She’s so oblivious. Her daughter wrote her a long letter telling her exactly why. She has over shared every other detail of their situation but refuses to give specific details of the letter. She went to a therapist and when she was told she’s needs to take responsibility and accept her daughter’s decision she got offended and refused to go back to therapy. We are all witnessing exactly why she was cut off.
@@Maximmmino sorry I don’t have the specific time. I watched her series of videos. It was in there. If I remember correctly it was before the (refusing to read) book fiasco. Her reaction to the therapist was very similar to her reaction to the book.
That's what gets me is that the stuff she's talking about is totally valid from her perspective. Parents don't remember the times they were abusive unless they really stood out for them. We can remember daily shit, but it just doesn't register for them. So it would make sense that they feel blindsided and they get in a self-pity loop and then get angry as they try to process it. The key is being able to listen and she's had the ability to do that the moment she got the letter. But it's like it has to stay broken and hostile until it's resolved on her terms. It's so frustrating being able to understand how she's feeling but also see why her daughter would go no contact lmao
It's also super gross how she's been exploiting the whole situation to start a PAID support group for estranged parents. She's using the whole situation as a grift to make money, too.
She sounds like a mother I know closely. Loves motherhood until the child starts to develop a personality and opinions. Then its like - what did I do wrong that you are not the way I want you to be?!?!
That's exactly what that abusive mother is doing wrong! To that abusive mother: "Your child is not your little Mini-Me you can force to do what you want when you want!"
Oh, this woman NEVER liked "motherhood". She liked having props for her ego. To be a good parent, you have to stop thinking only about yourself. And she is has never done that once. She would have been TERRIBLE at every second in her children's lives. One has had to cut her off - for obvious reasons. The other has entered a convent...which achieves the same end. Getting away totally from these vile parents.
I just realized that those parents, my mother included, truly think we cut contact because they were sometimes mean to us 20 years ago. No. Absolutly the fuck not. Its about how you make me feel TODAY when I'm grown up and you still treat me like you own me. My father also did A LOT of things wrong when I was younger, but he went to therapy, he sat down and GENUINELY apologized, while crying genuine tears, and since that day ten years ago we have grown closer every year. Meanwhile I cut contact to my mother last year for good. It's not just about the past. It's how you, dear parents, decide how to move forward and to truly own up to your mistakes.
I’ve never thought about it like that. You’ve brought up a really freaking great point! Long story short, my teen daughter is tossing around the idea of family counseling with her narcissistic grandmother. I cut off contact long ago. I support her wanting to try again. However… now that some stranger online that calls themself sclasspsycho has pointed out something that I’ve never thought about I’m going to have to overthink this whole idea for a while. 😂 Really though, thank you for commenting that. It’s something to think about and look out for. ❤
This is until you learn enough about them and figure their weak spots. I bet Diane didn't expect ANY pushback when she uploaded her "highly curated" woe is me video. She hoped to punish her daughter for "leaving" behaviour, but instead the internet provided a lot of perspective I believe her daughter finds soothing, reasuring and encouraging. A lot of YT therapists did a No therapist would coerce an adult (back) into infantilisation by a parent (which is what Diane type parents want - forever control) so any therapy with Diane should/would go towards her genuine support of her daughter's independence. Diane aint gonna sit for that lol
Learned this the hard way. Got duper into doing it, twice, screwed over both times with absolutely nothing to show for it other than emotional damage that will probably never heal.
My girl, not being a sexual abuser is the bare minimum of how a basic a human being should act. If you think thats what makes you a good mother, you daughter needs to get away from you.
@ssnwlove my whole childhood my mom told me repeatedly I should be thankful she wasn't allowing me around pd file s she was related to. It was demented. It felt like a threat.
She's not even doing this to get her daughter's attention anymore, she's doing it because she loves the attention. Other toxic parents are hyping her up and she loves every second of it.
Some times people need to accept while you “did the best you could” it wasn’t enough and you failed that child, and they have to live with the scars of your failure and so do you
A lot of the parents in these videos talk about their own pain and completely ignore the fact that their children probably feel worse and it's their fault
And even if they had good intentions, at the end of the day intentions don’t matter when you hurt someone. Maybe you truly thought you were doing what was best for your child it clearly wasn’t. If your child (adult or child) tells you that you are hurting them LISTEN! Apologize for the past and try to do better. Many of us traumatized kids would happily accept our parent back if they apologized and took real responsibility for how their past choices hurt you. I want my parents in my life, it breaks my heart to exclude them because I do love them, but it’s not safe for me to have them in my life as things stand. Also, a parent doing the bare minimum:giving birth, feeding, education,food, etc doesn’t make you a good parent.
@@_SunscreenQueen_ I don’t believe for a second that good intentions leads to the abuse of a child without said intention holder being faced with a moral dilemma or being somewhere on the dark triad (narcissist/borderline/sociopath) and actively making decisions at the cost of another. Name something you have held good intentions for yet has resulted in someone/thing being hurt? Now realize that your response to said circumstance is the very reason it wouldn’t be considered abuse as you would most likely hold the intention to do good by that person/thing despite having just done harm. If the harm done does not amplify the need behind the good intention then it is not truly a good intention but a selfish one.
Some people need to accept that they patently did not do the best they could nor anything remotely close to it nor did they have 1 moment of intending to do the best they could in any way shape or form. And they’re resentful & pissed off that they’re not getting the accolades they fully expected for providing nothing but the most minimal custodial care.
Exactly. This is what my husband is going through with his mom, who's just passed away. She could never respect his boundaries and beliefs. He made his peace with her before she died. But he admitted it was a relief when she passed. She was never going to change.
She reminds me of my mom with whom I'm also no contact. My mom was a malignant narcissist. She, like this woman, refuses to acknowledge any of the horrific abuse she put me through. I was also diagnosed with autism and adhd as an adult. A lot of the abuse was because I wasn't able to behave like the neurotypical child that she was expecting. She couldn't forgive me for not being the perfect child she wanted. The only reason she doesn't still abuse me, is that I finally went no contact. Best decision I've ever made.
parents like this see parenthood as the ultimate sacrifice that indebts that child to them (bare minimum) but that love & compassion is an extra the child isnt always entitled to. she then flips it when she concludes "you have to let them go" another reflection of her hollow cycle of abuse, values that were never there to begin with.
This woman is literally describing doing the bare minimum as a parent. She knows what she did it’s laughable that’s she’s trying to pretend like she doesn’t know.
I'll never forget when Dr. Ramani said in one of her videos, talking about how certain parents want you to be "grateful" for everything they did for you. "yes they fed you and put a roof over your head - that's the bare minimum and an orphanage would do as much." That was one of the moments it really clicked for me.
She never said anything about listening to the kid or instilling confidence in the kid. She never mentions being a shoulder to cry on. She never mentions helping the kid navigate relationships and conflict. She says she showered her kid with love but the only examples of "love" she gave were things that require absolutely no emotions.
"Next gen" parent here... I don't need her or any other shitty older gen parent who is no-contact with their adult children to "teach me" how to avoid being a shitty parent. Love your children, treat them like HUMAN BEINGS with their own thoughts/feelings/ideas, guide them along their path, and give them a solid foundation both in their home life and in themselves. Oh and dont abuse, neglect, scream at, or gaslight them.
She sounds like she resented the demands of being a mother. Totally transactional. I slaved for you and your needs, so you owe me. A very bitter and angry person.
