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I don't want to be beautiful, pretty, attractive. I want to be invisible. I want to be seen as the woman I am but so indistinguishable that people just accept me at face value and forget me as fast as they didn't notice me. Unfortunately that will never be the case 🫤
@@bigchongusHH Yes. He and other trans people live their lives making every personal decision based on how they can fool you and other people that they are lucky enough not to know.
CIs men don't compare beards? There's an entire beard contest to see who has the best beard. World Beard and Moustache Championships does this annually.
Picturing a line of buff, perfectly stoic men, all with cartoonishly long beards and twirly mustaches. The winner gets a giant golden medal, which also has a beard
@@garlikbred6474 it's almost midnight for me and I should probably go to sleep cause at first I read twenty moustaches instead of twirly and was imagining something very weird... 'xD
I take meds, and have done for 12 years on and off, to manage mood disorders. While it can be a pain in the arse, I certainly don't regret it as I really don't have a choice (well, the other choice would be the end of all choosing). It's pretty obvious that Jamie takes his meds for the same reason: that's how he can live a decent life. I'm with you, bro! Lifelong necessary med gang!
Yup! 12+ prescriptions here. I guess I'm "medicalized" because I like breathing, not being in agonizing nerve pain, and not stroking out and dying. If I could safely take HRT, I'd probably add that to the list, but apparently endometrial cancer likes those hormones, so no. Society only tries to shame people for using drugs that 1) help with mental health, 2) are gender affirming (and thus help with mental health), or 3) affect your reproductive ability. Why? 1) Power and control, 2) power and control, 3) power and control. So all those people trying to shame folks for taking prescriptions to be fully functional -- including HRT for trans folks -- can step off.
I'd be in a lot of pain without my meds, but sure, I guess I'm just willfully popping pills for the fun of it. It's certainly not for my bank account's sake 😂
My doctor told me when I started estrogen, that I was going to gain 15 pounds and start having roller coaster mood swings. I did gain the weight but it took years as I'm fairly active. I've never been really emotional so I was actually looking forward to mood swings. Instead I became even more emotionally flat-lined. I still have emotions I am just not at all excitable in a good or bad way.
@@UnreliableArsonist Yeah I’m so happy I was able to grow. It took a personal experience sadly (my friend came out to me as transgender and I started to rethink things), but happy to be where I am now. I dropped the people who I use to watch (lots of right wing content). Funny enough though, turns out I was Bi myself when I would hate on lesbians and bi sexual women at that time. Yep it’s all coming together lol
omg same i use to be all of that too and i was so miserable, now im a bit better and only miserable due to mental illness but not because of being hateful
That is good news. The issue I see with what has happened is that sure, she's a cis woman. The hate she's received is horrible with real life consequences. But what if she had been trans? The response would have been 1000% worse and not illegal because it's true? If we are celebrating the phobes being "wrong" then in my opinion we are happy about the wrong issue. I'd love to see them get hit with harrassment versus defamation or libel. Here's a different hypothetical. Say black folk were excluded from sport due to an idea that they had an unfair advantage. And a person kicks ass in the ring and the call goes up, "Unfair, they are black, have black heritage, that's why they won." And our response was, "No, they aren't black! See the DNA tests proving it! Oh, and don't be a bigot... to non-black people that you think are black." Basically in my mind when we celebrate Rowling et al being punished in some way for erroneously calling someone trans, then we are kind of validating the anti-trans point. As if their hate wouldn't be wrong (or less wrong) if they had been correct on the facts. Regarding Imane herself, absolutely she should be making these legal moves. It's her life, her sport, her harm. Get that bag and make them suffer. But trans folk and allies on the outside need to rethink this tactic. Because when this situation arises with actual trans people we've already ceded ground.
People do criticize people for taking life long medication. For depression and diabetes. My friend was told by a in-law that she should stop taking her needed medication and when she pointed out she would probably die they told her then she would not be a drain on society
ah yeah, that'll get people to see your way of thinking... tell 'em it would be a good thing if they stopped taking their life-saving medication. eurgh. sorry your friend has such a wretched in-law
That is aweful. How can someone be nasty enough to say this to the face of someone who is family? It is bad to say that to anybody, but to the sibbling of your married partner?! And apparently not even during an arguement. That is some next level kind of horrible. I hope they are an ex-in-law now. If not your friend should really consider going no contact with the family member married to that pos.
Saw this with my sister. Had people in our fam tell her the same basically verbatim. Fortunately it's a very small part of the population but why do they have to be so loud 😢
I never understood that minedset. They act as if us wanting to live not be in pain and be able to somehow function is us being weak. Would they say to person in wheelchair to get up and not be bound to a wheelchair?
Wait David Tennant is super trans supportive? Bro that guy was my whole childhood, he read the how to train your dragon audiobooks, literally I was so shocked to randomly hear his name here but I’m so fucking happy ❤❤
@@paadoxal you really should! They were so entertaining when I was younger, even now I still listen to them whenever I feel like it Also they made me cry more then any kids book has the right to
I'm so so sad that you have deal with hate just because someone refuses to find out the facts!! I'm an older cis woman, straight, and I have a hard time wrapping my head around why anyone hates someone just because they're different from them. Race, colour, beliefs, gender... We're all just people trying to live our lives as best we can!! I love you Jamie and your amazing wife Shaaba!! ❤
"Men don't compare beards" THERE ARE CLUBS FOR BEARDED PEOPLE!!! 😂😂😂😂 Don't sit there and bullshit when there are literal clubs for people dedicated to their beards
It’s literally a common trope that men judge each other on their facial hair and their ability to grow it or not. These type of people seem like they never leave home.
Have you not heard? Women aren't allowed to wear t-shirts (and pants). Only dresses, blouses and skirts. (Oh, boy.. I've been crossdressing all my life! I never knew..)
Why on earth do people watch videos they do not like. If I start a video and I don't like it I start another video, tell TH-cam to not show me videos of that creator anymore and go on with my happy life. Love you and your content❤ your podcast is always a light in my week.
Exactly, that's what I do when I see a transphobic video on my feed, not even opening, just straight up yeet it out of my front page. I don't need someone to tell me that I don't exist.
I watch and consume content of different political views, stances, and etcetera to learn their perspectives and thoughts on things. To learn more about how a group of people think, to form more opinions on certain topics, and to do more in terms of helping individuals. I don’t watch content I don’t like if it’s something besides politics, really. But that’s a reason.
@@DemiSuaton Yeah, the but logic that promotes looking at different perspectives is the same logic that normally stops people from commenting everytime they see something they don't like. XD
Follow up tip: If you're called a transphobic bigot, maybe think about *why* you might've been called that instead of hurling regurgitated pseudoscientific talking points! Hope this helps as well
This is so random but I specifically told all my teachers to call me by my preferred name, claiming it to be a nickname because I live in a "YEEHAW 'MURICA" town. They all said no or ignored me, half of them saying it was "easier" to call me by my deadname despite the fact they hadn't even called me by that yet. Plus my deadname is literally longer and harder to pronounce... 😭boi
@@John_Weiss Could definitely at least pretend this one for a bit. Have to be called two or three times before you look up, and give the whole "Sorry, didn't realize you were talking to me because no one uses my legal name" speech haha
Students have the right to be addressed by the name and pronoun that correspond to the student's gender identity. A court-‐ordered name or gender change is not required, and the student does not need to change their official records. Assuming you do live in the USA, that is
they just don't like that you asked them something lmao. They're like wait my STUDENT is a PERSON??? EWWWWWW (fr tho as a future teacher this makes me MAD dude I hope you can find some support. This is so wrong, I wanna keep my trans students safe and affirmed in their identity. What teacher goes into the job without the sole intent being to help students learn, and find themselves, their skills and passions and ways to contribute to the world. I'm sorry dude much love, stay safe stay strong)
to all of the transphobes who has clicked on this video thank you for boosting the engagement for this video so it can reach more people I think jamie will appreciate that
"I just think that transphobia is dumb as hell" YES LMAO I would like to write that all artistically and frame it omg, such a simple yet beautiful sentence😭😭😭
That one comment saying your videos aren't educational is WILD to me. I've learned tons from your channel regarding studies that are misquoted/misrepresented. Also I found your video about the Olympics and that one organization being owned by the Russian mob (at least that's what I remember you saying) SUPER informative.
Danish Minister of Equality (I sh*t you not) just wrote in an article today that "Biology is decided by genes. You can't change that. That is also why there are limits to which rights transwomen and transmen should have" (yes, she wrote "transwomen and transmen", not "trans women and trans men".) She got mad that a provocative artist, a trans woman, wanted to be placed in the women's prison instead of the men's prison. Then she decided to write about this in the **literal newspaper**, stating that she has nothing against people who self-identify as a trans woman or a trans man, only that they will always be **biologically** the gender they were born as. So I needed myself a little thing to cheer myself up. Thanks for that.
@@prageruwu69it is, but even in those the naming convention is changing, due to the right using the one word term as a dog-whistle to imply "not actually a woman" in english, and that carries over to other languages, because of american hegemony etc.
Is it an adjective or modifying root in the word in that language? Cuz in English separating them indicates an adjective while smooshing them together implies a noun as, if trans woman and men are entirely separate from cis men and cis women not just another kind of man or woman. Another bigger dog whistle is transgenderism which etymologically could mean the phenomena of transgender experiences OR it could be a dog whistle framing being trans as disseminating a ideology and dove tails from there. Ambiguous language is such fun /sarcasm ( not fun in this case) I mean the Minister is clearly showing bio essentialism and oppositional sexism so the implied animus of noun vs adjective in a non-native tongue is kinda meaningless when her bias is right there.
The worst thing about that, is: the reason why prisons are segregated by gender, is to protect the female inmates from rape. Since trans women are even more likely to be sexually abused by male predators, then cis women, they should be equally segregated, even IF you agree that there are certain areas in which trans women cannot have equality due to their biology. What they are basically saying is, that trans women do not deserve equal protection.
Transphobes using the "medicalisation" insult are very casually throwing all people with any chronic illness or condition under the bus. Almost like they aren't very good people to begin with.
I can’t speak for everybody of course but me personally, I need like six other medications lol so 🤷♂️ it’s just one more thing I take once a week, all the others are daily… it’s like it’s called adulting. Most of us need some kind of medication.
Yeah, this kind of thing is adjacent to a lot of "these people taking 8-9 medications are abnormal, thus bad" and also "drain on our resources". Almost as though they feel the need to dehumanize anyone they can't relate to (and project a lot of their insecurities onto other people).
Well, it is an important point. The USA are quite openly talking about a possibility of war with China in few years time, yet many of important meds are made there. I suppose that in such an event, it would take the Europe and USA some time to start manufacturing all needed meds themselves and that there would be some priority list and I wouldn't expect HRT for transgenders to be the highest priority. At least not for civilian transgenders. 😀
right? they're like look, you guys have to take MEDICINE, it's like you have a CONDITION like great way to show you can be transphobic and ableist at the same time! Two marginalized communities with one hate-speech! (sorry that was terrible lmao). Wait til they find out about trans people WITH CHRONIC CONDITIONS 😮😮
Unfortunately there is still a stigma surrounding things like people taking medicine, mental illnesses, & any kind of disabilities especially invisible disabilities. I to this day still wish I had been put on the medicines I'm on now for my ADHD, arthritis, irregular heartbeat, & neuropathy much sooner because then my struggles growing up with several invisible disabilities may not have been as traumatic as it was. I may have still heard people say that I was "too young to be disabled" or treated like I was faking my disabilities, but I would have at least had the aids I needed so that my medicinal conditions weren't as bad as they are now & I wouldn't have had to figure out on my own what worked & didn't work for my neurodivergent brain especially when it came to getting over or under stimulated
It’s so weird when people get funny in conversation about a person taking medication for any reason. “Oh I never take meds” like it’s a flex. I would be literally dead without medication which I will be on all my life. Take life saving meds, take pain killers for your cramps, or don’t take it at all but don’t act like it’s a flex 🙄
@@Ro-qz3vuUnfortunately, for a lot of people, suffering /is/ a flex. Look at all the so called "alpha males", giving up everything pleasant in their lives (nice food or drinks that are "gay/feminine", giving up intimacy, etc) just to prove how "manly" they are. I'm kind of in a similar boat, needing medication just to function on a daily basis. I've needed those medications since I was a teenager, and probably needed them before that too. And I /still/ get snide comments from people, even family, that I don't need them. People who have seen how bad I get, and had to live with me when I haven't had those meds.
