In this video, I have a chat with Theresa on our back porch. Theresa is often spends a good deal of time looking down at the ground and picking up small items such as leaves, pebbles and feathers. She has also become obsessed with plucking carpet fibers from our indoor rugs. If I'm in a work meeting for an hour or so, she will spend the entire time plucking at the rug and bring me hand fulls of fibers. All this bending over is making her back sore and her nose runny. I always have tissues with me when we take walks because she stops so often to pickup stuff. She will get upset with me if I try to move her along so we can finish our walk and get back home. I worry that one day she will refuse to finish our walk back home. Theresa will even try to pickup bird poop, thinking it is a white sea shell. I have resorted to keeping her in the backyard for our outdoor time. This video depicts some of that behavior as well as her talking to the pillow, thinking it is her "Baby" (one of our cats). I've talked about this behavior in other videos but this will be the first time I show it on video. I'm sharing the real side of the disease here today - the decline that I have spoken of previously. Hospice was here today for the evaluation and it appears that she will likely be approved. I will find out for sure early next week. Thanks for watching and for all your support - God Bless.
Im so happy you will have the help of hospice, but this video also makes me sad for you. What an outstanding human being you are. We can all only hope to have someone as compassionate and caring in a partner in life. I think you have a calling in this even larger than the care for your beautiful wife, There are many lessons in care taking to be learned from you. Please make sure you find sometime for self care and something that brings you joy. Prayers for you both. ❤
My heart breaks for you both so sad to watch something rob you guys of your marriage future of your lives 🥹 I just know we serve a mighty good God he promised to wipe every tear make every secret known !!! There will come a time all will be revealed in the meantime we are called to faith mercy compassion forgiveness and love !!! All Trey you have demonstrated is what every woman wants her husband to be !! In love with her protecting her serving her enjoying her praising her what a Godly husband 🙌❤️🙏 My prayers are for you both such a young good looking couple full of life God had other plans keep strong Trey you have a world of people praying for you both you both deserve great happiness my prayers are that be your portion this year great happiness 🥹❤️🙌❤️🎈❤️🎈❤️🎈❤️🎈❤️
Trey, I am on a similar journey with my wife, Heather. It’s been three years since the very first symptoms and she can no longer dress herself, she needs help in the bathroom, I have to shower her, I often spoonfeed her, and on and on and on. I know you can relate to all of this stuff. I’m so glad to have found your channel. It’s rare to have male spouses as caregivers and even more rare that they share their innermost feelings and emotions with the world. I’m doing that with a Vlog. It is a tremendous release to me and the comments I get from people really lift my spirit and give me more determination to carry on. Thank you so much for sharing, your life here. I’m going to look at more of your videos over the coming days. Much heartfelt gratitude.🙏
Hi Trey, it’s Sheila from Atlanta. It has been a while. I rarely use the internet unless something really big happens. I saw this and I wept. I showed Darren and I could tell he was shocked at how quickly your precious wife seems to have advanced since we started watching last year February 23, 2023. If you remember, I was diagnosed that day with FTD. (Frontotemporal dementia) I have isolated myself from the world. Even though people tell me to go out and experience all that life has to offer - travel, movies, exercise, food. I respond that it doesn’t interest me anymore as I feel lost and scared around people. My hope is minimal that day to day I’ll feel energized. I’ve started to have bad migraines, body aches, reaction to simple requests can make me angry or combative. My medical license is inactive and I feel resentment towards other drs that are my colleagues who are trying to comfort me. My precious husband, Darren, of 34 years is by my side every day. He allows me to do whatever. I don’t like to bathe. It irritates me. It used to be a mandatory requirement for me to soak and unwind after performing surgical procedures for 8-10 hrs a day. I would enjoy at least an hour in the garden tub. Now, I’m always refusing to bathe, but I don’t like the water and being cold. My cognitive decline is progressive and I can tell I have erratic behavior and can’t find my words anymore. So, I know others see it. I’ve waited to make a farewell video to all those who’ve touched my life. I can’t seem to start it without crying and then getting angry. My husband may have to do it. I’m sorry if this is long. Sometimes I just lose time. Is there anything that Darren and I can do? I’m so sorry that I don’t know what to say. Much love- Sheila
Thanks for sharing your journey as a comment. I admire how self-reflective you are, analyzing your situation and imagining creative solutions. I send you heartfelt best wishes from snowy Canada ❤️
I’m so sorry she got this terrible disease so young.😔 My daddy’s Alzheimer’s didn’t show up until he was 81. I had the privilege of being his oldest daughter and full time caregiver these last 7 years and I enjoyed gardening with him, both flowers and veggies. Many treasured memories of my life with daddy to cherish. 9:25
I know you share this out of love for your beautiful wife and to extend a hand to the community of families living with loved ones with different forms of dementia. I can only imagine how hard this is for you and Theresa. Your love for Theresa is so touching. You are a kind man Trey. A truly good man.
Beautiful backyard. Thanks for sharing. Just took my Mom today for an MRI to confirm her dementia. Things are getting much more difficult. Being a caregiver is no joke. You are a saint. Blessings to you and Theresa.
No being a caregiver is no joke. I did it for 35 yrs. and now I’m taking care of my husband. U really have to have the compassion, empathy and love what ur doing . At least that’s my way of thinking. Wish u the best with ur mom it won’t be easy. Remember to take care of ur self also.
