What really astounds me, is that on top of the lack of accountability and absolute refusal to accept any fault, Diane has now created a PAID support group for parents like her. She's not only publically invalidating her daughters experience, she's using it as a GRIFT to make $$$ 🤢🤮
as somebody dealing with similar with my grandparents, mostly my positive view on lgbt+ compared to my grandparents negative view. it’s a big reason why she’ll probably never have a space in her daughters life again, including her daughters children aswell. she can’t admit any wrongdoing like a typical narc, a lot like parents who say, “i guess i was such a bad parents even though i put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food in your body.” which is basically what every parent should do normally and not expect to be treated like gods for it. parents like that never change and honestly it’s shameful she’s using it as a grift. but it proves that she’ll never change and see her daughter as a different person then her personal emotional footstool.
For crying out loud its NOT about what you did when she was a kid it's how you treat her NOW that's she's an adult. My parents both fucked up my childhood severely, and only got divorced when I was 19, but while my mom still pretty much talks like Diane, my dad did a lot of therapy and genuinely apologized to me when I was 21 or so, crying genuine tears that did not come from a place of self pity and made a genuine effort to fix our relationship. I went no contact with one of them, make a guess which one.
True. My estranged mom has all her friends calling me and asking me to "forgive". They don't understand that I'm _protecting_ myself from who she IS today, not for things from long ago. Forgiveness is not the issue.
@@politereminder6284 Such an important distinction! Too many times people see it as holding a grudge or whatever, when really it's protecting your own peace. There's literally no point in holding onto relationships with harmful people.
Exactly this. My mom (very similar in some ways to Diane) has only gotten worse with age and is flat out rude, nasty and verbally abusive to me. She can take zero criticism, screams to shut out any opinion opposing her own. No matter what or how I try to express my perspective, it's wrong to her, completely unworthy of being listened to. I finally gave up on the relationship this year (I'm in my 40's) and it's extremely difficult, but my only regret thus far is that I didn't reach this conclusion sooner. I would've saved myself a lot of unnecessary trauma and grief at the hands of my birth giver.
My mom is an alcoholic and bipolar like me but doesn't 'believe in therapists' and made my partner cry. I can't keep her in my life is she is harming not only me but those around me and tries to lie that she didn't. It is now I am worried about. I have completed therapy for my childhood trauma. The issue I have now isn't related to the past. It is about how she is now.
Diane loves her victimhood. She wears it like it's Prada. She nurtures it, feeds it, and takes it with her everywhere. Diane has climbed up onto her cross and relished every moment of bashing in the nails. She will fight to stay up there. "My daughter wrote an angry letter." Tell me you minimize and dismiss your child without admitting to yourself you've done this. "Politics" means Diane is blameless, pure, a Martyr. Mmmmm . . .Martyrdom. Yum. Awful. Awful human being. Going No Contact is the last resort for self preservation. It's painful to be alone and cut off from family, but once that relationship becomes toxic, a person has to make a decision about how to survive.
$10 says that this “introverted wonderful child” either was shut down to deal with Diane and the stepfather, or never got diagnosed for being neurodivergent and 2020 just brought it to a head.
As a no-contact adult who did both as a kid, those were my immediate thoughts as well. She wasn't 'introverted', she shut down around you because you're an energy vampire who delights in total control over her
everytime i see Dianes smug facial expression it feels like a tiger will eat me any second. feels like she's oozing viciousnes. i think as a kid i would be scared of her.
I didn't give reasons. I assumed she knew them. And while it's sad, it's strangely validating that in the space between suddenly leaving and going full no contact, she never once asked why. I feel better now I'm not a living embodiment of her resentment at her own choice to have a baby.
This woman makes me so sick. It’s like looking at my own mother. I have so many insane letters from my own mother. One time (after I stopped responding) she sent me blank cards and envelopes and told me to write to her.
Diane is NOT a safe person. If her daughter ever does come back (God forbid), there's no way Diane will be kind to her. She can barely conceal her contempt and rage.
