I worked in a grocery store and it hurts my heart to think of co-workers mocking her instead of rallying around a fellow worker who is struggling. I hope they see this video and recognize how awful their behavior was. I'm deeply sorry that happened to you.
My best friend was just diagnosed with Dementia 2023 and she is 67 and a young lady mocked her right in front of her Co workers. To think she was talking about going back to school for a Nurse!! Very hurtful. I pray she experiences this with a family member or herself someday. 😢😮
@Sandi Wood it wasn't the point of wishing on anyone it's that she should experience what she said to someone else with it wasn't at all exceptible especially for a 20 yr old whom only got the job in the Store becuse her parents where friends of the owner of the Huge Grocer Store! Whom he wasn't ever told about the incident until l had the opportunity to share with him what kind of ppl he hires and l did mention about the Nursing. Becuse his wife is an instructor at the University for Nursing..
Yes, he is a good man for sticking by her. Not to be mean but I've noticed many men don't stay by their wife when they get sick or have a disease or get into an accident. They don't stay loyal and cope with it while women tend to stay with their men. I hope she has peace.
Hello viewers and subscribers!! - This video is over 3 years old and has suddenly got a lot of attention. Thanks so much for the love and support in the comments below. There are a few points of criticism this video gets that I would like to address. 1) I mispronounced the word “Alzheimer’s”. This is regrettable as my wife’s has the disease and I’ve made a video here discussing it. It is also a little embarrassing as the video has been viewed over 300,000 times and many folks have corrected me. I wish I could go back in time and fix it. However, I hope the video gets millions of views. I’ll gladly take a little embarrassment if our story helps others. 2) Theresa does not talk in this video. She had trouble with word finding and expressing a complete thought. She very much wanted to share her story during this time and needed my help to articulate it. I shared not only on TH-cam but also with Support Groups, Local News Media and with State Legislatures at the FL Capital. Our goal is to raise awareness and help others. As time went on, it was hard for Theresa to be reminded of her lost capacities and I stopped discussing the disease in front of her. Theresa is now unaware that she has this disease and is at a Memory Care Facility. I have made some more video’s recently giving updates about our journey. Within our “Shorts Feed", there are also some new videos in-which she says a few words. Rest assured, I have also corrected my pronunciation in our recent videos! Thanks for watching and take care! *Update* : Theresa passed away on March 3rd, 2024. She was the love of my life and I will cherish her forever. It was my greatest honor to care for her. Here is a link to the video in-which I discuss her final days >> th-cam.com/video/GmYy-gDQyDE/w-d-xo.htmlsi=KGs6cLSNC8x2Mitx
Trey, you should not be embarrassed about the pronunciation in this video. I cannot believe people would even comment on such a thing. You have done a kindness to share this difficult journey with others.
This could have been my story with my husband. I had filed for divorce not knowing he was sick. My son talked me into going to marriage counseling Ms the counselor picked up on the Alzheimers quickly and told us to see a neurologist. Long story short, Gary lived 7 years after his diagnosis, passing at the age of 61. Watching and living the decline in his health made me so ashamed I hadn’t realized he was sick and it almost cost me my marriage of 42 years at the time. He passed in 2012 and I have mourned the loss of our live and sharing our grandchildren together! I pray a cure is found very soon so others won’t have to endure watching a loved one decline and have to live two deaths …
I also almost got divorced. I had been going through cancer treatment and my husband was completely checked out and not supportive. I had written him a letter telling him I wanted a divorce. He was blindsided and cried his eyes out and begged me for another chance. At that point I said “maybe there’s something wrong with you. I want you to go for a brain scan. If they find something wrong that explains your behavior, I can forgive you, otherwise, I’m out.” We went for a brain scan and sure enough. It showed signs of Alzheimer’s. It totally changed my perspective and I stayed and our relationship is so much better.
Thank you for staying with her and being there and loving her! I know men take a hike when this kind of illness hits. They just think life is too short to put up with this. I am glad you are there for her and appreciate her.
@@kylieshaye6562 I will never forget a story when I was newly married. A co-workers wife was a therapist for MS patients. She said it’s shocking how all the spouses of sick men stick it out, love and support their sick husbands but everyone of the women that was sick, husbands lasted less than a year, left them and divorced them! She saw this over and over because they were weak, self serving men. It just shocked me. Is that just their nature? This man proves he is different, kind and loving and attentive to his wife. She is lucky in love, and maybe someday they will find a cure and reverse this horrid disease. I commend him. My husband, now divorced, told me if I ever got breast cancer, he would walk out the door. I thought for that comment, God would surely strike him down. He is still living his own life.
@@lylewheeler8915 Yes it's mostly men to the point that they tell you to prepare for this if you are a woman diagnosed with a serious illness. It is mostly men. Look it up.
Yours is my mother’s story and if there is anything I could possible say to you is - You are young but please remember your health, my father had a massive heart attack during my mother’s illness. And though I helped with her care, I did not know the extent of what my father was responsible for until she moved in with me while he recuperated from open heart surgery. Caring for my mother during this time exhausted me - I was in my 30s with two grade school children - and the lack of sleep brought me to tears so many times. No one knows what it’s like until they are doing it - be kind to yourself and get respite care. You are only as good to her as you are to yourself.
True I was a live in caregiver for numerous people with all stages of Dementia and full blown Alzheimer's. I never slept and had a nervous breakdown from that. I began to think that I had it
My mom started getting dementia at the age of 56 . She is 90 years old and long ago she stopped knowing who I was . She is in veterans home now and I still go and see her . When I sing she smiles from ear to ear . She’s never forgotten I’m the daughter that sings . I’m sorry for your struggles but love matter most when it gets hard .
How did you cope when she didn’t remember your name? My mother has vascular dementia, well the very early stages, and I’m scared when that happens and she won’t remember me.
Wait~ your mom got dementia at 56 (young onset) but is still alive and 90? How is this possible? Alzheimer’s at an onset of that age is usually only 10 years or less until they pass on…… I’m curious as to what she has…..like what type of dementia……thanks❤
@@robynhowes5667 My sister in law lived 15 years after her diagnosis at age 46. She had growing symptoms for the 5 years prior,, but we only recognized those in hindsight. My SIL had a very aggressive form of early onset Alzheimers disease that also caused her body to age rapidly. Without that aspect, she may have lived longer. I don't know if the current medications also help extend life with this disease beyond previous expectations but I am thankful she was with us so long.
My mum had the same thing too, and it took a while to diagnose her. She went back to Jamaica because that's what she wanted. She would put her dress on backwards too and forget to wash, us kids still live in the UK. We had family members move in with her to look after her through the years. You are an amazing husband and know how difficult this must be, blessings to you sll.
I got a similar story... except I divorced my wife of 23 years in 2016, thinking that she was depressed for being married to me... and that I needed to focus on raising my two boys... the divorce was literally the most painful event of my very tragic life... I kept taking care of her... but in 2019 she started getting lost driving... I took her to the doctor and she got diagnosed... that same day I moved her back with me, and have been taking care of her since then.. it has been 5 years... it has been a very painful, but beautiful experience... I cry often wanting my wife back.. but our reality is different now... I have to help her eat and sometimes in the bathroom... it is a very difficult situation.. even though I am technically single and I go out on dates...
Trey and Theresa, thank you for opening up your story to us. You're very courageous. And Trey, your love for your wife is beautiful. My husband was dx'd with Alz at around 55. He's 64 now and in a safe, spacious, caring Memory Care 5 minutes away from me. God has been my strength and help in all this.
A great man. Amazing husband. Thank you for sharing your compassionate and heartfelt journey. I am deeply saddened your wife passed. Losing someone so dear is always heartbreaking, and I can only imagine how difficult it has been watching her go through Alzheimer’s . It’s a cruel illness, but the love and care you gave her through it all speaks volumes about the bond you shared. May her memory bring you moments of comfort and remind you of the joy and love you shared together. RIP Teresa.
What a horrible, cruel disease. 17 immediate family members were stricken with Alzheimers including my mother, grandmother, great grandmother, uncles, aunts, cousins, brother & sister. It terrifies me when I forget where I put something. It terrifies me when one of my children tell me I've already told them the story. I am a member of a brain health group and I brain test every 6 months along with other brain function tests to "see where I am". I know "how the story ends" and I applaud you in your care for Theresa. I don't wish this journey on anyone; especially the caregivers. May your strength and endurance continue and please give Theresa (also my eldest daughter's name...love it!) a special hug from me and take one yourself.
I’m so sorry you lost your wife. I appreciate you sharing your story. My sister has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. She is in her 50’s. May God bless you and comfort you.
