Stuck In Freeze: Trauma And Your Nervous System
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 พ.ค. 2024
- 🔵 WORK WITH LEWIS PSYCHOLOGY
If you'd like to work with Teresa, or a member of the Lewis Psychology team, please click on the links below:
☐ Lewis Psychology (face to face therapy): www.lewispsy.org.uk
☐ Lewis Psychology Online (online therapy): lewispsyonline.co.uk
🔵 SUPPORT LEWIS PSYCHOLOGY
If you enjoy this TH-cam channel please consider making a donation to help keep it running.
☐ Buy Me A Coffee: www.buymeacoffee.com/lewispsy...
☐ Email: teresa.lewispsy@gmail.com
🔵 CHAPTERS
0:00 Fight, flight and freeze
1:08 The sympathetic nervous system
2:04 The parasympathetic nervous system
3:14 The freeze response
3:55 Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing
6:00 Bottom up approaches
7:00 Top down approaches
7:24 Bessel Van Der Kolk
8:18 The social engagement system
🔵 WATCH NEXT
☐ Polyvagal Theory: • Polyvagal Theory Expla...
☐ Window of Tolerance: • Window of Tolerance an...
🔵 GRAPHICS AND THUMBNAIL
Thumbnail and B-Roll graphics designed by Teresa Lewis. B-Roll video is used in strict compliance with the appropriate permissions and licenses required from Pexels.com and Canva.com in accordance with the TH-cam Partner Program, Community guidelines and TH-cam terms of service.
#LewisPsychology
Your videos are some of the best I’ve ever seen
The one you did on grief, was entirely accurate and very helpful to me
Thank you so much for your kind comment Paul, that’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology This is interesting as I've always wondered why the same events happening caused such different results. I'm the youngest child in a family of seven, a female. My elder sister is the second child. Our father was incestuous with first my sister around toddler age to age 14 when she left the home to escape him. The same thing happened to me starting at most age 2 if not younger, and lasted until he was hurt at work, making him unable to sexually perform, though he was still very violent after that, probably more violent than before (total of about 9 years incest for me).
My sister grew up to be a beautiful gold digger, never truly liked her many husbands but was very sexy and outgoing, although is a manipulative grandiose narcissist (a multi-millionaire following death of her richest husband #6). She remembers every detail of her abusive childhood, but seems to sleep well, and isn't at all anxious or troubled, she says. She and I were very close until I was about 17, became taller than her and attractive. She didn't like me after that. 😢
I am the opposite. Had only a few actual horrible memories of incest events, mostly terrifying dissociative repetitive dreams,, other floating dreams. Very poor sleep, heavy anxiety through the years, hypervigilent and suspicious. Made horrible choices in life, was a huge people pleaser, but excelled in school and work. My health has been affected dramatically by this constant anxiety with migraines, fibromyalgia and now small fiber neuropathy.
I keep trying to figure out how to get over this like my sister did.
I was diagnosed last year with Asperger's and ADHD in my 60s, which came as no surprise, but I'd always thought I was "different" due to the childhood issues.
Any thoughts on how I can purge this anxiety?
I used to freeze up. No longer do. When my ex and I get an argument, I would freeze. One time, he got frustrated and shook me( not abusive like) saying, "TALK TO ME!".
I understand now that it came from the abusive childhood, which at the time I thought my childhood was normal.
Oh i finally understand now why i am the one with PTSD.
wow. Why don't all psyches know this? The 'specialist' PTSD psyche I was assigned to kept 'telling' me to do this, do that...she never once acknowledged what I was saying. I felt twice as traumatised. Your videos are brilliant. Thank you for your work.
I’m sorry to hear what you have been through. Unfortunately the need to use a bottom up approach is not common knowledge and is not taught on a lot of psychology training programmes. I’m pleased to hear my video has been helpful. Best wishes, Teresa.
