ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 พ.ค. 2024
- Today’s video, I’m going to be talking about 5 signs that you might be genderfluid. I think as a whole being genderfluid isn’t talked about as much and if you’re questioning if you’re genderfluid you might not know where to start. So this video is here to help with that. I hope this video helps and if you’re genderfluid be sure to leave a comment down below on how you figured out you’re genderfluid.
00:00 - Intro
00:35 - 1. Your preference in title or pronouns changes.
01:30 - 2. You find it really difficult to pin down what your gender is.
02:49 - 3. The idea of being read as only male or female for the rest of your life makes you uncomfortable
03:40 - You have dysphoria…only sometimes.
05:30 - 5. Being seen as multiple genders makes you feel good.
PRIDE MERCH!!!!: lynnsaga.myspreadshop.com/
My Patreon: / lynnsaga
Lynn Saga PayPal: www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted
.
..
Intro Music: /
Social Media:
Twitter: / lynnsaga
Instagram: /
Twitch: / lynnsaga
Redbubble: www.redbubble.com/people/Lynn - บันเทิง
I hope you all enjoyed this video. Let me know what some of the signs that helped you figure out you're genderfluid!
Other than in the video?
It’s the whole “I’m completely sure I’m x”
“Shirt- no now I’m most definitely y- what the heck?”
And yes I enjoyed this video very much! Made me feel all happy and stuff!
Lynn, I swear, you are a mind reader! I was just looking into the possibility of being gender fluid the other day!
Thank you so much for making videos like this, It has really helped me along my questioning journey. You're the best!
Lynn the last sign and I another sign stood out to me, also I love your videos
Mostly the euphoria. Putting on a dress,looking in the mirror and thinking "wow,this feels so extremely right" old people saying:"excuse me young lady" when wanting something from me. A Person that publically read a book i wrote where the name on the cover was only my initials,talking about "the girl or boy who wrote this" sometimes the most random stuff.
I'd like to hear about people who figured out they AREN'T "gender-fluid". I'm sure as some of you grow up you figure yourselves out.
how i realized i was genderfluid was when i realized it really upsets me that i can’t just switch between a man and woman’s body, that i “was stuck” just being one. i want to be seen as all gender and no gender
I literally feel exactly like this. Maybe I am genderfluid.
Yea same I just want to be both 😭
THIS. THIS IS IT.
*shakes multiple fictional characters of varying genders in aggressive gender envy*
same
Oh, I can relate to that bro!
I'm a senior citizen who's starting to feel free after 60 years. Thank you for this video. Wondering though because some days I feel maculine and other days feminine. I like wearing both clothing.
We of the younger generations are happy you're taking time to find yourself!!! More power to you and I'm glad youve learned a bit more about yourself :)
This feels very validating to hear someone of the older generation talking about being genderfluid\queer ect. Constantly hearing about how “the younger generation is confused” or “were just being trendy” feels very invalidating, and even tho Ik it’s not true, it’s hard not to let it get to me sometimes, so thankyou for sharing this. It helps me remember that I am valid for questioning my gender and trying to go down this path of self discovery. I’m sorry you couldn’t do the same when you were younger 😔
SAME! In my 60s and finally becoming comfortable in my own skin with my ever changing gender! It’s FUN!! 👏🏼👏🏼🎉🌈😝
You're an inspiration. I love you, you go. You're amazing.
@@IamwhatIam2012I strive to be like you! I’m still trying to be comfortable as a young genderfluid but I know that it will get better. Thank you for reminding me of that!
Dysphoria for me (only sometimes):
"Ugh. I need to get a binder." Man
"Wow, I'm hot today." Woman
"This is not right, what am I missing??" Non-binary/other
DUDE YES
LITERALLY ME THO 😭
That's me most of the time!!!!
Gender alone at home be like: *feels quite comfortable with agab, doesn't have to worry what clothes to wear or worry about gender much because nobody is around*
Gender outside home: *stresses about being percived as their agab, doesn't want to go and correct people because they might not understand it*
that's the biggest mood oh my god
Relatable 😞
This.
Why is it so relatable -
oops that sounds like me
I really love that you mentioned gender euphoria. I understand that dysphoria can be extremely difficult and not being cis can be really hard, but it doesn’t always have to be. The basis of your identity doesn’t always have to be rooted in pain.
I realized I was gender fluid bc in the time of a few months I went from heavily identifying as agender to identifying as a demiboy to feeling very much like a trans boy and then feeling like a girl again. and then I was like yeahhhhhhh I think I'm gender fluid. . .
Felt
What does "feeling like a demiboy" or "feeling agender" feel like?
Sounds like your having an identity crisis how is this anything more than defining random feeling and personality traits
Thats just called being in a phase, not in the way your thinking. We all go through them, you might really like sports for mounth and then like anime. Same with feeling masculine and feminine. No girl feels feminine the entire time they are alive. Its just existing.
Sounds more like you're just confused. If archeologists dug up your bones two hundred years from now they wouldn't say "hey neat! we found a genderfluid skeleton!" They would say "We found a female skeleton." Facts are facts.
If you were launched into the sun, you’d become gender plasma.
I know that for me personally I have the most negative feelings from gender when I experience my agab
A lot of
“why did I ever think I wasn’t cis? Was I faking it this whole time? Oh shirt what if I’m actually cis” but then again “why did I even cut my hair this short? Will people look at me weirdly if I wear a dress?”
I’m so glad Lynn made this video, hearing all that from them made me so happy and made me feel seen
Lynn, thank you! Thank you so much!
Awwww I’m happy you liked it!!!
mood
Dude, I can relate SO MUCH
@@katelynntull4167 yea mood
Hi, confused baby bird over here lol I was born a girl, and I don't really mind that. I don't care about having female parts (although for some reason lately my chest has really been bothering me, but I have no idea if it's dysphoria). My problem is that I just, I want all the options. I want to wear anything, I want to have a chest to flaunt but sometimes I want to be completely flat, I wanna wear the baggy pants but I also would love to wear skirts. I HATE my name, and for some reason I've actually been down right cringing when I hear it sometimes, it makes me SO uncomfortable, like I've always hated my name but now it's much worse? And sometimes I kind of want a binder cause I want to look flat chested??? And whenever someone online uses 'male' words to refer to me (like bro, dude, man, etc) I get like really excited? I don't know if I'm making any sense right now but I just wanted to know if anyone relates to any of this lol
Also like, okay, lately I've wanted to SAY I was genderfluid, but I feel guilty at the idea of expecting people around me to change what they call me if I feel like my gender has changed, like I'm burdening them. Same with changing my name, like the people around me have known me as this all my life and now I'm expecting them to change it? I dunno, it makes me feel bad...
