3 Steps to figure out your Gender Identity
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3 Steps to figure out your Gender Identity--
A lot of folks DM me on Instagram asking for advice about "how to figure out" their gender identity, so I decided to make an easy step-by-step guide to help you on your journey... :) Sending lots of love!
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i’m jealous of people who have never questioned their gender 🥲
same 🤩
Yeah, those are the people that realise how stupid it is.
i go by human/being 😄😋
Same
ikr?! like y is this just us this is so unfair
Me: *sees cat*
Also me: why does every lgbtq person have a cat I feel so left out 🥺😂
When u have a cat 👁👄👁
I am LGBTQ+ and I have a cat :>
@Zeus Christos no
@Zeus Christos Non-binary means you are neither a man/boy or a woman/girl and your just in the middle or you feel like you are both this is coming for a non-binary peep but I am pretty slow sooo 😂😭
Ikr 😡 I wish
Jokes on other languages, finnish has (and has always had) only one pronoun for everyone :)
woo go Finland
I'm kinda jealous because in my language almost everything you say you have to say with male or female pronun (idk really how to call this) so even if I want to say "I was..." I have to say this in female (with "a") or male (with "e"). So if you are not out yet or non binary like me then well, you would be fucked 🙂
🇫🇮✨
I have never been this jealous
Based?
My biggest issue is: I have absolutely NEVER felt uncomfortable with my pronouns/my body/myself all throughout my life, and then I started questioning my gender, but the question didn't come from a discomfort, it came because I never fit into the stereotipe of masculinity, so I thought I might be a woman.
After I started questioning, my anxiety grew so much on me, that everytime I'd think to myself "I think I'm cis, yeah this feels okay" my brain would go "REALLY? DOES IT REALLY? OR ARE YOU LYING TO YOURSELF?" until I started believing I was indeed lying to myself. I have now come to a point where I can't think about anything else, I can't sleep, I can't eat, talk, nothing except thinking about this, but I also am not able to have a concrete thought because my anxiety completely messed up my capacity to tell whether I am actually feeling something or not.
Just because you are masculine doesn't mean that you are trans. You do not owe it to anyone to fit into gender roles.
How u feeling now?
Femguys and mascgirls exist. They are real. I'm a femguy myself. :)
Even I am suffering with the same issue
I am the one hundredth person to like this comment
it’s a mental break down... *do do do dooo
do do do do dooo
do do do dooo
do do do do do do do*
i’ve been having an identity crisis
Not me having a mental break down like 30 minutes ago 🤠
There's also :
NOW IT'S TIME FOR A (mental) BREAKDOWN
never gonna get it
never gonna get it
I'm having that issue too I need some help pls :')
Not me having a mental breakdown for multiple years :’D
@@kookies3834 oof :'(
i don't wanna b a girl... but.. do i wanna b a boy🤔🤔🤔🤨
update: im nonbinary.
2nd update: im cis. 😭?
That's why there's ✨non-binary✨ or ✨a gender✨
I am a girl but i wanna be in a boy body but still i dln't wanna be in a boy body same with the girl body and i so confused what gender i wanna be now 💃
Lmao wrong emoji 🥲
Theres transgender, when you want to be a different gender then you are.
@@angelika5636 you could be trans
I really needed this video today.
Today and yesterday I've been in a debate with myself, questioning myself about it...
So thank you❤️
you're so welcome :)
I really think I’m non-binary; but I’m scared to tell anyone that I believe I am, because There’s a part of me that is scared that I’ll be wrong, and that I’m just cis, or transgender, and I’m just making stuff up in my head. idk, I’d love to experiment with they/them pronouns, as well, but I don’t have anyone I trust to ask to refer to me by they/them pronouns- and I’d love to try a different name, cause I hate the one I was given. It’s pretty, but it’s too feminine, I think? I’m sorry for rambling, ig, but this video was really helpful so, thank you and I love your content!
There's a site called Pronoun Dressing Room online where you can try out different names and pronouns.
You're describing exactly what I've been feeling
SAME (got people i trust but i cant trust myself to try stuff out lol)
Same
Yesss I relate to the first part of your comment. For me, it's like, "Ok! I'm not cis!"
Then denial.
