Exclusively Having Sex but Not in a Relationship: Are Labels Necessary?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ส.ค. 2024
- If you’re exclusively having sex with someone but aren’t in a relationship, how should you introduce each other? We weigh in on whether titles are necessary.
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“My Lady” is definitely the adult way of saying, “My girlfriend.”
D'Angelo had the most beautiful song about that very title, "Lady". I think that's another way of calling the woman you are seeing your girlfriend.
@@CC-si3cr i call your bed friend cause that is all it is people not ready for relationship not marriage these days
Loni saying "stick with me" while they were so caught up in their conversation is killing me😂
😁😁😁😁
😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lmaoooo
I’m CRACKING UPPP
I disagree with Loni completely, people aren’t always afraid to put a label, they don’t want a commitment, they just want to extract your time, body, emotions, then when they are good and full walk away like nothing happened. Ladies please remember our time is extremely valuable, it’s the one thing you can’t get back, don’t waste it on men who are simply trying to use you, and unfortunately there are a ton of men that move like this nowadays. Protect your heart and only give yourself to those who show you consistently that you are genuinely desired and cared for.
Yup it goes both ways
You are 💯% correct. You said it all. I like especially that last sentence. Ladies protect your heart and trust it only with people who consistenly show that they trully care about your wellbeing and people who are very proud and happy to have you in their lives.
What do you think of my situation, I need advice on what to do😭:
I have known this guy since elementary school- although we didn’t go to the same school, our parents work at the same place. They weren’t best friends but enough to where we would go to there house for dinner parties etc.. fast forward, we both ended up going to the same high school I always kind of had an attraction towards him a little bit but I never really gave it much thought . There would be certain things that he would do, for example when I said I was cold in class one day he came out of nowhere and grabbed my hands to warm them up, and just stuff like tht just stuck in my head, but not to the point where I had a big crush on him or thought about him everyday. Now fast forward again to senior year of Hs covid had hit and we graduated in June. Him and I never texted or anything but in July that summer he dM’d me on Instagram and then we started talking. We talked every single day for a long time and eventually it became 2 to 3 months that we were talking everyday and I was starting to grow to love him. He was so fun to talk to, i was too good to be true. I didn’t know what I did to deserve something this good. He had never been in a relationship or talked to a girl or even kissed a girl throughout high school and that was the same with me. He is like the guy version of me. He was always very immature throughout Hs and very emotionally unavailable which is why I was shocked that us talking had lasted that long. Then after speaking everyday on the phone we started hanging out in person as well and eventually had our first kiss and everything. It was all going good and then things started going downhill gradually. His friend from HS ended up passing away tragically and I was always there for him although he never told me how he felt and he always said he was fine he is very reserved with his feelings and never said how he felt and never wanted to talk about it. Slowly the conversations started getting less and less he would just snap me his face and I would snap him back without any type of conversation. When we first started talking he had always said not to leave him on read and tht he wants to see my face so I didn’t think much of it for a while but eventually I started missing talking to him. He then told me that he needed some space or time alone for a little bit which I totally understood and so I ended communication. A few days later after not speaking he snapped me his face. That was it. He never said hi he never asked how I was. Nothing. I went will it and just snapped my face back every time. Eventually after more time passed I started wondering why he was talking to me like he used to. And I directly told him look at this point I’ll be really sad if this isn’t some that that you were taking seriously and it’ll break my heart so if you want this to end please tell me and lets end it. He responding telling me tht he did not want to end it and that he does take this seriously and he didn’t want to stop talking to me. So this went on about 2 months where it was kind of distant and not talking regularly. Fast forward one day I just had enough and I just told him how come you don’t like me anymore or something like that and he replied saying that’s not true why would you think that and I told him everything that bothered me. He replied saying “maybe we should put this on pause for a while”. In that moment my heart dropped and I felt so numb that I just replied “yea I agree”, he replied with hearts and I left him on read. He was never the type of person to say how he feels or to show any emotion so I didn’t know what was going on. It made me kind of insecure cuz I didn’t know if it was me, if he didn’t like me or if something was going on w him that he I didn’t know. He also had said before that that he’d been busier lately. A few days later I just couldn’t handle it anymore and I texted him and asked what he meant by pause- if it was over for good or not really because I wanted to know what he meant by pause. He replied “idk”. And that drove me crazy because again I didn’t know what was going on so I wrote this paragraph very upset and he ended up leaving me on read.we didn’t talk for 2 months after that. The worst 2 months of my life. I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. He then randomly texted me one day asking me a stupid question that he already knew the answer to. After that we met up once and I talked to him about how I felt and that I wanted to know what he wants from this. He looked like he didn’t know how to respond. He went quiet and looked like he was thinking really hard. He then told me he was really overwhelmed with school and work (this was our first year of college btw) and he didn’t know if he was ready for something right now and he kept asking me what I wanted. Like an idiot I didn’t say that I wanted a relationship because I felt like he should be the one to tell me that first. We then kind of agreed to be friends even though it was weird tho- like it felt like it was not the end of anything. He was then saying as I was getting ready to leave that maybe we can continue seeing each other in this way, and I stopped him there and said I don’t do fwb and he said “that’s not what I meant” but then I cut him off because I was so upset and I ran out to my car and left. After a few weeks we started texting again and unfortunately because of the feelings I have and the lack of control we started seeing each other regularly and it almost felt like a friends w benefits situation. I know I put this on myself cuz if I wanted to I could end it rn but it’s sooo difficult for me and I feel lost. Now I need some guidance on what I should do. But what makes me situation weird is is that we never had sex, we have don’t some other things however when we see each other the “benefit” ig is long hugs, cuddling, kissing, holding hands etc. and very intimate things like that. It’s been a long time like this and I feel trapped cuz of my emotions now and don’t really know what to do anymore. I know he isn’t talking to or seeing anyone - he is a guy who never really talked to many girls- he had a lot of insecurities and he even told me a little bit when we first started talking. The last time I saw him he asked me if he was the only one I was seeing. Why is it so hard for him to call me his gf? I feel so hard to love and I’m just lost. If anyone has any ideas, thoughts or wisdom id really appreciate it. Next year he will most likely switch colleges, I feel like i would regret not trying or at least trying to understand this situation, it’ll always be in my mind. Thanks 🙏
