3 Steps to figure out your Sexuality

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  • @mochi__26
    @mochi__26 4 ปีที่แล้ว +267

    The difference between Sexuality and Identity is something very simple yet something alot of people dont understand. I remember my mom being very very confused that if your nonbinary how could someone be bisexual. Or the difference between Bisexual and Bigender. So really, pay attention to the word "sexual" and "gender" at the end of every lgbtq+ labels.

    • @vioblion2053
      @vioblion2053 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Uhhh
      What's the difference between transsexual and transgender?

    • @mochi__26
      @mochi__26 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@vioblion2053 transsexual is when you have had gender reassignment surgery and transgender is both but transexual is just more specific i think..

    • @Al_-cf1dj
      @Al_-cf1dj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@vioblion2053 I'm pretty sure transgender doesn't automatically entail surgery but transsexual means that you had surgery to match your sex and your gender but transgender doesn't mean that they didn't have surgery only that you don't identify with the sex you've been assigned at birth

    • @vioblion2053
      @vioblion2053 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Al_-cf1dj ahh
      Okay thank you for the explanation

  • @techniphobia4816
    @techniphobia4816 4 ปีที่แล้ว +498

    I'm graysexual, I experience only mild sexual attraction. I've had to explain graysexuality to many people but I'm true to myself so I don't really care about having to explain myself whenever I tell someone I'm graysexual.

  • @sarahpersonal
    @sarahpersonal 4 ปีที่แล้ว +597

    Me: *Already Biromantic Asexual and has come out to my parents*
    Also me: oooo! Interesting!

  • @cathytee6024
    @cathytee6024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +108

    I’m not homosexual, I’m not bisexual, I’m not heterosexual, I’m not asexual, I’m not pan sexual, I’m not questioning, and I’m definitely not a label! I like whoever I like, and I support whoever you are! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

    • @dinoavenger
      @dinoavenger ปีที่แล้ว +19

      ​​@@rsky812 it's because people want to describe their sexuality in a word without needing to explain the whole concept to the person. And if you figure out you (for example) like boys, girls, etc. then just find the term for your sexuality. It's easy and that is why most people like it.

    • @spaghetto9836
      @spaghetto9836 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@rsky812Because it's useful for clarifying to & interacting with others. And bc human beings love naming common things. We aren't islands.
      If I existed on my own, I'd have no need to have a name for myself, but friends, family and people who crush on me are going to ask why I'm not interested in anyone, or when I'm getting married & why, to which I'll have to clarify my asexuality. Which is important information since I live among them and want them to stop asking in a way that satiates their curiosity.
      Or if you're in a setting where mating is the goal, clarifying who you like (e.x. "bisexual") helps categorize/narrow down options more neatly to find & be found.
      And finally, it gives a sense of relief and self-realization after years of confusion when you figure out what you are. There's an element of expression to it, the same reason why cavemen invented writing & singing.
      I don't like when people, straight or queer, say there's no reason to label your sexuality. There is. You can not prefer it yourself while acknowledging it's valid for others.

    • @dinoavenger
      @dinoavenger ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@rsky812its for the sake of simplicity and im not sure why i would comment here

    • @blue_phenix1364
      @blue_phenix1364 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is 100% valid too! This is my gender honestly. Like my gender is what the f* and my pronouns are any set of letters you can find in an alleyway 😂

    • @Mold_Hearts
      @Mold_Hearts 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Im just cooked bro

  • @someonesomeone25
    @someonesomeone25 4 ปีที่แล้ว +552

    Reminder: its fine to be gay, lesbian, bi, pan, straight, trans, cis, ace, allo, poly, NB, objectum, demi, grey, ficto, or anything else except harmful or insincere. You are valid and great as you are. And if you ever change then thats valid and fine too.

    • @someonesomeone25
      @someonesomeone25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@erwinrommel6987 I suspect you are not being sincere.
      I have only two criteria in accepting someone's self-identification: they must be sincere (so no doing a Lauren Southern or Piers Morgan), and they must have a 'followable' reason for their identification (even if I disagree with their reasoning, so long as it has some justification and isn't babbling).

    • @r_yn2695
      @r_yn2695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@erwinrommel6987 Not funny didn't laugh

    • @r_yn2695
      @r_yn2695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@erwinrommel6987 i mean im trans but people had already overused this joke

    • @shedotshearts
      @shedotshearts 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@erwinrommel6987 I don’t think the attack helicopter is funny anymore either.

    • @erwinrommel6987
      @erwinrommel6987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@shedotshearts But Sturmvogel-262 is. ✈

  • @tim-myton6361
    @tim-myton6361 4 ปีที่แล้ว +787

    Personally, I identify as aromantic and bisexual. Not sure what else to say other than thanks Lorenzo.

    • @breadsalmon
      @breadsalmon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      hang on, how can you be aromantic AND bisexual? I'm not questioning, but can somebody please explain it to me?

    • @prod4kay
      @prod4kay 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@breadsalmon you can sexually attracted to people, but not romantically attracted to them. being aro bi means you don’t feel romantic attraction but you’re sexually attracted to people

    • @breadsalmon
      @breadsalmon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@prod4kay ohh ok. ty!

    • @prod4kay
      @prod4kay 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@breadsalmon and to correct myself even more, bisexual means being attracted to 2 or more genders, so not all "people", that would be pansexual

    • @mistydraqonquit1891
      @mistydraqonquit1891 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@prod4kay so they are sexually attracted but not romantically?? How?

