A HUGE missing piece of this conversation is that many men (including our own black men) are not checking for black women. Men tend to be much more open to date women of other races except black women. I have heard this said by men of other races on multiple occasions. It's getting better, but there are still a lot of stereotypes surrounding dating black women.
Nikoya Moses exactly. I also feel like that’s part of the reason why most black women stick to black men. Cuz out of everyone else they are usually the most likely to understand us versus men of other races.
@@Smurflexis I agree. Although I feel that any man, once they get to know us would definitely be able to understand us better, but we are so different in hair texture, skin care and many other ways that it does create a bit a of fear as to how men will respond to us, especially since so many of our natural features have been put down (and then copied). As I said before, it is getting better, but there are still some stigmas from both ends.
@Pooh Asia This is about having a conversation. I'm presenting another, very real, explanation to the topic based upon my personal experiences and knowledge (as a single black woman). This is my opinion and experience, if it isn't yours, that's fine, but it doesn't diminish mine.
dimple pascua i remember i was talking with this Filipino kid and he was saying how his family wanted him to “marry a white girl so his kids could look like Vanessa Hudgens” 😒
She knows "Ethiopian" is Not a race .She is college educated...She was dating skin color " like skin "That is why she avoided saying she dated an African..
Always! People will say its disgusting etc. If you are a man, they will say you have some sick fetish and should be sent for psychiatric testing as if you are a child molester.
God made People of different Races and placed them on different Continents for a Reason???? If it is good enough for him, it is good enough for me! No, People cannot do what they Damm Near Please! 😤😤😤😤😤
I'm gonna tell the truth. Women, especially black women, are expected to marry within their race. Men can marry who they want, but if a woman marries outside her race, it's somehow wrong. While there's people against black men marrying outside their race, they won't go and try to say something like, "I can find you a beautiful black woman." They won't do that. Why? Cause he's a man and you can't tell him what to do.
@@forestwood5775 culture and race aren't the same thing ironically. For example, I am black but I have been raised in a white neighborhood and went to white schools. Not on purpose but just out of coincidence. As a result, I have no problem being the only minority in a all white group since I have a lot in common and we have smiliar upbringings. However, my black friend who raised differently doesn't think the same nor act the same. As a result, he tends to stick to what he knows which isn't the same as me even though we are both black. So yeah culture plays a huge part.
What does that even mean? Nothing wrong with dating outside your culture, as long as you don't discard your culture. You can share your cultures with the person your with. I think it makes you a more "cultured" person.
Because the topic is black “women”. Black men on the other hand will marry outside their race. Also, 70% percent of blacks are growing up in single parent homes. However, that percent goes down to 48% once they marry interracial
@Dizzle there's nothing wrong with her being excited to explore new options. If you were used to eating Chinese everyday and one day you were given a selection of different cusinines, ofc you would look forward to eating them.
Euclid MGTOW and you are speaking on the social stereotypes of the ghetto...please stop generalizing ALL black women because you watched and listen to propagandist media. I’ll wait for you to tell me where the MOTHER land is and who gave birth to ALL humanity. 🤦🏾♂️
I think obsessed is the wrong word. People are just showing empathy for women who aren't getting married, which is black women. I personally don't trip off them, but I keep an open mind and will date them if they don't have an attitude
I agree 100% with Jeannie, it's okay to have a preference (I don't have one but to each their own) when it comes to dating but you also need to take a moment to think about why you have these preferences. Are they rooted in stigma, stereotypes or fears? Because that's not good at all.
For me, it's what I wouldn't have in common with someone from a different race.. I think differences cause differences..relationships can be difficult enough....the more you add to that, only makes it harder...also I don't want to explain myself to anyone....
@@roka2031 well that actually can add to a relationship, you learn about their culture and you can share yours with them, which keeps the relationship interesting in the long run! You never know everything about them and you can learn from each other! Remember everyone is not the same, you'll be surprised with what you have in common with other men
I, a 30yr old white woman have always been more attracted to black men ever since kindergarten, its vice-versa also though. Only black men have ever been into me.. never my own race been with my man for half my life come December 5th(A STRONG PROUD BLACK MAN)
I think it’s easy to date within your race if your race likes you. But as a black woman I find our men a lot of times go out of there way to bash and devalue our beauty and personalities so I finding refreshing to date outside my race where I feel more valued and appreciated for just being me
Black women have an adversarial relationship with Black Men en masse. It has been a power struggle for control and many Black Men would rather seek compatible females.
I don’t think that’s true. I’ve rarely heard a BW bash a BM. If u tell a BM that he should b a better provider it’s bashing. I would love to know what comments exactly do BW say? That’s considered bashing? My brother is born in 1983. He chased white girls for years. I have 3 niece/nephew’s by 3 different WW. The last one he was with kicked him out and he’s living in a hotel. His reason for not dating BW ? He sez all the BW in NC r fat and ugly. I love my brother dearly but I don’t c any of those beautiful WW saving him right now. Most women want the same things from a man . BM undervalue us so u saying do better is different from them saying it. You aren’t allowed to complain about anything cause your not light skin. Oh we get it 💯 %.
@@777MAG A BW called BM “remedial failures” the other day so you’re wrong. Also I’m guessing no BW are saving your brother since he’s living in a hotel.
Stop with black queen foolishness just because you're a black woman doesn't make you a QUEEN... You have to earn that title, and dont have kids for thugs in your 20s then expect to find a good man in your 40s...
I think it goes back to the idea that women are property of their partners and women have to cater to their male partners. So women dating outside their race might get more hate because it’s outside the expected norm
“Historically black women have *generally* always been *more* loyal to the black race - specifically black men. So there was all this fear of dating outside their race, out of fear of being seen as ‘not loyal’”. But at the exact same time... *many - not all* black men can go out there; have three white baby mamas, explicitly say they don’t date black women, say that black women are ugly, and have “nappy hair” - (as if that’s a bad thing even though many times the men saying this have the EXACT same hair texture and THEIR mamas are black)... and their loyalty is never questioned - hell, they’re even uplifted in the black community. You don’t even have to take my word for it - just look at 5 of the top hip hop/rap artists’ wives in the industry 💁🏽♀️🍵
The love and loyalty black women give black men isn't returned. It isn't unusual to hear a black woman say she wants a "chocolate man" or whatever, but black men often make fun of black women (especially dark skin black women) and always chase non black women.
Dating outside of your culture is more difficult. I’m my twenties I married a man from Senegal. Cultural issues that I was very ignorant of at the time.
A O Especially if the culture is what’s considered in the West a misogynist one. I respect different cultures but know that not everything is tolerable for someone whom didn’t grow up in a particular culture.
@@michellehubbard8865 True, I avoid certain men because of that or religion. Lots of couples who share the same race and still break up because of cultural differences. I also had black and white women here in Europe tell me they prefer their own race but they also need to come from the same culture.
@@michellehubbard8865 me too but I'm not into Muslim men was he one too? I know many Africans are hardcore Muslims just like middle eastern who I don't like either.
As a white person, I think there’s nothing wrong or offensive about having a preference as long as it’s not rooted in discrimination. People can be just simply attracted to what they’re attracted to. I’m personally usually attracted to either white or Spanish men. But it’s just a look thing for me, I absolutely love and respect human beings of all ethnicities. 🤷🏼♀️ to each their own. (Don’t get me wrong I think black people are beautiful too Alright)
@Clementine Washburn the lesson that need to be taught... who is the so-called negro in amerika??? we call ourselves everythang unda the sun. we follow all type of doctrines scientology religions, etc. we are out of our element. all that im sayn.
What is the difference between black culture and white culture though? Sweet potato pie and pumpkin pie? R&B and Pop? Karen Carpenter and Aretha Franklin? Taylor Swift and Beyonce? I know black people have a different experience in America then white people but that is the only thing I can think of would be an obstacle.The experiences that they have. Not the culture. It isn't about culture when it comes to black women, it is about loyalty and trust. I also sexism and misogyny within the black community comes into play. Why do black men feel entitled to date whoever they want and black women feel obligated to stay in their race? There is an implicit rule I think.
@Coco the local She means things like our hair and skin care are so different. That's actually one of the main reasons why black women mostly prefer black men. They're attracted to black men and they believe in racial loyalty.
@Footballer85 get your facts right when you want to correct someone. An Ethiopian is a black person from Africa and a Puerto Rican is From South America, they are Hispanic.....how is that same continent????
You date who you want 2, if you like them and they like you, happy days. Everyone has a preference , am more attractive to black women, but am open minded. Just be honest with yourself and don't feel pressurised 2 stick with something you always know.
These type discussions are pointless because women tend to steer the conversation in a direction that makes them feel good rather than in the direction of the truth.
Don''t let certain depictions of certain races(not just white) skew your perception of individuals automatically belonging in a certain stereotype sis! There are many respectful and beautiful men, including black men - just start by trying to see the person as an individual first before you bring race into it, although race is involved, it doesn't have to be ultimate deciding factor. Wish you luck sis :)
Facts, because my family is from Jamaica and it's not even dating black men it's dating men who aren't Jamaican. And family will make it known that they prefer for you to date someone from the same culture.