@@bacheera1 what do you think I should do in this situation 😭:
I have known this guy since elementary school- although we didn’t go to the same school, our parents work at the same place. They weren’t best friends but enough to where we would go to there house for dinner parties etc.. fast forward, we both ended up going to the same high school I always kind of had an attraction towards him a little bit but I never really gave it much thought . There would be certain things that he would do, for example when I said I was cold in class one day he came out of nowhere and grabbed my hands to warm them up, and just stuff like tht just stuck in my head, but not to the point where I had a big crush on him or thought about him everyday. Now fast forward again to senior year of Hs covid had hit and we graduated in June. Him and I never texted or anything but in July that summer he dM’d me on Instagram and then we started talking. We talked every single day for a long time and eventually it became 2 to 3 months that we were talking everyday and I was starting to grow to love him. He was so fun to talk to, i was too good to be true. I didn’t know what I did to deserve something this good. He had never been in a relationship or talked to a girl or even kissed a girl throughout high school and that was the same with me. He is like the guy version of me. He was always very immature throughout Hs and very emotionally unavailable which is why I was shocked that us talking had lasted that long. Then after speaking everyday on the phone we started hanging out in person as well and eventually had our first kiss and everything. It was all going good and then things started going downhill gradually. His friend from HS ended up passing away tragically and I was always there for him although he never told me how he felt and he always said he was fine he is very reserved with his feelings and never said how he felt and never wanted to talk about it. Slowly the conversations started getting less and less he would just snap me his face and I would snap him back without any type of conversation. When we first started talking he had always said not to leave him on read and tht he wants to see my face so I didn’t think much of it for a while but eventually I started missing talking to him. He then told me that he needed some space or time alone for a little bit which I totally understood and so I ended communication. A few days later after not speaking he snapped me his face. That was it. He never said hi he never asked how I was. Nothing. I went will it and just snapped my face back every time. Eventually after more time passed I started wondering why he was talking to me like he used to. And I directly told him look at this point I’ll be really sad if this isn’t some that that you were taking seriously and it’ll break my heart so if you want this to end please tell me and lets end it. He responding telling me tht he did not want to end it and that he does take this seriously and he didn’t want to stop talking to me. So this went on about 2 months where it was kind of distant and not talking regularly. Fast forward one day I just had enough and I just told him how come you don’t like me anymore or something like that and he replied saying that’s not true why would you think that and I told him everything that bothered me. He replied saying “maybe we should put this on pause for a while”. In that moment my heart dropped and I felt so numb that I just replied “yea I agree”, he replied with hearts and I left him on read. He was never the type of person to say how he feels or to show any emotion so I didn’t know what was going on. It made me kind of insecure cuz I didn’t know if it was me, if he didn’t like me or if something was going on w him that he I didn’t know. He also had said before that that he’d been busier lately. A few days later I just couldn’t handle it anymore and I texted him and asked what he meant by pause- if it was over for good or not really because I wanted to know what he meant by pause. He replied “idk”. And that drove me crazy because again I didn’t know what was going on so I wrote this paragraph very upset and he ended up leaving me on read.we didn’t talk for 2 months after that. The worst 2 months of my life. I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. He then randomly texted me one day asking me a stupid question that he already knew the answer to. After that we met up once and I talked to him about how I felt and that I wanted to know what he wants from this. He looked like he didn’t know how to respond. He went quiet and looked like he was thinking really hard. He then told me he was really overwhelmed with school and work (this was our first year of college btw) and he didn’t know if he was ready for something right now and he kept asking me what I wanted. Like an idiot I didn’t say that I wanted a relationship because I felt like he should be the one to tell me that first. We then kind of agreed to be friends even though it was weird tho- like it felt like it was not the end of anything. He was then saying as I was getting ready to leave that maybe we can continue seeing each other in this way, and I stopped him there and said I don’t do fwb and he said “that’s not what I meant” but then I cut him off because I was so upset and I ran out to my car and left. After a few weeks we started texting again and unfortunately because of the feelings I have and the lack of control we started seeing each other regularly and it almost felt like a friends w benefits situation. I know I put this on myself cuz if I wanted to I could end it rn but it’s sooo difficult for me and I feel lost. Now I need some guidance on what I should do. But what makes me situation weird is is that we never had sex, we have don’t some other things however when we see each other the “benefit” ig is long hugs, cuddling, kissing, holding hands etc. and very intimate things like that. It’s been a long time like this and I feel trapped cuz of my emotions now and don’t really know what to do anymore. I know he isn’t talking to or seeing anyone - he is a guy who never really talked to many girls- he had a lot of insecurities and he even told me a little bit when we first started talking. The last time I saw him he asked me if he was the only one I was seeing. Why is it so hard for him to call me his gf? I feel so hard to love and I’m just lost. If anyone has any ideas, thoughts or wisdom id really appreciate it. Next year he will most likely switch colleges, I feel like i would regret not trying or at least trying to understand this situation, it’ll always be in my mind. Thanks 🙏
@@mayab.1633 Maya have a frank conversation with him. Ask him if he wants to be with you or not. He should make a decision now. He had had enough time to know you and know if he wants you to be his girlfriend. You on your side should focus on people who make you feel good and appreciated. Okay? If you are still in school, then focus on your studies or trainings. You are young, this is the time to start building a good future for yourself. You do not want to have regrets later. Have a good cry if needed and let it go if he does not make more efforts to show you that he wants a relationship. Hope this helps. Take care.
