Not just young women. Women in general. Especially the older ones, because these middle aged to older women are still championing bad behavior and thus acting as role models to the younger generations.
Like children, women can’t handle harsh truths. Women are suppose to be these strong bad asses but they also demand being treated like children. Women are such strong victims
@Ivan Jaros Isn't that how they portray themselves in movies these days? Like Galadriel in the Amazon Lord of the Rings butchery? She's the bestest evah!
Every woman should watch this video. But it won't change anything. Women by nature get bored after a while and need the spark of a new relationship, regardless of how good the current one is. Just ask my two ex-wives! And they usually will have a replacement lined up before dumping the first one. Cannot recommend marriage to your viewers unless starting a family. Even then, be ready when it ends after the kids get older.
Jennifer: Thinking about this today on the way to church. #1 Reason Eve was created: company for Adam. Her purpose was not maid or cook. And, women are incredibly gifted with gab…communication. As a provider and protector of my wife, I WANT to serve her needs. However, when my wife gets emotionally and angry when her needs aren’t met, it does the complete opposite of what she wants. Instead it just shuts down communication. Great sex is the result of great communication and even a productive fight yields results. There is nothing wrong with expressing one’s needs, but doing so as an adult is so much more effective than doing so as a child.
You stated: "company for Adam". SAY WHAT??? DUDE! Either you're smoking crack, or worse, you've taken the gyno-centric feminist BLUE PILL! WAKE UP! The Bible verse, Genesis 2:18, CLEARLY STATES,: "The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a HELPER suitable for him.” HELPER, (and often, HELP MATE), are the ONLY interpretations that are correct. SHE is to HELP HIM. SERVE HIM. SUBMIT TO HIM. FOLLOW HIM. HONOR HIM. Be there for HIM! NOT question, nor nag, nor disrespect, nor take the place of, nor dishonor, nor disregard, or in any way shape or form LEAD, EDICT, DECLARE or anything to/at HIM. PERIOD.
Jennifer I have to tell you I was in the mall the other day and I saw this woman you know she was 50ish and she had sequins on her jeans and I laughed out loud..... 😭🙏🏻 🤜🏻💥🤛🏻
I’d much prefer my wife wear something cute and youthful that the old woman stuff she wears these days. We are 63 and 62 and my wife is fit enough that she doesn’t have to wear shopping bags.
That makes a great deal of sense since past a point, I often felt my wife was taking me for granted despite me continually stepping up and showing her in small and big ways how committed I was to our marriage. After 14 years of marriage, I have since divorced her because that feeling of being made to feel unvalued, unappreciated and disrespected as a man is not the one. And no amount of talking from me was getting through to her. But now I understand that’s because it was her responsibility to see me as when she first met me and to maintain that view. Nice to get some further understanding around this.
I always love your videos Jennifer! Your never ending genius and analogy regarding the topics you speak of is so impressive! Out of any women I have ever know or any I have had a relationship with, which even includes two that have their PhD's, you stimulate the thought process more then any of them period! Have a magical day sweet lady ✌️ ...Captain Ron
Thank you for sharing this. Your description fits what happened in my marriage. Honestly, I felt powerless to do anything about it, as her regard for me waned over time into disrespect and disgust. I knew it was eroding; what I didn't know was how to stop the process and become impressive to her again.
You can't change someone. Men want to fix things but a person can't fix another person. The best someone can do is plant the seed into a person that they can change themselves.
Wrong, women become contemptuous of familiarity and want to be constantly amused and entertained by new and shiny baubles, diamonds, ruby's, pearls, new cars, vacations, shopping.
Women shouldn't have to be impressed with their man Jennifer. She should never feel the need to idolize him. Nor him her. However, holding him or her in high esteem or feeling very proud of him or her is perhaps the best feeling in the world on either side. Women should enter the relationship already wanting to respect their man. Just as men should enter the relationship wanting to respect their woman. But children and emotionally immature adults lack self-respect and thus they don't bring it in to their relationships. The old quote 'that the deepest love is respect' holds true.
Yeah good luck with that Women are going to really respond to this message Especially your audience of 8-12% women But it would have been more viral and gotten you more views and shares if you had acknowledged that women behave like chilren They do what they want, have no accountability and limited responsibility and are inherently selfish
You are generalizing all women into a single category. No 2 people are the same we are one of a kind single model production. While identical twins genetically are the same, they are not physically or emotionally identical. Fingerprints for instance don't match. Ever single persons development physically and emotionally is dependent on that specific person ls life, from nutrition and environment on the physical development, emotionally has variables such as education, personal traumatic events, and so on.
You can say things SHOULD BE all kinds of things.....I concentrate on the WAY THINGS ARE and navigate accordingly. It makes life so much more manageable.
The only real difference between all adults and children is the construction of a better filter before speaking and acting out. Our inner selfishness doesn’t change at all. We just acquire a more sophisticated toolset to manipulate others. In fact, as we discover more to want, we become more petulant and more self absorbed than a child, but better behaved at least on the surface. I’m guessing almost all serious crimes are carried out by adults, which is Exhibit A that we might actually regress. A lot.
And us men, need to admire her traits (whether that is her laugh, her smile, her intelligence, her practicality, her voice, her beautiful hair, her eyes and so on), when we get upset, and when miscommunication happens.
Wow! How insightful! Good msg, Jennifer! Familiarity breed’s contempt within a marriage. Even though I was, professionally, and daily, responsible for hundreds of millions $ of company assets. And, even though I provided a multi six figure income, my wife happily assumed her social value from my respected job., Al the while disparaging me to her family for not being home to support HER! There’s no winning!