This woman is literally the worst and still refuses to take accountability even after being called out by 99% of people who have engaged with her content. I hope the daughter is out there feeling vindicated because now everyone can see what hell she’s been dealing with all these years. I don’t think I’ve seen a more manipulative person in my life.
She's a clear example of how people like this will never change. She can have everything telling her what's going on and what she needs to do but if it's not what she wants to hear she won't hear it, she's always smarter than everyone else. It's useless to try to have a relationship with people like this unless you want to be in a one-sided relationship that will suck the life out of you and make you feel horrible and destroy your life in every way possible. And then even if you completely sacrifice your life the way they want you to, these people STILL are never happy. This woman is at least doing everyone a sort of service by showing everyone a great example of why some children have no other choice but to cut contact with a parent.
12:44 There were more good moments than bad moments with my abusive ex-husband, too. He still made my life hell. The bad times are so much more scarring than the good times are good, and they create a culture of fear and instability.
She's the kind of woman who had kids so she had someone to love her instead of the other way around. All the things she talked about doing for her child are the bare minimum. You don't get a medal for caring for the child YOU brought into the world.
Clearly she never wanted to take care of this child. Even in that one snippet where her daughter was dancing and she walks in front of the camera you can see how abusive she was.
Concluding point to Diane on all of this is that, AS A MOTHER, how she likes to stress it, she should understand her daughter is no longer a child and should by all means have her own life. She should be a "good mother", "do her best" and facilitate her daughter building life AWAY from her, bcs that's what self sufficcient ADULTS do. Yes, this is final stage of parenthood. "Expectatons and dreams of what my older dreams would be like in terms of family" - should include your daughter living her own life. You're supposed to HELP THEM LEAVE, not lament your prisoner escaped.
dianne complains "chosen family" enables adult children to be estranged from their parents yet apparently prefers to profit from creating a platform to create "chosen family" for the estranged parents vs actually trying to work on being someone her own kid would reconnect with
Also, her laser focus is on young childhood - the problem is she has resented the child since day 1 and is unable to see that her “child” is an adult at this point. She is still trying to parent
I hope her daughter sees the responses people have to this awful videos and knows that she's not alone and that so many people believe she did the right thing cutting that woman out of her life. Stay strong, wherever you are, I hope you are happy and loved.
she sounds like a bog standard narcissist. not once in her list of parenting things did she mention kindness and understanding, just the bare minimum stuff you have to do to be seen as a functional parent.
But she didn’t do ANNNYYTHING!! The daughter cut her off ALL because they have different political beliefs, which Diane didn’t even talk about… 😔 And yeah maybe she shook her as a baby or spanked her when she shouldn’t have, but nah it’s ALL because the daughter is a liberal snowflake inappropriately dressed cosplayer who just REFUSES to speak her to her sweet mother, who made so many sacrifices for her (bdays, childbirth, homework, food, clothes - why isn’t the daughter more grateful???? 😔). /s 😂🤮
Before I watched her furst video, I saw it from her face already, that she's a narcissist. There's this basic kind of facial expression on her all the time that shows how entitled she feels all the time. I've met many female narcissists that have that sameexpression on them all thr time, including my mother. Ageing brings up the lines in the face from the most used facial expressions/feelings you've had throughout your life and this woman's martyr attitude, that she's had her whole life, shows on her face. Hearing her speak tells everything we need to know.
She seems to mention the daughter being a baby a lot. Birthing her, taking care of her as a baby, etc. A lot of people are obsessed with parenting infants only bc that's before they become their own people. When the baby is 100% dependent on them is what they reminisce on, probably bc that was the best time for _her_ as a parent. Once the child becomes a toddler, child, and eventually adult, s/he is not that dependent baby anymore and is her/his own person. She obviously can't handle that.
So weird to me that people have such expectations about who their kids are going to be. I'm friggin 40 and I'm just starting to figure myself out. How could I have any preconceived notions about who a baby is going to turn into 10/20/30 years from now. Wild.
Abusive parents love to bring up taking care of their children during infancy - they are the only one with a memory of that time period, so they can just pick all the most wonderful stories that make them seem like a loving parent or even just invent fake stories out of nothing and how do you argue with that? You can't remember it, they say it happened that way and you've got no way to prove it didn't.
7:27 Listing “making sure the child was behaving” twice (once for daycare, once for grade school) is absolutely WILD when trying to describe how much you poured into motherhood. “I kept her alive and controlled her personality” is not the parenting flex she thinks it is. I would not list that in the top 20 ways that I put effort into my kids’ lives, not because they never needed guidance or consequences, but because the parts of motherhood that I consider the basics of good parenting for me were all the ways in which I encouraged my children to blossom, pursue joy, assert their boundaries, and otherwise develop their senses of self and celebrate their individuality and the ways that they could interact with the world. This woman describes motherhood like she was a prison warden.
@@Maximmmino I would like to give perspective on why "SHE JUST KEPT TALKING" as, alas, I too have a "Diane (or worse)" for mother. As Diane seems incapable to percieve her daughter as anything else than a literal extention of herself, she cant understand how is it that that extension of hers is being so audatious as to express their own personality in any way. Any deviation of daughter from Diane's "approved" path brings unspeakable, enourmous amount of hard to control rage to Diane. To paint a picture, imagine you're devoid of any empathy (literally) and your foot stops working. How dare it not function, right? So inconvenient. Then bring another facet to all this is the overwhelming need of Diane to be perfectly pecieved by others; She cant just rage... It'd paint her in bad light. So Im assuming this YT tantrum of a channel if just her venting bcs the rage got so bad she cant contain herself - she could hold these sermons for days, I'll bet you anything. All the raging has to be unloaded somewhere, and one captive who was always there to put up with her finaly got out of dodge. (well, Diane stalks her, doxes her etc. but it's still better)
Gosh she took us on one epic rant! Oh as for not telling anyone - I show up once a year for my brother's birthday and my mom's friends are all like "i didn't know you had a daughter" lololol I'm blowing her cover. This lady does sound like probably how my mom "copes" my mom has told me to my face that I'm choosing to not remember the good parts of my childhood - as if her throwing knives, or throwing me around, fists, or any of that should just be forgotten somehow? That's how these awful people are.
😂 yep!! And supposedly is clueless. Her daughter tried and tried. But as you can see/hear she thinks she’s so right. If you want a little “rabbit hole” (it’s a young woman’s real life so I cringe calling it a rabbit hole but idk how else to describe what this narcissist woman has spun this into),to go down, look her up on here. She’s got a whole channel (don’t sub & watch them if you want to on a mirror channel please), talking like this in many videos. Her daughter responded a while back. I’m so happy for her daughter that she cut her off & is living her life! Happy for her & proud of her!
A child doesn’t go no contact for the basic sh¡t she’s describing. If anything, if she was exactly as she’s portraying herself to be, when we get older and realize our parents are also human and did their best and the good they did farrrr outweighs the bad, it endears them even more. She’s clearly leaving ALOT out, which tells me that in her mind she is still a victim of her mean ungrateful child, and that child that is no contact with her has made the best decision for themselves. She’s up here whining about herself and mourning the future life with the kid/grandkid she felt she was OWED from a grateful kid. Goodness. And she talked NONSTOP this whole video , no break or pause. I know this woman was insufferable
That’s something I was fine with. When he mentioned about going to a counselor together and see his therapist, but once I agreed to it, he then moved the goal post. What then?