I'm so sorry for Theresa. This is just heartbreaking for her, her husband, her friends and family. Her husband is a gem, by the way. I'm so glad she has him. Very sad that employees at the grocery made fun of her. Truly cruel and heartbreaking. 💔
These folks are terrible humans that made fun of her plight🧐🤨 Your wife is brave and accomplished so much more than they that mocked her❤️ Without Alzheimer's there are people with cognitive disabilities, Traumatic brain injuries they deserve encouragement and patience❤️I send you both love and thank you for sharing this journey ❤️
They're not terrible humans. They were ignorant and didn't know how to react appropriately. I've had mentally disabled coworkers (TBI, developmentally delayed, Down's syndrome). The families that openly shared their loved one's story with employers and coworkers, and enlisted the help of job coaches, found their loved one was appreciated and supported at work. Now some may say, "they shouldn't have to do that." But, dealing with reality can mean putting ourselves out there to gain understanding and support. Say what you will, I'm just saying what worked in a giant retail environment.
@@pettytoni1955 oh no, no. No, they don't get a pass on this one. When I was in the 5th grade some of my classmates made fun of the handicapped kids and I thought it was horrible. I didn't join in in and I was 10. Go figure...
My mother and 8 of her siblings died from Alzheimer's disease and all were blind from Macular Degeneration . I cared for my mom and 2 of her sisters for 4-5 years before their deaths. Now at age 62 I have many of the symptoms they showed early on. I am so very afraid--I have no one to help me. I will take care as best I can for as long as I can, but will need to make decisions and prepare soon before I cannot do what I need to do
@Lisa Gordon I am so sorry that your family faced so much with this disease, and that you are now noticing symptoms at 62. God bless you for being a caregiver to your mom and two aunts for those 4-5 years before their passing. My heart goes out to you now in your fear. I will pray for you at my Easter service that you will have the guidance and wisdom to make decisions and preparations, and that there WILL be care and help for you, if/when you need it. You are not alone... for God is with you.
I'm so sorry, Lisa. I started crying when I read your post. I was already weepy reading the comments. I prayed for you and hope that it is menopause symptoms and the alzheimer's will pass over you and not take root in Jesus name. My mom has alzheimer's two years now. Most of her siblings are already affected by the disease. Their father had the disease and it is present in his children. Hugs and prayer!
Regarding the driver's license issue, my maternal Grandmother (dementia) and paternal Grandfather (Alzheimer's) could no longer drive safely. My Grandmother asked my mom what the green and red lights at the intersections were for. My Grandfather had 2 severe accidents. Yet, the officials did not remove their licenses. Family members had to do it. Both became physically violent. But to prevent them from killing or maiming other drivers or pedestrians, we had NO CHOICE.
This story is almost my story. About age 46-47 I was having trouble with my memory. Like why am I in this room? Or (as a nurse) what did I just print on the printer when going to pick it up. I started using mental crutches like post it notes. Then I just was not doing well at all. I went to the doctor and she just did a real quick assessment giving me 3 words to remember. Ask and asses some more questions. Then asked me what the three words were-- no idea- none. My husband remembers the words still. This precipitated a neuro psych exam. I was diagnosed with mild cognitive disorder ( on my way to Alzheimer’s) and major depressive disorder. Counseling began which really helped. I do think my depression was really affecting my memory. I went to a specialist in neurology dealing with Alzheimer’s and dementia and she stated I did not have Alzheimer’s. Something was not right but it wasn’t Alzheimer’s. Counseling continued and through my own research I found that due to my gall bladder being removed I lacked the enzymes needed to break down my fat soluble vitamins and the larger fat molecules can go to your brain and disrupt cognition. I began supplements to break down the fat soluble Vitamins and I improved. Counseling helped my depression and things improved. I’m not 100% but I am better. I do know what my future holds, eventual Alzheimer’s like my father and grandmother. But for now I’m steady and able to function. Bless you for taking good care of your wife. I have seen how hard it is. Patience and understanding help the most. Support groups make you feel that you’re not alone. Facing it head on is the best medicine.
The timeline of Theresa’s experience developing Alzheimers is one of the most realistic and educational stories of this disease process. Bless you and Theresa for sharing, your endurance is inspiring.
I have a close friend who was diagnosed in her 40 also. It was hard to believe because she also had a great job and was always a fun loving person. Unfortunately, it progressed really fast and she’s been in a home for 3 years now. She can’t even feed herself, her husband goes every day to help take care of her. It’s a horrible horrible disease. Hope you’re still doing well.
I’m getting a pet scan for possible diagnosis at 42 years old. It’s incredible how similar our stories are. I’m so sorry about the mean coworkers! Hugs to both of you. Thank you for bringing awareness!
Hugs to you as well Amber. Please stay in touch and let us know the outcome. Lots of community support here in the comments from folks with similar circumstances. 42 is very young but there has been advances in early treatment lately and more on the horizon. Much love to you and your family.
The way you speak is so calming and peaceful. I'm sure you bring Theresa so much comfort with your presence. You are a true role model Trey! Much love to you and your wife
My prayers to you & your wife, Theresa. I've been caring for my mother since May 2020. She had been showing signs of Alzhiemers since 2016 but didn't become debilitating & diagnosed until 2020. She's now at the point that I have to operate her cellphone for her to watch TH-cam. She has forgotten how to answer her phone or make calls. She's now unable to tell if it's morning or night even when looking outside the window & seeing it pitch black outside. I'm her only caregiver & her only child, so Ik what it's like caring for someone w/this horrible disease. I pray God gives you strength to muster through the days ahead. You are not alone.
It breaks my heart to see this beautiful, intelligent young lady losing her brain functions like this so early in life…I pray they find a cure for this awful disease! She is so lucky to have a loyal committed partner like you to help her the way you do! Much respect Trey! I’m so sorry you guys are going through this! Stay strong! Many prayers your way! ❤️
Out of my dads 9 siblings, 5 of them, including my grandmother, died with Alzheimer’s. We cousins just wonder when we will start, and who’s next. It something I truly seriously worry about
My mother was diagnosed young, too. We figure it started around age 40, but dad said she was acting off after they married at age 17. Shes in LTC now for 4 years and just turned 67. It's a horrific disease. She.no longer knows her daughters, although at times she comes back for seconds. All the same happened with employers, getting lost driving, anger etc. You're fortunate to work from home. Take good care.
Poor Theresa, I seen her heart break when you were talking about no longer driving. Bless her soul and may she rest easy now. Thank you Trey for taking care of her to the best of you ability. You are amazing!
I often thought men wouldn't stay in circumstances like these. I have been taking care of my physically disabled husband for the past 17 years and have wondered whether a man could love enough to do the same. Deeply touched.
Both of you are so strong to be able to sit and speak about your history. It's so terribly heartbreaking to have to talk about your spouse's difficulties as she sits and stoically listens. I had to tell my husband's GP about his decline after his stroke while he was sitting there. He was asked first and he couldn't speak, he was so choked up. As I spoke, my husband cried and it was devastating. Every single day is a struggle. It has been a year and a half since his stroke. He still hasn't been diagnosed. He just had a follow-up MRI but refuses to return to the doctor. Being a caregiver is no joke. I'm just taking it day by day and still trying to get all the legal stuff in order. It shouldn't be so hard on caregivers to get advice! Thanks so much for sharing your life with us. There are many of us in the same boat so never feel alone. Your friends from northeast Florida
Hi Gator - making this video and speaking in front of Theresa was difficult. For most of her doctor visits, I had to pass notes or write something on my phone to share with the physician. Theresa would get upset when reminded of her lost capacity. Some Doctors were sensitive about this and would separate us briefly so I could speak freely. Theresa is now in the later stages of the disease and has forgotten that she has it. I do not ever speak of it in front of her. I understand your struggle and wish you all the best in your journey.
The first time I noticed that my mom had a problem was when she asked me if the dress she was wearing was the same one she wore to my brothers wedding 25 years prior. It hit me like a punch in the gut and I very quietly said no, it was different. I saw her decline more and more, but my dad must have been telling her step by step how to do things. My dad died suddenly in his sleep and she declined even more. My brothers and I took care of her the best we could for two years until we finally had to put her in a senior foster home where there were only 5 patients. She lived with the family and other caregivers who could give her proper 24/7 care. Covid came and we were unable to see her, so she ended dying by herself. That’s been the hardest part of her dying, she died by herself. All I can say is living and caring for someone with Alzheimer’s is the hardest thing anyone ever has to do. I pray for you and your husband. Don’t forget to take care of yourself as well. Love and blessing from Texas. ❤ 💕
@@tpippen75 I’m praying for you and your family. You have been given a very tough road to travel, but you can do it. You’re already doing all you can to make her comfortable and as self sufficient as possible for the time being. Best of luck to you. ❤ 💕
@@deem3204 Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear about how your mother died. This is an awful disease and dealing with Covid made it even worse for a lot of families trying to visit their loved ones.
