Comparing dating stories.. 🇺🇸 American vs British guys 🇬🇧 (omg)
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It was great to catch up with my girl Steph and hear some of her hilarious dating stories, it couldn't be more different from my own experiences!
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Being accepted at Juilliard is a real honor and means that your career is going someplace big! Best wishes to Steph! She seems lovely!
a reason...I think...americans (I’m American) go on coffee dates before it's b/c they don't want to spend their night having dinner with someone you just know within the hour it isn't going to work, that's why a day date is a thing, smaller amount of time spent
Eric Gutierrez Reveles that can happen at anytime
Yes going out for coffee or maybe a drink is always a good call (for the guy and the gal) because it’s low pressure and easy to bail if things aren’t clicking.
I’m British and people go on coffee dates here so it’s not just an American thing. But yeah bars are probably more common in the UK
Dating in NY is an animal in and of itself. Much more forward upfront. I like a slower roll.
It's considered survival dating till locking for everlasting loves
In NY? I'm a New Yorker and it's not that easy to just go up to a random person and get things going. NY is full of coldness.
You said you girlfriend went to juilliard school that is a VERY prestigious school with a 8 percent or lower acceptance rate. You must be proud of her
She’s a great actress!! So excited to see her career develop x
Dating is an area where I think ethnic and religious backgrounds play a far larger role than nationalities. Although there are no doubt secular norms within each country.
100% agree! I actually feel very at ease these days being with someone from the same ethic and religious background as me as we have had similar upbringings xx
Lia Hatzakis you’re very lucky! I have yet to find someone where we’re on the same page. I could see a future but he will play on that and then string me a long until he gets bored or finds someone else 💔😔
In the U.S. political views can be a dealbreaker as well.
Because America is racist
When we first started dating, I invited my husband to my brother's birthday out at a bar for our second date. Figured my brother would be drunk and wouldn't pay attention at all. Didn't know my other brother would be there and not drinking at all due to a medical issue at the time. My husband and brother ended up talking a ton and really getting on well together. It worked out perfectly since I knew from the beginning that he would fit in with my family (who is very close), but my husband was the most nervous he's ever been. Been together 7 years since then!
I am from the States and much older than you. Even if you were the worst person and date i had ever been with, there would be a standoff if you tried to pay. It was ingrained in me that a man pays. You might get away with leaving the tip, and even then i would spruce it up if you left what i thought was too little(I bussed tables in my younger days).
The saint halo was funny, plus i love the way you looked wistfully into the camera and stated that 'you have not been on the dating scene in so long' and then quickly and smartly threw in that you were 'glad for it'.
Oh trust me American guys ghost plenty!!!! The fun part is when they come calling in a couple months or crawling back begging for forgiveness and I have moved on. I love listening to the reasons they give lol but I also don't give second chances to anyone who has ghosted me or lied to me to break up.
Susanne,can you hit me up on Instagram?
@alva.schwabe let's talk and see where life takes us
I would say no to them go away I'm a Brit 😁
As an American man, I feel like it really depends on the individual person. I've gone on many first dates at night time (dinner & a movie). I also have friends who would never in a million years allow their parents to even slightly have a say in who they're dating. Whereas my mom's opinion on who I'm dating is fairly important to me. But these cultural conversations are really dope to me. Great video 💯
Congrats on 30k Lia 🎉🥂✨
It's always a treat to watch your videos all the way through to hear you sing at the end.
Dating is horrible. Never want to do that ever again. If something happens to my husband I will just be that old cat lady everyone in town refers to.
Great content, Lia. Fun topic so well done!
Never a dull subject matter on your site. Love it!
Wow 30K subscribers! Congratulations Lia!! I remember when you & Joel started your own channels. Much love & continued success!! ❤️xoxo❤️ Glenda
Congrats on 30k subs. Always enjoy your outtro singing.
This was a great video. Loved the halo, perfect accessory for any occasion
Thanks for the great advice!
I liked the cork popping sound at the beginning! Also love this view of you in your apartment. Your framed art for Ach looks fabulous in the window. It is always interesting to hear dating stories. I was so clueless when I was a teen/twenty year old. Hopelessly embarrassed by the whole dating process. Mercifully never got hurt, because looking back I put myself in some very unsafe situations (before cell phones and apps).
Awww, that was so great! I could have listened to that conversation for another 30 minutes! Dating is so anxiety provoking anyway, let alone cross cultural dating! Definitely agree that meeting the parents is a big deal and is definitely a sign that the relationship is getting very serious!
