Fecking everyone is an empath and can pick up on feelings and how people are feeling without them saying a word. It's not some special thing. Everyone can do it. Women who claim this just want excuses for bad behavior.
@@billbombshiggy9254 nah there's plenty of people who legitimately can't pick up on others' emotions, even if we exclude neurodivergent peeps like certain types of autistics. besides, there's like three(?) types of empathy, so even if the vast majority of humans are empaths - different people process the same interaction uniquely, which leads to the same trait manifesting differently in different people
Any type of trauma or mental illness isn’t your fault, but it IS your responsibility. Especially if it starts causing hurt toward others who are completely innocent. Hope she got help.
she already is in therapy form her texts... so I guess she needs a lot more help but what else could help her if therapy isnt working to a degree where she isnt a threat to herself and her surroundings. its really sad, but man, that guy is in danger i feel like.
@@jokabox93 could be she needs to change therapists too. Sometimes that’s the situation when therapy isn’t working as intended. Hopefully there are people in her life that can make her aware that whatever she’s doing isn’t working and a change needs to happen to improve her quality of life and those she interacts with
Yep. This is a mental illness so it’s more difficult to cope with than a lot of problems, but this woman is clearly a person who needs to work on herself more before trying to commit to a relationship.
Just because she's in therapy doesn't mean she's actually listening to the therapist. She has this victim mentality which is nothing a therapist can do. Therapists can only give you tools and ideas to help you. They cannot force your hand or implant a willpower chip. You have to help yourself FIRST. Take it from someone who took therapy for depression.@@jokabox93
The minute she got angry over a good morning text, would've been the last text I ever sent to her, because that's just a great indicator of future problems.
I was thinking the same thing. Even if this dude had sent her the good morning text to her liking, I can imagine something similar would’ve happened anyway down the line. Probably really soon after this situation too.
The real red flag was the day before, that was the indication of a delayed fuse. Somone who goes all-in like that for a couple hours of texting is not normal. Not normal is fine by itself, but here you're risking obsessive and volatile.
She was right abt one thing. That guy has something special to him. He’s genuinely the king of communication and someone we should all look upto in that realm.
Person with BPD here. Even though she says she's in therapy the way she's acting is a untreated form of bpd. I'm 30 now and have been in courses, groups, intensive treatment and therapy for the disorder since I was 21/22, helps that I'm a nerd that loves learning and doing homeworklol, anyway I actually find it hard to be around certain others with bpd now since getting help. We have what we call 'filters' and you do a test to find out what the most prominent filters are. Mine were self hatred and abandonment filter. Where my friend marked up the most with the entitlement filter. This girl seems like she would probably be abandonment and entitlement filter (theres others too but here just a couple examples). The entitlement filter is one of the hardest to deal with in my eyes. Because they constantly feel like the world owes them everything and they act like they are so hard done by (which obviously having this disorder is hard but they do it to a extreme), like the word 'no' is a hate crime. The child like tantrums ect. It drives me nuts. Again as having bpd myself I understand the struggle of dealing with it but that doesn't mean it's not totally unbearable lol. I've really progressed with my abandonment filter, especially since i was litterally abandoned by a partner while i was fighting for my life in hospital and I didn't even flinch, yay growth! Haha but the self hatred is the one i still struggle with. I'm now in a place where I probably could have a partner as I've learnt to communicate and manage my feelings but you have to be self aware enough to realise when you're not. Which takes us back to that entitlement filter "oh someone should just deal with my constant bullshit all the time and still love me, i deserve it!". Um no, you have to compromise and do better for yourself so you can do better in your relationships.
I don’t have BPD (that I know of anyway), but I used to have hella abandonment issues - perhaps because my family abandoned me. I would get extremely attached to new people and cry and scream because I thought they decided to ghost me.
Being 'in therapy' doesn't necessarily mean you are actually treating your disorder. You may be in therapy out of peer pressure or feeling obligated to without actually being interested in treatment of any kind.
I hate when people say oh I’m in therapy. Like just showing up to a building or getting on a zoom call instantly cures them or that it makes their insane behavior ok
Right. As someone with it too, I realized a long time ago I was the problem and I just wanted to be better for the people I loved and for myself. A disorder is not an excuse for terrible behavior. Like at first I saw myself in the messages because I like giving lots of affection to my favorite person but then I saw the rest and it was just downhill. It makes me sad because people start thinking everyone with bpd is like this, like you said, this is untreated. Anyways I'm proud of you, it's not easy, but I hope you're also getting out there and feeling better. Every day is a struggle but you're doing amazing 🤍
it's really refreshing to see someone online be this sympathetic towards people with BPD whenever i see it mentioned it's quickly followed by others saying that people with BPD are horrible manipulative monsters, so it was really good to see Charlie talk about it with kindness towards the disorder, while still making it VERY CLEAR that this woman is in no way ready for any kind of romantic relationship
Yeah, it really sucks that people have so much hate towards others with mental illness. I have had to deal with that all my life. I agree that it was good to see a TH-camr address the disorder with a high level of class and taking both sides. Not many people do that. If you ever notice in TV shows or movies, characters that have BPD are almost always the villain. We've definitely got the short-end of the stick.
....Or perhaps you just choose to see the negative responses and ignore the positive ones? Because I've never seen a mental health situation where the majority of people weren't sympathetic.
@kevingriffith677 Yeah, I am somehow telepathically capable of only ever clicking videos or posts that contain shitty comments! Professor Xavier will for sure give me a call soon to invite me to his school for super cool people. There's a whole subreddit dedicated to people who are very vitriolic towards anyone with BPD. Any time someone with BPD is portrayed in media, they're always hurting someone else in some way. So many people online make shitty comments about others BPD, calling anyone with th disorder a bad toxic person. I literally said "whenever I see it mentioned". I'm literally talking about my personal experience. It was only last week that I saw people defending people with BPD on Twitter after a user made a horrible thread about it. I'm not focusing only on the bad comments. It is very rare for me to see many sympathy for people with BPD. I'm talking about my personal experience.
Mental illness is actually terrifying. My uncle went out with a girl in his twenties. They went out on two dates and then he didn't call her for two or three days because he was very busy with work. Forth night, he woke up to her standing over his bed, sobbing, and holding a kitchen knife. Somehow he was able to talk her down and ended up driving her back to her mothers house who apologized to him and said she was mentally ill. He said that he really liked her and that she seemed completely normal on their two dates. 100% true story. Very scary stuff
A lot of people who have very strong emotions/feelings confuse it with being high in empathy or being an “empath”. Yes, many people who are emotional/sensitive are also high in empathy, but they are COMPLETELY different things. This woman here completely lacked any kind of empathy even though she clearly had feelings in spades.
@@spookykiwi70 I believe some people genuinely are empaths. But this woman clearly has emotions so extreme that make her act and think so irrationally that it tips over from just being very sensitive into a personality disorder. Just highly sensitive people/empaths wouldn’t behave like she does
@@twilyte9557 beyond a certain point, reading another’s emotional state and being able to put yourself in that persons shoes is impossible if you are too busy being overwhelmed by your own emotions. it can also make you misinterpret social and emotional cues. I have experience with a few BPD ex gf’s and the woman in this video was exactly like them
As someone who has BPD, that guy is like a dream partner. BPD makes the smallest things feel like potential attacks or the end of the world due to your trauma. However, no matter how bad the pain got -- even at the points I physically felt my emotional pain -- I've always worked through the urge to lash out. It's hard for me to believe she's in therapy because she has no self-awareness about the irrationality of her actions whatsoever considering it's still ongoing. Me and several others with BPD purposefully abstain from relationships until we know we are much better and it's a shame some don't because it truly helps you as well.
As someone who's dated people with BPD this guy handled it so well, I for my part got gaslit so many times that it had negative effects on my own mental health. That man is a good example on how to handle and interact with others
Yep. I was in a relationship with someone who had BPD. This happened daily. Unless you can literally see into the future you will not be able to make someone with BPD happy. One wrong word (or even the absence of a word), calling or texting a minute too late (or too early), wearing the wrong clothes, ordering the wrong thing at a restaurant, literally anything can, and will eventually be, interrupted as “I don’t love you”
This is so stigmatizing. People with bpd are capable of having relationships as long as they are taking the initiative to do better. I don’t condone being awful to your partner, that is never okay. However, not every person with bpd will act like this.
I agree with you and I’m sorry if that came across as “no one can change” but that is assuming that everyone with BPD is doing their best to rise above their disorder. Unfortunately BPD tends to make a person believe that they are always right, and therefore it’s not them who needs to change but everyone else. In my situation my partner refused to get any sort of help which led to the unfortunate end of the relationship. Of course that is not always how it goes and I think that anyone who truly wants to overcome any mental disorder can do so with enough determination and support.
@@Datadog-1 You must not be all that familiar with the disorder because all BPD makes you believe is that every relationship is doomed to fall apart and that no one cares because you suck. I've never met a single person with BPD that believed they were "always right". Sounds like you've being dealing with narcissists.
@kiwo579 it seems like you've misunderstood his/her comment. He's/she's not saying EI is the same spectrum as spiritual concepts. He's/she's saying that if you have an internal problem and need therapy to fix it might as well not get yourself into a relationship cuz wheter you admit it or not we often tend to reflect those problems and emotional conflicts we have with ourselves to others specially our partner.
