Something I heard about authenticity that really stuck with me was like (Paraphrasing here): "You don't have to share your whole self to be authentic. It's okay to keep some for yourself. It's not about the amount you give; it's that you give something real."
@@dallassegno as quoted in my original comment: “it’s not about the amount you give; it’s that you give something real”. This isn’t necessarily about how much you talk either 🤷🏼♂️ never said anything against people talking a lot. Just responding to the video talking about authenticity
"thinking our online audience has a good understanding of who we are as people" is so dangerous! there is such a big disconnect between who we are & who we are perceived to be sometimes
Some people might say that controlling perception is the sign of a true politician, and a scam artist. How else can you convince people that you have their best interest in mind, when the reality is so much more selfish?
@@MyWatchIsEnded wait, most of the human beings are truly selfish and there is a chance that the normal human being will never meet somebody thats actually not. But they do exist, i have a bud that would ACTUALLY give/divide everything that he has if you needing it. One time he gave 5 bucks of the bus for somebody that got robbed but he didnt have another 5 to get th bus for himself and he knew it. We came back walking home from a LONG ass distance, it was actually funny and i couldnt say no to hin when he asked "lets go home together...walking?"
speaking from experience, i think one of the reasons why some people tend to overshare online is because of loneliness. posting about their thoughts and emotions online with an audience to speculate gives them the illusion of a shared situationship, even if superficial.
This was more the case on the old discussion forums. As someone who has struggled socially my entire life, the Internet was once a lifeline. Sadly, that is no longer the case. On Reddit today, it's all about the upvotes and downvotes and going into it expecting any kind of support is just going to end in trauma. Trauma subreddits are basically "trauma olympics" and they are about who can be dramatic enough to get the most upvotes. And if you're really, genuinely struggling, your likely to be downvoted.
@@trapdeath99 The most important part of the context between Sarcasm and Serious is the Tone of Voice There is no Voice in a Comment Section how are We suppost to know if is Sarcasm or not?
okay but why is nobody talking about the amazing idea with the sketchbook? It feels like a cute little presentation and I can visualise everything much better. Honestly such a great vid
It's interesting to hear this take on "selling your soul". Oversharing has never been a problem for me in my life and I never really view others sharing (what others might call) an excessive amount of information as "oversharing". I always just see it as them sharing the level of information at which they are most comfortable sharing with others. Like how we all like the thermostat at a certain temperature. We all have varying degrees of openness and how willing we are to share information with others. Not to mention it's (what we share online) all ENTIRELY optional. So whatever that person shares, they 100% decided to do it themselves. Their hand wasn't forced at all. Even for the biggest celebrities, nobody is REALLY demanding them to tell everyone how they decide which loaf of bread to buy on Saturday or expecting them to release an essay on why they broke up with so and so. Their followers aren't saying "tell me or I'm never going to support you again." I view individuals "selling their soul" as people who give up their individuality for the sake of attention, fame, money etc. Doing things like: regularly following trends, saying controversial things simply for a reaction, promoting products they don't care for, treating their supporters as being beneath them, making obnoxious Mr. Beast style thumbnails, lying/exaggerating to spur engagement, doing things they don't like just for attention, not even knowing what it is they like themselves etc. (assuming they did not regularly do these things before).
I agree with this. I just have an issue when there are children involved. Parents are sharing too much about their children and exposing them to all sorts of criticism and perversion.
People often use the term 'oversharing' when they regret divulging too much information or when they feel they've been exposed to more than they wanted to hear. It's like sharing but with regrets from at least one of the involved person.
I agree that nobody is literally forcing another to “sell their soul.” While I agree there is no physical force acting upon people to sell their soul to the internet, there is plenty of evidence that supports the addictive nature of many social media platforms. A great book to read more about this is called “Outrage Machine” by Tobias Rose-Stockwell. The premise of the book highlights how the internet has altered the way we think and interact. To break away from this alteration is very difficult. Internet usage is addictive. Similar to other addictive substances, nobody forces the hand of those who use them; however, once the addictive thing is used often (to some degree) it takes more than just deciding, “Hey. I will no longer her use this.” Stopping the “selling” of our souls to the internet comes with side effects and takes hard work for many. For celebrities, social relevance is how they make money. Posting more and being outrageous will bring more attention. I only have a TH-cam, and I understand how additive the other platforms are/can be. Although I don’t share the same experiences online as those using other highly additive platforms, I can empathize with the struggle to remove yourself from it. People experience FOMO, come to realize plenty about some of their online friendships, lose income, have to sit with their own thoughts, etc.
The last paragraph is something I saw from an influencer I have been following since 2017. I immediately unfollowed after knowing that he was lying to his audience (after some research). I know not everyone is 100% real online and not all are 100% not lying. As just a point of reflection for myself because online presence can put this image that they are your friend ugh.
I agree to a certain extent, but I also don’t think most people are being intentional about how or how much information they share, it’s becoming an expectation to overshare. Not being intentional about how you behave online leads to inauthentic expressions and behaviors. ---following trends/ saying controversial things. Once you begin to belive your audiences opinion of you is a mirror your mindset changes. Operating like this always lets you fall back on “I have intentionally developed an acquaintance relationship with my audience so these opinions do not effect my perception of myself” which prevent the selling of the soul in the future.
You are completely right. All TH-camrs need separate journals as you describe. The ego of some TH-camrs and personalities on other platforms spins out of control because they don't do as Dr. Lauren prescribes. You should submit these videos to your professors, and they should accept them for a 100% grade. You are the absolute bomb. The Queen Nuke.
"Dr. Lauren" I want to know who approved this medical degree because they are getting fired lol😭 but thank u @massivejetgrind I'll see u in my livestreams :D
Very interesting. It reminds me of Harry potter for some reason. When Tom says that Ginny gave so much of her soul by writing in a diary (and overstating personal details about her life) that he was able to consume it and emerge in a physical form. It also reminds me of another TH-cam who had been posting for around 5 years. She shared too much about herself imo, and was never careful about concealing her surroundings near her home. She apparently got stalked due to a fan finding out her address and showing up at her apartment and left TH-cam
This was so insightful. Honestly I’ve been worried about putting myself online bc I’ve always felt like yeah, I’m selling a part of myself. It’s scary in a way but also nice to use your voice. Anyway this video is definitely making me think about it and knowing how I can still keep parts of myself reserved while still making content . A happy balance ❤
wow, it's so cool to hear this topic discussed from this perspective! a lot of what you talked about is stuff I've had to learn the hard way and through lots of experience as a creator online. I've learned to set boundaries and not seek that "knowing of self" through online audiences, but it took me a lot of time to get to this point. i'm glad that people have this type of resource now that can hopefully help them as they navigate what and what not to share online.
