My worst fat kid moment was when I was a senior in high school, I was waiting to go into an assembly with the rest of my performing arts group and I had a tight-fitting shirt on and a girl across the hallway asked if I was pregnant. It was possibly one of the last times I ever felt bad about my body, because my director took me into the next room and put her hands on my shoulders and said, "You're fat. So what? You are a beautiful, beautiful girl. You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful. Stop thinking that." And that will always stay with me.
That guy is just a troll, probably upset with his own chubs & is mad that you love yourself when he can't, don't let him bother you. What she said was great advice! & it's something a lot of kids need to hear!
MrBossmedia Way to assume shit. I'll have you know I am very healthy. I exercise, I eat healthy, every doctor's visit they tell me how spot-on perfect my blood pressure is, how healthy my heart is, every blood test they remark on my good cholesterol. I'm fat; that doesn't mean I'm unhealthy. I'm fat; that doesn't mean I'm ugly. I'm fat; that doesn't mean you get to judge me for how I look.
my best friend is naturally skinny. i am the fat kid, yet if we're watching tv and a fat person comes on she makes fun of them. i just think "if we weren't friends, what would you say about me?"
I think when you're chubby when you're little or as a teenager, or still are, it does make you more shy. I don't remember wearing anything just because I /wanted/ to wear it, I wore it because it covered up the parts of me I wanted to hide.
i lost like 15kg in a year (not purposely) and then people started calling me a stick but when i was fat they called me a barrel :)))) will :))) i :))) ever :))) be :))) free :))
I'm a former fat kid, and yet I have no sympathy for those who are fat. I'm sorry people say you are fat and call you ugly, but it is true. Fat isn't attractive. That is something we as people can't control. I know that I sound like an asshole, but the only person you are likely to end up with some creepy chubby chaser, unless you lose weight. It isn't easy, of course it is isn't, but is possible. (except for the 12 percent of the U.S. population with thyroid problems) I'm not going to say i'm attracted to something I'm not.
I kinda disagree. Sometimes other people like each other for the personalities instead of their looks. But I also agree cause more and more people these days *cough cough mostly teens judge people by their looks.
Lets all agree that just because you're not attracted to something/someone doesn't mean that such is ugly, that is a hateful mentality that leads to constant ridicule of self and others, a person should be happy in their skin and if they want to lose wait then go for it and if they don't that's fine too but this mentality of losing weight/being small is the high of beauty is stupid and superficial. We as a society think and value a size and weight way too much as the goal of beauty leaving many insecure , hurt, and even mentally and physically hurt, especially our youth. Y'all need to love yourself regardless of some numbers and sizes and if you want to lose weight for very healthy and positive reasons then do you.
you'd be surprised at guys who are super good looking or like lift weights and i've seen them with girls who are big but the difference is they're confident with what they got and dont care but if you're not happy or eventually want to change its your decision. You dont know what you're sayng if its not your preference then that's you but not everyone else even if you were overweight then and not now. Its just like short skinny girls with big tall guys or big girls with bulky guys or whatever but everyone finds someone through personality and how they make them feel. Majority of people have grown to find confidence in themselves or changed what they don't like eventually at their own time.
I used to be chubby. Probably not fat, but definitely chubby. A family member would constantly comment on what I was eating and tell me that I shouldn't eat things because I'll get fat, but in a way that implied "fatter" instead of "fat." She would way overestimate my size to other family members when they asked for clothing sizes, so I got things that were way too big that she couldn't have realistically thought fit me. It wrecked my self-esteem and even though the comments stopped, I've been building my confidence in my physical appearance and even my confidence in my independence and ability to do things ever since. It's better now, but there are still issues I have from it. I can only imagine someone who happened to be bigger than me and what people said. Really, the comments are the things that cut the deepest, even if you mean no harm.
chea kim Thank you so much for clearing that up for me. I really appreciate it, you insensitive jerk. Think to yourself. Did you really need to go out of your way to post a reply that implies I'm ignorant and that ignores the main point of my comment and that insults me rolled into one? Did you really? Because I would argue that you did not. By chubby, I mean that I was a healthy body weight, but I have wide shoulders and a naturally more curvy build. That's what I meant by chubby. But thank you for adding your two cents in so condescendingly after I just said in my post that comments are the things that can hurt the most, even if they aren't intended to. Congrats.
When I was younger in elementary school. My mom told me that I shouldn't wear skinny jeans because it didn't flatter me because I wasn't that skinny. That stuck with me and I still say it in my head every time I put on skinny jeans and it makes me really self conscious. It led to me being really self conscious in middle school and that led to me developing an eating disorder in 6th grade. I am recovered now, but it still sticks with me. So if you're a parent make sure you tell your kids that they're beautiful or handsome. Don't just point out their flaws. Make sure they love themselves.
I was with my sister and we were using the scale and guessed eachothers weight she's 9 and I guessed 50 to be nice and she's actually 75 and she's very jealous if me because she said I look like I was 70 but I'm apparently 100. I feel so bad for her.😁😁😁
I know my parents will tell me if I get too much fat on my body. Usually when people are in high school (in my country) they start going to parties, drink alcohol and eat a lot of fast food. When they stop working out too, they just gain weight. So.. I think my parents will tell me and help me if it happens to me.
I used to be fat, but nobody ever insulted me. It was when I was skinny that people would insult me. I used to get called twiggy, say I looked like a stick, do I eat enough, people would ask if my parents starved me etc. I actually made it my goal to gain 35 pounds because of what ppl were saying. After I gained weight, I felt terrible. Nobody would insult me, but I felt unfit. I couldn't run as fast, I couldn't do the things I used to be able to do. I had no energy. I wanted to lose weight but people would still say "you need to gain" or "you are fine, look at me, I am bigger". I moved to Japan and I lost all that weight and feel much better now. I mostly feel better because in Japan its normal to be skinny, and people wont shame you for it. People need to stop insulting each other and start enjoying life together.
When I was little I was the chubby sister but now Im older my body changed ... It affected me emotionally that people and my own family called me meatball...ironically now I'm the curvy one with the sexy body . ! Im suscribed to you btw ! Love Japan
Ironically, back when I was skinny, no one would insult me. But once I started to gain weight the barrage of comments started to fly all around me because of my weight. It's funny how you say that people should stop insulting each other, yet you moved all the way to Japan to accept your skinniness. Nothing changed. You didn't change. You don't accept yourself otherwise you wouldn't feel terrible about gaining weight.
The scary thing is that growing up, from the age of about 5, I always thought of myself as the fat kid. I went on a starvation diet when I was 7. I hated sitting down because I thought it made my thigh fat spread out. But looking back at pictures of myself from 5-15, I wasn't fat at all. I wouldn't even call myself chubby. I was very small, very petite. But I saw myself as fat, and because of that, I eventually started thinking "well I'm already fat, so who cares if I binge on all this food and never exercise and never touch a vegetable." Ever since I was 16, I started putting on weight and now at 19 I actually AM overweight. It's just sad because if I had never gotten the idea that I'm fat in my head when I was actually a thin child, I probably never would have suffered with such low self esteem all my life and I probably wouldn't be having such a hard time controlling my weight in my late teens.
Wow your story sounds almost exactly like mine. I also had the fear of thighs spreading when i sat down. I started dieting around 8 even though i was skinny. I hated running because i was afraid my fat would jiggle. I was about 6 when i started wantin to lose weight.
God, this takes me back. I've been fat shamed a lot. But fortunately, I love to prove people wrong and I lost the weight while gaining muscle from boxing.
MrVolcomclassic It comes back to haunt me once in a while; I actually still get nightmares from the dark ages. Despite how fit I am, the mentality will always stay around in some degree, but all we former fat kids can do is just adapt and shove it aside.
I'm in that category where I'm not obese but I'm not thin, overweight basically. I've lost 14 pounds tho in about a two months through boxing, kick boxing, and wrestling. I'm planning to get to my goal and its awesome to hear that it is possible :)
Great work! And yes, through a balanced diet and boxing and jogging, I lost 40 pounds and reached my weight loss goal! I wish you luck on your journey.
Things they forgot to mention: Sucking in your belly at the swimming pool when at school swimming so people don't see your tummy Sitting with the tips of your toes on the ground so your thighs don't spread out and get all gross Disliking running because you could feel the fat jiggling around Hating having to work out/exercise in front of others because of how unfit you are and how bad you look while doing it Constantly weighing yourself Trying to act like it doesn't matter when you buy size 2 jeans and your parents are like "but shouldn't you be a size 0"
If you were the fat kid in the group once, even after you lose weight it remains like a trauma. You're permanently self conscious, as and when there's someone really skinny you can't help but compare sizes, or body shapes and stuff like that. And when you gain a couple pounds after a holiday or smth, man, it's childhood all over again and that's not nice. The struggle of my life tbh.
Shøøk! at the Disco yeah I know I'm not fat but I'm still insecure about my weight. Someone said I think you should get the next size up and they didn't have it
Shøøk! at the Disco not the only one i cant when i ask my parents and ask them to zip up my dress or something and if it doesnt my parents immediately goes and say u need to loose weight i literally cried like when they said that... i cant wear leggings or pants with a t shirt or a crop my coat or sweater has to be a certain length or else i would wear skirts or leggings with shorts to go outside....
I really hope one day I can overcome the feeling of embarrassment of my body and become stronger and more confident like these people. It's true though, all the comments stay with you
You will. Once you will realise that you are who you are and that YOU are beautiful. Comments sucks,I know that too but the feeling when u are finally confident and smile at them is going to happen. It's all in your mind and I believe in you.
if you're reading this and you're overweight, please think about this quote: "you have two options, sit around and feel sorry for yourself, or get up and do something about it". I've struggled with my weight my entire life, and I've decided to make a change. I hope this inspires someone ❤️
Kiki Valenzuela I'm 6 ft and 270 lbs bbut that is not my problem I hate myself because i am not great in school everyone treats me like i am a idiot counts me out of everything Have you any idea how it feels to have everyone treat you like your stupid 24/7 and the closest thing to a compliment you ever get is someone telling you they don't like you not because you are fat but they just think you are a dumbass
MLG Kitteh But it is true that if you aren't as smart, you won't become as successful. Awoken Dreams X9 Don't feel bad about it, do something to change it.
Ethan Ma Holy balls everybody i am around measure my inteligenice ? i spelled it right ? Eah but they measure it from my math skill LMFAO Yeah.......i'm the stupid brutally honest usually funny entertaining........or so i am told
LegoTechPlane sure when it's really bad but being skunny is also not immediately a problem, i mean you should be confident whatever you look like but some people can't because of those nasty comments :]
I didnt hate shopping with my family because of my size. I hated it because I would repeatedly have my opinion of style ignored, yelled at constantly in public, and have my mental stability insulted because of the littlest things.
I remember being in second grade and being teased about my weight and one day in front of the whole class the girl that would always tease me lost her 6 inch subway sandwich and told the whole class that I ate it and by the end of the year she began to gain weight and was chubbier then me and everyone began to make fun of her and then I lost my turkey sandwich and said she ate it but I never lost it I just wanted do say that because she hurt me and I don't regret eating her sandwich earlier that year
AngelynnKitty Ya, it's sick isn't it?! For example the second woman... I though "Hu? Where the hell was she fat?" and then I heard her telling about the skinny jeans comment of her mother, I believe, and was SO shocked. I for myself was also fat-shamed in early stages of my life, and now when I look back at fotos I'm like "WTF?! Why did you bully me that much for being fat, if I CLEARLY wasn't fat at all as a kid!" It's ridiculous how distorted our society is.
I was chubby as a child (many just called it 'baby fat' though I disagreed), and when I went to middle school I'd see all these pretty and skinny girls so I stopped eating and tried working out. I got skinny but super unhealthy to the point where I fainted in class because I'd gone 4 days with only drinking water because I'd give my lunch away and throw my dinner away. I learned the hard way that you should try to get healthier by eating right and exercising. I'm now a size 4 and still insecure about my weight, I don't think I'll ever grow out of it, and that's just a sad fact in life.
If you're eating healthy and excercising regularly, you're healthy (: only listen to your doctor for medical advice. You don't have to be stick thin to be healthy
I know what that guy was talking about with the whole white t shirt thing. I went to a summer camp a couple of months ago, and everyone had to swim.I didn't want anyone to see my jelly rolls, so I put on a 3x shirt and a pair of pants, and then I went into the water. I was the only one who did that, and I was so embarrassed. Also, one time when I was at the mall, my mom made me go into Hollister. I told her they only had clothes for skinny people but she made me look anyway. The biggest size there was 5. One of the workers came up to me and my mom and said that I was too big for any of the clothes there. We went to other stores that were made for skinny people and my mom wanted me to get stuff I knew I couldn't fit. That was the most humiliating experience of my life.I just hate how clothing stores are basically for one body type, which is slim.
My mom is always buying things that are too small for me, and I tell her ''I'm not going to wear that, It's too small.'' And she says ''Well then you need to loose weigth. Because you are not not wearing a bigger size. She is always embarrassing me in front of my friends. She goes ''Oh your so thin, That's how you should be.''(referring to me) So I know how you feel.
I was volunteering at a food drive and a woman was carrying a heavy box. I went to help her and she said "Oh no, you're much too pregnant, aren't you?" ... I was sixteen.
Its also funny how different cultures view "fat". I have a Korean Grandmother and a Ukrainian/Polish Grandmother. My Korean Grandma says I am fat. And my Ukrainian/Polish grandmother wants to force feed me perogies and drag me to a eating disorder clinic. In the end you just gotta love yourself.
I was fat at a younger age. I was 5'4 and wore a size 16-18 in jeans and a xl shirt. It fucking sucked while I was in middle school. My parents used to try and be all comforting and say I'm not fat, but it wasn't normal. I then took the courage and joined every sport possible and lost a good amount of weight. Still chubby (13-14 jeans, Large shirt) I took it to another level and went vegetarian ( then vegan for a month) and got to a decent size. I had lost quite a bit more weight. I am now 5'7.5 a size 11-9 jeans, and Medium shirt in highschool. I couldn't be more comfortable. ✌✌
Lol my parents were the exact opposite. They told me to lose weight and be more like my younger sister, and said nobody would want me if im fat. They pretty much say "You're fat" to me almost everyday. Made me not wana lose weight at all.
Is it weird that some skinny people turn fat when they are older and some chubby people turn skinny [EDIT - 2/26/17- Wow this comment got lots of feedback and likes o.o]
+Cookie Kawaii it happened to me lol i was like overweight and chubby and really tan but the next year i became paler, skinny, and tall but i'm still self conscious asf. when i was overweight my mom would always say comments and when i was chubby i was in like fifth grade and she said that i should go on a diet and small things like that; they affect me so much because i'll still look in the mirror and hear her words repeat in my mind *over and over* again. but now she says i'm too skinny, i'm gonna get sick, and i need to eat more. she gives me extra food and if i don't want to eat she says that i'm too skinny and says she's gonna buy me vitamins. i am not too skinny, i'm freaking healthy, so stop saying that i am. i do actually eat, mom, thanks so much for making me feel like if i'm skinny it's wrong but if i'm not skinny it's wrong. i hate it so much.
