Letting Go Of Perfectionism
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ต.ค. 2024
- The problem with perfectionism. The perfectionist trap, and how perfectionism can stifle your creativity and lead to depression.
Do you see yourself as a perfectionist? Is that positive or negative? By its nature, perfectionism can be either, so it's up to YOU to decide which path you take. In this video, Chris talks about the difference between positive and negative perfectionism, and how each can effect you.
#Perfectionism
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Doing something imperfectly is better than doing nothing perfectly
Noted. Thank You, Nadia
I know this, but I'd still rather do nothing perfectly than do something imperfectly. I'm a damaged person.
Yes! Done is better than perfect. 🥰
''Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it.'' - Salvador dalí
Is this artist's face not the one in Money Heist?
This video is exactly what I needed to hear going into this new year. Here's to a year of failing and learning/ growing from them 🥂
I find that the more daunting something is and the more you struggle with it, the more you are learning and breaking your own mold. Good stuff Chris, keep these short video's coming!
Absolutely!!
Very true , i just itemise them tasks and i do them bit by bit starting with what is important .
This is a really valuable and important message. I can't state its importance enough
Chris, I've been stuck in the same rut for the past couple of years without realizing it was my perfectionism holding me back. I've had enough. This video came at the right time and I'm ready to move forward.
Perfection monster is gnawing at me. I haven’t felt creatively paralyzed in a long time.
I think I need to try something I’ve never done and simply humble myself to the level of a student again.
Thanks for the video.
Staircase is a beautiful analogy. I was referred here by my fellow architects. I really appreciate you channel.
Thanks for sharing. I have become the first type of perfectionist through prayers.
This is the best thing I've heard about my position.
Always hitting with some knowledge I need to hear at the moments I need to hear them
Very nice. 😊 Healthy perfectionism is seeking the ideal state.
I also feel it's heavily influenced by social media like Instagram, where you always want your latest work to shine the brightest. Nowadays I see more and more artists re-posting old work, not because they are lazy (as I used to think) but sometimes it's nice to bring back something nice from your past and say 'hey, that thing I did last year was pretty cool'.
I really love short videos like this, it serves as a reminder when I'm feeling too overwhelmed with practicing and breaking out of my shell.
I'll slowly start to do new things and practice again, and let go of being perfect. Thank you Chris! Happy new year
You are as good as how ‘not afraid of failure’ you are
I always remind myself of this everytime I make content for my channel. I want it to be good but I try not to overthink to the point of not hindering myself to upload it. 😊
Happy new year sir hopefully 2021 should be a victorious year, your have transform the way I think in business rapidly. Thanks allot.
I feel wasted 3 years as an artist too focused on making masterpiece paintings, i didn't make any at all
Try other ways man...I wish you good luck and I'm sure you will succeed.
I'm in a similiar boat here.. I also didnt know if the work would actually bring in clients lol
It always seems that if I try to be original, I get the sense (from previous results) that It didnt get me any visits, likes or comments. let alone followers.. I only recieved decent results when I copied or heavily based my work of whats already populair..
Its almost seems that the same thing called "being creative" is not being vaildated at all.. polishing it with nice photography or typography doesnt do Diddly-dick. what a joke..
There's nothing wrong with aiming for perfection.
The key is to accept that nothing will ever be perfect - this gives you a more balanced mindset that allows you to continuously improve while accepting and learning from your failures but it pushes you past the 'good enough' mindset that plagues most people nowadays, while avoiding procrastination.
The idea that perfectionism is evil is a complete myth.
This was an awesome, eloquent summarization of the ways it holds us back and need to be shared in schools. I'm really glad I started today with this video. ❤
Progress over perfection. Progress over perfection. Progress over perfection.
"Perfect is an imperfect term."
I definitely needed to hear this. Perfect timing! Thank you Chris for sharing this.
I really needed to hear this, thank you so much for all you efforts and time you give us!