Jamie, your content, Click's, and OT's have been really the second biggest factor in me realizing I am trans myself. It's been a long while of confusion but recently I figured it out. (I have a lot of trans friends, too, so they helped me a ton) Thank you for all you do, even if it doesn't seem like much, you're really an inspiration haha
Thank you Jammi. As an older transgender woman of relatively modest means, your saying that this isn't about beauty really made me feel better. I'll never be Taylor Swift or Caitlin Jenner. But i will be me.
I am not trans, I do not know what it feels like to be trans or have gender dysphoria, I am a cis man. So when people who ARE trans tells me or otherwise say why they want to transition, who am I, a cis person, to say "no, you aren't trans, you're wrong."? If someone doesn't have experience in an area, they shouldn't speak about it as if they did. You are a valid trans person if you come out when you young or old, you are a valid trans person if you decide to get medical intervention or just socially transition. Trans rights are human rights
@@Dr_Mortis_SCP These are the same people that get angry at those in wheelchairs needing some assistance or special tools to be able to get around. They talk of them being too lazy to walk, as if because the bigots have never felt what it's like to be paralyzed from the waist down, that means it doesn't exist. Ignore all the factual information and research and the experience of the people with the condition. It's such madness.
@@Eltanin25of course! transitioning can be dangerous for many people out there. (imagine a person in a country where it is illegal to be LGBT). nobody should be forced to come out or transition, only supported if that’s the decision they make.
I've tried the "Why would anyone CHOOSE to face all this bigotry and hate and oppression?" question on transphobes. The most common response is that "There is no REAL oppression, and any hate you get is deserved, because we're trying to save you from your own bad decisions!" They literally think they're doing the "right" thing, being hateful toilet-filling, because they're too lost in hatred to think at all about their own actions. >.
@@FoxFireNaruto I do that intentionally because the narcissist prayer isn't very accurate the way it gets used and describes behavior often found outside of a neurological condition people need help with. Such as bigotry. I feel it's way more accurately attributed to bigotry.
@@usernothiz6659 It is legal for police to profile lgbt people, lgbt refugees seeking asylum from countries with a death penalty for being lgbt will be sent back to their country, conversion therapy is still legal, in most states the legal defense of gay/trans panic is still allowed. Then for trans people it is legal for them to be evicted for just being trans, refused service at a place of business for just being trans, and not only can a doctor refuse to treat a trans patient but entire hospitals can. There is no trans anti-discrimination laws in health insurance. And every month over a hundred anti-trans bills are introduce and at minimum a couple pass per month. Trans people are born they way they are and yet in several states it is now illegal to simply be trans and under 18, imagine if it was illegal to be under 18 and black. In Alabama you can not medically transition before turning 19, a full years after becoming legal adult, Utah it is 25, and it is banned under 18 in Mississippi, Tennessee, Missouri, Iowa, Kentucky, Texas, North Carolina, Georgia, Oklahoma, South Dakota, North Dakota, Louisiana, Indiana, Idaho, South Carolina, Wyoming, and is just waiting for final approvals in Ohio, and in Missouri trans people imprisoned for any crime are forcibly medically detransitioned, so yeah being able to transition is being banned.
@@rosiefay7283 it's an avatar the last Airbender reference. the quote is "there's no war in ba sing se" it denies the existence of a very serious war going on outside of the city walls and the order is trying to... yk I should probably stop explaining. GO WATCH THE SHOW IT'S SO GOOD! (the animated series at least the movies suck)
@rosiefay7283 "there is no _____ in ba sing se" is a meme from avatar, the last air bender. Basically, there was a huge war going on but people in the city of ba sing se were brainwashed to believe there is no war.
I love the explanation of why trans numbers have increased, the same as the left handed stats. It’s exactly the same thing with autism and adhd. So many people are complaining that people are getting diagnosed for a trend….no…. There’s more people being diagnosed because there is more awareness in schools and in medical settings than there used to be - those numbers were always there, just unofficially because people were not being diagnosed.
One time my class had a lesson about trans people and I asked this one kid in my class who sat next to me why he doesn’t like trans people and he said “they’re not natural” He has braces and had a metal pipe in his leg.I told him that he wasn’t natural either and he just called me ableist and then went quiet.
Air conditioning isn't natural. Cars aren't natural. Eyeglasses, dyed fabric (or any fabric really, synthetic fibers or not), getting your hair cut. IMO anyone who uses the "not natural" argument as the only justification for why something (trans or otherwise) is bad needs to check their mindset. They'd have to drop every speck of their comfortable modern lifestyle and go nude caveman if they truly think only "natural" concepts can be good.
@@FreyW-mb2djIt's only ableist to him because he set a standard that people should be natural. It's not actually ableist, because being unnatural isn't actually a bad thing
Bonus points for saying "you should have a more scientific perspective" when he LITERALLY HAS A PhD! And his videos where he digs into the science he's done personally (and the state of the literature) are some of my favourite videos of his. But I bet they won't comment on *those* videos, much less watch them...
As someone who was raised to be homophobic and transphobic (my parents are pretty strict and religious) its IMPRESSIVE how easy it is to teach kids how to hate... like, when ever i chose a female character instead of male character in game when i was 9-13 my mom would yell at me to change it, they thought it would "mAkE mE TrAnS" I came out as bi, as long as i dont bring it up and as long as im dating girls they dont gaf. my brother came out to me (and our other siblings+some close freinds of his) as a trans guy, i swear i spent like 3 days rethinking everything, unfortunately he cant do much to become the guy he wants to be. anyways, dont listen to the homphobics or transphobics, they have nothing to do with you, your sexuality/asexuality, preferred pronouns, or gender! As long as you are happy being you, thats all that matters!!
just try to be there for your brother and be supportive of his identity. It's awful when your parents aren't supportive, but just having that one person in your court can make all the difference
Weve been here for THOUSANDS OF YEARS. Not hundreds. When you look at whats credited as the "first" civilization ( Sumer ) THERE WERE DEPICTIONS OF TRANS PEOPLE. Weve been here since the start of civilization. One of their goddess literally had trans priestesses
"no regrets it's such a lie" people are the same sort who tell women who don't want kids "oh, you will change your mind" Like the f--- you know me so well, I guess you are right ❤ 😒
Don't get me started. Nearly 55, and happily child-free by choice. My whole LIFE I was told , ' Oh , you'll change your mind someday '. 😂 😂 No no I never did
They likely would even say that to ace and aro people "You haven't had sex/been in a romantic relationship, how do you know you won't like it?" "You'll change your mind when you find the right person" (I'm not either but I wanna talk about them for just a reason)
I have to take hormones to combat my chronic illness. Because when I went on birth control, my lupus suddenly became controlled. I would go off it if I wanted a kid in a heartbeat. But there's a pretty good chance that even after menopause (barring pregnancy), it's forever. I dont hear any conspiracy theorists chiming in on it. Maybe one every few years. And I doubt strongly that it would work for everyone. But depo calmed my system enough for partial remission, and that will probably be my life until they take it off the market. Im sure they will find a way to snatch that from me, too. But I'm not sad about it. Until that first shot in my butt cheeks, I thought it was just pain forever. It's not a one to one comparison. But thats because my evidence is anecdotal, while trans people have real science. .......part of the reason my evidence is anecdotal is because of issues with medical testing, but that is literally a whole different topic lol
Similar boat here. I've been on birth control pills since I hit puberty because things just weren't functioning correctly. If I miss a pill by more than about an hour, I'll start bleeding. I'm 30 now, been on these for more than half my life, and I know I won't be able to stop taking them until menopause at the earliest. Even if I went and got my tubes tied today, I'd still need to take them in order to be functional and stable and not ruining clothing. People like me are never part of the argument for transphobes and bigots. They want to get rid of hormone therapy to hurt trans folks, and they want to get rid of contraceptives to force me to have children. They don't care that without the medication, I will still likely be unable to carry due to my hormonal issues that the medicine is controlling (please do not express sadness to me for this- I hate children and definitely do not want any). They don't care that taking away my access to the medication will ruin my life and make me miserable on the daily. They don't care that the thought of pregnancy literally makes me want to stab myself in the lower belly to cut out the parasite in there. They care that I have a womb, and they insist I should be using it "for the good of our country." Medical and psychological issues be damned. These are about half of the people that want to run the USA right now. If they win, I fear for myself as well as for all my friends and neighbors and family members and the entire LGBT+ community. Hearing them talk and seeing their plans... it's legitimately terrifying.
@@OscarLangleySoryuHi intersex person here, no! Sex and gender are different, insisting that us intersex individuals are biologically non-binary is intersexist. We should remove sex from gender completely. Sex is a physical thing, whilst gender is not, no one’s sex can be a gender, for example “biologically non-binary”, or “biological a man or woman.” Please listen to us intersex individuals, especially on how “biologically non-binary” is used, since you use it to refer to us.
@@OscarLangleySoryuThis also insists gender and sex are the same if we keep assigning a gender to someone’s sex, because it implies they go hand-in-hand.
I updated my name in my work’s computer system last night, and today, the manager that I was most concerned wouldn’t be supportive sought me out to tell me that he’s here for me and he’s got my back. I’ve known him for about 6 years, and that was not at all what I would have expected from him, but it gave me a type of hope that I’ve never felt before. And my store manager came up later in the day to ask about things, and was kinda awkward about it, but he was trying, and it was nice. So thank you for being you, Jamie! Seeing your videos has helped me to build my confidence in who I am and to deconstruct my internalized transphobia. Thank you
As a left handed cis-het woman, I have used the left handed example many times to justify being an ally. Yes, I've been asked to justify it many times 🙄
@latronqui you don't want to allly your self with these people they desire to destroy you and your way of life you should reevaluate your alliances. Tell me why you are a ally I am happy to answer any questions you may have.
@@usernothiz6659 I don't have any questions. I have a lot of friends and some family in the LGBTQ community, some of whom are trans and I just think they are not a harm for anyone and need to be allowed to live their life. My grandmother was forced to suppress her left-handedness and learn to write and do everything with the right hand. But when no one was looking, she would sew and knit left-handed, and it's thanks to this that she managed to teach me how to knit when my mother was struggling. I've always been allowed to be left-handed and treated with the same respect as right-handed people. I wish in the future it will be the same for LGBTQ people, and they won't be repressed or judged for something that's part of their nature.
@latronqui trans and gay people can already live there lives and not care what other people think. And your movement isn't about gay and trans people being able to live there lives.
My trans brother actually became a lot nicer and not only is he no longer abusive, but he's now a SUPPORTIVE brother since he came out. His misery came out as abuse, and now he's happy and he's such a different person that I finally feel like I have a sibling. Transphobia causes abuse, that's all I'm saying
I am so confused by the ones that say you have no scientific grounding... like you are one of the most educational and accessible channels talking about trans and LGBTQ+ topics
as someone who used to be a terrible person to be around (e.g. homophobic and transphobic) until my egg cracked, i can confirm that i was miserable before then
Are you still a jerk tho? Having transphobic or homophobic feelings before transition is understandable but saying that shit out loud implies that it’s not the only shit you’re saying
@@3amPizzaRolls Typically, someone realizing they are Trans. Sometimes used as someone realizing they are LGBT+ at all. Example- Gurl: Omg, I thought I was cis up until high school, but then I read a story about a drag queen, and my egg suddenly cracked! Gurl's friend: Aww, congrats on figuring out who you are! I'm so happy for you! How's your family taking your transition?