I also feel like she may possibly have read out more of that "angry letter" than she would admit, during her first video. That childish voice that reads over itself when she's first talking about the letter, there's a scentence that I can make out amongst her chatter: In the reading voice, I hear 'All my life I've been talked over, guilt tripped, gaslit. I need to be heard, it has hurt my mental health.' Even just that small bit that I could hear from her dramatic child-voiced reading has a lot more meaning that just politics, just like you said.
The crazy part is that even if it was primarily about politics, you have to question why the relationship hasn't been repaired over time. At some point, they'd agree to disagree for the sake of the relationship, right? But they haven't. There would be no reason for her not to reconcile unless she felt there was no reason to reconcile. That would be a great place for Diane to start some healthy introspection, but she doesn't get it and doesn't really want to get it either.
All i ever have to say about Diane is that I'm SO proud of her daughter, Haley. Hell yes. Haley, you are stronger than you should have ever had to be and I'm sending you so much love every time i see your mother gaslighting you and the rest of us. 💜
I plan on going low contact in the coming years. My parents think we have a largely good relationship because I choose to emotionally manage them to keep the peace. I care about my parents but they are a massive stressor in my life and are the reason why I have not reached the goals I planned to now that I am 20. I know they’ll be blindsided and feel betrayed because that’s now these relationships work. You have to behave the certain way or you will be miserable.
Her constantly bringing up the letter really ircked me. When I cut my mother out of my life I wrote her a letter detailing my feelings and why I didn’t feel safe around her. She put it on the fridge and shows all her friends that letter and frames herself as the victim with it. What is their obsession with being professional victims
Jesus Christ. Imagine doing that with no shame or embarrassment. I can only assume the people she surrounds herself with sucks equally or are quietly horrified but don't say it to her face. I'm sorry.
I feel like the tiktok of her saying "things I learned from going NC" probably did exist, considering the two of them reacted to it, but the daughter deleted it to make it harder for people to find her from her mom's video. It's bad enough when you cut ties and have random family members and family friends reaching out to pull you back in, but imagine it's the entire internet and now you have to deal with something you never signed up for. Could be wrong too, but it makes sense to me.
Diane was like "she made videos about us" but in the first video she said it was one video called "what I learned after a year of no contact with my parents". She also said before that she had "scoured her social media looking for references to us".
Maximo, I think the main things you've identified are Diane's totally inability to show vulnerability, attempt introspection or appear sincere in concern for her daughter's well being. Her focus seems to be on the shock she experienced that her daughter would ever cut her husband and herself out of her life and how blameless they are for these turn of events. Everything she has done from there has been an extreme way of justifying her stance as blameless and her daughter as unjustified in cutting them off. It's pathetic. If there was any hope of her daughter resuming contact, Diane has blown that out of the universe whilst also showing the world why her daughter decided to go no contact as the person Diane presents herself is truly ensufferable.
FFS it isn't POLITCS. Human rights aren't politics. They aren't up for debate. The fact she refuses to acknowledge that is reason enough to cut off the relationship. Also, you could just tell what she meant by it being pointless to debate something like Allah VS God, what she meant was "right vs wrong." She is very sure she is right about everything. Also, her daughter is AUTISTIC, not introverted. I wonder if a) Did they paid for her college? B) Do they justify monitizing this situation by telling themselves they have the right to recoup the money they put out for college and maybe even for raising her?
I saw the first few words of this notif on my phone and thought you were yelling at me 😭 but 100% human rights aren't politics and her purposeful misunderstanding of that is why it's pointless to argue with her or people who defend her. I wish she hadn't deleted her racist and transphobic video
@@MaximmminoWouldn't it be a real tragedy if her daughter quietly leaked the full letter she gave her mother so she couldn't hide the parts she knows she can't spin? Still, any engagement would probably be good in her mother's eyes, like how she scoured her daughter's content and then got mad they weren't mentioned. Negative attention would still be attention after all. Her daughter has more self control and ability to detach than I have. I have my dad blocked on everything because he keeps sending me the same religious and politics laden crap, but it is like he is a record stuck on one groove. How often does he think I need to hear his opinions? When I have asked him to stop, he reacts by calling me a loud-mouth bitch. So, yeah, if I wrote a letter and he went on the internet saying I cut him off because of politics, I wouldn't be able to stay detached the way her amazing daughter is able.
