
Alejandra said something so important about “never planting the seed that someone needs to get work done”
thank u for using translating services 💓 Im a medical interpreter and work on the daily with thousands of doctors and nurses. Every patient is always thankful for the services provided towards them with interpretations. Everyone deserves the right to not have a language barrier interrupt their health care❣️
The breast augmentation one struck a nerve for me. My college boyfriend chose the moment that I got home from having my wisdom teeth removed to lay there and ask me if I would consider getting a boob job. I was a mess, I had a rough surgery because they were impacted. I bawled my eyes out and he left me there recovering from surgery to go play beer pong. I was done. I dumped him and my roommate helped me recover from surgery. Come to find out, he swiped a couple of my pain pills while he was using my bathroom. Bullet 🚄 dodged 🔫
Edit: I did end up getting it done, 5 yrs later. But his ass never got to enjoy them. 😂🤓
The story with the wife deleting the message from the ex: my God, what an awful story. This is an impossibly difficult situation. OP will never not resent his wife every single day for the rest of his life. She took a choice away from him, a life altering choice. BIG YIKES. The best thing she can do is give him space to heal. It's up to him if he decides to forgive her and she needs to understand that.
Also, what’s the timeline of the wife being pregnant, is she lying not to get left? Feels like his life was stolen (at least to be it would be), seems super creepy.
@marianadineva14 I know this is old but OP's wife is 21 weeks pregnant, op knew for two weeks, and it happend 5 years prior. Saying it was on purpose to not get left behind is a mega reach there. If that were the case she'd have gotten pregnant way earlier.
Alejandra supremacy!!!! Love her takes and also how she talked about her first initial response vs validating afterward. I always talk about how your first thought is what you formed from society (“eww”/second hand embarrassment) and your second thought (no they’re able to do that/validating the choice/action) is what you yourself formed!❤️
As one of the multiple girls in my family who has been sexually groomed, molested, and raped by the “weird/ funny uncle” in the family, the family always makes excuses for these creeps. I wasn’t the first or the last and it has been 10 years since he actually assaulted me, let alone the grooming, and I have told many people in my family exactly what he did to me, including cyber bullying and blackmail, and they don’t care because “he is family”… GIRL GO NO CONTACT. It was the best thing for my mental health.
Agreed. My sister was sexually assaulted by one of the uncles and he's always been a creep and trying to touch our thighs and make jokes about our clothing etc. So we always wear less form fitting clothing around him because the rest of the family won't stop inviting him to events. He works a lot so it's rare he's around at events but when he is there, we stay away from him and we don't stay long. No one in our close family (parents/ siblings) like him and we all make sure to look out for each other but other family (aunts/grandparents) pretend it didn't happen. It's so stupid.
The mom wanted everyone to assume the 3 year old was the flower girl, and assumed the bride and groom wouldn't cause a scene over it .and by asking he ruined her "plan"
Spot on. She knew what she was doing was inappropriate and was mad at her husband for asking about it because then she couldn't get away with it.
Flower girl stories... one of my best friends had their 2 great grandmas be the Flower girls! It was hilarious & so fitting to their personalities.
aww
For the baby in a white dress story
It's not about being upset that the baby is wearing white to your wedding. The baby(like you all pointed out) would be happy in anything. It's the mom that made her wear white. That's why it's ick . It's not being mad that the baby is wearing wearing a white dress, it's being mad that the mom intentionally put her in a white dress.
Nurses/doctors *ignoring patient concerns and blowing off questions *
Also nurses/doctors: "why do patients trust Google more than me??"
right!!!!!!
Ok we got our recent Lauren episode, we got our Alejandra episode today, now we just need the triple threat back!
I missed Alejandra so much!!! I always like how calm and mature her takes are ✨
I loved this episode, thanks a lot Morgan for making my week AGAIN ♥️
This podcast really helps me in making informed decisions but also being able to understand different perspectives and I really think just that alone is important for emotional maturity
The part you mentioned where the doctor was really apathetic towards the stroke patient reminds me of my own mom. She was left paralyzed, couldn’t speak, couldn’t write, etc and all the doctors and nurses I met were so rude to her and the home health care nurse she had abused her and even outside of a health care perspective people in general were rude and I hate this lack of empathy people have. That might’ve been the 40th stroke that doctor diagnosed that day but that doesn’t mean you can just roll your eyes and be annoyed
I’ve been re-listening to some pods and Alejandra is so cute because she speaks as if she’s not sure if she’s “right” but usually she’s 100% spot on 😭
The second story makes me so angry. My uncle SA-ed me when I was little. He has bipolar and it really pisses me off when they bring up the fact that he has mental illness and life is hard for him. While I can empathize with him and what he goes through I am always reminded of the fact I have PTSD now because of him and his actions. (I also have Borderline Personality Disorder from other familial trauma). I have made the decision as an adult to stop seeing him, since he is also violent. This might be my trauma talking but F*ck OP’s family. It’s ridiculous this whole mentality of “well let’s just wait for something bad to happen.” And even when something happens people turn a blind eye.