Hospice care can be a lifeline for you. My mother has had hospice care for awhile now and they provide so much support to us in many ways. I pray she qualifies.
Hi Trey. I think it's important to post the "real life" moments/days that come with this horrific disease. It makes me want to cry my heart out. My Dad went through a phase while he was still able to walk where he would go outside on our property and pick up little limbs and branches that fall from trees like one does before mowing so you don't run over anything. One year in particular bag worms were everywhere and he would get them down with his bare hands no gloves. He would have NEVER done that before Alzheimer's. On a lighter note, your backyard is absolutely gorgeous!! I hope you have many more lighter days with your sweet Theresa! Hugs my friend.
I’m a caregiver that prefers to work with dementia. I feel like I was blessed with the gift of walking with families while they navigate this journey. You were AMAZING with Theresa. God bless you as your beautiful family mourns. 🕊️
It's hard to watch her decline and I'm sure this is hard on you on so many levels but you are so patient and kind with her. Keep sharing her story as it will help so many others as they travel down this lonely road.
You are truly an incredible husband and support system. I can't imagine how difficult this path is but am grateful to you for giving us a glimpse of what real life with dementia looks like. Blessings to you and Theresa as you continue this very difficult journey.
What a lovely home, yard, and porch, and everything is so clean. When trouble comes, a person's true nature is revealed. Now that your wife is ill, her true sweet and good nature is revealed.
My former architect husband draws a lot at his drafting table but recently he has been shuffling the drawings consistently and draws over them so much it tears the paper. So then he keeps taking tiny pieces of tape and taping all over the drawings. He does several compulsive behaviors that have been increasing. He went for his checkup and has lost a few pounds even though his appetite is great,so there has been some muscle wasting. Thank you for the updates. Blessings to you both.❤
RIP sweet Theresa. Trey. May God comfort you in your grief. I am so very sorry for this massive loss. You're going to see her again. I'm praying that you feel Jesus holding you near.
My Aunt with Alzheimers is always picking up stuff off the floor in her Memory care room. Very small things... She calls it her cleaning. I told her it's good exercise to keep bending over to pick up. Thank you for sharing ❤ Glad Theresa can be outside and close to nature.
My Uncle who also had Alzheimers, would take a bucket out in the yard to pick up leaves, rocks, etc. You may want to get Theresa a plastic bucket so she has somewhere to put the items she picks up. Just a thought............
Oh my watching Theresa is so heart breaking, but important for us all to see. I am sure you are doing ok, but it must be so difficult. I have cared for lots of people with dementia. And I am always happy to help, but it is draining sometimes. and I am always glad when my shift is over. 24/7 of this is out of love pure love. Thank you for what you are doing.
Bless her, this is an awful disease, I too have witnessed the sad demise of someone close to me due to Alzheimer's, it's truly horrible. You are doing a great job, bless you Theresa. x
My mama had dementia and it's so hard to see our loved ones in this state. She's blessed to have you. My mama was the same way. Got to the point where she couldn't form words. It was just a bunch of mumbo jumbo. And seeing things that weren't there. It's a scary and sad thing. I'll be praying for yall.
Trey, you are not alone. You have many of us here who are with you on this journey and who care about you both! I’m sorry you have to go through these hard things but you are doing an AMAZING job. Just take it one day or hour at a time. Thank you for sharing this ❤
I'm guessing the good ol' algorithm sent me this because I've been talking to my Dad about this disease. He goes in for his first appt. tomorrow. Stay strong and safe. Sending you both some good warm vibes from Arizona.
Be prepared not to get much help from the drs. My dad’s psychiatrist diagnosed him with “ mild cognitive impairment “ and then with my daddy still lucid at this point, had the nerve to ask me “ have you looked into nursing homes.”😤. Then he went to open his door and said “ I’m sorry but there’s nothing I can do.” I got my Alzheimer’s education from 24/7 availability w the Alzheimer’s association. They have counselors day and night. They were my lifeline. Also Utube experts that educate family’s about various kinds of dementia. One is dementia by grace But there’s many. I wish your loved one the best. I had the privilege of being his oldest daughter and his full time caregiver for these last 7 years. He passed away Sunday night and looked more peaceful than I had seen him for the last 3 years. He’s in Jehovah’s memory now . ( John 5:28,29)😔 9:44
Dementia is the worst bc it slowly takes so many lives, the one who has it, their family members and their caretakers who care so much. My thoughts are with you.❤❤❤❤
Theresa is lovely and beautiful - nice to see her outdoors enjoying the fresh air and your yard filled with nature - God Bless you Trey for your comforting talk with your wife. I hope you get some respite for yourself as well - and it will be good to have home care come in giving Theresa a friend as well as helping you. Take Care
Oh, Trey, thank you for showing us the reality of your and Theresa’s life right now. I’m sure it’s helpful for those dealing with similar issues. I’m just here to learn and support you in your journey.
Theresa is so sweet. Thank you for sharing her reality as the disease progresses. You are so helpful to so many who are or will be experiencing the journey of dementia. 🙏🙏🙏
Hi Trey. My Husband suggested to put Lego's on the floor so Thersa can pick them up and try and connect them. Just a little thought. Have A Bless Day🙏🙏
A tough but necessary watch which will help others in a similar situation. I really wish this wasn't your reality right now but hoping hospice care will help Theresa and give you chance to do what you need. You probably hear it all the time but if only all people going through this had a carer as wonderful as you. Much love and prayers ❤
This was a tough watch for me. It's so sad to see what dementia does to our brain. It's terrifying. And to be a loved one to watch someone you love so much suffer with this disease is very heartbreaking. I'm so sorry this is happening to your sweet, gentle wife. She seems like such a sweet soul. ~ Many prayers. 🙏🩷
She is such a beautiful woman, wonderful smile. So many questions can cause fear AND agitation Often time quiet is necessary, none triggering. Beautiful souls, both of you, peaceful back yard AND porch.
