The sister went from "it's just a fuckind dress" to "it's my dream dress" so fast that the whiplash wouldn't let her realize how hypocritical she sounds
I was surprised y'all didn't mention that the stepmom only found that scrapbook bc she was snooping. She was talking about how hurt her daughter was when she saw it but like, the only way she would have seen it in the first place is if stepmom showed her.
about the scrapbook thing, it breaks my heart for the three older kids because they SHOULDN'T have to feel like their mom is being forgotten and even less the need to hide something to remember her. I think this goes WAY deeper and the stepmother is legit making them being scared of even thinking of their mom and dad ia being a doormat and even siding with her.
i think if i remember this post correctly, dad was dating the new wife within 6 months of the moms passing, and very quickly all memories to mom were removed from the house. The step mom also tried to destroy the scrapbook, but OP saved it in time. I felt there was a lot more going on in that house that they needed to address and the scrapbook was just the item that brought up the argument
After my mom passed away, and my dad remarried a witch of person. She literally made me get rid of anything that had to deal with my mom. My dad wouldn’t step up to her what so ever
As someone currently going through a very similar situation (dad dating and moved a new woman into our family home in less than a yr since losing our mom) this story broke my heart. That scrapbook has absolutely nothing to do with the new woman and kids. Widowed parents get to move on.. the kids don't. Let them have their mom in their life still.
Especially if they know how this woman would react & that the dad wouldn't have their side so they chose to do this in private. Surprisingly, children can't just forget their literal mothers overnight to accommodate some new woman.
About the wedding dress/body type... IF you are the AH, it's because you automatically assume that OP meant something negative with the body type comment. Could be that one is tall and athletic and the other petit. Or one is curvy and one thin/flat. Nothing of this is better or worse. It just means the dress had to be altered considerably.
I think the body type is necessary when talking about wearing someone else's wedding dress. It will have to be altered if the dress is too big or too tight on the sister. And if it's sentimental to Op, having it altered would be a huge no for me.
I think they only focused on that because they read it as some body/fat shaming, while the sister could be a bigger or a smaller size, the statement would be correct either way 🤷♀️ If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit
Absolutely. Like with my bodytype I couldn't wear something made for someone with an hourglass bodytype (I'm more towards apple/pear, ie smaller at the chest and wider hips)
The first dance song …she could leave the room. It’s not her day. If I’m at a party and hear Clapton’s Tears in heaven, I leave cos I played it at my son’s funeral. We have different memories of the same song. The scrapbook breaks my heart. I don’t understand why the stepmom didn’t grab it and helped them make it.. just for the 3 siblings. It’s a way of grieving, not excluding. The bridezilla is the selfish one. I’ve had a depression and anxiety since my parents were killed by a drunk driver in 1980. It’s not like you can decide yourself when the depression hits the hardest. The last story. Why didn’t he talk to his wife before he talked to the realtor. If he feels like her not agreeing with him is equal a divorce, he probably wanted a divorce before he asked to move
The scrapbook story.. forced “family bond” is weird. Obviously these children are still really hurting from the loss of their mother; expecting children to just move on feels like an inappropriate ask of those ages.
