Did Richard Simmons Burn Out from Sympathy Overuse? | Richard Simmons Case Analysis
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I was a contestant on "Super Password" in 1987, and Richard Simmons was the celebrity that I played with. He helped me win over $54,000 on that show by being an awesome partner. He genuinely wanted me to win big...which was awesome. Great guy...and very big-hearted.
haha. That’s cool. I’m going to see if there is a clip of this on TH-cam. I see there are a few with Simmons.
haha. I found the clip!
You did a great job!! What. Cool story. I was 10! 😎
Aaaaaand...in 87 THAT was serious bank! He did you a definite solid! A lot of celebrities forget how much money like that means to real people, he didn't. Nice story and I am glad for you and it's nice to hear a story like this about a celebrity.
What a fun memory. Thank you for sharing!
Congratulations, that is such an awesome experience you had, thank you so much for sharing and I'm so glad you enjoyed it! I pray that Mr Simmons is living in peace and love, you as well!!! 💜✝️🌹✝️💜
I emailed Richard Simmons to tell him how his cook book had helped me though a hard time. He emailed me back. I was shocked. We emailed back and forth for quite a while. That cook book was destroyed in a water leak and I still am sad about losing that.
I still remember his kindness to me.
Good to read something positive here on youtube.
At least you can buy another copy
Wow!
Buy another one
get another one from thriftbooks
I worked at a gourmet coffee shop in Taunton, MA in the early 90s. We learned that Richard was making an appearance at our mall, so I stayed there after my work hours that day. Our coffee shop was on the second level, and Richard and his crew were setting up the sound system, stage/platform, etc... just below on the first floor in a large opening which could contain a crowd. I watched from behind the railing on the second floor and I was amazed at how he sang, danced to music, encouraged people in the crowd, etc..for about an hour and a half. He NEVER stood still. As I watched, I wondered how in the world he could keep up such an athletic pace. At the end of his appearance, he said good-bye to everyone, and yes, he certainly seemed like an earnest and caring entertainer. I noticed that as the crew was packing up their stuff, that he didn't even have a glass or bottle of water! None of his staff catered to him, they simply broke down the set up to get ready to leave, which took awhile, with sound systems, wiring, etc...I went back into our coffee shop, where we sold over-priced gourmet desserts and flavored coffee, and also bottles of juice. I scrounged up a ball of string and tied it around the neck of a bottle of juice. I leaned over the railing and called to him, and lowered down the juice to him. He was sweating profusely, wiping his face with a towel, and looked exhausted. He reached up and got the bottle and waved a thank you to me. I was really struck by the fact that he was performing at such break-neck speed and demonstrating such energy and totally exercising without stopping...without even a drink of water for himself. I'm glad I gave him something to drink. I agree with everyone that he was definitely the real deal, a person who gave his whole heart to his followers, meeting personally with overweight people and showing them love, when most were rejected by society. I don't know what's wrong with him, no doubt just old age and a worn-out body; but I feel that he was one of a kind, and was loved by many.
Nana Jan, what a great story and innovative of you to think of tying some string on the drink and lowering down... showing him kindness.. what a lovely memory!
.I have such good memories of him, .i was in S Africa when aerobics hit in the late '70s early '80's, I am 60, would love to have him as a friend..
How sweet of a gesture on your behalf. Cool story.
Such a heart warming story. Thank goodness for people with a thoughtful and kind heart like yours. I bet he never forgot that.
I like that he was real and kind but it's kinda sad that the crew didn't have a water cooler. I would have done exactly what you did!!Thanks for sharing this story.
Never much cared for his show, but that was really nice of you to be nice to him. He always seemed to be a friendly fella, just not able to sit still much.
I ran into Richard Simmons on the streets of New Orleans in the middle of the night, November 2013. His hair was dyed blue at the time. He saw me and my long curly hair and starting singing to me. He told me I reminded him of the little mermaid. He was so precious and sweet. He took a picture with us and thanked us for our kind words. He spent a long time with us. It’s a special memory of mine!
I am a little jelly but very happy you got that experience and memory with him.
What a beautiful story
Wonderful
Thank you for sharing that wonderful memory ❤
You should make a documentary about this story ... Sounds soOo interesting
This is one of the nicest and most positive comment sections I’ve seen on YT. Such sweet stories and comments. No surprise Richard’s loving legacy inspired it. We need more of this. 💙
I was just thinking the same thing! ❤
Richard Simmons is the Mr. Rogers of physical fitness and he went out on his own terms like a true legend.
Absolutely!!! If I were painting a mural of faces that define the 80’s, Richard would be in it!!!!!❤️
@@mikehuff9793 what an accomplishment in its own right. Imagine.
Great tagline!!
@@sharksport01 I said he was the Mr. Rogers of physical fitness, not the definition of physical fitness.
well said
He seems like a very warm and genuine person who just got burned out. As an introvert myself, I can relate to putting on a more bubbly extroverted persona in public and how exhausting that is. It’s not like the public persona is fake, it’s just another side to your personality, but it’s one that requires an incredible amount of energy to maintain. I can also understand the concept of wanting to be remembered in your prime. Let’s all just let the man enjoy his peace and solitude.
Agree. I’m the same way. I’m an introvert, I believe. Only child. Lost my dad when I was only 16 yrs old (heart disease). Cried alone.....for my dad...and for my mom who fell apart after my dad passed. Single parent. Worked at a chaotic job while raising my girls. Fostered and rescued several non humans. Never remarried. Dated...but was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue in my 30’s. No energy for drama. Kept working. And then helped raise all 5 of my grandkids. Youngest daughter married young and had 5 children within 14/15 yrs. She was great mom...loved non humans, like I do. Worked as a vet tech for many years. She passed when she turned 37 yrs old...suddenly...no warning, just like my dad.
Grandkids all grown up. Doing ok. My older daughter busy working ...struggling to pay bills (as we all are). She’s my best friend.
I’m 74 yrs old...no longer work..and live alone. With 2 stray cats I took in. Also have been caring for 13 feral cats (all tnrd) for 10 yrs. They’ve all come to trust me. Even the opossums, raccoons and squirrels.
I have lived a tough life...but I’ve observed, I’ve learned, I’ve cared, I’ve changed (still changing) and I’m still here...evolving.
I am not as strong, not as financially well off, and I’m tired.....but I’m never lonely. I love my solitude. Noise, crowds, bright lights....not my thing anymore. I don’t think it ever was my thing. But...when raising children (who are involved in sports games)...working a hectic full time job (having to interact and socialize a bit with co workers)....talking to hundreds of customers around the world....I had to sort of pretend to be extroverted.
Now...I’m really who I am. Just an empathetic, kind, loving, introvert...who hasn’t lost my sense of humor....thankfully.
I’m more content, aware of my thoughts, perceptions, feelings, opinions, etc... arising and passing. Still love nature. But solitude is so very peaceful, in my opinion. Not sure how much time I have left...but , emotionally, I’m doing pretty well.
Physically too..tho I’m a tiny woman. Hard to lift things around here. Or sometimes, even do yard work. Financially, I’m eking by. I helped way too many beings (both human and non human)....still doing so.
If Richard wants to be alone....it’s no one’s business.
