So I agree with what you said, and still think relationships are hard. Because they push us to confront our selfishness, pride, insecurities, and ither flaws. Learning to dance through life with someone, figure communication and teamwork, you're going to step on each other's toes sometimes. But if you're both willing to grow, love, forgive, and hold each other accountable, you can create something beautiful.
Difficult times in relationships are actually a test of how strong you are both separately and together. What do you think about the couples who have been together for 40 years, why are they actually together? Yes, you can make excuses, but the real truth is that they accepted each other as they are and made each other a promise. That they will be together in good times and bad times.
Advice to my single friends: Men are not complicated. He's not investing in you because you're not worth it to him, he's not chasing you because he doesn't want you, he's still entertaining you because you let him. He's not giving you what you want because he's not afraid to lose you. Stop making excuses.
ALSO remember: Men are analytical creatures. If we treat you well And you RUN AWAY, we stop treating you well. When we don't treat you well you come RUNNING BACK giving us EVERYTHING we want....even against our Will we May not treat you well to get what we want. Seek therapy.
Idk. You can't speak for everyone. By my experience, emotional involvement makes things difficult. I could ace any test about what to do when certain situations arise, but in the heat of certain moments all of that being well informed flies out of the window. Then there's how these difficult moments can get moved past and the enduring relationship signifies acceptance as apprehension fades. Or it doesn't and one or the other or both people don't feel reassured as they would like to be.
To the women out there who have a crush on someone, if they aren’t making a move, they may either think you are a friend, or love you but are afraid to tell you. So if they aren’t, maybe try confessing to them.
100% agree with you. I broke up with my last girlfriend 3 months ago. Although i should be with her knowing we're only 3 and a half months in, I already saw signs that she's not ready nor compatible with me. It's understanding tho because this is her first relationship and afterall, she's new to this sort of feeling of being with someone. But for me, I feel she isn't ready and I myself am not in the right place in my life atm. I have a lot of things to catch up to before I commit into a relationship and contribute to that relationship. Though, the problem I noticed from her was that she would give relationship advices to her friends, yet she never does exactly as she should with our relationship. She's prideful and she herself even admits that. And the thing with pride is that, they would always think they're right... She never communicates what's on her mind, she never tells me or talks to me about her emotions, she always keeps a smile on her face and disreguard any concerns I have for her, sometimes she'd tell me but most times she just really doesn't tell me anything. Even though what she tells me is half of what's really happening but the rest is kept to herself. I've always had that gut feeling. When i spoke to her about this, she asked if I thought she's lying, and I said yes. Even though she had no reason to lie to me and she had never lied to me, from my point of view, having your partner keep things from you makes you feel emotionally neglected and start to doubt your worth for them. For the past 3 and a half months she has been doing this. And being in my state, I wasn't mentally well. I was going through severe depression, and feeling emotionally neglected from her adds to the problem. I've been trying my best to fix the relationship, used my last remaining energy just for her, being patient, remaining understanding, and TRYING for this relationship. Yet she had never done her part. I cannot even pinpoint anything she had contributed into the relationship. Most of what she should be sharing to me as a partner to keep me updated, etc., she shares with her friends. I've already talked to her that she needs to share whatever is on her mind even if its about me. But with reassuring fake words, she never did. Which is why I've decided to call off the relationship. She's not ready, and she refuses to learn from a different point of view. I was being direct, open about my thoughts, i gave her my vulnerability and intimacy, i gave what I had left of me even if I was suffering mentally. I did my part. At least, what I know I've done right and all that I could've done in that time and moment. My word for her, she's not ready for a relationship yet. She needs to work and focus on herself before she even gets into one.
Note tho, I can confirm that she did truly love me and was 100% committed into our relationship. She had promised me (which she isn't a promise breaker), that I am her first and last relationship. And that no matter what happens, she would always choose me. Those words I can confirm are true. But her actions never showed me what she had said. I can also say that she had said that she didn't know how to express them, but her feelings and love are genuine. It makes me sad to have left someone who wholeheartedly loved me, but she deserves someone who has high patience and understanding than me who's currently going through a Rollercoaster. She also needs to work on her pride and ego.
Also communication is key. Learn how to communicate with each other. And don’t try to fix your spouse. A lot of people (specifically women) will focus on fixing their spouse and wonder why they aren’t happy. Focus on bettering yourself, because at the end of the day you are the only one you can control the actions of.