I adore these cultural conversations and country differences. Aaand listening to your thoughts and monologues - your mind is similar to mine, but you are way more good in speaking and telling stories❤
can you hit me up on Instagram?
@alva.schwabe let's talk and see where life takes us
Okay, these particular dating traits are definitely linked to NYC specifically. The quick meets over coffee, though that’s becoming more standard elsewhere. Not everyone would take a new date to a family event but it’s common in the city when guys (or gals) are trying to avoid the family question, when are you gonna meet someone. Also, people try to date fast when they’re looking for an apartment. So if it’s time-sensitive maybe they’ll just go ahead and see if the person is a match for the family right away. No time to waste when you are looking for someone to split the rent on a good deal on a place with a doorman. 🤷♀️
Wow - talk about *pressure* 😂
Yep, get outside the big cities and dating is a whole other rodeo.
A fun video! You look beautiful, Lia! 😊💕
Thank you! 🤗 too kind xx
Beautiful voice Lia👏🏼
“My friend went to this school in New York called Juilliard.” I was like gurlllll, don’t you know how AMAZING that is?
Being a Latina woman I don't believe a lady should ever have to pay on the first dinner 🤦♀️ Not worth my time!
“When a guy pays for dinner, all he’s paying for is the pleasure of your company while dining” is the best lesson my Mom ever taught me about dating.
love you lia 😘
Hi Lia I watched your live stream with Joel yesterday...please come to Victoria BC - I was born and raised here and would love to show you the boundless beauty of the Island (Vancouver Island is 1/4 the size of the UK). Anyways, I discovered you and Joel couple months ago and am enjoying your videos more than I can express. I'm Canadian but half British and have many friends and family members in the UK. England is my second home and I'm missing it desperately this year because of travel restrictions - it's the first year in almost a decade that I haven't made it across the pond! Listening to you two both individually and together makes missing my loved ones a little more bearable. So thank you for your enthusiasm, your humour, and of course your sarcasm :)
Victoria is gorgeous! I can definitely imagine Lia loving it
I absolutely love it when you sing! Your voice is so lovely! As to the online dating, I have to say that I’ve never tried Tinder but the sites I did try the guys I had conversations with were actually quite nice and respectable. Especially on the in-person dates. And I usually offer to split the bill but consider them more gentlemen if they would pay and, in my eyes, I would hold them to a higher standard. But, that’s the way I was raised, even though 99% of the time I’m about being a strong and independent woman. But it’s nice for a strong confident man to say, “no, I got you”, you know?
This is why we have coffee dates.. no long dinners 😌 and no worries about them paying for nothing
As with other facets of American society, this varies greatly across the board. My parents aren't involved at all in my dating or romantic life, and neither are my partners parents. Of course I think most of us want our family and our partner to be able to coexist, but I wouldn't say everyone's mother gets to say who you date or marry. I also always avoided parental introductions unless I was incredibly serious about someone.
Y’all are so RIGHT! My friends have said this over & over again! Thank God I’m married!🥰it’s so sad!
Coffee dates are very normal in the US. It's a perfect way to meet the person, make sure you like them at least on a friendly way, and it doesn't take too much time or money for a coffee date.
The Swedish have mastered the coffee break. They call it “fika” and it is an integral part of their society and dating culture.
I found this was quite interesting I never thought about the possibility of their being differences between the two countries and their dating culture.
I found the attitudes to the different dating apps really interesting! x
I think dating is very different depending on the size of the population and the region where you live. If there is a lot of competition or nearly none, people may start to develop very different attitudes. They may feel a different sense of promise (optimism or pessimism) towards the prospects or seriousness (commitment/respect or lack of) to a relationship.
I agree.Also it depends on your age. I started dating again in my 40's and it was a minefield as well as an extremely small pool of availability
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@alva.schwabe let's talk and see where life takes us?
I thought for a moment a formula was coming out of it.
You have an awesome guy now such a cute personality 😊
I look forward to hearing you sing.
I usually put my singing underneath the end card! xx
@@liahatz I really like your voice.