We all are visiting here...at this particular time...on this particular planet. To love, to be kind...to help those we can help...that’s what really matters. Just my take. 💕
I totally agree! Let’s all just let the man enjoy his peace and solitude.
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@@sandella11 💕🐾💕🐾💕🐾Omgosh you are a remarkable person and such an inspirational may God Bless you always and all your fur babies. 💕🐾💕🐾❤️
@@sandella11 I admire you very much. Thank you for sharing your story.
When I was a child we went to dinner at the restaurant he worked at. Obviously he wasn't a big star then. I remember he wouldn't let my father continue to drink. Richard was legit at our giant table of 8, and refused dad. My dad was an asshole drunk, and Richard slayed my dad with class, comedy and ease. I'll never forget later, in just a few more years seeing him on TV and getting famous. I love him so much. Thanks for this video, Dr. Grande
What an incredible story. Good for Richard to put your dad in his place. That just showed how much he cared.
Wow!
Ditto. Wow. What a strong will and gift to your family. Thank you for sharing. 🙏 Gratefully, Dennis
I was waking down the sidewalk near the Museum of Science in Boston in the 90s and Richard Simmons and a huge bodyguard came walking past me the other way. He was wearing his shorts and sneakers and stuff. I was was actually shocked and a little star struck because that was the last thing in the world I was expecting!
I saw later the news said he was in town. Oh boy!🤣
Thank you for posting your recollections of him. I have the greatest respect for him, he got people moving and did not shame them. It would be nice if he were to post a video letting his fans that he's ok, just retiring to peace and quiet💖
I think he is a rare gem. I think he gave everything of himself until there was nothing left because he wanted to help everyone, genuinely and wholeheartedly. I have a lot of love and respect for Richard Simmons, there will never be another one like him, ever. I hope he’s doing ok.
I agree. I also remember him being constantly mocked and made fun of on national TV. He was made to be the laughingstock of the entertainment world to the snob clique of Hollywood. I think being the object of constant jokes eventually took its toll on him and robbed him of his confidence and self-worth. Richard Simmons is a good man and I truly hope he finds the love he deserves in genuine friends and a healthy and loving romantic relationship.
Richard had a friend with bulimia. She made teddy bears by hand, and sent him one every now and then. They hadn't spoken in a while , but occasionally he received a bear. In time he heard she had died of bulimia and was remorseful that he had not been in touch. He then viewed all the bears and for the first time realized that every bear in sequence was progressively smaller, and the last one received was a tiny bear in a box. This a story Richard related. Now imagine, a man who is all heart, faced with that. Hardcore... just hardcore.
Awe man, so rough. 😢
@@bunberrier I hope he realizes he could not be expected to tune in to every single person who was clamoring for his attention. He's only human, albeit an exceptional one
As a woman who has struggled with body image issues my entire adult life, I remember Richard Simmons as someone who made people feel beautiful from the inside out. What a gentle and beautiful soul.
I think he is wonderful 2
Love him for that!
Richard is such a loving person, he deserves his peace and quiet
As all of us. It's so sad almost nobody put themselves in his shoes
He's utterly repulsive.
THE HABS!
Well said. I totally agree.
@@WarlockHolmes420 then why are you here?
"Sympathy burnout" is so common. Teachers, Healthcare workers, daycare providers, and even Customer Service Agents are maxed out sympathizing for others. Most quit when they can't bare it anymore or grow numb. In Richard's case, he was in his line of work for decades. I hope he is healing and finding peace.
Your success is measured by how much you help and serve others. Richard’s career was a perfect illustration of that.
This is exactly what I thought happened. In short, he got tired. It's hard when everyone you meet WANTS something from you. It's like kids or household animals that follow their caregivers into the bathroom. It's like, "WOULD YOU GIVE ME A MOMENT?" He's done more than enough taking care of others. Now it's time to take care of himself.
Aww, that's a funny comparison! Like it.
To kitties or dogs, a bathroom is just another space, no big deal.
@@bluecollarlit No boundaries. None, lol.
he had a lot of stress and rumours, lawsuits, yes he got stressed out and he is doing fine, good for him. sounds like a cool guy
@@girlwheels 🤣
I like cats following me.
Richard Simmons always seemed to me me to be a genuinely good person who cared. Maybe he cared too much. At any rate, I hope Richard has found want he wants and needs. I hope he has found some sort of happiness and peace. If he wants to be left alone, then let's give him what he wants. All the best Richard.
Same. He was/is a great guy.
I met him. He was very sweet.
👍❤️
Rich Simmons here: Thanks, yes I am fine just leave me alone.
He was a terrific guy. I was a flight attendant and had him on many flights. He was very kind and was still basically the same guy (though calm) even when he wasn’t “on”.
I met him with my family at the airport. He was really very sweet and kind to my children, who he made laugh, teenage at the time, they walked away with a great memory.❤️
@@fuzzyfriendsrescuevoluntee3036 You're absolutely right! No human being can possibly keep up the frantic pace that he did, as they age. I hope he is finding comfort and peace.
It’s nice to hear that.
Appreciate your insight and support of a human that helped millions of people and could still connect with anyone anytime. Well said. 🙏
He's still alive
Richard Simmons will always be my hero. He literally saved my life when I was in my twenties (I am 70 now). I was alone and depressed to the point of being suicidal (seriously). I started watching his TV program... every day he would look me directly in the eye and tell me that I was loved. This may sound trivial, but it made a huge difference to me.
I am a carb/sugar addict and have struggled with weight loss/gain my entire life. RS is my go-to-gauranteed-success method for a healthy lifestyle. I own all of his exercise videos; before Zumba came along, Sweating to the Oldies was the only exercise program that was so fun that one actually 'wanted' to do it every day.
Thank you for speaking respectfully about him and he would be the first to laugh at your witticisms!
Thank you for sharing your story, Kay!
What a lovely tribute to a lovely man.
Thanks Kay, love him too
Ooooh, that still sounds fun! Who doesn't love oldies?
That’s I wonderful tribute to that good man; I hope he reads it(-:
I was a fitness instructor for 35 years. The mental and physical strength it takes in showing up for many people counting on you to "perform" takes it's toll. The "burnout" comes on fast and I had to take a break right away....there is no giving people "notice" that you need to stop/regroup. It was a very demanding career to maintain. I retired at age 63 and very happy I am not under that pressure anymore.
I agree. Sometimes it has to be all or nothing. I worked as a mental health worker for long hours 7 days a week for decades. I gave every client my full attention, I treated everyone with respect and felt respected. I loved my job. The Covid response quickly brought about dislike of my coworkers and my employer and within a short time I couldn't stand going to work. I was gone before anyone had a chance to say goodbye and I will never go back.
