Would you rather have authenticity or affectation? If you ask me, a lot of young women these days need this kind of interaction in their lives. We need to teach girls better social skills because a lot of them don't know how to handle real world confrontation since their family and friends have given them the idea that they can hide from all of their problems.
@Zenigundam bro what? You think more young women need to deal with obsessed social-retards? No hate to the guy's texts in the vid but he definitely isn't normal, I think interacting with these people will change nothing.
My initial reaction was “wow I can’t believe she didn’t tell him off sooner” And then I learned that all these messages were sent while she was in her one class.
Yeah really I was like okay buddies been going hard all night. He was cheddars then did some bar hopping then playing pool so maybe it started at like 5pm but now is around 11. But Jesus. An hour and a half… all I’m gonna say is I’m actually impressed he didn’t rage at her/this ended as professionally as it did.
the fact that guys have to worry about that now basically means dating is much harder than before. Not that creepy people shouldn't be exposed but everyone is awkward sometimes and tbh you can't control the other person's actions, so you can't predict if/when they'll screenshot your convo. I've seen dudes who aren't even creepy get screenshotted and posted online. Basically tryna say it's a pretty scumbag move to post someone you're talking to's private conversation online.
@@thekamotodragonlmao and if they get posted online while not being weird, then who cares? and the woman would seem crazy in that situation. the solution is to not be weird or creepy. awkward is different, and if a woman “exposes” you for being awkward, then she’s a bitch and move on. what’s your actual point? or are you preaching some incel shit?
Its not about if a human is better then the other You could be both good and the other one is better does that make any matter for you that as well is good? Alone that thinking of you show me that you proply are not the best human and more of a hypocrite.
@@MrJimmyTide Bro you really run around in your life and talk with people about : " Oh watch he was so much a better person, oh she is just a bad person " You know what that mean? That people also will talk about you the same way If you run around rating other people how good they are compared to other Live like that but i dont wanna befriend with somebody who is always rating whos better and who not lol Everyone has good and bad sites on them If you cant realize that Youre not an adult ;) Youre insult proof me that.
@@sonicartzldesignerclan5763Yes, people have good and bad sides. If you're a Harry Potter fan, you already know what I'm going to say. "What matters is the side you choose to act on." If someone chooses to act on their bad side more often and shows little to no intention of changing, then that side becomes dominant and they become more of a bad person.
I think maybe he should be texting into the void. Instead of at a real person. Just create a new account that noone uses, and let these dudes just message it ad infinitum
@@JLRPGS wait what, everyone was giving out this one number. It was a hotline? Like people on the other end listening or was it a recording like "you were given a fake number, sorry, they just didnt like you". I can imagine the former if it was like a pay-per-minute, it might've been quite lucrative!
Imagine rejecting a random dude in college just to find out years down the line, that he became one of the lead actors in the critically acclaimed mockingjay part 1
I like how Charlie has been in an actual role in a movie now, but it's still an undeniable fact that nothing can beat his critical cameo in Hunger games
He barely seems literate, I don't think he was on that level. He probably just thought, "I'll make a classic joke about fucking two old ladies from the bar. That's funny!". It wasn't all that funny, but that's the most likely scenario.
Weird. I had a normal comment here and it vanished. It was just saying that he may have thought he was making a funny joke. Oh yeah, I said "the F word" in the comment. I guess you can't curse in comments in TH-cam or your comments gets deleted.
I just got war flashbacks from saying I love you to a guy I met once because he wasn’t texting me back after writing essays and I got desperate. Still makes me gag till this day. So glad I gained some sanity and self respect.
You just reminded me I did something like that before. I think I also called him like 100 times all night? No clue why I did that, I had just dumped an abusive boyfriend. Glad I never did something like that again
As there will always be one child prodigy way better than you at your lifelong passion, there will be always someone who is worse than you at your worst moment
My word of advice: don’t text people you’re interested in when drunk. I’ve gotten so many texts like that and it genuinely feels like you’re virtually babysitting a 24 year old man. You feel like by not responding they may do something stupid, but by responding you’re enabling the behavior and it’s all around just uncomfortable.
Indeed…but i thought women liked that cavemanrizz…or the iamacompleteilliteratecheesecakewhodoesn’trespectothersrizz Edit: u lot think im serious…mate im just kidding
@@skorpian3490 The more time you spend thinking about women, the more you would be wrong. Thinking beyond what their feelings are at the time, is usually off the table. In any situation involving women, imagine the most convoluted emotional payoff that could be conceived and then watch as somehow, coincidentally, the woman makes every decision needed to build the emotion to a a fever pitch and then pop everything for that exact emotional explosion.
It's like a game of ping pong. If you keep "pinging" the ball towards someone and they never serve it back, you're not playing a game with them. You're just hitting balls. Conversations should be a back and forth like a ping pong game.
I get overthinking and being paranoid, causing you to text someone a lot when they're not available. But THIRTY+ messages in an HOUR while he KNOWS she couldn't respond is so insane...
@@amongdae its shouldnt tho... Like I could understand him texting a few times and being a little impatient and extra lovey. It is not normal to text 33 times in a matter of hours, drunk or not.
My ex-boyfriend did this. He would spam me with text messages and calls every day, even when I told him I was busy and couldn't respond right away. I would call him out for it, then he'd apologize and say he'll never do it again, just to go back to texting me 50+ times a day. Over time, his messages progressively got worse, more threatening. To the point where he was threatening to hurt me if I didn't respond. When it comes to people like this, you need to be extremely cautious because they might seem harmless at first, only for them to reveal their true colors later on. I don't think this guy is bad or abusive in anyway, I think he was just too excited and desperate and didn't think about the repercussions of spamming someone with texts, he took the breakup like a champ and left her alone after that. But she hadn't been dating him for very long, so she didn't know him very well. She was most likely being nice because she didn't want to upset him out of fear of how he might react. The last thing you want to do is piss off someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, so it's best to stay on their good side just in case.
He's a dense guy that cant read the tone and spams. Hes literally texting like a guy thats never been in a relationship and never learned boundaries. its not like theyre dating, she has no obligation to treat him like some man-baby and teach him that what hes doing is wrong or annoying. its such basic fundamental communication, theres more to human communication that what is explicitly said. People are not obligated to date you, her not wanting to date someone for whatever reason is not a problem. "saying something bad" is not the only reason to not want to peruse a relationship with someone. spamming people is a very easy way to get them to nope out very quickly. Its pushy, desperate, and generally creepy af.
Respect to Charlie for saving countless middle and high school students’ from committing cringe with his words of wisdom. Wish I heard his advice sooner
Me too! I wish I'd heard it sooner, also... forget cringe, its literally social-suicide and may result in legit suicide due to the amount of shame-in-having committed such cringe! I'd know from how many times I've done it, the amount of suicidal-ideation-inducing-shame that enters my system from having done it, and being painfully aware, but not knowing/having the vocabulary/understanding it enough, to figure out what I'm doing wrong that makes people barely want to talk to me in a normal manner outside of my family. Although even inside my family... TOO LONG DIDN'T READ!
It is said that the "cringe" feeling comes from a place of empathy, putting yourself in the place of the subject, and then feeling second-hand embarrassment from it. Learning from those who make cringe mistakes, is a great way to not repeat them. We should also respecting that they could have been us at some point, so don't be too hard on them or yourself for it.
It's a philosophical thing. A person who's never owned a cellphone or sent any text messages of any type would never feel cringe or 2nd hand embarassment from a text interaction.
"glad you disrespected me" She was anything BUT disrespectful. She had more patience than anyone else would've had (me definitely included) in that situation.
Woah, what were you gonna do? Punch the air because a known person that is drunk msged you too much?Don't be so sensitive person, it makes you look like you have no friends or can't make any.
@@shihabsharar7457 I have been under the influence many times and I have not texted someone that much or have been that creepy. When you are drunk you have no filter and whatever you hide gets leaked out depending on what it is. Unless it's an emergency there is no reason to text someone like that.
Lol I did something like that to an old friend from school. When I was 14 I got a phone for the first time and I just started text vlogging my entire day to my friend for a few weeks before I realised she isn't responding anymore so I stopped and learnt all the unspoken rules of texting lingo. She is still my friend luckily.
i still kind of act like this, well not to this level, but i text my partner a lot and im horrible at social skills, he said hes okay with it but i still cringe and wonder why he stays lmao
oh my god i did this to my friend but with skype messages/emails, then she went to a different school and stopped talking to me altogether. i was so sad at the time but i get it now and i'm much better at communicating now, so i suppose this is just a lesson some people need to learn. i'm glad you were able to maintain your friendship, she sounds like a keeper lol
@@lemonmeatit's ok to do it if you two know each other lol. We do this with my bestie, since we live in different continents sometimes one is living the best life ever while the other one is snoozing, so we got used to just sharing our day even if the other one is not replying, and we're both ok with that and love it/find it funny. I think our record is like 50 messages (she goes crazy sometimes, I love it hehe)
yesssss but if you read through the texts apparently in the conversation before this, there was mention of keeping eachother updated... I think the dude just took it waaaay too litteral...