Can anyone relate? I'll happily take any advice lol
This is the exact same as me! I have no idea what it is for me, I've been looking into non binary and genderqueer, idk if you know about those? I am mostly ok with my name, but for a while I thought I was a trans guy and then enby so I found a name I'm more comfortable with and now I use it online! I look like a stereotypical boy, although sometimes I want long hair, or makeup, or to wear a skirt. Sometimes at school supply teachers or new kids will mistake me for a boy and it makes me so happy. At the minute I use any pronouns and I'm just trying to figure myself out lol.
Anyway I think this was quite long so thx for reading if you're here lol. Good luck in figuring out who you are, if you want too
@@supersaturn0008 thank you so much, you too! :)
I relate so much to everything you’re saying. I changed my name when I started high school so it was easier than in adulthood but it’s SO WORTH IT. Unfortunately in papers I still have my old name and I cringe very hard everytime someone uses it (in doctors offices or smth) but in my everyday life everyone uses name that I chose and it really helps to feel true to yourself.
But fun fact, I’ve changed it about 10 years ago and only in last year I started realising that I might not be cis… But it also took me most of my life to realise that i’m pan so I’m not judging myself.
yess i mostly relate to that and i've been looking more into this stuff. i still dont know what am i or idk if i actually want a label. Label feels so restrictive for me, but i also want to know¿ like i want to be all and none at the same time. idk if i'm making sense rn
As a male conservative, I find this heartfelt and genuine. We are all granted equal rights by our creator. Bless you for your sharing and may it help others.
Keep it to yourself next time instead of derailing lgbtqia+ subjects to say some weird religious stuff.
@@bajablast1248 as a hardcore atheist. Shut up.
Generally speaking, if you are personally conservative and live a conservative life, that’s not a problem at all, it’s when you start affecting legislation that infringe upon people who had the same rights on you is a problem
@@TheDarkLord648 yep
@@bajablast1248They're not saying random religious stuff though, it would be different if he said repent to Jesus or start quoting Bible verses. Calm down
Took me forever to finally settle on gender fluid. That said I’ve been in the closet for over 40 years and only come out in the last 2. I can confidently identify as a pansexual, gender fluid, trans woman now. That too messed with me because I didn’t think that you could be gender fluid and still lean toward one of the binaries like that. But it literally describes my experience. I should’ve been born as a cisgender woman most likely, yet there are days I feel perfectly fine as a guy and others as a woman. No that I’ve set alarm labels I really feel right to me. I am looking at what this will mean for me from here on, whether transition or no or whatever I’d like to try out next. Thanks for your videos!
Congrats! 🎉
You need help !!!!
@@brandonUwanawich954 omg 😂 this kind of made my day 😂
Congrats on that! You can now diagnose yourself as being perfectly brainwashed! 😀👍
ignore all the people hating on you (they clearly have nothing better to do haha)- congrats :) you're so inspiring and as a young lgbt person it always makes me smile to see others throughout the community embracing newer labels ! wishing you happiness :)
I knew I was gender fluid when I read the Magnus Chase series and read Alex's description of gender. The only difference is that I don't mind people just using they/them pronouns for me, because I'm ok with those pronouns all of the time and my feelings about he/she/it changes day to day. I just don't like to explain myself to people.
same!
I love Alex!!!
How does your gender seem to change? Is it feminine or masculine energy and behavior or is it something else? As an agender/androgynous male i don't understand the obsession with having a gender, i feel like we should all be ourselves and skip the labels ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@lillnirp That's a really personal question and while I don't have a problem answering, I don't think my response is going to be as satisfying as you might hope. I'm autistic and have a difficult time defining my feelings (even to myself), but it really is based on that. I usually can tell based on how I react internally to how people refer to me and what pronouns they use for me. So if I'm having a masculine day, I might hear she/her used and feel terrible, but hear he/him and feel profound joy. They/them is a positive internal response 99% of the time so it's what I usually request be used for me. Some days I even feel like I have no gender at all and get euphoria from people referring to me as an it, which I know can be controversial. It can be confusing, which is why I don't usually bother to try and explain and just say I use they/them.
For myself, I don't care so much about labels as a whole, which is why I'm flexible about which ones I use in what spaces based on what I think people will be familiar with. But they are useful for communication purposes, and societal purposes, and for finding a community. And communities are important.
@@cinnamoncleric it is a very satisfying answer actually, i'm autistic myself and have all my life been CBTing myself to rid myself of "unwanted traits" which mostly would be how i react emotionally to stuff, trying to be a healthier person mentally i started "shaping myself" and my personality from an early age. I think it might be the same problem, only that i directed my energy into changing myself and how i react to the world, rather than trying to change the world around me and how others react to me.
Have you ever tried just not caring about gender? To me gender/sex has nothing at all to do with who i am, how androgynous i might be or anything - it is just a fact that i was born male and thus people refer to me as a he; i don't feel that i have to be or act a certain way because i'm referred to as a he and i have no feelings about it. Isn't that a healthier and better option than having to try to explain to every new person you meet that you will have a different pronoun each day, just to feel okay? No critique, just seems very impractical and gives unwanted attention
I literally love how you always match the background of your computer monitor to the content of the video, a very original and cool idea in my opinion.
oh my god thank you so much! I love looking for new screensavers for each video one of my favorite parts of filming actually lol
i remember when i bounced back from gender to gender, agender, nonbinary, demi-girl, trans boy. i was just very very sure i wasnt a cis girl. I then went on the internet some more and found the term genderfliud, i finally felt myself. Gender is weird and stupid tbh, long story short, dress how you want and go be yourself. no one wants to go looking for something their whole life when they can make that something themselves.