I would say date anyone who treats and respects you for who you are. Make sure the person who you chose to be with is open to seeing and experiencing your culture. Just make sure he treats you like a queen and doesn't want to diminish your authentic self.
@@flamelily8486 black woman in Canada too. I've been to college for 3 years, currently 3rd year in uni, had many crushes, zero boyfriend...and my mom keeps asking 🙄
BW are least likely to marry outside their race because for some unknown reason they’re sitting around waiting for Tyrone to get his sh!t together! I mean if you’re willing to wait until the twelfth of never good on you, but if you’re realistic then you need to explore other options. BM keep telling y’all they don’t want you so I’m not sure exactly what it is you’re waiting for
I don’t have a problem with interracial dating but I feel like interracial dating is advertised way more in the black community then any other community and that seems a bit to suspicious. The same way how there is nothing wrong with dating outside of your race there is also nothing wrong with dating within your race either. I feel like there is a lot of people in the comment section who are trying to make black people feel bad for dating within their race and those people are showing that they are part of the problem. If you don’t think there is nothing wrong with interracial dating what do you feel so offended when people only want to date within their race? How does that effect you. The same people who are angry about that are probably the same people who say nothing when black men or women bash the opposite gender of their own race and uplift other races. Y’all need to do better.
Nah. No group dates and marries outside their race more than Asian women. The reason this topic comes up so often is because Black women I believe have the highest number of out of wedlock births, which causes all types of sociological problems to the family structure and Black family wealth. THe more Black children raised in two parent households would combat a number of problems facing the Black community as a whole.
"I don’t have a problem with interracial dating but I feel like interracial dating is advertised way more in the black community then any other community and that seems a bit to suspicious." I strongly disagree with this statement. Every race it seems but black people are open to dare outside their race. Black people most likely do not.
Bigstank and again that goes back to the promotion of separation of black men and women. It is literally promoted! Asian women date out the most yet they are not the face of interracial dating..... why is that?
I’ve dated a Lebanese guy for 5 years , I’ve dated an Italian guy , I’ve dated a black guy , dated white guys. Everyone was accepting of me except the black guys family
@Pooh Asia I get what you are saying but you talk like people were throwing themselves to black women and we refuse. The reality is, we're portrayed as nothing someone would want. Even when I have the chance to prove them wrong, I get a hard pass.
and why can't someone find all that in black man? why do they have to be limiting themselves because they believe they don't HAVE TO SEARCH for love in other ethnic groups. You don't have to go outside your race to find love, black men are fully capable of having that with black women. So while we can encourage people to be opened minded lets not act like you have to date outside your race in order to find love.
As a black man I wonder if most black women are actually tired of this same ole segment. ABC, morning talk shows etc. Honestly to me its embarrassing and cringeworthy. NOBODY else's women have to keep hosting this bs. Me personally I only date black women and black women who want to fight white supremacy instead of sleep in its bed but at the end of the day its ITS YOUR LIFE
It’s a black population control issue where they want to make sure and monitor black women because they are the least likely to date outside their race Just like they push homosexuality on a black community transgender they wanna push black women to date outside your race also
I actually hate when Loni speaks for “all” black women. A lot of the black women around me are married. We are not sitting around here lonely. I’m a black woman who has no problem being married or dating. I’m divorced now, but it was an unhealthy situation that I chose to leave. Now I date a lot, like many other black woman I know. I have dated white, black, Indian, Asian, Hispanic, the full spectrum without one thought of being “disloyal” to the black man. That’s a joke actually. Black women, just like black men are free to date whoever we choose.
@Sasha Hill Still hard to believe. Almost every black woman in my family is married to black men and I am included in that. There are only two who are not married. BUT, one thing I noticed about the ones who are married compared to the ones who are not married is that the ones who are married did not have children out of wedlock. A lot of women who have children out of wedlock have a hard time dating and sadly, lots of black women like to do this. I still don't understand why!
@Narc 1820 My uncle is married to black woman. My brother is engaged to a black woman. My cousins are either single or married to black women except one. The one is married to an asian woman who he found overseas while in the army. But as you said, this is just my family. I think it depends on where you live as well. My point is that black women are being picked though. I see it with my friends as well.
i dated a black girl in high scool, and how were treated by class mates, and she got looks and jokes. but I was accused of destroying a Black queen, and and ruining the black family. The racisim i felt from alot of black students in my class, and mainly guys, only a couple girls. Poor Zipporah felt bullied into ending the relationship. Which she did, and there was no kind of friendship afterwords.
I've always been attracted to all races but I ended up marrying within my own race and I do find it a TINY bit easier since I dont have to explain the culture and explain why we do the things we do.
Well....I think blocking a type of racial group based on the fact that they are a certain skin colour is discriminative....some people might call it racist but hey ho.
@@TAMANDJON , I cannot speak for Jon, but Tam if they invented a pill to make White Men Function Sexually at the same height as Black Men, you would go with your own kind! The Money, Security, and Loyalty! God gave White Man Control of every asset of the World everything, but his Own Women! I would say that it made things fair and equal! Black Men better hope they don't anger God to the point he makes their Dick Shrink! The Lord giveth and he taketh!😂😂😂
I wish they would’ve touched on how as black women we mostly feel comfortable found our own race because it feels like other races are dating us out of exoticism or not at all. I’ve tried dating other races and putting myself out there. And as a dark skin woman the pickings are slimmer
Yes and a lot of the time I feel like we are always seen as a stereotype to other races and a lot of the time men of other races feel intimidated or uncomfortable by black women
When your own men are constantly putting down black women and calling them ugly, its not surprising that other men listen. Who would know better about black women than black men.
People can date who they want, But me I love black women being nurtured, taught, protected, and love by a black mother And being around my sisters all my life. I always knew a black woman is what i want. Salute To All The Beautiful Sisters 🌹🌹🌹
I think black African american woman should travel more. I think black woman only in America have to deal with bs stereotypes of being a black woman and as such dating can be a bit unfair. I dont think it's the ladies I think it's the options on offer in any race. Travel and meet other people.
It's not solely an American problem. Fifty percent of Caribbean British men marry interracially. There's concern that there won't be much of a Black community in a decade or three.
I love men period. If he so happens to b black great. Idc. As long as u respect me n treat me right. What I don’t care for is if u wanna step outside the race great but u don’t have to put me down in the process.
LMFAOOA exactly. stop capping Jeannie. it's obvious asian people praise white people and love when their kids marry white men and women because in their eyes it elevates their societal status even more. lol
@@aprilf6443 There's many Asian families that want "pure bloodline", some don't even want to mix with other Asians. Mama mai was the one who didn't want Jeannie to marry a white man and she also only been married to Asian men.
I’m super in love with everything black. The culture, the people, the essence and I’m just passionate about continuing that legacy. I have nothing against other races and am able to find men of other races attractive, but I feel like it’s ingrained in me to keep the richness of black history and legacy alive and one way that I’m doing that is through my lineage. I do, however, believe you should keep your options open and date who you want. I just happened to find an amazing black man to share my world.
Now imagine white person saying this ...I'm keeping it white ...so white bloodline stays strong ..you know how racist it sounds and don't fool yourself by saying keeping culture strong.
@@erikaliebenberg9317 Because, historically, racist people believed that race mixing is wrong and it pollutes the bloodline. Sadly, racism still exists and most racist people believe race mixing is a sin.
@@shimmer4771 so agree to my point this girl comment is racist ...but she trying to play it off very smart ..but there will be no outrage becuase its black person saying it ..let a white person say something like this world war lol
They're missing a very important point. As a black woman I don't relate to non blacks on a personal level. How can they relate to me and the struggles of being/living black? At the end of the day when I go home and need to complain about "the man", how can I do that if I'm with "the man"? Also black people are physically what I'm attracted to, features and complexion. I'm open to other races but I've yet to find someone fully relatable. To each their own but for now it's black folk for me.
You should check for Latinos. There are many dark shades, they are often bilingual, Latinos come from slavery as well as genocide. Hard workers, great food, and the list goes on.
I hope you open your eyes soon. Not only are we Black. we're also women.. A non black man can be the best protector, provider and nurturer for you. I hope you give him a chance. Loyalty to black males is for the birds
I’m a black woman, I’ve dated outside my race and have realized I don’t want to marry anyone but a black man. To me it’s not a bad thing that we are least likely marry outside of our race. I think about my future kids and I want them to have rich dark skin that they are proud of. That only happens with a black king.
@Craig Snyder it just looks better. Any color can be worn on that type of skin. Dark cabnot wear just any type of color....ahit looks ugly asf. I wear dark neutral bright...etc.
I feel like there is a culture that comes with dating inside you're race. With that culture comes a sense of relatability it's hard to explain being black in america to someone who is not. I dont see anything wrong with dating outside your race but I prefer to date someone within mine
@Black Knight Fool first of all I'm a straight black woman okay. And I'm speaking about the majority of bm that i have met online and in person when bw try to explain their struggles. Bm usually brush it off or gaslight us.