What about certain men who are unappreciated by both parents, every women they have ever dated, and almost every colleague they have ever worked with? Even when their successes are demonstrable? Ya know, a successful and pleasing partner? Sigma males. We aren’t mean, we’re just comfortable in our skin and confident in who we are. Internal confidence is not at all equal to external appreciation and validation. We will survive and not present negative behaviors such as are attributed to “incels”. We desire companionship, but choose to internalize instead. Based on how we have been treated. It’s not “incel”, and it’s not MGTOW. It’s what the F happened to traditional man-woman PARTNERSHIPS! Please do a video on THAT! Thank you Jennifer for espousing the benefits of traditional relationships! I missed it at age 59, but I think you may well be helping the generation for which it matters. Please keep up posting your opinions.
I’m glad Jennifer is creating these videos. I bet more will listen in time. We need you Jen! More than ever. May I suggest reaching out to Jedediah Bila and JustPearlyThings. I think you would be a hit as a power team. Thoughts?
It’s a rare marriage that is held together by love and respect. Far more likely to be the realisation that she ( usually she) cannot do better. Or that trying may cause her to fall between two chairs
I'm glad you're here to deliver these messages to society _Where've You Been? we don't see you _*_AT ALL_*_ ....Lately_ I hope you're Ok I hope YOU and your entire family are Ok
I wish more women weren't like children, so it's great to hear this message Jen! As a man, I've always valued comfort and stability. I hate the fact that ladies today feel like they have to go through a "hoe phase" until they are 30+ before seeing the benefit of grounded men. They made the song "Girls just want to have fun" for a reason!
wow, for so few words and such a short video; a profound message was thus spoken. honestly I do mean that sincerely and it's not a joke of any type, I know I tend to joke around a lot, but this is really honest feedback. it's interesting the way you word it about women looking up to their husbands as impressive cause the really interesting thing about it all is that; personally, I've always looked at pretty much every woman that I've ever been in love with or attracted to as interesting and amazing all the time (except for the ones that didn't deserve it: i.e. woman I wish I had never met...to put it in kind words lol). I don't know if maybe it's something biological or if it's some thing psychological that's causing me to feel that way, though I have a feeling there are plenty of other guys that feel that way out there towards women that they're attracted to tbh. I think it would be a little narcissistic (just a lil bit...jk, more like 'very narcissistic'...like: "why don't women like me, I'm the perfect gentleman" level...Elliot Rodgers moment...too soon? no, not soon enough a.k.a. too bad 🤣) of myself to think that I was the only person in the world to think like that lol. Cheers!
I just think everyone, both genders, should learn to appreciate what we have. It's when we think things can be better, or we have other options, when we start to lose this appreciation for things, and people. And in the modern dating world, women have WAYYY more options due to social media validation, so they are more susceptible, on average.
My wife went from being my true apostle (in the most loving way) and a family beacon to acting out like me and the kids became her prison guards. When life got hard, financially and with two kids I stepped up massively and she crumbled due to childhood trauma caused by cold, judgmental, and unsupportive parents. So the last two and a half years I've been navigating our family while working two jobs, being in a sexless marriage with a woman who has no idea who she is and how to love herself and therefore behaves like a wounded animal anytime I try to advise, love or help her. She rages, and often can't emotionally bear any responsibility around the kids and me. She acknowledges that she needs therapy and from time to time will say that she knows she's broken but will never act on it in a useful way where she is actively trying to find a solution. Instead, to remedy that she tries to find comfort and acknowledgment for herself outside of our family, frantically diving into "I finally need to do what I've always wanted" type of activities to feel whole while blatantly ignoring our plans to make our family strong by supporting the family business we started a few years ago. And with every step, she is tearing apart what was once our paradise. I just don't see anymore how some therapist will help her. I've been up since 3 AM and it's 7 because I can't sleep, dwelling on problems and answers. It's a shitty place to be as a man. I would still die to save our family but I don't know how much can I put up with living with someone who treats us as though we are her captors.
One of the biggest problems is that we have so many responsibilities at the moment, both realistic and those her new endeavors have put in front of us that we (I mean she) can use as an excuse to not deal with the most detrimental issues at all.
What concerns me the most is no sense of urgency on her part to get better, but a huge one to occupy her mind with what she thinks will satisfy her. In reality, it just pushes her away from what is a purposeful and happy life.
@@youtubetruthlife4750 This is a tough one because you never really know how someone will change. My advice would probably be to look at her parents and her relationship with them. If there are a lot of problems this can be a red flag.
We are all childish at times. Sometimes life gets ya down. But it's also difficult when you feel you have to be your girlfriend's/wife's father. "Buy me this, buy me that!" I'm not into that either.
Well said. Love, at least for women, is built on much more practical things such a physical appearance, athletic skill, social standing, accumulated wealth, etc. You can talk about being in love as if it's some esoteric unchangeable constant, but if the underpinning characteristics dissipate or become too familiar, the love, and hence the relationship, erodes. Call it sexist if you like, but I believe love for women is founded more on who a man is, rather than how he treats her. For men, love is based almost entirely on how she treats him. She, by definition, has already passed his acceptable physical appearance threshold or he wouldn't be in the relationship at all. If the woman is at least somewhat attractive to him and she treats him well, his love will continue indefinitely. That's not to say if he's handsome and has options, he won't cheat. But even if he cheats, it will not alter his love for this committed partner. Consciously or subconsciously he's trying to get the best of both worlds.
What do you want, a person or a good life? Sometimes you can't have both. How many hear are capable of rejecting someone to preserve a life that you value? Until you can do that you'll never be worthy of a person worth wanting. Most women can't even do this. Notice how some insecure women tend to break up with a person over the smallest of slights? It's because some women are just incapable of recognizing a true slight from an imagined one and perhaps it's also because the women involved know that no matter how beautiful they are the lives they live aren't valuable ways of life. I found only by living a life worth living am I capable of knowing how to reject someone else's way of life to preserve my own. I can't have a person worth wanting unless I'm capable of rejecting a person worth rejecting. Not the advice most wanted to hear, mostly because most people are worth rejecting. Interestingly, I rejected a person who would be worth wanting, but the time wasn't. She was worth wanting and worth rejecting.