Do you have any advice for young adults that grew up in very conservative areas to help unlearn some of that anti trans conditioning? My family forced so much hatred upon me (not just for trans people) and I'm not sure what to do to remove these hurtful invasive thoughts from my mind.
acknowledgement is the right first step. and if you have unlimited internet access you can search for queer spaces that’d be glad to help out as you learn. and if internet isn’t easy access, libraries should be able to provide some knowledge and books (if dated, but still information nonetheless). and give yourself a pat on the back for trying to be better. even one person overcoming their bigotry gives hope for a better and fair world
It needs time. Acknowledge those intrusive thoughts, reckognise them as what they are and then let them go. Basically saying: "You (the thought) are not true, you are not what I actually think!". And interact with people of the groups you were taught to hate, when the opportunity arises. You will soon find, they are just people, like everybody else. Maybe a bit more tolerant and open minded.
Be conscious of your biases- don’t be in denial when you have a thought you don’t want to agree with. Actually think about it instead of denying and ignoring. Reflect on why you know that’s wrong- for example, stereotypes are useless and we know this because we know that our own groups have diversity within them (like if you’re Italian and your cousin hates pasta or something) so logically it has to be the same with all people everywhere. Recognize the thought and talk yourself through dismantling it, condemning it but not condemning yourself of course.
unfortunately people absolutely do say that about people who have to take medication their whole lives. I know a lot of disabled people who get the "why are you choosing to take (insert medication needed to live/not be in pain here)" all the damn time
Yep. I've been asked why I choose to take my nausea meds that are the only reason I can eat or drink most days. Apparently my reply of "because death by dehydration and starvation sounds horrible" is gross.
Yeaahh i take like 6/7 different medications to just get through life, and people are veery judgy sometimes! I'm 'choosing' to take my meds because otherwise my whole life is laying in bed with crippling pain and nausea etc. Medication should not be shamed!
Wouldn't left-handed people and transgender people be the same, in that they were born that way, whether or not society accepts them. I say this as a lefthander, that my mother tried to switch to a righthander. Didn't work.
I was thinking the same thing. No matter what you do, you can't fully change someone's dominant side. Also another great thing: left handedness exists in most animals, it's just a part of nature.
Those people are so annoying. Let me say some things about you. You are one of the most knowledgeable person I’ve seen in this platform period. You are so smart and your talent is not wasted. You have great style. The clothes you wear really fit your look and I think that’s great. You are so calming to watch and listen to. Your voice is so nice and smooth and your points on the topic make me believe that there are good people in the world such as yourself. You are so funny and serious when the situation calls for it. Keep doing what you’re doing❤❤
As a genderqueer woman (afab, no hrt ever), I've had a tiiiny moustache and goatee since puberty! It took me a couple years to stop shaving it, but eventually I just got bored and didn't actually mind it! My favorite story to this day is when i worked at a girls' summer camp and a little 6 y.o. came up to me, squinted at my lip real close, then gasped and said "i've never seen a lady with a real life moustache before!" to which i responded "thank you, i grew it myself." she thought that was very impressive :^{D
you have been so amazing jammi! honestly i live in a transphobic house of which i try my best to end. but i fail so much, but after watching all of your videos! i have been able to counter argue false facts about trans and win a few "heated" conversations hehe. i might still be stuck were i am, but at least i get to watch you!!! and feel just that little bit better!
me and my queer buds have actually developed this accidentally ally speech but it's on purpose accident ally. like aggressively affirming your gender: example: sir Jammie you will never be a woman no matter what you do we'll always know you're a man. you are a bIoLoGiCaL MAN! you're not a mechanical man you're biological (although being a cyborg sounds badass now that I think about it anyways) for me a non-binary person: YOU WILL NEVER BE A MAN OR A WOMAN! like we say this trying to look angry and like super pissed while just barely keeping in the laughter. it makes me giggle because I am just saying the obvious fully aware but the whole game is about how well you can fake you being an ACCIDENTAL ally instead of a true ally. it's like reverse amongus but ever already knows you're an ally but it's still funny.
literally ALL i have been watching the past week is like every single Jamie video (plus the Roly collabs) lmao I did a double take seeing this was a NEW video! Yay! I'm moving out this week and next week i plan to come out to my siblings!!!! (as masc nonbinary/ a trans guy, they/he)
Lots of love Jamie❤ Lots of love to all my fellow trans/non binary/queer/lgbtqia+ people ❤❤ Also a quick note to trans kids/teens… you are 100% valid and loved!❤❤❤
Ah, you are one of those people who can’t understand the concept of loving the sinner but not the sin, you think loving the sinner means loving the sin, and hating the sin means hating the sinner. I’m a Christian and would show nothing but love and good greetings to a gay/trans person, but you would still call me a hater.
@@mattdickson627 You would actually acknowledge the facts and not support (directly and indirectly) genocidal policies and rhetoric? Cause that is what you would need to do to do that.
Jammi, I want you to know that I have been linking a lot of your videos to my father. I'm horrible at voicing my own feelings and thoughts to him when it comes to trying to explain to him what the trans and queer community has been going through. (I'm not trans myself, but I am queer.)
i've always wondered where the conservative argument of "condescending elitist liberals" comes from, and i think it's rooted in a deep insecurity about their own ignorance. if you're ignorant, and you're not willing to own the fact that you're ignorant and feel somehow threatened or insulted by the prospect of learning something new, then i can see how someone trying to educate you on a topic could be perceived as "condescending," even if it isn't actually and we really just want you to have more information. conservatives, please don't shut yourselves off from a lifetime of learning because you think not knowing everything there is to know in the world is somehow an irredeemable flaw.
It definitely feels like denial. Whenever I hear that stereotype, it just sounds like the person genuinely feels threatened by people who are smarter than them, but they’d rather die on this hill than admit they were ever wrong.
Speaking mostly from my own jaded American worldview here, but the people who popularize those sorts of buzzwords (the politicians and demagogues) don't necessarily believe what they're saying. They're courting a voter base or audience who may not have had the chance to go to college--possibly due to the need to get a job to support their family (e.g., an unplanned child; an aging parent or grandparent; a sibling with chronic health issues), and/or lack of government support for public education--and stoking resentment for college-educated liberals while ignoring the part where college-educated conservatives consistently vote for policies that keep other people poor and uneducated. It's evil because the whole idea that there's something morally wrong with being poor ALSO crops up on the right (see: "freeloaders" rhetoric about people on welfare/Medicaid), but as long as people to listen to what the talking heads say without looking at what the politicians actually DO, they'll continue to believe the right will give them all the pride and prosperity they need in exchange for their support. Meanwhile, anyone who argues with them is construed as trying to take away what pride and prosperity they currently have. And who wants to let anyone do that? It's always worth remembering that the average conservative is constantly being lied to and manipulated into a state of fearfulness by their own supposed representatives. Pity them, and work to make the world better for everyone. Even them.
@@zalizumd27 I'm trans masc. It isn't really safe to make your own binder however I found sports bras are better than normal ones. Also I've seen people use two sports bras (NOT TIGHT ONES) to "bind" but I wouldn't recommend that because it could damage your ribs. If you do do that, I wouldn't wear it for longer than 6 hours and if it's hard to breathe take it off *immediately* To hide your chest, wearing busy shirts that are stripped helps, as well as darker colours. Things that also don't highlight or hug your figure around your waist and chest are helpful. Things that cuff on the wrist though help like cuffed hoodies. I hope that helps, stay safe
@@zalizumd27on TransTape: it is important to know, that it is not ment to be used like a bandage or bra circling your chest. Do not do this with stuff that cannot be removed in a second, like EVER. When you put them on to tight, or you have a health emergency that could cause you seriouse harm, and might even kill you in extrem cases. You should also not use anything with adhesives, if you have skin that bruises easily. And some people have allergic reactions to the glue, even the best hypo-allergic glue and you might want to test wear a strip on the inside of your ellbow, were the skin is soft and thin, to test wether you can wear them safely... you do not want to have an allergis reaction on your nipples
@@Player-p4k I agree that everyone in the queer community is valid, but right now we’re talking about trans people. In the same way we can talk about men’s problems and have a different conversation for women’s problems. I get what your saying, but i don’t think we need to change the statement
Omg, I'm a cis girl and every time *I* see any transphobic shit, I get offended, I can't even imagine how it is for you or other trans people. Sending lots of love to you, Jamie, you're amazing!! 🏳️⚧️
All those bigots are just upset that you're a better looking man than they are! Love your content! And as far as we (The public) gets to know you, I'm sure you're a beautiful person!
Do people not read the “please be respectful” part on the TH-cam comments, or do they just think of it as a challenge? I’m sorry you have people making hurtful comments, but I am impressed by how calmly and logically you answer them.
I hate that you have to deal with this 🙁 you are a wonderful intelligent young man and for each one of those idiots there's a thousand of us here who adore you xxx
I'm on 3 different hormone therapies: insulin, estradiol, and my thyroid medication. Lily Simpson posted a video about David Tenant's early career, when he played a trans woman. Interesting information.
I'm grateful there's now HRT. As watching my mums struggle when she was 32 yo and going through menopause was awful as HRT wasn't available then for women who were that were going through menopause. The Dr had to work out what hormones my mum needed and had to prescribe them to my dad, as they were hormones that were acceptable for a cisman to take but not a ciswoman, so my dad had to pretend he needed these hormones so my mum could get treatment of HRT for her early onset menopause. The thing people had to do just to get by and that it still happens today. Quite sad.
"Natural and biological men don't compare beards." Bulls*** Beard comparison happens all the time. Often in a joking manner, but it's there. The most common joke among the guys I know being "looks like you need some cream and kittens to get that thing you call a beard off your face." Second being "Yeah, you could shave that off with a smooth stone."
Firstly, as a swedish cis woman may I just say bravo on the pronunciation of "blåhaj"! secondly to all the transphobes i refuse to be called 'normal' it's offensive. I tried for years to be 'normal' and it almost k*lled me (i am autistic and adhd)! I love your content, Jamie, I'm learning a lot!
Jamie, I appreciate your videos. I've learned so much from you and others such as Samantha Lux, Sam Collins, and Noah Finnce. I especially appreciate that you give citations to back up what you say.
Love your videos Jamie! I’ve finally started my journey to finally be me. I start HRT tomorrow and I’m so excited. Your videos helped give me the courage to finally start. ❤
I do think arguments that don't simply *name* transphobia, but rather show the harm and foolishness of it, are most compelling--but I can't blame you for being exhausted in having to deliver them so damn often. Almost no one I talk to about Avoidant Personality Disorder has ever even heard of it, so spreading awareness to try to save more people like myself is very much a similar feeling of "ugh, I have to educate the whole bleeding world." The only thing that keeps me going is knowing how important it is for the world to understand, but I really do get the fatigue which comes with that. One person can only do so much, but I thank you for what you do. You've really helped me unravel some of the brainwashing from my religious childhood.
I remember saying that things that are "up for debate" should be, like. "Is a hot dog a sandwich" or "does pineapple belong on pizza". Things that people can have strong opinions about and strongly disagree about, but that don't really affect anything. Subjects like basic human rights, on the other hand, are not up for debate.
I wanted to leave one last comment before I go: there is a very famous American photographer named Donna Gottschalk. She was a lesbian woman and is most famous for her photos of queer Americans. Most of her photos were taken in the 1970's during the early years of LGBT+ activism for equal rights. She is celebrated in the current LGBT+ community for photographing queer history in the US and for doing so in real time. And she published an entire photo collection of queer women who had facial hair. Granted they were all from the LGBT+ community: but it was created with the sole intention of showing that women can grow facial hair just as naturally as men. And that it's nothing negative or shameful. Have a great day everyone.
Your videos are incredibly insightful and educational. I watch them to better understand issues. Hate comments claiming the opposite are either purposefully lying or they don't actually bother to watch the video before commenting.