@Black Knight Fool my profile picture is of actor kim soo hyun, look it up. Im not asian. And on top of that you are providing the point of blk people brushing off our concerns and gaslighting. Look at bm comments about black women on Twitter, youtube. Look at bm entertainers (more so the ones with dark daughters) "i bet she better red" look at the bm in the dating circle "nah, you not mixed" "nah black girls stank loud rude." (Dont get me started on them telling OTHER races not to date us) look at the bm in our families "ewww look at yo bald headed self" all these quotes are what have been said about us by bm the men who are supposed to protect us.
Black men relate to the struggles of being a black in America but still terrorize us for being black. The experiences of a black women and a black men in America are very different bc black men still have male privilege. Only balck women can fully understand black women hell even light skins can’t fully understand the type of racism darkskins face but they can empathize. You can have a man outside of ur races that empathizes and is compassion towards ur plight. Bc the reality is black men add on to our struggle as a black women in America
also when I started dating my bf ( who’s Mexican) I had a friend of mine of said that they were abusive & controlling & my bf is the complete opposite ! Don’t listen to those sterotypes !!
Sarah James erm yes, of course it is true... unless you’re talking about places where there are very few blacks like Siberia, Greenland or Korea. In the UK, where I’m from and where there are a good number of black men available, it is true. Black men in the UK are actually worst than those in USA when it comes to their aversion to black women (for the avoidance of doubt, I don’t mean mixed women when I say black 🙄). In Africa where I’m also from, it is also true. I’m sure if those black men in Africa had as much access to non black women as they do in the diaspora, they would manifest the same aversion. Look as a black woman, I don’t like the situation we’re in... being considered collectively less attractive than other groups of women largely because of our African phenotype and dark skin, including men who share the same features and skin colour is not ideal but let’s not hide from the truth. Let’s face it and deal with it. The fact that society doesn’t appreciate our beauty based on superficial, man-made standards doesn’t need to take away from our sense of self worth and esteem if we are honest about it and if we find a productive way to deal with it.
mozarella10 I find that very surprising given the “bettering the race” mentality prevalent in South America but since I don’t live there, I don’t have the facts or experience to challenge or support what you’ve said...
My family told me to stay within my ethnicity and I actually ended up marrying someone I didnt really love because of that. They were scared of me losing touch with my culture.
If you’re not a black man, you shouldn’t be speaking for a black man. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but that doesn’t make it factual. The ones that haven’t really commented to much under this video is BLACK MEN. I bet if you go to a video that talks highly of BLACK WOMEN, you would see more positive output from GOOD BLACK MEN. Don’t get sucked into media propaganda. There isn’t a man’s perspective on this show for a reason. No one has been elected to speak for the majority for a very good reason. How can someone let a few men account for all men? Generalizing is the same as stereotyping and being bias. You haven’t even scratched the surface. Nothing comes overnight and everything takes time. Really look into that persons character and you’ll see the signs.
What do you think about Michael B. Jordan dating White women, (him being a successful eligible Black bachelor and a role model to other young Black men)?
well from my experiences lots of men from other races ask me out. I am a dark skinned black women and most of the guys were white... but I guess its different from person to person.
@@lonnietime location matters also depends where are you if you are in a city like NYC i see that but if you live in a total white population well good luck
Why is Tamera classed as dating out of her race. Her mother is black. Her father is white. Her husband is white like her father. People tend to gravitate to what they know whether colour, culture, behaviour etc
Even though genetically Tamera is more white than black, because her phenotype is black, she is considered a black woman by historical race rules in America.
I tried dating outside my race but it’s something so comfortable about dating another black man. I want a strong black man like my father and I want black children.
Why does comfortable mean struggle to you? I mean comfort in bonding through growing up with cultural familiarity, etc etc. I tried to watch a black comedy show with my white date n he was visibly uncomfortable with the language and didn’t get the jokes or the inside things just Bc that’s not what he ever had to know. Of course u can teach and learn from your partner but I personally like just having that vibe
Ashanda At Large I really dislike how this topic was presented as a problem. Not right, then targeted black women from a small study back-in 2010 which is probably highly inaccurate with faulty variables. Everyone has free will to procreate with whom they want , but programming them to do so when they never even would think 🤔 it is WRONG. Programming has been amplified with this mixing agenda (tv shows, movies, and ads). It’s really disingenuous, a slap in the face to eumelanin rich people after being treated like 💩 for 2 or 3 millennia. And the agenda is only being pushed because certain groups of people lack it and time and technology cannot advance without out this(eumelanin absorbs energy like radiation, sounds, and other unexplainable energy/frequencies and converts it into energy). Some folks can’t even handle wifi or 2G/3G/4G without getting cancer. 🤣Scientists have been studying Eumelanin for a long time now. But realized it cannot be synthesized in a lab 🧫 🔬, but only through 🧬 DNA. So now they want all of these mistreated bloodlines to give 🧬it up willy nilly to evil/dead bloodlines. 🖕🏿🖕🏿They need to be left behind.
This show is "The Real" give away. The root agenda of why they created this show is to push interracial relationships, masked by what they choose to call "diversity." The agenda is obvious based on their content.
These comments are so frustrating when you know the numbers. 1. Black women ARE the most loyal group by race and gender, based on their racial dating preferences. As per a poll conducted by AYI in 2013 on dating preferences of individuals based on race and gender. 2. Black men are NOT their only option. A Stanford University study found that the number of non-black men wanting/interested in having relationships with black women OUTNUMBERS the whole female black population. 3. Black men are the second most likely to marry out than men of other races. They are second to south Asian men, according to a PEW research centre analysis conducted in 2013. 4. THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT. It all comes down to numbers. Black American women outnumber black men by SEVERAL MILLION. Here's the hard truth no one is saying. Straight black women who are looking to marry, the majority of you WILL have to marry out or die alone. There just is not enough of your male counterpart that exists. No other race group has a population difference in gender than black Americans It's simple math. 5 does not equal 2.
When Jeannie said that if you have tainted views of dating outside of your race to see where that comes from and deal with it, I could relate as a Black woman. In my early 20s, I decided to see why I was afraid of dating a White man, and it took me a few years to finally agree to doing so. But I’m glad that I dealt with that then, so now in my late 20s, I’m pretty open to doing so. I enjoyed this conversation!
Hakuna Matata A college smash doesn’t count. People experiment with stuff they wouldn’t normally get away with at college. You don’t see Asians typically looking to get into serious relationships with black people cuz Asian culture/families are very anti-black.
@@shimmer4771 Not here where I am ( Ontario Canada ) not rare at all. Interracial dating/marriage isn't a big deal. Why? Because it just isn't. When you're happy then that's all that counts. ☺
@@gsdmomb530 Here in the U.S., not many white men give black women the time of day. However, you will see it quite often in reverse, 3x as likely to see it more. I kept wondering why that was so. I've seen beautiful black women get rejected, I mean like Tyra Banks or Christina Millian.
There's an agenda behind pushing black women to date out some just aren't smart enough to realize it. White man black women commercials and TV shows, social media.
@@rover7139 There's way more propaganda in reverse. Black men white women not only are more common, but they tend to advertise it more often. How about interracial just be normal?
Black women for the love of God, swirl.. This loyalty, so many of us have for black men, need to stop... be open to allowing other men of other races to love you.
I got kind of annoyed when the audience clapped when Tamera said that she dated every race. I just don’t like when ppl act like dating just one race is a negative thing. There is nothing wrong with liking certain type of people. As long as you don’t hate anyone because of their race,culture, sexuality etc there is no reason for ppl to make you feel like you’re doing something wrong.
@@Shewas-kathybates they want to keep Black women in their place in America..other places like Europe and Canada its common to see Black women with other races of men.
Side note: I know what it's like to be treated less than for my complexion. I've had Black men tell me they won't choose me because of past experiences with Black women. But whatever. Dating a great Black King now :)
i love black men but they don't seem to love us as much as other races of men love their women. Of course there's good black guys out there, my own dad is a wonderful black man who holds black women so high and praises us. But that is rare to find in our community these days. Black men are continuously making us feel worthless and chasing after women of other races and praising them. I don't mind them dating other races of women but for them to trash talk us and not praise us at all is just sad i dont know how they don't see the damage they're doing for their community. I know a lot of folks will disagree but this is me speaking from my experience and the other black women in my life's experience. Its 10x harder for us and if you don't know that you haven't lived in a black woman's shoes before.
Love who you love but don’t just put this on black women. There are many cultures who choose to date within their race,culture, & class. I had a friend who was Ukrainian and in her family they will shame you for dating outside people. Indians are the same way. Hasan Minaj spoke about how marrying his wife who is hindu and not Muslim was an issue for people. Why they both may be Indian they are still not considered to be cut from the same cloth. So everyone has this issue. Some black women feel like other races don’t even want to date them, so they just stick to what they know works. Most of the time when a minority male dates/marries outside of his race it’s always with a white woman. That can be discouraging for women of color.
I’m just big on black love that that’s what I want for myself! Not because of what others think or how it love was always portrayed. Plus I’m just not attracted to anyone on the outer race
I've always been open to dating outside of my race and have dated outside my race. I love the fact that I've been open minded about it and I think everyone should try it. You never know what you're attracted to unless you try.
good for you; you didn't fear rejection and you flirted back to let the guy know your intentions..most black women fear rejection; white women flirt like hell on black men; the have confidence that a black man will get in their pants;' a black man with game can date all types of sexy white and asian women all over the World...