You are absolutely correct, in a relationship where both people are competing with each other and are always jealous of the other's accomplishment, it's gonna turn out bad and it won't work, when both people are equal, they have the same weaknesses, not all weaknesses but usually similar, they won't be able to compliment and help the other with their weaknesses since they have the same weaknesses too. And yes, committing to each other and bringing your best self to one another is an amazing thing to do, and the right thing too, from my experience, me and my partner commit to each other and be our best self to each other, supporting and helping each other and our relationship stand strong even through lots of hardship Anyways, this is just my personal opinion, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, have a good day, everyone :D
This is about money not about compatibility, this is just about teamwork and not about subconscious growth. Vibes do matter, people can team work but if the subconscious mind has a breakdown the whole thing doesnt matter.
It's not just about someone who can compliment you with their gift, and vice versa. But also, if you can accept your partner's flaw, and same goes to if your partner can accept yours. Relationship is not just about the ups, there are plenty of downs as well. I wish good luck to every relationship out there, definitely not easy.
Understanding trauma, anger, and every emotion in the galaxy could ruin the moment. So don’t say something stupid and regret, understand we all feel the worst in moments of passion.
I'd also add "Be the person you'd want to spend time on the couch with." It's okay to be comfortable in your own skin and you should want the same for your partner.
Experiencing a relationship is not hard and once it is really going, the effort to keep it going well through the ups and downs of life is to be expected, and if the bond is strong then it is never un-manageable. The "ingredients" to make (start) a good relationship can be hard to get though. For example, finding someone that would truly be down to "show up" as you do... "They're only hard if only one person is showing up" that "IF" you put there is a planet sized "IF". Years can pass before you find out the other hasn't been fully "there" with/for you. So there's always an initial bet. You have to bet on the other person not fooling you (and by that I mean not hiding anything from you that could change your mind about them) and not screwing you up after you fully reveal yourself. And it goes both ways, the way you present all your quirks, shortcomings and defects through time can inspire trust as much as it can suspect or fear. And you never know who you'll get, so even when two can complement each other it can not be worth the effort of having to deal with "other things" that come with the package. If everyone was 100% honest in this world, everyone would always know who to avoid emotional involvement with and anyone would find their perfect match first try!
Yes, I agree but the actual difficult part about relationships is try and find the person whom compliments me and I can complement them back in the same degree🤍
this was just abt to be the first video I disagreed with in like 11 months of watching, but turns out, I never thought of this before and I 100% agree with it.
Also remember, chances are your first partner wont be the one you die with. That takes time, even if 99.99% of the population hated you there would still be a couple thousand that will fall for you
Like u said, relationships is difficult is one person is doing all the work and the other person is not. That's why I think relationships is hard. What's the point of being in one if one person has to do all the work?
You forget to mention the point ( I know it’s a whole different story but) about how impossible it is nowadays to find a proper person like that 🫠 everyone and the whole society is fucking fucked
Well both of them were equally important so there was equality lol. In this context “equal” obviously doesn’t mean “the same” By analogy 2 + 3, 1 + 4, 1 + 6 - 2 & 2.5 ✕ 2 are all entirely different equations composed of different parts. Thus neither of these four equations are the same but they’re all equal in value (= 5)
Did anyone in America hear his last words? 🤔 YOU have to bring the best version of yourself. And the person YOU PICK (because you all pick em') must also bring the best version of themselves. Relationships are simple you ready? Here it is ....wisdom from an old lady... Stop being the kind of person you don't want to date.
did you just literally rip off Chris Rock's special word for word? like straight up you lifted it, changed Hall and Oates to Led Zeppelin and uploaded ... i cant believe this shit
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Relationships aren't hard. Relationships are work, but that is what makes them valuable.
So I agree with what you said, and still think relationships are hard. Because they push us to confront our selfishness, pride, insecurities, and ither flaws. Learning to dance through life with someone, figure communication and teamwork, you're going to step on each other's toes sometimes. But if you're both willing to grow, love, forgive, and hold each other accountable, you can create something beautiful.
Difficult times in relationships are actually a test of how strong you are both separately and together. What do you think about the couples who have been together for 40 years, why are they actually together? Yes, you can make excuses, but the real truth is that they accepted each other as they are and made each other a promise. That they will be together in good times and bad times.
EXACTLY!!! Top tier input. Know your role. If both members of a relationship did the exact same thing, about half of everything ends up undone.
Advice to my single friends:
Men are not complicated. He's not investing in you because you're not worth it to him, he's not chasing you because he doesn't want you, he's still entertaining you because you let him.
He's not giving you what you want because he's not afraid to lose you.
Stop making excuses.
ALSO remember: Men are analytical creatures. If we treat you well And you RUN AWAY, we stop treating you well. When we don't treat you well you come RUNNING BACK giving us EVERYTHING we want....even against our Will we May not treat you well to get what we want. Seek therapy.