I don't understand why are you talking about clothes, like is clothes a gender structure?? I don't understand you and your point of view because nothing is making sense at all.
You can't just decide if your a trans boy, a "demi boy" idk tf that mean or a non-binary. I can be a woman dressing in men's cloth and still be a woman.
I see where's your problem, you said "i then went on the internet some more and found the term genderfluid"... Internet is not real, you are influenced by people behind a screen and those same people try to create "another sex" when it's just male or female. If you don't feel like a woman, talk to your psychologist multiple times about it and THINK ABOUT IT for a long time before making dumb ahh choices like being "genderfluid". It doesn't exist, just look at your vagi and tell me if it's genderfluid or not.
Also, as a christian, i hope God forgive you for misunderstanding his choices so you can call yourself something you are not.
you hit every nail on the head for me. i identified as a man and a woman. both feel extremely constricting when they stand alone. i was born a female. hate my chest and my face, am ok with my curves and my butt. don’t like they/them, and feel euphoria when being called he/him or she/her - depending on the day. it’s taken me 6 years to figure this out lol.
I took me awhile to finally figure what gender I am. I went back and forth if I was cis woman or agender. I finally realize that I might be Demi-girl/agender. There some girly stuff I like (examples are the color pink, Disney Princess, and romance) and then there things about being a girl I don’t like (examples are makeup, shaving my legs, getting dress up and playing with my hair). I also know that I’m not trans, that sure thing. It just there times I like being girl and there times I don’t feel like a girl.
It takes awhile sometimes to figure out what’s best for you but I’m glad you found the words that make you feel the most comfortable
It's great that you found a label that fits you. But remember that liking the color pink, Disney Princesses, ect. has nothing to do with your gender.
maybe youre genderfae? correct me if im wrong, but im pretty sure its basically genderfluid but no masculinity. like you fluctuate between girl, demigirl, enby, agender, etc but dont feel like a dude or demiboy at all
No offence but please dont claim to be a Male when you have periods
@@Batusaihimoura55 I never said I’m male.
I think the universe is giving me fricken signs, cuz I’ve literally been questioning whether I am or not, and then you publish this! Thank you
It was meant to be☺️
Same, like i think the universe is trying to tell me my true identity.
No, the only sign you get is to seek help if you feel like this video is "literally me🤭💋💅🏻🤪" stop being online for a month and you will see how delusional you are.
If you are a child, do not listen to people like this woman on the internet, those people try to manipulate you into something that you are not so you can "accept what we are and be in the lgbt because being a woman only is trash".
And trust me when I say genderfluid doesn't exist, since when you can choose your genitals? Since when you can change your sex because you wear men clothes??? Dont be influenced and stay out of chirurgie stuff before regretting that choice.
@@lynnsaga1397 girl you are literally trying to influence children on things that don't exist and you say it was "meant to be"? You are creepy. You are a grown ahh woman trying to influence children on the internet like it's a daily basis, you get your whole personality from TikTok and then tell your viewers "it's ok to have a dysphoria" when you literally don't know what is a dysphoria or how trans people feel with dysphoria, you are trying to manipulate people so you can have intention but when you actually get it you just give terrible life advice for children.
But you know "it's a trend so i have to post it!!" "I saw so many people that don't have a father figure like me that say they are nothing but a doggy, so I identify as a doggy too!" Like it's cute or edgy.
Thank you for making this video! I’ve been questioning if I was gender fluid for a while now, and knowing that I relate to a lot of the things you talked about has helped me a lot! Also, I love the backgrounds you put on your computer, they’re all so cute!
I’m so happy to help! And I’m glad you like the backgrounds it’s one of my favorite parts getting to pick out the screensavers ☺️
First world problems
Well its a choice, not one I would make, but just know that Gender fluid...ness isn't what you are, if you want to chose that life for yourself thats fine, but its not a part of you, y'know
@@anakinskywalker1886 even if being genderfluid was a choice, why is that not a part of them?
im genuinely confused on your logic because if you identify as something... that thing becomes a part of you, or at least of your identity, like if you like doing art and decide to call yourself an artist that's a part of who you are
so how is being genderfluid (or choosing the label "genderfluid" for yourself) not a part of who you are? genuine question, i mean no harm
@@pouinkimir I understand your point, but there is still an issue. If someone painted something, then called themselves an artist, that's called delusion. Sure, you could get into the nitty gritty of word definitions but being 'Genderfluid' is not real, it's a construct, a placeholder, to explain why your mental health is low.
I can't imagine myself in ten, five, twenty years, it's very confusing for me, sometimes I feel masculine and sometimes feminine, and other times I feel like I don't fit into either of the two.
I remember back in elementary, there was a long period of time where I was feeling like a male. I acted so unladylike to the point where my friends would refer me as a ‘he’. I remember being extremely happy when I was being called as a he. But after that year passed, I started feeling more girly, I would start paying attention to things that girls like, ex: dresses, long good looking hairstyles and whatnot. I thought maybe I was wrong about me wanting to be a guy, maybe I’m just a tomboy or in a weird childhood phase. And I started hating the fact that my friend would question me why I’m acting girly all of the sudden, I know they most likely asked out of curiosity but I remember thinking it and was confused why did I start hating being called a he when I used to love it? Fast forward another 2 years and I’m feeling tomboyish again, this time I feel happy when my classmates would refer me as a he and even called me by my middle name (which sounded more masculine while my first name sounded more feminine). My classmates would refer me as a he because they thought the pronouns suit me better. Now, after another 2 years and I’m starting to get confused because I don’t feel like a he or she anymore but rather as a non binary. I was introduced to the tern genderfluid previously and thought that describes me, but when I feel non-binary it suddenly doesn’t make sense. Can you feel like being some other genders other than male and female as a genderfluid? And is it possible for a genderfluid to stand by a certain gender for a long period of time?
