2 Unexpected Ways to Heal Self Sabotage | MedCircle
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 มิ.ย. 2024
- Get access to hundreds of LIVE workshops with the MedCircle psychologists & psychiatrists: watch.medcircle.com
Claim one week of free access to the MedCircle library to access hundreds of exclusive videos featuring Dr. Ramani: bit.ly/2TRb8F1
The job of a therapist is to do a deep-dive into a patient’s past traumas, unconscious conflicts, and family history, in order to understand their current beliefs, feelings, and behaviors that may block them in their current life. Discover 2 unexpected ways to heal self sabotage
Clinical psychologist and MedCircle Educator Dr. Ramani Durvasula expertly does this every day through therapy in her private practice.
Most great therapists do this work. Grace Smith is no exception; she just accesses the subconscious belief system--especially the beliefs we live by which unknowingly limit us-through a very different door.
As a certified hypnotherapist through the International Association of Counselors and Therapists, Grace has changed lives by treating anxiety, nicotine addiction, chronic pain, and more.
Grace kicks off the series by sharing an amazing story of resilience and triumph of one of her clients-which kickstarted her career as a full-time hypnotherapist.
Dr. Ramani shares her thoughts on the science of hypnotherapy, from a psychologist perspective. Additionally, Grace shares the powerful role hypnosis played in releasing her own limiting behaviors, limiting beliefs , and self sabotage.
From the patient’s role in the therapy room to the actual neurological mechanisms at play, Grace and Dr. Ramani also break down the surprisingly strong similarities between hypnotherapy and traditional therapy especially when it comes to overcoming self sabotage.
Here’s how to take responsibility for your mental health. Take control of your negative thoughts & bad habits / behavior , reprogram your subconscious limiting beliefs, & get empowered to beat self sabotage and transform your life.
This video is great for anyone who is interested in psychotherapy techniques beyond cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT.
#SelfSabotage #Therapy #Hypnotherapy #MedCircle
![Here's What Stopping Self Sabotage Looks Like [An Example]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/2st3LIPl_DM/mqdefault.jpg)
![[Full Episode] MasterChef Junior Thailand มาสเตอร์เชฟ จูเนียร์ ประเทศไทย Season 3 Episode 2](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/YpQnHoQvZt4/mqdefault.jpg)
![จังหวะนี้ - เม้ก อภิสิทธิ์ [ Official MV ] จอนนี่มิวสิค](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/4gQRZCkRyiU/mqdefault.jpg)
This is just one episode of a full series. Get instant access to 3 more episodes with Grace & Dr. Ramani HERE: bit.ly/3q1Lvwf
Is it possible for someone to have a narcissist personality and self sabotage?
27:20 it honestly sounds very inaccurate that 80% of obese women have been sexually abused as children. are there any sources on that?
@@atyaiatin I missed that 😳 I want to know who's definition of obese they're going by. Drs would call me morbidly obese. But the average person would not. 🤷🏼♀️ I was not sexually abused. But mentally and emotionally and a little bit physically. The sad part is that my parents didn't know better at the time. It wasn't until later when they got educated about positive reinforcement and what a healthy family dynamic looks like that they started to improve. They weren't intentionally, maliciously abusive.
RC Blakes subnect on mean men?
Kkl
"Bad habits helps me to avoid pain yet keeps me 'safe" but small" Wow this is an eye opening discussion. Thank you.
Yess
That's my problem with smoking. Difficult to explain to non-smokers, but it makes you feel "safe".
@@PR-be1bs I remember how smoking helped me calm down and blow off steam. It took a very long time, but I was finally able to quit 14 years ago. Keep trying and know that its possible
@@marygibbons2263 Thank you! :)
@@PR-be1bs You can do it!
Lack of self love, self confidence, self respect are the root causes of most of the issues..
Right but what causes that? That’s the real question and so hard to answer
@@kateapple1 childhood, most self unworthiness comes from not being loved as a child...
@@belle3055 Lack of feeling loved. A parent can love a child in a way the child doesn't perceive it as love and therefore doesn't receive it.
