New Dating Trend Alert! Could Garcelle & Adrienne be Demisexual?
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- The newest trend in dating is identifying as demisexual, a person who must first cultivate a deep emotional connection before jumping in bed with someone. Do Garcelle and Adrienne fit the bill?
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I am so sick of these damn labels.
Same
Labels are necessary. I wish people wore name tags that labels them Democrat or Republican gay or straight Etc. This would level down the playing field for you. Example Club says gay club and you're not gay you don't stop there you look for the one that says straight
So being a normal person with any basic sense of morality is a new sexuality
Yes, being non-slutty is a new sexuality
Basically
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I wonder if emotional connection is deeper than just morality, rather it being more of a necessity. I don’t know if there’s new sexuality or it being trendy but something humans have been struggling to understand sexuality in itself. Now we are starting to learn more how we create our identity and how that’s shaped by our own bio physio natural responses and needs.
Lol
I used to be like Adrienne. Never found someone attractive upon first glance. Then my 30s happened and my hormones started going insane and now I get turned on by just the sound of a man’s voice lol.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Is this what we call being thirsty? 😂😂😂
lmaoo
SIS. I saw my husband hold a baby one day and immediately considered making one lol. Never wanted kids in my life before that 🤣
Isn't that interesting? Maybe it's your body trying to get you to hurry up and have a baby lol.
Hahaha 😆 😆 😆 that's keeping it real on the real for real 🤣 😂 😆, I understand you
Demisexual is not a dating trend and it’s not new
I cringed when they said that. Unbelievable
ikr. It's a sexual orientation. On the gray asexuality scale. I know these ladies 'try' but damn they are really uneducated on lgbtq+ matters. It's like calling being gay a trend. I try to be understanding but it's like...a simple google search away...
Exactly, it’s how we were raised.
Right! Such a lame topic
Amen Sunny Bae! Folks stay colonizing terms and pretending they "discovered" yet another NOUN that already exists.
Honestly, I've had feelings for women that I initially didn't find attractive but as I got to know them they become the most beautiful woman ever. I've even had a friend tell me they didn't like the woman I was talking to because she's ugly, I said that's okay, you're not the one that's suppose to like her, I am.
I used to be very shallow when I was younger (late teens, early 20's) and then after an ex I decided I was going to like women for the person they are inside. Though my ex was perceived to be attractive and "beautiful" to the average person, she was a very UGLY person inside. After her, I've been attracted to women of all shapes and sizes and I no longer care if anyone finds the woman I like attractive because if she's with me, what matters is that I do.
I hope you find your partner!
Amen! Good for you. I wish more people would think this way.
You go buddy 👍
😤Bruh ! Those people who are really attractive, personality and attitude is so disgusting 🤢. I totally know how you feel.
Good job on working on your internal growth and working on building meaningful connections based on that ☺️
Real talk I’m the same as Adrienne, I literally never had that feeling of just looking at man and automatically want to have sex w/ him. I know it’s uncommon but I really need to be mentally stimulated and like you.
You’re not alone, I knew someone just like you
@@MALXCX it’s a few of us of I guess
👏👏👏
Definitely true for me. Hence...my abstinence status for the past 9 years. Still hopeful though.
same, i could never relate to people who get immediately sexually attracted to someone. I need time and connection.
I can recognize when someone is conventionally good-looking, but I can't immediately be sexually attracted to them.
I am 100% like Adrienne... I used to feel weird because I never had sexual attraction to men, I had to cultivate relationships first... I am happily married and my husband is the best damn thing!!!!
Love your comment!!! My man is too🙌🙌 and we’ve been married for 17 years 🔥 better than ever!!!!!
How long have you been married???
I lived this way my entire life....
This isnt a dating trend, and it’s not new….it’s like an actual sexuality and it’s BEEN around
As a demisexual person this conversation was annoying as hell to listen to. I wish they’d have some type of expert on the panel when they have these types of discussions.
