Even if you're not physically attractive by society's standards, you should still feel of value. Your appearance is there for first impressions, and anyone worth your time will dig deeper than that. You're not defined by how you look. It's a gift, like the ability to draw or sing; nothing more than that.
Princess Phantasm to be honest when someone is lacking in one area, they make up for it by being 2xs as good in another area, my philosophy is that everyone has a certain amount of "gifts" it's just used up in different areas. For example, attractive people don't have to work on their funny skills as much, or someone devoted to curing cancer in a lab all day may not necessarily be an olympic-tier athlete. It's not always contradictory. But everyone has a gift. Intelligence and Attractiveness aren't the only things that people are gifted with.
I know I'm not "fat" I'm healthy and my body feels fine... But be never been what's perceived as "thin" or "skinny" Sometimes I wonder what full confidence in your weight feels like. Being able to put on tight clothes and not feel self conscious, to pass by a mirror or window and not have a confidence blow. To be light Small Cute And protectable...... I don't know, but I would like to feel like that for once. Oh well, at least I have a fully functioning body to live in. That's more than a lot of people have☺️
I've always been perceived as "thin" and "skinny" but I still had lots of problems with my body. From when I was 8 to about 15 (most of it was when I was 12 and 13) people called me "anorexic" and "too skinny" all the time and they'd say "do you even eat at all?" and the thing is that I did eat. I ate as much as I wanted to when I was hungry, I ate a healthy amount and I was healthy. But people who called themselves my friends and best friends would say, in a negative voice, "you're too skinny." For a long time I would try and eat lots of unhealthy, "junky" foods so that I could gain weight but it didn't work because I have a fast metabolism. I was so self-conscious of my weight because everyone thought I was underweight, it didn't help that we were doing a lot of body weight stuff in our physical education classes either because we had to weigh ourselves regularly and if the teacher would ask what I weighed I would always add about five kilograms onto my weight. And, honestly, I don't think anyone has "full confidence in their weight"... which is sad, but that's what our society has come to. Thankfully, I'm happy now, everyone has matured up and stopped calling me anorexic and I've learnt to defend myself. I'm happier with my body weight :) still not 100% confident though.
+Chloe Wilson I had the same problem when I was younger.have you ever considered to visit a doctor to see weather youre lactose intolerant or not .because I swear to god, when I stopped eating food with lactose my weight started to normalize
Omgggggg!!! U sound a lot like me. I'm not fat, people even call me skinny, and assume I'm some kind of athlete... But sometimes I wish I were, like, able to love myself. But it's hard when I don't like what I see in the mirror.
I feel that loving your body is good and all, but I feel like we should also try to improve ourselves. Don't settle for less, you know? Exercise and a healthy diet is still important, and we shouldn't try to tell people that it's fine not to do them. Loving yourself is great, but we shouldn't promote unhealthy behavior.
they should invite you to shoot a vid or two. it seems buzzfeed tend to make their content provocative/shocking instead of actually emphasizing the idea above
I agree that people need to be more healthy if their obesity is causing health problems, yes, that is important. But if someone's size is alittle more then skinny. and it doesn't affect their health, then its their choice what it to look like. But I do see where your coming from.
***** How is telling people what or what not to do with their bodies unhealthy? Sure you can let all the idiots rot and run down the cliffs...but even they have some sort of use right? So it's good to keep them alive as long as we can. It's good to have people that tells you how to be healthy.....not saying you have to be. you know what? I wouldn't bat an eye if half the world ate themselves to death =D
***** You doctor is always telling you how to do with your body, and there is a reason behind it. I am a male I do competitive boxing (A class cruise weight) and I as same any other person who does any form of competitive sport do diets. For fighting sport you normally want to drop from your ideal weight before a fight, in order to archive this, we go through rigorous training and balanced diets. The keyword is balanced diet a balance diet doesn't mean stop eating, instead it means eat healthy, make sure your body gets all its nutrients in our case it also mean reduce the amount of process food and carbs so we can lose weight in a control manner
***** Buzzfeed is absolutely none of those things. Just because you are aginsed hipsters and people actually in this century doesn't mean you can make other people feel bad.
+Stromae is beautiful they aren't being racist towards white people or sexist towards men. Even if they were, how does that compare to the years of oppression women and PoC have experienced? Women weren't able to work, didn't have the same rights, and were beaten by their husbands. They were discouraged to have jobs or even go to school. In some countries, the still don't have the same rights as women do in America. Women still although may not experience as much oppression in America as much as the past, they still are having problems because of their gender. Also, Black people have experienced way worse than just a few measly videos you find offensive. White people have never gone through what PoC have. You are the reason why women and PoC feel like minorities. Next time, consider what someone else is feeling.
I'm poor >go to work I'm sick >go to the doctor I'm stupid >go study/ attend a course I'm bored >watch a movie "just hit the gym" - whilst not being the (complete) solution for this lady, is a solution for being healthy, since evidently she's struggled with being overweight (amongst other things) I was 25 kilos (22% fat) overweight 2 months ago. Started boxing and now I'm at a healthy weight (10% fat) coz you know, bmi is bullshit and its all about fat percentage. everyone needs to stop eating junk food (religiously). so that the western-worlds economy (supply) supports an active lifestyle (as to emulate Netherlands for example, with their bike lanes and shit) so that the fast food industry dies and people live longer (advance)
Mikhail Zerafa Funny you'd say that when I am from The Netherlands. But fact is; the gym won't reward you with a magical dose of self esteem. you can work yourself out to pieces and still be very unhappy. This lady made a statement that she managed to love herself while being the way she is, that way she can change things she wants to, while remaining true to herself. Sure, she can hit the gym, if she wants. She can also not, if she wants. If she's happy, we don't get to touch that.
I love this video it made me think of how I don't like my body... I have starved... Gotten molested I have cut And now I'm on the road to recovery but this video helped thanks
This is coming from a gym rat, who watches closely at what they eat and who not too long ago, was heading straight to anoreixa - Unless you are getting sickly obese, dangerously thin, have a disease or illness that requires you to have to change your diet, EAT WHATEVER YOU WANT AND EXERCISE WHENEVER YOU WANT. If you want to eat 5 slices of pizza, eat 1 slice of pizza; work out 5 days a week, or work out none, it doesn't matter. Someone feeling free, relieved and happy is the healthiest thing anyone can be. Be a fitness freak, or be the complete opposite if you like being one of those options. Follow what makes you happy, and what makes you less worry, because at the end of the day, you're not really healthy if you're unhappy.
Minecraft, Counter Strike, and trolling! I'm the farthest thing from uneducated about obesity. I have no patience or tolerance to talk to stupid right now lol.
Not a Troll You're name already suggests what you're here to do but ill go on anyways. Read what she said, unless you're sickly obese, dangerously thin etc. And also, most people who have these sorts of body issues, are NOT happy and thats usually how they end up with those problems. Heal the mind and the body will follow.
Disabling comments is never a good idea. Even if there are trolls or foolish ignorant comments, its better to have an open forum then to eliminate communication or sensor it.
jojag5 exactly and 80% of comment sections are trolls, spam, & ignorance oh yeah and go to them stupid "Pranks gone wrong" and the compilation of them oh so much racism so so so much and thirst and ppl's stupid nit picking and telling others even on to style themselves and picking out "flaws" and peoples pet peeves too and oh so much unneeded sexual remarks to female host go to IGN videos for that and any kate upton video
+Farah Nadia i dont see anything wrong with this video. This is a women who struggled with a disease and with insecurity her entire life and is just know learning how 1 in a trillion she is.
Reading a lot of "hate when skinny people call themselves fat". I'm fat, but my sister is very thin. I've asked my sister why she called herself fat sometimes around me and specifically if it was a comment directed at me. You know what she did? She cried because it wasn't about me, it was about her and how she felt about HERSELF. SHE felt uncomfortable compared to HER normal and the thought that she was saying it to hurt me, hurt her really, really bad. After a lot of discussion, I think most thin girls, who trust you enough to say such things around you, don't mean it to hurt YOU. They are just sharing that they are feeling uncomfortable/insecure in their own bodies but unfortunately the word "fat" is the first word they think of (and worst word they can think of) to describe themselves. Just my experience. We gotta support each other...never know where people have been.
+Lucy Daniel I'm terribly sorry you have to endure something like that. It's wretched to be abused like that from someone who's supposed to love and support you. I just left my comment to give another possible perspective, that not everyone is mean. I'm truly sorry and trust me that I understand (my father is like your sister) and it my heart breaks for you.
Lucy Daniel Here's a link about verbal abuse here www.healthyplace.com/abuse/verbal-abuse/what-is-verbal-abuse/. To my understanding verbal abuse is essentially using language to harm or manipulate someone in an attempt to harm or control in a non-consensual way.
yes, my skinny friends are very insecure and use the same word, but when i complain, They tell me that i'm not. so it shows that they aren't comfortable with who they are
This is a really lovely video :) I'm currently in recovery from anorexia nervosa and depression and it's so nice to see somebody fully recovered from their eating disorder! I hope I can eat intuitively and love my body too some day
You should love your body, your beautiful and if anyone every tells you otherwise, don't be upset, just remind yourself that they are WRONG. Hope you get better:))
I had severe depression, but I somehow managed by myself to get out of it. Why? Because I worked out why I felt so worthless and sad all the time, I just wasn't appreciative and I wasn't trying hard enough. I was too focused on my social life, how I looked to care about anything else.
This comment section is utterly disgusting. Do you know how hard it must've been for her to expose her story and feelings on the internet? Atleast support her and others. She may not be as 'hot' as a supermodel but she has a beautiful personality, and that's rare nowadays.
She shouldn't of done it I really don't care about a fat person with eating disorder and I'm certainly not giving her pity you eat a lot workout duh . Some people forget that we can run or do physical activity 200 years ago you hunted for food by running after it .
Ah yes I've heard that before once again I give no pity to these people they don't deserve it, look at me I eat to much an can stop I'm special . No that isn't right .
Matthew Banuelos You do know that most fat people are depressed? Or maybe they have weird medical conditions like a slow metabolism. It really isn't their fault.
Slow metabolism is acceptable because it affects a part of the body know depression is another mind over matter thing . If you keep thinking about sad things you will be sad.
Matthew Banuelos People go through horrible things! Did you hear the narrator's story? She got raped and her brother got killed in the same week for f*cks sake! Atleast people like her eat instead of doing drugs! Hopefully you now understand that there are many good reasons of why people become fat. Life is harsh for most people.
The only thing I hate is when people who are skinner than you call themselves fat. To me, that indirectly is calling me fat. If they're "fat" and they're like 50 pounds lighter than me then what does that make me?
+Ashabug37 most People see themselves way more critical than others. i often think People have a way lower bmi than me until they are telling me their clothes size or until i really look t them, which is when i realize that it's in fact the other way round.
It's called body dymorphia. Like they can't see their body the way you see it. It's targeted only TO their own body. They're not talking about you get over it. You don't even what an eating disorder is like you just sound so jealous and terrible
Your beautiful!! And ur smile is flawless. And your body its on fleek❤️❤️❤️im only an 11 year old girl that wants everyone to be happy. Because everyone deserves happiness
Well done to her for putting herself out there with her story even as she must have known that the subhuman slime of the internet would see it as just another target to bully in comments. I hope that other people going through your struggle can watch and see themselves in her. I hope also that they know that the asswipes thinking themselves comedy geniuses by calling her "fat" will not change, their sentence is having to live with their own disgusting personalities. Instead, you have to go through the incredible challenge of making your worth something measured and appreciated by you, and not dependent on the judgement of strangers.
SiriusJones and using it on an entire class of people on the basis of their birth is disgusting. Using it on the many people who will use any perceived weakness online to hurl abuse and harassment is, shall we say, not the same class of conduct. I guess though that it is not "subhuman", because trying to tear someone down and energetically trying to destroy their self-worth is sadly a very human, behavior, albeit one of the nastier ones we engage in.
LynxChan I'm just hearing a lot of social justice types coming out lately using words like "subhuman" or "degenerate." Makes me go "wow, that's what the opposite side says."
When I was 7 I was eating lunch and noticed my thighs. I thought they were fat. so from that day on, I put them in a certain position to make them look skinnier.
She could control the disorder you control 100% of your body what you eat what you don't, it's life you have to deal with all the ups and downs are she just took 10 years to deal with them. I've been depressed then realized how stupid I was. I have now chosen to be happy for 4 years straight honestly it's only your body and yourself that can change the outcome of your life. Getting raped is something you can some what control, rapists search for someone that seems to be struggling in their life someone that has a worse life then them, they want the power of being able to show them that they are better and bigger. If you are happy open with people and have friends community and family. The odds of you getting raped is way less.
