Theresa passed away on March 3rd, 2024 @ 10:15PM. In this video, I discuss her final days of life. Theresa was the love of my life and I will cherish her forever. It was my greatest honor to care for her. Rest in peace my love, in your new heavenly home - I will see you once again. Theresa's best friend Cher has also made a video discussing her love for Theresa, the grief of her passing and how this disease has impacted her. Here is a link to her video: th-cam.com/video/uGCzNUckblI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gcL_3d9s3POlj9vf - Thank you all for the love, prayers and support. God Bless
I am so sorry to hear about Teresa's death. 💔 I'm glad that you have people around you who support you. ❤ Prayers for You, Your Family and friends. ❤❤❤
Theresa is just about the wealthiest woman in the world. Can’t ask for a better husband, friends, family. God’s peace go with you, sir. You did right by your beautiful wife.
Totally agree. I'd love to find a man half as strong as my dad, who cared for his wife, or Trey, who embraced a decade of ups and downs with beautiful Theresa. They're warriors.
Very true. My husband of 27 years was previously married and caretook his wife when she had ALS in her ‘30’s. He worked full time, took care of her in every off hour, and was trying to raise four kids at the same time. He has told me all the attention was on her, which he understood, but when she passed he was exhausted and almost literally slept for six months. Hearing his story, I knew I’d found a Prince.
As a retired hospice nurse, I have witnessed the passing of countless people. Be proud of the care, respect and honor you gave her. My prayers are with you.
Your kitty needed your love he or she missed your wife also take care of it I used of work in a place I took care of Alz people too I know hard it was to take care of them please take of your self
Hey Trey - You could not have done a better job care taking for Theresa over the years. You are an excellent example of a true, loyal, and loving husband.
The TH-cam channel "Hospice Nurse Julie" has discussed terminal agitation at length. She says our bodies know how to die and refusal to eat or drink is preparing the body to die. It's hard for us to watch. I'm sorry for your loss. She was so young, and so are you.
The Lord has you in His hands. He will sustain you. Setting goals with things that are important to you will be important... also take time for true rest for your body + soul at this time too.
After 34 years of love, I lost Vernon on February 27th, 2013. I held his hand and kissed him. I was glad that he was no longer in pain. I could not cry, he had suffered so much. He had wanted me to find another love, but I knew no one could take his place. In 2014 I met and married Mike. I was no longer alone. In 2020 I lost Mike. I still haven't been able to cry. I feel blessed to have had two good men to share my life with. The loneliness is so sad now. Love to you Trey and admiration for your strength and your love thru Theresa's journey.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I am the caregiver for my husband with Alzheimer’s. He was diagnosed in 2022. You have been a wonderful husband and caregiver. Hugs and prayers.
@9330krivers I am sure that you are a wonderful caregiver. My husband’s role has already been a reality as I was diagnosed of frontotemporal dementia last year 2/23/23. I was shocked to my core. I knew I had been acting erratically at times with my husband. He picked up on it and insisted I was checked out immediately. You would’ve thought I would have been the one to ask for MRI as I am the physician and he’s in television. But, no, I guess he realized that I was different in enough ways to warrant MRI. Confirmed by PET scan. My life has changed drastically since my diagnosis. It’s been my caregiver, who retired just to take on this task, that’s really pulling his weight. We’ve been together 34 years. I feel guilty knowing this is going to make him sad. When I read that someone is a caregiver, I stop to give them a hug. 🤗 I pray that your husband is doing well and enjoying life as much as possible. Edit: There is a therapist online, Dr Natalie Edmunds who is very helpful and knowledgeable with all types of dementia. Her information is free. Plus, Teepa Snow. Always, Sheila, Atlanta
Hospice here for over 34 years. You just described the dying process. Cheyne stoke breathing, refusing food and water, hallucinating, etc. All these usually bother onlookers but is part of the dying process. So glad that you were there right up to her last breath on this earth and her first heavenly breath. That is a gift she gave to you. Grieving usually starts long before a person passes. Be kind to yourself, dear Trey, as you navigate through this new wilderness you've found yourself in. Ask and accept help if you need to at this time and know that there are thousands of people that are covering you in love, light, peace and prayers.❤
Trey as a Lewy Body Dementia sufferer at 59 yrs I'd like to make a suggestion to those who want to contribute please consider your local Nursing homes and donate baby dolls baby blankets even the men could use some toy tools They are the one's that would benefit the most or local animal shelters 😊
Hi @Toryberch. I am so very sorry that you are navigating through Lewy Body Dementia. Your suggestion above as to contributing to local nursing homes is an excellent Idea. I would also like to add a suggestion that those in a similar situation as you are, remember to arrange for a Living Will spelling out what kind of terminal care you DO and DON'T want as well as a Power of Attorning for medical matters and another POA for financial matters. Those documents helped my sister and I handle the final days of our father's life and and assure that he died with dignity. You are in my prayers.
@@betsywyks8277 thank you so much for your help that is good advice and I truly appreciate it ☺️ I have some of my wishes in writing like organ donor ❤️ and living will / poa medical but I do need to write down my needs for other things Thanks Betsy for your prayers and kindness Much love 💕 Tory
@@toryberch ....you are very welcome. I assume you know hat all of the documents you and I mentioned must be notarized so that medical personnel can honor them. Sending love and prayers on your journey.
Trey, I feel for you in losing your beloved wife Theresa. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease and so young at 55 yrs. Take your time to grieve her, it's important that you do. I lost my younger sister to Alzheimer's last year June 4, 2023 A 68 yrs old. I had to watch her deteriorate, almost thin as a skeleton, I am glad she is no longer suffering with it, she is in heaven at peace. My sincere condolences Trey. 🌹💔😔🙏🙏
My dad was diagnosed in 2015 with pics dementia he died oct 19, 2022. I was his caretaker for 8 years and watched him die on hospice . I wiped his last tear So sorry ,RIP Theresa
So very sorry Trey. I am an RN. I work in neurosurgery and neurology. I also worked at senior facilities. I have had many patients who were at the stage of terminal agitation. I am so glad you were with her till the end GOD BLESS YOU.
