6 Things I Wish I Knew at 20
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Matt: Travel.
Covid-19: No.
xdd I felt like travelling only after lockdown started
tometo souce And I finally grasped the concept of going out with friends (I'm bit of a introvert, that also doesn't live in suburbia, or the city), man i feel that my biggest enemy today is the PRC, like the millennials had the 2008 recession, while me turning 18 last year get this absolute BS, the economy of the world barely holding on and many people around the world dying, i think we Zoomers, are going to be Stagnators, or even Collapsers, I'm big enough of a History Nerd to know what happens next...
i'm supposed to be moving across the country for school starting in September... lets hope this all dies down by then so i can actually get out of my comfort zone and grow
A good time to learn to ascend into the heavens
WISE SERPENT I think i like Earth just fine, at the moment.
Things I wish I knew:
1. Do what makes your soul happy.
2. Dont force relationships/friendships.
3. Stop buying things only to impress other people.
That third point reminds me of Fight Club
God damnit yes
The third one i followed when I was 12. The second one I followed when I 15.
1 & 2
A good list
Matt: “i hadn’t gone on a date in FIVE years”
Me: *hasn’t been on a date in 19 years*
lol
20 and single since birth
Same
26 and still no date 😅
@@LD1E60 well I'm 19 and 3 years of LDR means no dates for me... at least not until 2021
1. Take responsibility for yourself 0:46
2. Confidence builds by doing 2:07
3. Document more 3:35
4. Use moisturiser 6:11
5. Go on more dates 7:22
6. Travel now 9:31
Thanks!
Still only being 17 and having all these wise people to learn from is sure as hell nice.
Thanks, Matt.
Dont blink or you will miss it. Just like I did.
This is what I exactly wanted to comment. Guess I'm not the only one!
Same here, I am so grateful for it
Also quick thing. Don't look for perfection at first try. I can't stress this enough. A lot of times when we approach something we look for perfection at the first try and a lot of times we don't even try those things because we feel we will fuck it up. Chances are you will fuck it up and it's fine. We've all been there. Do many things and fail at those things and fix your mistakes cause you will acquire more skills than those who don't attempt it.
Yeah,me too 17 broda
“Go on more dates”
“Travel more”
Bold of you to assume I’m not ugly and broke.
Relatable
lmao
There's even someone out there for you who thinks the same of themselves. Just live it. You will regret it more not trying than doing it and screwing it up.
I was broke and that didn't prevent me from going couchsurfing, hitchhiking, figuring out how to make money while travelling, making new experiences etc, that's not an excuse. And "ugly", seriously?
lol
Things i wish i had started doing earlier (i'm 25)
1. Reading at least 10 pages x day of a great book. (May not sound like alot but just do the math and see how many books you could be reading in a year).
2. Exercise at least 5 - 10 minutes every day (Same principle. Several ppl tries to do huge exercise routines that they can't keep up with. Keep it simple and easy but steady)
3. Meditate (I used to laugh of ppl doing meditation until i really tried it and found my inner self. This is hard to explain so just give it a try and you'll experience what i mean)
4. Cut distractions (NetFlix, Excessive amount of hours playing online games, Phone and social media)
5. Devote at least 90 minutes of conscious hard work x day to my craft (profession)
6. Be a student at least for 60 minutes a day. (it can be anything... a book, a podcast, a youtube video from one of your mentors)
7. Be grateful for the things that i already have and those that i'm in the process of manifesting. Gratefulness is very powerfull!
8. Waking up early at least from Monday to Friday (5 am) --> There's magic and alot of room for self development in the early hours of the day (while everyone else is sleeping)
9. Understanding that will power is a muscle. So you need to exercise every single day by taking action .
10. When you feel like you don't really want to do something that you should do (wathever it is) is definitely the best time to do it (builds will power)
Underrated
THANKS SO MUCH MAN IM 12 SO ITS GOOD TO HEAR THESE THINGS NOW
It's amazing how you described these 10 things. I would say the same and add started a youtube channel just uploading once a week. It would be something huge after a couple of years
I just turned 21 and this was really nice to hear, I’ve been feeling bad about myself that I let my depression and mental health destroy all my love and passions, if I could talk to my 16 year old self I would tell myself please do not give up on photography, piano, writing poetry, TH-cam ideas, and anything else you love because now I do regret not starting but I also know that the more I focus on what I gave up because of my struggles I’ll never have the courage to start again, so to myself and anyone who reads this, please know it is never too late to do something you love, you are on your OWN timeline for a reason and the way society makes us feel so rushed and compared to one another is unrealistic and damaging, you’re where you’re at no matter what you have or HAVEN’T done yet for a reason and it’s OKAY. We won’t regret when we started what we love, we will regret that we gave up
i wish i can save this.. can u like my comment
That hilarious moment when is midnight, you've just turned 20 and this is is the first thing that appears in your youtube recommendations..
After a year edit: Happy Birthday everyone!!