A lot of grief councillors and psychologists will suggest the use of tools like scrapbooks and photo albums as a way for children to not only cope with their grief at the loss of a loved one, but also to reminisce in a healthy way with family about shared moments involving the lost loved one and the family. The children were 9, 6, and 5 when their mother died, which would have had a massive impact on their lives at that time and even now. Just because their father has moved on and remarried doesn't and can't erase the fact those three children share a parent who is now deceased. They don't get to make new memories with that parent, they don't get to visit them every other weekend, and that parent physically is permanently gone from those children's lives. The stepmother needs to respect the fact that although she's been in the kid's lives for six years, she isn't their mother and the three siblings will have a bond outside of that of any step or half siblings. The dad and stepmother need to undergo therapy, the dad so he can understand that his older children need time bonding with each other AND preferably with him. Them talking about his first wife, their mother and his fond memories he has would go a long way to foster a strong bond with his older kids. They could literally take one afternoon off a month to go have a picnic or visit a place the mother liked, and they can share their memories about her in a positive and healthy manner. One that doesn't include the other siblings or stepmother, so they can grieve someone who is gone, but was and is loved still. Also, hopefully, the therapist can help the father see that his trying to force this new family on the kids at the expense of his bond with his children is inevitably going to do little more than make the kids feel like they can't talk to or be honest with him about how they're feeling, as well as it may make the older kids resent their younger half & step-siblings. The stepmother on the other hand needs to undergo therapy so she can understand that invading children's bedrooms, especially teenagers, is an abhorrent breach of trust and her trying to emotionally manipulate the older kids to get her way and push her eldest daughter onto her husbands older kids isn't healthy for anyone, including her kid. The way they've tried to make a blended family seems to have done little more than isolate the eldest kids from their dad, and the family as a whole, and seems to have made the older kids feel guilty for missing and loving their deceased mother, to the point that they felt the need to sneak around to meet and whisper about their mother sharing photos and memories with each other. No one, especially a child, should be made to feel guilty for loving their deceased loved one.
So, this guy decided he wants to live cheaper and closer to his parents, makes a plan and everything and only notifies his wife before he’s starting to implement this plan into reality and is surprised that she’s not thrilled?!? 💀💀💀
From what I remember, there was speculations about his parents living in Florida (mostly due to how he worded things), and many people from there said "things aren't cheaper here, we have hidden costs everywhere"
The scrapbook one, I was going to comment on how the language used by the siblings was weird, saying things like "real family" and how OP didn't make any effort of blending the families (even tho it's not their duty, but the dad), but after reading about how quickly dad started dating and how all the mum's things were removed from the house, it's clear the dad is not doing a good job at pareting his kids. And for the last story, the husband is just deciding to move to be close to his family, it's clear he doesn't actually care of what's best for his kids, he's just throwing a tantrum because his wife said no to moving.
I imagine being the wife of the last story. And you’re just like chilling, watching TV making dinner whatever. And your husband comes up and he starts going on this rant about moving. And you think he’s kidding the entire time because we’re kind of crazy person does this. But no he’s being serious. And now your like OK he is not well.
Wedding song: I had a pretty bad tbi when I broke my neck and was in a coma. It is horrific for the family to deal with. My parents were a wreck. OP doesn't have sensitivity to the situation and will cause rifts in the family. She probably just likes the song because she never gave reasons as to why she likes it.
But it's also not the step sisters day. She can walk out when they play it. She doesn't have ownership of the song just because she and her ex used it. Not even with their "connection" to it. Honestly that's just selfish of the step sister. She should let her brother and his fiancé use it if that's what they decided. There could be a reason why they went with it, even if it wasn't stated.
Please tell me the OP got eviscerated in the comments over pushing her friend to be at her wedding.. because her attitude needs to be corrected. What an unhinged bridezilla.
When I was 14 I had a boyfriend take his own life. We weren't together for years obviously, but ohmygod was it so hard to manage. I even dropped out of school for a while. The number of people who will tell you to get over it is absolutely astounding. This was 2 decades ago, and I hope it's gotten better. Having said that, losing a child would be astronomically harder. That OP is trash. Wow.
The "friend" who wanted to put her wedding before the well being of her friend who's going through it is an AH. I couldn't imagine losing a child, the grief that must bring. Also grief isn't linear so she could be fine one moment and completely not the next months. Depression doesn't just go away, it takes a while and sometimes not at all. Explaining it as being tired is so accurate. Everything is exhausting especially being around people during a party. Have the wedding and then when the friend is up to going out have a girl's day or something else.