Thanks for making this video! Im trying to find out what my gender is😌
good luck! you will figure it out :)
Same I think I'm they/them
@@thearthurbot2033 were you born male or female?
How do you still not know what your gender is after being on this earth for years? Your either born a male or female. Your parents should have already told you what you are.
@@Prod_by_808HEAD you are talking about my sex. Sex can be male, female or intersex. Genders on other Hand can be genderfluid, non-binary, trans, cis and tons more. So I hope you understood my "lesson"
Is it okay to just straight up not label your gender? Or is that then considered agender?
@@iilovevick I see I see thank you!
No I think that’s a different gender. agender is one specific gender, but not labeling your gender can mean your gender is too complex for a label or doesn’t fit into any existing label. They are very different :)
You can just consider yourself unlabeled, people call themselves that
@A M. ok bro except it’s not pointless bc people need to know who they are to be happy, even if who they are doesn’t fit into what YOU think exists. What a pointless way to use your brain, hating on other people for literally no reason.
@A M. I never said that I didn't believe in genders and labels lmao
What I am saying is that some people preferred to just call themselves unlabeled and that's okay
I identify as a female in my everyday life, which I'm comfortable with.
But online I would rather use pronouns of: He/Him and She/Her (The word they or other doesn't really sit right personally with me.) It mostly depends on how I'm feeling, or maybe who I want to be identify as. (Such as roleplays)
Does this mean I'm genderfluid, agender or maybe bigender?
That sounds like gender fluid
I feel the same way but I think I might be gender fluid but I'm too scared to admit it. And I'm scared of what my parents would say.
It might be Amicagender, like genderfluid but gender changes depending on who you're with
Yes, I'd really like a "figuring out sexual orientation" video! Thanks for inspiring a fellow nonbinary person!
Gender identity is a confusing and illogical term, a person does not have to identify themselves as A or B based on what is traditionally associated with the personal tastes of women or men, this is just giving more strength and logic to the existence of these stereotypes. If you're a woman who has tastes traditionally associated with men it doesn't change the fact that you're a woman, your tastes are just about personality, not a radical left-wing concept that seeks to mislead the meaning of "gender" like it is something scientific that you are born with.
Sex is only defined by the sex organ and chromosomes a subject is born with, in addition to other characteristics that develop in adolescence but are not as relevant. A subject can freely change sex if he feels bad about his body or if he thinks he will be happier and less judged in the opposite sex, that I believe and I fight for, now believing that someone is mentally born one thing and physically born another thing is simply impossible and illogical, just because you have short hair and male clothes and like cars and football it doesn’t make you less of a woman, that it’s just your taste, that’s just your personality.
Thanks for this video. I really am questioning at the minute. I came out as non-binary to my friends and some of them call me Jamie (some of them just don't so...) but I'm still not sure what I am? Or if I'm trans? So thanks for this video.
Love them as always
Gender identity is a confusing and illogical term, a person does not have to identify themselves as A or B based on what is traditionally associated with the personal tastes of women or men, this is just giving more strength and logic to the existence of these stereotypes. If you're a woman who has tastes traditionally associated with men it doesn't change the fact that you're a woman, your tastes are just about personality, not a radical left-wing concept that seeks to mislead the meaning of "gender" like it is something scientific that you are born with.
Sex is only defined by the sex organ and chromosomes a subject is born with, in addition to other characteristics that develop in adolescence but are not as relevant. A subject can freely change sex if he feels bad about his body or if he thinks he will be happier and less judged in the opposite sex, that I believe and I fight for, now believing that someone is mentally born one thing and physically born another thing is simply impossible and illogical, just because you have short hair and male clothes and like cars and football it doesn’t make you less of a woman, that it’s just your taste, that’s just your personality.
@@sugeknightiswatchingyou You don't understand the difference between sex and gender. If gender didn't exist, everyone would be treated exactly the same. But that's not true. There are even studies that show that people even treat _parrots_ differently if they think the parrots are male or female. So basically if you show the same parrot to someone but claim it's male, people will act differently around the parrot than if you claim it's female. This is not logical behaviour. That's how ingrained gender is.
I like being a girl but I cry when somebody says I will never be a boy? I like being both and I don’t know what to do..
Bigender?
You could be bigender ^^
I’m just very anxious about the whole proces
You're not the only one.