@@kateapple1 trauma, stress, toxic people around you, self-hate e.t.c
@@mandolaa4855 Ok, BUT.. we know that is impossible to fix up the childhood events so all are predictions and examples, whatever never a cure. Doctors?... They will never go unemployed.
These two women are such amazing examples of their professions.
Agreed!
💯
Definitely! So educated, intelligent, well-spoken and empathetic. Very admirable.
these women are so different from each other in their mannerisms and looks but they are both so beautiful and eloquent!! such an insightful interview.
Watching this as a psychology and psychotherapy student I'm feeling proud of the choices I made about my education and future. I just can't explain 😂
Hahaha me too
Yeah being educated on the mental condition is a good benefit. I'm tripping out i didn't think i would of been watching all this today. But hey it is what it is. Prayer will strengthen us all. Have a good day
Good choice. Good therapists are in great need.
wow your so special and cool, quirky lol XD
@@stone-sama7314 Thanks alot
Language does imprison us. In order to stop having imprisoning mental dialogue I decided to start thinking in Spanish because I was less accustomed to it. It’s an idea I recommend if you’re bilingual or learning a new language.
Okay then ...sawa basi 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
Interesting! What is an example of using this? Being a Spanish speaker this helps
Yeah, it seems interesting to have more inner talk in different languages.
Oooo
teriffic idea !
I watched this and was motivated to reach out to a therapist. I have been avoiding the continued pursuit for a couple weeks now. I am glad this popped up!
i'm glad for you!!!!!
We are so glad this helped you on your mental health journey. Thank you for supporting mental health education. 💙
I’m here thinking the same thing! I would love to get some help with overcoming my limiting beliefs.
Just a little note I tell everyone seeking out therapy for the first time: Therapy is great if you find the right therapist for you. Please don‘t be discouraged if the first therapist you go to is not the right one for you, please continue seeking out the right person! Good luck and all the best on your journey!!
@@nothingavailableleft Thank you for posting this. It is very important to find the right therapist.
I've been a Clinical Hypnotherapist for 18 years. I AM THRILLED to see our profession being represented so accurately. Thank you Grace for your professionalism and clarity. Thank you MedCircle for sharing wisdom!
Wow! Modern fairy tale: no damsel in distress rescued by a prince on a white horse, but a badass therapist rescued a high tier veteran and got his son's hand in marriage! XDD holy shit I got a new role model!!
It IS just like a fairy tale!
IKR!!!
Writers: write that down!
This is actually a really terrible breach of ethics.
@@cware3831 Why? She was his dad's doctor and not his
"Life is uncomfortable"!!! That's it. That's what missing from modern parenting; telling kids life might suck sometimes, and we need to learn how to deal with it, instead of the fairy tale lies that blind them to reality, and then they turn to drugs to cope.
I love this video, it's really valuable. I used to think that I had social anxiety disorder, it depressed me and crushed my self confidence. Social anxiety disorder is just a label that other people use to describe someone (you) that gets anxiety from social interaction to a degree that pushes it into the magical 'disorder' category.
Drop the label. I now think to myself; I often get anxiety symptoms when I interact with people, but those symptoms indicate that I am approaching the discomfort rather than avoiding it at all costs. Like getting used to cold showers.
🙏🏾
👍🌠I agree
that cold shower parable was quite dope!
Omg you make so much sense. Thankyou. I needed this
Yes so true
I just have one question... where the f**** can I hire Dr. Ramani? She's is so great at her job.
And why is this better than all the therapy sessions I have ever had? I get so much insight from these sessions with her and Kyle... With that being said, I still believe that sometimes clinical psychology lacks something more humane, authentic, and compassionate. That's where they should just add someone like Kyle to the mix, he totally redirects everything in the best way!
I agree w this ALL
100% agree!
I'm an obese person, struggling with eating disorder for my whole life. I've literally shed a tear at 28:58, my subconscious screamed that something was there. I remembered my childhood memories on the dinner table. Just listening to this tiny information revealed a lot, I don't know what a whole therapy session can do... Wow, really thanks for this...
You have to take action and set in place a system that can work for you one day at a time. Its about discipline.