I appreciate the insight on introspecting in relation to a public platform and developing a sense of self that is also publicly comfortable. Thank you for the name of the theorist.
i realised i made a great mistake from uploading some videos of my channel i tend to overshare, but i do that to make my audience relate to me. because stories impact more than just knowledge.
Your personality is so just nice and comforting. Also I love that more people are pushing explicitly for not over sharing. I feel like some creators do that and it takes away from the video, especially when the title seems like a valuable enough topic to click on. It feels like some creators are trying to bring celebrity/stan culture onto TH-cam and it’s going to make it hard to have conversations around actual content over personalities in the future if it continues. You’re doing good work against this. Also want to say I’m subbed at 17.4K subs, you’re going to grow big 🎉 I can see it now so congrats in advance 💕
3:56 I love when I see people starting to think and organize whatever they have in their mind. I can tell from the facial expression and the way you speaking. I just love it, great job Lauren!
I really enjoyed this video + your arguments, and I feel like I found it at a pretty good time for myself too. As someone who's been in this TH-cam space for like, literally half my life now (I'm in university) and I did it kinda as a part time job in high school with meager success, so when you said at the 19:50 to reach out, it might apply to me as someone who's been in it long, and I figured I'd post it here publicly as a comment so anyone else who needs it could see it (while at the same time avoiding selling my soul lol): I think the question of "selling your soul" that you talked about is one that I've found myself coming back to over and over, partially in the way you described as determining whether the self I choose to show is really "me," or rather, how much of that persona I display each video is actually "me." For me, it's always been a lot more intentional because the videos I make are pre-written as a script, rather than as notes, but I don't really think I noticed it until you mentioned there being a "limit" on what we share with the top of the "iceberg." Often, it did weigh on me as being inauthentic, and I would sometimes wonder how much the words I was writing into each video really reflected "who" I was, things like: "would I say this phrase like this? what would my tone of voice be? does this really sound like me?" And no, it never did really feel or sound like myself I think, until recently. However, I think the uncomfortability in oversharing for larger content creators is slightly more nuanced than regretting oversharing a detail, or feelings of inauthenticity for the sake of keeping a distance: I can tell by the way your videos are structured and presented that you don't seem to pay too much attention to "the algorithm," or any of the seemingly magic numbers like CTR, audience retention, watch-time, etc. because that just isn't the point here (and honestly, I love it, please keep doing what you're doing!!). In the way I was doing TH-cam however, and in the same way that many other content creators are across other platforms, it was about micro-managing numbers; doing incredibly minor optimizations like "cutting off the video right as it ends to maximize retention," or, "don't put your face in the thumbnail because people won't click on someone they don't already care about," or "cut the intros in your videos shorter, cut out dull space, so they won't click off" (all actual, real advice I've received from people who have millions of subscribers now), and so much of these decisions felt like they were completely compromising any creative direction I had for what I was making. The main reason why I did TH-cam originally was because it was fun, and I wanted to make something similar to the people that I was watching at the time, so like, a highly-edited, show format, type thing, that was meant to have a shelf-life longer than what we're given nowadays, it's something I actually *wanted* to share more of myself and my personality in. At the same time, it felt soul-crushing when something I poured a lot of time and effort into went unnoticed, I think everyone's been there at a certain point. So instead, I found myself wrestling between trying to make something that satisfied me, and at the same time, trying to actually get eyes on what I was making by doing all of these optimizations, and trying to get the number to go up, and at the end of it all, I was miserable, and I regretted a lot of the videos I was putting out. Not because I put too much of myself into them, but because of the opposite- that I had compromised them so far from what I originally intended that it didn't even feel like it was a video I could be proud of at that point, even if it did "succeed" and make the numbers go up for my channel. Now, as I find this video, I'm in the process of trying to "unpoison" myself as an artist in the digital hellscape we've found ourselves in, by taking one of my IRL friends' advice and trying to relarn how to create for myself, or just for the sake of creating. I feel like as you said, around 14:30, it is important to put intention behind what you share as being "for" the audience, but at the same time, I think sharing only for the audience's sake does a disservice to the self that engages with the videos as a part of that audience as well. Though, I'm talking about the word "share" in more of an artistic/creative sense- things like the jokes I'd cut out of a video to keep people from skipping or clicking off, or dumbing down my vocabulary/ or holding back on referencing material that I'd just assume my audience wouldn't be familiar enough to relate with- all of these are things I regretted a lot as someone who came close to "breaking out" into the category of "large channel," not because I wasn't able to attain that success, but because it was at a cost that I deemed too high for myself. TL:DR, as I'm in the process of coming back to TH-cam semi-full-time, I'm trying to be more conscious in the ways you described in this video, though I think that leaning too far onto one end, and creating solely with the audience as intention for sharing / putting parts of ourselves into our work, should be approached with some caution. Anyways, this comment is way too long as is, but I'll be happy to clarify or reply further, Great video!
omg thank you for such a thoughtful comment, I loved reading about your story! I definitely agree with your point about how the content we create should not be solely for the audience, I realized I forgot to include the second part of that thought when I was editing😭. I think it's so important to make content we feel passionate about and not be always catering to what we think will do well. But also when we do make videos, we're choosing to publicize something instead of keeping it to ourselves. I think what I was trying to say is that when we want to make a video about something we're passionate about, our decision to share it with the world means it's our job to try to deliver it to the audience as best as possible because we have taken on that obligation. I hope that cleared it up a little haha. But your comment was very thought provoking and I'm glad you shared :)
It is crucial to understand the importance of not oversharing or perhaps being balanced and doing shadow work before making any video. I have seen people taking TH-cam or other social media platforms to use their personal feelings as part of the content where they are being open to the world, but what they might get into is a total portal to unnecessary opinions they didn't even ask for in the first place. I remember doing it, not here but on other platforms, and I ended up feeling lost, alone, and confused after certain sharing that led me to a new type of problem I wasn't ready for. As I started doing more personal journalism, I understood the importance of keeping the balance between what is worth sharing and how to structure my ideas before even thinking of it. Thank you so much, Lauren, this video was excellent. I agree with you on everything, especially for the journals, keeping things separated so we can focus on what we really want to share and what we don't want to.