Hi Trey, you are the definition of a real man. Your dedication to your wife Theresa is truly a beautiful thing to see. I am sure that if it was the other way around, she be there for you, like you are for her. You are fulfilling the vows you took on your wedding day, in sickness and in health. Some things in this life are totally unfair. Alzheimer’s disease should be on the top of the list. You are demonstrating to your wife, yourself, your family and your you tube family what true love looks like ❤
The beauty of this interaction between you is how calm Theresa is and how patient and loving you are Trey♥️. To be of service is a blessing. This blessing is in my opinion one of the hardest I've faced. Trey you are doing so good and I'm praying for you and Theresa❤
Can I ever relate... my Heather is just over three years from the first signs. Unfortunately she also has Primary progressive Aphasia so she's completely mute and has lost most of her language comprehension. I recognize the look here in your video. I just found your channel so I'll spend some time viewing along your journey. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
What a beautiful lady! Makes me cry to see her so lost in her own mind. Reminds me of my grandparents before they left earth. Beautiful yard as well! Love to you both!!
This is a hard, but very real video to watch of her decline. I am sorry for what you are going through at this time. I listened to the last video but failed to comment. I am praying for you both. I am praying for her to be approved for hospice so that you have the help you need in caring for her. Lots of love to you both!! God bless!! ❤
Thank you for your prayers Carmen. I got word that she was approved. They have already started visiting and taking over her care. I'll talk more about it in the next 1:1 video. God Bless
What a great husband, support system, love you have for your wife and patience with care to boot. You are sure a loving couple. Wish all men had half of what you are as a man, husband, partner. Memories to treasure. A message from Australia. ❤🇦🇺
Thank you for showing us the side of this horrible disease that so many people rarely see. My heart breaks for you but I also truly believe that your video journey is helping so many people know that they are not alone. You are such a blessing to your sweet Theresa. Keeping you both in my prayers.
My mother was extremely high functioning until she suffered an extreme Shingles outbreak, with rapid unexpected changes, ultimately diagnosed as Alzheimer's. (Research...Refer to Columbia University re: link between Shingles and HSV and Alzheimer's). In any case, this video was very touching to me because my mom is always concerned about her cat and the highlight of her day is getting her daily ice cream cone. Ironically, similar in this video of Theresa. It makes me happy to see them still having pleasure among their scary and lonely times.
I keep you both in my prayers often .. A channel like yours has been so needed for so long, to show how compassionate and loving a relationship can stay throughout the whole process . I hope the new care will be of great help to you both .
I'm so sorry for your wife's condition. It is tough on both of you. Thank you so much for sharing. This is educational. God bless the both of you. From South Africa
You know that big smile from Theresa says that she's happy . I abhor this disease. I would definitely stay to the backyard. It is safe there. I hope that Hospice will get you some assistance soon. I know, this is so hurtful to see your beautiful, independent, loving Theresa's decline, but she tries her best to communicate with you. Take care and blessings of strength, love and peace as you continue forward.
Thank you Frances. I got word that she was approved for Hospice and they have already started taking over her care. I will speak more about it in the next 1:1. Appreciate your support
🙏 rest in peace Teresa… Hearing now about the side effects of anxiolytics and ineffectiveness of cognitive drugs, maybe any of us w ALZ are better off without these chemicals. Much admiration to you Trey for this challenging journey 🙏🌿
I dont know you bu 3:19 t stumbled upon your video and wanted to say i am sorry this is happening. Life can be so unfair. Bless you wife and family. Sending prayers for your family. Such a young beautiful lady.🙏🕯
Thank you Trey for sharing with us “real life” you are an amazing husband to Theresa, she really is such a lovely lady! Your yard is so peaceful for her❤️
I didn't see this video until now, and it's very bittersweet. I see that quick decline, but I also see peace and calm. Thinking of you Trey, as always ❤
Sooo Sorry for Theresa’s Decline! I know it has To be Sooo Hard for You Watching your Sweet Wife! You are a Wonderful Husband & Caregiver to Your Wife! God’s Blessings On both of You! Sending Love 🌹💖❤️ & Prayers 🙏😇🙌
You are amazing with your caregiving. Fortunately there is help like Hospice. How did people ever deal with this situation before Hospice and memory care units. Bless you and all who care for loved ones.
Aww, thank you for sharing these videos. It’s so unfair. I keep hearing of more and more younger people getting this awful disease. God bless you for taking care of her. Through sickness and health. ❤
Documenting "real life" moments is important with this. This must be hard on you. I'm so sorry. On a bright note, your yard is beautiful! Hugs to Theresa.
Trey, this is so heart breaking - I would never had truly known what it’s like for her and you until seeing this video. Teresa seems content and calm. Bless you for being such a great care giver.