Seeing someone as "impressive" - using this as your admonition - fails to clearly convey the attitude of the heart, mind and body involved. In fact, I'd suggest that "impressive", standing alone, is rather weak and without substance. It can even work against itself as in, "he made an impression upon me, and others, for being slovenly, unkempt, and rude". The first time my son was introduced to the night sky he displayed an amazed, deep, unfathomable wonder and innocence. Today, I suspect this former vision is now taken for granted, for those gleaming bits of light are explained - and disembodied - through science and experience. So too, that our initial impressions clarify with the passing of time and the collection of new information and developed history. They do indeed clarify, and thereby lose their initial purity, yet the essence remains. Please try again and expand upon that innocent purity, which I think goes to the heart of your thinking, although I suspect it's difficult to capture.
Couple thoughts from this video. Subtitle for your channel "How to know thyself for women" Also this video. Your husband is a man, not a god. Don't marry him thinking he is a hero or god, and then get resentful when you discover he is a man.
Wives too, need to hear this... Daughters are properly modeling their mothers, at least in theory.... Sure they are. Jennifer, you have your work cut out for you!
I experienced the same thing in my high school years and early 20s. No matter how hot or cool I thought a girl was, I’d get familiar with her and get bored eventually. I’d find faults and become irritated when it wasn’t her fault. I started examining myself after I realized it and fixed it. I haven’t had that happen to me in like 15 years. To me when I hear about this it just sounds like immaturity. Do most women not grow out of that tendency?
Hence the old saying: Familiarity breeds contempt. I'd also like to add that both sexes are being infantilized. Women are turning into spoiled brats, and men are turning into Peter Pan.
If women are spoiled brats, I suggest that it's because men are becoming the demons that feed their weakness of vanity. In other words, Suckers Idolizing Mediocre Pushy makes self absorbed monsters.
Not anymore. Who’s running from being a spouse and parent more? Who’s prolonging the timeline? It’s not men anymore. Women take the crown of Peter Pan syndrome nowadays. Used to be men. Now if men are single in their 30s it’s not because they want to be, it’s because they’re working on themselves and waiting until they meet a woman that wants to be a wife and mother. They’re few and far between. Every dude I know 30 and up wants kids and a family.
"Should", "should", "should". Yes, women should do alot of things differently. Jennifer, I found you right after my divorce and start of my self improvement/red pill education. I agree with 95% of your perspective and I believe that men really appreciate your work here, but you have really just made a strong argument for a man to never commit to a woman. You even seemed to struggle getting the words out, as if you were wrestling with your own female nature but I could be wrong. You have shown courage and strength by admitting the things you do and advocating for men and masculinity therefore you deserve loyalty from your man and the men in your audience. I don't know what your audience demographics are but I suspect it is mostly men.. Again, your efforts are appreciated by men but your message really needs to go to women to full on destroy feminism and the toxic female nature that is destroying our civilization. Im sure you can see it already, but men are done. Period!! Men built this world that women enjoy their privilege in, but I think we are going to go ahead and burn it down until women are sufficiently humbled and know their place. We are quite happy and adept in any level of comfort and most of what we have built for society has foolishly been for our women's comfort that you have just validated that they have no way to appreciate.
I’ve been watching your videos all morning and I’ve noticed that you don’t believe in God you’re a very smart and intelligent woman probably one of the most intelligent women I’ve come across in my life I want you to read the Bible, proverbs & psalms, or just open a page and read… I have a very strong feeling you’ll understand the Bible more than most.
Women are like children.. young adults to be more exact. ... women are less developed in maturity than men. ... possibly from maturing younger at a younger age than men, creates a more immature overall maturity and development level ultimately. .. i guess its just part of what makes you cute. 🤔😘😎
What purpose does the word "Because" serve in the life of any soul if the "Words" that follow have been emptied of their "Worth"? One of the greatest challenges for a Father of daughter is to find a way to instill in them the NEED to 'Own" their "Sense" of worth in this world. A type of sense that's NOT tethered to the Man Cave they assume resides between their legs. Some might even suggest becoming "Mature". The "Common" desire that possess all humanity sounds like what when articulated? I want to FEEL Alive? What if a person is never able to utilize their God given "Sense" of awareness? This undefined sense of emptiness the ever evolving "Marketing Industry" in this world obviously understands? This otherwise invisible principal that's forever trying to sell something "New" or "Improved"? What is Anyone selling in this world? Something that rightfully belongs to someone else? As such because SAME has been freely given? As such that was intended to be freely "Given" to another with no strings attached? In terms of True Life being MORE than the pursuit of Happiness, instead happiness becomes much like the self leveling character of Water? The substantive Nature that can and does fill all the tiny voids in our "Sense" of awareness? In terms of fulfillment, what if from the womb to the tomb as little as 1% of a person is perceived as absent? Exactly what percentage of the WHOLE man is a One rib? Truly being Alive will not allow self to become addicted to a "False Sense" awareness. Both genders have need of suffering through the circumstances that are Truly beyond their CONTROL. There's a difference between the intent of Listening verses acting on the advice of others. The rebellious nature (much like a child) is but a shadow of what the essence of the fallen state LOOKS like in action. Just food for thought, "What if God has been saying from the beginning, "Don't HEAR what I'm NOT saying? 1 Cor 13:11-12 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. NIV Gen 3:17-19 To Adam he said, "Because ---> you listened to --> your wife and ate from the tree about which I ---> commanded you, 'You must not eat of it,' "Cursed is the ground because --> of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of --> your life. It will produce thorns and thistles --> for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return." NIV Gen 3:16 To the woman he said, "I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with --> pain you will give birth to children. Your --> desire --> will be for --> your husband, and he will rule over you." NIV
The husband HAS TO BE impressive. The wive can't simply look at her husband and think to herself "my husband is impressive". This isn't something she can just manifest out of thought or thin air. Men, you want your wife to be impressed, then you must become impressive. That's what is going to be, and that is what it has to be.
