When The Demon Is Dimmed In The Narcissist - (Narcissistic Collapse)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ก.ย. 2024
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Narcissistic Collapse will occur throughout a narcissist’s lifetime on various occasions when their narcissism fails to achieve its agendas on multiple fronts and supply levels are very low. Narcissists can suffer mini collapses and major and final collapses in the majority as a result of their past and present behaviours coming back to haunt them. Too often narcissists act in the moment without looking at the long term consequences of poor decisions. It is important to be aware of how genuine the narcissist will appear during these collapses to prevent yourself being drawn back in to partake in their behaviour cycle once again, negatively impacting your own life. This podcast suggests ways both to recognise narcissistic collapse and how to navigate such occurrences.
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I never believed in demons... until I met the narcissist.
Me either. My best friend turned on me trashed things between me and my ex, kicked our relationship while it was weak. Destroyed it, my ex let her. I reacted with love I told her I loved her for years and would just like to discuss things with her like mature adults. There was a point she became Dominic and spewed insults and was incomprehensible, it was psychotic and that's when I realized there was an element of possession. After that and all her cowardly actions I informed her I thought she was a coward and it would be pointless to try to discuss anything because there was no value in knowing her. I'm sure that cut deep after all she did. Her hate runs deep, I have something her father who passed she gave me to keep she for years, I told her she would never see it again but she will. She will get it back and have to never look at it because she'll always know she has it because of my goodness, it will remind her of her terrible choices for the rest of her life. It is so special to her because she loved her dad, but now it's tainted with her terrible soul choices. I'll give it to my ex to give to her. I'm glad to be this lesson in her life, I'm glad she disrupted my life because I wasn't happy, I'm glad she made it known how weak of a friend she really was before I moved on. I would rather know a person is worthless, hard times shines the light on people who can't show up. I don't need to fair weather friends.
Sorry you have experienced this I've been through a lot of similar issues also I just look at it now as i ve been trained in the enemies camp and what they used for bad in our life, Yahshua was teaching us how to see it, then it becomes clear the lessons and strengths we receive from that horrible experience we endured.
Bless u we are nark warriors survivors.
I knew they exist just didn’t know they targeted me by infiltrating my personal life it’s unreal almost
I believed they existed but never had direct contact until my ex. I believe he actually had several. Im an empath and I think he was after my soul and I barely escaped the relationship with it. Aside from having EVERY single narc trait, his voice would change, his eyes would change colors, his body language, his demeanor, and he would say things that I didn't think anyone could ever say to me. The pain he inflicted upon me was like nothing I ever felt. If I were to imagine hell...that would be it.
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They don’t want a relationship, they want a slave.
U hit the nail on the head.. Absolutely
U are so right. They will work u to death & when u are beat down they go & get another fool. We don't understand how Blessed we are when we're free of them.
@@bridgettetraveler658 Perfectly said. Thank you!
I say.. Butlers with benefits.. and its pure evil spirits of Jezzabaal in them one of the 3 moust vicous women .. soo intresting to read Her story and know the modern Narcecist . Love u beutiful strong survivurs🫶⚘️ and pryers to those who is struggling with a Narc ✝️🙏
You can say that again..😢
A golden retriever has every right to snore
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oh I thought it was a Labrador 😂
Amen
😂 amen
Thank you for giving us this information! ❤
Living with a narcissist is extremely bad for your mental health, over the years you will lose your confidence, doubt yourself, end up a nervous wreck, lose your sense of self worth, not know who you are anymore… they will destroy you… please anyone out there living with a narcissist please get out of the toxic relationship that will end up destroying your life🩷
thats right
I know someone who was utterly destroyed by a narc and is no longer with us. 😢 Evil is to kind.
I'm in therapy because of living 30 year's with one I feel destroyed in self esteem
At whatever cost!!! Simple GROW A PAIR✝️
It’s not that easy… you obviously havn’t lived with one🤷🏻♀️…. Try to grow a pair?? The narc will crush them!!
The narcissist that I recently cut ties with was my mother. I don't love her and I don't like her. She put me through the ringer. It was an emotional and mental rollercoaster. I went "no contact" over a month ago. She is blocked from everything. My living situation isn't ideal, but it beats having to be manipulated and walking on egg shells all of the time. I'M FREE!