@@rachelheney8471I so want to hear her daughters side, but at the same time, I know that for her to engage with this content is exactly what Diane wants, so I hope she continues to ignore her. Diane is spiralling and I love that for her.
Human rights are absolutely politics. The mistake is equating the world "politics" with "frivolous" or "unimportant". That doesn't mean that human rights are up for debate either. They aren't, but human rights are political by nature.
Even if it would have been over politics, her going: our daughter was never that into politics before! Well, maybe you just didn't care about her opinion. This happened during the 2020 election, and if the daughter is early 20s chances are she wasnt even allowed to vote in 2016.
also i remember at the beginning you mentioned you've yet to see a video like this from a dad - one actually came up in my recommended like 3 weeks ago, if you'd ever be interested in covering it. it's called "why i cut my daughter out of my will" by ben hart. i did not watch the entire video so idk the whole story (it's 1.5 hrs long and the way he spoke pissed me off lmao, like it makes my skin crawl). EVERY comment i saw on that video was positive, and agreeing that he was right to cut her from his will bc she's a spoiled brat... i was shocked to see so much positive feedback, hardly any dislikes on the video either. but ugh the way he made it clear from the start of the video that him and his daughter had issues because he's a massive trumper, made it that much more unwatchable for me personally. what little i watched made me majorly uncomfortable, as it is clear to me from the way he talks about his family as well as the run-time that he is exploiting his estranged kid (with a tiktok following) for his own benefit. an analysis of it would be so fascinating!
Oh my god she sounds like my mother 😂. My mother tells people I wanted for nothing and we got along. I don’t think we were living in the same reality at all. I needed help, I didn’t live in an environment where I thought I could go to them. The one time I did go to them they belittled me and dragged me about it every day that followed. That’s not an environment where someone who needs something or lives differently from you feels safe enough to go to you.
This always drives me insane when people claim that the cause of an argument is "unimportant" or "small". It´s just an attempt to gaslight the other person into submitting. If you really thought it was a small matter, you would just do it the other person´s way! I never ever fucking fight with people over things that to me are unimportant. If they want it that way, and I don´t care, fine, we´ll do it that way. If I go to the trouble of fighting with somebody, it´s because to me the matter at hand is important. And now political right wingers do the exact same shit. Trying to gaslight society into thinking things don´t matter, so they will submit.
Imagine that face as a small child! Terrifying. The documentary was just odd. The heavenly music. Very dramatic and one sided. I wanted to hear from the daughters side but i don't have tiktok. I already believe she was right to get away from this after watching. If you just shut up 😂 lol she can't help herself. Anything but take accountability. Its never her fault. "We didnt have any problems with her that we know of" Yeah probably because you ignored and neglected her needs. Because they would have been such an inconvenience for you. Let go of them by leaving them alone maybe? Maybe don't stalk them and work on yourself. Or you can make this your life now for money and attention. Now that you cant feed off your daughter.
She reminds me of bitcoin dad. Invulnerable narc tho. She might be a vulnerable narc (they can cry, heal with therapy but Invulnerables cant because its "working". Dianes insnt.
A lot of what Diane says is her reassurance to herself as being "a good mother." And to also assure the audience that she is acting in good faith. But you can notice she also speaks heavily in generalizations.
legit in her little documentary when she said she started stalking her kids tiktok that there was nothing mentioned about them she said something to the affect of "I wanted to see what she up to and i found there was no mention of us, her parents *cry*" so she cant say the kid spoke out first because in her doc she cried that she wasnt anywhere on her social media
I think for many of these parents they are far too concerned with looking good on the outside, she wants those around her to think her life is perfect, when a kid estranges themselves they can't pretend anymore, they can't take blame but they can blame the kids who aren't there to defend themselves anymore.
The ignorance of saying "Oh they went no contact over politics!" As if this is some concept that is divorced from beliefs and actions. Like "Oh. I am right-wing and conservative, my ridiculous left-wing lgbt daughter just abandoned us over politics!" Because those politics have nothing to do with what they believe and the actions that stem from it. Not that we don't think lgbt people dont deserve rights. Not that we mock our daughter for her beliefs. "Just politics." (This is just a vague example as to why "the politics" angle is ridiculous and childish.)