Ive been a fitness instructor for 23 years & know that feeling all too well. I take breaks periodically & cut back when I feel the burnout. Im at that point right now in fact 😂
I have had a few contacts from Richard when He was still active in the fitness industry. He's a kind caring man who went above and beyond to reach out to people he didn't even know because the felt it would help them. I know, because he reached out to me. He didn't have to do any of that. He could have just focused on his fitness videos and diet books / plans, but he cared to much. That's a lot to take on. He did so for decades. As the years passed, his health went downhill. Things we all go through as we age. We need surgeries, knee replacements, arthritis sets in and often chronic pain. When you are dealing with those things, chronic fatigue can set in. For me, I found I wasn't interested in hanging out with friends or family. Just happy to be on my own at home. Some people just get like that. The man is 74yrs old now. he's retired and doing what he wants to do. he's come forth twice now to say he's fine. Let the man be.
agree
The problem. was the caring truthful? Obviously, it really wasn't though because he couldn't be truthful to people. People understand retirement. People also understand when you've just had enough and need to stop too. Of course, Richard has the right to retire just like anyone else, but going from one extreme to another shocks people. If only he could have been truthful to all those who cared for him as well and say to them, " I've had fun, it's been an awesome ride, but I'm ready to retire." Rather than just walking away and leaving people to worry about him. I think that's a very dishonest and uncaring way to go.
I can attest to that via past acquaintance of mine who helped her. He helped a lot a people turn their lives around..
@@TracyR4he’s given more than enough. He is truthful. He wants to be left alone. He doesn’t owe you a personal apology, sweetheart.
@@TracyR4Have you ever heard the word depressed, pretty over used word theses days that seems to be missing from these comments when it probably should be here, seems he was having physical problems, pain, which leads to exhaustion, and many to depression and can then lead to a lead to even more physical and emotional depletion, he didn’t just decide I’m done, he probably couldn’t function much at all for some time
Can't argue with any of this, seems 100% correct. I'm straight, married, never been fat...but growing up seeing Richard everywhere taught me to appreciate his view, values, how much he cared for others etc. Although I don't resemble Richard, and I certainly don't have his wealth, he influenced me and probably millions of others just on one basic point 'just try to be a good person' . I have so much respect for him for his kindness, breath of fresh air for a celebrity. God bless him.
You claim to be straight, but from your username, I *surmise* that you're into cattle. Now, that's been established...
Are into *heifers* or *bulls* ???
🐂🐮🐮🐮🐂
Ditto to everything you just said!! (Except I did get a little fat after menopause. But thankfully lost it) Also, for the record- I happened to have loved the "Sweating to the Oldies" videos. (don't make fun of me Dr. Grande! lol) I danced to them with my children (especially during winter months) all through the 90's. Bless you Mr. Simmons ❤
Well said. I think we all just grew up knowing who he was and just liked his energy in general.
Beautiful comment...
Every time I saw Richard in an interview or on Good Morning America I always smiled. He had this air about him that we were all equal and never talked down to people.
I met Richard in 1985 when I was an intern at a talk show in Minneapolis. He couldn’t have been nicer to me as a lowly intern. He was very kind and encouraging. I believe he was sincere.
I'm pretty sure that he was. People who had lonely childhoods grow up to be kind souls.
I met Richard when I was a child and decades later, became a Slimmons member. There was always a deep sadness within him. He carried too much for too many, but ultimately he had nothing more to give. When you have the gift of empathy, you MUST know when to set personal boundaries for your own salvation. 🙏🏼🙏🏼
I was about to say the same thing regarding the deep sadness. It comes through in the photos. Poor chap.
Very true, sounds like he did exactly what he needed to do for his own self preservation. After giving so much for so long, who could fault him for that?
@@Irisgomesjmjfaith yes it really does come through in photos and in person. Pretty sure he struggled most of his lifetime with something. 🥲
Yes you could see it was weighing in him. I’m so glad he stopped when he did though so he has some time to enjoy his peace
@@comom2055 you will never find another, Richard….in his tutu and screaming every profanity at his class to amuse, yet inspire. He really meant so very well. We all have our demons, especially from childhood, and he was no different. I loved his classes, all sweaty and aching from his workout and then we would all sit down and he would discuss an inspirational topic to open our hearts and minds to good things…..until next class. I wish him well always!
Several years ago in Los Angeles I was walking down the street. A car passed by and Richard was sitting in the passenger seat. He looked at me and he smiled at me and waved his hand. What a sweetheart he made me feel special.
He was very real, I have struggled all my life with my weight, Richard encouraged me when I wrote him & sent me free low impact videos & even called me once to encourage me. I lost 175lbs when I was 15 to 16 years old. Anyone who says he wasn't genuine or didn't really care is way off.
That is so cool! I also think he was a genuinely caring person. I grew up in a very hostile, abusive house and I loved watching Simmons on the late night shows and commercials and appearances. 😂 My parents would say a lot of nasty remarks (mainly about their perception of his sexuality) but he was the nicest, happiest person I had ever seen. He even cried whenever he wanted to like it was totally ok. Weird memory 😂
What a great story! And to read about how many people he’s reached out to over the years is amazing - he was indeed genuine. He was also funny and a bright light that he shared generously.
I remember Richard from college. I did not know him well, but he was in one class with me. Back then he was over weight and asthmatic, but he was also very kind and caring to those around him. He was someone that if you met him once, you never forgot him. Years later, when he became famous as a fitness guru, I was very happy for him. Thank you for examining his case with care and compassion. Richard did so much for so many people in his life. He had an enormous positive influence on many people and he deserves to be thought of in that way. I hope he is happy and content in his retirement.
Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️
@@axlenuts5418 No pictures. RIchard Simmons was a student in the art dept at FSU during the same time I was. He was known as Dickie Simmons back then. Like I said, we only had one class together, but I remember him well. He was someone you never forgot.
@@gulfgal98 I don't require pics, thanks for sharing.
I never doubted his sincerity and felt like he truly did want to help people.
Or just wanted to make lots of money.
@@nonrepublicrat He deserved it he made MILLIONS of unhappy overweight women HAPPY about themselves - NO PILL or MAN has done that not even husbands - & you can’t bottle that kind of Happiness 😃 Deserved every Penny
@@nonrepublicrat & The Dork Dr. isn’t here to profit - the hypocrisy is insane HES Just a therapist Not real Psychiatrist
YES!
@@nonrepublicrat if you do what you're passionate about and what you're good at, chances are you're going to be successful at it. Most people want to make a lot of money. Problem is most people are too scared to do it their own way and do what's prescribed by society to meet that end. And often these people find that their path is not a good fit.
I met Richard Simmons a few years ago… long story short he collects art I had a gallery with the artist he likes.. he was very nice, totally fine, and this was when rumors were being spread about his mental health! 🙄
That's really good to hear.
Yes
Awesome
I should mention the gallery was in New Orleans… the French Quarter, and I promise you Richard is here a lot, and he is perfectly fine.
@@LS-ny8mr I'm so happy to hear that!
Poor Richard just passed! God bless him for all the millions he has helped! God bless us all!
Never in my life heard a negative thing about him and certainly never heard him disparaging anyone. Just seems like a gentle person.
Thank you Dr. Grande. I always liked Richard Simmons, and believe he was genuine. He's 74 years old, and if he wants to retire, he deserves to enjoy his retirement. Nobody need to turn that into a conspiracy theory.
I totally agree.
Right on!
I remember standing in front of our T.V. and doing the exercises with him and then cry with him when he speaks to someone struggling with their weight. I think he was genuine and just burned out. I burned out from my job too, I was a career for many different people and one day I just couldn't do it anymore, I had nothing left.
