her point about empathy blind spots is so true. I've totally seen kids (and adults) justify being mean to someone they've labeled as "annoying" or "weird". We need to call that out more.
It's so true that as parents, we often jump to the word “bullying,” but not every conflict deserves that label. Really makes me rethink how I want to respond to my kids.
This is so true! When we adults step in to solve problems kids could solve on their own (or with some behind-the-scenes coaching), we steal their opportunity to develop coping skills!
I'm glad to see this stuff being spoken about. Yeah kids are mean and some are a lot more sensitive than others. I don't think we'll ever get to a point where bullying doesn't exist but learning to manage it better is a good start
This talk is a great reminder that kids need guidance on how to handle social situations, not just protection from them. We can't bubble wrap their whole lives!!
Very true! Even adults struggle with this. I see a lot of people dismissing others as "toxic" or whatever. Maybe they are, and a cut-off is the only alternative, or maybe they're imperfect human beings, like us, and we need to figure out how to listen/speak up/move forward in better ways.
I never thought about how telling kids they’re “bullied” could make them feel powerless. teaching them to handle meanness on their own seems so much more empowering.
Her story about Aiden was touching. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for, and sometimes they just need a little guidance to move past conflicts.
wish my school had this kind of insight when i was growing up. coulda used some of these strategies to deal with the mean kids instead of just labeling everything as bullying.
Reframing those minor incidents as "ordinary meanness" is actually pretty helpful. To see it as a normal part of growing up means we can help our kids navigate it instead of just trying to eliminate it entirely.
Ooft this kinda hits close to home... I was horrifically bullied in grade school and the first year of high school. I remember thinking I'd rather unalive myself than have to go through that kind of treatment and yeah, it absolutely sticks with you
Man when I went to school, if you told anyone in charge someone was being mean to you or bullying you you were called a dobber and things got immeasurably worse lol I'm glad to see things are different now and there's a bit more help navigating it all
Love the emphasis on teaching kids how to be in relationships. It's such a crucial life skill that often gets overlooked and then when people grow up we wonder why they're so terrible at it
Great point about how our kids can contribute to conflicts too. It's easy to always blame the other kid, but teaching our own kids accountability is crucial.
Very true! I think our instinct as parents is often to protect our kids. If it's genuine bullying, and our kid is truly powerless, that might make sense, but whenever possible, teaching kids to handle those unavoidable friendship rough spots is more empowering.
Solid advice overall, but I think some situations might need more intervention than she suggests. Still, it's good to have these tools in our parenting toolbox.
She makes some great points around the 4:00 minute mark and it makes me think that maybe that's what's happening with "cancel culture" - people being oversensitive and accusing others of that power imbalance behavior when really it's just regular meanness.
Wow the thing about those girls making a whole website about what they didn't like about that girl is just so extreme. I don't have kids so I've never thought about how they'd be bringing technology into bullying.
I like how she balances acknowledging the seriousness of bullying while also putting everyday conflicts in perspective. It's a tricky line to walk but this is all really helpful advice
As a teacher, I see these dynamics play out every day on the playground. I'm happy to hear someone address the nuances between bullying and everyday conflicts.
I really appreciate the distinction she makes between bullying and meanness and yes, when poor conflict resolution has taken place all kinds of accusations start getting thrown around
I wish more schools would focus on teaching kids how to handle conflict instead of just pretending it doesn’t happen or giving out adverse punishments for it
Yes! A prosecutorial approach, figuring out who is most at fault, doesn't help kids cope with ordinary disagreements and mistakes. True bullying is a different matter.
Dr. Kennedy-Moore, this is terrific! Ordinary meanness isn’t bullying, and we all need to learn the various ways to be strong and handle it. Lessons here for kids, parents, and adults. THANK YOU!