TH-cam be sus.
Good luck!
The same, man))
Today is my 20th birthday and this is what TH-cam gave me 😂😂
Atotwe Mpetemoya happy birthday then)
Two things I wish I knew when I was 20: mental health is just as important as physical health and it’s okay to ask for help
furly6321 true as fuck. Never thought mental health was a big deal till mine when down the drain lol. I’m getting better though
True
Never realized that before now. How to get better if you burned out? What are some steps that you did?
ok good i’m 14 and physical, mentally, and spiritually in tune
Agree
Things I Wish I Knew at 20
1. Matt
This comment 🥰
2) Matt's biceps
I am so glad I knew about Matt's channel earlier this year and I'm just 19. Things could never get better than this. We're so lucky to have Matt..
2. Nathaniel Drew
3. Kraig Adams
Agreed.
1. DON'T SMOKE
2. Your opinión about yourself is the only one that matters so work hard on accepting yourself.
3. Be present in the beautiful moments
5. Put limits to your phone
6. Allow yourself to love more
AndréSuzarte allow yourself to love more despite the fear of rejection or getting your heart broken?
@@kaoi6871 but you have to eventually untill you find the one
MaLeK yeaah
❤️❤️❤️❤️
4. Take math classes
Another important thing: Never regret anything. No matter how small or how big it is. People really don't know how much time and energy it eats up from your life.
YES turn that feeling of regret into processing it and learning something new about yourself or life . Not I regret doing this but now I know I shouldn't do this
Gagan so what if u kill someone out of impulsive anger for no good reason, would u say u would not regret that?
Disagree. There are some things you should regret, and use them as guideposts for what you should do in the future. Like if you wanted to talk to that cute girl at the mall, but didn't. You should feel that regret. So when the next opportunity arises, you'd dare not miss it. Lest you should have to feel that pain of regret all over again.
Invader Z exactly
@@invaderz1919 what I meant was to take the lesson from your mistake, keep it with you, and leave the regret behind.
In the end, you shouldn't compulsively ask yourself why you did or didn't do something. Just come to terms with it and believe in yourself that you wouldn't let that happen again.
1- take responsibilities
2- confidence builds by doing
3- document more
4- use moisturizer
5- go on more dates
6- travel now
Thanks!
8. Grow a man bun
Thank you
thank you!
9. Subscribe and Hit that bell icon
the world is so lucky to have this man
JaySteelGuitar Well said
Super Lucky!
agreed
@@slimjim4773 how's this relevant ?
@@slimjim4773 But Earth is oval though, not flat.
Things I wish I knew when I was 20:
- don’t wait for your parents’ approval to do the things you love
- take a chance on yourself because the path you want to take might not look the same as someone else doing what you want to do
- i’ve got a sh*t ton of limiting beliefs about money and it’s better I look at it 20
- don’t take myself too seriously and enjoy the creative process of getting to know myself and my purpose
- get rid of the sentence “when I achieve X, then I’ll be happy”
your right man. After i achieve X, theres no happiness afterwards. Just a bigger hurdle to overcome.
this!
nothing wrong with smoking...
" 6 Things I Wish I Knew at 20 "
*sweats in 27*
😂😂😂
I don't know why but i laughed so hard on this comment😂😂
Things I wish I knew when I was 20
Stay away from negative people and don't try to change them!
@Slimjay you god dem right that's what i been thought just time and u become like them
I would definitely advise myself to be more persistent with everything.
What if they are family and you are 18?
@@periteu my same predicament. my way is to move out as soon as possible while trying to be as kind as possible.
Disagreed. No person is "negative" per se. There is always more to a character, there are reasons behind behaviour and different subjective perspectives to everything.
As long as you're not hurt by encountering those people and as long as you can come up with the energy to deal with them, it can be very fulfilling to help them. Because in the end, that's what they need most of the time (at least in my personal experience). There are very few people that enjoy being negative when being honest with themselves.
1. Develop good hobbies.
2. Make friendships last. Work on good friendships.
3. Don’t be rude. Being nice is cool.
Number 3 is definitely underrated
@@trishzed3791 I agree, sometimes being an asshole with stupid people is cool jajajajajaaja
Being nice all the time is not a good idea
nice guys dont get girls, I am 25 and a nice guy, and nobody wants a nice guy with interesting hobbies and interests. I actually have no idea what girls want from guys, BEEF'd up muscles? being jerks? cos I suck at both
imicca
Just meet more girls. Stop blaming yourself.
Ed Gepixel where can i meet them?
"Confidence builds by doing" - As someone who overthinks himself into being paralyzed and unable to just take action so often, this is so true. The simple act of getting started almost always turns into a snowball effect of confidence and motivation.
I feel the same, the fear of doing something makes me do nothing. I am learning how to cope with this and push myself out of my comfort zone.