  • @katelin1692
    @katelin1692 4 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    I am a non binary pansexual mess that is being forced into the closet...

    • @savannahnoname3250
      @savannahnoname3250 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      That’s really sad. I’m sorry😕 I hope things go well for you, don’t give up! You are perfect just the way you are! I’m a straight, cis girl (well more specifically demi, but still just attracted to men.) so I can’t give the best advice. But I’m routing for you!

    • @Huh-n1y
      @Huh-n1y 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lol

    • @andymarie
      @andymarie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope you’re doing well it it may be tough but the community supports you! 🏳️‍🌈

    • @beeboop9953
      @beeboop9953 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      i was outed :D

    • @NatureLover-pj2qe
      @NatureLover-pj2qe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same 😔

  • @verendu562
    @verendu562 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    I’m trying to figure out if I’m bisexual or straight? I don’t know what tf I am-

  • @whz84
    @whz84 3 ปีที่แล้ว +96

    I’m 15 year old guy, and I’m pretty confident that I’m straight, but I think I might be bi. This video definitely helped.

    • @erronn.
      @erronn. 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      tusk act 4 pfp?

    • @ananimatorsjourney9087
      @ananimatorsjourney9087 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      to clarify I'm not someone who won't accept you, I'm just sayin I seen a lot of people come out and then get kicked out. then again I grew up a while ago, shit changes.

    • @luisavalderrama1822
      @luisavalderrama1822 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

  • @spencergoth1cgutz205
    @spencergoth1cgutz205 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I used to confuse wanting male attention with being attracted to them, the lesbian masterdoc really helped me.

  • @anayaweick7964
    @anayaweick7964 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I’m not sure if I’m ace or not. I definitely feel attraction and I’d like to cuddle maybe, but I just don’t feel sexual attraction. So far I’ve been “the only straight child in my family” (Bi, pan, aromantic, and me). I want a relationship, but I’ve always classified things like hugging as romantic and don’t hug family members because hugs are about as special as I can be with a person. My family thinks it’s some weird PTSD, which is why I’ve been so skeptical of if I’m actually ace or not. I mean, I was young when the incident they’re referencing happened (11-ish), it was long before a person would feel sexual attraction. I’ve never been able to convince my family and friends that I’m actually ace because they know about “the issue.”

    • @bigmanthomas
      @bigmanthomas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Ok this is me I’m not sexually attached to people i just prefer a big hug, cuddles, short kiss(no bad stuff) and someone who actually cares about my pronouns.

    • @ziwuri
      @ziwuri 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm very sorry that happened to you. Take your time, nobody's forcing you to come up with a label. Although what you're describing sounds very ace to me.

    • @cradica
      @cradica ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm not sure. I think I may have had feelings for one person once (or at least was interested in dating them) though I'm pretty sure I don't feel romantic attraction anymore. There was also another girl I seem to be on the fence of weather or not I liked her.

  • @mbeatshoney6152
    @mbeatshoney6152 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    I figured out that Im Bi and that I am falling hard for my best friend (girl). Im scared that if i told her i have feelings for her, she might be straight and that would end up ruining our friendship-

    • @savannahnoname3250
      @savannahnoname3250 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Well, I hope things go well for you! If you wanted to try at all you could always ask her what her preferences are. It wouldn’t have to come across as romantic. I feel like that is a pretty normal question to anyone who isn’t homophobic.

    • @eloiseobrien-brown70
      @eloiseobrien-brown70 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's the same with me but my bestie is lesbian

    • @mbeatshoney6152
      @mbeatshoney6152 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      ty for the support ^^ Funny thing is that she confessed to me. I'm rlly happy ^^

    • @thebisses887
      @thebisses887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mbeatshoney6152 Oh wow, congrats!

    • @lovelyiced7608
      @lovelyiced7608 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Probably ask her if she's straight and if she asks why just say i just wanna know or it's just a joke but I want a honest answer and say I support you just in case (I'm late just noticed)

  • @itsskxrma_
    @itsskxrma_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Ok I'm going to guess something because I'm a bit confused and correct me if I am wrong.
    So, I know asexual is when you feel no sexual attraction to anyone, so I'm going to guess aromantic is when you feel no romantic feelings toward anybody?
    If so then I think I've found what I identify as, even if I'm only on step 2 at the moment.
    I'm gonna finish the video. lol
    Edit: Now I'm a little confused.. so, you can be romantically attracted to someone and sexually attracted to someone. But in my situation I really feel neither of these things toward anyone.. so now I don't know anymore... Please help p-q
    Edit 2: Read a comment. No longer confused. I identify as asexual and aromantic :>

    • @ultimatewierdo1525
      @ultimatewierdo1525 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Eyy join the confused club! Always awkward when friends start talking about crushes? Yes sire! Most of the time people don't remember I don't wanna bang people? Yes sire!

    • @nikkohimari
      @nikkohimari 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hi fellow ace
      I’m still not sure of my romantic preferences so hello

    • @multiverseleader101
      @multiverseleader101 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Welcome to the community.

    • @caitykat6472
      @caitykat6472 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too! I'm glad you figured it out. : )

  • @imalloi655
    @imalloi655 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    I finally found my sexuality- I’m an omniromantic pansexual-

    • @vetkap1
      @vetkap1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Cool! You're valid! 😊

    • @richardrobinson8081
      @richardrobinson8081 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I'm gay

    • @astral_gamer9483
      @astral_gamer9483 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thats wonderfull

    • @AlextheHomo
      @AlextheHomo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@richardrobinson8081 me too 😄

    • @Randomperson-lc4le
      @Randomperson-lc4le 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@millie5188 do you want to go out of ur country because of it?