True true true! That is 100% true. Everyone in a family is better off when a man is impressive. What I want to convey to women is that they should pay close attention to their husbands and don't become complacent. Many men are impressive but their wives miss it or take it for granted. If he's not impressive he's not impressive. That just sucks. That's why it's important to choose your spouse wisely.
@@machinemaker2248 We need to see people for who they really are, not how we want them to be. Honestly, what if you unknowingly marry a serial killer? It's happened to others. Eyes wide open, people.
@@sophieruby5893 Unlikely. For every objective situation and person, we choose a perspective to view. A hurricane is destructive to some, but my Mexican friend tells me his village hopes that it hits them because people will help them to rebuild into bigger and better homes. Choose your perspective carefully.
Great video! I will be showing this video to my daughters. I would add that most western women have very little emotional maturity. Because of that, they can't handle the truth.
This is definitely a shoe that can be worn on both feet! In other words, applicable to both sexes...yes, "both", as in, 2! There is one scientifically and physically proven fact of morphodites in the past, so, one could argue that there's 3. 🤔
Both men and women can be very childish. I know a woman who about 50 years old and she acts like a 15 year old. She loves to start drama and throws a fit if she doesn't get her way. She is always the victim even in situations she deliberately started.
Men need to remember we have the same responsibility to look at our wife's as impressive I think potentially part of the problem in today's society is the easiness to get a divorce and the laziness to try and work through issues. It takes work to deal with issues or feelings someone has with the spouse. The lazy easy way is throwing up the white flag and filing for divorce. If you have ever talked to or listened to elderly couples who have been married 50 to 6p years or more, something I have noticed is many will say periods existed when they didn't love the spouse (year(s) not just a couple of days. Neither of them waves the white flag and divorced. At some point by working at it, and being committed to it, they fell in love again. Not saying that is always the case because on the flip side you hear about ending in divorce after 50 plus years of marriage.
Divorce is not cheap or easy. Those that say that have never had to fight in court for every cent they have, had or will earn. And the average divorce now cost $5000.00 per person, that's without kids Selfishness, childness and the faux self important lessons we have bought into are destroying marriages, you add in living together for years on end without marriage, social media and the rampant cheating going on there, on both sides, along with many other distraction. Once couples worked together and supported each other to the end, they had GOD in their lives and a standard to live up to, today we have killed GOD and dismissed him as a fable story, we only think about ourselves and our pleasures, and how we can get what we want from someone else, and kids are tools to destroy each other over. SAD.
I find the need to impress women boring and tiresome, even though they are generally impressed by me. Not jumping through more and more hoops to entertain their empty heads.
The military doesn't allow officers to fraternize with the enlisted because familiarity breeds contempt. Resisting this negative force in marriage takes persistent effort just like staying in shape or maintaining a clean home. I've been waiting for this to be socialized somewhere, confirming my beliefs, and here it is...
Unfortunately, the people who need to hear Jennifer the most - young girls - aren't listening to her.
Not just young women. Women in general. Especially the older ones, because these middle aged to older women are still championing bad behavior and thus acting as role models to the younger generations.
Pretty much. Theyre only impressed by grotesque masses of crisco twerking and playing flutes, and the wap.
I’m listening! 🙋🏼♀️
We all need to listen when an intelligent person challenges our perceptions and actions.
You can not teach anything to someone who already knows everything.
In this video, I particularly appreciate how Jennifer pauses to choose her words as she goes along. An excellent example for all of us.
when i do this people just look the other way/leave/start doing their own blabbing.
@@Thrashaero lol
I also like this.
Childlike is good; childish is bad.
Noice.
There are women and men who act like children when things don't go the way they want it to. I've seen it at work many times.
I personally DO think us women are like children 😅 but damn this gal always has such good advice 🙌🏻
I don't care what you have to say I am happily divorced you have a nice day
TF, lol.
Hahahaahaa
Like children, women can’t handle harsh truths. Women are suppose to be these strong bad asses but they also demand being treated like children. Women are such strong victims
@Ivan Jaros I’m pretty sure that sentence was about trolling the feminists who’re always shouting how ‘strong and independent’ they are.
All women??
Do clarify.
@Ivan Jaros Isn't that how they portray themselves in movies these days? Like Galadriel in the Amazon Lord of the Rings butchery? She's the bestest evah!
Sexist much?
@@MR-nl8xr yes. All.
Some a lot more than others but yes, all.
Say it louder for the scornful, thankless, and entitled women in the back.
Well, women most of the times have a emotional behavior of 6y old kids crying about the chocolate they don't get.
Every woman should watch this video. But it won't change anything. Women by nature get bored after a while and need the spark of a new relationship, regardless of how good the current one is. Just ask my two ex-wives! And they usually will have a replacement lined up before dumping the first one. Cannot recommend marriage to your viewers unless starting a family. Even then, be ready when it ends after the kids get older.
Well said Jennifer, I can't imagine how a man would respond to a wife like that.
Jennifer: Thinking about this today on the way to church. #1 Reason Eve was created: company for Adam. Her purpose was not maid or cook. And, women are incredibly gifted with gab…communication. As a provider and protector of my wife, I WANT to serve her needs. However, when my wife gets emotionally and angry when her needs aren’t met, it does the complete opposite of what she wants. Instead it just shuts down communication. Great sex is the result of great communication and even a productive fight yields results. There is nothing wrong with expressing one’s needs, but doing so as an adult is so much more effective than doing so as a child.
You stated: "company for Adam". SAY WHAT??? DUDE! Either you're smoking crack, or worse, you've taken the gyno-centric feminist BLUE PILL! WAKE UP!
The Bible verse, Genesis 2:18, CLEARLY STATES,:
"The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a HELPER suitable for him.”