OMG, seeing the update about Rose wanting to destory the scrapbook because she saw the reddit post? And now OP is done with dad and the grandparents are getting involved. Edit:To the soon to be ex-husband who is moving down south. He didn't mention the schools or what the area was like. He just up and got the house but didn't talk about what he liked about the house. What's to say that his wife and kids go down there and the schools suck and she can't find a job? Then there's less money coming into the home and what if the house sucks? Then the entire family is stuck because dad just jumped head first into shit.
On the flowers, idk guys, flowers on Valentine's day makes me sideeye. I agree the bf shouldn't have blown up and instead have a one-on-one conversation about how it made him feel uncomfortable and about boundaries. But OP didn't have to post on IG to thank her friend. She could've message him directly. She did it to show off and for attention. And the bf feelibg anxious and insecure is kind of understandable if they've been together for only a ahort period of time (but he needs to leaen how to deal with these emotions thoughtfully). There are issues on both sides imo and OP is not being 100% honest either to herself or to us by disclosing everything (something feels missing and the way the story was worded feels skewed) - this is what my gut/feminine instincts are telling me. Now if she had received flowers for her birthday, I don't see any issues. But for Valentine's Day? How would you feel if your boyfriend received chocolates from one of his female friends? Anyways, I don't think she could have salvaged that relationship or done anything that much differently after the whole situation happened because her boyfriend made up his mind. But OP might want to reevaluate that boundary with that particular friend if she isn't just using him for attention, validation or a backup option. She should follow through with her suggestion to tell her friend to not do that on V-day. P.s. I honestly wonder how her guy friend's gf feels about him sending flowers to another girl on Valentine's? 🤔 Just some food for thought.
Scrapbook story: As much as i really want to jump down the new stepmoms throat, i have to say that im extremely disappointed in the dad for not supporting his children. He managed to hurry up and remarry without the consideration into his children's feelings. It's not fair to force a relationship as if these kids didn't lose something so monumental. Last story: How do you manage to gather all of this information, even consulted a realtor to give an estimate on your current house, without the opinion of your wife? But you call her selfish? If the roles were reversed, would he still want to leave?
People forget there's a trade off for the lower cost of living. 1. Fewer amenities (public pools, playgrounds, etc) 2.Nothing for the kids to do when they become teens 3. Nothing for adults to do after work other than a bar or 3. 4. No stores, you either have to order online or go to walmart or dollar general. 5. Only minimum wage jobs available
Wedding dress sister is giving me "entitled vibes" waiting till the 11th HR then asking to use hers expecting it without any consequences or repercussions or expense. Op is definitely not the ah.
About the body type remark on the wedding dress story, my sister and I don't have the same body repartition as me, she's shorter and has larger hips than I do, which doesn't say anything about her beauty! She's stunning, but that would mean risking damaging the dress or altering the dress in a way that wouldn't fit me anymore. So I don't think the remark was assholish, I think it's just saying "sorry but we don't have the same measurements" ! Unless in English, body types only refers to the weight in a negative way? (I'm French). So yeah NTA I think! I would've probably said the same thing
100% what was on Anna’s mind would be “my daughter will never have a wedding” if she went. It’s probably already in the back of her mind. But at the wedding it would had been torture. Bride is an uber AH
This is exactly what I was thinking. Not only will her daughter not have a wedding, but she can't be there to enjoy this wedding with her Mom. They were probably planning on going to the wedding together. 😓 Bride is a huge AH! Honestly as a best friend, I don't know if I could do a wedding that close to my best friend losing her daughter. She'd be my daughter too. 😢
I think that so many people share wedding songs for the first dance that no one has a strangle hold on any song. I bet there are several people that have that song or will have that song and its unfair to request the aong be changed.
For the Valentine's one, I don't understand why OP fights so hard for a relationship with a man who is so emotionally immature. They're barely dating and he's letting his red flags fly already.