Man what a video! it really did feel recently like i might have sold my soul a little, i mean i think i didn't share anything too bad so far, but seeing people comment things that focus on stuff i have said before... or seeing some extreme fans know a little too much about me😬..., most of them come out of a nice place thankfully, but it still feels so weird! esepcially when they start acting like they know me perosnally, or say stuff like "yeah i know you don't like this because you said on X video blah blah" or smth like that XD i'm now trying to stop that completely because o relized how terrible it is, and how much less personal some aspcets of my life are starting to feel, like i have enough trouple dealing with other people op i don't need a 300K+ MORE AAA!! im not sure if i have anything useful for you to share more experince about this, i have been doing youtube fully around 2+ Years? but i have been on the platform for 10y since i was a kid XD def overshared more as a kid but i had almost nobody watching thankfully💀
Hi Lauren! It's been wonderful watching your videos trickle through my recommended these past few months. You definitely give me a lot to think about as I consider whether or not uploading youtube videos is something that aligns with my life thesis. You honestly perfectly addressed my fears in this video. I was worried the me who presents online and the me who presents to in person contacts would blend to a point where they are indistinguishable, and I wouldn't know who I was anymore. By treating the audience online as a separate acquaintance who you set boundaries with, like a normal relationship, one can begin to decide what is and isn't appropriate for what they reveal online. Can't say enough how much I've listening to your videos while gaming, and rewinding and watching when you start dropping knowledge bombs. You are truly a blessing.
Literally just finished your video on deleting Social media and making a website (which I love, and completely agree with), so what a great surprise to immediately get greeted with this too! Amazing work, loving your thoughts and creative presentation!
This video was really helpful for me as someone who started TH-cam really young and over shared then grew up and cringed at my behavior so hard I’ve discouraged myself from content creation on TH-cam for a really long time. This helps me look at things differently
I love your presentation! For some time, I started feeling like I was oversharing on my social media -- like even though my face isn't shown and I feel like it could be interesting for my audience, it started to feel "icky" when people would reply to things I felt that they had "no right to" (and I put quotation marks because I myself put it out there which gives them permission to comment). I signed out of my account on my phone for a while to wean myself off from the impulse to overshare. So now, I'm more mindful about the things I share out there.
watched it the whole way and loved every point you made! so glad i found this video - now i know how not to sell my soul and also a thing or two about authenticity and the way we present ourselves. thanks for sharing your thoughts and reflections :)
Love the bit about not talking about an ongoing problem- been struggling to finish up a video because all that's left to do is voiceovers and part of the internal struggle I was going through was how to describe an ongoing struggle- thinking I HAD to talk about that part since it was a part of what I was going through at the time of the recording. This video gave me some peace with that- I'm seeing I can get that the medium I'm communicating in is a finalized piece of art and that I can keep the ongoing struggles to myself as I continue to work through them and then speak on behalf of the things that I've processed. This video made a difference for me and I appreciate you greatly for it
It’s really refreshing to see your perspective on building an online presence. I’ve been on TH-cam for many years but have been struggling to keep going and stay authentic. Would love to talk with you!
As an aspiring singer/songwriter, I always wondered how I could share my craft and authentic self with an audience, without oversharing every detail of my life, as i usually have the tendency to with new friends, and so, thank you for creating this video. I will apply the steps and knowledge going forward :)
i found ur channel the other day and it’s inspired me to start posting videos on youtube!! your manner of talking/explaining has a way of calming my thoughts down and i rly do agree with your points. thank u so much for pushing me to create again, even if u have no idea who i am XD i am so glad i found your channel when i did.
i haven’t even finished the video yet but i know it’s a winner. your channel has been my favorite find lately. i loved your “god, i love being a girl” video & it was so nice to see another person doing lowkey vlogs too (& being a fellow phx creator is a bonus! 🌵) keep it up julie
This is my first time watching one of your videos besides your class presentation. I like your format and the way your camera is set up. It's like I'm really in the room with u
My channel is quite small on TH-cam. Been doing this 5+ years. This has been a constant conversation/ contemplation i have between myself and my inner self and in a sense i have chosen to remain small. Thanks for speaking about this subject. You are a delight to listen to.
You're deeply analytic and capable to articulate and explain/express your thinking with sensibility for what people may think about what you think. It's like you already see how we could or may approach your words and then building your logical foresee thinking into the reasoning you already encountered , anyways... it feels great to watch your train of thought running so sharp while you previously spent some time to intricate it reasonably even putting psychological theories together. I sometimes needed to stop and reinterpret what I just heart from you in order to integrate the informations. Well, I just would like to see you debating with yourself/ or someone else, in order to reach the doubts you may have due the lack of experience, even though you're incredibly smart, its also great to see such a young character having honorable reflections regarding the morals we should be aware of thoughout the internet. Great job lady! I keep my eyes over you... ... (to learn).
This is the first video of yours I’ve collided with and I feel so comfortable here. Thank you for your presentation. Perfect timing for where I am at in my thoughts and application of life. Thank you.
you are actually so pretty, i've been having a lot of haur struggles recently and your hair is just so beautiful!! thanks for the helpful video :) ive been thinking of starting a podcast/TH-cam channel so this is perfectly applicable to my life right now
I love this! recently I've been struggling to grasp my opinions on how I feel about sharing on the internet, staying authentic, etc and I feel your explanation and tips are a great guide. Doesn't seem as daunting if taking certain awareness
It's such a relief to find this video, I've been really torn amongst the various voices in my head ever since I started sharing my art online. It adds another layer of confusion because I want to create meaningful artworks but certain meaningful topics are too painful to share. Still trying to discern where my true authentic voice lies, where to push myself more and where I should let go. Thank you for the tips!
I just love your channel. Thank you so much for uploading! And, most importantly, thank you for sharing your sources, a very uncommon practice nowadays.
You have one of the most unique channels I've ever seen! Great topics and the vibe is a mix of quirky, thoughtful, and exploratory. Look forward to seeing your channel grow and other topics you'll delve into!
I liked how you presented this, I was listening closely throughout. I don’t vocalize myself online or offline often (I’ve been making an effort to speak up more for a year now, least online), but when I do, I sometimes overshare as an attempt to convey information or make friends/connections. Nothing deeply personal, but just putting “skin” in a conversation. That said, I have felt that I’ve “sold my soul” revealing maybe too personal of info to a good friend, even when they didn’t react badly to it. But I did regret telling them because crossing that boundary made me feel too transparent to the wrong person. And I don’t think it enriched our friendship either, it’s just that sharing it should have been saved for someone else. Besides that, having a small audience to me would be just that, like public speaking and to be about providing something to that audience firstly, that’s how I treat my (small) public audiences. It was a captivating video topic, thank you for sharing really.
I thought this was going on another direction, but i really liked what you talked about. We get so comfortable behind a screen you kinda forget its a dangerous place out therr and this was a super nice and well executed video and reminder on how to be careful on the internet. Love ur vids♡ sorry for my eng
i’ve always been private about my life, i usually talk about life stuff with good friends online in group chats, but i son’t overshare personal stuff, especially with random people never showed my face online either, was never a fan doing that. i prefer creating content in a way that utilizes my words and actions rather than body and face. this video feels reassuring since i’ve never overshared like that before
As with all of your videos, this was tightly packed. There is a lot to think about, here. For me, I am not yet convinced that I have a message to share; though more and more I feel I have learned so much that others would benefit from. For me this is a conundrum that is not easy to resolve.