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I think they completely misunderstood. From what I know, demisexual means you do not even get turned on AT ALL without an emotional connection. Like you feel nothing watching porn or reading erotica or something like that.
And it's not a trend. It's been around for a long time, they just haven't heard about it.
Jeannie would love this convo!
Petition to have Jeannie discuss the top 5 girl chat she missed out on
@@robensjoseph2929 that is a WONDERFUL idea 👍👍👍
@@robensjoseph2929 yes!! Fantastic idea
I swear she came to mind
They had this conversation before and jeannie was there.
You know what there should be a _Love Is Blind Lounge_ but not recorded. It could be a cool club lounge. Men enter in one door. Women enter in another. There are booths, low lighting, chill music, drinks, and you get to have private chats with a person opposite the booth wall.
No expectations of marriage. It's just like going to a club lounge but you cannot see the opposite sex. You can stay for hours chatting and the program last for a week or two till the lounge facilitators allow you to see each face to face at the end. Rules are no last names to prevent google searches. No phone numbers till the end of the program.
It could be called *Blind Love Lounge.*
This idea is ©by KW
I love that idea
This is actually a great idea. You should try to do this.
I'd totally do this.
I would love this. You should make this a real thing.
Haha It’s the copyright for me 😆 love this!
Feeling this way has made it hard for me to date since I’ve been single for almost 2 years now. Most people my age are just looking for a hookup or a few dates and then get to it. I personally have to be in love with someone for me to feel that I want to have a physical connection. As Adrienne was explaining, I find people attractive however I need to have stimulating conversations with someone for me to even consider going on a date. I believe I just learned a new thing about myself today
Its ok be single. Would you rather hook up with multiple people who are not interested in having a real connection with you
@@zamamaduma7424 exactly why I’ve stayed single and haven’t done anything with anyone since my last relationship. being with multiple people that don’t care about me grosses me out. I’m okay with being single until I find someone later on :)
Jeannie always said she was demisexual. I think I may be that way too, well I really just keep to myself, so I don’t want someone to touch me just because they’re hot and sexy, I need to really feel connected and bonded with that person. But it’s not like looks don’t matter to me, because I can also get along well with a guy and not want anything with them because their looks are not cute to me lol. Most of all, I want to feel like the person is into me, is really kind to me and I need to admire that person for their personality and character traits.
There are some guys, like actors, that have this look in their eyes that make me feel desiresss, but it’s so rare for me, there’s a handful of guys that I could list that are just sexy af
Sapiosexual not demisexual
She said sapiosexual
That's me too. Respectful, articulate & intentional conversations helps me to obtain a connection to men. I don't like being touched until I feel a comfortable & mirrored connection.
I’m literally Adrien! I’ve been like that all my life. People like us do exist
wowwww ... we do exist ............. i always hide this ... now i see that we do exist
Demisexual is not a “new” way to date💀
everyone in the comments saying demisexuality is "Regular" but i disagree. a lot of ppl nowadays do casual sex and don't care if they have a connection with that person or not lol
And to me, casual sex isn't normal. It is pretty much weird. How is it to share an intimate part of oneself with no actual connection? I've done that and left even more empty
@@jayjanzee9059 true
@@jayjanzee9059 All of my friends have the same stories you have after having sex. That's why I'm still a virgin waiting for marriage because I haven't felt comfortable or in love with some enough to have sex with them. I don't understand how people can have sex without love. The idea has never occurred to me.
I guess I’m demisexual then, which seems just…….regular.
I’m demi and I’m not. I have to be attracted with your physical but want to get to know you after and if we don’t match emotionally or mentally then there’s no need to continue it.
Well said girl and this is coming from a ugly guy
Every time I hear the word demisexuality I can’t stop to think of Demi Lovato 😂
It's Demi Moore for me☺️
Demi lovato especially because of her own confusing sexuality haha
I’ve always felt this exact same way that Adrienne was explaining and I never knew there was a term for this. I love when the ladies speak on topics like this because it gives me new perspective and makes me think.