+Cookie Kawaii Ive always been skinny and despised it. Ive always thought it harder for me to gain more muscle than for a chubby person even when I try. Only reason why im self conscious
i hated trying on clothes (still kinda do) but I wanted to look good and that was always hard... so I stuck with T-shirts and jeans for the majority of my life and when dresses were required it would be the most dreadful time... or when we had to change with other people
I relate so much. I love fashion and dresses, but once I get it on I’m too self conscious to go in public with it. So I just end up wearing jeans sneakers and a sweatshirt
Ive always been very self conscious about myself. Im ugly. I have a unibrow and visible peach fuzz above my upper lip. I have fat cheeks and a small face. My relatives think im older than my fifteen year old brother ( im twelve). Im way too tall. My height is 5"6. As the tallest girl in my grade, i have to look down on everybody. Nobody on my soccer team is taller than my shoulder. And my weight bothers me a lot. Im 123 lbs. Im too afraid to allow anybody to pick me up or give me a piggyback ride. Nobody has told me im beautiful. Nobody has told me that someday i will do something amazing. Nobody has told me to have confidence in myself (well maybe my mom but that doesnt count). And i have just spilled my feelings on a pointless youtube comment that nobody will pay attention to.
+anni wu If your height bothers you so much, the boys in your class will start growing soon and then they'll be taller than you. I'm the same height as you and about 45lbs heavier than you, so I wouldn't panic about your weight. Girls tend to gather puppy fat before puberty and then the fat is redistributed around the body as girly curves. You're most likely in for a few years of being insecure about your body. It's not fun, but pretty much everyone goes through it. Be careful you don't pluck your eyebrows too much though, it is possible to make them too thin. People don't usually tell other people that they'll do something amazing. You'd be surprised how self absorbed people are. There's absolutely no reason why you can't do something amazing though. What do you enjoy doing? What hobbies do you have? What are you thinking of working as when you grow up? You need to decide what amazing things you're going to do with your life, get out there and do them.
Aye Anni, all those things you've mentioned, its ok! You're not ugly. Everyone is beautiful. That's probably not the best thing to say, but its true. And honestly you're only 12, you have so much change in front of your self, heck for all anyone knows you could get to be 18 and become a super model. Main point, don't give up and think of your self as ugly, because you aren't.
I always think when I am eating,''am I fat?'' And when I am at school I try acting like I don't seem as fat. I always take my clothes off when I am going to bed and rub my belly and squish it and say ''Well,you do have some fat''I don't like gym because I don't eat breakfast anyways. I always starve. And I always eat little amounts because the lunch food tastes like a load of crap. I was never perfect,ever since the day I was born. Everyone has some kind heart and rage inside them. I love my body,but hate it at the same time because of how imperfect I am and at the end of the day I think,''the future is ahead of me,cause life is too short to be worrying of obesity.
hey sweetheart, don't worry. everyone has their own beauty and their own imperfections. do your own thing and forget what others say about you, even if it hurts alot! i suggest you find a hobby or begin doing SOMETHING you really like! i taught myself how to skate and even though it took almost 2 years to learn, it is my FAVORITE thing in the whole world, and it made e so much more confident in myself. everyone should have their own special "thing" that they do. from painting, poetry, running, writing, whatever! do something you enjoy and you will see will become really good at it!
Do not even feel bad, girl u perf the wAy u are. Believe it once wore heels to a party and I WAS TALLER THEN EVERYBody... I'm usually taller than most kids in my class but, it was awkward. Be happy about your body I'm 5'2 and 72 pounds, and I'm 11. Personality is flawless 👌👌👌
I had short hair at the time and unless I have a feminine face or body it would be difficult for him to confuse me for a girl considering my real name can't really be used for a girl xD
my whole family kept telling stop pushing your belly inside. saying why are you so fat etc. when at school none of the kids made fun of my weight. and a couple of years ago when i look at old pics. i saw that i wasnt even in the chubby category. but somehow it all fell apart. tell someone long enough who they are. they'll believe it and accept it. and ruin their lives forever
+Izaak Wever This is so accurate. For some reason, family can make you feel so terrible about yourself. I weigh 100 pounds more than I did in high school now but since I stopped speaking to my family, I realize I felt way worse about my weight then, when I was involved in sports and still an athlete. I hate that about them.
i can only agree. you start to believe them and my coping measure was eating more and thanks to genetics i gain it fast. doing sports, even more than my "skinnier" siblings didn't help because i was still "fatter" then them and in their mind unfitter, which wasn't true. i'm nearly 30 and i worked hard, i'll never be skinny, bcause even if i am skinny i'd never recognize it because i'll always feel and see myself as the fatty one. sad and it's sadder not to be the only one!
Getting on the scale isn't the worst part. I'm 14 and the fattest guy in my class. Gym really sucks because we run most of the time. When we do weightlifting then I dominate everybody else by a long shot, but when we have to run then I'm in the back after only a few minutes and I hate it so much seeing how bad I am compared to others.
Natalie Waffler I hated that, I was fit in high school but weighed more than most of the girls (I was a water polo player and on swim) so I was called fat even though I worked out about 7-8 hrs per weekday and could lift or bench my friends body weight.
When i was about 9 or 10 years old, i was a bit fat and i used to get teased so much for being fat even by my siblings and aunts and literally everyone asked me to walk while holding my breath so that my belly doesn't stick out. But then puberty came, and everything just changed! I lost a lot of weight, got a bit taller and looked pretty slender. Then the same people who used to taunt me then advice me to gain weight, called me anorexic and what not! Seriously i then just realized that i shouldn't give a damn because people are always gonna find faults in you no matter what you look like :/
Samantha Reagan haha, yes you should be. It's the most amazing transformation of a little girl to a beautiful lady. During puberty, there's a hormone estrogen released which makes a girl much prettier, attractive and slender. Though, puberty comes with it's own baggage. You have to deal with periods, acne, body hair etc. You'll feel like hell but it settles down , you get used to it as time passes. I hit puberty pretty early like at 10 yrs of age and dealing with periods was a nightmare. But then i used to it and it doesn't bother me at all! How old are you though?
Leah O Connell im swiss and i got bullied for being chubby (i looked like allison). I lost weight and when i turned 18 i visited the us and suddenly, the weight and fat percentage that is considered fat in my country becomes okay. I was like, damn, here i wouldn't have been bullied badly
Ana Lee same here. i think going skinny kid to fat adult is worse because you can actually remember every stage along the way, so we have all that self conscious bullcrap to deal with AND a lifetime of regret
Ana Lee I am too, but strangely enough, I don't feel too bad about it. Like my brain doesn't remember that I'm actually an overweight person right now until I see myself in the mirror or until I try to clip my toenails and my tummy gets in the way, haha. The weirder thing is that when I was thinner, I was seriously more self conscious of my body... as in "Oh god, is that a tummy starting to form?? NO!!!" But now it's like, "Heck, yeah, it is what it is," and I'll just go on with whatever I'm doing. I don't even get offended when people ask me about it, as in I've been asked, "What happened to you?" And it's just funny to see their reactions when they realize they've "offended" me when really, they haven't. :D
I wasn't a fat kid but I was hideous... like everyone thinks they were ugly as a kid but my face took it to a whole other level. I am a girl and unfortunately hairy so my "eyebrow" not eyebrows, look up my face and I had extremely noticeable peach fuzz above my lip and crazy sideburns. My mom didn't let me shave my legs or armpits so I hated wearing shorts or tank tops in the summer. It was so embarrassing and I was bullied as a kid and had like 5 friends... maybe only one that liked me. But now I don't look like that but I am still sooo self conscious and always think I look horrible with makeup or any clothes I wear and think I look like a man.
The worst experience of be a overweight teenage is the Prom Dress my boyfriend and i went together to buy it and the women on the shop said that it was cute that my brother come with me after that they only have like 3 dress I was so mad and humiliated that i start crying and my boyfriend asked to his grandma to make me the perfect dress. I love that dress
A girl that used to tease me in middle school about my weight is now in the position I was in, and I lost the weight. To this day, I laugh and think about how the tables turned.
It's so sad that me and other people have to go on a strict diet at a young age. It's so embarrassing and all my other friends have high metabolism when I have low metabolism and I'm huge and it's so embarassing! I can't wear a bikini because I don't want anyone to see my stomach.😢😢 who else feels me??
I'm kinda....medium little smaller depending the store but I went vegetarian cause I used to be a size large. I have very very low self-confidence. So as I slowly grow older I keep trying to lose weight and I have slowly gained depression cause of it all. My friends don't call me fat but my doctor says I am and so do I. So I'm gonna keep calling myself fat. Also I can't wear a bikini cause I feel people would call me fat cause I have some fat on my stomach I mean it's not that much, but it's still fat. I don't trust humans enough to no judge me. It's just the way I am.
We all have our stories I'll tell u mines too. I'm still in high school right now and growing up as a kid I was average but for some reason everyone in my family kept telling me your fat your soo fat u need to loose weight. I was told that since the day I was born. So I guess is just stuck in my head and I ate and ate and now I'm a 15 year old that is 5 foot 3 and my weight is 170. I guess I had to prove them right. And to this day it just got worse everytime I go shoppin or someone gives me clothes as a gift my mom and my sister would comment saying are y p u sure that will ever fit you and it just hurts to have your own mother think nothing will ever fit you. It just tears me apart everytime someone comments about my weight.
I know how you feel, from that I was about 6 until I was 15 I got picked on so many times for being fat. Now I'm pretty average but I still remember the pain it brought me.
Poor thing :( I hope things are better. My brother gets comments about being big and I get comments about being small, so I guess I've heard both sides of the story. It's not fun. :/
I didn't think anyone else went through the same thing as I did. I also sabotaged myself and gained tons of weight and I felt so ugly and hopeless that I went on a water fast for two weeks and got very thin. Yet my mom still wasn't happy and she encouraged me to be even thinner. I went on the water fast as a rebellious act, like see how much you hurt me. You wanted me to lose weight so now I'm going to starve myself. But it had the opposite effect and even though I lost a lot of weight I could never be that beautiful slim and slender person she wanted me to be. My body even if I lose more weight would never look slender because that's just my body. And sometimes passing by someone 3 sizes smaller she would comment if you were that thin you would be pretty. And that has always hurt me. I feel self conscious like someone is always looking at me and that I'm never thin enough. I'm not that much older than you either I'm 16 and your comment made me feel better because someone else understands the pain of having parents obsess over looks out of "love"
I totally relate to you, fifteen and the same story as you (exceot for height and weight) I always thought I was fat because my family always and still does call me fat and only do I look back now, in 6th grade I was skinny but I didn't realize that until now when I'm actually overweight, just yesterday my mom was looking through old pictures and she points out one and says "hey look! You we're skinny here" hurts that she realizes it now when the damage is done. Oh and it's worse constantly being compared to my older pretty and petite sister, sighhhhh life sucks sometimes.
I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT I THINK IT MAY HELP YOU A BIT I use to hate that people thought that it's so easy for me to just loose weight but in my case it's always a bit shame full and almost embarrassing. I went to the gym a couple times with my friends and every time I went people assumed it was my first time there and even crack jokes to my face. I am VERY quick at the mouth so I'd often shut them down but it honestly really did hurt and made me feel self conscience working out in public. I've been over weight all my life and I can understand just how words can truly hurt you but I found out many years ago that words unlike stones, can only hurt you as much as you let them. I remember a guy who sang in the choir with me made jokes about me being fat it was IT lol I just stood up and looked in his face and said yes.... I am fat.. and I could spare a few pounds.. This is something anyone can see about me and because of that you might win a race before me but I'm sure on several other levels including singing not only in my range but YOUR range, writing, playing instruments, dressing, and acting.... I'd beat the shit out of you hands down. He fell quiet.. and so did everyone else because they knew it was true. You should never let others dictate your emotions and or discourage you from your dreams no matter what rather people are talking about you because of your appearance, disability, or even intelligence because if you do that you have no power and it's not your life anymore it's theirs and the words of mother RuPaul if you don't love yourself how in the hell can you love somebody else!? Find something, one thing that you love about yourself and I promise you after a while you will love every inch of yourself. and I'm not saying I don't hate parts of my body but I will say that I AM beautiful and theirs no a soul who can make me feel like I'm not. One day I may loose weight but you know I don't think the worlds ready enough for such a sickening creature lol!
I used to be really obese, I had like 50 extra pounds in my body at 13 y.o. Then I had anorexia (luckily it only lasted like a year; I started taking care of myself when I started fainting and feeling too weak all the time) and slimmed under my ideal weight. Nowadays I'm like two pounds overweight but I'm eating healthy and life is definitely easier. People treat me way better ever since, and I found love pretty quickly. When I was fat, no one wanted anything to do with me.
***** well honestly I became truly worried after fainting so much, like, you have to let this sink in: the consecuences of having anorexia could hunt you FOREVER, because you're damaging your body and it might never recover. So I'd say: take some time to really imagine how you're destroying yourself and how you might want to take it back one day and you simply won't be able to. That's what panicked me at least. I'd say think HARD about that.
I was the loser fat kid who nobody bothered to say hello..but there was this kid in primary school and his words sticked to me. "You're not fat. To me, you are very pretty" and apparently my all of my female friends had a tiny crush on him. So did I. ... Years later, I realized what I've done to my body and start taking care of my body. Now I'm the "skinny popular one" that everyone likes...I've gotten nominated by my school's principle to be "Ms. Role model" cause unlike those bitches in primary school who treated me like shit, I've actually invited "fat wannabes" to places I go with my "popular" friends. And apparently I saved a boy's life from suicide. That made me feel happy. ... In the summer, my boyfriend (that kid..) and I plan to volunteer in the nearest "fat camp" to help kids see that they are beautiful. BE HAPPY GUYS WHO CARES!
I'm 15 and I'm really not fat just a little bit (that's what I feel) but in past few years my parents and everyone started calling me fatso.... I became really depressed and hated myself so i got on a crash diet but soon after I realised its my body I gotta love it. Now I try to work out and eat healthy every day but still somewhere in my heart I hv that feeling of being scared of getting fat.
I know how you feel. I'm 13, but I don't consider myself as skinny or fat. A little in between. One girl at my school was told by her parents that she needs to lose weight. She is skinny. She is 11. Stupid right? I don't give a damn about how you look. Just be healthy. Or eat pizza. I support you anyway. I don't think you're scared of getting fat. You are scared of being treated worthless AKA being defined by your apperiance. Don't care about all those comments. After all it's better to have brain and fat than nothing. That was so not a burn tho.
+Allen Walker Make sure not to work out EVERYDAY, just 4-6 days a week is good. If you don't let your muscles rest, you will not see any progress. Good luck to you!
I have no self confidence on my physical appearance. I try to work out but I give up after a few days. I need a work out buddy and a food control buddy... Who wanna do that!?
+Lizzy David Music, Pintertest, & lots of things help me get motivated for working out :D. I always end up starting a work out, then stopping it in the middle of it. Do workouts that excite you, & are not too challenging. If you use music, it makes you very jumpy. Well, it does for me haha. Pintertest has tons of 30 day challenges! Those are some of my favorites c:
Just speaking from experience. It's important to love yourself and be comfortable with who you are in your own skin no matter what it looks like. You can be fat, skinny, short, tall, average, whatever. You just need to accept where you are and love and treat yourself with kindness no matter what. I'm speaking as someone who used to be a former fat kid and can relate to everything in this video. I am also speaking as someone, who struggled so much with those 'fat kid' memories that I developed an eating disorder and anorexia, and STILL had those thoughts and STILL hated my body, even though I was so much thinner. I never accepted how I looked. I never loved myself. We have to remember to do that above everything else.