I was raised this way too, I looked and acted like "my father" apparently.. Its not something you get over easily if its childhood abuse but work on yourself, you are an amazing survivor and happiness is always the best revenge on a Narc. Sending very best wishes.
My mother was narcissistic also. She was a horrible person to me. I finally cut ties about 15/16 years ago. My life is sooooo much better. She passed about 3 years ago. Both my sisters are just like her, I have nothing to do with them either.
I understand... My mother was a religious malignant narcissist. And, I was her scapegoat. She died last year on October 16, 2024. I have yet to shed one tear. I have no tears left inside of me now. There's just none... I mourned her death while she was still alive. She was an empty meat suit consumed by evil entities. I could see that she was demon possessed. And, she hated me with ever ounce of her being for not letting her break my spirit. She knew that I was full of light (Holy Spirit).
All I ever wanted was for her to love me, and for her to let me love her. But, the demons inside of her were many. I saw the creatures manifest through her many times. She would beat me for no reason and while she would be beating me, she would make evil sounds that were not human. It sounded like a dog growling. After she would beat me, she would look so relieved, and happy. It was like she gained great satisfaction from it. God Bless You! I pray you will heal, and have peace now. You've made the right choice. No Contact is the only choice we have. They only get worse. They never get better.
@@WorthyIsTheLamb-rm4pd sounds so familiar. I never shed a tear for my mother (?) Either, no reason to. Many blessings to you
@@Anna-cw9nz Blessings to you too... I just read your comment. Your life sounds very similar to mine. My heart goes out to you! 💔❤💔❤
I cut off contact with my living siblings too. I have two siblings that are still living. But unfortunately, I have one deceased brother. My deceased brother was also her scapegoat. He didn't survive her abuse. He chose to unalive himself due to all of the insanity. He and I were her two middle children. We were neglected and abused the most. My oldest brother, and baby sister were her two Golden Children. She petted, and pampered them. But, they were abused too. She abused all of us. She just went about it differently with each one of us. She triangulated us all against each other. She wouldn't let us love each other, and be siblings. She wanted us to hate each other, and only admire her as "Queen Mother." Her manipulation (witchcraft) mind games were through the roof, and off the charts. Now, that I know that she is not walking and talking in this world anymore, I can finally feel some peace. It's hard to heal from all of this deep pain. But, God is helping me. God is the only reason that I survived it all. Sorry that I have written you a book. I still get very emotional about it all. I pray that the rest of your life will be the best of your life. Sending you HUGE hugs! (((HUGS)))
When I left they apologised for everything but when they realised I wasn't coming back they turned it around and managed to blame everything in me! Big surprise 😂
Happens every time you don't believe their bullshit apology
Yes, exactly, they never apologise…it’s not in their nature, in fact🤔they don’t need to… they’re never wrong!!!!!!!!!????
Mine apologizes on a regular basis. But then the next week or next day would do the same abusive behavior. It got to where the apologies didn't mean anything.
I think they have brief moments of insight, just enough to keep them in a deep self loathing, but then their defenses rise again and they slip right back into it.
Although usually when we would get an apology is when they wanted something.
But I remember long ago, real tears and a moment of panic they were in, desperately not wanting to be just like their biological father. Those moments are brief and just torture them more.
It's torture for them and torture to watch and not be able to fix it.
Eventually I learned I had to let go. My help only made them hate me more. I'm so glad people are talking about it.
I don't like to go down the demon angle though. Because once people start writing others off as demons that takes all their rights of being human away. And who gets to decide who the demon is? I feel like that's a slippery slope back into the salem witch trials. IMO
@@YourBasicAlien it's not insight they don't have that it's manipulation so you don't leave. You need to leave asap
@@nadineelizabeth195yes! They’ll use their past as an excuse so folks can feel sorry for them.
When we say we love a narcissist, we really mean we are trauma bonded. I prefer not to use the world love to refer to this kind of unhealthy attachment
Trauma bonding is stronger than love.
I Totally agree. Love doesn’t hurt
Trauma is karmic, believe it or not, and you’re in at the deep end if you want to try and transform that!