I really respect you for being someone that a lot of young men (probably) legitimately look up to and mentioning you used to engage those cringy and undesirable texting habits, but became aware of it and stopped. I was like that too, but it's probably more effective for guys if it comes from the mouth of someone higher profile
Yea man, people all have blind spots. And when you are young things seem so immediet. Like it needs to be done now! But that is normal. If you can look back and cringe you are doing it right.
"nobody likes to be pestered" is the best way to put it. ive dropped friends over (including other things) their inability to stop spam texting or breaking stories up into sentence long messages. Genuinely so annoying when you don't know when a string of messages will end
This is obviously not about social anxiety. If you both were like this too, than thats a problem of the way your communicating. Most of my friends have social anxiety but none of them would be a douchbag like this. I have social anxiety and i never did smth like that. The whole " I am such a good dude but this other looser said he could get more chicks! Paahhh" is not about social anxiety. It is more about a too big ego or maybe even narcism. Pls do not search excuses for behaviour like this. @@officialprincelouie
@@stevenhorstgeorg5728Dude he clearly said he’s glad he’s not like this anymore. Also people are young and have to learn things on their own, it’s not an excuse more of just saying that’s just young people learning, kind of like when a kid touches a hot stove and burns himself even though you told him no. He learned the hard way. Don’t be a dick.
I've had girls text me ten times over the course of about two or three hours (while I was working as case manager for HP which is a super demanding job) and then get super fucking mad when I didn't respond and tell me shit like "WELL I GUESS YOU JUST DON'T CARE THEN" Do don't this shit, it's annoying. It doesn't mean the guy/gal in question ain't interested, you'll know that if they just ignore you over the course of like a week.
Oh god. Those messages reminded me about how I used to act with my 1st online friend 😭 I would literally text him right when I woke up to the moment I went to sleep... He replied to me everytime but I still feel like i gave him mild ptsd
I have a few friends like this and I don't mind it. I enjoy the company. If he replied every time it shows he was enjoying it. Unless he told you specifically that it's annoying I wouldn't worry about it.
"You are my kryptonite" is wild 💀 Edit: Blatantly I get he's trying to say she's his weakness, but given the ego he displayed in the text messages, I think he unironically view himself as Superman
this reminds me of a kid i met in my senior year, i had just started night school to finish out my diploma and i met him in class. he was normal in person and then began doing shit like the person in this video in text, especially the photos, and telling me how much he likes me (we had just met within a week). eventually i shut it down but still had to see him in class. after graduation he shouted something at me from his car and one of his family members yelled “he loves you” out of it (it had been months since we last spoke). the icing on the cake was when, months after that, he started coming into my work and hanging around me and i had to get him trespassed from the building. my point with this is people like this are not always just cringy, they can be fucking creepy. stay safe out there!
oh no that sounds so fkn scary 😭 I've definitely had similar situations, mainly in school but all the way into university. also even in my job! i've had a customer find my facebook and snapchat to ask me on a date, despite me being 19/20 and him being 35 😀 its really hard to tell the difference between just a cringe guy who can't take a hint, and someone who's ACTUALLY creepy or predatory I hope you're doing well now! and that youre far away from that dude lmao 💗
@@Aaron-kj8dv Sadly a lot of this is learned behavior that starts in the home. But it could also be being unable to read situations properly. Also, just alcoholism heh
I did this, I had a crush who I thought was into me, she gave me her insta so we could chat, and I sent a message every other day for half a year without a response, eventually had a epiphany that she wanted nothing to do with me, glad I woke up Edit: some people are thinking this is some random person I met so I'll give more context, I was 13-14 in my first year of Highschool, we where hanging out everyday for a while, so we decided to start messaging, but eventually she just stopped responding, but I kept messaging for months. DEFINITLY WEIRDO CREEP BEHAVIOUR
@@zanderwight872Over that long of a time yeah, but also how hard would it be to reply after like a week and just say your not into it. I think it's a bit pathetic not to say anything after so much time has passed. I get confrontation is uncomfortable and can be scary, but of you just avoid it all the time of course you're going to be scared of everyone and everything.
@@RandomAhhCommentSpammer the way it works is it basically has two teachers, one that wants a formal/respectful answer and one that wants a creative and correct answer. it has to please both of these hypothetical teachers. TLDR: you are right, but you oversimplified it
I'm reminded of that scene from Meet Joe Black, "That's not love. It's some aimless infatuation that you feel like indulging. It's missing everything that matters-trust, responsibility, taking the weight for your choices and feelings and spending the rest of your life living up to them, and above all _not hurting the object of your love."_
I've very rarely double texted and it's been with good reasons. After two texts though, I leave it at that. And when someone tells you repeatedly they are busy, you let them be.
@WhiteCoc0 that's the biggest reason for my double texting. That and if I forgot to add something to the grocery list. Things that are always good reason. But I also only talk to a very select few people and my partner and I have a good relationship. He and I will sometimes forget something we meant to send or if one of us goes too long without responding (we're both epileptic) we send another text checking in on each other. Usually it's just me getting busy at work and forgetting he texted me and I was in the middle of responding to him lol.
If there's alcohol or other substances involved, put the phone on Airplane Mode, turn it off or make sure it's occupied with playing music, ANYTHING to keep this from happening. Also, if someone says that they're busy, then leave them to whatever they're doing, especially if there's family or schoolwork involved. Even if they're a friend or significant other, give them space and wait for them to finish up. Just be Chill!
Don't drink so much that you lose self control. I know most of us have been there but if you drink, you have to learn your limits and stay well within them.
Dis something similar while very drunk. Not as bad as this guy, but i sent an incomprehensible wall of text to an ex. Next morning I was really confused why I even did that. We broke up like 5 years prior and I also couldn't understand what I even wanted to say with that message.
It's funny how this basic advice that anyone without crippling autism would know is one of the top comments. Penguin has some creal creeps in his audience
CHARLIE PLEASE NEVER STOP THIS SERIES, I’ve been listening to them every day on the way to school bc I commute for an hour. I just ran out and it was like a junkie running out of their last fix for the first time. I wasn’t the same. I clicked on this video as fast as I saw the notification for it. Please I’m begging keep making these.
i have pretty bad anxiety and when people dont respond i can overthink it quite easily. it led to me doing this to my boyfriend quite bit so when he realised that i was doing it because i was getting anxious he sat me down and suggested setting a limit to myself of 4 small messages or 2 big messages and if he doesnt respond then he is busy and i should try to distract myself. i do still slip up sometimes but its honestly been really helpful in reducing the anxiety about how he feels about me and its helped him too for obvious reasons. i did have to ask that he avoids reading the messages til he can respond so i dont panic about being left on read but overall its really helped me with my mental health and its strengthened our relationship a lot. im still working on it but its helped a lot so far.
Omg your boyfriend is a fckn stud hun ❤ the ability to communicate and deal with little issues like this in a caring and respectful way is HUGE! Wishing you guys the best man, that was fckn wholesome
This is the reason why instead of immediately going to my friends when i have a lot on my mind, i like to write it down sometimes. I think a lot of people especially people like this should keep journals to externalize their thoughts. It really helps sometimes.
I’m glad Charlie said he used to be like this as well because I know I’ve definitely been there too. It’s that nervous drunk energy where you’re first falling for someone but don’t know if they feel the same way so you’re sorta nervous but excited about it and it just takes a few drinks and then them not replying actually only leads to you spewing more. It’s like how it’s easier to say something embarrassing in person if the other person isn't looking at you.
This happened was me in 9th grade, I would constantly text this one guy I was into and everything I said was always a red flag. It’s been a couple years and I’m glad I developed social skills since then.
Thanks, Dr. Phil. I admit I do the same things when I see people being genuinely abusive and antisocial, but we don’t need a full psychoanalysis for a dude who got shitfaced and oversentimental.
@@MrJimmyTide That is not normal behavior, even if shit faced. Anyone who partakes in alcohol has probably left a voicemail or texts to a loved one. Yanno, maybe a slightly long/incoherent "l care about you". But not 33 texts in a 1.5 hr span. If you think this is normal, you may be unsocialized or sheltered bruh. It is possible to be wasted and still understand boundaries.