The 1st dance song, if I was OP that's my sister and I want her to be during m my first dance. Also, her reasoning was extremely powerful and I wouldn't want my sister to feel down during my special day
i cant even imagine losing a child and even less to s*icide. what an asshole op is. its been less than half a year since her CHILD died, she might never get over it and you should be with her instead of making her feel even worse for not going to a stupid wedding
Uh thats not how losing a child works. Depression is just a part of that, losing a child is truly losing a piece of your soul. Its not something you get over. That person does not care about the person who lost their child.
The body type comment was only okay if she meant like I’m 6’1” with a small chest and she’s like 5’3” and has a big chest but it didn’t feel like that’s what sis meant😂 that was out of pocket but other than that NTA it’s your wedding dress not a purse it isn’t something you just let your sister borrow🥴
The B and W story. Did W get OP anything for Valentine’s Day and if no, was he mad that B did and he didn’t? Would W have the same reaction if on some random day B sent the flowers?
@@d.on.in.athey were sent the day before Valentine's day, so I see why W would be upset, maybe V knew what he was doing, idk, but the thing is W had an extreme reaction, imo
Imo the song one is just silly. The sister has all these very heavy emotions associated with it, while the OP "likes the song" I get wanting a song you like, but Im sure its not the only one. Id have just picked a different song tbh over asking my sister to either leave for the first dance or idk hold her ears closed like a grumpy toddler or sth😂 Over a song that to me didnt have the same deep meaning as it did to her. But whatever if they can work it out thats fine. I just personally think nobody is an asshole the OP is just kind of...weird abt this for no reason. Sure its OPs wedding but like...its not that deep just pick a different song 😂 But again OP is not TA its just a bit weird to me😂 Hope they gome to an understanding!
I don't see how OP is an AH for the "bodytype" comment. Women have different bodytypes, it's not like she called her sister fat. It's like how my friend has an hourglass bodytype, while my bodytype I believe is called "apple" or "pear" (smaller at the chest and wider at the hips). It's a normal thing and not at all an AH comment. You can't have a bodytype like mine and wear a dress that's made for an hourglass figure. It just doesn't work.
I think ESH in the move with me or divorce story. He's wild for demanding it and she's wild for not even trying to compromise with her husband. It sounds like they both are selfish and lack any decent communication. Their relationship may need to end anyway.
Im sorry to the wikimaniac but in the future tell your friend not to send flowers the day before valentines and post it on social media if you didnt see it as romaantic or just a friend gesture and make sure you let your SO know youll let them meet your friend B because i would never let my guy friends send me flowers the day before valentines without meeting my SO but valentines just seems too intimate of a day for flowers even from a friend and i wouldnt even accept ones from girl friends but thats just my honest opinion. And the scrapbook one breaks my heart she is not an AH at all because ive been in a similar situation(thank god my dad didnt marry the crazy B)! Its not exclusion sean my guy and the dad and stepmom are in the wrong especially since the dad didnt step up and protect his own damn kids! And the stepmom is so in the wrong for going through his room thats BS!
For all those wondering, jump to the 10 minute mark to get the actual content. If you can last the whole video, I commend you. This was painful to watch, had to bail.
The sister went from "it's just a fuckind dress" to "it's my dream dress" so fast that the whiplash wouldn't let her realize how hypocritical she sounds
I was surprised y'all didn't mention that the stepmom only found that scrapbook bc she was snooping. She was talking about how hurt her daughter was when she saw it but like, the only way she would have seen it in the first place is if stepmom showed her.