Love is the best gift of all , So interesting that without loving ourselves we cannot generally love others. We have nothing to give so we pray, we ask God to please bless us with some love in our hearts that we can give away to those around us that they may be Blessed with true love of God and have joy & honor you, Lord, in this day. That is my prayer for you 🙏
That’s exciting!!!
What is the extra padding keeping you safe from?
Yourself? sexually safe?
Give it to God, Jesus Christ is the safest and most trustworthy to give it over to. He will protect you if you are His.
You are loved!
16:00
Lack of self love
Lack of self worth
Lack of self confidence
Dr. Ramani has helped me enormously the last year with her videos and insights, which I found profound and life changing.
I highly recommend her wisdom to anybody who wants the hard truth and bottom line, presented with compassion from someone who deeply understands.
Hypnotherapy helped me with severe trauma, allowing me a safe space to heal. There was stuff we worked on that I don't think would have been resolved any other way. Good to see the profession being recognised here.
Part where she said "We are now speaking with part of you that want to smoke" was eye opening!
Whenever procrastinate try to ask yourself "If there is part of me that actually don't want this to happen what would be the reason?"
Yes! I was just listening to Gabor Mate about the real reasons people have dopamine addiction (addiction to anything, including work, food, porn, praise... not just drugs or cigs). Very insightful, his investigation of the research and the role the addiction plays in managing some original trauma.
This video and your comment sound very much informed by or similar to internal family systems therapy.
@@thinkchip I have never been on something like that, but sounds interesting, will google it! Thank you for sharing!
@Falcon Britt Yeah! Gabor Mate has really great work! He seriously knows how to explain things.
I really needed reminder to this old comment, you guys saved me of procrastination with one important obligation
Grace truly inspires me. The fact that she was deeply afraid of public speaking ... and shes honestly one of the most articulate people I've ever seen. Brilliant use of the mind. I love that.
I think I may need hypnotherapy for weight loss and self image. My mother and father both completely destroyed the way I see myself. My mother charged me with "never letting myself get fat and nasty" (I am now the size she was when she said this to me. I was about 13 or 14 then), and my father was verbally abusive to my sister concerning her weight (She was slightly bigger than the size I am now). I don't leave the house, I hate shopping for clothes, I have a fear of performing (I am a singer), I have trouble getting dressed every day, and I hate looking at myself in the mirror. It has grown progressively worse over time. I don't know where else to turn. But this segment just sparked me to look into hypnotherapy for weight loss, but moreso trauma work. There's got to be a way to beat this!
All the best...the fact that you acknowledged the need to seek professional help for th issues that you’re currently facing is very inspiring, you’re very brave for doing that.
🫂🫂🫂
I relate to a lot of what you’d written. My parents both berated me growing up about my weight and I became detached from my mind from my body. If you haven’t already, do some research into body dysmorphia. Take care. 🤗
J. Cheri ... replace Fear with Love (for Life Itself; Everything & Everyone around You; and Yourself - forgiving one's Flaws and having Faith we can overcome makes us Human - What's good for one is good for all others
Im sorry. I know how it feels to feel stuck and to feel terrible about your body because if your parents and people around you. I have no doubt that you will overcome this.❤️ I love you.
The ending has SUCH a beautiful addition to it lol she married his son omg 😩👏🏽👏🏽💕❤️
Hmmmm, that is weird. Personal ly I didn t connect with her.
Feels kinda Hollywood.
"Accept this and look at your life as the damn triumph that it is!" 💗
Absolutely love Dr Ramani.
Sharp, Brilliant, Insightful and Beautiful.
I feel energized watching how passionate Dr. Ramani is about her work
"I have the thought that. . .". What a powerful change.
14 years ago I had massive pulmonary embolism in both lungs and was told I need a breathing tube (intubated) or I would die. I said no. I was very short of breath and it was hard not to panic. I was on a LOT of oxygen by mask but still low oxygenlevels. . I was given blood thinners but also spent the night going into a calm relaxed state and VISUALIZED the blood clots being digested by my body and breaking up. By morning I was almost off oxygen and breathing normally. We don't appreciate how powerful our minds are in affecting our bodies for the good or bad.