Now, I'm on my 20s. And I have accumulated these lessons for myself:
1. Develop your curiosity
2. Less is more (that's why I love minimalism)
3. Invest in your mind
4. Whatever you're doing (hate it or love it), do your best.
I'm about to hit my 20s, thanks for ur advice :)
I'm 18 and I'm so glad that I stepped accidentally with your channel 3 months ago. Thank you for your advice and thanks for existing
Zuru__ me too I am 18 too and I step across this channel about months 8 ago. He is awesome 👏
Exactly..thanks for existing 😊
same
Im already 18 😍✋
Same
He’s so proud of his opening joke 😂 that lil’ smirk
Emily French lol I laughed pretty hard 😂
Ik, I was scared. I thought he was going to get political 😂.
In fairness, we all laughed too right? 😂
Things i'm learning in my 20s:
-Take risks NOW
-Take these years as a training for the game of life, don't be hard on yourself
- Don't accept the reality you've been sold, you can get out of the box
1) be grateful for the mundane. After you've been through it, being "just ok" can be really, really good
2) don't compare your circumstances to others
3) use every drop of your "young" energy/drive
4) but have a routine/ritual for self care
5) some people are only meant to be a part of your life for a certain duration, don't hold on too tightly (still learning that one)
Agree with all, but I wish focused more on “don’t compare your circumstances with others “
Alexea Malaletkin Thnks
Last one stings bad, but true af
I really hate that last one. I am going to experience it soon and Idk if I am ready to feel the sting
1.4M subs... unreal dude. So happy to see quality channels getting the recognition they deserve. Keep doing your thing my dude!
He deserves every single one of them, and much more!
It makes me a little sad (and very respectful!) that he doesn't have Adsense on!
Oh ma gah. I didn't even see how much his sub count has grown
Things I wish I knew:
1) Don't spend more than you earn.
2) Make time for your friends
3) Don't settle with someone, just because it's been this way for a while.
4) Seek out your friends and family for advice.
5) Invest time and money into the thing(s) that you truly care about.
oh no Number 3 I can definitely agree with... and number 4 too, but mostly 3.
Thanks for number 3, needed that 🙏🏼
Thanks for this.
What do you mean by number 3?
@@klutz3955 I was in a relationship that gradually turned toxic the older we got, but because we were together for years I wasn't confident enough in myself to just end it. I missed out on so much because I put too my wasted time and energy into someone that didn't make me happy anymore, and hadn't done for a long time no matter how much we tried to fix the problems we had. Ev
1. Don’t buy stuff that you’re not gonna use in a year or 10 years
2. Don’t split your focus on more than 1-2 ventures
3. Think about 2nd and 3rd order consequences
4. Invest in stocks extra money instead of investing them on drugs, alcohol and cigarettes
5. Track your habits
P.s.
I tried a lot of shit(drugs,girls) traveled to 24 counties by hitchhiking and all of that when I was 18-20
I am so glad that I did all of that stupid shit and didn’t die and I have all of that documented on my Instagram which I don’t use lol.
Now I just work on my self, improving my job skills, read books, eat healthy and workout everyday, plan my days and stay very minimalistic
„Tried a lot of shit like girls“ ok mate be gay then
Would you recommend doing drugs and girls to a person in early 20s ? what was your experience with these things?.....are these things just a waste if time and we should just focus on improving ourselves?
Everyone is saying they are “poor” to travel. Change that mindset. Be positive, don’t ever say you’re poor even when money is limited. A little adventure in your backyard, town, or down the road is ok!! Also, save some money and plan a small trip with a significant one (a friend, a love one, or a family member) and meet new places. You won’t regret it.
“Don’t ever say you’re poor even when money is limited”, what? What does that mean? That’s what being poor is? And a lot of people are poor?
Mrs. Featherbottom Hi. Of course not. I was reading the comments and went towards what people were saying.
Diana Herrera alright. Cheers!
Being poor is a mindset and lasts forever... Being broke is temporary. Just because your money is limited now doesn't mean your poor, however if you see yourself as poor and see success and riches as impossible because you don't have the resorces than in that case, yes your poor. I highly recommend reading rich dad poor dad it will change your mindset.
@@espaciovirtual6699 most definitely!
Things I wish I knew when I was 20
1. Spend quality time with family, as you never know when they will be taken away from you.
2. Start good habits such as meditation and working out.
3. Girls aren't everything.
4. Materialist items aren't everything.
5. Don't take anything for granted.
How old are you? I´m lucky to be 20 now
Skinny_Cam.
1.Parents are so hard to have a relationship with... atm
2. Meditation is amazing but for working out, I’m too self conscious and am too lazy to get to a gym
3. Don’t have the courage yet too get rid of social awkwardness and anxiety
4. Don’t have a job because I don’t have the courage to try get hired
5. I’ll try to be grateful.
My (hopefully) Honest replies to these, Hope you don’t cringe too hard.
I'm 19 now , implementing everything except 2nd point..
Will try to do that too.
Thank you !
I am realy happy that I am doing your number one.