I used to text people first, then I learned that double texting and trying to keep conversations going when the other person didn’t want to talk was a big no no and often made me look weird. Suffice to say I have no friends anymore.
Seriously, trying to message people can be like pulling teeth. A little over a year ago, I got the first ever message hitting on ME in a dating app, I was ecstatic. Then I tried a dozen times to set up a date or hang out, and after like 4-5 months she's suddenly dating someone else out of nowhere. Why did you even bother messaging me then?!
I absolutely love how open Charlie is, because, admittedly, I was the same way, but it was more of the desperate want for attention. I quickly realized once you don’t get a reply, it’s best to leave it. Definitely not cool to intrude on someone’s space every 20 minutes with messages. Plus I’ve learned to love my own space and more comfortable with who I am and do not need the attention. I like who I am, and that’s great enough for me. Be your own best vibe 🤙🏻 Great video as always Charlie! (The second-hand embarrassment in this video almost killed me)
I am in the same boat. Used to be desperate for attention (especially of the other sex), wouldn't get it because i was weird and obnoxious, learned to love myself instead, and now i am perfectly happy living in my own bubble and only interacting with a select few people. I would never trade my simple but happy life for that of a bustling, busy one at this point.
Yeah, I think it comes from a place of loneliness, but once you learn to enjoy your own company and get your life busy (don’t need to be work), you take care of the neediness
I swear Charlie never mistimed his uploads on the things I’m going through.. Few days ago I confessed to someone but unfortunately got ghosted by her, and the sense of having the urge to text her constantly to get her response is abysmal. Thankfully, I restrained. And this video helps me a lot by moving on with my life and thinking that I am not alone in this. Thanks, Charlie.
I'm sorry she ghosted you. She's allowed to do that, but its not technically the kinder choice. I'm sorry she didn't respond and at least give you the courtesy of acknowledging your feelings (even if it ends in rejection). I've totally been in your spot, and I feel u dude. You'll be okay 👍🏼
Hey man, you probably already know this, but I want to let you know that you didn't do anything wrong. Her actions don't reflect on how you should see yourself. People sometimes just have different tastes, and are in different paths in life.
As a once girl who had made it clear as I rejected a boy who confessed to me (we were classmates at secondary school - I thanked him for his sudden confession I didn't expect but appreciated it nonetheless) and also got ghosted by another boy - also a classmate who I confessed to (both happened in different times, but in the same middle school), I sympathised with you. Ghosting even when we're clearly in the same class and used to talk/befriend each other normally definitely traumatised me to this day and I grew up even more reclusive and unconfident due to that boy. The least they could do was to reject you directly just like when you confessed to them directly aka show the same courtesy.
I’m glad you can admit that Charlie I pretty much felt the same way and made the same mistake even after actively knowing I shouldn’t of but that’s the beauty of it, we are able to learn from our mistakes. The creeps are the ones that don’t
It’s so great to be able to watch these from a position of not being able to relate anymore. I used to kind of do this spammy texting too, although probably a little lesser of an extent lmfao. After learning to be not chronically online and have normal human interactions and being normal over text allowed me to finally enter a committed serious relationship 🙏 if you’re still struggling out there dating, it gets better gentlemen. There is hope
One of my past jobs involved policing people's inbox message reports on a social platform. The horrors I saw. For each of those that goes viral there are hundreds of horrendous messages that makes you wonder how such brains work :D
The most important part of socialization, whether on the internet or face to face, is to know when to give up. If someone isnt responding, just let it be. Nobody likes having their phone get blown up every 5 seconds
You don't just give up entirely because then you'll slip out of her consciousness. What you do is you allow time to pass so that she can make her mistakes. She's going to feel rather sheepish when whatever she wanted to happen with that other guy never materializes, and that's when you pounce on her and chastise her for her poor decision-making. At some point, you need to become not only the voice of reason but the dominant male figure in her life. The problem hitherto is that she sees only your perceived weaknesses, but that's why you have to correct her.
Hot Take: He probably already lost her interest before the thread of ranting and over sharing happened, just because I imagine that hanging with him in person is equally as bad, and she already seemed withdrawn since the very beginning. Was probably a highly one sided and energetic first date and she got burned out and annoyed pretty quick.
Best advice I could give when texting with anybody is to apply the “2s a crowd 3s a party” logic towards how many messages you send & the time to get a response. If someone feels you the same way you do it’s back and fourth like ping pong.
For anyone who didn't know that persistent texting like this is a problem, please know that even if YOU don't mean any harm by it, this is a red flag that can signal that a dude has those weird stalker/creeper/possesive tendencies, so for safety, you're just GOING to get yourself dumped. Don't worry! If she's into you, she WILL reply when she has time. Give it at least 24 hours and you can try sending a single reminder/try again, but if she blows you off again what are you even chasing her for? TL;DR: chasing is a red flag, makes you look dangerous. And for you, you deserve a relationship where you don't have to chase them.
So women play hard to get and want to be pursued but then when you do it makes you dangerous? Lol smh I swear with y'all. Sending texts isn't the same as showing up at your work or even calling it's a little fax message that can be read and replied to at your convenience the fact that that triggers you is a dAnGeRoUs ReD fLaG 😂
So women play hard to get and want to be pursued to know we care but then when we do we're dangerous stalkers? A text is a little fax message that you can read and reply to at your convenience it's not the same as showing up at your work or even calling..the fact that a text triggers a person is a "dangerous red flag" tbh
Women: I want a man who will think of my every need before I do, who will breathe for me and step in front of a bullet for me 😍😍 Also women: if you text me more than twice you're a creepy stalker 😂
This is something you have to learn even outside of dating. I had a friend I was pretty close with from middle school, and I would text them really often. Eventually, they started getting busier as high school rolled on, and we would talk less and less. I eventually started to pretty often bombard the chat with texts kinda like this: sending photos I took on trips or memes, TH-cam videos I thought they’d like, or just complaining about whatever in text, just biiiiig paragraphs about whatever dilemma I had. It would take a week or two for them to respond, and I somehow was able to go out with them for my birthday and it was fun to see them again. But, going out together and playing arcade games didn’t make responses faster, in fact they just stopped at some point. I should’ve just let it go sooner, I was trying to salvage a wilting friendship and I didn’t want to lose it. We had a lot of memories in and out of school, so I was panicking. But despite my feelings, I should’ve stopped bombarding chat and just let them breathe. I remember feeling like they were just busy for no reason, and I’m lucky I didn’t go off the edge and go full narcissist mode. Guys, if this happens to you just let your last text fester for a while. If they don’t respond? Don’t text until they text you back. Don’t try to reach them on other socials, just let them be because they might be going thru some shit.
i have an account on twitter with a few thousand followers and i gotta say i've experienced this sorta thing first hand, when people talk to you forever about their whole life story even though you barely know them and you clearly aren't showing any interest, yet they KEEP going
@@br00talitydawgit's the picture of the pint that makes me think he was absolutely hammered. Every single one of my friends who drink have done that exact thing of sending a picture of their drink for some reason
He definitely is. I actually feel bad for him he seems to have really liked her and he wasnt being rude or creepy at all. If he was actually drunk, which im sure he was, i dont see anything wrong with this. If i was her i wouldve said ur clearly drunk ill text you when ur sober. If he wouldve acted rude/aggressive to that i wouldve blown it off, but he wasnt even being rude. Even when she blew him off he told her to have a good life basically. Kind of cringe to blow someone off because they are drunk, people show their true emotions when drunk...and his were clearly that he feels great affection towards her. My boyfriend spam texts me when hes drunk too, sure hes already my boyfriend so its different. But i rly dont see how this is awful. Poor guy rly
I dont understand how people dont feel silly after sending so many texts in succession without a response when they KNOW they wont get a message back anytime soon
Desperation. Sometimes you feel like you have nothing to lose because its already lost, so might as well try and win it back with more. While I understand that in 99.99999999% of cases it only makes things worse, when you are desperate all you care about is the 0.00000001%
When I send random texts like this, it's usually stuff I found interesting and don't necessarily expect a response to. That being said, max I've ever sent is like 3 so idfk how you get this far.
one thing ive learned recently is to MAKE SURE that i am like emotionally ready to interact with someone. like if im in a mood and i got some shit to say and i know its probably stupid and shit i recognize that and decide "no ill text them later when i actually miss that person." that is how i text now. if i miss you i will text you probably.
I always say there's a fork in the road with people where they have to decide that their behavior isn't working out for them so they change or they take the other path where they think they're doing it right but not being intense enough so they go balls to the wall.
"glad you disrespected me now so I know..." And there it is, the instant bitter passive-aggression at being turned down. Something that's not disrespectful at all. Without that line he could potentially have redeemed himself (long shot). He must've died inside when he woke up the next day, looked at his phone and read all this back.