Thank you for sharing, Trey. We just lost my MIL to advanced dementia. My husband and I were so impressed with hospice. We understand and we are thinking of you in CT with love and prayers. Your beautiful Teresa is so sweet and so lucky to have you. We love brownies and 🍦 too 💜🙏🏻
It must be heartbreaking for you to see her like this but I appreciate the love and patience you display. I went through this with my mother. You just have to make the best of whatever situation. I love the brownies and ice cream thing....making me hungry.
Hey Trey! You're still doing great. This phase will pass - at least she isn't overly distressed about the ground being messy and for now is content to pick things up. When this phase ends it's a relief but also sad because then they aren't noticing much. Gorgeous backyard and a nice peaceful place! Theresa reminds me a lot of my mom.
Thank you for sharing Trey, this is real life for many and seeing this helps us understand not only the diagnosis but what care givers go through. Sending all the best to you both as you go through this heartache.
💜Toronto, Canada💜 ... Thank you for sharing your journey at such a difficult time. I watched my moms decline in 2021 and it can be emotionally challenging keeping up the good fight. God Bless you all. 💜
Thank you for sharing your story. I've been learning about the brain in school, and understanding the changes that take place. I'm thankful for the awareness you bring, along with people like Bruce Willis' wife. I also have a friend who is dealing with this also. God bless you!
I lost my mom from FTD. She was only 60 when diagnosed and 70 when she passed. I had her live with me and my little boy. She looks happy which is the best possible outcome. Your a great husband. Good luck to you both.
Your backyard is beautiful! I’m sure Theresa was a big part of that. My MIL went through many phases in her decline. Ups and downs. She had what we called “manic” episodes. Less napping, more confusion, argumentive, seeing things that weren’t there, people in the house, water dripping from the ceiling, sleepless nights. After a few days she would “hit the wall” and sleep a whole day. You are doing an amazing job. Hospice will be a wonderful help. They reevaluate every few months to adjust to what she may need. People have been on it for months to a year or more. You got this!
Indeed, Theresa planned out the whole backyard... all I did was dig the holes for the plants!! Thank you for sharing about you MIL and appreciate your support.
You are so good with her. My aunt is suffering this as well. She doesn't know her children. I've lost several loved ones to this horrible disease. You are an angel Trey. Yall are in my prayers.
You have a Beautiful back yard !! : ) I've been a caregiver for many people with Alzheimer's over the years. The way Theresa appears and presents herself is 'text book'. It's so sad to see a person lose themselves to this terrible disease.
Those meds often make them worse! They could barely think at all! We allowed only ONE med with our uncle! And he was able to at least ambulate pretty well even to the end of his life. So terrible that your poor wife got that disease so early in life! My heart goes to her and all the pains and frustrations she experienced because of that awful disease! Especially during the first years before diagnosis! ❤
In this video, I have a chat with Theresa on our back porch. Theresa is often spends a good deal of time looking down at the ground and picking up small items such as leaves, pebbles and feathers. She has also become obsessed with plucking carpet fibers from our indoor rugs. If I'm in a work meeting for an hour or so, she will spend the entire time plucking at the rug and bring me hand fulls of fibers. All this bending over is making her back sore and her nose runny. I always have tissues with me when we take walks because she stops so often to pickup stuff. She will get upset with me if I try to move her along so we can finish our walk and get back home. I worry that one day she will refuse to finish our walk back home. Theresa will even try to pickup bird poop, thinking it is a white sea shell. I have resorted to keeping her in the backyard for our outdoor time. This video depicts some of that behavior as well as her talking to the pillow, thinking it is her "Baby" (one of our cats). I've talked about this behavior in other videos but this will be the first time I show it on video. I'm sharing the real side of the disease here today - the decline that I have spoken of previously. Hospice was here today for the evaluation and it appears that she will likely be approved. I will find out for sure early next week. Thanks for watching and for all your support - God Bless.
It's such an awful disease I wish so so much there was a cure
Love your heart for being such a wonderful husband and care giver.
Im so happy you will have the help of hospice, but this video also makes me sad for you. What an outstanding human being you are. We can all only hope to have someone as compassionate and caring in a partner in life. I think you have a calling in this even larger than the care for your beautiful wife, There are many lessons in care taking to be learned from you. Please make sure you find sometime for self care and something that brings you joy. Prayers for you both. ❤
My heart breaks for you both so sad to watch something rob you guys of your marriage future of your lives 🥹 I just know we serve a mighty good God he promised to wipe every tear make every secret known !!! There will come a time all will be revealed in the meantime we are called to faith mercy compassion forgiveness and love !!! All Trey you have demonstrated is what every woman wants her husband to be !! In love with her protecting her serving her enjoying her praising her what a Godly husband 🙌❤️🙏 My prayers are for you both such a young good looking couple full of life God had other plans keep strong Trey you have a world of people praying for you both you both deserve great happiness my prayers are that be your portion this year great happiness 🥹❤️🙌❤️🎈❤️🎈❤️🎈❤️🎈❤️
God bless you both! ❤
Trey, I am on a similar journey with my wife, Heather. It’s been three years since the very first symptoms and she can no longer dress herself, she needs help in the bathroom, I have to shower her, I often spoonfeed her, and on and on and on. I know you can relate to all of this stuff. I’m so glad to have found your channel. It’s rare to have male spouses as caregivers and even more rare that they share their innermost feelings and emotions with the world. I’m doing that with a Vlog. It is a tremendous release to me and the comments I get from people really lift my spirit and give me more determination to carry on. Thank you so much for sharing, your life here. I’m going to look at more of your videos over the coming days. Much heartfelt gratitude.🙏
Thank you for sharing John. I can very much relate. I’m glad Heather has you by her side. Much love and support to you both.