This is not new, it's when you develop a deep mental connection with someone prior to wanting to have a sexual relationship.
demisexual isn’t a trend
Thank. You. I thought I was the only one speaking out. Thanks for vocalizing this concern!
This misinformation upsets me deeply a someone who is demisexual. It’s not a trend or way to date. It’s a sexuality on the spectrum. Demisexuals don’t feel sexual attraction at all until they feel romantic or emotional feelings towards someone. It’s like what Adrienne described for herself. But demisexuality is NOT a trend.
OMG THANK YOU!!! I have oddly never been upset at any of their segments and I never comment but this is really offensive to me. Like proper research wasn’t done on it or something. It’s giving Rachel Dozhile or whatever that white lady’s name is who wanted to be Black. We just can’t choose our sexuality, or race like that. We are who we are. Not a costume or something to be consumed by mainstream media. Not a trend or a fad.
THANK YOU. This was actually so offensive
true
Yes. I am a demisexual and this approach about this topic was badly done. They should have stated it’s part of the asexual spectrum.
Thank you for saying this
I am ABSOLUTELY demisexual! At this point of my life, I refuse to be sexual with someone who I do not have a fulfilling or surfaced connection with
How do you expect a man to wait for you if in the past you give it up for free lol. Sorry you don’t have any more leverage
I have always been like Adrienne too but I never knew there was a term for it. My friends and cousins would drool and get thirsty for attractive strangers. That's weird to me! Sure, I'll notice they're good looking too but I don't want you to touch me unless I feel some kind of emotional/spiritual connection.
This is not new. lol LGBTQIA+ Community has been talking about this forever. Folks Queerphobia just wouldn't let them engage in these spectrum conversations.
Being unaware of something does not make someone queerphobic. There are so many sexualities.
To be fair demiaexual can be applied to any person who identifies as gay , bi or straight
@@MajesticMyronn Yes, I do know this. However, because it is more talked about and connected to LGBTQIA conversation and language people often shy away from it or even discussing sexuality in fluid ways as you have just pointed out above. :)
@@gaila.9852 I did not say this. This is how you interpreted it. Thanks
@@justlive-ing4640 What was your message?
To Lonis point, it’s not always just “traditional courting”, because when courting, someone may have sexual feelings for someone else right away but then still want to wait because society says your should (and not because you don’t feel like having sex yet until you have the connection).
This is more a topic on when and in which situations the sexual feelings come or real attraction, not when you chose to act on it.
What’s crazy is the term has always been around… I did some research and apparently :
“ The term demisexual was coined in 2006 on the forums of The Asexual Visibility & Education Network”
So with that being said…. I personally would like to not only have a physical connection with somebody but to be able to have the best vibe emotionally and mentally before giving up myself to that person in which intimacy is the most vulnerable you’ll ever be with a person in that way ! Like I would like to be able to have that with someone I’m in a serious deep romantic relationship with ! If ain’t no emotion involved then you “ never gonna get it “ cue En Vogue ! 🔥
You so cute. 2006 is "always" to you. It's yesterday for me.🤣🤣🤣
Yes…we have existed forever tho. Like gay has existed forever term or not lol
@@OneLoveRSR well when I say always I just mean… it’s just been a thing but doesn’t really catch on and when it does it happens within social media and given air time all over again like it’s a new trend…
I knew someone who thinks exactly like Adrienne and she was a Scorpio just like Adrienne. I think Scorpio’s crave emotional connection before they lay down with someone. Scorpios are deep and they need that connection before sex. That’s why I think Adrienne feels that way
I am a Libra and I'm the same.
My bday is a day after Adrienne's and I actually need emotional connection at this point. I used to have casual sex, but felt so empty afterwards
I remember when demisexual was actually new. I remember thinking, 'that's just dating'. It's not a sexuality, it's how most people live their life.