I only know of ONE person who established boundaries and pressed charges when their child was SA-ed by a family member, AND their family refuses to see THEM not because they pressed charges.
Family shouldn’t equal a “free pass” to SA. NOTHING should ever equal a “free pass to SA”
You’re so strong and I’m sorry you had to go through this. You’re absolutely right it’s unfortunately common and I’m sorry you didn’t have the support from your family in that time but we hear and see you ❤️
I can relate to you in so many ways! It’s gross that people excuse predatory behavior bc it’s their brother, uncle, son! It’s so unfair to children who have absolutely no way to advocate for themselves.
Loved this setup a lot. Was watching before bed felt like we were all getting cozy
OK this nurse does not work at an ophthalmologist office. For her friend to say that talking about a piercing in her genital region is violating an Obgyn nurses consent is the stupidest shite I’ve ever heard.
Same. That part has me mad. They’re literally vagina nurses.
I literally was on the verge of tears hearing the story about the guy and his dog. I have had to experience my husband putting down his dog, who he has had with him for 13 years. I had to hold back my own tears to allow him his time to grieve and hold her as she passes. A dog/cat or any animal is not just a pet, they are family as you both put it. Loss is loss, pain is pain and I'm so sorry that man did not have the support he needed at that difficult time.
About the flirty uncle story: It depends on what kind of mental illness is present. In cases of hypersexuality or sex addiction or a mental disability that affects the recognition of boundaries, it would make some sense why he’s very sexual/flirty in general interactions - *BUT* if those traits influence the people around them negatively in a „not feeling safe“-way (not in a „I’m uncomfortable with seeing symptoms of mental illness“ way) then the caretakers are *obligated* to guide them and talk about boundaries and consent. This should already be a part of their treatment as well. Having a mental illness is a reason but not an excuse for the caretakers of the affected to not do their job.
I agree. My stepdad's father had actual delusions (this was just before he was diagnosed with brain cancer) and one time thought I was a waitress at a bar in Cuba. He flirted with me as if I was that woman because that's what he saw me as. It wasn't malicious, it was a delusion.
OP mentions in her post that she thinks the flirting from her uncle is because of his delusions, so I'm wondering if it's a similar thing?
There is a big difference between uncle having depression and delusion. But the parents are huge assholes.
I agree completely however OP sounds like she is an adult. I KNOW times are difficult but if the reason the uncle is doing this is mental illness ( that we are unaware what it is and how desabling it is) then he probably needs lots of help. We don't know if grandparents are still around and may be the reason the dad feels responsible. Being an adult if I don't feel comfortable I remove myself from the situation and figure it out.
The girlfriend who was embarrassed by the boyfriend crying: 1000% sure this is a taught behavior. Likely was told repeatedly at an early age something like "look at everyone watching you cry" as a way to embarrass her into stop crying in public. To be clear, it doesn't justify her toxic values
I seriously adore Alejandra! She's so fun to listen to, has great input and is literally the most stunning ever.
Alejandra, look into PCOS. I’ve struggled with irregular cycles my entire life and was diagnosed in 2019. I was shocked.
YES! I immediately thought the same
I hope things have gotten better for you since your diagnosis. I can't imagine how frustrating that must feel 😔
@@HannahCrier You’re so sweet 🥺 I’m super thankful that it doesn’t cause me any discomfort or pain but it does make getting pregnant difficult. Thank you for your kindness ❤️
im 17 and i think i might have it, im scared lol :(
My dogs are my babies and I would be bawling at the vet if I got that news as well. That’s like people who says “it’s just a dog” like geez, no they are practically my children who I’ve had since they were puppies.
Dude fr sometimes I cry just thinking about the fact that I'll probably have to put my cat down one day, let alone finding out they have cancer
Exactly!! They’re our babies. If someone can’t understand how important a pet’s life is to me, out of my life. I have no patience for someone who’s going to disregard and invalidate my feelings, let alone say that my pet’s life is not important.
For sure! I have a human child and I feel like my dog is a close second.. She is my baby too and I love her so much. I'd be devastated.