My little brother is about 15-20 pounds over wait and we're all kinda harsh on him just so he can loss that extra wait and stops eating junk food. Also, about a week ago we found out that his cholesterol is high, so we're keeping a big eye on him. After watching this, I feel bad and as if I'm the worst sister ever :(. I don't want him to think that we don't like him or to hold things in him until he gets older. I don't even want to say or my family says something that might hunt him all his life. I guess we think we're doing this for his own good ,when we're really hurting him more than helping him.
I'm glad you realize what you're doing to him now. From my personal experience, shaming someone doesn't help them to lose weight. It can actually do the opposite, and make you feel depressed and worthless. What I found helps is when your family all gets healthy together rather than pinpointing one person for being different.
You will never know how it feels until you're in his situation, so just remember that people carry the words that were said to them even when they lose the weight.
+Skye Walker thank u. That's exactly what I've told my parents. We r working on it, and let's hope for the best. Ps. Thanks for the tips, it's really nice of u :)
+Kelly Bean +Katie George thanks girls. I've noticed that and I've changed towards him. I did it cause I loved him, but I realized I was doing it wrong and fixed it. Thank a lot :) :)
I hate being the fat kid in the group. When you are in a group and they start to run and you run but you can't catch up and your out of breath and there still going. And when you are in the dressing room everyone is skinny and don't have man boobs but you take you tshirt of and you see your belly it isn't good. I'm constently getting picked on for being fat. Trying to get a date but you are worried that the girl won't love you because you are fat. You don't get much friends. Everyone ignores me. You try and go on a diet and you exercise but you don't feel the pounds losing I quit the diet. You are immedietly the uncool kid. Skinny people are really lucky for what they have. The big paragraph you probably just read was the life of me in one day and people are being jugded for there size. Fat people are not lazy we can be cool we can be nice. Next time you see a fat person do not think negative about the fat person
I think that just because you are "fat" it doesn't mean that people will treat you bad... at some point everyone heard once something bad about his/her person, no matter what they look like... it is a big matter of do you let yourself be teared down by how you look and precieve yourself?... like when I was in school we were 4 "fat" girls.. and everyone but me was very much appriciated.. (well I also had glaces, uncool clothing..but the thing was I also lacked bite/ self-confidence and i was too nice) btw. one of the "fat" girls was one of the classes (if not the) favourite persons.. (no she was not the "rich kid" ..she was just confident, outgoing and cool) and to the skinny people.. they are not that lucky.. you just think they are because it is your ideal now.. if it is rather slim/thin than skinny... skinny people also get a lot of crap..("oh! she must have an eating dissorder/ s/he must do drugs to be like this/ he looks like a whimp etc")..... btw I know one skinny guy who's always on his tip toes about eating enough so he won't loose weight (which would be dangerous for him; he has a to fast metabolism)... or another guy who wouldn't mind to weight some more if just his metabolism were not that fast ..:quote: "I'm always so hungry..If I had enough money you would never see me not eating!"
Trust me, I used to be the "fat kid" in my group of friends. It was absolutely horrible. The teachers would make us play these games where you had to be lifted up by all your friends and be carried over to the other side, I would always sit out. Then when I would go shopping with my friends they would always get either small, or extra small, and I would be stuck with size large or extra large. Everyday I would be called fat or bullied by my weight, people would even make fun of me for breaking a chair in class once. But I decided to try to turn my life around, and I lost 30lbs with a year all by myself. I know that doesn't seem like much but if you eat a bit healthier and exercise a little bit more then you can achieve your goal. And trust me that fat kid will still be here and I will always crave all that junk food stuff but trust me you will feel alot better when you're a bit healthier.
Brooklyn I understand I always get picked on tow.I weigh hundred 65 pounds and my sister ways we less and she's older than me I always get stuck in the store by myself in the extra large section my sisters always at the small section 😪
Same. I sometimes I wonder if it's because of something I ate when I was younger. It was like I woke up one day and I wasn't skinny anymore i had just blown up overnight
I was pretty chubby in elementary school, starting 3rd grade maybe? I got thinner in 7th grade, but I've still just seen myself as chubby. Even when i was a size 0 I wanted to lose weight.
I feel you :/ I was a fat kid and I didn't get to my normal weight until high school, but even then I thought I was still fat and still got comments that I was a pig :/
So many sad stories in the comments, and to all of the people who got bullied because of their looks: you're all BEAUTIFUL, and DON'T let anybody tell you otherwise! All I wanna do is give you a massive hug!
+Lucy G I'm in that phase, where your metabolism slows down and the fat that was nowhere near you is not a lonely fat roll on your stomach! aaand. now I'm exercising really hard!!
+Lucy G This is true and it's funny after I lost weight to see people who made fun of my weight before gain weigh and it was sort of like haha f*** you
Rachel Huber I’m the same age, almost the same weight. I’m stuck at 136 pounds, and I’m desperately trying to lose weight. I’m the same height, so you’re not alone. I’m glad that I’m not alone either.
I am fat. I watch a lot of videos like this so I can see how it effects other people. I'm turning 15 very soon, and I've been fat my entire life. Most of my family doesn't have a problem with it on my moms side, but my dads side is all "pro skinny" and my sister calls me fat too. My aunt from my dads side is a lot happier with my sister because my sister is thin and pretty. I've been bullied since grade 4 because I am fat. I have no self esteem, I hate shopping because of looks of disgust. I hate seeing my size, and I hate seeing how big my clothes are. My family doesn't know how much I weigh, and sometimes they'll see someone else weighing that much on TV or something like that, and say how they should go on a diet and how unhealthy they are. But they don't know that I'm just like that. I've tried diets, I've tried tons of exercise, I've starved myself. But I can't put the weight off. I absolutely hate myself, and I hate mirrors. I used to hate everything besides my eyes, but I hate those now too. Some days I just want to die, and have it all end, but I can't, because I don't want to hurt my family like they hurt me.
I used to be so skinny when I was younger like people called me stick and skeleton, then I gained too much weight and got severely overweight which I was also made fun of for, now I have lost some of that flab, but more importantly, I have lost my confidence, my self esteem and I now have social anxiety. So please, no matter how imperfect a person might seem to be, just keep your mouth shut. You have a free will to say/type anything you want, but not everything that's true needs to be said
I was always insecure, i remember when i was as young as 5 absolutely hating my body. Always comparing myself to other girls who i saw as skinner. Then when i was 9 i got put on some medication that made me gain weight and get really chubby and puffy. Boys at school would call me fat, I spent a large majority of my days crying and tearing at my skin just wanting it to all disappear, i hated myself. I eventually came off the medication, people started complementing me on my weight loss (at around age 11). I still viewed myself as fat, and decided to try dieting. I'm 14 now and recovering from anorexia nervosa, dealing with horrible anxiety and depression. I'm underweight currently, but i still view myself as fat, honestly i think i will never be at peace with my body. Self hatred is a horrible, horrible thing.
I remember when I was in 5th or 6th grade, and my older sister came up to me one evening and said, "You're fat". I was pretty shocked. That evening I spent a lot of time in front of the mirror thinking about it, and came to the conclusion that indeed, I was pretty fat. Guess I had never thought that much about it until then. After that I became terribly self conscious and I started wearing huge clothes hoping I would be able to hide my ugly body from the world :s Even now that I'm not that fat anymore, I still always wear big clothes because I'm just too embarrassed about my body. It sorta sucks… but I'm working on it :)
Btw, I love my sister very much and hold no grudge against her, she just has a tendency to say exactly what she's thinking without considering whether or not she actually should say it, she still calls me fat every now and then, yet we're exactly the same size nowdays XD It wasn't perhaps nice of her to say it, and no one should make fun of or pick on someone because they are fat, but I've accepted it and moved on, now it's just something of the past. Plus, I think it has helped me become more aware of my health, what I eat and how much I exercise, which in the end has done me more good than harm I believe :)
I'm not fat, I'm thick (if that makes any sense) but all my friends are super skinny naturally and I feel fat whenver I'm around them, but I know I'm not fat, just thick boned with lots of muscle
gamergirlsrule 2.0, you are sorta like me then. I am naturally very wide from the front, big hips, a large bone structure and pretty muscular. However if you look at me from the side I look pretty thin with a flat stomach and all, but the side is wide. I have huge hips too, 116cm circumference. It's often quite frustrating when you feel so big around other people. I feel like if I was to sit on one of my friends lap, even most of my guy friends who are far from as wide as me, they would break….
I'm not downplaying these people's struggles at all, but I feel like I relate to this video a lot in the opposite way. I've always been a skinny girl, and I got teased about it a lot especially when I was little. Now most of my self-consciousness arises when I hear people say things like men only like curvy women, or that skinny people featured in the media aren't 'real.' everyone's body deserves love & respect. I'm still young, and I'm trying to gain weight but it's extremely hard. I talk to people who are trying to lose weight and I tell them I have the opposite problem (which is just as difficult for me) and they usually respond saying "oh I wish I had your problem. stop bragging!" and that's really hurtful & invalidating...
+Jenna Trowbridge It would be best to express these feelings to people who struggle with the same thing as you do because an overweight person's focus is to achieve this caricatured extreme weight loss in their mind, so when they see someone who has it naturally and doesn't have to control what they eat and constantly exercise it can create a lot of unwanted jealousy. I'm overweight right now and my initial response to this was just pure hatred. I thought "please stop complaining about a privilege that you have, I wish I could be naturally skinny and not have to worry about how overweight I am" but at one point I was really skinny and was jealous of girls with big boobs and asses with thick thighs and I still am despite having a curvy figure. So I understand you, but it does come off as compliment fishing.
+Jenna Trowbridge I am eleven years old and have been under 67 pound for 4 years, I eat junk food, no breakfast ,but other than that, I eat more than most people my age. It really sucks because one of my "best-friends" nick-named me Twig and it hurt, really bad because she was so close to me
+Jenna Trowbridge i hope i don't sound mean if i say this but i have never met anyone who gets bullied for being skinny. i suppose it's a bit less common
Connie Maheswaran I acknowledge that fat-shaming is more common than skinny-shaming. the problem is, though, that rather than thinking it's less common, many people don't think skinny shaming even EXISTS. comments such as "you need some meat on your bones; eat a cheeseburger!" "you have the body of a nine year old boy," "do you even eat/ you eat so much-- where does it all go??" are an everyday occurrence for underweight people. if these sort of comments were made about overweight people, it would be clear how it is offensive. but when the subject is someone skinny, many people think it's a compliment or they hardly even think about it to see how it's offensive. and if I ever talk about how I'm trying to gain weight, people will laugh at me, roll their eyes- generally not take me seriously. but if an overweight person says that they're on a diet to lose weight, people tend to understand and respect that. when I was little, the body shaming was much more obvious. kids would joke around and say I couldn't play with them because I'd break like a twig, and I was often picked up and swung around by bigger kids who'd comment about how light I was when I'd yell at them to put me down. nicknames like twig, stick, chicken legs, bird bones, skeleton, etc... what I'm trying to say is, I know I'm not the only one who got bullied for being skinny, and overweight people aren't the only ones who experience body shaming either. sorry this is crazy long. hope I'm making sense here...
Fat people, thinner people, ALL people are normal. However, I get what you're saying.Yes. Indeed, people are getting so much fatter these days that people no longer know what a healthy vs unhealthy weight looks like anymore.
My parents just don't let me eat in peace. They either say eat slower or your really going to eat that? It gets me mad and really depressed. My mom would get me xl chothes when I was about xs.
My little brother is chubby, and yesterday I (not on purpose) called him fat... He got so sad (he is 9 years old) and I apologized a million times, and he says that he is fine, but he isn't... I feel so bad😭😢
yeah.. you should. thats going to stick with him probably for the rest of his life and there's nothing you can do about it to fix it. he was already dealing w/ those problems internally and now u brought them to the surface. if theres anything u can take from this it's to NEVER comment on someone's weight. especially people you are close with
Helena Jepsen I understand that you feel bad but this is my question, how do you accidentally call someone you love fat? You said I quote 'My little brother is chubby, and yesterday (not on purpose) called him fat…' . I do not hate you for doing that but, saying that may make him self conscious.
+Cooper Raubach Young gives you an edge on most of the people in this country. Literally millions of people (including myself) are jealous of you just for being young. Fact. I hope this helps in some way, (at least it might until you get old, lol). Good luck to you, sincerely. You sound like you have a positive outlook, stay positive no matter what.
I remember when I was 8 and I hated my body. I never had friends or bf and the kids made fun of me. Now I am skinny but fit and they are fat with acne. Turn down for what.
I remember when I was like 12 or something, I was at the mall with my sisters and my grandma and we were in this one store and she was holding up clothes and asking if I liked them and my sister walks in, comes over to us, and asks "Why are you guys in the maternity section?" And my grandma was like looking at her like she just killed someone and I got so upset that I sat in the mall bathroom and cried for what must have been like 30 minutes and when I came back, both of them looked guilty as hell but they didn't say anything about my obviously red eyes, and they bought me ice cream to make me feel better, which I ended up throwing away while they weren't looking because I felt disgusting. That moment sticks with me still.
Maria Ruseva I never said I wasn't thankful for my family, I said that having to shop in the section for pregnant women when I was 12 years old crushed my self esteem. I'm sorry about your abusive mom and it must have been awful to go through that but this was more about my weight issues than my family
Ciera Daily Im 180 and 5'5 and i only gain weight in my stomach and moobs so people think im a girl with short hair. In gym at my first day at a new school the teacher said " Whats your name little lady" and it just stuck with me.
im fat but not overly obese but my friend is over weigh and people would tease her (id defend her dont tell me im a fake friend and boost her confidence) and once a boy told her she would be the next ronald mcdonald since he died because he was overweigh and she said im on a diet and he said a diet of chocolates and i punched him on the shoulder which left a bruise but come on sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.. just cause someones bigger it doesnt make you any better
Violence can be a sign that you're losing an argument, some advice from me to you would to act as if he's being riddles and like you don't care rather than showing that you actually do.
+Leslie Ojeda yeah, okay, sometimes you should just leave it, but tbh I would've punched him too. And beside, he might've gotten a little bruise on his shoulder, but she'll get a bruise for life. :(
Well I'm glad I was fat when I was younger and then lost weight. Because I am not jealous of the people who made fun of me as they are now overweight. :p
Making fun of them for being fat now is giving them validation for when they made fun of you. The cycle needs to end. No one should feel bad about struggling with their weight, and no one should be getting bullied for it.
Seriously, even if you are fat, that is not at all definitive of the whole person you are. You know when I hear the comment "I'm so fat," it's usually followed by someone else assuring them, "no, you're beautiful" but you can sure as hell be both. You are beautiful, brilliant, caring, vibrant...limitless! You go far beyond titles, and the numbers on a stupid scale! ...I have this great quote by J.K. Rowling that is just beautiful...(and applies to both men and women) “Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her. I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me…" J.K. Rowling Besides, your mother did not spend 9 months forming your body in her just so you could hate and destroy it. Love it and make it the best you can!