It drives me mad when someone skinny says their fat (me for example) and others get so offended, thinking we're calling them fat. No, we're struggling with loving ourselves. I didn't realize I might have anorexia until I had around 5-6 of my close friends telling me to eat more, offering me food at lunch. I refused almost every time. I swim hard 1 1/2 almost every night. The people around me who were a bit bigger then me were getting irritated at how I wouldn't eat, thinking I was cling them fat. The worst part is they don't know how much I hate myself. I'm working on trying to ignore my imperfections, though!😊
Nerdy Wyoming Girl this video applies also for your feelings. Love your body, think about all the amazing things you can do with it. Dont let people irritate you about you look (cause if your skinny or fat or whatever), not even yourself. *****(Sorry if i wrote wrong, i speak spanish)
Hey girl, don't ignore your imperfections. Acknowledge them because they'll help you love the person that you are. If you ignored them, you would ignore part of yourself. Imperfections, both physical and internal, are there to motivate you into become the person who YOU dream of being, not anyone else. It's hard to love yourself, and sometimes, you'll forget to. But, remember that you're a unique and powerful woman who's full of the potential to do powerful things :)
my friend is like 90 somthin pounds and is 13 and I'm 13 too and I'm chubby. she calls herself fat which makes me things that I'm like very fat which I am and it makes me feel fatter and that I should be skinny as her. my goal is to be at 130 pounds :]
The video isn't supposed to be positive, but it is beautiful. It is this woman's struggle. She is brave for showing us this side of her past. She struggled to cope with all the trauma that happened to her and learned how to love herself. Bulimia is the struggle between emotional eating and then disgust with your body. Imagine always living in between two polar opposites, simply because you hated yourself.
BadGaming EVERYONE can be bullied, and just for the record, there are men that struggle with eating disorders, too! Don't ever think that you aren't being bullied just because you are a man.
Wow! I'm struggling with bulimia, today was a nightmare, I don't want to leave the house tomorrow, but this Video... it hurt, but it was wonderful. Thanks.
I'm not necessarily fat. I'm not necessarily skinny. Yet, skinny is what I desperately want to be. For about a year now, I've secretly suffered from bulimia. My family doesn't know, my closest friend doesn't know - even my sister - the most important person in my world - doesn't know. I figure it's best if I let it out to strangers who could be potential friends that won't judge me. I've tried to love my body. I've tried to convince myself that I was enough, and nothing could make me hate my body. But society convinced me that I wasn't good enough. That I HAD to be skinnier. And so I listened to society. I forced myself to regurgitate all my meals. And even if I didn't eat that day - I still forced myself to throw up. I've been trying to work through it. And if you're going through an eating disorder - please know that you are beautiful. I may not be able to stop you from the eating disorder, but I sure will try to convince you that you aren't worthless.
Ghenna Padilla I am so glad ur working in getting better, I have always been 'curvy' and use to get a lot of comments from family members and even '"friends'" that I need It to lose weight...funny thing is I'm not even that fat but apparently for society I am, even though I don't know u and u don't know me I still want to say that what u r doing is absolutely awesome and keep it up, it's never too late to be healthy and please keep going it's not easy but you can do it 😋
Danny Salcedo This comment absolutely made my night. ❤ It makes me really happy to see that people care. ❤ You can beat society - for it cannot wear you down. You are enough as you are ❤😇
I’m similar to you. I’m in the middle with my body shape. I’m not skinny, but I’m not heavy. I want to be skinny. My parents are great, but they find the constant need to comment on how my hips are big, or that my friends are losing weight while I just stay the same. It really destroyed my self confidence. I didn’t like going outside because i was afraid of what people thought of my body, even though most people don’t care. I also feared my parents, since the comment about my body in public all the time. I started to cut myself and starve my self. I developed anorexia, and I cried my self to sleep. I’m still struggling with my body, and sometimes revert back to starving myself. However, I’ve gotten better. But no one knows and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to tell anyone I personally know (especially my parents) because they’ll just write it off as me craving attention or “it’s just a phase.” I don’t mean to spill emotional crap on everyone, but it feels nice to let it out.
Kaiser Frost I'm not skinny. I'm just saying they should do videos to help very skinny girls & guys like they do with bigger guys and girls. And don't be like that. They're not whales.
I'm not angry or harsh with myself. I take very good care of myself and don't find it that difficult. I'm not even angry at fat people I just can't understand why some of them look for pity when their problems are their own fault.
This is one of the most powerful and encouraging stories I've ever heard. Too bad this is buzzfeed and mostly no sympathy exists here. These are the social circles in buzzfeed. The "men" (probably 12 year olds/misogynistic degenerate trolls) are to blame for shoving reality into the face of "feminists"/buzzfeed feminazis (who are really just using feminism as a cover to complain on youtube) who are to blame for hypersensitive remarks and arguements. Almost as if you're looking for them and arguing is fun for you. Both sides are to blame. Guys we understand they're not as beautiful as you would like, but then again no one cares about your opinion. Odds are you're not attractive to a lot of people either. I doubt Chris Hemsworth is in the comments section right now. Girls not every women should be regarded as beautiful because of a coping mechanism for low self esteem. All women should be happy but not at the expense of delusion. The social construct of "All women are beautiful" is a self-imposed phrase for your own self-imposed image; a personal morale boost. It's not for society to treat you specially because you're a female. Try being rational. If you're not beautiful enough for anyone, hike up your skirt and get over it. I preferably would've like to see neither fat nor skinny for shock value. If you don't think you're beautiful than its your fault. We all understand that not all girls are playboy models. Not something outlandish and unattainable. Nothings wrong with being fat (socially). It's how you let others opinions affect you. There shouldn't be so much contention. But if you're fat don't expect a lot of men or women to agree with how attractive you are. But your self worth is your own and whatever men don't appreciate you don't deserve you. Whatever woman bash you for how you look are petty and are just compensating for their own self esteem. Beautiful woman don't have to denote others to feel better about themselves. That's your self-reflection not theirs.
I agree with everything said in this video, with the sole exception of tying body-positivity into a whole host of completely separate issues. Homophobia is moral panic, racism is tribalism, sexism is largely political, ableism is a basic value judgement, war is power struggle, and the diet industry is a voluntary one, not an "oppression".
***** It actually raises my suspicions when someone campaigning for a left-leaning women's issue claims to have been raped/molested. I want to see the court documents before the conversation goes any further, because victimhood is used as a badge of honour among their ranks.
***** Before I believe that someone is a victim, I want to see EVIDENCE that they are a victim. I don't care if you claim victimhood isn't a badge of honour, they use it as one, and they'll bring up their status as a "victim" to try and shut up their opposition on a range of issues. I don't fall for it. I'll tell even the most pitiful rape victim that their experiences do not trump everyone else's arguments.
***** This isn't a court room, no one is on trial, she doesn't need to prove anything. Her point is she felt a loss of control over her body. And when her brother died she felt a need to re-evaluate her life.
Hannah T "Her point is she felt a loss of control over her body. And when her brother died she felt a need to re-evaluate her life. " And then...she tacked on a whole load of bullshit about completely different subjects. So yes, she does need to prove something.
***** She doesn't need to prove anything. The point is about having control of your body, having confidence and love in your body, being happy &healthy. I feel like you are trying to make this video into something its not. She isn't accusing anyone of anything, its just her story to body positivity.
To the people saying she's fat: She isn't fat, she's pretty chubby, but nothing serious enough to consider unhealthy. She isn't in a position where she needs to be told exercise more or to be called fat, she has no serious need to lose weight. She is brave enough to share her story and strong enough to keep her cool while saying it, that is commendable.
I cannot even handle the comments on this video. I seriously cannot take it. I really really don't understand how people could be so terribly misinformed about weight and what is healthy. People also don't seem to understand what an eating disorder is. This video is beautiful and the people saying she is unhealthy clearly don't know what healthy is. Skinny is not a translation for healthy.
Hey buzzfeed thats a video you need to make. A video detailing what qualifies as healthy, mentally and physically healthy. On second thought, don't bother, I'm sure will get the same kind of triggering, ignorant comments present on this video.
For so long, even now, I've just gone on thinking I'm fat. I'm 12 and 153 pounds. I always tried to workout and diet but would always fail. I complained to my friends yet they changed the subject and said they thought they were fat when they were just over 100 pounds. How dare they I thought. It's just taken me so long to realize, look, I'm 5'7, tallest girl in my class, obviously I'm more weight then some! This video helped me out lots and this person speaking is so brave :)
NO . IF PERSON WANTS to be fit , he must be fit , because nothing is done without efforte, we study hard to get grade , we work to have money, and we must eat healthy and work out to have HELTHY BODY ..
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ironrazma25 I didn't say a word about being healthy. I just think that everyone should love themselves and their bodies. And of course that if you are fat and you need to lose weight, you should so. But if you was born in other ways that society don't accepts you shouldn't care about it.
I love this video. I have an eating disorder myself and was molested at the age of fourteen which ended up contributing to the problem. I find it to be a beautiful reminder that you don't have to hate yourself for things that you couldn't control, but instead it shows that healing is possible. It reminded me that I can love myself how I am and that I am more than what the mirror can show!
***** I know people who eat like crazy yet don't gain weight its called metabolism idiot everyone's is different. Besides I don't think they meant can't gain weight at all more so have difficulty gaining weight same idea as when people say I cant lose weight they dont mean they cant at all they mean its really difficult for them and it feels like they cant.
***** you're pretty dumb aren't you. You can have a faster metabolism than other people I mean she can eat all day and still not gain weight in fact she's been told by a doctor she has to gain the weight and the reason shes having trouble is because of her metabolism unless youre a fucking dr stfu stop fucking acting like everyones calorie intake should be the same its not its based on your age, your height, your sex, and your lifestyle. my intake should be 1350 to maintain my weight and to gain 2 lbs a week i need 2,350 You're taller and likely not the same age plus your a male.
some people are sensitive about that. "fat" means different things to everyone. It also depends. Using "fat" as a way to harass and hurt people, aka fat-shaming, is a type of insult. It can affect people in different ways. And you never know what is going on in people's lives. Just like towards my friend, I was once insensitive about this topic and i joked about it. It was not funny to her as it hurt her feelings. And a year ago, I was gaining a lot of weight and I brought myself down because of that. So really, it depends. It can be an insult, it can be a joke. All in all, it is a topic that sometimes people should be careful and sensitive about.
So if people call me fat, I should what? Take it as a compliment? Take it as a fact? Even though it cooould not be used as an insult, if a person came up to me and called me fat I wouldn’t be like: “Oh hey, thank you for not insulting me”
People need to stop judging other for being fat or skinny, curvy, etc. truth is, we all have different bodies. We are all born differently with different thoughts,views,beliefs and cultural backgrounds.So why would our bodies be any different? There simply is no such thing as a perfect body. Put 10 people in a room and ask them what their point of view of a perfect body is, and I bet they will be different. People need to realize that not everyone is attracted to the same thing. Some people may think that a skinny body is perfect. A thicker body is perfect. A chubbier body is perfect. A muscular body is perfect. But there is no true definition of what is. My bf personally doesn't like it when women have a six pack or a ton of muscle tone. He prefers their features to be rounder and softer. Does that mean if you have those qualities, that makes you disgusting??? Of course not! Same goes for everyone and how their bodies are. So I will say again, there is no such thing as a perfect body. There is no such thing as supposed to be looking a certain way. So anyone who think people on here are defending people who are "fat," that is just them saying you have no right to criticize, because who are you to do it, when simply, your body isn't perfect either no matter what you say.
***** You're not telling me anything I don't already know. You completely ignored the point of my post. The point is that no one has the right to ridicule other's for their bodies when their own isn't perfect itself, because like I said before, there's no such thing. If there is no such thing as a perfect person, why would there be such thing as a perfect body?
People just take things way too far. People just need to worry about themselves and not others and things that don't concern them. It will save a lot of stupid fights. The way other people live their lives and their body image is no one else's business. We all need to learn to keep our opinions to ourselves. Don't give anyone that freedom of speech bull. If this country was really all about freedom of speech and not expect people to get upset about, then their should be freedom of body image and to expect other's not to get upset about it.
Alyssa Williams When fat people result in $300 billion losses to the nation it is everyone's business. www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-consequences/economic/ www.obesitycampaign.org/obesity_facts.asp www.thefiscaltimes.com/Articles/2014/06/19/Budget-Busting-US-Obesity-Costs-Climb-Past-300-Billion-Year
You act like that's the only way people die. People die from smoking. People die from drugs. People drive from DUI. People even still die when they're completely healthy but something tragic happens to them anyways. Don't just blame it on it all because they're fat when there's so many other factors.