Thank you for sharing this. I so rarely comment on TH-cam (so meta at this point) but I want to say that I was very impressed by your structured thinking-through of this, and your orientation toward application. Useful and generative.
i was recently thinking about how not to sell my soul while starting to make my own content in this exact way aahh, loving your content and thank you for this video!
Thank you this is something I’ve been thinking about lately, this gave me clarity, I might just start off with tik tok and instagram first just so am just giving myself space to post short clips of just info etc
I have to commit that I've seen your videos several times on my youtube recommendation in so far but today for some reasons, I decided to watch your whole video and I found that you're really passionate in making every single video, keep up doing the good work
This is a really intelligent and a really spot on video! As a fellow creator who's been doing this a couple of years. There's this weird feeling of guilt about staying consistent with something you said in the past, like that idea of knowing yourself you talk about in problem with oversharing part. Which is a weird because opinions naturally grow and change as time goes on. Yet if someone's watching your stuff for the first time, that's the first impression of you. I know that's kind of vague for anyone reading this but just please know that's a normal feeling when making stuff or sharing you opinion on the internet to experience that dissonance for previous statements, that means your growing. Awesome video, there were some great points I didn't consider before, thanks for making it!
Thank you for your service. Lovely breakdown and the steps are very helpful. You said everything I’ve been saying to myself about oversharing and privacy on the internet. People don’t care about our issues. Only show the best and if you want to be vulnerable only tell minimal info and use it to connect with others.
I'm a little youtuber. I struggle with trying to figure out what I'm willing to share. I don't want to post family content. I don't want to talk too much about myself. I have a sport that I like to share about , but I'm struggling on trying to figure out how to share it in a way that is helpful or educational but still kind of original? Lol Anyway, I love youtube. I love your channel ! This video was very helpful. I'm motivated to come up with more ideas and NOT sell my soul! ❤🎉😂
I NEVER comment on videos but I just want to say thank you for the thought and effort put into this!! I have been wanting to start a channel for years, but am a very private person (don’t post on other social media sites like Twitter, etc). A way this video gave me a lot to think about when it comes to the purpose my channel would serve and what I’m willing or not willing to share. Thank you 😊
this video made me realize why asd is a thing lollll We tend to do the thing at the end that you say people don’t do. We tend to talk to everyone the same and treat everyone the same no matter their social position. Which has its good and bad points depending on the person... But this helped me understand why allistic social interactions always felt weird and inauthentic sometimes, but would also explain the way it can be used as social manipulation sometimes. I really like your process and it seems useful for ND people that have a tendency to overshare because the way we view social hierarchy tends to be different. ❤
Thank you so much for your advice! So cute how you have written everything in that journal, Kindd old school but still effective! Your suggestions are incredibly helpful and have given me a lot to think about. This is a very important topic and you helped a lot of content creators with that! thanks again!
Hey! I'm so glad that I clicked on this video! Thankyou so much for taking the time to make it and share your thoughts/ideas and opinions. It came across to me as thorough, meticulous, thoughtful and authentic. I really liked your straightforward/'no thrills' approach using the sketchbook type & visuals instead of trying to use flashy/cool video-editing techniques. This is the first video of yours that I've seen and now I'm interested in looking at more of your content. I wish you all the best on your journey. With gratitude and blessings ❤🙏 Keep up the good work!
What’s interesting is I think this can translate beyond TH-cam. Anyone intending to be any sort of public figure can implement these tools to protect their mind and soul. Now I want a video about how this helps creators not sell out! Amazing video.
bring back paper as visual materiall RAAHHHH also I agree with most of your points and I do recommend it not only for "content creators" but also for anyone who uses social media and likes to post. IMO the reason why some people post personal things about them on social media is to seek validation or attention or a way of coping. Its like sometimes what they posts should just be written on a private journal or diary but instead they post it on public.
Kant did not say "know thyself" guys it is a saying inscribed on the Temple of Apollo
Yes, but Kant develops this explicitly in the Doctrine of Virtue beyond a sign, and describes it as a duty.
Thank you for the video and the clarification and I am a youtuber and I would love to talk and maybe even collab
Well then psychoanalysis developed and it became very clear it's actually impossible to know yourself
it's a delphic oracle
I think Thales also said something similar:
"The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself"
Something I heard about authenticity that really stuck with me was like (Paraphrasing here): "You don't have to share your whole self to be authentic. It's okay to keep some for yourself. It's not about the amount you give; it's that you give something real."
Some people talk a lot. Some people lie a lot. Ain't nothing wrong with people who talk a lot.
@@dallassegno as quoted in my original comment: “it’s not about the amount you give; it’s that you give something real”. This isn’t necessarily about how much you talk either 🤷🏼♂️ never said anything against people talking a lot. Just responding to the video talking about authenticity
@@MickeyRaySinghell They seem to be rephrasing your point
Thank you for your comment, I really needed it.
@dallassegno Thank God for that- I'd be a curse otherwise X)
was just drawing up a contract to sell my soul to the internet thanks for this!
Glad to have caught u in time!
😂😂
Lmao
lol.. I was too!
could you give me a copy of the contract? Asking for a friend.
"thinking our online audience has a good understanding of who we are as people" is so dangerous! there is such a big disconnect between who we are & who we are perceived to be sometimes
Some people might say that controlling perception is the sign of a true politician, and a scam artist. How else can you convince people that you have their best interest in mind, when the reality is so much more selfish?
@@MyWatchIsEnded wait, most of the human beings are truly selfish and there is a chance that the normal human being will never meet somebody thats actually not. But they do exist, i have a bud that would ACTUALLY give/divide everything that he has if you needing it. One time he gave 5 bucks of the bus for somebody that got robbed but he didnt have another 5 to get th bus for himself and he knew it. We came back walking home from a LONG ass distance, it was actually funny and i couldnt say no to hin when he asked "lets go home together...walking?"
is it really? your videos are the persona you put out in the world. take responsibility for that.
speaking from experience, i think one of the reasons why some people tend to overshare online is because of loneliness. posting about their thoughts and emotions online with an audience to speculate gives them the illusion of a shared situationship, even if superficial.
We need communities
@@onethree123dcreate it
Me with the private MBTI group I joined nowadays:
This is so true. It's a human need to connect and I wish real communities were easier to come by.
This was more the case on the old discussion forums. As someone who has struggled socially my entire life, the Internet was once a lifeline. Sadly, that is no longer the case. On Reddit today, it's all about the upvotes and downvotes and going into it expecting any kind of support is just going to end in trauma. Trauma subreddits are basically "trauma olympics" and they are about who can be dramatic enough to get the most upvotes. And if you're really, genuinely struggling, your likely to be downvoted.