Had two PTSD specialist counselors, when they got frustrated with me they were often pushing drugs, one suggested an experimental procedure that was problematic. Decided I had enough experience working in psychiatric (and theatre, maybe especially experimental theatre), wasn’t going to even start with these crude drugs. Figured to just let the experience flow through, if it killed me that was OK, if I lived then that’s OK too. Never believed in death anyway, know that we are all eternal, yet respect those who for there experience of life choose to believe otherwise. We all have our creative answers to living with our realities.
That’s awful. I’m sorry to hear what you have been through. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Thank you. Due to her 'treatment' of me - utterly refusing to acknowledge my feelings - I was given NO help, at all. I now have Functional Neurological Disorder - completely debilitating. I warn everyone to stay away from psychologists, they can do so much damage. She destroyed me. Every day I wish I was dead.
I’m so sorry to hear what you have been through. I promise there are good psychologists out there. The problem is that a lot of psychologists are not trauma informed. I’m going to be making more trauma informed videos soon. Warmest wishes, Teresa.
For the longest time, I suffered with nightmares and I couldn't sleep soundly. Turns out I'm suffering from this freeze mode. 😭
I think cutting off from humans helps in healing processes. People make others feel like you need them but in reality you can become someone who doesnt need anybody by surviving alone , and when you can survive alone you will be able to heal yourself too. Everything else that people do is just drama and for clout or for money or they feel the need to do it because they experienced it themselves, because they are in different states of mind, some may not even understand or cater your needs etc etc. But all you need to know is that you can heal yourself. Time can heal everything.
True story
I isolated myself for 6 weeks Healed whole body once our whole nervous system is back in equilibrium we're Healed on every level, and your right the body does in fact heal itself if you just let it.
It's interference from outside sources/people therapists ect that actively delay the bodies own rebalancing process, and in my experience those that truly want to heal DO HEAL, but some use the conditions for excuses so hang onto the condition because it serves them a purpose they're getting 'something' out of it that serves them & their agenda. So create a victim mentality all on their own & the Dr types love them because it's These types they make money off.
Trauma actually STRENGTHENS YOU It's designed to, we are also designed to withstand trauma grow stronger from it not weaker, but again all the Dr types need you to believe you NEED them to fix you that your too weak broken damaged to do it for yourself. Body heals itself it's designed to, if it's not then its the human delaying the process not the mind/body.
(These days trauma is extremely profitable to Dr types)
I run a whole centre and the clients need 2-3 visits maximum why because I give them the gift of STRENGTH STRENGTHENING WITHIN tell them how incredibly their minds/bodies truly are how STRONG they truly are, teach them breathing techniques yoga all to be able to do at home for themselves it's truly Empowering instead of Disempowering which is what others NEED to make people believe think about themselves to profit off them is the ONLY Reason 🤔
Ps before people jump on me
I had every child abuse you could name perpetrated upon me, left the family cut them all off
NO MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES AT ALL
Was in an extremely violent abusive relationship that ended in him trying to murder myself our 2 children in a vicious knife attack NO MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES
I'm not an exception either
There are many like me which is why we need tell people our stories
Of surviving & THRIVING of a human beings STRENGTH how truly self sufficient self healing we truly are.
Dr types tell us the opposite for profit.
My Motto is stay away from Dr types because they'll kill you!
(Dr types also know how easily humans are manipulated by the Power of suggestion from a trusted source is & they use it against us all. Example you trust Drs we are taught to, so you BELIEVE everything they suggest to you without questioning it, you then believe what they tell you about you, you then become exactly as they're suggesting/telling you that you are, that's manipulating you for profits) 😮
You share a powerful message, but in the end people do need others, not to heal them or save them, but for genuine warmth and connection.
I have felt starved of connection, because I often seem to attract takers and controlling individuals and it is hell. I prefer being on my own, I just wish I knew how to find the right people. I feel like it would help my mental state too.
I agree with both. I feel like i am in the inbetween of my old life and a new one. I've disconnected from most people i know and others have passed on. This time spent alone has helped me clear some old beliefs, habits ect. And learn new ones so i can and im trusting that i will eventually meet more genuine people. It's been tough though.