Clownfish and hawkfish also change their sex depending on the situation as well, they join the banana slug boat. The issue with people who say, "scientific evidence doesn't prove it exists" is that they think scientific research hypothesizes that trans people don't truly exist, when the true scientific method instead asks the question, "do they exist?" and doesn't say yes or no in the question alone. That's the majority of scientific research, the question should be unbiased and able to pull from multiple sources and stand up to sources that oppose it using more evidence, keyword: UNBIASED. By changing the question from "trans people don't exist" to "do they exist?", you open up a world of possibilities, you begin to truly understand that biology doesn't fit in a neat box and is constantly spilling out new content that we have yet to understand. As a person who went into biology in college, biology isn't absolute and we still don't know everything about everything, it's not a neat box. And guess what, the answer to the latter question is: yes! They do exist, and the evidence we're starting to understand supports that, without there being any prior bias for or against it.
Although the question is not "do trans people exist" any more than it would be "do left-handed people exist". The nearest to that it would come is to argue over what is meant by "trans" - and that argument we HAVE seen, and we still see echoes of when people insist that sex = gender. Research is more on the why (what factors are at play) and how (physiological, psychological, and sociological interplay).
@@viverra fair, I mean your response, especially at the end further goes on to show that there are so many other factors to consider in this research, which is another big aspect of research in general. It's basically to look for more possibilities than what we already do understand, i.e, thinking further outside the box and understanding that biology doesn't fit in a neat box and is never absolute. Biology constantly surprises us in ways that pushes us to further look for the "why", it has a knack of introducing new things we didn't expect.
5:54 ngl when people say "I don't support" but I'm not homophobic- there are I guess 2 ways to "not support" 1- you don't actively engage in pride/lgbt media but you still agree they should have rights (actually not homophobic, but if this was the case there's really no need to say "i don't support") 2- you actually don't think that gay people should have rights/ don't want to see anything even related, and you are homophobic
Ummmm. Actual Biologist here (schooling and career). Binary sex doesn't exist, let alone gender, which isn't even the same thing. Even in humans, sex is not truly a clear cut system. The only reason "basic biology" works things in a largely binary, straightforward way, is due to it being meant to TEACH CHILDREN THE BASICS, and give you a sort of general idea of how heredity and things work, but once you make it past that point, it is very clear that it is SOOOOOOOOOO much more messy and complicated than that.
Yeah "basic" biology is just that "basic". It is like someone telling a mathematician that we can't use algebra or calculus or any other higher level, advanced, math and can only use addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division because there is only "basic" math. Go to college/university and you will learn advanced forms of education, which of course is more advanced than "basic" versions of that education. I have a B.S. in Zoology and took all the same courses that pre-med, etc. take, such as genetics, developmental biology, etc. I also took psychology, sociology, and interpersonal relationship courses with my focus on behavior and communication in animals/people. It blows my mind that people want to focus on grade school level science when people who have gone to higher level education institutions are clearly telling them that they are wrong if they would only look up higher level or advanced research and studies on those topics. Why do people listen to people on Twitter, FB, etc., who have never actually studied a subject, instead of someone who has an actual degree in, and in many cases actually practices medicine in, that field?
@@SeaBreeze-w9999 That's perfectly fine to teach them it exists, and give perspectives from transgender individuals about what it is like. Nothing I, nor the person who replied prior to you (the one other reply to my comment I've seen so far, that is) said anything about not teaching about transgender individuals/people, non-human animals, or anything else trans. Frankly, I think schooling in general, at least in the USA, is severely lacking in detail, especially in the case of biology, which has become even more obvious in recent years. I was saying the binary system of sex, being either completely male or completely female, is very fundamental level meant to start you out in an easy and low information introductory sort of way, but that system isn't actually accurate and doesn't truly exist because there is WAY more to it than that. As it is, in middle school or first year of high school, my biology courses were already teaching that there was more to it. Once I entered college and focused on biology (majored in biology with a focus towards the anatomy and physiology of multiple species and classes of organism, and minored in psychology) the information on genetics, physiological differences and changes, and so much more quickly expanded, basically making the Gregor Mendel pea experiment (a very widely used and simple example of heredity and genetics) was, while an ok source for teaching that heredity exists, teaches so very little on the topic that not providing further detail is almost an insult to the learning capabilities of children, let alone teens and older.
@@SeaBreeze-w9999 So far, the only "socially contagious" complaints have been claims that haven't been supported. It's not about teaching or not teaching without prompting. It should be about providing as unbiased of information on a topic as possible, when asked or if it comes up. Giving clear and accurate information, or as accurate as possible by using unbiased, or as unbiased as it can get, research and true experiences. Someone may find something fits them (gay, bi, trans, whatever else), and as they get more information find it maybe doesn't quite fit, or maybe it does. Even prior to some of the newer, and in some cases excessive, laws regarding things like being trans, even kids didn't get irreversible transition procedures. Avoiding the conversation and making it wrong will cause worse reactions and extreme acts that could be avoided by just teaching people the accurate information when asked. I've taught quite a few kids and have quite a few (honestly, kinda too many, but there's a reason one of my sister's got her tubes tied) nieces and nephews, of various ages, and I have yet to meet a kid, or especially teen, that isn't questioning themselves and trying to figure things out, yet still aren't ready to jump into it just because some other people found it fit them. Yes, some people might do crazy and irresponsible things, but that takes a lot of money and has literally always existed and will always exist. Some people will do something on a whim if they can, but avoiding the discussion or providing bad information about it will only punish the people that are already trying to think it through. Kids may have a lot of growing to do, but if you give them the right tools, they are capable of understanding considerably more than many people give them credit for.
Haven't finished watching yet, but I just wanted to thank Jamie and send him lots of love for always reminding us to be our best selves and live our best lives. ❤ It's a shame the only thing some people have to offer is gratuitous hatred (what happened to live and let live?...).
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release a transphobe diss track
Just a song with all the lyrics being trans hate comments, not to agree with, just to let them think we care
Still think you should launch "Jammy Dodgems", bumper cars covered in fruit preserves
Having met many transmen, your voice is great. Many transmen would probably be envious.
I don't want to be beautiful, pretty, attractive. I want to be invisible. I want to be seen as the woman I am but so indistinguishable that people just accept me at face value and forget me as fast as they didn't notice me. Unfortunately that will never be the case 🫤
Those "you are a women" comments know for damn sure if they saw Jamie enter a female bathroom, they would call the police.
So. True!
Frfrfr SO REAL
In a heartbeat!
it's almost like she's dedicated a lot of effort to trying to deceive the general public with her physical appearence
@@bigchongusHH Yes. He and other trans people live their lives making every personal decision based on how they can fool you and other people that they are lucky enough not to know.
CIs men don't compare beards? There's an entire beard contest to see who has the best beard. World Beard and Moustache Championships does this annually.
That sounds so stupidly awesome.
Picturing a line of buff, perfectly stoic men, all with cartoonishly long beards and twirly mustaches. The winner gets a giant golden medal, which also has a beard
@@garlikbred6474why buff
There's a TH-camr that specifically makes his videos for beardos and weirdos!
@@garlikbred6474 it's almost midnight for me and I should probably go to sleep cause at first I read twenty moustaches instead of twirly and was imagining something very weird... 'xD
I take meds, and have done for 12 years on and off, to manage mood disorders. While it can be a pain in the arse, I certainly don't regret it as I really don't have a choice (well, the other choice would be the end of all choosing). It's pretty obvious that Jamie takes his meds for the same reason: that's how he can live a decent life. I'm with you, bro! Lifelong necessary med gang!
Yup! 12+ prescriptions here. I guess I'm "medicalized" because I like breathing, not being in agonizing nerve pain, and not stroking out and dying. If I could safely take HRT, I'd probably add that to the list, but apparently endometrial cancer likes those hormones, so no. Society only tries to shame people for using drugs that 1) help with mental health, 2) are gender affirming (and thus help with mental health), or 3) affect your reproductive ability. Why? 1) Power and control, 2) power and control, 3) power and control. So all those people trying to shame folks for taking prescriptions to be fully functional -- including HRT for trans folks -- can step off.
same here, meds are meant to help us we don't take it for fun
Did they seriously say that now? Trans people existed before hrt so what is their point again? Bull
I'd be in a lot of pain without my meds, but sure, I guess I'm just willfully popping pills for the fun of it. It's certainly not for my bank account's sake 😂
My doctor told me when I started estrogen, that I was going to gain 15 pounds and start having roller coaster mood swings. I did gain the weight but it took years as I'm fairly active. I've never been really emotional so I was actually looking forward to mood swings. Instead I became even more emotionally flat-lined. I still have emotions I am just not at all excitable in a good or bad way.
As a teen who was not only homophobic and sexist, but also transphobic, I can confirm I was miserable to exist and to be around.
I’m so, so glad you were able to change and grow as a person. Hats off to you.
we love to see character development, good on ya
🩷🩷 w character developmfnt
@@UnreliableArsonist Yeah I’m so happy I was able to grow. It took a personal experience sadly (my friend came out to me as transgender and I started to rethink things), but happy to be where I am now. I dropped the people who I use to watch (lots of right wing content).
Funny enough though, turns out I was Bi myself when I would hate on lesbians and bi sexual women at that time.
Yep it’s all coming together lol
omg same i use to be all of that too and i was so miserable, now im a bit better and only miserable due to mental illness but not because of being hateful
Hater: "When you say 'cis' do you mean 'normal'?"
Me, a cis woman: Deeply offended that anyone would call me "normal"
Also right-wing weirdo transphobes thinking *they* of all people would be the "normal" ones.
haha you’re so cute :)
XD ❤
Cis women aren't normal, they're lizards.
Hahahahaha same!
Some good news: Imane Khelif is suing those fraud millionaires who spread misinformation.
That's not how suing people works. You know that right?
They won't have any meaningful punishment, even if khelid wins.
That is good news. The issue I see with what has happened is that sure, she's a cis woman. The hate she's received is horrible with real life consequences. But what if she had been trans? The response would have been 1000% worse and not illegal because it's true? If we are celebrating the phobes being "wrong" then in my opinion we are happy about the wrong issue. I'd love to see them get hit with harrassment versus defamation or libel.
Here's a different hypothetical. Say black folk were excluded from sport due to an idea that they had an unfair advantage. And a person kicks ass in the ring and the call goes up, "Unfair, they are black, have black heritage, that's why they won." And our response was, "No, they aren't black! See the DNA tests proving it! Oh, and don't be a bigot... to non-black people that you think are black."
Basically in my mind when we celebrate Rowling et al being punished in some way for erroneously calling someone trans, then we are kind of validating the anti-trans point. As if their hate wouldn't be wrong (or less wrong) if they had been correct on the facts.
Regarding Imane herself, absolutely she should be making these legal moves. It's her life, her sport, her harm. Get that bag and make them suffer. But trans folk and allies on the outside need to rethink this tactic. Because when this situation arises with actual trans people we've already ceded ground.
@@Briskeeen Obviously she’s not going to solve wealth inequality but it will set a precedent.
So she should. Good luck to her. She's a winner either way
People do criticize people for taking life long medication. For depression and diabetes. My friend was told by a in-law that she should stop taking her needed medication and when she pointed out she would probably die they told her then she would not be a drain on society
ah yeah, that'll get people to see your way of thinking... tell 'em it would be a good thing if they stopped taking their life-saving medication. eurgh. sorry your friend has such a wretched in-law
It's all about a) eugenics b) the jews
That is aweful. How can someone be nasty enough to say this to the face of someone who is family? It is bad to say that to anybody, but to the sibbling of your married partner?! And apparently not even during an arguement. That is some next level kind of horrible. I hope they are an ex-in-law now. If not your friend should really consider going no contact with the family member married to that pos.
Saw this with my sister. Had people in our fam tell her the same basically verbatim. Fortunately it's a very small part of the population but why do they have to be so loud 😢
I never understood that minedset. They act as if us wanting to live not be in pain and be able to somehow function is us being weak.
Would they say to person in wheelchair to get up and not be bound to a wheelchair?
Wait David Tennant is super trans supportive? Bro that guy was my whole childhood, he read the how to train your dragon audiobooks, literally I was so shocked to randomly hear his name here but I’m so fucking happy ❤❤
He's a passionate ally yes!