The BEST way to lose weight and keep it off is not just a healthy diet, it's exercising and a healthy diet! If you just exercise 15-30 minutes every other day you will lose weight. When I was 20 I weighed about 230 at 6'2. I'm now 23 and I weigh 200 at 6'3. You don't even need to go to the gym if you don't want to. Just do some squats, push ups, sit ups at home and maybe walk/bike to work instead of driving. *You can do it.* BTW follow me on Instagram @ instagram.com/kyle_dtf/
It always bothered me when people say, "Don't be mean when telling someone they are fat! Do it politely." Is there honestly a polite way for someone to say, "Hey, I think you're eating too much and the weight you are now is not healthy." Why do people feel as if it's their RIGHT to tell someone they need to lose or even gain weight? You may see this person physically, but you have no idea what goes on mentally or personally. Just like the woman in the video, you wouldn't even have imagined what she's gone through. You don't know what people have gone through just by looking at them, and yet you still find it your right to tell them that YOU don't think they are healthy. How do you know what the person does in their private time? They could have lost 20 pounds and some person who, again, only see's them physically, would still scoff and tell them they need to lose weight. The same person could be eating healthy and exercising when they can, but here comes some fucking asshole telling them they need to lose weight and putting them down because they have no idea what the person is doing in their own time! Some people can't gain weight, and some can't lose it. Does that make them automatically unhealthy? No! I've seen bigger people who eat healthy and I've seen thinner people who eat unhealthy, and vice versa. So when people group all 'fat' people in one category of unhealthy, it pisses me off. NO, you actually DON'T have a right to tell someone they are unhealthy. They don't live to please you. And people are still calling this girl fat and telling her she's unhealthy, even after clearly explaining she's living a more healthy life style... I'm truly fucking disgusted.
I adore this video,i'm gonna watch it every single day,this woman inspires me! I HATE people who say "I'm skinny but i have a beyonce butt love me" like,just read the EXACTLY same comment some days ago,like,those kind of lies are disgusting!
"Fat is not a feeling" well neither is stupid but you can still feel stupid, neither is lots but you can still feel lost and so on. Just because something isn't a feeling doesn't mean you can't feel like you are that thing
She has the same body type as me not to big not to small just right she's beautiful I'm beautiful your beautiful everyone is in there own way who cares about what people think of you love you body just the way it don't destroy it and try to make yourself look better by starving yourself love yourself get a larger mirror look a little closer and think a little harder bc were all beautiful.
these comments are fucking disgusting. of course people are gonna say "how bout the gym" "get on a diet". Stop fucking judging her especially if you didn't go through these things she went through. People are missing the whole point of this video. Its supposed to inspire people to love there body and be happy with what they have and not try to fix there body looks based on what the internet and t.v says. But to see comments saying to go to the gym and just miss the whole purpose of this video makes me think "wtf is wrong with this world" this was a long ass comment, but worth it. :)
But she is not sending out a positive message either. 'sympathetic' people would take this video as excuse to stuff their faces even further. (I for one went from obese to fit in a matter of 3 years due to exercise)
This woman had the courage to share her deepest darkest feelings and fears. She is a brave soul and is to be admired. She seems healthy. So what if her belly isn't flat and she's not toned? She's happy with her body.
Teen Idle if she simply stuffs herself with food just to fill her stomach and doesn't workout,then more or less she does the same damage to her health.And no it's not correct to eat whatever you want just because you feel like eating it as she mentions...The key is to maintain a healthy balanced diet and workout as much as you can! I was (and still struggling) in the same position as hers when it comes to how I felt about my body but I have done a huge progress compared to the past by changing my whole lifestyle....I am not saying it's easy but it's the only way in order to accept and love yourself!
buzz feed, thank you so much for making this. I actually am crying watching this because I have always 'felt' and though I was fat. But you have given me the moment to change and motivation. Thank you very much x
I love and respect my body too... that's why I eat healthy and exercise regularly. I never "feel fat" because I'm not. No one has to accept being fat. Fat is a choice. You either choose to be fat by doing nothing or you can choose to be fit and do something about it. The opposite of fat is not starving yourself. I never starve. Actually I eat quite a lot. I don't eat hamburgers or pizzas or drink sodas. I drink a lot of water. I eat a lot of grilled chicken, salads, vegetables, whole grains, and fruits. The choice is not between fat and unhealthy starvation. If you believe that, you're lying to yourself. So with that, I'm going for a run and after that I'm going to have some unsweetened oatmeal with blueberries. Why? Because I love and respect my body enough to do what it needs to be healthy and strong.
starry333z It absolutely is a choice. Don't buy into that "genetics" argument. The very very small percentage of the population that do have some genetic disorder know about it from a young age and are on medication for most of their life. They are also hundreds of pounds overweight. Being 50-100 pounds overweight is just because they don't live a healthy lifestyle. This girl in the video could eat better, work out, and should would lose fat and be much healthier without starving herself. And how do I know this... because I was fat. It wasn't until I stopped lying to myself and decided to change my eating habits and lifestyle that my body changed.
Diet and exercise is not "the right thing to do" that's what society tells you. Doing EXACTLY what this woman has said is the right thing to do. I'm someone who has suffered from anorexia, self harm, depression, weight problems that is ALSO a martial artist of 3 styles.....diet and exercise can be someone's worst demons because of people like personal trainers and diet pill "experts" perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Never judge what someone feels is right for themselves. Even when it's killing them, lift them...don't judge them.
Always being on a diet is bad, I agree, however you should strive to eat healthy. Instead of a bag of cookies eat some strawberries, instead of chocolate have some peanut butter. The little things really add up and if you feel healthier, your view of your body will be more positive. Exercise is good but not everyone can do it between work and school. Just have to try your best. :)
I get what you're trying to say but as long as a person understands will power and self control when it comes to cookies and chocolate you should never tell yourself no. That's where diets fail. Never say no, but never eat the whole box. Or even HALF the box...take two cookies, know you had what you wanted and be happy about it.
@YinYangSara Sure, I agree with the fact that "Diet and exercise are not 'the right thing to do,'" and I agree with the fact that the woman tells us to love ourselves and our bodies the way they are. But exercise is important. Actually, fudge the word exercise - it's joyful movement. Finding time for at least 30 minutes of moderately vigorous physical activity you enjoy doing for 4-6 days a week defines it. It ranges from walking, just dancing in your room, to even housework with upbeat hits on the radio! Intuitive Eating is more than eating when hungry and stopping when full. It's also seeing exercise in a much, much more distinct light. I eat mostly clean (even without noticing) and I train at 5-8 RPE 1-2 hours most days weekly. But am I doing this to lose weight? No, no, and NO AGAIN. I'm doing this to live a long, happy life. And I have over a whole month touring Europe in October, and that's one of the moments in life that I have to be physically fit. Not because I have to look good in pictures, but I have to endure long walking distances, steep staircases, hills, and walkways up mountains (Here's looking at you, Swiss Alps!), and that requires vigorous exercise 3-4 days a week and a lot of walking beforehand. For those of you who think that she is promoting obesity like I'm "seemingly" doing, reread my quips on what I do in my healthy lifestyle. I'm one of those overweight/obese who eat clean and exercise vigorously almost daily. As much as there are fat people who eat highly processed foods and have their hineys glued to the couch, there are skinny ones who live that way as well. Health and fitness are not a look. They aren't about looking good in a bikini, having a round butt, or even having a thigh gap. They look different on everybody.
Same with me. I was bullied about the way I dressed. And how I looked and acted. Of course I've been called a ton of things, and if I did anything at all that wasn't "normal" I'd be harassed. But, honestly, be yourself. No one should tell you how to look, what to do, how to dress, the people who do don't know every insult is like a little more pain, more unwelcome thoughts. Don't listen to them. They know nothing. The best you can do is find a group of people like you, and become involved with them, no matter the age. Remember: there is always someone like you. Seek those people out, and get their support. You aren't alone. Being bullied is a terrible experience, but you come out stronger afterward, though it takes pain to heal. You'll know more, and you'll be able to try to prevent it for people around you. It took a good 3 years for me to fully recover, it's hard. But now I have good friends, tons of people who like and respect me, and I'm happy. Not all people are horrible. Just a lot of them. And remember, never listen to them. Because they're wrong. And you're right. They don't know you, not as you know you. Try to pull yourself together, and keep sane. It'll (hopefully) get better in the near future. There is hope.
If you feel like you're fat, YOU ARE WRONG! You are a beautiful, wonderful person. Starving yourself will just make it worse. You can have that body once, be happy. Eat what you want, if you want to have an diet, have it. But don't let it control your life. Look at others, don't feel bad. Your body is perfect just in their pov. Love your body, be free. Be with others, and if you still think you're fat....You aren't, think about HOW amazing our body is, it has hands legs and other complex things, would you still complain about being fat when you are limbless?
Thank you so much for the inspiration. I am a 29 year old male in Recovery from an eating disorder and this video gave me hope during my current period of struggle.
this is a powerful video. Everyone has to see this. This world has taught us the standard of beauty yet this standard eat us alive. People get abused not just women but even men regardless of their size, race or beliefs. This is something we should all be aware of. And to parents out there, please dont be your children's first bullies. You have to be there and support them. dont let them feel its bad or this is what others would think of you if you're not 'this' and 'that'. Accepting your body, your story and who you really are may be difficult to oneself. And I am happy to see this kind of video where a woman stood up for herself and we all should be, to ourselves and to everyone we love.
I can't believe what people are saying about this women. She is beautiful and not at all fat. I can show you pictures of fat people. You can't tell someone they need to go to the gym when they're not even fat. Yet people commenting are calling her a pig. I'm disgusted by people like that.
Good job Buzzfeed👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 And to you who spoke...Bravo...Brave...Inspiring....and congratulations in overcoming the lifelong struggle, each and every day. I felt like you were talking directly to me. Thank you😊
I have been starving and bingeing for the last 5 years. I have no idea how to actually eat healthy or how to love myself. But women like her make me think recovery is possible
The fact that you are still alive and have the courage to conffess your dark secrets in front of a camera means that you are a warrior, and you have so much power to overcome whatever challenge life has for you. Congratulations for being so brave :)
I wasn't expecting this video to be so intense, but it just touched something inside of me. About five seconds into the video I was hit with sobs. Uncontrollable sobs. It's hard to put into words, but thank you Caroline. Thank you for doing this, I really needed it.
What's worse is when someone who's skinnier than u says that they are fat, I hate it, it's like they are indirectly telling u that ur fat, and I'm like I already struggle with being self conscious about my body now u are gonna talk about how fat your size small body is
no, we don't it on purpose. we aren't trying to call you fat, we are struggling with loving ourselves. we could have an eating disorder, we could have low self esteem and are definitely not targeting you. we are simply insecure
This woman is incredibly powerful and strong. Mental illness is one of the most crippling problems a person can have, and it is often harder to beat than physical injury. Thank you for sharing your story.
I love how every other comment is a whiny variation on, "Stop complaining about being fat and go to the gym!!!111!! Fatty," when the video itself is the antithesis of complaining about being fat. She's not calling herself fat or thin or anything, but that she's learned the hard way to love her body for what it is, no matter how she looks that day. And that's a powerful message we can all benefit from. I don't know if watching the video would help the haters and trolls calm their tits (doubtful), but the least they could do is respond to the *actual* content of the video after watching it rather than assume based on the title. If you're gonna troll or be a dick, at least do it well. C'mon.
This video came out 5 years ago but I'm putting this out there for anyone who comes across this. *to all the people who are saying "she's not even fat," you've completely missed the point. So maybe she doesn't fit your ideal of a "fat person" but she's showing us how even though she's been through so much, she still chooses to love her body. If this woman who has binged, purged, and starved, been repeatedly molested, and raped, who has even lost her brother, can come out publicly to speak about her experiencs and still love her body, than you can too. So think about that the next time YOU think you're fat.
I stand up and clap for buzzfeed for having this woman stand up and say all these things, I can really relate to many things that she said. Thank you for posting this.
seeing all these comments about how wrong fat shaming is and how beautiful she is, but skinny shaming is apparently totally fine because I get multiple comments every day about how "you're too skinny" "You need to gain some weight" "how much do you weigh" "do you starve yourself" and nobody's ever said anything about how wrong it is to skinny shame because we think it's normal. normal isn't talking about what that person needs to do to be the image of beauty and the image that person contemplated and wants you to be. We a great our body differently, but that's our choice and some days I can't control if I'm hungry or not I can't CONTROL how much I want to eat before I can't eat anymore. I can't control if I want to throw my food up after eating it. we are all beautiful, and your rude comments aren't going to change how I or others perceive all women as beautiful. You are beautiful, and the only way that'll change is if you let people believe that you arent.
