Regarding the story about sexism in the workplace: When my friends venting or complaining I ask them if they just want me to listen or to give advice. I honestly find it very helpful myself, sometimes you want to vent, sometimes you want constructive criticism - that's not always transparent to everyone so it never hurts to clarify. Communication is hard, and even if the husband was well-meaning it's easy to see how the wife would have felt invalidated.
This is the key for most things, I agree. But if the wife is always complaining about how unfair every job and every superior is, I hate to say it, but she is likely contributing to that problem. If everyone else is always a problem, sometimes you need to read the room and realize that maybe you are the problem (or at least part of it).
I don’t know for sure but I imagine trade school is cheaper than college so her asking for help with tuition and him saying “I didn’t pay for trade school” isn’t a fair comparison
Story 3 is such a dilemma.. im also going no AH just because she has a medical condition as well.. and considering its her event, she pulls rank. But its such a tough situation cause service dogs exist for a reason.. at this point if i was the one with a service dog, and not having him there would compromise my mental health, i would simply not go to the wedding. I wouldn’t want to compromise someone else’s health either, especially on their wedding day.
Also im with sean on putting leftovers with a pan.. but only if theres a lot of leftovers.. if theres like a scoop or two and one piece of meat/protein stuff, ill put it in a container
This doesn't have anything do with stories in this episode, but I just wanna say that I really love how openminded and willing to learn you guys are! You openly admit if you don't know about something and are ready to consider other viewpoints while still being true to your own beliefs. Mad respect, we need more men like you 💜
Story 2: I would have to disagree with John on this one... women always have to do two times the work just to be acknowledged. The OP mentioned when ever she does group work etc they always take credit away from her and silence her when she tries to contribute in meetings so it's not a skills issue/taking more challenges.its her no being able to properly show her skills because of sexism ( this is not me dragging in any way and you obviously changed ur stance when u were given more information x)
Yesssss. But I do hope she can push back and just once when they try and take her work she’s started and completed and be like nope. It’s mine and I’m being included and presenting it ❤
i feel like sean still doesn't understand service animals lol. the no kids rule thing doesnt make sense to compare it. OP isnt in the wrong because the dog endangers her well being so she is right to not let a dog in. BUT if this wasnt an issue, and the venue was "pet free", the service animal WOULD be still allowed.
Well yeah but at the same time, if bride and groom decide they dont want animals on their wedding, they can say that and the guest who have service animals, dont go. Like the same goes for a parent who dont want to go without their kid, then dont go. I think this was his point of view.. the guest decides whats more of a priority, you know what i mean?
@@ANAMARIA_BTCwell why invite them when you know they have service animals to a no pet wedding… also it’s extremely ableist to uninvite someone because they have a service animal (not because you’re allergic like in the story)
The Disney adult story….NTA! The bride can have her damn wedding somewhere else! I would NEVER let anyone dictate what I can have or not have in my home. She doesn’t have to change nothing in HER home.
My family used to do the pot in the fridge thing! Spaghetti, macaroni, etc, just shove the whole thing in the until there's like one serving left THEN put it in Tupperware 😂
I drove my first car until the engine literally blew up. I learned all I could about it, and that knowledge has served me well the rest of my life. That dad suuuuucks.