His child is nonbinary and he is proud and protective of them. He was an ally even before this came to light though.
omg he did?? i kinda need to listen to those now
@@paadoxal you really should! They were so entertaining when I was younger, even now I still listen to them whenever I feel like it
Also they made me cry more then any kids book has the right to
@@errandboytv5733 i already started bc it's all on youtube:)! gonna be perfect for my shift tomorrow
I'm so so sad that you have deal with hate just because someone refuses to find out the facts!!
I'm an older cis woman, straight, and I have a hard time wrapping my head around why anyone hates someone just because they're different from them. Race, colour, beliefs, gender... We're all just people trying to live our lives as best we can!! I love you Jamie and your amazing wife Shaaba!! ❤
I love how when I was pre-trans I was “too manly” and “a boy-girl” but now I’m “definitely a girl” and “never a real man”
For real!
She just discovered the difference between scientific concepts and social concepts
@@bigchongusHH me? I’m he.
@@Hello.Old.Friends no you're not
@@bigchongusHH socially I present as a he.
"Men don't compare beards" THERE ARE CLUBS FOR BEARDED PEOPLE!!! 😂😂😂😂 Don't sit there and bullshit when there are literal clubs for people dedicated to their beards
It’s literally a common trope that men judge each other on their facial hair and their ability to grow it or not.
These type of people seem like they never leave home.
Well, guess I missed my chance to join such a club.
THERES LITERALLY COMPETITIONS EVERY YEAR THAT GET INTERNATIONAL ATTENTION BC ITS COOL
who thought a tshirt was considered cross dressing lol
Trad types that want women to only wear ankle length dresses at all times.
Have you not heard? Women aren't allowed to wear t-shirts (and pants). Only dresses, blouses and skirts.
(Oh, boy.. I've been crossdressing all my life! I never knew..)
Why on earth do people watch videos they do not like. If I start a video and I don't like it I start another video, tell TH-cam to not show me videos of that creator anymore and go on with my happy life.
Love you and your content❤ your podcast is always a light in my week.
Exactly, that's what I do when I see a transphobic video on my feed, not even opening, just straight up yeet it out of my front page. I don't need someone to tell me that I don't exist.
I watch and consume content of different political views, stances, and etcetera to learn their perspectives and thoughts on things. To learn more about how a group of people think, to form more opinions on certain topics, and to do more in terms of helping individuals. I don’t watch content I don’t like if it’s something besides politics, really. But that’s a reason.
@@DemiSuaton Yeah, the but logic that promotes looking at different perspectives is the same logic that normally stops people from commenting everytime they see something they don't like. XD
@@brickbot2.038 Yeah, I know??
Pro tip: If you don't like being called a transphobic bigot, don't say transphobic bigoted things. Hope this helps!
Follow up tip: If you're called a transphobic bigot, maybe think about *why* you might've been called that instead of hurling regurgitated pseudoscientific talking points!
Hope this helps as well
pro tip: nobody has ever been able to stop laughing at those terms
@@jasperhollow664 yeah pseudoscience like "gender is a social construct", "women can have dicks"
@@bigchongusHH
Pro tip: insecure people like yourself need to log off, touch grass, seek help and find actual friends.
This is so random but I specifically told all my teachers to call me by my preferred name, claiming it to be a nickname because I live in a "YEEHAW 'MURICA" town. They all said no or ignored me, half of them saying it was "easier" to call me by my deadname despite the fact they hadn't even called me by that yet. Plus my deadname is literally longer and harder to pronounce... 😭boi
They probably think they’re gonna get fired for it.
I’m so sorry you’re stuck there, you won’t be forever.
Refuse to answer to your deadname and ignore them?
Yeah, you probably can't, but it's a thought…
@@John_Weiss Could definitely at least pretend this one for a bit. Have to be called two or three times before you look up, and give the whole "Sorry, didn't realize you were talking to me because no one uses my legal name" speech haha
Students have the right to be addressed by the name and pronoun that correspond to the student's gender identity. A court-‐ordered name or gender change is not required, and the student does not need to change their official records.
Assuming you do live in the USA, that is
they just don't like that you asked them something lmao. They're like wait my STUDENT is a PERSON??? EWWWWWW
(fr tho as a future teacher this makes me MAD dude I hope you can find some support. This is so wrong, I wanna keep my trans students safe and affirmed in their identity. What teacher goes into the job without the sole intent being to help students learn, and find themselves, their skills and passions and ways to contribute to the world. I'm sorry dude much love, stay safe stay strong)
to all of the transphobes who has clicked on this video thank you for boosting the engagement for this video so it can reach more people I think jamie will appreciate that
hello lgbt people, next week i will be 2 months on t (my 50-day anniversary is today, actually 👍)
Congratulations!
Hell yeah!! Sep 21st will be my 1 year on E, I hope your first year is great🩷🩷
Congrats!
Yass, awesome!
Good for you all!
“There's no such thing as transphobia.” God, I WISH that was true, and I'm not even trans. I just think that transphobia is dumb as hell.
Same.
same
"I just think that transphobia is dumb as hell" YES LMAO I would like to write that all artistically and frame it omg, such a simple yet beautiful sentence😭😭😭
@@Eddysigsame 😭💯💯
Same.
"Dear christ"
"Actually it's jamie"
Only 1 minute into the video and already amazing
Jamie being an icon as usual
Jaimie is god confirmed?!?!!
jamie is a woman
@@erikcat2.036 it wasn’t funny
@@reneekovacic2330 458 people seem to think otherwise at least
That one comment saying your videos aren't educational is WILD to me. I've learned tons from your channel regarding studies that are misquoted/misrepresented. Also I found your video about the Olympics and that one organization being owned by the Russian mob (at least that's what I remember you saying) SUPER informative.
Danish Minister of Equality (I sh*t you not) just wrote in an article today that "Biology is decided by genes. You can't change that. That is also why there are limits to which rights transwomen and transmen should have"
(yes, she wrote "transwomen and transmen", not "trans women and trans men".)
She got mad that a provocative artist, a trans woman, wanted to be placed in the women's prison instead of the men's prison. Then she decided to write about this in the **literal newspaper**, stating that she has nothing against people who self-identify as a trans woman or a trans man, only that they will always be **biologically** the gender they were born as.
So I needed myself a little thing to cheer myself up. Thanks for that.
but isn't trans men/trans women one word in a lot of languages? in swedish we say transmän/transkvinnor, is it not similar in danish?
I look away from Denmark for one second and this happens? Clearly still stuck in the 40s
@@prageruwu69it is, but even in those the naming convention is changing, due to the right using the one word term as a dog-whistle to imply "not actually a woman" in english, and that carries over to other languages, because of american hegemony etc.
Is it an adjective or modifying root in the word in that language? Cuz in English separating them indicates an adjective while smooshing them together implies a noun as, if trans woman and men are entirely separate from cis men and cis women not just another kind of man or woman. Another bigger dog whistle is transgenderism which etymologically could mean the phenomena of transgender experiences OR it could be a dog whistle framing being trans as disseminating a ideology and dove tails from there. Ambiguous language is such fun /sarcasm ( not fun in this case)
I mean the Minister is clearly showing bio essentialism and oppositional sexism so the implied animus of noun vs adjective in a non-native tongue is kinda meaningless when her bias is right there.
The worst thing about that, is: the reason why prisons are segregated by gender, is to protect the female inmates from rape. Since trans women are even more likely to be sexually abused by male predators, then cis women, they should be equally segregated, even IF you agree that there are certain areas in which trans women cannot have equality due to their biology. What they are basically saying is, that trans women do not deserve equal protection.
Transphobes using the "medicalisation" insult are very casually throwing all people with any chronic illness or condition under the bus. Almost like they aren't very good people to begin with.
I can’t speak for everybody of course but me personally, I need like six other medications lol so 🤷♂️ it’s just one more thing I take once a week, all the others are daily… it’s like it’s called adulting. Most of us need some kind of medication.
@@OscarLangleySoryu yeah I've an autoimmune disease that cannot be cured that I will forever eat meds for. It's not that big of a deal.
Yeah, this kind of thing is adjacent to a lot of "these people taking 8-9 medications are abnormal, thus bad" and also "drain on our resources". Almost as though they feel the need to dehumanize anyone they can't relate to (and project a lot of their insecurities onto other people).
Well, it is an important point. The USA are quite openly talking about a possibility of war with China in few years time, yet many of important meds are made there. I suppose that in such an event, it would take the Europe and USA some time to start manufacturing all needed meds themselves and that there would be some priority list and I wouldn't expect HRT for transgenders to be the highest priority. At least not for civilian transgenders. 😀
right? they're like look, you guys have to take MEDICINE, it's like you have a CONDITION like great way to show you can be transphobic and ableist at the same time! Two marginalized communities with one hate-speech! (sorry that was terrible lmao). Wait til they find out about trans people WITH CHRONIC CONDITIONS 😮😮
Unfortunately there is still a stigma surrounding things like people taking medicine, mental illnesses, & any kind of disabilities especially invisible disabilities. I to this day still wish I had been put on the medicines I'm on now for my ADHD, arthritis, irregular heartbeat, & neuropathy much sooner because then my struggles growing up with several invisible disabilities may not have been as traumatic as it was. I may have still heard people say that I was "too young to be disabled" or treated like I was faking my disabilities, but I would have at least had the aids I needed so that my medicinal conditions weren't as bad as they are now & I wouldn't have had to figure out on my own what worked & didn't work for my neurodivergent brain especially when it came to getting over or under stimulated
It’s so weird when people get funny in conversation about a person taking medication for any reason. “Oh I never take meds” like it’s a flex. I would be literally dead without medication which I will be on all my life. Take life saving meds, take pain killers for your cramps, or don’t take it at all but don’t act like it’s a flex 🙄
@@Ro-qz3vuUnfortunately, for a lot of people, suffering /is/ a flex. Look at all the so called "alpha males", giving up everything pleasant in their lives (nice food or drinks that are "gay/feminine", giving up intimacy, etc) just to prove how "manly" they are.
I'm kind of in a similar boat, needing medication just to function on a daily basis. I've needed those medications since I was a teenager, and probably needed them before that too. And I /still/ get snide comments from people, even family, that I don't need them. People who have seen how bad I get, and had to live with me when I haven't had those meds.
Jamie, your content, Click's, and OT's have been really the second biggest factor in me realizing I am trans myself. It's been a long while of confusion but recently I figured it out. (I have a lot of trans friends, too, so they helped me a ton) Thank you for all you do, even if it doesn't seem like much, you're really an inspiration haha
Congrats on figuring out who you are🗣️💜 I hope you receive everything in your transition that you strive for
@@Bunny_Bill thank u i hope everything works out
Thank you Jammi. As an older transgender woman of relatively modest means, your saying that this isn't about beauty really made me feel better. I'll never be Taylor Swift or Caitlin Jenner. But i will be me.
As a baby trans guy, I will from now on be using that quote if you don't mind 😂🥰
I totally get it. I used to be a relatively attractive woman, but am happy to be turning into a homely old dude.
@@TheDopekittySuch is the life of a man, tbf… I was hot as hell as a female, now I’m just a man LOL
I'm glad you are not Caitlin Jenner. She is not a friend to the trans community.
Women are all judged by our appearance. Hugs
"You're a woman" at least they used the right "You're" 😅
So depressing when that's far and away the best thing that can be said about their message, lol
@@SPierre-dm4woagreed
Baby steps... At least proper grammar shows that the potential is there, it just needs more education. :-)
@@irrelevant_noob true
OMG actually, I get more angry at improper grammar than the actual hate comment, if they're going to hate, they need to hate correctly.
I am not trans, I do not know what it feels like to be trans or have gender dysphoria, I am a cis man.
So when people who ARE trans tells me or otherwise say why they want to transition, who am I, a cis person, to say "no, you aren't trans, you're wrong."?
If someone doesn't have experience in an area, they shouldn't speak about it as if they did.