And I hope I can learn your number 4 and 5 in the future.
@@nameisrango hey, I'm 19 too, trying to improve myself everyday, I read books, I work out and meditate, I found myself a job, I'm also trying to spend more time with my mom , best of luck to you y'all❤
1. Take responsibility
2. Confidence builds by doing
3. Document more
4. Go on more dates
5. Travel now
6. Use moisturizer
EDIT: I'm not discouraging you to watch the whole video, I just needed to write the 6 points down :D
Being on date why you need Mostiuzier?
W
Nice one
You didn't write math and Physical education
This is helpful
Things I'm learning a week away from being 20:
-It's okay to say no, it's your life and you get to choose what you're okay with.
- just because you're sad doesn't mean you're sick or broken, you have to eat right, drink water, sleep, socialise, exercise and meet your other personal needs first.
- Try to make the most out of your money, sometimes spending all your money on partying is just not worth it.
-There's always tomorrow, a bad day doesn't have to be a bad week :)
-Rediscovering things you loved as a child is so important
-EXPLORE
I wish i knew two things at 20.
"You are who your friends are...."
"Meditation."
Not necessarily you can be different than your friends but still be friends
True most of the time
@@Classic_literature I think he kind of means, your trajectory is the same as your friends. If you don't like where you are, look to see if you respect where your friends are too. You can learn a lot from how similar your life choices are to your friends and if you feel unfulfilled you might find that the things you want from your future might not be the same as those you spend time with. This can lead to a lot of unhappiness.
That's why I have never had any friends
I've always been the closest friends with cats, although I'd get really depressed from time to time (due to the people around me in general), I'd get my self confidence back on track perfectly. It's a bit tough for someone who literally has no one to talk to about their emotions. Yet I do it.
Trust me, cats taught me the subtle art of not giving a f.
*Six Things I Knew At 20*
1. Take Responsibility 0:47
2. Confidence Builds By Doing 2:09
3. Document More 3:36
4. Use Moisturizer 6:11
5. Go On More Dates 7:23
6. Travel Now 9:32
Legend
Thanks man
sayitlike umemeit not all hero’s wear capes
Thank you for highlighting the points
Ik would broaden 5. Expose yourself more to thing you are afraid off. The thing not always becomes less fear inducing, but you get braver.
I'm glad I failed early on in life. Sometimes you have to struggle now if you want to be great in the future.
Eric Stanley Violin wise words
Eric Stanley Violin what do you do when your success can also be considered a failure?
@@ItsWhoIAmItsHowILive the same thing you would do if it was a regular failure. Start again
Thank you Eric.
Very interesting
Things I wish I knew at 20:
1. Do more self-help and development
2. Spend less time on dating
3. Be patient and don’t try to master everything
4. Read more books
5. Document my thoughts more often
6. Explore more unconventional paths
I agree with the less dates part! 🤦🏻♂️
I really wish I knew this earlier:
DON'T LEAVE YOUR SELF HANGING IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. SAVE YOUR TIME AND ENERGY FOR BETTER RELATIONSHIPS.
I really needed this😅
💯 agree
that was what destroyed my life
@@Sebl191 you gotta believe it's never too late to turn your life around
*#1 thing to know in 20's is that everything worthwhile, takes time to build, achieve, attain and master.*
Take your time to figure out what you love and don't be rushed by societal pressure.
First time i find your comment relatable.. thank you !
But still I'll say your most of the comments sucks.
best one! thank you!
Thanks bro!
Thank you. This was really uplifting.
That's so nicely said 💕
Thank you
I am 17 and tend to put a lot of pressure on myself, what you said is what I have to learn first 😊
I'm 20 now and i have never clicked so fast on a notification from youtube 😂
One hundred percent!
Same here, I’m 19.
I'm 18 and same
Same
same
Things I wish I knew
1. Do things for my own life no one else’s
2. Learn financial skills
3. Travel
4. Do more hobbies I love
5. Take responsibility
What I learned is contradictory to his:
Don't date too many girls. Ugly relationship can ruin you life. You can have a good relationship when you're already happy and content.
Yes, it's not about the date I think. More like socialize more, and learn what's best for you
Even with the good people, doesn't mean we'll make good relationship
Maybe a bit of a nuance, but I'm not sure that 'dating girls' and 'going on dates' are the same thing, you can just go on a date with a girl without 'dating' them.
Like Ghina says, it's more about meeting new people and expanding your horizons
1. Show those you love, that you love them.
2. Stop comparing your life to others .
3. Plan for the Future, but Enjoy the Present. Really..don't let not having money stand in your way.
Fuck Yea
Thank you, I needed this today. Going through a hard time
3 is great
Very guilty of 2
I can't believe this included a skin care routine; amazing
As a 19 year old, i really needed to hear some of this. Thanks
"Travel now"
Me : damn he's right thats actually a good idea, i think imma travel to...