HELPER, (and often, HELP MATE), are the ONLY interpretations that are correct. SHE is to HELP HIM. SERVE HIM. SUBMIT TO HIM. FOLLOW HIM. HONOR HIM. Be there for HIM! NOT question, nor nag, nor disrespect, nor take the place of, nor dishonor, nor disregard, or in any way shape or form LEAD, EDICT, DECLARE or anything to/at HIM. PERIOD.
Eve was CREATED to be a "HELPMATE".
@@sivan3125 as a helpmate because “it’s not good for man to be alone”
@@mafp22w Better alone than with a nagging wife.
I really appreciate this message.
when i think of a woman, i think of a man and then remove all reason and accoutability.
Great perspective Jennifer. Always appreciate your wisdom and I wish you had even a larger audience… but you are doing great. Keep it up!!
And make him sandwiches.
Jennifer I have to tell you I was in the mall the other day and I saw this woman you know she was 50ish and she had sequins on her jeans and I laughed out loud..... 😭🙏🏻
🤜🏻💥🤛🏻
What’s the problem with having sequins on your jeans??
@@corebelle 😆😂🤣😭
@@corebelle Nothing.
If you are a teenage girl.
I’d much prefer my wife wear something cute and youthful that the old woman stuff she wears these days. We are 63 and 62 and my wife is fit enough that she doesn’t have to wear shopping bags.
She probably thought a 20 year old wanted her too!
That makes a great deal of sense since past a point, I often felt my wife was taking me for granted despite me continually stepping up and showing her in small and big ways how committed I was to our marriage.
After 14 years of marriage, I have since divorced her because that feeling of being made to feel unvalued, unappreciated and disrespected as a man is not the one. And no amount of talking from me was getting through to her.
But now I understand that’s because it was her responsibility to see me as when she first met me and to maintain that view.
Nice to get some further understanding around this.
I always love your videos Jennifer! Your never ending genius and analogy regarding the topics you speak of is so impressive! Out of any women I have ever know or any I have had a relationship with, which even includes two that have their PhD's, you stimulate the thought process more then any of them period! Have a magical day sweet lady ✌️ ...Captain Ron
Thank you for sharing this. Your description fits what happened in my marriage. Honestly, I felt powerless to do anything about it, as her regard for me waned over time into disrespect and disgust. I knew it was eroding; what I didn't know was how to stop the process and become impressive to her again.
You can't change someone. Men want to fix things but a person can't fix another person. The best someone can do is plant the seed into a person that they can change themselves.
Totally agree Jennifer, stay impressed, love what you have. I will add, by doing so, we can experience him in all his Glory, *wink*
Wise words. Wish I could see inside your thought processes, and great to see a woman who thinks the way you do.
Wrong, women become contemptuous of familiarity and want to be constantly amused and entertained by new and shiny baubles, diamonds, ruby's, pearls, new cars, vacations, shopping.
this wonderful lady again
Bless you.
Well said.
A very mature take, nice.
Thank youuu!
Women shouldn't have to be impressed with their man Jennifer. She should never feel the need to idolize him. Nor him her. However, holding him or her in high esteem or feeling very proud of him or her is perhaps the best feeling in the world on either side. Women should enter the relationship already wanting to respect their man. Just as men should enter the relationship wanting to respect their woman. But children and emotionally immature adults lack self-respect and thus they don't bring it in to their relationships.
The old quote 'that the deepest love is respect' holds true.
screen name fits? ;P
@@stimpsonjcat67 My work is in toxicology, unless you're attempting an insinuation to suggest something different. And what exactly does ;P mean?
@@HardRealist ;P is a wink and a tongue sticking out. It was a joke.
@@stimpsonjcat67 It's okay, now I know. The internet makes people far more difficult to read concerning intention and obviously message and tone.
@@HardRealist it's true, but if we keep talking then it works out.
Yeah good luck with that
Women are going to really respond to this message
Especially your audience of 8-12% women
But it would have been more viral and gotten you more views and shares if you had acknowledged that women behave like chilren
They do what they want, have no accountability and limited responsibility and are inherently selfish
Reason and accountability aren’t pillars of fee mail nature
You are generalizing all women into a single category. No 2 people are the same we are one of a kind single model production. While identical twins genetically are the same, they are not physically or emotionally identical. Fingerprints for instance don't match.
Ever single persons development physically and emotionally is dependent on that specific person ls life, from nutrition and environment on the physical development, emotionally has variables such as education, personal traumatic events, and so on.
Commitment trumps emotions
You can say things SHOULD BE all kinds of things.....I concentrate on the WAY THINGS ARE and navigate accordingly. It makes life so much more manageable.
im glad there are still woman out there that are like you.
We should clone this one instead. 😎
The only real difference between all adults and children is the construction of a better filter before speaking and acting out. Our inner selfishness doesn’t change at all. We just acquire a more sophisticated toolset to manipulate others. In fact, as we discover more to want, we become more petulant and more self absorbed than a child, but better behaved at least on the surface.
I’m guessing almost all serious crimes are carried out by adults, which is Exhibit A that we might actually regress. A lot.
Social Netwoks exposed woman ! :):):)
And us men, need to admire her traits (whether that is her laugh, her smile, her intelligence, her practicality, her voice, her beautiful hair, her eyes and so on), when we get upset, and when miscommunication happens.
Wow! How insightful! Good msg, Jennifer! Familiarity breed’s contempt within a marriage. Even though I was, professionally, and daily, responsible for hundreds of millions $ of company assets. And, even though I provided a multi six figure income, my wife happily assumed her social value from my respected job., Al the while disparaging me to her family for not being home to support HER! There’s no winning!
What about certain men who are unappreciated by both parents, every women they have ever dated, and almost every colleague they have ever worked with? Even when their successes are demonstrable?
Ya know, a successful and pleasing partner?
Sigma males. We aren’t mean, we’re just comfortable in our skin and confident in who we are.
Internal confidence is not at all equal to external appreciation and validation.