  • @rosalindarios4548
    @rosalindarios4548 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Um i don't know if. Im bi or not and i 11 pretty young when i saw this girl something felt like i liked her or something tingled in my stomach.

    • @HappyTrees_
      @HappyTrees_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I am round about the same age and I'm lesbian. There isn't a wrong time to feel that way. If you are sure about your sexuality, then you probably are and that's fine!

    • @inikadwivedi1941
      @inikadwivedi1941 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      same girl except she put her head on my shoulder, and I got butterflies. That's when I first started questioning my sexuality, bc before I kinda assumed that the default was straight even tho it's not.

    • @Zoelavernee
      @Zoelavernee 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      maybe you should grow up and see what happens

    • @luckysmarie7524
      @luckysmarie7524 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      If you felt something then more than likely you are. I know what you mean by that and it really does suck to not be able to tell them. I had to stick with the feelings for 3 or 2 years. I later told my sister who didn’t believe me. But trust me you more than likely are. No matter the age. I recommend looking back at your childhood friends. Girl or boy. You might even figure out you had a crush on a girl without even knowing what different sexuality’s were

  • @Catlover_ana
    @Catlover_ana 4 ปีที่แล้ว +245

    idk if im bisexual and have a strong preference for women, or im just a lesbian lmao

    • @theonewhoescapesdreams
      @theonewhoescapesdreams 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Haha, same. I mean, I "dated" a boy and thought I had a crush on the other but now I'm just not really sure. I need a bit more time to fivure out, so right now I'm delaing with my mess of a gender.

    • @alecisd3ad13
      @alecisd3ad13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      To be bisexual you don't have to like 50 50 to boys and girls like me I'm a bit more sexually and romaticly attracted to boys but for woman I have to have a bit of a bond first and I'm more romantically but still sexually also take your time don't rush things

    • @raedotnet4534
      @raedotnet4534 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      same lol - im still exploring to see if i actually am attracted to boys or not.
      edit: i did some digging on the sexuality wiki, and i now believe that I am either finsexual or femmesexual. I am attracted to women, along with more feminine-looking men and enbys.

    • @alecisd3ad13
      @alecisd3ad13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@raedotnet4534 that's good :)

    • @plagiaprism
      @plagiaprism 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@raedotnet4534 hi there! heads up: don’t group people into trans and cis when talking about sexualities and what genders you’re attracted to, just label them as what they are, without the add ons! i’ve found that it can actually be harmful in some cases and is a way of invalidating someone’s gender c:

  • @mi_ri_ki
    @mi_ri_ki 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Is nobody going to talk about how much they are cute?
    Also, my grammar be like : goodbye my lover, goodbye my friend-

  • @clxdyz_2
    @clxdyz_2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    me, a pansexual who didnt need help figuring out my sexuality: *My goals are beyond your understanding*

    • @Stuffyim
      @Stuffyim 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      me: Finally a Pan buddyyyyyyy!! It took so long to find youuuu!
      also me: *sees your comment saying you didn't need help* howwwwwww (i literally just found out im pan a few minuets ago bc of a random sexuality test on TH-cam)

    • @clxdyz_2
      @clxdyz_2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Stuffyim lol i did get help it was just from friends who know more about LGBT things than i do

    • @TinNguyen-rl2xr
      @TinNguyen-rl2xr 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Me a radical straight cisgender who is anti LGBTQ and radical right : hmm yes interesting

    • @clxdyz_2
      @clxdyz_2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TinNguyen-rl2xr no

    • @TinNguyen-rl2xr
      @TinNguyen-rl2xr 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@clxdyz_2 yes

  • @Cali-P
    @Cali-P 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    1:59 thanks for this! This is the thing my mom was most confused about when I came out as bi. I’m romantically attracted not sexually. I’m to young for that.

  • @katelinhartman1779
    @katelinhartman1779 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I've been exploring my sexuality a lot recently and for now I've "declared" myself as Demisexual and Biromantic because it's the most fitting for me. This video really helped me understand sexualities and almost confirm mine!

  • @lam92223
    @lam92223 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    so far I only know I am not hetero. I still in confusion and unable to get appropriate labels on me about these. I feel complicated about myself and not fit in typical cases on web.
    When searching in web for info, the more I read I more is feel stressful and dizzy. I know what I want and feel, but describe it need lots of words.
    My parents not much care and simply reply 'labeling is bad, no one is always fit. person are unique. just live happily'
    And I went dial to LGBT+ support hotline, the guy on other side said, "labels will not make your life easier and happier. and your parents are right. since you have no issue with ppl around you, just live whatever you want"
    So, I am not exactly coming out, also not really in closet. But I feel a bit insecure about these. Idk what I am. I fear I will hurt my future potential partner if I meet someone good. I feel so hard to explain. I worry that maybe all my issue is just me having too much fantasy. Or, I just sub consciously want to be special? I just mess up. my mind mangled.

  • @Alex-ui5qn
    @Alex-ui5qn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    Im ace. 😁

    • @tuesdaywithanh
      @tuesdaywithanh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hi ace I'm d a d

    • @Alex-ui5qn
      @Alex-ui5qn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@tuesdaywithanh hello father

    • @Alex-ui5qn
      @Alex-ui5qn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@tuesdaywithanh may I have some food father.