Why is this NOT a Ted Talk? They should be calling you! Actually maybe they don't deserve it. Great video.
Hi bro
i literally had the same thought
My guitar teacher😮
I would enjoy it this way tho even more!
i read the title without the "not" and now i know something about myself i didn't want to know
Same 😂
her sketchbook slides are evolving
How is this the best documentation of all time
Is this Sarcasm?
@@alface935No she made a pretty good job.
@@alface935 tuff to understand huh
@@trapdeath99 The most important part of the context between Sarcasm and Serious is the Tone of Voice
There is no Voice in a Comment Section how are We suppost to know if is Sarcasm or not?
@@alface935 dude idc... I'll just delete yt so bye good bless you
we, strangers, commenting on this video and loving this channel are part of a paradox.
okay but why is nobody talking about the amazing idea with the sketchbook? It feels like a cute little presentation and I can visualise everything much better. Honestly such a great vid
It's interesting to hear this take on "selling your soul".
Oversharing has never been a problem for me in my life and I never really view others sharing (what others might call) an excessive amount of information as "oversharing". I always just see it as them sharing the level of information at which they are most comfortable sharing with others.
Like how we all like the thermostat at a certain temperature. We all have varying degrees of openness and how willing we are to share information with others.
Not to mention it's (what we share online) all ENTIRELY optional. So whatever that person shares, they 100% decided to do it themselves. Their hand wasn't forced at all.
Even for the biggest celebrities, nobody is REALLY demanding them to tell everyone how they decide which loaf of bread to buy on Saturday or expecting them to release an essay on why they broke up with so and so. Their followers aren't saying "tell me or I'm never going to support you again."
I view individuals "selling their soul" as people who give up their individuality for the sake of attention, fame, money etc.
Doing things like: regularly following trends, saying controversial things simply for a reaction, promoting products they don't care for, treating their supporters as being beneath them, making obnoxious Mr. Beast style thumbnails, lying/exaggerating to spur engagement, doing things they don't like just for attention, not even knowing what it is they like themselves etc. (assuming they did not regularly do these things before).
I agree with this. I just have an issue when there are children involved. Parents are sharing too much about their children and exposing them to all sorts of criticism and perversion.
People often use the term 'oversharing' when they regret divulging too much information or when they feel they've been exposed to more than they wanted to hear.
It's like sharing but with regrets from at least one of the involved person.
I agree that nobody is literally forcing another to “sell their soul.” While I agree there is no physical force acting upon people to sell their soul to the internet, there is plenty of evidence that supports the addictive nature of many social media platforms.
A great book to read more about this is called “Outrage Machine” by Tobias Rose-Stockwell. The premise of the book highlights how the internet has altered the way we think and interact. To break away from this alteration is very difficult.
Internet usage is addictive. Similar to other addictive substances, nobody forces the hand of those who use them; however, once the addictive thing is used often (to some degree) it takes more than just deciding, “Hey. I will no longer her use this.” Stopping the “selling” of our souls to the internet comes with side effects and takes hard work for many. For celebrities, social relevance is how they make money. Posting more and being outrageous will bring more attention.
I only have a TH-cam, and I understand how additive the other platforms are/can be. Although I don’t share the same experiences online as those using other highly additive platforms, I can empathize with the struggle to remove yourself from it. People experience FOMO, come to realize plenty about some of their online friendships, lose income, have to sit with their own thoughts, etc.
The last paragraph is something I saw from an influencer I have been following since 2017. I immediately unfollowed after knowing that he was lying to his audience (after some research). I know not everyone is 100% real online and not all are 100% not lying. As just a point of reflection for myself because online presence can put this image that they are your friend ugh.
I agree to a certain extent, but I also don’t think most people are being intentional about how or how much information they share, it’s becoming an expectation to overshare. Not being intentional about how you behave online leads to inauthentic expressions and behaviors. ---following trends/ saying controversial things. Once you begin to belive your audiences opinion of you is a mirror your mindset changes. Operating like this always lets you fall back on “I have intentionally developed an acquaintance relationship with my audience so these opinions do not effect my perception of myself” which prevent the selling of the soul in the future.
This video got that OG 2000s feel bro bro!!!
How?
@@alface935 it has the same aesthetic, just with way higher camera quality
@@99Gara99 Then why is 23 Minutes long and not 10 Minutes+10Minutes+3Minutes (You couldn't have videos over 10 minutes on TH-cam in the "OG 2000s")
@@TwisterTornado Ohhh
bro called her "bro bro"
You are completely right. All TH-camrs need separate journals as you describe. The ego of some TH-camrs and personalities on other platforms spins out of control because they don't do as Dr. Lauren prescribes. You should submit these videos to your professors, and they should accept them for a 100% grade. You are the absolute bomb. The Queen Nuke.
"Dr. Lauren" I want to know who approved this medical degree because they are getting fired lol😭 but thank u @massivejetgrind I'll see u in my livestreams :D
Who is dr. Lauren?
Very interesting. It reminds me of Harry potter for some reason. When Tom says that Ginny gave so much of her soul by writing in a diary (and overstating personal details about her life) that he was able to consume it and emerge in a physical form.
It also reminds me of another TH-cam who had been posting for around 5 years. She shared too much about herself imo, and was never careful about concealing her surroundings near her home. She apparently got stalked due to a fan finding out her address and showing up at her apartment and left TH-cam
@shree-ho1yo yea
This was so insightful. Honestly I’ve been worried about putting myself online bc I’ve always felt like yeah, I’m selling a part of myself. It’s scary in a way but also nice to use your voice. Anyway this video is definitely making me think about it and knowing how I can still keep parts of myself reserved while still making content . A happy balance ❤
Really appreciate the way you construct your arguments and present them.
I've been waiting a video like this for so long. You're a lovely and kind person, and your videos gave me mental peace, keep going 💙💙💙
I can feel that’s so much effort goes into making this video. I rarely comment on yt but hopefully this helps with algorithm to reach more ppl.
wow, it's so cool to hear this topic discussed from this perspective! a lot of what you talked about is stuff I've had to learn the hard way and through lots of experience as a creator online. I've learned to set boundaries and not seek that "knowing of self" through online audiences, but it took me a lot of time to get to this point. i'm glad that people have this type of resource now that can hopefully help them as they navigate what and what not to share online.
These type of videos that actually makes you think and ponder, is the best! Thx julie
i found that vid on my fyp and i really appreciate the fact that theres no background music. it helps me to focus on what youre actually talking about
The sarcasm and audacity in the title is OUTSTANDING 😂
I appreciate the insight on introspecting in relation to a public platform and developing a sense of self that is also publicly comfortable. Thank you for the name of the theorist.