It really is the best thing I've ever invented! People talk about sandwiching a criticism between two positive remarks, but nobody hears the positives when there's a negative in the middle! Honestly seeing the situation from the other person's point of view and acknowledging it by opening with an excuse for why they did what they did puts us on the same page. It raises empathy, lowers anger, and gets around the normal defensiveness we all have.
I love the practical advice here. The "maybe game" sounds like a great tool for helping kids (and adults!) develop perspective-taking skills. Gonna try this with my son.
I told my older sister how I was bullied and "chose" for an after school fight, and she said, "those kids are insecure and that's why they do it." I said, "yeah that's good to know, but they'll just do it again tomorrow!"
that's so crazy! sorry you had to go through that ❤I also think it is kids and adults with nothing else going on in their life so they come up with a sad excuse for an activity, lol. people who want to fight should go into that sport and leave normal people alone. When I was in college, one night at this bar, this other girl wanted to fight me... it was so weird, but thankfully, I was in a group of tall girls, like 5'11 girls and I'm 5'1😂 I told one of my friends and she gave the other girl a look and for the rest if the night, that other girl left me alone... I guess they singled me out because I was petite or something 😅
Children have mirror neurons in brain and they mimic adults words and behavior, as Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Joe Dispenza say. Adults also have mirror neurons in brain but they choose whom they will mimic, because adults use analytical part of brain. The brain is emotionally finished at age 25.
I remember we had a fight being students with a crowd of local girls in another town. We didn't expect that, but they were prepared to beat us. They were a few of us, though we didn't give up. People fought we were heroes, because among those girls were prisoners.
THANK YOU, EILEEN! This is an excellent lesson I've struggled to articulate with my kid clients. My middle school clients especially could benefit from learning to spot their "empathy blind spots". I will be sharing this!
Kids, by definition, lack perspective. They just haven't been around that long! I'm sure that moment was very painful for your kid. AND I'm sure your kid managed to get through it. That's important learning. As adults, we know that's not the last disappointment your kid will face. Knowing they were strong enough to get through that one could make it easier to handle the next one. Dr. Eli Lebowitz talks about giving our kids the gifts of empathy (because those tough moments are tough!) plus confidence (because we know they're strong enough to get through those tough moments, even when they don't yet know that).
I liked the idea of talking to the bully/mean person in a non-aggressive way, e.g. "that wasn't nice' or "that was mean." Being asse45ive rather than passive or aggressive.
her point about empathy blind spots is spot on. I've caught myself doing this with coworkers I find annoying. Definitely something to be more mindful of.
I've not connected the dots before on how ordinary meanness is a thing that just happens amongst kids. It's actually good to know that no ones a target of it, it's just how kids are
The number one reaction I get from parents to my books/podcast is "This applies to adults, too!" We don't just figure out relationships at age 9 and then we're done. Even as adults, in new situations and new relationships, we keep needing to learn!
Interesting point about how anti-bullying efforts can sometimes lead to overuse of the term "bullying." We definitely need to be more precise with our language.
The points she makes around the 4:00 minute mark make me think this is where the last few generations have gone wrong. The "softening the blow" kind of attitude. I know some kids are more sensitive than others but learning that sometimes life is disappointing is a huge lesson that I don't think has been taught well enough over the years
The talk made me reflect on my own childhood... I was incredibly sensitive and I wonder how different things might've been if I'd had these tools back then.
I'm fascinated by her point about how conflict is unavoidable, even among friends. It's a relief, actually that it seems like it's just part of growing up but what happens once you are done growing... if you're still having those conflicts 😅
Most of us wander through life assuming, "Pretty much everyone thinks and feels the way I do!" Conflict help us discover that that's not necessarily true! The key is to learn to handle those unavoidable conflicts with clear communication and compassion.
This was excellent 👏🏽 As someone who has been told they're too sensitive for years, i needed this! To know that children have conflict 3 times an hour lets me know. I will basically run into minor conflict often but i have to develop a healthy way of addressing it. Because children turn into adults. Adults
My daughter went through something similar - her friend didn’t sit with her at lunch, and she thought it was the end of the world! I know it must have felt like that for her so I tried to be kind in explaining that it's okay for people to want to make friends with other people!