    • @tuesdaywithanh
      @tuesdaywithanh 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Alex-ui5qn yes of course, just not the leftover pizza, that's mine

    • @Alex-ui5qn
      @Alex-ui5qn 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@tuesdaywithanh what about chicken nuggets? uwu

  • @marzbarzsz
    @marzbarzsz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I liked my friend because she’s quite beautiful in my vision, we are both artistic. We stick around each other most in school (because idk her address) we help each other when hurt, I’m pretty sure she has a crush on me to, but I’m still not sure. She does call me traitor when I play with someone else at school. Please tell me if that would be a sign of love in the comments.

    • @marzbarzsz
      @marzbarzsz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Also I’m a girl,

    • @marzbarzsz
      @marzbarzsz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Apple Pencil maybe, but it’s to bad that I had to move.

    • @soaringpuppy4042
      @soaringpuppy4042 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marzbarzsz I know this is a weird question and you don’t have to answer but is your name jade?

    • @marzbarzsz
      @marzbarzsz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@soaringpuppy4042 nope-

    • @soaringpuppy4042
      @soaringpuppy4042 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@marzbarzsz ah sorry

  • @Nixxie_Official66
    @Nixxie_Official66 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As an Aroace and genderfluid, i like all the things you have said in this video, so i just want to thank you❤

    • @SomeoneYouDontKnow014
      @SomeoneYouDontKnow014 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Nixxie_Official66 could you pls tell me what that means😭

    • @Nixxie_Official66
      @Nixxie_Official66 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SomeoneYouDontKnow014 of course! Genderfluid means your gender changes over time, and aroace means you have no romantic or sexual attraction to anyone

  • @brayxen458
    @brayxen458 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Depending on ur age, u will be at different stages on this journey.
    Really.
    *me figuring out I was lesbian at ten years of age and already having 3 exes at 12:*

    • @lunegaming481
      @lunegaming481 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can u help me

    • @Sparkshot99
      @Sparkshot99 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Please help me I am a boy and I like boys but most people at school are homophobic please help me!!!

    • @Sparkshot99
      @Sparkshot99 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have told nobody btw

  • @animefangirl3700
    @animefangirl3700 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Me: *when you're 18 and questioning your sexuality because you're parent(s) taught you "Guys date girls, girls date guys, and everyone is born with their gender. There is no changing any of this." and you were too scared to question them* Um. . .

    • @lordfreeza_
      @lordfreeza_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol what?

    • @animefangirl3700
      @animefangirl3700 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lordfreeza_ Sorry, I know I was probably confusing. I was too coward to stand up to my scary parent. And she was most strict about the old fashion rules she believed in. Now, I'm questioning my sexuality, because I don't know if I just like guys. But I had never thought about girls that way, because well, it was "against my parent's personal set of rules" to think dating other girl or anything else. My parent has their opinions of the LGBTQ+ community, but I never had such opinions. In fact, most of the people I know are LGBTQ+. But I'm just wondering if I'm not just straight. Does that make more sense? I hope it does. I just tried to sum it up.

    • @tronontouch9925
      @tronontouch9925 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@animefangirl3700 you explained it fine, lord freza is mildly homophobic, and doesn’t understand lgbtq terms

    • @animefangirl3700
      @animefangirl3700 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tronontouch9925 Thanks. . .

  • @livkatty6185
    @livkatty6185 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a great video! I'm panromantic and asexual; I first identified as asexual when I was around 13, and at the time I had trouble differentiating between romantic and sexual attraction (which can obviously be explained by the fact that to this day I still have never felt sexual attraction), so I identified as aromantic as well for a short while. Most of the people around me would generally dismiss me when I came out (gotta love ace erasure), and around the age of 15 I had convinced myself that I was a panromantic pansexual as a result of both my internal difficulty differentiating between orientations as well as others' expectations of me. I only recently embraced my asexuality again in late 2019, and it's been quite liberating to allow myself to use labels I'm comfortable with rather than debate with myself like I have been for several years now. Everyone, please remember that romantic and sexual orientations are completely fluid; if you don't feel comfortable with a label for yourself, that's entirely valid. Don't force yourself to be someone you're not, and please stay safe in the process. :)

  • @oliverhedrick4751
    @oliverhedrick4751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I literally just woke up with the tiniest seed of doubt and now I’m just watching every video

  • @rosalin7747
    @rosalin7747 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    it sure took me long ass time to realize i'm asexual and aromantic. it was hard but i'm glad that i love no one 😩

    • @Ash_461
      @Ash_461 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am and the same way

  • @froggy_boy5846
    @froggy_boy5846 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m personally ace and biro I’ve questioned my sexuality throughout my life but I eventually realized that I was just trying to fit in. I love your view on gender orientation & sexuality with children every time I see one of your videos or TH-cam shorts I usually agree with your perspective and it’s interesting to learn how other people think on controversial topics

  • @twtlifesucks6354
    @twtlifesucks6354 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    after watching this, i'm not sure whether i'm pansexual or panromantic + asexual. but thanks anyway :')

    • @yourmicrowave5587
      @yourmicrowave5587 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I know you commented this a long time ago, but for me i was very confused on where i am specifically on the asexual spectrum, but i still identified as asexual panromantic. That was until i found the term 'omniacepomo' on lgbta wiki. I hope you look into it :D

  • @nikkohimari
    @nikkohimari 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like that there are a variety of people here in the comments
    It makes me feel welcomed

  • @stranger973
    @stranger973 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m a girl (at the moment- I’m struggling to figure out if I’m non-binary or not), and in-between sapiosexual and pansexual, because sapiosexual is liking people based on their intelligence, and pansexual is liking girls, boys, non-binarys, etc., but I like people more on their personality than their intelligence, so I’m not 100% sure what I am.