A HUGE missing piece of this conversation is that many men (including our own black men) are not checking for black women. Men tend to be much more open to date women of other races except black women. I have heard this said by men of other races on multiple occasions. It's getting better, but there are still a lot of stereotypes surrounding dating black women.
Nikoya Moses exactly. I also feel like that’s part of the reason why most black women stick to black men. Cuz out of everyone else they are usually the most likely to understand us versus men of other races.
@@Smurflexis I agree. Although I feel that any man, once they get to know us would definitely be able to understand us better, but we are so different in hair texture, skin care and many other ways that it does create a bit a of fear as to how men will respond to us, especially since so many of our natural features have been put down (and then copied). As I said before, it is getting better, but there are still some stigmas from both ends.
Because society places black women at the bottom of the beauty chain.
Exactly
@Pooh Asia This is about having a conversation. I'm presenting another, very real, explanation to the topic based upon my personal experiences and knowledge (as a single black woman). This is my opinion and experience, if it isn't yours, that's fine, but it doesn't diminish mine.
In the Philippines we are encouraged to date and marry foreigners to have "good looking" babies. Talk about self hate
dimple pascua i remember i was talking with this Filipino kid and he was saying how his family wanted him to “marry a white girl so his kids could look like Vanessa Hudgens” 😒
Wow. I didn't know this, but is it anyone outside of your race or is it to date a Caucasian person? As the other person comment states.
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Either it’s that or for the money I think people already know what’s going on when they see Asian woman and a white man
Ms Fairfax : I’m sure they mean “white/European”
Ethiopian and Puerto Rican are not races. They’re nationalities.
Meredith C i think she meant it as ... a blvk guy (ethipian) and a latino (puerto rican)
Wtf they can be _both_
Meredith C You’re not wrong but i Think you meant ethnicity
Please educate yourself because you are wrong
She knows "Ethiopian" is Not a race .She is college educated...She was dating skin color " like skin "That is why she avoided saying she dated an African..
When you date the right person you don't notice the races but others usually will.
Always! People will say its disgusting etc. If you are a man, they will say you have some sick fetish and should be sent for psychiatric testing as if you are a child molester.
You will notice that you two are a different race! We aren’t blind nor dumb. We just won’t let that stop us!
Period
True.
@@ceeceedior21well said
Date who you want! If he makes you happy race should not be an issue..
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God made People of different Races and placed them on different Continents for a Reason???? If it is good enough for him, it is good enough for me! No, People cannot do what they Damm Near Please! 😤😤😤😤😤
DaMeshMonster That’s not necessarily true but to each their own 🤷🏾♀️
@@DaMeshMonster do you know every white man?
@@DaMeshMonster how are you speaking for all white men, do you personally know all of them????
no woman should be trying to FIND a man .lets start there.
Well... Tell me what you mean I'd like to no ur options 🤔😊
ShaNesha Smith Heard Rihanna 😂😂😂
Agreed a man should find and pursue the woman.
Spoken like a true RiRi fan
I agree but at the same time there’s no shame in seeking companionship.
I see nothing wrong with women that feel comfortable with their own race it’s nothing to be ashamed about...
7% of black men marry outside their race. It's the same for us!
I agree with you! Every woman is different and wants different things.
@Chocolate Dulcet Not true Meghan Markle parents are typical of race mix couple divorces high
People say I'm a sellout cause I like white men. Austin Butler, Zac Efron, Justin Bieber, and Leo Howard. 😍
I'm gonna tell the truth. Women, especially black women, are expected to marry within their race. Men can marry who they want, but if a woman marries outside her race, it's somehow wrong. While there's people against black men marrying outside their race, they won't go and try to say something like, "I can find you a beautiful black woman." They won't do that. Why? Cause he's a man and you can't tell him what to do.
Dating outside your race is never a problem, dating outside your culture is.
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What do you mean ”culture”
Wow. That was deep. Never thought about that.
@@forestwood5775 culture and race aren't the same thing ironically. For example, I am black but I have been raised in a white neighborhood and went to white schools. Not on purpose but just out of coincidence. As a result, I have no problem being the only minority in a all white group since I have a lot in common and we have smiliar upbringings. However, my black friend who raised differently doesn't think the same nor act the same. As a result, he tends to stick to what he knows which isn't the same as me even though we are both black. So yeah culture plays a huge part.
What does that even mean? Nothing wrong with dating outside your culture, as long as you don't discard your culture.
You can share your cultures with the person your with. I think it makes you a more "cultured" person.
Well im marrying outside my race because I found a man who loves me and treats me right who happens to be outside my race
Congratulations
Same sis!!!
Then he really isn’t outside ur race because he is human race and that’s ur kind.
@@sophinal thankyou💓
@@benvasilinda9729 thankyou so much and you r right
As long as you date within the human race, you're good.
I like your point of view! Smart one!
Yes, totally agree
That is way to broad. There are a lot bbn of terrible humans.
Amen
As opposed to?
Tisha really wanted to say, "Screw y'all. I love black men." She couldn't hide it.
C G , exactly lol she was just being nice, she ain’t fucking with no other race lol
She said she's open now. This black girl only likes white guys. Some black men make it routinely known they like white women. Why can't we?
@ATL 1 Eh, I don't care. I only like white men.
@@deviantfuc True true😜
She like that 🍆
majority of people marry within their race, why is this even a topic?
Jamilla Daise as do those of other races.
I didn’t.
The black community has a unique situation so it's different unfortunately
Because the topic is black “women”. Black men on the other hand will marry outside their race. Also, 70% percent of blacks are growing up in single parent homes. However, that percent goes down to 48% once they marry interracial
It’s the truth. That’s why
It’s because black men date out more than black women
Why was Tisha afraid to just say she just liked BLACK men?
jtheobbles86 See that’s what’s not cool to me.
Dizzle
Whatever lol. Y’all need to stop declaring love for black men like that. But cause it’s hardly reciprocated/practiced by black men.
Dizzle You find that problematic?! See that way of thinking is the problem right there.
Dizzle Its problematic that a woman is excited about dating other races and how fun it will be? jealous bish
@Dizzle there's nothing wrong with her being excited to explore new options. If you were used to eating Chinese everyday and one day you were given a selection of different cusinines, ofc you would look forward to eating them.
I’m tired of this topic, leave black women alone please.
They arent doing anything to black just stating the obvious
brooklynforever1990 whats tiring about this?
@@zanyadavis3695 its old . Who is white women dating,asian and Latina why always Black women!!!!?
THANK YOU
Yes!
Why is everybody so obsessed with black women ..it’s mind boggling
I agree
Black women are the closest thing to godliness...if we keeping it 💯
Euclid MGTOW and you are speaking on the social stereotypes of the ghetto...please stop generalizing ALL black women because you watched and listen to propagandist media. I’ll wait for you to tell me where the MOTHER land is and who gave birth to ALL humanity. 🤦🏾♂️
I think obsessed is the wrong word. People are just showing empathy for women who aren't getting married, which is black women. I personally don't trip off them, but I keep an open mind and will date them if they don't have an attitude
Cuz everybody wanna b us
I wish more black woman were interested in Asian men!! I love black women!!! ❤️❤️❤️😍
Tony Nguyen bc sometimes yalls parents are like,,,,,, 😐👁
I'm sure there's some who are. Most black women assume you wouldn't be interested, so why bother? Show you're interested. There's nice girls.
Dicks aren’t big enough. They’re used to the BBC!
@@StoicContrarian fucking dead 💀💀💀💀
Trust me there are now. Especially with kpop being well known I see a lot of black girls swooning over asian men
I agree 100% with Jeannie, it's okay to have a preference (I don't have one but to each their own) when it comes to dating but you also need to take a moment to think about why you have these preferences. Are they rooted in stigma, stereotypes or fears? Because that's not good at all.
For me, it's what I wouldn't have in common with someone from a different race.. I think differences cause differences..relationships can be difficult enough....the more you add to that, only makes it harder...also I don't want to explain myself to anyone....
Ro Ka Sometimes you have more in common than you realize. It just takes giving things a chance to find out.
@@roka2031 well that actually can add to a relationship, you learn about their culture and you can share yours with them, which keeps the relationship interesting in the long run! You never know everything about them and you can learn from each other! Remember everyone is not the same, you'll be surprised with what you have in common with other men
I, a 30yr old white woman have always been more attracted to black men ever since kindergarten, its vice-versa also though. Only black men have ever been into me.. never my own race
been with my man for half my life come December 5th(A STRONG PROUD BLACK MAN)
@Ruru Home damn I didn't know asian women did that
Ethiopian is not a race it’s an Ethnicity, their race is black.
U knw Americans are ignorant. I'm Ghanaian n German btw
Actually it is a nationality
Non of the Egyptians I know are black.