My sister had Sweatin' to the Oldies and Deal a Meal. As a little kid I loved him, he was big in our household even though only my sis was overweight. We enjoyed seeing him on talk shows ect. He was so upbeat, I hope he's ok.
That was a very thoughtful and kind analysis. People do have the right to retire in peace.
Truly!
Absolutely! And they have the right to do it their own way. Once it was established that he was at is home and very much alive, everybody should have just left him alone.
Agree.
several DG comments were not kind
@@lynb2039 i personally didn't see those comments as unkind, but the truth, the facts, and presented in a detached way, unjudging like he should be doing. Richard was seen by many as a savant to the diets they kept failing at, I never saw that myself in Richard, if anything he kinda came off as a charlatan of sorts and his persona a tad fake if you ask me and find that to be part of his downfall.
He took so much abuse from people who thought he was weird and they could mock him. He was such a caring person. I was a lucky recipient of one of his phone calls. I believe he genuinely cared for people. I am glad you did not discuss him with disrespect.
I did this as a public Kindergarten teacher, exactly as he did. I retired and have become a hermit. I was so exhausted by 12 hour days, giving my all to parents, my students and all students s in the school. I got really sick about 5 years before I retired, but I’d go get my IV drips, go back to school, cause I Gould to let anyone down. My second to last year, I started crying at home and wondering if they wanted my blood too. It was never enough. During summers I worried myself self to sleep, about the ones I had tutored for free everyday after school. I had no boundaries and neither did my parents’ at school. When I left at 35 years, I was exhausted, sick, depressed and just wanted to be left alone. A few times in the past 10 years, I’ve gone to see a few of my students at their jobs, or home, and the love they still give me is awesome…but it doesn’t begin to fill me up anymore. I feel like Richard. PS. I’ve gotten to spend my retirement quiet, introspective beyond words…I never had a minute of my own…just to think.
I have gratitude because I hot to spend my career with human beings filled with pure love and wonder. I found the real world is really mean and scary…my book collection continues to grow for myself this time. This alone time you speak of, is the clue. I watched other teachers walk out at 3:30 to go home, and my tutoring and planning went on until 8 or 9.
Lord Jesus blesd you greatly!❤
I'm so glad you didn't make fun of him. He was so caring and special. I'm glad he did what he did and how he did it for his own well-being. Thanks for making that clear.
He totally made fun of him. He should be ashamed of himself.
@@moomama217 Americans especially you people that are ardently defending capitalism really take yourself too damn seriously
If he made fun of him he's sitting comfortably at home with a lot of money and he doesn't care
if he made fun of capitalism then the doctor here finally did something right
his video about Putin was complete bullshit
I was very glad about that too. I honestly thought he would mock him because sometimes he makes jokes in these videos that I find inappropriate so I don't think anyone else does. I just don't like making jokes about people that have been murdered or people who have struggled with a lot of issues.
Will always remember Richard Simmons. His personality was bigger than life, and what a kind compassionate spirit.
I agree, I remember standing in front of our T.V. and doing the exercises with him and then cry with him when he speaks to someone struggling with their weight. I think he was genuine and just burned out. I burned out from my job too, I was a career for many different people and one day I just couldn't do it anymore, I had nothing left.
He was wonderful and kind. Sure he was outside the box but he reached people who didn't look like Jane Fonda. The music on his tapes was fun. Kindness goes a long way no matter how odd he might have looked.
Who doesn't cry sometimes when they are alone. Frequently isn't good.
Deep childhood wounds tough to work through.
But Linda dearest, everyone aleady knows that Jane Fonda was genuinely a fake and a phony.
Very true x
I didnt think he looked odd. Actually never crossed my mind until normal census citizens or youtube.responders.. also known as fans say something or point it out. I dont need to be hateful I just say bless your heart when you sneeze
It was always amazing to see him reach out and hug people and look them in the eye and talk to them with encouragement. These were the people who were extremely overweight, and we all know how the rest of society treats them -- with disgust and eye-rolls and cat-calls. I can only imagine how much they valued him. He truly showed love to all.
@Linda Ross
Interesting how you speak of him like he passed away.
I personally think he chose to retire because he really wasn’t comfortable coming out of the closet…and perhaps felt embarrassed when he finally realized how hard he flamed in those short shorts and shaved legs.
He was very quick to cry..I think the poor guy was honestly an emotional wreck
Dr. Grande, love your humor, you always find a gem to make us think and laugh. I believe Richard was an all around good person who valued his audience, but got burned out and had nothing else to give since he gave so much of himself. "The day I don't love any of this, I walk away," and he did. RIP Richard Simmons
I can't believe how many comments there are on this video! I went through gobs of them and every comment save one was positive! Richard is very important, very loved and deserving of peace. And if everyone that he touched would just send out a prayer for him or positive energy I think he would feel it❤
I agree. I feel it was partly due to his knees, burnout, and a feeling of being overwhelmed. I actually get it. At one point, I found myself working in sales. I don't consider myself a natural born sales person at all, far from it. In spite of how I felt on the inside I pushed myself to do it. In sales it's either sink or swim. I decided to swim. I became so good at it that the owner of the company pulled me aside one day and said in amazement, "Do you realize you have a 90% closing ratio?" I knew it was high but I didn't have a second to myself in life to even think. I had to drive 50 miles to a morning sales meeting at 8 am and I was given appointments every two hours up until 8 or 9 at night, 6-7 days a week. I had no life. I would often be stuck at an 8 pm appointment until 10 at night, wouldn't get home until 11, and start all over again the following morning. I found sales to be a love-hate relationship with me. It was an emotional high when I made a sale and the 25% commissions paid very well, and I even made "rookie of the year" at their awards ceremony, but one day I impulsively decided, "I can't do this anymore" and I quit and never went back. So I totally get how Richard Simmons must have felt. It was financially lucrative but emotionally draining. I live rather reclusive too and much prefer being an artist:-)
Thanks for sharing. Enjoy your art!
God Bless 🙏🏻
@@alice_rabbit8345 Thank you. I do, very much so:-)
Real people understand this. Sometimes they have an epiphany in life and totally change their careers.
@@drdr76 I never considered it a career I just sort of fell into it. Sales was foreign to my psyche. I don't enjoy trying to sell things to people but I'm very inspired by beauty and what is visual such as decorating, painting, the culinary arts, etc., and yes, it was an epiphany, I knew in an instant I wanted out. So when Simmons failed to show up I understood. Sometimes a person reaches a breaking point, a point of no return, where it's like 'I can't take one more second of this.'
Richard always seemed genuine. I hate hearing he had no friends growing up because of his weight. Children can be cruel and people in general. Most celebrities as they grow older choose to just live out the rest of their senior years out of the spotlight. This doesn't strike me as odd. The man has a right to live in solitude if he wants. He's not hurting anyone or maybe he needs to reflect on his life and that's his right. He's given alot to help motivate and inspire others, I actually think it's selfish of others to just feel he can't take time out alone for self recovery. As an introvert myself having to be extroverted on my job I am always glad to go home and not deal with any public things. I cherish my alone time.
As a fellow introvert, I too cherish my alone time. Great comment!
Introverts unite 🙌
It’s weird when you’re an introvert but even that personality test (Meyers Briggs I think) thinks you’re an extrovert cause they ask the wrong questions. It would have definitely pegged Richard Simmons as an extrovert.
