What GENDER are you? | Most Common Gender Identities Right Now
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What GENDER are you? | Most Common Gender Identities Right Now
Some of the most popular gender identities mentioned in this vid today: cisgender, agender, genderqueer, nonbinary, genderfluid, genderflux, androgynous, demi-girl, demi-boy, and transgender!
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**quietly watches and listens**
Well, I'm still confused- but at least I know the definitions a bit better-
its okay to be confused. either way I'm sure your doing great!
Feel you, my fellow human, hope you'll figure out a gender your comfortable with, good luck
@@kraken7141
Thank you! I'm leaning towards being trans boy so so far I identify as transmasculine :)
@@sorren8591 thats great, i hope all of your friends and your family's gonna support you when you're ready to come out
@@kraken7141
I hope so too :)
Some things I want to say that took me a while to realize as I come to understand my gender that I want others to know:
You are valid if you question your identity and realize you’re cis
You are valid if you are trans and like things that are stereotypically for the sex you were assigned at birth
You are valid if you identify only partially with the sex you were assigned at birth and partially with another
Gender expression does not equal gender identity
If you are non-binary, you are not obligated to be androgynous
And no matter what you are loved and valid!
This!!!
Yayyyy fellow asexual, whoop whoop!
I love you (not in a weird way) but thank you for this
It helps alot
Thank you, needed this :D
why are it allways us aces offering the VALID-stamp to everyone ?
Not negative, i love our ace-community ;)
I was in among us one time and people were saying you could only be a boy or a girl, so I had to explain to them that;
1. You can be born intersex
2. Gender identity and biological sex are very different
Yeah among us players are very... unaccepting sometimes
yea it's really annoying how much racists and transphobes/homophobes there are and i started playing in europe, people there are way better to play with :))
@@ImLiterallySoup one time there was an lgbtq hater in a server FULL of lgbtq people, we set up a rule that we could kill that person in front of everyone and nobody would press report or emergency button. We also voted them off first every time we had a meeting. We eventually harassed them to the point where they left. It was hilarious and I couldn’t stop laughing the entire time that stuff was going down
@@-_Sp4ceJ3lly_- omll that is so funny. I found a really nice supportive person yesterday and we played together for a while, and we killed all the rude, racist, homophobic people it was awesome :)
Hahaha yes that sounds so fun!
to anyone reading this: don't forget a lot of these words have several interpretations! and everyone's gender experience is unique, don't hurry to find your gender, take your time and explore
Thank you 🥺
No label will always 100% fit for everyone who uses that label
I once felt extremely stressed out by that idea even though people would try to be comforting. Like, how could I figure out my gender if they didn’t have a set meaning? How would I know what applied to me without a standard definition? A philosophical idea I read once made me feel a lot better about it. It read, “There is no definition of a chair that anyone can create which would include all chairs and exclude all non-chairs.”
It basically reminded me that ALL language is imperfect, and if I can use words at all, then I can figure this out.
Yeah like choosing sweets at the sweet store one day I like sour sweets the next day I might like chocolates. And every day I will be offended because my preferences are not recognised. People lose there jobs because they are just meant to know that one day your a bumble bee and the next you are unicorn.
@Zeus Christos No to what?
Hi Laurenzo, just to clarify: Genderfluid can be both an umbrella term for gender identities that change over time and a specific gender identity. As an umbrella term, it also includes Genderflux, which is when someone's gender identity varies in intensity. They might go from agender to demi gender to fully gendered.
Another, probably less common, identity is the combination of Genderfluid and Genderflux: Fluidflux. A fluidflux person's gender varies both in identity (boy, girl, bigender, nonbinary) and intensity (fully gendered, demi gender, agender)
this!!
Yea ! I’m fluidflux but I typically just use the label genderfluid for convenience
@@gameywarrior777 that’s completely valid!
@@sisi7304 thank you !
@@gameywarrior777 you’re welcome!
btw, genderflux (we'll take girl-flux for example) is that the intenstity of the gender changes, hope this helps!
Say your genderflux and pan gender for example. It’s like a spectrum, with agender on one end and pangender on the other. Every week, day or even hour the way your feel your gender is might change, and that’s the best I can explain it feels like being ganderflux.
@Aaron Brincefield what?
@Aaron Brincefield then why’d you bother clicking on this comment
Who's Aaron brincefield? Did he delete his coment?
@@bloodysovy8026 he was some transphobe who was all like “oh that doesn’t exist and blah” and I’m pretty sure he deleted his comment
“Do your research and look into all the other genders out there!”
Me: does buzzfeed quiz
Yes-
Me who just took the buzzfeed quiz: 👁️👄👁️
I took a non-binary “quiz” and it was just a page that said “Yes. The fact that this matters enough to you for you to look it up proves it.” And underneath it said “Would you like it better if the page looked like this?” And it linked to a page that said “No”
@@insertnameornoun6637 i saw that the other day too, didn’t really help though 😅
I took a random test yesterday and got vending
Another identity:
*Pangender*
Pan, means all (in Latin or something) so someone who identifies as pangender identifies as all genders. Basically, the opposite on agender.
Yes I’m a Latin study and yes pan means all and it’s where we get the words pantaphobia; meaning the fear of everything, and pansexual; attraction to all without preference.