@@ashablack2291 there are afro Egyptians
T Knight no they are pure africans with a little bit of everything like every other ethnicity
I think it’s easy to date within your race if your race likes you. But as a black woman I find our men a lot of times go out of there way to bash and devalue our beauty and personalities so I finding refreshing to date outside my race where I feel more valued and appreciated for just being me
Date who you love.....also black women have been bashing black men for years and we had to bare it.
Out of or way? It’s not hard.
Black women have an adversarial relationship with Black Men en masse. It has been a power struggle for control and many Black Men would rather seek compatible females.
I don’t think that’s true. I’ve rarely heard a BW bash a BM. If u tell a BM that he should b a better provider it’s bashing. I would love to know what comments exactly do BW say? That’s considered bashing? My brother is born in 1983. He chased white girls for years. I have 3 niece/nephew’s by 3 different WW. The last one he was with kicked him out and he’s living in a hotel. His reason for not dating BW ? He sez all the BW in NC r fat and ugly. I love my brother dearly but I don’t c any of those beautiful WW saving him right now. Most women want the same things from a man . BM undervalue us so u saying do better is different from them saying it. You aren’t allowed to complain about anything cause your not light skin. Oh we get it 💯 %.
@@777MAG A BW called BM “remedial failures” the other day so you’re wrong. Also I’m guessing no BW are saving your brother since he’s living in a hotel.
I am attracted to other races as well as my own. If we have a connection then that's all that matters.
Race shouldn't even be an issue when dating.
Wishful thinking.....That's like saying height, looks, size, shouldn't be an issue in dating... everything is an issue..
But it is
It should because you have to know what you're getting into
Preach
It’s not an issue but sometimes you just like what you like. And some people think there is something wrong with that.
Ain't ethiopian an nationality? American's are funny AF
I agree with you. Port Rican is Nationilty, not Race too. Btw, Tamera looks Ethiopian woman.. eyes, hair.. etc.
How is Adrianne in an interracial relationship?
Honey La’mour
Israel is biracial (black & white).
NOT all Americans are ignorant to that knowledge.
@@egg6672 what does " capping mean?". Yes, she does. Adios. Travel.the world love.
I am black a black man love black women married to a black queen.All women are beautiful in their own way .
thank you 😉
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Stop with black queen foolishness just because you're a black woman doesn't make you a QUEEN...
You have to earn that title, and dont have kids for thugs in your 20s then expect to find a good man in your 40s...
@@MrChillidee Tell the men to get a job and not be abusive and lazy.
Exactly!
we are so loyal we end up alone but black man will date outside his race in a minute
I think it goes back to the idea that women are property of their partners and women have to cater to their male partners. So women dating outside their race might get more hate because it’s outside the expected norm
Well it's time to break that loyalty in this respect.
“Historically black women have *generally* always been *more* loyal to the black race - specifically black men. So there was all this fear of dating outside their race, out of fear of being seen as ‘not loyal’”. But at the exact same time... *many - not all* black men can go out there; have three white baby mamas, explicitly say they don’t date black women, say that black women are ugly, and have “nappy hair” - (as if that’s a bad thing even though many times the men saying this have the EXACT same hair texture and THEIR mamas are black)... and their loyalty is never questioned - hell, they’re even uplifted in the black community. You don’t even have to take my word for it - just look at 5 of the top hip hop/rap artists’ wives in the industry 💁🏽♀️🍵
I know girl, it's sad how bad black men treat black women but then still get uplifted by everyone including black women themselves.
There are actually many successful black hip hop artists that are dating, married to, or were to black women.
The love and loyalty black women give black men isn't returned. It isn't unusual to hear a black woman say she wants a "chocolate man" or whatever, but black men often make fun of black women (especially dark skin black women) and always chase non black women.
Yep! One sided loyalty is for suckas!!
Sis you took the words out of my mouth
Who gives a crap.
People should be more concerned with character.
Thank you!
Shut up!
Yaaasssss!!!!
Your trying to approach a topic with undisputed logic? Well thats just crazy..
TRUE!!!
I wish black women would show interest in Asian men! I love black woman ❤
Dating outside of your culture is more difficult. I’m my twenties I married a man from Senegal. Cultural issues that I was very ignorant of at the time.
People often forget culture also plays a huge role.
A O Especially if the culture is what’s considered in the West a misogynist one. I respect different cultures but know that not everything is tolerable for someone whom didn’t grow up in a particular culture.
@@michellehubbard8865 True, I avoid certain men because of that or religion. Lots of couples who share the same race and still break up because of cultural differences. I also had black and white women here in Europe tell me they prefer their own race but they also need to come from the same culture.
A O I’m spiritual, not religious. It became a problem as I knew zero about his faith at the time.
@@michellehubbard8865 me too but I'm not into Muslim men was he one too? I know many Africans are hardcore Muslims just like middle eastern who I don't like either.
I wouldn't date outside my race but to each its own. Physically I'm attracted to dark skin, full lips, etc
So am I 😉😉😉😉
Same!
As a white person, I think there’s nothing wrong or offensive about having a preference as long as it’s not rooted in discrimination. People can be just simply attracted to what they’re attracted to. I’m personally usually attracted to either white or Spanish men. But it’s just a look thing for me, I absolutely love and respect human beings of all ethnicities. 🤷🏼♀️ to each their own. (Don’t get me wrong I think black people are beautiful too Alright)
I I lol ok weirdo. 😂💀
I I you clearly need attention because mommy and daddy didn’t give you enough 🤧 not even gonna entertain you cause that’s what you want
Tamera sweetie Ethiopian people are black.
Why do you think she married a white man? The truth hurts...
ethiopians are not the same az us so-called negros in amerika. we DIFFERENT. nuthin in common.
@@emanualcarr7408 TAMERA'S FATHER IS WHITE, SHE CAN GO EITHER WAY, AND NO ONE SHOULD SAY ANYTHING. BIRACIAL CHILDREN DO NOT ASK TO BE BIRACIAL.
@Clementine Washburn u may undastand. but plenty of so-called negros dont know they arent negros either.
@Clementine Washburn the lesson that need to be taught... who is the so-called negro in amerika??? we call ourselves everythang unda the sun. we follow all type of doctrines scientology religions, etc. we are out of our element. all that im sayn.
Cultural differences is a huge reason why it would be difficult to date outside your race.
What is the difference between black culture and white culture though? Sweet potato pie and pumpkin pie? R&B and Pop? Karen Carpenter and Aretha Franklin? Taylor Swift and Beyonce? I know black people have a different experience in America then white people but that is the only thing I can think of would be an obstacle.The experiences that they have. Not the culture. It isn't about culture when it comes to black women, it is about loyalty and trust. I also sexism and misogyny within the black community comes into play. Why do black men feel entitled to date whoever they want and black women feel obligated to stay in their race? There is an implicit rule I think.
A white person could never truly understand a black person.
@Coco the local She means things like our hair and skin care are so different. That's actually one of the main reasons why black women mostly prefer black men. They're attracted to black men and they believe in racial loyalty.
@Coco the local stfu and have seat?? Oh because she's white you say? You racist b^tch.
True but wouldn’t it be also very interesting to share and learn cultural differences
There’s nothing wrong with dating WITHIN your own race. We do NOT have to be diverse and we can STILL get along.
I agree
Literally
Very true. It's all about respecting yourself and who you are.
"big lips on my big lips" 😂😂😂😂😂 lmaooooo
Yes so delish my bf was not black but had some thick lips
Martin would say give me the melons yes the melons 😄😄
My boyfriend is white with big lips and honey he know how to use them..lol
Tamera: "i've dated every kind of race!" proceeds to name 2 nationalities and 1 continent smfh
So a black an asian and a maybe white or black since PR comes in those two races mostly 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
you're arrested for first-degree clownery luv Polynesian, Native American.
She was cut off! We dont know what other race she could have said folks !
@Footballer85 get your facts right when you want to correct someone. An Ethiopian is a black person from Africa and a Puerto Rican is From South America, they are Hispanic.....how is that same continent????
@@foreverblessed7326 my point was she did not mention their "races" she mentioned their "nationalities" not difficult to understand to be honest.
You date who you want 2, if you like them and they like you, happy days. Everyone has a preference , am more attractive to black women, but am open minded. Just be honest with yourself and don't feel pressurised 2 stick with something you always know.
These type discussions are pointless because women tend to steer the conversation in a direction that makes them feel good rather than in the direction of the truth.
What's the truth then 😂
@@jackwalls2448 you know very well what the truth is, but we're going to stay PC on this one...but ain't nobody fooled.
When Jeannie thanked Tamera for dating an Asian man 😂😂
Asians don’t get represented a lot 🤷🏽♀️
Especially Asian men because they are seen as “less desirable”. 😐
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Man Korean men>> and not the kpop starts 😭
ASIAN MEN ARE HOT TOO! As an Asian sister I appreciate Tamera and appreciate Jeannie for appreciating Tamera lol
As a black woman who was not born in America, I'm weary of dating outside my culture. But then I'm so tired of the same crap 😳😬
Don''t let certain depictions of certain races(not just white) skew your perception of individuals automatically belonging in a certain stereotype sis! There are many respectful and beautiful men, including black men - just start by trying to see the person as an individual first before you bring race into it, although race is involved, it doesn't have to be ultimate deciding factor. Wish you luck sis :)
Facts, because my family is from Jamaica and it's not even dating black men it's dating men who aren't Jamaican. And family will make it known that they prefer for you to date someone from the same culture.