Exactly
about the scrapbook thing, it breaks my heart for the three older kids because they SHOULDN'T have to feel like their mom is being forgotten and even less the need to hide something to remember her. I think this goes WAY deeper and the stepmother is legit making them being scared of even thinking of their mom and dad ia being a doormat and even siding with her.
i think if i remember this post correctly, dad was dating the new wife within 6 months of the moms passing, and very quickly all memories to mom were removed from the house. The step mom also tried to destroy the scrapbook, but OP saved it in time. I felt there was a lot more going on in that house that they needed to address and the scrapbook was just the item that brought up the argument
After my mom passed away, and my dad remarried a witch of person. She literally made me get rid of anything that had to deal with my mom. My dad wouldn’t step up to her what so ever
@@babeandcorazonJesus. I’m sorry that happened 😢
As someone currently going through a very similar situation (dad dating and moved a new woman into our family home in less than a yr since losing our mom) this story broke my heart. That scrapbook has absolutely nothing to do with the new woman and kids. Widowed parents get to move on.. the kids don't. Let them have their mom in their life still.
Especially if they know how this woman would react & that the dad wouldn't have their side so they chose to do this in private. Surprisingly, children can't just forget their literal mothers overnight to accommodate some new woman.
About the wedding dress/body type... IF you are the AH, it's because you automatically assume that OP meant something negative with the body type comment. Could be that one is tall and athletic and the other petit. Or one is curvy and one thin/flat. Nothing of this is better or worse. It just means the dress had to be altered considerably.
I think the body type is necessary when talking about wearing someone else's wedding dress. It will have to be altered if the dress is too big or too tight on the sister. And if it's sentimental to Op, having it altered would be a huge no for me.
I think they only focused on that because they read it as some body/fat shaming, while the sister could be a bigger or a smaller size, the statement would be correct either way 🤷♀️ If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit
Haha tbh I think John and Sean misunderstood what I was reading or I read it poorly 😅
Absolutely. Like with my bodytype I couldn't wear something made for someone with an hourglass bodytype (I'm more towards apple/pear, ie smaller at the chest and wider hips)
The first dance song …she could leave the room. It’s not her day. If I’m at a party and hear Clapton’s Tears in heaven, I leave cos I played it at my son’s funeral. We have different memories of the same song.
The scrapbook breaks my heart. I don’t understand why the stepmom didn’t grab it and helped them make it.. just for the 3 siblings. It’s a way of grieving, not excluding.
The bridezilla is the selfish one. I’ve had a depression and anxiety since my parents were killed by a drunk driver in 1980. It’s not like you can decide yourself when the depression hits the hardest.
The last story. Why didn’t he talk to his wife before he talked to the realtor. If he feels like her not agreeing with him is equal a divorce, he probably wanted a divorce before he asked to move
The scrapbook story.. forced “family bond” is weird. Obviously these children are still really hurting from the loss of their mother; expecting children to just move on feels like an inappropriate ask of those ages.
A lot of grief councillors and psychologists will suggest the use of tools like scrapbooks and photo albums as a way for children to not only cope with their grief at the loss of a loved one, but also to reminisce in a healthy way with family about shared moments involving the lost loved one and the family.
The children were 9, 6, and 5 when their mother died, which would have had a massive impact on their lives at that time and even now. Just because their father has moved on and remarried doesn't and can't erase the fact those three children share a parent who is now deceased. They don't get to make new memories with that parent, they don't get to visit them every other weekend, and that parent physically is permanently gone from those children's lives. The stepmother needs to respect the fact that although she's been in the kid's lives for six years, she isn't their mother and the three siblings will have a bond outside of that of any step or half siblings.
The dad and stepmother need to undergo therapy, the dad so he can understand that his older children need time bonding with each other AND preferably with him. Them talking about his first wife, their mother and his fond memories he has would go a long way to foster a strong bond with his older kids. They could literally take one afternoon off a month to go have a picnic or visit a place the mother liked, and they can share their memories about her in a positive and healthy manner. One that doesn't include the other siblings or stepmother, so they can grieve someone who is gone, but was and is loved still. Also, hopefully, the therapist can help the father see that his trying to force this new family on the kids at the expense of his bond with his children is inevitably going to do little more than make the kids feel like they can't talk to or be honest with him about how they're feeling, as well as it may make the older kids resent their younger half & step-siblings.