It is a sexuality. Dating and having an emotional bond with someone aren’t synonymous, and a lot of people get intimate before knowing someone well/building an emotional bond.
@@ailynnmckae1130 lol demosexual is not a sexuality. There are so many people that don't want to f*ck any attractive person they see walking down the street. casual hookup culture has become so prevalent in the west, that anyone who slightly deviates from that lifestyle is now a different sexual orientation all of the sudden.
@@ailynnmckae1130 lmao no it isn't
Why are they coming up with new terms from practices which existed in the stone age. Even the flintstones knew that.
I don't think these ladies understand the difference between demisexuality and courting. Demisexual people are on the gray asexuality scale. This scale is loosely about how OFTEN/HOW you feel sexual attraction. To be basic, there are 3 big types.
1. Sexual people. Can look at someone and develop sexual attraction. Ex: Have A Celebrity crush
2. Demi-sexual people. Must develop emotional bond to find someone sexually attractive. This is not the same as courting. Because demi-sexual literally feel 0 sexual feelings whatsoever unless they get to know someone on a deep level. It's just how their brain is set up.
Ex: So this means no celebrity crushes, no love at first sight, no hooking up etc. Some demisexuals can't even have sex dreams unless they're actually in love with someone they know. So it's a lot deeper than just courting.
3. Asexuality. Feel 0 or almost 0 sexual attraction to anyone. Ex: No sexual attraction or rare as in once or twice in a lifetime
I think Adrienne probably is demi-sexual because the way she described is scarily accurate. Of course demi-sexauls come in all shapes and sizes so they might not relate to all of the signs. I just wanted to provide people more info on this. It's a sexual orientation not a trend.
Demi sexual is not new… literally heard this term in like 2008-2010 in context to lgbtq+
Everyone now gets hold of a term and thinks they discovered something.
Demisexuality isn't a trend. I knew I was demisexual like 11 years ago. I knew the definition a long time ago. It's just who some of us truly are. NOT A TREND
I am the exact same way! And the times that I have attempted to have a one night stand, it turned into a longer term thing because the mental connection was there even in a short amount of time.
I can find someone attractive on first glance but it does take a while for me to feel that way towards them.
I am so addicted to LOVE IS BLIND! I just watched the finale this morning and I called it. I could tell from watching them who would actually get married.
I could not be on the show because The physical is important. Back in the day before we had video chat, guys I met online, I did only have their voice and words. I fell hard! And then we met in person and there was no chemistry on both our parts.
Now today looks aren't everything, but physical chemistry is important. And you can't get that from just having a strong emotional connection. (as one of the guys on the show learned) IMO We are all balls of energy and that electrical pull can't be faked.
Thanks so much.
Sometimes it’s not even a deep emotional connection but I have to know you and like you. Mental connection at the start. This how it should be regularly. Crazy how it’s considered “new” 😂😂😂. I don’t understand wanting to sleep with someone you barely know and haven’t even seen their STI results. Like, I just can’t.
I am exactly like Adrienne. Thank you for saying that. No one believes me when I say it. Lol
Im so like that too A! I’m never physically or sexually connected with someone from looks but from there being an emotional connection
Every time I listen to A, I feel like we have similar qualities. My connection with people ALWAYS comes from a deeper place than physical appearance. Maybe, that's why I have many genuine people in my life-from my husband to girlfriends etc. I connect with people from the inside!
Sidebar: Lacheys if you’re watching Ms. Adrienne is dropping gems! “Celebrity Love is Blind” pls get on that!! I would 1000% watch 🤩
I have always been like this!🙄 and I’m more like Adrienne when it comes to this! Like all the way! Never wanted to get in bed because of looks! Emotional connection gets me every time!
You need both. Like garcelle said you connect on the phone and then you meet the guy in person and all his teeth are rotten she has a body odor Etc
@@2sense110 my husband is good looking at has beautiful teeth but what made me want to get in bed with him was our emotional and spiritual connection and we both were overwhelmingly physically satisfied once we did..Ive never seen a man physically and wanted to sleep with him period. Physicality does make it that much better and plays a part but that is not the first part to getting me to hv sex. Ijs
@@michelledyess138 appeal matters in just about everything. When all your senses all aroused like you said it makes it that much better.