I would say date anyone who treats and respects you for who you are. Make sure the person who you chose to be with is open to seeing and experiencing your culture. Just make sure he treats you like a queen and doesn't want to diminish your authentic self.
@@flamelily8486 black woman in Canada too. I've been to college for 3 years, currently 3rd year in uni, had many crushes, zero boyfriend...and my mom keeps asking 🙄
ROCK YOUR NATURAL preach
As a BLACK man I will NEVER date outside my race. To me it’s a disrespect to my mother black woman who invested in my life in countless ways.
I am sorry I am not listening to anyone who tells me to date black women. #SYSBM
You sound like a mamas boy
BW are least likely to marry outside their race because for some unknown reason they’re sitting around waiting for Tyrone to get his sh!t together! I mean if you’re willing to wait until the twelfth of never good on you, but if you’re realistic then you need to explore other options. BM keep telling y’all they don’t want you so I’m not sure exactly what it is you’re waiting for
I don’t have a problem with interracial dating but I feel like interracial dating is advertised way more in the black community then any other community and that seems a bit to suspicious. The same way how there is nothing wrong with dating outside of your race there is also nothing wrong with dating within your race either. I feel like there is a lot of people in the comment section who are trying to make black people feel bad for dating within their race and those people are showing that they are part of the problem. If you don’t think there is nothing wrong with interracial dating what do you feel so offended when people only want to date within their race? How does that effect you. The same people who are angry about that are probably the same people who say nothing when black men or women bash the opposite gender of their own race and uplift other races. Y’all need to do better.
Nah. No group dates and marries outside their race more than Asian women.
The reason this topic comes up so often is because Black women I believe have the highest number of out of wedlock births, which causes all types of sociological problems to the family structure and Black family wealth.
THe more Black children raised in two parent households would combat a number of problems facing the Black community as a whole.
Love this comment
Vanessa Bazil As a person who has often dated outside of my race/culture. I couldn’t agree more with this comment you some the absolute truth.
"I don’t have a problem with interracial dating but I feel like interracial dating is advertised way more in the black community then any other community and that seems a bit to suspicious." I strongly disagree with this statement. Every race it seems but black people are open to dare outside their race. Black people most likely do not.
Bigstank and again that goes back to the promotion of separation of black men and women. It is literally promoted! Asian women date out the most yet they are not the face of interracial dating..... why is that?
I’ve dated a Lebanese guy for 5 years , I’ve dated an Italian guy , I’ve dated a black guy , dated white guys. Everyone was accepting of me except the black guys family
@Pooh Asia are we talking about black American women??
Pooh Asia Wooow you really need therapy for all that self hate you carry.saaaad😢🙏🏾
@Pooh Asia I get what you are saying but you talk like people were throwing themselves to black women and we refuse. The reality is, we're portrayed as nothing someone would want. Even when I have the chance to prove them wrong, I get a hard pass.
Jenn Lynn You must be white
and why can't someone find all that in black man? why do they have to be limiting themselves because they believe they don't HAVE TO SEARCH for love in other ethnic groups. You don't have to go outside your race to find love, black men are fully capable of having that with black women. So while we can encourage people to be opened minded lets not act like you have to date outside your race in order to find love.
Women need to stop getting angry when successful black men date outside their race. The heart wants what the heart wants
Black women are agBlack women are aggressive, have attitude, entitlement, and accuse everyone but themselves of racism.
As a black man I wonder if most black women are actually tired of this same ole segment. ABC, morning talk shows etc. Honestly to me its embarrassing and cringeworthy. NOBODY else's women have to keep hosting this bs. Me personally I only date black women and black women who want to fight white supremacy instead of sleep in its bed but at the end of the day its ITS YOUR LIFE
It’s a black population control issue where they want to make sure and monitor black women because they are the least likely to date outside their race Just like they push homosexuality on a black community transgender they wanna push black women to date outside your race also
Can't you not fight like a man. It's your battle against other men. Since when are women supposed to fight battles?
I actually hate when Loni speaks for “all” black women. A lot of the black women around me are married. We are not sitting around here lonely. I’m a black woman who has no problem being married or dating. I’m divorced now, but it was an unhealthy situation that I chose to leave. Now I date a lot, like many other black woman I know. I have dated white, black, Indian, Asian, Hispanic, the full spectrum without one thought of being “disloyal” to the black man. That’s a joke actually. Black women, just like black men are free to date whoever we choose.
@Ms Fairfax no struggle love period..
@Sasha Hill Still hard to believe. Almost every black woman in my family is married to black men and I am included in that. There are only two who are not married. BUT, one thing I noticed about the ones who are married compared to the ones who are not married is that the ones who are married did not have children out of wedlock. A lot of women who have children out of wedlock have a hard time dating and sadly, lots of black women like to do this. I still don't understand why!
@Narc 1820 My uncle is married to black woman. My brother is engaged to a black woman. My cousins are either single or married to black women except one. The one is married to an asian woman who he found overseas while in the army. But as you said, this is just my family. I think it depends on where you live as well. My point is that black women are being picked though. I see it with my friends as well.
@Jamilla Dobson my husband makes a lot more than I do. Im a stay at home mom🤷
Hi Felisha she made a comment specifically for black women who are scared to date out. If the shoe doesn’t fit you shouldn’t trip.
“I don’t discriminate come and get a taste.” Lizzo said it best
Lol yesss
Anterine Bryan yasss lol
" From the playboys to the gay boys, Go and slay, boys, you my fave boys "
iconic sumo Periodt
You will never have trouble finding a man.
i dated a black girl in high scool, and how were treated by class mates, and she got looks and jokes. but I was accused of destroying a Black queen, and and ruining the black family. The racisim i felt from alot of black students in my class, and mainly guys, only a couple girls. Poor Zipporah felt bullied into ending the relationship. Which she did, and there was no kind of friendship afterwords.
I've always been attracted to all races but I ended up marrying within my own race and I do find it a TINY bit easier since I dont have to explain the culture and explain why we do the things we do.
Like who you want. Don't let no one call you biased or discriminative if you wanna date your own race. Forget them
Ty Kin Periodt
Well....I think blocking a type of racial group based on the fact that they are a certain skin colour is discriminative....some people might call it racist but hey ho.
@@theforgottenfernandes8766 , People of the same Race have more in common! It only makes sense!
Yessss
@@TAMANDJON , I cannot speak for Jon, but Tam if they invented a pill to make White Men Function Sexually at the same height as Black Men, you would go with your own kind! The Money, Security, and Loyalty! God gave White Man Control of every asset of the World everything, but his Own Women! I would say that it made things fair and equal! Black Men better hope they don't anger God to the point he makes their Dick Shrink! The Lord giveth and he taketh!😂😂😂
I wish they would’ve touched on how as black women we mostly feel comfortable found our own race because it feels like other races are dating us out of exoticism or not at all. I’ve tried dating other races and putting myself out there. And as a dark skin woman the pickings are slimmer
Yes and a lot of the time I feel like we are always seen as a stereotype to other races and a lot of the time men of other races feel intimidated or uncomfortable by black women
Thank you!!! I was thinking they didn't touch on fetishism.
Black men fetishize black women too it’s just seems as normal when they do it
@@keasiacrossty2025 truee
good min how? You can’t fetishise your own race
It’s not about the person’s complexion. It’s about the person’s soul and if they compliment yours. That’s why it’s called soulmate.
Lol when A said its pretty common here she's right
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So no one is going to comment on the fact that they are talking about a survey that was conducted almost A DECADE ago?
Exactly! Its just more anti black propaganda for the media to spread. Doesn't matter when, where, how, who, what, just keep pushin it
What are you trying to say
No
Slow news day 😂😂
Why should you marry a black girl? th-cam.com/video/4CCR0gkoOOE/w-d-xo.html
When your own men are constantly putting down black women and calling them ugly, its not surprising that other men listen. Who would know better about black women than black men.
People can date who they want, But me I love black women being nurtured, taught, protected, and love by a black mother And being around my sisters all my life. I always knew a black woman is what i want. Salute To All The Beautiful Sisters 🌹🌹🌹
Love the earrings Tam! I see you supporting Adrienne!
I love them earrings
Although Tam is too classy for them, she's just a sweetheart
I think black African american woman should travel more. I think black woman only in America have to deal with bs stereotypes of being a black woman and as such dating can be a bit unfair. I dont think it's the ladies I think it's the options on offer in any race. Travel and meet other people.
I'll never mandate a hood bitch, I'll date a black woman though. Theres a difference!
Yes, I totally agree!! We need to get out there more, so we can be comfortable with seeing us 😅😆
Louder for the People in the back!
It's not solely an American problem. Fifty percent of Caribbean British men marry interracially. There's concern that there won't be much of a Black community in a decade or three.
Black women travel
I love men period. If he so happens to b black great. Idc. As long as u respect me n treat me right. What I don’t care for is if u wanna step outside the race great but u don’t have to put me down in the process.