The dark circles under your eyes speaks volumes. I am beyond grieved for you! Thank you for your sharing this very difficult time. My love to you and your family.❤😢
My prayers are with you my friend. I can not thank you enough for sharing this personal journey with us. My wife was diagnosed a year ago at 53yo. You have helped me become a better caregiver and husband. You have been my rock. Thank You and God Bless.
She had a neuropsychiatric exam (3+ hour exam) and a lumbar puncture. The neuropsychiatric exam showed she had dementia, and the lumbar puncture determined the diagnosis of Early Onset Alzheimer's Disease. @@evakhaling
My mom has alzheimer's. Thank you for being brave for Teresa. You were her strength and knight in shining armor. Thank you for sharing your life with us. May you find peace and comfort. I feel Teresa has that now. ❤
I volunteer 2 mornings a week with a talented elderly artist who lives in a memory care facility. I am his art "teacher" and I really enjoy it and my art has become better since starting this. The manager, who had recently become my friend, invited me to be the elderly guy's art "teacher" This gives structure to my week and helps him, me, and the manager greatly. You never know when a "task" might become a "blessing."
I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife. I am praying for you and may God comfort you like only He can. I lost both of my parents due to complications from Alzheimer's Disease. Thry were my best friends. My hospice social worker told me that when I lost my mother, that it was worse than losing a spouse. I was their main caregiver. I almost died before my mom died. You were so caring & loving to Theresa as her caregiver & husband. May God bless you abundantly. I am keeping you in my prayers 🙏 ❤ In God's love, Debra ♥️🙏🙏♥️
Theresa will remain in our hearts. All of us send you our warmest blessings. The openness of your journey serves to educate many about the challenges of Alzheimer's Disease. You and Theresa have benefitted many by documenting her journey. We send our best wishes as you deal with your grief. It takes time.
My heart goes out to you. Your love for Theresa shows and will stay with you forever. She will always be a part of you. I know this because I have been through so much the same thing. My husband Ernie, the father of my 4 children passed after a battle with Early Onset Alzheimer's disease when he was 54. I was 48 at the time. I was blessed to be able to take care of him here at home for all but the last two days. Things were a bit different with him as he became more complacent. The last 2 years he became totally dependent on others for everything. He was nonverbal those 2 years. Our children were a lot of help during this time. My Ernie's Brother Gene passed the same year with the same condition. Their father passed at a young age with yet the same condition. It is very much a familial issue. After he passed in 1992. I then needed to go to work outside the home. I took a job at a local Memory Care Retirement Community in the Activity Department and later became the director of that department, I have now retired from this work but I still make things like fidget mats and such to donate to different care centers. Even though I have now married again and am very happy in this marriage, Ernie is still my first love and the father of my children. He would have turned 81 on the 4th of March. I miss him now as much as If he just left. My current husband is very supportive of my memories and keeping them alive. I have been blessed again. We live in Spring Hill, just a bit north of you. I often go to the beach area here to watch the shrimp boats go out for the night in the Gulf. Ernie was a lover of the sea and worked a lot on the shrimp boats. Watching them go out now all these years later, brightens those memories. Hugs and blessings to you, Yes, you will cherish her forever. Love never goes away.
God bless Theresa and you, and I can relate so much. My mother Angelina died in 2011 after 13 years of the ravages of Alzheimers. (Half of those years with me, and then in a nursing home, with me there every other day. ) I miss her lovely Italian singing, and her smile, and her greetings... "Hello, my dear girl, my darling girl....) I wait to see her again. Diana, Olympia, Wa.
You can cry on this channel. There is another youtuber sharing his grief journey and he does cry on camera. I am truly sorry you had to say goodbye to Teresa. You were a phenomenal husband. God bless you. ❤
There is no doubt in my mind that Theresa felt the love of everyone around her during her final hours. The sadness of losing a loved one never completely goes away but over time, the grief will fade and her memory will bring a smile to your face rather than tears to your eyes. Rest easy T. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤❤❤🪽🪽🪽
I was with my Mom when she passed from Alzheimer’s Trey. She lived in NC and I live in NY, so when I would visit she didn’t know who I was. But before she passed she she opened her eyes and smiled at me. So I know that at that moment before she died she knew who I was. That gave me great comfort to this day. I continue to care for my husband with LB as long as I’m able to. I will add Theresa to my donation in memory of her and my Mom. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers that the good Lord brings you, the family, and friends of Theresa comfort.🙏❤️
I have been thinking about you Trey and praying that you are ok.Im glad your family and friends are there for you! I will continue to watch your videos, they have really helped me with my Mothers journey with this horrible disease.
Fifteen months ago, I was a witness to that rattle, while trying to help a complete stranger who was gravely injured in a car crash. I had no idea who this woman was, but I’m STILL haunted by the experience. I can’t even imagine going through that with a loved one. I hope I never have to find out.
Wish I could give you a hug in person. Glad to know you have friends and family to support you as you grieve. Much love and support for you and your family. Thanks for being so transparent and sharing this painful journey/
Trey, to me, you are a man on a mission to educate people about Alzheimer's/Dementia. You have done so much for so many by sharing Theresa's story. Honestly, I am still somewhat shocked at how quick her decline was at the end. I would totally understand if you decide to take a pause at this time. I am hoping you are getting some rest now. I am sitting here with my mother now. It's almost 2 in the afternoon, and she is eating breakfast. Sleeping is her main function these days. It's necessary, it seems. As you walk through this tough time in your life, I pray you feel all the love that surrounds you. It's amazing to me how many people are leaving so many kind and loving comments for you today. Thank you again, Trey, for sharing your love story with all of us.
So sorry for your loss of Theresa. You have been a remarkable husband and care giver for her for so long. We hope all your wonderful memories will help you to cope with the days ahead. Our deepest sympathy. Take care. 😢🙏
I am sorry for the loss of your Theresa, but so glad she is no longer suffering with this terrible disease. You were a wonderful husband and Caregiver. Thank you so much for loving Theresa to the very end
You are a really great husband and advocate for letting people know what it’s like to live with someone Who is affected by Alzheimer’s I want it’s truly like. Thank you for sharing your story.