Keep doing and you will become better every time you do that task on reapeted bases ✨
A good follow-up discussion for this would be to find out where the pursuit of excellence ends and where perfectionism begins. We're all in different states of proficiency in the things that we do and it's easy to make an assumption that what we're doing is good enough and anything more is just perfectionism.
Exactly! I was once afraid to start with graphics but I observed I get better everyday even though I don't always meet people's expectations.
It's the process that matters
Man I love this video! It's such a good message. For the longest time I found a formula of artwork that people liked and I enjoyed creating it but every year or two I like to really change up my style and try new things. The majority of my audience wouldn't respond to it and I would back away from it. It felt like I was pigeon holed into one style. There are artists who are happy to keep making the same style of artwork but if you're not and you feel forced into doing the same thing to "people please" it really sucks. It took me a long time to realize that my happiness and experimentation is more important than some unhappy followers.
Thank you Chris for the awesome lessons this year 💎💎💎💎
Speaking as a person who struggles to get something down because I want the first draft to be the final product (or to put it another way, the perpetual note on my lifelong report card is 'struggles to start and complete projects'), this is a welcome year-end message.
One kind of silly way I have confronted my perfectionism problem is to go deep on pandemic self-barbering. Of course I usually look at the results a couple days later, think 'hmmm... not quite right' go in for an adjustment, and mess it up even worse.
Happy new year everyone 🎊
Happy new year! 🎉🎊
Happy new year, guys! Thank you for all for this awesome content :)
The only channel I have turned notifications on. Happy New year Chris!
Happy new year! 🎉🎊
Excellent breakdown Chris. Thanks so much!
Thank you also for the bite size lesson.
Glad it was helpful!
This is the number one problem I'm working in fixing this next quarter in my business
This is awesome, thank you!!!
Thanks for this Chris
This is the precise message I needed to begin 2021 with. Thank you, @ChrisDo!
Thanks Matthew
Thank you Futur!
I just decided to remake a sketch I did 2years ago and I was just thinking about me wanting to create a meaningful body of work... And all I could think of is the attention to detail (my OCD "weakness").
But I just decided to take it one sketch at a time, of course I'll need to do some research work on a few things when I'm done with the sketches.
I really like this guy!
great advice to start of 2021
Yeah I think that second one has been with be subconsciously! Whenever I try new things I'm always afraid that it might not work out as intended it to be and I always revert back to what I did that worked but yes after a while I get the feeling of being stuck and unmotivated. Thank you Chris for sharing this!
You’re very welcome
The cost of perfection is infinite.
Most of the time 80% is good enough.
Imperfections are part of the display of life. Joy and sorrow, birth and death are the dance of existence throughout which our awakened consciousness can shine. Yet we long for perfection. The perfect partner, house, job, boss, and spiritual teacher. And when we find them, we want them to stay that way forever, never to lose the glow, never to grow old, never to have the roof sag, the paint peeling. We’re also taught to seek perfection in ourselves. Novelist Florida Scott Maxwell writes, “No matter how old a mother is, she looks at her middle-age children for signs of improvement.” You are told that if you do enough therapy, work out at the gym, eat an especially healthy diet, watch documentaries on TV, manage your cholesterol, and meditate enough, you will become more perfect. - Jack Kornfield
Thank you ! I needed this.. :"C
Great video. Happy New year Chris
Happy new year 🎊
Videos always out on time
Thank you, I find this very valuable for me, I have one small task to do for Uni since two years already.. never started it because I wanna make it perfect. But I really should just start and see where it gets me. Happy New Year!
That's what I've been doing for my end semester project, and now I feel so stressed and demotivated because time is almost up and I have so much left to do that I know it won't turn out as good as I wanted it to be. :(
Happy New Year and I hope you can be satisfied with what you end up doing, no matter how it turns out. The key is to stop thinking and start doing. Ganbatte!!!