To me, Theresa looks very serene and comfortable. I know this was 4years ago, and that she has suffered with more of her illness since then. Blessed be Theresa and Trey🙏🏻❤️
Family couldn't cope? What the hell !! There was no family or true love to begin with from any family that turned their back on another who has a disease, or any illness. Thank both of these for sharing their story to many who may or may not be fully aware. As far as we treat others few have true Christian values to love one another, mercy, compassion,. GOD BLESS THEM BOTH, BE STRONG YOUNG MAN FOR GOD BE YOUR WITNESS FOR GOOD, AND NOT SATAN BE YOUR ACCUSER FOR EVIL.
@@Blanca2468 That’s for sure. We should judge others . That is their life they are going through. Until we’re faced with stressful situations we do the best we can.
I can understand why. They are also at turmoil within themselves including if they will have the disease and it overwhelms them. Just too sad. I'm not going to judge them.
Thank you for sharing! I'm 54 and my husband is 64 and around 2017 my husband started having memory issues which I too thought he was under alot of stress. Overtime it just got worse and he too lost his corporate job. 2 years ago he was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's /Lewy Body Dementia and is currently on Aricept and Zoloft which has done pretty well for him. His neurologist didn't waste anytime guessing ,he set up the PET scan which confirmed it. Please keep us updated on your sweet wife and how she is doing. 😊
My mom was diagnosed when she was in her late sixties. She started doing weird things like getting lost when driving and waking up not knowing if it was 6am or 6pm as they get very confused at sundown .. Before she was diagnosed, I would get angry and/impatient with her because I didn't know what was happening....She passed away in a beautiful assisted living home with hospice at 76..Thank you for posting your story. We would love to hear her speak to us in your next video. You are a lovely couple and God bless you for taking such good care of Teresa.
Thank you for sharing your painful journey. My family has been hit hard with it. 5 of 7 of my Moms siblings died w/it. Mom was the youngest of the 7. A cousin passed with Lewie Body's. We now have another cousin in beginning stages. Hafta give it to God, whatever will be, will be😢 I pray for God's mercy to families that are suffering this horrific disease. Teresa is blessed to have supportive family. Praying for you all 💕🙏💕
I'm so sorry! My maternal gf died from alzheimer's. Now, his children are also affected by the disease. Most of my mom's siblings have been diagnosed and are in slow decline as they advance in age. One of the daughters in her 80s, it took her life. She no longer knew her children and as her disease progressed, her family did their best to care for her at home. It was sad to hear she was placed in a nursing home where she died within six months. She was active all her life, farming and herding sheep. Now, I try not to worry about what will happen to me as I've noticed my own forgetfulness. Also, I am going thru menopause and this has been tough for me. I will keep praying and trust in the God I know. Prayers for everyone.
I am a retired nurse and I worked at the same nursing home for 26 years and I worked the Alzheimer’s Unit a lot and I listened to the residents tell me about their experiences and how they remembered long term things and their children’s names and they didn’t know them when they came in to visit. It’s a sad disease for the family but for the residents they are In another time and if you try to correct them they will get upset with you.
I am so sorry. I know how hard this diagnosis is to receive. My grandfather wasn't diagnosed with Alzheimers until he was in his late seventies, but he showed signs in his early 50s. He had to retire early due to an inability to do his job. He had saved well, and stayed busy running his farm. He had many good days still, but the hardest days were really hard, especially after my grandmother passed. He lived with us after she passed. It was hard on him and us, but I am so proud of him for enduring.
The use of the test to draw a Clock is not to see if the person can tell time. It tells us if they can follow directions, organization, visual, perception, organizational thought, and much more. Occupational therapist here.
My youngest patient was 26 and pregnant when she was diagnosed. My colleagues working in pediatrics serve and help children with juvenile Alzheimer’s. Sad to say that this disease is far more prevalent in younger patients as the medical community now recognize that children previously diagnosed with other conditions actually have Alzheimer’s.
@@solobano570 Sanfilippo syndrome, childhood dementia, Thyroid, kidney, liver, heart and lung problems, urinary and chest infections and strokes are among the many medical conditions that can produce dementia-like symptoms.
My Mom was was diagnosed at Frontal Lobe Dementia when she was in her 50’s. She is now 72 and still hangin on. Praying for you both as it will get difficult
God loves your marriage I’m 72 yrs and I’m amazed at how my mind is leaving me ! I keep forgetting where I am and where I’m going I’m trying very hard to remember where I am
I admire you for all the support you give your wife. Not many men would stick around to do what what you do. This is true love. I’m sorry this happened to your beautiful wife at such a young age. God bless you both! Thanks for sharing.
My mom was diagnosed at 77 yrs old. I did 10 yrs of walking for Alzheimer's and helped support them financially the best I could. My 2 sister's and I were devastated and heartbroken watching our mom waste away. It is such a cruel disease! My mom passed away 11 yrs after her diagnosis. I have known a few folks with early onset of Alzheimer's, and it is so heartbreaking!! You two are doing everything right and taking care of each other!! This is what LOVE looks like. Thank you both for sharing and educating people about this sad disease. God bless you both....
I took care of dementia patients from early onset to later stages for 21 years. It was a small private facility and we grew to love these people like family and the families became dear friends. I saw brilliant minds taken over by this horrible disease but I can tell you they never forget their people. She may one day not remember your name or where exactly you fit but she will always love you and know you are hers. I know your struggle and I have seen hers. I pray she is still well and you are as well. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you for being so open and real about your private battle with this heartless disease. My dad died in January with Alzheimer’s, but he was 90 and lived a full life. Your wife is decades younger, though, and it’s so unfair she was affected so young. You sound like an understanding, caring, realistic man who’s doing his level best. Wishing you both many moments of joy and closeness.
How wonderful to have a husband that supports you as a friend and partner. I can feel how hard this transition can be. I am an RN, but good to hear the humanity side of this condition. So sorry this has come into your life, but you are dealing with it wonderfully. Blessings.
I agree. I was told last week that I had mild cognitive impairment. I knew what Alzheimers is and was concerned that my symptoms were possibly indicative of early dementia. We will see.
@@ms.rlsteele351 I too wish you the very best on your journey forward. May you find all of the help and answers you need to slow down your impairment and be able to keep your mind as active as possible. Both of my parents passed of dementia (ten years apart). May God bless you.
I would advise to cut sugar (all the fruits and grains = sugars. Vegies are good but not the starchy ones (sugars) Good animals fats and proteins...that is what the brain prefers...this is my opinion following my extended research. Grass fed and pasture feeding...
My heart goes out to you both. My dad died in 2013 of Dementia. My mom's cousin was diagnosed with Alzhiemers about 12 years ago. She will be 90 this year. But like you, her husband is taking care of her. Thank you for being a faithful husband for her.
I would love to hear a few words from Theresa... This disease is one of the worst and scariest, in my view. I'm so sorry you have to go through that. Wishing you both a lot of strength going forward. Kudos to you for being there for Theresa. You're a good man and you can be proud of yourself ❤️❤️❤️
@Kyra Kyra, your description of Trey is spot on, and I wish them both a lot of strength as well. It breaks my heart to think this, but... as much as we all would love to hear a few words from Theresa, she may not be able to speak in front of a camera at this stage, as it is now three years since Trey recorded this video, and Theresa was struggling to speak in complete sentences at that time. As you described, this disease IS one of the worst and scariest, and since both of my parents passed with dementia, I think of dementia/Alzheimer's often. May God bless Trey and Theresa.
Thanks for sharing your story. Contrary to what most believe, Alzheimers is NOT just an elderly issue. I lost my son's dad @ only 34yo from this. I've subscribed to your channel. I prayed for y'all and will continue to.🙏 May God bless you.🙏
Thank you for sticking by your wife’s side & helping her through his challenge. I wonder if humor helps in some way, I really wish it would. It is really therapeutic if it could be possible.