Sorry to hear about your situation. Stay strong, the world needs more men like you and Trey around.
Hi Trey, it’s Sheila from Atlanta. It has been a while. I rarely use the internet unless something really big happens. I saw this and I wept. I showed Darren and I could tell he was shocked at how quickly your precious wife seems to have advanced since we started watching last year February 23, 2023. If you remember, I was diagnosed that day with FTD. (Frontotemporal dementia) I have isolated myself from the world. Even though people tell me to go out and experience all that life has to offer - travel, movies, exercise, food. I respond that it doesn’t interest me anymore as I feel lost and scared around people. My hope is minimal that day to day I’ll feel energized. I’ve started to have bad migraines, body aches, reaction to simple requests can make me angry or combative. My medical license is inactive and I feel resentment towards other drs that are my colleagues who are trying to comfort me. My precious husband, Darren, of 34 years is by my side every day. He allows me to do whatever. I don’t like to bathe. It irritates me. It used to be a mandatory requirement for me to soak and unwind after performing surgical procedures for 8-10 hrs a day. I would enjoy at least an hour in the garden tub. Now, I’m always refusing to bathe, but I don’t like the water and being cold. My cognitive decline is progressive and I can tell I have erratic behavior and can’t find my words anymore. So, I know others see it. I’ve waited to make a farewell video to all those who’ve touched my life. I can’t seem to start it without crying and then getting angry. My husband may have to do it. I’m sorry if this is long. Sometimes I just lose time. Is there anything that Darren and I can do? I’m so sorry that I don’t know what to say. Much love- Sheila
God bless you sister
Thanks for sharing your journey as a comment. I admire how self-reflective you are, analyzing your situation and imagining creative solutions. I send you heartfelt best wishes from snowy Canada ❤️
I'm speaking the Holy Spirit over you and His peace
Praying for you Sheila. Bless you and your struggle with FTD. Thank you for sharing and take care.
Sheila Thank-you for your candid post. I will be praying for you❤
You have provided a beautiful, safe space for your wife. My admiration.
Thank you for sharing Trey. It is heartbreaking but so important for all of us to see and understand. Theresa is so lucky to have you!
It’s heartbreaking when the words just won’t come out
I’m so sorry she got this terrible disease so young.😔
My daddy’s Alzheimer’s didn’t show up until he was 81.
I had the privilege of being his oldest daughter and full time caregiver these last 7 years and I enjoyed gardening with him, both flowers and veggies.
Many treasured memories of my life with daddy to cherish. 9:25
Thank you for sharing. So sorry for your loss
I know you share this out of love for your beautiful wife and to extend a hand to the community of families living with loved ones with different forms of dementia. I can only imagine how hard this is for you and Theresa. Your love for Theresa is so touching. You are a kind man Trey. A truly good man.
Beautiful backyard. Thanks for sharing. Just took my Mom today for an MRI to confirm her dementia. Things are getting much more difficult. Being a caregiver is no joke. You are a saint. Blessings to you and Theresa.
No being a caregiver is no joke. I did it for 35 yrs. and now I’m taking care of my husband. U really have to have the compassion, empathy and love what ur doing . At least that’s my way of thinking. Wish u the best with ur mom it won’t be easy. Remember to take care of ur self also.
Much love and support to you and mom and this journey - God Bless
@@patlovato4073 Theresa is his wife ❤️
@@rsmith8434 oh, I see that now, thank you ☺️
A very pretty backyard.
Hospice care can be a lifeline for you. My mother has had hospice care for awhile now and they provide so much support to us in many ways. I pray she qualifies.
Hi Trey. I think it's important to post the "real life" moments/days that come with this horrific disease. It makes me want to cry my heart out. My Dad went through a phase while he was still able to walk where he would go outside on our property and pick up little limbs and branches that fall from trees like one does before mowing so you don't run over anything. One year in particular bag worms were everywhere and he would get them down with his bare hands no gloves. He would have NEVER done that before Alzheimer's. On a lighter note, your backyard is absolutely gorgeous!! I hope you have many more lighter days with your sweet Theresa! Hugs my friend.
Thank you Paula for sharing about Dad and for your support.
Hospice is a Godsend! Take advantage of all they have to offer. Prayers for you both ❤
I’m a caregiver that prefers to work with dementia. I feel like I was blessed with the gift of walking with families while they navigate this journey. You were AMAZING with Theresa. God bless you as your beautiful family mourns. 🕊️
It's hard to watch her decline and I'm sure this is hard on you on so many levels but you are so patient and kind with her. Keep sharing her story as it will help so many others as they travel down this lonely road.
Trey, it is a real portrayal of what it's like. Glad she enjoys the outside! You are doing remarkable caring for her.❤😊
You are truly an incredible husband and support system. I can't imagine how difficult this path is but am grateful to you for giving us a glimpse of what real life with dementia looks like. Blessings to you and Theresa as you continue this very difficult journey.
What a lovely home, yard, and porch, and everything is so clean. When trouble comes, a person's true nature is revealed. Now that your wife is ill, her true sweet and good nature is revealed.