You are a valid trans person if you come out when you young or old, you are a valid trans person if you decide to get medical intervention or just socially transition. Trans rights are human rights
It is strange how confidently these people can say that my gender dysphoria isn’t real, when they don’t even know what dysphoria feels like
Hmmm, and are you also valid, if you decide that despite the gender dysphoria, you don't want to transition, nor medicaly, nor socialy? 😀
Yes, duh
@@Dr_Mortis_SCP These are the same people that get angry at those in wheelchairs needing some assistance or special tools to be able to get around. They talk of them being too lazy to walk, as if because the bigots have never felt what it's like to be paralyzed from the waist down, that means it doesn't exist. Ignore all the factual information and research and the experience of the people with the condition. It's such madness.
@@Eltanin25of course! transitioning can be dangerous for many people out there. (imagine a person in a country where it is illegal to be LGBT). nobody should be forced to come out or transition, only supported if that’s the decision they make.
I've tried the "Why would anyone CHOOSE to face all this bigotry and hate and oppression?" question on transphobes. The most common response is that "There is no REAL oppression, and any hate you get is deserved, because we're trying to save you from your own bad decisions!" They literally think they're doing the "right" thing, being hateful toilet-filling, because they're too lost in hatred to think at all about their own actions. >.
gotta love the "it's not happening but if it's happening it's not so bad and if it's that bad then you deserve it" dialogue tree
@@KalinTheZola Like the narcissist prayer but for bigotry.
@@FoxFireNaruto I do that intentionally because the narcissist prayer isn't very accurate the way it gets used and describes behavior often found outside of a neurological condition people need help with. Such as bigotry. I feel it's way more accurately attributed to bigotry.
@@KalinTheZolathank you for being the one other person I‘ve seen on the internet calling out this usage of „narcissist“
We trans people do not want to be revered by society. We just want the same rights and considerations as everyone else.
You guys already are protected under the law equally
You dont have a right to compel my speech or perceptions.
@@usernothiz6659 loud incorrect buzzer
@@usernothiz6659 It is legal for police to profile lgbt people, lgbt refugees seeking asylum from countries with a death penalty for being lgbt will be sent back to their country, conversion therapy is still legal, in most states the legal defense of gay/trans panic is still allowed. Then for trans people it is legal for them to be evicted for just being trans, refused service at a place of business for just being trans, and not only can a doctor refuse to treat a trans patient but entire hospitals can. There is no trans anti-discrimination laws in health insurance. And every month over a hundred anti-trans bills are introduce and at minimum a couple pass per month. Trans people are born they way they are and yet in several states it is now illegal to simply be trans and under 18, imagine if it was illegal to be under 18 and black.
In Alabama you can not medically transition before turning 19, a full years after becoming legal adult, Utah it is 25, and it is banned under 18 in Mississippi, Tennessee, Missouri, Iowa, Kentucky, Texas, North Carolina, Georgia, Oklahoma, South Dakota, North Dakota, Louisiana, Indiana, Idaho, South Carolina, Wyoming, and is just waiting for final approvals in Ohio, and in Missouri trans people imprisoned for any crime are forcibly medically detransitioned, so yeah being able to transition is being banned.
@@user_hat what rights don't the trans community have that everyone else has then?
they really said "there is no transphobia in ba sing se"
Sorry --- what was that last bit supposed to be?
It’s avatar the last airbender.
@@rosiefay7283 it's an avatar the last Airbender reference. the quote is "there's no war in ba sing se" it denies the existence of a very serious war going on outside of the city walls and the order is trying to... yk I should probably stop explaining. GO WATCH THE SHOW IT'S SO GOOD! (the animated series at least the movies suck)
@rosiefay7283 "there is no _____ in ba sing se" is a meme from avatar, the last air bender. Basically, there was a huge war going on but people in the city of ba sing se were brainwashed to believe there is no war.
bazinga
I love the explanation of why trans numbers have increased, the same as the left handed stats. It’s exactly the same thing with autism and adhd. So many people are complaining that people are getting diagnosed for a trend….no…. There’s more people being diagnosed because there is more awareness in schools and in medical settings than there used to be - those numbers were always there, just unofficially because people were not being diagnosed.
OMG Jamie! Have you heard the news? I've just heard that Imane Khelif's Cyberbullying Lawsuit names Elon Musty and Jk Raving!
Fuck around & find out!
"JK Raving" I love that one! Gonna use it from now on!
Good ol JK Trolling
Ah yes, JK TERFling being named in the lawsuit because she deserves to be called out and exposed
One time my class had a lesson about trans people and I asked this one kid in my class who sat next to me why he doesn’t like trans people and he said “they’re not natural” He has braces and had a metal pipe in his leg.I told him that he wasn’t natural either and he just called me ableist and then went quiet.
*sigh…* I get why that could be ableist but! You aren’t wrong lmao
That’s good. You never know, they may actually think about that later.
I mean, he brought up the "not natural" point, you just emphasized his...tools? that he needs to help him. And like, that's a fair point to point out.
Air conditioning isn't natural. Cars aren't natural. Eyeglasses, dyed fabric (or any fabric really, synthetic fibers or not), getting your hair cut. IMO anyone who uses the "not natural" argument as the only justification for why something (trans or otherwise) is bad needs to check their mindset. They'd have to drop every speck of their comfortable modern lifestyle and go nude caveman if they truly think only "natural" concepts can be good.
@@FreyW-mb2djIt's only ableist to him because he set a standard that people should be natural. It's not actually ableist, because being unnatural isn't actually a bad thing
Transphobe: “You don’t know what you are talking about.”
Jamie: “I have a PhD.”
Bonus points for saying "you should have a more scientific perspective" when he LITERALLY HAS A PhD! And his videos where he digs into the science he's done personally (and the state of the literature) are some of my favourite videos of his. But I bet they won't comment on *those* videos, much less watch them...
Transphobes be like: “You’re not saying what I want you to say so you’re wrong.”
I'm sure there'll be anti-intellectuals who will continue to parrot that education is brainwashing or something
Yes
It always makes me laugh when they say he's unintelligent. Like buddy....buddy, he's....literally an expert. He's got a doctorate....buddy
I saw the title and instantly agreed 🤣❤️
I'm sorry but imma steal "Dear Christ, more batshit nonsense" for other things
As someone who was raised to be homophobic and transphobic (my parents are pretty strict and religious) its IMPRESSIVE how easy it is to teach kids how to hate... like, when ever i chose a female character instead of male character in game when i was 9-13 my mom would yell at me to change it, they thought it would "mAkE mE TrAnS" I came out as bi, as long as i dont bring it up and as long as im dating girls they dont gaf. my brother came out to me (and our other siblings+some close freinds of his) as a trans guy, i swear i spent like 3 days rethinking everything, unfortunately he cant do much to become the guy he wants to be. anyways, dont listen to the homphobics or transphobics, they have nothing to do with you, your sexuality/asexuality, preferred pronouns, or gender! As long as you are happy being you, thats all that matters!!
I hope your brother can transition safely soon, and wish the best for you. Hope your family comes to realize the mistake in their thinking.
just try to be there for your brother and be supportive of his identity. It's awful when your parents aren't supportive, but just having that one person in your court can make all the difference
"Banana slugs and humans are slightly different in many ways." - Jammidodger, 2024
A good appropriately smart lesson for transphobeß
Such profound words
Words of wisdom
Banana slug 🥺🥺
😂
Weve been here for THOUSANDS OF YEARS. Not hundreds. When you look at whats credited as the "first" civilization ( Sumer ) THERE WERE DEPICTIONS OF TRANS PEOPLE. Weve been here since the start of civilization. One of their goddess literally had trans priestesses
Lgbt and trans people ect have been around for as long as people have exited
There's just more info and support about it now, which is amazing :DDD
I swear we are just taking a step backward rn. When will people realize that less rights for people doesn't equal a better world
"no regrets it's such a lie" people are the same sort who tell women who don't want kids "oh, you will change your mind"
Like the f--- you know me so well, I guess you are right ❤ 😒
Don't get me started. Nearly 55, and happily child-free by choice. My whole LIFE I was told , ' Oh , you'll change your mind someday '. 😂 😂 No no I never did
They likely would even say that to ace and aro people "You haven't had sex/been in a romantic relationship, how do you know you won't like it?" "You'll change your mind when you find the right person" (I'm not either but I wanna talk about them for just a reason)
@Cr3Ek_l0v3R very true. I am also mostly Ace and probably Aro as well.
37:16 "No one cares"
Yet they cared enough to comment that.
These things are almost Russell's paradox. ("This statement is false" - Russell) - so I have a sneaking liking for them for that reason.
@@paulhammond6978 I thought it was Mudd's paradox.
I have to take hormones to combat my chronic illness. Because when I went on birth control, my lupus suddenly became controlled.
I would go off it if I wanted a kid in a heartbeat. But there's a pretty good chance that even after menopause (barring pregnancy), it's forever.
I dont hear any conspiracy theorists chiming in on it. Maybe one every few years. And I doubt strongly that it would work for everyone. But depo calmed my system enough for partial remission, and that will probably be my life until they take it off the market.
Im sure they will find a way to snatch that from me, too. But I'm not sad about it. Until that first shot in my butt cheeks, I thought it was just pain forever.
It's not a one to one comparison.
But thats because my evidence is anecdotal, while trans people have real science.
.......part of the reason my evidence is anecdotal is because of issues with medical testing, but that is literally a whole different topic lol
Similar boat here. I've been on birth control pills since I hit puberty because things just weren't functioning correctly. If I miss a pill by more than about an hour, I'll start bleeding. I'm 30 now, been on these for more than half my life, and I know I won't be able to stop taking them until menopause at the earliest. Even if I went and got my tubes tied today, I'd still need to take them in order to be functional and stable and not ruining clothing.
People like me are never part of the argument for transphobes and bigots. They want to get rid of hormone therapy to hurt trans folks, and they want to get rid of contraceptives to force me to have children. They don't care that without the medication, I will still likely be unable to carry due to my hormonal issues that the medicine is controlling (please do not express sadness to me for this- I hate children and definitely do not want any). They don't care that taking away my access to the medication will ruin my life and make me miserable on the daily. They don't care that the thought of pregnancy literally makes me want to stab myself in the lower belly to cut out the parasite in there. They care that I have a womb, and they insist I should be using it "for the good of our country." Medical and psychological issues be damned.
These are about half of the people that want to run the USA right now. If they win, I fear for myself as well as for all my friends and neighbors and family members and the entire LGBT+ community. Hearing them talk and seeing their plans... it's legitimately terrifying.
I'm living for the bee puns! xD
"You were born a woman".......pretty sure he was born a baby.
ABAB, assigned baby at birth
The only assignment that is 100% correct
1:58 thats like the biggest reason i watch you: that you actually provide information on why transphobes are bad.
Transphobes: Sex and gender are the saaaaaaaaame!!!!
Me, with a degree in anthropology: What about cultures with 3+ genders?
Fr, many cultures have had lots of identities other than just boy and girl. One example in 2 spirit people in Canada 🇨🇦 😁
Yup and also there are people whose physical sex is naturally non-binary aka intersex
@@OscarLangleySoryuHi intersex person here, no! Sex and gender are different, insisting that us intersex individuals are biologically non-binary is intersexist. We should remove sex from gender completely. Sex is a physical thing, whilst gender is not, no one’s sex can be a gender, for example “biologically non-binary”, or “biological a man or woman.” Please listen to us intersex individuals, especially on how “biologically non-binary” is used, since you use it to refer to us.
@@OscarLangleySoryuThis also insists gender and sex are the same if we keep assigning a gender to someone’s sex, because it implies they go hand-in-hand.
@@DemiSuaton Words have meaning. Non binary isn't *a* gender either.
I updated my name in my work’s computer system last night, and today, the manager that I was most concerned wouldn’t be supportive sought me out to tell me that he’s here for me and he’s got my back. I’ve known him for about 6 years, and that was not at all what I would have expected from him, but it gave me a type of hope that I’ve never felt before. And my store manager came up later in the day to ask about things, and was kinda awkward about it, but he was trying, and it was nice. So thank you for being you, Jamie! Seeing your videos has helped me to build my confidence in who I am and to deconstruct my internalized transphobia. Thank you
As a left handed cis-het woman, I have used the left handed example many times to justify being an ally. Yes, I've been asked to justify it many times 🙄
@latronqui you don't want to allly your self with these people they desire
to destroy you and your way of life you should reevaluate your alliances. Tell me why you are a ally I am happy to answer any questions you may have.