I’m so sorry that your beautiful and young wife is dealing with this disease. I’m going through it with my dear hubby right now…but he’s 74. His early symptoms presented exactly like Patricia’s. Much love & prayers and respect for sharing your story. ❤️🙏
I was in my 60's taking care of my Mom with Dementia. Every day for 4yrs i cried and cried seeing her like that. I had to put her in a Nursing home for 2 yrs. She had it about 7 years and passed in 2019. Such a sad, sad disease. Good Luck with her care. I had Hospice come in for about 5 yrs to my home as she was bedridden. At the end she didnt know my name or who i was anymore! God Bless your Pretty Wife. God Bless you too for taking care of her and not leaving her.❤🎉😊❤🎉
I can see this video is old and that she's passed, I'm sorry for your loss, it must've been really hard to go through this kind of thing. Out of curiosity what was her lifestyle like in the years before the diagnosis? Did she eat a lot of processed foods? Did she eat a lot of fruit and veg to get essential nutrients like magnesium, vitamins, polyphenols? Did she exercise much? Did she have a social network? This is such a terrifying disease. You are a freaking awesome person for supporting her no matter what.
Thanks for questions and support. Theresa ate pretty healthy and took vitamins - she had a "normal" diet and moderate activity level. There was no family history of the disease, so this was not something we expected at all.
Prayers for you both. Alzheimer’s is in my husband’s family. I pray everyday that my husband won’t be affected by it. Thank you for sharing your story. Your honesty and heartfelt story is helping more people than you know. 🙏🏻
@@ms.rlsteele351 I agree that Theresa was probably unable to share, but was glad that Trey could give the explanation for her. Trey shared that she couldn't speak in complete sentences at the time, and that was three years ago. Prayers for them.
My heart and prayers go out to you. My sister was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s in her early 50’s and it was so hard to see her cognitive deficits increase. My brother in law is amazing and he remained her caregiver for as long as he possibly could. Thank you for sharing your story.
I'm so truly sorry for everything you all went through and the loss of your lovely wife. No need to apologize for mispronouncing anything. People need to be less judgemental and more caring and supportive. Much love from someone whose watched a loved one travel this pagh.
Hi Rachel - Sadly, Theresa passed away last April. She wanted to share her story so that it may help others on a similar journey. Thank you for your comment and support
Your video came up in my feed this morning. I have a friend with a 13 year old daughter that was diagnosed with alzheimers last year. This disease is horrible and I commend you for staying with your wife. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless you both 😇🙏🙏🙏
Hi Carol - thank you as well for sharing. You will be in my thoughts as you take this journey with your husband. Much love and support to you and your family
May the next part of Teresa's condition will provide you knowledge of what can be done in making your daily life more manageable in return to share with others in similar circumstances. Thank you both of you are inspirational.
Prayers are going out to you both. I am 74 and my husband passed in 03 so 19yrs plus. I had a stroke 4 yrs a go I am having trouble with words where I put things,.
This illness is our worst nightmare. Being almost 75 years old, having seen how sad and difficult this has been to our parents, it worries me a lot to become a victim of this as well. This video is already taken some years ago, I hope you are doing okay.
Theresa passed away from Alzheimer’s back in March 2024. I made about 40 videos detailing our journey with this disease, many of them with Theresa speaking and by my side. Thank you for your comment, you’ll be in my thought. Much love and support to you and your family
Thank you for sharing your story and bringing awareness to Alzheimer’s. I loss a young friend and know of another young friend battling Alzheimer’s. May God bless you and your family on this journey.
I caught your last few days post, and I am so very sorry for your loss. I thank you and her for having posted these. My husband and I have found ourselves in a position of worry and wondering. You have helped give some perspective that we didn’t have! This means so much even now. Thank You
What a fantastic husband you are . I do really think you are the most caring understanding fellow I could think of . I hope this devastating diagnosis does not happen to me . If it does I hope I have someone like you by my side
You are a very kind husband. I know you’re journey hasn’t been easy. Sorry for the loss you have experienced. God bless you ad your sweet wife. I work at a residential home and there are a couple of residents who have dementia and no one at home to care for them.
Bless you so much for sharing your story. I cared for my grandmother at the beginning of her Parkinson's journey, as a family we were struggling to understand her behavior and actions, it was such a struggle even after she was diagnosed. I remember her with so much love, she was a spicy, smart and beautiful woman who was fiercely loyal and this disease was cruel and unrelenting. She was complicated and real and she deserved better. Thank you for your activism and vulnerability. Praying for a miracle, for your family and for all those suffering from any form of dementia.
I worked in a grocery store and it hurts my heart to think of co-workers mocking her instead of rallying around a fellow worker who is struggling. I hope they see this video and recognize how awful their behavior was. I'm deeply sorry that happened to you.
My best friend was just diagnosed with Dementia 2023 and she is 67 and a young lady mocked her right in front of her Co workers. To think she was talking about going back to school for a Nurse!! Very hurtful. I pray she experiences this with a family member or herself someday. 😢😮
@@aliciamangar1513 That is a very sad story indeed but please never wish this on anyone. I wouldn't on my very worst enemy.
@Sandi Wood it wasn't the point of wishing on anyone it's that she should experience what she said to someone else with it wasn't at all exceptible especially for a 20 yr old whom only got the job in the Store becuse her parents where friends of the owner of the Huge Grocer Store! Whom he wasn't ever told about the incident until l had the opportunity to share with him what kind of ppl he hires and l did mention about the Nursing. Becuse his wife is an instructor at the University for Nursing..
@@SandiByrd I agree
@@aliciamangar1513 I would never wish this disease on my worst enemy.
What a MAN. I respect him so much for sticking by her side.
@@lynettejones3076 You a very naive
Totally agree.
Yes, he is a good man for sticking by her. Not to be mean but I've noticed many men don't stay by their wife when they get sick or have a disease or get into an accident. They don't stay loyal and cope with it while women tend to stay with their men. I hope she has peace.
@Shadwell72 I have the chills. So beautiful!
@@shadwell72 What a sweet tribute to your wife. I’m sure she is as lovely as you are.
*"In sickness and in health . . ."* popped into my brain suddenly. I applaud this man for being what every man aspires to be.
She is so fortunate to have had a husband who took such good care of her! 🙏🏼🙏🏼
What a good guy. Even with the cognitive decline and struggles day-to-day, he showed what true love and compassion is.
Hello viewers and subscribers!! - This video is over 3 years old and has suddenly got a lot of attention. Thanks so much for the love and support in the comments below. There are a few points of criticism this video gets that I would like to address. 1) I mispronounced the word “Alzheimer’s”. This is regrettable as my wife’s has the disease and I’ve made a video here discussing it. It is also a little embarrassing as the video has been viewed over 300,000 times and many folks have corrected me. I wish I could go back in time and fix it. However, I hope the video gets millions of views. I’ll gladly take a little embarrassment if our story helps others. 2) Theresa does not talk in this video. She had trouble with word finding and expressing a complete thought. She very much wanted to share her story during this time and needed my help to articulate it. I shared not only on TH-cam but also with Support Groups, Local News Media and with State Legislatures at the FL Capital. Our goal is to raise awareness and help others. As time went on, it was hard for Theresa to be reminded of her lost capacities and I stopped discussing the disease in front of her. Theresa is now unaware that she has this disease and is at a Memory Care Facility. I have made some more video’s recently giving updates about our journey. Within our “Shorts Feed", there are also some new videos in-which she says a few words. Rest assured, I have also corrected my pronunciation in our recent videos! Thanks for watching and take care!
*Update* : Theresa passed away on March 3rd, 2024. She was the love of my life and I will cherish her forever. It was my greatest honor to care for her. Here is a link to the video in-which I discuss her final days >> th-cam.com/video/GmYy-gDQyDE/w-d-xo.htmlsi=KGs6cLSNC8x2Mitx
Trey, you should not be embarrassed about the pronunciation in this video. I cannot believe people would even comment on such a thing. You have done a kindness to share this difficult journey with others.
Just found you guys tonight. Looking forward to learning more. Thanks for sharing Theresa with us.
@@reneeb.2702 Agree! And I’m an editor!
Good bless you and your family.
Bless you and Theresa. My blessing to you and her. Don’t let people’s negative comments get to you. It’s a hard lonely journey 💞
This could have been my story with my husband. I had filed for divorce not knowing he was sick. My son talked me into going to marriage counseling Ms the counselor picked up on the Alzheimers quickly and told us to see a neurologist. Long story short, Gary lived 7 years after his diagnosis, passing at the age of 61. Watching and living the decline in his health made me so ashamed I hadn’t realized he was sick and it almost cost me my marriage of 42 years at the time. He passed in 2012 and I have mourned the loss of our live and sharing our grandchildren together! I pray a cure is found very soon so others won’t have to endure watching a loved one decline and have to live two deaths …
Sad that you just left him.. would he left you if it was reversed.?
You didn't know ,please don't feel guilty, you are a good person
I’m so sorry for your loss.
@@Momabear1 She didn't leave him!