Lorenzo: **casually taking**
My confused gender fluid ass: TEACH ME I HAVE TO KNOWWW
Me:*fully content with my sexuality*
Gender: ima end this person/girl/boy’s (idk) whole career
I’ve had nights where I cried out from frustration bc I could t figure out how I felt, this video has helped me to be more certain of myself xx
Gender identity is a confusing and illogical term, a person does not have to identify themselves as A or B based on what is traditionally associated with the personal tastes of women or men, this is just giving more strength and logic to the existence of these stereotypes. If you're a woman who has tastes traditionally associated with men it doesn't change the fact that you're a woman, your tastes are just about personality, not a radical left-wing concept that seeks to mislead the meaning of "gender" like it is something scientific that you are born with.
Sex is only defined by the sex organ and chromosomes a subject is born with, in addition to other characteristics that develop in adolescence but are not as relevant. A subject can freely change sex if he feels bad about his body or if he thinks he will be happier and less judged in the opposite sex, that I believe and I fight for, now believing that someone is mentally born one thing and physically born another thing is simply impossible and illogical, just because you have short hair and male clothes and like cars and football it doesn’t make you less of a woman, that it’s just your taste, that’s just your personality.
I can relate a lot.
You're valid
i think im a demi-girl but i am still gomma question myself bc rn i am questioning everything abt me
Mood, I feel fully like q girl but Tiktok got me questioning everything about me
The label that matches what I feel is agender, I just exist haha. Looking back when I was younger, I never felt "off." I didn't know people even could experience sexual thoughts or gender (I am aromantic as well)! Before I was a teen I was never called a girl by my parents, sure they used she/her for me and daughter but that never bothered me back then.
I remember once in gym, when we were playing a game and did girls vs boys as teams, never bothered me cause they were referring to me as my sex. For some reason, I remember "feeling" agender, (if I could put into words, "distance from female, I guess") then, I didn't think about it.
Now that I know having a gender identity is a thing I have been looking for who I was in the gender aspect. I found out recently that I like they/them and no pronouns. However, I am fixated on when they call me she/her and girl, which didn't happen before. Plus keep bringing up me getting a boyfriend (I understand where they got that though as if I ever got into a relationship it would be with a man, that was when I forgot what happens in romantic relationships and I ditched the idea.)
I have thought about coming out to my parents, even though I am uncomfortable when they bring up future boyfriend, me being a "girl," and me "looking at nudes" when I hide my tablet, I don't like people watching me watch or read anything. They have said that they would accept me if I was gay, and I know my parents would be comfortable with me being Aroace, as they said I don't have to get into a relationship If I don't want to. However, when nonbinary people was brought up at a friend's house, my mom said "they is plurel' as a response to it, and my dad frequently makes jokes about people using the "other bathroom" a LOT.
I am comfortable being who I am, but I don't like it when my parents keep bringing up me being a girl, using she/her, making jokes about me looking at "nudes", or making jokes about "what bathroom do they use"(not in a positive way). I have made it VERY CLEAR that I don't like them making jokes like the bathroom one.
Laurenzo... thank you so much for this video. As a mom this was so enlightening! My Kasey who prefers he to she and I are getting ready to launch our indepth discussion on pronouns and how parents today can support their child when society sadly isn't so supportive! Keep up the great work! 👍
I think I might be Agender but I'm not sure if I'm _really_ Agender or if I'm non binary
I just read a fan fiction about a content creator that I really like finding out that they like he/they and I’ve already been going through a gender crisis recently and I LITERALLY cried the entire time and I’m trying so hard and I have so many things to keep up with in my life. I’m struggling so hard rn :(
Thanks for especially making that distinction between gender, gender-expression and sexual orientation, I started my research a few days ago and learing that there is a difference really helped me to look at my own identity more freely, which led me to identify as agender, just being me! (PS.: It is never too late to start the journey, even if you are an 26 years old person like me.)
@Zeus Christos gender and sex are two different things. Gender is psychological, sex is biological.
@Zeus Christos gender is how you express yourself, and how you see yourself.
@Zeus Christos how on Earth is this sexism? It seems like you're pulling words out of thin air to create some sort of "gotcha" moment, but you have nothing, just words. If what I'm saying is sexist, please explain, because I haven't the slightest idea what you're talking about.