  • @licoricecookiee
    @licoricecookiee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    HELP I GOT THE “GAY TEST” AD UNDER THE VIDEO ITS PERFECT-💀✋

  • @uncleiroh2970
    @uncleiroh2970 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pride is not the opposite of shame, but it's source. True humility is the only antidote to shame.

  • @fienevandijk7224
    @fienevandijk7224 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    How do you know if you're attracted to someone (romantically or sexually) or whether you just find them nice or aesthetically pleasing?
    (I'm 14)

    • @139G20
      @139G20 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Try to identify ur symptoms when u're attracted, google sexual arousal signs. Try to imagine sexual activity with ppl, how do u feel? Do u feel the same when u're looking at generally (not sexual) beautiful pictures u find pleasing compared to when u feel attracted to those ppl? What aspect makes u attracted to them? I hope this helps :)

    • @fienevandijk7224
      @fienevandijk7224 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I suppose I could give an update. For the time being, I identify as being on the aroace spectrum. The spectrum being romantic attraction, since I don't really know how to identify that

    • @cradica
      @cradica ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@139G20 I was wondering the same thing. I think I maybe aromantic but there was at least one girl I was interested in dating. She lived far away so I didn't get to see her very often. It was such a long time ago that I can't remember how it felt. I was like 11 and I don't think I've had a crush since then. I'm 20 now. I'm a bit confused is it possible I don't feel romantic attraction anymore? Can sexual and romantic orientation change over time? Because some sources claim it's genetic.

  • @velvthing
    @velvthing 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Im confused if im gay or bisexual but sometimes i feel straight so its starting to get very confusing

  • @fleurenheit329
    @fleurenheit329 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    my sexuality changes all the time where even i am suspiscious of myself now. it went from straight - pan - bi leaning to girls - bi leaning to boys - suddenly not feeling any attraction.
    it also doesnt help that i am very young. it makes me wonder whether im really a part of the community of just "following the trend" (which should not even be a trend AT ALL)

    • @CutiePatootieScaramoochie
      @CutiePatootieScaramoochie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Honestly i have the same problem. I just can't figure out what it is first straight then bi then pan and now I'm just a confused mess! And the thought that I'm maybe just following "the trend" (even if its not a trend) is killing me! I'm feeling so guilty! Oof kinda happy to see that I'm not the only one.

    • @plagiaprism
      @plagiaprism 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hi you two! okay, so you both should be getting notifications for this
      there’s nothing wrong with having different attractions all the time- that’s actually called abrosexuality (i think)! you should probably look into that, but also, there’s nothing wrong with exploring! you could either be that or be trying to figure yourself out, and that’s perfectly fine.

  • @Lp-AAA
    @Lp-AAA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This helped, I have always had the idea that as a cisgender female most words were labels, and they box you in. Reading the comments and watching this video kind of relieved some of that tension. Still not sure about identifying my sexual orientation yet though. I really HATE labels. But, as a friend of a lot of people in the LGBTQ+ community, this video is amazing. I think I'm for now just identifying as a bicurious lesbian, and see where I go from there.

  • @polyurethanes_3
    @polyurethanes_3 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I want to come out to my family and friends, but I just don’t know what I am. I’m still very young, and I’ve never really given myself a label for my sexuality. The only thing my friends know is that I’m not heterosexual. Should I just go with that for the rest of my life? “Not heterosexual”?

    • @plagiaprism
      @plagiaprism 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      if you don’t know what you are, you don’t really have to! labels aren’t important (ironically, there’s a label for not wanting a label), so you could just say you’re attracted to [gender] and thats it. of course, if you want to do some digging, google’s a fabulous place to start!

  • @Lee-xw9fr
    @Lee-xw9fr 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank god there are people like you online to help 11 year olds figure out their gender and sexual identity!!! So helpful, so educational!

  • @saulgoodman5213
    @saulgoodman5213 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm just rocking default settings rn.

  • @Axen_And_Co
    @Axen_And_Co 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Does anybody have any resources for figuring things out? My journey has only been going on 4 years and it's been super confusing!

    • @SomeoneYouDontKnow014
      @SomeoneYouDontKnow014 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am still trying to figure out, but I am sure that I am pansexual!!! I don't care about the gender :) but the fact is, in my opinion girls are more attractive but I DONT CARE ABOUT THE GENDER‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

  • @Clarinets.on.top.0
    @Clarinets.on.top.0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    “My general audience age is *11 to 12* to like early 20’s”
    TH-cam polices: “wait that’s illegal”

  • @alyssaserpas2814
    @alyssaserpas2814 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for this. I was questioning whether I was Bi with a preference of men or straight. I think I might have had it cleared up now, thanks

  • @tigersy1936
    @tigersy1936 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    TH-cam rlly said “recommended “

    • @mountain9310
      @mountain9310 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Periodt ✨👁️👄👁️✨💅

  • @AubreeSpain
    @AubreeSpain 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m so confused. I’m trying to find my sexuality. I know I’m the aromantic and asexual spectrum, but I’m trying to find out what label fits me because I am attracted to most feminine people, but there’s some cases where I’m not

  • @katylittlejohn7549
    @katylittlejohn7549 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It took me 2 years to realise that I am abro cause I changed between pan lesbian and bi and straight

  • @amazingzari5406
    @amazingzari5406 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im aromantic and asexual since i didnt have any romantic feelings for anyone for 10 years

  • @miumia5856
    @miumia5856 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm aromantic and demisexual, I tried to come out to my parents, by they said "you just DiDnT FiNd tHe RighT PerSon"..
    Also, my mother always says that I will have beautiful husband and 3 kids, and it's making me REALLY uncomfortable.. I also tried to stop it, but, they shut me again.