This is actually one of my favorite videos buzzfeed has done because its honest and real. Especially with how many videos they have done lately about weight loss and "losing 22% of your body weight", where those kind of videos can have a negative impact on those who struggle to lose weight or keep weight off. This kind of video reminds me why I enjoy watching their videos.
I was so huge fat back then, I had to wear my mother's clothes because we couldn't afford new pants for my huge body. I was 185 5'3. Now I am 138.. and they are right, I still feel fat. I have the stretch marks that are a constant remind.
i just remember being in 8th grade and getting a phone call from a friend who was looking to borrow a dress of mine. i heard her mom in the background say, "hon, i don't think it's a good idea to borrow a dress from Kelsey. Kelsey is a bigger girl..." that has ALWAYS stuck with me.
I used to be fat (not that fat really, like 6-7 pounds overweight) from when I was 7 till the age of 11 or 12 and because my mom, sister and brother were all thin they used to call me nicknames that they thought were cute I guess, but being called chubby cheeks made me feel like shit and I lost some weight over the summer when I was 11. I became a normal weight but I still felt fat. I'm even thinner now because I was very depressed a few months ago ( I was nearly 15 back then) and I couldn't eat (whenever I ate a bit more I felt like throwing up) so slowly I dropped to 110 pounds. I'm 15 and a half now, I gained 4 pounds from that time so I'm a normal weight now. I go to the doctors for check ups and my blood is average now. I fucking hate it how whenever one of my relatives sees me now they're like, ohh you've lost so much weight, remember how fat you used to be? -Yes I do remember, and it's horrible of you to say that because you're hurting my feelings. I don't like it when people call me a twig now either. What I'm trying to say that, once you get called fat or chubby even if you do lose weight and become physically thin and strong you won't be able to get over it mentally. So please people, even if you children seem a bit on the chubbier side just make them exercise and give them healthier food. Calling them nicknames won't help, not when they're fat, or when they're too thin.
Exactly! I'm half Vietnamese, and the Asian side of my family is so insensitive about weight, and they would talk about me to my mom about how fat I was, and my dad would call me fat or pig when I was eating junk food. But did he ever try to get me to exercise? Nope. Now I swim and run and I'm pretty fit, but back then, I'd get so sad about being called fat - and not even by friends or classmates, because it was only my family who was being mean.
the worst worst worst feeling when parents says why you don't try to lose weight? while i was try everything out and they just make me angry( on them not on me)
I hate shopping with my Family because my twin sister is really fit even though I eat healthier and I exercise just as much as her she always complains about how she is fat and overweight while I am 80 pounds more than her.
+Mandi Logan I'm not a twin. But my older brother goes to the gym everyday and he is the one with the "amazing looks" and the "beautiful blue eyes". And then I'm just there. Not to mention that my mom was a fitness model and I am just...ugh.
Lara Pursell Yeah. I am actually working my butt off at home bc I am too wooried I will be made fun of at the gym. People still make comments about how prettier my sister is and how I should be like her (even though i am smarter) and it really brings me down ... I feel ya'.
Mandi Logan Yeah I work out at home to because I have social anxiety disorder and other mental things. I get those comments too. At least we are the smart siblings!
I've always been into sports so I've always been muscular. I do have a friend in school that is pretty big because his parents didn't establish good eating habits so he drinks to much soda and eats to many snacks. Our goal next year when we go to college together is to help him loose weight and have fun doing it. We will have free access to the campus gym and be able to do things like mountain biking and go hiking.
I'm not skinny am not totally "fat". I would say am kinda curvy/chubby. haven't been since I was about 8 years old that's when I started to eat a ton because of school and I would kinda eat to numb the pain I was feeling. I remember this one time last year my uncle asked with a smirk on his face"How much do you weight fatty?", everyone immediately started to look at me and I can feel my face getting red my heart pounding. I would feel my eyes starting to water and i didn't say anything instead I walked away heading up the stairs from my grandmas house to cry. In that moment I felt this aching pain in me, I never look at myself in the mirror and until, that day I got a good view of myself.
I've had people that I didn't know come up to me and say "your a fat piece of shit." I'm not kidding. A random stranger on the street decided to follow me half way down the block just to tell me I'm worthless because I'm a size bigger then they are. I'm an ugly whale who would be better off dead. Gym teachers telling me to "be careful getting on the scale, you might break it." My grandmother said "stop eating your fat enough as is!" My own mother said "I wish I didn't have to see your fat ass every day." Some people are leaving similar comments and ending it off sweet, but thats not the life I've lived. No one has ever told me anything good about being heavier. Even after years of exercise and being on a diet, I'm still too fat to be considered normal. It's disgusting.
I wish I lived near you. If I did I would be your best friend. Honestly, I dont give a shit about someones size, yes, you may need to lose some weight and it may be hard, but I would still be there to support you. Some people are rude these days.
I understand you completely. When I was a kid and a teenager I was really fat (I am not over exaggerating) my mom used to tell me "huge". So, I had an eating disorder I ended up being literally a bag of bones and my mom told me that I was ugly. So, I became obese again. That was my life since I decided to stop it. I've stopped to hear the comments of my mom (and everyone who try to criticize me) and I started to working out for myself. It took a very long time to I reach a healthy weight and a athletic body. This is me now. I am happy but sometimes my mom tells me "you used to be skinnier legs what happens? now you are huge. Your cousin looks like an stick around you" but I smile and say "Yes, problem? is my life"
I am a slightly chubby person and it's really hard for me to lose weight, because I go to an elite school and I break under the pressure. Sometimes, eating is the only joy that is left in my life and I tried to give it up so many times, but it just makes me really depressed. For the last 2 years I've been trying to convince myself that being chubby is not that bad, but I still get kinda sad when I look into the mirror.
Well, I'm really skinny (I'm not trying to be hurtful or brag, I actually hate being skinny to be honest) and I'm tall, so everybody calls me Slenderwoman and anorexic (including my friends), so yay... That's something to look forward to...
So when my dad took me shopping once I had no idea what size I am so a store clerk came over to help us, and they said to take this size. When I went to the changing room I tried the pants on and they were too small. Then we got help again and said that the pants were too small and they gave me the next size... Almost 15 sizes later I found the one and I started crying because I'm not even a teenager and I shop in the women's section. It was like 2 sizes down to being extra large.... Then when we checked out the store clerk checked the size and said "do these really fit you!?" And started to snicker and when we got home I locked myself into my room and started to scream and cry into my pillow. It's already bad enough that I have social anxiety and now I'm considered fat before I'm even a teenager.
+J Augustin I know what thats like. I litterally stare into my mirror for an hour or two like,every day.Sometimes I randomly break into tears while doing so.
+J Augustin i know what it feels like. i used to weigh 215 now im 158. all it takes is hard work ya know! i recommend something called intermittent fasting. try it ;)
My cousin and i were talking one day, it was at a family event, with lots of food. I went to go get some and i asked her if she was gonna get some. She said " I'm not trying to starve myself but i wanna lose weight." I then procedded to tell her to go eat something. The fact that a freaking 10 year old is trying to make herself more like the women we see in society is heartbreaking to me. I'm so glad you made this video. Thank you buzzfeed.
I have 2 skinny sisters and I always felt bad about myself because of that but they are the ones who encouraged me to lose weight now I'm a healthy weight
My worst fat kid moment was when I was a senior in high school, I was waiting to go into an assembly with the rest of my performing arts group and I had a tight-fitting shirt on and a girl across the hallway asked if I was pregnant. It was possibly one of the last times I ever felt bad about my body, because my director took me into the next room and put her hands on my shoulders and said, "You're fat. So what? You are a beautiful, beautiful girl. You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful. Stop thinking that." And that will always stay with me.
What a great director! :o
NSA Commander Uhh, my director was a woman, thanks. And no.
***** Maybe you should stop being lazy and exercise, being unhealthy is not beautiful
That guy is just a troll, probably upset with his own chubs & is mad that you love yourself when he can't, don't let him bother you. What she said was great advice! & it's something a lot of kids need to hear!
MrBossmedia Way to assume shit. I'll have you know I am very healthy. I exercise, I eat healthy, every doctor's visit they tell me how spot-on perfect my blood pressure is, how healthy my heart is, every blood test they remark on my good cholesterol. I'm fat; that doesn't mean I'm unhealthy. I'm fat; that doesn't mean I'm ugly. I'm fat; that doesn't mean you get to judge me for how I look.
my best friend is naturally skinny. i am the fat kid, yet if we're watching tv and a fat person comes on she makes fun of them. i just think "if we weren't friends, what would you say about me?"
I know your problem, too much One Direction.
Robin Voss lol I wish I was small.
Just admit it, you really love One Direction!
oh im sorry about that Catey Evers but thats okay u really r pretty!
i went on your Channel (P.S. I subbed) and your not fat at all! And your so Beautiful!
I think when you're chubby when you're little or as a teenager, or still are, it does make you more shy. I don't remember wearing anything just because I /wanted/ to wear it, I wore it because it covered up the parts of me I wanted to hide.
Katelyn Marsh try D:
i do the same!!! im also a shy person...
I wear over sized sweaters to hide my body
I would always wear sweaters so people wouldn’t see my stomach, I would lie and say I wore them because they’re comfy, but that wasn’t true.
Luckily I enjoy wearing t shirts and sweat shirts
i lost like 15kg in a year (not purposely) and then people started calling me a stick but when i was fat they called me a barrel :)))) will :))) i :))) ever :))) be :))) free :))
Story of my life
Yep.
That sucks
ignore it no matter if your skinny or fat you are beautiful and if you are healthy why does it matter
no one cares
I'm a former fat kid, and yet I have no sympathy for those who are fat. I'm sorry people say you are fat and call you ugly, but it is true. Fat isn't attractive. That is something we as people can't control. I know that I sound like an asshole, but the only person you are likely to end up with some creepy chubby chaser, unless you lose weight. It isn't easy, of course it is isn't, but is possible. (except for the 12 percent of the U.S. population with thyroid problems) I'm not going to say i'm attracted to something I'm not.
I agree
I kinda disagree. Sometimes other people like each other for the personalities instead of their looks. But I also agree cause more and more people these days *cough cough mostly teens judge people by their looks.
You know that being called fat is a bad thing , but someone saying that you have to lose weight isnt. Thats constructive critisism (my spelling sucks)
Lets all agree that just because you're not attracted to something/someone doesn't mean that such is ugly, that is a hateful mentality that leads to constant ridicule of self and others, a person should be happy in their skin and if they want to lose wait then go for it and if they don't that's fine too but this mentality of losing weight/being small is the high of beauty is stupid and superficial. We as a society think and value a size and weight way too much as the goal of beauty leaving many insecure , hurt, and even mentally and physically hurt, especially our youth. Y'all need to love yourself regardless of some numbers and sizes and if you want to lose weight for very healthy and positive reasons then do you.
you'd be surprised at guys who are super good looking or like lift weights and i've seen them with girls who are big but the difference is they're confident with what they got and dont care but if you're not happy or eventually want to change its your decision. You dont know what you're sayng if its not your preference then that's you but not everyone else even if you were overweight then and not now. Its just like short skinny girls with big tall guys or big girls with bulky guys or whatever but everyone finds someone through personality and how they make them feel. Majority of people have grown to find confidence in themselves or changed what they don't like eventually at their own time.
I hated shopping with my family when I was younger...
Exactly.
+Shane Doyle Did you just reply to your own comment?.....Sounds like something I would do
No, someone else commented but I guess their account was deleted.
+Lucy Malcová no need to be mean about it, he was replying
MaliaRuff123 I was not mean at all
I used to be chubby. Probably not fat, but definitely chubby. A family member would constantly comment on what I was eating and tell me that I shouldn't eat things because I'll get fat, but in a way that implied "fatter" instead of "fat." She would way overestimate my size to other family members when they asked for clothing sizes, so I got things that were way too big that she couldn't have realistically thought fit me. It wrecked my self-esteem and even though the comments stopped, I've been building my confidence in my physical appearance and even my confidence in my independence and ability to do things ever since. It's better now, but there are still issues I have from it. I can only imagine someone who happened to be bigger than me and what people said. Really, the comments are the things that cut the deepest, even if you mean no harm.
Emily Rose I hope your self esteem goes up, you're insanely pretty
Thank you, it's been getting much better since college! Hope your self-esteem is also doing well.
Emily Rose Haha, zallgood, working on it :3
Theres no difference between fat and chubby. Obviously you dont know what bmi is. If you're chubby you were probably fat.
chea kim Thank you so much for clearing that up for me. I really appreciate it, you insensitive jerk.
Think to yourself. Did you really need to go out of your way to post a reply that implies I'm ignorant and that ignores the main point of my comment and that insults me rolled into one? Did you really? Because I would argue that you did not.
By chubby, I mean that I was a healthy body weight, but I have wide shoulders and a naturally more curvy build. That's what I meant by chubby. But thank you for adding your two cents in so condescendingly after I just said in my post that comments are the things that can hurt the most, even if they aren't intended to.
Congrats.
When I was younger in elementary school. My mom told me that I shouldn't wear skinny jeans because it didn't flatter me because I wasn't that skinny. That stuck with me and I still say it in my head every time I put on skinny jeans and it makes me really self conscious. It led to me being really self conscious in middle school and that led to me developing an eating disorder in 6th grade. I am recovered now, but it still sticks with me. So if you're a parent make sure you tell your kids that they're beautiful or handsome. Don't just point out their flaws. Make sure they love themselves.
Yeah I hate that sh*t about parents
They make matters worse
I was with my sister and we were using the scale and guessed eachothers weight she's 9 and I guessed 50 to be nice and she's actually 75 and she's very jealous if me because she said I look like I was 70 but I'm apparently 100. I feel so bad for her.😁😁😁
I know my parents will tell me if I get too much fat on my body. Usually when people are in high school (in my country) they start going to parties, drink alcohol and eat a lot of fast food. When they stop working out too, they just gain weight. So.. I think my parents will tell me and help me if it happens to me.
They don't want me to look like a stick tho.. They just make sure I don't get fat.
Natural Hair Don't Care I had a double chin in elementary school and I cut back then my brother talked I was fat or "chubby" at school so imagine that
I used to be fat, but nobody ever insulted me. It was when I was skinny that people would insult me. I used to get called twiggy, say I looked like a stick, do I eat enough, people would ask if my parents starved me etc. I actually made it my goal to gain 35 pounds because of what ppl were saying. After I gained weight, I felt terrible. Nobody would insult me, but I felt unfit. I couldn't run as fast, I couldn't do the things I used to be able to do. I had no energy. I wanted to lose weight but people would still say "you need to gain" or "you are fine, look at me, I am bigger". I moved to Japan and I lost all that weight and feel much better now. I mostly feel better because in Japan its normal to be skinny, and people wont shame you for it. People need to stop insulting each other and start enjoying life together.
When I was little I was the chubby sister but now Im older my body changed ... It affected me emotionally that people and my own family called me meatball...ironically now I'm the curvy one with the sexy body . !
Im suscribed to you btw ! Love Japan
Ironically, back when I was skinny, no one would insult me.
But once I started to gain weight the barrage of comments started to fly all around me because of my weight.
It's funny how you say that people should stop insulting each other, yet you moved all the way to Japan to accept your skinniness.
Nothing changed. You didn't change. You don't accept yourself otherwise you wouldn't feel terrible about gaining weight.
o mer gerd I luv ur vids
I love your videos
Yeah me too, in first grade I was fat not skinny, I was really funny to my friends, now I am average and they call me Barney and stuff.