My former architect husband draws a lot at his drafting table but recently he has been shuffling the drawings consistently and draws over them so much it tears the paper. So then he keeps taking tiny pieces of tape and taping all over the drawings. He does several compulsive behaviors that have been increasing. He went for his checkup and has lost a few pounds even though his appetite is great,so there has been some muscle wasting. Thank you for the updates. Blessings to you both.❤
Blessing to you and your husband as well. Much love and support
RIP sweet Theresa. Trey. May God comfort you in your grief. I am so very sorry for this massive loss.
You're going to see her again. I'm praying that you feel Jesus holding you near.
My Aunt with Alzheimers is always picking up stuff off the floor in her Memory care room. Very small things... She calls it her cleaning. I told her it's good exercise to keep bending over to pick up. Thank you for sharing ❤ Glad Theresa can be outside and close to nature.
Your resilience throughout this journey is a testament to the love and commitment the two of you have shared.
My Uncle who also had Alzheimers, would take a bucket out in the yard to pick up leaves, rocks, etc. You may want to get Theresa a plastic bucket so she has somewhere to put the items she picks up. Just a thought............
Indeed - we do have a bucket for that purpose!! Thanks for your comment and support.
Oh my watching Theresa is so heart breaking, but important for us all to see. I am sure you are doing ok, but it must be so difficult. I have cared for lots of people with dementia. And I am always happy to help, but it is draining sometimes. and I am always glad when my shift is over. 24/7 of this is out of love pure love. Thank you for what you are doing.
Bless her, this is an awful disease, I too have witnessed the sad demise of someone close to me due to Alzheimer's, it's truly horrible. You are doing a great job, bless you Theresa. x
My mama had dementia and it's so hard to see our loved ones in this state. She's blessed to have you. My mama was the same way. Got to the point where she couldn't form words. It was just a bunch of mumbo jumbo. And seeing things that weren't there. It's a scary and sad thing. I'll be praying for yall.
Your garden is so pretty!
Trey, you are not alone. You have many of us here who are with you on this journey and who care about you both! I’m sorry you have to go through these hard things but you are doing an AMAZING job. Just take it one day or hour at a time. Thank you for sharing this ❤
I'm guessing the good ol' algorithm sent me this because I've been talking to my Dad about this disease. He goes in for his first appt. tomorrow. Stay strong and safe. Sending you both some good warm vibes from Arizona.
Be prepared not to get much help from the drs.
My dad’s psychiatrist diagnosed him with “ mild cognitive impairment “ and then with my daddy still lucid at this point, had the nerve to ask me “ have you looked into nursing homes.”😤.
Then he went to open his door and said “ I’m sorry but there’s nothing I can do.”
I got my Alzheimer’s education from 24/7 availability w the Alzheimer’s association.
They have counselors day and night.
They were my lifeline.
Also Utube experts that educate family’s about various kinds of dementia.
One is dementia by grace
But there’s many.
I wish your loved one the best.
I had the privilege of being his oldest daughter and his full time caregiver for these last 7 years.
He passed away Sunday night and looked more peaceful than I had seen him for the last 3 years.
He’s in Jehovah’s memory now .
( John 5:28,29)😔 9:44
A friend of mine was just diagnosed with this and has advanced fast, so these are helping ❤❤
Much love and support to you and your friend on this journey.
@@tpippen75 she was actually married to my ex father in law but she is my age… in six months she barely knows anyone
thank you Trey for keeping it real..so hard to watch a loved one decline
Dementia is the worst bc it slowly takes so many lives, the one who has it, their family members and their caretakers who care so much. My thoughts are with you.❤❤❤❤
Theresa is lovely and beautiful - nice to see her outdoors enjoying the fresh air and your yard filled with nature - God Bless you Trey for your comforting talk with your wife. I hope you get some respite for yourself as well - and it will be good to have home care come in giving Theresa a friend as well as helping you. Take Care
Oh, Trey, thank you for showing us the reality of your and Theresa’s life right now. I’m sure it’s helpful for those dealing with similar issues. I’m just here to learn and support you in your journey.
Your property is beautiful 😊ad so is your special family, your wife is so sweet!
Theresa is so sweet. Thank you for sharing her reality as the disease progresses. You are so helpful to so many who are or will be experiencing the journey of dementia. 🙏🙏🙏
Hi Trey. My Husband suggested to put Lego's on the floor so Thersa can pick them up and try and connect them. Just a little thought. Have A Bless Day🙏🙏
Not legos they are very painful if you step on them with bare feet
One can buy activity lap book for dementia…for tactile, etc.
What an awful idea.
No ideas are awful. Judgemental people are awful. Have A Bless Day❤@@joey_cola
@@joey_cola lol🤦♀️
A tough but necessary watch which will help others in a similar situation. I really wish this wasn't your reality right now but hoping hospice care will help Theresa and give you chance to do what you need. You probably hear it all the time but if only all people going through this had a carer as wonderful as you.
Much love and prayers ❤
Thank you for your kind words, prayers and support Fiona!
This was a tough watch for me. It's so sad to see what dementia does to our brain. It's terrifying. And to be a loved one to watch someone you love so much suffer with this disease is very heartbreaking. I'm so sorry this is happening to your sweet, gentle wife. She seems like such a sweet soul. ~ Many prayers. 🙏🩷
She is such a beautiful woman, wonderful smile.
So many questions can cause fear AND agitation Often time quiet is necessary, none triggering.
Beautiful souls, both of you, peaceful back yard AND porch.