@@usernothiz6659you clearly don't want to know how to spell. 😂😂😂
@@usernothiz6659 I don't have any questions. I have a lot of friends and some family in the LGBTQ community, some of whom are trans and I just think they are not a harm for anyone and need to be allowed to live their life. My grandmother was forced to suppress her left-handedness and learn to write and do everything with the right hand. But when no one was looking, she would sew and knit left-handed, and it's thanks to this that she managed to teach me how to knit when my mother was struggling. I've always been allowed to be left-handed and treated with the same respect as right-handed people. I wish in the future it will be the same for LGBTQ people, and they won't be repressed or judged for something that's part of their nature.
@latronqui trans and gay people can already live there lives and not care what other people think. And your movement isn't about gay and trans people being able to live there lives.
@@Alex-gh8iu ok
My trans brother actually became a lot nicer and not only is he no longer abusive, but he's now a SUPPORTIVE brother since he came out. His misery came out as abuse, and now he's happy and he's such a different person that I finally feel like I have a sibling.
Transphobia causes abuse, that's all I'm saying
I am so confused by the ones that say you have no scientific grounding... like you are one of the most educational and accessible channels talking about trans and LGBTQ+ topics
as someone who used to be a terrible person to be around (e.g. homophobic and transphobic) until my egg cracked, i can confirm that i was miserable before then
Are you still a jerk tho?
Having transphobic or homophobic feelings before transition is understandable but saying that shit out loud implies that it’s not the only shit you’re saying
Glad to hear you saw the sunny side (up) of life!
I feel like most of us were some form of phobic pre-cracking because of internalization, i get it
what does egg cracked mean?
@@3amPizzaRolls Typically, someone realizing they are Trans. Sometimes used as someone realizing they are LGBT+ at all.
Example-
Gurl: Omg, I thought I was cis up until high school, but then I read a story about a drag queen, and my egg suddenly cracked!
Gurl's friend: Aww, congrats on figuring out who you are! I'm so happy for you! How's your family taking your transition?
Aw i feel so bad *I realy don't* 🏳⚧
To clarify. They mean they don’t care about the transphob’s opinion. Not that they don’t care about James
@@jasonsippel2353 yes
i was kinda worried about that 😰
@@jasonsippel2353ah you are a good friend Jason
Do you have any advice for young adults that grew up in very conservative areas to help unlearn some of that anti trans conditioning? My family forced so much hatred upon me (not just for trans people) and I'm not sure what to do to remove these hurtful invasive thoughts from my mind.
Spend more time around people who are all the things you were taught to hate, and see firsthand their humanity. That’s what did it for me.
acknowledgement is the right first step. and if you have unlimited internet access you can search for queer spaces that’d be glad to help out as you learn. and if internet isn’t easy access, libraries should be able to provide some knowledge and books (if dated, but still information nonetheless).
and give yourself a pat on the back for trying to be better. even one person overcoming their bigotry gives hope for a better and fair world
It needs time. Acknowledge those intrusive thoughts, reckognise them as what they are and then let them go. Basically saying: "You (the thought) are not true, you are not what I actually think!".
And interact with people of the groups you were taught to hate, when the opportunity arises. You will soon find, they are just people, like everybody else. Maybe a bit more tolerant and open minded.
Be conscious of your biases- don’t be in denial when you have a thought you don’t want to agree with. Actually think about it instead of denying and ignoring. Reflect on why you know that’s wrong- for example, stereotypes are useless and we know this because we know that our own groups have diversity within them (like if you’re Italian and your cousin hates pasta or something) so logically it has to be the same with all people everywhere. Recognize the thought and talk yourself through dismantling it, condemning it but not condemning yourself of course.
Honestly you're already doing the right things, acknowledging your previous biases and going to channels like this to educate yourself.
unfortunately people absolutely do say that about people who have to take medication their whole lives. I know a lot of disabled people who get the "why are you choosing to take (insert medication needed to live/not be in pain here)" all the damn time
Yep. I've been asked why I choose to take my nausea meds that are the only reason I can eat or drink most days. Apparently my reply of "because death by dehydration and starvation sounds horrible" is gross.
Yeaahh i take like 6/7 different medications to just get through life, and people are veery judgy sometimes! I'm 'choosing' to take my meds because otherwise my whole life is laying in bed with crippling pain and nausea etc. Medication should not be shamed!
Is anyone else excited to move out of their parents house!!!! (only a few years left for me!!!)
I am sorry, you feel like that. Family should be the place were you feel safe.
i'm so sorry it's like that for you but as someone who moved out almost a year ago now i can tell you it gets so much better!!💚
idk, i haven’t come out to my parents yet :(
I'm a closeted bi and yes I am.
@@i3ignorantidelweb43same also nice pfp
Banana slugs and humans are kind of different? Weow! I didn't know that, thanks jamie!
Wouldn't left-handed people and transgender people be the same, in that they were born that way, whether or not society accepts them. I say this as a lefthander, that my mother tried to switch to a righthander. Didn't work.
I was thinking the same thing. No matter what you do, you can't fully change someone's dominant side. Also another great thing: left handedness exists in most animals, it's just a part of nature.
That's the point Jamie was making.
David Tennant was my second ever male crush before i knew i was trans hehe
Same lol!!
Can’t believe I’m here early for once in my life
Congrats. 👏
Ikr me too
Those people are so annoying. Let me say some things about you.
You are one of the most knowledgeable person I’ve seen in this platform period. You are so smart and your talent is not wasted.
You have great style. The clothes you wear really fit your look and I think that’s great.
You are so calming to watch and listen to. Your voice is so nice and smooth and your points on the topic make me believe that there are good people in the world such as yourself.
You are so funny and serious when the situation calls for it.
Keep doing what you’re doing❤❤
58 seconds ago is crazy :O
Edit: Is it just me or does the shark in the background look like the IKEA ones...
It is I think, just the half sized one
@@crowbirdyyeah. It's a Blåhaj
@@lrfcowper Gotta love Blåhaj
As a genderqueer woman (afab, no hrt ever), I've had a tiiiny moustache and goatee since puberty! It took me a couple years to stop shaving it, but eventually I just got bored and didn't actually mind it! My favorite story to this day is when i worked at a girls' summer camp and a little 6 y.o. came up to me, squinted at my lip real close, then gasped and said "i've never seen a lady with a real life moustache before!" to which i responded "thank you, i grew it myself." she thought that was very impressive :^{D
i just got ur book as an audiobook and im loving it! 💖🏳⚧
"There's no Transphobia in Ba Sing Se"
bazinga
New drinking game: Take a swig of water every time someone says Jammie is a woman/not a man.
I will drown from the sheer amount of water
If this were alcohol every participant would die
Water intoxication can still be deadly!
@@angiep2229 but not quick as alcool
you have been so amazing jammi! honestly i live in a transphobic house of which i try my best to end. but i fail so much, but after watching all of your videos! i have been able to counter argue false facts about trans and win a few "heated" conversations hehe. i might still be stuck were i am, but at least i get to watch you!!! and feel just that little bit better!
me and my queer buds have actually developed this accidentally ally speech but it's on purpose accident ally. like aggressively affirming your gender:
example: sir Jammie you will never be a woman no matter what you do we'll always know you're a man. you are a bIoLoGiCaL MAN! you're not a mechanical man you're biological (although being a cyborg sounds badass now that I think about it anyways)
for me a non-binary person: YOU WILL NEVER BE A MAN OR A WOMAN!
like we say this trying to look angry and like super pissed while just barely keeping in the laughter.
it makes me giggle because I am just saying the obvious fully aware but the whole game is about how well you can fake you being an ACCIDENTAL ally instead of a true ally.
it's like reverse amongus but ever already knows you're an ally but it's still funny.
Found you after stumbling on a transphobic video essay. Thanks for the breath of fresh air!
Saying transphobes are miserable is like saying the earth is round
In that the same people will deny both? 😅
@@OscarLangleySoryu pretty much lol
@@Hampster999 flat earthers and terfs are equally dumb is what it means
grass is green..........
what if you're actually a flat earthist who is transphobic..?
literally ALL i have been watching the past week is like every single Jamie video (plus the Roly collabs) lmao I did a double take seeing this was a NEW video! Yay! I'm moving out this week and next week i plan to come out to my siblings!!!! (as masc nonbinary/ a trans guy, they/he)
Congrats! Stay safe!!
I'm left-handed and trans (non-binary)
Lots of love Jamie❤
Lots of love to all my fellow trans/non binary/queer/lgbtqia+ people ❤❤
Also a quick note to trans kids/teens… you are 100% valid and loved!❤❤❤
6:33 As the saying goes, There's no Hate like Christian "love".
Ah, you are one of those people who can’t understand the concept of loving the sinner but not the sin, you think loving the sinner means loving the sin, and hating the sin means hating the sinner.
I’m a Christian and would show nothing but love and good greetings to a gay/trans person, but you would still call me a hater.
@@mattdickson627 You would actually acknowledge the facts and not support (directly and indirectly) genocidal policies and rhetoric? Cause that is what you would need to do to do that.
Jammi, I want you to know that I have been linking a lot of your videos to my father. I'm horrible at voicing my own feelings and thoughts to him when it comes to trying to explain to him what the trans and queer community has been going through. (I'm not trans myself, but I am queer.)
i've always wondered where the conservative argument of "condescending elitist liberals" comes from, and i think it's rooted in a deep insecurity about their own ignorance. if you're ignorant, and you're not willing to own the fact that you're ignorant and feel somehow threatened or insulted by the prospect of learning something new, then i can see how someone trying to educate you on a topic could be perceived as "condescending," even if it isn't actually and we really just want you to have more information. conservatives, please don't shut yourselves off from a lifetime of learning because you think not knowing everything there is to know in the world is somehow an irredeemable flaw.
Yep, "elitist" is generally conservative speak for "person who knows more than me."
It definitely feels like denial. Whenever I hear that stereotype, it just sounds like the person genuinely feels threatened by people who are smarter than them, but they’d rather die on this hill than admit they were ever wrong.
Speaking mostly from my own jaded American worldview here, but the people who popularize those sorts of buzzwords (the politicians and demagogues) don't necessarily believe what they're saying. They're courting a voter base or audience who may not have had the chance to go to college--possibly due to the need to get a job to support their family (e.g., an unplanned child; an aging parent or grandparent; a sibling with chronic health issues), and/or lack of government support for public education--and stoking resentment for college-educated liberals while ignoring the part where college-educated conservatives consistently vote for policies that keep other people poor and uneducated.
It's evil because the whole idea that there's something morally wrong with being poor ALSO crops up on the right (see: "freeloaders" rhetoric about people on welfare/Medicaid), but as long as people to listen to what the talking heads say without looking at what the politicians actually DO, they'll continue to believe the right will give them all the pride and prosperity they need in exchange for their support. Meanwhile, anyone who argues with them is construed as trying to take away what pride and prosperity they currently have. And who wants to let anyone do that?
It's always worth remembering that the average conservative is constantly being lied to and manipulated into a state of fearfulness by their own supposed representatives. Pity them, and work to make the world better for everyone. Even them.
Place for all trans people to ask questions that they can't safely look up without being outed or ask advice ⬇️
Is there a way I can make my own binder?
@@zalizumd27 I'm trans masc. It isn't really safe to make your own binder however I found sports bras are better than normal ones. Also I've seen people use two sports bras (NOT TIGHT ONES) to "bind" but I wouldn't recommend that because it could damage your ribs. If you do do that, I wouldn't wear it for longer than 6 hours and if it's hard to breathe take it off *immediately*
To hide your chest, wearing busy shirts that are stripped helps, as well as darker colours. Things that also don't highlight or hug your figure around your waist and chest are helpful. Things that cuff on the wrist though help like cuffed hoodies.