I’m right there with you Charlie. I think back on some of my first attempts at talking to girls in high-school and just the unmitigated cringe that would spout from my texts. I like that you approach this from a learning perspective because I really do think there are so many guys out there that don’t even realize what they’re doing wrong. I wish someone would have been there for me back then to say “bro just put the phone down” Keep doing the lords work 🙏
Shit I did this, first couple of girls I got numbers for as a young teen. Hard cringing at my memories now. Didn't spout as much crazy, but I was sending messages constantly.
you know what i learned. i have to work on the person i am more when im alone. its too easy to be negative and spiteful and impatient. i really need to be bigger than those little feelings.
I remember being like this, and I look back at it now it’s like “well I have a feeling everything would’ve gone fine, maybe I would’ve been with them, maybe not. Idk.”But I was excited and knowing they were interested at the start, I ruined their interest by constantly spamming them and annoying the hell out of them. So cringe of me. do I wish I wasn’t like that? Yes, am I mad I was? Not really because it’s a thing I learned, very quickly I might add, and I’m actually with the person I love and I wouldn’t want to go back and change anything that would change what I have now, just a good learning experience. Note: not the creepy shit, but just the constant messaging.
Fellas, just use the copycat strategy to avoid such scenarios. Copy the length of the text the other person sends you. Two-text messages with two-text messages, one-sentence message with one-sentence message, one-word reply with one-word reply, etc.
Seeing all those messages made me uncomfortable honestly, and that's good because I was or still kind of am like that with some people in my life. In other words, this video has been enlightening.
Thats alright, most of us have been like that at some point, just try to spend more time doing things you enjoy so you don't need to rely on talking to other people as much
Its wonderful how texting gives you the ability to truly think before you speak, and somehow we still get this shit 💀
It also gives us the ability to see what we've already said, and reflect upon it and potentially learn from it. And yet, still this shit 💀
Love is truly blind I guess lol
to be fair tho, it also gives you unwarranted confidence that gets back on you
Would you rather have authenticity or affectation? If you ask me, a lot of young women these days need this kind of interaction in their lives. We need to teach girls better social skills because a lot of them don't know how to handle real world confrontation since their family and friends have given them the idea that they can hide from all of their problems.
@Zenigundam bro what? You think more young women need to deal with obsessed social-retards?
No hate to the guy's texts in the vid but he definitely isn't normal, I think interacting with these people will change nothing.
My initial reaction was “wow I can’t believe she didn’t tell him off sooner”
And then I learned that all these messages were sent while she was in her one class.
Idc who it is if they message me that much while I’m in one fucking class they getting blocked mando
@@travixo if they message that much period, I'm blocking. Talking that much seems more for an relationship longer than a year
@@GoodTimeForARollwhat lol? 😂
you are a leech upon society, i see. masquerading as a regular person, but your mask slipped@@GoodTimeForARoll
Yeah really I was like okay buddies been going hard all night. He was cheddars then did some bar hopping then playing pool so maybe it started at like 5pm but now is around 11. But Jesus. An hour and a half… all I’m gonna say is I’m actually impressed he didn’t rage at her/this ended as professionally as it did.
I always gotta remind myself, "How will this look in a screenshot posted online?"
Exactly. For me its more, “what if more than one person was on that other screen laughing”
unironically could help to ask yourself this
the fact that guys have to worry about that now basically means dating is much harder than before. Not that creepy people shouldn't be exposed but everyone is awkward sometimes and tbh you can't control the other person's actions, so you can't predict if/when they'll screenshot your convo. I've seen dudes who aren't even creepy get screenshotted and posted online. Basically tryna say it's a pretty scumbag move to post someone you're talking to's private conversation online.
screenshotted this and now i’m laughing at it with 20 oiled up dudes 👍
@@thekamotodragonlmao and if they get posted online while not being weird, then who cares? and the woman would seem crazy in that situation. the solution is to not be weird or creepy. awkward is different, and if a woman “exposes” you for being awkward, then she’s a bitch and move on.
what’s your actual point? or are you preaching some incel shit?
The fact she even gave him the courtesy of saying she didnt want to pursue it anymore shows how much better of a person she was.
Its not about if a human is better then the other
You could be both good and the other one is better does that make any matter for you that as well is good?
Alone that thinking of you show me that you proply are not the best human and more of a hypocrite.
@@sonicartzldesignerclan5763you sound like that guy and every other guy Charlie shows texts from. 😂
@@MrJimmyTide Bro you really run around in your life and talk with people about : " Oh watch he was so much a better person, oh she is just a bad person "
You know what that mean?
That people also will talk about you the same way
If you run around rating other people how good they are compared to other
Live like that but i dont wanna befriend with somebody who is always rating whos better and who not lol
Everyone has good and bad sites on them
If you cant realize that
Youre not an adult ;)
Youre insult proof me that.
@@sonicartzldesignerclan5763 you have a lot to learn. blessings be upon you
@@sonicartzldesignerclan5763Yes, people have good and bad sides. If you're a Harry Potter fan, you already know what I'm going to say. "What matters is the side you choose to act on." If someone chooses to act on their bad side more often and shows little to no intention of changing, then that side becomes dominant and they become more of a bad person.
"Don't text into the void", words of wisdom.
I think maybe he should be texting into the void. Instead of at a real person. Just create a new account that noone uses, and let these dudes just message it ad infinitum
Yea and then cmes the most fun part where u reveal to the whole world
@@hashbrown777 This reminds me of the fake number hotline that girls used to give out in the 2000s lmfao!
it really is tho, i remember being an insecure teen/early adults. ruined a lot of chances to my own mind over thinking shit.
@@JLRPGS wait what, everyone was giving out this one number. It was a hotline? Like people on the other end listening or was it a recording like "you were given a fake number, sorry, they just didnt like you".
I can imagine the former if it was like a pay-per-minute, it might've been quite lucrative!
Imagine rejecting a random dude in college just to find out years down the line, that he became one of the lead actors in the critically acclaimed mockingjay part 1
Never heard of it, but I do know of Killer Bean
@@zincdramatic8092can't wait for the killer bean game
I like how Charlie has been in an actual role in a movie now, but it's still an undeniable fact that nothing can beat his critical cameo in Hunger games
And a multi millionaire
So just cos he's been in a movie and got money that still doesn't mean she would be interested in him. Thats ridiculous!
Taking a picture of two random to try and make her jealous was a wild play
He barely seems literate, I don't think he was on that level. He probably just thought, "I'll make a classic joke about fucking two old ladies from the bar. That's funny!".
It wasn't all that funny, but that's the most likely scenario.
What a play yeah
Gotta make note for that one
Weird. I had a normal comment here and it vanished.
It was just saying that he may have thought he was making a funny joke.
Oh yeah, I said "the F word" in the comment. I guess you can't curse in comments in TH-cam or your comments gets deleted.
If I was the receiver, I'd interpret this as.
You clearly have other choices, don't waste your time with me.
@@MDMDMDMDMDMDMDMDMD I've had it happen for less, sometimes the bots are just on some shit
I just got war flashbacks from saying I love you to a guy I met once because he wasn’t texting me back after writing essays and I got desperate. Still makes me gag till this day. So glad I gained some sanity and self respect.
dear god no you gave me war flashbacks of the same thing I am ever so glad that I changed my ways and havent done that since
is it bad that i dropped him after he did this multiple times? i felt (and feel) bad but i think he was emotionally draining me
You were young lmao That happens a lot with young people. Don't worry about it lol
you have big boobs
You just reminded me I did something like that before. I think I also called him like 100 times all night? No clue why I did that, I had just dumped an abusive boyfriend. Glad I never did something like that again
It's comforting to know that, no matter how cringe you think you may have been at your worst, there's always someone out there who was more cringe.
I stand by this
As there will always be one child prodigy way better than you at your lifelong passion, there will be always someone who is worse than you at your worst moment
someone out there feels this way about you to be fair
I got my cringe from my
Dad
My word of advice: don’t text people you’re interested in when drunk. I’ve gotten so many texts like that and it genuinely feels like you’re virtually babysitting a 24 year old man. You feel like by not responding they may do something stupid, but by responding you’re enabling the behavior and it’s all around just uncomfortable.
Indeed…but i thought women liked that cavemanrizz…or the iamacompleteilliteratecheesecakewhodoesn’trespectothersrizz
Edit: u lot think im serious…mate im just kidding
Depends on how drunk there’s a golden line where you get better and a very harsh line where you get worse
@@him4real262 i feel like 1 drink is the max lmao
@@skorpian3490 The more time you spend thinking about women, the more you would be wrong. Thinking beyond what their feelings are at the time, is usually off the table. In any situation involving women, imagine the most convoluted emotional payoff that could be conceived and then watch as somehow, coincidentally, the woman makes every decision needed to build the emotion to a a fever pitch and then pop everything for that exact emotional explosion.