Genderfludity isn't just a flux between Male and Femme , it can also be nonbinary or agender or neos , it can be whatever you feel like in that moment. Its like it's name, your gender is fluid. 😼
Yes absolutely! Being genderfluid encompasses many different presentations and identities. You could identify as male, female, non-binary, or anything else. Any combination. I personally feel like I fluctuate between male, female, and nonbinary. That’s why I use he, she, and they pronouns. 😊
Wow I never knew someone was exactly like me damn but that’s how I feel
@@tomriddleschild6256 what is neos
@@Xplrelisamesies😌
Hey there! I'd love to see one of these style videos on being genderflux. I recently learned this term and I think it's extremely valuable, especially in the nonbinary and trans community. I'm always feeling both male and female (I guess that's bigender, but I prefer to describe my gender experience as androgynous), but to what degree I feel both changes fairly regularly without ever truly shifting outside of my gender, as with genderfluid people. I've found this part of my gender identity really confusing to understand, so I think more conversations on this topic would be useful for others who don't quite understand their changing gender intensity.
I didn't know what genderflux was until now, but you explained it so well! Thanks for talking about your experience :)
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I( suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill.
this was really helpful--particularly points 1 and 2. and just in time for my questioning! thank you very much for making this quick and informative video. i've been very unsure on what label fits me best for a while now.
I've concluded that I was genderfluid a while ago, but I love vids like these, (or any content supportive of genderfluid people for that matter)! I grew up in the "genderfluid cringe" era of TH-cam, where the label was getting a lot of traction online and none of it was good, so I still push off the label a lot. Whenever my gender shifts to a more fem leaning one (I'm AFAB), I get a lot of shame and doubt, as I want to fit in with non-fluid transmasculine people really bad. But vids like these serve as a reminder that other genderfluid folk and I have reasons to celebrate our identities, no matter what anti-fluid folk say. :)
Ok
You have a specific and unique personality to yourself, your gender doesn't change. There's no such thing as feeling male or female, there's only feeling like you. Every person in the World feels different from day to day, that's called being a human. Just because a man wants to dress more feminine doesn't mean he's female, it means he's male with his own personality that's different from anyone else. Wanting to do feminine stuff doesn't mean you feel female. As I said, there's no such thing as feeling female.
@@mikepriestey2547 Youre just sad you're not as swag as I am, gendersolid.
@@StarsStillHere Nope. I just have common sense.
Explain to me what it means to feel female or feel male.
@@mikepriestey2547 Once in a while I enjoy being called a woman, but sometimes it makes me severely dysphoric. More often I enjoy being thought of as a man, but sometimes that also makes me uncomfortable. And sometimes the lines are blurred, which is why I normally present as nonbinary to simplify it for other people. It fluctuates, which makes me genderfluid.
Thank you so much! I'm questioning right now, and hearing people grom the community talk about their experiences helps a lot
I've had times when I've preferred thinking of myself as my parents' son, thinking of myself as a man, and thinking of being called things like "Mr." and "Sir," and other times (privately because I'm not out as Genderfluid yet) I've preferred thinking of myself as my parents' daughter, thinking of myself as a woman, and thinking of being called things like "Ms." and "Ma'am."
I'm gender fluid, but usually identify myself as non-binary with they/them pronouns simply because that always makes me feel good and anything else would feel like a burden on those around me (also due to transphobic people she her pronouns are never ok, so I don't see the point as much). But it's definitely the fluctuating dysphoria that tipped me off- it made me doubt myself a lot when I came out because I wondered if I was just doing it for attention when I felt bad (news flash, dysphoria Feels Bad). But now I'm much more comfortable, and style myself either more masculine, feminine, both, or neither depending on the day- I've even made myself a chart to help nail down my gender expression if I can't figure out what to wear or smth. The chart is a quadrant with masc/fem on the x-axis and strong/ambivalent on the y (to indicate how strongly I feel about my gender that day). My worst days are -x +y because that's masculine/strong and, unfortunately, my body is not very masculine and binders only do so much work
I think this comment really puts into words what I feel. Thank you so much!
@@itsjess97 no problem! I'm happy to help. Wish you the best
Oh my god, shut up.
You’re a burden on people around you anyway, because they are all having to play along while you play make believe
thank you so much for this video. I match literally all of the 5 signs to a T. I think I know I'm genderfluid for some time now but I struggled with seeing it as valid or wished to be "just one" gender to make it easier. Lately I stress a lot about the gender not being seen as valid or just "I enjoy wearing all kinds of clothing" etc. meanwhile I feel the shifts so strongly sometimes. And when I'm in my manhood (using "manhood" and "womanhood" might help me a lot to grasp it and explain it), well, I'm a trans guy often. I have so many of the common experiences with other trans guys, always had, from puberty.... but. It's not my only gender. I'm fully trans but also I have more than 1 gender. I'm being random now but just. This helped me a lot. I have a long journey in front of me, my dysphoria when I'm in my manhood is so strong sometimes that I can't function well... but I don't wanna be in denial anymore. To all other genderfluid folks: we're great.
This hit right on the nail, every single one, for me and I am genuinely speechless. I'm 21 years old and have spent my whole life trying to figure out why was so fluid in how i identified, and how to pinpoint what i feel. I was trans for a bit, nonbinary, 'cis', but always snapped right back to feeling this way. I never considered genderfluid until I stumbled upon this video, and wanted to watch only out of seeking more knowledge on lgbt matters. I never would have guessed that it would be the missing puzzle piece clicking into place. Thank you for this video, you've helped me understand myself finally after so many years of feeling lost/confused
I’ve been watching your channel for a while and it’s been really helpful! I actually figured out I was ace because of you, so thanks! (Still figuring out where on the spec though lol) Also I love your vibe and your overall look, you give me gender envy x.x
I’ve been questioning my gender for a little over a year now and I’m still SO confused. I originally thought I was genderfluid, then nonbinary, demigirl, agender, etc… During the time i identified as genderfluid, I felt one way for so long, I started questioning myself all over again, because I couldn’t tell what I was feeling. I know im not agender, at least, because I do feel as if i have a gender. Online, sometimes people will refer to me as “he” and i feel really good about that! “They” is nice as well, but feminine pronouns and terms make me feel weird. Someone used mixed pronouns for me once and it felt amazing (iirc it was xe, he, and they)
My parents are not accepting so i can’t talk to them about this unfortunately, and I can’t really get neutral or masc clothes/haircuts, which really sucks. One weird thing is that with my current haircut, most of the time I feel like it’s too feminine, but rarely I feel like it looks sort of androgynous?? The two times I tried to look andro/masc (binding w sports bras, and wearing a tank top with jeans; tied my hair back) I felt really euphoric.