So it’s basically just a prefix.
WAIT WHAT THIS- THISHGTH H I DIDNT KNOW PANGENDER EXISTED PLEASE WHAT IS THIS ME I FEEL COMFORTABLE AS ANY/ALL GENDERS AND I COULD IDENTIFY WITH ANY ONE AT ANY SECOND THANK YOU FOR THIS CXOMMENT
@@kaloric XD I didn’t realize this should help someone so much! Happy to help!
Oh so my gf is pangender!? Well thanks. She told me that she uses all pronouns and all genders but I neber got the chance to ask her what exactly is her gender. So this kinda helped me I guess
@@FirstKingOfMushrooms you should ask her to describe her gender more in depth, there are a lot of genders, and lots of people use all pronouns without being pangender!
“Agender not a gender.........idk why I do this” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you killed me
how i interpret genderfluid en genderflux:
genderfluid is like a colorlamp, you can change to any color (= gender) at any moment
genderflux is like a dim lamp, you can make the color brighter or dim the light. mostly between a gender [bright light] (female, male, enby) to agender [dimmed light]. you can be “full” gender, demigender of agender/ genderless
@_sweeze_ best lamp 😂
Hi! I'm Ally, I'm genderfluid. You did a pretty good job of explaining, so I'll just add a little bit more and just offer to answer any questions! ☺️
First: never assume to know a genderfluid person's experience just because you know another genderfluid person. Every person's experiences differ. For me, I mostly go between female and nonbinary-leaning masc, with occasional days where I will feel entirely male, or even multiple genders at once. However, other genderfluid people may have the exact opposite experience and only have female days occasionally.
Second: please please please always ask for pronouns EVERY time you see a genderfluid friend (if they're out publicly. Do not out them 😡). And also ask if they have "default" pronouns for when you don't have an opportunity to ask. For example, I'm basically always okay with they/them pronouns if you don't have a chance to ask day to day
Third: Be aware that a genderfluid person's gender could change once every couple of months or even years, to every SECOND. It honestly just depends, so be patient with us.
Hope this helps!
--Ally
thank you for your info Ally! yes pronouns are very important
Thank you for this! I'm a bit opposite like you mentioned. I'm AFAB, but more often than not I feel masculine, nonbinary, or a mix of genders and only feel feminine on rare occasion. I'm out to everyone as being nonbinary, but I haven't really gone into detail explaining it to everyone because it's frustrating enough for myself. I did talk to my partner about it pretty in depth though and I told them when I find ones I like I'm going to get different color bracelets to represent which pronouns I prefer to be referred to that day so they know without having to ask me. I've told them too if they're not sure which ones to use when talking to someone and I'm not around to ask for them to use they/ them pronouns.
@@theoande1329 the bracelets are an awesome idea! Love that
I feel like I'm gender fluid but don't know what my pronouns should be- I feel like a they/she but also a he/she? It's so confusing 🤯
Yup! Also me and my friend have bracelets to show each other what our pronouns are. Like if I have a purple bracelet on, she will know my pro nouns for that day are they/ them. If she has a pink and purple bracelet on, i know that she likes she/ they
Not enby related but I just tried to come out as Bi to my grandma and the first thing she said was no your not and went on a hour long speach explaining to me why I'm not bi and the whole classic homophobic/biphobic rant. She even asked me if I had abandoned my religion
Yikes, so sorry to hear... If you still want to be religious, that's up to you, no body's business. Personally, i couldn't wait to stop religions practices
im so sorry that happened to you, no one deserves that. with all due respect, i dont think your grandma knows what religion means. religion is about being loving, understanding, kind, etc. its not about discrimination and all that absurdity. its up to you whether to stay or leave your religion, but im 100% sure that you are loved and accepted for who and what you are :)) (im nonbinary bisexual and also religious lol)
I know im late to this, but what my Christian friend told me is this. "God made us this way, he doesn't make mistakes. And to questions him, and think I am wrong for being who I am is to question God. To use his words, and work to attack others is to miss use his teachings, and to stray from the path of God yourself." I was told this when we where talking about people using the bible to spread hate towards the LGBTQ+ community. I hope having some words to put behind yourself will help you im coming out in a Christian household ❤
@@Verydeadbarbie im so glad you still replied even if ure late, i know im not the one you're addressing this to but i'll be keeping those words in mind
@@Verydeadbarbie yeah, my bi demigirl Catholic self agrees
I identify as Nonbinary but like it's confusing for me. Some times I feel more feminine but I don't want to use she/her pronouns. Sometimes I just want to be a guy and use he/him pronouns but then most of the time I just want to exist and not have to worry about what gender I am.(Aah Also I have figured out my issues for the most part I think, I have realized that I want to use He/They pronouns and wanna look more "masculine" but still kind of androgynous."
Same.
Personally, it gets really stressful for me trying to figure out my gender.