I also almost got divorced. I had been going through cancer treatment and my husband was completely checked out and not supportive. I had written him a letter telling him I wanted a divorce. He was blindsided and cried his eyes out and begged me for another chance. At that point I said “maybe there’s something wrong with you. I want you to go for a brain scan. If they find something wrong that explains your behavior, I can forgive you, otherwise, I’m out.” We went for a brain scan and sure enough. It showed signs of Alzheimer’s. It totally changed my perspective and I stayed and our relationship is so much better.
Thank you for staying with her and being there and loving her! I know men take a hike when this kind of illness hits. They just think life is too short to put up with this. I am glad you are there for her and appreciate her.
I don't understand how men can live with themselves if they leave a sick wife. You're right it definitely happens though.
@@kylieshaye6562 I will never forget a story when I was newly married. A co-workers wife was a therapist for MS patients. She said it’s shocking how all the spouses of sick men stick it out, love and support their sick husbands but everyone of the women that was sick, husbands lasted less than a year, left them and divorced them! She saw this over and over because they were weak, self serving men. It just shocked me. Is that just their nature? This man proves he is different, kind and loving and attentive to his wife. She is lucky in love, and maybe someday they will find a cure and reverse this horrid disease. I commend him. My husband, now divorced, told me if I ever got breast cancer, he would walk out the door. I thought for that comment, God would surely strike him down. He is still living his own life.
@@lylewheeler8915 Yes it's mostly men to the point that they tell you to prepare for this if you are a woman diagnosed with a serious illness. It is mostly men. Look it up.
My sentiments same as Kathleen.
It’s actually the other way around….women are more likely to leave.
Yours is my mother’s story and if there is anything I could possible say to you is - You are young but please remember your health, my father had a massive heart attack during my mother’s illness. And though I helped with her care, I did not know the extent of what my father was responsible for until she moved in with me while he recuperated from open heart surgery. Caring for my mother during this time exhausted me - I was in my 30s with two grade school children - and the lack of sleep brought me to tears so many times. No one knows what it’s like until they are doing it - be kind to yourself and get respite care. You are only as good to her as you are to yourself.
True
I was a live in caregiver for numerous people with all stages of Dementia and full blown Alzheimer's.
I never slept and had a nervous breakdown from that.
I began to think that I had it
So true
THIS!!!!!! Just because one is drowning -doesn't help matters if now 2 are drowning! Word to the wise!
AMEN🙏
BLESSINGS 🙌🏿
What test do they do for Alzheimer’s? I watched my mom forget everything
This video has a lot of important information on spotting the signs of Alzheimer's.
My mom started getting dementia at the age of 56 . She is 90 years old and long ago she stopped knowing who I was . She is in veterans home now and I still go and see her . When I sing she smiles from ear to ear . She’s never forgotten I’m the daughter that sings . I’m sorry for your struggles but love matter most when it gets hard .
Hi how're you doing?
Wow
How did you cope when she didn’t remember your name? My mother has vascular dementia, well the very early stages, and I’m scared when that happens and she won’t remember me.
Wait~ your mom got dementia at 56 (young onset) but is still alive and 90? How is this possible? Alzheimer’s at an onset of that age is usually only 10 years or less until they pass on…… I’m curious as to what she has…..like what type of dementia……thanks❤
@@robynhowes5667 My sister in law lived 15 years after her diagnosis at age 46. She had growing symptoms for the 5 years prior,, but we only recognized those in hindsight. My SIL had a very aggressive form of early onset Alzheimers disease that also caused her body to age rapidly. Without that aspect, she may have lived longer. I don't know if the current medications also help extend life with this disease beyond previous expectations but I am thankful she was with us so long.
My sister Peggy , now 65, has had Alzheimers since mid 50s. She doesn't recognize we her sisters, but smiles when she sees us.
Thank you for sharing Wanda
You are such an understanding & loving husband. May God bless your family 🙏🏻
Thank You Carrie
Amen. My thoughts exactly.
😢omg you are beautiful couple … stay strong and god help you
My mum had the same thing too, and it took a while to diagnose her. She went back to Jamaica because that's what she wanted. She would put her dress on backwards too and forget to wash, us kids still live in the UK. We had family members move in with her to look after her through the years. You are an amazing husband and know how difficult this must be, blessings to you sll.
I got a similar story... except I divorced my wife of 23 years in 2016, thinking that she was depressed for being married to me... and that I needed to focus on raising my two boys... the divorce was literally the most painful event of my very tragic life... I kept taking care of her... but in 2019 she started getting lost driving... I took her to the doctor and she got diagnosed... that same day I moved her back with me, and have been taking care of her since then.. it has been 5 years... it has been a very painful, but beautiful experience... I cry often wanting my wife back.. but our reality is different now... I have to help her eat and sometimes in the bathroom... it is a very difficult situation.. even though I am technically single and I go out on dates...
I’m glad you have stuck by her side and cared for her. Thanks for sharing.
Trey and Theresa, thank you for opening up your story to us. You're very courageous. And Trey, your love for your wife is beautiful. My husband was dx'd with Alz at around 55. He's 64 now and in a safe, spacious, caring Memory Care 5 minutes away from me. God has been my strength and help in all this.
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing. Much love to you and your husband. God bless
A great man. Amazing husband. Thank you for sharing your compassionate and heartfelt journey.
I am deeply saddened your wife passed. Losing someone so dear is always heartbreaking, and I can only imagine how difficult it has been watching her go through Alzheimer’s . It’s a cruel illness, but the love and care you gave her through it all speaks volumes about the bond you shared.
May her memory bring you moments of comfort and remind you of the joy and love you shared together.
RIP Teresa.
Thank you for your comment and support Billy
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You’re welcome.
What a horrible, cruel disease. 17 immediate family members were stricken with Alzheimers including my mother, grandmother, great grandmother, uncles, aunts, cousins, brother & sister. It terrifies me when I forget where I put something. It terrifies me when one of my children tell me I've already told them the story. I am a member of a brain health group and I brain test every 6 months along with other brain function tests to "see where I am". I know "how the story ends" and I applaud you in your care for Theresa. I don't wish this journey on anyone; especially the caregivers. May your strength and endurance continue and please give Theresa (also my eldest daughter's name...love it!) a special hug from me and take one yourself.
I’m so sorry you lost your wife. I appreciate you sharing your story. My sister has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. She is in her 50’s. May God bless you and comfort you.
Much love and support to your family. God bless
I'm so sorry for Theresa. This is just heartbreaking for her, her husband, her friends and family. Her husband is a gem, by the way. I'm so glad she has him. Very sad that employees at the grocery made fun of her. Truly cruel and heartbreaking. 💔
Trey, your caretaking and concern for your beloved wife is admirable.Glad to see that she is in such good hands.Prayers2U
Your not an ordinary man . Your wife is blessed to have you .
What an amazing husband.
These folks are terrible humans that made fun of her plight🧐🤨 Your wife is brave and accomplished so much more than they that mocked her❤️ Without Alzheimer's there are people with cognitive disabilities, Traumatic brain injuries they deserve encouragement and patience❤️I send you both love and thank you for sharing this journey ❤️
They're not terrible humans. They were ignorant and didn't know how to react appropriately. I've had mentally disabled coworkers (TBI, developmentally delayed, Down's syndrome). The families that openly shared their loved one's story with employers and coworkers, and enlisted the help of job coaches, found their loved one was appreciated and supported at work.
Now some may say, "they shouldn't have to do that." But, dealing with reality can mean putting ourselves out there to gain understanding and support. Say what you will, I'm just saying what worked in a giant retail environment.
Sadly they don’t understand
@@pettytoni1955 oh no, no. No, they don't get a pass on this one. When I was in the 5th grade some of my classmates made fun of the handicapped kids and I thought it was horrible. I didn't join in in and I was 10. Go figure...
@@theresaakins2317 but did you just stand by and watch, even at the tender age of 10? Or did you tell the teacher?
@@pettytoni1955 You cant compare a 10yr old child to a grown adult to compensate for a way to get out of a hole you dug for yourself.
My mother and 8 of her siblings died from Alzheimer's disease and all were blind from Macular Degeneration . I cared for my mom and 2 of her sisters for 4-5 years before their deaths. Now at age 62 I have many of the symptoms they showed early on. I am so very afraid--I have no one to help me. I will take care as best I can for as long as I can, but will need to make decisions and prepare soon before I cannot do what I need to do
@Lisa Gordon I am so sorry that your family faced so much with this disease, and that you are now noticing symptoms at 62. God bless you for being a caregiver to your mom and two aunts for those 4-5 years before their passing. My heart goes out to you now in your fear. I will pray for you at my Easter service that you will have the guidance and wisdom to make decisions and preparations, and that there WILL be care and help for you, if/when you need it. You are not alone... for God is with you.
