A husband is upset that his wife quit her job because he needs help paying bills. No man can expect a woman to respect you if you can't pay all the bills.
Saying u not a real man unless you pay ALL the bills is one of the greatest cons in modern dating. This ain't 1960 when a woman couldn't work and besides that paying all the bills doesn't guarantee respect
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
A house in the 1960s didn’t cost over a 1000 dollars a month either plus taxes man please no woman will live with me and just exist screw that you die quicker like that 😅
My husband just let me quit my job and he is happy to pay all of our bills. He was already been doing that anyway. I cook, go to they gym and take care of our child when she’s not in school. He’s the best and I’m so lucky!!
And you will be cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping etc. And there's no Head of Household in a roommate situation, so a man will lose that respect off the top. You're not making decisions if I'm paying the bills.
@@shayemooreI do all that myself you guys act like cooking and cleaning is so fucking hard. We mow lawns, rack leaves, service all the cars, shovel snow, wipe snow off the cars in the morning in the cold so you don’t have to… I clean my house within a hour and laundry. It’s teamwork get tf out of here you hoes don’t deserve a provider.
The problem is if he did pay all the bills she wouldn't fulfill her role as a housewife. If she don't know/don't wanna know how to cook and clean for her husband how's she going to know how to cook and clean for a family?
No way no way She didn't quit so she could raise his children, she didn't quit so she could support him, she did it because she didn't want to work. When he asks her to wash his drawers or cook dinner she is going to give him that same attitude because she wants to do absolutely nothing.
That was my exact question. You don't have to work outside the house but you are going to work whether it's cooking, cleaning, or making sure the kids have everything they need. She just won't be lying around and doing nothing.
Ok, you don't wanna work, no problem. But I want the house to be clean, I want my clothes wash and I want a home cooked healthy meal. And alot of females of today don't want to do that
@@LisaS483 exactly if my man paying all the bills our house is gonna be spotless, we’re gonna have creative healthy meals on the daily, I’m gonna spoil him when he gets off with back and foot rubs, and our kids are gonna be 💯!
Phil... YOU CANT LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS IF YOU HAVE A WOMAN LIKE THAT! THAT IS THE PROBLEM! Ain't no man gonna work 2 or 3 jobs trying to please a woman like that.
I'm sorry, but Phil is way off on this one. Now Phil is going with the "man up" crowd? Like we need to just accept a 💩 deal. The kind woman that's in this video, are not the one's that were with Phil's daddy, grand-dads, great grand dads time. Those women held up their end of the bargain. House was clean, she could knew how to cook real food. No fights over lack of $ex. Plus women don't always show their true self till it's too late.
Those who be preaching about paying all the bills haven't addressed many videos on these bill payers rich guys being cheated on and mistreated and dealing with jezebels
Facts all day! Todays women are not the same. They don’t even want to do the basics and expect the men to break their backs all day everyday only to get disrespected and told they are not doing enough. Not gonna do it.
That's right! But she doesn't have to do twice the cooking, clean twice the dishes, wash dry fold and put away twice the clothes, clean up after 2 people instead of just herself, and doesn't have to give up the cheeks when she doesn't feel like it, and not budget for twice the spending. 😉 And if they live in an apartment, it's not like he's mowing lawns, cleaning gutters, making household repairs or the like. If a guy pitches in with the housework, a woman should work and help them both come up. If if he won't, then he needs to be man enough to pay all the bills to get all the "traditional" perks.
Phil... I have to respectfully disagree these women say they strong and independent they should help with the bills also these women are not traditional us men are not going to treat them traditional
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
I don't agree with phil on this one , I hear you i would get rid of her quick cuz she don't want to work & got 4 kids if i was him i'd be gone the way she talk to him.
@stevenulls8230 My thing is this! If she don't want to work anymore, which is crazy with kids. She should have set down and talk, to her hubby about that. Instead she presented it rude entitled, like most modern woman. Men are not a ATM nor a walking wallet! That 1 of many reason why we continue to get those passports, trust me when I say this. Bruh it's way way better woman, that know how to be wives overseas. Know how to treat men!
I don’t mean no harm Unc. I can’t get with you on this one. It sounds like she been listening to social media and without notifying her husband what she feel. She just out the blue made the decision without talking to him.
Angry witch feminist social media is what I heard when she was talking. She let one of those lonely bitter women get to her. His best response is getting his own place & letting their place go. She can't shame or guilt trip him into being her personal slave.
Simply paying all the bills don't make you the man, you're the man regardless. It's about teamwork and the woman assisting in any way possible. Cooking and cleaning has never been the only chore in the house. We men mow the lawn, rack leaves, take out the trash, service all the vehicles, do home repairs, and pay contractors for major home renovations. My grandmother and mother has always helped by paying the utility bills as well as cook and cleaning while my father and grandfather did what I just mentioned. Again it's about teamwork, respect, and communication 💯💯
My dad and mom did it that way and one set of grandparents did. One of my grandmothers was a housewife. They all worked out well. Tell death do you part and raised a lot of kids 😂.
My girl works and is a great chef. She cooks 5 days a week and cleans. She does the inside work while i do outside work. Whatever needs fixing then i do that.