@@swaralipandare2932 On no to bad for you :( Just make the best out of it, maybe it'll turn out great nevertheless! :) Or maybe try something else that will save you some time and play with what you can do, might get a very interesting outcome and other challenge. Thxx!! Now I really have to start it haha
@@tamara6360 Thanks, I'll do that!!! :')
Great insight on Perfectionism. Hmm, is that why Lexus got rid of its old slogan, “The Pursuit of Perfect?” Did Chris and The Futur crew have a talk with Lexus? 🤔
Haha. It’s a very Japanese concept. To make something as perfect as possible.
Great sound advice! 🙌
Thank you for this 🥺
You're so welcome!
Happy new year Chris. You helped me get a 6 figure client at 19!
amazing! where do you live? tell me more.
@@thefutur I am from Texas. Me and my business partner got the deal with a luxury real estate company. They are a team that does millions in sales; we got a monthly deal to make content for them. I believe we could have gotten a better, or different deal, but to be 19 and getting this much experience, and capital, it is great. I am always welcome to answer more questions. I am not part of the pro-group, but I have a playlist here on TH-cam of all the videos that got me to where I am. Almost 95% are from you!
@@thefutur Before this deal, I was going to work an office job creating internal content for $20 an hour for a different company, but my teachers and your videos persuaded me against it. I was able to say no that job offer, thanks to a role play video I saw of yours.
happy for you Jerzy!
perfection is subjective.
You'll never find out what would happen if you never give it a try. Big advice for 2021.
Sometimes I feel paralyzed when designing something new. I don't have a shortage of ideas. I just don't want to put something out there, and my team is like rad, wtf is this?
Same
So what do you do then??? I feel that way all the time and I end up not doing anything to the very end.
@@swaralipandare2932 I work as a product designer. My design challenges usually could be solved by these steps.
Step 1: Re-examine the problem and user research. Do you understand why you are making it?
Step 2: Make a checklist of all the requirements needed to resolve the challenge problem/challenge.
Step 3: Develop a low fi wire to capture the checklist. Also, make small annotations on your wire to explain your reasoning.
Step 4: Try to share often with the team. Try to create a dialogue between your team. You can’t learn by hiding.. Trust me
Honestly, this is a mental thing so you have to just change your perspective. You can always make it through.
@@radcliffesaddler4047 As someone who wants to be a product designer and struggles a lot with this when learning thanks so much for this comment. I’ve saved the steps. Good luck overcoming it and getting better at just getting something out there! I believe in you! 😁
Chris, really great topic! But I felt like I haven’t received and answer.
I have an issue with spending more time than I planned on perfecting 1 piece of work whereas I could just accept the level of perfect and use this time to start the next piece.
I just always feel like I could do more research, I could change the colours of presentation again etc etc. And I think the problem is because there are so many options available to us, it makes me confused eventually. Do you think maybe sometimes it’s not the problem of perfectionisms but actually the problem of making the decision?
Yes. They are one and the same. Deadlines help.
I needed to hear this
Really good and really needed. So agree with Nadia below. I need to practice it as well even more. Anyway, the music is making me extremely sleepy which is under the video a :D haha. I can't really focus on what Chris saying. :P Can I suggest to choose another music next time what keeps motivated and will focus easily? :D hope you do not mind that i mentioned it. :)
Thank you for the feedback
I think I sometimes want to volt to the end result right away and that's my problem. When I don't see results right away, I want to give up.
Thank You Chris :)
My pleasure!
Fantastic video ✅ Love all of your videos
Thank you Cole
Practice makes you better not perfect ❤️
Finished is better than perfect is a great mindset for personal projects. I did a project for a client and they've come back 3 times wanting revisions (nit-picking small details). They seem to value perfect more than finished. How would you suggest hanging this type of situation?
Thank you for this video 😊 I think I get it now 👾 Btw happy new year 🥳
Thanks. Happy new year to you too.
Happy new year to the futur team! 🎉✨💖
Thank you. Happy new year! 🎉🎊 🎈
Nice glasses! Enjoy a Blessed Year!