Hearing y’all talk about expectations for relationships really really helps me realize where I and my ex could have done it better. Thanks girlies
Yup... When I went to my first baby doctor appt i brought my husband (bf at the time) in the room bc i was terrified. During, the male gyno went on a rant about me potentially lying about the father... While my husband (who is the father) in the room. I was horrified and embarrassed he would eben assume that. Quietly told the nurses station after i never want to see that man again
What the fuck was wrong with him?? That's such a strange assumption to make...
@@mcrfanabasowattvon the wonderful nurses understood completely. It wasnt the first time this had happened. He was an old man with old values of being married before having kids. Me being 20 and unwed was a huge bother to him.
We need a dedicated episode for the absolute queens who leave toxic and/or abusive situations and hearing them thrive ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
In relation to the last story. My boyfriend found out his ex is pregnant about a month after we started dating. I would NEVER do anything to prevent him from speaking to the ex or him seeing his child. If you love someone you want the best for them. Deleting it is so selfish.
I'm a 24M, im from France and since I discovered THT i realy watched everything from the most recent up to 8~9 months back, I really think it helps me to step back and grow (as a person/as a man) and I think it makes me evolve even if I already thought I was someone quite open-minded person
perfect upload time, currently recovering for giving birth n cant sleep. been watching this podcast all week nonstop
Rest up and hope you feel better soon!!
@@TwoHotTakes definitely thank you so much, may the gods bless you
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! 🥳🥰🎉
omg ur baby is a year old now yay :)
@@barbecuedsimsbaby he sure is and we still watch every episode
For the last story, I 100% believe the wife read the message and got scared that the ex would baby trap her future husband and destroy her ‘future’ with him. But even if he did read the message I say that the ex would just want child support and not him based off the fact he said he was a terrible boyfriend to her.
Morgan u n ur circle give me so much life
Daryl Jean you supporting me and this pod gives me so much life!!!
The first story GRINDS my gears. When I was pregnant it was peak Covid-19 and during the boom of pandemic babies, my doctor was always busy, but you better believe if I had a question they would do everything in their power to answer! This is a time of vulnerability and what you need the most is support, especially from your OBGYN or whoever is taking care of you during that time
Also edit: why does a piercing, tattoo, or anything on your body dictate if you’re a good/loving mother😭
I was in a car crash and needed to get my neck and upper chest x-rayed, I have piercings on my chest and when I asked the nurse about it she was EXTREMELY professional and sweet, she laughed gently and said no I should be fine. That is how the first story should have been handled. They are NURSES AND DOCTORS?!? She wasn’t inviting them into her bedroom life, she was asking a medical question about her body and since she’s having a baby, and they are assumably doctors and nurses in that specific field who are tending to a lady’s bits all day, it shouldn’t have made her that uncomfortable??
Just recently found you guys and honestly, these quickly became my comfort videos 😊❤️
Honestly, heard my wife listening and talking about yalls and seemed interesting so I checked out and is hooked! ☺️😁
"I've never cried that way, even as a woman" the misogyny is coming from inside the house
White dress to the wedding one:
A) how stressful keeping the kid clean all day in white.
B) it's a hand me down dress so it's not that big a deal to get another
C) it's polite to ask and if that's how the bride feels that's how the bride feels 🤷♀️
Personally I wouldn't care but the husband 100% did the right thing
Agree 100%
Exactly. The bride and groom get to pick the rules for their wedding, and that’s that.
@@deltaloraine my guess with the dress being a described as a hand me down is that it the dress was previously a flower girl dress and wife is actually upset that her daughter isn't one so is dressing her to look like one otherwise why the over reaction 🤷♀️
Thank you so much for the things you said about body image. Especially finding someone that loves you where you're at. I needed that and I feel so encouraged!
So happy y'all posted! I was getting ready for work and needed something to listen!
Have a good day at work!!
Your channel keeps me so much company while I am home alone working late night hours, i’m always hoping for a new video and I’m so glad you enjoy doing what you do because I feel a bit less alone thanks to you 💕 Well actually I had never thought about this but you allow me to enjoy my alone time so much more and in a very different way, hugs
im right there with you girl. I caught some nasty flu or something, its not covid because i tested negative but omg im barely getting thu. Thank god you all uploaded. finally something to help sleep through the night XD
It's been rough. Justin's got the vid but I'm still testing negative. Hope you feel better soon!!
Time stamps because I don't know how to work them apparently lololol
00:01:53 : Story 1 The Nurse
TW: SA !!!! 00:18:31 : Story 2 The Uncle
00:29:44 : 3 y.o in White Dress at a wedding
00:40:04 : BF mad about boob Job
00:56:40 : BF + dog at the vet
01:13:39 : Wife and text message...
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(TW for mentions of SA) For the first story: the nurse was completely in the wrong.