I work three jobs because my hubby had back surgery and I told him don't rush to go back working because I got your back until you completely heal. I cook, clean, wash, yard work, take trash out, rake the yard, riding mower at times, sometimes cook enough food to last for at least two weeks until I get one day or two off to catch up on everything. I pay all the bills and don't have time for anything, but I know this situation will pay off soon because I luv my husband too death.
To all the fathers with daughters teach your daughter that Paying bills is an Adult responsibility. Also teach them that earning and taking family responsibility is also a basic skill for existence, it is Not a gender specific role.
She has a point but the way she talking to him shows a lack of respect. It's time to pack up and leave her so she can pay all the bills. Hope you had a prenup
Man i thought phil wasnt a simp. Well i was wrong. Anytime rent in the hood os 1500 to 2 thousand a month and he thinks that living in your means. Remember guys he wifed up a babymom.
If your woman sits back & watches you bust your ass to pay all of the bills she doesn't love you the way that you think she loves you. A woman who genuinely cares will help as much as she can because she would rather you have more free time with the family than slaving at a job.
The disrespect! She would have been toast. She would have got her exit papers that same day. On the other hand I won’t let no woman pay any of my bills. Her name will not be on anything. I’m going to pay all my own bills regardless. My pops always told me. Never depend on a woman for anything. So I love that way. I don’t tolerate this behavior . I’ve been living well all my life. I had an old school upbringing. 🤷🏾♂️😎
Oh, just like that. She got the wrong understanding. " I ain't working no more." You are supposed to be working together. (You are incorrect Phil). If she can work, then work and help the family out. And when the man comes up financially, then you all can change some things.
How many times we have to tell ya'll to stop WIFING UP these LAZY AZZ WOMEN!!! A man can pay ALL the bills, but a woman can't just be sitting around just doing NOTHING. She's gonna have to work to pay whatever bills she has brought into the relationship. Credit cards, student loans, clothes, shoes, etc. Or if I pay ALL bills, then I WILL NOT, be doing ANYTHING around the house. No cooking, no cleaning. Period.
I paid all the bills in my last relationship and all she had to do was buy groceries and she had a problem with that. No kids just the two of us and she still had a problem.
Bro it's time to leave because she's expecting you to pay all the bills but then she's gonna be expecting you to spoil her with material things. Nah son, get out
The union is pretty much over. In order to show someone your value you have to leave them, don't plead with them. Let the home foreclose and get an apartment. This forces her to fend for herself.
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
She has no respect for him? ...but he came in HER face with the camera!? Wants to put her on blast but doesn't want everyone to know HIS business!? He mad cuz he got a subpar meal after she has worked a full-time job? He wants her to take care of everything in the house and 4 kids AND "help him" financially?! She went about it wrong, but he is/was working her like a slave!!! 🫣🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽
Phil, I'm sorry, I usually agree with you on a lot of things, but this is a terrible take. Most men can't support an entire family on a single salary or even two salaries. Have you seen the rent out here and the other living expenses? Also, not to mention the job insecurity. And before anyone says " jUsT sTaRt A bUsInESs🥴" most businesses fail, and when they fail, they put people in more financial ruin. So, that's why women must step up and contribute financially to the household to lessen the financial burden.
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
@@bodhisattva2348who brought up traditional? That dude on the video didn't, and neither did this guy. There are those that want it and those that don't
We’ve Got To Stop The Narrative, of “If You Want Full Submission, Pay All The Bills.” When We KNOW That’s Been Debunked. A Man Can Pay ALL The Bills, And STILL Get NO Submission. Also Folks Can Live Within Their Means, And STILL Not Have Enough, You Know That Brotha.
In this country I believe you should be earning $200,000 to comfortably support a family of four. As a man I have no issue paying all the bills but I expect that house to be cleaned, my meals waiting, and to perform your wifely duties in the bed. If you can't then I expect you to work out that house. We are both going to benefit from this relationship.
$200,000? Yeah in NY, LA, or San Francisco. If you live in a low cost of living state/city you can comfortably raise a family of 4 on as little as $100,000 a year
Man you living in a fantasy world the average man in America only makes 40 to 70K a year dude not many could make 200 to 400k a year you must be exaggerating.
Phil, you can't buy a house, two cars, and send multiple kids to college on a high school diploma and one income, like men of your dad's and granddad's generation could...
Phil you can’t stress reparations & then expect black men who are the most incarcerated, non-hired, non-promoted on the job group within this society….to pay all of the bills (especially here in Cali or New York)!The two things can’t co-exist!
Sorry Uncle Phil. I disagree. I will never date a woman who doesn't work I was not raised to be lazy and I saw my mom work until now that she retired. I will not have a woman staying in my place that I brought with my own $$ so she can lay up and do nothing. That's where I draw the line.
Lol Phil I love ya bro but what world are you living in? Even the hood got expensive 😭 ... Those old school antics don't work all the time in this society of 2023. Whatever works for the household even if it's two incomes, and I'm an old school 80's baby 😉
Love the show Phil! I have to disagree with your philosophy on this one, IMO it’s not my bills, it’s our bills. If I can get up, hustle, and go get it, she can too! It’s called shared responsibility, especially if we don’t have kids. If anything, she can get a work from home job to help out so she won’t get stressed out with the day to day grind of going to a 9-5.