Even Jesus Christ had to get away from the crowds to refresh himself with the Father.
@@dontmindme633 I'm an extroverted introvert, if that can be understood.
He is a beautiful person. I see him as the fitness world's equivalent of Mister Rogers. He wanted everyone to feel special. Sure he's goofy and unintentionally funny, but he's done a lot of good for people and wanted the world to be a more beautiful place.
Agh!!! I was just going to comment that the world could more Richard Simmons and Mr. Rodgers. In a world of so much division they brought unity in their kindness.
Richard Simmons was holding a 'meet and greet' at a prominent Canadian shopping mall back in the early 1990's. There had to be 200 people waiting for him. Many of them were wheel-chair-dependent, breathing with the aid of oxygen, and accompanied by a care-giver. This was the saddest sight. He was the light in their darkness, making personal contact with as many people as possible. Everyone wanted him. As an on-looker, I found it overwhelming. His enthusiasm and bursts of energy ignited hope in his fans. I saw a man giving more than 100% of himself. I saw a genuine human being, who knew their struggles, because they were his struggles, too. There were tears in his eyes and in their eyes. Wherever he is now, I wish him happiness and good health. ❤
Awe that's a beautiful, yet sad story.
It's lovely to read everybody's comments.
He definitely helped so many people, sounds like a lovely person.
I love this, thank you. ❤
How many times does one read comments and find them all positive. What an accomplishment for Mr Simmons. Extraordinary.
Those sassy informercials brought me so much joy as a fat kid 😆. He probably knew people were laughing at him but didn’t care because he was helping so many others combat obesity and get fitter even if they weren’t jacked like Arnold or slim like Susanne Sommers.
Bless his heart
Yes. Bless him. He is a good man.
Yes he is
Arnold always looked gross to me. Too beefy and unnatural. Like he walked out of the cold storage. I've seen many 'fat' people who looked way more aesthetically pleasing.
Richard taught many of us, even us dreadfully skinny folk, to love themselves ❤️
Richard Simmons is one of those dudes you'd kinda laugh about with your buds when you were younger (guilty) BUT as the years went on, wound up respecting him more when you found out what he was really all about, which is how he really does care about others.
I just started my internship two days ago and already had a crisis call. But I'm glad I can come home to some stability and listen to Dr. Grande not diagnose anyone. ❤️ Thanks for the upload 😊
@Betterbee Right .Cool to hear the skilled Dr Grande do analysis [not diagnosis]. Hoping your crisis call played out positively
I adore that man. I'm just happy to hear he's living his life and I pray he gets the physical relief he needs for his health concerns. He deserves the world! I totally understand him getting worn out because he used to email little old me back so I can only imagine how much of himself he gave to countless others. That's exhausting! I'm very much introverted and shy but nobody believes me when I tell them...I work as an Optician helping people purchase prescription glasses and it gets exhausting, especially if you're the type of person who people just want to open up to. I have gotten in trouble many times for taking too long because people won't stop talking to me 😂😂😂
The nice thing is my boss is awesome and understanding and when I told him I need periods to decompress where I can work away from people he was open to the suggestions I offered.
I used to work as an optician as well, and as an introvert I ran into the same issues as you! I loved getting to help people see, but it was so exhausting dealing with people all day.
God bless you! 💜✝️🙏 You are worth your weight in GOLD!!!
He was a ball of energy! When I think of him I just see a man who enjoyed helping everyone be happy.
Thank you for your sensitivity, Dr. Grande. Richard Simmons persona was certainly over the top but I never doubted he genuinely wanted to help people.
Richard was hilarious on The Larry Sanders Show! Larry and Artie are constantly attempting to avoid him when he is a guest. At one point, they are cornered, and Simmons opens up a photo album and proceeds to show them his dogs in his signature excitable fashion. He very obviously could laugh at himself. Being born in 1980, he is an icon in my eyes.
I hope he is able to enjoy his retirement in peace. Burnout is real, and “coming back from burnout” is unlikely. He could tell people that he is retired, but he doesn’t owe anyone a reason or answer.
You’re right but I think for the most part people’s concern is out love and caring for his well-being rather than malice. I wish him a peaceful and enjoyable life. He brought much needed kindness to a world that is always in need of it💕
Exactly
It’s just sad we didn’t get a goodbye but I understand and respect his right to just exit stage left.
I just will never forget him, and always wonder from time to time if he’s ok.
He may not be on the stage anymore but he’s still inspiring me not to give up. Thank you, Mr. Richard Simmons
He fell into a deep depression and I think he's always struggled with it.
The extrovert personality he portays is what he does to counteract how sad he feels inside.
Most comedians say they hate themselves and want people to like them.
At some point they found out its really hard for people to not like you when they're laughing.
I am one of the people who mocked and made-fun of Mr. Simmons in my youth,(1980's). I regret my folly. As I look back,I realize,he is a beautiful human being. He spends his life being someone we all should strive to be. He truly loves the people who need love and truly helps the people who need help. He is and will always be a true hero. A good person. The world needs so many more Richard Simmonses.
In 1986, I went to the largest fitness convention, t the time, in Atlanta that Richard was going to be at. He was going to lead everyone in aerobics as one of the events. I was hanging around waiting for the ballroom to open up so I could get a spot. I had about 40 minutes to wait. About 15 minutes before the ballroom opened, I noticed I felt different like, the air was full of excitement and electricity. Nothing was going on and I was confused by this. About 20 seconds later, I heard Richard talking loudly as he walked into the grand hall. The electrical feeling jumped way up. This man was exuding so much charisma that it changed the feeling in the entire area. In fact, I was up on the second floor and he had entered on the main hall so I didn’t even see him. It was a really strange occurrence.
This was the second time I had been at a convention where he was. The first one was a smaller venue but when he took the stage, it was like nothing I have ever experienced. Well, maybe the one time I walked into the business where my former boyfriend worked and found out Dolly Pardon was there. I didn’t see her, I wasn’t allowed to but, before I even knew she was there, there was this electrical feeling when I walked into the building. I had no idea what it was until I heard her laughing down the hallway. She exudes the same type of energy. And, I’m not some sort of groupie either. I physically felt their presence and like they say, they are larger than life.
I helped run the lights at a country western show in about 1975. It was the Lyle Waggoner Country Western Show. Lyle had a smoking hot side kick named Dolly Pardon. As you describe it she exuded an almost an electric charisma. I didn't know who she was but I would have listened to her all night long. Been a fan ever since.
Richard Simmons is the same. I've been told by people that met Arnold Schwarzenegger that he exudes a similar charisma field.
@@lockman004 : Yeah, Richard and Arnold have a lot in common…
It is called star quality. Those who have are lightning!
@@lockman004 I believe you meant Porter Waggoner.
You had a inner ear orgasm. Very rare indeed.
I saw a video of Richard coming out of his house to talk to fans on a tour bus. Sure the guy was eccentric and a bit much for my tastes but I was a taken back by his ability to quickly connect with his fans and he seemed truly honored to meet then and telling them positive comments and he was really engaging and listening to each of the people on the small tour bus. I'm sure each of the people on that van will remember Mr. Simmons in a very positive light.