Diane is so resentful of the fact that she did all the basic requirements of caring for an infant she chose to have, and was never compensated for any of it. Love is doing something for another person and not expecting anything in return, because the pleasure is in giving that person your love. You do it because you want to, not because they're going to pay you back. That concept is too foreign for Diane.
Psych here: damn people do sure forget emotional neglect is such a major type of child abuse. People forget or dont understanding that abuse is an umbrella of emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse AND emotional neglect and physical neglect
The way she talks about "former verbal abuse" is so telling like I could tell from the very second in the first video that she acted like the estrangement was due to politics, there was probably other more trauamatic stuff going on.
The daughter likely is smart enough to know that engaging with her is exactly what she wants. These people will poke and prod and poke and prod and poke and poke until they get a reaction, anything to get acknowledged because all that matters to them is that they feel power. The worse thing in the world for people like her is to have someone just go off and live their live independently of them. They can't stand that they aren't the center of the universe
@@sarahneels4331 Constantly calling babies "it" really sealed the deal on that one. She let so many things slip during this stream of consciousness, I'm honestly amazed she kept her racism in check, because that's definitely in there, too. We've seen it in other videos.
"Giving them to...." "Giving them to...." "Giving them space...." "Giving them...." "Giving them..." "Giving them..." You don't need a Ph.D to see that this woman does not see her daughter as a fully formed person; she sees her as the accessory that she decides the fate of. A cute purse to lend out , a child.... what's the difference? She can feel sorry for herself all she wants, but if she had any self-reflection at all she would recognize that she's the problem.
I don't blame my child for going no contact. I've been in counciling. I was dismissive of real concerns they had. They were coming out to me and I was dismissive. I didn't show care and concern. I hope someday we can reconcile. That's up to them.
This rant of hers is making me nearly crack my teeth. My mom went through hell _with me_ being my rock with my rather extreme and fully life altering medical issues. Diane is whining about basic parenting. And… just… _what_ that woman wanted a pet to control and put through agility training and who would be as loyal as possible as many dogs want to be, because they’re dependent. No human is going to be that brainwashed if they have _anything_ wrong in their life. This is awful. Diane never should have had a kid.
Calling any child an "it" is wild. Nobody who loves their kids would say that. Also, giving birth isn't a measure to the quality of character or proof of your inherent goodness. It just proves you had sex. Animals give birth and turn around and eat their young all the time. Imagine if they did it with the entitlement of "I didn't put it up for adoption so I am a good mother" while chewing the legs off of their "its" lol
It's so. Funny how she says they'll refuse to go to family therapy.. I went to therapy for months and the dude hardly ever said anything. I and/or WE dont need therapy, YOU do. I have better things to do than be invited to watch my narc parent spin a web of lies to a stranger. Also hilariously on the nose How she says it's like you're grieving someone who isn't dead yet... That is Exactly how it feels being raised by parents.Who do not have the first concern for your authentic self. The loss.of a dream/expectation 😂😂😂😂 the loss of trying to control someone elses life. It's always the excuse of we did the best we could at the time, Do you really expect me to believe that every single decision you made during my childhood was the best thing for my interests when you were so focused on drinking so many beers that you didn't remember the arguments we had.? Getting a little bit particular to my life here.But I know it's not true that you are always doing your best at every turn. You COULD take accountability for those times but instead they ALWAYS claim it was the best they couldve done so it isnt their fault . She thinks shes making herself look good but shes showing her hand, and its full of jokers. "Mistake we migh have made" lmaooo, cant even admit she made a mistake in a hypothetical. 'Im so terrible what a terrible parent i am' in their mind, They either did nothing wrong or they're "the worst person on earth" when you try to call em out.
I was mandated therapy following my parent's divorce. The therapist said that the relationship was hopeless after one session. You can't give respect to those who can't respect you and so on.
7:38 She says, “You poured love and time and energy and expectation into your child…” She tells on herself YET AGAIN. First of all she’s suuuuuuch a martyr ewww gross not a good look. But even worse than that…she openly ADMITS that she heaps loads of expectations onto her “it” lol I mean child. Ya think? No kidding the thing…your CHILD…needs space?! You made their WHOLE life about YOU?! And YOUR EXPECTATIONS of them?! She’s choosing to be blind to all of the ways in which SHE CREATED the situation she finds herself in. Utterly maddening. She obviously loves hearing herself talk…and is getting a great deal out of opining endlessly into the echo chamber she’s created. So sad. Thank goodness the daughter saw fit to remove herself from such toxicity. I hope she’s healing and thriving now that she’s free from this vampiric environment.
She is asking a lot of questions that she doesn't want to hear the answers. "Unless you have an undiagnosed mental illness..." Umm yeah. that's the problem.
I cannot tell if it is genuine sadness or just manipulation. She does seem very sad over her kid cutting her off, however I can't tell if it is a pity party of just grief.
I think it can be both. I do think she's genuinely sad about the situation but uses that sadness as a way to make people feel bad for her instead of an opportunity to grow
She makes advice videos, then makes these videos showing that she's in fact hurting - which is fine - but she's not healed. She wants to talk talk talk to TH-cam about their relationship, embarrass her whole family, blame the adult daughter, and keep talking.....thats all they do is talk lol.
Her daughter is so lucky she grew up before social media. This narc with her extravagant boomer production efforts here would ABSOLUTELY have been a momfluencer and would have filmed the f out of her kid. Without doubt - she is probably pissed she doesn’t have zillions of pics and videos of her own youth.
This autoplayed for me and for a horrifying minute I thought my mom was talking to me somehow. This lady sounds exactly like my mom and this rhetoric was how things were right before I went no-contact for a second time.
Her description of parenting as a list of demands is so crazy. I’m estranged from my mother and didn’t want to have kids for the longest time because I never wanted anyone to feel about me the way I feel about her. But I did. I had 2 and adopted two. And I would NEVER describe my experience in a goddamned rant like this. Is it challenging sometimes? Yes. But Jesus Christ lady. No wonder your kid is gone.
I love how she's literally just describing the absolute minimum you can do as a parent Diane "maybe you abused your child" Also Diane "they hate you and cut you off because you didn't give them candy" OK Diane. Sure.
I only see reaction videos to her periodically... I saw that wild TERFy white suprem*cist rant she went on a few months back... but this video is the one where she tells on herself the most, from any of her videos I've seen. She sounds so resentful for all the things that parents are supposed to do, then got riled up and said yea maybe I used physical force sometimes but thats fine. WOW.
If she’s trying to not identify which child of hers this is happening with and trying to keep some anonymity as to respect the privacy of her child that she’s in this with, what would be better wording for her to be using?
I, also, hate Diane. Your child *_tried_* to communicate and tell you where things were going wrong many times over the years, i promise you. Just because you tuned out what the child was saying or don't remember the child ever coming to you with their grievances doesn't mean they never tried. No contact is most often a last resort after _years_ of begging and attempts at communicating. This did not come out of nowhere, you just can't accept that you ever did anything wrong.
Ms. Petty keeps naming the things parents are expected to do. You had the kid, you signed up. Don't say care is something extra. It's the bare minimum.