Hi! I struggled with this for a while, and I've found it to be less stress inducing to figure out what my style is for a particular day instead of figuring out my gender. Once I'm out and about for the day in the clothes that make me feel good TODAY, I ask myself which pronouns I'd feel comfortable with today. "If Lizzie ordered coffee for me and used she, how would I feel?" If I squirm i move on to the next set of pronouns. Sometimes I have more than one set I'm comfortable with, sometimes all of them make me uncomfy. Only after I've gotten dressed in something I feel comfy in and figure out the pronouns I'm comfy with do I think "huh, I wonder what my gender is". Because even if I don't know or it's too confusing to figure out, I'm comfortable. The other day I wore makeup and eyeliner and glitter and jewelry and feminine clothing, but I didn't want my t*tties to show, and I did NOT want she/her pronouns, but instead wanted he/him. And that's great! Bc gender identity (how you feel inside) does not have to correlate with your gender expression (what you present visibly)!!
Hope this helps!
Rina (he/they/she)
Same
@@damiens_room me too
You could be pangender
When recommended works faster than notifications
whattt!!! :D
@@adesso.laurenzo notifs are usually delayed and sometimes i end up hitting the home button and see a video posted like three seconds ago!
I thought I was genderfluid for a moment this year, but I realized there aren't days when I feel more male, female, or nonbinary than others. Right now I think I'm pangender, my preferred pronouns are all of them, essentially. This video was really good.
can i ask you a question that might be triggering..?
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what name do you use? i'm (i think) genderfluid and i don't feel like any name really suits me but still use the one i was born with
@@ImLiterallySoup I could be wrong here, but I believe this is were the tongue in cheek joke in the community for Nonbinary naming schemes comes from. It basically goes inanimate object or 3 letters. Like someone named Leaf, Mane or Mitten, or Ala, Evi, Lan, and such.
@@ImLiterallySoup if you were asking what name you should use, you can use any name you want :} don’t feel pressured to change or keep your birth name 👍
Ayo same I felt genderfluid then I found out I was bigender❤️
@@ImLiterallySoup Hey! For me, I still use my birth name, but my usernames online are all sorts of different names, and I usually don’t correct people bc 1 it helps protect my identity from creeps online and 2 it feels nice to have multiple, differently gendered names! For context, my birth name is Nena, which is a shortened version of my great grandma’s name “Chenena” (it’s a Muskogee Creek name) and I’m actually planning on changing my name legally to the full version to honor her. At the same time, ask most random strangers I’ve interacted with in youtube comments and they’ll say my name is Chesterson! And that doesn’t even take into account stage personas and LARP characters I’ve created for myself, which I’ll admit I haven’t really gotten the chance to use thanks to COVID. But basically, what works for me is keeping my legal name but using various aliases so I don’t feel tied down to one name. I hope this helps you, even if this advice isn’t quite a fit.
To anyone else who identifies as genderfluid here's a tip for you. Make bracelets (or any other jewellery) corresponding a certain colour with the pronouns you feel comfortable with/the gender you identify as at the moment. I've started doing this today because the changes can be so fast that my friends can't keep up. Half a day and let me tell you: it is a literal life saver. You don't have to but just a tip for anyone who needs/wants it
Omg I recently discovered I'm girlflux so this helps me sm for irl stuff
Something I figured out on my own tho is (at least on discord) I change the emoji in my status to match my current pronouns (having a list to explain what each emoji means ofc lol)
I literally have the unicorn emoji for when I feel I have no pronouns because unicorns don't exist, just like my pronouns don't exist at the moment lol
You are a deity for commenting this. I think I'm gonna buy a bunch of bracelets, a bunch of colors, and kinda assign each color a different gender sorta speak? I'm currently figuring a lot of stuff out in my head, but this sounds amazing.
how does one person figure out they are gender fluid? sry Im difficult
@@alexnothome2406 Honestly, it's different for everyone. It could be through a lot of research or anything
I don't doubt it anymore, I'm Non-Binary :)
You are valid❤️
Woooo! Congrats!
Congrats! I’m also non-binary.
congrats
wuuu :D
Same u.u
Hey! I'm not gender-flux although I saw a cool post that explains it really well. Gender-flux is like a sliding light switch. Sometimes its at full intensity and sometimes its at low intensity or anywhere in between. Basically you're fluctuating between girl/boy and nonbinary/agender
I recently came out as agender and have already come out as aroace (So yeah, I'm like the holy trinity of NOPE). I never really understood the logic behind all these gender norms because I never saw myself as woman or man either and don't like it when everything has to be gendered (pink is a girl color, dresses are for women, blablabla... or creative words like mansplaining or manspreading). It's just wrong and discriminating against everyone who just wants to be themselves. And I can say it feels way more comfortable to say that I don't want any gender to define me as a person because I don't do it with other people either.
ay yo another AAA battery, good day/evening/night/whatever-the-fuck fellow human
next time people ask in a respectable not threatening way, just text or scream "AAA-h I exist" like screams. I like the AAA battery comment too. gender is a social construct.
I stand with you :)
Another AAA 🔋 here. Hello, fellow humans ✌️
I'm agender and I'm soo happy to see you talking about it in the video, I don't know many ppl that are as well so it's good for visibility
Absolutely!! Thanks for sharing this!
i’m struggling with trying to figure out whether i’m agender or pangender. how did you figure it out, if you don’t mind me asking? 🥺 cause like i go by all pronouns but i don’t know if i really feel “gendery”
@@silversong185 Oh dont worry! I'll answer it just don't know if it will help rlly lol. So I was thinking in the start that I was actually gender-fluid, but it didn't felt much right and I felt like none of the genders really fit me, so i did some research and I found the incredible word "agender" and it totally clicked with me, cause I noticed that I didnt fit in any of the genders cause I just didnt felt like any gender at all! Oh and a reminder that I wish someone had told me, even though you might be agender you dont need to use they/them or be androgynous, like me! I use he/him pronouns and present masculine but I'm agender!!!