For each of my boyfriends I made it a super casual event when they met my family. I tried my best to make it so that meeting my family wasn't something to be nervous over. They're huge part of my life so so if the boyfriend doesn't get along with my family I knew he was not a good fit. My mother-in-law introduced me to my husband. We worked together in some volunteer work. I had heard about him from other people and liked what I heard. One of the times that we met up to work together she brought him with her. I thought she just wanted extra help. I found out later at my bridal shower that she was hoping she was picking out her daughter-in-law. I know she would have never pried into our personal lives if it didn't work out between us. She didn't say anything to make us connect, she just knew from knowing both of us that we would enjoy each other's company.
This is a really lovely story of how you got together with your husband
As an American, as a descendant of Cubans, it is considered unkind to not invite someone over to Xmas, New Years or Thanksgiving if you think that person will be alone.
The idea is that we should all extend our homes during this time. This is also a time to donate food to charity(although we should do that year round.)
Love this chit chatty video about dating.I recommend a brilliant book called 'The Rules' by Fein and Schneider. The writers are American but it can be used with dating situations in either country :)
Sincere, truthful and caring man is just okay for me
I’m American and I was telling all of my British friends how much I want a British boyfriend. They are so charming
Go for it! We love someone who knows what they want 👏 x
don't date someone from Cardiff.
yes British guys are the best men
That was fun to watch and btw, you look fabulous. You would have sooo many quality men lined up to take you out. Dating would be no problem. Depend on your friends for intros. I wouldn’t trust any dating links. Anyway, thank your sweet friend. That was delightful. ❤️
Great video lovely Lia!!! ❤ I think dating in Australia is more similar to the UK than the US.
Yes Greek culture is very similar to Italian, I’m exactly the same even though I’m also British ❤️🇮🇹
Really wonderful voice
Super fun.
I just published it Leo there's no way you've watched it already 😂
Lia Hatzakis I am super smart. I am saying, it is super fun being here with all my friends. :).
J Jobs 😀😀
American here; not everyone in the country is the same - big city/small towns, cultural differences, etc are a factor - that being said -
It is odd for us to date someone for over a year and not introduce them to the family. That doesn’t necessarily mean it’s serious as in ‘they’re the one’. It could be ‘they’re the one right now’.
We wouldn’t introduce the fam if it’s just a casual thing.
So somewhere between significant to serious they would get a fam introduction - but it still doesn’t mean they are the forever one.
If it’s not serious then we don’t usually date for as long as 3 years, but sometimes we do. A lot of 3/4 year relationships end - you see it’s not gonna happen and why throw more time into it it?
If we are living together than typically the family has met them.
We do usually want to know what the fam thinks, and though they don’t make the final decision, the fam’s opinion carries a lot of weight.
Yes, this is very accurate and what we do where I live in the central U.S. I would bring a girlfriend to something like a family cookout even if we have been dating just a couple of months. It is in a way looking for approval and shows that we are kind of serious, but it is nevertheless really really casual. And no one would really care if we stopped dating a couple of months later. It’s no biggie.
American girl here! But Arab immigrant parents so I feel more related to the UK mentality than the US way, my parents have met 0 people I've dated because I take that very seriously. I agree though the US is much more lenient and a lot of my friends don't understand why I am the way I am about relationships. Dating in the US is such a difficulty, I lived in London for awhile and that was so much more my scene, I need to make the move or I am going to be single old cat lady (honestly sounds blissful). So glad you had this comparison!
How can I get your music please?? ❤️❤️
I’m also an older generation before dating apps. My first boyfriend (senior year of high school) I met through a part-time job I had. He was very cute and I was happy when he asked me out. Second major relationship was in college. We met in a class and dated for quite a while. Then I met my husband through mutual friends. He came with to a social event and I said “who is that cute guy?” He asked me out and we’ve been together ever since. I never did go on many random dates.
This sounds like my story! I met my boyfriends at church camp or in college. I met my husband (23 years now 😁) in graduate school. Dating apps sound terrifying to me 👀
Its funny though. If a woman called me cute I would assume that implied a lack of attraction
coffee dates work because you can end the date more quickly than at a bar or restaurant, if things are not going to work out... and you still have the evening to do something else...
Such an interesting video
Amanda,can you hit me up on Instagram?
@alva.schwabe let's talk and see where life takes us
If you me yourself except while asking the questions, then it wouldn't jump over to you for chuckling 😍
I'm a man (debatable) but I would insist on paying for the date because it was me who asked her to spend 'time' with me. If I could tell she wasn't enjoying herself or that there was no prospects for further dates then even more reason for me to pay for her time wasted.
Your friend must be dating someone from up north in America. Southern guys are completely different. I wish her luck.