  • @midnightgacha9999
    @midnightgacha9999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I personally am unsure at the moment i do know I’m bisexual but I might be more than just that so I’m just going with the flow lol. Love ya’ll

  • @zombiesalami2102
    @zombiesalami2102 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Honestly I can’t tell if I am asexual or not. I never had any feelings towards anyone at all. Most of the time I feel like writing music, drawing, animating, or creating things more than thinking of someone else. But sometimes I feel a little jealous when other people can feel love.

    • @caitykat6472
      @caitykat6472 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have the same thing! I'm a romantic and asexual and sometimes it can be lonely thinking about the future, but I hope one day to find a platonic partner, and I hope you find whatever you're looking for. : )

  • @mcdancer8739
    @mcdancer8739 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I just turned 12 and I started middle school this year and this has definitely been a question for me. I am obviously still experimenting. But this is something to come back to for me in a while.

    • @whorishcorpse
      @whorishcorpse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I get it! I'm young and started sixth grade this year and middle school is usually when hormones bubble. I found out I was Bisexual and Non-Bianary in 3RD grade I was depressed and decided to try something new. My mom don't support me but that's fine I don't care. From one Bisexual to another it's easier to just experiment and try until you feel comfortable with the best Sexuality that fits you. If none do and you wanna support LGBTQIA+ That's what's called straight ally. Your straight but support the lgbtqia. So the point is experiment and get comfortable. I support you no matter what ✌️

  • @suggividion2728
    @suggividion2728 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I don’t know exactly what I am. It was about 6 months ago that I learned I can feel attracted to those of my assigned gender. But because I am heavily introverted, I don’t know for certain where my orientation begins or ends.

  • @space8008
    @space8008 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you as person who has been questioning if I'm pan or bi or straight or lesbain or other this really help

  • @aaryaraj5487
    @aaryaraj5487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm a bicurious ace. I've only been romantically attracted to men up until now but I might've had a crush on a girl before. I definitely want to try experimenting but societal norms in my country do not allow people to be open about their sexuality or gender identity which makes it difficult even to figure out whom to be with.

  • @miratornyai1464
    @miratornyai1464 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’ve been stuck at the “attraction” thing. I don’t know if i feel that or not (=if I think that the person is aesthetically good looking or I feel attracted to them)🤷‍♀️

  • @blue_phenix1364
    @blue_phenix1364 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2:36 I love this actually because it’s really really affirming to the younger people watching!!

  • @cherrycee6911
    @cherrycee6911 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I’m demisexual biromantic :> I came out to my 2 best friends and they both came out as bisexual to me :D we call ourselves the bi gang now lol

  • @viciklance9423
    @viciklance9423 ปีที่แล้ว

    It is very difficult when you have no romantic or sexual experience. That's why I often ask myself whether I'm straight or bi. I think most people at 23 already know their orientation(

  • @isabeauvanderhaeghe8798
    @isabeauvanderhaeghe8798 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am Non binary and asexual. I only discovered the term non binary about 2 years ago, but I always knew I was it, just didn’t know there was a word for it. I found out when I was looking online, as we do, I was trying to figure out my sexuality, as I assumed I was just a tomboy.
    I was about 21 and had been thinking I was a lesbian, and that was only because I hadn’t felt any attraction to any guys and I was a tomboy so people assumed I was a lesbian and I started to think that must be it. But after a while of trying things out, I hadn’t felt anything towards girls either. And then I googled it and went down a rabbit hole. But after about 2 years of figuring stuff out, I’m pretty sure I’m just ace. People still tell me I’m just a late bloomer, but I know I’m not. And I am okay with that,it took me a while, but I learned to accept me as me. I’m still learning every day and decided not to hide me anymore. I know that if someone had told me that being non binary existed when I was a kid, I woud be over the moon, to know that I’m not alone, so I hope to be that person to someone else.

    • @NatureLover-pj2qe
      @NatureLover-pj2qe 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same. I just learned the word non-binary relatively recently and have only been out for 2 weeks now to some close friends. However I have always felt like I’m neither fully a woman or a man, now I just know what this term is. I feel like a fraud since I didn’t come to terms with being non-binary until I was 19 which was recently for me. I’m also asexual and I’ve kinda known all along. Originally I thought I was bisexual since I thought that boys, girls and enbies are cute but I recently realized that I’m only experiencing romantic attraction to people, not any sexual attraction.