I was born because 2 teenagers got pregnant so they could get married. I could understand language a long time before I could talk. I heard my mom say " if it weren't for the fact that my mother would get her i would consider it. " I never felt wanted and I did not get any nurturing. I wish they would have put me up for adoption!
dreams and expectations are all internal to her. she's inadvertently telling on herself, there never was space for the daughter and it finally culminated in the shut down
To me, being a good parent is how you *COMPENSATE* your child for the self-serving act of foisting life upon someone who never asked to be born, indeed never had a choice in the matter
It's okay to call the child a "them" and not an "it". That's nothing "political", pronouns-wise; we've been referring to hypothetical persons in this way, in conversation where the gender is unknown, for a long time.
There are millions or billions of things that a parent could have done right, but if they have one colossal f-up, that's all it takes. The long list of pros can't hold a flame to one MAJOR con. In Diane's case, it sounds like it's a long list of cons, too, though. :/
I had a talk with my Mom saying "I know you did the best you could, but you still traumatized me" I know those are not mutually exclusive things. It's about times parents realize it too
My mother once threatened to file a missing person's report for me. I was like, no, I just don't want to talk to you. Crazy stuff Edited to add, after her "child refuses to do family therapy" comment, I can't help but remember the time my father brought me to family counselling and I left the room in tears after the (weird, Christian) therapist told me that I'm a bad kid. My father said he felt validated. I don't believe there's such a thing as a bad kid.
My father actually went ahead and filed a police report on me when I was in my early 30s. My kids were going to be away for the entire weekend for the first time since I'd had them and my parents wanted me to spend the weekend with them (ie. I'd go to their house and wait on them hand and foot). I told him I had plans and I wasn't going to share them. You can imagine the surprise on the cop's face on Monday when I opened the door and wasn't the 12 year old my father told them I was to get them to take the report in the first place. He was coming to arrest me for kidnapping the childhood version of myself that my father is delulu enough to believe still exists.
Remember, if you CHOSE TO HAVE A CHILD, meeting their core physical, intellectual, and emotional needs IS THE BARE MINIMUM. That's your obligation to your child and society for the rest of your lives. You don't get a gold star for keeping them alive long enough for them to become taxpayers. 🤦🤦🤦
Omg! This woman! She wants a trophy for having a child and doing parenting things. So, my husband is an only child and the things his parents have said to him are so gross. She reminds me of my in laws
Going to therapy with my estranged father, would have been the darkest of surreal comedies, and make it worse.. hes gone now, but I wouldnt do therapy with my still living mother, for similar reasons.
It's amazing how many "how could they do that to their parent?!?" comments are out there and I'm like, "yeah, there's usually a reason." And yet, they are always shocked. Like, really? You're really surprised this happened?? [edit] Yeah, this woman is too much. Moms at that age say they were, "doing everything we can" for their child but the expectations they assume will happen is when things go south.
Cluster b can't see themselves for who they really are and they also are so entitled that they are always shocked that someone would dare to leave them. They lack empathy and the ability to even realize that other people have their own perspectives on things, they assume that how they think you should feel must be the only way you can feel. Anyone that says "how could they" is just like them or afraid that this will happen to them, otherwise they would be able to see the child's side and also realize how hard it must be for any child to have to go no contact. One valuable thing I've learned is that people's attitudes on things actually says a lot more about them than it does about anyone else.
5:50 Her calling children “it”… of course it’s denying their personhood etc. Standard narc fare. I think it’s also a little bit that she’s refusing to acknowledge that “them” is, and has for many thousands of years been, the grammatically correct pronoun in this context!
She acts like children ask to be born! They do not. Lady. When you choose to bring home a baby, YOU have contracted to give them the necessities of life. Her attitude is so weird to me.
One of the most troubling comments I have seen on her videos was a mother saying she was sad she couldn’t get to know her grandkids because her son went no contact and people were actively encouraging her to try to see the kids without her son knowing. Absolutely not. That is despicable advice.
She's not fooling anyone, these videos aren't for estranged parents. They're her desperate attempt at getting her kids attention and gaining sympathy. This lady infuriates me on so many levels.
29:48 obviously you need to be careful prescribing meds to kids. However, SSRI’s and counseling took me from a suicidal, self harming 15 year old to a fairly confident and much happier person within a year or two. That poor kid was probably just feeling better and able to advocate for themselves.
11:10 i think when she's talking about how's there's so many more good moments than bad, i think why she see it that way is because: A, people have a cognitive bias towards negativity do that may be why her daughter was more likely to remember harmful moments and. or B, Mabey to her daughter it was a deeply traumatic series of repeated events and behaviours' but to her mother it was just a random Tuesday or one isolated event
Local woman found confused and wandering the wilderness, attempting to use statistics to dodge introspection.
Lol isn’t that the truth
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She’s so oblivious. Her daughter wrote her a long letter telling her exactly why. She has over shared every other detail of their situation but refuses to give specific details of the letter. She went to a therapist and when she was told she’s needs to take responsibility and accept her daughter’s decision she got offended and refused to go back to therapy. We are all witnessing exactly why she was cut off.
Yeah i hate that we're never gonna get to see the full letter. do you know when she went to therapy? can i find that anywhere?
@@Maximmmino sorry I don’t have the specific time. I watched her series of videos. It was in there. If I remember correctly it was before the (refusing to read) book fiasco. Her reaction to the therapist was very similar to her reaction to the book.
@blahblah273 not the full letter.
That's what gets me is that the stuff she's talking about is totally valid from her perspective. Parents don't remember the times they were abusive unless they really stood out for them. We can remember daily shit, but it just doesn't register for them. So it would make sense that they feel blindsided and they get in a self-pity loop and then get angry as they try to process it. The key is being able to listen and she's had the ability to do that the moment she got the letter. But it's like it has to stay broken and hostile until it's resolved on her terms. It's so frustrating being able to understand how she's feeling but also see why her daughter would go no contact lmao
It's also super gross how she's been exploiting the whole situation to start a PAID support group for estranged parents. She's using the whole situation as a grift to make money, too.
This lady is a masterclass in minimizing responsibility.
She sounds like a mother I know closely. Loves motherhood until the child starts to develop a personality and opinions. Then its like - what did I do wrong that you are not the way I want you to be?!?!
this is so real
That's exactly what that abusive mother is doing wrong!
To that abusive mother: "Your child is not your little Mini-Me you can force to do what you want when you want!"
Or in my case has autism.
Oh, this woman NEVER liked "motherhood". She liked having props for her ego.
To be a good parent, you have to stop thinking only about yourself.
And she is has never done that once.
She would have been TERRIBLE at every second in her children's lives.
One has had to cut her off - for obvious reasons.
The other has entered a convent...which achieves the same end. Getting away totally from these vile parents.
Parents need to realize their kids are not a mini me, they are not dolls, they are real people that will grow up with their own personality
I just realized that those parents, my mother included, truly think we cut contact because they were sometimes mean to us 20 years ago. No. Absolutly the fuck not. Its about how you make me feel TODAY when I'm grown up and you still treat me like you own me. My father also did A LOT of things wrong when I was younger, but he went to therapy, he sat down and GENUINELY apologized, while crying genuine tears, and since that day ten years ago we have grown closer every year. Meanwhile I cut contact to my mother last year for good. It's not just about the past. It's how you, dear parents, decide how to move forward and to truly own up to your mistakes.
THIS! Yes! It's not just about the past, it's about how we are treated in the present.
Careful Diane, your resentment and frustration with the minimum requirements of motherhood are showing.