The stepmother on the other hand needs to undergo therapy so she can understand that invading children's bedrooms, especially teenagers, is an abhorrent breach of trust and her trying to emotionally manipulate the older kids to get her way and push her eldest daughter onto her husbands older kids isn't healthy for anyone, including her kid. The way they've tried to make a blended family seems to have done little more than isolate the eldest kids from their dad, and the family as a whole, and seems to have made the older kids feel guilty for missing and loving their deceased mother, to the point that they felt the need to sneak around to meet and whisper about their mother sharing photos and memories with each other. No one, especially a child, should be made to feel guilty for loving their deceased loved one.
So, this guy decided he wants to live cheaper and closer to his parents, makes a plan and everything and only notifies his wife before he’s starting to implement this plan into reality and is surprised that she’s not thrilled?!? 💀💀💀
From what I remember, there was speculations about his parents living in Florida (mostly due to how he worded things), and many people from there said "things aren't cheaper here, we have hidden costs everywhere"
The scrapbook one, I was going to comment on how the language used by the siblings was weird, saying things like "real family" and how OP didn't make any effort of blending the families (even tho it's not their duty, but the dad), but after reading about how quickly dad started dating and how all the mum's things were removed from the house, it's clear the dad is not doing a good job at pareting his kids.
And for the last story, the husband is just deciding to move to be close to his family, it's clear he doesn't actually care of what's best for his kids, he's just throwing a tantrum because his wife said no to moving.
I imagine being the wife of the last story. And you’re just like chilling, watching TV making dinner whatever. And your husband comes up and he starts going on this rant about moving. And you think he’s kidding the entire time because we’re kind of crazy person does this. But no he’s being serious. And now your like OK he is not well.
Wedding song: I had a pretty bad tbi when I broke my neck and was in a coma. It is horrific for the family to deal with. My parents were a wreck. OP doesn't have sensitivity to the situation and will cause rifts in the family. She probably just likes the song because she never gave reasons as to why she likes it.
But it's also not the step sisters day. She can walk out when they play it.
She doesn't have ownership of the song just because she and her ex used it. Not even with their "connection" to it.
Honestly that's just selfish of the step sister. She should let her brother and his fiancé use it if that's what they decided.
There could be a reason why they went with it, even if it wasn't stated.
Please tell me the OP got eviscerated in the comments over pushing her friend to be at her wedding.. because her attitude needs to be corrected. What an unhinged bridezilla.
When I was 14 I had a boyfriend take his own life. We weren't together for years obviously, but ohmygod was it so hard to manage. I even dropped out of school for a while. The number of people who will tell you to get over it is absolutely astounding. This was 2 decades ago, and I hope it's gotten better. Having said that, losing a child would be astronomically harder. That OP is trash. Wow.
The "friend" who wanted to put her wedding before the well being of her friend who's going through it is an AH. I couldn't imagine losing a child, the grief that must bring. Also grief isn't linear so she could be fine one moment and completely not the next months. Depression doesn't just go away, it takes a while and sometimes not at all. Explaining it as being tired is so accurate. Everything is exhausting especially being around people during a party. Have the wedding and then when the friend is up to going out have a girl's day or something else.
OMG, seeing the update about Rose wanting to destory the scrapbook because she saw the reddit post? And now OP is done with dad and the grandparents are getting involved.
Edit:To the soon to be ex-husband who is moving down south. He didn't mention the schools or what the area was like. He just up and got the house but didn't talk about what he liked about the house. What's to say that his wife and kids go down there and the schools suck and she can't find a job? Then there's less money coming into the home and what if the house sucks? Then the entire family is stuck because dad just jumped head first into shit.
On the flowers, idk guys, flowers on Valentine's day makes me sideeye. I agree the bf shouldn't have blown up and instead have a one-on-one conversation about how it made him feel uncomfortable and about boundaries.