That story about the girl who thought she was being excluded on the bus was so sad. It’s such a small thing, but for kids, those moments can feel huge.
Absolutely! Children's friendship challenges are very poignant! They may seem small to us, as adults, but they loom large to kids. That's why I do my free, weekly, 5-min. podcast for children, Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. It's available on all the podcast apps.
Man I wish more people understood this. Kids are mean! They don't _mean_ to be they just haven't learnt enough about how to treat people and what is and isn't socially acceptable
It's tricky. We have to find that middle ground between ignoring serious problems and solving every minor hiccup for kids. Both extremes get in the way of kids developing the skills they need to build strong and caring relationships. Empathy, perspective-taking, emotion regulation, problem-solving...these are skills kids will need throughout their lives.
You can't control how people act, you can only control how you react. Stop worrying about things that you can't change, it's ultimately futile to pay attention to those things.
One technique that I've learned how to use (but am still perfecting) is refusal to escalate. When I'm talking with someone I start at a calm baseline and never escalate from there, even if the other party escalates their emotions drastically.
Verbalizing your needs from a neutral perspective is always productive. Holding them in for the long term is almost always unproductive. Obviously there is a time and a place, but don't pass on an opportunity to express yourself.
Vulnerability is strength. Being able to reveal how you were hurt takes practice, but hiding it does not make you strong. It takes bravery to talk about what made you feel lesser.
Assume best intent. And do your due diligence before confronting someone by trying to see the situation through their perspective. That doesn't mean ignoring the slight or your feelings, but try to have a visual of the whole field first.
This just makes me think of a time when I had a co-worker I didn't like.... I tried all sorts of things to get her to leave me alone and when I finally just started ignoring her she complained that I was bullying her
The distinction between bullying and ordinary meanness is interesting. Definitely important to take real bullying seriously, but also not blow every conflict out of proportion.
I feel like sometimes kids downplay serious things and embellish little things like you can't ever know what really happened, so finding that middle ground can be tricky
This occurs even at companies inside the place of work.. Suttle. But occurs. Through cliques or I call it work gang mentality . These mental attitudes carry over into adulthood into their the work environments. Sure. Companies have policies.. As for youngsters. Depends on personal environments.
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Ha, that's weird...I read the title and thought 'what? My Nana's been dead three years, and now she's doing TED talks?!' (her name was Eileen Kennedy...)
Let me just preface this by saying no one DESERVES to be bullied, ever. But kids do have a way of self regulating their social groups and often I think when something "mean" happens or is said it's a good idea to ask, "what was happening before that happened?"
Wow maybe I just got lucky growing up because I don't really remember ever feeling bullied or even the regular meanness? Or maybe I just don't remember it because it wasn't a big deal to me as a kid?
This is good advice for dealing with things as they are though I can't help but wonder why we are inherently mean in our youth? What is it in our nature that this is the default setting?
man, that part about the woman in her 30s still crying over high school bullying... really shows how deep those scars can go. makes you think twice about brushing off "kid stuff".
It’s refreshing to hear someone say that not every conflict is a crisis. Kids will have disagreements - it’s part of growing up.
her point about empathy blind spots is so true. I've totally seen kids (and adults) justify being mean to someone they've labeled as "annoying" or "weird". We need to call that out more.
Brilliant talk and subject, so important.
I’ve used that “soft criticism” approach without even realizing it! It really works with my kids.
:) I think it's important to start with the assumption of good intentions, even when someone messes up!
she nailed it when she said adults haven’t figured out world peace, so how can we expect kids to get along perfectly? Sums it up so well!
It's so true that as parents, we often jump to the word “bullying,” but not every conflict deserves that label. Really makes me rethink how I want to respond to my kids.