Thank you. You too. Happy new year! 🎉🎊
Its hard for me to let go of perfectionism. Maybe this will help
Done > Perfect
The Seconds one was very true to me i recognize it to my chess Progress and my Humor disappearing . I Play 8 years of chess the First 3 years i Made really good Progress and as a Kid , i got Lots of good expactations . then i feared to loose and wanted to Stop playing chess but j kelt playing and really tried tonmake Progress but now 5 years later i progressed only a bit . So thanks for Clearing my head i will See how i get rid of this .
2:02 הריקוד הזה היה נפלא
It's OK to expect "hiccup" when starting out on new engagement. But when you don't quit when there's no quick results, eventually in the long run, you'll achieve commensurate results.
Whenever I see the phrase "letting go", the song Let it Go pops up in my head 😂
It’s a catchy song.
I believe in doing the best you can, knowing it can never be perfect in everyone's eyes, and that's perfectly normal (pun intended :)
Don't try to be perfect try to be wonderful, this awakes creativity inside you!
Happy new year guys!!! And don't be afraid to finish the unfinished things, You can do it. ^_~
The first perfectionism I call *attention to detail*
It's important to be in a profession where that is encouraged.
I.e My mom works in IT. She is called crazy for caring about the smaller things. But in a design agency, she'd be called a good creative.
(Not sure what the point of that story was but you might take something from it.)
It's also worth noting that being perceived as crazy for caring about the smaller things can still happen in a design agency setting (due to time and budget constraints). The bottom line matters in this setting just as much as in any other business. Perfectionists should benefit from implementing the 80/20 rule, where 80% of results come from 20% of efforts.
We can't skip the steps. Steps are boring, time-taking and deviating but creating the levels of empire.
The hardest part is believing it is possible and being able to make progress. Do you have any videos on how to have confidence in yourself? Even after a decade of being in a profession, I still don't feel worthy of anything better than my current situation. Sometimes I don't even feel worthy of my current job.
Have you seen the video on belief system and limiting beliefs?
@@thefutur no, I'll check it out
as a creative, i prefer direction over autonomy. autonomy is often paralysing for a perfectionist!
How do I explain thing like you, so my friends can understand what I,m trying to improve upon.
Perfect timing. I get infinitely frustrated with music because it's never good enough
You're speaking my language Vleker, i can produce good beats but i just cant mix for the lif of me i dont even enjoy it . ill find myself trying to mix for 8 hours every day it will sound good today then the following week when i listen to it again, it will just sound crappy . Solution : i Just outsource both mixing and mastering and i stick to making beat atleast i can keep my royalties on that as a producer . so i'll suggest to find audio engineer online that u trust. that way u can save time and labour which u ca never gain back ever but u can make money at anytime . Learnt that from Chris. Is like using SWAT analysis technique to approach this things.
@@christset I think a lot of musician suffer from this. I have it especially when tracking vocals or guitars. If you don't like mixing then don't do it as you say. But a tip, don't mix for 8 hours. Maybe try for an hour and take a break. Your ears get tired quickly and after a few hours everything will sound different so when you come back to it with clean ears you'll question everything you've done. It can be fun, but it takes a lot of time to learn and you have to do it quickly. If I had the money to outsource it I would, but I'm saving up to outsource mastering for my first EP! Hopefully I can outsource mixing later on :)
@@MrVleker Very true, i tried all that but i realised that i dont enjoy it, so i found away to outsource it to a proffesional instead . i just hate mixing it's like i know what i want to hear. but just cant finalise my mxing . Perhaps ill try some classes online if time permits me though . So far, i understand the basic principle of mixing u like panning and starting with clean instrumentation to bring about clarity when mixeing . but my problems are not understanding what all these plugings does and not knowing when to stop mixing . i'm like mr perfection like Dr dre lol so i had to give up mixing my self for now . cos thats all i need to start selling beats online but i just couldnt mix so i gave up that dream. for now i just do my own music and send them to the enginer to mix and master meanwhile, i know how build beat store website for producers but mixing thing killed y dream . i'm goig to learn it later when i have the time am i have to study music theory first . cos every thing i did was self thought.