@@liwojenkins shiii homie u sound like a seasoned veteran…my guess is ure atleast 25-30
It's like a game of ping pong. If you keep "pinging" the ball towards someone and they never serve it back, you're not playing a game with them. You're just hitting balls. Conversations should be a back and forth like a ping pong game.
Good analogy
PING PONG
BING BONG
@@p-__ genuinely can't tell if this one is a bot comment or not 💀
@@spookybagles definitely a bot bro💀
I get overthinking and being paranoid, causing you to text someone a lot when they're not available. But THIRTY+ messages in an HOUR while he KNOWS she couldn't respond is so insane...
That's what being drunk out of your mind does to you.
@@amongdae its shouldnt tho... Like I could understand him texting a few times and being a little impatient and extra lovey. It is not normal to text 33 times in a matter of hours, drunk or not.
@@amongdae or being mentally ill and having ptsd from a loved commiting suicide.
She was so much kinder than she needed to be in that situation
My ex-boyfriend did this. He would spam me with text messages and calls every day, even when I told him I was busy and couldn't respond right away. I would call him out for it, then he'd apologize and say he'll never do it again, just to go back to texting me 50+ times a day. Over time, his messages progressively got worse, more threatening. To the point where he was threatening to hurt me if I didn't respond. When it comes to people like this, you need to be extremely cautious because they might seem harmless at first, only for them to reveal their true colors later on. I don't think this guy is bad or abusive in anyway, I think he was just too excited and desperate and didn't think about the repercussions of spamming someone with texts, he took the breakup like a champ and left her alone after that. But she hadn't been dating him for very long, so she didn't know him very well. She was most likely being nice because she didn't want to upset him out of fear of how he might react. The last thing you want to do is piss off someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, so it's best to stay on their good side just in case.
I started reading this comment to the tune of Pain of Salvation's 'Beyond the Pale' "And SHE, was always SO, much kinder THAN, she needs to BE"
Usually..
He didn’t even say anything bad, and she never told him anything about it, she was the problem
He's a dense guy that cant read the tone and spams. Hes literally texting like a guy thats never been in a relationship and never learned boundaries. its not like theyre dating, she has no obligation to treat him like some man-baby and teach him that what hes doing is wrong or annoying.
its such basic fundamental communication, theres more to human communication that what is explicitly said. People are not obligated to date you, her not wanting to date someone for whatever reason is not a problem. "saying something bad" is not the only reason to not want to peruse a relationship with someone. spamming people is a very easy way to get them to nope out very quickly. Its pushy, desperate, and generally creepy af.
Respect to Charlie for saving countless middle and high school students’ from committing cringe with his words of wisdom. Wish I heard his advice sooner
Honestly, yeah. I'm 30 now but could've used this advice when starting college. I cringe at some of my previous behavior
Ain't no youngins watching this 😂 on stremgth
@@mason4354 15 watching rn and learing what not to do W charlie
Me too! I wish I'd heard it sooner, also...
forget cringe, its literally social-suicide and may result in legit suicide due to the amount of shame-in-having committed such cringe! I'd know from how many times I've done it, the amount of suicidal-ideation-inducing-shame that enters my system from having done it, and being painfully aware, but not knowing/having the vocabulary/understanding it enough, to figure out what I'm doing wrong that makes people barely want to talk to me in a normal manner outside of my family. Although even inside my family... TOO LONG DIDN'T READ!
@@land3021get help
It is said that the "cringe" feeling comes from a place of empathy, putting yourself in the place of the subject, and then feeling second-hand embarrassment from it. Learning from those who make cringe mistakes, is a great way to not repeat them. We should also respecting that they could have been us at some point, so don't be too hard on them or yourself for it.
Good take 👍, honestly quite easy to just judge these kind of people and laugh at them.
Also comes from being the one who did it, even more so if you had to learn the lesson not to do that the hard way.
Yeah, it's also just second hand embarrassment lmao
I made a mistake 1 time, misreading something when I was drunk. Here's hoping this can help someone think twice!
It's a philosophical thing. A person who's never owned a cellphone or sent any text messages of any type would never feel cringe or 2nd hand embarassment from a text interaction.
"glad you disrespected me" She was anything BUT disrespectful. She had more patience than anyone else would've had (me definitely included) in that situation.
Woah, what were you gonna do? Punch the air because a known person that is drunk msged you too much?Don't be so sensitive person, it makes you look like you have no friends or can't make any.
@@shihabsharar7457 I have been under the influence many times and I have not texted someone that much or have been that creepy. When you are drunk you have no filter and whatever you hide gets leaked out depending on what it is. Unless it's an emergency there is no reason to text someone like that.
@@shihabsharar7457 they don't even know each other like that kiddo
@@SoupGunMachine there is something called manners, and it seems like you don't know it obviously it depends on family quality.
love the pfp!!
Lol I did something like that to an old friend from school. When I was 14 I got a phone for the first time and I just started text vlogging my entire day to my friend for a few weeks before I realised she isn't responding anymore so I stopped and learnt all the unspoken rules of texting lingo. She is still my friend luckily.
i still kind of act like this, well not to this level, but i text my partner a lot and im horrible at social skills, he said hes okay with it but i still cringe and wonder why he stays lmao
Cuz you admit your mistakes lol. You know the problem and that's a big yes for men.
oh my god i did this to my friend but with skype messages/emails, then she went to a different school and stopped talking to me altogether. i was so sad at the time but i get it now and i'm much better at communicating now, so i suppose this is just a lesson some people need to learn. i'm glad you were able to maintain your friendship, she sounds like a keeper lol
@@lemonmeatIt’s because he loves you!
@@lemonmeatit's ok to do it if you two know each other lol.
We do this with my bestie, since we live in different continents sometimes one is living the best life ever while the other one is snoozing, so we got used to just sharing our day even if the other one is not replying, and we're both ok with that and love it/find it funny. I think our record is like 50 messages (she goes crazy sometimes, I love it hehe)
charlie with a ponytail is my kryptonite
he deemed it necessary
this is cringe but wholesomely cute
@@bckdorsI wish I could give some updoots for this wholesome chungus moment!
@@EverlastingAura1 that’s what liking the comment is
@@backdoorideas I will destroy your karma
Charley is covering up the fact that this was actually him
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Why would you spell Charlie like that
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How tf u butcher the spelling like that bro
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Love letting these play in the background while cooking. Best background noises. Making sausages with peppers and onions today. Yum
i made a baked ziti last night. shit was fye
I thought I was the only one that does this lol
im doing this rn. making mac and cheese
Making homentashn!
Hope it turns out well ! 😁
This guy brought poop to a piss fight
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@PurgeTime the tyranny owns nothing get a job
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@PurgeTimeis this some kind of advertisement for condoms?
@@UTUBETROLLPOLICETEAM666 get bitches.
this isn't even a conversation, 86% of these texts is this guy talking to himself 💀
yesssss but if you read through the texts apparently in the conversation before this, there was mention of keeping eachother updated... I think the dude just took it waaaay too litteral...
50%? More like 90%
50%??? 33/38 isn't 50%
If it WAS 50%, then it WOULD have been a conversation.
More than 50%
I really respect you for being someone that a lot of young men (probably) legitimately look up to and mentioning you used to engage those cringy and undesirable texting habits, but became aware of it and stopped. I was like that too, but it's probably more effective for guys if it comes from the mouth of someone higher profile
Agreed
Yea man, people all have blind spots. And when you are young things seem so immediet. Like it needs to be done now! But that is normal. If you can look back and cringe you are doing it right.
"nobody likes to be pestered" is the best way to put it. ive dropped friends over (including other things) their inability to stop spam texting or breaking stories up into sentence long messages. Genuinely so annoying when you don't know when a string of messages will end
I feel like this is how a modern day wizard would talk, he talks in riddles and seems constantly drunk
Alcoholic wizards are fun to rp
Underrated comment.
@Kingnothing7x In my group's Dnd world we have a drunk wizard npc and he's my favorite npc we've had by far! 😂
Charlie's dating advice: don't send a small novel of text messages, keep it short and sweet.
Estoy triste porque hoy es mi cumpleaños y no tuve ningun suscriptor 😢
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Dodged a bullet. I once was like this too. Weren't we all? I hope dude grows and learns from this.