Why do I feel this way??? Again, thank you for your content
Starting to question if I’m genderfluid but I’m not sure if I am. I definitely feel more masculine some days and then get fully convinced I’m just a trans guy just to turn around and be like noooooo man feels way to masculine I just want to be some gender less blob and sometimes I’m ok with my chest and other days I hate it. (I’m afab btw). Then on certain days I’ll be like I feel comfortable being fem but I’ve never had a moment where I fully identify as a girl. My masculinity and femininity fluctuate but I’ve never fully identified with she/her, sometimes she/her feels nice and sometimes it doesn’t but I’ve never felt like oh just she/her and girl, does this mean I’m still genderfluid?
Yep, u seem genderfluid to me
I appreciate the focus on gender euphoria. Because I connect to being genderfluid based so much more on euphoria than dysphoria. I have my moments where when someone genders me as male, (I am very much presenting in my physicality as male) sometimes it feels off and weird and just don't know what to do with it. But the other day I was in my full make up, and a dress and gothic trench coat. And this person at a store I was shopping at had said to me, "your an absolute goddess". Lemme tell you, there's no better feeling than that validation and affirmation.
So thank you so much for that focus
Thank you for this. I find myself wondering because no pronouns or titles really tend to upset me, but my self image of how i want to look and how i feel often changes and i can never be sure if its to do with my gender or if its just some styles ive switched between. i might not even be genderfluid, but i can definitely relate to not wanting to stick to one. ive always been an indecisive person, so i absolutely relate to number 3 and 5.
Sorry for this little rant and thank you for this entire video it has helped me understand a little more about who i am and who im becoming.
I feel like I'm both, mostly male but I feel like I act kind of female a lot of the time and I'm into some girly stuff also.I don't really like it when people expect you to be a certain way based on appearance etc.I don't really care what label I'm under, it took me a long time to figure this all out and also accept it but now I know who and how I am and I'm feeling good about it.
Thank you for this video! The fact that I haven’t entirely been able to figure out what gender I might be because I can’t seem to pin down my sense of gender has made me realize that I’m likely genderfluid, and this video has helped me to confirm that. I do feel least attached to my “male” self, but there are definitely things about him that I like, and times that presenting as him make me really happy.
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
i love how you change your computer background to match with the video topic :)
I have been questioning my gender for a while now. Since I've been questioning I've never really felt like I belonged anywhere cis, trans, or non-binary. In the last year I have cut my hair short for the first time, and in the last couple of years my sense of style has been leaning more masculine. It makes me really happy when people use pronouns other then she/her when addressing me, but I also don't mine she/her either. I have been feeling a little lost because part of me doesn't want to identify as anything, and the other part wants to fit in somewhere. Thank you for this video. It was very important and I resonated with it a lot. I have also enjoyed reading through the comments to see that lots of people are like me! Thank you so much for posting this.
Thanks for making this video :)) Ive had trouble figuring out what gender I fall into, and I’ve identified as just male all my life until recently. Since a few months ago I felt myself identifying from male to non-binary to demiboy and it felt like this constant shifting of mindsets for who I want to feel like that day. I’m glad this term exists because it makes me feel comfy, but I want to mention that sometimes I have dysphoria with many labels including this one since I feel like I’m going to seem as if I’m “faking it” even though that’s not true at all. I just want to be me. So for now, I might go as genderfluid or unlabeled :)) thanks for making this video!! It’s given me some thoughts to ponder on and venture through ❤
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
Ponder on those thoughts, which will become a reality for you if you do not stop the nonsense, get married, and have kids.
i would be so much happier being genderfluid if i could shapeshift
Yeah, imagine being a man, woman, agender, nb, Solaris from S06, Wfc Trypticon, Flumpty Bumpty, Jessica Rabbit, Gorefield, Devil from Cuphead, Alice Angel, Bowletta, Metal Overlord, Dreamy Bowser, Overlord from Ninjago, Vaatu, Foc Megatron, Fem + OG Homelander, Loki, Omni-man, Wither Storm, Bill Cipher, Nightmare Fredbear, Doom Ducky, Joy Kill, Murder Monkey, Chef Monkey (From Dark Deception), Goliath Clowns, Monster Vinnie from Fnac 3, Tai Lung, G1 Megatron, Foc Bruticus, Shockwave, many versions of Starscream, Bayverse Megatron, any version of Bidy from BNC, any version of Baldi from bbin games, Malak from DD, Breezie the Hedgehog, Robo Sonic, Mecha Sonic, Death Egg Robot, Great Eggman Robo, true final boss of Sonic triple trouble 16-bit, Bowser, Reaper Nurse, Cackletta & so much more... 🥰🥰🥰
Now u speak in language i like, THE LANGUAGE OF GODS 🫠
This time i'd truly prove to myself & everyone that i'm genderfluid and it's not JUST A PHASE!! 😼
Luckily the new Kung Fu Panda 4 villain is a shapeshifter 😁👍
What you said at the end about the fact that ppl should be more focused the euphoric side of things and that it's all about what makes you feel comfortable and being authentic, SOOOO true!
Your five signs apply perfectly to me and my situation; I like presenting feminine sometimes and being addressed as such, though it takes a lot of work for me to look that way. Lot of makeup and I've gotta wear a wig on top of that, since my natural hairline has receded like crazy. :/ I don't get to express that part of me very often though. Working full time in the south, especially around people who I really, *really* don't want knowing about that side of me, it's usually just easier to present male and just run with it. I'm also extremely self-conscious about how well I pass as female when presenting, particularly being six feet tall with a blatantly male voice. That usually gets in the way too. Any suggestions on how best to figure out my gender identity with these restraints and anxieties?