The scary thing is that growing up, from the age of about 5, I always thought of myself as the fat kid. I went on a starvation diet when I was 7. I hated sitting down because I thought it made my thigh fat spread out. But looking back at pictures of myself from 5-15, I wasn't fat at all. I wouldn't even call myself chubby. I was very small, very petite. But I saw myself as fat, and because of that, I eventually started thinking "well I'm already fat, so who cares if I binge on all this food and never exercise and never touch a vegetable." Ever since I was 16, I started putting on weight and now at 19 I actually AM overweight. It's just sad because if I had never gotten the idea that I'm fat in my head when I was actually a thin child, I probably never would have suffered with such low self esteem all my life and I probably wouldn't be having such a hard time controlling my weight in my late teens.
Wow your story sounds almost exactly like mine. I also had the fear of thighs spreading when i sat down. I started dieting around 8 even though i was skinny. I hated running because i was afraid my fat would jiggle. I was about 6 when i started wantin to lose weight.
***** OMFG My friend calls me fatso... IDK why cuz my other friend calls me bones XD
People alway call me fat :,-(
+Charlie Jepson don't worry about it everyone's just jealous
Thanks
God, this takes me back. I've been fat shamed a lot. But fortunately, I love to prove people wrong and I lost the weight while gaining muscle from boxing.
MrVolcomclassic
It comes back to haunt me once in a while;
I actually still get nightmares from the dark ages. Despite how fit I am, the mentality will always stay around in some degree, but all we former fat kids can do is just adapt and shove it aside.
Im honestly glad to hear that u did that and didnt let other people bother u
Sarah Jacoby Thx Sarah. Or did you mean Carmen? Or both of us lol?
I'm in that category where I'm not obese but I'm not thin, overweight basically. I've lost 14 pounds tho in about a two months through boxing, kick boxing, and wrestling. I'm planning to get to my goal and its awesome to hear that it is possible :)
Great work! And yes, through a balanced diet and boxing and jogging, I lost 40 pounds and reached my weight loss goal!
I wish you luck on your journey.
Things they forgot to mention:
Sucking in your belly at the swimming pool when at school swimming so people don't see your tummy
Sitting with the tips of your toes on the ground so your thighs don't spread out and get all gross
Disliking running because you could feel the fat jiggling around
Hating having to work out/exercise in front of others because of how unfit you are and how bad you look while doing it
Constantly weighing yourself
Trying to act like it doesn't matter when you buy size 2 jeans and your parents are like "but shouldn't you be a size 0"
This is way more relatable
EllieFox yep very relatable :(
I've cried and missed social events because of the shame I felt about my body
I'm 10 and I'm 170 pounds life is great.
Sadly yes .
when your siblings are skinny and you are the only fat one.
my life as dee this is so true!
my life as dee meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
my life as dee
me too
my life as dee that is not funny
my life as dee IT SUCKS!!
I hate that being overweight makes it some how EVERYONES business about your health.
Ikr
commentor504 its no difference if you're like really skinny.
Daniel Lee lol I can imagine but I was just speaking from my experience I've always been average or overweight.
commentor504 and i've always been severely underweight. we should be best buds :D
Daniel Lee Of Course!! XD
If you were the fat kid in the group once, even after you lose weight it remains like a trauma. You're permanently self conscious, as and when there's someone really skinny you can't help but compare sizes, or body shapes and stuff like that. And when you gain a couple pounds after a holiday or smth, man, it's childhood all over again and that's not nice. The struggle of my life tbh.
Noemy Vergara I wish i had friends to make fun of me
Relatable. I have poor metabolism so that stuff stays for quite some time. It's miserable!
everytime someone tells me, "maybe you should try the next size up I freak out."
Izabella Turner yes omg
Shøøk! at the Disco ❤❤
Shøøk! at the Disco yeah I know I'm not fat but I'm still insecure about my weight. Someone said I think you should get the next size up and they didn't have it
Shøøk! at the Disco not the only one i cant when i ask my parents and ask them to zip up my dress or something and if it doesnt my parents immediately goes and say u need to loose weight i literally cried like when they said that... i cant wear leggings or pants with a t shirt or a crop my coat or sweater has to be a certain length or else i would wear skirts or leggings with shorts to go outside....
Shøøk! at the Disco Why? What about it makes you freak out?
I really hope one day I can overcome the feeling of embarrassment of my body and become stronger and more confident like these people. It's true though, all the comments stay with you
you will
be proud of yourself
Thanks
Same
You will :) try your best , if your believe in your self
You will. Once you will realise that you are who you are and that YOU are beautiful. Comments sucks,I know that too but the feeling when u are finally confident and smile at them is going to happen. It's all in your mind and I believe in you.
if you're reading this and you're overweight, please think about this quote: "you have two options, sit around and feel sorry for yourself, or get up and do something about it". I've struggled with my weight my entire life, and I've decided to make a change. I hope this inspires someone ❤️
Kiki Valenzuela I'm 6 ft and 270 lbs bbut that is not my problem I hate myself because i am not great in school everyone treats me like i am a idiot counts me out of everything Have you any idea how it feels to have everyone treat you like your stupid 24/7 and the closest thing to a compliment you ever get is someone telling you they don't like you not because you are fat but they just think you are a dumbass
MLG Kitteh You too man thanks i really needed to hear that :D
MLG Kitteh But it is true that if you aren't as smart, you won't become as successful. Awoken Dreams X9 Don't feel bad about it, do something to change it.
Ethan Ma Holy balls everybody i am around measure my inteligenice ? i spelled it right ? Eah but they measure it from my math skill LMFAO Yeah.......i'm the stupid brutally honest usually funny entertaining........or so i am told
Awoken Dreams X9 I really can't understand what you are trying to say.
I don't really think that being bigger is the problem, it's not. it's the comments people make
Yea especially since tons of people are assholes now a day's.
tru. sad but true
Being big is a problem 4 ur health m8
LegoTechPlane sure when it's really bad but being skunny is also not immediately a problem, i mean you should be confident whatever you look like but some people can't because of those nasty comments :]
Christel x Yeah it's unfortunate what some people say to each other.
I didnt hate shopping with my family because of my size. I hated it because I would repeatedly have my opinion of style ignored, yelled at constantly in public, and have my mental stability insulted because of the littlest things.
That happens to me, and it's the worst, I get yelled at public if I get mad because I have to buy what they want me to wear
Fleur Poe same
Same and its just like why did you bring me then
same
Yeah I'd want to buy something I thought looked amazing but mum said it wouldn't 'flatter' me which destroyed my confidence
I remember being in second grade and being teased about my weight and one day in front of the whole class the girl that would always tease me lost her 6 inch subway sandwich and told the whole class that I ate it and by the end of the year she began to gain weight and was chubbier then me and everyone began to make fun of her and then I lost my turkey sandwich and said she ate it but I never lost it I just wanted do say that because she hurt me and I don't regret eating her sandwich earlier that year
Haha so you really did eat her sandwich? I love that :D
+Andrea Juliana GREAT JOB 10/10
+Andrea Juliana i cant tell if you're serious or joking lol
lmao
+Andrea Juliana
Booya! Great post.
Almost all the people in this vid weren't even fat just a bit chubby
IKR?!? I exactly thought the same! Like wtf are they complaining about?
Yet they were still constantly teased for being "fat"
You think that because there are way bigger kids now. Back then, being that size (slightly overweight) is the abnormal.
Its not like they lost a bunch of weight, I think they just grew into it.
AngelynnKitty Ya, it's sick isn't it?! For example the second woman... I though "Hu? Where the hell was she fat?" and then I heard her telling about the skinny jeans comment of her mother, I believe, and was SO shocked.
I for myself was also fat-shamed in early stages of my life, and now when I look back at fotos I'm like "WTF?! Why did you bully me that much for being fat, if I CLEARLY wasn't fat at all as a kid!"
It's ridiculous how distorted our society is.
Ask Shane Dawson
Lmaooo
LOL He'll have a whole bio too
Sanʝɑɳɑ a whole documentary aahahaah
Lmao
Yes still self counious tho
I was chubby as a child (many just called it 'baby fat' though I disagreed), and when I went to middle school I'd see all these pretty and skinny girls so I stopped eating and tried working out. I got skinny but super unhealthy to the point where I fainted in class because I'd gone 4 days with only drinking water because I'd give my lunch away and throw my dinner away. I learned the hard way that you should try to get healthier by eating right and exercising. I'm now a size 4 and still insecure about my weight, I don't think I'll ever grow out of it, and that's just a sad fact in life.
If you're eating healthy and excercising regularly, you're healthy (: only listen to your doctor for medical advice. You don't have to be stick thin to be healthy
I wonder how your skin tastes ♡
Dolly The Miracle probably like sweat and fanfiction
LeeAnn King
I love fanfiction!! ♡
+Jinan Haddara some people can't tho
I know what that guy was talking about with the whole white t shirt thing. I went to a summer camp a couple of months ago, and everyone had to swim.I didn't want anyone to see my jelly rolls, so I put on a 3x shirt and a pair of pants, and then I went into the water. I was the only one who did that, and I was so embarrassed. Also, one time when I was at the mall, my mom made me go into Hollister. I told her they only had clothes for skinny people but she made me look anyway. The biggest size there was 5. One of the workers came up to me and my mom and said that I was too big for any of the clothes there. We went to other stores that were made for skinny people and my mom wanted me to get stuff I knew I couldn't fit. That was the most humiliating experience of my life.I just hate how clothing stores are basically for one body type, which is slim.
why the hell would ur mom take u to those places?! did she purposelly do that to embarass you?
cherryblossomk22 My mom likes embarrassing me. ;_;
My mom is always buying things that are too small for me, and I tell her ''I'm not going to wear that, It's too small.''
And she says ''Well then you need to loose weigth. Because you are not not wearing a bigger size.
She is always embarrassing me in front of my friends. She goes ''Oh your so thin, That's how you should be.''(referring to me)
So I know how you feel.
adsdjkl097 So wrong...shame on her. Just saying...
Elizabeth Blanton I'm 17.
I was volunteering at a food drive and a woman was carrying a heavy box. I went to help her and she said "Oh no, you're much too pregnant, aren't you?" ... I was sixteen.
omgggg *palm to face. so sorry to hear that!!
😂😂Poor you and poor her! That must have been mortifying for both of you...good motivation amyway😏✌️
Next time that happens you should say you are pregnant and just trip over purposefully and pretend you're having a miscarriage. Put the fear in them.
Anne Frank That's not very nice, she thought the girl was pregnant why trip her for that?
Comrade ShadowCat Re-read my comment.
Its also funny how different cultures view "fat".
I have a Korean Grandmother and a Ukrainian/Polish Grandmother. My Korean Grandma says I am fat. And my Ukrainian/Polish grandmother wants to force feed me perogies and drag me to a eating disorder clinic.
In the end you just gotta love yourself.
Renée Ellis Polish grandmothers always want you to eat pierogies. ❤️
Thank you 🙂
I started a light diet and my Ukrainian mother is seriously concerned that I have anorexia now
Renée Ellis I love you. Thank you.
korean standards for women are MUCH different than Poland
People use to always make fun of my weight. It sticks with you forever and it always hurts.
I know... I still get made fun of...
I was fat at a younger age. I was 5'4 and wore a size 16-18 in jeans and a xl shirt. It fucking sucked while I was in middle school. My parents used to try and be all comforting and say I'm not fat, but it wasn't normal. I then took the courage and joined every sport possible and lost a good amount of weight. Still chubby (13-14 jeans, Large shirt) I took it to another level and went vegetarian ( then vegan for a month) and got to a decent size. I had lost quite a bit more weight. I am now 5'7.5 a size 11-9 jeans, and Medium shirt in highschool. I couldn't be more comfortable. ✌✌
Thats awesome!
I loved that :-) Your story is so compatible with mine.... except that I am not in that size medium yet, but working on it :-)
Lol my parents were the exact opposite. They told me to lose weight and be more like my younger sister, and said nobody would want me if im fat. They pretty much say "You're fat" to me almost everyday. Made me not wana lose weight at all.
Same. I went from 165 to 145
Your amazing! good for you!
Is it weird that some skinny people turn fat when they are older and some chubby people turn skinny [EDIT - 2/26/17- Wow this comment got lots of feedback and likes o.o]
Hope that applies to me...
+Cookie Kawaii i'm skinny but i don't want to turn fat D:
Omg Hanji is so awesome I luuvvvv your pic!!!
+Cookie Kawaii it happened to me lol i was like overweight and chubby and really tan but the next year i became paler, skinny, and tall but i'm still self conscious asf. when i was overweight my mom would always say comments and when i was chubby i was in like fifth grade and she said that i should go on a diet and small things like that; they affect me so much because i'll still look in the mirror and hear her words repeat in my mind *over and over* again. but now she says i'm too skinny, i'm gonna get sick, and i need to eat more. she gives me extra food and if i don't want to eat she says that i'm too skinny and says she's gonna buy me vitamins. i am not too skinny, i'm freaking healthy, so stop saying that i am. i do actually eat, mom, thanks so much for making me feel like if i'm skinny it's wrong but if i'm not skinny it's wrong. i hate it so much.
+Cookie Kawaii Ive always been skinny and despised it. Ive always thought it harder for me to gain more muscle than for a chubby person even when I try. Only reason why im self conscious
Buzz feed needs to make a video for questions people has for teens
Have
i hated trying on clothes (still kinda do) but I wanted to look good and that was always hard... so I stuck with T-shirts and jeans for the majority of my life and when dresses were required it would be the most dreadful time... or when we had to change with other people
I just hate dresses but this year I am leaving primary school and I HAVE to wear a dress ummm I am a Tom boy
+Miss_Awesome_ Kitten Don't wear them, nobody should tell you what to wear.
I relate so much. I love fashion and dresses, but once I get it on I’m too self conscious to go in public with it. So I just end up wearing jeans sneakers and a sweatshirt
ME
I honestly change my clothes all the time if i don't like how I fit in it
Ive always been very self conscious about myself. Im ugly. I have a unibrow and visible peach fuzz above my upper lip. I have fat cheeks and a small face. My relatives think im older than my fifteen year old brother ( im twelve). Im way too tall. My height is 5"6. As the tallest girl in my grade, i have to look down on everybody. Nobody on my soccer team is taller than my shoulder. And my weight bothers me a lot. Im 123 lbs. Im too afraid to allow anybody to pick me up or give me a piggyback ride. Nobody has told me im beautiful. Nobody has told me that someday i will do something amazing. Nobody has told me to have confidence in myself (well maybe my mom but that doesnt count). And i have just spilled my feelings on a pointless youtube comment that nobody will pay attention to.
+anni wu
If your height bothers you so much, the boys in your class will start growing soon and then they'll be taller than you. I'm the same height as you and about 45lbs heavier than you, so I wouldn't panic about your weight. Girls tend to gather puppy fat before puberty and then the fat is redistributed around the body as girly curves. You're most likely in for a few years of being insecure about your body. It's not fun, but pretty much everyone goes through it. Be careful you don't pluck your eyebrows too much though, it is possible to make them too thin.