We will survive and not present negative behaviors such as are attributed to “incels”.
We desire companionship, but choose to internalize instead. Based on how we have been treated.
It’s not “incel”, and it’s not MGTOW.
It’s what the F happened to traditional man-woman PARTNERSHIPS!
Please do a video on THAT!
Thank you Jennifer for espousing the benefits of traditional relationships!
I missed it at age 59, but I think you may well be helping the generation for which it matters.
Please keep up posting your opinions.
I’m glad Jennifer is creating these videos. I bet more will listen in time. We need you Jen! More than ever. May I suggest reaching out to Jedediah Bila and JustPearlyThings. I think you would be a hit as a power team. Thoughts?
That is pretty solid advice
It’s a rare marriage that is held together by love and respect. Far more likely to be the realisation that she ( usually she) cannot do better. Or that trying may cause her to fall between two chairs
Nice work. Again.
I'm glad you're here to deliver these messages to society
_Where've You Been? we don't see you _*_AT ALL_*_ ....Lately_
I hope you're Ok
I hope YOU and your entire family are Ok
I'm good!
I've been focusing on other things, but I'm planning on re-entering the scene soon.
Thanks for the comment. I'll see you soon!
Morning!
I wish more women weren't like children, so it's great to hear this message Jen! As a man, I've always valued comfort and stability. I hate the fact that ladies today feel like they have to go through a "hoe phase" until they are 30+ before seeing the benefit of grounded men. They made the song "Girls just want to have fun" for a reason!
wow, for so few words and such a short video; a profound message was thus spoken.
honestly I do mean that sincerely and it's not a joke of any type, I know I tend to joke around a lot, but this is really honest feedback.
it's interesting the way you word it about women looking up to their husbands as impressive cause the really interesting thing about it all is that;
personally, I've always looked at pretty much every woman that I've ever been in love with or attracted to as interesting and amazing all the time (except for the ones that didn't deserve it: i.e. woman I wish I had never met...to put it in kind words lol).
I don't know if maybe it's something biological or if it's some thing psychological that's causing me to feel that way, though I have a feeling there are plenty of other guys that feel that way out there towards women that they're attracted to tbh.
I think it would be a little narcissistic (just a lil bit...jk, more like 'very narcissistic'...like: "why don't women like me, I'm the perfect gentleman" level...Elliot Rodgers moment...too soon? no, not soon enough a.k.a. too bad 🤣) of myself to think that I was the only person in the world to think like that lol. Cheers!
Thank God for Social Networks, the truth is out and will live in cyber world forever more. MGTOW Rocks.
I just think everyone, both genders, should learn to appreciate what we have. It's when we think things can be better, or we have other options, when we start to lose this appreciation for things, and people. And in the modern dating world, women have WAYYY more options due to social media validation, so they are more susceptible, on average.
Maturity knows no gender/sex.
My ex-wife needed to hear this but would have ignored it.
This Is Gonna Be Good
My wife went from being my true apostle (in the most loving way) and a family beacon to acting out like me and the kids became her prison guards. When life got hard, financially and with two kids I stepped up massively and she crumbled due to childhood trauma caused by cold, judgmental, and unsupportive parents. So the last two and a half years I've been navigating our family while working two jobs, being in a sexless marriage with a woman who has no idea who she is and how to love herself and therefore behaves like a wounded animal anytime I try to advise, love or help her. She rages, and often can't emotionally bear any responsibility around the kids and me.
She acknowledges that she needs therapy and from time to time will say that she knows she's broken but will never act on it in a useful way where she is actively trying to find a solution. Instead, to remedy that she tries to find comfort and acknowledgment for herself outside of our family, frantically diving into "I finally need to do what I've always wanted" type of activities to feel whole while blatantly ignoring our plans to make our family strong by supporting the family business we started a few years ago. And with every step, she is tearing apart what was once our paradise.
I just don't see anymore how some therapist will help her. I've been up since 3 AM and it's 7 because I can't sleep, dwelling on problems and answers. It's a shitty place to be as a man. I would still die to save our family but I don't know how much can I put up with living with someone who treats us as though we are her captors.
Do your soul searching and healing before committing to have children a be in a marriage.
One of the biggest problems is that we have so many responsibilities at the moment, both realistic and those her new endeavors have put in front of us that we (I mean she) can use as an excuse to not deal with the most detrimental issues at all.
What concerns me the most is no sense of urgency on her part to get better, but a huge one to occupy her mind with what she thinks will satisfy her. In reality, it just pushes her away from what is a purposeful and happy life.
@@dailycooper How can I choose a woman where this will most likely not be a problem?
@@youtubetruthlife4750 This is a tough one because you never really know how someone will change. My advice would probably be to look at her parents and her relationship with them. If there are a lot of problems this can be a red flag.
I thought the child comparisons mostly centered around women's uncanny ability to never take accountability.
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Everything you just said applies equally to the husband and his view of his wife.
Contempt, BTW, is the chief indicator of a failing relationship
No, actually is doesn't. Men don't seek out and marry "impressive" women.
Men stay impressed much more reliably than women, on average. Of course men look for a different set of qualities in women than vice versa.
Are you in Orlando?
Lol - even after millions and millions of years, according to evolutionists, women still WONDER why men go fishing???
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We are all childish at times. Sometimes life gets ya down. But it's also difficult when you feel you have to be your girlfriend's/wife's father. "Buy me this, buy me that!" I'm not into that either.
Well said. Love, at least for women, is built on much more practical things such a physical appearance, athletic skill, social standing, accumulated wealth, etc. You can talk about being in love as if it's some esoteric unchangeable constant, but if the underpinning characteristics dissipate or become too familiar, the love, and hence the relationship, erodes. Call it sexist if you like, but I believe love for women is founded more on who a man is, rather than how he treats her. For men, love is based almost entirely on how she treats him. She, by definition, has already passed his acceptable physical appearance threshold or he wouldn't be in the relationship at all. If the woman is at least somewhat attractive to him and she treats him well, his love will continue indefinitely. That's not to say if he's handsome and has options, he won't cheat. But even if he cheats, it will not alter his love for this committed partner. Consciously or subconsciously he's trying to get the best of both worlds.