@@laurewinkelmans9501hey you can pray to higher source to reunite you with your soul family or you can ask for a soulmate or a friend like I did when I was alone I asked that I don't want to be alone please help i want a friend who I can laugh and cry with and now I have it just after a month of praying and it's been 2 years since I met her
ive watched plenty of videos regarding nervous system, stress, flight fight, freeze,
this video gives me the most crystal clear explanation ,easy to understand.
That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.
So true. I'm frozen and trying to think my way out isn't working. Off for a good long floor stretching session
I have experienced this freeze as well and last weeks it has been loosing up a little. But yesterday I met my therapist and she lashed out at me two times. She misinterpreted some things I said and instantly got upset. And for me that is a big trigger. She also know how traumatising that is for me when she gets angry, but still she can’t seem to control her feelings.
Yesterday, to avoid conflict, I just had to be the big person in the situation. But it feels terrible that with my history, that I need to take care of my therapist feelings. She have told me that it’s something in me that provoke these behaviours in her. That she only have experienced it with a few people before, so it must be me. Just by writing this here I can feel my body starts to relax and the freeze response starts to let go. 😓
I think she have destroyed my life. (But also helped me with some stuff). But I need therapy and healing so that’s why I’m continuing. And also I have been aware for a time now that she has these traits.
Also yesterday she told me in therapy what I should do ”put your head like that”, ”do that” etc. For me that is traumatising as well. Because I don’t have any boundaries there.
It was the same experience the therapy session last week. Where she started to question my feelings. I have a destructive pattern where I get super arousal and can’t stop myself. And take on too much work etc. But she thought that was something good that I do so much work etc. Although she know I’m on sick leave beacuse I got burned out. She still said over and over again how that is something good and didn’t want to accept when I said how destructive that is for me.
It’s really confusing when your therpist makes everything worse and do things like this. I’m not sure what to do and have already made distance from the therpay with less appointments. But I’m afraid if I leave I won’t find or get any new help.
I think I had to let this out from my chest because I can feel my whole body again relax and different sensations.
She helps me with my trauma in some way, but also she makes my trauma worse.
Thank you for sharing this but I'm very concerned about your therapists behaviour. Therapists should never behave in this way. Best wishes, Teresa.
You deserve a better and healthier therapist. You have nothing to prove by continuing to subject yourself to traumatizing behaviors. Do what is BEST FOR YOU and find someone who can help you from a more professional, balanced and caring perspective. I am sending you peace and healing vibes!☮💓
Please find another therapist. This is not ok.
I understand your desire to keep going with your therapist, maybe your options for alternative therapy are limited but know that it does not sound like a healthy relationship and you'd do well to seek out a new therapist. I had a similar experience with a pyschodynamic therapist who denied me basic comfort like a glass of water during therapy, then guilt tripped me when I asked for one, as well as displaying many other red flags. She tried to tie me down with a 4 session 'notice period' before I left. Well, sod that. Only regret is that I didn't submit a complaint about her. It really affected my trust in therapists haven't felt - I haven't felt confident about finding another therapist since.
Fire her n ask for someone else.
That’s what happened when I saw my exes dating profile. It was the picture of her when we were together on New Years Eve. I literally felt my lungs stop. Have been in a dissociative fog for months. Now that I’ve got some distance I’m feeling the grief. I keep seeing that damn picture in my head. I’ve got a good trauma therapist doing body work and reframing. It was the most painful experience of my life. I would have relived my child abuse a thousand times over if it meant I never had to see that picture. Absolutely crushed me.
I’m sorry to hear what you have been through. I hope your therapist will help you process this. Best wishes, Teresa.
Sorry to hear this, I agree rejection and the abandonment that goes along with it is absolutely crushing!
I am learning more about bpd and codependency as my last go at a relationship we came to realize we had traits of both. What I am getting from it is he being one who suffers from moderate to severe bpd truly does not have the ability to care, and can be very insensitive and mean-which I would consider what your ex did by posting that picture.
Sorry I think I’m going into codependent fix mode.
Can take along time to get over this kind of pain I hope others come into your life that can hear and support u through this.