This was brilliant, I loved the idea of comparing thoughts from different schools and I'm looking forward to see some more in the future. 🙂
Can health care cover this please! 😩 🙌🏽👏🏽
That would be great!
Maybe one day. I truly want to work to open doors for all therapy practices for ppl that need assistance with getting sessions.
I wish it did cover im in the same boat rn but i believe it will change. God knows what we need
This is the source of ALL problems. You fix the mind, you fix everything. Since it is the control center of our entire being
some insurance does cover it. it is also dependent upon the individual practitioners.
@@wanderingintime I live in Canada so I only have OHIP
Grace's voice modulation is hypnotizing me!
Wow I heard in 2019 on a early morning show that being heavy was a self defense from our bodies after being sexualy abused, but this is the first time I have heard it sense. So greatful for these programs. Thank you Med Circle and TH-cam for bringing it to me free.
Great interview from 2 different viewpoints, no bashing of each other's professions. I totally agree with the "unregulated" aspect of any health profession, BUT, there are also a LOT of "regulated" health professionals who do their pateints harm and don't have the people skills at all to help someone (counsellors, therapists, hypnotherapists, etc. included) Beautifully done interview.
These ladies are a great compliment to each other.
This was incredible! Loved the two different perspectives on the issue and the actual acknowledgement of the different theories and how they overlap. Instead of the more dogmatic ‘my method/theory is correct’
Omg yes!💜
I loved this dual discussion between Psychotherapy and Alternative therapy
Holy Spirit is the healer. People are instruments. "Acknowledge Him in all your ways and He will direct your path." We have reached a stage of understanding the scientific basis of "faith."
Now i need a hypnotherapist..... And i absolutely love Ramani, been watching her a while.
I'm going through a particularly difficult moment in my life. What's fascinating, after watching this, is a dream I had a week ago. I've been dreaming a lot about wild animals attacking me since some trauma happened recently. Finally it culminated in a dream where a wise woman allowed her animal to attack me. I begged her to help me get away from it and she told me pain is impossible to avoid, and that as terrifying as it seems, I'm at a point in life where I HAVE to learn to experience it. I have to learn to stand still and cope. As much as I hated it I knew she was right. I'm still resisting it, and it's incredibly difficult for me... But I'm one step closer.
I've been having unavoidable problems in my life too... and I have the same dreams, being chased by wild animals.... always different animals and dreams, but I'm experiencing the same in real life, like I'm being chased by problems I can't avoid anymore....
I've watched this video literally 25xs
You can tell, she's passionate about helping folks.
"Its when existential therapy and CBT have a fling... I said it a bit dirtier."
That killed me. LOL.
Outstanding discourse on everything from Alpha, Beta, Theta, Delta consciousness to sugar addiction to that eureka moment in therapy to sexual abuse. I could have listened to these three experts discuss this topic all day!
These 2-expert conversations are BRILLIANT. Thank you so much. This is absolutely brilliant. I love that this gives people a sense of how many modalities there are and how one therapist not "working out" for them doesn't mean that therapy as a whole doesn't work - and that they might need a different genre or approach.
This video is gold.
I’m a singer and post TH-cam videos as well. My stage fright and anxiety have taken so many opportunities from me. I will be looking into hypnosis! Thank you so much
boy can I relate! basically fired myself from a great college asst prof job because performing was SO hard for me - looking back think if I had just forced myself to perform masses till it felt 'normal' could have gotten over this
your voice is truly incredible, PLEASE keep singing, keep going x
@@itskadimusic thank you 🥺
Rebecca, you’re AMAZING. Liked. Subscribed. Following. Your runs are so smooth. Natural talent. Do you have an Instagram as well?
@@adamcrawford9016 Thank you so much! My Instagram is rebeccatuesdayy
wow this blew me away... Thank you for this to all three parties who took this time to explain.
Dr.Ramani Thank you for helping me understand my mind
Beautiful story!! She saved that man's life. At that moment Alex's son saw her as his wife!