  • @crystalocelot1641
    @crystalocelot1641 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’ve been thinking I’m aro or ace
    But at the same time I think women are pretty so I might be lesbian
    But then there is a very specific type of men that I find pretty so I might be bi
    Ugh I have no idea 😖

    • @crystalocelot1641
      @crystalocelot1641 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s important to note that I don’t have a desire for sex, but I also am not entirely on the idea of romance

    • @crystalocelot1641
      @crystalocelot1641 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think most of the attraction is aesthetic

    • @crystalocelot1641
      @crystalocelot1641 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Might be the pandemic, but I literally find any romantic gesture really 🤢
      But I still want to hug people, just in a platonic way

    • @clownRatcity
      @clownRatcity 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can still think people are pretty/attractive even if you are aro/ace

  • @Honeykittybb
    @Honeykittybb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    How I found about mine was kinda difficult. I never really had a crush on anyone. My friends would ship me with other boys due to me not liking any boy. So then I figured out that I’m ase but I have catholic parents so I won’t come out for a very long time..

    • @katiew7939
      @katiew7939 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      hey! we’re having the same experience, you aren’t alone :)

  • @OlzGames
    @OlzGames 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    everybody: talking about the 30+ flags (why is one called bear?)
    me: gay, lesbian or straight.

  • @thegalaxyherd
    @thegalaxyherd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am also demi I realized that I was because after looking at the definition I realized I was also demi.

  • @CTA_Official
    @CTA_Official 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Okay, so I don't completely know, but I know that I am more romantically attracted to non-binary people and people who don't follow typical gender roles (femboys, tomboys, etc.) but I am sexually attracted to more dominant people, does anyone know the proper term for this??

    • @SomeoneYouDontKnow014
      @SomeoneYouDontKnow014 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      No I am sorry :( but I am also trying to figure out what my sexuality is

  • @katiew7939
    @katiew7939 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    heyyy I keep scrolling through videos because I’m struggling with finding out my sexuality.
    I’m a Christian cis female and have kept switching between bi, straight and ace. A big part of my attractions are that I’m not sure whether it’s platonic or romantic. I say that because I’m a shy person and whenever anyone gives me attention, I automatically go to thinking I have a crush on them.

  • @KIeinEen
    @KIeinEen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm still trying to work out where I am on the asexuality spectrum (Imma call it that cause that's kinda what it is) and I'm still unsure of it how its due to trauma or because I genuinely don't feel sexually attracted to people but it's getting there slowly.

  • @qWenzou
    @qWenzou 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm Aeroase and Non-Binary!

  • @pink.bunnypie2361
    @pink.bunnypie2361 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ik this is completely off topic but how should I come out to my mom that I’m lesbian she always talks about me with guys and I get worried she won’t support

  • @aumbrecherries318
    @aumbrecherries318 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm a Bi and first I was truly confused .
    I was like 17 when I first experienced it.
    This video really helped though

  • @adorationalcos4018
    @adorationalcos4018 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    "Labels" Me, unlabeled (term is Pomosexual) : * -Coughs on tea- Huh? WHAT? labels? NEVER heard of em. *

  • @jimmyhobbs3216
    @jimmyhobbs3216 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm ace (panromantic), but I often just use the term queer because it says enough without having to explain anything.

  • @eecrumb1962
    @eecrumb1962 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am still questioning if I'm bi but I'm 90% sure I am! Thank you!!!

  • @23V33
    @23V33 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So, I go to full time online school and we have this group my teacher made. One of them is named (let’s just say her name is Maya). Maya is a very sweet girl (my bestie we were getting to know each other at the time)and she needed support bc she has gon through a lot. One time in our friend groups chat idk why but I just said “LGBTQ+ RIGHTSSSSS!!!!!” And they were like yassss and my other friend told me she is LGBTQ+ (I’m still getting to know her) and me and Maya told each other we are questioning...XD

    • @Helloknight
      @Helloknight 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      wholesome.

    • @23V33
      @23V33 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Helloknight :) Now maya is non-binary and Ima omni lol

  • @Elliotl0311
    @Elliotl0311 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Early!
    Wait am I first comment?

  • @johtojedi5328
    @johtojedi5328 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm at an age where pretty much everyone knows who their romantically attracted to, but I have mild philophobia (the fear of being in a romantic relationship), so I'm not sure if I'm aro or my brain just rejects all crushes and stuff.
    Any advice for this situation? Thanks!

  • @p0ker4g25
    @p0ker4g25 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    "you want to say hi to the ppl?"
    Cat:
    *no food*

  • @SunnyMoonwilluploadin
    @SunnyMoonwilluploadin 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    personally, i cant decide whether im straight OR asexual
    ik im not Gay cause im not a boy
    ik im not lesbian because i dont show so much attaction to ladies
    ik im not bi because i only like to be attracted to a certain type of gender
    i might be asexual because idk...i love people but im not thinking of dating anytime soon...plus asexual is not just showing no attraction, you can show a little, which i do :)
    straight because i find some people attractive, so when i become a teen, maybe i can! But time will tell
    what do you guys think?

  • @beefairy8620
    @beefairy8620 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m currently trying to figure out if I think I’m bi because of social media or not

  • @lizzy_1339
    @lizzy_1339 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I say to my friends that im pan but in reality I'm not really sure, When I see a guy I get attracted but sometimes I don't and its the same with girls, But I'm very sure I like femboys or tomboys, I also more like romantic attraction first before sexuality attraction, I don't talk about this with my mother for my mom's not homo but my sister went the wrong path and more chosen her gf than family so my mom doesn't want me to go the same path, I'm still young and trying to find out my own flag so I think this was a bit of a help, Thank you

  • @loonatheverse
    @loonatheverse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Everyone: *looking at this to find new sexuality/gender*
    Me: *is abro, needs help figuring out daily sexualitys*

  • @mayra3277
    @mayra3277 ปีที่แล้ว

    I first suspected that I'm ace when I was 16. Five years on that label hasn't changed at all, but I still haven't quite figured out my romantic orientation! Probably leaning towards arospec, but haven't found the one label that resonates yet.