Hun I'm so sorry how r u now..please seek therapy. Hugs
Is this what happens with anhedonia? I feel like I'm just apathetic with no emotions for years now and it's destroying my life
The freeze response can certainly feel like that. Warm wishes, Teresa.
Hey feeling you, I'm in the same boat, I bet you it is as its one of the things I came across.
Consider trying magic mushroom microdosing
same here! totally!
i feel dead. i can only feel rage, pain and emptiness.
i can't feel "love" anymore. except for my dog. that is all i do the last 5 years. work, take walks with my dog. avoid people. watch youtube. sleep, work. takes walks with my dog..
i isolated myself.
i start shaking when my cell phone rings, knowing i will have to talk. so i started missing calls. one by one. first, i would call back (days later), now i can't even do that.
i just want to be left alone. then again, i need someone. but not...anyone.
i have my "safe space" when i am alone with my dog.
and she is getting older...love her to death...meaning...
i won't be able to get up when she is not here anymore.
anyway, just wanted to say:" i hear you
---> Don-pk2...
@@7h268is that legal in europe? (austria).
🙏🏻
Thank you so much for your channel. I keep coming back on my journey of healing and understanding who I am after a divorce.
Thank you for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Wow! This video is so clear and summarizes very well how unresolved trauma shows up in the nervous system. Thank you so much for this amazing work!
You are so welcome! Thanks for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Best description and explanation of the freeze response and its treatment. Beautiful work. Thank you so much
Thank you for your kind words of support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Excellent teaching aid for anyone considering Somatic Experiencing for trauma, cptsd or ptsd.Recommend doing both top down and bottom up.
That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.
Hello! How are you? Are you doing SE therapy?
Working through this currently.
I find you explain things really well. You hold my attention. Really appreciate your videos.
That’s great to hear, thank you. Best wishes, Teresa.
How to get out of freeze response when you are with a narcissistic spouse?
This was done so well!!!! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much. Best wishes, Teresa.
These videos are very well done, and I appreciate all the work that you are doing to present this information in such an appealing, reassuring, and digestible format. You have a gift. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you very much for your kind words of support. Best wishes, Teresa.
You explain this so well. Thank you.
Thank you so much. Best wishes, Teresa.
Loved this, so simplified and straightforward, tysm!! 👌
Glad it was helpful! Best wishes, Teresa.
Great video. This is exactly the issue I'm dealing with now. Thank you very much. ❤
Thank you. Best wishes, Teresa.
Same here. I ran into TRE. A method to release trauma from your body. Look it up. it might help a bit in your process too.
Amazing video, thank you so much Teresa! ❤
You are so welcome! Best wishes. Teresa.
Thank you for this, beautifully explained. Found it really helpful
Thanks for your lovely feedback. Best wishes, Teresa.
Omg, yesterday I was in therapy and due to some tough stuff we talked about I got freezed, exactly how she described it 😮. I didn't realize I was freezed back then, but now I definitely do after watching this video. This is so helpful thanks 💕
I’m pleased to hear the video is helpful. Best wishes, Teresa.
I think these theories are simple and best explained on these videos thank you so much
Thank you for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Very helpful videos .i hope more people benefit from these wonderful resource
Much grattitude ❤
Thank you for your kind words of support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Thank you for the video! It's really good! ❤
I really enjoyed listening your explanation!
Glad you enjoyed it! Best wishes, Teresa.
Informative video, thank you!
Glad it was helpful! Best wishes, Teresa.
This explains a lot. Thankyou.
You're very welcome! Best wishes, Teresa.
This is a deceptively useful short video
Glad you think so! Best wishes, Teresa.
Amazing video, thank you so much ❤❤❤
Thank you for support. Best wishes, Teresa.
When people are more in touch or aware of the “gut instinct” and the heart it seems this helps too.
We need to adress nutrition, stable blood sugar, ect sometimes also intervention with medicine..*
Your going to need meds in the beginning for sure 😢
@@nicholecornes1915 absolutly, if i dont take them all symptoms come back🥰🙏
This was really interesting. Thank you.
That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.