@Zeus Christos an adult person who issues as female. It's really not a confusing definition. It seems circular but that's because in the context of gender female and woman are synonyms.
@Zeus Christos an adult human who identifies as female. Someone who feels like they are female. And not any other gender. Why is this such a hard concept for you? You keep asking the same question, are you deliberately avoiding the argument?
When I started exploring different gender identities as a teenager, I was kind of beaten into submission by people constantly invalidating me and eventually being forced into an all-girls school. Sometimes I try to do some research on different identities, but I've been conditioned to feel emotionally drained and exasperated every time I try. I just tell people I'm cis in order to avoid having to debate someone, and it feels wrong, but every label feels wrong for me. How do I figure myself out when I can't get over this mental barrier?
You don't have to find a specific label right away, if you want to you can just go with an umbrella term, which might be a good fist step. For example, I first started identifying myself as genderqueer. Maybe look at agender if you haven't already. Also if no label feels right to you, you don't need to label your self at all. What I do instead now is I have a mental representation of my gender, mine is white light radiating form a core, with yellow light on its edges. It can fluctuate in intensity, and there can be more or less yellow at any given time. Also there's a gravitational pull towards the core. This was useful for me because then I felt like I knew what my gender was, even if it was hard to explain. Hope this helps :)
Yeah that actually did help me
‘Gender identity is how you feel on the inside’ ‘your internal space feels a certain way about what your gender identity is’
I’m really struggling to conceptualise this.
How does one attempt to feel this internal feeling?
Is it only trans and non-binary that experience a feeling of gender?
What advice would you give a cis person trying to recognise their gender identity?
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This. I'm not sure if Cis people feel a sense of gender. I'm afab and I was socialized as a girl but I just feel like a person with a female body and I've presented increasingly masc as I got older. I might be agender...I figured out I was asexual because I couldn't conceptualize sexual attraction so maybe this is the same thing?
@@kenzgitz9884female child is girl so simple Google it definition of girl it's so simple
im crying rn bc im questioning so much
i clicked this faster then deku breaking his bones
Anyone else having an identity crisis and crying in confused gay?? 😔
me 🤩🖐
Update I'm non binary 😶
@@hihello-ri2wg Yay! Remember to keep loving yourself for it!
Thanks for this video ❤️
you're welcome❤️
why is my gender so confusing sjskskjskskjsjsjks
Same, I genuinely am just confused. I was born female, appear female (because it’s easy I guess?) but more tomboyish (I like wearing a lot of more unisex clothes and hate skirts/dresses) and if someone referred to me with he/him pronouns, I’d be confused as to why they assumed that I was male (cause puberty’s annoying) but, I don’t think I’d care? Like, I prefer she/her or they/them pronouns, but I wouldn’t really care if someone used he/him? Why can’t we all just be genderless and vibe.
Love this! This is an awesome video. Being gender fluid (which took a long time to figure out about myself) sometimes how I feel internally is definitely not the gender I'm dressing like on the outside. It's nice to know I'm not weird for that. See too much stuff in the media about people saying that they're transgender just because they like wearing women's clothes or men's clothes or something like that that society tells you you have to wear if you're a man or a woman. I can still feel like a man while wearing a dress, it's just a fact. I don't know if very many people would understand that but it's nice to see a video that explains the difference between gender identity and gender expression.
Thank you for this video
When I was first trying to figured out what my gender identity was I couldn't find any resources but I now identify as male and im glad there is more out there for people
So your a girl
The part about gender identity vs gender expression really helped me. Thank you Laurenzo :)
@Tellos Travna If you are saying that gender is a social construct then I agree. But based on your clothes, behavior, name, and more society treats you differently. If you present a certain way, you get treated a certain way. Based on your gender expression you are expected to use a certain bathroom, use specific pronouns, act a certain way, etc. So gender expression isn't just fashion sense.
Gender identity is a confusing and illogical term, a person does not have to identify themselves as A or B based on what is traditionally associated with the personal tastes of women or men, this is just giving more strength and logic to the existence of these stereotypes. If you're a woman who has tastes traditionally associated with men it doesn't change the fact that you're a woman, your tastes are just about personality, not a radical left-wing concept that seeks to mislead the meaning of "gender" like it is something scientific that you are born with.