Story 4: this one personally hurts. It's not the literal act of packing lunch. It's the feeling of not even being considered by someone you love. I struggled with this with my Ex because when I cooked dinner, I would serve us both, pack both our leftovers for lunch and wait for them to join me before I start eating. If I were to make snacks for myself, id always make a serving for them and even bring it to them without them asking. I didn't do it to be praised. It's just how I showed my love. They would never do the same for me. They made dinner for themselves and tell me to find something to make. If they did make a large enough serving, they would make their own plate and eat without even telling me, it's done. They would pack their lunch and leave the food out on the counter until I got up and the foods been sitting out for hours at this point. I would tell them how it made me feel and they'd just say sorry you feel that way. It hurts because you feel like you're not worth the effort or care for someone to do something as simple as refill your water because they care or just ask if you want a snack with them. It makes you feel not good enough
I’m a female Electrical Engineer and I feel for the girlfriend. This man doesn’t take into account how difficult it is for women to just become an EE. I had to repeatedly convince guidance counselors to put me in advanced math and science classes. I was told engineering would be too hard for me (even though I finished every math and science class in my high school by junior year). I was discouraged from doing post secondary senior year, so I went a year without math and science. Reason: it would be too hard. I have been the only women in class or on my team at work since sophomore year of high school. I would be ignored during group projects and then got a bad grade for not helping (or my work would be credited to the men). Then I come into the workforce and have to prove I belong there on the regular, when I don’t see men having to do the same thing. I’m constantly asked for help on administrative tasks, but seconded guessed on technical items. It’s ridiculous. Even in a workplace that values inclusion, being a female engineer is hard. Anyone that thinks a woman is just overreacting is not only an asshole, but is shutting both eyes, plugging both ears, and screaming to ignore what is right in front of them.
Story 1: Disney owns the newer version of Pooh. The one with the red shirt. The original version is now in the public domain. So if you have seen a bunch more Pooh products out there lately it’s because the companies no longer have to pay for the rights to use the original images.
I def throw the whole pot in the fridge when I'm feeling a little lazy and can't be bothered OR when there's only a serving left and I know it'll be eaten the next day
Service dog issue is hard thing. Technically a service dog on duty is considered medical equipment not an animal. Legally an on-duty service dog is always allowed regardless of animal policies. I definitely understand serious allergies, so that throws an entirely different wrench into things. I think definitely not AH for addressing ahead of time and trying to find & offer alternatives.
Guests are optional and this is a private event. There are absolutely places that don’t have to accommodate a dog especially for safety reasons. This is a safety reason.
The guy with the “daughter’s” car reminds me of my in-laws. Same idea of letting their youngest son to benefit from everything because he is not as “lucky and academically motivated” as my SO. So he gets everything and my man only gets criticism and shit. Fuck such parents and their favouritism.
Thanks for all the fun and distraction your bringing me in a not so good moment. You're the only ones that are bringing me smiles 😁🙏. Happy birthday John 🎉🎉🎉
Story #3: A service dog is not negotiable. It's not a therapy dog. It's not emotional support. I don't think OP is an AH because this is no win, but it is not a pet and telling someone not to come to a wedding because of a disability is. Euegh. Truly no win.
Sadly it's just two medical needs that are incompatible. If there was anyway to accommodate for either of them brilliant, but it doesn't really seem like it.
@@marubin9734here is a difference between a dog trained to deal with the emotional needs of their owner, and an emotional support animal In how society views them anyway. Typical one is trained to be calm in public and trained with de-escalation techniques while the other is just a pet someone has an attachment too. The kid needs his dog. It would be like asking a person in a wheelchair to leave it behind. You just can't take away or expect the person to perform the same without the help.
The last one is definitely the asshole. Seriously? To reward the son who never does the work and never completes the goals just because he Finally actually did the work to complete trade school.... But then you have the daughter who Always works hard and Always finishes stuff and continues to do so by completing her education while being financially responsible by herself for maintaining the USED vehicle and even paying in to make it better. To say she doesn't deserve a reward for it because she always does the work anyways but the son who can rarely do the work is the only one who deserves to be rewarded for finally doing some work, years in to adulthood.... It comes off blatantly sexist for one and backwards. Want to reward the son for FINALLY doing the work??? Great, then but Him the used car, and reward the one who always busts her ass by giving Her the new car. Definitely sexist and over the top favoritism, such a shame and I feel bad for that poor girl working so hard and getting so far and quite obviously not even getting the recognition for her accomplishments. Hopefully she makes it well enough that soon she can show up at "dad's" and drop the car off telling him she's done well enough to take care of herself and that she doesn't need his pittance of a second hand handout so maybe he should keep it for when the son yet again needs a hand up.