I am so sorry. I live in Pinellas and had been looking for information to honor Theresa. If her Celebration of Life is public, and you would want guests, please let us know. I lost my mom recently to this horrible disease and couldn't see her in the last few years. I would love to celebrate such a sweet lady as Theresa, but only if it's open and public. When you lose someone, you never get over it, their passing becomes a part of you. I want to thank you for allowing us in on Theresa's journey, my mother punched the staff when we left the last time and I couldn't put the staff through that again, so I never saw her again. Please hold on to Theresa's things for about 6 months. Your mind will be less stressed and cluttered and you will make better decisions, decisions you wont regret later. I had worked in Hospice care and was educated on the care, but that means nothing when it's your own family, I'm so grateful to you both for letting us in. I hope you stay in touch with all of us and know we care about you. Also, patients have a lot of power over the entire process and Cher knew, it's amazing how much love Theresa had. I hope you find love and support in these comments that are written, you have a lot of wonderful people following you. Please take good care of yourself.
I’m so sorry Trey. I know your heart is broken. You were such a precious, beautiful husband, caregiver, friend to Theresa. We care about you and want you to know that. Please continue to keep in touch. Praying for you in these hard days going forward.
Thank you Trey for taking the time to make this video. I was shocked when you posted the last video updating us on Theresa & informing us that she passed away. Rest in peace Theresa. She will be so missed! This disease has no boundaries & is relentless. So sorry that it was part of you & Theresa's story. In the end it was exacly on how she wanted it to be. Just the two of you, together until her final breath. Very honorable for Cher to recognize this as Theresa's wish. Theresa took the opportunity to take "the wheel" & do it her way! ❤ You and Cher have been in my thoughts and prayers. My mom is in end stage Dementia & I can only pray that her passing will be peaceful as well. Happy to hear that you will continue with the channel and keep Theresa's memory alive. The grieving process is different for everyone & we will be here to support you any way we can moving forward. Continued thoughts & prayers to all impacted by this diesase & my sympathies & condolences to you Trey & Cher, family and friends during this time of loss and grievance for a wonderful and beautiful lady, Theresa. 💜💜💜
Thank you for sharing Trey. You have been through so much. You were a great husband & an amazing caregiver. Take time for yourself. I’m sure Theresa would want you to have peace. ❤
So sweet. Your little kitty is worried about you. S/he is hovering next to you. To be supportive and provide some kitty love. Animals are so intuitive. They know when we need them. God bless you. May you find peace and comfort as you move forward. Big hug!
Trey, thank you for sharing Theresa’s journey. You and Theresa have given me so much insight to this horrid disease. My mom is 63 and is in late stages now. My dad made the decision late last year to put her in a memory care center. I have watched you for a while and I am so happy to see men like you and my dad, and the love you have for your wives. Your channel is refreshing as it gives us a real perspective of what occurs day to day. There is no normal with this disease, but there is a shared understanding. You have done a great job caregiving and I appreciate you and your channel. Theresa will be missed by this community. Please continue to post and keep us updated. ❤
So sorry for your loss it seemed so sad that she passed away so young may god bless you and your family and let the blessed mother keep you all in her tender care
We love you. Teresa is watching over you!! Trey, im a nurse. Ive know because ive seen things i wish i hadn't. Ive been proxy for people who had no family at thier bedside during passing. I have the utmost respect for you and Teresa our beloved Angel!! Sending love and prayers. Jesus is with you. 🙏✝️❤️
You are so brave Trey. My husband has Alzheimers/dementia and he's getting to the angry stage. It's very difficult. I thank you for sharing yours and Theresa's story. She's at peace in God's hands. Stay in touch with all of us. You've become family 🙏😭
It's comforting to hear that Theresa passed on her terms. The same happened with my mother. Know that she will always be with you. One day at a time, Trey. Many blessings to you and your family.
My mom's battle ended the same. No food or drink for 14 days. It is hard, but I must say it is easier to let them go when you know they are in torment. My prayers are with you, Trey. We all know how much you loved her. You gave her the best care, love, and laughs she could have ever had. ❤
That's the body's way of starting the process, shutting down. I had a patient who only ate 1/4 cup of Cream of Wheat for 3 months. He was as in love with his wife as Trey was of Theresa. People really are amazing. We know what an amazing woman Theresa was by the man she married, we did get glimpses of her and she was so beautiful.
Thank you from my full and over-flowing heart for sharing these details, the ones that are so often omitted in the summary statement that someone has passed. The details help those of us who are traveling this path alone and scared and sad and have no compass. Peace be with you and much gratitude .
Trey, Thank you for caring so much for another human being. Not all husbands are like you. I’m sure your compassion will eventually extend far beyond this episode in your life. Thinking about you. from St Pete
My deepest sympathies to you Trey. You and Theresa were blessed with the time you had together. You certainly did your best and loved her wholeheartedly. Your heart must be broken. Take care of YOU ! Respectfully Theresa
Hello Trey…. Just came across you and your wife’s channel. What a loving and caring husband you are. May God continue to give you all the health. . Strength.. peace and courage you need at this time so that you can continue living your life ,without your beautiful wife Theresa who went to be with God. Sending lots of love your way.😊
I'm heartbroken for you. I know how brutal Alzheimer's is...its a blessing that she is now complete in heaven again. Trey, I am so sorry. I will keep you in my prayers. ❤
A cruel disease for all involved and you hung in there for Theresa and us. You honored her with your total support and upheld those marriage vows that sound so trite as they are spoken but have true meaning in the time we are called to serve each other. May her memory be for a blessing. God bless.
Sending you and the family so much love. You and Theresa have made a huge impact on my life, not just as a caregiver but as a human being. Many people vow "in sickness and in health" but are not ready to face what that reality means. But you and Theresa's love was so much stronger than any disease. Thank you for everything you have shared from your lives. She will always be with you.