@@xlifexwithxlithiumx If you're aware you're like this, aware it's wrong and horrible, and still have the attitude of "that's just what it is" then you are a horrible person and should be avoided at all costs, absolutely NO ONE with a severe mental illness that affects other people so negatively should have that attitude towards it, and they certainly shouldn't be seeking relationships with other people when they know how vile of a person they are, it's purely selfishness and makes that person an objectively bad person at that stage regardless of the mental illness. It's not "hard for you to keep relationships" you are the reason the relationships go badly. You shouldn't be accepted as you are, you can and should work tirelessly to not be that person. BPD is treatable, there is no excuse to be harmful to others
@@xlifexwithxlithiumxIf your using a mental illness for bad behavior youve recognized then relationships at the time aren't something you should seek out
@@xlifexwithxlithiumxyou're aware of the problem. You've identified it. You cant keep using it as an excuse. Be upfront about your mental health, nobody deserves to step on a mine like that
When someone say’s that they’re something there compensating for something, normal people don’t need to label themselves or need to, actions speak louder then words
@@rrtttfthxg2143that may be the case sometimes. But sometimes people can tell something is off in themselves, and naming the demon can lead to understand it better
I struggle with BPD and I promise it's not always like this. Mental illness is never an excuse to treat people like hell. That "I'm an empath" is so bs too, this guy genuinely seems nice and I hope he finds a nice healthy relationship that treats him well.
it is like this very often though. the consenus also is that BPD isn't really curable (yet manageable through therapy) due to the need for radical restructuring of the foundations of the respective individual's personality, which people with BPD are naturally (and understandably so) fearful of, as well as the extremely long time required for such changes, possibly surpassing their remaining lifetime.
THe minute she got angry over a Good Morning text, would've been the last text I ever sent to her, because that's just a great indicator of future problems.
Honestly the whole “you’re perfect for me” rant at the beginning was the red flag that should have caused him to cut her off right then and there. Anyone who thinks that someone they’ve barely talked to is their soulmate or whatever is obviously not right in the head.
@@hobojoe9717 I have dealt with ladies like this when I had a tinder profile they come on wayyyy over the top it seems kind of cool at first then they just completely flip if you aren't playing 4d chess texting exactly when they want I just become Casper the now not friendly ghost and disappear they can send all the messages they want shit is crazy!
I thought maybe it did too because I was just listening to the video in the background, I came over and rewound a few seconds to check the actual text lol
Thank you for being so understanding of people with bpd! We get demonised a lot and we dont all act like this. I was so happy to hear you being understanding and supportive
I changed it to these texts instead of this crazy lady because I hadn’t yet got the the point when we find out she has bpd. Having a personality disorder doesn’t make you crazy and I thought she was just one of the nice girls. Now that I watched the whole video I felt bad and decided to change my comment to prevent potentially upsetting someone with bpd. Sorry about that ❤
Thank you SO much for showing this video on how to handle a situation like this. Like this really helps a lot in understanding what's acceptable social behavior. i hope you make more videos of this. thank you.
kinda crazy how if the roles were reversed and the guy was the one talkin like that he would instantly be labelled a creep and the girl just wouldnt reply.
I mean it makes sense tho because men make those types of comments way more often and also often times with bad intent. That’s just the truth of it sadly
@@cry-piddawg we’re not. When it’s a dude they are insulted way more for their character and being a terrible person, when it’s a girl they just “need help” need to go to therapy and stop being crazy
crazy that she dropped the “i’m an empath” line when she clearly is incapable of putting herself in his shoes and understanding that her behavior towards him was cruel and weird
The thing with BPD is that you're so emotionally "weak" that you end up to only be able to see your version of the story. It's shitty but that's what BPD does
@pecc9678 There's other thing around BPD but that's a huge part of it. Ik I'm in this shitty disorder but like every disorder each person has a deferent (reaction?) to it. Still BDP is mostly related to unstable emotion related to emotion and bad Self-perception which end up that the BPD person is only able to see/fell his/her emotion at the time.
Exactly, that's not off to a good start. You know NOTHING about the other person. That's how you end up with a guaranteed mess of a relationship, you don't know anything about the other person's life and are fitting them into your life based on looks alone.
As someone with a psychology degree and experience with people with BPD, BPD does NOT make a person commit actions that harm others. There are still symptoms like abandonment issues, mood swings, impulsive attachment, and things of the like, but it does not inherently cause you to hurt others. That is still their choice to do. While I deeply sympathize with people who struggle with this mental illness, they cannot blame their mental issues when they go out of their way to hurt people for little to no reason EDIT: I want to clarify what I mean really quick so people aren’t confused. I do not believe people with BPD have full control over their emotions. Nor do I believe it’s impossible for them to have a seemingly uncontrollable impulsive reaction that can cause harm in the moment to the self or someone else. I saying going out of your way to cause someone harm then blaming it on BPD is not okay and it’s their choices at that point. For context, the girl being upset over not getting a good morning text and being moody about it? Yeah that’s textbook BPD behavior and while not okay, understandable given the circumstance. Her harassing him for god-knows-how-long after he dipped out? Her choice and not strictly because of BPD. That’s what I meant to say but could’ve worded it more clearly. Thank you to those who wanted clarification (and providing clarification with their own experiences) and not immediately thinking I’m just hating on people with BPD
Everyone has been using mental health issues to get out of shits. Like serial killers wont take accountability for their crimes because they "was bullied and depressed"
My BPD for the last 23 years has done nothing but make me hurt myself physically and emotionally. I couldn't ever see myself being this mad at someone for 0 reason. When there's reason oh all bets are off. I also have psychosis that's getting progressively worse now Ive passed my late twenties and entering my early 30s. I want to be gone more than anything but I won't harm another human being.
I’m Borderline and I can tell you that it sucks ass. I got crazier and crazier year after year until the last few years when I started making progress. I’ve lost a lot of friends. It hurts every time. BPD makes every emotion feel all consuming and it’s really hard to have normal healthy relationships when you can’t think straight.
can confirm as a person with borderline. we’re far more likely to be hurt than to do the hurting - and people will use our disorder against us to say WE’RE the abusers. shit sucks
This is so wrong it's unbelievable. My cousin has had to be baker acted because of his clinically diagnosed BPD when he held his whole family up at gunpoint.
It just showed up without asking nothing Charlie could’ve done better there. In fact, that fart was being a little more rude than the crazy obsessed lady in the video really.
i always find it funny when people say that during a breakup. Like, good? I wouldn't want to be with someone who is like you, because it clearly isn't working out
as someone who has suffered with mental illnesses, ive looked back at some of my past texts and seen how i treated people especially past partners and i feel bad and im glad ive figured out how to take responsibility over it
As a person with BPD, seeing someone like Charlie be so kind and understanding about something that a LOT of people just see as being dramatic made me feel so seen. BPD is like having every single emotion dialed up to a million, ALL THE TIME. It’s incredibly hard to deal with at times, BUT it can (with therapy) be dealt with a little easier. Big props to this man for being so kind to this girl, despite her getting so combative. It gives me hope that even at my worst moments there can be guys like this stranger who are willing to be calm during it.
as someone with BPD, I really appreciate the kind words and understanding Charlie. I see a lot of my past self in this person, I hope she realizes it's not okay whatsoever to treat someone this way, even if you have a disorder. The guy was a very nice and patient person, didn't even insult her back.
Yeah I love how compassionate he is and how nice the guy is talking to her. She needs a lot of therapy and I really hope she manages to get better. I was misdiagnosed with BPD (I actually have autism and ADHD and it’s super common for women with both to be misdiagnosed) and I met a lot of people with it. I saw how much they struggled with dating and it honestly sucks. Props to this guy for being so respectful even when letting her know they weren’t right for each other.
as a person who struggles with bpd, its not okay for her to use it as an excuse for her behavior. that makes all of us who are trying to heal and be better look bad and its why alot of people demonize people who have bpd.
i feel like it can very well be an excuse for some behaviors but NOT justification, i think theres a big difference between those two statements. like for example "oh, i was mad at you so i kicked you" the excuse there would be being mad but it doesnt justify the action in the slightest
@@boootyassi think “explanation” is a better word for it. excuse literally means to justify. so i would say her bpd doesn’t excuse her actions, but can explain them
Exactly. Also got bpd. It’s super important to take responsibility and communicate when you’re struggling. I’ve really only been in 1 longterm relationship, and she never really understood what I was going through really, but she’s definitely not too blame. We had a lot of dark things going on in her personal life and while I’ve also been through it, I have bpd and a poor control over my emotions. When things got intense or dark or if she was taking out her grief on me I would feel attacked and use and say horrible things against her. We were on and off for years but broke it off probably for good last year. She has done and said pretty shitty things to me as well, definetly broke my heart. But it’s not the bpd, it’s who I was. And that’s really hard to accept. It’s important to understand what bpd actually does to you and to fully understand what kind of person you were. I felt that I was weak and powerless before and needed to take what cheap shot I could so that maybe that person could feel as hurt as I do. I super hard and I don’t have a definite answer, but for ones own growth it’s important to take responsibility for your actions, not using mental illness as a crutch, and establish a healthy outlook on your own self value.
I’ve got bpd and I constantly struggle to act it a normal manner with my boyfriend. Seeing this always makes me remember how difficult it is to deal with someone with bpd.
As someone with BPD myself I appreciate so so much how charly approaches it. simply acknowledging the struggle, saying he has sympathy for it and that he wishes the best for the people is enoguh for me because a lot people just love seeing BPD persons as nothing but monsters literally. a lot stigma is out there too about it sadly made me very happy the way he talks about this
I technically have(had) BPD too according to what mental health professionals would say, but after 3 years of absolute hell and seeing myself as a victim of outer circumstances and making it worse for myself, I lost everything and I had to build from the ground up again - only this time with the perspective of personal responsibility after doing basically years of research into psychology and philosophy. It's definitely curable as I have experience with it first-hand, you just need to stop seeing yourself as someone with no control over your life.
As a psych major and daughter of someone who has BPD, I could immediately tell that she struggles with it as well. They tend to lash out on people that they care for most and have intense emotions around what they feel is rejection. It sucks for everyone involved
I love you so much bro. Thank you for sharing your understanding for this struggle that many have to deal with. With you being a content creator that SO MANY PEOPLE watch and enjoy. Hearing this from someone who has it and struggles really brings a lot of reassurance and helps us that little bit more. I always had respect for you but now my respect has increased even more. Thank you so much bro
I have bpd and it is SO easy to fall into this distructive and hurtful spiraling behavior. Mental illness is tricky, but it's unfair to push it onto other people. It takes SO much work to be able to stabilize yourself when you're spiraling like this without taking it out on others.