My wallet : no
Save
Go somewhere in your city you've never been champ. Walk there, borrow a tent from a friend or relative. The only thing between you and your goals are your excuses. Get creative.
Go to a cafe you've never been to. Go to a small restaurant in your town that you've never been to. Just go somewhere new in your home town, a new corner you haven't explored yet, and just take in the atmosphere.
@@taylorbritt499 I like that, it's so true, I've felt a bit down in the dumps at times and went to Brighton for the day (about an hour from me) and hadn't been in years. And it really helped get that travel vibe. Because that's all you're really doing when you travel, as you say, taking in the atmosphere.
@@jambononi thanks! That's awesome, I'm glad you were able to have that experience :) I go to college in a fairly big town and anytime I get to go to a new area of town, I get so excited. It's fun exploring new places!
1. Taking responsibility
2. Confidence builds by doing
3. Document more
4. Use moisturiser - good skincare routine
5. Go on more dates
6. Travel now
Watch the video anyway. Was very helpful
Thx man
@Jacques Vermeulen very true. Was really helpful
EVOO is better than lotion. Trying to make skin healthier from the outside is treating the symptoms, not the cause.
Thanks man hate giving these people ad money
Thank you ☺️
Things I wish I knew when I was 20
* happiness is a choice that you make
* Meditating 5-10 minutes a day drastically everyday decreases anxiety
* Pursue whatever passion intrigues you
* your posture and body language determine and influence your mood
Really agree with the meditating one, after a few months I noticed that I was wayyy more confident and more energetic!
Especially the first one! 🙏🏼
how do you meditate? Don't know how to do it? Just sit down and think on what?
Damn Daniel: Try out Sam Harris' "Waking Up" meditation app.
As someone with severe depression and anxiety who recently started taking proper medication for it I don't find the first one to be true. You can do steps towards it and practice positive thinking but you don't know what life can throw at you. I can't truly feel happiness but at least I'm not in a dark place either thanks to my anti-depressants, it's just neutral and I'm fine with that.
I'm about to turn 65, so I've had almost 47 years of adult experiences. Don't do anything or buy anything to impress other people. They will mostly not notice or care, and even if they do it will only be fleeting and soon forgotten. The few times other people in this world notice you it will be because they see you do something good and productive when no one else is around. The only way to never be taken advantage of or lied to is to live in a hole in the ground, so accept the fact that you're going to be duped every once in a while. Being totally happy or unhappy about anything is childish. Don't do that as an adult. Being young -- under 30 -- is a very short period of time and when it's over everyone around you will have filled their emotional plate with family, friends, and earning a living. You are ten times more likely to make new friends from age 18-30 than after that. At the end of your life it will be about what you did, not what you wanted to do or did to impress other people or even yourself. A bucket list can be doing 1,000 small things rather than ten epic things. As the people you know are picked off by cosmic roulette you will realize how lucky you are at every age. People start dying in their 20s, 30s, and 40s and it only accelerates. Don't stay angry at others for being stupid or doing you wrong. You have a lot to be forgiven for too. Every life is its own Rubik's Cube with a unique pattern of success and failure. Figure out your own life because no one else can or will. Looking back isn't a waste of time. Be of good will, in a world that often has little. This too shall pass. Write your own paragraph about this topic NOW, not ten years from now, and update it every year or two because you will evolve. Let it happen.
Thank you!
“Confidence builds by doing” that’s a gem.
THIS WAS PUBLISHED ON MY BIRTHDAY. AND TODAY IS ALSO MY 20TH BIRTHDAY!!! I'M SO LUCKYYY!!!
Wew happy birthday
Happy birthday!
Happy birthdayyy!!
Happy Birthday brother!
Happy birthday!
1. Taking responsibility.
(0:46)
2. Confidence builds by doing.
(2:08)
3. Document more.
(3:36)
4. Use Moisturiser. (6:12)
5. Go on more dates. (
7:21)
6. Travel now. (9:32)
Thanks
I came about your channel recently and have watched almost every video of yours. Your advices have really helped me make changes in the last few weeks.
I’m 19 this year, and I keep coming back to this video to remind myself of the things you say in it. Each time, I realise I’ve been neglecting at least 1 of the 6 things on this list. Thanks, Matt. You’ve made a world of difference in my life.
"Travel now"
me, a broke ass 21 y/o who can't even afford my lunch sometimes: now sounds like a GREAT time to go to japan
Lol
Ever tried traveling homeless? Some people do it lol
@@nicolasgomez5207 how do you get to japan if you can't buy a plane ticket. Don't think I want to sneak on a boat for months... twice.
@@dddmemaybe I want answers too
Google it? 😉
Yes! More minimalistic goodness, and not so minimalistic biceps. Thanks for what you do Matt!
😂😂👌
as a 20 year old watching this, some of the things you said really make me think deeper about my life and where i am now.
so much respect for you and what you do, matt! don't ever stop doing what you do. your filmmaking is inspiring.
damn that's really good advice for me, a 19 year old still trying to find the way a life should be lived
I am sorry but your biceps are really distracting.