Trey you were a good husband. Theresa was lucky to have you by her side. I pray for strength for you to get through her passing. My deepest condolences.
This was heartbreaking and beautiful to listen to. Please continue to use this platform to show us your life as you heal. You are an incredible human Trey
God bless you sir for standing with this precious woman and not leaving her side in her final days and hours. Find peace knowing that she walks with our Father in heaven and she suffers no more.❤🇨🇦
My heart goes out to you. I'm praying for you and that the Lord envelops you in His love and peace. Theresa is with our Savior and you'll see her again. God bless you.
Trey, I am, although for cancer, watching my husband get weaker his diagnosis is terminal. Please accept my sincere sorrow for your journey. I have been with a number of people who have passed, and this is the hardest because he is the love of my life.
@@tpippen75 Trey, my heart goes out to you. My sister-in-law just passed recently from Alzheimer’s but she was 86. It’s terribly sad when a young person gets this terrible disease. It seems to be becoming more and more prevalent. I’m prepared to become an activist for cancer and Alzheimer’s, I certainly understand your rationale. It serves two purposes, it gives you purpose as well as fulfillment. God bless you.
Trey, you’re an amazing person and husband. Don’t hesitate to lean on the people who offer their support, you’ll need it & you deserve it; it’s your time to rest & heal and get adjusted to your new normal. Fantastic idea to exercice! You’ll get through this, you can be at peace that you did everything you could, and more. Bless you❤
I recently found your channel and send my condolences. So sorry for your loss. Your honesty on the daily life of caring for a dementia patient is undoubtedly helping people who just received a diagnoses.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You have been a been a beacon of strength to me. Our journeys have been similar. I only hope I have your strength and composure when “the bride” passes. You have support from all around the world.
Trey, it’s Sheila & Darren from Atlanta. Both of our hearts are broken. You will never know how your videos have affected us. Some of them are hard to watch knowing that my journey with frontotemporal dementia is progressing and we don’t know what to expect. Since your videos have given ideas and suggestions of what to do in case of agitation or confusion, my husband has a clearer understanding that he is going to have to be creative in helping me with my anger and combativeness. My neurologist has now referred palliative care to my home. We are going to continue to follow you because we know, as you said, your grief journey has just begun. My husband will reach out to you in the coming weeks by email. Your supportive nature is very strong and encouraging and evident on these videos. I wish I could say something profound, but all I know for sure is that Theresa loved and adored you. I am unable due to my new comorbidities to walk miles, but I can donate as I do already. Please expect something from us in your P.O. Box. We are sending love from the both of us. 💜Sheila & Darren ❤Rest In Peace Sweet Theresa
I am so very sorry for your loss. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in Jan 2023. I only hope I can be as helpful to him as you were to your precious Theresa. May God give you comfort and peace.
Please reach out to the Alzheimer's Society. My mother just raged from early on. We had to put her in an Alzheimer's Community and get a Guardian, she was then diagnosed with Schizophrenia. She had problems for decades but wouldn't see anyone. Each patient is different and there are so many wonderful things they helped us with. Please take very good care of yourself.
I will continue to follow you in this journey. My husband is dying from liver failure and I appreciate your honesty and transparency in your journey. We all have benefits in some way.
Theresa passed away on March 3rd, 2024 @ 10:15PM. In this video, I discuss her final days of life. Theresa was the love of my life and I will cherish her forever. It was my greatest honor to care for her. Rest in peace my love, in your new heavenly home - I will see you once again. Theresa's best friend Cher has also made a video discussing her love for Theresa, the grief of her passing and how this disease has impacted her. Here is a link to her video: th-cam.com/video/uGCzNUckblI/w-d-xo.htmlsi=gcL_3d9s3POlj9vf - Thank you all for the love, prayers and support. God Bless
God bless you, and thank you for sharing. You are in my prayers 🛐
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I am so sorry to hear about Teresa's death. 💔 I'm glad that you have people around you who support you. ❤ Prayers for You, Your Family and friends. ❤❤❤
You were an admirable hubby❤
Continued prayers for you and Cher and all of her loved ones. Yes she’s finally at peace. ❤🙏🏻
You are such an example of a true loving husband
Theresa is just about the wealthiest woman in the world. Can’t ask for a better husband, friends, family. God’s peace go with you, sir. You did right by your beautiful wife.
What a beautiful comment❤️
I completely agree.
@@jenniethompson7342 indeed
Well said!
I am so sorry for your loss
I am 52 years old with early onset Alzheimer’s disease. Thank you for sharing your story.
Praying for you
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❤❤❤Prayers to you.🙏🏻🙏🏻
God bless you dear lady 🙏
Sending love and prayers.
Husband caretakers do not get enough credit. You are a good man and an example husband. RIP Theresa and God bless you and your family.
Totally agree. I'd love to find a man half as strong as my dad, who cared for his wife, or Trey, who embraced a decade of ups and downs with beautiful Theresa. They're warriors.
Very true. My husband of 27 years was previously married and caretook his wife when she had ALS in her ‘30’s. He worked full time, took care of her in every off hour, and was trying to raise four kids at the same time. He has told me all the attention was on her, which he understood, but when she passed he was exhausted and almost literally slept for six months. Hearing his story, I knew I’d found a Prince.
I am so sorry. You are an example of what a spouse should do when their wife or husband are sick. She was very blessed to have you.
As a retired hospice nurse, I have witnessed the passing of countless people. Be proud of the care, respect and honor you gave her. My prayers are with you.
Seeing your kitty come over to check on you when you were getting emotional made me think Theresa isn't so far away. 💜
A beautiful observation ❤
Your kitty needed your love he or she missed your wife also take care of it I used of work in a place I took care of Alz people too I know hard it was to take care of them please take of your self
Hey Trey - You could not have done a better job care taking for Theresa over the years. You are an excellent example of a true, loyal, and loving husband.
Precious JESUS walk him through his grief one step at a time..
The TH-cam channel "Hospice Nurse Julie" has discussed terminal agitation at length. She says our bodies know how to die and refusal to eat or drink is preparing the body to die. It's hard for us to watch. I'm sorry for your loss. She was so young, and so are you.