I am over weight so I deal with the usual things people deal with when they are over weight. One thing I hate the most is when I am given a low fat or diet drink or food when you and I both know I did not ask for it. First of all I ordered a small size for Christ sake. Give me some props. I get it. You think your better than me because your waist line is smaller. but I clearly and politely asked for a regular and by giving me anything but, you are now giving me something I would never pay for to begin with and now can not enjoy either way. btw why the fuk does low fat mayo exist. It taste like glue. Thank you and good night.
This was so inspiring! God bless this woman and every other person who goes through struggles like this in their life and overcomes them, no matter how hard the journey to do so is.
I think my school is a lot different from every other school out there. Like, in my grade, we have no people who do drugs (the people who do just kind of...disappear, I am not joking) we don't have anybody dating anybody, we don't have the popular crowns or the nerdy crowd, we are all friends with each other and tolerate eachother, and we don't have people who bully other people. Most of the people are just competing with each other for who gets the highest in math or science. Is this normal? Or is my school an anomaly. My school isn't small either 2000 students, 300 in my grade
My school is the exact same ways. There's no bullying because my school doesn't tolerate bullying at all. No drugs, No bullying, etc. They are couples in my school and they get seriously annoying when they stop in the middle of the hall way trying to do there "thing" (kissing and hugging) but that's all. People just hang out with their friends. The "popular" ones are the smartest in the school but they don't bother anybody; they just go along with their day. My school is rather small though but not too small. There's like 150 students in my grade probably reaching to 200 because the school is increasing in population size.
That's how my school is. All the "popular" people are the people who would be considered nerds. We don't really have cliques, that I know of anyway... My school is about 3000 people, about 700-ish in my grade ( I'm a senior :D )
This is a powerful video. It takes so much strength to get ANY of those things, much less all of them within a few years. From having an eating disorder, being molested, being raped, and a loss of a family member.. that can be emotionally devastating. I'm so proud of you for being able to realize you were doing harm to yourself and for gathering the strength to overcome everything you have been through. You are a remarkable person. Inside and out.
I'm really confused looking at the comments. Guys, auguring over if she's "fat" or "chubby" or not fat ain't gonna change anything. I will agree, she does have a small bit of chub on her, but that's what HEALTHY people have. If your relatively skinny, but there's a small bump above ur..... "Place" that's supposed to be there. You need that bit of fat. It's what your body burns, and if there's no fat, what's it gonna burn then? Aside from that, we shouldn't even care if she's fit or not, we should care about how she went from disliking her body, to loving it! We should be congratulating her on the progress she's made! This is from me to her, I'm proud of you, and how you conquered your negative state of mind and came to love your body. Everybody should. The odds of us existing is 0. That's how lucky you are to be you. I know it's hard to accept your body, I'm still trying to accept mine, but we need to focus on the positive things on life, and not how heavy a person is after struggling to accept their body Sorry for the whole book I just wrote ;-;
I started crying watching this. I've had to deal with an eating disorder just a few months ago, that stemmed from being unable to share my issues with my family. Anxiety built up, anxiety that put a strain on my throat, left me constantly feeling like I was choking, preventing me from being able to swallow. I was lucky that I had been sent off to boarding school because I had the support of friends, but when I would go back home the feeling would come back. After I had finished with highschool, I didn't get into my chosen universities, I ended up going back home, where I stayed for almost 2 years. I was terrified, but I chose to try and solve the issue, I set into motion a plan to run away. I took some exams, got into university all the way in Australia, where I now have the support system that I've always needed.
What is this "god" you speak of. I'm pretty sure your body was 'given' to you by your genetics, which came from your parents, which came from billions of years of evolution
Artoria Pendragon it's not that easy being an atheist in a COMPLETELY Christian family and predominantly Christian demographic. I believe there is no god for many reasons ranging from my belief in the likelihood of a god existing, my knowledge of physics and generally science and mathematics, the knowledge of my history and the fact that Christianity was forced on to my ancestors as well as many other reasons. Just because I have strong faith in my belief doesn't make me a troll Btw I didn't mean to offend or cause upset I was just joking. Ps I'm a British 14 year old of afro-caribbean descent
Let's just say I'm not the average 14 year old that is blinded by an education system that stamps out the ingenuity and curiosity to venture out of the desired curriculum
I've been getting cyber bullied for a picture I posted of myself, getting comments like "you single handedly kept McDonalds and BK in business" or "there's nothing you wouldn't do for a Klondike bar" and thoughts comments got in my head and I have barely eaten for 2 weeks and what I eat is only salads when I do. This video is making me look differently at my body and I'm going to start respecting it.
for every one that are saying "skinny girls that say they are fat are just so full of themselves bluh bluh bluh" have you ever stopped and think about how insecure they must be feeling JUST LIKE YOU!! just because they have your ideal body type doesn't mean it's ideal to them too... I'm a size 6 and Whenever I tell my friends how I hate wearing shorts because of my thighs I get looks like "ug get over it you are skinny" like I have the perfect body well I don't! just like how they see their bodies as downfalls I do mine too... how I have a very small butt, how having a slight thigh gap is considered "anorexic" how having smaller arms makes me look "weak" and "boney" Being a small size doesn't matter... insecurities run deep in everyone of us so Don't make it worse for smaller framed girls
Its true everyone has insecurities, but the reason they're like that is because the media usually glorifies your type of body (flat stomach, small waist, etc.) and well to bigger girls that's the dream, that's what feeling beautiful must be like. I, for one always compare myself to skinny girls and I'm so jealous of their body, I'm jealous they can wear bikinis without a muffin top, that boys can pick them up without struggling or that most of them dont have my stretch marks or cellulite all over their body. I know, its stupid. But things are changing and I'm glad body positivity is becoming a trend because its important we learn to love our bodies and stop comparing ourselves to other people.
+ZamaBomvu ngubane Thank you so much. I would always complain about how insecure I am about my body, and people would say to me "You're just fishing for compliments" like no, I'm not, I have insecurities just like you do. They would say it so much so I decided to just shut up and not talk about it which made it extremly hard because I had no one to talk to. Everyone should realize everybody has insecurities.
she's very strong for someone who has been through a lot
Lmao Oo she's just insecure and should get thinner instead of harming yourself
the strongest are the ones who suffered 💪
Hugh Munro She is healthy and she is perfectly fine the way she is. As long as she is healthy is all that matters
That’s not even half of what I’ve gone through. But yes, she’s strong and brave to be sharing this and inspiring other people
Even if you're not physically attractive by society's standards, you should still feel of value. Your appearance is there for first impressions, and anyone worth your time will dig deeper than that. You're not defined by how you look. It's a gift, like the ability to draw or sing; nothing more than that.
Go on soylent thats the best option
If you're ugly and annoying and stupid then what?!
Princess Phantasm When someone that's like that will love you (I have one so it's hope for everyone). And don't think 'bout yourself in that way.
Princess Phantasm well, just put some kawai beannie :3 and wink a lot. It always works :)
Princess Phantasm to be honest when someone is lacking in one area, they make up for it by being 2xs as good in another area, my philosophy is that everyone has a certain amount of "gifts" it's just used up in different areas. For example, attractive people don't have to work on their funny skills as much, or someone devoted to curing cancer in a lab all day may not necessarily be an olympic-tier athlete. It's not always contradictory. But everyone has a gift. Intelligence and Attractiveness aren't the only things that people are gifted with.
this poor girl has been through so much
so she says.
That’s not even half of what I’ve gone through
@The Girl can we please not compare traumas please
I know I'm not "fat"
I'm healthy and my body feels fine...
But be never been what's perceived as "thin" or "skinny"
Sometimes I wonder what full confidence in your weight feels like.
Being able to put on tight clothes and not feel self conscious, to pass by a mirror or window and not have a confidence blow.
To be light
Small
Cute
And protectable...... I don't know, but I would like to feel like that for once. Oh well, at least I have a fully functioning body to live in. That's more than a lot of people have☺️
I've always been perceived as "thin" and "skinny" but I still had lots of problems with my body. From when I was 8 to about 15 (most of it was when I was 12 and 13) people called me "anorexic" and "too skinny" all the time and they'd say "do you even eat at all?" and the thing is that I did eat. I ate as much as I wanted to when I was hungry, I ate a healthy amount and I was healthy. But people who called themselves my friends and best friends would say, in a negative voice, "you're too skinny." For a long time I would try and eat lots of unhealthy, "junky" foods so that I could gain weight but it didn't work because I have a fast metabolism. I was so self-conscious of my weight because everyone thought I was underweight, it didn't help that we were doing a lot of body weight stuff in our physical education classes either because we had to weigh ourselves regularly and if the teacher would ask what I weighed I would always add about five kilograms onto my weight. And, honestly, I don't think anyone has "full confidence in their weight"... which is sad, but that's what our society has come to. Thankfully, I'm happy now, everyone has matured up and stopped calling me anorexic and I've learnt to defend myself. I'm happier with my body weight :) still not 100% confident though.
+Chloe Wilson I had the same problem when I was younger.have you ever considered to visit a doctor to see weather youre lactose intolerant or not .because I swear to god, when I stopped eating food with lactose my weight started to normalize
thanks for putting that in the comments really made me feel so much better about myself.☺
Omgggggg!!! U sound a lot like me. I'm not fat, people even call me skinny, and assume I'm some kind of athlete... But sometimes I wish I were, like, able to love myself. But it's hard when I don't like what I see in the mirror.
BriSecurity 0 It's perfect
I feel that loving your body is good and all, but I feel like we should also try to improve ourselves. Don't settle for less, you know? Exercise and a healthy diet is still important, and we shouldn't try to tell people that it's fine not to do them. Loving yourself is great, but we shouldn't promote unhealthy behavior.
they should invite you to shoot a vid or two. it seems buzzfeed tend to make their content provocative/shocking instead of actually emphasizing the idea above
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I agree that people need to be more healthy if their obesity is causing health problems, yes, that is important. But if someone's size is alittle more then skinny. and it doesn't affect their health, then its their choice what it to look like. But I do see where your coming from.
***** How is telling people what or what not to do with their bodies unhealthy? Sure you can let all the idiots rot and run down the cliffs...but even they have some sort of use right? So it's good to keep them alive as long as we can.
It's good to have people that tells you how to be healthy.....not saying you have to be. you know what? I wouldn't bat an eye if half the world ate themselves to death =D
*****
You doctor is always telling you how to do with your body, and there is a reason behind it. I am a male I do competitive boxing (A class cruise weight) and I as same any other person who does any form of competitive sport do diets. For fighting sport you normally want to drop from your ideal weight before a fight, in order to archive this, we go through rigorous training and balanced diets. The keyword is balanced diet a balance diet doesn't mean stop eating, instead it means eat healthy, make sure your body gets all its nutrients in our case it also mean reduce the amount of process food and carbs so we can lose weight in a control manner
why would anyone dislike this video...whoever this girl is, she is very brave and I respect her so much.
+Gilli Helm Because she is not fat
***** Buzzfeed is absolutely none of those things. Just because you are aginsed hipsters and people actually in this century doesn't mean you can make other people feel bad.
***** no that is not true i am just so tired of your racist excuses. Go back to internet bullying and LEAVE ME ALONE
she made me think about the way i dislike my body and her way of seeing things spoke to me so much i cried the whole video
+Stromae is beautiful they aren't being racist towards white people or sexist towards men. Even if they were, how does that compare to the years of oppression women and PoC have experienced? Women weren't able to work, didn't have the same rights, and were beaten by their husbands. They were discouraged to have jobs or even go to school. In some countries, the still don't have the same rights as women do in America. Women still although may not experience as much oppression in America as much as the past, they still are having problems because of their gender. Also, Black people have experienced way worse than just a few measly videos you find offensive. White people have never gone through what PoC have. You are the reason why women and PoC feel like minorities. Next time, consider what someone else is feeling.
To the people telling her to "just hit the gym"
You're part of the problem
I'm poor
>go to work
I'm sick
>go to the doctor
I'm stupid
>go study/ attend a course
I'm bored
>watch a movie
"just hit the gym" - whilst not being the (complete) solution for this lady, is a solution for being healthy, since evidently she's struggled with being overweight (amongst other things)
I was 25 kilos (22% fat) overweight 2 months ago. Started boxing and now I'm at a healthy weight (10% fat)
coz you know, bmi is bullshit and its all about fat percentage.
everyone needs to stop eating junk food (religiously). so that the western-worlds economy (supply) supports an active lifestyle (as to emulate Netherlands for example, with their bike lanes and shit) so that the fast food industry dies and people live longer (advance)
are you triggered?
