You have no idea how much I need this video... there's this one person I work with who thinks that he can insult or talk over me (and others) instead of taking responsibility for his words and actions. I know I shouldn't have to tolerate this nonsense, and yet, the resentment only shows its ugly head in me whenever I don't speak up for myself. I know my faults and weaknesses... I know that being assertive, for me at least, is still a work in progress. I'm just done with this situation as a whole. 😤😓
Thanks Amy! Glad to hear this video popped up at the right time for you (I love when that happens!) and yes it’s a difficult situation to be in. Practice standing up for yourself one small step at a time; even a simple, “What I think is…” after being insulted or spoken over can help you turn the focus back on what you need to say. People who do what that person does aren’t happy with their lives; nobody who is content and satisfied goes out of their way to create conflict or be nasty, and he’s not somebody you want to be like so don’t let his poor attitude (and lashing out due to his crappy life) affect you. Water off a duck’s back! 😁
Love your videos I'm so negative atm feel angry with myself .my feelings get the better of me slowly ruining everything my mind is very overpowering at times .I think negativity emotions around people I love.
Hi Teresa! Thanks for your message and glad you liked it 😃 You might find it helpful to write down those thoughts and feelings if and when they happen, and put them aside to then revisit at a dedicated time of the day where you can then choose to review them with a solution-focused mind, or you could instead consciously replace each of them with a positive (or at least neutral) reframe. Give it a go daily for the next few weeks and see how you feel.
I always find your videos most helpful! Short, sweet, to the point and yet very powerful! I get what I need when I need it! I can relate to holding a resentment and I notice after the mind the body will follow. i.e. I am physically also worn down. Not worth it! I'm the only one paying the price! Thank you so much for keeping me on track! Your video is also reinforcement for me as well!!!
I’m so glad to hear you found it helpful! Thanks for the lovely feedback and remember: the key to staying on track is taking things one day at a time 🙂
This is a very powerful talk,to the point and exactly what i needs at the time.A working colleague is very arrogant,insists on she is the only one there to work,passive aggressive and stirrer .She can articulate well and able to convince the management and unfortunately management work according to her.She is very manipulative.She creates conflict in the team and stay calm and quiet.I am feel powerless,not good at standing up for myself,not very articulate,always they take advantage of my niceness/kindness.I want to change.But I do not know how.Thank you so so much for empowering me.Do you do 1:1 counselling?
Thanks and sorry for my delayed reply, somehow this went into my 'held for review' queue and I didn't realise. Glad you liked it and found it helpful! Yes I do work with clients 1:1, and I may have a couple of slots opening up in the next 1-2 months; you can fill out the form here: jeremygodwin.com.au/coaching-2/ to be notified if/when I have availability. All the best! Jeremy
I like the video and have done all those things...still doing them but still, things get to me and it's continuing to be a problem. Stuff about past abuse and feeling ripped off.
You'll find a lot more suggestions of how to tackle resentment in the extended podcast episode, you can listen to it or read the full transcript here: letstalkaboutmentalhealth.com.au/2024/01/28/216-resentment-and-how-it-affects-your-mental-health/
Well, I know you probably don't want to hear this but here goes anyway: that's just not going to happen (the thing about others having the same emotions as you). All you have direct control over is yourself, and what you choose to do and say... so you have zero control over others, just yourself. I know, it's not pleasant when shit happens to you... but you can either learn from it and use it to grow or let it drag you down. And just because you don't want a learning opportunity that doesn't mean you aren't going to get one. You either deal with things as they are, or you end up feeling resentful. The choice is yours, but I'd suggest choosing carefully. Wishing you all the very best. Jeremy 🙂
@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth I am aware that it doesn't happen that they're feeling resentful. Why would you if you go around behaving like aholes? That doesn't make it any easier to deal with for the person on the receiving end. I don't think you're giving the amazing take you think you are: just deal with your own feelings, yeah duh, obviously. But most people cant have things happen to themselves and the same day say "Ah yes thank you for cheating on me and leaving me with my four kids. That's an amazing learning opportunity." Pretty much everyone ends up being resentful in the early stages things happening. It's part of the cycle of grief to feel anger. While your video is nice for the little things, for very large issues it has to be solved differently. It's incredibly hard to see being cheated on, having someone die etc. as a learning opportunity.
Sorry to hear that. It sounds like it's time to talk with a counsellor or therapist; if you already see one, then it's time to let them know that you're feeling this way so you can explore it from different angles/try different approaches. Just remember: all you can control is yourself, and what you choose to say/do. Everything else is out of your control. It's a pain, but accepting that fact can help you to start letting go of your anger so you can begin to move forward.