People don't usually tell other people that they'll do something amazing. You'd be surprised how self absorbed people are. There's absolutely no reason why you can't do something amazing though. What do you enjoy doing? What hobbies do you have? What are you thinking of working as when you grow up? You need to decide what amazing things you're going to do with your life, get out there and do them.
Aye Anni, all those things you've mentioned, its ok! You're not ugly. Everyone is beautiful. That's probably not the best thing to say, but its true. And honestly you're only 12, you have so much change in front of your self, heck for all anyone knows you could get to be 18 and become a super model. Main point, don't give up and think of your self as ugly, because you aren't.
I always think when I am eating,''am I fat?'' And when I am at school I try acting like I don't seem as fat. I always take my clothes off when I am going to bed and rub my belly and squish it and say ''Well,you do have some fat''I don't like gym because I don't eat breakfast anyways. I always starve. And I always eat little amounts because the lunch food tastes like a load of crap. I was never perfect,ever since the day I was born. Everyone has some kind heart and rage inside them. I love my body,but hate it at the same time because of how imperfect I am and at the end of the day I think,''the future is ahead of me,cause life is too short to be worrying of obesity.
hey sweetheart, don't worry. everyone has their own beauty and their own imperfections. do your own thing and forget what others say about you, even if it hurts alot! i suggest you find a hobby or begin doing SOMETHING you really like! i taught myself how to skate and even though it took almost 2 years to learn, it is my FAVORITE thing in the whole world, and it made e so much more confident in myself. everyone should have their own special "thing" that they do. from painting, poetry, running, writing, whatever! do something you enjoy and you will see will become really good at it!
Do not even feel bad, girl u perf the wAy u are. Believe it once wore heels to a party and I WAS TALLER THEN EVERYBody... I'm usually taller than most kids in my class but, it was awkward. Be happy about your body I'm 5'2 and 72 pounds, and I'm 11. Personality is flawless 👌👌👌
When my science teacher said I couldn't go to the toilet during his lessons until I had my baby... I'm a guy and was 12 at the time
Kazuki Kun Wow. Did he know that you were a guy? I mean, seriously, did you have long hair or something?
talk about throwing shade holy shit
I had short hair at the time and unless I have a feminine face or body it would be difficult for him to confuse me for a girl considering my real name can't really be used for a girl xD
Kazuki Kun really mean, what's wrong with people..
Kazuki Kun What a scumbag seriously
Stretch marks are the worst , you can't get rid of them and now i'm stuck with ugly lines all over my body forever...
Molly Clifford try cocoa butter it'll fade it away i heard
Think of them as personal thunderstorms on your body! They're like free lightning tattoos. (Unless you dont like thunderstorms, oops )
mizzypink8 it does fade but the scars don't just go away :/
true I agree I hate having them my self Dx
Coolio m8 that's how I think of mine. I have badass natural shoulder tattoos
my whole family kept telling stop pushing your belly inside. saying why are you so fat etc. when at school none of the kids made fun of my weight. and a couple of years ago when i look at old pics. i saw that i wasnt even in the chubby category. but somehow it all fell apart. tell someone long enough who they are. they'll believe it and accept it. and ruin their lives forever
Omg I thought I was the only one
+Izaak Wever This is so accurate. For some reason, family can make you feel so terrible about yourself. I weigh 100 pounds more than I did in high school now but since I stopped speaking to my family, I realize I felt way worse about my weight then, when I was involved in sports and still an athlete. I hate that about them.
me too... sad ain't it. this caused mental eating disorder and body image issues that will haunt me forever
i can only agree. you start to believe them and my coping measure was eating more and thanks to genetics i gain it fast. doing sports, even more than my "skinnier" siblings didn't help because i was still "fatter" then them and in their mind unfitter, which wasn't true. i'm nearly 30 and i worked hard, i'll never be skinny, bcause even if i am skinny i'd never recognize it because i'll always feel and see myself as the fatty one.
sad and it's sadder not to be the only one!
this thread should be pinned to the top!
The worst part is Gym class when you have to get on the scale.
Getting on the scale isn't the worst part. I'm 14 and the fattest guy in my class. Gym really sucks because we run most of the time. When we do weightlifting then I dominate everybody else by a long shot, but when we have to run then I'm in the back after only a few minutes and I hate it so much seeing how bad I am compared to others.
Natalie Waffler Why? If you're fat, it's not like the scale is bringing you any news. You know what's going to say.
Natalie Waffler I hated that, I was fit in high school but weighed more than most of the girls (I was a water polo player and on swim) so I was called fat even though I worked out about 7-8 hrs per weekday and could lift or bench my friends body weight.
CogniVision its when you have to stand on the scales in front of other people, and they can all see how much you weigh
It's just numbers babe,don't let them control your life :)
I can hear the trolls and haters coming
Hi
You summoned me! Now what do you... -human want?! ＠(￣-￣)＠
I can hear you coming too babe
Same here. This is the perfect video for them.
You forgot the anti-feminazis.
When i was about 9 or 10 years old, i was a bit fat and i used to get teased so much for being fat even by my siblings and aunts and literally everyone asked me to walk while holding my breath so that my belly doesn't stick out.
But then puberty came, and everything just changed!
I lost a lot of weight, got a bit taller and looked pretty slender. Then the same people who used to taunt me then advice me to gain weight, called me anorexic and what not!
Seriously i then just realized that i shouldn't give a damn because people are always gonna find faults in you no matter what you look like :/
Nerdy Duck :)
Samantha Reagan haha, yes you should be. It's the most amazing transformation of a little girl to a beautiful lady. During puberty, there's a hormone estrogen released which makes a girl much prettier, attractive and slender. Though, puberty comes with it's own baggage. You have to deal with periods, acne, body hair etc. You'll feel like hell but it settles down , you get used to it as time passes. I hit puberty pretty early like at 10 yrs of age and dealing with periods was a nightmare. But then i used to it and it doesn't bother me at all!
How old are you though?
Samantha Reagan Excited*
Samantha Reagan oh good. Everybody reaches puberty at a different age. Some earlier than others or a bit late. It depends upon your family history.
What age did u loose weight?
omg alison was fat when young?! and now she's a size 0?!
she wasn't even that fat
she was slightly chubby, not fat though
Leah O Connell im swiss and i got bullied for being chubby (i looked like allison). I lost weight and when i turned 18 i visited the us and suddenly, the weight and fat percentage that is considered fat in my country becomes okay. I was like, damn, here i wouldn't have been bullied badly
How can u even be a size 0
Jo It's possible
Im a former skinny kid now im just fat sobs T_T
I feel your pain ;_;
Ana Lee same here.
i think going skinny kid to fat adult is worse because you can actually remember every stage along the way, so we have all that self conscious bullcrap to deal with AND a lifetime of regret
Ty Guy yesss a life time of regret!!! :""c
Ana Lee I am too, but strangely enough, I don't feel too bad about it. Like my brain doesn't remember that I'm actually an overweight person right now until I see myself in the mirror or until I try to clip my toenails and my tummy gets in the way, haha. The weirder thing is that when I was thinner, I was seriously more self conscious of my body... as in "Oh god, is that a tummy starting to form?? NO!!!"
But now it's like, "Heck, yeah, it is what it is," and I'll just go on with whatever I'm doing. I don't even get offended when people ask me about it, as in I've been asked, "What happened to you?" And it's just funny to see their reactions when they realize they've "offended" me when really, they haven't. :D
Me too 😢 I'm not too upset over it. Just wished my stomach was flat
I wasn't a fat kid but I was hideous... like everyone thinks they were ugly as a kid but my face took it to a whole other level. I am a girl and unfortunately hairy so my "eyebrow" not eyebrows, look up my face and I had extremely noticeable peach fuzz above my lip and crazy sideburns. My mom didn't let me shave my legs or armpits so I hated wearing shorts or tank tops in the summer. It was so embarrassing and I was bullied as a kid and had like 5 friends... maybe only one that liked me. But now I don't look like that but I am still sooo self conscious and always think I look horrible with makeup or any clothes I wear and think I look like a man.
Hahaha xD funny story!
glad to know my painful past is humorous to others lol
Lol I had hairy legs as a younger girl and hated wearing shorts!
I used to have SUPER hairy legs because my mom wouldn't let me shave, but she finally did, and I'm soooooo glad
omg its like you just told the story of my life as pre-teen
The worst experience of be a overweight teenage is the Prom Dress my boyfriend and i went together to buy it and the women on the shop said that it was cute that my brother come with me after that they only have like 3 dress I was so mad and humiliated that i start crying and my boyfriend asked to his grandma to make me the perfect dress. I love that dress
that's really cute ~ what a cute boyfriend , keep him
you and your boyfriend just got a shipper
What a sweet boyfriend !
A girl that used to tease me in middle school about my weight is now in the position I was in, and I lost the weight. To this day, I laugh and think about how the tables turned.
It's so sad that me and other people have to go on a strict diet at a young age. It's so embarrassing and all my other friends have high metabolism when I have low metabolism and I'm huge and it's so embarassing! I can't wear a bikini because I don't want anyone to see my stomach.😢😢 who else feels me??
Same I have a friend who is skinny and I wish I had her body.
ikr!! i feel u bc all of my friends are rlly skinny and im just.... a meat locker xD
+Ellye123 Metabolism doesn't have much to do with it tbh
I'm kinda....medium little smaller depending the store but I went vegetarian cause I used to be a size large. I have very very low self-confidence. So as I slowly grow older I keep trying to lose weight and I have slowly gained depression cause of it all. My friends don't call me fat but my doctor says I am and so do I. So I'm gonna keep calling myself fat. Also I can't wear a bikini cause I feel people would call me fat cause I have some fat on my stomach I mean it's not that much, but it's still fat. I don't trust humans enough to no judge me. It's just the way I am.
***** my life
We all have our stories I'll tell u mines too. I'm still in high school right now and growing up as a kid I was average but for some reason everyone in my family kept telling me your fat your soo fat u need to loose weight. I was told that since the day I was born. So I guess is just stuck in my head and I ate and ate and now I'm a 15 year old that is 5 foot 3 and my weight is 170. I guess I had to prove them right. And to this day it just got worse everytime I go shoppin or someone gives me clothes as a gift my mom and my sister would comment saying are y p u sure that will ever fit you and it just hurts to have your own mother think nothing will ever fit you. It just tears me apart everytime someone comments about my weight.
I know how you feel, from that I was about 6 until I was 15 I got picked on so many times for being fat. Now I'm pretty average but I still remember the pain it brought me.
Poor thing :( I hope things are better.
My brother gets comments about being big and I get comments about being small, so I guess I've heard both sides of the story. It's not fun. :/
I didn't think anyone else went through the same thing as I did. I also sabotaged myself and gained tons of weight and I felt so ugly and hopeless that I went on a water fast for two weeks and got very thin. Yet my mom still wasn't happy and she encouraged me to be even thinner. I went on the water fast as a rebellious act, like see how much you hurt me. You wanted me to lose weight so now I'm going to starve myself. But it had the opposite effect and even though I lost a lot of weight I could never be that beautiful slim and slender person she wanted me to be. My body even if I lose more weight would never look slender because that's just my body. And sometimes passing by someone 3 sizes smaller she would comment if you were that thin you would be pretty. And that has always hurt me. I feel self conscious like someone is always looking at me and that I'm never thin enough. I'm not that much older than you either I'm 16 and your comment made me feel better because someone else understands the pain of having parents obsess over looks out of "love"
I totally relate to you, fifteen and the same story as you (exceot for height and weight) I always thought I was fat because my family always and still does call me fat and only do I look back now, in 6th grade I was skinny but I didn't realize that until now when I'm actually overweight, just yesterday my mom was looking through old pictures and she points out one and says "hey look! You we're skinny here" hurts that she realizes it now when the damage is done. Oh and it's worse constantly being compared to my older pretty and petite sister, sighhhhh life sucks sometimes.
I KNOW THIS IS LONG BUT I THINK IT MAY HELP YOU A BIT
I use to hate that people thought that it's so easy for me to just loose weight but in my case it's always a bit shame full and almost embarrassing. I went to the gym a couple times with my friends and every time I went people assumed it was my first time there and even crack jokes to my face. I am VERY quick at the mouth so I'd often shut them down but it honestly really did hurt and made me feel self conscience working out in public.
I've been over weight all my life and I can understand just how words can truly hurt you but I found out many years ago that words unlike stones, can only hurt you as much as you let them. I remember a guy who sang in the choir with me made jokes about me being fat it was IT lol I just stood up and looked in his face and said yes.... I am fat.. and I could spare a few pounds.. This is something anyone can see about me and because of that you might win a race before me but I'm sure on several other levels including singing not only in my range but YOUR range, writing, playing instruments, dressing, and acting.... I'd beat the shit out of you hands down. He fell quiet.. and so did everyone else because they knew it was true.
You should never let others dictate your emotions and or discourage you from your dreams no matter what rather people are talking about you because of your appearance, disability, or even intelligence because if you do that you have no power and it's not your life anymore it's theirs and the words of mother RuPaul if you don't love yourself how in the hell can you love somebody else!? Find something, one thing that you love about yourself and I promise you after a while you will love every inch of yourself.
and I'm not saying I don't hate parts of my body but I will say that I AM beautiful and theirs no a soul who can make me feel like I'm not. One day I may loose weight but you know I don't think the worlds ready enough for such a sickening creature lol!
I used to be really obese, I had like 50 extra pounds in my body at 13 y.o. Then I had anorexia (luckily it only lasted like a year; I started taking care of myself when I started fainting and feeling too weak all the time) and slimmed under my ideal weight. Nowadays I'm like two pounds overweight but I'm eating healthy and life is definitely easier. People treat me way better ever since, and I found love pretty quickly. When I was fat, no one wanted anything to do with me.
***** well honestly I became truly worried after fainting so much, like, you have to let this sink in: the consecuences of having anorexia could hunt you FOREVER, because you're damaging your body and it might never recover. So I'd say: take some time to really imagine how you're destroying yourself and how you might want to take it back one day and you simply won't be able to.
That's what panicked me at least. I'd say think HARD about that.
Too bad, though, that people don't feel like treating you well until you lose weight. They should want to treat you well to begin with.
If no one wanted to talk to you when you were fat but they spoke to you when you were skinny you need to find new people to be around
I was the loser fat kid who nobody bothered to say hello..but there was this kid in primary school and his words sticked to me. "You're not fat. To me, you are very pretty" and apparently my all of my female friends had a tiny crush on him. So did I.
...
Years later, I realized what I've done to my body and start taking care of my body. Now I'm the "skinny popular one" that everyone likes...I've gotten nominated by my school's principle to be "Ms. Role model" cause unlike those bitches in primary school who treated me like shit, I've actually invited "fat wannabes" to places I go with my "popular" friends. And apparently I saved a boy's life from suicide. That made me feel happy.
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In the summer, my boyfriend (that kid..) and I plan to volunteer in the nearest "fat camp" to help kids see that they are beautiful. BE HAPPY GUYS WHO CARES!
i way 94 more pounds than im supposed to at 12... talk about fat
I'm 15 and I'm really not fat just a little bit (that's what I feel) but in past few years my parents and everyone started calling me fatso.... I became really depressed and hated myself so i got on a crash diet but soon after I realised its my body I gotta love it. Now I try to work out and eat healthy every day but still somewhere in my heart I hv that feeling of being scared of getting fat.