13:50 I totally agree with Dr. Ramani. I always feel that DBT for me is not enough because it doesn't allow me to explore my past and identify which of my emotional needs weren't satiated. So I think I need more trauma work integrated into my therapy.
Oh right I feel that too! DBT helps me for sure for BPD symptoms and a bit for anxiety, but I need some work about trauma, deep core content thing. I feel like I'm still stucked in some manner (also have a narcissistic mother which doesn't help). My therapist recommends me books about it, but it's hard to deal with alone honestly. Wish you the best! 💪
@@LaGrossePaulik
Oh my God! I have a narcissitic mother as well and I was sexually abused as a child. Can you recommend some of these books?
I wish you the best. I know you’re so strong and you can do this 💪🏼. You’re not alone, I’ll keep hoping you get better.
@@haisesasaki3944 Hi Haise! You should check out Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Daughters Healing from Narcissistic Mothers by Karyl McBride
I absolutely LOVE Dr. Ramani and listen to her regularly. Hypnosis has worked for me in the past, so listening to Grace is very inspiring. I just checked her channel out and she has some wonderful videos to do on your own time. Good job MedCircle!
Can you make these videos podcasts please? They are amazing
Great great analysis and love Dr Ramani’s objective balanced view points!
Reframing our words helps us to minimize the problem. We don't realise how much better we can get by reframing the language we use to talk and describe our problems. I am having this thought also helps me to observe my thoughts objectively and gives me control over my automatic thoughts.🙏
"and he flinched..."
Hell I flinched lol
One of the best interviews I’ve ever heard
Love that you brought both of these people together.
I really love this channel, it is so needed and appreciated
I live for this! These things help me to put everything into perspective!
You guys are amazing.
This video just confirmed some key things for me and taught me so much more.
Thank you for releasing these videos
OMG This was sooo good! Hit so many angles! Love it! TYSM to all of you for your time and knowledge. TY!
Fantastic video, both these people have a way of explaining things so succinctly and also in a way that resonates. Thank you.
Omg that story about the soldier made me tear up! Beautiful ❤
First of all i have been following this channel for long time now even before I got diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and found so much relatable videos on the channel regarding my illness so thank you so much MedCircle.. This was the best conversation I have ever watched on MedCircle by the way .... I love both the therapist and a huge fan of the Host 😊
I am having the thought that this has been a life changing video for me!! Thank you!!
Well, i am having the thought that it WILL be life changing if I can remember to use it!!!
@@robynd8361 are you remembering to use it?
Kyle your an excellent interviewer. This is fantastic content from 3 superb professionals.
Well I totally enjoyed this episode. Great job ladies and gentleman.
Love Dr. Ramani! ❤️ Thank you!
First of all o have been following this channel for long time now even before I got diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and found so much relatable videos on the channel so thank you so much MedCircle.. This was the best conversation I have ever watched on MedCircle by the way .... I love both the therapist and a huge fan of the Host 😊
Thanks for sharing this, doing a fabulous job❤
Wow! Thank you for sharing this!
The trick is to have someone like Grace available before everything falls apart.
This was life-changing.
Omg thank you!!! You guys are amazing ❤️❤️❤️
Nice to see you getting back to your original format, not teasers to go to the paid site. Excellent video.
This has been so insightful!
Brilliant. I love anything with Dr. Ramani. Grace is an excellent communicator, and I really thought she brought an interesting perspective to it.
I loved this ! Definitely going to rewatch it to absorb it all in.
Such great information here and so well explained I find myself fascinated with learning all of this healing myself and my family ❤️ thank you so much
Dr. Ramani is brilliant! ❤️
Wow ! This is incredible...thank you!
Brillaint to listen to. Thanks you. So interesting to hear both speakers talk
This was amazing! Thank you
I have had trouble finishing things. I thought long and deep and figured out why I have trouble finishing things. There is this project I have been working on for about 9 month I had almost finished it, but just one more thing would be need to be done right (it turned out to be 13) it has been a pain in the rear end (and my back neck and fingers) I almost cried) but I buckle down and did it. It took me 12 days but I finished that thing, I finished it very thoroughly too. I am immensely proud of myself. And now the second "sibling" part of that project is halfway done and it's only taken me one day.