What do you want, a person or a good life? Sometimes you can't have both. How many hear are capable of rejecting someone to preserve a life that you value? Until you can do that you'll never be worthy of a person worth wanting. Most women can't even do this. Notice how some insecure women tend to break up with a person over the smallest of slights? It's because some women are just incapable of recognizing a true slight from an imagined one and perhaps it's also because the women involved know that no matter how beautiful they are the lives they live aren't valuable ways of life.
I found only by living a life worth living am I capable of knowing how to reject someone else's way of life to preserve my own. I can't have a person worth wanting unless I'm capable of rejecting a person worth rejecting. Not the advice most wanted to hear, mostly because most people are worth rejecting.
Interestingly, I rejected a person who would be worth wanting, but the time wasn't. She was worth wanting and worth rejecting.
@Jennifer Moleski >>> 👍👍
Seeing someone as "impressive" - using this as your admonition - fails to clearly convey the attitude of the heart, mind and body involved. In fact, I'd suggest that "impressive", standing alone, is rather weak and without substance. It can even work against itself as in, "he made an impression upon me, and others, for being slovenly, unkempt, and rude".
The first time my son was introduced to the night sky he displayed an amazed, deep, unfathomable wonder and innocence. Today, I suspect this former vision is now taken for granted, for those gleaming bits of light are explained - and disembodied - through science and experience. So too, that our initial impressions clarify with the passing of time and the collection of new information and developed history. They do indeed clarify, and thereby lose their initial purity, yet the essence remains.
Please try again and expand upon that innocent purity, which I think goes to the heart of your thinking, although I suspect it's difficult to capture.
Couple thoughts from this video. Subtitle for your channel "How to know thyself for women" Also this video. Your husband is a man, not a god. Don't marry him thinking he is a hero or god, and then get resentful when you discover he is a man.
More wives could run into your vids. Divorce rates would plummet.
Unlikely.
@@JohnnyD69FG well maybe that is a stretch. Some happier males for sure.😊
Wives too, need to hear this... Daughters are properly modeling their mothers, at least in theory.... Sure they are. Jennifer, you have your work cut out for you!
if women arent children then they need to stop calling their SO's "daddy"
That's a specific, different context. Lol
I experienced the same thing in my high school years and early 20s. No matter how hot or cool I thought a girl was, I’d get familiar with her and get bored eventually. I’d find faults and become irritated when it wasn’t her fault. I started examining myself after I realized it and fixed it. I haven’t had that happen to me in like 15 years. To me when I hear about this it just sounds like immaturity.
Do most women not grow out of that tendency?
After having a kid, wifey doesn’t seem much impressed. I’m more of an convenience than anything. Even she has the kid turn on me. Sad state of events.
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Hence the old saying: Familiarity breeds contempt.
I'd also like to add that both sexes are being infantilized. Women are turning into spoiled brats, and men are turning into Peter Pan.
If women are spoiled brats, I suggest that it's because men are becoming the demons that feed their weakness of vanity. In other words, Suckers Idolizing Mediocre Pushy makes self absorbed monsters.
Not anymore. Who’s running from being a spouse and parent more? Who’s prolonging the timeline? It’s not men anymore. Women take the crown of Peter Pan syndrome nowadays. Used to be men. Now if men are single in their 30s it’s not because they want to be, it’s because they’re working on themselves and waiting until they meet a woman that wants to be a wife and mother. They’re few and far between. Every dude I know 30 and up wants kids and a family.
Women are held to the accountability standards of children....so yes, they do act like it.
Literally everyone I’ve dated.
"Should", "should", "should". Yes, women should do alot of things differently. Jennifer, I found you right after my divorce and start of my self improvement/red pill education. I agree with 95% of your perspective and I believe that men really appreciate your work here, but you have really just made a strong argument for a man to never commit to a woman. You even seemed to struggle getting the words out, as if you were wrestling with your own female nature but I could be wrong. You have shown courage and strength by admitting the things you do and advocating for men and masculinity therefore you deserve loyalty from your man and the men in your audience. I don't know what your audience demographics are but I suspect it is mostly men.. Again, your efforts are appreciated by men but your message really needs to go to women to full on destroy feminism and the toxic female nature that is destroying our civilization. Im sure you can see it already, but men are done. Period!! Men built this world that women enjoy their privilege in, but I think we are going to go ahead and burn it down until women are sufficiently humbled and know their place. We are quite happy and adept in any level of comfort and most of what we have built for society has foolishly been for our women's comfort that you have just validated that they have no way to appreciate.
Where have you been are you okay will you post again soon
I’ve been watching your videos all morning and I’ve noticed that you don’t believe in God you’re a very smart and intelligent woman probably one of the most intelligent women I’ve come across in my life I want you to read the Bible, proverbs & psalms, or just open a page and read… I have a very strong feeling you’ll understand the Bible more than most.
Jen! Question! What percent of your viewership is male?
Women are like children.. young adults to be more exact. ... women are less developed in maturity than men. ... possibly from maturing younger at a younger age than men, creates a more immature overall maturity and development level ultimately. .. i guess its just part of what makes you cute. 🤔😘😎
What purpose does the word "Because" serve in the life of any soul if the "Words" that follow have been emptied of their "Worth"? One of the greatest challenges for a Father of daughter is to find a way to instill in them the NEED to 'Own" their "Sense" of worth in this world. A type of sense that's NOT tethered to the Man Cave they assume resides between their legs. Some might even suggest becoming "Mature".