I know how you feel. I'm 13, but I don't consider myself as skinny or fat. A little in between. One girl at my school was told by her parents that she needs to lose weight. She is skinny. She is 11. Stupid right? I don't give a damn about how you look. Just be healthy. Or eat pizza. I support you anyway. I don't think you're scared of getting fat. You are scared of being treated worthless AKA being defined by your apperiance. Don't care about all those comments. After all it's better to have brain and fat than nothing.
That was so not a burn tho.
+Allen Walker Make sure not to work out EVERYDAY, just 4-6 days a week is good. If you don't let your muscles rest, you will not see any progress. Good luck to you!
Why would your parents call you that??
You should love your body you can change that even i'm fat yeah i still love it tbh
SamanthaLPS because I am asian and for asian people its a way of showing their love....;)
Im a slightly chubby person and i am constantly self aware of my weight but i should probably get over myself and attempt to lose weight
If anyone is ever rude to you about your body, ignore it, cause you should love your body, and you should live your life without being judged
+flamingogirl 7 still lose weight to stay healthy and live longer ♥
Beebo ❤
literally what goes through my mind everyday
+Emma Martin brendon lol
I have no self confidence on my physical appearance. I try to work out but I give up after a few days. I need a work out buddy and a food control buddy... Who wanna do that!?
+Lizzy David I agree
+Lizzy David this is so totally me. i could use a workout buddy too but its a pity i live on the other side of the world. lol
+Lizzy David Music, Pintertest, & lots of things help me get motivated for working out :D. I always end up starting a work out, then stopping it in the middle of it. Do workouts that excite you, & are not too challenging. If you use music, it makes you very jumpy. Well, it does for me haha. Pintertest has tons of 30 day challenges! Those are some of my favorites c:
+Lizzy David oh the excuses...
I know i say im gonna. work out and watch my diet but it doesnt last for long.
Just speaking from experience. It's important to love yourself and be comfortable with who you are in your own skin no matter what it looks like. You can be fat, skinny, short, tall, average, whatever. You just need to accept where you are and love and treat yourself with kindness no matter what.
I'm speaking as someone who used to be a former fat kid and can relate to everything in this video. I am also speaking as someone, who struggled so much with those 'fat kid' memories that I developed an eating disorder and anorexia, and STILL had those thoughts and STILL hated my body, even though I was so much thinner. I never accepted how I looked. I never loved myself. We have to remember to do that above everything else.
Thank you so much.
My little brother is about 15-20 pounds over wait and we're all kinda harsh on him just so he can loss that extra wait and stops eating junk food. Also, about a week ago we found out that his cholesterol is high, so we're keeping a big eye on him.
After watching this, I feel bad and as if I'm the worst sister ever :(. I don't want him to think that we don't like him or to hold things in him until he gets older. I don't even want to say or my family says something that might hunt him all his life.
I guess we think we're doing this for his own good ,when we're really hurting him more than helping him.
I'm glad you realize what you're doing to him now. From my personal experience, shaming someone doesn't help them to lose weight. It can actually do the opposite, and make you feel depressed and worthless. What I found helps is when your family all gets healthy together rather than pinpointing one person for being different.
You will never know how it feels until you're in his situation, so just remember that people carry the words that were said to them even when they lose the weight.
+Skye Walker thank u. That's exactly what I've told my parents. We r working on it, and let's hope for the best.
Ps. Thanks for the tips, it's really nice of u :)
+Mariana lol ur not. And I know , but I have my fudging autocorrector. It does that all the time.
Thanks tho :))
+Kelly Bean +Katie George thanks girls. I've noticed that and I've changed towards him. I did it cause I loved him, but I realized I was doing it wrong and fixed it.
Thank a lot :) :)
I hate being the fat kid in the group.
When you are in a group and they start to run and you run but you can't catch up and your out of breath and there still going. And when you are in the dressing room everyone is skinny and don't have man boobs but you take you tshirt of and you see your belly it isn't good. I'm constently getting picked on for being fat. Trying to get a date but you are worried that the girl won't love you because you are fat. You don't get much friends. Everyone ignores me. You try and go on a diet and you exercise but you don't feel the pounds losing I quit the diet. You are immedietly the uncool kid.
Skinny people are really lucky for what they have. The big paragraph you probably just read was the life of me in one day and people are being jugded for there size. Fat people are not lazy we can be cool we can be nice. Next time you see a fat person do not think negative about the fat person
I feel u bro
I think that just because you are "fat" it doesn't mean that people will treat you bad... at some point everyone heard once something bad about his/her person, no matter what they look like... it is a big matter of do you let yourself be teared down by how you look and precieve yourself?... like when I was in school we were 4 "fat" girls.. and everyone but me was very much appriciated.. (well I also had glaces, uncool clothing..but the thing was I also lacked bite/ self-confidence and i was too nice) btw. one of the "fat" girls was one of the classes (if not the) favourite persons.. (no she was not the "rich kid" ..she was just confident, outgoing and cool)
and to the skinny people.. they are not that lucky.. you just think they are because it is your ideal now.. if it is rather slim/thin than skinny... skinny people also get a lot of crap..("oh! she must have an eating dissorder/ s/he must do drugs to be like this/ he looks like a whimp etc").....
btw I know one skinny guy who's always on his tip toes about eating enough so he won't loose weight (which would be dangerous for him; he has a to fast metabolism)... or another guy who wouldn't mind to weight some more if just his metabolism were not that fast ..:quote: "I'm always so hungry..If I had enough money you would never see me not eating!"
If someone can't except you for who you are, then they aren't worth your time
Trust me, I used to be the "fat kid" in my group of friends. It was absolutely horrible. The teachers would make us play these games where you had to be lifted up by all your friends and be carried over to the other side, I would always sit out. Then when I would go shopping with my friends they would always get either small, or extra small, and I would be stuck with size large or extra large. Everyday I would be called fat or bullied by my weight, people would even make fun of me for breaking a chair in class once. But I decided to try to turn my life around, and I lost 30lbs with a year all by myself. I know that doesn't seem like much but if you eat a bit healthier and exercise a little bit more then you can achieve your goal. And trust me that fat kid will still be here and I will always crave all that junk food stuff but trust me you will feel alot better when you're a bit healthier.
Brooklyn I understand I always get picked on tow.I weigh hundred 65 pounds and my sister ways we less and she's older than me I always get stuck in the store by myself in the extra large section my sisters always at the small section 😪
I was skinny as a young child, THEN I GOT CHUBBY, NOW IM JUST FAT
OMG STORY OF MY LIFE
+Kaapo Hämeenaho um thanks -young me who looked like a stick
I was never really skinny so fat power
+Jonne Ilia wow, thanks -,-
Same. I sometimes I wonder if it's because of something I ate when I was younger. It was like I woke up one day and I wasn't skinny anymore i had just blown up overnight
I was pretty chubby in elementary school, starting 3rd grade maybe? I got thinner in 7th grade, but I've still just seen myself as chubby. Even when i was a size 0 I wanted to lose weight.
You're beautiful just the way you are. Why hate the skin you have to live in forever? You can't change it- learn to love the skin you're in.
I know how you feel. Sometimes you can't even see the difference.
Exactly the same thing for me.
I feel you :/ I was a fat kid and I didn't get to my normal weight until high school, but even then I thought I was still fat and still got comments that I was a pig :/
ED?
So many sad stories in the comments, and to all of the people who got bullied because of their looks: you're all BEAUTIFUL, and DON'T let anybody tell you otherwise! All I wanna do is give you a massive hug!
war flashbacks: sitting down and keeping your feet on tip-toes so your thighs dont "spread" out
Glittering Trash Oh god, I relate so much to this, it's sad. 😭
it's an unwritten rule that everyone must have a fat phase at some point in their life. you never been fat? you gonna be.
+Lucy G I'm in that phase, where your metabolism slows down and the fat that was nowhere near you is not a lonely fat roll on your stomach! aaand. now I'm exercising really hard!!
+Lucy G This is true and it's funny after I lost weight to see people who made fun of my weight before gain weigh and it was sort of like haha f*** you
My fat phase was when I was around 5
my fat phase is going on right now...
+Samantha Sherman same
okay, why are there a bunch of 11 year olds on here asking if 90 pounds is fat? like, come on there is no way. everyone is perfect in their own way.
grace daugherty in 12 and I’m 67 pounds
Dany_Playz Games damn I was 76 pounds when I was 11
grace daugherty I’m 12 and 142 I think... I’m 5,3..... I’m fat
Rachel Huber I’m the same age, almost the same weight. I’m stuck at 136 pounds, and I’m desperately trying to lose weight. I’m the same height, so you’re not alone. I’m glad that I’m not alone either.
5'4" , 12, 129lbs, 24% body fat. You're not alone.
I am fat. I watch a lot of videos like this so I can see how it effects other people. I'm turning 15 very soon, and I've been fat my entire life. Most of my family doesn't have a problem with it on my moms side, but my dads side is all "pro skinny" and my sister calls me fat too. My aunt from my dads side is a lot happier with my sister because my sister is thin and pretty.
I've been bullied since grade 4 because I am fat. I have no self esteem, I hate shopping because of looks of disgust. I hate seeing my size, and I hate seeing how big my clothes are. My family doesn't know how much I weigh, and sometimes they'll see someone else weighing that much on TV or something like that, and say how they should go on a diet and how unhealthy they are. But they don't know that I'm just like that. I've tried diets, I've tried tons of exercise, I've starved myself. But I can't put the weight off. I absolutely hate myself, and I hate mirrors. I used to hate everything besides my eyes, but I hate those now too. Some days I just want to die, and have it all end, but I can't, because I don't want to hurt my family like they hurt me.
Hey Niko 5 years later, are you doing okay?
I used to be so skinny when I was younger like people called me stick and skeleton, then I gained too much weight and got severely overweight which I was also made fun of for, now I have lost some of that flab, but more importantly, I have lost my confidence, my self esteem and I now have social anxiety. So please, no matter how imperfect a person might seem to be, just keep your mouth shut. You have a free will to say/type anything you want, but not everything that's true needs to be said
I was always insecure, i remember when i was as young as 5 absolutely hating my body. Always comparing myself to other girls who i saw as skinner. Then when i was 9 i got put on some medication that made me gain weight and get really chubby and puffy. Boys at school would call me fat, I spent a large majority of my days crying and tearing at my skin just wanting it to all disappear, i hated myself. I eventually came off the medication, people started complementing me on my weight loss (at around age 11). I still viewed myself as fat, and decided to try dieting. I'm 14 now and recovering from anorexia nervosa, dealing with horrible anxiety and depression. I'm underweight currently, but i still view myself as fat, honestly i think i will never be at peace with my body. Self hatred is a horrible, horrible thing.
I remember when I was in 5th or 6th grade, and my older sister came up to me one evening and said, "You're fat". I was pretty shocked. That evening I spent a lot of time in front of the mirror thinking about it, and came to the conclusion that indeed, I was pretty fat. Guess I had never thought that much about it until then. After that I became terribly self conscious and I started wearing huge clothes hoping I would be able to hide my ugly body from the world :s
Even now that I'm not that fat anymore, I still always wear big clothes because I'm just too embarrassed about my body. It sorta sucks… but I'm working on it :)
Btw, I love my sister very much and hold no grudge against her, she just has a tendency to say exactly what she's thinking without considering whether or not she actually should say it, she still calls me fat every now and then, yet we're exactly the same size nowdays XD
It wasn't perhaps nice of her to say it, and no one should make fun of or pick on someone because they are fat, but I've accepted it and moved on, now it's just something of the past.
Plus, I think it has helped me become more aware of my health, what I eat and how much I exercise, which in the end has done me more good than harm I believe :)
umineko lol
Haha indeed, I was googling for a profile picture that fitted my name and found this one, liked it very much ^^
That's how I found the anime XD
I'm not fat, I'm thick (if that makes any sense) but all my friends are super skinny naturally and I feel fat whenver I'm around them, but I know I'm not fat, just thick boned with lots of muscle
gamergirlsrule 2.0, you are sorta like me then. I am naturally very wide from the front, big hips, a large bone structure and pretty muscular. However if you look at me from the side I look pretty thin with a flat stomach and all, but the side is wide. I have huge hips too, 116cm circumference.
It's often quite frustrating when you feel so big around other people. I feel like if I was to sit on one of my friends lap, even most of my guy friends who are far from as wide as me, they would break….
is anyone else happy because they were fat. but got skinny over the years 😂😂🙋🙋🙌 there's hope for everyone
+Frances Doherty me
+Frances Doherty why not
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absolutely.
This comment section gives me hope I guess
I'm not downplaying these people's struggles at all, but I feel like I relate to this video a lot in the opposite way. I've always been a skinny girl, and I got teased about it a lot especially when I was little.
Now most of my self-consciousness arises when I hear people say things like men only like curvy women, or that skinny people featured in the media aren't 'real.' everyone's body deserves love & respect.
I'm still young, and I'm trying to gain weight but it's extremely hard. I talk to people who are trying to lose weight and I tell them I have the opposite problem (which is just as difficult for me) and they usually respond saying "oh I wish I had your problem. stop bragging!" and that's really hurtful & invalidating...
I get you!
+Jenna Trowbridge It would be best to express these feelings to people who struggle with the same thing as you do because an overweight person's focus is to achieve this caricatured extreme weight loss in their mind, so when they see someone who has it naturally and doesn't have to control what they eat and constantly exercise it can create a lot of unwanted jealousy. I'm overweight right now and my initial response to this was just pure hatred. I thought "please stop complaining about a privilege that you have, I wish I could be naturally skinny and not have to worry about how overweight I am" but at one point I was really skinny and was jealous of girls with big boobs and asses with thick thighs and I still am despite having a curvy figure. So I understand you, but it does come off as compliment fishing.
+Jenna Trowbridge I am eleven years old and have been under 67 pound for 4 years, I eat junk food, no breakfast ,but other than that, I eat more than most people my age. It really sucks because one of my "best-friends" nick-named me Twig and it hurt, really bad because she was so close to me
+Jenna Trowbridge i hope i don't sound mean if i say this but i have never met anyone who gets bullied for being skinny. i suppose it's a bit less common
Connie Maheswaran I acknowledge that fat-shaming is more common than skinny-shaming. the problem is, though, that rather than thinking it's less common, many people don't think skinny shaming even EXISTS.
comments such as "you need some meat on your bones; eat a cheeseburger!" "you have the body of a nine year old boy," "do you even eat/ you eat so much-- where does it all go??" are an everyday occurrence for underweight people. if these sort of comments were made about overweight people, it would be clear how it is offensive. but when the subject is someone skinny, many people think it's a compliment or they hardly even think about it to see how it's offensive. and if I ever talk about how I'm trying to gain weight, people will laugh at me, roll their eyes- generally not take me seriously. but if an overweight person says that they're on a diet to lose weight, people tend to understand and respect that.
when I was little, the body shaming was much more obvious. kids would joke around and say I couldn't play with them because I'd break like a twig, and I was often picked up and swung around by bigger kids who'd comment about how light I was when I'd yell at them to put me down. nicknames like twig, stick, chicken legs, bird bones, skeleton, etc... what I'm trying to say is, I know I'm not the only one who got bullied for being skinny, and overweight people aren't the only ones who experience body shaming either.
sorry this is crazy long. hope I'm making sense here...
the woman at 0:15 was not fat at all, just normal
IKR
fat people are normal lol?