Love y’all a whole bunch. Just a tidbit of triva, Winnie the Pooh was indeed a Disney character. However as of recently he’s now a character of public domaine. After a certain amount of years, Disney no longer holds exclusive rights to a characters likeness anymore. Hope that clears some things up. Keep up the good work good buddies 🥰🥰🥰
Disney’s version is still copyrighted unfortunately since he’s a newer version. The original version owned by the original author of the book is public domain. The one without a shirt. Disneys version has the red shirt.
The last two men make me understand why some people avoid men at all costs... Not a single brain cell amongst them... I hope both daughters will meet someone who loves, treasures, treats them like the princess that they are
I know it was being said jokingly, but I hate the mindset that guys should box up their stuff and not have it out. Vetos are one thing bita home should reflect both sides.why is hers the only aesthetic that has value? Sounds like you’re allowed to live there, not living together
For the first time ever I think I disagree with Sean on the tech industry story. I agree with him that it is absolutely crucial for partners to be there for each other to vent to. However, if your partner receives feedback multiple times on the same issue and never does a self-assessment, as a partner you would be failing as a partner if you didn't encourage them to perform that self-assessment. Performing honest self-assessments and growing as an individual is one of the most important things that a person can do. If I see that my partner constantly refuses to grow as an individual, for me, that's grounds for terminating the relationship. No person should ever stop trying to grow as a person.
Story 3 Naw. That wasn’t a service animal it was an emotional support animal. Even if it’s well behaved I’m tired of people passing their pet… YES PETS off as a service animal so they can lug them around like a teddy bear. The fact that the mom is not letting the child attend one night, where the child is surrounded by family and safe is enabling. And even if this was a real support animal. Bride HAS to be there. The kid doesn’t.
38:07 I disagree. I think OP is the AH in this situation. Some tee want our partners to do things for us that don’t seem like a big deal, and the answer is, ‘no’. After 5 years, regardless of the language being used by the husband when you confront him, he ain’t doing it! The answer. Is no. He gets to not pack your lunch if he doesn’t feel like it. I think if this were reversed, you guys might view this differently. He cooks, she cleans up. That’s the division of labor. Would it be nice if he thought about fixing her lunch when he packs his, maybe. For me, mornings are rough. I’m mostly on autopilot. I get through them by being in my own little world. It could be a similar situation for him, where that is his deep thinking time, or whatever. Regardless of the reason, he’s not decided to prioritize Op’s lunches. She can keep trying to control him, and turn a personal quirk into a relationship issue. Or she can recognize that this is not a big deal. She does not get to dictate her partner’s actions. And that she is choosing her pain by making something small, into an unnecessary point of friction. Turning the ‘not packing a lunch’ into a referendum on his ability to be considerate of her. I mean does she want thoughtfulness she has to browbeat out of him. Or can she recognize, they are different people, with different habits an priorities, and let. It. Go? Or she can try one more time, and say, ‘when leave for work in the morning with a lunch you packed for me, it makes me feel..loved, thought of, cared for’; or whatever the thing is that makes it impossible to accept he ain’t doing it. And then. Let it go and see what he does. But also be prepared, that this autonomous gets to make decisions that don’t please her sometimes. This may be one of them.
I don't feel quite that strongly about it but I do think that if it were the other way around they would call the guy a baby and to make his own lunch, that's about the long and short of it for me. I love the show but sometimes it urks me a bit.
Story 3: OP is the AH, simply because she didn't discuss it with them before sending out the invites. She knew this was gonna be an issue, but just decided to try to side-step it by hiding behind the "no pets" policy on the invites. Should've talked to them the moment you knew you wanted them at the wedding, even if you didn't know when the wedding was at that point, so they had the maximum amount of time to find alternatives. Would not be surprised if she has a good chunk of her relatives turn their back on her, because she seems as allergic to communication as she is with dogs.
Nope, the invite is the discussion. You don’t have to warn anyone of your wedding plans ahead of time and they still have plenty of time when RSVPing to decide if they will still come or make plans. Also it sounds like they aren’t close if they don’t know the severity of her allergy. He can’t have been around her for any extended amount of time with the dog. She’s busy planning a WHOLR wedding around her and her husband not around the guests.