Thank you Dr. Ramani it was with your help that I have shrugged off a shackle that's held me since childhood. Thank you so much. God bless you.
Dr. Ramani is a Queen.
This video was absolutely amazing, made so many of my floating thoughts fall into place. Thank you.
Grace is such a good storyteller
Dr Ramani is so beautiful
I have done this acceptance work concerning my difficult and dysfunctional childhood and upbringing. I wish my siblings would do the same, so that we could actually communicate and discuss these things. With my parents, it was almost as though remembering things and wanting to discuss memories of our family life and childhood was taboo to the point that I believe I'm the only one of the adult children who carries the memories for everyone. What a burden, especially when I can't share these childhood memories with my siblings because they have suppressed their childhood memories. And because I CAN remember and share my childhood memories, along with theirs...they don't want to speak with me. I've been ostracized. This is what happens to the "family psychologist". I enjoy talking about these psychological things. My siblings and parents do not.
i'm 83 years old now but still suffering from this lingering hatred and anger within me. my goal is to bring awakening in my country like what is happening in AMERICA. FOR OUR PEOPLE TO RECOGNNIZE THE EVIL ELEMENTS BEHIND OUR OWN TURMOILS AS A COUNTRY AND PEOPLE. IT SEEMS NOTHING IS BEING ACHIEVED AND OUR POLITICS REMAIN BELLOW-THE-BELT CONSCIOUSNESS OF OUR REALITIES. VERY GRATEFUL THAT THIS NARCISSISM HAS COME OFF ON LINE. SALUTING YOU GUYS DR. RAMANI, KYLE KITTLESON AND GRACE SMITH. A FORMER LEFTIST REBEL.
love the energy! thank you
Thank You, for this video, pointed me in right direction of my healing journey. ♥️
I liked this before the video even started to play and it was better than I could have imagined. You guys are changing people's lives. I found this channel because I want to change my life. I'm glad I did.
Thanks Kyle for the wonderful work you do....
God bless you
This episode was amazing, so insightful and logical. Just brilliant, thank you.
Grace’s voice is so soothing
Insightful. Love it !
Such a great pair you brought together!
Amazing, great stuff!
Gread video: thank you all.
Now that I've seen this, I'm really grateful they brought up the 'language' concept. I think that method, of changing how I internally speak to myself, will genuinely allow me to look at things more realistically, as opposed to negatively. Also, I had no idea of the positive outcomes that hypnotherapy had, I will definitely be doing more research into it and possibly even seek out a professional for my smoking habit as well. It was also really interesting to listen to these ladies explaining the connections of bad habits we have, with past childhood pleasures. I think I may also have an addiction to sugar. Literally everyone in my life has told me my addiction is caffeine, but I wholeheartedly disagree. I drink energy drinks on the regular (I know, not great for mental health issues) but if I'm unable to get the drink I want, I don't revert to coffee - I will always revert to juice or lemonade etc, showing me that my addiction is not caffeine, its sugar. I really wish my therapist were more like Dr. Ramani and/or Grace, in that I believe I might actually have hope in getting better. My therapist is biased to my parents, so I don't get the proper help or support for ME, the client. My options are either continue going to a useless therapist, but that my parents will pay for. Or to find a new therapist, which I will have to pay for. Not to mention I'm 95% sure I have undiagnosed ADHD, I've been researching for MONTHS, and watching videos like these consistently. 25 years, and no one else picked it up... yet it explains so much. Id love to know what the hell is actually going on in my brain, but a useless therapist and unsupportive parents aren't doing any justice. I am a criminology, sociology and psychology student, I don't have the money to pay $180 NZD a week for therapy, yet I desperately need it so that I may genuinely live to my potential and remove myself from this being who I don't even feel, is entirely me. (sorry about the novel haha) This video is going on my Facebook wall
It's such a beautiful thing in so many ways to watch this conversation.
Amazing! Thanks!
"I am having that thought" Kyle...is an amazing eye opening line!! That's sooo it!!! Being able to...see observe witness you..as you!!