Her examples really bring the concepts to life. I can totally picture these playground scenarios playing out at my kids' school
loving the "maybe game" idea. gonna try that with my kids next time they're upset about something a friend did. great way to teach perspective-taking.
I love how she focuses on empowering kids to stand up for themselves in a healthy way. Not everything requires intervention from grown ups
This is so true! When we adults step in to solve problems kids could solve on their own (or with some behind-the-scenes coaching), we steal their opportunity to develop coping skills!
I'm glad to see this stuff being spoken about. Yeah kids are mean and some are a lot more sensitive than others. I don't think we'll ever get to a point where bullying doesn't exist but learning to manage it better is a good start
This talk is a great reminder that kids need guidance on how to handle social situations, not just protection from them. We can't bubble wrap their whole lives!!
Very true! Even adults struggle with this. I see a lot of people dismissing others as "toxic" or whatever. Maybe they are, and a cut-off is the only alternative, or maybe they're imperfect human beings, like us, and we need to figure out how to listen/speak up/move forward in better ways.
Those stats on how often kids are mean to each other blew my mind. Every 2-3 minutes?! Makes me feel better about my own kids' squabbles tbh
I never thought about how telling kids they’re “bullied” could make them feel powerless. teaching them to handle meanness on their own seems so much more empowering.
Her story about Aiden was touching. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for, and sometimes they just need a little guidance to move past conflicts.
wish my school had this kind of insight when i was growing up. coulda used some of these strategies to deal with the mean kids instead of just labeling everything as bullying.
Reframing those minor incidents as "ordinary meanness" is actually pretty helpful. To see it as a normal part of growing up means we can help our kids navigate it instead of just trying to eliminate it entirely.
Yes! Also, calling every little bit of meanness "bullying," trivializes the very serious cases of peer abuse.
Ooft this kinda hits close to home... I was horrifically bullied in grade school and the first year of high school. I remember thinking I'd rather unalive myself than have to go through that kind of treatment and yeah, it absolutely sticks with you
Man when I went to school, if you told anyone in charge someone was being mean to you or bullying you you were called a dobber and things got immeasurably worse lol I'm glad to see things are different now and there's a bit more help navigating it all
The idea of focusing on moving forward rather than dwelling on the problem is so important. Holding grudges never helped anyone, especially kids.
"more socially powerful" is so spot on, and such a strange dynamic to grapple with as a child
Love the emphasis on teaching kids how to be in relationships. It's such a crucial life skill that often gets overlooked and then when people grow up we wonder why they're so terrible at it
It's comforting to hear that even child psychologists deal with these issues. Sometimes it feels like everyone else has it all figured out, ya know?
Great point about how our kids can contribute to conflicts too. It's easy to always blame the other kid, but teaching our own kids accountability is crucial.
Very true! I think our instinct as parents is often to protect our kids. If it's genuine bullying, and our kid is truly powerless, that might make sense, but whenever possible, teaching kids to handle those unavoidable friendship rough spots is more empowering.
This should be seen in schools, by students and educators.
"It's disappointing but it's not personal" honestly this is seriously valuable for a lot of people to hear, not just kids.
Solid advice overall, but I think some situations might need more intervention than she suggests. Still, it's good to have these tools in our parenting toolbox.
This was great! My kids love listening to her Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic podcast!
She makes some great points around the 4:00 minute mark and it makes me think that maybe that's what's happening with "cancel culture" - people being oversensitive and accusing others of that power imbalance behavior when really it's just regular meanness.
Wow the thing about those girls making a whole website about what they didn't like about that girl is just so extreme. I don't have kids so I've never thought about how they'd be bringing technology into bullying.
This talk should be required viewing for all parents and teachers. So much practical wisdom here.