The "Common" desire that possess all humanity sounds like what when articulated? I want to FEEL Alive? What if a person is never able to utilize their God given "Sense" of awareness? This undefined sense of emptiness the ever evolving "Marketing Industry" in this world obviously understands? This otherwise invisible principal that's forever trying to sell something "New" or "Improved"?
What is Anyone selling in this world? Something that rightfully belongs to someone else? As such because SAME has been freely given? As such that was intended to be freely "Given" to another with no strings attached? In terms of True Life being MORE than the pursuit of Happiness, instead happiness becomes much like the self leveling character of Water? The substantive Nature that can and does fill all the tiny voids in our "Sense" of awareness?
In terms of fulfillment, what if from the womb to the tomb as little as 1% of a person is perceived as absent? Exactly what percentage of the WHOLE man is a One rib? Truly being Alive will not allow self to become addicted to a "False Sense" awareness. Both genders have need of suffering through the circumstances that are Truly beyond their CONTROL. There's a difference between the intent of Listening verses acting on the advice of others. The rebellious nature (much like a child) is but a shadow of what the essence of the fallen state LOOKS like in action. Just food for thought, "What if God has been saying from the beginning, "Don't HEAR what I'm NOT saying?
1 Cor 13:11-12
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12 Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
NIV
Gen 3:17-19
To Adam he said, "Because ---> you listened to --> your wife and ate from the tree about which I ---> commanded you, 'You must not eat of it,'
"Cursed is the ground because --> of you; through painful toil you will eat of it all the days of --> your life. It will produce thorns and thistles --> for you,
and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken;
for dust you are and to dust you will return."
NIV
Gen 3:16
To the woman he said,
"I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with --> pain you will give birth to children. Your --> desire --> will be for --> your husband, and he will rule over you."
NIV
Ms Moleski, have you ever listened to Dr Gail Crowder? Between the two of you lies the dream connection of a past life.
All adults are Children, some are better at playing make believe.
Let's help grow the women's presence!
She is the Jordan Peterson for girls
The husband HAS TO BE impressive. The wive can't simply look at her husband and think to herself "my husband is impressive". This isn't something she can just manifest out of thought or thin air. Men, you want your wife to be impressed, then you must become impressive. That's what is going to be, and that is what it has to be.
True true true! That is 100% true. Everyone in a family is better off when a man is impressive.
What I want to convey to women is that they should pay close attention to their husbands and don't become complacent. Many men are impressive but their wives miss it or take it for granted.
If he's not impressive he's not impressive. That just sucks. That's why it's important to choose your spouse wisely.
Is that a church in the background?
It's a strip mall, yes.
Men and women are equal: lol
One cannot control how they see their spouse, unless they see just what they want to see, and that can be very bad.
That's very passive and shirks responsibility. If you are not in control of your thoughts, then who is?
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We need to see people for who they really are, not how we want them to be. Honestly, what if you unknowingly marry a serial killer? It's happened to others. Eyes wide open, people.
@@sophieruby5893 Unlikely.
For every objective situation and person, we choose a perspective to view. A hurricane is destructive to some, but my Mexican friend tells me his village hopes that it hits them because people will help them to rebuild into bigger and better homes.
Choose your perspective carefully.
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Perspective? I'm talking about reality. We need to see what's real, not what we want to see.
@@sophieruby5893 Then you're putting your own spin and going off by yourself somewhere. That's not the context and content of the video.
Great video! I will be showing this video to my daughters. I would add that most western women have very little emotional maturity. Because of that, they can't handle the truth.
Too many college towns?
My wife calls me a child all the time!!
No respect, if you don't respect yourself she definitely won't respect you
It's a sh!t test. The more you let that slide, the more disgust she will feel for you. Only whining about it could possibly be worse.
I don't think this subject applies to both sexes. Just that males are generally less expressive than females
THAT was NOT convincing!
Back to the drawing board.
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LMFAO
sadly men do the same thing
This is definitely a shoe that can be worn on both feet! In other words, applicable to both sexes...yes, "both", as in, 2! There is one scientifically and physically proven fact of morphodites in the past, so, one could argue that there's 3. 🤔
Both men and women can be very childish. I know a woman who about 50 years old and she acts like a 15 year old. She loves to start drama and throws a fit if she doesn't get her way. She is always the victim even in situations she deliberately started.
Men need to remember we have the same responsibility to look at our wife's as impressive
I think potentially part of the problem in today's society is the easiness to get a divorce and the laziness to try and work through issues. It takes work to deal with issues or feelings someone has with the spouse. The lazy easy way is throwing up the white flag and filing for divorce.
If you have ever talked to or listened to elderly couples who have been married 50 to 6p years or more, something I have noticed is many will say periods existed when they didn't love the spouse (year(s) not just a couple of days. Neither of them waves the white flag and divorced. At some point by working at it, and being committed to it, they fell in love again. Not saying that is always the case because on the flip side you hear about ending in divorce after 50 plus years of marriage.
Divorce is not cheap or easy. Those that say that have never had to fight in court for every cent they have, had or will earn. And the average divorce now cost $5000.00 per person, that's without kids
Selfishness, childness and the faux self important lessons we have bought into are destroying marriages, you add in living together for years on end without marriage, social media and the rampant cheating going on there, on both sides, along with many other distraction.
Once couples worked together and supported each other to the end, they had GOD in their lives and a standard to live up to, today we have killed GOD and dismissed him as a fable story, we only think about ourselves and our pleasures, and how we can get what we want from someone else, and kids are tools to destroy each other over. SAD.
faaaaaaak...
I find the need to impress women boring and tiresome, even though they are generally impressed by me. Not jumping through more and more hoops to entertain their empty heads.
The military doesn't allow officers to fraternize with the enlisted because familiarity breeds contempt. Resisting this negative force in marriage takes persistent effort just like staying in shape or maintaining a clean home. I've been waiting for this to be socialized somewhere, confirming my beliefs, and here it is...
Contempt, out of shape, filthy home - is the current American standard. We are living it.