I also have BPD, and I was quickly able to tell she probably had it. We fall in love easily, connect and become attached too easily, expect things to happen, etc. It’s a pretty rough disorder to have. I still cry over small situations like that as my brain tries to tell me xyz person doesn’t love me because they didn’t text ‘good morning’ or something. I will cry. But do I say anything about it? No. Because it’s not normal. It ruins friendships, and it’s toxic. So I suck it up and cry it out. It was hard to learn how to do that, as in the past the only way to make the pain stop was to say how I felt. Now I’m getting better at telling myself that things aren’t true, and if I need to cry it out I do. I hate being so sensitive. I hate it.
i seriously appreciate the nuance that Charlie approached this with, considering how most tend to treat people with BPD... as someone who suffers from it myself, it really is just a 24/7 battle with yourself to try and sort through all the awful thoughts and overwhelming feelings that you know you have to be responsible for if you dont want to just instantly tank your relationships or harm the people in your life. I really do hope she sticks with the therapy and figures out a way to manage these things in the future.
just want to say thank you - for someone who also has BPD - i was terrified that more misinformation would be spread but that wasn't the case. this lady definitely seems like she needs to take a break from whoever they are speaking to and keep seeking help while being away from dating
I feel so bad for him, he seems like such a great guy and he had to have an experience like that. I hope he finds someone who deserves and appreciates him
as someone who has bpd and is doing reasonably well, the truth is if you are struggling to manage your bpd this bad, it’s not a good idea to pursue a relationship. you will hurt yourself. you will hurt the other person. it’s great that she’s in therapy, but it seems to me like she might’ve taken the fact she’s in therapy at all as an “yep! i’m getting help so i’m good!” and an all-clear to get in relationships she’s not ready for.
I have BPD and im not gonna lie, a lot of my old conversations used to go like this ALOT. Lost a ton of friendships and relationships because of it. Ive been able to go to therapy and establish healthy friendships now. BPD Shouldn't be an excuse for her, especially that she's proven to have access to therapy. All in all I feel for the guy and the girl, hoping she can get better and hoping this doesnt effect the guy too much.
Well BPD isn't something that switches like a light switch, it takes weeks for the mind to change with BPD. That girl is just a narcissist who views herself above others, she literally wants this stranger to stop his life and make her his main priority... if that ain't narcissistic idk what is lol
@@radchum no not wrong, I’ve studied psychology for the past 4 years of my life. Not tryna be a know it but I literally go to school to study this type of stuff
Man, the situation really sucks, my sister has BPD so when it was revealed, that’s when all that just clicked. It’s really sad to see, I hope she gets the help she needs
I dated a girl with BPD years ago. NGL I felt bad for her but she was so toxic and painful to be around. She flipped from super sweet to extremely toxic in a second. When I tried to break up with her she threatened to kill herself unless we stayed together. As much as I feel for people suffering from this condition, I couldn’t do that again. As soon as she mentioned BPD a romantic relationship would be off the table for me.
how did you break up tho? i mean, what did you do when she threatened to kill herself? im curious cause i feel i may have a very similar situation soon
@sirlike5915 unfortunately, you have to not care. More than likely they are saying that to manipulate you into staying and they don't actually mean it. Don't fall for it. The ONLY thing you can do when you decide to leave, is stay firm in that decision and dont let her manipulative tactics work. If she pulls the I will kill myself, turn it on her. Say you have a moral obligation to call cops and get her help. Then step away and call them. If she is saying those things, then she needs help anyways.
@@sirlike5915My ex would threaten suicide anytime I tried to leave. It's a manipulation tactic. You can offer them, like, helpful sites or offer to help them find a therapist but you still NEED to leave them. If someone tries to force you to stay with them by threatening ANYTHING then it'd manipulation.
The sheer amount of people who would go head over heels (in a healthy distanced sense) for the texts he's sent, I just. Man, he was so honest and treaded this situation so reasonably, I cannot believe it was somehow misconstrued even a little bit. I hope that guy knows he's an absolute gem, and I wish him the best
I sensed a lot of fear coming from his texts because he doesn't have many options. He was still holding out hope that he could salvage the situation while most normal guys would have either ignored her or told her to stop texting them. He's a weak weasel, as they say.
I was with somebody for 2 months that had borderline personality disorder and let me tell you something it is a nightmare if someone tells you that you have recently met and start to have feelings for that they have borderline personality disorder run as fast and far as you can. You could have an absolutely amazing week everything is great and then all of a sudden that person will hate you with all that they have for no reason.
as someone with BPD, she is not a fucking "empath," she has a disorder that amplifies her emotions to a painful and dysfunctional extent. I really hate it when people try and romanticize the disorder and frame it as something good when in reality it's nothing but a curse that needs to be worked around. she was clearly in so much pain by the end but i really hope she develops a better sense of self awareness or she will be alone for the rest of her life.
I agree with you to an extent. I think that people unhealthily romanticizing mental health disorders is a very unhealthy and dangerous thing. But I think it's a little too harsh to say that BPD is "nothing but a curse." I was diagnosed when I was around 17, and was in a toxic relationship. One of the ways that I learned to cope over the years is to accept the bad and the good of the hand I was dealt. Having more emotions than most, in my opinion, is one of my best and worst qualities for different reasons. I think there is always a bright side to look at and I hope you're doing well, from someone who understands the struggle. We all deserve patience and kindness ❤
I agree with one of the other commenters on this, your take is definitely a bad one. Obviously romanticizing mental health is bad but your way of saying “cursed” is like not only a horrible thing to say to other people, but yourself. Victimizing oneself will never make anything better
I'll agree that empath isn't correct. But I can certainly get where she would come to that conclusion. Considering both BPD feel emotions stronger than neurotypical people, along with studies showing that people with BPD are hyper aware of expression changes, for instance a neurotypical person can detect an expression at 70% while the same expression can be detected by a person with BPD at 30%. I think with those together it's pretty easy to come to that conclusion even if it's incorrect. You can learn more from HealthyGamerGG's BPD 101 video.
This also makes me wonder how many cis men are never diagnosed with BPD because it’s so normalized for a lot of men that they should act like this simply because they’re a man
As soon as people realize that infatuation is a natural part of the process and not to take it seriously and proclaim that you love someone just bc of feelings of infatuation, it will be a lot easier.
seriously what more do you need than matching with someone 3 times in one night in a random queue? i’m a straight dude and so much serendipity in the room would’ve have me questioning! 😂
honestly feel bad for her. i have bpd too and i can understand better than almost anyone the feeling that things will finally get better to the split where things fall apart. overall i hope she gets help and hopefully it helps her live a better life.
Literally the only person on the internet who can be in flow rip a hot one talk about it center and focus on it then make color commentary on it then continue on
As someone who has BPD and diagnosed narcissism disorder I can say it is a constant war to not become someone daily who can hurt those around me just by having my mind trick me into being someone I work extremely hard to control. Listening to this conversation shows me how many people cannot just control that erratic behavior side of themselves. I’m glad I have the mental fortitude to conduct myself better and be aware if I am overreacting in a situation.
Dude mad respect. Having self awareness is a blessing when dealing with mental health. Acknowledging that your mind is playing tricks and fighting to be that better person is honestly super admirable.
Coming from a teen who’s struggling with OCD, it’s really admirable that you work hard to keep your mental illness at bay and it actually inspires me to not give up when my mind gets too negative 🤍
i have BPD and i used to sound a LOT like this its actually embarrassing to me to see this and have to remember how i was before. I'm glad that she's in therapy for this right now, i hope that she has some self awareness eventually and shows this to her therapist so that they can work through it together. I feel so bad for the people who had to deal with me when i was like this. i did go back and apologize to them after i had help.
@@Spiralreddas someone with bpd and hpd who has figured shit out you're going about it the wrong way seek help and outsource. ive done the same thing and had the same thought trust me!
I had a best friend with BPD. It was a nightmare. She saw a psychologist sort of regularly, but refused to actually work on herself consistently enough to see changes. I became her emotional punching bag daily, and it just became too much. When I tried to defend myself for being a normal human being and not actively trying to sabotage her, I was the bad guy. I always got the responses “You think I want to be this way? No!” and nothing would be resolved or changed. She was allowed to treat me however she wanted because of her BPD. I was supposed to endure it. Any boundaries I set, she disrespected them. It finally came to a head when I stood my ground and I pointed out all the hypocrisy in our relationship. Apparently that made me the toxic one and she bailed. Nothing like being emotionally abused and being told it was my fault lol
What do you expect, you let her treat you like a doormat. And you probably were only friends because you fancied her and was trying to get something from it.
@@t.c.4321 Well initially she wasn’t like that, but she was almost sexually assaulted and it basically opened the floodgates to all her mental health problems. Anxiety and BPD were the biggest ones that I was aware of. She used to be normal. When she started acting out, her friends started leaving, and I didn’t want to be like them because I knew who she truly was and thought she could get better. I was meeting with a counselor to help with handling situations. That helped me, but my friend despised all the advice because she wasn’t controlling me like she wanted to. So it resulted in nasty confrontations that I tried to let roll off my back, but there’s only so much a person can take. I wouldn’t say I was trying to get something from her, but rather I was trying to be the bigger person and it just hurt too much. She got a power trip from hurting me and it took me a few years to move past that whole experience. Maybe I let her treat me like a doormat in the beginning because I thought I was actually hurting her, but I learned it was only par for the course and that it’s okay to let her throw a tantrum while I take a step back with a set boundary.
She definitely should’ve explained that she has BPD earlier. My best friend has BPD, and these sort of mood swings are entirely too real. It’s sad that the woman in these messages is leading people on like this, with all the love bombing and shit then switching up the next day. i imagine that’s exactly what the therapy is for tho.