Thank God I got a traditional woman that doesn't have an issue paying a bill or two to help out with the household, and she's a world-class published chef. It is a matter of communication with your spouse and determining the end-goal for you both.
I usually agree with Phil on a lot of topics, but I disagree with his take and here’s why. It’s not possible to pay ALL bills off one income unless you are making at least $100,000 a year especially in this day and age. I personally believe even if you still live within your means you’ll still end up living paycheck to paycheck paying all the bills just off his income alone. It’s not a man’s job to allow a woman to come into his life just with the mindset of “I don’t want to work anymore, you’re the man so pay all the bills.” Then on top of all this, she will still expect to have her nails and hair done when she’s not the one working 😂call it what you want but I’m not about to all ANY woman to come into my life to be financial burden on me.
There are resent statistics that show in 2023 most of America can not get an apartment without having a roommate. Apartments are very expensive in most major metropolitan areas. I live in DC. Apartments are anywhere from $1500-$3000 a month. The average person in America makes $15-$20 an hour. Wages are way behind the cost of living. If you want your children to grow up outside the hood, two people will likely have to work. Period. These are real stats. Please look them up
Many of them are working and still refuses to help...They just wanna live this ridiculous Delusional life... Gentlemen, stay focused....Let these masculine women that continue to disrespect you go...
I agree with being traditional decades ago when times were much better to build a family. Before social media. This day in age. I can't do it. Divorce is always in the wind. Being single is safer. Careful be traditional now days, it can set you up for a lifetime of alimony when she divorces you. Watch out for that. Also, that lady showed no respect to her husband the way she spoke to him like a child.
Get that rebellious jezebel out.. Brotha, stop settling for these kinds of women and to hell with those who play that shame "you got self hate" nonsense.. You must have standards!
@@onceagain6184 typical comment, You obviously dont have any standards...I told brothas to stop settling for a specific type of woman...you must be the one single mad that noone will deal with you..Phil says the same thing, is he single and not with a woman?
My mom never worked one day in her life. My parents had 13 kids and my dad stayed at wk. Different times now and both parents are deceased. RIP Mom amd Dad
I bet that if he said instead of getting a 2nd job he would go to night school to learn a trade that would pay more, then she would still keep her job and help out...Because that would definitely be him stepping up!
These women want retirement plans. I would rather stay single and I can afford it. Why pay all bills so she can surf the web all day and watch housewives????
Is Phil on planet earth today. Come to Los Angeles and hv one income and see if you not on the streets with the homeless. Tht dont fly out here. All help is welcomed. And this going to happen in ALL MAJOR CITIES
She makes you want to do less for her…not more. She’s the meme for buyers remorse. She’s probably making meals from the kids meal and thinks she’s doing something. The juice is not worth the squeeze
She went about it the WRONG WAY!! You never emasculate a man to get him to do what you want or what’s right. He will do the opposite, with pleasure. But that’s the way of some of these older bitter women and most of them were single mothers and passed it down
I'm a man and I say if your a adult, you need to responsible enough to take care of yourself. All the women I know worked and took care of their family. My mother, aunts, cousins. I didn't know any women who did not have a job a help pay bills. Just like men have to come home and take care of the house and the cars and other maintenance things, she took care of all the things in the house.
Yep that's why I tell every guy I see get financially stable grow your finances and it doesn't matter how old you are you'll have your pick of the litter
Phil you’re out of touch if you think 1 income can pay all the bills. It’s 2023, 80% or Americans live paycheck to paycheck. Wages have not kept up with inflation since the 1980’s. Housing is unaffordable. Love your content brotha Phil but you’re off base on this one. Tons of ppl live within their means and struggle to get by. 2 incomes are needed to have a stable family for MOST Americans.
He’s definitely out of touch. I live in NY and while I could pay all my bills- I think the woman should contribute to the $2500 rent. Just because she’s contributing to where she lives, doesn’t mean the man can’t afford to survive without her. I’m the breadwinner in my home, and pay a larger share because I make more, but still expect something.
The thing that pisses me off about modern blk women is from the beginning of time as a ppl we have always valued each other.....Grandma & Grandpa met each other in the gutter & climbed out hand-in-hand and built their palace 🏰 together instead modern women believe they're the 👸🏽 that should just be able to move in.
This is how I roll as a woman: I never put more on a credit card that I can't pay off monthly. Pay cash as much as possible. I have never made a car payment. I paid cash for all my USED cars. If there was something special I wanted, we talked it over, and cut back here and there to make this happen. I was raised this way.
Any divorce lawyer will tell you, the men that get hit the hardest, had stay at homes wives. Having a woman that doesn’t work and sits at home is one of the dumbest things a man can do. It’s not going to keep her faithful, it’s not going to keep her happy, she’ll still wake up one day, say I’m not happy and wreck the family. And because you allowed her not to work for 5 years she’ll need alimony and child support. And you need to pay the children’s medical and dental. Good luck.
You're out of touch on this issue Phil. These women are not your grandmothers. They don't even have the skills that your grandmothers had to be "the woman" of the house.