I’m not having sex unless we’re in a relationship. I’m not giving up the goods for some random guy or a friend.
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Hallelujah! Yes.
Right
Exactly!!
Exactly
“Oh, I’m not going anywhere with you!” ADRIENNE YOU KILLED ME THERE 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😅❤ Ikr
She's too funny 😂😂😂😅😅🤣🤣
Getting into a physically intimate situation w/ no commitment is setting yourself up for heartbreak 💔 & tears. Someone WILL get hurt. Don't fool yourself.
My Mom WARNED me about that too
@@kevinmansell8746 Facts💯
Friends with benefits was the worst thing I've ever done. Extremely painful.
Yeah? Why?
@@kaylenejantjes8113 yeah I've done it. You expect the person to be there for you emotionally, but usually the guy doesn't see it that way. As women it's so easy to fall in love with who ever you are fucking lol. Plus it ain't worth it. What if you have a pregnancy scare ?? You might deal with the whole ordeal alone. With little sympathy from the fwb partner
It’s not worth it, people! Invest in a stellar vibrator lol
@@kaylenejantjes8113 Because the man only wants your body and you want more. I saw him forget my birthdays, not be invited on trips, not invited as a guest to weddings. After a certain point, you realize you're allowing yourself to be used.
@@shawncasey4331 exactly you start feeling stepped over like a rug or door mat. They can't even be decent to you and consider you're feelings in anything. Not even a " how are you call" it's pointless for a woman. At that point you may as well become an escort and get paid for giving him time in bed
It sounds like friends with benefits to me. Just because you are not in a relationship with someone doesn't take away the fact that you still have a relationship with that person if you are intimate with them. Just like you have a relationship with your siblings, parents, or partner. It's not that hard to introduce someone as your partner or friend & if so just like they said, don't mess with that person if they are too embarrassed to claim you as something 🤔
AMEN! No TITLES no SEX Ladies!
@Crystal Dating Coach YASSS!! THANK YOU! 😊
What's the difference between friends with benefits and boyfriend girlfriend
@@2sense110 One is a Relationship. Your part of each others life. Go out with his friends. It's exclusive. The other is just SEX...usually when HE wants it.
@2sense Friends with benefits is when there is no attachment as you can date whoever you want still with the understanding that you're friends but sex buddies and nothing more. As to where bf gf is making a monogamous commitment to one person. Then you have polygamous people who have multiple gf and/or bf but it's just with those people.
Everyone deserves clarity regardless of whether they *choose* to label their situation or not.
sex is not for everyone it does not make you even less of a human being it just means you not ready for sex i respect a person more 100% i just hope that men will respect women more not just use as an object if they say the word Love do not believe it
I don’t get why this is so complicated? This is my FRIEND (insert name). The people you’re introducing them to don’t know (or care) that y’all are exclusively banging. It’s simple. Either you’re in a relationship or you guys are friends. Maybe I’m confused lol
That’s what I was thinking. And to be real, unless you add details such as coworker or they already have a spouse at home, most likely people will catch on to y’all just hooking up. Introducing a person as a friend is just more respectful than saying this is my hookup buddy.
I suppose, friend is a little misleading, idk. More lovers than friends, but to people who don’t know or care, I suppose close friend is fine.
My exact thoughts lol
*Ditto* !
When did being "exclusive " not mean you're in a relationship? I've been out of the dating world so long. I'm so confused.
Exactly!
from the title, I'm taking it as they aren't being intimate with any other ppl. They are essentially sex buddies and if they are going to events that would be friends with benefits/ situationship
@@Msladyrae92 yeah. It's just weird. I've never heard this was a thing. I'm just happy I'm not in that world of dating anymore. Exclusive will always be, a relationship in my eye's.
I been scrolling the comments looking for this 😂..thought I was the only one who didn't understand this question
There is more to a relationship than sex, so two people only having sex with each other does not automatically mean they are in a relationship.
If we're not exclusive, I just say their name. If someone asks who they are, I simply say a friend. I don't need to spill all my business.
Facts
This is EXACTLY why titles are NEEDED! Some people want to dabble in all of this confusion then try to figure out a way to explain it to other people when they don't even understand it themselves! Smh... If you want to be with someone then be with them and call it what it is! If not, then establish boundaries and don't sleep with them. Humanity is really going off the deep end with all of this nonsense!
100%! You're so right 👏🏾👏🏾
I agree with Adrienne; If it is just sex ,we keep it behind closed doors.
the world does not need to know people are having sex even on television if it happens its between them
There is no such thing as in between. You're either friends, friends with benefits, or in a relationship.
I mean I don’t like to say “ friends with benefits” cuz u can’t benefit from being intimate with someone that can eventually leave when they’re done being pleased… there’s no point in getting the perks of being in a relationship with someone u could easily be in a relationship with if that’s was the case lol
They ignore Loni because she can become annoying at times. Her comedic timing is sometimes off. Good conversation ladies.
She was so aggressive like can we actually have this convo without cracking jokes the whole time? 😭
Loni gets silly with this type of topic.