@@lindafleming3907 Even if that's true, which is questionable-- it's not helpful. Trauma bonding and the cycle of abuse often starts from what you experienced as a child, the cycle may have been normalized to you. You have to learn the cycle, then you can look for the patterns and learn how to get out. If the trauma comes from childhood abuse, it's not good to say that's karmayic. That implies you deserve it, and no one deserves to be abused.
Pity doesn’t = Love 💕
I have a saying, because iv witnessed this. A narc never changes EVER, but what they do do is change the way they hunt to suit the changing situation, a shark is a shark, it will always be a shark but it can move differently to catch its prey.
That being said, an ageing narcissist starts becoming more and more set in their ways...much more predictable as fewer of those skills are deployed as they lose health, physical strength, memory loss, etc...
“A shark is a shark, but it can move differently to catch its prey“. So well portrayed in this quote. Thank you, I’ll never forget this. I’m a scuba diver, and would agree with this. 😳
Yep
Isaiah 26:10...jer 13:23
So very true and well written
They will ONLY change if they choose to be delivered from their demons!! The “personality” IS the demon(s), and you cannot change the character of an evil spiritual creature.
My husband chose to keep his. So he lost me.
As a loving, Christian wife, I absolutely attempted to deliver him from the demons on the command of Jesus, but when a person doesn’t want to let them go, there is NOTHING you can do. 💔
True...in prayer Holy Spirit agrreed..."I want what you want, and I then there is free will". We have been in a church that does not address casting out of demons...but I have found ministries that do and My husband os just now saying he wants this out. I proceed with caution...praying for protection over myself, our children, our house, etc.
A narcissist can infect other people with their demons. It's infectious and travels in families.
I have a similar story, my wife also has this, it's demonic, I wanted to take her for deliverance and she threatened to sue me. I had to let her go. We must not play with demons.
You lived exactly the way I did. Mine was so demon possessed, the stronger my faith, the more he moved away from me and did more drugs and alcohol in defiance of my faith. He ended up in Rehab for several years, then dying. It was the most horrible experience I would not wish on anyone. He's been gone 18 yrs and I am still trying to heal from that experience.
@@user-em8on8py9z thank you for sharing your story ❤️🙏🏼
My mother is a narcissist and my ex as well... Life is hard around this kind of people. They drain you , hurt you and act as victims....
You sound like a victim now think about that for a minute 😂
Yep my exact story
My mom as well. She destroyed me so bad, that I withdrew from all people, including my own family members as well as friends, and behaved as if I didn’t know them. To this day I’m estranged from people, but I have finally cut it off from my mother. I had to.
@@loriwinters414 i ended up isolated as well, she used to control my money and my time and criticized everyone around me until I quit seeing people slowly ... Now im facing health issues and I pray everyday to be healthy again to feel happy.... Anyone who reads this and beleives in God please make a prayer for me 🤍🙏🏼
Girl, Im so sorry you had to grow up w/a narc mother.
I know because my mother is a narc. She stole my soul, body and mind.
The criticism in my brain never goes away. After 43 years of no contact (accepting that my mother is incapable of loving me) along with years of on and off therapy will never restore me.
I’m ok with that but I will never place my health on the line again. It’s to risky and dangerous. These folks never change and my time and energy is more important.
I have learned about how pathetic she is, she can’t help it so I hold a tiny piece of empathy for her and that’s all she gets.
Any narcissistic improvement is an act of desperation
And that’s exactly why they don’t improve. They associate improvement with desperation.
Truth
@@ashleyk9328wow. So sad but true
I will frame this in my heart ❤
Or a hidden agenda…
Never feel that you are tied to a narcissist for your housing or food or anything else. Believe me, I totally understand about a lot a lot a lot of hardship, so I’m not trying to minimize anything . The Lord God Almighty will provide for you. Look to the Lord God Almighty, and watch and see how he will rescue you. Please, please, please know that this is the fact, and that’s how much he adores you the Lord God Almighty.
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I would like to just add this because some people think I’m trying to be an expert here, and that was totally not my intent:
I just made one comment when I saw the video and other people are replying so I’m just trying to be kind to respond. I’m not telling anybody what they need to do or not to do. I am just letting them know that the Lord God Almighty, who created each, and everyone of us adores us, and he does not just leave us fall flat on our face, and that we can seek him, and he will guide us.