But OP didn't have to post on IG to thank her friend. She could've message him directly. She did it to show off and for attention. And the bf feelibg anxious and insecure is kind of understandable if they've been together for only a ahort period of time (but he needs to leaen how to deal with these emotions thoughtfully). There are issues on both sides imo and OP is not being 100% honest either to herself or to us by disclosing everything (something feels missing and the way the story was worded feels skewed) - this is what my gut/feminine instincts are telling me. Now if she had received flowers for her birthday, I don't see any issues. But for Valentine's Day? How would you feel if your boyfriend received chocolates from one of his female friends?
Anyways, I don't think she could have salvaged that relationship or done anything that much differently after the whole situation happened because her boyfriend made up his mind. But OP might want to reevaluate that boundary with that particular friend if she isn't just using him for attention, validation or a backup option. She should follow through with her suggestion to tell her friend to not do that on V-day.
P.s. I honestly wonder how her guy friend's gf feels about him sending flowers to another girl on Valentine's? 🤔 Just some food for thought.
No stop normalizing men having temper tantrums
Scrapbook story: As much as i really want to jump down the new stepmoms throat, i have to say that im extremely disappointed in the dad for not supporting his children. He managed to hurry up and remarry without the consideration into his children's feelings. It's not fair to force a relationship as if these kids didn't lose something so monumental.
Last story: How do you manage to gather all of this information, even consulted a realtor to give an estimate on your current house, without the opinion of your wife? But you call her selfish?
If the roles were reversed, would he still want to leave?
I don't know why but this episode made me laugh so hard. I have re watched it 3 times already. Josh calling out the cracked lips gets me every time 🤣😂
As a Hispanic I side with the boys on the patreon story, if I talked like that to my mama, I'd be picking up my teeth from the ground. Josh you the
People forget there's a trade off for the lower cost of living.
1. Fewer amenities (public pools, playgrounds, etc)
2.Nothing for the kids to do when they become teens
3. Nothing for adults to do after work other than a bar or 3.
4. No stores, you either have to order online or go to walmart or dollar general.
5. Only minimum wage jobs available
Congrats Sean on guessing it right!!
49:04 “Unhinged” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I try not to comment twice in these.. but those were end the relationship words she spoke to one of her “close” friends.
Wedding dress sister is giving me "entitled vibes" waiting till the 11th HR then asking to use hers expecting it without any consequences or repercussions or expense. Op is definitely not the ah.
About the body type remark on the wedding dress story, my sister and I don't have the same body repartition as me, she's shorter and has larger hips than I do, which doesn't say anything about her beauty! She's stunning, but that would mean risking damaging the dress or altering the dress in a way that wouldn't fit me anymore. So I don't think the remark was assholish, I think it's just saying "sorry but we don't have the same measurements" ! Unless in English, body types only refers to the weight in a negative way? (I'm French). So yeah NTA I think! I would've probably said the same thing
It makes no sense anymore since it was an IA but like point stands hypothetically
Body type in English has nothing to do with weight or anything.
It's like "do you have an hourglass, apple/pear, etc" bodytype.
100% what was on Anna’s mind would be “my daughter will never have a wedding” if she went. It’s probably already in the back of her mind. But at the wedding it would had been torture. Bride is an uber AH
This is exactly what I was thinking. Not only will her daughter not have a wedding, but she can't be there to enjoy this wedding with her Mom. They were probably planning on going to the wedding together. 😓
Bride is a huge AH!
Honestly as a best friend, I don't know if I could do a wedding that close to my best friend losing her daughter. She'd be my daughter too. 😢
Thanks for being the most consistent thing in my life 😂
I think that so many people share wedding songs for the first dance that no one has a strangle hold on any song. I bet there are several people that have that song or will have that song and its unfair to request the aong be changed.
For the Valentine's one, I don't understand why OP fights so hard for a relationship with a man who is so emotionally immature. They're barely dating and he's letting his red flags fly already.