For story 3 OP definitely IS an AH. If the pet being there will make them sick then the nephew and that part of the family will as well since they will also be covered in dog hair (once pet hair has gotten into something it's VERY hard to get it out) and assuming James and his family are around the dog 24/7 it wouldn't matter if the dog was there or not. OP was an AH for inviting them in the first place knowing that James needs the dog. OP should have said that they can come to the reception instead of the ceremony since they are going to bring the dog so OP doesn't need to or will have that much contact with it.
I think you are not understanding what OP is saying or how allergies work. You can avoid contact with people who have dog hair on. Also there is also a spray that neutralises dog allergens (I have a dog that I am slightly allergic to and that spray and antihistamines help). There are also different aspects of the dog you might be allergic to. Someone I know is allergic to dog saliva. There are also different levels of allergy and long term exposure can increase the effects of the allergen. Think about hay-fever, pollen is year round, or majority of the year depending on the climate where you live. Yet certain times and variants affect people differently.
service dogs have legal rights that pretty much mean, they’re legally allowed anywhere that’s w their handler. (where they can fit w them) idgaf who’s allergic, they are called service TEAMS for a reason. TAKE ALLERGY MEDS ??!? like??? if u can’t have one member of the team u might as well just not invite them anyways. if you’re just gonna be like “nah idc abt the law. i don’t feel like being an adult. don’t feel like just taking some allergy meds &/or even just keep my distance from the dog🤷🏼♀️” then don’t even say anything honestly 🙄🙄😒
Allergy meds only work for mild allergies. The next step would be a shot. Also, according to the Mayo Clinic if you know you’ll come into contact with a dog you can taking your medications a few weeks before which MAY prevent symptoms. It’s OPs wedding. She could’ve chosen not to invite the cousin w/ the dog as it is a private event and not a public event. But she didn’t, she even offered to help figure out a solution. She doesn’t want to have swollen eyes, hard time breathing, etc. at her own wedding. It truly is just a lose-lose situation. And it sucks. But as it is OPs party, she comes first. And that does not make her an asshole. Edit: also allergy meds help lessen symptoms. They don’t get rid of them entirely. People can eat peanuts wherever they want to. But if you were extremely allergic to nuts and invited someone to your house and they started eating peanuts (which is their right) right next to you. You are allowed to tell them they cannot eat peanuts in your house. Because you could literally die. This is a similar example to OP.
@@lizthedisjointedzebra692 seriously. And not that panic/anxiety attacks aren’t serious and debilitating. But I would 100% choose a panic attack over anaphylaxis
@@Ilikebigbooties dude, I have MDD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and get panic attacks, and I COMPLETELY agree. And, while panic attacks are hell, and I seriously feel like I am dying, you are ACTUALLY, LITERALLY dying during anaphylaxis. You don't mess with severe allergies, they actually kill people.
and what if you cannot get this particular vaccine because of a known too big risk of protein leakage (eiwitlekkage in Dutch) running in your family next to cancer? I am not anti-vax but sadly cannot get the vaccine anyways because of these too big risks (around 99 % chance) (I live in the Netherlands btw)? Ohe and agreed on the allergy part, I am severely allergic to all dog breeds so far and cigarette smoke / e - cigarrette smoke & almost all cat breeds so far sadly (regarding the animals). /gen /nm /pos /srs
"it sounds like your partner is an only child" ...I am feeling both seen and attacked. 😂
Regarding the story about sexism in the workplace: When my friends venting or complaining I ask them if they just want me to listen or to give advice. I honestly find it very helpful myself, sometimes you want to vent, sometimes you want constructive criticism - that's not always transparent to everyone so it never hurts to clarify. Communication is hard, and even if the husband was well-meaning it's easy to see how the wife would have felt invalidated.
This is the key for most things, I agree. But if the wife is always complaining about how unfair every job and every superior is, I hate to say it, but she is likely contributing to that problem. If everyone else is always a problem, sometimes you need to read the room and realize that maybe you are the problem (or at least part of it).
Dad/Car: how did he write all that and still decided to submit the story? The light bulb didn’t come on while he was writing the story? Geez!