I like how she balances acknowledging the seriousness of bullying while also putting everyday conflicts in perspective. It's a tricky line to walk but this is all really helpful advice
As a teacher, I see these dynamics play out every day on the playground. I'm happy to hear someone address the nuances between bullying and everyday conflicts.
should be a core subject in school
I really appreciate the distinction she makes between bullying and meanness and yes, when poor conflict resolution has taken place all kinds of accusations start getting thrown around
I wish more schools would focus on teaching kids how to handle conflict instead of just pretending it doesn’t happen or giving out adverse punishments for it
Yes! A prosecutorial approach, figuring out who is most at fault, doesn't help kids cope with ordinary disagreements and mistakes. True bullying is a different matter.
Dr. Kennedy-Moore, this is terrific! Ordinary meanness isn’t bullying, and we all need to learn the various ways to be strong and handle it. Lessons here for kids, parents, and adults. THANK YOU!
Excellent distinctions. Love the maybe game to help kids to see other possibilities. Flexible thinking is always helpful!
I loved how she talked about empathy blind spots. It’s so easy to forget that kids sometimes just don’t see how their actions affect others.
The soft criticism technique is gold. I can see this working wonders in my household
It really is the best thing I've ever invented! People talk about sandwiching a criticism between two positive remarks, but nobody hears the positives when there's a negative in the middle! Honestly seeing the situation from the other person's point of view and acknowledging it by opening with an excuse for why they did what they did puts us on the same page. It raises empathy, lowers anger, and gets around the normal defensiveness we all have.
Ive heard her before, really like her stuff
I love the practical advice here. The "maybe game" sounds like a great tool for helping kids (and adults!) develop perspective-taking skills. Gonna try this with my son.
this is where a good community starts
Interesting how she points out that anti-bullying efforts might inadvertently trivialize serious cases. Never thought about it that way before.
I really appreciated her focus on accountability. We can’t always blame the other kid and think ours are perfect little angels!
Man I wish more parents were seeing this kind of message. I feel like they all think their kids are perfect angels who don't ever do anything wrong
I didn’t realize how important that power dynamic is in determining what counts as bullying. Definitely a concept that should be talked about more!
I told my older sister how I was bullied and "chose" for an after school fight, and she said, "those kids are insecure and that's why they do it." I said, "yeah that's good to know, but they'll just do it again tomorrow!"
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You have a bad sister. I was bullied during 1 year and half. Ir was bad.
that's so crazy! sorry you had to go through that ❤I also think it is kids and adults with nothing else going on in their life so they come up with a sad excuse for an activity, lol. people who want to fight should go into that sport and leave normal people alone.
When I was in college, one night at this bar, this other girl wanted to fight me... it was so weird, but thankfully, I was in a group of tall girls, like 5'11 girls and I'm 5'1😂 I told one of my friends and she gave the other girl a look and for the rest if the night, that other girl left me alone... I guess they singled me out because I was petite or something 😅
Children have mirror neurons in brain and they mimic adults words and behavior,
as Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Joe Dispenza say.
Adults also have mirror neurons in brain but they choose whom they will mimic, because adults use analytical part of brain.
The brain is emotionally finished at age 25.
I remember we had a fight being students with a crowd of local girls in another town. We didn't expect that, but they were prepared to beat us. They were a few of us, though we didn't give up. People fought we were heroes, because among those girls were prisoners.
THANK YOU, EILEEN! This is an excellent lesson I've struggled to articulate with my kid clients. My middle school clients especially could benefit from learning to spot their "empathy blind spots". I will be sharing this!
My kid once thought he was being bullied just because someone didn’t pick him for a team and it really was tough to explain the difference
Kids, by definition, lack perspective. They just haven't been around that long! I'm sure that moment was very painful for your kid. AND I'm sure your kid managed to get through it. That's important learning. As adults, we know that's not the last disappointment your kid will face. Knowing they were strong enough to get through that one could make it easier to handle the next one. Dr. Eli Lebowitz talks about giving our kids the gifts of empathy (because those tough moments are tough!) plus confidence (because we know they're strong enough to get through those tough moments, even when they don't yet know that).