This is obviously not about social anxiety. If you both were like this too, than thats a problem of the way your communicating. Most of my friends have social anxiety but none of them would be a douchbag like this. I have social anxiety and i never did smth like that. The whole " I am such a good dude but this other looser said he could get more chicks! Paahhh" is not about social anxiety. It is more about a too big ego or maybe even narcism. Pls do not search excuses for behaviour like this. @@officialprincelouie
@@stevenhorstgeorg5728Dude he clearly said he’s glad he’s not like this anymore. Also people are young and have to learn things on their own, it’s not an excuse more of just saying that’s just young people learning, kind of like when a kid touches a hot stove and burns himself even though you told him no. He learned the hard way. Don’t be a dick.
I've had girls text me ten times over the course of about two or three hours (while I was working as case manager for HP which is a super demanding job) and then get super fucking mad when I didn't respond and tell me shit like "WELL I GUESS YOU JUST DON'T CARE THEN"
Do don't this shit, it's annoying. It doesn't mean the guy/gal in question ain't interested, you'll know that if they just ignore you over the course of like a week.
✋Guilty
yeah when we were like 17
Oh god. Those messages reminded me about how I used to act with my 1st online friend 😭
I would literally text him right when I woke up to the moment I went to sleep... He replied to me everytime but I still feel like i gave him mild ptsd
I made the same mistake with a girl. She admitted to me later when we were seeing each other that she got a laugh outta the memes I would send lol😂
I have a few friends like this and I don't mind it. I enjoy the company. If he replied every time it shows he was enjoying it. Unless he told you specifically that it's annoying I wouldn't worry about it.
He’s like me fr
"You are my kryptonite" is wild 💀
Edit: Blatantly I get he's trying to say she's his weakness, but given the ego he displayed in the text messages, I think he unironically view himself as Superman
Yea its really dumb. I figured he just meant you are my weakness
It means she’s his weakness. It’s a cringey way of saying it though.
He’s an idiot!
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you know what charlie? being able to own up and say “yeah lol i used to be like worse than this guy” and laughing about it shows a lot of growth man ❤
Character development 💪💪💪💪
this reminds me of a kid i met in my senior year, i had just started night school to finish out my diploma and i met him in class. he was normal in person and then began doing shit like the person in this video in text, especially the photos, and telling me how much he likes me (we had just met within a week). eventually i shut it down but still had to see him in class. after graduation he shouted something at me from his car and one of his family members yelled “he loves you” out of it (it had been months since we last spoke). the icing on the cake was when, months after that, he started coming into my work and hanging around me and i had to get him trespassed from the building. my point with this is people like this are not always just cringy, they can be fucking creepy. stay safe out there!
Jeez
Oh God, when the family is involved and amplifies it means this shit is encoded in his DNA. Kind if sad actually.
oh no that sounds so fkn scary 😭 I've definitely had similar situations, mainly in school but all the way into university. also even in my job! i've had a customer find my facebook and snapchat to ask me on a date, despite me being 19/20 and him being 35 😀
its really hard to tell the difference between just a cringe guy who can't take a hint, and someone who's ACTUALLY creepy or predatory
I hope you're doing well now! and that youre far away from that dude lmao 💗
@@Aaron-kj8dv Sadly a lot of this is learned behavior that starts in the home. But it could also be being unable to read situations properly. Also, just alcoholism heh
I like to believe that when she said “sorry I have class”, she was really saying “I have too much class to date you”
"please deem your boy necessary" sounds like it was written by ChatGPT or something.
I did this, I had a crush who I thought was into me, she gave me her insta so we could chat, and I sent a message every other day for half a year without a response, eventually had a epiphany that she wanted nothing to do with me, glad I woke up
Edit: some people are thinking this is some random person I met so I'll give more context, I was 13-14 in my first year of Highschool, we where hanging out everyday for a while, so we decided to start messaging, but eventually she just stopped responding, but I kept messaging for months. DEFINITLY WEIRDO CREEP BEHAVIOUR
It took you 90 messages to figure it out 😂😂
sending a message to someone every other day with no response is psychotic. If i were her I’d be terrified.
thats crazy
@@zanderwight872Over that long of a time yeah, but also how hard would it be to reply after like a week and just say your not into it. I think it's a bit pathetic not to say anything after so much time has passed. I get confrontation is uncomfortable and can be scary, but of you just avoid it all the time of course you're going to be scared of everyone and everything.
Bro….
poor girl didn't realize she was out here dating chat gpt.
ChatGPT would say that it has to be respectful and whatever other shit
@@RandomAhhCommentSpammer the way it works is it basically has two teachers, one that wants a formal/respectful answer and one that wants a creative and correct answer. it has to please both of these hypothetical teachers.
TLDR: you are right, but you oversimplified it
@@Messier42-handlenot that it matters but i wanted to say that this was a really nice explanation
@@k-sf1ld yeah just stole it from the video about that time chatgpt went sexual or smth
Excuse you, ChatGPT doesn't since messages when unnecessary
god fucking damn he busted out the ponytail for this one 😻
dawg get outta here!! (I lowk agree😻)
The
You're the perfect example of the kind of guys he's covering
😘😘😍😍😍
Lmao
I'm reminded of that scene from Meet Joe Black, "That's not love. It's some aimless infatuation that you feel like indulging. It's missing everything that matters-trust, responsibility, taking the weight for your choices and feelings and spending the rest of your life living up to them, and above all _not hurting the object of your love."_
I've very rarely double texted and it's been with good reasons. After two texts though, I leave it at that. And when someone tells you repeatedly they are busy, you let them be.
The worst part is that the guy can see when the messages are read because it’s iMessage, so he 100% knows she’s busy
I double text all the time usually to correct a mistake in the previous message or add more context
@WhiteCoc0 that's the biggest reason for my double texting. That and if I forgot to add something to the grocery list. Things that are always good reason. But I also only talk to a very select few people and my partner and I have a good relationship. He and I will sometimes forget something we meant to send or if one of us goes too long without responding (we're both epileptic) we send another text checking in on each other. Usually it's just me getting busy at work and forgetting he texted me and I was in the middle of responding to him lol.
@@natashaunfiltered prolly the only valid reason lmao
@sandorablettv right? She kept telling him she was busy with her kid and college. He worked himself up for nothing.
If there's alcohol or other substances involved, put the phone on Airplane Mode, turn it off or make sure it's occupied with playing music, ANYTHING to keep this from happening. Also, if someone says that they're busy, then leave them to whatever they're doing, especially if there's family or schoolwork involved. Even if they're a friend or significant other, give them space and wait for them to finish up. Just be Chill!
Unfortunately this common sense just does not reside in a lot of human beings skull even in 2024
Or just have basic self control.
Don't drink so much that you lose self control. I know most of us have been there but if you drink, you have to learn your limits and stay well within them.
Dis something similar while very drunk. Not as bad as this guy, but i sent an incomprehensible wall of text to an ex. Next morning I was really confused why I even did that. We broke up like 5 years prior and I also couldn't understand what I even wanted to say with that message.
It's funny how this basic advice that anyone without crippling autism would know is one of the top comments. Penguin has some creal creeps in his audience
CHARLIE PLEASE NEVER STOP THIS SERIES, I’ve been listening to them every day on the way to school bc I commute for an hour. I just ran out and it was like a junkie running out of their last fix for the first time. I wasn’t the same. I clicked on this video as fast as I saw the notification for it. Please I’m begging keep making these.
im pretty sure he has a podcast
Yeah, I learned a lot from this series. it gave me a better idea of how stupid and cringe my text to girls were 😢
@@sillywillywillysillynot the same at all, feels like my energy is being sapped listening to monotone voices
riiight, idk what it is but i just can't get enough of these goober weirdo text vids
@@ZychaPL the fact you couldn't tell in the first place 😭-
i have pretty bad anxiety and when people dont respond i can overthink it quite easily. it led to me doing this to my boyfriend quite bit so when he realised that i was doing it because i was getting anxious he sat me down and suggested setting a limit to myself of 4 small messages or 2 big messages and if he doesnt respond then he is busy and i should try to distract myself. i do still slip up sometimes but its honestly been really helpful in reducing the anxiety about how he feels about me and its helped him too for obvious reasons. i did have to ask that he avoids reading the messages til he can respond so i dont panic about being left on read but overall its really helped me with my mental health and its strengthened our relationship a lot.
im still working on it but its helped a lot so far.
Omg your boyfriend is a fckn stud hun ❤ the ability to communicate and deal with little issues like this in a caring and respectful way is HUGE! Wishing you guys the best man, that was fckn wholesome
thank youuu, i love him so much he is genuinely incredible with handling difficult situations.❤❤@@TheLadyIntegra
I'm fckn incredible fr ‼️🥂
understatement ❤@@AidanMiller-Park
Thats so sweet. What a good guy
"Just being near you is physically killing me" is basically what he said
Definitely what she thought of him
This is the reason why instead of immediately going to my friends when i have a lot on my mind, i like to write it down sometimes. I think a lot of people especially people like this should keep journals to externalize their thoughts. It really helps sometimes.