If she's in therapy, she's not applying any of the recommendations therapists usually give to people with BPD. There are plenty of people out there with BPD who, thanks to therapy, stop to think and process their emotions instead of blowing up like that
I have bpd, we can be selfaware and work on ourselves especially with therapy, shes generally just not trying it looks like, i have my moments where i split and go nuts but i generally try to keep it to myself and not bring it onto other people. That doesnt always work, but we are capable of managing, though note some might be worse then others.
To be fair, they only knew each other for less than 24 hours and we don't know how she talks with other people, so I wouldn't call it "leading someone on" when she let him know the next day. I do agree that someone with BPD, or someone with anything that might be a dealbreaker for potential partners, should be upfront and honest about it. Hiding it will not only cause problems for the relationship, but also for anyone else facing the bad stigmas and stereotypes.
I dated a girl with BPD. It was EXACTLY like this. Whenever they feel like someone is about to abandon them, they get really scared and [unfortunately] end up doing everything in their power to make absolutely _sure_ that the person leaves. It's an awful disorder. She's doing great now though! On some good meds, has a baby and a wonderful boyfriend and everything! So it's totally possible, there is hope :)
@@jackdrippr2891 some people just don't believe in marriage but they stay together forever. I have friends that have been together for 30 years with kids and never wanted to get married. Everyone is different.
I was with a girl with BPD. The flips from her being super sweet to a demon, in an instant, were incomprehensible to me. Edit: I met this girl in a psych ward as I also had this and many other disorders… I never understood how one could conduct themself as she did. 2 years later she still harasses and threatens me.
as someone with bpd - it's pretty incomprehensible to us too, lol. in saying that, even to me this is insane. this is just someone with bpd with zero regulation in how they deal with their own disorder. these texts say a lot about the fact that while this person has been diagnosed, they have either not gotten the treatment they need, or are very early in their journey to working through it, or (unlikely but possibly) are actively avoiding treatment for it as it gives them an easy 'out' for any bad behaviour.
"Hi." *BURP*
Off to a great start.
That legit startled me and I had to pause the video for a moment to process that hahahaha.
then he fart 💀💀💀
charlie’s gassy like that
I laughed so hard that was great 🤣🤣🤣
Bro was like Rick Sanchez
“I am an empath”
-The worst fucking person you will ever meet
Hahaga
😂 lol. Word.
so true
Fecking everyone is an empath and can pick up on feelings and how people are feeling without them saying a word.
It's not some special thing. Everyone can do it.
Women who claim this just want excuses for bad behavior.
@@billbombshiggy9254 nah there's plenty of people who legitimately can't pick up on others' emotions, even if we exclude neurodivergent peeps like certain types of autistics. besides, there's like three(?) types of empathy, so even if the vast majority of humans are empaths - different people process the same interaction uniquely, which leads to the same trait manifesting differently in different people
Any type of trauma or mental illness isn’t your fault, but it IS your responsibility. Especially if it starts causing hurt toward others who are completely innocent. Hope she got help.
This. Such a good comment.
she already is in therapy form her texts... so I guess she needs a lot more help but what else could help her if therapy isnt working to a degree where she isnt a threat to herself and her surroundings. its really sad, but man, that guy is in danger i feel like.
@@jokabox93 could be she needs to change therapists too. Sometimes that’s the situation when therapy isn’t working as intended. Hopefully there are people in her life that can make her aware that whatever she’s doing isn’t working and a change needs to happen to improve her quality of life and those she interacts with
Yep. This is a mental illness so it’s more difficult to cope with than a lot of problems, but this woman is clearly a person who needs to work on herself more before trying to commit to a relationship.
Just because she's in therapy doesn't mean she's actually listening to the therapist. She has this victim mentality which is nothing a therapist can do. Therapists can only give you tools and ideas to help you. They cannot force your hand or implant a willpower chip. You have to help yourself FIRST. Take it from someone who took therapy for depression.@@jokabox93
"you'll never meet someone like me again"
Thank GOD
I dated someone like that and it was like having a puppy who could text you
@@Spiralredd accurate, but a puppy wouldn't be rude to you....well not intentionally at least
LOL
Yeah cause only 3 million people get diagnosed with this every year. Good luck and I'm one of them.
My ex in a nutshell, I was blind
“Hi 🤮 been thinking about you lately “
0:39
Who asked ? My content is better anyways broski
@@EmperorFPSno fucking way you people are real
@@qualjusmagalgus4764I can’t believe it either😐
Ik this has nothing too with the vid…but is my music fire
The minute she got angry over a good morning text, would've been the last text I ever sent to her, because that's just a great indicator of future problems.
I was thinking the same thing. Even if this dude had sent her the good morning text to her liking, I can imagine something similar would’ve happened anyway down the line. Probably really soon after this situation too.
Yeah and bpd isnt an excuse, she is literally acting like a "nice guy incel" despite what charlie says.
I was already getting red flags with the "sixth sense" and "knew each other in a past life".
Good to know most of us are in agreement on that part...
The real red flag was the day before, that was the indication of a delayed fuse. Somone who goes all-in like that for a couple hours of texting is not normal. Not normal is fine by itself, but here you're risking obsessive and volatile.
She was right abt one thing. That guy has something special to him. He’s genuinely the king of communication and someone we should all look upto in that realm.
He was sweet and understanding but he def shouldve stopped talking to her after the first night
Person with BPD here. Even though she says she's in therapy the way she's acting is a untreated form of bpd. I'm 30 now and have been in courses, groups, intensive treatment and therapy for the disorder since I was 21/22, helps that I'm a nerd that loves learning and doing homeworklol, anyway I actually find it hard to be around certain others with bpd now since getting help. We have what we call 'filters' and you do a test to find out what the most prominent filters are. Mine were self hatred and abandonment filter. Where my friend marked up the most with the entitlement filter. This girl seems like she would probably be abandonment and entitlement filter (theres others too but here just a couple examples). The entitlement filter is one of the hardest to deal with in my eyes. Because they constantly feel like the world owes them everything and they act like they are so hard done by (which obviously having this disorder is hard but they do it to a extreme), like the word 'no' is a hate crime. The child like tantrums ect. It drives me nuts. Again as having bpd myself I understand the struggle of dealing with it but that doesn't mean it's not totally unbearable lol. I've really progressed with my abandonment filter, especially since i was litterally abandoned by a partner while i was fighting for my life in hospital and I didn't even flinch, yay growth! Haha but the self hatred is the one i still struggle with. I'm now in a place where I probably could have a partner as I've learnt to communicate and manage my feelings but you have to be self aware enough to realise when you're not. Which takes us back to that entitlement filter "oh someone should just deal with my constant bullshit all the time and still love me, i deserve it!". Um no, you have to compromise and do better for yourself so you can do better in your relationships.
I don’t have BPD (that I know of anyway), but I used to have hella abandonment issues - perhaps because my family abandoned me.
I would get extremely attached to new people and cry and scream because I thought they decided to ghost me.
Im honestly so happy for you, keep it up❤️
Being 'in therapy' doesn't necessarily mean you are actually treating your disorder. You may be in therapy out of peer pressure or feeling obligated to without actually being interested in treatment of any kind.
I hate when people say oh I’m in therapy. Like just showing up to a building or getting on a zoom call instantly cures them or that it makes their insane behavior ok
Right. As someone with it too, I realized a long time ago I was the problem and I just wanted to be better for the people I loved and for myself. A disorder is not an excuse for terrible behavior. Like at first I saw myself in the messages because I like giving lots of affection to my favorite person but then I saw the rest and it was just downhill. It makes me sad because people start thinking everyone with bpd is like this, like you said, this is untreated. Anyways I'm proud of you, it's not easy, but I hope you're also getting out there and feeling better. Every day is a struggle but you're doing amazing 🤍
The burp at 0:38 and the farts at 8:17 reminded me that I have the sense of humor of a child
me too omg
It wasn't until he started farting... I'm dead. 💀
The fact that he announces the fart. He stopped everything to let us know.
I’m crying laughing rn bro
Charlie really is that unhinged uncle who was no filter
“Im an empath”
Bullet dodged. Bullet the size of a train
A bullet train
@@PumpyGTReally good movie btw
@@Fireclaw5588Hopefully that dude finds a nice girl to watch bullet train with.
@@trickyvic6501 yeah
Those who say it never are lol
it's really refreshing to see someone online be this sympathetic towards people with BPD
whenever i see it mentioned it's quickly followed by others saying that people with BPD are horrible manipulative monsters, so it was really good to see Charlie talk about it with kindness towards the disorder, while still making it VERY CLEAR that this woman is in no way ready for any kind of romantic relationship
You would be laughing at charlie's video if it was a man doing it calling him incel so stop
@user-xg6sx5ev9u why would I, someone with bpd, laugh at a man with bpd being insulted for having bpd? Go strawman someone else
Yeah, it really sucks that people have so much hate towards others with mental illness. I have had to deal with that all my life. I agree that it was good to see a TH-camr address the disorder with a high level of class and taking both sides. Not many people do that. If you ever notice in TV shows or movies, characters that have BPD are almost always the villain. We've definitely got the short-end of the stick.
....Or perhaps you just choose to see the negative responses and ignore the positive ones? Because I've never seen a mental health situation where the majority of people weren't sympathetic.
@kevingriffith677 Yeah, I am somehow telepathically capable of only ever clicking videos or posts that contain shitty comments! Professor Xavier will for sure give me a call soon to invite me to his school for super cool people.
There's a whole subreddit dedicated to people who are very vitriolic towards anyone with BPD. Any time someone with BPD is portrayed in media, they're always hurting someone else in some way. So many people online make shitty comments about others BPD, calling anyone with th disorder a bad toxic person.
I literally said "whenever I see it mentioned". I'm literally talking about my personal experience.
It was only last week that I saw people defending people with BPD on Twitter after a user made a horrible thread about it.
I'm not focusing only on the bad comments. It is very rare for me to see many sympathy for people with BPD. I'm talking about my personal experience.
He dodged his own murder.
