I love this insight into the other side 😂 I made a career change and told my therapist last time. You could tell she KNEW I needed a change but hadn’t said anything 😂😂😂
Never tell a client what to do. They have to come to the realization themselves in order to feel empowered and invested in their decisions. Building up our clients' ability to make their own decisions, learn from their own mistakes, and see they are capable of caring for themselves is our main goal. Making a relationship decision for them muddies the waters within the therapist/client relationship. It is no longer a safe therapuetic space, The client may hold back the truth if they return to the relationship, they may feel resentment towards the therapist for "making" them leave, they may blame you for their other struggles if they do leave such a financial, housing, childcare, etc.
I went to a domestic violence training years ago that stated the actual most dangerous time for a person in an abusive relationship can truly be when they decide to leave and they said to never actually encourage that if the client wasn't actually looking to do that, in which case you then could support. Their perspective is that it can truly be dangerous for a client to leave and so they need to decide for themselves which is more dangerous....staying or leaving. So hard. So I agree, that's not something I would say either.
I love this insight into the other side 😂
I made a career change and told my therapist last time. You could tell she KNEW I needed a change but hadn’t said anything 😂😂😂
Never tell a client what to do. They have to come to the realization themselves in order to feel empowered and invested in their decisions. Building up our clients' ability to make their own decisions, learn from their own mistakes, and see they are capable of caring for themselves is our main goal. Making a relationship decision for them muddies the waters within the therapist/client relationship. It is no longer a safe therapuetic space, The client may hold back the truth if they return to the relationship, they may feel resentment towards the therapist for "making" them leave, they may blame you for their other struggles if they do leave such a financial, housing, childcare, etc.
Sooo well said! I wouldn't want someone telling me what to do either!
I went to a domestic violence training years ago that stated the actual most dangerous time for a person in an abusive relationship can truly be when they decide to leave and they said to never actually encourage that if the client wasn't actually looking to do that, in which case you then could support. Their perspective is that it can truly be dangerous for a client to leave and so they need to decide for themselves which is more dangerous....staying or leaving. So hard. So I agree, that's not something I would say either.
Yes thats such a good point!