Lol @ Jeannie saying her family didn’t encourage it cause of the language barrier...okay yea that was most definitely it Jeannie.
LMFAOOA exactly. stop capping Jeannie. it's obvious asian people praise white people and love when their kids marry white men and women because in their eyes it elevates their societal status even more. lol
Tara F she said before her mother didn’t want her to marry Freddie either. 😂😂😂😂
Marie P.F oh ok
😂
@@aprilf6443 There's many Asian families that want "pure bloodline", some don't even want to mix with other Asians.
Mama mai was the one who didn't want Jeannie to marry a white man and she also only been married to Asian men.
I’m super in love with everything black. The culture, the people, the essence and I’m just passionate about continuing that legacy. I have nothing against other races and am able to find men of other races attractive, but I feel like it’s ingrained in me to keep the richness of black history and legacy alive and one way that I’m doing that is through my lineage.
I do, however, believe you should keep your options open and date who you want. I just happened to find an amazing black man to share my world.
I'm a black woman who prefers white men. I don't know the reason. All my crushes were white growing up.
Now imagine white person saying this ...I'm keeping it white ...so white bloodline stays strong ..you know how racist it sounds and don't fool yourself by saying keeping culture strong.
@@erikaliebenberg9317 Because, historically, racist people believed that race mixing is wrong and it pollutes the bloodline. Sadly, racism still exists and most racist people believe race mixing is a sin.
@@shimmer4771 so agree to my point this girl comment is racist ...but she trying to play it off very smart ..but there will be no outrage becuase its black person saying it ..let a white person say something like this world war lol
@@erikaliebenberg9317 Because, Blacks have and continue to face far more racism than white people do, not just historically, but also presently.
They're missing a very important point. As a black woman I don't relate to non blacks on a personal level. How can they relate to me and the struggles of being/living black? At the end of the day when I go home and need to complain about "the man", how can I do that if I'm with "the man"? Also black people are physically what I'm attracted to, features and complexion. I'm open to other races but I've yet to find someone fully relatable. To each their own but for now it's black folk for me.
You're kidding right? Latinos and Asians struggle and are victims of discrimination too (even by you it seems). We all have struggles.
You should check for Latinos. There are many dark shades, they are often bilingual, Latinos come from slavery as well as genocide. Hard workers, great food, and the list goes on.
Good thing I can relate to any person of any race. Not all white people are "the man".
Big facts 💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿👑🙌🏾
I hope you open your eyes soon. Not only are we Black. we're also women.. A non black man can be the best protector, provider and nurturer for you. I hope you give him a chance. Loyalty to black males is for the birds
I’m a black woman, I’ve dated outside my race and have realized I don’t want to marry anyone but a black man. To me it’s not a bad thing that we are least likely marry outside of our race. I think about my future kids and I want them to have rich dark skin that they are proud of. That only happens with a black king.
Good for you!
Ann Maina congrats
Ur stupid. Lightskin or red bone is so much better
@Craig Snyder it just looks better. Any color can be worn on that type of skin. Dark cabnot wear just any type of color....ahit looks ugly asf. I wear dark neutral bright...etc.
Ann Maina you don't have good idea
I’m a black woman who loves all races of men ❤️.
This black girl only likes white guys! I was like that since I was very young.
We love you
Much appreciation for this comment right here.
MrOGG you must be a hating black man. They love me. I refuse to only date black men. All races of men take me out and find me beautiful. Boy bye.
Mixed Asian woman here who also loves men of all races 😂💕 I just need him to treat me right , that’s all that matters in the end
I feel like there is a culture that comes with dating inside you're race. With that culture comes a sense of relatability it's hard to explain being black in america to someone who is not. I dont see anything wrong with dating outside your race but I prefer to date someone within mine
You are so right!!!
Bm don't understand bw struggles and they don't want to hear it.
@Black Knight Fool first of all I'm a straight black woman okay. And I'm speaking about the majority of bm that i have met online and in person when bw try to explain their struggles. Bm usually brush it off or gaslight us.
@Black Knight Fool my profile picture is of actor kim soo hyun, look it up. Im not asian. And on top of that you are providing the point of blk people brushing off our concerns and gaslighting. Look at bm comments about black women on Twitter, youtube. Look at bm entertainers (more so the ones with dark daughters) "i bet she better red" look at the bm in the dating circle "nah, you not mixed" "nah black girls stank loud rude." (Dont get me started on them telling OTHER races not to date us) look at the bm in our families "ewww look at yo bald headed self" all these quotes are what have been said about us by bm the men who are supposed to protect us.
Black men relate to the struggles of being a black in America but still terrorize us for being black. The experiences of a black women and a black men in America are very different bc black men still have male privilege. Only balck women can fully understand black women hell even light skins can’t fully understand the type of racism darkskins face but they can empathize. You can have a man outside of ur races that empathizes and is compassion towards ur plight. Bc the reality is black men add on to our struggle as a black women in America
The hosts/panel Conflates marriage with dating. Black women have been "dating outside" their race since they were able to do so.
I'm 24 and single 🤪 😌 and I'm half Mexicano/American lol
Black girls are beautiful don't care what anybody else thinks they are beautiful women
also when I started dating my bf ( who’s Mexican) I had a friend of mine of said that they were abusive & controlling & my bf is the complete opposite ! Don’t listen to those sterotypes !!
Nah just listen to the stereotypes about black men 🤣
I used to date outside my race exclusively but now that I’m with a black man my life has been the best it’s ever been .
Good girl!
Markus Patients
Cringe
Carl Miller no
That’s bc u found the right one. His race doesn’t play a role at all
Has nothing to do with his race, everything to do with the type of men.
African American women that’s not the truth outside the US.
Sarah James erm yes, of course it is true... unless you’re talking about places where there are very few blacks like Siberia, Greenland or Korea. In the UK, where I’m from and where there are a good number of black men available, it is true. Black men in the UK are actually worst than those in USA when it comes to their aversion to black women (for the avoidance of doubt, I don’t mean mixed women when I say black 🙄). In Africa where I’m also from, it is also true. I’m sure if those black men in Africa had as much access to non black women as they do in the diaspora, they would manifest the same aversion. Look as a black woman, I don’t like the situation we’re in... being considered collectively less attractive than other groups of women largely because of our African phenotype and dark skin, including men who share the same features and skin colour is not ideal but let’s not hide from the truth. Let’s face it and deal with it. The fact that society doesn’t appreciate our beauty based on superficial, man-made standards doesn’t need to take away from our sense of self worth and esteem if we are honest about it and if we find a productive way to deal with it.
@@evetats235 💯💯👏🏾
mozarella10 I find that very surprising given the “bettering the race” mentality prevalent in South America but since I don’t live there, I don’t have the facts or experience to challenge or support what you’ve said...
Other races find us unattractive 🤷🏾♀️
My family told me to stay within my ethnicity and I actually ended up marrying someone I didnt really love because of that. They were scared of me losing touch with my culture.
Whoa! This is the longest I’ve ever seen them speak on one topic.
LOOLOL right?!
Right! I’m here for it 🙋🏽♀️
If you’re not a black man, you shouldn’t be speaking for a black man. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but that doesn’t make it factual. The ones that haven’t really commented to much under this video is BLACK MEN. I bet if you go to a video that talks highly of BLACK WOMEN, you would see more positive output from GOOD BLACK MEN. Don’t get sucked into media propaganda. There isn’t a man’s perspective on this show for a reason. No one has been elected to speak for the majority for a very good reason. How can someone let a few men account for all men? Generalizing is the same as stereotyping and being bias. You haven’t even scratched the surface. Nothing comes overnight and everything takes time. Really look into that persons character and you’ll see the signs.
So true they dated the same types of black men then turn around and paint everyone with a broad brush
Niggas don't get the character part..
What do you think about Michael B. Jordan dating White women, (him being a successful eligible Black bachelor and a role model to other young Black men)?
@@lionessprowess3581 the same way i feel about tika sumpter dating outside her race. I don't care. But blacks tend to stay with each other.
@@lionessprowess3581 Black women bashed the hell out of him for it.
Non black men don't ask them out.
Why do you say that?
@@lonnietimestasticly most people want their own
well from my experiences lots of men from other races ask me out. I am a dark skinned black women and most of the guys were white... but I guess its different from person to person.
@@reyy568 Oof sorry i forgot i wrote this comment haha XD
@@lonnietime location matters also depends where are you if you are in a city like NYC i see that but if you live in a total white population well good luck
Why is Tamera classed as dating out of her race. Her mother is black. Her father is white. Her husband is white like her father. People tend to gravitate to what they know whether colour, culture, behaviour etc
Even though genetically Tamera is more white than black, because her phenotype is black, she is considered a black woman by historical race rules in America.
@@Keke-oh6zd this still doesn't make her black l, forget about hmwhat she is considered she's still a mixed woman
She did married out of her race. If we want to be technical, she is biracial, not black nor white. Her husband is white.
I'm from brasil and my father is white (Portuguese). We look different and yes I prefer to be with someone who looks like me
@@Keke-oh6zd Her phenotype is biracial, Tamera looks biracial
I tried dating outside my race but it’s something so comfortable about dating another black man. I want a strong black man like my father and I want black children.