I don’t know for sure but I imagine trade school is cheaper than college so her asking for help with tuition and him saying “I didn’t pay for trade school” isn’t a fair comparison
Story 3 is such a dilemma.. im also going no AH just because she has a medical condition as well.. and considering its her event, she pulls rank. But its such a tough situation cause service dogs exist for a reason.. at this point if i was the one with a service dog, and not having him there would compromise my mental health, i would simply not go to the wedding. I wouldn’t want to compromise someone else’s health either, especially on their wedding day.
Also im with sean on putting leftovers with a pan.. but only if theres a lot of leftovers.. if theres like a scoop or two and one piece of meat/protein stuff, ill put it in a container
I feel for the daughter on last story, that poor girl still trying to seek her father's love and acceptance after everything she had endured 🥲
Yeah OP tell me you don't love your daughter without telling me.
This doesn't have anything do with stories in this episode, but I just wanna say that I really love how openminded and willing to learn you guys are! You openly admit if you don't know about something and are ready to consider other viewpoints while still being true to your own beliefs. Mad respect, we need more men like you 💜
Story 2: I would have to disagree with John on this one... women always have to do two times the work just to be acknowledged. The OP mentioned when ever she does group work etc they always take credit away from her and silence her when she tries to contribute in meetings so it's not a skills issue/taking more challenges.its her no being able to properly show her skills because of sexism ( this is not me dragging in any way and you obviously changed ur stance when u were given more information x)
Yesssss. But I do hope she can push back and just once when they try and take her work she’s started and completed and be like nope. It’s mine and I’m being included and presenting it ❤
i feel like sean still doesn't understand service animals lol. the no kids rule thing doesnt make sense to compare it. OP isnt in the wrong because the dog endangers her well being so she is right to not let a dog in. BUT if this wasnt an issue, and the venue was "pet free", the service animal WOULD be still allowed.
Yes!!!
Yeah I thought similarly
Well yeah but at the same time, if bride and groom decide they dont want animals on their wedding, they can say that and the guest who have service animals, dont go. Like the same goes for a parent who dont want to go without their kid, then dont go. I think this was his point of view.. the guest decides whats more of a priority, you know what i mean?
@@ANAMARIA_BTCwell why invite them when you know they have service animals to a no pet wedding… also it’s extremely ableist to uninvite someone because they have a service animal (not because you’re allergic like in the story)
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The Disney adult story….NTA! The bride can have her damn wedding somewhere else! I would NEVER let anyone dictate what I can have or not have in my home. She doesn’t have to change nothing in HER home.
My family used to do the pot in the fridge thing! Spaghetti, macaroni, etc, just shove the whole thing in the until there's like one serving left THEN put it in Tupperware 😂
I drove my first car until the engine literally blew up. I learned all I could about it, and that knowledge has served me well the rest of my life. That dad suuuuucks.
If I make a big ass soup, I put the whole pot in the fridge
Story 4: this one personally hurts. It's not the literal act of packing lunch. It's the feeling of not even being considered by someone you love. I struggled with this with my Ex because when I cooked dinner, I would serve us both, pack both our leftovers for lunch and wait for them to join me before I start eating. If I were to make snacks for myself, id always make a serving for them and even bring it to them without them asking. I didn't do it to be praised. It's just how I showed my love. They would never do the same for me. They made dinner for themselves and tell me to find something to make. If they did make a large enough serving, they would make their own plate and eat without even telling me, it's done. They would pack their lunch and leave the food out on the counter until I got up and the foods been sitting out for hours at this point. I would tell them how it made me feel and they'd just say sorry you feel that way. It hurts because you feel like you're not worth the effort or care for someone to do something as simple as refill your water because they care or just ask if you want a snack with them. It makes you feel not good enough
I’m a female Electrical Engineer and I feel for the girlfriend. This man doesn’t take into account how difficult it is for women to just become an EE. I had to repeatedly convince guidance counselors to put me in advanced math and science classes. I was told engineering would be too hard for me (even though I finished every math and science class in my high school by junior year). I was discouraged from doing post secondary senior year, so I went a year without math and science. Reason: it would be too hard. I have been the only women in class or on my team at work since sophomore year of high school. I would be ignored during group projects and then got a bad grade for not helping (or my work would be credited to the men). Then I come into the workforce and have to prove I belong there on the regular, when I don’t see men having to do the same thing. I’m constantly asked for help on administrative tasks, but seconded guessed on technical items. It’s ridiculous. Even in a workplace that values inclusion, being a female engineer is hard. Anyone that thinks a woman is just overreacting is not only an asshole, but is shutting both eyes, plugging both ears, and screaming to ignore what is right in front of them.