Thank you for the thoughtful video! You've given me a bunch of things to think about as someone who also recently started a channel.
i realised i made a great mistake from uploading some videos of my channel
i tend to overshare, but i do that to make my audience relate to me.
because stories impact more than just knowledge.
Thanks for shining light on the toxic drain that social media can be while incorporating some profound thoughts and philosophy
Your personality is so just nice and comforting. Also I love that more people are pushing explicitly for not over sharing. I feel like some creators do that and it takes away from the video, especially when the title seems like a valuable enough topic to click on. It feels like some creators are trying to bring celebrity/stan culture onto TH-cam and it’s going to make it hard to have conversations around actual content over personalities in the future if it continues. You’re doing good work against this.
Also want to say I’m subbed at 17.4K subs, you’re going to grow big 🎉 I can see it now so congrats in advance 💕
perfect way to explain how boundaries are just as important in the digital world!
3:56 I love when I see people starting to think and organize whatever they have in their mind. I can tell from the facial expression and the way you speaking. I just love it, great job Lauren!
I find it so cool how you write it all in the notebooks
Im starting to think that this kind of videos are going to open to a new youtube era, and I need people who I can discuss this kind of topics
if any could create such a server on discord... id love it
I really enjoyed this video + your arguments, and I feel like I found it at a pretty good time for myself too. As someone who's been in this TH-cam space for like, literally half my life now (I'm in university) and I did it kinda as a part time job in high school with meager success, so when you said at the 19:50 to reach out, it might apply to me as someone who's been in it long, and I figured I'd post it here publicly as a comment so anyone else who needs it could see it (while at the same time avoiding selling my soul lol):
I think the question of "selling your soul" that you talked about is one that I've found myself coming back to over and over, partially in the way you described as determining whether the self I choose to show is really "me," or rather, how much of that persona I display each video is actually "me." For me, it's always been a lot more intentional because the videos I make are pre-written as a script, rather than as notes, but I don't really think I noticed it until you mentioned there being a "limit" on what we share with the top of the "iceberg." Often, it did weigh on me as being inauthentic, and I would sometimes wonder how much the words I was writing into each video really reflected "who" I was, things like: "would I say this phrase like this? what would my tone of voice be? does this really sound like me?" And no, it never did really feel or sound like myself I think, until recently. However, I think the uncomfortability in oversharing for larger content creators is slightly more nuanced than regretting oversharing a detail, or feelings of inauthenticity for the sake of keeping a distance:
I can tell by the way your videos are structured and presented that you don't seem to pay too much attention to "the algorithm," or any of the seemingly magic numbers like CTR, audience retention, watch-time, etc. because that just isn't the point here (and honestly, I love it, please keep doing what you're doing!!). In the way I was doing TH-cam however, and in the same way that many other content creators are across other platforms, it was about micro-managing numbers; doing incredibly minor optimizations like "cutting off the video right as it ends to maximize retention," or, "don't put your face in the thumbnail because people won't click on someone they don't already care about," or "cut the intros in your videos shorter, cut out dull space, so they won't click off" (all actual, real advice I've received from people who have millions of subscribers now), and so much of these decisions felt like they were completely compromising any creative direction I had for what I was making. The main reason why I did TH-cam originally was because it was fun, and I wanted to make something similar to the people that I was watching at the time, so like, a highly-edited, show format, type thing, that was meant to have a shelf-life longer than what we're given nowadays, it's something I actually *wanted* to share more of myself and my personality in. At the same time, it felt soul-crushing when something I poured a lot of time and effort into went unnoticed, I think everyone's been there at a certain point. So instead, I found myself wrestling between trying to make something that satisfied me, and at the same time, trying to actually get eyes on what I was making by doing all of these optimizations, and trying to get the number to go up, and at the end of it all, I was miserable, and I regretted a lot of the videos I was putting out. Not because I put too much of myself into them, but because of the opposite- that I had compromised them so far from what I originally intended that it didn't even feel like it was a video I could be proud of at that point, even if it did "succeed" and make the numbers go up for my channel.
Now, as I find this video, I'm in the process of trying to "unpoison" myself as an artist in the digital hellscape we've found ourselves in, by taking one of my IRL friends' advice and trying to relarn how to create for myself, or just for the sake of creating. I feel like as you said, around 14:30, it is important to put intention behind what you share as being "for" the audience, but at the same time, I think sharing only for the audience's sake does a disservice to the self that engages with the videos as a part of that audience as well. Though, I'm talking about the word "share" in more of an artistic/creative sense- things like the jokes I'd cut out of a video to keep people from skipping or clicking off, or dumbing down my vocabulary/ or holding back on referencing material that I'd just assume my audience wouldn't be familiar enough to relate with- all of these are things I regretted a lot as someone who came close to "breaking out" into the category of "large channel," not because I wasn't able to attain that success, but because it was at a cost that I deemed too high for myself.
TL:DR, as I'm in the process of coming back to TH-cam semi-full-time, I'm trying to be more conscious in the ways you described in this video, though I think that leaning too far onto one end, and creating solely with the audience as intention for sharing / putting parts of ourselves into our work, should be approached with some caution. Anyways, this comment is way too long as is, but I'll be happy to clarify or reply further, Great video!
omg thank you for such a thoughtful comment, I loved reading about your story! I definitely agree with your point about how the content we create should not be solely for the audience, I realized I forgot to include the second part of that thought when I was editing😭. I think it's so important to make content we feel passionate about and not be always catering to what we think will do well. But also when we do make videos, we're choosing to publicize something instead of keeping it to ourselves. I think what I was trying to say is that when we want to make a video about something we're passionate about, our decision to share it with the world means it's our job to try to deliver it to the audience as best as possible because we have taken on that obligation. I hope that cleared it up a little haha. But your comment was very thought provoking and I'm glad you shared :)
I appreciate how thoroughly and thoughtfully you covered all the key topics, including the dos and don'ts, in such an advanced and significant manner.
It is crucial to understand the importance of not oversharing or perhaps being balanced and doing shadow work before making any video. I have seen people taking TH-cam or other social media platforms to use their personal feelings as part of the content where they are being open to the world, but what they might get into is a total portal to unnecessary opinions they didn't even ask for in the first place.
I remember doing it, not here but on other platforms, and I ended up feeling lost, alone, and confused after certain sharing that led me to a new type of problem I wasn't ready for. As I started doing more personal journalism, I understood the importance of keeping the balance between what is worth sharing and how to structure my ideas before even thinking of it.
Thank you so much, Lauren, this video was excellent. I agree with you on everything, especially for the journals, keeping things separated so we can focus on what we really want to share and what we don't want to.