Your body is literally goals
So true
We must tell him to wear a cape. We do.
BoniBon 666 my body is like a galon of wadrrrr
Turning 20 in half an hour. Quick, I gotta know all the stuff!
how have your 20's been? i turned 20 a few days ago :)
Live your life
Make the most out of your youth.
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Matt iam soooo happy that we have a youtuber like you .your content is really special,and I enjoy watching them :)
document more is so amazing man,
I had a heartbreak last December (2019) and it was so hard for me, I recorded my voice one night on February, I was crying and so pathetic and I said that "I know I'm going to get over this and I'm recording this to remind myself that I'm worthy and capable of love and I'm so strong that I'll get over this and move on in no time"
I recorded another one in march that was less pathetic but still, then I recorded one in April and that was another person.
When I listened again to those recordings, I could remember that I was miserable but I could not remember how it felt or how loving someone feels, that was the numb phase that's still going on where I don't remember a particular feeling unless I indulge myself in it.
I've decided to DOCUMENT MORE since then.
It's amazing, like when you read your old diary but you feel more connected to the sound of your voice.
6 Things I Wish I Knew at 20
Me: *interesting these could help me . . I'm 21*
Also me: *ends up being distracted by those biceps*
Couldn't relate more to this comment lmao
Bruh you’re hip distractions 🤔🤔
Turn 21 days ago and... look at those arms
i'm watching it again, i was distracted as hell :P
Wasn’t expecting a gun show
I always feel so motivated and inspired to be a good person after watching your videos
Also in need of coffee
I just turned 20 and this is great advice. I have only recently realised how important it is to go out and do things and appreciate what you have especially taking more pictures or videos to look back on in the future. I definitely want to travel more and once COVID is over, force myself to go on more dates, it is really easy to think that something bad is going to happen, but the worst that happens is they aren't that interesting, then you never see them again but the potential benefits are usually always worth it!
Just randomly came across your channel and im SO STOKED! You are an absolute legend. Needed something like this in my life.. needed to hear a lot of this. Thank you 🙏🏼
Gabi Moulden Also look up Nathanel Drew, they are very similar in their outlook on life. I love both their channels.
Fun fact: my dopamine levels go up 10.3% when I see a Matt D'Avella video.
Hahaha
23 currently and I am thankful for this video!💛
23 as well :) all the best!
23 here
23 years young :)
There's hundreds of us! XD
same
Agreed Matt! “Confidence builds by doing” I can learn all about a topic but until your start doing/practicing it. It’s just pure knowledge. The action is needed for results !
Noted these tips... I'll be turning 20 in a few days! Makes me excited to face this another phase of my life. 💜
It’s nice to know that a hunk like Matt was anxious about self-appearance and dating.
Appreciate you for sharing with such honesty 🙂
So this is what I learned since I turned 20:
Ah shit I'm 14
shiieet
Johannes Laukart 😂
That’s great that you’re watching something like this
Same 😂😂😂
@@beatrizcansado8080 eyyyyy
I love your videos because of your style - actually living a minimalist life also because of your advices - and quality. Keep it up Matt!
Roberto
It’s such a hard time for me now and you’re like a fresh breath for me. I really appreciate it, thank you!
Top 5 things I've learned and practice since I was 20 (I'm 27 now):
1. Reliability
2. Accountability
3. Responsibility
4. Financial awareness
5. Getting over my fear of answering the phone/emails (still have to put effort into that one).
Hey, can you elaborate more on number 5? Cause I think I have the same issue and I'm curious what other people feel and react about it
Tomislav Sili I thought I was the only one with number 5 too
Numero 4 please
@@Michellemccoolrocks9 I am currently in the process of closing a deal for my internship, and sometimes I find myself denying to open up a mail (from them) because I feel like it's gonna be some bad news about it. This feeling comes from a certain point in the past, but I haven't figured it out completely yet.
Fear of answering an email? WTF? I can understand the phone call, but an email?
Damn! Your biceps look bigger the more I stare at them
Projit Deb omg i stared at them too😂
Projit Deb if I were you instead of starting I’d go out and make biceps just like them if not better looking ones, but I’m not into that stuff.
YRUG
Remember he's really short.
...and that's how nice comments evolve into insecure comments!
Thank you for inspiring me Matt. Nothing I say could adequately express my gratitude. 😊 12 months of 30 days starts next week! Thanks again.
I'm 22 and this video gives me a sense of relief :D ..Thank you so much for putting this out there please give some more of it ,make a new video about the advice that you left earlier
I can't believe you came to Costa Rica! I live here! Daaamn!
Next time I go to USA I won't let you know either.
Enzo Zonta lmao
I'm in my early 20s and one thing I would advise is while you may not be chasing your passions, be passionate about what you chase.
Thanks for the video, Matt!