I'm cohabitating with a covert narcissist brother. Mom died 2 years ago. She was a narcissist as well. I'm the Black sheep... It's been a journey and still on my path for independence.
I believe Amen and Amen
Amen !!
@@ArtMonkey5150please get away from him if at all possible throw caution to wind take a leap of faith it will all work for your good I promise 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Amen. I would like to add that if your narc parent is old, it doesn't mean you have to take care of them. Christ is available to all, and it's not your responsibility to save them.
It took me a long time to figure this out.
I think the demon loosens it's hold on the narcissist so the original person comes through to reap the karma that the demon has created. They are tortured souls. I think they could only be healed through an exorcism.
True ❤
Some relish the power of their evilness. It's their demonic identity, just like satan.
The truth is they can only be healed by God Almighty and our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, as in being delivered from that demon and accepting Christ as Lord and savior. Psychologist, Meds, or even reading books on this will not help the narcissist be free from these demons that have taken over, enslaved and put these individual in bondage.
@SalvadorHernandez-to2gq
One word" GOSPEL"
Jesus can cast out demons from within and outside any entity for that matter . Jesus will soon take over not exorcist they hopeless
@@SalvadorHernandez-to2gq
GOSPEL. You know very well Jesus is the answer . Thank you
There are two types of people victims of narcissistic abuse: those who have witnessed the demon that lives inside the narcissist and those who have not yet.
True dat 💯
This is very true. And frustrating because you will get no compassion or support from others since they have only seen the mask in the narcissist and not the demon.
@@miacaruso7631that's the way it goes.
I have see it 😢
Their "flying monkeys" 🐒 may never see it.
It is crazy that their are real people out their who live life only to destroy and harm other people. They are not happy unless they are hurting others.
They’re good to others but keep hurting the one they hate and enslaved
They are sick, vile, and soulless creatures.
They are very broken people themselves but won’t admit it 😢
I don't care why they are who they are or do what they do. They are VILE creatures. They'll get no sympathy from me. Ever!
Unbelievable human beings
A narc destroys everyone and everything they touch. My ex-narc would deliberately destroy my belongings whenever he could. He took great joy in watching my reaction when he’d say, “It was an accident.” Or “I never did that.” Really? Cutting trees down in my beautiful garden, deliberately putting clothing in the dryer that would then shrink, leave any door ajar so my beautiful cat could escape. This happened multiple times, once a fox nearly killed my cat, cost me $1,300 in vet bills. He’d wait until I was out then “clean” the basement then dispose of my sentimental belongings. When I finally realized his motive I stopped reacting. His behaviour never stopped, mine did. From then on I’d only shrug my shoulders and walk away. Get away from your narc to save your sanity. They will literally make you sick.
Mine threw my belongings over the railing and set all my babies things on fire using the excuse that the "agents" are after us and we need to destroy everything they are after....funny it was only my and my (our) babies things....
I'm amazed to read your comment as the narcissist, my father in law; in my life would love to do these seemingly innocent annoyances. His favorite was to turn the light off on me when I was downstairs in the basement. I'd be doing the wash and suddenly I would be in the dark having to call out 'I'm down here'. Which would go unanswered. If I would speak to him he'd act like he didn't know what I was talking about. If I yelled or complained or got angry he'd laugh under his breath or openly in my face. This prank was his favorite from his bag of tricks but there were many others too numerous to mention, from locking me outside the house to turning the water off when I was having a shower; but they were always directed at me and part of his master to plan to humiliate or attack my being.
Once u decide to leave a narc don't ever take them back.
No don't ever take any back. Not just the one you are leaving.
@@thevindictive6145 correct
DONE! ☑️ NEVER EVER take them back!!! For many years of course however they WILL make you PAY & that last go around will be a living nightmare. I speak from experience.
FACTS!
Not even when I’m alone and in desperate need for any financial assistance or emotional help? Because I contacted a narc ex and I already know what to expect (which is good). I figured to use them to grow and do better with my reactions. I contacted her and she gave me good responses, but I see all through em. The narc in her haven’t been removed or anything. Not naive to that no. But I’m in a interesting situation where I’m in need of someone’s help and decided to contact her via email. She responded in good grace so I’m just gonna play my card right from here and try to get help without any expectations. Idk what do you think?