I liked the idea of talking to the bully/mean person in a non-aggressive way, e.g. "that wasn't nice' or "that was mean." Being asse45ive rather than passive or aggressive.
What a wonderfully informative talk. Thank you so much, Dr. Kennedy-Moore!
her point about empathy blind spots is spot on. I've caught myself doing this with coworkers I find annoying. Definitely something to be more mindful of.
I've not connected the dots before on how ordinary meanness is a thing that just happens amongst kids. It's actually good to know that no ones a target of it, it's just how kids are
Very helpful to children, parents, and teachers. Thanks.
Needed to see this, thank you Eileen🤗🤗🤗
I'm surprised by how much of this advice applies to grown up relationships too. Guess we never really outgrow some of these challenges
The number one reaction I get from parents to my books/podcast is "This applies to adults, too!" We don't just figure out relationships at age 9 and then we're done. Even as adults, in new situations and new relationships, we keep needing to learn!
The idea of giving an "excuse" before criticizing is brilliant. It's like a spoonful of sugar to help the medicine go down.
Hahaha! Yes! And it puts us on the same side in solving the problem rather than against each other and handing out blame.
Interesting point about how anti-bullying efforts can sometimes lead to overuse of the term "bullying." We definitely need to be more precise with our language.
americans needs to hear this talk now!!!!
Separation and reunion does work well for ordinary meanness as well.
The points she makes around the 4:00 minute mark make me think this is where the last few generations have gone wrong. The "softening the blow" kind of attitude. I know some kids are more sensitive than others but learning that sometimes life is disappointing is a huge lesson that I don't think has been taught well enough over the years
The talk made me reflect on my own childhood... I was incredibly sensitive and I wonder how different things might've been if I'd had these tools back then.
I cringed a bit hearing about all the ways kids reject each other. brings back some not-so-great memories...
I'm fascinated by her point about how conflict is unavoidable, even among friends. It's a relief, actually that it seems like it's just part of growing up but what happens once you are done growing... if you're still having those conflicts 😅
Most of us wander through life assuming, "Pretty much everyone thinks and feels the way I do!" Conflict help us discover that that's not necessarily true! The key is to learn to handle those unavoidable conflicts with clear communication and compassion.
Children can be incredibly mean though and I'm glad we're working towards making the distinction between that and actual ongoing bullying
This was excellent 👏🏽 As someone who has been told they're too sensitive for years, i needed this! To know that children have conflict 3 times an hour lets me know. I will basically run into minor conflict often but i have to develop a healthy way of addressing it. Because children turn into adults. Adults
My daughter went through something similar - her friend didn’t sit with her at lunch, and she thought it was the end of the world! I know it must have felt like that for her so I tried to be kind in explaining that it's okay for people to want to make friends with other people!
That story about the girl who thought she was being excluded on the bus was so sad. It’s such a small thing, but for kids, those moments can feel huge.
Absolutely! Children's friendship challenges are very poignant! They may seem small to us, as adults, but they loom large to kids. That's why I do my free, weekly, 5-min. podcast for children, Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic. It's available on all the podcast apps.
such a wake-up call. We need to teach conflict resolution skills just as much as we teach math or reading. Maybe more.
I had to laugh at her opening, I used to tutor kids and yes, they can be incredibly mean without even trying or realizing they're doing it
So true!
Man I wish more people understood this. Kids are mean! They don't _mean_ to be they just haven't learnt enough about how to treat people and what is and isn't socially acceptable
This talk is a game-changer for how I think about playground conflicts. Time to retire the "just ignore it" advice!
It's tricky. We have to find that middle ground between ignoring serious problems and solving every minor hiccup for kids. Both extremes get in the way of kids developing the skills they need to build strong and caring relationships. Empathy, perspective-taking, emotion regulation, problem-solving...these are skills kids will need throughout their lives.