Mikhail Zerafa california has bike lanes. i see people ride bikes all the time.
Mikhail Zerafa Funny you'd say that when I am from The Netherlands.
But fact is; the gym won't reward you with a magical dose of self esteem. you can work yourself out to pieces and still be very unhappy.
This lady made a statement that she managed to love herself while being the way she is, that way she can change things she wants to, while remaining true to herself.
Sure, she can hit the gym, if she wants.
She can also not, if she wants.
If she's happy, we don't get to touch that.
SimonTheRipper
I would have been a while ago.
But those comments are exactly the opposite of the point this woman made in this video.
This editor deserves a fucking medal!
Yeah, I was waiting for someone to point that out. Although this was very moving and well done, the editing on the paper was fantastic.
I love this video it made me think of how I don't like my body...
I have starved...
Gotten molested
I have cut
And now I'm on the road to recovery but this video helped thanks
Just remember this whole world isn't like some of the people who commented on this video :) Good luck!
Thanks!!
Stay strong!😊❤️
I have done and had those things done to me too, sweetheart. :( I know exactly how it feels.
olivia versailles You can do this beautiful, don't lose hope! God bless :)
This is coming from a gym rat, who watches closely at what they eat and who not too long ago, was heading straight to anoreixa - Unless you are getting sickly obese, dangerously thin, have a disease or illness that requires you to have to change your diet, EAT WHATEVER YOU WANT AND EXERCISE WHENEVER YOU WANT. If you want to eat 5 slices of pizza, eat 1 slice of pizza; work out 5 days a week, or work out none, it doesn't matter. Someone feeling free, relieved and happy is the healthiest thing anyone can be. Be a fitness freak, or be the complete opposite if you like being one of those options. Follow what makes you happy, and what makes you less worry, because at the end of the day, you're not really healthy if you're unhappy.
This is the best comment on this video
THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I SAY. So glad to see someone else promoting the same thing. Happiness is the healthiest thing people can obtain:)
Minecraft, Counter Strike, and trolling! I'm the farthest thing from uneducated about obesity. I have no patience or tolerance to talk to stupid right now lol.
Thanks for saying something I wanted to say but couldn't figure out how to say.
Not a Troll
You're name already suggests what you're here to do but ill go on anyways. Read what she said, unless you're sickly obese, dangerously thin etc. And also, most people who have these sorts of body issues, are NOT happy and thats usually how they end up with those problems. Heal the mind and the body will follow.
Sometimes buzzfeed have to disable comments section for their own good
Disabling comments is never a good idea. Even if there are trolls or foolish ignorant comments, its better to have an open forum then to eliminate communication or sensor it.
jojag5 exactly and 80% of comment sections are trolls, spam, & ignorance oh yeah and go to them stupid "Pranks gone wrong" and the compilation of them oh so much racism so so so much and thirst and ppl's stupid nit picking and telling others even on to style themselves and picking out "flaws" and peoples pet peeves too and oh so much unneeded sexual remarks to female host go to IGN videos for that and any kate upton video
A-Ton-J4CE Please use punctuation in future. That comment was a struggle to read.
+Farah Nadia i dont see anything wrong with this video. This is a women who struggled with a disease and with insecurity her entire life and is just know learning how 1 in a trillion she is.
i didnt say that the video is wrong. the comment section is
Reading a lot of "hate when skinny people call themselves fat". I'm fat, but my sister is very thin. I've asked my sister why she called herself fat sometimes around me and specifically if it was a comment directed at me. You know what she did? She cried because it wasn't about me, it was about her and how she felt about HERSELF. SHE felt uncomfortable compared to HER normal and the thought that she was saying it to hurt me, hurt her really, really bad. After a lot of discussion, I think most thin girls, who trust you enough to say such things around you, don't mean it to hurt YOU. They are just sharing that they are feeling uncomfortable/insecure in their own bodies but unfortunately the word "fat" is the first word they think of (and worst word they can think of) to describe themselves. Just my experience. We gotta support each other...never know where people have been.
My sister does this but it's because she genuinely thinks I'm fat and wants to make fun of me. How do I know? She said it to my face
+Lucy Daniel I'm terribly sorry you have to endure something like that. It's wretched to be abused like that from someone who's supposed to love and support you. I just left my comment to give another possible perspective, that not everyone is mean. I'm truly sorry and trust me that I understand (my father is like your sister) and it my heart breaks for you.
+Nire Strunk literally everyone in my family says stuff like that I don't really count it as abuse
Lucy Daniel
Here's a link about verbal abuse here www.healthyplace.com/abuse/verbal-abuse/what-is-verbal-abuse/. To my understanding verbal abuse is essentially using language to harm or manipulate someone in an attempt to harm or control in a non-consensual way.
yes, my skinny friends are very insecure and use the same word, but when i complain, They tell me that i'm not. so it shows that they aren't comfortable with who they are
This is a really lovely video :) I'm currently in recovery from anorexia nervosa and depression and it's so nice to see somebody fully recovered from their eating disorder! I hope I can eat intuitively and love my body too some day
You should love your body, your beautiful and if anyone every tells you otherwise, don't be upset, just remind yourself that they are WRONG. Hope you get better:))
i wish you the best moments and happy days darling :) keep always Good vibes, okay? :) XOXO
I've read all these comments and so far this is my favorite! I wish you luck!!! :)
Good Luck ❤ anorexia is an awful awful illness and I wish you all the best in recovery! Xxx
I had severe depression, but I somehow managed by myself to get out of it. Why? Because I worked out why I felt so worthless and sad all the time, I just wasn't appreciative and I wasn't trying hard enough. I was too focused on my social life, how I looked to care about anything else.
This comment section is utterly disgusting. Do you know how hard it must've been for her to expose her story and feelings on the internet? Atleast support her and others. She may not be as 'hot' as a supermodel but she has a beautiful personality, and that's rare nowadays.
She shouldn't of done it I really don't care about a fat person with eating disorder and I'm certainly not giving her pity you eat a lot workout duh . Some people forget that we can run or do physical activity 200 years ago you hunted for food by running after it .
Ah yes I've heard that before once again I give no pity to these people they don't deserve it, look at me I eat to much an can stop I'm special . No that isn't right .
Matthew Banuelos You do know that most fat people are depressed? Or maybe they have weird medical conditions like a slow metabolism. It really isn't their fault.
Slow metabolism is acceptable because it affects a part of the body know depression is another mind over matter thing . If you keep thinking about sad things you will be sad.
Matthew Banuelos People go through horrible things! Did you hear the narrator's story? She got raped and her brother got killed in the same week for f*cks sake! Atleast people like her eat instead of doing drugs! Hopefully you now understand that there are many good reasons of why people become fat. Life is harsh for most people.
The only thing I hate is when people who are skinner than you call themselves fat. To me, that indirectly is calling me fat. If they're "fat" and they're like 50 pounds lighter than me then what does that make me?
+Ashabug37 most People see themselves way more critical than others. i often think People have a way lower bmi than me until they are telling me their clothes size or until i really look t them, which is when i realize that it's in fact the other way round.
It's called body dymorphia. Like they can't see their body the way you see it. It's targeted only TO their own body. They're not talking about you get over it. You don't even what an eating disorder is like you just sound so jealous and terrible
I call myself fat, but I would NEVER cat someone else fat... For me everyone is beautiful, except me lol.
Your beautiful!! And ur smile is flawless. And your body its on fleek❤️❤️❤️im only an 11 year old girl that wants everyone to be happy. Because everyone deserves happiness
not everything is about you or revolves around you...
I thought it was sara for 2 seconds
I thought I was the only one
SAME
Why no replies?
same
same
Well done to her for putting herself out there with her story even as she must have known that the subhuman slime of the internet would see it as just another target to bully in comments. I hope that other people going through your struggle can watch and see themselves in her. I hope also that they know that the asswipes thinking themselves comedy geniuses by calling her "fat" will not change, their sentence is having to live with their own disgusting personalities. Instead, you have to go through the incredible challenge of making your worth something measured and appreciated by you, and not dependent on the judgement of strangers.
*"subhuman"*
Interesting, that's the kind of language hardcore racists use.
SiriusJones and using it on an entire class of people on the basis of their birth is disgusting. Using it on the many people who will use any perceived weakness online to hurl abuse and harassment is, shall we say, not the same class of conduct. I guess though that it is not "subhuman", because trying to tear someone down and energetically trying to destroy their self-worth is sadly a very human, behavior, albeit one of the nastier ones we engage in.
LynxChan
I'm just hearing a lot of social justice types coming out lately using words like "subhuman" or "degenerate." Makes me go "wow, that's what the opposite side says."
SiriusJones SJWs are just a different stripe of fascists. Professional victims so even when they attack others they still some how are the victims.
Preach it
When I was 7 I was eating lunch and noticed my thighs. I thought they were fat. so from that day on, I put them in a certain position to make them look skinnier.
Rebeca Llanes Big thighs are hella nice. 😎❤️
Oh my god I do that too
Rebeca Llanes Me too LOL
same /: I can not let my thighs touch a chair even though i'm almost underweight now
I do that too
This is traumatizing, she's been through so much. Too bad it's a buzzfeed video and 50% of the people who comment have no sympathy for others.
I know. It's like a lot of the comment section is taken over by apes.
Holy sword Excalibur
You realize 75%+10%+5% isn't 100%, right?
I hate math.
***** The people who no longer care. That's the other 10% it always is.
She could control the disorder you control 100% of your body what you eat what you don't, it's life you have to deal with all the ups and downs are she just took 10 years to deal with them. I've been depressed then realized how stupid I was. I have now chosen to be happy for 4 years straight honestly it's only your body and yourself that can change the outcome of your life. Getting raped is something you can some what control, rapists search for someone that seems to be struggling in their life someone that has a worse life then them, they want the power of being able to show them that they are better and bigger. If you are happy open with people and have friends community and family. The odds of you getting raped is way less.
All we can do at this point is like the video and try not to read the comments
True xD
*likes comment* *-scrolls down-*
Ok now I wish your comment was at the top so I didn't have to see all those other disgusting comments :(
i am not hedwig same
Same
It drives me mad when someone skinny says their fat (me for example) and others get so offended, thinking we're calling them fat. No, we're struggling with loving ourselves. I didn't realize I might have anorexia until I had around 5-6 of my close friends telling me to eat more, offering me food at lunch. I refused almost every time. I swim hard 1 1/2 almost every night. The people around me who were a bit bigger then me were getting irritated at how I wouldn't eat, thinking I was cling them fat. The worst part is they don't know how much I hate myself. I'm working on trying to ignore my imperfections, though!😊
Nerdy Wyoming Girl this video applies also for your feelings. Love your body, think about all the amazing things you can do with it. Dont let people irritate you about you look (cause if your skinny or fat or whatever), not even yourself. *****(Sorry if i wrote wrong, i speak spanish)
Hey girl, don't ignore your imperfections. Acknowledge them because they'll help you love the person that you are. If you ignored them, you would ignore part of yourself. Imperfections, both physical and internal, are there to motivate you into become the person who YOU dream of being, not anyone else. It's hard to love yourself, and sometimes, you'll forget to. But, remember that you're a unique and powerful woman who's full of the potential to do powerful things :)
I feel you (even tho I'm chubby >~
my friend is like 90 somthin pounds and is 13 and I'm 13 too and I'm chubby. she calls herself fat which makes me things that I'm like very fat which I am and it makes me feel fatter and that I should be skinny as her. my goal is to be at 130 pounds :]
Maximus Brooks stfu skinny people can feel fat too I'm 77 pounds and I feel like I'm fat and I'm dieing to get down to 50 pounds
The video isn't supposed to be positive, but it is beautiful. It is this woman's struggle. She is brave for showing us this side of her past. She struggled to cope with all the trauma that happened to her and learned how to love herself. Bulimia is the struggle between emotional eating and then disgust with your body. Imagine always living in between two polar opposites, simply because you hated yourself.
What about men?? Can men be bullied and nobody cares?
BadGaming Your'e missing the point
BadGaming EVERYONE can be bullied, and just for the record, there are men that struggle with eating disorders, too! Don't ever think that you aren't being bullied just because you are a man.
You're a ghost driving a meat coated skeleton made from stardust. What do you have to be scared of?
Nicely put
this is just awesome, may I use the quote?
