How To Become Securely Attached In 5 Steps
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🔵 CHAPTERS
0:00 Attachment theory
2:35 Step 1, Being intentional about change
3:45 Step 2, Having surrogate attachment figures
5:03 Step 3, Redefining your identity and worth
6:10 Step 4, Family of origin work
7:38 Step 5, Reaching outward
🔵 ATTACHMENT THEORY
In depth video about attachment theory: • Attachment theory: How...
🔵 REFERENCES
Dansby Olufowote, R. A., Fife, S. T., Schleiden, C., Whiting, J. B. (2019). How can I become more secure?: A grounded theory of earning secure attachment. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 46(3). doi: 10.1111/ jmft.12409)
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This is wonderful and very helpful, thank you. Re step 4, I personally dont think forgiveness is necessary to move forward, however acceptance is necessary. Re step 5, reminds me of life coaches, e.g., helping others move forward. Thanks again.
Yes, forgiveness is certainly not for everyone. Good point regarding acceptance. Thanks for sharing your insights. Best wishes, Teresa.
Yes, acceptance is key.
Thank you verry much !
Thanks for this. Pretty sure one couldn't move through all the steps without the help of a good therapist. Looks like a lot of work.
I think many people don't really understand what forgiveness means - from my point of view it doesn't mean making yourself ok with what happened - it wasn't ok. It means putting it all down, not dragging it about with you any more, letting it continue to ruin your life.
I recognise my parents were damaged by war, without the tools to help them heal from it. They were not purposefully wicked.
It's great that therapists like you are available to help with the consequences of all that now.
Yes, I do agree that working with a good therapist is important. Thank you for your wise words about forgiveness, so true. Best wishes, Teresa.
I agree, I think that my parents were damaged. Not by war in my case but by their parents. I think that they loved me but we're too damaged to show it in a healthy way.
Happy to have you back. I hope you’re doing well!!
Thank you so much. It’s great to be back. Best wishes, Teresa.
Always top videos, thanks. Concise , understandble and with practical steps. Thanks !
That’s great to hear. Thanks for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.
This is so helpful, thank you ❤
That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.
Haa..... it's been a long time. Where were you?
I was recovering from major surgery. Great to be back and doing what I love most. Best wishes, Teresa.
Oh....loves to your recovery
Is secure attachment an idealization of human being? What's your opinion? I observe that, everyone, begins with one of the 3 attachment styles and, afterwards, we can create a secure one.
For good mental health and good relations we want a secure attachment style. Some people have a secure attachment style due to good parenting / supportive early relationships. If we are not securely attached we can more to an earned attachment style by following the steps in the video My video on attachment theory goes into this in more detail. Best wishes. Teresa.