I love this advice, though I'm also very curious about conflict resolution for adults. thoughts or tips?
You can't control how people act, you can only control how you react. Stop worrying about things that you can't change, it's ultimately futile to pay attention to those things.
One technique that I've learned how to use (but am still perfecting) is refusal to escalate. When I'm talking with someone I start at a calm baseline and never escalate from there, even if the other party escalates their emotions drastically.
Verbalizing your needs from a neutral perspective is always productive. Holding them in for the long term is almost always unproductive. Obviously there is a time and a place, but don't pass on an opportunity to express yourself.
Vulnerability is strength. Being able to reveal how you were hurt takes practice, but hiding it does not make you strong. It takes bravery to talk about what made you feel lesser.
Assume best intent. And do your due diligence before confronting someone by trying to see the situation through their perspective. That doesn't mean ignoring the slight or your feelings, but try to have a visual of the whole field first.
This just makes me think of a time when I had a co-worker I didn't like.... I tried all sorts of things to get her to leave me alone and when I finally just started ignoring her she complained that I was bullying her
Wonderful ❤
she’s got a point about how casually we throw around the term "bullying". We need to be more precise with our language.
I’ve seen this happen between my daughter’s group of friends and it's usually just ordinary meanness
My son went through something similar with a friend. Wish I had known about the “maybe game” back then!
The distinction between bullying and ordinary meanness is interesting. Definitely important to take real bullying seriously, but also not blow every conflict out of proportion.
Exactly!!!
The stat about preschoolers having 3 conflicts an hour made me laugh. Guess my kids are normal after all!
the bit about preschool friends having conflicts every 20 minutes is wild. makes me feel better about my toddler's meltdowns with her bestie lol
Getting along with people is hard. Especially when they grab your favorite toy and won't share! hahaha
@@DrFriendtastic how true, thanks
I feel like sometimes kids downplay serious things and embellish little things like you can't ever know what really happened, so finding that middle ground can be tricky
This occurs even at companies inside the place of work.. Suttle. But occurs. Through cliques or I call it work gang mentality . These mental attitudes carry over into adulthood into their the work environments. Sure. Companies have policies.. As for youngsters.
Depends on personal environments.
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Can't help but feel like some people never grow out of the "being mean every 20 minutes" phase
Never considered how saying "you've been bullied" could actually be harmful to a kid. It does kinda frame them as a helpless victim, doesn't it?
Please release part 2: Conflict Resolution in the Boardroom - some of those C level execs are as bad as kids with their egos
Ha, that's weird...I read the title and thought 'what? My Nana's been dead three years, and now she's doing TED talks?!' (her name was Eileen Kennedy...)
Let me just preface this by saying no one DESERVES to be bullied, ever. But kids do have a way of self regulating their social groups and often I think when something "mean" happens or is said it's a good idea to ask, "what was happening before that happened?"
It all starts here...
Okay I know it was a shyttty thing to do but the fact that kids can make whole websites is actually crazy
Great talk! Too bad they blast the intro and outtro music geez! Both gave me a heart attack
Wow maybe I just got lucky growing up because I don't really remember ever feeling bullied or even the regular meanness? Or maybe I just don't remember it because it wasn't a big deal to me as a kid?
This is good advice for dealing with things as they are though I can't help but wonder why we are inherently mean in our youth? What is it in our nature that this is the default setting?
Okay I knew kids were mean but I didn't know it was _that bad_ honestly where does that behavior even come from
You gotta fix your tags Ted! I searched “bullying vs meanness Ted” and this didn’t come up.
I wonder how much of this can be applied to the workplace haha some of the people I work with might as well be kids
What should you do if you think your kid is the one being a bully?
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man, that part about the woman in her 30s still crying over high school bullying... really shows how deep those scars can go. makes you think twice about brushing off "kid stuff".