I watch that one too. Shes very informative, kind.
Hospice nurse Julie and Penny are both valuable resources for understanding what is happening at the end.
I’m so glad I just read this, I’m losing my dad to LBD and it’s absolutely gut wrenching.
@@deathbychocolate584I'm so sorry. 🕊🤍🙏
The Lord has you in His hands. He will sustain you.
Setting goals with things that are important to you will be important... also take time for true rest for your body + soul at this time too.
After 34 years of love, I lost Vernon on February 27th, 2013. I held his hand and kissed him. I was glad that he was no longer in pain. I could not cry, he had suffered so much. He had wanted me to find another love, but I knew no one could take his place. In 2014 I met and married Mike. I was no longer alone. In 2020 I lost Mike. I still haven't been able to cry. I feel blessed to have had two good men to share my life with. The loneliness is so sad now. Love to you Trey and admiration for your strength and your love thru Theresa's journey.
So much loss. I’m sorry. May you find peace and comfort in God, family and friends.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I am the caregiver for my husband with Alzheimer’s. He was diagnosed in 2022. You have been a wonderful husband and caregiver. Hugs and prayers.
I’m so sorry. The caretaker roll is so hard in so many ways.
@9330krivers I am sure that you are a wonderful caregiver. My husband’s role has already been a reality as I was diagnosed of frontotemporal dementia last year 2/23/23. I was shocked to my core. I knew I had been acting erratically at times with my husband. He picked up on it and insisted I was checked out immediately. You would’ve thought I would have been the one to ask for MRI as I am the physician and he’s in television. But, no, I guess he realized that I was different in enough ways to warrant MRI. Confirmed by PET scan. My life has changed drastically since my diagnosis. It’s been my caregiver, who retired just to take on this task, that’s really pulling his weight. We’ve been together 34 years. I feel guilty knowing this is going to make him sad. When I read that someone is a caregiver, I stop to give them a hug. 🤗 I pray that your husband is doing well and enjoying life as much as possible.
Edit: There is a therapist online, Dr Natalie Edmunds who is very helpful and knowledgeable with all types of dementia. Her information is free. Plus, Teepa Snow. Always, Sheila, Atlanta
Hospice here for over 34 years. You just described the dying process. Cheyne stoke breathing, refusing food and water, hallucinating, etc. All these usually bother onlookers but is part of the dying process. So glad that you were there right up to her last breath on this earth and her first heavenly breath. That is a gift she gave to you. Grieving usually starts long before a person passes. Be kind to yourself, dear Trey, as you navigate through this new wilderness you've found yourself in. Ask and accept help if you need to at this time and know that there are thousands of people that are covering you in love, light, peace and prayers.❤
What a beautiful statement, last breath on earth, first breath in heaven! ❤
Well said !!!!!🙏🇬🇧
Beautiful written.🥰
Trey as a Lewy Body Dementia sufferer at 59 yrs I'd like to make a suggestion to those who want to contribute please consider your local Nursing homes and donate baby dolls baby blankets even the men could use some toy tools
They are the one's that would benefit the most or local animal shelters 😊
Hi @Toryberch. I am so very sorry that you are navigating through Lewy Body Dementia. Your suggestion above as to contributing to local nursing homes is an excellent Idea. I would also like to add a suggestion that those in a similar situation as you are, remember to arrange for a Living Will spelling out what kind of terminal care you DO and DON'T want as well as a Power of Attorning for medical matters and another POA for financial matters. Those documents helped my sister and I handle the final days of our father's life and and assure that he died with dignity. You are in my prayers.
@@betsywyks8277 thank you so much for your help that is good advice and I truly appreciate it ☺️
I have some of my wishes in writing like organ donor ❤️ and living will / poa medical but I do need to write down my needs for other things
Thanks Betsy for your prayers and kindness
Much love 💕 Tory
@@toryberch ....you are very welcome. I assume you know hat all of the documents you and I mentioned must be notarized so that medical personnel can honor them. Sending love and prayers on your journey.
@@betsywyks8277 Hi Betsy 👋👋 yes I have everything so far notorized but for anyone reading this it's helpful for them to know 😊👍
Thank you for your suggestion Tory and much love and support to you on this journey,
Trey, I feel for you in losing your beloved wife Theresa. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease and so young at 55 yrs. Take your time to grieve her, it's important that you do. I lost my younger sister to Alzheimer's last year June 4, 2023 A 68 yrs old. I had to watch her deteriorate, almost thin as a skeleton, I am glad she is no longer suffering with it, she is in heaven at peace. My sincere condolences Trey. 🌹💔😔🙏🙏
You were a caring and loving husband Trey. God bless you❤❤❤.
I worked for a hospice and I saw patients with Alzheimer’s but your story about Threasa was a good example of love
So sorry about this, Trey. She couldn't have had a better husband.
This is a love story for the ages, Trey is a role model for dedication, affection and pure love!
What a kind, gentle & sincere man you are Trey. So sorry for your loss
My dad was diagnosed in 2015 with pics dementia he died oct 19, 2022. I was his caretaker for 8 years and watched him die on hospice . I wiped his last tear
So sorry ,RIP Theresa
So very sorry Trey. I am an RN. I work in neurosurgery and neurology. I also worked at senior facilities. I have had many patients who were at the stage of terminal agitation. I am so glad you were with her till the end
GOD BLESS YOU.
The dark circles under your eyes speaks volumes. I am beyond grieved for you! Thank you for your sharing this very difficult time. My love to you and your family.❤😢
I cried for you. A love like yours for your wife is an unmatched example. Thank you, Trey!
My prayers are with you my friend. I can not thank you enough for sharing this personal journey with us. My wife was diagnosed a year ago at 53yo. You have helped me become a better caregiver and husband. You have been my rock. Thank You and God Bless.