BS
I’m glad I ran into this channel, it’s really helping me out. Thank man.
It’s an honour to play with the band
Absolute truth spoken .. I dig your mind deeply
Only enter into a relationship with someone who has the same morals and values as yourself.
I think if a relationship is hard, someone is trying too hard to make something impossible possible.
Dang this kind of advice is SO RARE these days! But so true!
This is phenomenal advice !
For real!!! Love using the term, "Customer service"
I cannot stress enough that competition within a relationship is madness!
That was well said! Powerful information, I wish Id had it years ago.
I like the way you think. Thank you for making me think a bit more today. Have a nice one
Idk. You can't speak for everyone. By my experience, emotional involvement makes things difficult. I could ace any test about what to do when certain situations arise, but in the heat of certain moments all of that being well informed flies out of the window.
Then there's how these difficult moments can get moved past and the enduring relationship signifies acceptance as apprehension fades. Or it doesn't and one or the other or both people don't feel reassured as they would like to be.
To the women out there who have a crush on someone, if they aren’t making a move, they may either think you are a friend, or love you but are afraid to tell you. So if they aren’t, maybe try confessing to them.
100% agree with you. I broke up with my last girlfriend 3 months ago. Although i should be with her knowing we're only 3 and a half months in, I already saw signs that she's not ready nor compatible with me. It's understanding tho because this is her first relationship and afterall, she's new to this sort of feeling of being with someone. But for me, I feel she isn't ready and I myself am not in the right place in my life atm. I have a lot of things to catch up to before I commit into a relationship and contribute to that relationship.
Though, the problem I noticed from her was that she would give relationship advices to her friends, yet she never does exactly as she should with our relationship. She's prideful and she herself even admits that. And the thing with pride is that, they would always think they're right... She never communicates what's on her mind, she never tells me or talks to me about her emotions, she always keeps a smile on her face and disreguard any concerns I have for her, sometimes she'd tell me but most times she just really doesn't tell me anything. Even though what she tells me is half of what's really happening but the rest is kept to herself. I've always had that gut feeling. When i spoke to her about this, she asked if I thought she's lying, and I said yes. Even though she had no reason to lie to me and she had never lied to me, from my point of view, having your partner keep things from you makes you feel emotionally neglected and start to doubt your worth for them.
For the past 3 and a half months she has been doing this. And being in my state, I wasn't mentally well. I was going through severe depression, and feeling emotionally neglected from her adds to the problem. I've been trying my best to fix the relationship, used my last remaining energy just for her, being patient, remaining understanding, and TRYING for this relationship. Yet she had never done her part. I cannot even pinpoint anything she had contributed into the relationship. Most of what she should be sharing to me as a partner to keep me updated, etc., she shares with her friends.
I've already talked to her that she needs to share whatever is on her mind even if its about me. But with reassuring fake words, she never did. Which is why I've decided to call off the relationship. She's not ready, and she refuses to learn from a different point of view. I was being direct, open about my thoughts, i gave her my vulnerability and intimacy, i gave what I had left of me even if I was suffering mentally. I did my part. At least, what I know I've done right and all that I could've done in that time and moment.
My word for her, she's not ready for a relationship yet. She needs to work and focus on herself before she even gets into one.
Note tho, I can confirm that she did truly love me and was 100% committed into our relationship. She had promised me (which she isn't a promise breaker), that I am her first and last relationship. And that no matter what happens, she would always choose me. Those words I can confirm are true. But her actions never showed me what she had said. I can also say that she had said that she didn't know how to express them, but her feelings and love are genuine. It makes me sad to have left someone who wholeheartedly loved me, but she deserves someone who has high patience and understanding than me who's currently going through a Rollercoaster. She also needs to work on her pride and ego.
Agreed 👍💯
Also communication is key. Learn how to communicate with each other. And don’t try to fix your spouse. A lot of people (specifically women) will focus on fixing their spouse and wonder why they aren’t happy. Focus on bettering yourself, because at the end of the day you are the only one you can control the actions of.
I've been trying to tell people this. Once you have the fundamentals, nothing else really matters.
Okay I love this guy
💯
Why do people not even realize this. It makes me worry honestly. Simple things like these
You are absolutely correct, in a relationship where both people are competing with each other and are always jealous of the other's accomplishment, it's gonna turn out bad and it won't work, when both people are equal, they have the same weaknesses, not all weaknesses but usually similar, they won't be able to compliment and help the other with their weaknesses since they have the same weaknesses too. And yes, committing to each other and bringing your best self to one another is an amazing thing to do, and the right thing too, from my experience, me and my partner commit to each other and be our best self to each other, supporting and helping each other and our relationship stand strong even through lots of hardship
Anyways, this is just my personal opinion, feel free to correct me if I'm wrong, have a good day, everyone :D
EXACTLY!!!! 700TH🫡🤙🏿🕺🏿💯🖤
This is about money not about compatibility, this is just about teamwork and not about subconscious growth. Vibes do matter, people can team work but if the subconscious mind has a breakdown the whole thing doesnt matter.