  • @ennaych1071
    @ennaych1071 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m 21 and I just started questioning cause I’m a straight woman who has dated many guys but I think I have a crush on a girl. Her smile makes me feel butterflies but I’ve never felt this way towards a woman until now. I’m not sure I’m bi but idk

  • @sharkzilla3804
    @sharkzilla3804 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ok…so… I was born a girl, always liked girls (lesbian) but I recently came out as queer. So what would be my sexual orientation?

  • @Lazy-hailey
    @Lazy-hailey ปีที่แล้ว

    I got an ad for praying on my way to watch this video 💀💀

  • @itznotmai2805
    @itznotmai2805 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm 11 and I'm lesbian + ceterosexual. I have not told my mom because she hates the lgbtqia community but idk about my dad. Also I identify as a girl but one time I wanted to be a boy but then I wanted to be a girl again. Idk if I should stay girl or become genderfluid.....

    • @nutellaa8214
      @nutellaa8214 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      When i was 11 i thought the same, but i just realised im a straight female of a female birth sex 😂 (this is not hate or something)

  • @sunny.skylie
    @sunny.skylie ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m also demisexual! I always felt it hard to feel sexually attracted to someone just by looking at them. Some of my friends feel sexually attracted to someone just by one look but I don’t I always found that strange.

  • @imverymysterious
    @imverymysterious 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    bisexuality: * breathes *
    me: aye! that’s me!
    pansexuality: no it isn’t.

    • @lordfreeza_
      @lordfreeza_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Its literally just another word for the same thing...

    • @Stuffyim
      @Stuffyim 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@lordfreeza_ kinda but not really. for pan you are attracted to people due to personality but for bi you are attracted to both by any reason (eg: looks)

    • @luckysmarie7524
      @luckysmarie7524 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lordfreeza_ actually it isn’t! Pansexual is you are attracted to mostly personality, race, or features! You don’t care about gender or even sexual orientation! But bisexual is attracted to only girls and boys. Some people say non binary people are included in bisexual but I think that just makes you omi.

    • @lordfreeza_
      @lordfreeza_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Stuffyim so wait you think that no straight or gay people are attracted by personality???
      😂😂😂

    • @lordfreeza_
      @lordfreeza_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@luckysmarie7524 if someones only attracted to blondes is that a sexuality? No
      A man who only likes blonde women and a man who only likes brunette women aren't two different sexualitys... they are the same sexuality with different preferences...

  • @musicaltiger6576
    @musicaltiger6576 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I thought I was greysexual and only felt any sort of romantic feelings for guys, but I've always have a profound love for women. Like, I've been told I "give off" lesbian or bi vibes, and I've been kinda exploring to see where i lie. I've only dated guys, and never had feelings for a female. Even so, I end up didpising the thought of having a relationship with any guy and get sickened by it. I'm still a maturing female, so I hopefully have time to figure myself out.

  • @Ethcam_thefirst
    @Ethcam_thefirst 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i am pretty sure i am pansexual i was confused for a bit thinking i was bisexual now all i have to do is come out to my parents. i also have a story about how i told my best friend who is a girl me being also a girl that i had feelings for her she then avoided me for a day then came up to me after and asked if we were still friends. to that i said yes just in case but also because were friends.

  • @JoyfulOrb
    @JoyfulOrb 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Panromantic and Pansexual Woman, and I wish that resources and understanding like this were available when I was figuring myself out originally! Thank you!

  • @emilyandrews9857
    @emilyandrews9857 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    That was one of the most perplexing videos I've ever come across. A lot of TV media has broadened my horizons on different sexual orientations, but I prefer dating men. Besides, I've never been in a serious relationship with one, because I can be slightly timid around people I don't know well.

  • @stormy_gacha4679
    @stormy_gacha4679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    me being 11 and watching 👁🫦👁

  • @chaos6687
    @chaos6687 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Me, who already knows I'm straight: Let's watch!

  • @localdemonicteddybear6842
    @localdemonicteddybear6842 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am in fact 12 but I do think I have a clear view that I’m polysexual and bigender

  • @itz_faith4359
    @itz_faith4359 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I mean I feel straight but some people call me gay when I'm not which has make me question mine I feel straight but it's so confusing

    • @zachariahb.6215
      @zachariahb.6215 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am like straight mix with genderfluid and I’m in the closest, I usually have to lie to some peolpe and say that I’m straight because I am scared I will be made fun of, I want to move to a new school so bad!

    • @ktsports5548
      @ktsports5548 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hocd

  • @MountYourHorsesDrawYourSwords.
    @MountYourHorsesDrawYourSwords. 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just came out as bi to my friend today and she was so excited!! Thanks for you previous tips larenzo

  • @the0siren0of0night
    @the0siren0of0night 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I count myself as bisexual...but unable to do anything below the waist because of my current position in my transition...mixed with my own debilitating dysphoria and squeamishness...

  • @Tad-uq6kw
    @Tad-uq6kw 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    can you find your sexuality if you just look at someone from your gender, like have thoughts?