How did they find out she has Alzheimer’s
She had a neuropsychiatric exam (3+ hour exam) and a lumbar puncture. The neuropsychiatric exam showed she had dementia, and the lumbar puncture determined the diagnosis of Early Onset Alzheimer's Disease. @@evakhaling
My mom has alzheimer's. Thank you for being brave for Teresa. You were her strength and knight in shining armor. Thank you for sharing your life with us. May you find peace and comfort. I feel Teresa has that now. ❤
I volunteer 2 mornings a week with a talented elderly artist who lives in a memory care facility. I am his art "teacher" and I really enjoy it and my art has become better since starting this. The manager, who had recently become my friend, invited me to be the elderly guy's art "teacher" This gives structure to my week and helps him, me, and the manager greatly. You never know when a "task" might become a "blessing."
I know your house is so quiet now. Get hobbies and learn to smile again. I'm so sorry Trey. I see how much you love her.
I am sorry for the lost of your beloved Theresa, she was so very fortunate for having you. Take care of yourself. God Bless You.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife. I am praying for you and may God comfort you like only He can.
I lost both of my parents due to complications from Alzheimer's Disease. Thry were my best friends. My hospice social worker told me that when I lost my mother, that it was worse than losing a spouse. I was their main caregiver. I almost died before my mom died.
You were so caring & loving to Theresa as her caregiver & husband. May God bless you abundantly. I am keeping you in my prayers 🙏 ❤
In God's love,
Debra ♥️🙏🙏♥️
Theresa will remain in our hearts. All of us send you our warmest blessings. The openness of your journey serves to educate many about the challenges of Alzheimer's Disease. You and Theresa have benefitted many by documenting her journey. We send our best wishes as you deal with your grief. It takes time.
My deepest condolences. Light and healing to you! 🙏
She was a Beautiful, Sweet Lady...
God's Speed....🤗🥰
Gone from sight, but NEVER forgotten. Theresa was DEFINITELY ‘well loved’!
My heart goes out to you. Your love for Theresa shows and will stay with you forever. She will always be a part of you. I know this because I have been through so much the same thing. My husband Ernie, the father of my 4 children passed after a battle with Early Onset Alzheimer's disease when he was 54. I was 48 at the time. I was blessed to be able to take care of him here at home for all but the last two days. Things were a bit different with him as he became more complacent. The last 2 years he became totally dependent on others for everything. He was nonverbal those 2 years. Our children were a lot of help during this time. My Ernie's Brother Gene passed the same year with the same condition. Their father passed at a young age with yet the same condition. It is very much a familial issue. After he passed in 1992. I then needed to go to work outside the home. I took a job at a local Memory Care Retirement Community in the Activity Department and later became the director of that department, I have now retired from this work but I still make things like fidget mats and such to donate to different care centers. Even though I have now married again and am very happy in this marriage, Ernie is still my first love and the father of my children. He would have turned 81 on the 4th of March. I miss him now as much as If he just left. My current husband is very supportive of my memories and keeping them alive. I have been blessed again. We live in Spring Hill, just a bit north of you. I often go to the beach area here to watch the shrimp boats go out for the night in the Gulf. Ernie was a lover of the sea and worked a lot on the shrimp boats. Watching them go out now all these years later, brightens those memories. Hugs and blessings to you, Yes, you will cherish her forever. Love never goes away.
God bless Theresa and you, and I can relate so much. My mother Angelina died in 2011 after 13 years of the ravages of Alzheimers. (Half of those years with me, and then in a nursing home, with me there every other day. ) I miss her lovely Italian singing, and her smile, and her greetings... "Hello, my dear girl, my darling girl....) I wait to see her again. Diana, Olympia, Wa.
Unbelievable, we are devastated
You were such a good husband to your wife take care. Of your self trey
You can cry on this channel. There is another youtuber sharing his grief journey and he does cry on camera. I am truly sorry you had to say goodbye to Teresa. You were a phenomenal husband. God bless you. ❤
There is no doubt in my mind that Theresa felt the love of everyone around her during her final hours. The sadness of losing a loved one never completely goes away but over time, the grief will fade and her memory will bring a smile to your face rather than tears to your eyes.
Rest easy T. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. ❤❤❤🪽🪽🪽
I was with my Mom when she passed from Alzheimer’s Trey. She lived in NC and I live in NY, so when I would visit she didn’t know who I was. But before she passed she she opened her eyes and smiled at me. So I know that at that moment before she died she knew who I was. That gave me great comfort to this day. I continue to care for my husband with LB as long as I’m able to. I will add Theresa to my donation in memory of her and my Mom. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers that the good Lord brings you, the family, and friends of Theresa comfort.🙏❤️
I have been thinking about you Trey and praying that you are ok.Im glad your family and friends are there for you! I will continue to watch your videos, they have really helped me with my Mothers journey with this horrible disease.
Trey, you are a true example of what a loving husband is. Thanks for loving Teresa the way you did to the very end. You are blessed my dear.❤🙏🌄
My dad’s rattle is seared into my brain it was terrible to listen to. I’m glad she is at peace …. Strength to you.
Fifteen months ago, I was a witness to that rattle, while trying to help a complete stranger who was gravely injured in a car crash. I had no idea who this woman was, but I’m STILL haunted by the experience.
I can’t even imagine going through that with a loved one. I hope I never have to find out.
Wish I could give you a hug in person. Glad to know you have friends and family to support you as you grieve. Much love and support for you and your family. Thanks for being so transparent and sharing this painful journey/
Trey, to me, you are a man on a mission to educate people about Alzheimer's/Dementia. You have done so much for so many by sharing Theresa's story. Honestly, I am still somewhat shocked at how quick her decline was at the end. I would totally understand if you decide to take a pause at this time. I am hoping you are getting some rest now.
I am sitting here with my mother now. It's almost 2 in the afternoon, and she is eating breakfast. Sleeping is her main function these days. It's necessary, it seems.
As you walk through this tough time in your life, I pray you feel all the love that surrounds you. It's amazing to me how many people are leaving so many kind and loving comments for you today.
Thank you again, Trey, for sharing your love story with all of us.
So sorry for your loss Trey. Theresa touched so many of us with her gentle manner and love. I doubt any of us will forget her. ❤
Im so sorry for your loss. ❤
She is now in peace. Doesn't complain anymore, isn't agitated etc. I think her passing in peace is the most comfortable thing.