Besst video I've seen on the freeze response!
Thank you so much. Best wishes, Teresa.
Great explanation, very insightful. I understand this condition a lot better now. Every response is making perfect sense. Thank you so much for this information.🙏👍
Glad it was helpful! Best wishes. Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology 🙏🙏🙏🙏 Your videos are always great...blessings from South Africa. 🤝👍❤
Great video. It gets complicate for those with nervous system issues and long covid/cfs, as the body considers even moderate exercise such as yoga as a threat in itself :(
Absolutely!!
Much appreciated
Amazing-thank you!!!🤍
Thank you too! Best wishes, Teresa.
the slinky is so helpful to understand,does this explain why going the gym seems to help or is it turning your back on the trauma,I struggle with people that lie😢really tired, fed up with building walls
Great job on these videos. They're a good length, the explanations are clear and succint, and editing is excellent. They're perfect for sharing. Well done!
Thank you so much for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Somatic exercises worked for me
great video! thank you
Thanks for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Great video
Glad you enjoyed it. Best wishes, Teresa.
This information goes over most peoples heads . It is in fact very heady information .
Bottom up approach options:
- diaphragmatic breathing
- movement: rhythmic, tapping, stretching, shaking, EMDR (alternate sides), muscle activation, cardio
Can build up gradually for example starting with breathing.
All while being mindful
In addition, use the social engagement system.
Wow this is so goood!
Thank you so much. Best wishes, Teresa.
Yup this is it
Totally upset, and have PTSD and chronically harassed by others. It's not funny but they are amused. Narcissistic group of people. And I m tired of being involved in this unending situation. I can't wait for it to end. They enjoy my suffering. It's obvious. No. Stop. Enough. They don't care. It's all about them.
I used get to stucked in freeze mode when i'm on stage doing stand up comedy. I would lose all of my energy. I would freeze, forget everything, no facial expressions just horrible experiences. Everyone would ask what had gone wrong but including me had no clue. Happened like countless times where i got emotionally destroyed and really lost my confidence about being a comic. I would just get really jealous of people who could be themselves. I really wished i had searched for professional help at that time. Thanks for a great video Teresa.
I'm sorry to hear about your experience, it sounds awful to freeze on stage. Thanks for sharing your experience. Best wishes, Teresa.
I relate, not to the stage freeze but in everyday life. Don’t know that I have ever been out of the freeze zone completely.
Thanks for sharing, not to offer a simple platitude as they make me want to like…but u are not alone!
Thank you for the video. I have a question about the trauma from narcissistic abuse. Which means that trauma still happens especially if you have a narcissistic parent. And leads to fobia for school, fobia for people. I assume a freeze response playing here, blockinf you for opening to people (maybe the Threat system is too dominant?). I would like to ask you how do you look at this and if you have any recommendation for other resources. Thank you.
I'm sorry to hear that you have experienced trauma from Narcissistic abuse. I would recommend the following resources:
The child scapegoat of a narcissistic parent: th-cam.com/video/q6yGaeKfDu8/w-d-xo.html
Self-reparenting for the family scapegoat: th-cam.com/video/k9Ngg1nIrE4/w-d-xo.html
The three emotion regulation systems: th-cam.com/video/HX2N9Z6KKI8/w-d-xo.html
I hope the above videos help. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology thank you Teresa. Really appreciated. Best wishes.
Hi, can you tell me what therapy is the best for CPTSD? Thank you for your help
EMDR is excellent. Alternatively psychotherapy with a trauma informed therapist. Best wishes. Teresa.
This is what I'm currently going through, and it's worse whenever I stumble into a random argument with my narcissistic father. I'm 18 now and I grew up with his running mouth. I don't have money for therapy, so I just use remedies to see what I can do about the freezing response and so far nothing has helped. I appreciate this video, it gives aknowledgement to my anxiety so thank you. Any recommendations what I should do to stop the triggers and let him control me?