@@2sense110 true
“Demi” is a prefix meaning partial. All orientations have a prefix relating to the meaning and that’s why it’s called that. Also sorry but we are not new or a trend. It’s a sexuality under the asexuality umbrella and we have always existed. You can’t choose if you’re attracted to certain people in certain ways it’s natural
That's so real Adrienne. Emotional connection makes that person more physically attractive
Honestly, I felt the same way as Adrianne.
The reason why demisexual is a name because there is still men and women out there who feel like sex is the only way to enter a relationship. I have been told by too many men to count, " getting in between will make us a thing. " 4 years and counting, I'll wait!
Adrienne, I am with you on this. The connection matters to me so much that without it, the hot looks are just that. Hot looks.
HELLO! Dating doesn't include SEX! DATING is to get to know each other. You make love to your Partner. Respect yourselves Ladies.
This should just be called normal dating..... anything else is just risky behaviour that may or may not workout.
I love Adrian reason being she's not shallow and if you watch this show you can see the celebrities she has crushes on are all based on their personalities and not their looks. And this is coming from a young lady with beautiful to look upon. She is to be be revered
I'm still stuck on her imagining Iiiizzz naked once she realized she liked him 🤣
It’s called the 1950’s to me
To me, I feel as though (in this case, Adrienne) maybe she has low self esteem... because she's also afraid of rejection. I pay close attention to her responses to intimate topics like this for years and have noticed that there's an underlying fear there. A fear of rejection. Fear of not being wanted or liked. Fear of getting her feelings hurt. Fear of being left for someone else. Fear of not being good enough. I think that's why she doesn't go for the"most attractive" guy and also doesn't do a one nighter. Because to me, it takes a person with a great sense of self-esteem to not get hurt by the thought of not being someone's selection. Idk. Just thinking out loud here.
I agree with you. She's one the baddest woman on this earth but she doesn't play with it , so sad for her. She definitely can get the most attractive men in the room and if not , she can get the next one. I feel she has it because of her inferiority complex with White people and the fact that people single her out because she was poor and "weird" because she was reading subtitles and not puerto rican enough! Ade we believe in you. You have a loooot to offer but you have to know it first !!!
This is not an inferiority complex. It’s a type of sexual orientation. It’s not that deep
Totally agree with A.!
OMG I am so over people changing words that still mean the same thing. It's called "connections" like Loni said, stop trying to change every damm thing.
Me too Adrienne; I cannot get it down unless there is emotional connection
I agree with the connection. Back in the day in my 20s it was great to just have fun to hop in and go but when I hit my mid to late 20s i needed that connection. I have to have a connection with someone these days. I need to be attracted to you and connected too. Agree 100 percent ladies! Courting, dating I agree with an old flame that intimacy connection does make a bigger difference.
So you expect a man to wait now that you’re older and more used but back in the day you didn’t do that lol
I thought having an emotional connection before having sex with someone was a normal thing.
LOL right?! Is this really a new kind of sexual orientation? I mean don’t a lot of people want to be connected to someone they are intimate with?
@@whocares897 in a society where people just have sex for fun I would see why they think this is a new thing when they realize that there are person out here who don’t just give it up for fun
@Bri Alexandria 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. They can’t play with these Jamaican girls like that
I’m like Lol Bit. I’m attracted visually to someone and I need conversation, spending time getting to know them before the physical attraction kicks in. I have to be emotionally attached at that point to become intimate with them.
It's all about getting to know a person before you have sex. We wouldn't have so many single mothers and absentee fathers.
As for me both mental and physical stimulation go hand in hand. I can't see having one without the other, but that's just me #BalanceInRomance
Literally couldn’t relate more with Adrienne. I was just talking about this with my friend😂
I’m the same way as A. I’ll love everything about them once I know them.