I love how you interacted with her. You met her where she is- it’s so beautiful when families just let them be in their own reality. ❤️
Hi Trey, you are the definition of a real man. Your dedication to your wife Theresa is truly a beautiful thing to see. I am sure that if it was the other way around, she be there for you, like you are for her. You are fulfilling the vows you took on your wedding day, in sickness and in health. Some things in this life are totally unfair. Alzheimer’s disease should be on the top of the list. You are demonstrating to your wife, yourself, your family and your you tube family what true love looks like ❤
Thank you Robin for your comment and support. I took my vows seriously and I'm certain she would have done the same for me.
I second this; well said, both of you ❤
So very sorry. She's such a beautiful soul. Yard is beautiful
The beauty of this interaction between you is how calm Theresa is and how patient and loving you are Trey♥️. To be of service is a blessing. This blessing is in my opinion one of the hardest I've faced. Trey you are doing so good and I'm praying for you and Theresa❤
Thank you Kelly for your kind words, prayers and support.
Ive been recently diagnosed and I appreciate this video more than you know.
Much love and support on this journey
Can I ever relate... my Heather is just over three years from the first signs. Unfortunately she also has Primary progressive Aphasia so she's completely mute and has lost most of her language comprehension. I recognize the look here in your video. I just found your channel so I'll spend some time viewing along your journey. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
Thank you for sharing John. Much love and support to you, Heather and all your family.
What a beautiful lady! Makes me cry to see her so lost in her own mind. Reminds me of my grandparents before they left earth.
Beautiful yard as well!
Love to you both!!
Ooooo......no words. You are a true Hero. Teresa in her own world & you have to face life as it is. Take care. GOD Bless
Theresa is such a sweet lady. Love watching her. Your such a great care giver and husband. Shes lucky to have you.
As heartbreaking it is to see beautiful Theresa declining, I am so happy she has you Trey. You are truly an amazing husband and caregiver.
This is a hard, but very real video to watch of her decline. I am sorry for what you are going through at this time. I listened to the last video but failed to comment. I am praying for you both. I am praying for her to be approved for hospice so that you have the help you need in caring for her. Lots of love to you both!! God bless!! ❤
Thank you for your prayers Carmen. I got word that she was approved. They have already started visiting and taking over her care. I'll talk more about it in the next 1:1 video. God Bless
What a great husband, support system, love you have for your wife and patience with care to boot.
You are sure a loving couple.
Wish all men had half of what you are as a man, husband, partner.
Memories to treasure.
A message from Australia.
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Thank you for showing us the side of this horrible disease that so many people rarely see. My heart breaks for you but I also truly believe that your video journey is helping so many people know that they are not alone. You are such a blessing to your sweet Theresa. Keeping you both in my prayers.
Thank you for your prayers and support - God Bless
My mother was extremely high functioning until she suffered an extreme Shingles outbreak, with rapid unexpected changes, ultimately diagnosed as Alzheimer's. (Research...Refer to Columbia University re: link between Shingles and HSV and Alzheimer's). In any case, this video was very touching to me because my mom is always concerned about her cat and the highlight of her day is getting her daily ice cream cone. Ironically, similar in this video of Theresa. It makes me happy to see them still having pleasure among their scary and lonely times.
Thank you so much for sharing about mom. Much love
I keep you both in my prayers often ..
A channel like yours has been so needed for so long, to show how compassionate and loving a relationship can stay throughout the whole process .
I hope the new care will be of great help to you both .
Thank you Lila - appreciate your prayers and support!
I'm so sorry for your wife's condition. It is tough on both of you. Thank you so much for sharing. This is educational. God bless the both of you. From South Africa
You know that big smile from Theresa says that she's happy . I abhor this disease. I would definitely stay to the backyard. It is safe there. I hope that Hospice will get you some assistance soon. I know, this is so hurtful to see your beautiful, independent, loving Theresa's decline, but she tries her best to communicate with you. Take care and blessings of strength, love and peace as you continue forward.
Thank you Frances. I got word that she was approved for Hospice and they have already started taking over her care. I will speak more about it in the next 1:1. Appreciate your support
🩵🙏🏻 thanks for sharing your precious Theresa with us.
Belated condolences to you. I love your porch and yard. great job very pretty.
🙏 rest in peace Teresa…
Hearing now about the side effects of anxiolytics and ineffectiveness of cognitive drugs, maybe any of us w ALZ are better off without these chemicals.
Much admiration to you Trey for this challenging journey 🙏🌿
Your backyard is beautiful. I am glad she had a nice place to live in.
Hugs to you both. This disease isn’t nice in the least bit. I pray for strength, peace and love for the two of you. ❤❤
Thank you for sharing. I'm sure your beautiful garden is very calming for Theresa. You are a wonderful husband and caregiver.
I dont know you bu 3:19 t stumbled upon your video and wanted to say i am sorry this is happening. Life can be so unfair. Bless you wife and family. Sending prayers for your family. Such a young beautiful lady.🙏🕯
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Thank you Trey for sharing with us “real life” you are an amazing husband to Theresa, she really is such a lovely lady! Your yard is so peaceful for her❤️
I didn't see this video until now, and it's very bittersweet. I see that quick decline, but I also see peace and calm. Thinking of you Trey, as always ❤
You are such a great caregiver. ❤😊
Theresa, you have a beautiful yard. It is good to see you out and about enjoying the evening breeze before the storm comes in.