Nice conversation yeah. I'm nonbinary androgyne. I feel like yeah that's me. I appreciate the multifaceted ways you made your points about all of this. Yeah it's ultimately up to the individual how they feel. It's about the euphoric feeling of what's the most you yeah. I wanna check your video with your friend too! Definitely followed, looking forward to more of your commentary. 🍀🍀🍀
ngl the genderfluid flag is really pretty
OMG I WAS SO CONFUSED OF MY GENDER THANK YOU SO MUCH I NEEDED THIS!
I came out as Gender Fluid years ago but I’m here, like, just to make sure lmao
I love your videos 💕✨
I recently went to a LGBT group with my boyfriend for the first time and I met a gender fluid person and when they where talking to me I asked them about how they found out they where gender fluid and asked them about how they felt when they where figuring it out. And it all described exactly how I feel, and this video is helping me confirm that I might be gender fluid myself
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
I still have yet to come out to my family as gender fluid. Keara Graves has really made me feel comfortable and valid with defining myself as so. I had always wondered and now I feel secure. Love your video!!
In that stage myself, it took me until I was 33 to realize that, though rather rigid compared to the stereotype of gender fluid, being predominantly just male, I do sometimes flip to female and feel VERY uncomfortable for "being female" until I later just fucking accepted it... Flipping female for some moments of time, but never days, as I, from early childhood, taught, to be a boy... Very, very rarely I'm both genders simultaneously.
So being predominantly just male, makes it much more likely for me thinking that I was a cis for years as it did, but I couldn't deny my extremely flamboyantly feminine pictures of my childhood; in the moment of me being who I really am, without the bullshit...
I've personally felt guilty for not just wanting to choose one gender. I lean pretty far towards female, but lately especially, I smile when someone calls me a he in a video game or on my socials. And before I heard the word genderfluid, I thought being a they them person would best fit my wish to be both. I also hadn't heard that THAT was also it's own thing. Also, as you've stated, your identity can change without you being truly fluid. Everyone is trying to solve the puzzle that is their mind and soul after all. Thanks for making these!
Two years later and your video is still getting a good message out there. The discomfort of feeling locked into a particular way of being perceived made a lot of sense. While I do think I would prefer to have a more feminine baseline than I do as an AMAB person, the idea of transitioning to full-time fem presentation feels confining. Thank you for putting this out there.
You are always valid and so are gender fluid people you are an awesome person lynn love you so much
We love the genderfluid community here!
@@lynnsaga1397 i accept everyone gender fluid and non binary people are just as valid as anyone love your open minded nature
No, it's not valid.
Being a child on the internet trying to decide if they feel like a girl or none is actually ridiculous, mostly when those children get top chirurgie LEGALLY when they can't really know who they are exactly.
You and this dumbahh woman are weirdos that are trying to legalize being nothing, like literally. Imagine telling a child that "being a gender fluid is sooo valid and you are one because you have a "dysphoria" (even though its a disease that only trans people have to deal with) is disgusting. Internet is not your personnality whatsoever so please gtfu of your phone and talk to people without saying stupid ahh things like that.
Literally me i m also confuse
I hope it helps!
Pretty sure i m coz i do experience all of the signs
Tysm for this, it actually helped me understand myself!!
I go from feeling like I have no gender to feeling really androgynous to feeling ultra feminine and it just sort of happens it's sort of a cycle but there's no real pattern to this shift it's just a natural change
Thats called emotions, they change. Not necessarily trans.
@🌸Bimbosalie🌸 Cry me a river. Brains don't change in that way. "Invalidate" If you want to feel valid don't make up new genders to feel unique. Because guess what only a narcist would expect others to jump through the hoops you want them to.
Thanks for doing this video! It took a few years to figure out, and at certain point I thought I was just playing around the other gender. Now I feel proud to be myself.
At what temperature does gender fluid become gender solid? Maybe this all comes back to climate change 🤔
I have no clue what to call myself still even after this 😂 I feel like my masculine side is entirely different from my feminine side, so much so that it also feels like it's own being. While the default me is perfectly okay in being female, which is why I never even considered transgender because I'm perfectly okay in my cis gender.
But at the end of the day, that masculine side feels completely neglected and i don't feel the fulfillment I want to get because that masculine side isn't comfortable in my female body. It's hard to explain exactly, so I hope I'm making some sense here.
So I just call myself genderfluid to make things easier I guess 😂
Soy una persona de 24 años, hasta hace poco comencé a cuestionarme mi género, me frustra demasiado no saber que soy pero afortunadamente eh experimentado mi euforia de genero, fue al vendarme por primera vez, no puedo explicar el como me veía, me sentía tan bien en ese momento. Mi binder está en camino, no quiero llegar a lastimarme por vendarme, por lo mientras seguiré encontrándome a mi mismo, a mi felicidad, espero y todo salga bien. Deseenme suerte
It's been a while since I started questioning what I am and I'm still between trans or gender fluid, this information is worth millions!
I often switch between a desire for a chest binder and a padded bra. Like, my chest is an ✨issue✨ 😂😭
At work I get called "sir" and 'young man" And sometimes I love it & other times I'm annoyed. Cuz like, female but also non binary and is that even a thing?
So I like to say I'm gender fluid. But I don't really know.
As a currently genderfluid person this really helped me confirm if i was genderfluid or not! And i still think i am thank you. :)
crazy
Thank you specifically for #5. The notion of feeling euphoria when being seen a particular way... that's something I'm just starting to recognize.
Thankyou so much for sharing all of this. It was extremely Validating and helped me feel at ease with my Identity.
I really like your videos because they help me better understand things in the LGBTQIA+ community.
That’s all I hope to do!
@@lynnsaga1397 your are doing it pretty well
Where were all these other letters when gaze and lezboz were on the streets fighting tooth and nail for their rights 35 years ago, risking everything?Soon as the road is clear, all these other crazies/cowards come out of the woodwork to add their own letters lol that’s the real #metoo movement boys and girls
LGBTQAIR+
@@raghu5404 wait theirs more
All of this actually makes sense. It feels comforting to hear honestly
Honesty, or craziness?