NEVER go to therapy with an abuser. They can learn how to further manipulate you.
But the therapists need a strategy for abusers aswell?
@@MiaMizuno Individual therapy.
I’ve never thought about it like that. You’ve brought up a really freaking great point! Long story short, my teen daughter is tossing around the idea of family counseling with her narcissistic grandmother. I cut off contact long ago. I support her wanting to try again. However… now that some stranger online that calls themself sclasspsycho has pointed out something that I’ve never thought about I’m going to have to overthink this whole idea for a while. 😂
Really though, thank you for commenting that. It’s something to think about and look out for. ❤
This is until you learn enough about them and figure their weak spots. I bet Diane didn't expect ANY pushback when she uploaded her "highly curated" woe is me video. She hoped to punish her daughter for "leaving" behaviour, but instead the internet provided a lot of perspective I believe her daughter finds soothing, reasuring and encouraging. A lot of YT therapists did a No therapist would coerce an adult (back) into infantilisation by a parent (which is what Diane type parents want - forever control) so any therapy with Diane should/would go towards her genuine support of her daughter's independence. Diane aint gonna sit for that lol
Learned this the hard way. Got duper into doing it, twice, screwed over both times with absolutely nothing to show for it other than emotional damage that will probably never heal.
This lady is actually just like "Yeah maybe you beat your kid but you didn't let it starve to death so you're a good mom actually"
My girl, not being a sexual abuser is the bare minimum of how a basic a human being should act. If you think thats what makes you a good mother, you daughter needs to get away from you.
Imagine having your mother say "BuT I DiDn'T sExUaLLy AbUsE yOu!1!" thinking it's a good point. WILD. I'd no contact her in a millisecond
@ssnwlove my whole childhood my mom told me repeatedly I should be thankful she wasn't allowing me around pd file s she was related to. It was demented. It felt like a threat.
@@leahtv7778 I never thought of it like that. halarious!!!!
She's not even doing this to get her daughter's attention anymore, she's doing it because she loves the attention. Other toxic parents are hyping her up and she loves every second of it.
100% she's her for attention and to sell her $20/month group chat
@@Maximmmino she also has other failed channels. She loves the youtube game
@@Maximmminowhat is she charging for? Her list of failures? 😂
Some times people need to accept while you “did the best you could” it wasn’t enough and you failed that child, and they have to live with the scars of your failure and so do you
A lot of the parents in these videos talk about their own pain and completely ignore the fact that their children probably feel worse and it's their fault
And even if they had good intentions, at the end of the day intentions don’t matter when you hurt someone. Maybe you truly thought you were doing what was best for your child it clearly wasn’t. If your child (adult or child) tells you that you are hurting them LISTEN! Apologize for the past and try to do better. Many of us traumatized kids would happily accept our parent back if they apologized and took real responsibility for how their past choices hurt you. I want my parents in my life, it breaks my heart to exclude them because I do love them, but it’s not safe for me to have them in my life as things stand.
Also, a parent doing the bare minimum:giving birth, feeding, education,food, etc doesn’t make you a good parent.
@@_SunscreenQueen_ I don’t believe for a second that good intentions leads to the abuse of a child without said intention holder being faced with a moral dilemma or being somewhere on the dark triad (narcissist/borderline/sociopath) and actively making decisions at the cost of another.
Name something you have held good intentions for yet has resulted in someone/thing being hurt?
Now realize that your response to said circumstance is the very reason it wouldn’t be considered abuse as you would most likely hold the intention to do good by that person/thing despite having just done harm.
If the harm done does not amplify the need behind the good intention then it is not truly a good intention but a selfish one.
Some people need to accept that they patently did not do the best they could nor anything remotely close to it nor did they have 1 moment of intending to do the best they could in any way shape or form. And they’re resentful & pissed off that they’re not getting the accolades they fully expected for providing nothing but the most minimal custodial care.
Exactly. This is what my husband is going through with his mom, who's just passed away.
She could never respect his boundaries and beliefs. He made his peace with her before she died. But he admitted it was a relief when she passed. She was never going to change.
Her entire spiel is I chose to be a parent so now you owe me
She reminds me of my mom with whom I'm also no contact.
My mom was a malignant narcissist.
She, like this woman, refuses to acknowledge any of the horrific abuse she put me through.
I was also diagnosed with autism and adhd as an adult.
A lot of the abuse was because I wasn't able to behave like the neurotypical child that she was expecting.
She couldn't forgive me for not being the perfect child she wanted.
The only reason she doesn't still abuse me, is that I finally went no contact.
Best decision I've ever made.
*snapping fingers* SAME
She literally listed shaking/hitting her child next to denying her child candy as if those things were equivalent
parents like this see parenthood as the ultimate sacrifice that indebts that child to them (bare minimum) but that love & compassion is an extra the child isnt always entitled to. she then flips it when she concludes "you have to let them go" another reflection of her hollow cycle of abuse, values that were never there to begin with.
This woman is literally describing doing the bare minimum as a parent. She knows what she did it’s laughable that’s she’s trying to pretend like she doesn’t know.
It's pretty gross to watch her talk like this
I'll never forget when Dr. Ramani said in one of her videos, talking about how certain parents want you to be "grateful" for everything they did for you. "yes they fed you and put a roof over your head - that's the bare minimum and an orphanage would do as much." That was one of the moments it really clicked for me.
@@CavishBeka I’d like to point out that a literal prison would also do the same 😂. The bar is below the floor with these people.
She never said anything about listening to the kid or instilling confidence in the kid. She never mentions being a shoulder to cry on. She never mentions helping the kid navigate relationships and conflict. She says she showered her kid with love but the only examples of "love" she gave were things that require absolutely no emotions.
@@JustAHorrorShowVery good point!
"Next gen" parent here... I don't need her or any other shitty older gen parent who is no-contact with their adult children to "teach me" how to avoid being a shitty parent. Love your children, treat them like HUMAN BEINGS with their own thoughts/feelings/ideas, guide them along their path, and give them a solid foundation both in their home life and in themselves. Oh and dont abuse, neglect, scream at, or gaslight them.
Every time I see this lady I want to go full no-contact.
"ongoing verbal abuser" gives herself the comfort zone to say, she only verbally abuses infrequently, and when the daughter needs it
She sounds like she resented the demands of being a mother. Totally transactional.
I slaved for you and your needs, so you owe me.
A very bitter and angry person.
This woman is literally the worst and still refuses to take accountability even after being called out by 99% of people who have engaged with her content. I hope the daughter is out there feeling vindicated because now everyone can see what hell she’s been dealing with all these years. I don’t think I’ve seen a more manipulative person in my life.
She's a clear example of how people like this will never change. She can have everything telling her what's going on and what she needs to do but if it's not what she wants to hear she won't hear it, she's always smarter than everyone else. It's useless to try to have a relationship with people like this unless you want to be in a one-sided relationship that will suck the life out of you and make you feel horrible and destroy your life in every way possible. And then even if you completely sacrifice your life the way they want you to, these people STILL are never happy. This woman is at least doing everyone a sort of service by showing everyone a great example of why some children have no other choice but to cut contact with a parent.
12:44 There were more good moments than bad moments with my abusive ex-husband, too. He still made my life hell. The bad times are so much more scarring than the good times are good, and they create a culture of fear and instability.