I'm not having sex with anyone that I am not in a relationship with.
This isn't complicated. If you are just screwing there is no title or relationship other than sexual or laughing and talking. If you are just screwing why are you going out to places to be introduced? The titles are when people catch feelings..its possible to do without feelings and when that phase ends it ends.
thank you, finally!! like it's not that hard to understand
Is it just me or Has the dynamic changed since Jeannie has been on leave? I feel like Loni and Garcelle vibe really well and Adrienne is a little bit more serious this season and constantly left out in a sense.
I was thinking the same like it’s a little awkward to watch. Mainly between Loni and Ade, they constantly talk over each or fight to get a word in.
Yes
Loni was left out here though.
Definitely. i love them all! but Adrienne doesn't bounce off Loni's humor at all. That's why i've been trying to see what the problem is w/ the dynamic and it could be because of the new setting that is more formal? In previous seasons, "friyay" was more chill and the TABLE, that table was there (it gave it more chilled vibes with the drinks on the table and them being seated at close proximity) i mean i dont know what it is, it could also be with the fact that jeannie is not there and adrienne has matured.
Remember when things weren’t so F’n complicated!! I’m exhausted!
I feel you Val, I feel you ..
I’m in this situation, we just met each other so we decided to explore each other exclusively but we aren’t friends we are dating to see if there’s something more here …. Makes total sense right lol
Okay, this is what I don't get, aside from the whole thing: If you are exclusively sleeping with someone, but you are not dating them, then you starting dating someone else and that person wants to sleep with you, what are you going to say? "Oh no, I am sorry, I am currently sexually exclusive with someone else? Like what the freak going on here?
You can't talk to someone who is adamant that there's no title for you as a couple. If they can't commit, cut them loose. You can do better. If he likes what you do, then he should claim you. Stop giving freebies.
I need to know who be laughing in the background 😂😂😂😂 I’m starting to become a fan 🔥🔥🔥💀💀💀
You're most welcome
"My lady" seems more on a long term committed side that could lead to marriage, a mature way of saying "girlfriend". "My lover" sounds like this scenario, which I am currently in. Where there is an intense emotional connection, feelings were caught from both ends, sex was had, but either wants to be in a long term commitment with one another. Hence, "my lover." This sounds more respectful than friends with benefits, where no emotions and feelings are involved. Or friends, where the essence insinuates platonic connections. "My lover" sums up the overall dynamic between the two. Or at least that's what I thought whenever hearing it.
A: “Oh I’M not going nowhere with you😳😌”.😂🤣
Loni. Im bangen!! 🤣🤣😍I swear everytime the sex topic comes up Loni is a whole mood!! Yaass..
It’s called the girl friend experience! $300 a hr 🤣🤣🤣
😂 @ Adrienne “Oh, I’m not going anywhere with you!!!”
Just say this is my friend … simple
Thank you Loni, I don’t understand why the hell y’all having sex but ain’t together but wanna be exclusive, news flash… that’s a relationship🙄, a toxic one but that’s what it is, stop trying to make up new labels for it, why do people making stuff sooo complicated then what it needs to be I would never understand🧐
I know exactly what you mean but I really don’t think you could call that a relationship. There’s no plans for the future, NO responsibility, no guarantee that the people are even compatible besides sexually, no having to do “life” together whatsoever. It’s not real and it’s not based on anything substantial which is why you oftentimes see moms become single after they get pregnant because sex does not make a relationship, it just adds to it
Who the hell is gonna say "who is Garcelle Beauvais"???
Right lmaooo 😁😊🤭🥴👁️👀😄 she's such a savage tbh
I must admit I repeated over and over again the part where Adrienne asserted with: "Oh, I'm not going anywhere with you.. 😂😂😂". I share the same thought. Till date, I still don't understand the aim of the "friends with benefits" arrangement. I find some people's cavalier attitude towards sex quite pathetic.
How about not having sex with someone that you are not in a relationship with? Just sayin'🙄
It’s not unheard of
how about you mind your own business and pull that stick out
@@edithputhy4948 I didn't realize I was im your business. My comment touched a nerve. You shouldn't allow my opinion to trigger you Sweetheart😋
@@Chaptersaudio didn't you just tell people what to do with their private parts in a judgmental manner?
@@edithputhy4948 I voiced my opinion in the form of a question. I did not "tell" anyone to do anything. So your decision to post a comment to me because you were triggered is on you, not me😂
It’s garcelle and Loni cracking up in the beginning when she said “Mr. Leroy” that keeps sending me. 🤣🤣
Being someone who's overly cautious and dislike unnecessary confrontations/arguments, I always request for a discussion and agreement of scope definition, terms and conditions before getting involved in relationships whether of work nature or personal one. I hardly make assumptions regarding issues that have the potential to affect my peace.
Yes!! 🙌🏾 I like that!!
That's the best way forward.
“Friend is a friend.” - Garcelle
Lmaooooooooo 🤣
Not for nothing and not to be mean or anything but Garcelle is the coolest , smartest and the prettiest lady in this panel , I got nothing negative to say about the other two ladys , Loni is very sharp and witty and Adrienne is okay , but Garcelle is the one , I mean she is the total package , Intelligent , humorous ( in a spontaneous cute way) , and beautiful ... very beautiful
No strings attached means no strings attached… you don’t call them anything. Duh!