This channel seriously deserves 1 million subs. Such an important subject and Paula is smart enough and brave enough to address the demonic element that others are missing. I'm so glad you are earning a living from your love of helping people in this area. ❤
Yes! I think that you expressed my feelings as well! Paula is definitely unique, for she courageously moves beyond to address the holistic side of this illness like no one else. It is a complex dynamic, to cover narcissism aligned with a spiritual aspect of demonic bondage. Every person, in my reckoning, is a spiritual being experiencing a physical reality for a time, and we are holistic in total. I pity the narcissistic aspect in us all, and those people who fall into the trap of becoming narcissistic to the point that it dominates their souls. I feel compassion for us all, truly. Paula and Dr. Ramani, Dr. Les Cárter, and others have been leading me out of the mud pit by the grace of God! I have great respect and admiration for them. Dr. Diane Langberg, also, has impacted my life as I move forward into a more fulfilling, healthier way of life! Even Ramy’s adorable snores and blissful stretches on his couch make me smile and it helps to balance everything that is weighty with a touch of lightness! Even the background of the warm, inviting living room and Paula’s cozy sweaters add warmth in this cold struggle, as we focus on the mire and untangle the insane threads! There is victory in the fight, and we are no longer victims nor do we have to take on the old role of savior or martyr! I believe that God is using Paula to gently wake us up from a very complicated nightmare, and I will always be grateful to her and her sleepy side kick! ❤
Agreed, Getting there, Almost at 80K 👏 👏 👏
Aw thanks 🙏
Soon enough will be 1000000 🎉❤
Just subscribed. 🙌🏾
Isn’t the doggie relaxing in the background adorable and so relaxing?
Loves his mama's voice. Lulls him right to sleep
Yes. What a sweetheart. 😊❤
I’ve read so many comments and at 64, I went through the same experience as all the others. It was extremely difficult to detach and become independent again and I lost everything but gained my soul and my will and my inner fortitude. It feels like redemption. God is good! ❤️
Good for you! Don't look back. ❤
Wow, I had a very parallel experience at a similar age.
you are an inspiration x Thankyou
Who can blame Remi for his disdain for these despicable creatures 😂
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Oh dear, as if a dog can discern who is a narc or not. Let those without sin cast the first stone.
@@ucantjustdoit It's only a joke, brother. Narc or not, you're welcome here. We are all here to improve the self.
My x husband went into narcissistic collapse after I secretly left with our 4 kids and i also exposed him simultaneously without even knowing yet at that point, what exposure was, or that he had been living a double life all along.
He stayed locked up in his dark bedroom for 2 yrs.
I didn't learn of what that was( ego deflation) until therapy years later.
When their supply leaves they basically don't exist until they conjure up a new script.
His mother living right next door lifelong fills in all the gaps and cracks for him.
I'm going to guess that behind every sociopath there is a very enmeshed mother.
Re: Behind every sociopath having an enmeshed mother ~ that's probably true in a lot of cases.
Exactly what you say is purely 100% truth
"...they basically don't exist until they conjure up a new script.." - this really hit something with me. I've seen him, many times, not exist. It's eerie and scary and sad 😔
I love him, in all his emptiness. Because I understand it. But I can't be with him.
@@natlee5879 Well, we didn't really " love" them. We fell in love with the idea of them; the illusion they presented; the potential in them....
I believe we can't fully heal without the radical acceptance of knowing that nobody was really home inside that vessel.
They live outside their body in a false construct.
It is sad. They had to leave as a child to survive, but their soul does choose to return or not.
Somewhere along the way they decided, " I want to be in the power position"
God creates everyone with the exact same inherent measure of free will.
Blessings!
Behind every enmeshed mother, there is another story probably of abuse, grooming, being born to one narcissistic family system &/ or marrying into one... it's like being locked in Plato's cave... with torture added. And this may go back generations.
The sad part is that we are taught not to hate or wish harm on others but in truth I feel if I never seen this persona again my life would feel much safer and happier.