@@christset I mean, if you don't like it then don't do it. If you know the basics and if you can explain what you want to your mixer then it's all fine. I totally get it and mixing is also not my favorite thing. I get caught up in it during production and I know it can always be better, although music will never be perfect. It's a fine line. Especially when doing it all yourself it's easy to get caught up in jt
@@MrVleker Same here, you're right . exactly my process and and how i operate with sound engineer . i let them know what i want for the mixing and once the track is mixed, i then give it someone to someone who specialise in mastering songs only for a fresh ears when mastering . , as i dont want the audio enginner to biased when mixing .
done is better than perfect.
What do say about website designers and graphic designers that always say affordable graphic designer ,affordable website designer . Isn't that selling yourself short .
8. accept that nothing will be perfect
Preach!
Perfectionism IS CRITICAL ... in My field. Which is computer programming. A single mis-spelling, or comma, out of place, can produce failure. The program may "crash". Or, worse, produce incorrect output data. That goes un-noticed.
Perfectionism is an unrealistic goal. You should always strife to give your best but let's be honest. It's all an huge process with every step being a new experience you make. Perfectionism looks like it's the end of the road when there actually isn't one. What's perfect to you is also quite debatable to other people.
Is there a sequel... like how to shift from the 2nd, strategies, encouragement, the positive side
There isn’t. Yet.
This is hurting me so much. Sometimes I can’t even leave a comment because I think (my English) is not good.
Can you enroll in a course?
U can take english classes onlne 6 months later, u will find you self speaking english properly . my spelling is not good too but i'll enrol too . i cant do public speaking too, but it's needed nowadays especially with social media . So i 'm going to have to find toast master and learn.
It's perfectly fine to make mistakes, even native English speakers make terrible grammatical mistakes sometimes. Keep going 🤗
Seems to me the key is to just let go and Chris Do more than to Chris Don't
If I Could Give This Video 1 Million Likes I Would Not Think Twice Doing That Thank You alot
Thank you Holub. happy new year.
@@thefutur Thank You Happy New Year May This Year Brings You Everything You Wanted and Deserve stay Safe and Keep Posting That Amazing Content I am Glad That You Joined TH-cam Channel You Inspired Me To Do Better Than Before
Thank You Soo Much
and that's what matters Chris do the rapper hahah
1 million subscribers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yasss
whats your opinion chris on the differnce between perfectionist and excellence.
we should strive for excellence as I described in the first "healthy" form of perfectionism.
I understand.
But im not sure i understand perfectly.
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Hopefully I can turn this into a fully developed illustration 🤧😭😤
Who in their right mind disliked this video...
they commented so you can see.
I came here just to read one special comment where is it Chris?
Why don’t you become the change you seek?
@@thefutur Happy New year *_*
u talk about finding the path, that perfect thing u wanna start doing and learn, but i am the only one that feels empty when it comes to this kind of questions? Like what problem can u solve and i just sit there and look empty, cause i have no idea of a problem solving businesses
Find a problem worth solving.
@@thefutur that is the thing, u never know where to start, and that is bugging me all the time, i don't know where and how to start in finding the problem, like in design, i know pretty much all the toold and programs i need, but i don t find something to design/create and that is my problem
you can try google trends to see what people are searching for. you can also check a site called Answerthepublic.com
@@yunusundead4047 I guess u start from the hobbiesu like the most and what people say you're good at .2 Ask people around you like you'r familiy or friends that if they have a magic wand ,what problem would they like to get solved, once u get the answer, then you're in business providing a solution to thier problems and the money will come . like they say, birds of the same feather flocks together they will recommend you to thier friends that thinks alike . suggestion : aways look at things from a problem solving perspective not from "i need to make this money quick perspective ". once you're able to solve that problem money will automatically come. So, look around your house from what you're wearing, your computer , and ask yourself , what problems are they solving for u, when u bought them devices example your phone, your computer table , your socks, spoon in the kitchen, your toilet seat all that lol . Hope these help . if they work remember to cutyour boy a cheque Yunus lol just kidding.