So sorry for your loss of Theresa. You have been a remarkable husband and care giver for her for so long. We hope all your wonderful memories will help you to cope with the days ahead. Our deepest sympathy. Take care. 😢🙏
I am sorry for the loss of your Theresa, but so glad she is no longer suffering with this terrible disease. You were a wonderful husband and Caregiver. Thank you so much for loving Theresa to the very end
It’s a horrible disease that affects everyone involved! May she finally be at peace. May your memories bring you peace during these difficult times.
You are a really great husband and advocate for letting people know what it’s like to live with someone Who is affected by Alzheimer’s I want it’s truly like. Thank you for sharing your story.
You did a wonderful job, from my perspective. I am a retired RN. I think you loved her well. Prayers for you and her friends. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am so sorry. I live in Pinellas and had been looking for information to honor Theresa. If her Celebration of Life is public, and you would want guests, please let us know. I lost my mom recently to this horrible disease and couldn't see her in the last few years. I would love to celebrate such a sweet lady as Theresa, but only if it's open and public. When you lose someone, you never get over it, their passing becomes a part of you. I want to thank you for allowing us in on Theresa's journey, my mother punched the staff when we left the last time and I couldn't put the staff through that again, so I never saw her again. Please hold on to Theresa's things for about 6 months. Your mind will be less stressed and cluttered and you will make better decisions, decisions you wont regret later. I had worked in Hospice care and was educated on the care, but that means nothing when it's your own family, I'm so grateful to you both for letting us in. I hope you stay in touch with all of us and know we care about you. Also, patients have a lot of power over the entire process and Cher knew, it's amazing how much love Theresa had. I hope you find love and support in these comments that are written, you have a lot of wonderful people following you. Please take good care of yourself.
I agree about holding onto stuff for awhile.
I am sorry for your loss as well.
Thank you@@My2Talents
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Very sorry for your loss. My mother died from Alzheimers and I took care of her until the end. God bless you
I’m so sorry Trey. I know your heart is broken. You were such a precious, beautiful husband, caregiver, friend to Theresa. We care about you and want you to know that. Please continue to keep in touch. Praying for you in these hard days going forward.
Thank you Trey for taking the time to make this video. I was shocked when you posted the last video updating us on Theresa & informing us that she passed away. Rest in peace Theresa. She will be so missed! This disease has no boundaries & is relentless. So sorry that it was part of you & Theresa's story. In the end it was exacly on how she wanted it to be. Just the two of you, together until her final breath. Very honorable for Cher to recognize this as Theresa's wish. Theresa took the opportunity to take "the wheel" & do it her way! ❤ You and Cher have been in my thoughts and prayers. My mom is in end stage Dementia & I can only pray that her passing will be peaceful as well.
Happy to hear that you will continue with the channel and keep Theresa's memory alive. The grieving process is different for everyone & we will be here to support you any way we can moving forward.
Continued thoughts & prayers to all impacted by this diesase & my sympathies & condolences to you Trey & Cher, family and friends during this time of loss and grievance for a wonderful and beautiful lady, Theresa. 💜💜💜
Thank you for sharing Trey. You have been through so much. You were a great husband & an amazing caregiver. Take time for yourself. I’m sure Theresa would want you to have peace. ❤
So sweet. Your little kitty is worried about you. S/he is hovering next to you. To be supportive and provide some kitty love. Animals are so intuitive. They know when we need them. God bless you. May you find peace and comfort as you move forward. Big hug!
Trey, thank you for sharing Theresa’s journey. You and Theresa have given me so much insight to this horrid disease. My mom is 63 and is in late stages now. My dad made the decision late last year to put her in a memory care center. I have watched you for a while and I am so happy to see men like you and my dad, and the love you have for your wives. Your channel is refreshing as it gives us a real perspective of what occurs day to day. There is no normal with this disease, but there is a shared understanding. You have done a great job caregiving and I appreciate you and your channel. Theresa will be missed by this community. Please continue to post and keep us updated. ❤
So sorry for your loss it seemed so sad that she passed away so young may god bless you and your family and let the blessed mother keep you all in her tender care
I worked on end of life. Also my father had dementia. All you have done for Teresa was with love. She was a lucky lady. God bless you.
We love you. Teresa is watching over you!! Trey, im a nurse. Ive know because ive seen things i wish i hadn't. Ive been proxy for people who had no family at thier bedside during passing. I have the utmost respect for you and Teresa our beloved Angel!! Sending love and prayers. Jesus is with you. 🙏✝️❤️
You are so brave Trey. My husband has Alzheimers/dementia and he's getting to the angry stage. It's very difficult. I thank you for sharing yours and Theresa's story. She's at peace in God's hands. Stay in touch with all of us. You've become family 🙏😭
It's comforting to hear that Theresa passed on her terms. The same happened with my mother. Know that she will always be with you. One day at a time, Trey. Many blessings to you and your family.
God bless you Trey. You were such a bright light on Theresa's life. You two were so fortunate to have each other
Don’t be afraid to cry…we are here for you
My mom's battle ended the same. No food or drink for 14 days. It is hard, but I must say it is easier to let them go when you know they are in torment. My prayers are with you, Trey. We all know how much you loved her. You gave her the best care, love, and laughs she could have ever had. ❤
That's the body's way of starting the process, shutting down. I had a patient who only ate 1/4 cup of Cream of Wheat for 3 months. He was as in love with his wife as Trey was of Theresa. People really are amazing. We know what an amazing woman Theresa was by the man she married, we did get glimpses of her and she was so beautiful.
Thank you from my full and over-flowing heart for sharing these details, the ones that are so often omitted in the summary statement that someone has passed. The details help those of us who are traveling this path alone and scared and sad and have no compass. Peace be with you and much gratitude .
Trey, Thank you for caring so much for another human being. Not all husbands are like you. I’m sure your compassion will eventually extend far beyond this episode in your life. Thinking about you. from St Pete
God bless you. My husband is 3 years down the road with dementia diagnosis. Your videos help us!