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I broke the code.. exclusive sex only partners is a relationship. Put what ever label you suit you.. I don’t exclusive f buddy but still a relationship of some sort… definitely comes with at least one agreed on string attached
I’m in a situation and need advice(anyone who cares to read this long story) 😭:
I have known this guy since elementary school- although we didn’t go to the same school, our parents work at the same place. They weren’t best friends but enough to where we would go to there house for dinner parties etc.. fast forward, we both ended up going to the same high school I always kind of had an attraction towards him a little bit but I never really gave it much thought . There would be certain things that he would do, for example when I said I was cold in class one day he came out of nowhere and grabbed my hands to warm them up, and just stuff like tht just stuck in my head, but not to the point where I had a big crush on him or thought about him everyday. Now fast forward again to senior year of Hs covid had hit and we graduated in June. Him and I never texted or anything but in July that summer he dM’d me on Instagram and then we started talking. We talked every single day for a long time and eventually it became 2 to 3 months that we were talking everyday and I was starting to grow to love him. He was so fun to talk to, i was too good to be true. I didn’t know what I did to deserve something this good. He had never been in a relationship or talked to a girl or even kissed a girl throughout high school and that was the same with me. He is like the guy version of me. He was always very immature throughout Hs and very emotionally unavailable which is why I was shocked that us talking had lasted that long. Then after speaking everyday on the phone we started hanging out in person as well and eventually had our first kiss and everything. It was all going good and then things started going downhill gradually. His friend from HS ended up passing away tragically and I was always there for him although he never told me how he felt and he always said he was fine he is very reserved with his feelings and never said how he felt and never wanted to talk about it. Slowly the conversations started getting less and less he would just snap me his face and I would snap him back without any type of conversation. When we first started talking he had always said not to leave him on read and tht he wants to see my face so I didn’t think much of it for a while but eventually I started missing talking to him. He then told me that he needed some space or time alone for a little bit which I totally understood and so I ended communication. A few days later after not speaking he snapped me his face. That was it. He never said hi he never asked how I was. Nothing. I went will it and just snapped my face back every time. Eventually after more time passed I started wondering why he was talking to me like he used to. And I directly told him look at this point I’ll be really sad if this isn’t some that that you were taking seriously and it’ll break my heart so if you want this to end please tell me and lets end it. He responding telling me tht he did not want to end it and that he does take this seriously and he didn’t want to stop talking to me. So this went on about 2 months where it was kind of distant and not talking regularly. Fast forward one day I just had enough and I just told him how come you don’t like me anymore or something like that and he replied saying that’s not true why would you think that and I told him everything that bothered me. He replied saying “maybe we should put this on pause for a while”. In that moment my heart dropped and I felt so numb that I just replied “yea I agree”, he replied with hearts and I left him on read. He was never the type of person to say how he feels or to show any emotion so I didn’t know what was going on. It made me kind of insecure cuz I didn’t know if it was me, if he didn’t like me or if something was going on w him that he I didn’t know. He also had said before that that he’d been busier lately. A few days later I just couldn’t handle it anymore and I texted him and asked what he meant by pause- if it was over for good or not really because I wanted to know what he meant by pause. He replied “idk”. And that drove me crazy because again I didn’t know what was going on so I wrote this paragraph very upset and he ended up leaving me on read.we didn’t talk for 2 months after that. The worst 2 months of my life. I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. He then randomly texted me one day asking me a stupid question that he already knew the answer to. After that we met up once and I talked to him about how I felt and that I wanted to know what he wants from this. He looked like he didn’t know how to respond. He went quiet and looked like he was thinking really hard. He then told me he was really overwhelmed with school and work (this was our first year of college btw) and he didn’t know if he was ready for something right now and he kept asking me what I wanted. Like an idiot I didn’t say that I wanted a relationship because I felt like he should be the one to tell me that first. We then kind of agreed to be friends even though it was weird tho- like it felt like it was not the end of anything. He was then saying as I was getting ready to leave that maybe we can continue seeing each other in this way, and I stopped him there and said I don’t do fwb and he said “that’s not what I meant” but then I cut him off because I was so upset and I ran out to my car and left. After a few weeks we started texting again and unfortunately because of the feelings I have and the lack of control we started seeing each other regularly and it almost felt like a friends w benefits situation. I know I put this on myself cuz if I wanted to I could end it rn but it’s sooo difficult for me and I feel lost. Now I need some guidance on what I should do. But what makes me situation weird is is that we never had sex, we have don’t some other things however when we see each other the “benefit” ig is long hugs, cuddling, kissing, holding hands etc. and very intimate things like that. It’s been a long time like this and I feel trapped cuz of my emotions now and don’t really know what to do anymore. I know he isn’t talking to or seeing anyone - he is a guy who never really talked to many girls- he had a lot of insecurities and he even told me a little bit when we first started talking. The last time I saw him he asked me if he was the only one I was seeing. Why is it so hard for him to call me his gf? I feel so hard to love and I’m just lost. If anyone has any ideas, thoughts or wisdom id really appreciate it. Next year he will most likely switch colleges, I feel like i would regret not trying or at least trying to understand this situation, it’ll always be in my mind. Thanks 🙏
This is the eggplant I’m enjoying at the moment lol 😂
😂You reduced him to the eggplant emoji...
He ain't getting no 🐱if he can't put a title to it. I'm sorry; that's why everyone feels broken & want to do these crazy "spiritually partnered" broken home type situations...
If two people are exclusively having sex but not in a relationship, one of them is entertaining the other until the "one" comes along.
I like that , " my lady" . I'd only accept that if we were dating but not exclusive. I've been in some messed up situationships ( pre having love for myself lol) and he's introduce me as " my homie". I don't condone sex buddy relationships but I know ppl do them, I think if its just sex then there's no reason to leave the crib lol and no reason to be introduced.