Sex is only defined by the sex organ and chromosomes a subject is born with, in addition to other characteristics that develop in adolescence but are not as relevant. A subject can freely change sex if he feels bad about his body or if he thinks he will be happier and less judged in the opposite sex, that I believe and I fight for, now believing that someone is mentally born one thing and physically born another thing is simply impossible and illogical, just because you have short hair and male clothes and like cars and football it doesn’t make you less of a woman, that is just your taste, that’s just your personality.
@@sugeknightiswatchingyou You really have nothing to do in your life to copy paste that comment again and again ?
@@dreamyisfj I just wanna know people's opinion about this matter since nobody has good arguments to validate their "facts"
@Simple Guy there's other good way to ask for people to express their opinions without copy pasting the same paragraph stupidly, a simple question would be enough
questions gender -> searches youtube -> finds this video -> checks preview -> cat -> immediate watch
When your so confused about your gender identity that confusion confuses you
You have such an amazing way of explaining things that I have never seen before.. It is incredible... thank you for this ❤
Me: I'm a girl
My brain: no
Me: I'm a guy?
My brain: NO
Me: nonbinary??????
My brain: no.
Me: I guess I'll just use she / her and they / them.
My brain: u sure?
Me: AAAAAAAAAAAAA
None of the pronouns / identities / lables I know of feel right anymore
Edit: I am trans masc 👍
Hmm sounds complicated. My motherlanguage (finnish) have and have always had only one pronoun for beings, so easy 😄 That's why I also partially feel weird about other languages pronouns, I usually go with they/them with everyone (until they tell me if they want me to use a specific one) because it's just weird to label with pronouns 😅
Mmh maybe you should check out neo-pronouns!! I’ve heard that ppl who have a complicated relationship with gender tend to use them💗💗 have a good day:))
Can relate.
Im confused and pained
Ok so.
I'm born a girl and I've really been finding myself uncomfortable with my body.
I tried putting my chest away with wearing more wide clothes and it made me feel a bit more comfortable then asked my friend to call me he/him.
Which they did.
I really feel comfortable but I'm here with a big doubt in my heart.
I really don't know what my gender is any more. Like I wanna be a guy. But yet I don't wanna get rid of me as a girl.
Idk what this shit is.
sometimes I wanna say I'm a cis non binary because technically where all cis no matter our gender cause we all have mentally felt it
Deep
@@channelxposer3131 who you talkin' too mate
I never thought about it like that. That’s a cool way to look at it!
@@konnigonconnie6226 thankyou!
What- wdym?
ill come back once ive figured out my gender❤️
Check pants for quicker results
@@triggytray8837 I tried this but now I'm even more confused?? My pants are unisex so does that mean I'm non-binary? Can you please help me
@@clownRatcity THAT IS A BRILLIANT COMEBACK
I go for long periods without seriously questioning my gender, maybe thinking if it feels right to be treated or seen this way sometimes but never being really upset or depressed because of it. But then something happens (this time it was a picture in which I looked like the opposite sex) and I broke down crying. I don’t know what to do I’m so tired of this because I feel like I’ll never figure it out
All your videos are so helpful, thank you for making them :D
You're very welcome!
I don't know why but in the start of the video when you popped your head out from behind the cat, I started dying laughing. For some reason(:
I feel like a girl but partially boy.
I think I'm demigirl
I go by she/her
You are not partially a boy. Many men will have a feminine attribute that helps us relate to women and many women have a.mascu,one side to their personality too. It help them relate to men. It’s all normal and good. It’s good when a wife enjoys football and auto racing to share commonality with her husband. The same is true for men. It’s good they enjoy shopping so they can enjoy time with their wife while shopping. It’s normal. If you encourage thoughts of being bi-sexual you will create your own problem. If you entertain thoughts of sleeping with men over the age of 70 you will in a short time become attracted to that age group. You need to calm down and become grounded. You need to gain control of your thoughts and you life. Give your felling due considerations but don’t over think life. My 2 cents.
I'm actually so confused with my self because I don't feel feminine and I don't don't feel feminine and I'm not sure if I just want myself to be masculine or if I would actually be happier with more masculine pronouns, plus I can't even figure out because I still live with my homophobic parents. Please help.
Well, you don't feel like a girl, do you feel like a boy?