And I'm older than you Phil and no women even my children mothers have access to my bank account. That's ultra dumb. 😂😂
Saying u not a real man unless you pay ALL the bills is one of the greatest cons in modern dating. This ain't 1960 when a woman couldn't work and besides that paying all the bills doesn't guarantee respect
Theres evn some sistas who would agree with what you said, but sadly some brothas think opposite but want to shame other men who are simps
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
A house in the 1960s didn’t cost over a 1000 dollars a month either plus taxes man please no woman will live with me and just exist screw that you die quicker like that 😅
My husband just let me quit my job and he is happy to pay all of our bills. He was already been doing that anyway. I cook, go to they gym and take care of our child when she’s not in school. He’s the best and I’m so lucky!!
Yes you are
That's only half of what he's doing for his girlfriend
@@sionrouge1697 bitter betty
@@sionrouge1697damn
As long as if he was broke you'd still be Willing to live within his means.. hopefully you are cooking and keeping the house clean as well
If she isn't raising my kids, then she needs to be at work helping me build this legacy
Exactly..it's one or the other.
I agree 👍🏻 💯
This new generation something else
And you will be cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping etc. And there's no Head of Household in a roommate situation, so a man will lose that respect off the top. You're not making decisions if I'm paying the bills.
@@shayemooreI do all that myself you guys act like cooking and cleaning is so fucking hard. We mow lawns, rack leaves, service all the cars, shovel snow, wipe snow off the cars in the morning in the cold so you don’t have to… I clean my house within a hour and laundry. It’s teamwork get tf out of here you hoes don’t deserve a provider.
The problem is if he did pay all the bills she wouldn't fulfill her role as a housewife. If she don't know/don't wanna know how to cook and clean for her husband how's she going to know how to cook and clean for a family?
Black women 🍵
Bingo! She on the computer
Right that's what he is missing. Women are the reason people can't live off one income. She probably is lying about the $15
@@SonicBoomC98 nah your choice of women are the reason.
Not only is she selfish, spoiled, and entitled, but she's also lazy, which is the worst kind of woman for any man.
No way no way
She didn't quit so she could raise his children, she didn't quit so she could support him, she did it because she didn't want to work. When he asks her to wash his drawers or cook dinner she is going to give him that same attitude because she wants to do absolutely nothing.
That woman is just lazy.
Agreed! She is the complete opposite of a help meet.
And then while he gone off to work she will be laid up with another man
That was my exact question. You don't have to work outside the house but you are going to work whether it's cooking, cleaning, or making sure the kids have everything they need. She just won't be lying around and doing nothing.
She’s up to something!
if shes not paying anything np, make sure my crib looking nice daily and make sure those yams are ready when i get home😂
Both yams...the ones in the pot and the other set in them jeans! 😂
I agree.
Hey I'm up for it..😅love it
A hundred percent agree my brother.
Nah kick her put. Because you k ow damn well she ain't gonna do any of that. You can tell by her attitude.
Ok, you don't wanna work, no problem. But I want the house to be clean, I want my clothes wash and I want a home cooked healthy meal. And alot of females of today don't want to do that
Facts
But she no maid , chef or slave lmao
This is a fair exchange.
@@LisaS483 exactly if my man paying all the bills our house is gonna be spotless, we’re gonna have creative healthy meals on the daily, I’m gonna spoil him when he gets off with back and foot rubs, and our kids are gonna be 💯!
That’s not a gender role, anybody can do that
She told him to get 2, 3,4,5,6 jobs😂! Makes an easy excuse to cheat. We've all heard it before; I was lonely and you're never home...
That is the EXACT EXCUSE she will use if he did work 2 jobs.
She said multiple times that he wasn't the man 😂
Any man that buries himself in work the woman goes out on him every time.
@@blackdiamond306Facts!!!
EXACTLY!!!
Phil... YOU CANT LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS IF YOU HAVE A WOMAN LIKE THAT! THAT IS THE PROBLEM! Ain't no man gonna work 2 or 3 jobs trying to please a woman like that.
Phil is one of them old school simps.
NOT WITHIN YOUR MEANS ITS BELOW YOUR MEANS PLUS A MAN SHOULD PAY THE RENT FOR SURE
Everybody should have a rainy day fund and at least 3 months bills saved .
@@alpaphoenix3252Bruuhh lmaoo. 😂
@@jacquelinefransaw6911i live within my means with myself, why would i want to be with someone to live below my means?
I'm sorry, but Phil is way off on this one. Now Phil is going with the "man up" crowd? Like we need to just accept a 💩 deal. The kind woman that's in this video, are not the one's that were with Phil's daddy, grand-dads, great grand dads time. Those women held up their end of the bargain. House was clean, she could knew how to cook real food. No fights over lack of $ex. Plus women don't always show their true self till it's too late.
Facts
He manned up a got his ass destroyed in a divorce
Those who be preaching about paying all the bills haven't addressed many videos on these bill payers rich guys being cheated on and mistreated and dealing with jezebels
Facts all day! Todays women are not the same. They don’t even want to do the basics and expect the men to break their backs all day everyday only to get disrespected and told they are not doing enough. Not gonna do it.
@@truebengalsfanDamn 😅😅
Here's the the thing?
IF she's living alone, she's paying her bills RIGHT?