I'm so sorry to hear about your situation and I'm pleased to hear my video is helpful. I'm unable to give individual advice via TH-cam but if you are in the UK you may want to go to your GP and ask to be placed on the NHS waiting list for psychological therapy. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology I live in the US but there is online group therapy sessions that I found. I'll try those out instead, but thank you
You will be alright, kid. You're doing exactly what you should be doing. Good work, kiddo!
@@Aria__1700How is the online group therapy going?
Is it open to anyone, where does one find it?
Thank u!
wish you the best
Im knew to this even though i have been anxious and depressed all my life I am 58 now and I am only begin to understand the the freeze response i am still so wound up have been all my life i am literally on tender hooks at the moment but the funny thing is whenever i hear a piece of therapy that i agree with and the therapist gives advice on how to unlock my freeze response its almost like apart of me wont allow it and I switch off. Im wondering if this is self sabotage.
It's called catatonia. I have had this once.
After losing my Nan (I had to give her cpr and held her in my arms when she had a seizure) I developed pppd. Ever since I'm on edge 24/7 also constant motion feeling in my head.
Sorry to hear that. Warmest wishes, Teresa.
Wtf no wonder I knew I wasn’t tripping
Thank you. I can never get out of my fight, flight, freeze response. Honestly, When I am in Freeze, I can not move, let alone do yoga..
Thanks for your comment. There are many bottom up approaches so you might find it helpful to work with a trauma informed or somatic therapist. Best wishes, Teresa.
I lost 2 family members, one of them my mum, in a 2 months space. Was 7 months ago but i am still on freeze mode. Anxiety attacks that last for 2 hours palpitations. And always alert for something bad is going happen…
I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. Sending you my sincere condolences. Warm wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology thank you, very hard. A cousin with 41 years old, 4 small kids and my mum 2 months after and i was the care taker of both. Doing therapy and EMDR. Feel stuck on alert mode and anxiety sometimes strikes hard
Grief is hard!
It takes a lot of time, be kind to yourself. ❤
@@martamegreSorry to hear about the double loss. Be kind to yourself, feel the feels pray u have others in your life that can hear and comfort u along the way. Just as Jon did in the video makes all the difference on the world.
Massage or hugging maybe helpful. Pysical touch.
Great suggestion! Best wishes. Teresa.
Super ❤️ جميل
I had a very traumatic experience and experienced this freeze response. It took me a long time to come out of it and i did when someone was trying to comfort me but then the reoccuring flashes of the event sent me back and i could get out again. Everything you describes happened to me. The out of body experience. The inability to communocate or to respond to verbal communication. It took me a few days and then a few weeks to get out of it and then i had to deal with afterwards with what had happened. I hate this response because if something bad happens again I dont want to freeze i want to move and act so i can protect those i need too. Is there a way to not freeze and just have the fight or flight response. 😢
I’m so sorry to hear what you have been through. Unfortunately we have not control over how we react (fight, flight or freeze). Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology do you know why our minds chooses these responses. I am an infp personality type 6 w 7. Does this have anything to do with why I respond the way I do? Sorry I am very curious about psychology and the human mind and want to better understand why I'm the way I am.
What about severe trauma since age of 3?
Judith Herman [Trauma and Recovery] coined the akronym C-PTSD. Penetrating a gallery of traumatic incidents must most usually be an inside job?
Working with a gallery of traumatic incidents you would certainly work 'bottom up' (as per this video) and only then will a 'top down' approach be effective. I've had amazing results using EMDR. Best wishes, Teresa.
what do i do if even spending energy on my hobbies or light movement is difficult?
I’ve recently had a medical trauma which is why I haven’t been on TH-cam for six months. Something that helped me tremendously was gentle swaying and spontaneous movement. Sounds strange but it was very releasing and provoked a lot of deep sobbing. It really took me out of a frozen state. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology thank you
What about extreme trauma since age 2 weeks? Have been in freeze response the last 4 years : cannot sleep no more, tinnitus is killing me, always in bed, just get out to get food. ( 71 yrs old )
I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through. Have you had any therapy for this? There are therapists out there that can help with this. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology I’ve had tons of therapy, am trained to be a therapist myself. 👀 As I’m a HSP/psychic/empath trauma/CPTSD has had an enormous impact. 🤮 It’s a miracle I did not end up crazy, or with some personality disorder! ( I guess I must be really strong ). But because of being totally abandoned/discarded as a baby I’ve got the belief “There’s no help/nobody for me”, which of course is’nt very helpful now. Pureblood: no drugs, no vaccine, no medication. I will overcome. 🤩
Hi, why did the nervous systems of those men react differently? Is it genetic?