@@missbearlockholmes You are correct about that. Thank you 🙏
Same
I struggled with this until 62 years old after turning my cheek 3 x to betrayal abuse and asked forgiveness knowing my beliefs by an atheist that caused me to lose a business that supported us all 15 years then inherited money and sabotaged us including himself in rage justified hate slander he believes now for sympathy in bars to cause 9 months isolation me to 70 lbs no care only abuse all day yelling as I am the cheater not him he told it til it’s truth to him , closed a profitable business 15 years supported him through school to play music for loose barflys in beach bars in a garage band , took me out of hospital I asked to be in terrified insomnia can cause psyosus delusions and so did he help no he screamed to scare the daylights out of me in shock no tests told ppl im terminal going in long term at 59 yo , closed business 1.5 mil gross year to 0 with no one knowing how sick I am my daughter had a husband sudden kidney failure transplant he worked with us they r in new York I had no one to help he told no one the truth and no care only that I lived then dated 2 more years acted different no grateful act he’s hateful demon all day then I was shown 2 photos that turned to 200mi looked n found a story that’s a horror movie script not my reality he acted for money that’s all , he sold my car , business stuff said work here it’s illegal k can’t so it all lost jobs for himself his children grandchildren lost healthcare for us all the kidney transplant was when I spent my last dime to pay that and prayed it would end tell me what I did to deserve this and heard nature screaming at me I thought angry and realized late it was a warning of the knives in my back and danger I had been in , I will never love anyone more than I love myself to the point of allowing that much suffering through the demon I saw and still attacking knowing my faith telling me it’s wrong not to forgive , no it’s right to be sure you aren’t forgiving a dishonest demon attached to a man you knew since high school had no beliefs in God of relig, I thought I could save him change him showing love offering grace .. last thing he said to me was in response to a letter to communicate instead of like all this hatred because I asked him to leave because he was being cruel and I don’t want that kind of relationship in my healing especially seems to be trying to destroy me instead randomly just hot and cold up and down behaviors and not the same person that you still love me and I don’t trust this man whatsoever after he said to my sweet letter ending because I love you and I’d like to work this out said to me, fu you blind stupid pig I always said that you were .. as. If I was nothing but dirt after 5 decades I thought I was showing love supporting his dreams over my own it was appreciated as much as dirt and thrown on my name and family in spite envy resentment and hated me clearly that whole time it was an act disturbing don’t do it. You don’t have to forgive more than you don’t even have to forgive once if you were hurt that badly you just look at that whole situation and make sure that you’re not offending your own soul first or your family that was a brutal lesson, but thank God I finally learned it. Please be careful. People are not always what you would think and not. Everyone has the same heart or the same beliefs and matter what they say, look into it record everything and do background checks. It’s easy and it doesn’t cost that much. I think TruthFinder is best you can research it but truth is good there are evil people everywhere 1% are psychopaths I didn’t know that it was the people in our beds sometimes we needed to be saved from , it’s anyone you see it in they’re eyes look carefully be sure it’s really a soul not a demon they hate good people most they are set on destroying only never change only Fake really well to play on sympathy and use your beliefs and want to help to get your soul they can’t ever take them so they just wreck your life … be discerning stay clear and don’t easily forgive or forgive in prayer but get far from that type not even thinking 2x
He can snore all he wants, he's a precious prince.
I’m exhausted and in crisis and collapse myself now from all the covert abuse.
Now’s my chance to get away but $0 and zero support to do so due to smear campaigns and soooo much scapegoating.
Pray for me 🙏🏼
Something great has got to come from all of this.
No more one way relationships.
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I left with zero $ or support. It wasn't easy but I prayed & God looked after me. Just said a prayer for you.❤❤❤
I feel so lucky to have my husband. He has protected me. Maybe find a church to help? I prefer Unity churches. Every religion is accepted there. So if you are not super into one religion or another this might be a good place to start. If you are of a certain faith, start there. Talk to the Pastor, send them links to the threads, videos and podcasts to try to enlighten them. They may not totally understand Narcissistic abuse, but they understand abuse and probably have good resources to help.
Start praying and fasting. Build yourself in the truth and ask God the Father to guard you from their viciousness. Strengthen yourself in Christ and through knowledge of how the enemy underneath works and what his tactics are against you and how God is going to use it to strengthen you. God bless and may this word benefit another survivor.