I agree with Sean 100000% I put the pot or pan in the fridge 😂
My dad used to do this and it's how I learned to do it growing up 😂 til he got a girlfriend that got mad about it
Story 1: Disney owns the newer version of Pooh. The one with the red shirt. The original version is now in the public domain. So if you have seen a bunch more Pooh products out there lately it’s because the companies no longer have to pay for the rights to use the original images.
I def throw the whole pot in the fridge when I'm feeling a little lazy and can't be bothered OR when there's only a serving left and I know it'll be eaten the next day
Service dog issue is hard thing. Technically a service dog on duty is considered medical equipment not an animal. Legally an on-duty service dog is always allowed regardless of animal policies. I definitely understand serious allergies, so that throws an entirely different wrench into things. I think definitely not AH for addressing ahead of time and trying to find & offer alternatives.
Guests are optional and this is a private event. There are absolutely places that don’t have to accommodate a dog especially for safety reasons. This is a safety reason.
The guy with the “daughter’s” car reminds me of my in-laws. Same idea of letting their youngest son to benefit from everything because he is not as “lucky and academically motivated” as my SO. So he gets everything and my man only gets criticism and shit. Fuck such parents and their favouritism.
Thanks for all the fun and distraction your bringing me in a not so good moment. You're the only ones that are bringing me smiles 😁🙏. Happy birthday John 🎉🎉🎉
Putting a pan in the fridge? Nah lol
I’m with Sean we put pans in the fridge less dirty dishes
Story #3: A service dog is not negotiable. It's not a therapy dog. It's not emotional support. I don't think OP is an AH because this is no win, but it is not a pet and telling someone not to come to a wedding because of a disability is. Euegh. Truly no win.
Sadly it's just two medical needs that are incompatible. If there was anyway to accommodate for either of them brilliant, but it doesn't really seem like it.
@@marubin9734here is a difference between a dog trained to deal with the emotional needs of their owner, and an emotional support animal
In how society views them anyway.
Typical one is trained to be calm in public and trained with de-escalation techniques while the other is just a pet someone has an attachment too.
The kid needs his dog. It would be like asking a person in a wheelchair to leave it behind.
You just can't take away or expect the person to perform the same without the help.
Guests at a wedding ARE completely negotiable.
@@persaunna Guests are negotiable but a person's disabilities are not
@@Nine_Crows_Downthis doesn’t sound like that.
The last one is definitely the asshole. Seriously? To reward the son who never does the work and never completes the goals just because he Finally actually did the work to complete trade school.... But then you have the daughter who Always works hard and Always finishes stuff and continues to do so by completing her education while being financially responsible by herself for maintaining the USED vehicle and even paying in to make it better. To say she doesn't deserve a reward for it because she always does the work anyways but the son who can rarely do the work is the only one who deserves to be rewarded for finally doing some work, years in to adulthood.... It comes off blatantly sexist for one and backwards. Want to reward the son for FINALLY doing the work??? Great, then but Him the used car, and reward the one who always busts her ass by giving Her the new car. Definitely sexist and over the top favoritism, such a shame and I feel bad for that poor girl working so hard and getting so far and quite obviously not even getting the recognition for her accomplishments. Hopefully she makes it well enough that soon she can show up at "dad's" and drop the car off telling him she's done well enough to take care of herself and that she doesn't need his pittance of a second hand handout so maybe he should keep it for when the son yet again needs a hand up.