But I’d like to add, while this piercing IS a sexual piercing, not all genital piercings are done for sexual reasons, for example: I got my nips pierced after I was assaulted. It was extremely healing for me, and not sexual at all. I did it to reclaim my body as my own and I felt incredible and confident and brave after, knowing that it was my body for me to do with what I please.
I know that's not the point, but nipples are not a part of genitalia, therefore the piercing isn't "genital".
Why is it sexual? You think nipples are also sexual piercings? Just because it's on a part of the body covered by underwear doesn't make it sexual. If someone has a tattoo in those areas are they also sexual? This concept is so weird.
@@CamDollar also, if you’re asking why a CHP is sexual-it’s because it actively aids in the achievement of orgasms for people who have issues orgasming. But yeah, you just ignored the whole point that I made which is that: it’s not sexual for all of us? Breasts are erogenous zones. That’s science. But… again… my point was that it’s NOT SEXUAL FOR SOME OF US
@@faceofvision yeah, you’re right. That wasn’t the point. A woman opens up about being assaulted, and her healing journey there after and your first thought was “gotta fight semantics”. Read the fucking room.
@@mars4541 it literally wasn't a personal attack or an attack on your trauma. I'm sorry for what happened to you, and I myself have nip piercings for non sexual reasons, so I relate on some level. I'm just correcting one word, and you're acting like I invalidated your assault. Nipples/boobs not being genitalia doesn't invalidate whatever happened to you and in no way was I trying to do it.
I love the Alejandra episodes! I always find myself agreeing with almost all of her takes!
I love these, makes me feel like I have some girlfriends talking about gossip 🤣🤣❤
I would love to hear Morgan's take on medical or other crazy hospital reddit stories!
Alejandra laughing at Morgan for being hypothetically mad a baby would show up in white made me cackle 😂😂😂😂 I gotta agree with Alejandra on this one lol
For real 😂
samesies
@@infjandcoping4614 yeah I agree. I just wouldn't care if a 2 foot tall human did it.
My favorite episodes are with Alejandra, absolutely adore her ♥️
I took my cat into the vet when he was choking, literally struggling to breathe and I was a complete MESS. When they took him into the back my heart started racing and everything went black for a few moments. I was taken to the far back room, had a full panic attack with the kindest staff giving me hugs and water and checking on me almost every 30 seconds with updates on my boy. For anyone wondering, he is perfectly fine now, he has an obsession with plastic and my house is now on such a lockdown that I cannot even have plastic trash bag liners because he went so crazed not having any sort of plastic around that he might be able to find that he started eating things he normally would leave alone - including trash bags. It’s been a weird change, but pets are family and you cannot blame someone for how they react to their diagnosis or injury. The AITA Reddit says accept your label and she CLEARLY refused to accept she is TA.
I love when you guys are in bed because I’m usually in my cocoon when watching the visual version… such comfy and safe vibes💕
My daughter (8 yr) had to go under anesthesia to get two molars pulled and I have bad anxiety. So I was the only parent at the dental surgery lobby sobbing and I kept calling my sisters and mom and they kept telling me everything would be ok. After we left I felt a tiny bit embarrassed but honestly I don’t think any other parent even took notice to me, like they where probably worried about their own tiny human,
I've been listening to you guys for a while and you're one of the only podcasts that my boyfriend will sit and listen to with me. Obviously I get more heated than he does during them, but to see that he would be with me 100% in situations like this has made me feel so much better about our future together. We absolutely love you guys
THE UPDATE ABOUT THE TEENAGER DATING THE 30+ YEAR OLD MAN!!! I could cry, good for her. I'm so shocked that neither of you mentioned the 14 year age gap.
I resonate with Alejandra so much in this episode, giiiirl I really like you :) more Alejandra pleasee!!
My mom refused to let me go to where my dog was being buried because “I was going to make a scene by crying and make everyone else feel worse”. I was 12/13 and this was my family dog we’ve had since I was 2.
I really like the comments at the top of the screen it gives good context thank you😊
For the obgyn one- you can deny to talk to a nurse about things when you’re pregnant and only talk to a obgyn. It is perfectly normal to ask about all piercings pertaining to pregnancy and birth
When I lost my 6.5 year old furbaby to cancer I was a complete trainwreck. A hysterical, sobbing, snotty mess. She would have been mortified by me. What a terrible person. She clearly has never owned a pet of her own.
I'm so sorry💜🙏 *hugs and prayers
My dogs are my people n mean the world to me
At a friends wedding they had the whole traditional flower girl thing, but they had a grown man be a “beer guy” instead of having a ring bearer. He walked down the aisle with a small cooler handing out beers to the guests right before the start of the ceremony.