@@chewz_.2 well in the year that's passed since i posted this i've kinda figured myself out ig, i'm agender nonbinary and i'm really happy with that right now:)
thanks though
Thanks so much for making this video I have been struggling to find out my gender identity for a really long time
i've been questioning my gender for a while now and i'm having this struggle where i can't say i'm straight but at the same time, i can't say i'm gay. it seems like i'm just between any gender? i don't really know. thanks for this video btw !!
I was born as a girl. But my mind and behavior are like a boy. What should i do? I'm in trouble 🥲
Me too :(
Don't worry to both of you. (And all the others out there)
Here are my tips:
.Experiment with different pronouns such as he/him, she/him, they/them, ext... Just have a play around with your gender and pronouns
.dress in more masculine and male clothes
. experiment with your gender and have fun
I can't decide your gender for you but it could be you are trans or just a tomboy. Remember you are who you are and you can be who you want. Have fun with your gender
Im 13 and ive been confused about my gender, i thought i was genderfluid but ive been less comfortable with she/her and been leaning more to he/him and it's been all sorts of confusing, but this video did help a bit.
Watching this cuz I’ve been confused and on the brink of tears at times from questioning my identity..
Recently I was starting to question if I was a female or demi girl as I feel like I'm a female but just..not fully? But like, at school we get told that we're going through a lot of stuff and maybe this is just a "teen" feeling. I really don't know but I'm gonna keep looking into it
Oh my gosh. Ok I’m not gonna give specifics on the names in question, but my given name is not only feminine, but very unique. I also have a nickname I like to use that is a bit more gender neutral in nature. I’ve used it quite frequently when introducing myself to new people. And then I’ll qualify it by saying it’s easier than having to read my actual first name.
But I just realized, I’ve always liked my nickname better than my given name. I always thought it was just cause it sounds cool or something, which it does, but what if I like it because it’s more neutral than my given name?
But wait, I still like my given name. I often don't care which one people call me. They're both me. What?? Someone please help. I’ve never seriously questioned my gender identity before. I know about a lot of the labels, but not all of them. I’ve already come to terms with my aroace-ness, but idk about gender. This is very difficult. It’s like I’m exploring new treacherous terrain.
Roll with what you feel. You don't have to slap a label on yourself! Whatever you feel in the moment is fine. You don't have to decide right away or ever!
@@rowanzephyr Yeah, I guess you’re right. Well, whatever I decide, I feel like I might need to try some things that I haven’t been brave enough to try, partially because the things I’m thinking of are things that require a little money, and I’m kinda broke right now. Nothing medical. But, like, clothes wise. Hmm…🤔
You know you can still identify as feminine without liking 100% of the stuff that society sees as typical feminine
I’m constantly questioning my gender lol
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i like how i did my own research and figured it out. gender fluid, they/them and i also found experemental name.
I didn't went thru the process of figuring out my Gender. Because there is no such process here.
Instead, the figuring was about other things. Profession being a big one. In the span of several years, I found myself trying to figure out if I wanted to be an Actor, Astronaut, Mechanic, Dispatcher, Computer Programmer or Detective. Eventually discovered that I am a Vehicle Operator.
I feel comfortable doing it. I enjoy the traveling involved. I like that I am a part of the Transportation Community. And I'm pleased it offers me the chance to serve a wide variety of customers.
Now, my son is involved in that type of figuring himself.
I express myself as Cis, as well as feel it, but with a hint of feeling Agender sometimes.
Anything changed yet?
Tysm for making this video!!
I have been trying to figure out my gender identity lately and have been questioning if im non binary so this really helps!! 😊
U are what u were born as, ur welcome
@Alex 🧃🌸 stop saying “homophobic” if u did ur research a phobia is a fear of something, I’m not in fear of gays
thank you sososososooo much!!!! for making things a bit clearer :)
First I was a little girl. Then puberty. Then I had breast dysphoria. Then I was non binary. First a demiboy. Then genderfluid, but almost never feminine. Then I went on testosterone. But I keep having self doubt and worrying. Then I went back to being a demiboy. Now idk what's happening. I'm just scared of finding out I was a girl all along, because I have a male voice now and got some other irreversible changes already. Not that it bothers me. I'm ok with all the changes. It just kinda doesn't matter?? I had dysphoria with my girl voice. Now I have no dysphoria, I guess, although I kinda find it weird sometimes cuz it changed really fast, but I kinda like it. I kinda feel like T should be a bigger deal, smh. Everyone either tells me that it's gonna ruin my life or that it's gonna save my life. But so far it just feels pretty normal. I'm not even 4 months in tho.