I am so sorry 😔
xo
I'm so sorry, Lisa. I started crying when I read your post. I was already weepy reading the comments. I prayed for you and hope that it is menopause symptoms and the alzheimer's will pass over you and not take root in Jesus name.
My mom has alzheimer's two years now. Most of her siblings are already affected by the disease. Their father had the disease and it is present in his children. Hugs and prayer!
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Regarding the driver's license issue, my maternal Grandmother (dementia) and paternal Grandfather (Alzheimer's) could no longer drive safely. My Grandmother asked my mom what the green and red lights at the intersections were for.
My Grandfather had 2 severe accidents. Yet, the officials did not remove their licenses. Family members had to do it. Both became physically violent. But to prevent them from killing or maiming other drivers or pedestrians, we had NO CHOICE.
Hi, What is the difference between Alzheimer and Dementia
@dedrajade5394 while the end result is the same (death bc the brain can no longer support bodily functions), the diseases and causes are different.
Well, the family has to do the right thing . They must.
As a nurse I should be used to this buts it’s heartbreaking.
This story is almost my story. About age 46-47 I was having trouble with my memory. Like why am I in this room? Or (as a nurse) what did I just print on the printer when going to pick it up. I started using mental crutches like post it notes. Then I just was not doing well at all. I went to the doctor and she just did a real quick assessment giving me 3 words to remember. Ask and asses some more questions. Then asked me what the three words were-- no idea- none. My husband remembers the words still. This precipitated a neuro psych exam. I was diagnosed with mild cognitive disorder ( on my way to Alzheimer’s) and major depressive disorder. Counseling began which really helped. I do think my depression was really affecting my memory. I went to a specialist in neurology dealing with Alzheimer’s and dementia and she stated I did not have Alzheimer’s. Something was not right but it wasn’t Alzheimer’s. Counseling continued and through my own research I found that due to my gall bladder being removed I lacked the enzymes needed to break down my fat soluble vitamins and the larger fat molecules can go to your brain and disrupt cognition. I began supplements to break down the fat soluble Vitamins and I improved. Counseling helped my depression and things improved. I’m not 100% but I am better. I do know what my future holds, eventual Alzheimer’s like my father and grandmother. But for now I’m steady and able to function. Bless you for taking good care of your wife. I have seen how hard it is. Patience and understanding help the most. Support groups make you feel that you’re not alone. Facing it head on is the best medicine.
Thank You for sharing your story. I am glad you are better now and hope that continues to be the case in the future.
I'm praying for you 🙏
Can I ask what supplements you’re taking?
Hi, I hope you are doing well. Can I ask what supplements you are taking that you spoke about?
The timeline of Theresa’s experience developing Alzheimers is one of the most realistic and educational stories of this disease process. Bless you and Theresa for sharing, your endurance is inspiring.
I have a close friend who was diagnosed in her 40 also. It was hard to believe because she also had a great job and was always a fun loving person. Unfortunately, it progressed really fast and she’s been in a home for 3 years now. She can’t even feed herself, her husband goes every day to help take care of her. It’s a horrible horrible disease. Hope you’re still doing well.
I’m getting a pet scan for possible diagnosis at 42 years old. It’s incredible how similar our stories are. I’m so sorry about the mean coworkers! Hugs to both of you. Thank you for bringing awareness!
Hugs to you as well Amber. Please stay in touch and let us know the outcome. Lots of community support here in the comments from folks with similar circumstances. 42 is very young but there has been advances in early treatment lately and more on the horizon. Much love to you and your family.
She is so beautiful I’m so sorry for your loss I saw your video and had to come and watch these.
Very very good man 🧍♂️ one that honestly stood by his wife! You are owesome!
The way you speak is so calming and peaceful. I'm sure you bring Theresa so much comfort with your presence. You are a true role model Trey! Much love to you and your wife
My prayers to you & your wife, Theresa. I've been caring for my mother since May 2020. She had been showing signs of Alzhiemers since 2016 but didn't become debilitating & diagnosed until 2020. She's now at the point that I have to operate her cellphone for her to watch TH-cam. She has forgotten how to answer her phone or make calls. She's now unable to tell if it's morning or night even when looking outside the window & seeing it pitch black outside. I'm her only caregiver & her only child, so Ik what it's like caring for someone w/this horrible disease. I pray God gives you strength to muster through the days ahead. You are not alone.
Thank you for your kind words and support and for sharing about you mom. Much love and support to you on this journey. God Bless!
It breaks my heart to see this beautiful, intelligent young lady losing her brain functions like this so early in life…I pray they find a cure for this awful disease! She is so lucky to have a loyal committed partner like you to help her the way you do! Much respect Trey! I’m so sorry you guys are going through this! Stay strong! Many prayers your way! ❤️
Out of my dads 9 siblings, 5 of them, including my grandmother, died with Alzheimer’s. We cousins just wonder when we will start, and who’s next. It something I truly seriously worry about
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@@elbacar4838 Check out the Carnivore diet readily found in TH-cam videos and availble in Amazon books. Itmight be the answer to your worries.
I'm praying for you and your cousins that none of you ever experience cognitive decline 🙌🙌🙌
@@amyproudfoot6611 🙏
Me too...
My mother was diagnosed young, too. We figure it started around age 40, but dad said she was acting off after they married at age 17. Shes in LTC now for 4 years and just turned 67. It's a horrific disease. She.no longer knows her daughters, although at times she comes back for seconds. All the same happened with employers, getting lost driving, anger etc. You're fortunate to work from home. Take good care.
Thank You for sharing your story and likewise.
My sister too, dx at 54 died at 62. Lost jobs, horses loose, fleas in house, forgot to let animals out.
@@hopewelch2915 I'm so sorry!
Poor Theresa, I seen her heart break when you were talking about no longer driving. Bless her soul and may she rest easy now. Thank you Trey for taking care of her to the best of you ability. You are amazing!
I often thought men wouldn't stay in circumstances like these. I have been taking care of my physically disabled husband for the past 17 years and have wondered whether a man could love enough to do the same. Deeply touched.
Thank you for comment and for sharing Annette. Much love to you and your husband
Both of you are so strong to be able to sit and speak about your history. It's so terribly heartbreaking to have to talk about your spouse's difficulties as she sits and stoically listens. I had to tell my husband's GP about his decline after his stroke while he was sitting there. He was asked first and he couldn't speak, he was so choked up. As I spoke, my husband cried and it was devastating. Every single day is a struggle. It has been a year and a half since his stroke. He still hasn't been diagnosed. He just had a follow-up MRI but refuses to return to the doctor. Being a caregiver is no joke. I'm just taking it day by day and still trying to get all the legal stuff in order. It shouldn't be so hard on caregivers to get advice! Thanks so much for sharing your life with us. There are many of us in the same boat so never feel alone. Your friends from northeast Florida
Hi Gator - making this video and speaking in front of Theresa was difficult. For most of her doctor visits, I had to pass notes or write something on my phone to share with the physician. Theresa would get upset when reminded of her lost capacity. Some Doctors were sensitive about this and would separate us briefly so I could speak freely. Theresa is now in the later stages of the disease and has forgotten that she has it. I do not ever speak of it in front of her. I understand your struggle and wish you all the best in your journey.
The first time I noticed that my mom had a problem was when she asked me if the dress she was wearing was the same one she wore to my brothers wedding 25 years prior. It hit me like a punch in the gut and I very quietly said no, it was different. I saw her decline more and more, but my dad must have been telling her step by step how to do things. My dad died suddenly in his sleep and she declined even more. My brothers and I took care of her the best we could for two years until we finally had to put her in a senior foster home where there were only 5 patients. She lived with the family and other caregivers who could give her proper 24/7 care. Covid came and we were unable to see her, so she ended dying by herself. That’s been the hardest part of her dying, she died by herself. All I can say is living and caring for someone with Alzheimer’s is the hardest thing anyone ever has to do. I pray for you and your husband. Don’t forget to take care of yourself as well. Love and blessing from Texas. ❤ 💕
@@tpippen75 I’m praying for you and your family. You have been given a very tough road to travel, but you can do it. You’re already doing all you can to make her comfortable and as self sufficient as possible for the time being. Best of luck to you. ❤ 💕
@@deem3204 Thank You Deem
@@deem3204 Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry to hear about how your mother died. This is an awful disease and dealing with Covid made it even worse for a lot of families trying to visit their loved ones.
She is lucky to have such a wonderful husband.
How blessed she is to have such an adoring, caring and loving husband in you!!!