Stop freely giving away your body to man or woman who have no business being with you. Seriously stop sleeping around
We're adults, do what works for you. Just make sure you're honest with yourself about what you want and don't be afraid to ask for that.
Garcelle looks great
Who is garcelle? -my date tonight ✨✨
If you’re exclusive then you’re in a relationship…
There is more to a relationship than sex. Being “exclusive” in the bedroom does not make two people a couple.
Once you're out together thats a not just sex move cause you never introduce a friend with benefits.
"I'm not going anywhere with you" 😂😂😂😅❤ LMAOO Adrienne's too funny here 🤣🤣🤣
🤣Stick with meeeee!!!!
Omygosh it’s waaay too many situationships out here and it’s depressing. And what really pisses me off is erbody wana call each other friends even while sexing 🤦♂️
I agree !! My situation is really messed up and I need advice on what to do, if you have time to read here it is😭:
I have known this guy since elementary school- although we didn’t go to the same school, our parents work at the same place. They weren’t best friends but enough to where we would go to there house for dinner parties etc.. fast forward, we both ended up going to the same high school I always kind of had an attraction towards him a little bit but I never really gave it much thought . There would be certain things that he would do, for example when I said I was cold in class one day he came out of nowhere and grabbed my hands to warm them up, and just stuff like tht just stuck in my head, but not to the point where I had a big crush on him or thought about him everyday. Now fast forward again to senior year of Hs covid had hit and we graduated in June. Him and I never texted or anything but in July that summer he dM’d me on Instagram and then we started talking. We talked every single day for a long time and eventually it became 2 to 3 months that we were talking everyday and I was starting to grow to love him. He was so fun to talk to, i was too good to be true. I didn’t know what I did to deserve something this good. He had never been in a relationship or talked to a girl or even kissed a girl throughout high school and that was the same with me. He is like the guy version of me. He was always very immature throughout Hs and very emotionally unavailable which is why I was shocked that us talking had lasted that long. Then after speaking everyday on the phone we started hanging out in person as well and eventually had our first kiss and everything. It was all going good and then things started going downhill gradually. His friend from HS ended up passing away tragically and I was always there for him although he never told me how he felt and he always said he was fine he is very reserved with his feelings and never said how he felt and never wanted to talk about it. Slowly the conversations started getting less and less he would just snap me his face and I would snap him back without any type of conversation. When we first started talking he had always said not to leave him on read and tht he wants to see my face so I didn’t think much of it for a while but eventually I started missing talking to him. He then told me that he needed some space or time alone for a little bit which I totally understood and so I ended communication. A few days later after not speaking he snapped me his face. That was it. He never said hi he never asked how I was. Nothing. I went will it and just snapped my face back every time. Eventually after more time passed I started wondering why he was talking to me like he used to. And I directly told him look at this point I’ll be really sad if this isn’t some that that you were taking seriously and it’ll break my heart so if you want this to end please tell me and lets end it. He responding telling me tht he did not want to end it and that he does take this seriously and he didn’t want to stop talking to me. So this went on about 2 months where it was kind of distant and not talking regularly. Fast forward one day I just had enough and I just told him how come you don’t like me anymore or something like that and he replied saying that’s not true why would you think that and I told him everything that bothered me. He replied saying “maybe we should put this on pause for a while”. In that moment my heart dropped and I felt so numb that I just replied “yea I agree”, he replied with hearts and I left him on read. He was never the type of person to say how he feels or to show any emotion so I didn’t know what was going on. It made me kind of insecure cuz I didn’t know if it was me, if he didn’t like me or if something was going on w him that he I didn’t know. He also had said before that that he’d been busier lately. A few days later I just couldn’t handle it anymore and I texted him and asked what he meant by pause- if it was over for good or not really because I wanted to know what he meant by pause. He replied “idk”. And that drove me crazy because again I didn’t know what was going on so I wrote this paragraph very upset and he ended up leaving me on read.we didn’t talk for 2 months after that. The worst 2 months of my life. I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. He then randomly texted me one day asking me a stupid question that he already knew the answer to. After that we met up once and I talked to him about how I felt and that I wanted to know what he wants from this. He looked like he didn’t know how to respond. He went quiet and looked like he was thinking really hard. He then told me he was really overwhelmed with school and work (this was our first year of college btw) and he didn’t know if he was ready for something right now and he kept asking me what I wanted. Like an idiot I didn’t say that I wanted a relationship because I felt like he should be the one to tell me that first. We then kind of agreed to be friends even though it was weird tho- like it felt like it was not the end of anything. He was then saying as I was getting ready to leave that maybe we can continue seeing each other in this way, and I stopped him there and said I don’t do fwb and he said “that’s not what I meant” but then I cut him off because I was so upset and I ran out to my car and left. After a few weeks we started texting again and unfortunately because of the feelings I have and the lack of control we started seeing each other regularly and it almost felt like a friends w benefits situation. I know I put this on myself cuz if I wanted to I could end it rn but it’s sooo difficult for me and I feel lost. Now I need some guidance on what I should do. But what makes me situation weird is is that we never had sex, we have don’t some other things however when we see each other the “benefit” ig is long hugs, cuddling, kissing, holding hands etc. and very intimate things like that. It’s been a long time like this and I feel trapped cuz of my emotions now and don’t really know what to do anymore. I know he isn’t talking to or seeing anyone - he is a guy who never really talked to many girls- he had a lot of insecurities and he even told me a little bit when we first started talking. The last time I saw him he asked me if he was the only one I was seeing. Why is it so hard for him to call me his gf? I feel so hard to love and I’m just lost. If anyone has any ideas, thoughts or wisdom id really appreciate it. Next year he will most likely switch colleges, I feel like i would regret not trying or at least trying to understand this situation, it’ll always be in my mind. Thanks 🙏
@@mayab.1633 Wow that was interesting! My heart goes out to you! The best advice I can think of is self-preservation. You have to love yourself more than what your not getting. Whatever you believe in spiritually, I would say pray, meditate and take steps to maintain your sanity. He dealing with his own deep issues and you have your own life to live. I wish you love joy and peace.