In her mind the rest of the letter was just not true. Because it pointed the finger at her, and the part she fixated on, gives her room to blame others.
14:56 🤣 I remember that, it also remind me of how mad I got seeing people in front of the voter places praying after Trump lost, "I was like get the flip up!!"
Did a quick search and she is adorable. I’m so happy for her success and wish her a happy life. It’s funny how her parents outed themselves when they could’ve just stayed stfu about it. I love that for Haley. We see you girl and yes they are toxic af. I’m 45 and my parents have abused me and my son who they sued for custody of. It’s funny now that my son is 25 he’s a “loser” too. Good thing they age out soon. Fuck ‘em.
If it's "just politics" and "it doesn't really matter who you vote for because both sides are the same", why is it that you so reliably vote for Republicans? Why didn't you vote for Biden? After all, it doesn't matter right? It's "just politics" right?
I really wish people would stop throwing words like narcissist and psychopath around until they don't mean anything. She's egotistical. We can't diagnose her.
Her behavior is consistent with narcissistic behaviors and she has demonstrated an innumerable amount of narcissistic traits. More than fair to call her one. Just like someone who engages in theft is appropriately called a thief. Save that sanctimonious talk for somewhere else😏
i hate this argument lmao. i have chronic depression and anxiety disorders. i don't consider people saying "i'm anxious" or "that person seems depressed" as "diagnosing" anyone - it's a normal emotion or even common personality traits that have been observed throughout history. the word narcissism as a way to describe self-obsessed individuals is obviously much much older than the DSM-V.... narcissistic, depressed, anxious, etc. are all personality traits as much as they are disorders when they are on the extreme side of the spectrum. honestly? just read the first few paragraphs of wikipedia's article on both narcissism as well as egotism lol... expands on what i just told you in a very easy to understand way. also egotistical and narcissistic are quite literally synonyms?? 🤣
It's not diagnostics, it's merely using descriptive words accurately. We can't say that she is a narc clinically, but we can absolutely say that she engages in narc-like behaviors and displays narc-like attitudes. That is more than fair.
I would normally agree with you because so many disorder terms are being used as cutesy adjectives, but narcissism is a bit different. Calling someone narcissistic is referring to a pattern of self centeredness, but it's not the same thing as saying someone has narcissistic personality disorder. The term narcissistic personality disorder actually comes from narcissistic as an adjective to describe more common and fairly normal behaviors. So yeah you can call someone a narcissist without it being "diagnosing" them. And psychopath isn't a diagnosis. It's not a real medical term.
This is such a hard situation. Both are actually allowed to their own views. I thikn young ppl have a hard time realizing that the speed with which the social movements are moving forward is hard for ppl who mive much slower. I think both parties had to meet a bit half way. I don t think this was just about politics but in a more profound way...yes it was about politics. I don t like the way this yiutiber shits on this mom. She is probably somewhat if a biggot but those are our fellow humans. They might not have the capacity to adapt to our fast moving world.
I mean, even without the politics aspect, she looks and sounds like an awful human being, so I think that makes it even more difficult to meet in the middle.
Everyone had the capacity to "adapt" if they want to "Skow to afapt" is no excuse for her vile, bigotry filled, unhinged rants and the perpetual shaming of her children
She's apparently a Trumper republican, they only care about the parts of scripture that justify whatever atrocities suit them. That is how she got that wrong, she never cared to get it right.
What really astounds me, is that on top of the lack of accountability and absolute refusal to accept any fault, Diane has now created a PAID support group for parents like her. She's not only publically invalidating her daughters experience, she's using it as a GRIFT to make $$$ 🤢🤮
as somebody dealing with similar with my grandparents, mostly my positive view on lgbt+ compared to my grandparents negative view.
it’s a big reason why she’ll probably never have a space in her daughters life again, including her daughters children aswell.
she can’t admit any wrongdoing like a typical narc, a lot like parents who say, “i guess i was such a bad parents even though i put a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food in your body.” which is basically what every parent should do normally and not expect to be treated like gods for it.
parents like that never change and honestly it’s shameful she’s using it as a grift.
but it proves that she’ll never change and see her daughter as a different person then her personal emotional footstool.