To me, Theresa looks very serene and comfortable. I know this was 4years ago, and that she has suffered with more of her illness since then. Blessed be Theresa and Trey🙏🏻❤️
Alzheimer’s is such a unforgiving disease,I work in a Alzheimer’s hospital, families couldn’t cope and would stop visiting
Family couldn't cope? What the hell !! There was no family or true love to begin with from any family that turned their back on another who has a disease, or any illness. Thank both of these for sharing their story to many who may or may not be fully aware. As far as we treat others few have true Christian values to love one another, mercy, compassion,. GOD BLESS THEM BOTH, BE STRONG YOUNG MAN FOR GOD BE YOUR WITNESS FOR GOOD, AND NOT SATAN BE YOUR ACCUSER FOR EVIL.
@@she5152 Don’t be so judgmental. Until you walk in someone else’s shoes, don’t judge. You have no idea what anyone else is going through.
@@Blanca2468 That’s for sure. We should judge others . That is their life they are going through.
Until we’re faced with stressful situations we do the best we can.
I can understand why. They are also at turmoil within themselves including if they will have the disease and it overwhelms them. Just too sad. I'm not going to judge them.
Thank you for sharing! I'm 54 and my husband is 64 and around 2017 my husband started having memory issues which I too thought he was under alot of stress. Overtime it just got worse and he too lost his corporate job. 2 years ago he was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's /Lewy Body Dementia and is currently on Aricept and Zoloft which has done pretty well for him. His neurologist didn't waste anytime guessing ,he set up the PET scan which confirmed it. Please keep us updated on your sweet wife and how she is doing. 😊
Thank You Lynn. I wish you and your husband well. I will be posting an update video soon
My mom was diagnosed when she was in her late sixties. She started doing weird things like getting lost when driving and waking up not knowing if it was 6am or 6pm as they get very confused at sundown .. Before she was diagnosed, I would get angry and/impatient with her because I didn't know what was happening....She passed away in a beautiful assisted living home with hospice at 76..Thank you for posting your story. We would love to hear her speak to us in your next video. You are a lovely couple and God bless you for taking such good care of Teresa.
My dad was just diagnosed with this. 😢
@@casualwhine5322 I'm so sorry. My mom was diagnosed 2 years ago. She is on Aricept. The sooner they get on the medication, the better.
@@kb_9880 thank you so much ❤️
Thank you for sharing your painful journey. My family has been hit hard with it. 5 of 7 of my Moms siblings died w/it. Mom was the youngest of the 7. A cousin passed with Lewie Body's. We now have another cousin in beginning stages. Hafta give it to God, whatever will be, will be😢
I pray for God's mercy to families that are suffering this horrific disease. Teresa is blessed to have supportive family. Praying for you all 💕🙏💕
Am praying for you 🙏🏻💗
That is heartbreaking I am so sorry for them. No one deserves this kind of disease. Praying for you and your family ❤
Prayers to your family 💝🙌🏿🙏🏻
I didn't know it could be so prevalent in a family. They may have been young too. 😢
I'm so sorry! My maternal gf died from alzheimer's. Now, his children are also affected by the disease.
Most of my mom's siblings have been diagnosed and are in slow decline as they advance in age. One of the daughters in her 80s, it took her life. She no longer knew her children and as her disease progressed, her family did their best to care for her at home.
It was sad to hear she was placed in a nursing home where she died within six months. She was active all her life, farming and herding sheep.
Now, I try not to worry about what will happen to me as I've noticed my own forgetfulness. Also, I am going thru menopause and this has been tough for me. I will keep praying and trust in the God I know. Prayers for everyone.
I came back to this video today to remember Theresa's journey. It broke my heart, but also reinforced what absolute love and loyalty are ❤.
I am a retired nurse and I worked at the same nursing home for 26 years and I worked the Alzheimer’s Unit a lot and I listened to the residents tell me about their experiences and how they remembered long term things and their children’s names and they didn’t know them when they came in to visit. It’s a sad disease for the family but for the residents they are In another time and if you try to correct them they will get upset with you.
This is a vexing condition. I work with seniors in rehab and try to be fun and kind.
Thank you Deloris for you time caring for all those impacted by this disease.
I am so sorry. I know how hard this diagnosis is to receive. My grandfather wasn't diagnosed with Alzheimers until he was in his late seventies, but he showed signs in his early 50s. He had to retire early due to an inability to do his job. He had saved well, and stayed busy running his farm. He had many good days still, but the hardest days were really hard, especially after my grandmother passed. He lived with us after she passed. It was hard on him and us, but I am so proud of him for enduring.
Hi Terra - thank you for your support and for sharing about your Grandfather. Much love
The use of the test to draw a Clock is not to see if the person can tell time. It tells us if they can follow directions, organization, visual, perception, organizational thought, and much more. Occupational therapist here.
My youngest patient was 26 and pregnant when she was diagnosed. My colleagues working in pediatrics serve and help children with juvenile Alzheimer’s. Sad to say that this disease is far more prevalent in younger patients as the medical community now recognize that children previously diagnosed with other conditions actually have Alzheimer’s.
Intresting, what other diseases are mistaken for Alzheimer in children?
@@solobano570 Sanfilippo syndrome, childhood dementia, Thyroid, kidney, liver, heart and lung problems, urinary and chest infections and strokes are among the many medical conditions that can produce dementia-like symptoms.
@@solobano570 Lyme type viruses.
My Mom was was diagnosed at Frontal Lobe Dementia when she was in her 50’s. She is now 72 and still hangin on. Praying for you both as it will get difficult
TH-cam recommended your video and here I am. God bless you both! 🙏🏾
God loves your marriage I’m 72 yrs and I’m amazed at how my mind is leaving me ! I keep forgetting where I am and where I’m going I’m trying very hard to remember where I am
Hi Jovita - Thanks for your comment. You will be in my thoughts and prayers - God Bless.
I admire you for all the support you give your wife. Not many men would stick around to do what what you do. This is true love. I’m sorry this happened to your beautiful wife at such a young age. God bless you both! Thanks for sharing.
My mom was diagnosed at 77 yrs old. I did 10 yrs of walking for Alzheimer's and helped support them financially the best I could. My 2 sister's and I were devastated and heartbroken watching our mom waste away. It is such a cruel disease! My mom passed away 11 yrs after her diagnosis. I have known a few folks with early onset of Alzheimer's, and it is so heartbreaking!! You two are doing everything right and taking care of each other!! This is what LOVE looks like. Thank you both for sharing and educating people about this sad disease. God bless you both....
Thank you Carol for your kind words and support. I appreciate you sharing your journey with mom. Much love and God Bless you as well.
Praying for you and your beautiful wife. Thank u for sharing this very difficult disease. God bless u both.❤
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I took care of dementia patients from early onset to later stages for 21 years. It was a small private facility and we grew to love these people like family and the families became dear friends. I saw brilliant minds taken over by this horrible disease but I can tell you they never forget their people. She may one day not remember your name or where exactly you fit but she will always love you and know you are hers. I know your struggle and I have seen hers. I pray she is still well and you are as well. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you Debbie for your support and for all the years you spent caring for those afflicted with Dementia.
Thank you for being so open and real about your private battle with this heartless disease. My dad died in January with Alzheimer’s, but he was 90 and lived a full life. Your wife is decades younger, though, and it’s so unfair she was affected so young.
You sound like an understanding, caring, realistic man who’s doing his level best. Wishing you both many moments of joy and closeness.
Bless you both as you travel your journey together!! Very touching and informative look into your lives. I know this will help many others! ❤
Thank You Kim!
God bless you!
How wonderful to have a husband that supports you as a friend and partner. I can feel how hard this transition can be. I am an RN, but good to hear the humanity side of this condition. So sorry this has come into your life, but you are dealing with it wonderfully. Blessings.
Hello how're you doing?
I imagine this is a tough story to tell. I think it is very valuable for those who are looking for answers. Thank you.
I agree. I was told last week that I had mild cognitive impairment. I knew what Alzheimers is and was concerned that my symptoms were possibly indicative of early dementia. We will see.
@@ms.rlsteele351 Wishing you all the best
@Elizabeth Conroy Thank you very, very much.
@@ms.rlsteele351 I too wish you the very best on your journey forward. May you find all of the help and answers you need to slow down your impairment and be able to keep your mind as active as possible. Both of my parents passed of dementia (ten years apart). May God bless you.
@Maureen McGann Thank you very much. I hope the cause is something easy to fix.
My heart goes out to both if you.
You are a very good faithful partner to this precious woman. God bless you and thank you for sharing your story.
Unbelievable man. God bless both of you. My mom and dad had it and I took care of them for 6 years. It’s very hard on us caregivers.
I would advise to cut sugar (all the fruits and grains = sugars.
Vegies are good but not the starchy ones (sugars)
Good animals fats and proteins...that is what the brain prefers...this is my opinion following my extended research.