Man what a video! it really did feel recently like i might have sold my soul a little, i mean i think i didn't share anything too bad so far, but seeing people comment things that focus on stuff i have said before... or seeing some extreme fans know a little too much about me😬..., most of them come out of a nice place thankfully, but it still feels so weird!
esepcially when they start acting like they know me perosnally, or say stuff like "yeah i know you don't like this because you said on X video blah blah" or smth like that XD
i'm now trying to stop that completely because o relized how terrible it is, and how much less personal some aspcets of my life are starting to feel, like i have enough trouple dealing with other people op i don't need a 300K+ MORE AAA!!
im not sure if i have anything useful for you to share more experince about this, i have been doing youtube fully around 2+ Years? but i have been on the platform for 10y since i was a kid XD
def overshared more as a kid but i had almost nobody watching thankfully💀
No way I found you here
Hi Lauren! It's been wonderful watching your videos trickle through my recommended these past few months. You definitely give me a lot to think about as I consider whether or not uploading youtube videos is something that aligns with my life thesis. You honestly perfectly addressed my fears in this video. I was worried the me who presents online and the me who presents to in person contacts would blend to a point where they are indistinguishable, and I wouldn't know who I was anymore. By treating the audience online as a separate acquaintance who you set boundaries with, like a normal relationship, one can begin to decide what is and isn't appropriate for what they reveal online.
Can't say enough how much I've listening to your videos while gaming, and rewinding and watching when you start dropping knowledge bombs. You are truly a blessing.
Literally just finished your video on deleting Social media and making a website (which I love, and completely agree with), so what a great surprise to immediately get greeted with this too! Amazing work, loving your thoughts and creative presentation!
This video was really helpful for me as someone who started TH-cam really young and over shared then grew up and cringed at my behavior so hard I’ve discouraged myself from content creation on TH-cam for a really long time. This helps me look at things differently
I love your presentation! For some time, I started feeling like I was oversharing on my social media -- like even though my face isn't shown and I feel like it could be interesting for my audience, it started to feel "icky" when people would reply to things I felt that they had "no right to" (and I put quotation marks because I myself put it out there which gives them permission to comment). I signed out of my account on my phone for a while to wean myself off from the impulse to overshare. So now, I'm more mindful about the things I share out there.
watched it the whole way and loved every point you made! so glad i found this video - now i know how not to sell my soul and also a thing or two about authenticity and the way we present ourselves. thanks for sharing your thoughts and reflections :)
Yup. This pretty much sums it all up! Right on! Spot on and Dipped in!
Truly lovely! Looking forward for more amazing creations.
i love you. You're so authentic and you remind me of myself alot. I just love you and your efforts so much. keep being you
Love the bit about not talking about an ongoing problem- been struggling to finish up a video because all that's left to do is voiceovers and part of the internal struggle I was going through was how to describe an ongoing struggle- thinking I HAD to talk about that part since it was a part of what I was going through at the time of the recording.
This video gave me some peace with that- I'm seeing I can get that the medium I'm communicating in is a finalized piece of art and that I can keep the ongoing struggles to myself as I continue to work through them and then speak on behalf of the things that I've processed.
This video made a difference for me and I appreciate you greatly for it
It’s really refreshing to see your perspective on building an online presence. I’ve been on TH-cam for many years but have been struggling to keep going and stay authentic. Would love to talk with you!
As an aspiring singer/songwriter, I always wondered how I could share my craft and authentic self with an audience, without oversharing every detail of my life, as i usually have the tendency to with new friends, and so, thank you for creating this video. I will apply the steps and knowledge going forward :)
i found ur channel the other day and it’s inspired me to start posting videos on youtube!!
your manner of talking/explaining has a way of calming my thoughts down and i rly do agree with your points.
thank u so much for pushing me to create again, even if u have no idea who i am XD i am so glad i found your channel when i did.
her channel is very refreshing from all the other ones that is highly edited and flashy
i haven’t even finished the video yet but i know it’s a winner. your channel has been my favorite find lately. i loved your “god, i love being a girl” video & it was so nice to see another person doing lowkey vlogs too (& being a fellow phx creator is a bonus! 🌵)
keep it up julie
This is my first time watching one of your videos besides your class presentation. I like your format and the way your camera is set up. It's like I'm really in the room with u
8:40, this segment is mindblowing. That was some deep insight I never realized before!
I LOVE YOUR SMILE! You have the most beautiful smile I've ever seen in my life!!!! no joke! literally the most beautiful smileeeeee
I am blown away at the organization and clarity of your thoughts in all your videos. Cheers
My channel is quite small on TH-cam. Been doing this 5+ years. This has been a constant conversation/ contemplation i have between myself and my inner self and in a sense i have chosen to remain small. Thanks for speaking about this subject. You are a delight to listen to.
You're deeply analytic and capable to articulate and explain/express your thinking with sensibility for what people may think about what you think. It's like you already see how we could or may approach your words and then building your logical foresee thinking into the reasoning you already encountered , anyways... it feels great to watch your train of thought running so sharp while you previously spent some time to intricate it reasonably even putting psychological theories together. I sometimes needed to stop and reinterpret what I just heart from you in order to integrate the informations. Well, I just would like to see you debating with yourself/ or someone else, in order to reach the doubts you may have due the lack of experience, even though you're incredibly smart, its also great to see such a young character having honorable reflections regarding the morals we should be aware of thoughout the internet. Great job lady! I keep my eyes over you... ... (to learn).
I’m in love with this girl’s methods and the ways which she explains something ❤ it’s so detailed and delivers the idea so directly
This is the first video of yours I’ve collided with and I feel so comfortable here. Thank you for your presentation. Perfect timing for where I am at in my thoughts and application of life. Thank you.
I love how gentle you talk it makes me smile
you are actually so pretty, i've been having a lot of haur struggles recently and your hair is just so beautiful!! thanks for the helpful video :) ive been thinking of starting a podcast/TH-cam channel so this is perfectly applicable to my life right now
Girl... This video is literally a gift from heaven. Perfect timing!
I love this! recently I've been struggling to grasp my opinions on how I feel about sharing on the internet, staying authentic, etc and I feel your explanation and tips are a great guide. Doesn't seem as daunting if taking certain awareness
This is the second video of yours I watched and again I’m floored: you’re wise beyond your years, thank you for sharing your reflections!
This organization is helping me work a format on my last paper this semester. Mahalo 😊
I love the way that you made the presentation with the sheets, as if it were a flipchart.
I think every vlogger on TH-cam should watch this video...
It's such a relief to find this video, I've been really torn amongst the various voices in my head ever since I started sharing my art online. It adds another layer of confusion because I want to create meaningful artworks but certain meaningful topics are too painful to share. Still trying to discern where my true authentic voice lies, where to push myself more and where I should let go. Thank you for the tips!