Well, hope I helped with something~!
I’m was born a girl, but I don’t really feel all that girly a lot, so I think I’m a demi girl?
@@mojojojo2057Yup!!
*oh no I honestly can’t tell if I’m a trans male, Demiboy, or non binary*
Same
Idk if this is helpful but try demiboyflux
same but replace trans male with bigender
same except its bigender, demigirl, nonbinary, or genderfluid
Same idk if im agender genderfluid or demigirl
I'm a demiboy, tho I am considering wether or not I'm actually a trans man ( he/him plz)
Twin pfp ! And I'm a demigirl ! (and I actually tought I had posted this comment for a second)
@@Anna-dd1tb omg my brain just did a backflip, I was so confused XD. I thought your comment was me lol. That's cool we're like opposites
@@adencarlton1592 the real question is who is the evil twin ?!
@@Anna-dd1tb what if you're both the evil twin and you commit arson together 😳
@@oliver1435 Amazing
Just one year ago I identified as genderfluid, then I had a short hyper feminine/cisgender phase and now I'm a proud trans man 😊
So a boy or girl at birth
I'm just sitting here like: why am I watching this? I know this
Same lmao.
Hey! You asked for gender fluid people to kind of explain what it’s like so if it’s helpful - I’m gender fluid and I’d be happy to explain! Personally I identify as non-binary/ gender fluid . I use they/them pronouns . I occasionally wake up and look in the mirror and think “oh! It’s a man” I occasionally wake up and think “look! It’s a person!” . I would say sometimes I do feel more feminine but I usually avoid using she/her pronouns as it makes me feel uncomfortable . Btw this is a fake name for this account - I don’t use Lola or any female name given to me at birth . The reason why I would describe being gender fluid is because some days I feel more masculine and I want to dress as a guy , present as a guy , be seen as a guy . In every way be acknowledged by myself and others as a guy . Some days I want to present super super feminine and be clocked as a woman - but I still prefer to be called they because I get dysphoria from “she”. Personally I say I fluctuate most between they and he - but I present super feminine , middle , and super masculine. It’s all just like a wibbly wobbly line of feeling differently . Sometimes my gender ( inside ) changes daily , hourly , weekly , or even monthly . It all depends really . I think I’d describe it as just feeling like a different gender . The main thing that causes me to switch presentation is dysphoria if I’m being honest . Some days I’ll be fine with b**bs, some days I’ll want to get them away as soon as I can with a binder . Some days I’ll wake up feeling more masculine , and want to put a binder on and it’ll all fit perfectly , but sometimes I’ll put a binder on without thinking and then feel SUPER uncomfortable. So I get dysphoria from both sides . I hope this helps! Gender fluidity is different for everyone but this is my experience ✨ I hope this helps!
Hi is it possible to be genderfluid but only fluctuate between nonbinary and female? I feel like my gender is fluid but I don't ever really feel like a boy
@@Sakura-oc9lh going through a similar experience, just some masculinity is fluctuating in between
I'm non binary and I never thought that I would be the type of person that would be. Honestly my struggle is not finding out what my gender is anymore, I figured that out. What it is though is just worrying about what other people think and sometimes just accepting the fact that I cant force myself into either being male or female.
my best friend came out to me as a demigirl and I'm just watching this to be a good ally friend :)
Update: they actually identify as genderfluid now, which I ofc also support :D and I wanted to use the opportunity and tell you its fully okay to not be sure at first, or even change a label after some time
Have a great day guys!!
Awww we need more people like you!
@@Eriii693 it's just human decency, but thanks :)
That's nice of you :>
That's really nice of you :)
Me sitting here confused if I’m non binary or gender fluid: ummmm am I stupid or is this hard? Btw I loooove your content! Ur the best🏳️🌈😊😊🙃
This is hard
genderfluid is a nonbinary gender identity so you can be both :} (I’m genderfluid)
@Grace Manning same
I’m both.
@@NatureLover-pj2qe well that’s another option....I think I just realised myself :) thank you!
I realised I'm 11 months late to comment (and 11 years late to accept myself) but as a gendefluid person I wanted to share some of my experiences with my own identity.
I fluctuate sometimes daily other times weekly. It's sometimes fluctuating from man to woman, woman to man, neither to either, neither to both and ya know, all the other variations of that. Sometimes I can go months without ever relating to the concept of being one or more of these. Sometimes it's just between both or neither, other times it's between neither and man or neither and woman. Sometimes it's just a mix of both for a long time.
There are many ways for genderfluidity or gender fluctuations to manifest and they are also not necessarily linked with gender expression. Myself I prefer to be androgynous when I can and usually just tell people to use they/them pronouns because that always works for me.