For crying out loud its NOT about what you did when she was a kid it's how you treat her NOW that's she's an adult. My parents both fucked up my childhood severely, and only got divorced when I was 19, but while my mom still pretty much talks like Diane, my dad did a lot of therapy and genuinely apologized to me when I was 21 or so, crying genuine tears that did not come from a place of self pity and made a genuine effort to fix our relationship. I went no contact with one of them, make a guess which one.
True. My estranged mom has all her friends calling me and asking me to "forgive". They don't understand that I'm _protecting_ myself from who she IS today, not for things from long ago. Forgiveness is not the issue.
@@politereminder6284 Such an important distinction! Too many times people see it as holding a grudge or whatever, when really it's protecting your own peace. There's literally no point in holding onto relationships with harmful people.
Exactly this. My mom (very similar in some ways to Diane) has only gotten worse with age and is flat out rude, nasty and verbally abusive to me. She can take zero criticism, screams to shut out any opinion opposing her own. No matter what or how I try to express my perspective, it's wrong to her, completely unworthy of being listened to. I finally gave up on the relationship this year (I'm in my 40's) and it's extremely difficult, but my only regret thus far is that I didn't reach this conclusion sooner. I would've saved myself a lot of unnecessary trauma and grief at the hands of my birth giver.
My mom is an alcoholic and bipolar like me but doesn't 'believe in therapists' and made my partner cry. I can't keep her in my life is she is harming not only me but those around me and tries to lie that she didn't. It is now I am worried about. I have completed therapy for my childhood trauma. The issue I have now isn't related to the past. It is about how she is now.
Diane loves her victimhood. She wears it like it's Prada. She nurtures it, feeds it, and takes it with her everywhere.
Diane has climbed up onto her cross and relished every moment of bashing in the nails. She will fight to stay up there.
"My daughter wrote an angry letter." Tell me you minimize and dismiss your child without admitting to yourself you've done this. "Politics" means Diane is blameless, pure, a Martyr. Mmmmm . . .Martyrdom. Yum.
Awful. Awful human being. Going No Contact is the last resort for self preservation. It's painful to be alone and cut off from family, but once that relationship becomes toxic, a person has to make a decision about how to survive.
$10 says that this “introverted wonderful child” either was shut down to deal with Diane and the stepfather, or never got diagnosed for being neurodivergent and 2020 just brought it to a head.
As a no-contact adult who did both as a kid, those were my immediate thoughts as well. She wasn't 'introverted', she shut down around you because you're an energy vampire who delights in total control over her
everytime i see Dianes smug facial expression it feels like a tiger will eat me any second. feels like she's oozing viciousnes. i think as a kid i would be scared of her.
Her daughter told her exactly what was wrong! That's why you don't give these trashy "parents" reasons. Just go no contact
I didn't give reasons. I assumed she knew them. And while it's sad, it's strangely validating that in the space between suddenly leaving and going full no contact, she never once asked why. I feel better now I'm not a living embodiment of her resentment at her own choice to have a baby.
This woman makes me so sick. It’s like looking at my own mother. I have so many insane letters from my own mother. One time (after I stopped responding) she sent me blank cards and envelopes and told me to write to her.
Diane is NOT a safe person. If her daughter ever does come back (God forbid), there's no way Diane will be kind to her. She can barely conceal her contempt and rage.
I also feel like she may possibly have read out more of that "angry letter" than she would admit, during her first video. That childish voice that reads over itself when she's first talking about the letter, there's a scentence that I can make out amongst her chatter:
In the reading voice, I hear 'All my life I've been talked over, guilt tripped, gaslit. I need to be heard, it has hurt my mental health.'
Even just that small bit that I could hear from her dramatic child-voiced reading has a lot more meaning that just politics, just like you said.
Yeah she's all around just awful
@@Maximmmino that is super true!
The crazy part is that even if it was primarily about politics, you have to question why the relationship hasn't been repaired over time. At some point, they'd agree to disagree for the sake of the relationship, right? But they haven't. There would be no reason for her not to reconcile unless she felt there was no reason to reconcile. That would be a great place for Diane to start some healthy introspection, but she doesn't get it and doesn't really want to get it either.