Yeah he was genuine. I liked him. He did a lot for people in private.
He waved at our Hollywood tours bus years ago. He was just getting the mail.
I hope someone does his bio. It seems he did his best to spread joy.
You nailed this one, Doc. I was on a Richard Simmons cruise, and I observed two things: 1) the cruisers and Richard's entourage we're very needy and demanding. Real takers. 2) Richard has no personal boundaries. He stayed up one night til the wee hours of the morning until he had personally met and spoken with every person waiting in line. He seemed to me to be a very genuine and caring person. He was also very naturally funny. But I remember feeling really sorry for him. Underneath it all, I felt he needed to find a kind of acceptance and approval that maybe doesn't exist. I think his mother was a narcissist, and Richard felt he had failed her in some way. I genuinely like Richard. I hope he has found some peace from within. Maybe he should subscribe to that 10 percent app.
Thanks for analyzing a complex individual such as Richard. His flamboyance was the “hook” to get a forgotten segment of society off the couch and into the gym. If that made him a multi-millionaire, well he’s done far better than most reading this comment.
I once saw Richard at an airport. I told him I was a big fan! He let me take a selfie with him. He seemed genuinely happy that I asked for a picture. This may have been 2004-5? I wish I could find that picture. He was very kind. I hope he’s okay.
He’s a beautiful human being who went way beyond to help those who were lost and needed help most and that’s selfless!
He is amazing and always will be!
As a child of the 80’s, born in the 70’s, Richard is an icon. I don’t think you can mention the 80’s and not mention Richard Simmons. His personality embodies the the best and most positive aspects of the era.
Well said.
I grew up watching Richard Simmons on TV and thought he was too flaming at times, but after hearing the whole biography, I feel really bad for the guy now! He obviously had a lot of personal and psychological trauma, and at heart, he's just a human being like all of us, nothing wrong with that at all. If he wants to be a recluse, just respect that and let him be.
Too flaming? Lol. Wow!!!
@@ICONICPARIS to be
Well said j.
If you truly want to show respect to him, realize that your reductive comments about him being “too flaming” illustrate your supreme ignorance in the arena of how to show your fellow humans respect and the amount of self reflection you must embark on in order to be considered relevant. Be better. Just like Richard Simmons inspired us to be. He urged us to love ourselves, in all of our forms of being. I deem you to be “too ignorant “ after reading your drivel. You think he needs your sympathy? Haha “think” again. We can only dream of impacting our fellow humans so positively, and at the sheer magnitude that Simmons has. If he did not perform masculinity the way you think he should have, who cares? The measure of a human is the positive impact left behind with every interaction and action. I’m betting he sleeps very well at night knowing he was the very best at his craft of teaching self love , and unequivocally… had the best legs ever to wear shorts.
@@oregonsnob31 chillax he meant flamboyant. Geese Magilicuty chill
What a wonderful human being! Love you, Richard.
So basically Richard was a real genuine good guy.
This is crazy. I was just thinking about him yesterday and how a friend of mine saw him in Italy. She said he was absolutely wonderful. This is the second time he’s popped up on my timeline. I hope he is well.
He flashed in my mind the other couple days ago..Maybe he doesn't want to be found
A documentary about him was recently released on hulu so that is why you are suddenly seeing things about him.
Yes, I was just talking about him the other day, amazing synchronicity
Richard was a motivator!!! He made obese and self conscious people feel loved and accepted for who they were. He was part of my weight loss journey back in his day. His routines were fun fairly easy and he was a joy to watch. He obviously cared very deeply about the people struggling with weight and self image and he frequently referred to his own weight loss battle. As with most people who put their all in their jobs and genuinely care for others he got mentally tired. He is retired and his privacy needs to be accepted as a normal part of his life. He is missed but is still beloved to me and others.
Fantastic comment! God bless you! ✝️💜🌹
As an introvert I can relate to Richard. Spending extended periods of time in the company of others leaves me mentally exhausted and depleted. I can dig deep and do it if I have to but I certainly don't enjoy it. To be fair Richard wasn't really the phenomena here in the U.K that he was across the pond although it always seemed to me that he may fit in with our reputation for being slightly eccentric. I'm not sure how he managed to keep up this extroverted persona for as long as he did but props to him. As for me, I'd rather stay at home and have a cocoa
Me too. I don’t need the company of others. I’m happy with just me most of the time. People make me tired.
@@martyal I feel like extroverted people see Introversion as a character flaw sometimes. I love my 'me' time
Dr Grande, your final thoughts at the end made me cry. I’ve been a caregiver for several years now, and I’m completely burned out. I can’t/won’t walk away from it, but sometimes it’s just really hard to stay positive. Thanks for the upload
Do anything you can for self care and respite. Will pray for you.
@@whaaat3632 Thank you so much, Sweetheart. That really touched my heart. Bless you, my friend. ❤
As one who was a caregiver for 10 years, I understand where you're coming from. I also understand how hard it is to take care of your own needs and have time for yourself. Most of the time you're all there is and it is too expensive to hire people. I hope you are doing well and do have some help.
@@judybryant3880 bless your heart, honey. I take care of a disabled vet for about the last 15yrs, a Parkinson’s/Dementia person for 3yrs, and I had a cancer survivor for 3yrs. I love doing it. I love and care about people a lot! But yes, I’ve been neglecting my own needs too much lately. My back s absolutely killing me, I don’t get a lot of sleep, and the mental and spiritual is so seriously draining beyond imagination.. but as I said, I won’t walk away because 2 of these people are a spouse, and a best friend. I have a very good life with every possible luxury, and no drama, fighting, or financial issues, so I’m beyond happy! I just need a break soooooo bad sometimes. Thank you so much for your response right now. I’m in my bed icing my back and trying to unwind, but I was feeling really emotional and sort of delirious, and then I saw what you said, and I feel better now! Kindness is such an underrated thing.
This is one of your absolute best!
And your explanation of the difference between sympathy and empathy has finally helped me in knowing not only which is which but also how to adapt them into my life when dealing with others.
I’ve been described as wearing my heart on my sleeve, which I do. This has shed the light onto me being sympathetic in nature and you are right when saying being sympathetic is hard on one’s own mental health, as in Richards case.
I shall try to be more empathetic in many cases and know when to be sympathetic as well.
It comes down to a balance of both to lead a healthy balance towards mental health!
Thank you ohh so much!☺️
Mad respect to Richard! Actually investing a huge amount of his time to talk to fans and replying to all his fan mail. Most TH-camrs with a big fan base don't even bother replying to comments.
I think Mr. Simmons deserves a medal. He is a hero. Who knows how many lives he helped to redeem. As a child of the 80s and 90s, it was always a treat when all of sudden Richard Simmons splashed onto the TV screen out of nowhere.
Maybe he retired, he helped thousands of people get fit and lose WT. He is a pretty decent man.
I had a dirt bag relative who wrote to Richard way back in the late 70's or early 80's and gave him a sad sob story about wanting to lose weight but couldn't afford to pay so Richard sent him a bunch of stuff for free. My now disowned relative continued to eat his way to over 400lbs. and just a few years ago had weightloss surgery. He's thin as a pencil now but still no less of a dirt bag.