If Social Security and Pensions did not exist, there would be none of this non-sense. You would need to have children to care and protect you in your old age.
But, because you think you will not need children to care for you when you are old and infirmed, you toy with these really stupid ideas.
Since Social Security may not survive till you are 67, I suggest that you stop the nonsense, get married, and have the children you will need in your old age,
It is either that or be eaten by rats when you are old and fall ill and are helpless on the floor, a couch, or a bed.
I'm so glad I came across your channel, it's like a hidden gem! You don't know how much I've learnt with you, now I understand myself better. Thank you so much!! 💖🤍💜🖤💙 ✨️✨️✨️✨️
Thank you so much for doing these!! Where were they in the era of buzzfeed quizzes?😂 Can you please cover genderflux next? ❤❤
I realized I might be genderfluid, going back to when I was young and I started to change in such a way over time. Now, here I am feeling different every day! Awesome to know more about my kind! Plus, the closest friend I have is also a genderfluid!
struggled with my gender for years, saying i was something to my friends then changing it weeks or months later, every time it felt perfect, and then I saw this video and i have not felt more affirmed in my life. thanks a lot.
i loved that they talked about feeling euphoric at the end it made me smile:)
As a genderfluid 14 year old, this video makes me feel valid, so I just want to thank you for that :)
thank you, this helped so much!
Thank you. Before wathching this video I wasn't shure if I really am genderfluid, or I just pretend so I could feel better. Even before the video ended, I felt SO relieved, that I started to cry. Just thank you... (and sorry for my English, it's not my native language)
Aren't there only 2 genders?
There are 2 sex’s ,
But multiple genders, feel free to ask questions :)
@@ArlosInsanity how does someone change genders day by day? Could a male athelete say he feels like a girl, then play on a woman's sports team? Does a male criminal get switched to a female prison, because he identifies as a girl?
@@ArlosInsanity What is gender
@@ArlosInsanity there are 3 sexes
@@Mali-jw6im legally and athletically no but you can go by whatever in social situations
Hi me
Hi Ryan
Thank you for this video. I am currently going through how I see and feel about myself. For many years I was masculine in my dress now I am more feminine in dress, yet I don't choose my appearance based on feminine or masculine. So I'm considering if I'm genderfluid.
This really helped me a bunch, I thought I was gender fluid already, but wasn’t sure, as I saw many say they had dysphoria, but for me, I’m not a very in touch with my emotions typa person, so I can’t really tell all that well, and for me, I’m comfortable with being one or the other, or being perceived as only a dude, as that was what I was used to my entire life, and I didn’t know much different, but when I am being referred to as how I am at that moment it just gives me this sort of euphoria that feels giddy almost, maybe I’m just an easily excitable person!
Gender fluid isn't a thing. You're just using gender as a fashion statement.
So I've been questioning everything recently and just thought I'd type "How to tell if you're genderfluid" into TH-cam, and it was so comforting to see a familiar face I'm subscribed to watching have the first recommended video. I always thought I was just a cis bisexual who enjoyed cross-dressing a lot-LIKE ALOT-since I'm comfortable in my body but also comfortable as a man, no-not just comfortable, I get really happy. And then when you said that about the Euphoria I was like "So...maybe I don't just have a weird love for being referred to as he/him and then she/her the next day?" I still don't know if there's a better fitting label for me though because I don't think I'd be comfortable being nonbinary. Do you have to also be okay with being an enby sometimes to fully qualify as genderfluid? I'm pretty new to all this so I really don't know.
been a year ive identified as a genderfluid and its so freeing for myself. I havent came out to close relatives but friends and my internet family are accepting and really kind about it.
Sounds more like “gender fluid” just means you’re emotionally unstable and stuff bothers you everyday.
Sorry but there's no such thing as gender fluid, it's just another pointless label that someone made up so people can jump in a fad and be part of a delusional group.
There's no such thing as feeling male or feeling female. Just because a man like feminine things and masculine things doesn't mean he's 'gender fluid', it means he has his own unique personality and feelings that is a mix of masculine and feminine, the same as every single person on the planet.
You're either a biological male with a unique personality or a biological female with a unique personality, it's that simple. Gender identities are made up nonsense.
Sir, everything is a made up label.
For the longest time I always knew I never felt "fully female" and I've used many words to describe my gender identity over the past year, from demigirl to nonbinary, even at one point thinking I was trans. I'm so glad I finally found the gender identity that feels right and comfortable for me and this video definitely helped me because I've dealt with all of these things. I've been experiencing a lot of gender dysphoria and I can never pick between wanting to be more masculine or feminine oftentimes. I'm glad that I can feel comfortable being the person I wanna be without worrying about being male or female, I'm proud to be genderfluid 😊
I'm still trying to figure things out... The whole gender and related stuff has always clashed with my personal beliefs but, I've always held a similar statement as you said near the video's end. "If it makes you happy, do it."
Due to my own personal beliefs I never explored the things properly, and even went full "toss it in a ditch:" when I was exploring my gender identity.
Gonna try again following those words, cause... it does kinda make me happy when people don't see me as my birth gender.
Y'all get some medical help!!!
top 10 reasons this channel should be deleted
Top 10 reasons society is fucked
@@SpiceyNachoz top 10 reasons why i hope we get sucked in a black hole
Okay so i am maybe agender or genderfluid and my orientation, just i dont know it But VIEOS FROM LYNN HELPING ME SO MUCH!!!! So i need to say thank you!
wow this helped me out so much! thank u!
5 signs you're insane
5 signs you’re a narcissist.
Ive been speculating for years, always just choosing to present myself as female because it was easier than facing the prejudice of my sorroundings and loved ones. Its just so hard when you dont feel like male, female or non-binary, but this makes all the pieces come together for me. Thank you so much ❤️
I been trying to explain that I feel like I am gender-fluid but not many people in my life who is willing to listen doesn’t understand what I mean. They just look at me being super female (not by choice) and say “how do you feel like a man?”