Absolutely cuz I’m not
Facts
Gotcha! 😂
That's right! But she doesn't have to do twice the cooking, clean twice the dishes, wash dry fold and put away twice the clothes, clean up after 2 people instead of just herself, and doesn't have to give up the cheeks when she doesn't feel like it, and not budget for twice the spending. 😉
And if they live in an apartment, it's not like he's mowing lawns, cleaning gutters, making household repairs or the like.
If a guy pitches in with the housework, a woman should work and help them both come up. If if he won't, then he needs to be man enough to pay all the bills to get all the "traditional" perks.
But she doesn’t now does she
She should have spoke
to her husband before quitting her job.
Yes, she definitely should have.
Phil... I have to respectfully disagree these women say they strong and independent they should help with the bills also these women are not traditional us men are not going to treat them traditional
You are not traditional either you just lazy
my thing is why would ANY good man or traditional man at that want to deal with a woman like that?
@jacary y’all use the “strong and independent” trope to hide behind your failure as men…just stop. Independence and strength can be internal !
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
@@bodhisattva2348 are YOU cutting the grass and doing stuff around the house?
He should file for divorce. To quit her job suddenly without letting him know is treason.
Did she say "are you hard of hearing?" She need to get out MY house!
Yes..rude as hell.
Don't let the doorknob hit you where biology split you nobody rides for free.
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Ass, gas, or cash. Nobody rides for free.
Ain't no easy dunks or layups in life
$15.00 a hour should be minimum wage. But it’s not enough to pay bills and live comfortably. I make $22.00 an hour and I live paycheck to paycheck
15.00$ an hour is minimum wage in NYC it's still not enough
Where do you live
@@demetriuspowell29 Philly
Lol...phil said minimum wage should be 10 dollars. He's a little out of touch on some subjects
@@Roycestiles for real 😅
My husband pays all the bills..but I still work. You never know what could happen..
Selfish
@@mauricedaniels1407?
@@mauricedaniels1407 how is that selfish when my husband wants to pay all the bills? I work just in case he isn't able.
Smart. That's how my grandmother and grandfather were also my parents.
I think 3 bank accounts is fine. Each person have they own account, and the 3rd account for paying all the bills. Simple.
Facts💯
Absolutely
EXACTLY!
Kick her out bruhh
The way she went about it was wrong. But a woman like this is entitled I will divorce her quick
I don't agree with phil on this one , I hear you i would get rid of her quick cuz she don't want to work & got 4 kids if i was him i'd be gone the way she talk to him.
@stevenulls8230 My thing is this! If she don't want to work anymore, which is crazy with kids. She should have set down and talk, to her hubby about that. Instead she presented it rude entitled, like most modern woman. Men are not a ATM nor a walking wallet! That 1 of many reason why we continue to get those passports, trust me when I say this. Bruh it's way way better woman, that know how to be wives overseas. Know how to treat men!
Quick fast! 💨
@@stevenulls8230 that's what I said,look how she talks to him ,I couldn't have that,he should've left her a long time ago, no respect at all
I would too sure would. Get rid of her
I don’t mean no harm Unc. I can’t get with you on this one. It sounds like she been listening to social media and without notifying her husband what she feel. She just out the blue made the decision without talking to him.
Angry witch feminist social media is what I heard when she was talking. She let one of those lonely bitter women get to her. His best response is getting his own place & letting their place go. She can't shame or guilt trip him into being her personal slave.
My thoughts exactly. Unc wrong on this one.
Simply paying all the bills don't make you the man, you're the man regardless. It's about teamwork and the woman assisting in any way possible. Cooking and cleaning has never been the only chore in the house. We men mow the lawn, rack leaves, take out the trash, service all the vehicles, do home repairs, and pay contractors for major home renovations. My grandmother and mother has always helped by paying the utility bills as well as cook and cleaning while my father and grandfather did what I just mentioned. Again it's about teamwork, respect, and communication 💯💯
paying bills is an adult responsibility just like taking care of your kids, going to work on time, washing clothes etc.
That's rite. Team work
@@beverlydixon6556 i see nothing wrong with a man and woman working together. because when one falls the other person picks that one up.
I agree with this, its all about cooperation and team work.
My dad and mom did it that way and one set of grandparents did. One of my grandmothers was a housewife. They all worked out well. Tell death do you part and raised a lot of kids 😂.
If they both agreed to her to stop working,then its okay,but if not, then she is wrong.
My girl works and is a great chef. She cooks 5 days a week and cleans. She does the inside work while i do outside work. Whatever needs fixing then i do that.
I work three jobs because my hubby had back surgery and I told him don't rush to go back working because I got your back until you completely heal. I cook, clean, wash, yard work, take trash out, rake the yard, riding mower at times, sometimes cook enough food to last for at least two weeks until I get one day or two off to catch up on everything. I pay all the bills and don't have time for anything, but I know this situation will pay off soon because I luv my husband too death.
THIS!❤ Most Likely, It's a Temporary situation. Your husband doesn't sound like he's trying to take advantage of the situation.
Congratulations to you. It most definitely will pay off in the end.
👍🏿🖤🤎🖤🤎🖤
The fact that he calls her bruh is already problematic
To all the fathers with daughters teach your daughter that Paying bills is an Adult responsibility. Also teach them that earning and taking family responsibility is also a basic skill for existence, it is Not a gender specific role.