The way she changes her voice and mannerisms when she doesn't like something is so slimy. It's a covert way to manipulate and it's sickening.
All i ever have to say about Diane is that I'm SO proud of her daughter, Haley. Hell yes.
Haley, you are stronger than you should have ever had to be and I'm sending you so much love every time i see your mother gaslighting you and the rest of us. 💜
I plan on going low contact in the coming years. My parents think we have a largely good relationship because I choose to emotionally manage them to keep the peace. I care about my parents but they are a massive stressor in my life and are the reason why I have not reached the goals I planned to now that I am 20. I know they’ll be blindsided and feel betrayed because that’s now these relationships work. You have to behave the certain way or you will be miserable.
Her constantly bringing up the letter really ircked me. When I cut my mother out of my life I wrote her a letter detailing my feelings and why I didn’t feel safe around her. She put it on the fridge and shows all her friends that letter and frames herself as the victim with it. What is their obsession with being professional victims
Jesus Christ. Imagine doing that with no shame or embarrassment. I can only assume the people she surrounds herself with sucks equally or are quietly horrified but don't say it to her face. I'm sorry.
What an incredible final betrayal of trust. I’m so sorry. I can see my own mother doing that as well.
Please never stop the estranged mum content or im going to have to buy a microphone and a camera lmfao
I'll watch! 😂 I can't look away
Her blink rate is insane.
I feel like the tiktok of her saying "things I learned from going NC" probably did exist, considering the two of them reacted to it, but the daughter deleted it to make it harder for people to find her from her mom's video. It's bad enough when you cut ties and have random family members and family friends reaching out to pull you back in, but imagine it's the entire internet and now you have to deal with something you never signed up for. Could be wrong too, but it makes sense to me.
Diane was like "she made videos about us" but in the first video she said it was one video called "what I learned after a year of no contact with my parents".
She also said before that she had "scoured her social media looking for references to us".
@@justine8387 Yeah I'm thinking it's probably just the one she showed her husband on camera.
Maximo, I think the main things you've identified are Diane's totally inability to show vulnerability, attempt introspection or appear sincere in concern for her daughter's well being. Her focus seems to be on the shock she experienced that her daughter would ever cut her husband and herself out of her life and how blameless they are for these turn of events. Everything she has done from there has been an extreme way of justifying her stance as blameless and her daughter as unjustified in cutting them off. It's pathetic. If there was any hope of her daughter resuming contact, Diane has blown that out of the universe whilst also showing the world why her daughter decided to go no contact as the person Diane presents herself is truly ensufferable.
The fact she's turned this into a money msking scheme is truly the icing on the cake!
Sorry but politics matter when you vote for people that politically want to remove or limit accsess to human rights to groups of people
FFS it isn't POLITCS. Human rights aren't politics. They aren't up for debate. The fact she refuses to acknowledge that is reason enough to cut off the relationship. Also, you could just tell what she meant by it being pointless to debate something like Allah VS God, what she meant was "right vs wrong." She is very sure she is right about everything.
Also, her daughter is AUTISTIC, not introverted.
I wonder if a) Did they paid for her college?
B) Do they justify monitizing this situation by telling themselves they have the right to recoup the money they put out for college and maybe even for raising her?
I saw the first few words of this notif on my phone and thought you were yelling at me 😭 but 100% human rights aren't politics and her purposeful misunderstanding of that is why it's pointless to argue with her or people who defend her. I wish she hadn't deleted her racist and transphobic video
@@MaximmminoWouldn't it be a real tragedy if her daughter quietly leaked the full letter she gave her mother so she couldn't hide the parts she knows she can't spin? Still, any engagement would probably be good in her mother's eyes, like how she scoured her daughter's content and then got mad they weren't mentioned. Negative attention would still be attention after all. Her daughter has more self control and ability to detach than I have. I have my dad blocked on everything because he keeps sending me the same religious and politics laden crap, but it is like he is a record stuck on one groove. How often does he think I need to hear his opinions? When I have asked him to stop, he reacts by calling me a loud-mouth bitch. So, yeah, if I wrote a letter and he went on the internet saying I cut him off because of politics, I wouldn't be able to stay detached the way her amazing daughter is able.