Just remember that you're still valid even if you only feel like a woman or feminine in rare situations. You're still valid even if you only feel like a man or masculine in rare situatuions. You're still valid even if there has been no shift in gender identity for a few days, weeks or even months.
I feel like I had more to say but maybe that is really all that's needed to be said. I highly recommend people who is curious about it to look up "Loki Gendefluid Comic". That is what made me accept that this is what I relate to and it is accurate for me. Maybe it will help some of you out there. I hope it does.
I feel.. partially female. I already know I’m a demigirl, but I’m still here to make sure. Your videos help me a lot!
@@tameraider5152 ?? Sorry, but your comment is a bit confusing
@@tameraider5152uhh no
I’ve never really felt a connection to gender or a connection to having a gender. I perviously identify as non binary but felt that wasn’t right so I did some research and felt Agender was the best term for me.
I remember one day I was asking my teachers on teams if I could be called ‘Sammy/Sam’ and the majority said yes. But I asked my math teacher and she asked ‘Are your parents ok with this?’ And I was (and still am) closeted and haven’t told anyone in my family yet. And just recently for some reason when my friends were calling me by my birth name (I didn’t tell them yet) I just felt really uncomfortable and sick. Idkw though, but thank you for the video! I’ve been confused whether I’m non binary or Demi-girl, but I’m pretty sure I’m a Demi-girl. It’s just feels like, for me, that i am mostly a girl, but not completely. But that’s just my experience
Ive been researching genders for3 years and still cant find a gender im comfartable with
I am an ally. This has been the best explanation of the genders i have watched. You cleared up so much for me. You can actually write a FOR DUMMIES edition of genders. I love how you have no hang ups whatsoever. There are others who explain but are actually dismissive and judgemental. They come across as if you don't already get it that's your problem and we won't put ourselves in a box to make you comfortable. They actually roll their eyes and scoff at questions
“Demiboy, demigirl”
The subtitles dummy boy dummy girl
I feel assaulted...
HAHAHAHAHSJDOHIDKSNDUIGKENAHGITKENAD
I honestly think I'm gender fluid. Different days I feel different and like to present myself differently. Some days, I feel masculine and some days I feel feminine.
I'm nonbinary! And your videos inspire le so much, as a fellow nonbinary video creator
Yay Thank you so much! :)
So a boy or girl
@@etanoll4179 nope
@@visualfiguers3265 ??
OMG YOU HELPED ME SO MUCH THANK YOU I AM IMAGING IN MY HEAD BEING CALLED PRONOUNS I WANT AND I'M SMILING SO HARD
I'm genderfluid and some tips on some knowledge that I've learned!
Gendefluidity is very expressive, we are under the non - binary spectrum, but, not all use they/them pronouns, but it's easier than going "oh hey, I have she/her he/they today." So on and so on.
This change, or fluctuation in gender can change over a few months, days, hours, or even years!
My genderfluid folks like to Express themselves in attitudes, clothes, and even moods.
Finding out you're genderfluid might feel easy, or difficult. It might seem like your indecisive, or maybe not. It is very confusing, but to figure ot out, you have to think "How often does this happen?" "Why does this happen?" And, "Am I comfortable with this?"
Genderfluid folk are also different in so many ways, and everyone is valid, just remember, if you are confused on their gender identity, ask pronouns, instead of hinting or subtle asking. Just straight up ask.
Remember, everyone is valid, and no one left behind! Love you all!
❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍
What’s up. I’m Alexigender, but I usually just use non-binary
Omg, I've always identified as genderfluid but I just googled this term (Alexigender) and omg that's me
@@unirell406 cool’ glad I could help. I was the same way :)
gbgb that actually sounds like meee dehdbehdb
Ok.....life update...I’m not putting any labels on anything😅 I just say I’m a trans guy that uses he/they pronouns
I’m just curious. This might not be the best question to ask, but I really just want to know.
Can you still go by different pronouns while still being cis?
I really don’t care which pronouns people use for me. They can call me she, him, they, it, etc. but I still identify as a female. Would that still make me cis?
Yup! Pronouns are just words, so you can go by pronouns that aren't typically associated with your gender.
Tbh I wished there were a channel like yours back in my youth like 14 years ago, helping me finding my gender and overall sexual identity. I took nearly ten years for me until I realized that I am a panromantic, greysexual genderfluid person...
Thank you for doing this and help people understand others and mostly better understand themselves.
Hi everyone!!! My name is Arlo, and I'm Non - Binary. Now I have had some struggle with gender. Now I know someone will see this thats needs this. Now I have come out to my parents. Now I love them how ever this has been a hard time for them I must admit. Now they keep using words like princess, or feminine terms. Now if you couldn't get from the contests. Yes I was born Female. But I have never really felt like that's been right. Now the other thing my parents do is say things like :Your probably just Non - Binary cause all your friends are changing their genders" Now as true as that is my friends are changing their genders, however I did not do this because I wanted to be in a group wit my friends. Now I do have some Enby friends now unlike them I never really when having to chose a bathroom had a struggle,because I knew very little about Enby's. But ever since I started to learn about that bathrooms have been a struggle. Now I am not out at school whatsoever but I am planning on coming out next year to some teachers. Now there is a few I will be telling this year. Now the meaning of this huge long paragraph is if you your child, or someone you know changes their pronouns to they/them use the pronouns. In my own home my parents don't and it hurts but there really is nothing I can do about it right now. But it is so emotionally draining to deal with. please I'm begging you don't use the wrong pronouns it hurts more then you could ever imagine. Now I know there might be some people who will say things like "oh well its not grammatically correct" or "it just doesn't make sense". Its okay to not understand, it's a hard thing for me to explain because well I don't fully understand it. I have just never really felt like a girl or a guy but non - binary felt right. An gender neutral terms felt nice. Now even if you are against it, just try to imagine going though you daily life being called a gander that's doesn't feel right, like trying to fit a square into a triangle. Its hard and its not just Enbys whos struggle with this. But end of my long talk. I hope this helps someone just remember be kind and just do the right thing.