You have no idea how much I need this video... there's this one person I work with who thinks that he can insult or talk over me (and others) instead of taking responsibility for his words and actions. I know I shouldn't have to tolerate this nonsense, and yet, the resentment only shows its ugly head in me whenever I don't speak up for myself. I know my faults and weaknesses... I know that being assertive, for me at least, is still a work in progress. I'm just done with this situation as a whole. 😤😓
Thanks Amy! Glad to hear this video popped up at the right time for you (I love when that happens!) and yes it’s a difficult situation to be in. Practice standing up for yourself one small step at a time; even a simple, “What I think is…” after being insulted or spoken over can help you turn the focus back on what you need to say. People who do what that person does aren’t happy with their lives; nobody who is content and satisfied goes out of their way to create conflict or be nasty, and he’s not somebody you want to be like so don’t let his poor attitude (and lashing out due to his crappy life) affect you. Water off a duck’s back! 😁
@@amyli092 work sucks.
Love your videos I'm so negative atm feel angry with myself .my feelings get the better of me slowly ruining everything my mind is very overpowering at times .I think negativity emotions around people I love.
Hi Teresa! Thanks for your message and glad you liked it 😃 You might find it helpful to write down those thoughts and feelings if and when they happen, and put them aside to then revisit at a dedicated time of the day where you can then choose to review them with a solution-focused mind, or you could instead consciously replace each of them with a positive (or at least neutral) reframe. Give it a go daily for the next few weeks and see how you feel.
@letstalkaboutmentalhealth Thankyou I will.
I always find your videos most helpful! Short, sweet, to the point and yet very powerful! I get what I need when I need it! I can relate to holding a resentment and I notice after the mind the body will follow. i.e. I am physically also worn down. Not worth it! I'm the only one paying the price! Thank you so much for keeping me on track! Your video is also reinforcement for me as well!!!
I’m so glad to hear you found it helpful! Thanks for the lovely feedback and remember: the key to staying on track is taking things one day at a time 🙂
@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth You bet!!
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This is a very powerful talk,to the point and exactly what i needs at the time.A working colleague is very arrogant,insists on she is the only one there to work,passive aggressive and stirrer .She can articulate well and able to convince the management and unfortunately management work according to her.She is very manipulative.She creates conflict in the team and stay calm and quiet.I am feel powerless,not good at standing up for myself,not very articulate,always they take advantage of my niceness/kindness.I want to change.But I do not know how.Thank you so so much for empowering me.Do you do 1:1 counselling?
Thanks and sorry for my delayed reply, somehow this went into my 'held for review' queue and I didn't realise. Glad you liked it and found it helpful! Yes I do work with clients 1:1, and I may have a couple of slots opening up in the next 1-2 months; you can fill out the form here: jeremygodwin.com.au/coaching-2/ to be notified if/when I have availability. All the best! Jeremy
This was amazing!!! Thank you.
You're so welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed it, and I hope it's helpful 😃 Jeremy
I like the video and have done all those things...still doing them but still, things get to me and it's continuing to be a problem. Stuff about past abuse and feeling ripped off.
You'll find a lot more suggestions of how to tackle resentment in the extended podcast episode, you can listen to it or read the full transcript here: letstalkaboutmentalhealth.com.au/2024/01/28/216-resentment-and-how-it-affects-your-mental-health/
I don’t want a fucking learning opportunity. I’m sick and tired of shit happening to me. I want people to have these same emotions I have.
Well, I know you probably don't want to hear this but here goes anyway: that's just not going to happen (the thing about others having the same emotions as you). All you have direct control over is yourself, and what you choose to do and say... so you have zero control over others, just yourself. I know, it's not pleasant when shit happens to you... but you can either learn from it and use it to grow or let it drag you down. And just because you don't want a learning opportunity that doesn't mean you aren't going to get one. You either deal with things as they are, or you end up feeling resentful. The choice is yours, but I'd suggest choosing carefully. Wishing you all the very best. Jeremy 🙂
@@letstalkaboutmentalhealth I am aware that it doesn't happen that they're feeling resentful. Why would you if you go around behaving like aholes? That doesn't make it any easier to deal with for the person on the receiving end. I don't think you're giving the amazing take you think you are: just deal with your own feelings, yeah duh, obviously. But most people cant have things happen to themselves and the same day say "Ah yes thank you for cheating on me and leaving me with my four kids. That's an amazing learning opportunity." Pretty much everyone ends up being resentful in the early stages things happening. It's part of the cycle of grief to feel anger. While your video is nice for the little things, for very large issues it has to be solved differently. It's incredibly hard to see being cheated on, having someone die etc. as a learning opportunity.
I know what you mean. I've been dealing with shut from people continually for my whole life. I seem to attract a...holes
Lost my family cause I can't let go man 😢 something just has me always angry fussing make house not feel like home so they left my fault
Sorry to hear that. It sounds like it's time to talk with a counsellor or therapist; if you already see one, then it's time to let them know that you're feeling this way so you can explore it from different angles/try different approaches. Just remember: all you can control is yourself, and what you choose to say/do. Everything else is out of your control. It's a pain, but accepting that fact can help you to start letting go of your anger so you can begin to move forward.