Thats a great question. It can actually be many factors such as genetics, inflammation, lifestyle (stress, lack of sleep, poor diet etc), life experiences, lack of social engagement and past trauma. Usually it a combination of these factors at play. I hope this answers your question. Best wishes, Teresa.
EMDR is a life saver. Guys plz try it :)
It really is. Best wishes, Teresa.
Do you have any videos on the reasons/cure for hapephobia? It makes me freeze when people touch me or try to hug me - even family, but especially women. I am uncomfortable around women because I always feel like they are judging me, and judging me unfavourably 😢
I haven’t covered that in any videos. Best wishes, Teresa.
Can you explain this to my (ex) girlfriend too? :)
She doesnt understand what happens. And puts even more blaim on me for not communicating correctly to her.
I felt like a rush i am not sure like a bad adrenaline in both my legs so bad i pannic ..i was like what the like i froze and i got nausea
I was 10 years old when I got bit by a dog in the face… because it caused severe trauma anytime I hear a dog growl I get scared I freeze I can’t help it. Sometimes I scream if it’s a dogfight or a tiff between two dogs I can’t help it. It’s a trauma reaction and I don’t even know I’m doing it. I’m 63 and it still triggers me when I hear a dog growl or snap, add another dog
Sending you my best wishes. Teresa.
I think my system is locked into freeze mode and I cannot seem to access release Grief, lost my mother in March of this year 2023 then now the last few days had to rehome my only companion my dear cat, I am now feel ill all day long, hard to explain I also have gallbladder liver stuff, I feel absolutely stuck and its hell........nothing seems to get me out of this state. professional help is not available in uk and I cannot afford help? I don't have the energy to be around people, the mostly are not emotionally aware they would not have a clue of how I am feeling. I am wondering how long I can continue, this is way to straining on my system. I am so alone.
I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. I also live in the UK and you can get a referral to free NHS counselling via your GP. Free counselling is also available at charities such as Mind and Cruse Bereavement Care. I hope this helps. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology thank you very much would this help though with FREEZE mode? My GP's surgery are so busy and its hard to get help when you need it. thank you
I think the key is having a trauma informed therapist. Best wishes, Teresa.
You are not alone I too am stuck and have been for months now I don't see how I can get out of this I'm frozen and can't seem to rip myself out of it I believe it's from living with trauma my whole life..Stay strong and know this is not your fault❤
I have found a potential resource not sure though if I can post the link here? there used to be a way to send messages to people on YT directly?@@kemifoulks5599
This video is five years phd degree worth tens of thousands of dollars simplified because it is true.
Wow, thank you so much for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.
Sometimes I can sleep.other times no°
I am so frozen at the moment..
I’m sorry to hear that. Warm wishes, Teresa.
What kind of therapist to look for ?
I offer therapy services. Please view my website, Lewis Psychology. Link in the description. Best wishes, Teresa.
ugh i do wish someone, anyone, would actually want to talk to me
I’m sorry to hear that. Sending you my warmest wishes, Teresa 💐
So closeness with someone else cures terrors ?
It can help tremendously. Best wishes, Teresa.
I wonder if psychedelic mushrooms would help to get out of it
Maybe. I agree they hold much potential. Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology The thing is, I have tinnitus too. Tinnitus to me is a loophole in my brain. Mushrooms tend to lay new patterns in the brain, so could be helpfull. Microdose could be a start
I haven't witnessed anything like your suggesting but I have been. In other types of trama experiences an now have ptsd I've had loss 2 ppl I loved dearly gone
I'm really sorry to hear about your losses. Warm wishes, Teresa.