You'll find some of your greatest support from strangers..
I have an extra seat in my truck, now that the narcissist is never welcome back! I'd be honored to help a stranger remove themselves from danger and start a new life! Don't give up on hope and faith! You can make one decision that could completely change the course of your life!
As soon as you help them back up, they are right back at it again.... Any promises of getting therapy will not be followed up on. And around you go on another cycle, unless you get off their demonic merry-go-round. And they'll resent you because you have seen their weak core. So the cruelty will be worse than ever. Thank you Paula for exposing this truth to people.
True you got it
And revenge and retribution for your helping them, is coming.
@@selfesteem3447 Yes it is. What a twisted, hell hole of a life they lead🐍
narcs are fishing to get their hook into you. be centered. abide in the spirit......be the observer......pray
@@RobertCoulter-dg1qf Robert, Those are very good thoughts. I will do my best.👩🎨
I dont mind remy's snoring because i adore him. ❤
Paula, remember my situation where my husband of 33 years told us about his secret life, and then everything crumbled for him, his cancer spread and he came back so I could take care of him during what turned out to be his last 4 months. Can you believe that was 2 years ago??!! Looking back, he did try to apologize, he told me that I didn’t deserve what he did to me, ..obviously there was no going back, but I let him believe we would all go on a trip together , as soon as he got better…he took his last breath with his family around him. Then I was a mess for a while, BUT, I’m doing great!!! I found an amazing therapist, some new friends, kept myself busy and now life is soooo good. Thanks for all your videos that got me through the worst experience of my life
@@missbearlockholmes so kind, 🙏
So sad. Ikr.
WoW sounds like my aunt's story he cheated on her and left her for another women. Years later he asked to return cause he had cancer and needed someone to take care of him. My aunt and cousins did and he died a peaceful life receiving the Lord Jesus Christ.
I just realized that the main reason I kept attracting narcissists is bcause my mom is a narcisist and I wanted to get away fron her as quickly as possible and everytime the narcs live bombed me, giving me the false hope of future and marriage, I fell and held to it bc in my mind getting married was the easiest way to escape my mom. When I realized that, I decided to BE THE PERSON, who's gonna save my own self. I did my therapy, finished college, started a business and actively invest in me
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I can totally understand
I’ve seen the narc collapse over and over and over again. It’s a vicious cycle. That part between 10-12 minutes is on the bullseye. They’ll break down and then be nice for a day expecting your love and romance and when you don’t reciprocate because you’ve been through it a thousand times, the insults are back in full effect. I’m over it. He’s leaving because God made it possible for me and our kids to make it without him. Sad but true. He’s gotta go!
Hallelujah
Wow this woman is wise and knows her stuff. I unfortunately met my narc ex-wife on a dating site 8 years ago. Worst mistake of my life. I ignored so many of her red flags and I ignored my spirit as well as wise counsel to not marry my ex. I learned many valuable lessons by not listening to my pastor, my dad, most importantly myself. I’ve lived through hell. Being married to an evil person was absolutely the worst experience of my life.
Elton,
I'm almost 30 years in with mine. I became a Christian 13 years ago this past July. Only someone who has experienced what I have would believe me, Elton. She cannot stand the name of Jesus Christ and absolutely loathes God and all Christians. She has no issues with any other faith but she literally curses Jesus while shouting expletives at the sky and mocking me and Him in the most foul and diabolical manner. She is filled with the devil and has tried to destroy every relationship she ever gets into, whether it is with family, friends, co-workers or neighbours. She lives to brawl, boast and berate. Hell on Earth. She has threatened 5 times to divorce and met with a lawyer three times. Each time I told her to go ahead and she backed down. She doesn't want to give up the supply my pain creates. The big salary doesn't hurt her either. My life is so painful with her. She will not simply go away even though she has spit (multiple times, literally) on me, cursed me and smeared me all around her network. Horrible existence. Horrible. May God have mercy. She has not, over the past seven years or so, cooked, washed dishes to help, done even one load of laundry or been a mother or wife. She is just this RABID and FIERCE roommate that won't let anyone have peace. Indeed she has come to kill, to steal and to destroy. She kills any happiness she sees. She steals family peace and quiet. She destroys anyone who is foolish enough to engage with her in a relationship. A monster. She requires incessant attention, validation and admiration. She refuses sex and when it does happen she is critical of how it went. Any opportunity to berate me, whether in my role as husband, professional provider or dad, she does it. I am going numb. The narcissist is possessed or a demon in human form.