æßa Yeah, unlike bitches like you.😂
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Fat people, thinner people, ALL people are normal. However, I get what you're saying.Yes. Indeed, people are getting so much fatter these days that people no longer know what a healthy vs unhealthy weight looks like anymore.
My parents just don't let me eat in peace. They either say eat slower or your really going to eat that? It gets me mad and really depressed. My mom would get me xl chothes when I was about xs.
My little brother is chubby, and yesterday I (not on purpose) called him fat... He got so sad (he is 9 years old) and I apologized a million times, and he says that he is fine, but he isn't... I feel so bad😭😢
yeah.. you should. thats going to stick with him probably for the rest of his life and there's nothing you can do about it to fix it. he was already dealing w/ those problems internally and now u brought them to the surface. if theres anything u can take from this it's to NEVER comment on someone's weight. especially people you are close with
Stfu calling someone fat isn't that bad
+Walter Zhao Well you can't really speak for everyone
Mlppawheart it's literally 2 words it can't word anyone
Helena Jepsen I understand that you feel bad but this is my question, how do you accidentally call someone you love fat? You said I quote 'My little brother is chubby, and yesterday (not on purpose) called him fat…' . I do not hate you for doing that but, saying that may make him self conscious.
I'm young and fat, but I've lost 2 pounds this past week
Yay!
+Cooper Raubach That's great! :)
keep going it will all be worth it 💗☺
Congrats! Don't give up! :D
+Cooper Raubach Young gives you an edge on most of the people in this country. Literally millions of people (including myself) are jealous of you just for being young. Fact. I hope this helps in some way, (at least it might until you get old, lol). Good luck to you, sincerely. You sound like you have a positive outlook, stay positive no matter what.
I remember when I was 8 and I hated my body. I never had friends or bf and the kids made fun of me. Now I am skinny but fit and they are fat with acne. Turn down for what.
I would have thought you'd learn empathy in a situation like that. Guess not
+Kevtb87 I thought the same thing...
+Random Potato no you're not fat or heavy
***** Depends on age.
***** that is something you should ask your doctor
I remember when I was like 12 or something, I was at the mall with my sisters and my grandma and we were in this one store and she was holding up clothes and asking if I liked them and my sister walks in, comes over to us, and asks "Why are you guys in the maternity section?" And my grandma was like looking at her like she just killed someone and I got so upset that I sat in the mall bathroom and cried for what must have been like 30 minutes and when I came back, both of them looked guilty as hell but they didn't say anything about my obviously red eyes, and they bought me ice cream to make me feel better, which I ended up throwing away while they weren't looking because I felt disgusting. That moment sticks with me still.
Maria Ruseva I never said I wasn't thankful for my family, I said that having to shop in the section for pregnant women when I was 12 years old crushed my self esteem. I'm sorry about your abusive mom and it must have been awful to go through that but this was more about my weight issues than my family
+Kianna Jackson not abusive, (maybe?) asian.
daisha has not aged a day...
Yuleisy Aguirre lol
Now that you say it...people who lose a lot of weight usually look older because their skin becomes loose. Yet she doesn’t look older
I'm 148 pounds and 12 year old and it's terrible it's so hard to lose weight
Dont be paranoied witj your weight, i almost died of losing weight just so people would say im "normal"
Don't let society do that to you too
Ciera Daily thats fuckgin miles under my 91kg/200 pounds and im 2 years older than you ......
Well I'm 11 and 124 pounds I mean it's mostly not in my stomach but in my thighs and it sucks 😔but i don't care 😄
Ciera Daily Im 180 and 5'5 and i only gain weight in my stomach and moobs so people think im a girl with short hair. In gym at my first day at a new school the teacher said " Whats your name little lady" and it just stuck with me.
OMG ur like me same age same weight
im fat but not overly obese but my friend is over weigh and people would tease her (id defend her dont tell me im a fake friend and boost her confidence) and once a boy told her she would be the next ronald mcdonald since he died because he was overweigh and she said im on a diet and he said a diet of chocolates and i punched him on the shoulder which left a bruise but come on sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do..
just cause someones bigger it doesnt make you any better
Violence can be a sign that you're losing an argument, some advice from me to you would to act as if he's being riddles and like you don't care rather than showing that you actually do.
+Leslie Ojeda yeah, okay, sometimes you should just leave it, but tbh I would've punched him too. And beside, he might've gotten a little bruise on his shoulder, but she'll get a bruise for life. :(
Well I'm glad I was fat when I was younger and then lost weight. Because I am not jealous of the people who made fun of me as they are now overweight. :p
My uncle was chubby before and his friend would bully him for being fat.Now my uncle is skinnier now and his friend is obese
Making fun of them for being fat now is giving them validation for when they made fun of you. The cycle needs to end. No one should feel bad about struggling with their weight, and no one should be getting bullied for it.
Hi ☺💙
Maddy Harvey lmao karma XD
I'm 9 feet tall and weigh 1 lbs
Is that normal
You're over weight :( if you try to lose a little weight, you'll be fine :) try to eat only fries and sugar. Good luck :3
It's normal if you're one of those inflatable airdancers they use to advertise businesses on the sidewalk
+ARis4lyfe LUCKY!!!!! I'm 24 feet tall and I weigh 9 ounces.
+Lucy G BURN!
yeah
Seriously, even if you are fat, that is not at all definitive of the whole person you are. You know when I hear the comment "I'm so fat," it's usually followed by someone else assuring them, "no, you're beautiful" but you can sure as hell be both. You are beautiful, brilliant, caring, vibrant...limitless! You go far beyond titles, and the numbers on a stupid scale! ...I have this great quote by J.K. Rowling that is just beautiful...(and applies to both men and women)
“Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her.
I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me…"
J.K. Rowling
Besides, your mother did not spend 9 months forming your body in her just so you could hate and destroy it. Love it and make it the best you can!
This is actually one of my favorite videos buzzfeed has done because its honest and real. Especially with how many videos they have done lately about weight loss and "losing 22% of your body weight", where those kind of videos can have a negative impact on those who struggle to lose weight or keep weight off. This kind of video reminds me why I enjoy watching their videos.
Know that pain, I was 650 pounds by the time I was 17. now at age 39, down to 325 which is not so bad when you take in account i am 6 ft tall
I dont believe you were that big
Marcus McCloud
it's true 64 inch waist and all
Jason Rundle damn dude.
I thought I was fat. Well I saw in real life though.
I was so huge fat back then, I had to wear my mother's clothes because we couldn't afford new pants for my huge body. I was 185 5'3. Now I am 138.. and they are right, I still feel fat. I have the stretch marks that are a constant remind.
i just remember being in 8th grade and getting a phone call from a friend who was looking to borrow a dress of mine. i heard her mom in the background say, "hon, i don't think it's a good idea to borrow a dress from Kelsey. Kelsey is a bigger girl..." that has ALWAYS stuck with me.
I used to be fat (not that fat really, like 6-7 pounds overweight) from when I was 7 till the age of 11 or 12 and because my mom, sister and brother were all thin they used to call me nicknames that they thought were cute I guess, but being called chubby cheeks made me feel like shit and I lost some weight over the summer when I was 11. I became a normal weight but I still felt fat. I'm even thinner now because I was very depressed a few months ago ( I was nearly 15 back then) and I couldn't eat (whenever I ate a bit more I felt like throwing up) so slowly I dropped to 110 pounds. I'm 15 and a half now, I gained 4 pounds from that time so I'm a normal weight now. I go to the doctors for check ups and my blood is average now.
I fucking hate it how whenever one of my relatives sees me now they're like, ohh you've lost so much weight, remember how fat you used to be? -Yes I do remember, and it's horrible of you to say that because you're hurting my feelings.
I don't like it when people call me a twig now either.
What I'm trying to say that, once you get called fat or chubby even if you do lose weight and become physically thin and strong you won't be able to get over it mentally. So please people, even if you children seem a bit on the chubbier side just make them exercise and give them healthier food. Calling them nicknames won't help, not when they're fat, or when they're too thin.
Exactly! I'm half Vietnamese, and the Asian side of my family is so insensitive about weight, and they would talk about me to my mom about how fat I was, and my dad would call me fat or pig when I was eating junk food. But did he ever try to get me to exercise? Nope. Now I swim and run and I'm pretty fit, but back then, I'd get so sad about being called fat - and not even by friends or classmates, because it was only my family who was being mean.
the worst worst worst feeling when parents says why you don't try to lose weight? while i was try everything out and they just make me angry( on them not on me)
I hate shopping with my Family because my twin sister is really fit even though I eat healthier and I exercise just as much as her she always complains about how she is fat and overweight while I am 80 pounds more than her.
I know that feeling... And I am always the "uglier" twin because I am shorter, fatter and bulkier...
+Mandi Logan I'm not a twin. But my older brother goes to the gym everyday and he is the one with the "amazing looks" and the "beautiful blue eyes". And then I'm just there. Not to mention that my mom was a fitness model and I am just...ugh.
Lara Pursell Yeah. I am actually working my butt off at home bc I am too wooried I will be made fun of at the gym. People still make comments about how prettier my sister is and how I should be like her (even though i am smarter) and it really brings me down
... I feel ya'.
Mandi Logan Yeah I work out at home to because I have social anxiety disorder and other mental things. I get those comments too. At least we are the smart siblings!
Lara Pursell Yup! Actually, thanks to those comments I have DBI and a horrible relationship with food.
I've always been into sports so I've always been muscular. I do have a friend in school that is pretty big because his parents didn't establish good eating habits so he drinks to much soda and eats to many snacks. Our goal next year when we go to college together is to help him loose weight and have fun doing it. We will have free access to the campus gym and be able to do things like mountain biking and go hiking.
Just make sure you don't make him feel self conscious by persuading him to work out :/
I'm not skinny am not totally "fat". I would say am kinda curvy/chubby. haven't been since I was about 8 years old that's when I started to eat a ton because of school and I would kinda eat to numb the pain I was feeling. I remember this one time last year my uncle asked with a smirk on his face"How much do you weight fatty?", everyone immediately started to look at me and I can feel my face getting red my heart pounding. I would feel my eyes starting to water and i didn't say anything instead I walked away heading up the stairs from my grandmas house to cry. In that moment I felt this aching pain in me, I never look at myself in the mirror and until, that day I got a good view of myself.
+Estella Floyd What a mean uncle! How rude of him to say that! Just tell him to APPRECIATE me (which is you) for who I am
im now starting to be curvy skinny girl, my mom tells me that to, but yea
I've had people that I didn't know come up to me and say "your a fat piece of shit." I'm not kidding. A random stranger on the street decided to follow me half way down the block just to tell me I'm worthless because I'm a size bigger then they are. I'm an ugly whale who would be better off dead. Gym teachers telling me to "be careful getting on the scale, you might break it." My grandmother said "stop eating your fat enough as is!" My own mother said "I wish I didn't have to see your fat ass every day." Some people are leaving similar comments and ending it off sweet, but thats not the life I've lived. No one has ever told me anything good about being heavier. Even after years of exercise and being on a diet, I'm still too fat to be considered normal. It's disgusting.
I wish I lived near you. If I did I would be your best friend. Honestly, I dont give a shit about someones size, yes, you may need to lose some weight and it may be hard, but I would still be there to support you. Some people are rude these days.
That's awful. So sorry for you.
Don't mind telling me what's your weight? It's the internet anyway you're anonymous
im so sorry to hear you are trying your best, but that is not enough for your family
I understand you completely. When I was a kid and a teenager I was really fat (I am not over exaggerating) my mom used to tell me "huge". So, I had an eating disorder I ended up being literally a bag of bones and my mom told me that I was ugly. So, I became obese again. That was my life since I decided to stop it. I've stopped to hear the comments of my mom (and everyone who try to criticize me) and I started to working out for myself. It took a very long time to I reach a healthy weight and a athletic body. This is me now. I am happy but sometimes my mom tells me "you used to be skinnier legs what happens? now you are huge. Your cousin looks like an stick around you" but I smile and say "Yes, problem? is my life"
I am a slightly chubby person and it's really hard for me to lose weight, because I go to an elite school and I break under the pressure. Sometimes, eating is the only joy that is left in my life and I tried to give it up so many times, but it just makes me really depressed. For the last 2 years I've been trying to convince myself that being chubby is not that bad, but I still get kinda sad when I look into the mirror.
Well, I'm really skinny (I'm not trying to be hurtful or brag, I actually hate being skinny to be honest) and I'm tall, so everybody calls me Slenderwoman and anorexic (including my friends), so yay... That's something to look forward to...
Better than being fat tho, I can assure you that. XD
Tia Hecox Yeah, I guess so. :3
I mean, I have a chubby face, but a really skinny body, so I think nature just sort of gave up on me at one point. :P
Yσυ αη∂ I, ωє ωєяє вσяη тσ ∂ιє. lol i know the feels. i look like a potato XD XD
Yσυ αη∂ I, ωє ωєяє вσяη тσ ∂ιє. LITERALLY SAME XD
Yσυ αη∂ I, ωє ωєяє вσяη тσ ∂ιє. And humble. Don't forget humble
I'm overweight and 14, but this gives me hope.
omg you're 19 now :)
I was 10 when you made this comment. Now I’m 16 lol…. And you are 19.
So when my dad took me shopping once I had no idea what size I am so a store clerk came over to help us, and they said to take this size. When I went to the changing room I tried the pants on and they were too small. Then we got help again and said that the pants were too small and they gave me the next size... Almost 15 sizes later I found the one and I started crying because I'm not even a teenager and I shop in the women's section. It was like 2 sizes down to being extra large.... Then when we checked out the store clerk checked the size and said "do these really fit you!?" And started to snicker and when we got home I locked myself into my room and started to scream and cry into my pillow. It's already bad enough that I have social anxiety and now I'm considered fat before I'm even a teenager.
+J Augustin I know what thats like. I litterally stare into my mirror for an hour or two like,every day.Sometimes I randomly break into tears while doing so.
+J Augustin i know what it feels like. i used to weigh 215 now im 158. all it takes is hard work ya know! i recommend something called intermittent fasting. try it ;)
My cousin and i were talking one day, it was at a family event, with lots of food. I went to go get some and i asked her if she was gonna get some. She said " I'm not trying to starve myself but i wanna lose weight." I then procedded to tell her to go eat something. The fact that a freaking 10 year old is trying to make herself more like the women we see in society is heartbreaking to me. I'm so glad you made this video. Thank you buzzfeed.
Ashly has the most beautiful smile ever.
I was pretty fat when i was in 3-5th grade. It sucked, and I still struggle with my body, and Its sad how much Its effeced me growing up
After reading through these comments, fat no longer sounds like a real word
I love that the subjects in this video took their experiences and talked about them in a humorous, lighthearted way.
I hate my dad, he always says I'm fat like a pig. I have him, and I'm losing weight to show him that I'm not a pig.
Lol but good luck dude!
I hate him too.
Best video ever!!! They talked about everything I've gone through and still struggle with!
These people were never fat, wtf
except the black girl
***** I don't you idiot
stop liking your own comments bro
*****
thug life
Yeah like meadium or a bit fat
I have 2 skinny sisters and I always felt bad about myself because of that but they are the ones who encouraged me to lose weight now I'm a healthy weight
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