I enjoy your posts very much. I’m an older cisgender woman (I don’t know if I said that correctly) and I learn so much from the content you post. Bc of you I’m able to have an open conversation with an employee at the office where I get counseling. He has a male name but identifies as both male and female. After watching your videos I asked him what his pronouns were and he was so shocked but his face lit up and we talked for about 15 minutes. I love him. Every time I go into the office he jumps up to hug me and have a chat. My point is I’m grateful I came across your posts bc it’s allowed me to have an amazing friendship with an overall great person. Ps: I still get pronouns wrong. Yes the struggle is real but he laughs bc I’m trying so hard. ❤️🙌🏻🤩
PSA some Genderfluid people use coloured bracelets to show to other people what gender they are feeling that day so that you can use their correct pronouns ( such as blue for he/him, purple for they/them or other neo- pronouns and pink for she/her) some gender fluid people ( such as myself ) prefer to always use they/them pronouns but some genderfluid people prefer to be called the pronouns which align with the gender they’re feeling that moment . I hope this helps! Xx
hi i don't know if you'll see this but I've been confused about my pronouns for a year or two..
she/her - meh. there okay ig
they/them - genuinely makes me happy and makes me feel valid
he/him - i can't explain how it makes me feel but it's positive :)
however this also changes.. for example somedays ill literally only identify with she/her ect. but it can change every month, week, day or even hour and its totally random (seems totally random) but i know for a fact im not male or female.. im really confused as to what this is.. is this genderfluid..? please help :/
also on the topic of dysphoria, i am perfectly happy in my "female" body but most times i dont at all identify with being a girl. nine times out of ten they/them feels the most accurate but i do also identify with she/her and he/him at other times.
@@xelaxrs3932 hey lexi! Tysm for asking . From what it sounds ( and because I relate to it massively) it does sound like you’re gender fluid . I feel the same in relation to gender and how I feel inside , and I do like my body too , just sometimes dysphoria pops up , and I love being a man . I completely get you . If you want to talk more about it w me that’s completely fine ! Sending lots of love and happiness :) xx
@@lolasymonds3695 thank you so much :) xx
You guys need help
It's wonderful that we are starting to have these discussions as a society and I enjoy reading about everyone's experiences. After having feelings and experiences that I couldn't explain for most of my life I decided that bigender is the term that best describes what's going on inside my head, and it is so freeing to be able to allow both aspects of my gender to be expressed. I wish that we were having these conversations twenty years ago. It is amazing how much more varied and vibrant the gender spectrum is than I even thought. It sucks that there are still so many people that still think in rigid terms based on appearance at birth. There is so much more going on, from chromosomes to epigenetics to brain development to psycology to social and cultural roles, that having empatatic conversations can only be healthy for all involved.
I once got asked on fortnite if I was a girl, because some 10yo boy wanted a fortnite gf. I’m agender and so I simply said: no I’m a piece of absolute nothing
I told my mom that I'm agender but she won't use the correct pronouns and won't use my preferred name. She said no to my face when I asked if she can use they/them pronouns and my preferred name. What should I do?
Don't use her pronouns until she uses yours and your name
@@blackghost6265 woah, that's a good idea
@@blackghost6265 thanks
Get sanity like your Mom who calls you by name.
I recently figured out I was non-binary and I feel much more happy with myself ☺️
I identify as a weaponized toaster.
This is really good! If anyone feels mostly agender but might have a some kind of connection to another gender I'd highly suggest looking up libragenders. I'm agender/demi-boy by the way :)
I love when people just accept when other people are not cis. Thank you!
thanks for this video! this was pretty helpful, because I've been really confused about my gender lately🙃👌 "shit's confusing, man" - Dan Howell. honestly, feel that
As a gender fluid person, this can also mean that you feel particularly one gender most times and on occasion feel another gender. It mostly just addresses which pronouns you feel most comfortable using at any given point and is fluid, like one day I want to be addressed as she/her the next I want to be addressed as he/they or etc.
The word Genderfluid is very much how I feel! I didn't know there is a word for this! Thanks form helping me! ❤
Sometimes I dream to be an eagle... but I wake up as a human.