Grass fed and pasture feeding...
Best of luck, she’s very lucky to have you. My gf is in the same boat, about 10 years now, and her husband is taking care of her. God bless.
Much love and support to you and your friend and her family. God bless
My heart goes out to you both. My dad died in 2013 of Dementia. My mom's cousin was diagnosed with Alzhiemers about 12 years ago. She will be 90 this year. But like you, her husband is taking care of her. Thank you for being a faithful husband for her.
I would love to hear a few words from Theresa... This disease is one of the worst and scariest, in my view. I'm so sorry you have to go through that. Wishing you both a lot of strength going forward. Kudos to you for being there for Theresa. You're a good man and you can be proud of yourself ❤️❤️❤️
@Kyra Kyra, your description of Trey is spot on, and I wish them both a lot of strength as well. It breaks my heart to think this, but... as much as we all would love to hear a few words from Theresa, she may not be able to speak in front of a camera at this stage, as it is now three years since Trey recorded this video, and Theresa was struggling to speak in complete sentences at that time. As you described, this disease IS one of the worst and scariest, and since both of my parents passed with dementia, I think of dementia/Alzheimer's often. May God bless Trey and Theresa.
She may not longer be able to speak. That often happens in ALZ cases.
What is Trey???
Thanks for your comment and support. Here is a recent video in-which she says a few words: >>> th-cam.com/users/shortsWdIt7tVimZM?feature=share
@@junemears8078 Are you stupid?
So articulate on such a hard topic.
So sad as theresa was still a young lady to get this horrible disease. You were amazing husband.
Thanks for sharing your story. Contrary to what most believe, Alzheimers is NOT just an elderly issue. I lost my son's dad @ only 34yo from this. I've subscribed to your channel. I prayed for y'all and will continue to.🙏 May God bless you.🙏
Thank you for sticking by your wife’s side & helping her through his challenge. I wonder if humor helps in some way, I really wish it would. It is really therapeutic if it could be possible.
I’m so sorry that your beautiful and young wife is dealing with this disease. I’m going through it with my dear hubby right now…but he’s 74. His early symptoms presented exactly like Patricia’s. Much love & prayers and respect for sharing your story. ❤️🙏
Thank you for your support and prayers Pamela. Much love to you and your family as well - God Bless.
My biggest respect to the husband who sticks with Theresa just pray that they will be able to face the challenges they will face again in the future.
I was in my 60's taking care of my Mom with Dementia. Every day for 4yrs i cried and cried seeing her like that. I had to put her in a Nursing home for 2 yrs. She had it about 7 years and passed in 2019. Such a sad, sad disease. Good Luck with her care. I had Hospice come in for about 5 yrs to my home as she was bedridden. At the end she didnt know my name or who i was anymore! God Bless your Pretty Wife. God Bless you too for taking care of her and not leaving her.❤🎉😊❤🎉
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing
I can see this video is old and that she's passed, I'm sorry for your loss, it must've been really hard to go through this kind of thing. Out of curiosity what was her lifestyle like in the years before the diagnosis? Did she eat a lot of processed foods? Did she eat a lot of fruit and veg to get essential nutrients like magnesium, vitamins, polyphenols? Did she exercise much? Did she have a social network? This is such a terrifying disease. You are a freaking awesome person for supporting her no matter what.
Thanks for questions and support. Theresa ate pretty healthy and took vitamins - she had a "normal" diet and moderate activity level. There was no family history of the disease, so this was not something we expected at all.
@@tpippen75 Wow ok, that’s strange. I wonder if stress could’ve been a factor. Sorry again for your loss, make sure to take care of yourself.
This randomly showed up on my stories. Thank you for this story, it will bring a lot of awareness to ALZ!! God Bless!!
Prayers for you both. Alzheimer’s is in my husband’s family. I pray everyday that my husband won’t be affected by it. Thank you for sharing your story. Your honesty and heartfelt story is helping more people than you know. 🙏🏻
So sad. I wish Theresa could have been part of the 'conversation'. I wish you both the very best of luck.
Theresa has a very flat affect that is typical of Alzheimer's. I honestly question if she could still share the timeline and how she felt at the time.
@@ms.rlsteele351 I agree that Theresa was probably unable to share, but was glad that Trey could give the explanation for her. Trey shared that she couldn't speak in complete sentences at the time, and that was three years ago. Prayers for them.
A very nice and caring husband
My heart and prayers go out to you. My sister was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer’s in her early 50’s and it was so hard to see her cognitive deficits increase. My brother in law is amazing and he remained her caregiver for as long as he possibly could.
Thank you for sharing your story.
I'm so truly sorry for everything you all went through and the loss of your lovely wife. No need to apologize for mispronouncing anything. People need to be less judgemental and more caring and supportive. Much love from someone whose watched a loved one travel this pagh.
Thank you for your support
@tpippen75 thank you and your wife for sharing your story.
I watched a program called Awakening from Alzheimer's and the keto diet played a huge part in helping people reverse the effects of the disease.
My mom was just diagnosed and will not discuss it or acknowledge it. Theresa - this is very brave of you and thank you for sharing.
Hi Rachel - Sadly, Theresa passed away last April. She wanted to share her story so that it may help others on a similar journey. Thank you for your comment and support
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Sending prayers for you both 🥰🙏🙏🙏
Thank You Tammy
Your video came up in my feed this morning. I have a friend with a 13 year old daughter that was diagnosed with alzheimers last year. This disease is horrible and I commend you for staying with your wife. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless you both 😇🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for sharing , my husband was diagnosed with Cerebral Dementia and Alzheimer’s 2 months ago,he also had most of those symptoms.
Hi Carol - thank you as well for sharing. You will be in my thoughts as you take this journey with your husband. Much love and support to you and your family
May the next part of Teresa's condition will provide you knowledge of what can be done in making your daily life more manageable in return to share with others in similar circumstances. Thank you both of you are inspirational.
Alzheimer’s has to be one of the most cruel diseases out there to watch. I’m so sorry and sending many prayers 🙏
You're a wonderful husband to Theresa! She's a lucky woman.
Prayers are going out to you both. I am 74 and my husband passed in 03 so 19yrs plus. I had a stroke 4 yrs a go I am having trouble with words where I put things,.
Thank you for your prayers and support - my prayers are with you as well. God bless.
I am so sorry the workers at the store treated her like that wheather she was ill or not. Thats so cruel. Bless you both.
This illness is our worst nightmare. Being almost 75 years old, having seen how sad and difficult this has been to our parents, it worries me a lot to become a victim of this as well. This video is already taken some years ago, I hope you are doing okay.
Theresa passed away from Alzheimer’s back in March 2024. I made about 40 videos detailing our journey with this disease, many of them with Theresa speaking and by my side. Thank you for your comment, you’ll be in my thought. Much love and support to you and your family
Thank you for sharing your story and bringing awareness to Alzheimer’s. I loss a young friend and know of another young friend battling Alzheimer’s. May God bless you and your family on this journey.
I caught your last few days post, and I am so very sorry for your loss. I thank you and her for having posted these. My husband and I have found ourselves in a position of worry and wondering. You have helped give some perspective that we didn’t have! This means so much even now. Thank You
What a fantastic husband you are . I do really think you are the most caring understanding fellow I could think of . I hope this devastating diagnosis does not happen to me . If it does I hope I have someone like you by my side
@GabrielleAndrew Gabrielle, those are my sentiments exactly about Trey as Theresa's husband and caregiver.
You are a very kind husband. I know you’re journey hasn’t been easy. Sorry for the loss you have experienced. God bless you ad your sweet wife. I work at a residential home and there are a couple of residents who have dementia and no one at home to care for them.
Thank you Lorin for your support and for the care you provide for those impacted by dementia related diseases.
You’re such a lovely husband. I would hope my husband would care for me as much as you do. God bless you both as you find your way through this. ❤
It’s such a cruel disease, Theresa is so lucky to have such a wonderful husband , lots of love all the way from the U.K. ❤
Bless you so much for sharing your story. I cared for my grandmother at the beginning of her Parkinson's journey, as a family we were struggling to understand her behavior and actions, it was such a struggle even after she was diagnosed. I remember her with so much love, she was a spicy, smart and beautiful woman who was fiercely loyal and this disease was cruel and unrelenting. She was complicated and real and she deserved better. Thank you for your activism and vulnerability. Praying for a miracle, for your family and for all those suffering from any form of dementia.
Hi Adr - thank you for your support and for sharing about your Grandmother. Much love and God Bless.
My heart hurts for her. Just seeing her get more and more sad as you talk about her struggles. Thank you, guys, for being so strong and sharing this!