Love y’all a whole bunch. Just a tidbit of triva, Winnie the Pooh was indeed a Disney character. However as of recently he’s now a character of public domaine. After a certain amount of years, Disney no longer holds exclusive rights to a characters likeness anymore. Hope that clears some things up. Keep up the good work good buddies 🥰🥰🥰
Disney’s version is still copyrighted unfortunately since he’s a newer version. The original version owned by the original author of the book is public domain. The one without a shirt. Disneys version has the red shirt.
The last two men make me understand why some people avoid men at all costs... Not a single brain cell amongst them... I hope both daughters will meet someone who loves, treasures, treats them like the princess that they are
Well put the wedding on zoom for the nephew.
As the wife of a Filipino man, the rice pot goes in the fridge 👌
I know it was being said jokingly, but I hate the mindset that guys should box up their stuff and not have it out. Vetos are one thing bita home should reflect both sides.why is hers the only aesthetic that has value? Sounds like you’re allowed to live there, not living together
For the first time ever I think I disagree with Sean on the tech industry story. I agree with him that it is absolutely crucial for partners to be there for each other to vent to. However, if your partner receives feedback multiple times on the same issue and never does a self-assessment, as a partner you would be failing as a partner if you didn't encourage them to perform that self-assessment. Performing honest self-assessments and growing as an individual is one of the most important things that a person can do. If I see that my partner constantly refuses to grow as an individual, for me, that's grounds for terminating the relationship. No person should ever stop trying to grow as a person.
finished all ur recent vids loll. but my dad will make pasta and put the whole like babe just put it away LOLL
Story 3 Naw. That wasn’t a service animal it was an emotional support animal. Even if it’s well behaved I’m tired of people passing their pet… YES PETS off as a service animal so they can lug them around like a teddy bear. The fact that the mom is not letting the child attend one night, where the child is surrounded by family and safe is enabling. And even if this was a real support animal. Bride HAS to be there. The kid doesn’t.
wedding stories : WHEN ACCOMMODATIONS COLLIDE💥💥
38:07 I disagree. I think OP is the AH in this situation. Some tee want our partners to do things for us that don’t seem like a big deal, and the answer is, ‘no’. After 5 years, regardless of the language being used by the husband when you confront him, he ain’t doing it! The answer. Is no.
He gets to not pack your lunch if he doesn’t feel like it.
I think if this were reversed, you guys might view this differently. He cooks, she cleans up. That’s the division of labor. Would it be nice if he thought about fixing her lunch when he packs his, maybe.
For me, mornings are rough. I’m mostly on autopilot. I get through them by being in my own little world. It could be a similar situation for him, where that is his deep thinking time, or whatever.
Regardless of the reason, he’s not decided to prioritize Op’s lunches. She can keep trying to control him, and turn a personal quirk into a relationship issue. Or she can recognize that this is not a big deal. She does not get to dictate her partner’s actions. And that she is choosing her pain by making something small, into an unnecessary point of friction. Turning the ‘not packing a lunch’ into a referendum on his ability to be considerate of her. I mean does she want thoughtfulness she has to browbeat out of him.
Or can she recognize, they are different people, with different habits an priorities, and let. It. Go?
Or she can try one more time, and say, ‘when leave for work in the morning with a lunch you packed for me, it makes me feel..loved, thought of, cared for’; or whatever the thing is that makes it impossible to accept he ain’t doing it. And then. Let it go and see what he does.
But also be prepared, that this autonomous gets to make decisions that don’t please her sometimes.
This may be one of them.
I don't feel quite that strongly about it but I do think that if it were the other way around they would call the guy a baby and to make his own lunch, that's about the long and short of it for me. I love the show but sometimes it urks me a bit.
Kevin in the thumbnail but no appearance?
Service animals have a legal right to enter public place regardless of someone's allergies
A wedding is not a public place lol it's a private event
The vaccinnes thing aged like milk
Story 3: OP is the AH, simply because she didn't discuss it with them before sending out the invites. She knew this was gonna be an issue, but just decided to try to side-step it by hiding behind the "no pets" policy on the invites. Should've talked to them the moment you knew you wanted them at the wedding, even if you didn't know when the wedding was at that point, so they had the maximum amount of time to find alternatives. Would not be surprised if she has a good chunk of her relatives turn their back on her, because she seems as allergic to communication as she is with dogs.