Not just “up North” - cities in the Northeast, more like. I don’t imagine that level of abruptness going over well at all in the Midwest or the West.
❤️ from Minnesota 😄
Margaret,can you hit me up on Instagram?
@alva.schwabe let's talk and see where life takes us?
I have been single for 11years now.
@@goosebump801 totally agree...it’s more of a urban/rural and even regional divide. I live in a large metro area in the central U.S. and I disagree with most of what they say here. Except the coffee date thing...since I’m still kind of city-cultured, this would be the most desirable type of first date.
parents meeting their kid's O.H. jeez that's a nightmare and only should be done if people are about to marry or something, whether the person is nice or not.
It matters to parents to like your partner because they will be part of the family and partners pull your child away so you rarely see them if ever
Julliard is the Harvard of music schools!
Love the halo...😆😆😆😆😆
How did girl + boy come to ZOMBIE Apocalypse. I live in California and very near a magical place a famous boardwalk on the sea. In my youth , at night it was lite up! Rides , games, candy apples, cotton candy, real coca cola, hot dogs, milkshakes and friends. At one end was a huge ballroom with a Big Band playing Friday & Saturday nights. This was 50’s-60’s. Our dates / beau’s wore suits we young ladies wore our prettiest dresses. Through the ballrooms open doors came the breath of the sea, salty cool refreshing breeze. The sand and Pacific Ocean just feet away. The ballroom has long been turned into a game room so enormous LOUD you cannot and would not even be able talk with ones date. The young these days are missing out on the pure splendor Of courting, being courted, of having a beau. Good manners, the car door always opened for you. Feeling happy on a first date without expecting anything but a fun time. And honestly if we all ever courted one for too long of course one wouldn’t ever marry. It’s not about the life style it’s about life. Everyday life. Waking up next to the same person every morning, laundry, cooking, family’s, friends and being lucky enough to be able to do it all over again the next morning . It’s the simplest daily responsibility that keeps us sane keeps us grounded. The person you’ve made memories with and connect with. Stop imagining what life would look like with that person and instead imagine what life would look like without that person.
This was lovely! How beautifully you evoke the romance of yesteryear.... 💐
Hell, my brother thought my wife could better than me and no one in my family objected. We had been dating 4 months when I met her family. My family didn't know much, my wife and I have been together 39 years. She is my treasure, and I am hers.
Cultures really differ. I don't know how women and men date from their neighbour's or ppl from their communities, or think traveling an hr to see someone is too much. I didnt ever get with anyone living too near to me. Dating now is so different anyway i got married over a decade ago and if I was to be dating right now, I would just stay single cause it would b such a waste of my time.
It’s impossible when you are over 35.
Tks for your video PLS May I ask u kindly If the British boy or the man is really interested in a girl after how does he consider the relationship serious? nd introduce the girl to the family nd feiends? Nd If the family does not approve? Which kind of girl do British guys or men generally like? Thanks much
so lia is your friend British English or is she American as she has an American accent
Dating in NYC is COMPLETELY different than everywhere else in the U.S, men are much more civilized in the South
When it’s ON it’s ON..day or night... I pay for everything...
People, don’t take your jump-offs to family holiday gatherings, it’s tacky.
Every single time I watch your videos, my homesickness for the UK pops up and my desire to move there back upon graduation is getting bigger day by day. 🇬🇧 British people are the nicest in the world, I feel very lucky that I got to be an exchange student there for a couple of months! 🙏💕
I'm telling you without any exaggeration, your channel is one of the best I've ever found on TH-cam! I love listening to your vids, they're a great way to improve my listening skills besides collecting new pieces of information. I'm hoping to meet you once in person; although I know it is quite impossible given to the fact that influencers don't meet their followers (there might be a few exceptions, but still...). All in all, I just want to say thank you for being such an inspiration for me and a person I can look up to. Keep going!
Aww thanks for this lovely comment!! I would absolutely love to travel to Hungary one day xx
@@liahatz ❤❤❤
English woman here dating an American guy! And wow what a different experience 🙏🏼
British guys aren’t for me anymore 😝
What improved your dating experience with American guys?
More like we didn't look at you
Am looking forward for the man of my dream, who is loving, caring and focus.
I'm an American and the coffee is normal especially to get to know someone. It does keep alcohol out of the equation. But the one coffee date I did go on was a blind date set up by a woman I worked with and it was a complete disaster. When I would ask her any question I would get the shortest possible answer yes or no typically even if the answer would typically be longer. She apparently led the most sheltered life possible and had never been more than 20 miles from home. It was very difficult to carry a conversation with her.