Gurrrrrrrrrl that’s how I lost my virginity at 24!!!? Waiting for someone to come along that I had an actual connection with before jumping into bed! No judgement here, we’re all different and do things differently but for me sex was the last thing on my mind when dating💕
I think i love their honesty but being more cautious on how you speak on your husband is definitely important. I remember when Tamar used to say things about Vince like i like them thickems and all that and knowing she wasn’t as attracted to him physically, not saying that’s what she was saying but it’s giving that a little bit
The fact this has a “term” is ridiculous.
Pahahhaaaa!! MC Lite is sooo diplomatic!
Demisexual is a sexuality, not a dating trend though💀
Wow! I thought I was alone! Adrienne and I are the same!!!
Are u talking about me? Heheheh
Adrienne is lying
This isn't a dating trend. This is who people are. I've been demisexual my whole life 🙄
Yey!!!!! Good things get back to be fashionable :)
I would love to know what jeannie thought on that!!!
Ade said it best... I need more to find you sexually appealing. I realize the reason is because we may see sex more than just an act. For us it it spiritual hence we seek for more, to connect with the person on a spiritual: who are they on the inside, what motivates them, how do they love etc
I understand
Hearing Adrienne say this is so wierd!! This is exactly, 💯 me. I didn't even know how how to explain it to people . plus we share the same birthday date so maybe it's a Scorpio thing idk
lol everything is a trend now? oh sorry people dont wanna bang ASAP right off the app and want to establish a connection, lets give that a label.
I really can relate with Adrienne.... people always think am lying
I can definitely relate to Adrienne on this, I don't see a handsome guy and just wanna move to him, it takes a lot more. Plus it does sound like they're just renaming dating.
I am Adrienne..Adrienne is me, on this one!
I get what Adrienne was saying. I’m the same. Never had a one night stand for the same reason. I’m also glad that she was not initially attracted to her husband’s looks, because too many people seek a relationship based on that, but they forget that looks eventually fade and life happens so other than attraction, you should actually love that person emotionally too.
I guess this is why A has never had a one night stand too
Loni's Soo drunk and I love it😂😂😂😂
That's how it's supposed to be. Why sleep with strangers
I read about demisexual being on a spectrum of sexuality. It is surprising to hear it being discussed as a new dating trend. In my opinion and from my experience it is healthy to not be loose about sex. But it should be in a committed relationship. For believers this is called marriage and there is tremendous benefit to doing it God's way.
Adrienne's updo really compliments her eyes!! I never realized how pretty they were.
Adrienne is soooooo right! I have been like that all my life too. Never seen someone and just wanna be with them. No ma'am....
It's called old-fashioned courting. And still people to it to this day. These new gen just want to label everything and still don't want to be labelled themselves.its want honest respected straight people do
Adrienne, are we the same person? Lol
This isn't a trend lol, it's an actual sexual orientation.
This definitely isn't new. I've always been this way.
Right on Adrienne 🎯 it’s the deeper connection for me
I’m sorry but I ain’t swearing on the Bible 😂😂
I honestly don’t see this as a sexuality though. I just see it as getting to know someone on a deeper emotional level and becoming attracted to them. A sexuality has to do with what gender your sexuality attracted too I believe. But I believe most people would like to know someone more personal and be more deeply emotional with them before they have sex with that. And that goes for both heterosexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, and the other ones. I just don’t think everything needs to have a label now because what they are talking about is feelings and emotions not a sexuality. Like I would like to ask someone who is demisexual, does that mean they don’t care about the person’s gender or sex or do they actually identify as straight or gay or bi etc
Wtf? New dating trend? It's a trend??? Oh lord!
People just making up sh*t at this point.
Good Lord! Everything needs to have a title these days 🙄
I think the main difference is that demisexuality doesn’t have limits in regards to gender. Like, you could essentially form that connection with anyone.