Non-binary can also be used as umbrella term for everything in between, every gender identity that isn't boy or a girl
I'm genderfae, but I used to have male days, they kinda just stopped happening lol. Here's a little essay I used to explain my gender when I identified as fluid:
I can often times tell what my current gender is (not always but often), because it just feels... right? I don't know how to explain it. The gender that feels right changes periodically though. For me, usually it changes three or four times a day, but it's small changes (like from 100% fem to 50% fem 50% enby). Bigger changes (100% fem to 50/50 masc/enby or even to 100% masc) usually happen once a day or so, sometimes twice, and sometimes my gender is relatively consistent for a few days. Certain factors make it change faster though, a major one being stress. When I'm anxious (like during an exam) I change my pronouns multiple times per hour, and in really extreme cases (election night being the only one so far) they change as often as every ten seconds which is really disorienting and gives me a lot of dysphoria. That's the best way I can explain it. Sorry if it's kinda confusing.
Two years ago my son's spouse came out as non-binary and now uses they/them pronouns. Earlier this year my son came out as third gender, still uses he/him pronouns. It's been very educational being an ally.
Hey I’m genderfluid and I’m so happy to see someone finally describe genderfluidity correctly instead of grouping it with genderqueer and describing it like genderqueer
Gender flux means you feel different levels of a gender such as girlflux which means you sometimes could feel fuly feminine or sometimes more demigirl or non-binary. this gender could also be queerflux, non-binaryflux and much more. Hope this helps 😃
It's been a year, and I'm currently very happy that I'm now Bigender!
I’m a fridge.
Yo. Sorting by new can be harmful to your health. Just remember, ignore the trolls. Don't engage. They will starve if you don't feed them. If you feel yourself getting stressed or emotional reading hateful comments, then leave. Remeber to take care of yourself. Love ya tons!
Hi a question can I be genderfluid between nonbinary and demigirl?
Yes you can
I was born female and I love being a woman, dressing up with heels and makeup. But then I also want to be like a really pretty boy and embrace my masc side or maybe androgynous 🤔
Same. I love feminine things and I love makeup dresses and all that jazz. But I don’t want my love for those things to be seen as me just being a woman. I’m not sure how to explain it. I don’t feel connected to masculinity at all and I don’t want to look traditionally masculine at all. I like the androgynous look though. And sometimes I feel comfortable with just being female but other times I wish I was nothing but a blank slate..
@@kittiekat2297 You could be demigirlflux. This is where you kinda go around feeling like a girl one day and then nothing another day. I recommend looking into it :D
Hi, I'm genderfluid, and for me that means that my preference in pronouns changes, as well as how I present my appearance. Usually I go by he/they pronouns, but other people might prefer others. Genderfluid essentially just means you switch how you prefer to present, and can switch between genders. For some people it might be switching between preferred pronouns, or in the way you present. And genderfluid individuals may switch between any genders, for some people it may switch between male and female while for others it may switch between different non-binary identities.
I don't know how useful this is but it's some stuff :P
This is really helpful, thank you!
love how the title is like ur selling genders and its like COME BUY THE MOST POPULAR ONES! RATED 9/10!! its amazing and so silly i love it
Is it normal to be scared to change from your base gender and just want to stay cause it’s a more socially safe place and you don’t absolutely hate your biological gender?
Not sure (I feel the same) but I'm commenting so you can hopefully get an answer ^-^
I identify as nonbinary, but relate to genderfluid. Now I'm 10 times more confused.
It’s confusing I am agender don’t feel bad it’s hard
Okay off topic idk if this is a huge coincidence or not but I know someone who is named Phoenix, goes by they/them pronouns and is atm non-binary and is pansexual
If u are the same person I’m thinking of then huh, small world I guess
I like they/him but I dont really like a lot of masculine stuff and sometimes (very little of the time) I feel like a girl. But I want an androgynous body. I think I might be genderfaun but- like I said, I'm not very masculine.
the difference between genderfluid and genderflux is that a genderfluid person like me changes gender identity from time to time but not necessarily daily. eg: im genderfluid and recently i feel more feminine but sometimes i feel more masculine. however, a genderflux person might change gender identity daily or throughout the day
Thanks so much for not leaving out intersex people. I am not intersex myself I just think it's super important and a reminder that sex isn't black and white binary.
I am about to cry watching this, I feel like I don't understand myself, I can't figure out. The sheer information you presented here gives me hope on my journey
I'm nonbinary but I also relate kind of to agender. Also, I'm autistic and I kind of relate to the autigender. For those of you who don't know, autigender is an identity that relates someone's autism to their gender. Now I'm no expert, but for me, I have a hard time with gender concepts. I get the terms, I get the stereotypes. The feeling? Ehhhh... don't know. I'm AFAB and I know what it's like to be a girl (because I was gendered as such for most of my life), but I'm uncomfortable with that and I was always a tomboy (didn't know the LGBTQ+ language back then). Since I cannot conceptualize what it would be like to be a man, I don't identify as such (and I've been called "sir" down south). So because of this confusion that is connected to my autism ----> autigender.
Hopefully someone with a better understanding can explain more fully. This is simply my personal experience.
I’m autistic and non-binary and I can kinda relate to this.
thank you for this video, I've been trying to figure out my gender for awhile and now I think that I might be agender
im nothing. my pronouns? my gender? my whole existence? gone. idk my sexuality at this point too.
If I knew what I was my life wouldn’t be such a mess :)
So rn I only call myself a rat
If God made you a girl, you're a girl. If he made you a boy, you're a boy.