Good for you sista!😘😉😎🤙🏽..
Yessss!!!!!!!
Struggle love is comfortable?
Why does comfortable mean struggle to you? I mean comfort in bonding through growing up with cultural familiarity, etc etc. I tried to watch a black comedy show with my white date n he was visibly uncomfortable with the language and didn’t get the jokes or the inside things just Bc that’s not what he ever had to know. Of course u can teach and learn from your partner but I personally like just having that vibe
C J there’s nothing wrong with that. Is the person who makes you comfortable that’s important
Black women don’t have all those options. That’s shown in the fact that no other race is looking for them in mass.
People are free to date whomever they wish. I prefer a Black man; together, we can understand and appreciate the struggle of our people.
struggle love.
While they push for black women to date outside of our race, they stand in line waiting for our black men. #Smh
@Jamilla Dobson Take a look at this. It's really sad, please think deeper. th-cam.com/video/9rns5w1w6Zs/w-d-xo.html
Ashanda At Large I really dislike how this topic was presented as a problem. Not right, then targeted black women from a small study back-in 2010 which is probably highly inaccurate with faulty variables. Everyone has free will to procreate with whom they want , but programming them to do so when they never even would think 🤔 it is WRONG. Programming has been amplified with this mixing agenda (tv shows, movies, and ads). It’s really disingenuous, a slap in the face to eumelanin rich people after being treated like 💩 for 2 or 3 millennia. And the agenda is only being pushed because certain groups of people lack it and time and technology cannot advance without out this(eumelanin absorbs energy like radiation, sounds, and other unexplainable energy/frequencies and converts it into energy). Some folks can’t even handle wifi or 2G/3G/4G without getting cancer. 🤣Scientists have been studying Eumelanin for a long time now. But realized it cannot be synthesized in a lab 🧫 🔬, but only through 🧬 DNA. So now they want all of these mistreated bloodlines to give 🧬it up willy nilly to evil/dead bloodlines. 🖕🏿🖕🏿They need to be left behind.
They're not "our's".
They can have them 🤣
@@OG_Bap Exactly..Cause most of them ain't bout shyt..They're enemies of black women like everybody else.
Thank you for the open honesty and wisdom given and shared from a African American woman.... This conversation was absolutely needed
This show is "The Real" give away. The root agenda of why they created this show is to
push interracial relationships, masked by what they choose to call "diversity." The agenda
is obvious based on their content.
These comments are so frustrating when you know the numbers.
1. Black women ARE the most loyal group by race and gender, based on their racial dating preferences. As per a poll conducted by AYI in 2013 on dating preferences of individuals based on race and gender.
2. Black men are NOT their only option. A Stanford University study found that the number of non-black men wanting/interested in having relationships with black women OUTNUMBERS the whole female black population.
3. Black men are the second most likely to marry out than men of other races. They are second to south Asian men, according to a PEW research centre analysis conducted in 2013.
4. THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT. It all comes down to numbers. Black American women outnumber black men by SEVERAL MILLION. Here's the hard truth no one is saying. Straight black women who are looking to marry, the majority of you WILL have to marry out or die alone. There just is not enough of your male counterpart that exists. No other race group has a population difference in gender than black Americans
It's simple math. 5 does not equal 2.
I had the biggest crush on tia and Tamara when I was younger. She's STILL very good looking. (Tamara a teenie bit more)
When Jeannie said that if you have tainted views of dating outside of your race to see where that comes from and deal with it, I could relate as a Black woman. In my early 20s, I decided to see why I was afraid of dating a White man, and it took me a few years to finally agree to doing so. But I’m glad that I dealt with that then, so now in my late 20s, I’m pretty open to doing so. I enjoyed this conversation!
Public Frenemy umm no. Not what @Truth Hurts was saying at all.
“I EVEN dated an Asian” cmon ladies .... 😒
Asians don’t like black people or tanned skin, except Jeannie so it’s a big deal
Hakuna Matata A college smash doesn’t count. People experiment with stuff they wouldn’t normally get away with at college. You don’t see Asians typically looking to get into serious relationships with black people cuz Asian culture/families are very anti-black.
Joy Whats the problem? Asians are small population and very different to black folk so whats wrong wit mentioning it?
Why is that hard to believe. I am a black African, living in South Africa, and my ex is Chinese.
Amber L Asian or White
It's not by force... let black women date their black men
Why are white men black women couples rare? Curious.
@@shimmer4771 Not here where I am ( Ontario Canada ) not rare at all. Interracial dating/marriage isn't a big deal. Why? Because it just isn't. When you're happy then that's all that counts. ☺
@@gsdmomb530 Here in the U.S., not many white men give black women the time of day. However, you will see it quite often in reverse, 3x as likely to see it more. I kept wondering why that was so. I've seen beautiful black women get rejected, I mean like Tyra Banks or Christina Millian.
There's an agenda behind pushing black women to date out some just aren't smart enough to realize it. White man black women commercials and TV shows, social media.
@@rover7139 There's way more propaganda in reverse. Black men white women not only are more common, but they tend to advertise it more often. How about interracial just be normal?
Black women for the love of God, swirl.. This loyalty, so many of us have for black men, need to stop... be open to allowing other men of other races to love you.
No, being lesbian would be the best.
I got kind of annoyed when the audience clapped when Tamera said that she dated every race. I just don’t like when ppl act like dating just one race is a negative thing. There is nothing wrong with liking certain type of people. As long as you don’t hate anyone because of their race,culture, sexuality etc there is no reason for ppl to make you feel like you’re doing something wrong.
Daniela Achury EXACTLY. Don’t have nothing to do with where my loyalty is. Just like what I like, same way some white women only like black men
i agree.
I agree in a way, but if she’s proud of that then let her. And support her by clapping for her if she feels proud of it... if that makes sense.
They only be singling black women out when making statements like this lol why y’all so worried about why we are loyal??
@ATL 1 Except she was a virgin until she met her husband, so... yeah...
When Tamera said she dated outside of her race and started naming nationalities 🤦
But the people she named were all of different races so what's the problem
The Bi-racial narrative. A whole other discussion.
Kathy Bates Neyessa is clearly a pedantic know it all.
Nothing wrong with what she did..she can say what she wants!!!!!
@@Shewas-kathybates they want to keep Black women in their place in America..other places like Europe and Canada its common to see Black women with other races of men.
This is the most futile, boring and dumb conversation I've ever heard
The main question is “ Do men of other races want them?”.
But that’s just to hard of a question for them to come to terms with.
It's easy to date outside of your race which is why BLaCK LOVE is so special
Mevin Hart facts
There is nothing special about "Black Love". Correction: Black love is rare, I guess that's what makes it special!
WTF? It is not easy to date outside your race. And black love is not special. Love is special. Black love is not. Sorry not sorry.
Side note: I know what it's like to be treated less than for my complexion. I've had Black men tell me they won't choose me because of past experiences with Black women. But whatever. Dating a great Black King now :)
i love black men but they don't seem to love us as much as other races of men love their women. Of course there's good black guys out there, my own dad is a wonderful black man who holds black women so high and praises us. But that is rare to find in our community these days.
Black men are continuously making us feel worthless and chasing after women of other races and praising them. I don't mind them dating other races of women but for them to trash talk us and not praise us at all is just sad i dont know how they don't see the damage they're doing for their community.
I know a lot of folks will disagree but this is me speaking from my experience and the other black women in my life's experience. Its 10x harder for us and if you don't know that you haven't lived in a black woman's shoes before.
Love who you love but don’t just put this on black women. There are many cultures who choose to date within their race,culture, & class. I had a friend who was Ukrainian and in her family they will shame you for dating outside people. Indians are the same way. Hasan Minaj spoke about how marrying his wife who is hindu and not Muslim was an issue for people. Why they both may be Indian they are still not considered to be cut from the same cloth. So everyone has this issue. Some black women feel like other races don’t even want to date them, so they just stick to what they know works. Most of the time when a minority male dates/marries outside of his race it’s always with a white woman. That can be discouraging for women of color.
I’m just big on black love that that’s what I want for myself! Not because of what others think or how it love was always portrayed. Plus I’m just not attracted to anyone on the outer race
Period
Same other races just don’t do it for me
Why?
@@mandamandamanda6722 why? MOST are attracted to their own, especially black women, interracial dating is not everybody's cup of tea
Manda Manda And why ask why
if you don’t care too?
I've always been open to dating outside of my race and have dated outside my race. I love the fact that I've been open minded about it and I think everyone should try it. You never know what you're attracted to unless you try.
good for you; you didn't fear rejection and you flirted back to let the guy know your intentions..most black women fear rejection; white women flirt like hell on black men; the have confidence that a black man will get in their pants;' a black man with game can date all types of sexy white and asian women all over the World...
You should only date black men
Go date outside of your race in Africa
In my opinion, using the history of slavery as an excuse is OLD and DATED.
Date whomever you want. This "disloyal" crap is nonsense. Do what you want
Date who you what to date ,life is short and everyone deserves to be loved...