@@matterspacetime4832 thank you sm🙏❤️ I appreciate that. I’m going to pray about it, and you’re right I need to live my life. Hopefully everything will work out
Adrienne speaks in a very Latina point of view, I understand her
That’s yo friend!!!! 😂😂 that’s all I kept saying the whole time. Nobody but your friend😂😂
Um exclusivity could be a temporary agreement for sexual health/safety reasons or even just convenience... it doesn't have to be that deep, there's no fear of commitment or fear of labels. And if you enjoy the person's company enough to be going places together, you are literally friends and can easily be introduced as such. Your sexual habits are irrelevant when you're going someplace as friends.
What's the difference between friends with benefits and boyfriend girlfriend
Just because you having sex with someone don’t mean you are an important part in their life
Why a.k.a because ??
Loni was cracking me up 😂
It's not anyone's business what the details or nature of your relationship is. Just introduce the person as your friend and call it a day. Why is this even an issue?
Omg I used to say Mr.Leroy to my grandmas friends too🤣
“This is my date.” Or “This is my friend.”
Love this show been following from jump. But I’m starting to be able to predict the kind of responses they will have
I agree.
And it makes me miss Jeannie even more.
So... you're exclusively having sex, going places together, introducing them to people and... you're NOT in a relationship?
If we’re just friends with benefits I’m not going to an event with you where I have to be introduced. I had a FWB ask me to go places with him and I declined bc deep down I knew he wanted something more and I didn’t.
Garcelle is a goddess ❤🥰🥰👌🏽
I don't see why we should go anywhere together if we are not in a relationship.
it means he shame of you he does not want any one to know who he is hooking up with
Why do they keep doing Loni’s lashes like that 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️they don’t need to be that thick.
The upfront answer would be “this is my friend w/ benefits”… but I agree w/ Loni … you and said person can choose the title
Just say this is my date for the evening duhhhh.....if any other questions are asked don't oblige!! Period!!
Who is gonna say who's Garcelle tho lmaooo 3:29 Garcelle is a savage sometimes tbh🤭😊😁👀👁️🥴
As long as there is respect and understanding
Ade is lowkey the funniest on here
Omg...lmao..just say this is my date ....insert name
I like how Adrienne kind of hooked them up Garcelle & loni up at the end tbh 3:39 she said nah you two are in a relationship together lmaooo 😊🤭😁😂🤣👀👁️
This is my friend (insert name) is sufficient
sneaky links are supposed to be sneaky. why are we being seen in public together 😭
Loni 😂😂😂😭
Who wants to hear this??? Very few I know. But, what's REAL is the Creator of our bodies says we should FLEE FORNICATION. Unfortunatly, its not easy to distinguish between the people of the world ie (those who have not FULLY surrendered their lives to God) and some who PROFESS to be a believer when it comes to this topic. You have to experience the feeling of cleansing after you have been down that path, to clearly understand how God hates it....like he does every other sin but He LOVES the sinner and gave His life to deliver us from its bondage. Love you ladies.
Some people aren’t religious though and don’t consider this fornication/sin. I get where you’re coming from because I believe in God too, but a lot of people don’t.
i watched this from begging till the end and here is conclusion. once again, i will never be involved in this bullshit . thx
I love when production be crackin up in the background lol
"My friend" and/or their name. Easy. You FRIENDS with benefits. If y'all both agreed to an actual relationship, open or monogamous it doesn't matter, then you should label and title yourselves.