Kenny Tyler It's not my quote to be fair, so you have every right to use it as I do haha
dude
Mind = blown.
But no, seriously, it's kind of interesting to think of it that way.
What the hell? Thumbs up if shes not even fat! Shes not!
one of the best comments on this comment section
she is though.
Oh look at you saying hurtful things I bet you feel like a badass.
um we all love her who she is.. now lets not get too nice..
she IS fat but that's not NESESARILY a bad thing.
coolkid18751 Obese is a race now?
Wow! I'm struggling with bulimia, today was a nightmare, I don't want to leave the house tomorrow, but this Video... it hurt, but it was wonderful. Thanks.
Everything she said was true. You're beautiful and you can overcome it I believe in you!
I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope things get better for you in the future. Best of luck
***** She totally needed that correction. (that was sarcastic)
***** Sorry, I've corrected it.
Wow, thank you everyone for the nice comments
I'm not necessarily fat.
I'm not necessarily skinny.
Yet, skinny is what I desperately want to be.
For about a year now, I've secretly suffered from bulimia. My family doesn't know, my closest friend doesn't know - even my sister - the most important person in my world - doesn't know. I figure it's best if I let it out to strangers who could be potential friends that won't judge me. I've tried to love my body. I've tried to convince myself that I was enough, and nothing could make me hate my body. But society convinced me that I wasn't good enough. That I HAD to be skinnier. And so I listened to society. I forced myself to regurgitate all my meals. And even if I didn't eat that day - I still forced myself to throw up. I've been trying to work through it. And if you're going through an eating disorder - please know that you are beautiful. I may not be able to stop you from the eating disorder, but I sure will try to convince you that you aren't worthless.
Ghenna Padilla I am so glad ur working in getting better, I have always been 'curvy' and use to get a lot of comments from family members and even '"friends'" that I need It to lose weight...funny thing is I'm not even that fat but apparently for society I am, even though I don't know u and u don't know me I still want to say that what u r doing is absolutely awesome and keep it up, it's never too late to be healthy and please keep going it's not easy but you can do it 😋
Danny Salcedo This comment absolutely made my night. ❤ It makes me really happy to see that people care. ❤
You can beat society - for it cannot wear you down. You are enough as you are ❤😇
I’m similar to you. I’m in the middle with my body shape. I’m not skinny, but I’m not heavy. I want to be skinny. My parents are great, but they find the constant need to comment on how my hips are big, or that my friends are losing weight while I just stay the same. It really destroyed my self confidence. I didn’t like going outside because i was afraid of what people thought of my body, even though most people don’t care. I also feared my parents, since the comment about my body in public all the time. I started to cut myself and starve my self. I developed anorexia, and I cried my self to sleep. I’m still struggling with my body, and sometimes revert back to starving myself. However, I’ve gotten better. But no one knows and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to tell anyone I personally know (especially my parents) because they’ll just write it off as me craving attention or “it’s just a phase.” I don’t mean to spill emotional crap on everyone, but it feels nice to let it out.
I love body positivity. You guys should do a video for people that are struggling with anorexia or can't gain weight.
They will never do that. They're too jealous because you are skinny and they are whales. You have skinny privilege.
Kaiser Frost I'm not skinny. I'm just saying they should do videos to help very skinny girls & guys like they do with bigger guys and girls. And don't be like that. They're not whales.
Angel Fickling You're right, I should have picked a land animal. Hippos.
Kaiser Frost you're so mean omg 😂😂
I'm not angry or harsh with myself. I take very good care of myself and don't find it that difficult. I'm not even angry at fat people I just can't understand why some of them look for pity when their problems are their own fault.
This is one of the most powerful and encouraging stories I've ever heard. Too bad this is buzzfeed and mostly no sympathy exists here. These are the social circles in buzzfeed. The "men" (probably 12 year olds/misogynistic degenerate trolls) are to blame for shoving reality into the face of "feminists"/buzzfeed feminazis (who are really just using feminism as a cover to complain on youtube) who are to blame for hypersensitive remarks and arguements. Almost as if you're looking for them and arguing is fun for you. Both sides are to blame. Guys we understand they're not as beautiful as you would like, but then again no one cares about your opinion. Odds are you're not attractive to a lot of people either. I doubt Chris Hemsworth is in the comments section right now. Girls not every women should be regarded as beautiful because of a coping mechanism for low self esteem. All women should be happy but not at the expense of delusion. The social construct of "All women are beautiful" is a self-imposed phrase for your own self-imposed image; a personal morale boost. It's not for society to treat you specially because you're a female. Try being rational. If you're not beautiful enough for anyone, hike up your skirt and get over it. I preferably would've like to see neither fat nor skinny for shock value. If you don't think you're beautiful than its your fault. We all understand that not all girls are playboy models. Not something outlandish and unattainable. Nothings wrong with being fat (socially). It's how you let others opinions affect you. There shouldn't be so much contention. But if you're fat don't expect a lot of men or women to agree with how attractive you are. But your self worth is your own and whatever men don't appreciate you don't deserve you. Whatever woman bash you for how you look are petty and are just compensating for their own self esteem. Beautiful woman don't have to denote others to feel better about themselves. That's your self-reflection not theirs.
It's only feminism if they act feminist
Hey
I would get a fit if I compared it to Netflix 😂
12 year old boys cause low self esteem? Have you ever been to high school?
I cannot understand your language sorry
I agree with everything said in this video, with the sole exception of tying body-positivity into a whole host of completely separate issues.
Homophobia is moral panic, racism is tribalism, sexism is largely political, ableism is a basic value judgement, war is power struggle, and the diet industry is a voluntary one, not an "oppression".
*****
It actually raises my suspicions when someone campaigning for a left-leaning women's issue claims to have been raped/molested. I want to see the court documents before the conversation goes any further, because victimhood is used as a badge of honour among their ranks.
*****
Before I believe that someone is a victim, I want to see EVIDENCE that they are a victim.
I don't care if you claim victimhood isn't a badge of honour, they use it as one, and they'll bring up their status as a "victim" to try and shut up their opposition on a range of issues.
I don't fall for it. I'll tell even the most pitiful rape victim that their experiences do not trump everyone else's arguments.
***** This isn't a court room, no one is on trial, she doesn't need to prove anything. Her point is she felt a loss of control over her body. And when her brother died she felt a need to re-evaluate her life.
Hannah T "Her point is she felt a loss of control over her body. And when her brother died she felt a need to re-evaluate her life. "
And then...she tacked on a whole load of bullshit about completely different subjects.
So yes, she does need to prove something.
***** She doesn't need to prove anything. The point is about having control of your body, having confidence and love in your body, being happy &healthy.
I feel like you are trying to make this video into something its not. She isn't accusing anyone of anything, its just her story to body positivity.
To the people saying she's fat:
She isn't fat, she's pretty chubby, but nothing serious enough to consider unhealthy. She isn't in a position where she needs to be told exercise more or to be called fat, she has no serious need to lose weight. She is brave enough to share her story and strong enough to keep her cool while saying it, that is commendable.
this woman is damn beautiful
no, no shes not
She's a fat pig.
Shinji Mikami Like you aren't anyways.
+Hambeast Destroyer You're acting like a judgementul person who doesn't know others have feelings.
Humaira Ahmed Fat is disgusting, why are you idiots sugar coating it?
I cannot even handle the comments on this video. I seriously cannot take it. I really really don't understand how people could be so terribly misinformed about weight and what is healthy. People also don't seem to understand what an eating disorder is. This video is beautiful and the people saying she is unhealthy clearly don't know what healthy is. Skinny is not a translation for healthy.
Hey buzzfeed thats a video you need to make. A video detailing what qualifies as healthy, mentally and physically healthy. On second thought, don't bother, I'm sure will get the same kind of triggering, ignorant comments present on this video.
Correct, skinny doesn't mean healthy BUT fat pig does mean unhealthy.
Seriously? And she is a "fat pig" in what way?
Hambeast Destroyer People like you disgust me.
You need to get some education on the subject of healthy weights magisuup, because you clearly have no idea what healthy is.
For so long, even now, I've just gone on thinking I'm fat. I'm 12 and 153 pounds. I always tried to workout and diet but would always fail. I complained to my friends yet they changed the subject and said they thought they were fat when they were just over 100 pounds. How dare they I thought. It's just taken me so long to realize, look, I'm 5'7, tallest girl in my class, obviously I'm more weight then some! This video helped me out lots and this person speaking is so brave :)
omg you're so lucky you're so tall im 12 and weight 118 but im only 5'2 or something ;-; i wouldn't say im fat but i am curvy and have a chubby face.
I'm 11 an I weigh 130 pounds, I hate it
Im 12 and 154 pounds im 5'4 and im always comparing myself to all the other girls in my school and i finally realized its just not worth it
+Silvana Ravelo that's great
I am, 13 ,5'4,and 223.4...it is hard but I take it one day at a time.e
This is what all people need to listen to. Even if you got the most ''perfect'' body in the world.
NO . IF PERSON WANTS to be fit , he must be fit , because nothing is done without efforte, we study hard to get grade , we work to have money, and we must eat healthy and work out to have HELTHY BODY ..
ironrazma25 I didn't say a word about being healthy. I just think that everyone should love themselves and their bodies. And of course that if you are fat and you need to lose weight, you should so. But if you was born in other ways that society don't accepts you shouldn't care about it.
Go on soylent
***** Do not say that ever again.
***** Discriminative people are disgusting. They should donate themselves to scientists working on cures to diseases.
I love this video. I have an eating disorder myself and was molested at the age of fourteen which ended up contributing to the problem. I find it to be a beautiful reminder that you don't have to hate yourself for things that you couldn't control, but instead it shows that healing is possible. It reminded me that I can love myself how I am and that I am more than what the mirror can show!
You go girl:)
Yeah you gotta accept yourself, even the bad parts. There is no freedom more wonderful than the freedom that comes from accepting yourself.
Thank you for that!!!
she is so not fat.
Exactly
+lily couch Eating disorders can sometimes have an illusion or mindset of thinking and looking fat.
she is not but she is not fit either
it really depends.
+xXx xXx She is strong and beautiful anyone that says words that powerful deserves an medal
Can yall do a video for people that can't gain weight?
Yeeeesssss!!! Please!
Probably not because skinny people have less problems than fat people.
*****
I know people who eat like crazy yet don't gain weight its called metabolism idiot everyone's is different. Besides I don't think they meant can't gain weight at all more so have difficulty gaining weight same idea as when people say I cant lose weight they dont mean they cant at all they mean its really difficult for them and it feels like they cant.
***** i eat an ungodly amount of food, i would take a guess at around 1800 to 2000. I am still that skinny boy in high school.
*****
you're pretty dumb aren't you. You can have a faster metabolism than other people I mean she can eat all day and still not gain weight in fact she's been told by a doctor she has to gain the weight and the reason shes having trouble is because of her metabolism unless youre a fucking dr stfu
stop fucking acting like everyones calorie intake should be the same its not its based on your age, your height, your sex, and your lifestyle. my intake should be 1350 to maintain my weight and to gain 2 lbs a week i need 2,350 You're taller and likely not the same age plus your a male.
probably the most powerful buzzfeed video i've seen
"FAT" is also NOT an insult.
some people are sensitive about that. "fat" means different things to everyone. It also depends. Using "fat" as a way to harass and hurt people, aka fat-shaming, is a type of insult. It can affect people in different ways. And you never know what is going on in people's lives. Just like towards my friend, I was once insensitive about this topic and i joked about it. It was not funny to her as it hurt her feelings. And a year ago, I was gaining a lot of weight and I brought myself down because of that. So really, it depends. It can be an insult, it can be a joke. All in all, it is a topic that sometimes people should be careful and sensitive about.
So if people call me fat, I should what? Take it as a compliment? Take it as a fact? Even though it cooould not be used as an insult, if a person came up to me and called me fat I wouldn’t be like: “Oh hey, thank you for not insulting me”
Ahmed M Guess both of us are
Well, it depends on the circumstances.
Kinda is. It points out how someone is unhealthy and their weight is unattractive
People need to stop judging other for being fat or skinny, curvy, etc. truth is, we all have different bodies. We are all born differently with different thoughts,views,beliefs and cultural backgrounds.So why would our bodies be any different? There simply is no such thing as a perfect body. Put 10 people in a room and ask them what their point of view of a perfect body is, and I bet they will be different. People need to realize that not everyone is attracted to the same thing. Some people may think that a skinny body is perfect. A thicker body is perfect. A chubbier body is perfect. A muscular body is perfect. But there is no true definition of what is. My bf personally doesn't like it when women have a six pack or a ton of muscle tone. He prefers their features to be rounder and softer. Does that mean if you have those qualities, that makes you disgusting??? Of course not! Same goes for everyone and how their bodies are. So I will say again, there is no such thing as a perfect body. There is no such thing as supposed to be looking a certain way. So anyone who think people on here are defending people who are "fat," that is just them saying you have no right to criticize, because who are you to do it, when simply, your body isn't perfect either no matter what you say.