I just want to be a trans guy and not have to think about gender ever again. It would be the easiest. I'm tired of thinking about gender. I just wish I could drink a potion and my body would morph into whatever is the most comfortable for me and then I can just live my life without worrying about gender ever again.
I'm just back here to thank you if you ever see this which you probably won't however- This video helped me a lot and helped me figure out I was genderfluid, so thank you! ❤ I'm much happier identifying as genderfluid now compared to being a cis girl
Can i try out He/Him pronouns even if i KNOW i identify as a cis female? Idk i just like it when people use them (in my head i havent actually had anyone call me them and i know ill never have the guts to ask :(
yes! gender and pronouns dont align! just use the pronouns that make you comfortable
Yes! If it feels nice to be called a boy, then you are possibly a trans boy misgendered as cis female by the doctor who only looked at your junk. Gender is decided in your head and it's been there the whole time and deep down you always knew. I say that as someone who is currently experimenting with he/they/it and he/she/they as an afab (assigned female at birth).
Which websites should I use because even after doing research I can’t find anything that explains what each gender is and what it means
I saw this vid on my reccomend and I really needed this cause I've been trying to figure out my gender identity.
If u need to know that badly it’s what u were born as
Step 1. *Learn to think for yourself*.
Step 2. Stop being afraid of those who would shame you for being yourself. Who *you* decide you are is just fine. No one real really cares anyway.
Step 3. Enjoy the terrifying, uncertain, glorious adventure that is being a grown-up human.
Back in the eighties this was all covered under "fashion".
I thought I am nonbinary but I can't stop feeling female but I am a amab
Could you be a demigirl?? Identify as part nonbinary, part female?
I had gender identity and gender expression mixed up for a short time. I identified as genderfluid for a pretty long time. I was trans for a while because I was a boy a majority of the time. Now I got that sorted out and I’m genderfluid again ☺️
their video is the best! seriously really helped me. THANK YOU
i am both genders and i like both genders.
Thank you 😊💕
"(...)to figure out your gender identity"
video starts: cat shows up
me 3 sec later: okay i'm a cat ✨
Thanks so much for this video it helped me figure out I'm bi-gender!!!
Hello!! Thank you so much for making this video!! It really means A LOT! To me! And I was able to find out my gender!! But anyways.. I have a question about my gender actually... At first I found my self Bisexual cause I found myself attracted to both male and female, but then I also started feeling Non-binary and I started getting confused on what gender I am now since I feel Non-binary (found out in ur vid), and Bisexual. (Found out in another video to find out if I am Bisexual), which I feel both and I really need help with that. And if people will read this comment and knows how to answer this, PLEASE! comment the answer!
Thank you and stay safe everyone!! 😊
Gender identity and Sexuality are different things, you can be Bisexual AND Non-binary. Sexuality doesn't equal Gender and vice versa, so of course you can be both
Lol the cat its cute
Thanks, this video helped me figure out my gender identity :)
Its 1 o'clock in the morning and I have no clue if I'm gender fluid male demiboy or what help me
I'm an abrosexual and it really took me so long to figure that out! First of all, I've never heard what that sexuality is, until couple of months ago. Well, I didn't back then think about it that much, so I kinda forget it - and was in crisis quite a long :D It made me so stressful, because...when I came out as a lesbian, the next day I immediately regretted it (because my whole sexual orientation had changed), but another day I was again fine. So, a week ago I was walking and I randomly remembered, "abro!" and...I was thinking about it a lot and...it makes sense, really.
If you ever feel gender fluid, the best thing to do is test to find out what gender you feel more comfortable with. If you’re a girl at birth and are gender fluid, you could do a “boy for a day” type, dress up as a boy, disguise as a boy, and do boy like stuff. The same goes if you’re a boy at birth and are gender fluid. You could do a girl for a day, dress up as a girl, disguise as a girl, and do girl stuff. The only problem is, you may forget who you are if you’re pretending to be someone else for a day. Especially if it’s a gender you weren’t assigned at birth.