Sooo Sorry for Theresa’s Decline! I know it has To be Sooo Hard for You Watching your
Sweet Wife! You are a Wonderful Husband & Caregiver to Your Wife! God’s Blessings
On both of You! Sending Love 🌹💖❤️ & Prayers 🙏😇🙌
Thank you Debbie for your support and prayers. God Bless
You are amazing with your caregiving. Fortunately there is help like Hospice. How did people ever deal with this situation before Hospice and memory care units. Bless you and all who care for loved ones.
Aww, thank you for sharing these videos. It’s so unfair. I keep hearing of more and more younger people getting this awful disease. God bless you for taking care of her. Through sickness and health. ❤
What a beautiful
back yard ... may The Heavenly Father bring you comfort in His outdoor beauty
Documenting "real life" moments is important with this. This must be hard on you. I'm so sorry. On a bright note, your yard is beautiful! Hugs to Theresa.
Trey, this is so heart breaking - I would never had truly known what it’s like for her and you until seeing this video. Teresa seems content and calm. Bless you for being such a great care giver.
Thank you for sharing, Trey. We just lost my MIL to advanced dementia. My husband and I were so impressed with hospice. We understand and we are thinking of you in CT with love and prayers. Your beautiful Teresa is so sweet and so lucky to have you. We love brownies and 🍦 too 💜🙏🏻
Appreciate the prayers and kind words Anne. So sorry for your loss - much love and support to you and your family.
This breaks my heart.
God bless you both ❤
It must be heartbreaking for you to see her like this but I appreciate the love and patience you display. I went through this with my mother. You just have to make the best of whatever situation. I love the brownies and ice cream thing....making me hungry.
God bless you Trey! I need to find a way to talk to my brother about letting some support come help him. Thank you for sharing
Praying for you both. I know this is so hard. Sending you a hug Trey. Keep praying for strength.
You all have a wonderful back yard . I know she had to of enjoyed it
💜😭 memories of dad till he stopped talking all together.
She’s still so beautiful inside and out
Thank You for these
Hey Trey! You're still doing great. This phase will pass - at least she isn't overly distressed about the ground being messy and for now is content to pick things up. When this phase ends it's a relief but also sad because then they aren't noticing much. Gorgeous backyard and a nice peaceful place! Theresa reminds me a lot of my mom.
Thank you for sharing Trey, this is real life for many and seeing this helps us understand not only the diagnosis but what care givers go through. Sending all the best to you both as you go through this heartache.
Thanks for sharing
My most sincere condolences for the loss of your wife, Trey. Praying for you and the family. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️
💜Toronto, Canada💜 ... Thank you for sharing your journey at such a difficult time. I watched my moms decline in 2021 and it can be emotionally challenging keeping up the good fight. God Bless you all. 💜
Thank you for sharing your story. I've been learning about the brain in school, and understanding the changes that take place. I'm thankful for the awareness you bring, along with people like Bruce Willis' wife. I also have a friend who is dealing with this also. God bless you!
Oh, Trey, this must be so difficult for you. Lovely backyard! Pretty landscaping and peaceful. You are a good husband! ❤ to you both!
Beautiful garden. Beautiful soul. You are so good with her. God bless you both.
I am so, so sorry for your loss. May God bless you and thankfully Theresa is at peace.
You are a remarkable man. God bless teresa
I lost my mom from FTD. She was only 60 when diagnosed and 70 when she passed. I had her live with me and my little boy. She looks happy which is the best possible outcome. Your a great husband. Good luck to you both.
Thank you for sharing about mom - I'm sorry for your loss. Appreciate your kind words and support.
Your backyard is beautiful! I’m sure Theresa was a big part of that. My MIL went through many phases in her decline. Ups and downs. She had what we called “manic” episodes. Less napping, more confusion, argumentive, seeing things that weren’t there, people in the house, water dripping from the ceiling, sleepless nights. After a few days she would “hit the wall” and sleep a whole day. You are doing an amazing job. Hospice will be a wonderful help. They reevaluate every few months to adjust to what she may need. People have been on it for months to a year or more. You got this!
Indeed, Theresa planned out the whole backyard... all I did was dig the holes for the plants!! Thank you for sharing about you MIL and appreciate your support.
Awww such a beautiful soul... miss seeing you ❤
My condolences to you and your family/ friend. Theresa had you as her wonderful husband. best wishes Geraldine north Wales England ❤
Hopefully she will get the in home care and it will help being in her own comfortable place..and now I want a brownie with ice cream 😃
You are so good with her. My aunt is suffering this as well. She doesn't know her children. I've lost several loved ones to this horrible disease. You are an angel Trey. Yall are in my prayers.
I'm sorry to learn this disease has impacted so many of your loved one. Appreciate the support and prayers - you will be in mine as well. God Bless
You have a Beautiful back yard !! : ) I've been a caregiver for many people with Alzheimer's over the years. The way Theresa appears and presents herself is 'text book'. It's so sad to see a person lose themselves to this terrible disease.
Hugs. My husband has bvFTD. We're not where Theresa is but I know it's coming.😢
He is lucky to have her too ❤
Much love and support to you both on this journey. Please stay in touch
Those meds often make them worse! They could barely think at all! We allowed only ONE med with our uncle! And he was able to at least ambulate pretty well even to the end of his life. So terrible that your poor wife got that disease so early in life! My heart goes to her and all the pains and frustrations she experienced because of that awful disease! Especially during the first years before diagnosis! ❤
Such a beautiful backyard space you have made!