It only takes once for the abuser to lose it...then you have a serious domestic violence unaliving situation
I ❤ the "Taking a dump in the woods" Camera angle
this got me very good
Omg it is 🤣
She's the kind of woman who had kids so she had someone to love her instead of the other way around. All the things she talked about doing for her child are the bare minimum. You don't get a medal for caring for the child YOU brought into the world.
Bringing people into the world to love you instead of the other way around is such a scary concept. I could never
She really wants that medal, tho. So so badly.
none of the things she listed about doing for the child involved connecting with her child and asking the child for their feelings and opinions.
Clearly she never wanted to take care of this child. Even in that one snippet where her daughter was dancing and she walks in front of the camera you can see how abusive she was.
someone pointed this out to me the other day i cannot imagine being this type of person. she's so gross
That would require viewing the child as a person and not a possession
Concluding point to Diane on all of this is that, AS A MOTHER, how she likes to stress it, she should understand her daughter is no longer a child and should by all means have her own life. She should be a "good mother", "do her best" and facilitate her daughter building life AWAY from her, bcs that's what self sufficcient ADULTS do. Yes, this is final stage of parenthood.
"Expectatons and dreams of what my older dreams would be like in terms of family" - should include your daughter living her own life. You're supposed to HELP THEM LEAVE, not lament your prisoner escaped.
She's delusional
dianne complains "chosen family" enables adult children to be estranged from their parents yet apparently prefers to profit from creating a platform to create "chosen family" for the estranged parents vs actually trying to work on being someone her own kid would reconnect with
Ma'am this is a Wendy's
The way she reiterated “getting the child to behave”
Also, her laser focus is on young childhood - the problem is she has resented the child since day 1 and is unable to see that her “child” is an adult at this point. She is still trying to parent
Yep, "on-going verbal abuser" is so telling. These parents tell on themselves.
I’ve been watching this woman through 3 replies to her daughter yet she’s still not taking your bait, Diane. She has no replies to any of this
Yeah it's pretty gross to see her just try and weapon these videos towards her daughter's attention
I hope her daughter sees the responses people have to this awful videos and knows that she's not alone and that so many people believe she did the right thing cutting that woman out of her life. Stay strong, wherever you are, I hope you are happy and loved.
"I want to remind you of all the good things you did as a mother:
You gave birth"
Bruh
I'd throw up trying to say any of the things she says
people don't go full no-contact for no reason.. i wonder what she did...
she sounds like a bog standard narcissist. not once in her list of parenting things did she mention kindness and understanding, just the bare minimum stuff you have to do to be seen as a functional parent.
In her original video she brings up a list of things her daughter gave her as reasons but only mentions one so we'll never know
But she didn’t do ANNNYYTHING!! The daughter cut her off ALL because they have different political beliefs, which Diane didn’t even talk about… 😔
And yeah maybe she shook her as a baby or spanked her when she shouldn’t have, but nah it’s ALL because the daughter is a liberal snowflake inappropriately dressed cosplayer who just REFUSES to speak her to her sweet mother, who made so many sacrifices for her (bdays, childbirth, homework, food, clothes - why isn’t the daughter more grateful???? 😔).
/s 😂🤮
Before I watched her furst video, I saw it from her face already, that she's a narcissist. There's this basic kind of facial expression on her all the time that shows how entitled she feels all the time. I've met many female narcissists that have that sameexpression on them all thr time, including my mother. Ageing brings up the lines in the face from the most used facial expressions/feelings you've had throughout your life and this woman's martyr attitude, that she's had her whole life, shows on her face. Hearing her speak tells everything we need to know.
Where's your facts on this??
She seems to mention the daughter being a baby a lot. Birthing her, taking care of her as a baby, etc. A lot of people are obsessed with parenting infants only bc that's before they become their own people. When the baby is 100% dependent on them is what they reminisce on, probably bc that was the best time for _her_ as a parent. Once the child becomes a toddler, child, and eventually adult, s/he is not that dependent baby anymore and is her/his own person. She obviously can't handle that.
So weird to me that people have such expectations about who their kids are going to be. I'm friggin 40 and I'm just starting to figure myself out. How could I have any preconceived notions about who a baby is going to turn into 10/20/30 years from now. Wild.
Abusive parents love to bring up taking care of their children during infancy - they are the only one with a memory of that time period, so they can just pick all the most wonderful stories that make them seem like a loving parent or even just invent fake stories out of nothing and how do you argue with that? You can't remember it, they say it happened that way and you've got no way to prove it didn't.
Shinigami eyes extension marks you as red. Sounds like you and Diane have something in common! Maybe many somethings..
7:27 Listing “making sure the child was behaving” twice (once for daycare, once for grade school) is absolutely WILD when trying to describe how much you poured into motherhood. “I kept her alive and controlled her personality” is not the parenting flex she thinks it is. I would not list that in the top 20 ways that I put effort into my kids’ lives, not because they never needed guidance or consequences, but because the parts of motherhood that I consider the basics of good parenting for me were all the ways in which I encouraged my children to blossom, pursue joy, assert their boundaries, and otherwise develop their senses of self and celebrate their individuality and the ways that they could interact with the world. This woman describes motherhood like she was a prison warden.
She talk about being a parent like it was some horrendous torture to survive.
Ma’am the word count maximum was 500 words. Thank you.
BRO SHE JUST KEPT TALKING
@@Maximmmino I would like to give perspective on why "SHE JUST KEPT TALKING" as, alas, I too have a "Diane (or worse)" for mother.
As Diane seems incapable to percieve her daughter as anything else than a literal extention of herself, she cant understand how is it that that extension of hers is being so audatious as to express their own personality in any way. Any deviation of daughter from Diane's "approved" path brings unspeakable, enourmous amount of hard to control rage to Diane. To paint a picture, imagine you're devoid of any empathy (literally) and your foot stops working. How dare it not function, right? So inconvenient. Then bring another facet to all this is the overwhelming need of Diane to be perfectly pecieved by others; She cant just rage... It'd paint her in bad light. So Im assuming this YT tantrum of a channel if just her venting bcs the rage got so bad she cant contain herself - she could hold these sermons for days, I'll bet you anything.
All the raging has to be unloaded somewhere, and one captive who was always there to put up with her finaly got out of dodge. (well, Diane stalks her, doxes her etc. but it's still better)
im laughing sooooo hard
Gosh she took us on one epic rant!
Oh as for not telling anyone - I show up once a year for my brother's birthday and my mom's friends are all like "i didn't know you had a daughter" lololol I'm blowing her cover.
This lady does sound like probably how my mom "copes" my mom has told me to my face that I'm choosing to not remember the good parts of my childhood - as if her throwing knives, or throwing me around, fists, or any of that should just be forgotten somehow? That's how these awful people are.
They're never going to learn
@@Maximmmino you got that right!
Ohhhhh. She's the problem.
😂 yep!! And supposedly is clueless. Her daughter tried and tried. But as you can see/hear she thinks she’s so right.
If you want a little “rabbit hole” (it’s a young woman’s real life so I cringe calling it a rabbit hole but idk how else to describe what this narcissist woman has spun this into),to go down, look her up on here. She’s got a whole channel (don’t sub & watch them if you want to on a mirror channel please), talking like this in many videos. Her daughter responded a while back. I’m so happy for her daughter that she cut her off & is living her life! Happy for her & proud of her!
Parenting: If you are not getting humbler by the day, you are doing it wrong. That's my mantra.