Mental illness is actually terrifying. My uncle went out with a girl in his twenties. They went out on two dates and then he didn't call her for two or three days because he was very busy with work. Forth night, he woke up to her standing over his bed, sobbing, and holding a kitchen knife. Somehow he was able to talk her down and ended up driving her back to her mothers house who apologized to him and said she was mentally ill. He said that he really liked her and that she seemed completely normal on their two dates. 100% true story. Very scary stuff
what the fuck
So she made her way into his house without him hearing her break the lock? Maybe a window that was open?
She’s scary
@@brandonlamb9067 He said it was the window. Truly terrifying
Thats one crazzzzy bisssh
Omg that’s terrifying
Bro didn't dodge the bullet, he matrixed the whole fucking magazine.
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*भवतः हृदयस्य धड़कनं कतिपयेषु घण्टेषु स्थगयिष्यति, अस्य शापस्य मुक्तिं प्राप्तुं एकमात्रं मार्गं मम चैनलस्य सदस्यतां कुर्वन्तु*
the clip 💀
lol
@@Vuuduu thank god, cant wait
@@alicenthightower9161good boy
A lot of people who have very strong emotions/feelings confuse it with being high in empathy or being an “empath”.
Yes, many people who are emotional/sensitive are also high in empathy, but they are COMPLETELY different things. This woman here completely lacked any kind of empathy even though she clearly had feelings in spades.
I’m very confused to why she calls herself an empath and that’s what causes her heightened emotions and not her personality disorder.
Uhh no when someone says that, they can’t control their anger
@@spookykiwi70 I believe some people genuinely are empaths. But this woman clearly has emotions so extreme that make her act and think so irrationally that it tips over from just being very sensitive into a personality disorder.
Just highly sensitive people/empaths wouldn’t behave like she does
Yeah bpd makes you feel things super intensely, but doesn't necessarily help you read others feelings. Maybe indirectly
@@twilyte9557 beyond a certain point, reading another’s emotional state and being able to put yourself in that persons shoes is impossible if you are too busy being overwhelmed by your own emotions. it can also make you misinterpret social and emotional cues. I have experience with a few BPD ex gf’s and the woman in this video was exactly like them
As someone who has BPD, that guy is like a dream partner. BPD makes the smallest things feel like potential attacks or the end of the world due to your trauma. However, no matter how bad the pain got -- even at the points I physically felt my emotional pain -- I've always worked through the urge to lash out. It's hard for me to believe she's in therapy because she has no self-awareness about the irrationality of her actions whatsoever considering it's still ongoing. Me and several others with BPD purposefully abstain from relationships until we know we are much better and it's a shame some don't because it truly helps you as well.
Uhh yeah she's just a toxic and vile person imo. The "I'm an empath" comment is an immediate red flag.
CRIED laughing at the abrupt "oh, I'm farting"
What point of the video was that?
@@monsieurnugaijust the video lil bro
@@monsieurnugai8:20ish
@@monsieurnugailike 8:30
@@monsieurnugai8:17
Being too busy to text in the morning made this guy dodge a bullet.
Honestly should treat his boss to the dinner instead now ahahahah
I mean, I was getting red flags from the beginning
@@CanTERRAif his boss is a woman
@@iaminsfiredbytrustfration8502 or bro dinner
@@iaminsfiredbytrustfration8502 or if his boss is a man. Both work
As someone who's dated people with BPD this guy handled it so well, I for my part got gaslit so many times that it had negative effects on my own mental health. That man is a good example on how to handle and interact with others
saaaaame..... long term relationships with BPD or NPD people will drive you insane.
@@tylerdurden7965Yep. I feel you. Been through the same with an untreated BPD. It started with a facade but time did its thing
Yuuup, one of those bizarre life experiences that you’ll never forget, even though you’d like nothing more than to.
Yep. I was in a relationship with someone who had BPD. This happened daily.
Unless you can literally see into the future you will not be able to make someone with BPD happy. One wrong word (or even the absence of a word), calling or texting a minute too late (or too early), wearing the wrong clothes, ordering the wrong thing at a restaurant, literally anything can, and will eventually be, interrupted as “I don’t love you”
This is so stigmatizing. People with bpd are capable of having relationships as long as they are taking the initiative to do better. I don’t condone being awful to your partner, that is never okay. However, not every person with bpd will act like this.
I agree with you and I’m sorry if that came across as “no one can change” but that is assuming that everyone with BPD is doing their best to rise above their disorder. Unfortunately BPD tends to make a person believe that they are always right, and therefore it’s not them who needs to change but everyone else. In my situation my partner refused to get any sort of help which led to the unfortunate end of the relationship. Of course that is not always how it goes and I think that anyone who truly wants to overcome any mental disorder can do so with enough determination and support.
@@Datadog-1 You must not be all that familiar with the disorder because all BPD makes you believe is that every relationship is doomed to fall apart and that no one cares because you suck. I've never met a single person with BPD that believed they were "always right". Sounds like you've being dealing with narcissists.
literally describes my mom and she don't have it
Real lmao. Dated like 3 ppl with BPD and its always the same shit 💀💀💀 just run if u see one
I had a 'fight or flight' response as soon as i saw the words 'spiritual energy', 'soulmate' and 'therapy' in one screenshot
is emotional intelligence really just as much of a pseudoscience as spiritual energy to you? seek therapy.
@@kiwo579that by themselves are fine.
Problem is you have to see who's saying it lol
@@kiwo579You didn’t manage to get “soulmate” in there.
@kiwo579 it seems like you've misunderstood his/her comment. He's/she's not saying EI is the same spectrum as spiritual concepts. He's/she's saying that if you have an internal problem and need therapy to fix it might as well not get yourself into a relationship cuz wheter you admit it or not we often tend to reflect those problems and emotional conflicts we have with ourselves to others specially our partner.
And as someone who's at a stable emotional state I don't wanna be at the direct line of fire from that person's barrage of toxic remarks
You can't just spring your mental health onto a stranger like that. This guy deserves an award for patience and understanding cos that's next level
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*भवतः हृदयस्य धड़कनं कतिपयेषु घण्टेषु स्थगयिष्यति, अस्य शापस्य मुक्तिं प्राप्तुं एकमात्रं मार्गं मम चैनलस्य सदस्यतां कुर्वन्तु*
thats what BPD does..... tho.... its part of the deal ... thats why its so hard for us to keep relationships
@@xlifexwithxlithiumx If you're aware you're like this, aware it's wrong and horrible, and still have the attitude of "that's just what it is" then you are a horrible person and should be avoided at all costs, absolutely NO ONE with a severe mental illness that affects other people so negatively should have that attitude towards it, and they certainly shouldn't be seeking relationships with other people when they know how vile of a person they are, it's purely selfishness and makes that person an objectively bad person at that stage regardless of the mental illness. It's not "hard for you to keep relationships" you are the reason the relationships go badly. You shouldn't be accepted as you are, you can and should work tirelessly to not be that person. BPD is treatable, there is no excuse to be harmful to others
@@xlifexwithxlithiumxIf your using a mental illness for bad behavior youve recognized then relationships at the time aren't something you should seek out
@@xlifexwithxlithiumxyou're aware of the problem. You've identified it. You cant keep using it as an excuse. Be upfront about your mental health, nobody deserves to step on a mine like that
Complete opposite of an empath LMAO
When someone say’s that they’re something there compensating for something, normal people don’t need to label themselves or need to, actions speak louder then words
I was thinking this as well 😂😂
@@rrtttfthxg2143that may be the case sometimes. But sometimes people can tell something is off in themselves, and naming the demon can lead to understand it better
i'm glad people appreciate wholesome guys like that though
I struggle with BPD and I promise it's not always like this. Mental illness is never an excuse to treat people like hell. That "I'm an empath" is so bs too, this guy genuinely seems nice and I hope he finds a nice healthy relationship that treats him well.
Yeah she isnt an empath, she just experiences very intense emotions lol
it is like this very often though. the consenus also is that BPD isn't really curable (yet manageable through therapy) due to the need for radical restructuring of the foundations of the respective individual's personality, which people with BPD are naturally (and understandably so) fearful of, as well as the extremely long time required for such changes, possibly surpassing their remaining lifetime.
@@theveimox4945she legit sounded like a scammer to me. Even though I’m sure it’s the bpd talking. I hope she gets the help she needs.
@@toseltreps1101BPD and therapy are a good match. don’t try to make people feel like they can’t control their emotions.
@@toseltreps1101 Meditation would be a great start.
THe minute she got angry over a Good Morning text, would've been the last text I ever sent to her, because that's just a great indicator of future problems.
*Don't translate.………..❤️*
*भवतः हृदयस्य धड़कनं कतिपयेषु घण्टेषु स्थगयिष्यति, अस्य शापस्य मुक्तिं प्राप्तुं एकमात्रं मार्गं मम चैनलस्य सदस्यतां कुर्वन्तु*
Honestly the whole “you’re perfect for me” rant at the beginning was the red flag that should have caused him to cut her off right then and there. Anyone who thinks that someone they’ve barely talked to is their soulmate or whatever is obviously not right in the head.
@@hobojoe9717 I have dealt with ladies like this when I had a tinder profile they come on wayyyy over the top it seems kind of cool at first then they just completely flip if you aren't playing 4d chess texting exactly when they want I just become Casper the now not friendly ghost and disappear they can send all the messages they want shit is crazy!
@@hobojoe9717 I wish you could talk to 14-18 year old me... 🤦🏾♂️ Boy, ain't that a lesson.
I would've been out at message #2.
I hope this guy does find the person he deserves. And that she gets all the therapy she needs
“Hold up I’m farting… that’s what I think of that”🤣🤣🤣
0:38 I like to imagine the first text actually had a burp and Charlie was just imitating it. Laughed hard thinking about it too
As an Australian that burp sounded like a koala, which is why I found it so funny
lmao i just posted a comment saying that too
I thought maybe it did too because I was just listening to the video in the background, I came over and rewound a few seconds to check the actual text lol
That made me _WHEEZE_ so loud
He also farted later in the vid. Charlie has been very gassy lately. Probably gearing up for that new Taco Bell menu
Charlie's belch scared the life out of me
frfr
@@HackedByFPSshut up kid
Expected nothing less from his subscribers
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Don't read my name..