No father's teach your daughter to have the man of the house work. Y'all black men are just lazy as hell. Well some are.
No one should be paying bills we should be living off the land but hey most people would rather be slaves than to do that.
No. That'd be fair.
Exactly what the feminist say they wanted.
Never happen.
@@blackice8824 as usual you don't no what your talking about banded
@@lovehemp4953 you sound like the type that be like i ain't working for the man!! Then ask yo homie to hook you up with a couple dollars.
She has a point but the way she talking to him shows a lack of respect. It's time to pack up and leave her so she can pay all the bills. Hope you had a prenup
She don’t have a point
Right
If you’re not wealthy, prepare for resentment and disrespect from the women you deal with.
Man i thought phil wasnt a simp. Well i was wrong. Anytime rent in the hood os 1500 to 2 thousand a month and he thinks that living in your means. Remember guys he wifed up a babymom.
If your woman sits back & watches you bust your ass to pay all of the bills she doesn't love you the way that you think she loves you. A woman who genuinely cares will help as much as she can because she would rather you have more free time with the family than slaving at a job.
Fr these dudes are crazy and lack self esteem.
You a bum
So he can watch her bust her tail tho! 😮
Bro you wrong!!! She is being very demanding and disrespectful!!! She has a nasty attitude and I'd leave her.
The disrespect! She would have been toast. She would have got her exit papers that same day. On the other hand I won’t let no woman pay any of my bills. Her name will not be on anything. I’m going to pay all my own bills regardless. My pops always told me. Never depend on a woman for anything. So I love that way. I don’t tolerate this behavior . I’ve been living well all my life. I had an old school upbringing. 🤷🏾♂️😎
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Preach
100 agreed.
Yes sir🙌🏾
So…she can’t build her own credit history??
My late grandparents pay the bills together, cook and clean their house.
Oh, just like that. She got the wrong understanding. " I ain't working no more." You are supposed to be working together. (You are incorrect Phil). If she can work, then work and help the family out. And when the man comes up financially, then you all can change some things.
He slipped
@@CharlesThomas-vs8ir who slipped ??
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Thank goodness for passports, geesh.
times are way to hard for one person to pay all the bills.. okay I'm done
Excuses are tools of incompetence
@@LisaS483 Umm we live in America most people live paycheck to paycheck df you talking about excuses goofy azz.
@@LisaS483independent woman with equal rights share in equal responsibility, who in a relationship do you think not living in the budget
@@LisaS483ignorance is bliss.
@@MrHowhotthese hoes and blue pill simps wanna make traditional women out of 304s.
They just can't learn.
Phil talking nonsense, he stuck in that past. If when we get a divorced she gets 50% she going to contribute
How many times we have to tell ya'll to stop WIFING UP these LAZY AZZ WOMEN!!! A man can pay ALL the bills, but a woman can't just be sitting around just doing NOTHING. She's gonna have to work to pay whatever bills she has brought into the relationship. Credit cards, student loans, clothes, shoes, etc. Or if I pay ALL bills, then I WILL NOT, be doing ANYTHING around the house. No cooking, no cleaning. Period.
I paid all the bills in my last relationship and all she had to do was buy groceries and she had a problem with that. No kids just the two of us and she still had a problem.
Did u leave her?
@@Wisewords63 9 years ago and haven't looked back.
Did you get your passport?
@@thekorsh4230 Been in Africa for 5 months now.
@Nightrain349 good for you, I wonder if she changed her way of thinking now that you left her?
Bro it's time to leave because she's expecting you to pay all the bills but then she's gonna be expecting you to spoil her with material things. Nah son, get out
She knows the court has her back, that's why she acted like that. He made a mistake marrying her.
My mom use to say it’s not what you make it’s what you do with it thats true to a degree !!
Amen! 💯
Simple math and economics can prove that what your mother said is outdated.
Sorry Phil that mind state doesn't apply to this woman. She has no respect for her husband and this woman would be dismissed immediately!
👏 I STRONGLY CONCUR WITH YOU,SIR.🫡 SHE'S UH USELESS POSTULE...
The union is pretty much over. In order to show someone your value you have to leave them, don't plead with them. Let the home foreclose and get an apartment. This forces her to fend for herself.
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
@@bodhisattva2348 Who does the chores for men who live solo?
She has no respect for him? ...but he came in HER face with the camera!? Wants to put her on blast but doesn't want everyone to know HIS business!? He mad cuz he got a subpar meal after she has worked a full-time job? He wants her to take care of everything in the house and 4 kids AND "help him" financially?! She went about it wrong, but he is/was working her like a slave!!! 🫣🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽
Phil, I'm sorry, I usually agree with you on a lot of things, but this is a terrible take. Most men can't support an entire family on a single salary or even two salaries. Have you seen the rent out here and the other living expenses? Also, not to mention the job insecurity. And before anyone says " jUsT sTaRt A bUsInESs🥴" most businesses fail, and when they fail, they put people in more financial ruin. So, that's why women must step up and contribute financially to the household to lessen the financial burden.
Don't be sorry brotha he a simp
Facts
So you want a 50/50 relationship where there are 2 incomes (yours & hers) & you take on 50% of the chores? Because that is the very opposite of traditional 😏
@@you_mustbeBrainwash he not broke, most black men are broke. They don't make more than 80k a yr.