That's wise
God tier love that
underrated
I will let u know in three years since i am 17...love the videos.It keeps me motivated and inspired
Thank you ! You hit a spot in my heart with taking videos with your family that’s such a good idea
I turned 20 today, and this legend uploaded a video about what to do at the age of 20, thank you for uploading this video, Matt. Honestly, you've helped me change so much. Love from India! :D
Happy Birthday
Ram Gautam Happy Birthday 🎈🎊🎁🎉🎂😀
Ram Gautam I turned 19! On 17th
Happy birthday! :)
happy birthday!!!
Im sitting here at 20 years old, frustrated with myself and looking for the way out. This video helps put things into perspective for me. Thanks Matt.
Fuck no. You're young as fuck and got loads of time to figure it out to make it better. In 20 years you'll be so glad you didn't take the way out and instead built a meaningful life. Seek professional help if needed, that investment (both time and money) will be worth it if it gets your mental state up!
Oh and most of all, I'm sorry that things are not ok. I hope it gets better for you!
@MaskSo James I understand the frustration. I'm 32 and I'm still frustrated about my success not being what I hoped for. Financially I'm doing really ok though, maybe human nature makes us too hard on ourselves. There's always someone above you to compare one's self to. The trick is to be content with less. I don't know how to do that though :D
@K. Gábor I'm trying in a way. I do a daily journal of day's successes, thing I felt happy about and failures before I go to sleep. Quite a few times by forcing myself to think I've realized that the day has been better than I felt about it during.
@@AMR-zo5ut that's quite true. There's always the next level. One can try to bullshit themselves and say that the next level is where I'll be content, but if it's too hard to stop leveling up now, why would it be easier on the next level..
I’m glad that by the time I’ve watched this video of you Matt; I’m turning 20 within less than a month. So thank you for these tips that are coming from a successful guy like you. Keep up the great work.
Thank You so much! As somebody that is 20 now, I really appreciate your ideas. I need to be more responsible for myself, but also I didn't realize how much free time I have. Thank you!
I'm currently 19 and am continuously sabotaging myself with self- doubts about my future and what I'd like to do. But your videos provide some guidance. Thank you Matt!
Nilay Yener same:(
*Ey ey ey*
You're both good bois.
You'll become better bois one day.
But every boi does.
So start slow, do a little a day. Start a new small habit boi. Like doing your bed every morning.
It's not always going to be an easy boi, but you're a good boi.
Everyone starts as young dumb bois, some more and some less. But that's variation boi.
You have the power of most of your life ahead of you. A lot of people realize this when they have less life ahead of them.
To conclude, be the good bois you were always going to be.
Dude, I thought it was me talking.
I wish you all the best on your journey and a lot of courage.
I know how hard it can be💕
I just 20, I struggle with the same issues though I’m trying to fight it. There was a quote in To Kill A mockingbird where it said and I’m paraphrasing courage is doing something even if you know you will fail, but you see it through. Nothing that you truly want in life will be handed to you, so just try. Day by day.
cleansing 2/day (morning & night)
moisturizing 2/day after cleanse
exfoliating 2-3/week
Thanks Natalie (& Matt:D)
idk what any of these things are
2 words TIEGE HANLEY
I got to know your page last night and since then I’m in live with it.
It’s filled with good vibes
Thanks for this content man! Idk but I have been watching your videos for a while now and Tbh, it helped me to think positive about my life situation and all being a milllennial and starting my own life. The clearness of your voice and how you converse just resonates to me. So, thank you, man! Continue to be a good influence to all of us. :)
Hmmm thanks for this Matt; it reminded me of a lot of past memories I've glazed over now. Here's my list:
1) Find your community. That club? That soririty? That frat you were so worried about joining? JOIN IT. Your future friends and future self will thank you.
2) Ask for help. Seek that guidance counselor, use the psych counseling resources on campus, there is nothing worse than isolating yourself in your apartment thinking you can't do shit when really you very much can.
3) Keep learning, keep asking questions. Yes, the classes you attend are huge and intimidating but 9 times out of 10 there's another student waiting for an answer for your question or a teacher waiting for a student to help them teach you better.
4) Find one creative hobby to exercise besides cooking/baking. Food is great but not when you consume it at your emotional convenience. You've always loved music singing, and writing, but maybe instead find a hobby which guarantees you will make time to destress (aka find a friend to keep you accountable).
5) Document your experiences, mundane or not. Your memory will falter and only get worse with your depression, so take the time to write down all the small things that made you happy or made you feel accomplished (again, your future self will thank you).
6) Tell your parents more about yourself. They'll ask you questions about your grades and how you're doing in class but don't let those things define you. Yes doing well in school is important but so is growing as a person. Whether this is gaining a new skill set, being more invested in social/political issues around you or being more aware of your emotions, don't be afraid to speak up. Don't let your parents say "I hardly know you". LET THEM SEE YOU.
Whoo hoo this was fun! Definitely writing this down and pinning it for a reminder on days I forget to do these things.