Use push to talk. Your muted unless you press the button
How sweet! 🤗" a school called Juilliard " .... yeah, we call it : Juilliard 😄💕 4hd 💋
I got a huge kick out of that!! Guess Lia doesn't know that Julliard is probably the most prestigious school for acting in the US!!!
Deborah Johansen Or like if we said “a woman called the Queen” 😁
I’m sure she does Deborah, but some people outside the US might not have heard of it.
@@juliebrooke6099 I forget they have fans all around the world 😄💕
@@MaryMary-pr4iu can you hit me up on Instagram?
@alva.schwabe let's talk and see where life takes us?
58 it's late for me!! I have a better chance of getting struck by lightning!! True story!! 😂🤣🤗🤗💐💐
Sooo. Ummmmm. I may have invited my current boyfriend to go to a wedding with me before we were officially dating. I mean the wedding was super chill and relaxed and was just a friends but still. Now that I look back, maybe that was a bit much. Well I mean I haven’t scared him off in the past two years yet so I think we are good. 😅
Coffee dates are more like interviews. It’s a cop out for guys.
可爱girl
Juliard- the best drama school in the US. Robin Williams is an alumnus.
I would Never say something mean. But women are mean to me. And that’s ok because it’s not about me.
Dear Lia, when you said friend in New York I thought you meant Christie but turns out you were talking about Steph. How many friends are in New York and is there any others in America? XX 👱♀️👗👠👠
half greek x
Lia how did you meet Ash?
At church x
Sharon,,can you hit me up on Instagram?
@alva.schwabe let's talk and see where life takes us?
I have been single for 11years now.
Hi sweetie love you 😘❤️❤️
Someday I hope I'll be a Puerto Rican sounding NYC concubine with the jaw of a professional heavyweight boxer.
Lia, if you pay it all do you expect the man to put out? I feel so used! :0 Better be a real nice dinner girl ! :)
"Except my dad's brother and my current boyfriend" : she dated her uncle.
Dad, brother, current boyfriend. Are those the people I listed that have paid for me?
OK, when you go on a date all goes well, (dinner so on) is it mandatory to my sex?
British guys are cute I'm Mexican from USA
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You said you were half Greek. Which half? Top, bottom, front, back, left side, right side, inside or outside.
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I'm American and my parents were NOT like that, she had the same mindset as your mom's.
My God, you’re beautiful! I kinda had an idea you were part Greek. I mean, you don’t see too many Brits with a name like Hatzakis, do you? Maybe that’s part of the reason behind your incredible beauty. 😉
Coffee dates is also a way to protect the men too. Horrible Women use "dates" just for free meals and ghost the men. Which is horrible. But a coffee date is a great way to protect the man from these types of women.
It’s desirable for both parties for sure.
I would never ghost you that's just freaking wrong.
thanks Brad 😂
This was a great video and an interesting topic. I’ve never been on a date or had a boyfriend even though I’m 33 don’t judge LOL. I would love to go on a date but now I am afraid that I’ll meet a shark. Especially that I am visually impaired. Oh well, you never know. Someone might like me LOL😊
Don't let it hold you back if you feel like dating - just go for it! xx
Lia Hatzakis thank you for the encouragement☺️
If you ask me “The hottest guy in the world or a nice British guy?” I would say the British guy no question 😂
Hi Lia. I'm an American woman of an older generation. I agree that I typically would not introduce dates to family unless it was serious. Additionally, I don't understand the current Plus-One culture of bringing a date to a wedding. I grew up thinking that weddings were a religious rite, mainly for family and friends, not a stage show.
can someone tell me why do British men call people (including their girlfriends) 'knobhead'?? is this a common thing?
the kuhniverse yeah it’s really gross right. I hate that word, it’s just slang. Can be used jokingly or offensively. Search the definition and examples on urban dictionary x
That is a sarcastic joke for doing something foolish.
But to their girlfriend? Unheard of tbh
@@Matteo-kl9lw
Yeah, I dated a guy who called me knobhead. I broke up with him over it, actually. Once I found out what it meant, I asked him to stop calling me that word, and his response was that I ought to stop being controlling and manipulative... because apparently it's controlling and manipulative to ask to not be called a degrading word....
(he is from Cardiff, I am American)