Thank you for being so understanding of people with bpd! We get demonised a lot and we dont all act like this. I was so happy to hear you being understanding and supportive
Dated a girl w this disorder and it can be so exhausting dealing w someone who is utterly selfish and mentally unwell.
8:14 „He‘s already won your heart over by just existing it seems like, since you- oh, I’m farting“ *fart noises*
fucking SENT me
🤣🤣🤣
Same 😭
ughhh😫😫 I'm farting! 💨💨
Did you land yet? Wonder if you can make it back home
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 why is he all of sudden just acting like this this guy lmaooo
The pause to say “oh I’m farting” then the silence only disrupted by the farts was a much appreciated break from these texts😂
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*भवतः हृदयस्य धड़कनं कतिपयेषु घण्टेषु स्थगयिष्यति, अस्य शापस्य मुक्तिं प्राप्तुं एकमात्रं मार्गं मम चैनलस्य सदस्यतां कुर्वन्तु*
I changed it to these texts instead of this crazy lady because I hadn’t yet got the the point when we find out she has bpd. Having a personality disorder doesn’t make you crazy and I thought she was just one of the nice girls. Now that I watched the whole video I felt bad and decided to change my comment to prevent potentially upsetting someone with bpd. Sorry about that ❤
Lmaooo😭
Oh I'm farting had me dead imao💀
@@Vuuduu I took a dump in your channel.
8:17 had me CRYING 😭
Thank you SO much for showing this video on how to handle a situation like this. Like this really helps a lot in understanding what's acceptable social behavior. i hope you make more videos of this. thank you.
8:16 caught me so off guard when charlie just lets the fart speak for itself 😂
I know right? immidiately rush down to the comments xD
0:39 😂
I love creators who are happy just belching and/or farting on stream ;D
💀 he announced that crap
😂
The art of being/communicating softly is so undervalued in the modern day because of the misinterpretation of "soft" meaning "weak" or "simple"
I think the right word is humble
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yeah that's not sigma rizzing skibidi
What a day..
Dude I knew she was gonna go to the empath bullshit
kinda crazy how if the roles were reversed and the guy was the one talkin like that he would instantly be labelled a creep and the girl just wouldnt reply.
I mean it makes sense tho because men make those types of comments way more often and also often times with bad intent. That’s just the truth of it sadly
Are we not having the same reaction to both situations when the roles are reversed?
@@cry-piddawg we’re not. When it’s a dude they are insulted way more for their character and being a terrible person, when it’s a girl they just “need help” need to go to therapy and stop being crazy
@@HeatMiserr wdym why’s that? That’s just how it is
@@HeatMiserr because it is… it’s documented that men do those things more often that’s just a fact man
ok as a borderline i didn’t expect that very understanding part about what it’s like to have it thanks charlie you really brightened my day
crazy that she dropped the “i’m an empath” line when she clearly is incapable of putting herself in his shoes and understanding that her behavior towards him was cruel and weird
It’s always the “I’m an empath” girlies who are the most toxic, self absorbed people you’ll ever meet.
The thing with BPD is that you're so emotionally "weak" that you end up to only be able to see your version of the story. It's shitty but that's what BPD does
@@gibier1724if that’s what it revolves around, should I get checked for it…
@pecc9678 There's other thing around BPD but that's a huge part of it. Ik I'm in this shitty disorder but like every disorder each person has a deferent (reaction?) to it. Still BDP is mostly related to unstable emotion related to emotion and bad Self-perception which end up that the BPD person is only able to see/fell his/her emotion at the time.
@@gibier1724 my friend has BPD and I’m trying to understand
“Love is not a lie, you were” is actually such a good line
Don't let taylor swift sees this
Lol @@aeoligarlic4024
@@aeoligarlic4024 I chortled at this
Is it??
@@TheJunkShotfrom her, no, but this is a pretty deep line in the correct context
This story hurt my soul, I hope the best for them both, he seemed like a great guy!
See if you're like that the best thing is to find someone like you. Someone who's crazy too
Bro didn't dodge a bullet, he dodged a whole ass nuke.
anyone confessing their love to you after a couple hours of knowing them is just not a good sign
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that's what I'm saying, I was like, "no wayy this is gonna end well" and what do you know 💀
Mhm word
Exactly, that's not off to a good start. You know NOTHING about the other person.
That's how you end up with a guaranteed mess of a relationship, you don't know anything about the other person's life and are fitting them into your life based on looks alone.
@@Vuuduu Since yuh like fi ramp black magic ow bout mi lef fun likkle hex inna yuh computa fi yuh tuh find
As someone with a psychology degree and experience with people with BPD, BPD does NOT make a person commit actions that harm others. There are still symptoms like abandonment issues, mood swings, impulsive attachment, and things of the like, but it does not inherently cause you to hurt others. That is still their choice to do. While I deeply sympathize with people who struggle with this mental illness, they cannot blame their mental issues when they go out of their way to hurt people for little to no reason
EDIT: I want to clarify what I mean really quick so people aren’t confused. I do not believe people with BPD have full control over their emotions. Nor do I believe it’s impossible for them to have a seemingly uncontrollable impulsive reaction that can cause harm in the moment to the self or someone else. I saying going out of your way to cause someone harm then blaming it on BPD is not okay and it’s their choices at that point.
For context, the girl being upset over not getting a good morning text and being moody about it? Yeah that’s textbook BPD behavior and while not okay, understandable given the circumstance. Her harassing him for god-knows-how-long after he dipped out? Her choice and not strictly because of BPD. That’s what I meant to say but could’ve worded it more clearly. Thank you to those who wanted clarification (and providing clarification with their own experiences) and not immediately thinking I’m just hating on people with BPD
Everyone has been using mental health issues to get out of shits. Like serial killers wont take accountability for their crimes because they "was bullied and depressed"
My BPD for the last 23 years has done nothing but make me hurt myself physically and emotionally. I couldn't ever see myself being this mad at someone for 0 reason. When there's reason oh all bets are off. I also have psychosis that's getting progressively worse now Ive passed my late twenties and entering my early 30s. I want to be gone more than anything but I won't harm another human being.
I’m Borderline and I can tell you that it sucks ass. I got crazier and crazier year after year until the last few years when I started making progress. I’ve lost a lot of friends. It hurts every time.
BPD makes every emotion feel all consuming and it’s really hard to have normal healthy relationships when you can’t think straight.
can confirm as a person with borderline. we’re far more likely to be hurt than to do the hurting - and people will use our disorder against us to say WE’RE the abusers. shit sucks
This is so wrong it's unbelievable. My cousin has had to be baker acted because of his clinically diagnosed BPD when he held his whole family up at gunpoint.
This makes me soo relieved. Knowing I'll never be as creepy as this girl in DMS fills me with determination
This poor dude is so sweet and just wanted to get to know her first
8:11
"oh..im farting"
i love how he announces and gives a warning before he farts
he actually said it while farting, that slippery rascal
It just showed up without asking nothing Charlie could’ve done better there. In fact, that fart was being a little more rude than the crazy obsessed lady in the video really.
@@try_force8794slippery rascal is fkn hilarious 😂
@@ev1627 i think those were misfires before the big one
11:20 "you'll never meet someone like me again"
Got a feeling that's what he's hoping for the most.
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i always find it funny when people say that during a breakup.
Like, good? I wouldn't want to be with someone who is like you, because it clearly isn't working out
"thank god"
Dating someone with BPD must be tough.
lol he didn't even meet her, just exchanged a few texts. XD
as someone who has suffered with mental illnesses, ive looked back at some of my past texts and seen how i treated people especially past partners and i feel bad and im glad ive figured out how to take responsibility over it
As a person with BPD, seeing someone like Charlie be so kind and understanding about something that a LOT of people just see as being dramatic made me feel so seen. BPD is like having every single emotion dialed up to a million, ALL THE TIME. It’s incredibly hard to deal with at times, BUT it can (with therapy) be dealt with a little easier. Big props to this man for being so kind to this girl, despite her getting so combative. It gives me hope that even at my worst moments there can be guys like this stranger who are willing to be calm during it.
as someone with BPD, I really appreciate the kind words and understanding Charlie. I see a lot of my past self in this person, I hope she realizes it's not okay whatsoever to treat someone this way, even if you have a disorder. The guy was a very nice and patient person, didn't even insult her back.
why do people with this disorder think they need to date? genuine question
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I'm glad someone else felt the same way. I'm still in the same state as her, and that's why I stay away from relationships.
I fully agree! I have BPD and used to be like this until I learnt skills to deal with my intense emotions. The guy was lovely and very respectful.
Yeah I love how compassionate he is and how nice the guy is talking to her. She needs a lot of therapy and I really hope she manages to get better. I was misdiagnosed with BPD (I actually have autism and ADHD and it’s super common for women with both to be misdiagnosed) and I met a lot of people with it. I saw how much they struggled with dating and it honestly sucks. Props to this guy for being so respectful even when letting her know they weren’t right for each other.
as a person who struggles with bpd, its not okay for her to use it as an excuse for her behavior. that makes all of us who are trying to heal and be better look bad and its why alot of people demonize people who have bpd.
i feel like it can very well be an excuse for some behaviors but NOT justification, i think theres a big difference between those two statements. like for example "oh, i was mad at you so i kicked you" the excuse there would be being mad but it doesnt justify the action in the slightest
@@boootyassi think “explanation” is a better word for it. excuse literally means to justify. so i would say her bpd doesn’t excuse her actions, but can explain them
True, feel that.
I mean yeah, depends on how you explain it, to make it not an excuse imo.