@@rachelheney8471I so want to hear her daughters side, but at the same time, I know that for her to engage with this content is exactly what Diane wants, so I hope she continues to ignore her. Diane is spiralling and I love that for her.
Human rights are absolutely politics. The mistake is equating the world "politics" with "frivolous" or "unimportant". That doesn't mean that human rights are up for debate either. They aren't, but human rights are political by nature.
Even if it would have been over politics, her going: our daughter was never that into politics before! Well, maybe you just didn't care about her opinion. This happened during the 2020 election, and if the daughter is early 20s chances are she wasnt even allowed to vote in 2016.
also i remember at the beginning you mentioned you've yet to see a video like this from a dad - one actually came up in my recommended like 3 weeks ago, if you'd ever be interested in covering it. it's called "why i cut my daughter out of my will" by ben hart. i did not watch the entire video so idk the whole story (it's 1.5 hrs long and the way he spoke pissed me off lmao, like it makes my skin crawl). EVERY comment i saw on that video was positive, and agreeing that he was right to cut her from his will bc she's a spoiled brat... i was shocked to see so much positive feedback, hardly any dislikes on the video either. but ugh the way he made it clear from the start of the video that him and his daughter had issues because he's a massive trumper, made it that much more unwatchable for me personally. what little i watched made me majorly uncomfortable, as it is clear to me from the way he talks about his family as well as the run-time that he is exploiting his estranged kid (with a tiktok following) for his own benefit. an analysis of it would be so fascinating!
Please please keep it up with the Diane videos bro🙏🙏. Don't let her get away with any of her videos
Oh my god she sounds like my mother 😂. My mother tells people I wanted for nothing and we got along. I don’t think we were living in the same reality at all. I needed help, I didn’t live in an environment where I thought I could go to them. The one time I did go to them they belittled me and dragged me about it every day that followed. That’s not an environment where someone who needs something or lives differently from you feels safe enough to go to you.
Sooo. "It almost doesn't matter who you put into office". Oh. But it does matter enough that you would willingly lose your child over it. K.
This always drives me insane when people claim that the cause of an argument is "unimportant" or "small". It´s just an attempt to gaslight the other person into submitting. If you really thought it was a small matter, you would just do it the other person´s way!
I never ever fucking fight with people over things that to me are unimportant. If they want it that way, and I don´t care, fine, we´ll do it that way. If I go to the trouble of fighting with somebody, it´s because to me the matter at hand is important.
And now political right wingers do the exact same shit. Trying to gaslight society into thinking things don´t matter, so they will submit.
Politics are a reflection of your morals. It's not "just" politics.
Imagine that face as a small child! Terrifying. The documentary was just odd. The heavenly music. Very dramatic and one sided. I wanted to hear from the daughters side but i don't have tiktok. I already believe she was right to get away from this after watching.
If you just shut up 😂 lol she can't help herself. Anything but take accountability. Its never her fault.
"We didnt have any problems with her that we know of"
Yeah probably because you ignored and neglected her needs. Because they would have been such an inconvenience for you.
Let go of them by leaving them alone maybe? Maybe don't stalk them and work on yourself. Or you can make this your life now for money and attention. Now that you cant feed off your daughter.
She reminds me of bitcoin dad. Invulnerable narc tho. She might be a vulnerable narc (they can cry, heal with therapy but Invulnerables cant because its "working". Dianes insnt.
Bitcoin Dad? Link, please?
A lot of what Diane says is her reassurance to herself as being "a good mother." And to also assure the audience that she is acting in good faith. But you can notice she also speaks heavily in generalizations.
legit in her little documentary when she said she started stalking her kids tiktok that there was nothing mentioned about them she said something to the affect of "I wanted to see what she up to and i found there was no mention of us, her parents *cry*" so she cant say the kid spoke out first because in her doc she cried that she wasnt anywhere on her social media
19:04 you're breaking my social anxiety now
I think for many of these parents they are far too concerned with looking good on the outside, she wants those around her to think her life is perfect, when a kid estranges themselves they can't pretend anymore, they can't take blame but they can blame the kids who aren't there to defend themselves anymore.