@@bodhisattva2348who brought up traditional? That dude on the video didn't, and neither did this guy. There are those that want it and those that don't
The disrespect on her side. Go ahead and start the divorce process started.
We’ve Got To Stop The Narrative, of “If You Want Full Submission, Pay All The Bills.” When We KNOW That’s Been Debunked.
A Man Can Pay ALL The Bills, And STILL Get NO Submission.
Also Folks Can Live Within Their Means, And STILL Not Have Enough, You Know That Brotha.
I'm a witness
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Phil way isnt the only way. In my family everybody worked. The men and women worked equally
He should leave because it's already over. She is very very disrespectful.
In this country I believe you should be earning $200,000 to comfortably support a family of four. As a man I have no issue paying all the bills but I expect that house to be cleaned, my meals waiting, and to perform your wifely duties in the bed. If you can't then I expect you to work out that house. We are both going to benefit from this relationship.
Totally fine. This is fair.
$200,000? Yeah in NY, LA, or San
Francisco. If you live in a low cost of living state/city you can comfortably raise a family of 4 on as little as $100,000 a year
I’m not here to support adults I’m here to sup kids
Most men don't make no where near 200.000
Man you living in a fantasy world the average man in America only makes 40 to 70K a year dude not many could make 200 to 400k a year you must be exaggerating.
Phil, you can't buy a house, two cars, and send multiple kids to college on a high school diploma and one income, like men of your dad's and granddad's generation could...
Phil you can’t stress reparations & then expect black men who are the most incarcerated, non-hired, non-promoted on the job group within this society….to pay all of the bills (especially here in Cali or New York)!The two things can’t co-exist!
The single life is best and get the hell outta here
Phil need to make a definition of what bills are or what bills a man supposed to pay . Many people have unnecessary bills
Someone else is hitting her.
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Sorry Uncle Phil. I disagree. I will never date a woman who doesn't work I was not raised to be lazy and I saw my mom work until now that she retired. I will not have a woman staying in my place that I brought with my own $$ so she can lay up and do nothing. That's where I draw the line.
Lol Phil I love ya bro but what world are you living in? Even the hood got expensive 😭 ... Those old school antics don't work all the time in this society of 2023. Whatever works for the household even if it's two incomes, and I'm an old school 80's baby 😉
Naw both have to work. She stop working cause she don't wanna pay bills anymore. This is a planned issue.
Leave Her
With 4 kids and a $15 an hour husband, she picked the wrong time to quit her job
Yeah I agree she should have at least kept working until he got another job or something amd saved up in the meantime
I’m the man of the house and the man is telling you that you need to work 😂😂😂😭😭
Love the show Phil! I have to disagree with your philosophy on this one, IMO it’s not my bills, it’s our bills. If I can get up, hustle, and go get it, she can too! It’s called shared responsibility, especially if we don’t have kids. If anything, she can get a work from home job to help out so she won’t get stressed out with the day to day grind of going to a 9-5.
Thank God I got a traditional woman that doesn't have an issue paying a bill or two to help out with the household, and she's a world-class published chef.
It is a matter of communication with your spouse and determining the end-goal for you both.
Every household ain't going to be ran the same. You did the right thing and communicated with your spouse.
Let her pay her own bills for once lazy hussy
That's why it's best to be single
Lazy heffa 🤣
This is more about laziness and lack of respect than anything
She's confining herself to poverty, nothing wrong with helping.
She's taunting dude, the respect gotta come with that
Wow this is what BM have to deal with BW in almost every relationship. I'm staying single and spoil myself
You can do better walk a way don't look back man .
I usually agree with Phil on a lot of topics, but I disagree with his take and here’s why. It’s not possible to pay ALL bills off one income unless you are making at least $100,000 a year especially in this day and age. I personally believe even if you still live within your means you’ll still end up living paycheck to paycheck paying all the bills just off his income alone. It’s not a man’s job to allow a woman to come into his life just with the mindset of “I don’t want to work anymore, you’re the man so pay all the bills.” Then on top of all this, she will still expect to have her nails and hair done when she’s not the one working 😂call it what you want but I’m not about to all ANY woman to come into my life to be financial burden on me.
There are resent statistics that show in 2023 most of America can not get an apartment without having a roommate. Apartments are very expensive in most major metropolitan areas. I live in DC. Apartments are anywhere from $1500-$3000 a month. The average person in America makes $15-$20 an hour. Wages are way behind the cost of living. If you want your children to grow up outside the hood, two people will likely have to work. Period. These are real stats. Please look them up
Many of them are working and still refuses to help...They just wanna live this ridiculous Delusional life... Gentlemen, stay focused....Let these masculine women that continue to disrespect you go...
Stop going back n forth arguing with these women❗Let your actions speak for you
I agree with being traditional decades ago when times were much better to build a family. Before social media. This day in age. I can't do it. Divorce is always in the wind. Being single is safer. Careful be traditional now days, it can set you up for a lifetime of alimony when she divorces you. Watch out for that. Also, that lady showed no respect to her husband the way she spoke to him like a child.
Get that rebellious jezebel out.. Brotha, stop settling for these kinds of women and to hell with those who play that shame "you got self hate" nonsense.. You must have standards!