I just love your channel. Thank you so much for uploading! And, most importantly, thank you for sharing your sources, a very uncommon practice nowadays.
You have one of the most unique channels I've ever seen! Great topics and the vibe is a mix of quirky, thoughtful, and exploratory. Look forward to seeing your channel grow and other topics you'll delve into!
I liked how you presented this, I was listening closely throughout. I don’t vocalize myself online or offline often (I’ve been making an effort to speak up more for a year now, least online), but when I do, I sometimes overshare as an attempt to convey information or make friends/connections. Nothing deeply personal, but just putting “skin” in a conversation.
That said, I have felt that I’ve “sold my soul” revealing maybe too personal of info to a good friend, even when they didn’t react badly to it. But I did regret telling them because crossing that boundary made me feel too transparent to the wrong person. And I don’t think it enriched our friendship either, it’s just that sharing it should have been saved for someone else.
Besides that, having a small audience to me would be just that, like public speaking and to be about providing something to that audience firstly, that’s how I treat my (small) public audiences. It was a captivating video topic, thank you for sharing really.
I thought this was going on another direction, but i really liked what you talked about. We get so comfortable behind a screen you kinda forget its a dangerous place out therr and this was a super nice and well executed video and reminder on how to be careful on the internet. Love ur vids♡ sorry for my eng
I love how you basically did a presentation but with paper. It's awesome!
i’ve always been private about my life, i usually talk about life stuff with good friends online in group chats, but i son’t overshare personal stuff, especially with random people
never showed my face online either, was never a fan doing that. i prefer creating content in a way that utilizes my words and actions rather than body and face. this video feels reassuring since i’ve never overshared like that before
As with all of your videos, this was tightly packed. There is a lot to think about, here. For me, I am not yet convinced that I have a message to share; though more and more I feel I have learned so much that others would benefit from. For me this is a conundrum that is not easy to resolve.
This was really well done and was so informative. Seeing YT as a public speaking forum is just the understanding that I needed. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this. I so rarely comment on TH-cam (so meta at this point) but I want to say that I was very impressed by your structured thinking-through of this, and your orientation toward application. Useful and generative.
We should all just gradually spend less time online. It might be more difficult for the younger generations that grew up with the internet though
I interpret the question as giving up ones authenticity in the interest of chasing the algorithm and increasing your following.
i was recently thinking about how not to sell my soul while starting to make my own content in this exact way aahh, loving your content and thank you for this video!
i have already sold my soul to your channel 🥰 best content ever!! please keep posting
Thank you this is something I’ve been thinking about lately, this gave me clarity, I might just start off with tik tok and instagram first just so am just giving myself space to post short clips of just info etc
I right away clicked on your video when I saw the title. I'm loving the content. Thank you for this.
I have to commit that I've seen your videos several times on my youtube recommendation in so far but today for some reasons, I decided to watch your whole video and I found that you're really passionate in making every single video, keep up doing the good work
This is a really intelligent and a really spot on video! As a fellow creator who's been doing this a couple of years. There's this weird feeling of guilt about staying consistent with something you said in the past, like that idea of knowing yourself you talk about in problem with oversharing part. Which is a weird because opinions naturally grow and change as time goes on. Yet if someone's watching your stuff for the first time, that's the first impression of you. I know that's kind of vague for anyone reading this but just please know that's a normal feeling when making stuff or sharing you opinion on the internet to experience that dissonance for previous statements, that means your growing.
Awesome video, there were some great points I didn't consider before, thanks for making it!
thank god i watched this. thank you. this should be an essential course for every youtuber.
Thank you for your service. Lovely breakdown and the steps are very helpful. You said everything I’ve been saying to myself about oversharing and privacy on the internet. People don’t care about our issues. Only show the best and if you want to be vulnerable only tell minimal info and use it to connect with others.
whoa this video has such a powerful message
i keep thinking about this since my first watch
thank you for sharing!
thank you so much for addressing this topic. this is exactly how i was feeling but i didn't know how to put it in words: the "selling our souls" part
I'm a little youtuber. I struggle with trying to figure out what I'm willing to share. I don't want to post family content. I don't want to talk too much about myself. I have a sport that I like to share about , but I'm struggling on trying to figure out how to share it in a way that is helpful or educational but still kind of original? Lol
Anyway, I love youtube. I love your channel !
This video was very helpful. I'm motivated to come up with more ideas and NOT sell my soul! ❤🎉😂
Good points made. One should have healthy boundaries.
I NEVER comment on videos but I just want to say thank you for the thought and effort put into this!! I have been wanting to start a channel for years, but am a very private person (don’t post on other social media sites like Twitter, etc). A way this video gave me a lot to think about when it comes to the purpose my channel would serve and what I’m willing or not willing to share. Thank you 😊
this video made me realize why asd is a thing lollll
We tend to do the thing at the end that you say people don’t do. We tend to talk to everyone the same and treat everyone the same no matter their social position. Which has its good and bad points depending on the person...
But this helped me understand why allistic social interactions always felt weird and inauthentic sometimes, but would also explain the way it can be used as social manipulation sometimes.
I really like your process and it seems useful for ND people that have a tendency to overshare because the way we view social hierarchy tends to be different.
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I absolutely love the fire with little eyes on the screen *-*
One of the most information videos my algorithm showed me.
"Our self perception is derived from how we think we are perceived by different people in our lives." Wow, this is so true.
Thank you so much for your advice! So cute how you have written everything in that journal, Kindd old school but still effective! Your suggestions are incredibly helpful and have given me a lot to think about. This is a very important topic and you helped a lot of content creators with that! thanks again!
Hey! I'm so glad that I clicked on this video! Thankyou so much for taking the time to make it and share your thoughts/ideas and opinions. It came across to me as thorough, meticulous, thoughtful and authentic. I really liked your straightforward/'no thrills' approach using the sketchbook type & visuals instead of trying to use flashy/cool video-editing techniques. This is the first video of yours that I've seen and now I'm interested in looking at more of your content. I wish you all the best on your journey. With gratitude and blessings ❤🙏 Keep up the good work!
I can't be the only one who subscribed at the very beginning of the video simply because the title and Screensaver were enough for me...
best channel i've found in a while
What’s interesting is I think this can translate beyond TH-cam. Anyone intending to be any sort of public figure can implement these tools to protect their mind and soul. Now I want a video about how this helps creators not sell out! Amazing video.
bring back paper as visual materiall RAAHHHH also I agree with most of your points and I do recommend it not only for "content creators" but also for anyone who uses social media and likes to post. IMO the reason why some people post personal things about them on social media is to seek validation or attention or a way of coping. Its like sometimes what they posts should just be written on a private journal or diary but instead they post it on public.
the amount of effort you have put in to making this video 👏🏼