Anyone who thinks like this needs serious psychological help. 🙄
cry about it ☠️
🙋♂️
you're really kind and your amazing video helped me a lot to understand myself. thank you
I remember back in third grade I wasn’t feeling ok of being identified as a girl, I searched up one day what was happening and when I found the gender-fluid preference and I was realizing I fell into that category I was really happy
The way I experience it is I'm floating in a void of gender neutral space and sometimes I float closer to male or female identities, but I'm mostly just me. Although I've been cursed with a chronically feminine appearance so I constantly get called she/her, my friends sometimes use they/them for me and even more rarely he/him and it makes me feel amazing every time.
For me I’m still unsure. I’m AMAB and for a time I was trans and felt great and then I didn’t align with female and went back to being male for quite a few years but recently this past year I’ve been liking the idea of seeing myself as female on occasion and then I am fine with being male again. One big thing is that when people say she/her in reference to me because of my screen name I don’t correct them and I enjoy be perceived as female in those moments. There are often times when I want to present and feel more feminine but I don’t feel all the way trans. Recently I was able to present female and I loved it so much. I’ve ignored these feelings because I went back to always being Cis presenting but they’re getting stronger sometimes. I was talking to a friend about it and she suggested I consider gender-fluid and in a way it makes so much sense but I’m also hesitant but maybe that’s just because of how society treats non cis people because I feel so great being perceived as female. But I also feel great being perceived as male. I’m still not sure if this is who I am but maybe I can expand my pronouns and see if I am he/him/she/her which I like the idea of but maybe until I figure it out I can use they/them which I also wouldn’t mind. This is so confusing because I locked myself back into being Cis for such a long time but it just doesn’t feel right anymore. I think because I aligned with being a trans woman and then went back to Cisgender I haven’t allowed myself to express more feminine again because I “decided” I was cis and I “can’t go back on it” allowing myself to express more feminine has felt so rewarding but also left me with a lot of questions about my identity. So for now I can’t decide but your video is nonetheless incredibly helpful and informative and also diminishes some of the doubts I’ve had about this.
One year update, I’m no longer gender fluid but actually all the way trans at this point. But it was a nice little introduction into finally accepting myself.
Yeah Ik I’m late but I still want to share my experience with you guys since you guys understand me better
This is my way on how I found out I was genderfluid
So in my school, there is this class that was call GSA (which stands for Gender Sexuality Alliance) and it took place during our advisory and other grades lunch. So one day we were talking about how we found out how we found ourselves, and struggles, then I decided to talk, (little info I was very nervous) and started off by saying how I identified, nonbinary, then how I found out I was that, but then I explained something that went something like this, “sometimes I feel like on one day I’m a women, then the next day I would feel like a men, then the next day both, then I might feel like I’m none of them”. Then somebody (I don’t want to say their name) said that I might be genderfluid, and then some of my classmates that were also from the LGBTQIAA+ and 2 teacher also said that I might be genderfluid as well, then after a while, I decided to come here to see if their are other amazing people on the internet to see if they were also genderfluid and can explain the signs on how I could be genderfluid, and now I believe I’m genderfluid since I feel like a period of time I was a men, then I changed to women, then to nonbinary and so on, and how sometimes wanted to find out which gender I am, then came the changes of pronouns and how I would liked to be addressed, how I’m actually scared of people and classmates only saying that I’m a girl, or using the pronoun, she/her/hers often when I said not to use it that often. And know that you helped me figure out who I am, and thank you so much! You really had helped me! Thank you sooooooooo much! Happy pride month! Remember you guys belong and are beautiful the way you are! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍🤎
Thanks for reading this long text 😅
I've recently begun questioning some things about myself and feel like i'm in a weird spot where I cannot relate to anything. I am AFAB and have no issues presenting and being referred to in that way. I am also Aegosexual and love romance movies and stuff despite not wanting that in real life. HOWEVER, a lot of times when I see a MLM couple, I get such an intense sense of envy, like it causes physical discomfort. I've begun to question if all the times I get weirdly into a male character, if its a case of I want to be him or I want to be with him. I've even for the first time had the thought "I wish I could get top surgery" when seeing a picture of someone on instagram. I also had my long hair cut the shortest its ever been (not short but somewhat androgynous) and it felt good.
I don't know what's happening. My weird attachment to gay couples and saying "I would only date if I was a man with another man" is something i've always been bothered by. Being female is important to me and I don't think I feel strongly enough about "Wish I was a dude so I could date another dude" to be able to be anything but a girl. I realize becoming nauseous with yearning when I see two men hold hands is probably some kind of dysphoria, but its only in response to that one thing.
I would be out but I’m a teen and I don’t feel like I could be myself in this place with a bunch of people constantly judging you and bringing you down so Ik my gender fluid but I feel it and it makes me happy I’m not tied to this one gender but I js can’t tell people
I think that figuring out anything about myself has been quite simple or at least it was when i figured out my sexuality but, now that I'm going trough finding my gender identity has been quite rough, sometimes I feel good as a girl and sometimes I feel more like a boy sometimes neither of those, but then I started thinking that I might be trans, although I feel very scared if that comes out as truth, i'm afraid that I know my family won't accept me and all of the process that is to be a trans person, but I started thinking and it's like Indont wanna be fully a man or a woman and I honestly dont know anything right now, and I think this might be the time where you aren't who you thought you were, it's honeslty so confusing and exhausting but I hope to find an identity which I feel confortable in.
I am biologically woman. I have never questioned my gender. It was just in default. But I remember ever since I was little like around 9 10, people around me would say I have a wider shoulders and I weigh a lot. I would look around at other girls and see they have so much feminine small hands, small shoulders, sweet voices and all. I just didn't. It made me feel less feminine. I just hated it. I just wanted to be more feminine but the way my body and looks looked I felt so less like a woman. I had body dysphoria for a long time. Doing difficult chores were only for men. Those musculinity was only for men. I would really reach out to people first and help. That's what I learned watching at my dad. Feeling less feminine really made me so self conscious of everything I did. I hated myself. My looks, my imperfections and all. I just thought I was so ugly, I would always avoid looking at the mirror. But the people around me would see me with a different eye. They would call me beauty pretty but it was still inconvincing. I don't know what all this is. Now I am also suffering from hocd. Everything is a mess