You can take the bag outta the dirt, but you can't take the dirt outta the bag! LOL 😄
I worked with a lady years ago that was like your relative. Her hobby was writing to companies and celebrities to see what free sh*t she could get outta them.
Then she’d sell the stuff at the local flea market and brag how much money she made.
I have no idea what stories she made up but I mentioned to her that when they sent her free stuff she was stealing it from a truly needy person.
She shrugged 😡
I used to work out with him in my living room when he was on TV in the 1980s. I was going thru a hard time and his enthusiasm and energy/empathy with his “audience” got me through. Love to him.
As usual and excellent analysis, Dr.Grande.
I am one of those Richard Simmons avid fans but not for his exercise videos.
To me, Richard Simmons has been an outcast in every social situation he has ever lived in.
Richard has always felt out of place and has always wanted to simply be accepted as who he is ,as he is.
Richard never wanted to pass on the ugliness he experienced when he was in school.
Once he decided to lose his weight ,he was profoundly determined to do it .
Once he got to that goal,to tighten the skin and bring back his health, he started his exercise studio.
Richard saw he could help people stuck in bodies, just like he was stuck in at one time , and he relished the fact he could help.
And in that moment, for once, people accepted Richard and he was ,at least in the studio, not an outcast.
Richard was smart and had smart people around him and his business grew and he became famous.
For years, the bubbly curly headed exercise male fitness cheerleader was respected for helping others while being quirky and funny and bright and cheerful.
Then in the span of about three months, the entire Hollywood establishment turned against Richard Simmons.
I don't know if some rich prick in Hollywood wanted in on Richards millions or what happened but I was profoundly saddened by the coordinated attack on Richard Simmons character on every damn show he would go on.
The profound nastiness directly thrown in Richards face by actors and actresses and media characters not worthy to take out his garbage bags was just really hard to understand as it was to watch.
I saw Richards reactions real time several times on live television and he was profoundly hurt by these personal attacks and especially the ridiculing of his lifes work of trying to help people simply be happier about themselves by losing some weight and maybe finding a friend in that fight.
You could say that Richard Simmons was one of the first public personalities that was genuinely cancelled by the same Hollywood establishment that wanted him to make them millions by coming on their shows and now playing ,not Richards Simmons the exercise nice guy but Richard Simmons the joke you could attack right to his face on nationwide tv.
Ha Ha Ha ha lets all laugh at stupid Richard.
I absolutely HATED the way Richard was treated.
And guess what, Richard never got ugly back, Richard never attacked back, Richard never even tried to fight back, Richard just took it and went away.
I was not surprised when Richard Simmons finally had had enough.
The profound ugliness that was thrown at him for two years was completely unacceptable and completely undeserved.
And as always ,the Hollywood driven media would reach out and keep trying to destroy the man who simply wanted to help people and make people feel better about who they were and be loved by those people.
Richard got out instead of killing himself by taking drugs or doing other things and for that I am grateful.
But I will never forget the way Richard Simmons was treated and how I hope ,one day, the sorry 'people' in Hollywood who did this to him, choke on a sandwich while they see a old video of Richard Simmons dancing to the Oldies flash across the video screen.
God Bless You, Richard Simmons and please be well.
You don't owe anyone anything other then yourself ,to be happy.
I didn’t know this. This is terrible. People can be so cruel. Shame on them. Richard was a light.
Wow bullied as a child I suspect and bullied as an adult What a tragic story. 🥲
@@susansandler8429 For such a nice person to be treated with such underdeserved ugliness was really hard to watch. Richard took it like a warrior though. Then he said this is enough. I am just glad to read he's found some peace in retirement. I guess Hollywood will reach out and try to destroy that happiness now too. Stay strong Richard Simmons.
@@seersha2937 it was astonishing to see how these people on these tv shows ganged up on Richard. It effected my watching Hollywood products for a very long time. I am just glad Richard did what he did and refused to be sarcastic and hateful actors, actresses and tv media peoples emotional punching bag. All I ever got from Richard was someone who wanted to be appreciated as a nice person who wanted to put a smile on peoples faces.
He was'nt perfect but who the heck is. The whole thing really made me angry at Hollywood and kind of opened my eyes too. I never looked at the people on tv the same again.
@@deniseelsworth7816 thats the power of what Richard was doing. Genuine Niceness is appreciated worldwide. People could see that Richard was dealing in the open with some really profound hurt but was'nt being poor me. Richard was saying look at me, laugh at me , smile with me and let's make your life a little better. It was a profoundly lighthearted way to lift peoples spirits and they appreciated it. Of course ,Hollyooed types completely resented the way the general public loved Richards message and not only tried to cheapen it and destroy it, they wanted to destroy the messenger too. And they almost did it. You can't be successful and nice in this world. Jealous and hateful people always try to destroy it. I am just glad Richard walked away and is .....dealing in private in ways ....that according to some of the comments here seem to indicate, Richard has found some joy and peace again in his retirement. You Go Richard. May the Sun Always Shine on your Face.
I think he is a very compassionate. As an introvert myself I totally understand how exhausting it can be to pretend to be bubly and happy all the time. He helped a lot of people, myself included (I still work out to his Sweatin to the oldies series lol). He deserves rest, peace, happiness, and privacy and I hope he’s getting all of that now ❤️
The dual persona is something we can all understand given how many Internet personalities there are. NO ONE would care if he was old and frail. Richard is beloved and I think the tragedy is that people feel they’ve lost him before he’s really gone but we have to respect his boundaries
I loved playing my mom's sweating to the oldies tape and dancing, having the time of my life. His joy and energy is so infectious.
Richard was and is special. He was the one I could exercise with and understood I wasn’t perfect. He was genuine and open and that hurts your soul after years when it’s not fed back to you in an intimate way. Eventually you must hole up to protect yourself, especially if others betray your trust. Thank you, Richard, stay safe and have peace.
"You've heard of baby fat? Well baby, I was fat." He had a snappy prose style, my mom had that first book and I used to read just about anything. I still remember a few lines. Richard always seemed like a good dude. Edit: Great analysis!
God Bless him. Unfortunately, it seems he is retired. We all get there eventually. My back is aching just thinking about it. Would be a good thing if he could maybe show up on a podcast just to spread his kindness and compassion. We are in desperate need of that today. Peace to him and his family.
I hadn’t thought about Richard having a persona different from his personality. He always seemed enthusiastic and genuine.
I certainly can see how anyone could burn out with that energy level.
I wish him a restful and happy retirement.
Great video tonight Doc, thanks.
Thank you for turning me onto this documentary. I had not heard about it. I'm just 6 years younger than Simmons, and my best friend and I used to meet at her house and exercise with Simmons when he was on TV. He was so funny and terrific!
I always liked him. He's a kind sweet and caring person. I hope he knows how much people love him, and care about him too. Love you Richard!
My understanding of the definition of "sympathy" vs "empathy" is the exact opposite of Dr Grande's explanation in this video.
Me, too.
Empathy means being able to feel & understand another's persons issue or situation from their point of view: putting yourself in their position & seeing it through their eyes. You don't have to have experienced the same issue to empathise.