@@onceagain6184 typical comment, You obviously dont have any standards...I told brothas to stop settling for a specific type of woman...you must be the one single mad that noone will deal with you..Phil says the same thing, is he single and not with a woman?
@@marvl6472 most people who leave a comment like that are projecting or is a hyena, maggle
Yeah, Because There Are Other women out there who will be happy to help him and have him.
This wouldn't work for me. We go 50 50 to make sure we don't fight for control
That's your opinion Phil to each it's own. If you husband knows about the account than it's not hiding anything point blank
This is why im for 50/50. Keep them acountable. You quit your job ? Ok we done. I can do bad by myself. I dont need help.
But you want her to be submissive!?
@@millertoyal we live in MODERN TIMES. I can't expect anything from anybody that they don't already have
@@millertoyal Women aren't "submissive" (whatever that term means) anymore and haven't been in decades!
Beautiful women don't go 50/50, period. You get the best woman that you can afford.
@@LisaS483 😄That's a lie.
My mom never worked one day in her life. My parents had 13 kids and my dad stayed at wk. Different times now and both parents are deceased. RIP Mom amd Dad
I bet that if he said instead of getting a 2nd job he would go to night school to learn a trade that would pay more, then she would still keep her job and help out...Because that would definitely be him stepping up!
That doesn't matter to women like her
Once again, Monk Mode and MGTOW solves this.
I agree with this woman she needs to be home with those 4 kids
These women want retirement plans. I would rather stay single and I can afford it. Why pay all bills so she can surf the web all day and watch housewives????
Thank you, Uncle Phil 😊
Is Phil on planet earth today. Come to Los Angeles and hv one income and see if you not on the streets with the homeless. Tht dont fly out here. All help is welcomed. And this going to happen in ALL MAJOR CITIES
She makes you want to do less for her…not more. She’s the meme for buyers remorse. She’s probably making meals from the kids meal and thinks she’s doing something. The juice is not worth the squeeze
These women will never be traditional whether you pay all the bills or not.
She went about it the WRONG WAY!! You never emasculate a man to get him to do what you want or what’s right. He will do the opposite, with pleasure. But that’s the way of some of these older bitter women and most of them were single mothers and passed it down
I'm a man and I say if your a adult, you need to responsible enough to take care of yourself. All the women I know worked and took care of their family. My mother, aunts, cousins. I didn't know any women who did not have a job a help pay bills. Just like men have to come home and take care of the house and the cars and other maintenance things, she took care of all the things in the house.
Yep that's why I tell every guy I see get financially stable grow your finances and it doesn't matter how old you are you'll have your pick of the litter
If your working your paying Bills. If not , your working for the man and living at his level. No sitting at the computer all day.
If she was working and she just stopped that's a problem. For me my bills stay paid her bills will just be sitting there and waiting for her.
Phil you’re out of touch if you think 1 income can pay all the bills. It’s 2023, 80% or Americans live paycheck to paycheck. Wages have not kept up with inflation since the 1980’s. Housing is unaffordable. Love your content brotha Phil but you’re off base on this one. Tons of ppl live within their means and struggle to get by. 2 incomes are needed to have a stable family for MOST Americans.
Your speaking facts
Facts I live in Mississippi and here at my apt complex we had 3 rent hikes and extra fees just this year
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Exactly that and no man can live within their means if you have a woman like that... Phil can say this stuff because he has TH-cam on his side.
He’s definitely out of touch. I live in NY and while I could pay all my bills- I think the woman should contribute to the $2500 rent. Just because she’s contributing to where she lives, doesn’t mean the man can’t afford to survive without her. I’m the breadwinner in my home, and pay a larger share because I make more, but still expect something.
The thing that pisses me off about modern blk women is from the beginning of time as a ppl we have always valued each other.....Grandma & Grandpa met each other in the gutter & climbed out hand-in-hand and built their palace 🏰 together instead modern women believe they're the 👸🏽 that should just be able to move in.
For real 😂😂😂😂
This is how I roll as a woman: I never put more on a credit card that I can't pay off monthly. Pay cash as much as possible. I have never made a car payment. I paid cash for all my USED cars. If there was something special I wanted, we talked it over, and cut back here and there to make this happen. I was raised this way.
My brother, you are so right, the women can't have it both ways nor can our men!
Brother you are so right!
Phill, I diss agree everyone should contribute to an elevating life of living.
I’m not marrying no housewife period
Any divorce lawyer will tell you, the men that get hit the hardest, had stay at homes wives.
Having a woman that doesn’t work and sits at home is one of the dumbest things a man can do. It’s not going to keep her faithful, it’s not going to keep her happy, she’ll still wake up one day, say I’m not happy and wreck the family.
And because you allowed her not to work for 5 years she’ll need alimony and child support. And you need to pay the children’s medical and dental.
Good luck.
We should say lazy ass house work 😂😂😂😂😂..cause some do keep the house clean ans cook and work so her and her man can live good
@noahknight4039 man you just said a mouthful. My only regret is I can only like this once
@@kyrkwalters964 children are suppose to do the housework
You're out of touch on this issue Phil. These women are not your grandmothers. They don't even have the skills that your grandmothers had to be "the woman" of the house.
If you have a woman she needs to pay tribute to the man to the kingdom.