The hard part is actually finding women willing to "do the same" in this day and age.
It's not just about someone who can compliment you with their gift, and vice versa. But also, if you can accept your partner's flaw, and same goes to if your partner can accept yours. Relationship is not just about the ups, there are plenty of downs as well.
I wish good luck to every relationship out there, definitely not easy.
Felt this one in my bones
Understanding trauma, anger, and every emotion in the galaxy could ruin the moment. So don’t say something stupid and regret, understand we all feel the worst in moments of passion.
love your content, so many half truths and people searching for pure profit out here
"you should just give your best" okay got that "find someone who's willing to do the same" dang it !
Hey, it's the women who say they ARE the table.
Yo this was borrowed from Chris Rock's comedy special Tambourine. Good reiteration tho
Amen
I'd also add "Be the person you'd want to spend time on the couch with."
It's okay to be comfortable in your own skin and you should want the same for your partner.
Can’t wait till this blows up
Experiencing a relationship is not hard and once it is really going, the effort to keep it going well through the ups and downs of life is to be expected, and if the bond is strong then it is never un-manageable.
The "ingredients" to make (start) a good relationship can be hard to get though.
For example, finding someone that would truly be down to "show up" as you do...
"They're only hard if only one person is showing up"
that "IF" you put there is a planet sized "IF".
Years can pass before you find out the other hasn't been fully "there" with/for you.
So there's always an initial bet.
You have to bet on the other person not fooling you (and by that I mean not hiding anything from you that could change your mind about them) and not screwing you up after you fully reveal yourself.
And it goes both ways, the way you present all your quirks, shortcomings and defects through time can inspire trust as much as it can suspect or fear.
And you never know who you'll get, so even when two can complement each other it can not be worth the effort of having to deal with "other things" that come with the package.
If everyone was 100% honest in this world, everyone would always know who to avoid emotional involvement with and anyone would find their perfect match first try!
Scream this from the mountain tops
cool content man!
Yes, I agree but the actual difficult part about relationships is try and find the person whom compliments me and I can complement them back in the same degree🤍
this was just abt to be the first video I disagreed with in like 11 months of watching, but turns out, I never thought of this before and I 100% agree with it.
this guy gets it
will the patient feel the pain during this operation?
Also remember, chances are your first partner wont be the one you die with. That takes time, even if 99.99% of the population hated you there would still be a couple thousand that will fall for you
Relationships are hard if there is no Higher power
Anti prophet is a life coach, there are people paying a lot for the wisdom he gives away for free
Like u said, relationships is difficult is one person is doing all the work and the other person is not. That's why I think relationships is hard. What's the point of being in one if one person has to do all the work?
Sounds like what Chris Rock said…
You forget to mention the point ( I know it’s a whole different story but) about how impossible it is nowadays to find a proper person like that 🫠 everyone and the whole society is fucking fucked
Well both of them were equally important so there was equality lol.
In this context “equal” obviously doesn’t mean “the same”
By analogy
2 + 3,
1 + 4,
1 + 6 - 2
& 2.5 ✕ 2
are all entirely different equations composed of different parts. Thus neither of these four equations are the same but they’re all equal in value (= 5)
Chris Rock, is that you?
People say relationships are hard (these days) because of feminism.
Did anyone in America hear his last words? 🤔 YOU have to bring the best version of yourself. And the person YOU PICK (because you all pick em') must also bring the best version of themselves.
Relationships are simple you ready? Here it is ....wisdom from an old lady...
Stop being the kind of person you don't want to date.
A relationship is like a fart. If you have to force it, it's probably shit.
Cope because you are a sub 8 in looks that’s why it’s “forced”
What is he cooking?🤔
I agree. But why divorce is a huge big problem in the civilized west? There must be something missing.
If you’re chad then no it’s not.
Lol, have a good time stealing Chris Rock’s standup material?
Led zeppelin reference in 2023. Wow, so that's why this guy is so based. It's because he's completely out of touch with modern society.
did you just literally rip off Chris Rock's special word for word? like straight up you lifted it, changed Hall and Oates to Led Zeppelin and uploaded ... i cant believe this shit
Okay. Now can I please find someone who's not like the pos example of what not to be in a relationship?
99% of the time its the woman's fault lets be real
99% ? How so?