"Me sure who I am is the price I mean." Wow. This guy sure does have his way with words.
very deep 😪
😂😂😂 he’s a real Casanova
He either had a stroke or her response made him revert back to a Neanderthal briefly
@@p-__why the fuck do you comment this over and over and over? What do you get out of it?! It’s not like it’s funny or clever?!
@@lemonmelon1883The guy is drunk
I’m glad Charlie said he used to be like this as well because I know I’ve definitely been there too. It’s that nervous drunk energy where you’re first falling for someone but don’t know if they feel the same way so you’re sorta nervous but excited about it and it just takes a few drinks and then them not replying actually only leads to you spewing more. It’s like how it’s easier to say something embarrassing in person if the other person isn't looking at you.
i look back at some old messages and it hurts to read them oooof
thats a sign you’ve matured, we’ve all been there
Yeah even 2yo ones
agreed
i just love how humble and honest charlie is, honestly refreshing from the loud and in your face content creators.
Yeah he’s hella chill. He still makes content like a small TH-camr, doing whatever he feels like.
i just love how humble and honest charlie is, honestly refreshing from the loud and in your face content creators.
i just love how humble and honest charlie is, honestly refreshing from the loud and in your face content creators.
I just love how humble and honest charlie is, honestly refreshing from the loud and in your face content creators.
all y'all in the replies speaking facts fr
This happened was me in 9th grade, I would constantly text this one guy I was into and everything I said was always a red flag. It’s been a couple years and I’m glad I developed social skills since then.
🤙🏻🤙🏻✌🏻
This is the result of poor parenting, sheltering, and lacking social skills throughout childhood
nah this was result of alcohol
@@necromaniac666 both
Thanks, Dr. Phil. I admit I do the same things when I see people being genuinely abusive and antisocial, but we don’t need a full psychoanalysis for a dude who got shitfaced and oversentimental.
@@MrJimmyTide That is not normal behavior, even if shit faced. Anyone who partakes in alcohol has probably left a voicemail or texts to a loved one. Yanno, maybe a slightly long/incoherent "l care about you". But not 33 texts in a 1.5 hr span. If you think this is normal, you may be unsocialized or sheltered bruh. It is possible to be wasted and still understand boundaries.
4:16 this dude is clearly balding. This his own accountability, not parenting.
I used to text people first, then I learned that double texting and trying to keep conversations going when the other person didn’t want to talk was a big no no and often made me look weird.
Suffice to say I have no friends anymore.
Dont worry texting shouldn’t be that important in making friends. The real friends are ones you see in person
@@BrokieTheJokie:/
Don’t worry bud ❤the real friends will come soon
Skill issue fr
Seriously, trying to message people can be like pulling teeth. A little over a year ago, I got the first ever message hitting on ME in a dating app, I was ecstatic. Then I tried a dozen times to set up a date or hang out, and after like 4-5 months she's suddenly dating someone else out of nowhere. Why did you even bother messaging me then?!
I absolutely love how open Charlie is, because, admittedly, I was the same way, but it was more of the desperate want for attention. I quickly realized once you don’t get a reply, it’s best to leave it. Definitely not cool to intrude on someone’s space every 20 minutes with messages. Plus I’ve learned to love my own space and more comfortable with who I am and do not need the attention. I like who I am, and that’s great enough for me. Be your own best vibe 🤙🏻 Great video as always Charlie!
(The second-hand embarrassment in this video almost killed me)
I am in the same boat. Used to be desperate for attention (especially of the other sex), wouldn't get it because i was weird and obnoxious, learned to love myself instead, and now i am perfectly happy living in my own bubble and only interacting with a select few people. I would never trade my simple but happy life for that of a bustling, busy one at this point.
Yeah, I think it comes from a place of loneliness, but once you learn to enjoy your own company and get your life busy (don’t need to be work), you take care of the neediness
I swear Charlie never mistimed his uploads on the things I’m going through.. Few days ago I confessed to someone but unfortunately got ghosted by her, and the sense of having the urge to text her constantly to get her response is abysmal. Thankfully, I restrained. And this video helps me a lot by moving on with my life and thinking that I am not alone in this. Thanks, Charlie.
Yeah they're not interested so keep it moving.
I'm sorry she ghosted you. She's allowed to do that, but its not technically the kinder choice. I'm sorry she didn't respond and at least give you the courtesy of acknowledging your feelings (even if it ends in rejection). I've totally been in your spot, and I feel u dude. You'll be okay 👍🏼
Hey man, you probably already know this, but I want to let you know that you didn't do anything wrong. Her actions don't reflect on how you should see yourself. People sometimes just have different tastes, and are in different paths in life.
im sorry that happened, that really sucks. keep movin forward tho, youll find someone whos a good match
As a once girl who had made it clear as I rejected a boy who confessed to me (we were classmates at secondary school - I thanked him for his sudden confession I didn't expect but appreciated it nonetheless) and also got ghosted by another boy - also a classmate who I confessed to (both happened in different times, but in the same middle school), I sympathised with you. Ghosting even when we're clearly in the same class and used to talk/befriend each other normally definitely traumatised me to this day and I grew up even more reclusive and unconfident due to that boy. The least they could do was to reject you directly just like when you confessed to them directly aka show the same courtesy.
8:03 I love the rare moment of Charlie showing his actual facial reaction as he reads the message KEKW
9:35 he is so real for this line
6:47 bro tried to be more desirable by saying two old ladies wanted him☠️
9:07 welp lol
A crazy play that did not work at all 😅😂
@@Drxcziworked on me, this guy seems so desirable after that pic
“I love our conversation” bro is literally in love with himself 🧏🏻♂️
Self luv is the best luv so they say 👨🏻❤👨🏻
"im probably the best dude you ever know" High value or whatever people usually dont need to announce it.
"you're my kryptonite!" so she is what kills you? XD
You should know this you Mad Dog, he meant weakness by kryptonite. It was still bad.
It means she’s his weakness. Don’t be stupid
No need to be rude!@@itsTigereye
@@NoblesNobule SILENCE FEMBOY!!you don't get to speak
@@Protectorofchi11i ok
I’m glad you can admit that Charlie I pretty much felt the same way and made the same mistake even after actively knowing I shouldn’t of but that’s the beauty of it, we are able to learn from our mistakes.
The creeps are the ones that don’t
there's not a single person in the world that doesn't look back at their past self and cringe. gotta take it in stride because it means we're growing.
As a person who struggles with communication, i feel so much better about myself due to this video. Thank you, Charlie.
It’s so great to be able to watch these from a position of not being able to relate anymore. I used to kind of do this spammy texting too, although probably a little lesser of an extent lmfao. After learning to be not chronically online and have normal human interactions and being normal over text allowed me to finally enter a committed serious relationship 🙏 if you’re still struggling out there dating, it gets better gentlemen. There is hope
Charlie with the black T, hair strand and ponytail with earing. He knows what he's cookin!
One of my past jobs involved policing people's inbox message reports on a social platform. The horrors I saw. For each of those that goes viral there are hundreds of horrendous messages that makes you wonder how such brains work :D
The most important part of socialization, whether on the internet or face to face, is to know when to give up. If someone isnt responding, just let it be. Nobody likes having their phone get blown up every 5 seconds
Exactly
You don't just give up entirely because then you'll slip out of her consciousness. What you do is you allow time to pass so that she can make her mistakes. She's going to feel rather sheepish when whatever she wanted to happen with that other guy never materializes, and that's when you pounce on her and chastise her for her poor decision-making. At some point, you need to become not only the voice of reason but the dominant male figure in her life. The problem hitherto is that she sees only your perceived weaknesses, but that's why you have to correct her.
@@RobbieStacks90 😂😂😂😂😂 out of 😂😂😂😂😂
@@RobbieStacks90🤡
@@RobbieStacks90 what other guy? sounds like projected insecurity
Hot Take: He probably already lost her interest before the thread of ranting and over sharing happened, just because I imagine that hanging with him in person is equally as bad, and she already seemed withdrawn since the very beginning. Was probably a highly one sided and energetic first date and she got burned out and annoyed pretty quick.