***** You're not telling me anything I don't already know. You completely ignored the point of my post. The point is that no one has the right to ridicule other's for their bodies when their own isn't perfect itself, because like I said before, there's no such thing. If there is no such thing as a perfect person, why would there be such thing as a perfect body?
People have the right to ridicule someone else. Is it wrong, yes. But they have the rightto.
People just take things way too far. People just need to worry about themselves and not others and things that don't concern them. It will save a lot of stupid fights. The way other people live their lives and their body image is no one else's business. We all need to learn to keep our opinions to ourselves. Don't give anyone that freedom of speech bull. If this country was really all about freedom of speech and not expect people to get upset about, then their should be freedom of body image and to expect other's not to get upset about it.
Alyssa Williams When fat people result in $300 billion losses to the nation it is everyone's business.
www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-consequences/economic/
www.obesitycampaign.org/obesity_facts.asp
www.thefiscaltimes.com/Articles/2014/06/19/Budget-Busting-US-Obesity-Costs-Climb-Past-300-Billion-Year
You act like that's the only way people die. People die from smoking. People die from drugs. People drive from DUI. People even still die when they're completely healthy but something tragic happens to them anyways. Don't just blame it on it all because they're fat when there's so many other factors.
The BEST way to lose weight and keep it off is not just a healthy diet, it's exercising and a healthy diet! If you just exercise 15-30 minutes every other day you will lose weight. When I was 20 I weighed about 230 at 6'2. I'm now 23 and I weigh 200 at 6'3. You don't even need to go to the gym if you don't want to. Just do some squats, push ups, sit ups at home and maybe walk/bike to work instead of driving. *You can do it.*
BTW follow me on Instagram @ instagram.com/kyle_dtf/
***** That's not funny
***** then you're just ending up burning up your muscles, and you might even need to go to the hospital for weeks to recover from starvation
***** define "best"
I'm not saying you're fully wrong but that when and what you eat is the key to losing weight. Exercises come second. Especially aerobic exercises.
Go on soylent
she doesn't even look fat. she looks curvy more than fat.
+MiaMeow same thing
+MiaMeow cuz "curvy' is totally diffrent sarcasm
+Alicia Mora Actually, curvy is a thing, it's more when your body naturally isn't stick straight up and down then having fat.
Well I'm now crying.... This is... So inspirational. Thanks Buzzfeed :)
I am a cucumber. I am very healthy. Just don't try and eat me.
Hello cucumber:)
Niazkilam 98 Hello.
Cool as a cucumber.
Prometheus Hippopotimi You got that right.
Cucumber I don't even like cucumbers very much, but you seem like a cool one.
It always bothered me when people say, "Don't be mean when telling someone they are fat! Do it politely."
Is there honestly a polite way for someone to say, "Hey, I think you're eating too much and the weight you are now is not healthy."
Why do people feel as if it's their RIGHT to tell someone they need to lose or even gain weight? You may see this person physically, but you have no idea what goes on mentally or personally. Just like the woman in the video, you wouldn't even have imagined what she's gone through. You don't know what people have gone through just by looking at them, and yet you still find it your right to tell them that YOU don't think they are healthy.
How do you know what the person does in their private time? They could have lost 20 pounds and some person who, again, only see's them physically, would still scoff and tell them they need to lose weight. The same person could be eating healthy and exercising when they can, but here comes some fucking asshole telling them they need to lose weight and putting them down because they have no idea what the person is doing in their own time! Some people can't gain weight, and some can't lose it. Does that make them automatically unhealthy? No! I've seen bigger people who eat healthy and I've seen thinner people who eat unhealthy, and vice versa.
So when people group all 'fat' people in one category of unhealthy, it pisses me off. NO, you actually DON'T have a right to tell someone they are unhealthy. They don't live to please you.
And people are still calling this girl fat and telling her she's unhealthy, even after clearly explaining she's living a more healthy life style... I'm truly fucking disgusted.
So strong. This is really moving and inspirational. I have utmost respect for you.
I adore this video,i'm gonna watch it every single day,this woman inspires me!
I HATE people who say "I'm skinny but i have a beyonce butt love me" like,just read the EXACTLY same comment some days ago,like,those kind of lies are disgusting!
waisodim666 Wow,i do not understand all the hate because i do not like anime,i just draw chibi and anime style,you do not need to hate on people.
Senpai Axy Why lies lol? It's very possible
Lea Solc um excuse me but I don't watch that trash
Senpai Axy You don't watch what?
"Fat is not a feeling" well neither is stupid but you can still feel stupid, neither is lots but you can still feel lost and so on. Just because something isn't a feeling doesn't mean you can't feel like you are that thing
She's not even fat.. She looks healthy and average. I see no problem, so be you girl
It's not that easy...
She has the same body type as me not to big not to small just right she's beautiful I'm beautiful your beautiful everyone is in there own way who cares about what people think of you love you body just the way it don't destroy it and try to make yourself look better by starving yourself love yourself get a larger mirror look a little closer and think a little harder bc were all beautiful.
these comments are fucking disgusting. of course people are gonna say "how bout the gym" "get on a diet". Stop fucking judging her especially if you didn't go through these things she went through. People are missing the whole point of this video. Its supposed to inspire people to love there body and be happy with what they have and not try to fix there body looks based on what the internet and t.v says. But to see comments saying to go to the gym and just miss the whole purpose of this video makes me think "wtf is wrong with this world" this was a long ass comment, but worth it. :)
But she is not sending out a positive message either. 'sympathetic' people would take this video as excuse to stuff their faces even further. (I for one went from obese to fit in a matter of 3 years due to exercise)
***** -_- she was never fat! she just felt fat.
I don't feel fat...
I AM fat -_-
Omg me
Same 😂😂😂
Same 😂😂😂
Yeah
Xnsane same😂😂😂😂
I love the videos that I can relate to, because there's always that motivational part at the end that makes me feel better
Goosebumps.
I don't usually like buzzfeed videos, but this was utterly amazing. Wow.
This woman had the courage to share her deepest darkest feelings and fears. She is a brave soul and is to be admired. She seems healthy. So what if her belly isn't flat and she's not toned? She's happy with her body.
she might be happy and feel confident but it doesn't mean that she is healthy....
StarchaserArya Please explain to me how starving and purging is somehow more healthy than eating when she's hungry and stopping when she's full?
Teen Idle
if she simply stuffs herself with food just to fill her stomach and doesn't workout,then more or less she does the same damage to her health.And no it's not correct to eat whatever you want just because you feel like eating it as she mentions...The key is to maintain a healthy balanced diet and workout as much as you can! I was (and still struggling) in the same position as hers when it comes to how I felt about my body but I have done a huge progress compared to the past by changing my whole lifestyle....I am not saying it's easy but it's the only way in order to accept and love yourself!
Aww she's been threw so much bless her
The word you're looking for is ...through. This clearly shows the intellect of this "persons", supporters I.Q..
buzz feed, thank you so much for making this. I actually am crying watching this because I have always 'felt' and though I was fat. But you have given me the moment to change and motivation. Thank you very much x
I love and respect my body too... that's why I eat healthy and exercise regularly. I never "feel fat" because I'm not. No one has to accept being fat. Fat is a choice. You either choose to be fat by doing nothing or you can choose to be fit and do something about it. The opposite of fat is not starving yourself. I never starve. Actually I eat quite a lot. I don't eat hamburgers or pizzas or drink sodas. I drink a lot of water. I eat a lot of grilled chicken, salads, vegetables, whole grains, and fruits. The choice is not between fat and unhealthy starvation. If you believe that, you're lying to yourself.
So with that, I'm going for a run and after that I'm going to have some unsweetened oatmeal with blueberries. Why? Because I love and respect my body enough to do what it needs to be healthy and strong.
I agree with your sentiment, but please don't generalize that "fat is a choice". It's a very harmful misconception 🙏
starry333z It absolutely is a choice. Don't buy into that "genetics" argument. The very very small percentage of the population that do have some genetic disorder know about it from a young age and are on medication for most of their life. They are also hundreds of pounds overweight. Being 50-100 pounds overweight is just because they don't live a healthy lifestyle. This girl in the video could eat better, work out, and should would lose fat and be much healthier without starving herself.
And how do I know this... because I was fat. It wasn't until I stopped lying to myself and decided to change my eating habits and lifestyle that my body changed.
No, you can inherit your parent(s) fat too.
Marriah Tanguid That doesn't mean you're stuck with it for life. Healthy eating and exercise can make it go away.
What if you're disabled, have medical issues, or for other reasons cannot lose weight? Please rethink your opinion
I love Buzzfeed from posting miscellaneous things to such relatable and emotional videos~ thank you Buzzfeed
Diet and exercise is not "the right thing to do" that's what society tells you. Doing EXACTLY what this woman has said is the right thing to do. I'm someone who has suffered from anorexia, self harm, depression, weight problems that is ALSO a martial artist of 3 styles.....diet and exercise can be someone's worst demons because of people like personal trainers and diet pill "experts" perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Never judge what someone feels is right for themselves. Even when it's killing them, lift them...don't judge them.
Always being on a diet is bad, I agree, however you should strive to eat healthy. Instead of a bag of cookies eat some strawberries, instead of chocolate have some peanut butter. The little things really add up and if you feel healthier, your view of your body will be more positive. Exercise is good but not everyone can do it between work and school. Just have to try your best. :)
I get what you're trying to say but as long as a person understands will power and self control when it comes to cookies and chocolate you should never tell yourself no. That's where diets fail. Never say no, but never eat the whole box. Or even HALF the box...take two cookies, know you had what you wanted and be happy about it.
***** eh it's hit or miss and it's totally up to you to choose to exercise but when health concerns come in that when it's mandatory.
PREACH
My mentality towards food and my own body has been completely screwed up since I started dieting :(
@YinYangSara Sure, I agree with the fact that "Diet and exercise are not 'the right thing to do,'" and I agree with the fact that the woman tells us to love ourselves and our bodies the way they are. But exercise is important.
Actually, fudge the word exercise - it's joyful movement. Finding time for at least 30 minutes of moderately vigorous physical activity you enjoy doing for 4-6 days a week defines it. It ranges from walking, just dancing in your room, to even housework with upbeat hits on the radio!
Intuitive Eating is more than eating when hungry and stopping when full. It's also seeing exercise in a much, much more distinct light. I eat mostly clean (even without noticing) and I train at 5-8 RPE 1-2 hours most days weekly. But am I doing this to lose weight? No, no, and NO AGAIN. I'm doing this to live a long, happy life.
And I have over a whole month touring Europe in October, and that's one of the moments in life that I have to be physically fit. Not because I have to look good in pictures, but I have to endure long walking distances, steep staircases, hills, and walkways up mountains (Here's looking at you, Swiss Alps!), and that requires vigorous exercise 3-4 days a week and a lot of walking beforehand.
For those of you who think that she is promoting obesity like I'm "seemingly" doing, reread my quips on what I do in my healthy lifestyle. I'm one of those overweight/obese who eat clean and exercise vigorously almost daily. As much as there are fat people who eat highly processed foods and have their hineys glued to the couch, there are skinny ones who live that way as well.
Health and fitness are not a look. They aren't about looking good in a bikini, having a round butt, or even having a thigh gap. They look different on everybody.
I'm struggling with an eating disorder at the moment and I hope one day I can reach this stage.
Seriously try to get help if you haven't already and best wishes... I hope you overcome it soon :)
My heart goes out to you.
Preach It!
I know it will be hard, but I hope you can reach that stage too
I have so much respect for this girl ❤️
Its sad how people judge you based on how you look. It's why i'm bullied. I HATE PEOPLE.
Same with me. I was bullied about the way I dressed. And how I looked and acted. Of course I've been called a ton of things, and if I did anything at all that wasn't "normal" I'd be harassed. But, honestly, be yourself. No one should tell you how to look, what to do, how to dress, the people who do don't know every insult is like a little more pain, more unwelcome thoughts. Don't listen to them. They know nothing. The best you can do is find a group of people like you, and become involved with them, no matter the age. Remember: there is always someone like you. Seek those people out, and get their support. You aren't alone. Being bullied is a terrible experience, but you come out stronger afterward, though it takes pain to heal. You'll know more, and you'll be able to try to prevent it for people around you. It took a good 3 years for me to fully recover, it's hard. But now I have good friends, tons of people who like and respect me, and I'm happy. Not all people are horrible. Just a lot of them. And remember, never listen to them. Because they're wrong. And you're right. They don't know you, not as you know you. Try to pull yourself together, and keep sane. It'll (hopefully) get better in the near future. There is hope.