I hope that helps, stay safe
@artheenbyrogue804 thank you:)
@@zalizumd27on TransTape: it is important to know, that it is not ment to be used like a bandage or bra circling your chest. Do not do this with stuff that cannot be removed in a second, like EVER. When you put them on to tight, or you have a health emergency that could cause you seriouse harm, and might even kill you in extrem cases. You should also not use anything with adhesives, if you have skin that bruises easily. And some people have allergic reactions to the glue, even the best hypo-allergic glue and you might want to test wear a strip on the inside of your ellbow, were the skin is soft and thin, to test wether you can wear them safely... you do not want to have an allergis reaction on your nipples
@@zalizumd27i have video in my watch later playlist, wait a second and i will make another comment with the link for you
Dinosaurs are cool, transphobia is not 🦕
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It should be changed to "dinosaurs are cool, queerphobia is not" because we need to include all members of the queer communuty
@@Player-p4k I agree that everyone in the queer community is valid, but right now we’re talking about trans people. In the same way we can talk about men’s problems and have a different conversation for women’s problems. I get what your saying, but i don’t think we need to change the statement
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Omg, I'm a cis girl and every time *I* see any transphobic shit, I get offended, I can't even imagine how it is for you or other trans people.
Sending lots of love to you, Jamie, you're amazing!! 🏳️⚧️
The very tired "I have a PHD" made me giggle.
All those bigots are just upset that you're a better looking man than they are!
Love your content! And as far as we (The public) gets to know you, I'm sure you're a beautiful person!
Do people not read the “please be respectful” part on the TH-cam comments, or do they just think of it as a challenge? I’m sorry you have people making hurtful comments, but I am impressed by how calmly and logically you answer them.
Yeah. I feel like there are people here who define themselves as being anti trans and it's bizarre and sad.
I hate that you have to deal with this 🙁 you are a wonderful intelligent young man and for each one of those idiots there's a thousand of us here who adore you xxx
I'm on 3 different hormone therapies: insulin, estradiol, and my thyroid medication.
Lily Simpson posted a video about David Tenant's early career, when he played a trans woman. Interesting information.
I'm grateful there's now HRT. As watching my mums struggle when she was 32 yo and going through menopause was awful as HRT wasn't available then for women who were that were going through menopause.
The Dr had to work out what hormones my mum needed and had to prescribe them to my dad, as they were hormones that were acceptable for a cisman to take but not a ciswoman, so my dad had to pretend he needed these hormones so my mum could get treatment of HRT for her early onset menopause.
The thing people had to do just to get by and that it still happens today. Quite sad.
I’m honestly impressed on how far you have come on your transition to male and you should not listen to them because you are awesome 0:40
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Hearts for all the trans and non-binary people. You are valid. F**k the noisy transphobes.
It sounds like you’re the hater right now…
@@mattdickson627cry about it, coward.
@OdinsSage “F**k the noisy transphobes”
I mean okey, I guess I can say F**k the abortionists and it’s not hate because I disagree with them? Lol.
@OdinsSage cus you dare not allowing them to hate you, duh/s
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"Natural and biological men don't compare beards." Bulls***
Beard comparison happens all the time. Often in a joking manner, but it's there.
The most common joke among the guys I know being "looks like you need some cream and kittens to get that thing you call a beard off your face."
Second being "Yeah, you could shave that off with a smooth stone."
Can't wait until Jammi is a dad, his kid(s) is/are gonna hear daily dad jokes hahahah
Firstly, as a swedish cis woman may I just say bravo on the pronunciation of "blåhaj"! secondly to all the transphobes i refuse to be called 'normal' it's offensive. I tried for years to be 'normal' and it almost k*lled me (i am autistic and adhd)!
I love your content, Jamie, I'm learning a lot!
Jamie, I appreciate your videos. I've learned so much from you and others such as Samantha Lux, Sam Collins, and Noah Finnce. I especially appreciate that you give citations to back up what you say.
Love your videos Jamie! I’ve finally started my journey to finally be me. I start HRT tomorrow and I’m so excited. Your videos helped give me the courage to finally start. ❤
Congrats!
I do think arguments that don't simply *name* transphobia, but rather show the harm and foolishness of it, are most compelling--but I can't blame you for being exhausted in having to deliver them so damn often. Almost no one I talk to about Avoidant Personality Disorder has ever even heard of it, so spreading awareness to try to save more people like myself is very much a similar feeling of "ugh, I have to educate the whole bleeding world." The only thing that keeps me going is knowing how important it is for the world to understand, but I really do get the fatigue which comes with that. One person can only do so much, but I thank you for what you do. You've really helped me unravel some of the brainwashing from my religious childhood.
I remember saying that things that are "up for debate" should be, like. "Is a hot dog a sandwich" or "does pineapple belong on pizza". Things that people can have strong opinions about and strongly disagree about, but that don't really affect anything. Subjects like basic human rights, on the other hand, are not up for debate.
🌭 In a bun, yes.
🍍 🍕 Nah.
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@@BlackCover95absolutely not, a hot dog is in one piece of bread so it’s not a sandwich
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One piece of bread can make a sandwich by folding it in half.
And that’s not even mentioning open-faced sandwiches.
@@BlackCover95 open faced sandwiches are just fancy toast. And you don’t call a wrap a sandwich if it is one price of bread right?
I wanted to leave one last comment before I go: there is a very famous American photographer named Donna Gottschalk. She was a lesbian woman and is most famous for her photos of queer Americans. Most of her photos were taken in the 1970's during the early years of LGBT+ activism for equal rights. She is celebrated in the current LGBT+ community for photographing queer history in the US and for doing so in real time. And she published an entire photo collection of queer women who had facial hair. Granted they were all from the LGBT+ community: but it was created with the sole intention of showing that women can grow facial hair just as naturally as men. And that it's nothing negative or shameful. Have a great day everyone.
Your videos are incredibly insightful and educational. I watch them to better understand issues. Hate comments claiming the opposite are either purposefully lying or they don't actually bother to watch the video before commenting.
Clownfish and hawkfish also change their sex depending on the situation as well, they join the banana slug boat.
The issue with people who say, "scientific evidence doesn't prove it exists" is that they think scientific research hypothesizes that trans people don't truly exist, when the true scientific method instead asks the question, "do they exist?" and doesn't say yes or no in the question alone. That's the majority of scientific research, the question should be unbiased and able to pull from multiple sources and stand up to sources that oppose it using more evidence, keyword: UNBIASED. By changing the question from "trans people don't exist" to "do they exist?", you open up a world of possibilities, you begin to truly understand that biology doesn't fit in a neat box and is constantly spilling out new content that we have yet to understand. As a person who went into biology in college, biology isn't absolute and we still don't know everything about everything, it's not a neat box. And guess what, the answer to the latter question is: yes! They do exist, and the evidence we're starting to understand supports that, without there being any prior bias for or against it.
Although the question is not "do trans people exist" any more than it would be "do left-handed people exist". The nearest to that it would come is to argue over what is meant by "trans" - and that argument we HAVE seen, and we still see echoes of when people insist that sex = gender. Research is more on the why (what factors are at play) and how (physiological, psychological, and sociological interplay).
@@viverra fair, I mean your response, especially at the end further goes on to show that there are so many other factors to consider in this research, which is another big aspect of research in general. It's basically to look for more possibilities than what we already do understand, i.e, thinking further outside the box and understanding that biology doesn't fit in a neat box and is never absolute. Biology constantly surprises us in ways that pushes us to further look for the "why", it has a knack of introducing new things we didn't expect.
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ngl when people say "I don't support" but I'm not homophobic-
there are I guess 2 ways to "not support"
1- you don't actively engage in pride/lgbt media but you still agree they should have rights (actually not homophobic, but if this was the case there's really no need to say "i don't support")
2- you actually don't think that gay people should have rights/ don't want to see anything even related, and you are homophobic
It's a lot like the "I'm not homophobic, I just wish they wouldn't advertise it" argument. "I'm not homophobic I just don't want to see gay people"
They just want us to disappear for their comfort, but no thanks, I'll keep living my queer life :)
Ummmm. Actual Biologist here (schooling and career). Binary sex doesn't exist, let alone gender, which isn't even the same thing. Even in humans, sex is not truly a clear cut system. The only reason "basic biology" works things in a largely binary, straightforward way, is due to it being meant to TEACH CHILDREN THE BASICS, and give you a sort of general idea of how heredity and things work, but once you make it past that point, it is very clear that it is SOOOOOOOOOO much more messy and complicated than that.
Yeah "basic" biology is just that "basic". It is like someone telling a mathematician that we can't use algebra or calculus or any other higher level, advanced, math and can only use addition, subtraction, multiplication, and division because there is only "basic" math.
Go to college/university and you will learn advanced forms of education, which of course is more advanced than "basic" versions of that education. I have a B.S. in Zoology and took all the same courses that pre-med, etc. take, such as genetics, developmental biology, etc. I also took psychology, sociology, and interpersonal relationship courses with my focus on behavior and communication in animals/people.
It blows my mind that people want to focus on grade school level science when people who have gone to higher level education institutions are clearly telling them that they are wrong if they would only look up higher level or advanced research and studies on those topics. Why do people listen to people on Twitter, FB, etc., who have never actually studied a subject, instead of someone who has an actual degree in, and in many cases actually practices medicine in, that field?
So we shouldn’t teach children about transgenderism then?
@@SeaBreeze-w9999 That's perfectly fine to teach them it exists, and give perspectives from transgender individuals about what it is like. Nothing I, nor the person who replied prior to you (the one other reply to my comment I've seen so far, that is) said anything about not teaching about transgender individuals/people, non-human animals, or anything else trans. Frankly, I think schooling in general, at least in the USA, is severely lacking in detail, especially in the case of biology, which has become even more obvious in recent years. I was saying the binary system of sex, being either completely male or completely female, is very fundamental level meant to start you out in an easy and low information introductory sort of way, but that system isn't actually accurate and doesn't truly exist because there is WAY more to it than that. As it is, in middle school or first year of high school, my biology courses were already teaching that there was more to it. Once I entered college and focused on biology (majored in biology with a focus towards the anatomy and physiology of multiple species and classes of organism, and minored in psychology) the information on genetics, physiological differences and changes, and so much more quickly expanded, basically making the Gregor Mendel pea experiment (a very widely used and simple example of heredity and genetics) was, while an ok source for teaching that heredity exists, teaches so very little on the topic that not providing further detail is almost an insult to the learning capabilities of children, let alone teens and older.
@@trigger2648 It’s important to be wary about teaching something socially contagious to children.
@@SeaBreeze-w9999 So far, the only "socially contagious" complaints have been claims that haven't been supported. It's not about teaching or not teaching without prompting. It should be about providing as unbiased of information on a topic as possible, when asked or if it comes up. Giving clear and accurate information, or as accurate as possible by using unbiased, or as unbiased as it can get, research and true experiences. Someone may find something fits them (gay, bi, trans, whatever else), and as they get more information find it maybe doesn't quite fit, or maybe it does. Even prior to some of the newer, and in some cases excessive, laws regarding things like being trans, even kids didn't get irreversible transition procedures. Avoiding the conversation and making it wrong will cause worse reactions and extreme acts that could be avoided by just teaching people the accurate information when asked. I've taught quite a few kids and have quite a few (honestly, kinda too many, but there's a reason one of my sister's got her tubes tied) nieces and nephews, of various ages, and I have yet to meet a kid, or especially teen, that isn't questioning themselves and trying to figure things out, yet still aren't ready to jump into it just because some other people found it fit them. Yes, some people might do crazy and irresponsible things, but that takes a lot of money and has literally always existed and will always exist. Some people will do something on a whim if they can, but avoiding the discussion or providing bad information about it will only punish the people that are already trying to think it through. Kids may have a lot of growing to do, but if you give them the right tools, they are capable of understanding considerably more than many people give them credit for.
7:20 lol this is like being angry that anyone gets their thyroid removed 😂
Haven't finished watching yet, but I just wanted to thank Jamie and send him lots of love for always reminding us to be our best selves and live our best lives. ❤ It's a shame the only thing some people have to offer is gratuitous hatred (what happened to live and let live?...).