Thinking that im demigirl, nobody knows but when I was felt like I was pan I told my mom and my friends but idk what they would think about me being demigirl. Any help?
Honestly it been a big issue with my gender thing. People try asking I don’t know how to answer. And the gender envy is getting crazy and I don’t really feel like myself. I’ve tried understanding how to express my troubles to people but most people I know like my dad are not so agreeing with it and my mom isn’t really the understanding type. I’ve debated trying just asking if I could get a binder. Hoping with would spark the conversation but in scared and I feel it make become and issue especially because of the wedding coming up. But I feel this helped thank you
Im having a brain meltdown trying to figure out my gender cause i dont feel any gender like my gender either dont exist or is just.. ALL
Which makes me think im agender but idk ack
Stupid xd
Whatever u identify as, just know ur valid and ur not alone ❤️🔥❤️💚
people in africa : what am i gonna eat tonight, i have no money.
people in usa : wHat GenDeR aM i?
Sad world ngl
I followed your steps and visited The Trevor Project. I come out as Non-Binary, thanks for the help LaurenZo
Im not even sure if im having a gender crisis, i just cant really tell if i am or not
Thank you this really helped I appreciate your help I now know that I'm ftm transgender
@Zeus Christos what do you mean "how?"
@Zeus Christos "how do they know" um by knowing?? Why can't they know if they're trans lmao
@Zeus Christos i never even said "i know it's true because i know" so idk where you got that from lmfao.
So ur a girl
Help Im having a crisis 😖
You're like 12, please no
@@playstation_one5446 ya no took the the picture when I was tho
- the comment was kinda a joke I'm just confused
@@sammywatson3789 the
This helped me so much, you have no idea.. thank you
I think i might be gender neutral or graygender- though i do feel female or male sometimes, it is very weak and i mostly just feel there, just me. But at the same time theres a little bit of gender there. I feel gender neutral because I'm not entirely empty if you get what i mean, i still feel a little bit of gender but not a lot. I know demi girl exist but when i do feel that little bit of gender i don't just feel female. It depends on me when i feel a little bit of gender if i feel female or male. And being gender neutral make me comfortable
Im 13 year old "girl" going though a gender crisis the only reason I found this video is because I've been searching what is my gender and how do I know my gender on YT and taking quizzes i have know clue what the hell i am and a bunch of lables don't feel right idk what I am but i know im not a girl and i still young so i guess i have lots of time to figure it out and experiment but i don't have much room with my family idk why im typing this in the comments i guess im ranting sence i can't tell anyone or im looking for a community to relate if u are actually reading this the. Hi😀
Can i just say that the quizzes tend to be very inaccurate and base off stereotypes therefore I do not suggest it. I took some and they all gave me results based on stereotypes. What's important is if you feel dysphoria and what dysphoria you feel. Dysphoria is what determines whether you are trans or not and can determine your gender (for example non binaries might have chest dysphoria and get top surgery to deal with it). Stereotypes do not determine your gender, since girls can like "boy" things and boys can like "girl" things.
Basically my suggestion for you is to take your time. Please do not make any rushed or impulsive decisions. I'm fifteen rn (also born a female) and am currently trying to go as slow as possible to finding my true gender whilst dealing with dysphoria. Trust me: impulsive decisions will make you unhappy its better to experiment and take your time, learning what's comfortable for you and who you are. Best of luck to you!
@@triggytray8837 my pants are unisex
I'm prettyyyy sure that I'm bigender
I can’t believe I actually did it that way and was still lost
I was like bi before but then I kinda reset to default and became cis and all but ur videos are making me question this shit and all
Love the video ♥️
Glad you liked it!!
Making money off of confused children, I hope their parents are very proud of they xD
This really helped tysmm, I found out I'm Girlflux! I questioned my gender for sooo long and now I finally figured it out
i wana have short hair as a boy but bc of anxiety and stuff i have problems coming out to people because it makes me think they will be disgusted and make them think I fancy them
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Step1: look down
Done.
Haha
@@nicholaslj901 lol 😂
I live in a small town and they are very you are as your born and im scared of being a outcast what should I do
Love your videos and i found you on tiktok you're amazing