😂😂😂 Schaughnn forgot how to spell his own name
The 1st dance song, if I was OP that's my sister and I want her to be during m my first dance. Also, her reasoning was extremely powerful and I wouldn't want my sister to feel down during my special day
Sean’s face @56:27😂😂😂😂
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i cant even imagine losing a child and even less to s*icide. what an asshole op is. its been less than half a year since her CHILD died, she might never get over it and you should be with her instead of making her feel even worse for not going to a stupid wedding
Uh thats not how losing a child works. Depression is just a part of that, losing a child is truly losing a piece of your soul. Its not something you get over. That person does not care about the person who lost their child.
The body type comment was only okay if she meant like I’m 6’1” with a small chest and she’s like 5’3” and has a big chest but it didn’t feel like that’s what sis meant😂 that was out of pocket but other than that NTA it’s your wedding dress not a purse it isn’t something you just let your sister borrow🥴
So her sister should want to share the song then.
Damn.
I guess the AI story was the one with the Wedding Dress
Like GHORL! 1month before the wedding and still you don’t have a dress come on !
I think Anna is using tired in place of depressed. Anna could also have a medical issue that she isn't aware of yet.
The B and W story. Did W get OP anything for Valentine’s Day and if no, was he mad that B did and he didn’t? Would W have the same reaction if on some random day B sent the flowers?
I don't think the flowers were sent on Valentine's day
@@d.on.in.athey were sent the day before Valentine's day, so I see why W would be upset, maybe V knew what he was doing, idk, but the thing is W had an extreme reaction, imo
I have a lot of guy friends and my boyfriend is okay with it but none of them send me random flowers lol I think it’s weird
Imo the song one is just silly.
The sister has all these very heavy emotions associated with it, while the OP "likes the song"
I get wanting a song you like, but Im sure its not the only one.
Id have just picked a different song tbh over asking my sister to either leave for the first dance or idk hold her ears closed like a grumpy toddler or sth😂 Over a song that to me didnt have the same deep meaning as it did to her.
But whatever if they can work it out thats fine.
I just personally think nobody is an asshole the OP is just kind of...weird abt this for no reason.
Sure its OPs wedding but like...its not that deep just pick a different song 😂
But again OP is not TA its just a bit weird to me😂
Hope they gome to an understanding!
This was so fun hehe. Omg I didn’t expect the ai generation again!
I don't see how OP is an AH for the "bodytype" comment.
Women have different bodytypes, it's not like she called her sister fat.
It's like how my friend has an hourglass bodytype, while my bodytype I believe is called "apple" or "pear" (smaller at the chest and wider at the hips).
It's a normal thing and not at all an AH comment.
You can't have a bodytype like mine and wear a dress that's made for an hourglass figure. It just doesn't work.
My wife recommended to eat a banana to help with cramps…happy to help
The body type comment was a reference to needing to alter the dress, not shade.
I think ESH in the move with me or divorce story. He's wild for demanding it and she's wild for not even trying to compromise with her husband. It sounds like they both are selfish and lack any decent communication. Their relationship may need to end anyway.
Im sorry to the wikimaniac but in the future tell your friend not to send flowers the day before valentines and post it on social media if you didnt see it as romaantic or just a friend gesture and make sure you let your SO know youll let them meet your friend B because i would never let my guy friends send me flowers the day before valentines without meeting my SO but valentines just seems too intimate of a day for flowers even from a friend and i wouldnt even accept ones from girl friends but thats just my honest opinion. And the scrapbook one breaks my heart she is not an AH at all because ive been in a similar situation(thank god my dad didnt marry the crazy B)! Its not exclusion sean my guy and the dad and stepmom are in the wrong especially since the dad didnt step up and protect his own damn kids! And the stepmom is so in the wrong for going through his room thats BS!
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For all those wondering, jump to the 10 minute mark to get the actual content. If you can last the whole video, I commend you. This was painful to watch, had to bail.
You dont pick a song you just like for a first dance!