I identify as cis-gender and I am watching all these videos about gender, sex, and sexuality to know more about it cause I think it's really interesting to know how a lot of other people feel about this, cause I just want to understand so their isn't any confusing on my end yk so thx for the great explanation! Btw I think you're beautiful 🙃
At first I thought I was a Demi Girl bc I mostly felt like a female bc I was born one but I’d just like to thank you for teaching me about Demi Boys! Now I know my gender!
You know I am non-binary and my name from birth is gender neutral I didn't had to choose a gender neutral name and my family is also supportive . ❤❤
That’s amazing!
Me: *starts video cis-gendered*
Me: *ends video gender fluid*
Me: well, damn, that was a good video...
Sometimes I wanna be a boy and sometimes I think I also wanna be a girl I figure out that I wanna be bi-gender and it feels so right for me and I’m proud but it also if your seeing this you might think I’m gender flux LOL
I came out as demi boy and my sister said that she dosent want another boy in the house
Hi laurenzo!
hi!
Pangender here
Somehow, 6+ months into learning LGBTQ terms left me thinking that non-binary, agender and androgynous mean the same thing
Yet this one video taught me more than what I've learned in 6+ months
AAAAAAAAÀAA WHY ARE THERE SO MANY WORDS-
thanks, i think i’m a demigirl that uses they/them
Omg thank you SO much. I was confused about my gender for YEARS now and I've always been used to be identified as a girl. Even if inside I don't feel like a girl, or a boy or in-beetween but I know I'm not a cisgender girl. Recently, I've been watching your videos and your tiktoks and I have came to to conclusion that I'm a demi-girl. However, I still am parcaly confused because I don't know if I'm gender fluid or not because it really does depend on my mood.
I am a genderfluid myself. So if you're confused about it, it means that you identify yourself as not having a fixed gender. It can differ by your mood. You can be a girl, boy, neither or both.
Me: I've finally found it, the scroll of truth!
Scroll of truth: Wondering if you're not cis, but repressing those feelings because you're scared of being non cis, is dumb.
Me for like a year: NYEHHH
learned a bit from this.. specifically that I'm technically trans!
mtf, not biologically.. but expressing the feminine side of me that was previously just behavioral. Still I mostly don't feel like I'm attached to any gender.. and that works perfectly for the microlabel I use:
*Librafeminine!*
Mostly agender, but partially feminine.
Similar to demi-girl.. but it's not mostly feminine + lesser part other gender(s)
and instead mostly agender + lesser part other gender(s)..
and I look somewhere between androgynous and feminine :3
For me it went:
Male -> Transfem -> Agender -> Librafeminine
And tbh I just feel amazing learning about makeup and such.. I feel a sense of welcomeness in the world of femininity which I never felt as a man... and I express myself in the ways I want.. which leads back to agender: I am not trying to be some specific gender .. I just want to be myself and experience life how I want!
So if I’m non binary I could use all pronouns??? Also would I be able to use a gender neutral name like Jessie or something
Yup non binary person here this is my old account my name is River and I use all pronouns
Definitely! Lots of Nonbinary people do so if all pronouns feel comfortable then feel free to use them. :D
I’m confused on my gender. I think I might be gender fluid but it is pretty hard to figure out. Thank you for being a resource!
I'm normal.
One of the most uncommon gender ( one I found and identify as!) Is alexigender!
Definition; You change gender but dont know exactly what they are.
There's two. It's not really complicated
female over here! and have been my whole life! go you Lorenzo! We are so proud of you for becoming open about your hardships!
YOU ARE *V A L I D*
Probably conversations around this topic should always start with understanding weather or not people who are discussing think that biological gender and gender identities are the same things.
Most arguments arise because people agree or not on this.
In addition, misunderstandings can arise when people is referring to biological sex and the other person thinks that he or she is referring to gender identity.
For example: if you are born a girl and you discover that you don't like playing with dolls or dressing up with pink I would still believe that she is a girl that doesn't like dolls and doesn't like to dress with pink.
When I say I believe "you're a girl" I mean your biological sex not your gender identity and to me that's the only thing that matters as I'm not questioning your identity because you can identify with whatever you want according to your set of preferences and whether or not this set of preferences aligns with the gender stereotypes that we have. For safety reasons (documents and burocratic processes) and for grammatical reason the biological gender is all that matters.
In my opinion we came to this gender puzzle because of the extreme pressure put on young people by companies and their marketing strategies who heavily leveraged gender stereotypes in the last decades.
Probably if we will let kids grow up and decide what the hell they want to be regardless of gender stereotypes we will not have people feeling the need to label themselves differently if they do not align with stereotypes. They would just think "I am girl who likes trucks" or "I am a boy who likes to cook" and that would be it.
And I can't understand this paradox: how can it be that to escape from traditional labels and stereotypes we ended up creating even more labels?? I would have expected something like "fuck labels, no more labels". Why this has not happened?
Someone please tell these kids that being "rare, unique, and marginalized" is not a form of value that you provide to society.
Sorry guys I will stand and fight for gay, Les, trans and Bi. But the rest is total look at me I'm so special, Your deserve the same rights as everybody else Nobody needs to know how I swing why do I need to your method.
Honestly the world has gone fucking crazy.