Exactly. Also got bpd. It’s super important to take responsibility and communicate when you’re struggling. I’ve really only been in 1 longterm relationship, and she never really understood what I was going through really, but she’s definitely not too blame. We had a lot of dark things going on in her personal life and while I’ve also been through it, I have bpd and a poor control over my emotions. When things got intense or dark or if she was taking out her grief on me I would feel attacked and use and say horrible things against her. We were on and off for years but broke it off probably for good last year. She has done and said pretty shitty things to me as well, definetly broke my heart. But it’s not the bpd, it’s who I was. And that’s really hard to accept. It’s important to understand what bpd actually does to you and to fully understand what kind of person you were. I felt that I was weak and powerless before and needed to take what cheap shot I could so that maybe that person could feel as hurt as I do. I super hard and I don’t have a definite answer, but for ones own growth it’s important to take responsibility for your actions, not using mental illness as a crutch, and establish a healthy outlook on your own self value.
I’ve got bpd and I constantly struggle to act it a normal manner with my boyfriend. Seeing this always makes me remember how difficult it is to deal with someone with bpd.
As someone with BPD myself I appreciate so so much how charly approaches it. simply acknowledging the struggle, saying he has sympathy for it and that he wishes the best for the people is enoguh for me because a lot people just love seeing BPD persons as nothing but monsters literally. a lot stigma is out there too about it sadly
made me very happy the way he talks about this
I technically have(had) BPD too according to what mental health professionals would say, but after 3 years of absolute hell and seeing myself as a victim of outer circumstances and making it worse for myself, I lost everything and I had to build from the ground up again - only this time with the perspective of personal responsibility after doing basically years of research into psychology and philosophy. It's definitely curable as I have experience with it first-hand, you just need to stop seeing yourself as someone with no control over your life.
Putting those farts in there while I had earphones in is diabolical
those farts were hot
they made me edge
As a psych major and daughter of someone who has BPD, I could immediately tell that she struggles with it as well. They tend to lash out on people that they care for most and have intense emotions around what they feel is rejection. It sucks for everyone involved
Including love bombing and thinking they have a closer relationship than they really do, especially right after meeting people
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Skill issue
She doesn't have "BPD"; she's just clingy. Stop making up disorders for everything.
@@furious_melons674Borderline is bpd. Bipolar has been renamed to manic depressive syndrome
I love you so much bro. Thank you for sharing your understanding for this struggle that many have to deal with. With you being a content creator that SO MANY PEOPLE watch and enjoy. Hearing this from someone who has it and struggles really brings a lot of reassurance and helps us that little bit more. I always had respect for you but now my respect has increased even more. Thank you so much bro
I have bpd and it is SO easy to fall into this distructive and hurtful spiraling behavior. Mental illness is tricky, but it's unfair to push it onto other people. It takes SO much work to be able to stabilize yourself when you're spiraling like this without taking it out on others.
".. oh I'm farting"
why do I tolerate this shit? Charles you're the only one I'll put up with this shit (fart) for.
RIGHT? I would literally call anyone else out, but he's such a humble person, I can't help but overlook it 😂
my farts are better than charlie's
@@Fartacus44 and yet your farts remain solemnly your own business rather than gracing our ears like Charles'.
@@gavin__ I should start a patreon 🤔
@@Fartacus44 it will never compare to the elegance of Charlie's toots
I also have BPD, and I was quickly able to tell she probably had it. We fall in love easily, connect and become attached too easily, expect things to happen, etc. It’s a pretty rough disorder to have. I still cry over small situations like that as my brain tries to tell me xyz person doesn’t love me because they didn’t text ‘good morning’ or something. I will cry. But do I say anything about it? No. Because it’s not normal. It ruins friendships, and it’s toxic. So I suck it up and cry it out. It was hard to learn how to do that, as in the past the only way to make the pain stop was to say how I felt. Now I’m getting better at telling myself that things aren’t true, and if I need to cry it out I do.
I hate being so sensitive. I hate it.
Was your BPD diagnosed?
@@marcin8865 I was officially diagnosed with it last month. I may be put on mood stabilizers to help. I hope I can get on them soon
womp womp
@@hauntedholics rude
I appreciate your self awareness and for informing us about the topic! Wishing you the best of luck with your BPD, it is no joke.
i seriously appreciate the nuance that Charlie approached this with, considering how most tend to treat people with BPD... as someone who suffers from it myself, it really is just a 24/7 battle with yourself to try and sort through all the awful thoughts and overwhelming feelings that you know you have to be responsible for if you dont want to just instantly tank your relationships or harm the people in your life. I really do hope she sticks with the therapy and figures out a way to manage these things in the future.
just want to say thank you - for someone who also has BPD - i was terrified that more misinformation would be spread but that wasn't the case. this lady definitely seems like she needs to take a break from whoever they are speaking to and keep seeking help while being away from dating
I feel so bad for him, he seems like such a great guy and he had to have an experience like that. I hope he finds someone who deserves and appreciates him
I mean... the block button exists
@@kiirosoleil what does that have to do with my comment
@@kiirosoleilnever stopped an obsessive stalker, especially an obsessive stalker with mental illness.
@@kiirosoleil don't know about that guy, but I would not engage after the first mood change, but to each their own I guess
He didn't dodge a bullet, he dodged an ICBM.
blud just burps after reading "hi" 😭😭😭
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@@HackedByFPS 🤓👆
Blud calls ppl blud
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@@HackedByFPSwho asked? my pfp is way better than yours
as someone who has bpd and is doing reasonably well, the truth is if you are struggling to manage your bpd this bad, it’s not a good idea to pursue a relationship. you will hurt yourself. you will hurt the other person. it’s great that she’s in therapy, but it seems to me like she might’ve taken the fact she’s in therapy at all as an “yep! i’m getting help so i’m good!” and an all-clear to get in relationships she’s not ready for.
That burp in the beginning jump scared me and I started choking on my food so hard 😂😭
I have BPD and im not gonna lie, a lot of my old conversations used to go like this ALOT. Lost a ton of friendships and relationships because of it. Ive been able to go to therapy and establish healthy friendships now. BPD Shouldn't be an excuse for her, especially that she's proven to have access to therapy. All in all I feel for the guy and the girl, hoping she can get better and hoping this doesnt effect the guy too much.
Well BPD isn't something that switches like a light switch, it takes weeks for the mind to change with BPD. That girl is just a narcissist who views herself above others, she literally wants this stranger to stop his life and make her his main priority... if that ain't narcissistic idk what is lol
@@drewdj45Wrong. Mania can be very prevalent in BPD. Its different for everyone.
@@radchum no not wrong, I’ve studied psychology for the past 4 years of my life. Not tryna be a know it but I literally go to school to study this type of stuff
@@drewdj45neither of you are wrong , not every persons mind works the same
@@drewdj45Then you would know that BPD causes a broad range of reactions and labeling it as a singular type is disingenuous
The burp at 0:38 is the ultimate power move, no girl can resist that charm.
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thats crazy
ok i wont@@Vuuduu
@@EmperorFPS not you again, get out of here you little person 👍
Man, the situation really sucks, my sister has BPD so when it was revealed, that’s when all that just clicked. It’s really sad to see, I hope she gets the help she needs
Please do more of these
"Hi! :3"
*fucking dies at **0:38*
"I've been thinking about you all evening
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Don't read my name..
the way you wrote this comment has me dying 😭😭
I’m glad someone pointed this out, but why tf is all the replies bots???
Welcome to youtube blud.
“Oh, I’m farting” *pfft *pfft. 8:17
This is somehow some of the funniest shit I have ever witnessed.
Don't read my name..
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I had to rewatch it 3 times. Amazing.
Fr 😂😂
Blud burps after a "hi" and proceeds to double fart after reading some cringe messages
As someone with severe bpd its amazing to know that penguin understands and has compassion for people with bpd.
If someone is like this to you, then you know damn well this isnt a right person to be around
I dated a girl with BPD years ago. NGL I felt bad for her but she was so toxic and painful to be around. She flipped from super sweet to extremely toxic in a second. When I tried to break up with her she threatened to kill herself unless we stayed together.
As much as I feel for people suffering from this condition, I couldn’t do that again. As soon as she mentioned BPD a romantic relationship would be off the table for me.
That is SUPER common unfortunately. At the end of the day, it's a manipulation tactic :/
Similar experience with an ex partner who suffered from BPD, just such extreme emotions and toxicity, and the suicide/harm baiting :(( it scared me
how did you break up tho? i mean, what did you do when she threatened to kill herself? im curious cause i feel i may have a very similar situation soon
@sirlike5915 unfortunately, you have to not care. More than likely they are saying that to manipulate you into staying and they don't actually mean it. Don't fall for it. The ONLY thing you can do when you decide to leave, is stay firm in that decision and dont let her manipulative tactics work.
If she pulls the I will kill myself, turn it on her. Say you have a moral obligation to call cops and get her help. Then step away and call them. If she is saying those things, then she needs help anyways.
@@sirlike5915My ex would threaten suicide anytime I tried to leave. It's a manipulation tactic. You can offer them, like, helpful sites or offer to help them find a therapist but you still NEED to leave them. If someone tries to force you to stay with them by threatening ANYTHING then it'd manipulation.
The sheer amount of people who would go head over heels (in a healthy distanced sense) for the texts he's sent, I just.
Man, he was so honest and treaded this situation so reasonably, I cannot believe it was somehow misconstrued even a little bit. I hope that guy knows he's an absolute gem, and I wish him the best
Facts
I feel like the whole commentary video as well as this comment is balm for the sould for a lot of guys nowadays...
Yeah he seems really sweet and like he has good communication skills.
I sensed a lot of fear coming from his texts because he doesn't have many options. He was still holding out hope that he could salvage the situation while most normal guys would have either ignored her or told her to stop texting them. He's a weak weasel, as they say.