Everyone is his kind of beautiful. And thoose who are bullying you are tgeir kind of bitches thats it. Love yourself and have a nice day👌🏽
You're a freaking beautiful human being inside and out
If you feel like you're fat, YOU ARE WRONG! You are a beautiful, wonderful person. Starving yourself will just make it worse. You can have that body once, be happy. Eat what you want, if you want to have an diet, have it. But don't let it control your life. Look at others, don't feel bad. Your body is perfect just in their pov. Love your body, be free. Be with others, and if you still think you're fat....You aren't, think about HOW amazing our body is, it has hands legs and other complex things, would you still complain about being fat when you are limbless?
Thank you so much for the inspiration. I am a 29 year old male in Recovery from an eating disorder and this video gave me hope during my current period of struggle.
this is a powerful video. Everyone has to see this. This world has taught us the standard of beauty yet this standard eat us alive. People get abused not just women but even men regardless of their size, race or beliefs. This is something we should all be aware of. And to parents out there, please dont be your children's first bullies. You have to be there and support them. dont let them feel its bad or this is what others would think of you if you're not 'this' and 'that'. Accepting your body, your story and who you really are may be difficult to oneself. And I am happy to see this kind of video where a woman stood up for herself and we all should be, to ourselves and to everyone we love.
Ivana Maksimovic Ok, I'll just let them eat themselves to death instead of making fun of them.
lets watch videos to feel more confident about being fat
Her confidence makes her so much more beautiful.
It's hard to love myself when there are people bringing me down everyday
I can't believe what people are saying about this women. She is beautiful and not at all fat. I can show you pictures of fat people. You can't tell someone they need to go to the gym when they're not even fat. Yet people commenting are calling her a pig. I'm disgusted by people like that.
Good job Buzzfeed👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
And to you who spoke...Bravo...Brave...Inspiring....and congratulations in overcoming the lifelong struggle, each and every day. I felt like you were talking directly to me. Thank you😊
I have been starving and bingeing for the last 5 years. I have no idea how to actually eat healthy or how to love myself. But women like her make me think recovery is possible
this is beautiful and inspiring.
The fact that you are still alive and have the courage to conffess your dark secrets in front of a camera means that you are a warrior, and you have so much power to overcome whatever challenge life has for you. Congratulations for being so brave :)
I wasn't expecting this video to be so intense, but it just touched something inside of me. About five seconds into the video I was hit with sobs. Uncontrollable sobs. It's hard to put into words, but thank you Caroline. Thank you for doing this, I really needed it.
What's worse is when someone who's skinnier than u says that they are fat, I hate it, it's like they are indirectly telling u that ur fat, and I'm like I already struggle with being self conscious about my body now u are gonna talk about how fat your size small body is
no, we don't it on purpose. we aren't trying to call you fat, we are struggling with loving ourselves. we could have an eating disorder, we could have low self esteem and are definitely not targeting you. we are simply insecure
Such a beautiful display of strength...thanks for inspiring gratitude and love for the miracle of our bodies. Stay blessed
This woman is incredibly powerful and strong. Mental illness is one of the most crippling problems a person can have, and it is often harder to beat than physical injury. Thank you for sharing your story.
I love how every other comment is a whiny variation on, "Stop complaining about being fat and go to the gym!!!111!! Fatty," when the video itself is the antithesis of complaining about being fat. She's not calling herself fat or thin or anything, but that she's learned the hard way to love her body for what it is, no matter how she looks that day. And that's a powerful message we can all benefit from.
I don't know if watching the video would help the haters and trolls calm their tits (doubtful), but the least they could do is respond to the *actual* content of the video after watching it rather than assume based on the title. If you're gonna troll or be a dick, at least do it well. C'mon.
Respect for this women
This video came out 5 years ago but I'm putting this out there for anyone who comes across this. *to all the people who are saying "she's not even fat," you've completely missed the point. So maybe she doesn't fit your ideal of a "fat person" but she's showing us how even though she's been through so much, she still chooses to love her body. If this woman who has binged, purged, and starved, been repeatedly molested, and raped, who has even lost her brother, can come out publicly to speak about her experiencs and still love her body, than you can too. So think about that the next time YOU think you're fat.
Goddamn it! Can't we all just be happy because she is happy?
That was beautiful, I am truly moved. :)
I stand up and clap for buzzfeed for having this woman stand up and say all these things, I can really relate to many things that she said. Thank you for posting this.
Some of the comments on this video make my skin crawl. Thank You Buzzfeed for this video, more people should speak up about the issues raised in it.
seeing all these comments about how wrong fat shaming is and how beautiful she is, but skinny shaming is apparently totally fine because I get multiple comments every day about how "you're too skinny" "You need to gain some weight" "how much do you weigh" "do you starve yourself" and nobody's ever said anything about how wrong it is to skinny shame because we think it's normal. normal isn't talking about what that person needs to do to be the image of beauty and the image that person contemplated and wants you to be. We a great our body differently, but that's our choice and some days I can't control if I'm hungry or not I can't CONTROL how much I want to eat before I can't eat anymore. I can't control if I want to throw my food up after eating it. we are all beautiful, and your rude comments aren't going to change how I or others perceive all women as beautiful. You are beautiful, and the only way that'll change is if you let people believe that you arent.
So strong of you to come out and talk about this! Happened to me too and I'm still dealing with it all. Stay strong. :)
She has amazing teeth
I am over weight so I deal with the usual things people deal with when they are over weight. One thing I hate the most is when I am given a low fat or diet drink or food when you and I both know I did not ask for it. First of all I ordered a small size for Christ sake. Give me some props. I get it. You think your better than me because your waist line is smaller. but I clearly and politely asked for a regular and by giving me anything but, you are now giving me something I would never pay for to begin with and now can not enjoy either way. btw why the fuk does low fat mayo exist. It taste like glue. Thank you and good night.
This was so inspiring! God bless this woman and every other person who goes through struggles like this in their life and overcomes them, no matter how hard the journey to do so is.
I think my school is a lot different from every other school out there. Like, in my grade, we have no people who do drugs (the people who do just kind of...disappear, I am not joking) we don't have anybody dating anybody, we don't have the popular crowns or the nerdy crowd, we are all friends with each other and tolerate eachother, and we don't have people who bully other people. Most of the people are just competing with each other for who gets the highest in math or science. Is this normal? Or is my school an anomaly. My school isn't small either 2000 students, 300 in my grade
it's an anomaly
What school is this?! WHAT. I can't....this is beautiful guys...
My school is the exact same ways. There's no bullying because my school doesn't tolerate bullying at all. No drugs, No bullying, etc. They are couples in my school and they get seriously annoying when they stop in the middle of the hall way trying to do there "thing" (kissing and hugging) but that's all. People just hang out with their friends. The "popular" ones are the smartest in the school but they don't bother anybody; they just go along with their day. My school is rather small though but not too small. There's like 150 students in my grade probably reaching to 200 because the school is increasing in population size.
That's how my school is. All the "popular" people are the people who would be considered nerds. We don't really have cliques, that I know of anyway...
My school is about 3000 people, about 700-ish in my grade ( I'm a senior :D )
Wow, never thought it exist
In my school, there are groups, some are composed of assholes, and they don't communicate, however we don't have nerds
Also, people aren't fat. They are either fluffy or really good snuggle pillows :3
This is a powerful video. It takes so much strength to get ANY of those things, much less all of them within a few years. From having an eating disorder, being molested, being raped, and a loss of a family member.. that can be emotionally devastating. I'm so proud of you for being able to realize you were doing harm to yourself and for gathering the strength to overcome everything you have been through. You are a remarkable person. Inside and out.
I'm really confused looking at the comments. Guys, auguring over if she's "fat" or "chubby" or not fat ain't gonna change anything. I will agree, she does have a small bit of chub on her, but that's what HEALTHY people have. If your relatively skinny, but there's a small bump above ur..... "Place" that's supposed to be there. You need that bit of fat. It's what your body burns, and if there's no fat, what's it gonna burn then? Aside from that, we shouldn't even care if she's fit or not, we should care about how she went from disliking her body, to loving it! We should be congratulating her on the progress she's made! This is from me to her, I'm proud of you, and how you conquered your negative state of mind and came to love your body. Everybody should. The odds of us existing is 0. That's how lucky you are to be you. I know it's hard to accept your body, I'm still trying to accept mine, but we need to focus on the positive things on life, and not how heavy a person is after struggling to accept their body
Sorry for the whole book I just wrote ;-;
I thought Buzzfeedyellow was supposed to be tasty short,fun,inspiring videos.
I started crying watching this. I've had to deal with an eating disorder just a few months ago, that stemmed from being unable to share my issues with my family. Anxiety built up, anxiety that put a strain on my throat, left me constantly feeling like I was choking, preventing me from being able to swallow. I was lucky that I had been sent off to boarding school because I had the support of friends, but when I would go back home the feeling would come back. After I had finished with highschool, I didn't get into my chosen universities, I ended up going back home, where I stayed for almost 2 years. I was terrified, but I chose to try and solve the issue, I set into motion a plan to run away. I took some exams, got into university all the way in Australia, where I now have the support system that I've always needed.
I don't know why but i though that was sara in the thumbnail and i was like " WAAAAAA ... sara is thin af " then i realized it was another girl .
Being grateful to your body is like being grateful to the loaf of bread rather than the one who gave it to you. God.
ALLAHU AKBAR
**boom**
What is this "god" you speak of. I'm pretty sure your body was 'given' to you by your genetics, which came from your parents, which came from billions of years of evolution
Artoria Pendragon it's not that easy being an atheist in a COMPLETELY Christian family and predominantly Christian demographic. I believe there is no god for many reasons ranging from my belief in the likelihood of a god existing, my knowledge of physics and generally science and mathematics, the knowledge of my history and the fact that Christianity was forced on to my ancestors as well as many other reasons.
Just because I have strong faith in my belief doesn't make me a troll
Btw I didn't mean to offend or cause upset I was just joking.
Ps I'm a British 14 year old of afro-caribbean descent
Young ReeZy No offense, but you're 14. How much knowledge of science, math and physics can you possibly have?
Let's just say I'm not the average 14 year old that is blinded by an education system that stamps out the ingenuity and curiosity to venture out of the desired curriculum
I've been getting cyber bullied for a picture I posted of myself, getting comments like "you single handedly kept McDonalds and BK in business" or "there's nothing you wouldn't do for a Klondike bar" and thoughts comments got in my head and I have barely eaten for 2 weeks and what I eat is only salads when I do. This video is making me look differently at my body and I'm going to start respecting it.
for every one that are saying "skinny girls that say they are fat are just so full of themselves bluh bluh bluh" have you ever stopped and think about how insecure they must be feeling JUST LIKE YOU!! just because they have your ideal body type doesn't mean it's ideal to them too... I'm a size 6 and Whenever I tell my friends how I hate wearing shorts because of my thighs I get looks like "ug get over it you are skinny" like I have the perfect body well I don't! just like how they see their bodies as downfalls I do mine too... how I have a very small butt, how having a slight thigh gap is considered "anorexic" how having smaller arms makes me look "weak" and "boney" Being a small size doesn't matter... insecurities run deep in everyone of us so Don't make it worse for smaller framed girls
Its true everyone has insecurities, but the reason they're like that is because the media usually glorifies your type of body (flat stomach, small waist, etc.) and well to bigger girls that's the dream, that's what feeling beautiful must be like. I, for one always compare myself to skinny girls and I'm so jealous of their body, I'm jealous they can wear bikinis without a muffin top, that boys can pick them up without struggling or that most of them dont have my stretch marks or cellulite all over their body. I know, its stupid. But things are changing and I'm glad body positivity is becoming a trend because its important we learn to love our bodies and stop comparing ourselves to other people.
ZamaBomvu ngubane You´re absolutely right
+ZamaBomvu ngubane Thank you so much. I would always complain about how insecure I am about my body, and people would say to me "You're just fishing for compliments" like no, I'm not, I have insecurities just like you do. They would say it so much so I decided to just shut up and not talk about it which made it extremly hard because I had no one to talk to. Everyone should realize everybody has insecurities.
+EmptySymphonies True, I always get jealous when I see a girl with a big butt or curves.