A child doesn’t go no contact for the basic sh¡t she’s describing. If anything, if she was exactly as she’s portraying herself to be, when we get older and realize our parents are also human and did their best and the good they did farrrr outweighs the bad, it endears them even more. She’s clearly leaving ALOT out, which tells me that in her mind she is still a victim of her mean ungrateful child, and that child that is no contact with her has made the best decision for themselves. She’s up here whining about herself and mourning the future life with the kid/grandkid she felt she was OWED from a grateful kid. Goodness. And she talked NONSTOP this whole video , no break or pause. I know this woman was insufferable
I'd go to therapy with my mom, if I could bring my own therapist 🤣
You should each get to pick a therapist and whoever runs faster should stay
That’s something I was fine with. When he mentioned about going to a counselor together and see his therapist, but once I agreed to it, he then moved the goal post. What then?
Diane is so resentful of the fact that she did all the basic requirements of caring for an infant she chose to have, and was never compensated for any of it.
Love is doing something for another person and not expecting anything in return, because the pleasure is in giving that person your love. You do it because you want to, not because they're going to pay you back. That concept is too foreign for Diane.
Psych here: damn people do sure forget emotional neglect is such a major type of child abuse. People forget or dont understanding that abuse is an umbrella of emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse AND emotional neglect and physical neglect
She needs to add the violin music like she did in the first video...#martyr
😂 She’s really something isn’t she?
The way she talks about "former verbal abuse" is so telling like I could tell from the very second in the first video that she acted like the estrangement was due to politics, there was probably other more trauamatic stuff going on.
Maybe the daughter doesn't want to deal with her drama on top of her posting online crying about why her daughter is disconnecting?
The daughter likely is smart enough to know that engaging with her is exactly what she wants. These people will poke and prod and poke and prod and poke and poke until they get a reaction, anything to get acknowledged because all that matters to them is that they feel power. The worse thing in the world for people like her is to have someone just go off and live their live independently of them. They can't stand that they aren't the center of the universe
Diane, no one chooses to be born, however the adults in that child’s life CHOOSE how to treat that child.
"They're human beings now" 💀
Omg she let that slip. She really didn’t see them like human beings until they grew up
@@sarahneels4331 Constantly calling babies "it" really sealed the deal on that one. She let so many things slip during this stream of consciousness, I'm honestly amazed she kept her racism in check, because that's definitely in there, too. We've seen it in other videos.
"Giving them to...."
"Giving them to...."
"Giving them space...."
"Giving them...."
"Giving them..."
"Giving them..."
You don't need a Ph.D to see that this woman does not see her daughter as a fully formed person; she sees her as the accessory that she decides the fate of. A cute purse to lend out , a child.... what's the difference?
She can feel sorry for herself all she wants, but if she had any self-reflection at all she would recognize that she's the problem.
I don't blame my child for going no contact. I've been in counciling.
I was dismissive of real concerns they had. They were coming out to me and I was dismissive. I didn't show care and concern. I hope someday we can reconcile. That's up to them.
Same
This rant of hers is making me nearly crack my teeth. My mom went through hell _with me_ being my rock with my rather extreme and fully life altering medical issues. Diane is whining about basic parenting. And… just… _what_ that woman wanted a pet to control and put through agility training and who would be as loyal as possible as many dogs want to be, because they’re dependent. No human is going to be that brainwashed if they have _anything_ wrong in their life. This is awful. Diane never should have had a kid.
Seems like this was a video that wasn’t meant to be uploaded. Like she should’ve just deleted after
She didn’t give her daughter up for adoption, y’all.
Calling any child an "it" is wild. Nobody who loves their kids would say that. Also, giving birth isn't a measure to the quality of character or proof of your inherent goodness. It just proves you had sex.
Animals give birth and turn around and eat their young all the time. Imagine if they did it with the entitlement of "I didn't put it up for adoption so I am a good mother" while chewing the legs off of their "its" lol
It's so.
Funny how she says they'll refuse to go to family therapy.. I went to therapy for months and the dude hardly ever said anything. I and/or WE dont need therapy, YOU do. I have better things to do than be invited to watch my narc parent spin a web of lies to a stranger. Also hilariously on the nose How she says it's like you're grieving someone who isn't dead yet... That is Exactly how it feels being raised by parents.Who do not have the first concern for your authentic self. The loss.of a dream/expectation 😂😂😂😂 the loss of trying to control someone elses life. It's always the excuse of we did the best we could at the time, Do you really expect me to believe that every single decision you made during my childhood was the best thing for my interests when you were so focused on drinking so many beers that you didn't remember the arguments we had.? Getting a little bit particular to my life here.But I know it's not true that you are always doing your best at every turn. You COULD take accountability for those times but instead they ALWAYS claim it was the best they couldve done so it isnt their fault . She thinks shes making herself look good but shes showing her hand, and its full of jokers. "Mistake we migh have made" lmaooo, cant even admit she made a mistake in a hypothetical. 'Im so terrible what a terrible parent i am' in their mind, They either did nothing wrong or they're "the worst person on earth" when you try to call em out.
I was mandated therapy following my parent's divorce. The therapist said that the relationship was hopeless after one session. You can't give respect to those who can't respect you and so on.
You don't get to decide how much "the bad" you did to someone else weighs
This.
7:38 She says, “You poured love and time and energy and expectation into your child…” She tells on herself YET AGAIN. First of all she’s suuuuuuch a martyr ewww gross not a good look. But even worse than that…she openly ADMITS that she heaps loads of expectations onto her “it” lol I mean child. Ya think? No kidding the thing…your CHILD…needs space?! You made their WHOLE life about YOU?! And YOUR EXPECTATIONS of them?! She’s choosing to be blind to all of the ways in which SHE CREATED the situation she finds herself in. Utterly maddening. She obviously loves hearing herself talk…and is getting a great deal out of opining endlessly into the echo chamber she’s created. So sad. Thank goodness the daughter saw fit to remove herself from such toxicity. I hope she’s healing and thriving now that she’s free from this vampiric environment.
She is asking a lot of questions that she doesn't want to hear the answers. "Unless you have an undiagnosed mental illness..." Umm yeah. that's the problem.
I cannot tell if it is genuine sadness or just manipulation. She does seem very sad over her kid cutting her off, however I can't tell if it is a pity party of just grief.
I think it can be both. I do think she's genuinely sad about the situation but uses that sadness as a way to make people feel bad for her instead of an opportunity to grow
She makes advice videos, then makes these videos showing that she's in fact hurting - which is fine - but she's not healed. She wants to talk talk talk to TH-cam about their relationship, embarrass her whole family, blame the adult daughter, and keep talking.....thats all they do is talk lol.
Her daughter is so lucky she grew up before social media. This narc with her extravagant boomer production efforts here would ABSOLUTELY have been a momfluencer and would have filmed the f out of her kid.
Without doubt - she is probably pissed she doesn’t have zillions of pics and videos of her own youth.
Oh i can't imagine how quickly she would've weaponized that too
Like if i was a bad mom why did i take so many pictures
Narcs project... I bet she is the one who had the affair.
This autoplayed for me and for a horrifying minute I thought my mom was talking to me somehow. This lady sounds exactly like my mom and this rhetoric was how things were right before I went no-contact for a second time.