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fell asleep watching youtube and that burp woke me up 😭
I was with somebody for 2 months that had borderline personality disorder and let me tell you something it is a nightmare if someone tells you that you have recently met and start to have feelings for that they have borderline personality disorder run as fast and far as you can. You could have an absolutely amazing week everything is great and then all of a sudden that person will hate you with all that they have for no reason.
as someone with BPD, she is not a fucking "empath," she has a disorder that amplifies her emotions to a painful and dysfunctional extent. I really hate it when people try and romanticize the disorder and frame it as something good when in reality it's nothing but a curse that needs to be worked around. she was clearly in so much pain by the end but i really hope she develops a better sense of self awareness or she will be alone for the rest of her life.
Ikr, its not like they lack cognitive abilities and intelligence. Cant blame EVERYTHING on BPD
yeah this romanticization of mental health issues need to stop
I agree with you to an extent. I think that people unhealthily romanticizing mental health disorders is a very unhealthy and dangerous thing. But I think it's a little too harsh to say that BPD is "nothing but a curse." I was diagnosed when I was around 17, and was in a toxic relationship. One of the ways that I learned to cope over the years is to accept the bad and the good of the hand I was dealt. Having more emotions than most, in my opinion, is one of my best and worst qualities for different reasons. I think there is always a bright side to look at and I hope you're doing well, from someone who understands the struggle. We all deserve patience and kindness ❤
I agree with one of the other commenters on this, your take is definitely a bad one. Obviously romanticizing mental health is bad but your way of saying “cursed” is like not only a horrible thing to say to other people, but yourself. Victimizing oneself will never make anything better
I'll agree that empath isn't correct. But I can certainly get where she would come to that conclusion. Considering both BPD feel emotions stronger than neurotypical people, along with studies showing that people with BPD are hyper aware of expression changes, for instance a neurotypical person can detect an expression at 70% while the same expression can be detected by a person with BPD at 30%. I think with those together it's pretty easy to come to that conclusion even if it's incorrect. You can learn more from HealthyGamerGG's BPD 101 video.
“I rest my case I’ll let my asshole do the talking” is now my new catchphrase
lol i had to replay that part, caught me off guard. Like "where did it say- oh wait blood actually farting.."
I hope she brought this up to her therapist and they were able to help her through her struggles. I hope they both find happiness
This also makes me wonder how many cis men are never diagnosed with BPD because it’s so normalized for a lot of men that they should act like this simply because they’re a man
As soon as people realize that infatuation is a natural part of the process and not to take it seriously and proclaim that you love someone just bc of feelings of infatuation, it will be a lot easier.
Charlie really dropped the ball not sending a "good morning" text to that apex legends guy after 3 consecutive games.
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@@Vuuduu ok i wont
😂😂😂
Fr. Would've been a nice rebound after the recent break up
seriously what more do you need than matching with someone 3 times in one night in a random queue?
i’m a straight dude and so much serendipity in the room would’ve have me questioning! 😂
Dude dodged a major bullet there. Yikes.
He dodged WW3
yes quite a yowza moment
More like pulled a Neo from Matrix and went bullet time. More than one shot fired. This woman should be wrapped in red tape and covered in red flags.
mf dodged an artillery strike
.50 BMG sized bullet 😂
honestly feel bad for her. i have bpd too and i can understand better than almost anyone the feeling that things will finally get better to the split where things fall apart. overall i hope she gets help and hopefully it helps her live a better life.
Literally the only person on the internet who can be in flow rip a hot one talk about it center and focus on it then make color commentary on it then continue on
As someone who has BPD and diagnosed narcissism disorder I can say it is a constant war to not become someone daily who can hurt those around me just by having my mind trick me into being someone I work extremely hard to control. Listening to this conversation shows me how many people cannot just control that erratic behavior side of themselves. I’m glad I have the mental fortitude to conduct myself better and be aware if I am overreacting in a situation.
Self-awareness is pretty crucial for stuff like this I think. And of course, the fortitude and will to behave appropriately lol😅
honestly good on you, i have bpd so this post really hit close to home for me. i hope she can get the help she needs
Dude mad respect. Having self awareness is a blessing when dealing with mental health. Acknowledging that your mind is playing tricks and fighting to be that better person is honestly super admirable.
Coming from a teen who’s struggling with OCD, it’s really admirable that you work hard to keep your mental illness at bay and it actually inspires me to not give up when my mind gets too negative 🤍
Thank you I am glad I can encourage you with my words and help facilitate improvements for the betterment of yourself.
i have BPD and i used to sound a LOT like this its actually embarrassing to me to see this and have to remember how i was before. I'm glad that she's in therapy for this right now, i hope that she has some self awareness eventually and shows this to her therapist so that they can work through it together. I feel so bad for the people who had to deal with me when i was like this. i did go back and apologize to them after i had help.
The sad part is I am kind of like this too. I met a girl who was like me and was able to follow my energy.
@@Spiralreddur just enabling each others dependency though , u should both work on it
@@cia1542 we'd rather embrace it. There's nothing wrong with being crazy about each other. I'd rather her be crazy for me than not care
@@Spiralreddas someone with bpd and hpd who has figured shit out you're going about it the wrong way seek help and outsource. ive done the same thing and had the same thought trust me!
@@jasper1957 well that's you. We're getting married and it's working for me and her
I had a best friend with BPD. It was a nightmare. She saw a psychologist sort of regularly, but refused to actually work on herself consistently enough to see changes. I became her emotional punching bag daily, and it just became too much. When I tried to defend myself for being a normal human being and not actively trying to sabotage her, I was the bad guy. I always got the responses “You think I want to be this way? No!” and nothing would be resolved or changed. She was allowed to treat me however she wanted because of her BPD. I was supposed to endure it. Any boundaries I set, she disrespected them. It finally came to a head when I stood my ground and I pointed out all the hypocrisy in our relationship. Apparently that made me the toxic one and she bailed. Nothing like being emotionally abused and being told it was my fault lol
What do you expect, you let her treat you like a doormat. And you probably were only friends because you fancied her and was trying to get something from it.
@@t.c.4321 Well initially she wasn’t like that, but she was almost sexually assaulted and it basically opened the floodgates to all her mental health problems. Anxiety and BPD were the biggest ones that I was aware of. She used to be normal. When she started acting out, her friends started leaving, and I didn’t want to be like them because I knew who she truly was and thought she could get better. I was meeting with a counselor to help with handling situations. That helped me, but my friend despised all the advice because she wasn’t controlling me like she wanted to. So it resulted in nasty confrontations that I tried to let roll off my back, but there’s only so much a person can take. I wouldn’t say I was trying to get something from her, but rather I was trying to be the bigger person and it just hurt too much. She got a power trip from hurting me and it took me a few years to move past that whole experience. Maybe I let her treat me like a doormat in the beginning because I thought I was actually hurting her, but I learned it was only par for the course and that it’s okay to let her throw a tantrum while I take a step back with a set boundary.
That sounds exhausting
@@t.c.4321 Projection
wow the dude's level of patience is next level, i feel really bad for both of them tbh
"Hi (BELLLLLCHH), continues reading" XDDD "oh im farting" LOOLLL
Hahaha! Lol!
She definitely should’ve explained that she has BPD earlier. My best friend has BPD, and these sort of mood swings are entirely too real. It’s sad that the woman in these messages is leading people on like this, with all the love bombing and shit then switching up the next day. i imagine that’s exactly what the therapy is for tho.
If she's in therapy, she's not applying any of the recommendations therapists usually give to people with BPD. There are plenty of people out there with BPD who, thanks to therapy, stop to think and process their emotions instead of blowing up like that
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@@Vuuduuget a job lil bro
I have bpd, we can be selfaware and work on ourselves especially with therapy, shes generally just not trying it looks like, i have my moments where i split and go nuts but i generally try to keep it to myself and not bring it onto other people. That doesnt always work, but we are capable of managing, though note some might be worse then others.
To be fair, they only knew each other for less than 24 hours and we don't know how she talks with other people, so I wouldn't call it "leading someone on" when she let him know the next day. I do agree that someone with BPD, or someone with anything that might be a dealbreaker for potential partners, should be upfront and honest about it. Hiding it will not only cause problems for the relationship, but also for anyone else facing the bad stigmas and stereotypes.
8:16 This is why I'm subbed to you, Charlie. Never change.
My ex wife was diagnosed with BPD and refuses to acknowledge she has it. These texts gave me PTSD from the last 7 years I dealt with that.
I dated a girl with BPD. It was EXACTLY like this. Whenever they feel like someone is about to abandon them, they get really scared and [unfortunately] end up doing everything in their power to make absolutely _sure_ that the person leaves. It's an awful disorder.
She's doing great now though! On some good meds, has a baby and a wonderful boyfriend and everything! So it's totally possible, there is hope :)
Yup I had exactly that happen to me
@@jackdrippr2891 ah yes, lets call people "things" because they had a kid without signing a piece of paper first.
@@jackdrippr2891 some people just don't believe in marriage but they stay together forever. I have friends that have been together for 30 years with kids and never wanted to get married. Everyone is different.
@@jackdrippr2891based but kind of an incel take at the same time
@@jackdrippr2891Upload a picture of yourself to your channel
I was with a girl with BPD. The flips from her being super sweet to a demon, in an instant, were incomprehensible to me.
Edit: I met this girl in a psych ward as I also had this and many other disorders… I never understood how one could conduct themself as she did. 2 years later she still harasses and threatens me.
Or a scammer that wants to harvest bro's organs
My mom has it
Surprise, that's what BPD is.
as someone with bpd - it's pretty incomprehensible to us too, lol.
in saying that, even to me this is insane. this is just someone with bpd with zero regulation in how they deal with their own disorder. these texts say a lot about the fact that while this person has been diagnosed, they have either not gotten the treatment they need, or are very early in their journey to working through it, or (unlikely but possibly) are actively avoiding treatment for it as it gives them an easy 'out' for any bad behaviour.
We aren’t all like this I promise.
that "We have to meet asap" is a line I imagine would come from a movie, or tv show
The juxtaposition between this guy's reasonable and respectful responses and this girl's gradual reveal of her abject insanity is truly fascinating.
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@@EmperorFPS blow up
The duality of texters.
super serious bipolar and mania, don't envy her mental distress. Sad more than anything.
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