Best advice I could give when texting with anybody is to apply the “2s a crowd 3s a party” logic towards how many messages you send & the time to get a response. If someone feels you the same way you do it’s back and fourth like ping pong.
bro is fake drunk texting and acting like they already ina relationship 😂
For anyone who didn't know that persistent texting like this is a problem, please know that even if YOU don't mean any harm by it, this is a red flag that can signal that a dude has those weird stalker/creeper/possesive tendencies, so for safety, you're just GOING to get yourself dumped. Don't worry! If she's into you, she WILL reply when she has time. Give it at least 24 hours and you can try sending a single reminder/try again, but if she blows you off again what are you even chasing her for? TL;DR: chasing is a red flag, makes you look dangerous. And for you, you deserve a relationship where you don't have to chase them.
Lol no real man even texs women tbh.
Okay alpha mega sigma Chad @@mrspams3489
So women play hard to get and want to be pursued but then when you do it makes you dangerous? Lol smh I swear with y'all. Sending texts isn't the same as showing up at your work or even calling it's a little fax message that can be read and replied to at your convenience the fact that that triggers you is a dAnGeRoUs ReD fLaG 😂
So women play hard to get and want to be pursued to know we care but then when we do we're dangerous stalkers? A text is a little fax message that you can read and reply to at your convenience it's not the same as showing up at your work or even calling..the fact that a text triggers a person is a "dangerous red flag" tbh
Women: I want a man who will think of my every need before I do, who will breathe for me and step in front of a bullet for me 😍😍
Also women: if you text me more than twice you're a creepy stalker 😂
This is something you have to learn even outside of dating. I had a friend I was pretty close with from middle school, and I would text them really often. Eventually, they started getting busier as high school rolled on, and we would talk less and less. I eventually started to pretty often bombard the chat with texts kinda like this: sending photos I took on trips or memes, TH-cam videos I thought they’d like, or just complaining about whatever in text, just biiiiig paragraphs about whatever dilemma I had. It would take a week or two for them to respond, and I somehow was able to go out with them for my birthday and it was fun to see them again. But, going out together and playing arcade games didn’t make responses faster, in fact they just stopped at some point. I should’ve just let it go sooner, I was trying to salvage a wilting friendship and I didn’t want to lose it. We had a lot of memories in and out of school, so I was panicking. But despite my feelings, I should’ve stopped bombarding chat and just let them breathe. I remember feeling like they were just busy for no reason, and I’m lucky I didn’t go off the edge and go full narcissist mode. Guys, if this happens to you just let your last text fester for a while. If they don’t respond? Don’t text until they text you back. Don’t try to reach them on other socials, just let them be because they might be going thru some shit.
i have an account on twitter with a few thousand followers and i gotta say i've experienced this sorta thing first hand, when people talk to you forever about their whole life story even though you barely know them and you clearly aren't showing any interest, yet they KEEP going
Charlie’s humility and honesty makes him a CHAD
Dude is hammered that's it saying whatever comes to his mind .
Excuses
@@JozaMan-t6n bro the man is clearly hammered
@@br00talitydawgit's the picture of the pint that makes me think he was absolutely hammered. Every single one of my friends who drink have done that exact thing of sending a picture of their drink for some reason
@@Subpar1O1 facts lol i know exactly what you're talking about
He definitely is. I actually feel bad for him he seems to have really liked her and he wasnt being rude or creepy at all. If he was actually drunk, which im sure he was, i dont see anything wrong with this. If i was her i wouldve said ur clearly drunk ill text you when ur sober. If he wouldve acted rude/aggressive to that i wouldve blown it off, but he wasnt even being rude. Even when she blew him off he told her to have a good life basically.
Kind of cringe to blow someone off because they are drunk, people show their true emotions when drunk...and his were clearly that he feels great affection towards her.
My boyfriend spam texts me when hes drunk too, sure hes already my boyfriend so its different. But i rly dont see how this is awful. Poor guy rly
The half up half down hair is giving pirate and I love it
I dont understand how people dont feel silly after sending so many texts in succession without a response when they KNOW they wont get a message back anytime soon
Desperation. Sometimes you feel like you have nothing to lose because its already lost, so might as well try and win it back with more. While I understand that in 99.99999999% of cases it only makes things worse, when you are desperate all you care about is the 0.00000001%
When I send random texts like this, it's usually stuff I found interesting and don't necessarily expect a response to. That being said, max I've ever sent is like 3 so idfk how you get this far.
When Charlie said "noone likes to be pestered", I felt that.
Because it then proceeded to pester me with an ad
Peter Noone sure loves to be pestered, yesiree.
Guy used the chat as a diary for his verbal diary-ah
The 'mind-blown' emoji when she rejects him and explains how creepy he is.. just blew my mind 🤯
9:20 This is one of the funniest impressions Charlie has ever done. 😂
Agreed😂😂😂
"thanks for the explanation, yoda" 😂😂😂
Dude got so drunk he forgot how to speak English. He went full caveman mode.
one thing ive learned recently is to MAKE SURE that i am like emotionally ready to interact with someone. like if im in a mood and i got some shit to say and i know its probably stupid and shit i recognize that and decide "no ill text them later when i actually miss that person." that is how i text now. if i miss you i will text you probably.
I understand where Charles is coming from, but these type of people can be exceptionally unteachable
I always say there's a fork in the road with people where they have to decide that their behavior isn't working out for them so they change or they take the other path where they think they're doing it right but not being intense enough so they go balls to the wall.
"glad you disrespected me now so I know..."
And there it is, the instant bitter passive-aggression at being turned down. Something that's not disrespectful at all. Without that line he could potentially have redeemed himself (long shot). He must've died inside when he woke up the next day, looked at his phone and read all this back.
16 years old right now, thank you Charlie for Being the dad I never had
Black?
same
@@yustforfun
The fact she still told him to be safe after everything goes to show she probably deserves better
12:00 a day? i thought it was over the course of multiple days, an hour and a half is atrocious
i thought it was over the span of a few minutes because ive done more..
If you can cringe at yourself, then you're growing as a person
true
Love this take.
not how it works sister, sorry.
@@shelby5809 Then how does it work? Please enlighten me
@@shelby5809shut up you have a furry pfp
I’m right there with you Charlie. I think back on some of my first attempts at talking to girls in high-school and just the unmitigated cringe that would spout from my texts. I like that you approach this from a learning perspective because I really do think there are so many guys out there that don’t even realize what they’re doing wrong. I wish someone would have been there for me back then to say “bro just put the phone down”
Keep doing the lords work 🙏
Texting is like leaving a note to await a response. When you text like this it is because you’re insecure about the relationship or yourself
Bro is the anti-rizzler
@PurgeTimeshow some love then…
@PurgeTimemy videos are better
Fuck that word
Rizzle me this batburd
why did it take four replies to get to anything relevant, appreciate you @@DiscoInfernoBaby
the tied hair fits charlie so well
Shit I did this, first couple of girls I got numbers for as a young teen. Hard cringing at my memories now. Didn't spout as much crazy, but I was sending messages constantly.
you know what i learned. i have to work on the person i am more when im alone. its too easy to be negative and spiteful and impatient. i really need to be bigger than those little feelings.
13:03 his side profile with the ponytail is so pretty its distracting me from the actual video
3:38 Thank you, as an ESL I was genuinely questioning my ability to understand English
If my dad every broke up with my mom, I could see him texting like this to his new potential gf after not being on a date for 40 years
Ya you think that, until dad brings home a girl 20 years younger than him lol!
@ogk129 not a brag 😂
@@ogk129your dad being pathetic is not anything to be proud of 💀
your dad is a fucking weirdo then
I remember being like this, and I look back at it now it’s like “well I have a feeling everything would’ve gone fine, maybe I would’ve been with them, maybe not. Idk.”But I was excited and knowing they were interested at the start, I ruined their interest by constantly spamming them and annoying the hell out of them. So cringe of me. do I wish I wasn’t like that? Yes, am I mad I was? Not really because it’s a thing I learned, very quickly I might add, and I’m actually with the person I love and I wouldn’t want to go back and change anything that would change what I have now, just a good learning experience. Note: not the creepy shit, but just the constant messaging.
Fellas, just use the copycat strategy to avoid such scenarios. Copy the length of the text the other person sends you. Two-text messages with two-text messages, one-sentence message with one-sentence message, one-word reply with one-word reply, etc.
Seeing all those messages made me uncomfortable honestly, and that's good because I was or still kind of am like that with some people in my life. In other words, this video has been enlightening.
Thats alright, most of us have been like that at some point, just try to spend more time doing things you enjoy so you don't need to rely on talking to other people as much
Getting uncomfortable response where thry don’t even acknowledge.
Charlie never fails to fill
Us up with his warm embarrassing text messages
@PurgeTimewhat are you on about
@PurgeTime what kind of conspiracy theory is this about
@@Anthonydoesstuffxhe wants attention
4:07 GAWD DAMN THAT FOREHEAD