Nope, the invite is the discussion. You don’t have to warn anyone of your wedding plans ahead of time and they still have plenty of time when RSVPing to decide if they will still come or make plans. Also it sounds like they aren’t close if they don’t know the severity of her allergy. He can’t have been around her for any extended amount of time with the dog. She’s busy planning a WHOLR wedding around her and her husband not around the guests.
For story 3 OP definitely IS an AH. If the pet being there will make them sick then the nephew and that part of the family will as well since they will also be covered in dog hair (once pet hair has gotten into something it's VERY hard to get it out) and assuming James and his family are around the dog 24/7 it wouldn't matter if the dog was there or not. OP was an AH for inviting them in the first place knowing that James needs the dog. OP should have said that they can come to the reception instead of the ceremony since they are going to bring the dog so OP doesn't need to or will have that much contact with it.
I think you are not understanding what OP is saying or how allergies work.
You can avoid contact with people who have dog hair on. Also there is also a spray that neutralises dog allergens (I have a dog that I am slightly allergic to and that spray and antihistamines help). There are also different aspects of the dog you might be allergic to. Someone I know is allergic to dog saliva.
There are also different levels of allergy and long term exposure can increase the effects of the allergen. Think about hay-fever, pollen is year round, or majority of the year depending on the climate where you live. Yet certain times and variants affect people differently.
service dogs have legal rights that pretty much mean, they’re legally allowed anywhere that’s w their handler. (where they can fit w them) idgaf who’s allergic, they are called service TEAMS for a reason. TAKE ALLERGY MEDS ??!? like??? if u can’t have one member of the team u might as well just not invite them anyways. if you’re just gonna be like “nah idc abt the law. i don’t feel like being an adult. don’t feel like just taking some allergy meds &/or even just keep my distance from the dog🤷🏼♀️” then don’t even say anything honestly 🙄🙄😒
Allergy meds only work for mild allergies.
The next step would be a shot.
Also, according to the Mayo Clinic if you know you’ll come into contact with a dog you can taking your medications a few weeks before which MAY prevent symptoms.
It’s OPs wedding. She could’ve chosen not to invite the cousin w/ the dog as it is a private event and not a public event. But she didn’t, she even offered to help figure out a solution. She doesn’t want to have swollen eyes, hard time breathing, etc. at her own wedding.
It truly is just a lose-lose situation. And it sucks. But as it is OPs party, she comes first. And that does not make her an asshole.
Edit: also allergy meds help lessen symptoms. They don’t get rid of them entirely.
People can eat peanuts wherever they want to. But if you were extremely allergic to nuts and invited someone to your house and they started eating peanuts (which is their right) right next to you. You are allowed to tell them they cannot eat peanuts in your house. Because you could literally die. This is a similar example to OP.
Lmao, next time someone is going into anaphylaxis, just sneer and toss them a benadryl. I'm sure that will do the trick🤦🙄😆
@@lizthedisjointedzebra692 seriously. And not that panic/anxiety attacks aren’t serious and debilitating. But I would 100% choose a panic attack over anaphylaxis
@@Ilikebigbooties dude, I have MDD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and get panic attacks, and I COMPLETELY agree. And, while panic attacks are hell, and I seriously feel like I am dying, you are ACTUALLY, LITERALLY dying during anaphylaxis. You don't mess with severe allergies, they actually kill people.
and what if you cannot get this particular vaccine because of a known too big risk of protein leakage (eiwitlekkage in Dutch) running in your family next to cancer?
I am not anti-vax but sadly cannot get the vaccine anyways because of these too big risks (around 99 % chance) (I live in the Netherlands btw)?
Ohe and agreed on the allergy part, I am severely allergic to all dog breeds so far and cigarette smoke / e - cigarrette smoke & almost all cat breeds so far sadly (regarding the animals).
/gen /nm /pos /srs
Hell yeah Sean I have also stumbled upon yakudo.r.muto's live duels as well.🕺🏽🕺🏽🕺🏽