The ignorance of saying "Oh they went no contact over politics!" As if this is some concept that is divorced from beliefs and actions. Like "Oh. I am right-wing and conservative, my ridiculous left-wing lgbt daughter just abandoned us over politics!" Because those politics have nothing to do with what they believe and the actions that stem from it. Not that we don't think lgbt people dont deserve rights. Not that we mock our daughter for her beliefs. "Just politics."
(This is just a vague example as to why "the politics" angle is ridiculous and childish.)
In her mind the rest of the letter was just not true. Because it pointed the finger at her, and the part she fixated on, gives her room to blame others.
14:56 🤣 I remember that, it also remind me of how mad I got seeing people in front of the voter places praying after Trump lost, "I was like get the flip up!!"
I wish to you hadn't said about the static. Now its all I can hear 😢
Did a quick search and she is adorable. I’m so happy for her success and wish her a happy life. It’s funny how her parents outed themselves when they could’ve just stayed stfu about it. I love that for Haley. We see you girl and yes they are toxic af. I’m 45 and my parents have abused me and my son who they sued for custody of. It’s funny now that my son is 25 he’s a “loser” too. Good thing they age out soon. Fuck ‘em.
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@@Maximmmino Ok. I don't know why my footage wasn't working. It is now though.
If it's "just politics" and "it doesn't really matter who you vote for because both sides are the same", why is it that you so reliably vote for Republicans? Why didn't you vote for Biden? After all, it doesn't matter right? It's "just politics" right?
I really wish people would stop throwing words like narcissist and psychopath around until they don't mean anything. She's egotistical. We can't diagnose her.
Her behavior is consistent with narcissistic behaviors and she has demonstrated an innumerable amount of narcissistic traits. More than fair to call her one. Just like someone who engages in theft is appropriately called a thief. Save that sanctimonious talk for somewhere else😏
i hate this argument lmao. i have chronic depression and anxiety disorders. i don't consider people saying "i'm anxious" or "that person seems depressed" as "diagnosing" anyone - it's a normal emotion or even common personality traits that have been observed throughout history. the word narcissism as a way to describe self-obsessed individuals is obviously much much older than the DSM-V.... narcissistic, depressed, anxious, etc. are all personality traits as much as they are disorders when they are on the extreme side of the spectrum. honestly? just read the first few paragraphs of wikipedia's article on both narcissism as well as egotism lol... expands on what i just told you in a very easy to understand way. also egotistical and narcissistic are quite literally synonyms?? 🤣
It's not diagnostics, it's merely using descriptive words accurately. We can't say that she is a narc clinically, but we can absolutely say that she engages in narc-like behaviors and displays narc-like attitudes. That is more than fair.
I would normally agree with you because so many disorder terms are being used as cutesy adjectives, but narcissism is a bit different. Calling someone narcissistic is referring to a pattern of self centeredness, but it's not the same thing as saying someone has narcissistic personality disorder. The term narcissistic personality disorder actually comes from narcissistic as an adjective to describe more common and fairly normal behaviors. So yeah you can call someone a narcissist without it being "diagnosing" them.
And psychopath isn't a diagnosis. It's not a real medical term.
Have people in your life told you they think you are a narc?
WHAT IS ON YOUR FACE
This is such a hard situation. Both are actually allowed to their own views. I thikn young ppl have a hard time realizing that the speed with which the social movements are moving forward is hard for ppl who mive much slower. I think both parties had to meet a bit half way. I don t think this was just about politics but in a more profound way...yes it was about politics. I don t like the way this yiutiber shits on this mom. She is probably somewhat if a biggot but those are our fellow humans. They might not have the capacity to adapt to our fast moving world.
So we should err on the side of the bigot, not on the side of those who are victimized by those attitudes? I think not.
I mean, even without the politics aspect, she looks and sounds like an awful human being, so I think that makes it even more difficult to meet in the middle.
Everyone had the capacity to "adapt" if they want to
"Skow to afapt" is no excuse for her vile, bigotry filled, unhinged rants and the perpetual shaming of her children
11:54
What is she on. Allah is God. Jesus is the son of God ie Allah's son. How did she get that confused
She's apparently a Trumper republican, they only care about the parts of scripture that justify whatever atrocities suit them. That is how she got that wrong, she never cared to get it right.