I wouldn’t be able to deal with this woman either
Her description of parenting as a list of demands is so crazy. I’m estranged from my mother and didn’t want to have kids for the longest time because I never wanted anyone to feel about me the way I feel about her. But I did. I had 2 and adopted two. And I would NEVER describe my experience in a goddamned rant like this. Is it challenging sometimes? Yes. But Jesus Christ lady. No wonder your kid is gone.
I love how she's literally just describing the absolute minimum you can do as a parent
Diane "maybe you abused your child"
Also Diane "they hate you and cut you off because you didn't give them candy"
OK Diane. Sure.
I only see reaction videos to her periodically... I saw that wild TERFy white suprem*cist rant she went on a few months back... but this video is the one where she tells on herself the most, from any of her videos I've seen. She sounds so resentful for all the things that parents are supposed to do, then got riled up and said yea maybe I used physical force sometimes but thats fine. WOW.
This woman only cares about herself she literally only mentions her daughter to victimize herself.. me me me me is all I heard.
"you cuddled IT, you fed IT, swaddled IT" classic covert narc. #selforphan
The more Diane rants and depersonalizes her child by using words like “it” and “the child” tells me exactly why her child is done with her
If she’s trying to not identify which child of hers this is happening with and trying to keep some anonymity as to respect the privacy of her child that she’s in this with, what would be better wording for her to be using?
I, also, hate Diane. Your child *_tried_* to communicate and tell you where things were going wrong many times over the years, i promise you. Just because you tuned out what the child was saying or don't remember the child ever coming to you with their grievances doesn't mean they never tried. No contact is most often a last resort after _years_ of begging and attempts at communicating. This did not come out of nowhere, you just can't accept that you ever did anything wrong.
Ms. Petty keeps naming the things parents are expected to do.
You had the kid, you signed up. Don't say care is something extra. It's the bare minimum.
I was born because 2 teenagers got pregnant so they could get married. I could understand language a long time before I could talk. I heard my mom say " if it weren't for the fact that my mother would get her i would consider it. " I never felt wanted and I did not get any nurturing. I wish they would have put me up for adoption!
Sadly I know my mother would love Diane
dreams and expectations are all internal to her. she's inadvertently telling on herself, there never was space for the daughter and it finally culminated in the shut down
Maybe her daughter is doing the best she can as well
even if you are objectively the world's best parent, your kid isn't obligated to like you. 🤷♀ suck it up i guess
To me, being a good parent is how you *COMPENSATE* your child for the self-serving act of foisting life upon someone who never asked to be born, indeed never had a choice in the matter
It's okay to call the child a "them" and not an "it". That's nothing "political", pronouns-wise; we've been referring to hypothetical persons in this way, in conversation where the gender is unknown, for a long time.
There are millions or billions of things that a parent could have done right, but if they have one colossal f-up, that's all it takes. The long list of pros can't hold a flame to one MAJOR con. In Diane's case, it sounds like it's a long list of cons, too, though. :/
All of these women sound similar and sound just like my mom. They will never get it. They will never get it. It’s so frustrating.
No doubt her daughter has pounded her head against the wall telling her the problem
But mom’s got no idea what’s the problem
Get outta here!!!
I think she is saying it to avoid saying them coz that's to woke . Lol
I had a talk with my Mom saying "I know you did the best you could, but you still traumatized me" I know those are not mutually exclusive things. It's about times parents realize it too
I cant help but see how many times she brought up "making shure they behave"... i see something there.
My mother once threatened to file a missing person's report for me. I was like, no, I just don't want to talk to you. Crazy stuff
Edited to add, after her "child refuses to do family therapy" comment, I can't help but remember the time my father brought me to family counselling and I left the room in tears after the (weird, Christian) therapist told me that I'm a bad kid. My father said he felt validated. I don't believe there's such a thing as a bad kid.
My father actually went ahead and filed a police report on me when I was in my early 30s. My kids were going to be away for the entire weekend for the first time since I'd had them and my parents wanted me to spend the weekend with them (ie. I'd go to their house and wait on them hand and foot).
I told him I had plans and I wasn't going to share them. You can imagine the surprise on the cop's face on Monday when I opened the door and wasn't the 12 year old my father told them I was to get them to take the report in the first place. He was coming to arrest me for kidnapping the childhood version of myself that my father is delulu enough to believe still exists.
bro I'm too fucking baked for that zoom in
k but the 1 good thing about this woman having a platform: her audience has a space to fight back. she can't keep it an echo chamber anymore
Remember, if you CHOSE TO HAVE A CHILD, meeting their core physical, intellectual, and emotional needs IS THE BARE MINIMUM. That's your obligation to your child and society for the rest of your lives. You don't get a gold star for keeping them alive long enough for them to become taxpayers. 🤦🤦🤦
The way she talks reminds me of Ruby from 8 passengers
Doing everything except looking at yourself... thats some olympics right there. Insane.
Why is she all hunched over weird
So unhiged. I feel embarassed for her.
Omg! This woman! She wants a trophy for having a child and doing parenting things. So, my husband is an only child and the things his parents have said to him are so gross.
She reminds me of my in laws
Going to therapy with my estranged father, would have been the darkest of surreal comedies, and make it worse.. hes gone now, but I wouldnt do therapy with my still living mother, for similar reasons.
Love your channel and your cute dog 💜 Thank you 🙏
It's amazing how many "how could they do that to their parent?!?" comments are out there and I'm like, "yeah, there's usually a reason." And yet, they are always shocked. Like, really? You're really surprised this happened?? [edit] Yeah, this woman is too much. Moms at that age say they were, "doing everything we can" for their child but the expectations they assume will happen is when things go south.
Cluster b can't see themselves for who they really are and they also are so entitled that they are always shocked that someone would dare to leave them. They lack empathy and the ability to even realize that other people have their own perspectives on things, they assume that how they think you should feel must be the only way you can feel. Anyone that says "how could they" is just like them or afraid that this will happen to them, otherwise they would be able to see the child's side and also realize how hard it must be for any child to have to go no contact. One valuable thing I've learned is that people's attitudes on things actually says a lot more about them than it does about anyone else.
5:50 Her calling children “it”… of course it’s denying their personhood etc. Standard narc fare. I think it’s also a little bit that she’s refusing to acknowledge that “them” is, and has for many thousands of years been, the grammatically correct pronoun in this context!
She acts like children ask to be born! They do not. Lady. When you choose to bring home a baby, YOU have contracted to give them the necessities of life. Her attitude is so weird to me.
One of the most troubling comments I have seen on her videos was a mother saying she was sad she couldn’t get to know her grandkids because her son went no contact and people were actively encouraging her to try to see the kids without her son knowing. Absolutely not. That is despicable advice.
She's not fooling anyone, these videos aren't for estranged parents. They're her desperate attempt at getting her kids attention and gaining sympathy. This lady infuriates me on so many levels.
For real!
29:48 obviously you need to be careful prescribing meds to kids. However, SSRI’s and counseling took me from a suicidal, self harming 15 year old to a fairly confident and much happier person within a year or two. That poor kid was probably just feeling better and able to advocate for themselves.
11:10 i think when she's talking about how's there's so many more good moments than bad, i think why she see it that way is because: A, people have a cognitive bias towards negativity do that may be why her daughter was more likely to remember harmful moments and. or B, Mabey to her daughter it was a deeply traumatic series of repeated events and behaviours' but to her mother it was just a random Tuesday or one isolated event
She looks like Quasimodo in the thumbnail 😅