What do you think of my situation? 😭:
I have known this guy since elementary school- although we didn’t go to the same school, our parents work at the same place. They weren’t best friends but enough to where we would go to there house for dinner parties etc.. fast forward, we both ended up going to the same high school I always kind of had an attraction towards him a little bit but I never really gave it much thought . There would be certain things that he would do, for example when I said I was cold in class one day he came out of nowhere and grabbed my hands to warm them up, and just stuff like tht just stuck in my head, but not to the point where I had a big crush on him or thought about him everyday. Now fast forward again to senior year of Hs covid had hit and we graduated in June. Him and I never texted or anything but in July that summer he dM’d me on Instagram and then we started talking. We talked every single day for a long time and eventually it became 2 to 3 months that we were talking everyday and I was starting to grow to love him. He was so fun to talk to, i was too good to be true. I didn’t know what I did to deserve something this good. He had never been in a relationship or talked to a girl or even kissed a girl throughout high school and that was the same with me. He is like the guy version of me. He was always very immature throughout Hs and very emotionally unavailable which is why I was shocked that us talking had lasted that long. Then after speaking everyday on the phone we started hanging out in person as well and eventually had our first kiss and everything. It was all going good and then things started going downhill gradually. His friend from HS ended up passing away tragically and I was always there for him although he never told me how he felt and he always said he was fine he is very reserved with his feelings and never said how he felt and never wanted to talk about it. Slowly the conversations started getting less and less he would just snap me his face and I would snap him back without any type of conversation. When we first started talking he had always said not to leave him on read and tht he wants to see my face so I didn’t think much of it for a while but eventually I started missing talking to him. He then told me that he needed some space or time alone for a little bit which I totally understood and so I ended communication. A few days later after not speaking he snapped me his face. That was it. He never said hi he never asked how I was. Nothing. I went will it and just snapped my face back every time. Eventually after more time passed I started wondering why he was talking to me like he used to. And I directly told him look at this point I’ll be really sad if this isn’t some that that you were taking seriously and it’ll break my heart so if you want this to end please tell me and lets end it. He responding telling me tht he did not want to end it and that he does take this seriously and he didn’t want to stop talking to me. So this went on about 2 months where it was kind of distant and not talking regularly. Fast forward one day I just had enough and I just told him how come you don’t like me anymore or something like that and he replied saying that’s not true why would you think that and I told him everything that bothered me. He replied saying “maybe we should put this on pause for a while”. In that moment my heart dropped and I felt so numb that I just replied “yea I agree”, he replied with hearts and I left him on read. He was never the type of person to say how he feels or to show any emotion so I didn’t know what was going on. It made me kind of insecure cuz I didn’t know if it was me, if he didn’t like me or if something was going on w him that he I didn’t know. He also had said before that that he’d been busier lately. A few days later I just couldn’t handle it anymore and I texted him and asked what he meant by pause- if it was over for good or not really because I wanted to know what he meant by pause. He replied “idk”. And that drove me crazy because again I didn’t know what was going on so I wrote this paragraph very upset and he ended up leaving me on read.we didn’t talk for 2 months after that. The worst 2 months of my life. I didn’t know how to handle my emotions. He then randomly texted me one day asking me a stupid question that he already knew the answer to. After that we met up once and I talked to him about how I felt and that I wanted to know what he wants from this. He looked like he didn’t know how to respond. He went quiet and looked like he was thinking really hard. He then told me he was really overwhelmed with school and work (this was our first year of college btw) and he didn’t know if he was ready for something right now and he kept asking me what I wanted. Like an idiot I didn’t say that I wanted a relationship because I felt like he should be the one to tell me that first. We then kind of agreed to be friends even though it was weird tho- like it felt like it was not the end of anything. He was then saying as I was getting ready to leave that maybe we can continue seeing each other in this way, and I stopped him there and said I don’t do fwb and he said “that’s not what I meant” but then I cut him off because I was so upset and I ran out to my car and left. After a few weeks we started texting again and unfortunately because of the feelings I have and the lack of control we started seeing each other regularly and it almost felt like a friends w benefits situation. I know I put this on myself cuz if I wanted to I could end it rn but it’s sooo difficult for me and I feel lost. Now I need some guidance on what I should do. But what makes me situation weird is is that we never had sex, we have don’t some other things however when we see each other the “benefit” ig is long hugs, cuddling, kissing, holding hands etc. and very intimate things like that. It’s been a long time like this and I feel trapped cuz of my emotions now and don’t really know what to do anymore. I know he isn’t talking to or seeing anyone - he is a guy who never really talked to many girls- he had a lot of insecurities and he even told me a little bit when we first started talking. The last time I saw him he asked me if he was the only one I was seeing. Why is it so hard for him to call me his gf? I feel so hard to love and I’m just lost. If anyone has any ideas, thoughts or wisdom id really appreciate it. Next year he will most likely switch colleges, I feel like i would regret not trying or at least trying to understand this situation, it’ll always be in my mind. Thanks 🙏
This segment was so messy I love it 😭
Oh I'm not going anywhere which you like..... Lmaooo Adrienne 😅😁😄🤣👁️👀😭
You are SEEING EACHOTHER?
Could you say seeing?
My friend. It's not that hard. Then ppl won't ask any more questions
Two people wasting each other’s time plus why would you be introducing someone who doesn’t want a relationship with you to anyone.
Adrienne is alllllllllllll fired up 😂
Mr leory uhhh lmaooo 😄😁😅👁️👀🤭 loniiii hahaha 🤣😂😁😂👀👁️
Adrienne looks amazing
Why are you introducing them? To whom.
Me?I'm not going anywhere with you!!! Lol made my day!
Adrienne was clearly in a bad mood today…. She should be more open and accepting of the other ladies opinion
I got that vibe from her too. Which is normal, we all have bad days!
😁😁🤣😂Loni hit the nail on the head. Just say a friend though. I'm not doing that to myself either, there's masturbation for that.
Yes Loni
Just use their name. My family or anyone that knows me will know his role. Unless I say my boyfriend, etc they know that role is more or less than what it is.
It's called friends with benefits
He’s my late night pillow talker
I'm not going anywhere with you. Super Amen! 😂😂😂 Marriage before the lay, buddy boy!
Hmmmm... I'm in such a relationship. The sex is guuuuudddd and that's it. We go out together but we ain't talking to noone else🤪. No titles and I'm loving it.
What you're describing is boyfriend girlfriend or can you explain to me how this is different
@@2sense110 It's. Just. Sex
Like that's all we meet up for. After that, we return to our lives.
Imagine how great it would be if you were more then a sperm reciprocal l😣😅😂 You will understand oneday.😙
@@lindajohnson8118 I know for a fact that there are women who enjoy arrangement that others would frown upon. Ex. 3somes, 1night stand, lesbianism. Some people do them just for the experience While others seek them out
@@lindajohnson8118 excuse you in your little, insignificant box. The sex is just one part of my very fulfilled life. I get that need well met and go on to accomplish great things in other aspects OF MY LIFE.
You be joyless and sexless if you want. I'm not in your panties so stop looking into mine.