@@tribbles2955 I’d go with the actual Dr. over than random commenter 😉. IMV Empathy is genuinely being able to mirror the feelings of a person…. Sympathy is choosing/trying to empathize
The diet cards he made were and still are very effective and were recommended by many legitimate organizations. He was a valid help to many people who needed assistance. He was not a huckster in any way.
He seemed to be a sensitive soul,he genuinely seemed to like helping others. He was funny and likeable. I think Dr. Grande hit the nail on the head with this one,he did indeed kind of vanish for a long time,i think i can understand why. I do believe his motivation was altruistic.
It's sad that the thought of contacting a celebrity and getting a response from them is thought of as amazing. Of course I don't think they should respond to everyone. But when, in my opinion, they never respond to anyone at all, then I feel like they shouldn't be a celebrity at all.
Simmons seems to be a diamond in a coal mine.
I wish him all the joy and happiness in the world, whatever the details, he truly deserves it all.
Thank you, Richard Simmons. Thank you so much.
Getting on in years can lead to arthritis, which leads to tremendous pain, then having surgery to rectify that situation leads to more tremendous pain. Reaching age 70 can make a person really tired, then adding bad pain to the mix can change one's personality. I respect Richard Simmons because he helped so many people throughout his life in a genuine manner. Let us remember this about him now, and leave him be so he can enjoy a well-earned respite from a busy life, God knows he has earned it
I remember watching Richard Simmons' aerobics program on TV. My mother and I would watch him even when not exercising. He got alot of us into leotards and working out. We weren't obese but his show would have people of all sizes and it made everyone comfortable. I remember laughing at him at first but then growing to really like him.
Persona at odds with personality. I can relate to this. As a reporter for a small newspaper for many years, I developed an outgoing, extroverted persona. I needed it to interview performers, quite a few who were well known, and political personalities like Edward Kennedy, John Kerry, Kitty Dukakis, just to name a few, and cover town meetings and local events. The newspaper closed, and I no longer needed to get in people's faces with a recorder or a camera. Extroversion was an unnecessary expenditure of energy. I used to have to pump myself up to meet the demands of the next event I had to cover. After, I became reclusive. I had always been bookish and private. One rises to the requirements of the job. Maybe we can view Richard Simmons as having a certain quanta of energy for the role he played for many years, and having expended that extroversion energy, he had to retreat and recharge.
A bunch of lame democrats lol
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@@donpeace894 I do believe you missed the point of the comment. But while we’re on the subject, all politicians suck 🙄 on both sides. Picking a team is just a means to divide..
@@ImSimplyAHuman trump desantis 2024 - they don't come more stupid or crooked than Biden
I bet Meyers Briggs pegs you as an extrovert though. Cause they ask the wrong questions. Like how you are around people. Like introverts are all socially awkward or shy.
I happened to watch this earlier today. I was a young adult when he was at the height of his fame and am certainly familiar with him. Now retired myself, when several interviewees in the documentary said 'he could come back,' I wondered, "Why? He wants to do something else with this part of his life. Like many of us at this age." Perhaps he should have been more public about his plans and announced his retirement, but it's his life. I'm just glad he seems to be competent and not terribly ill. It is too bad he won't get the other knee done. I know a few people who've had both knees replaced and they are happier for it, even tho recovery may have been stressful. He doesn't need the surgery to come back to being 'Richard Simmons,' I just think he'd feel better as he pursues his own interests.
Interesting analysis. As a caregiver, I can relate to burnout. My mom and sister died recently and I’m wondering if my retreat is grief or a combination of grief and burnout. I really have enjoyed Richard Simmons and wish him the best.
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Brenda, I hope you find your place outside of your caring role! Remember to offer yourself the same generosity and compassion you have given to others. Despite the difficulties of being a career, I know the struggles of feeling cast adrift when you are released from that role by the loss of a loved one. You should never feel guilty for enjoying the relative freedom of now being able to put yourself first. You don’t need to justify your existence by being useful or hard-working. It may have been so long since you could just do stuff without a lot of planning that you can’t remember how, but I hope life brings you wonderful things - and I hope your memories of your mom and sister bring you some smiles to lighten your grief. ❤️
I worked for Richard as a receptionist at the front desk at Slimmons and a Deal A Meal support person via the phone when classes weren’t in session in the very early nineties. I feel that your assessment was thoughtful and likely correct. I did have people tell me that they thought he wasn’t sincere. You were correct that he answered all those letters. His days were filled with reading letters and reaching out to people. It was very difficult for him to listen to the hardships of people, many who couldn’t get out of bed, without taking it to heart. I do think he had a social life at that time. He did keep it private and separate from his work and public life. I believe he had friends and of course his Dalmatians. Getting old couldn’t have been easy for him. He was a ball of energy when I knew him.
Very good analysis. I respect his dedication to his fans and fitness students. I understand how he could no longer maintain the persona once he became a senior citizen with physical problems.
He popped into my mind this morning randomly. I remember hearing about him in the 90s. I remember he guest starred on the Johnny Bravo Show (cartoon). I remember writing him a letter as a small child because I saw him on that cartoon.😂 He did reply back to me with a note and signed autograph.
Yea! Johnny bravo 👏
@@DankDragon62 it was one of the funniest cartoons back in the day. I wish it was available somewhere to watch, but I'm not sure.
I think that means you should Pray for him so that perhaps in heaven he will know your prayers for him and smile at you 🙏🏼😉
Thank you Dr Grande. I believe this man was an enigma, I truly believe he generally wanted too help people. I hope he gets the good retirement, he deserves. Thank you Dr Grande. Brilliant analysis and intriguing outcome. Informative topic. .
Hi dear one. Such a wonderful comment. Enigma is right. He seemed very sensitive and caring. Hugs to you lovely friend 😊💓💚💓🍵🌄🕯🛏🌸💛💛💛
Maybe he was an *enema* within an *enigma* ...!?!?
@@zenawarrior7442 Thank you lovely friend. Thank you so much. I hope your mum is going good. Maybe one day, we'll meet up and have a beautiful lunch together. 😜😚❤❤💙💙✉🎋🎋🌷🌷🌷
@@cottontails9003 Thanks honey. Mom is ok, will see her soon again. Oh I'd love to meet up someday...a lovely lunch sounds great😉🫓🥪🍧💜💜💖💖💚💚👍🌼🌵🌼🌵
@@cottontails9003 Hi lovely one! ❤️ How are you and the family doing? Noah? 🥰 Just wanted to tell you the surgery went great! My daughter did very well. She was supposed to come home Friday or Saturday, but they are trying to get the heart rhythm back to full normal, so, a little problem only, we hope. 😬 I'm still worried, though. She has to stay till all is running as it should, or she might need an additional procedure. But, she's feeling ok,, and healing well! Miss you! Thinking about you guys. ❤💚💜🧡💚
I’ve just been reading through the comments silently while my lady is asleep next to me, and I’m just really awestruck by how many wonderful memories and experiences people have had with this man. I remember him as a kid growing up; always seemed like a likable person but I had no idea he was so genuine and kind. It’s really a breath of fresh air when today’s and yesterday’s big names are consistently coming out to be… disappointing to say the least.
Richard Simmons is such a kind, generous person. I hated how he was picked on during appearances just because he was an easy target.