Emaline L. Man do I need to work on number 6
This is absolutely wonderful 💜 Thank you writing this down. I love this more than you know
Whats the point of 6?
@@artemmartus4253 maybe that's something to ask yourself. Personally, me distancing myself from my parents caused unecessary stress in university and isolating behaviors in my social life. I didn't feel like I knew myself emotionally or socially because I associated my value with good grades. So when my grades tanked....well so did my confidence and self-worth
Yes 🙌
I feel like my new mantra is going to be, “Confidence Builds By Doing”
Thank you ♥️
as me
Thanks for tips, they make a lot of sense, and gave me a push to be a better person. Now, I’m in my 20th and really want to do more while I’m young, thanks to you.
Things I wish I knew when I was a teenager:
*Just because someone WANTS the best for you in life doesn't mean they'd KNOW what's best for you in life.*
That could be your parents, teachers, friends, or even your ENTIRE SOCIETY.
USE THE INTERNET to meet professional life coaches from around the world. Make someone your "second" life guide, teacher or parent.
Whatever makes u think like "are my parents REALLY right about this or are they just THINKING it's right?", take THAT thought, go talk to your second guidance about that. Make sure your second guidance is someone broad minded.
Why?
There will always be different kinds of "brainwashing of the masses" going on around the world.
An example of "brainwashing of masses":
In SOME extremely orthodox places around the world, you would:
1. Get treated like you're a lesser human being for wearing a pair of thigh length shorts or a crop top.
2. You'd be looked upon as an extremely sick minded person for wanting to go on dates before the age of 25+. Unless you're on the path to settling down by getting married, EVEN modern day dating WITHOUT any sexual relationships is still such a SLUTTY thing to them.
3. Sexism will be the norm in certain ways. Need higher education? u go get it girl equality! But you've lost your v-card before marriage? you're not a male, for fuck's sake, are u insane? no one is going to marry a "second hand" woman, you're disowned by this family from now on!
So firstly, *I'm not against how people around the world live, I myself am someone old-fashioned, prefer to stay chaste until I'm married.*
I'm NOT trying to blame anyone here. People who love to life in such a way should live that way.
But the fact is: *When majority of people in a certain place, PREFER a certain lifestyle the most, the newer generations will be forced as per their elders' preferences forever, even if it's inhumane and unnecessary. There were/are/will be, millions of people who'd value their traditions over human rights. Period.*
My point is, if you are someone BORN in such a place and your preferences are the same as their standards/stereotypes, it's fine.
BUT if you prefer OTHERWISE, you NEED to teach yourself about the lifestyles of people around the world.
*Otherwise, you won't have a chance at living a NORMAL life with proper human rights, as they'd force you to change yourself if u want to be treated/respected as a fellow human.*
The best part? Until you learn how the people around the world live differently, you won't be AWARE of other lifestyles out there. All you'd have been taught is how the lifestyle they tell you to adapt to, is the only acceptable one. And if u don't play along? you'd get mistreated at random situations, all because you chose a different lifestyle.
*You'd to made to live your entire life feeling guilty and ashamed of your own preferences.*
All of this could be prevented, if you'd just have a SECOND guidance from somewhere else around the world.
Where do we find these life coaches lol
"go on more dates"
*laughs in lonely*
Player 4 lol I feel your pain. Avoiding dating apps too.
Basic Algebra in weightlifting? Is that what he said
@@Atufa_Raqshee what kind of a college makes you take weight lifting as a CLASS?
:(
You mean single, cause lonely and single are very different.
I'm 21. I'm a quite introverted person and growing up I never really liked changing/trying new things, but from being in college and some significant life-changing events happened the last couple of years, I really feel the "Confidence builds by doing" segment of the video, you gotta get out of your comfort zone, to truly experience and learn, whether it's school or dating, just don't stick with one routine just because it's comfortable/has been working for you, you never know what else is out there, so never stop trying
Thanks for sharing your story and advice. I’m currently 20 and it really opened my eyes to really do more and get out of my comfort zone.
Matt D'Avella,
I want to say that I appreciate you as human being, your videos are so impacting to other people and myself in such a simple, humorous and positive way. I love them and hope to see even more. :) Thank you.
I am 20... this was perfect. Thank you Matt, just some stuff I really needed to hear
Things I wish I knew:
1. Take the time to find what makes you happy
I Love you.
Thank you so much. I'm 19 now and identified myself in some of your topics! For sure I'll reflect about all of them. You never disappoints. Greetings from Brazil
Man thank you so much!
I'm actually 21 now and I've had all those ideas in my mind for 1 or 2 years!
But I'm getting there, I'm little by little starting to do all of this things and I'm so happy about it!
This is me a year later, I guess no one will notice, but this comment came in a time I was desperate bc I couldn't get to do the things I wanted. I have been a year in therapy now and got to complete the list I created when I whatched this video. Thank you for the motivation