Thank you for sharing Leslie. Much love and support to you both. God Bless
Back at you!
My deepest sympathies to you Trey. You and Theresa were blessed with the time you had together. You certainly did your best and loved her wholeheartedly.
Your heart must be broken. Take care of YOU !
Respectfully
Theresa
Hello Trey…. Just came across you and your wife’s channel. What a loving and caring husband you are. May God continue to give you all the health. . Strength.. peace and courage you need at this time so that you can continue living your life ,without your beautiful wife Theresa who went to be with God. Sending lots of love your way.😊
I'm heartbroken for you. I know how brutal Alzheimer's is...its a blessing that she is now complete in heaven again. Trey, I am so sorry. I will keep you in my prayers. ❤
You were such a wonderful caregiver and husband. You are in our prayers.
A cruel disease for all involved and you hung in there for Theresa and us. You honored her with your total support and upheld those marriage vows that sound so trite as they are spoken but have true meaning in the time we are called to serve each other. May her memory be for a blessing. God bless.
So sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife. You have been the best Husband and Caretaker. God Bless you, you are in my prayers.
I’ve been hoping to hear from you soon. God bless you. My sincere condolences
Sending you and the family so much love. You and Theresa have made a huge impact on my life, not just as a caregiver but as a human being. Many people vow "in sickness and in health" but are not ready to face what that reality means. But you and Theresa's love was so much stronger than any disease. Thank you for everything you have shared from your lives. She will always be with you.
So sorry. My husband is 57 and I am 55. My journey gets harder and harder as the days go by. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Much love and support to you
I am living with early onset, Alzheimer’s disease, 52 years old to your adult children
so sorry for your loss my condolances , and prayers goes out to you and family and friends
Trey you were a good husband. Theresa was lucky to have you by her side. I pray for strength for you to get through her passing. My deepest condolences.
I am relieved that her suffering is over. You did what yoy could and I know she is grateful. I will still be following your journey.
This was heartbreaking and beautiful to listen to.
Please continue to use this platform to show us your life as you heal. You are an incredible human Trey
Trey thank you for loving your wife so beautifully, you are a wonderful man.
I'm so sorry to hear this. You took great care of her. God bless you!!!
I'm so sorry for your loss, I took care of my mother-in-law with dementia it's a horrible disease,I've learned so much through my mother in law .
Oh my goodness I'm so so sorry 😢 wow praying for you Trey ❤
God bless you sir for standing with this precious woman and not leaving her side in her final days and hours. Find peace knowing that she walks with our Father in heaven and she suffers no more.❤🇨🇦
My heart goes out to you. I'm praying for you and that the Lord envelops you in His love and peace.
Theresa is with our Savior and you'll see her again. God bless you.
Trey, I am, although for cancer, watching my husband get weaker his diagnosis is terminal. Please accept my sincere sorrow for your journey. I have been with a number of people who have passed, and this is the hardest because he is the love of my life.
So sorry for these circumstances you and your husband are facing. My thoughts are with you.
@@tpippen75 Trey, my heart goes out to you. My sister-in-law just passed recently from Alzheimer’s but she was 86. It’s terribly sad when a young person gets this terrible disease. It seems to be becoming more and more prevalent. I’m prepared to become an activist for cancer and Alzheimer’s, I certainly understand your rationale. It serves two purposes, it gives you purpose as well as fulfillment. God bless you.
I'm so sorry! Prayers for you and him.
Trey, you’re an amazing person and husband. Don’t hesitate to lean on the people who offer their support, you’ll need it & you deserve it; it’s your time to rest & heal and get adjusted to your new normal. Fantastic idea to exercice! You’ll get through this, you can be at peace that you did everything you could, and more. Bless you❤
Sending hugs and love your way. I can't imagine what your going through. Thank you for sharing.
I recently found your channel and send my condolences. So sorry for your loss. Your honesty on the daily life of caring for a dementia patient is undoubtedly helping people who just received a diagnoses.
I’m so sorry for your loss. You have been a been a beacon of strength to me. Our journeys have been similar. I only hope I have your strength and composure when “the bride” passes. You have support from all around the world.
Trey, it’s Sheila & Darren from Atlanta. Both of our hearts are broken. You will never know how your videos have affected us. Some of them are hard to watch knowing that my journey with frontotemporal dementia is progressing and we don’t know what to expect. Since your videos have given ideas and suggestions of what to do in case of agitation or confusion, my husband has a clearer understanding that he is going to have to be creative in helping me with my anger and combativeness. My neurologist has now referred palliative care to my home. We are going to continue to follow you because we know, as you said, your grief journey has just begun. My husband will reach out to you in the coming weeks by email. Your supportive nature is very strong and encouraging and evident on these videos. I wish I could say something profound, but all I know for sure is that Theresa loved and adored you. I am unable due to my new comorbidities to walk miles, but I can donate as I do already. Please expect something from us in your P.O. Box. We are sending love from the both of us. 💜Sheila & Darren ❤Rest In Peace Sweet Theresa
Love you both so much. Thank you for being there for me - I am here for you guys. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless
Holding you, Theresa & your kitties in my heart swaddled in love. Peace.❤
I am so very sorry for your loss. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in Jan 2023. I only hope I can be as helpful to him as you were to your precious Theresa. May God give you comfort and peace.
Please reach out to the Alzheimer's Society. My mother just raged from early on. We had to put her in an Alzheimer's Community and get a Guardian, she was then diagnosed with Schizophrenia. She had problems for decades but wouldn't see anyone. Each patient is different and there are so many wonderful things they helped us with. Please take very good care of yourself.
You were/are best husband ever. So sorry for your loss. Grieve. Then move forward. She loved you SO MUCH and would want you to be happy.
I will continue to follow you in this journey. My husband is dying from liver failure and I appreciate your honesty and transparency in your journey. We all have benefits in some way.
Much love and support to you Pam.
I am so sorry for your loss. Theresa was blessed to have had such a wonderful , kind and gentle husband that was by her side to the end.