But when you do make it through, and learn the lessons well, you will not have to repeat the lessons with other narcs - and there will be others.
I tested this one time. I asked my mother, “What is your name?” Trying to see how the demon would answer.
She immediately lowered her eyes and backed down and left my home.
A normal person would say “You know my name. What are you talking about?”
I've seen similar..😮
I'm gonna try this!
@@lesliezenz6281 I hope you report your findings.
I did this as well.... when my dad was dying and my mother was behaving so crazily. I asked, "Who ARE you?" and she never answered me.
That's interesting.. It always felt wrong for me to call him by his "human" name.. It felt like a lie...
He is an empty suit.
Talking to the wall.
A mirage.
Nothing is there.
But they can have very real power, having many people scared of them and kowtowing to them. They do tremendous damage 💔.
@@todddanforth8853it's witchcraft
Both parents malignant narcissists. Father, who took his own life during his collapse, was grandiose. Mother, still alive, only recently discovered to be covert, possibly even psychopathic. I finally saw through her in my early forties. Still in shock, but finally free. Never going back. Ever.
Yeah coverts are definitely harder to spot. Good for you for leaving. Bless you
I've also just discovered my mother is a covert narcissist. I have no idea what to feel trying to numb it out with different coping strategies because I'm still living with the behaviour cant wait to leave
@@gal2727i had no idea and even my father who was also a narcissist had no idea my mother was a convert narcassist. Both of them playing the same games to eachother and most of all to me.
@@nadineelizabeth195 I feel bad for you, but happy that you’ve finally seen through her mask. My advice to you is: get away as soon as possible and never look back. She will not change. These people lack empathy and a conscience. Take care of yourself! Much love and peace to you
Ask the Lord to help you and show you a way out. He will make a way were we see impossible
These people are extremely dangerous. I come from a family of narcs and I managed to get away, they're vicious and envious. I could sense that they wanted to elevate themselves and destroy me at the same time. I escaped, I'm so grateful that I detached and distanced myself.
so glad you got away, they are extremely dangerous like you said
True I prayed to the Lord to rescue me and he gave me a way out! Not looking back...
This same thing happened to me almost 20 years ago. I am just so glad you got out. Genuinely happy for you. 🙏 ❤😊
If I try to take care of myself by walking around a mall or take myself out to dinner, it makes the narcissist furious, who will then retaliate by cheating on me or even worse. They want you to be the always giving mother to them and have no life for yourself. They want a 100% sacrifice from you to them or they get upset! They will allow you to work so you can support them or give them money. It's a miserable existence.
This 💯! It feels like taking care of an adult child
They are trying, unconsciously, to secure that healthy attachment that was missed early on with mom. They want our unconditional love regardless of their problematic behavior.
Basically an adult body grew around that 5 year old child.
Yes it is that is why I got rid of the one I married parasitic leeches thank God I am free from that agent from the kingdom of darkness 😊🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I hope you can get out safely and quickly. You deserve way better than that kind of toxic life.
This can be male or female but thus so aptly describes mist men I've known.
I literally saw the 'demon' when my ex narc partner's mask slipped
Been there, done that. Terrifying.
Same here. I’m traumatized
Like a real demon face! I did! Mine is my 3 sons mother.
Same here
Same, seen it twice, same person
they despise your offer to help and love them, be very careful because they will see your good intentions and empathy as a threat to their control and you will pay a price
My sister said"the reason she hasn't spent time with me was im not a nice person but she can change me"i told her i like myself and proud of myself and havent talked to her since
Good choice. 👍 👍👍
Good!!
Same❤
I have lived against All odds by faith for four decades. In addition I started a non-profit organization successfully and continue to do it by faith ..... Glory be to the father and to the son and to the Holy Spirit!! 🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️
They are evil. No contact.
They are housing a demon. Stay in the state of grace so that you are protected.
I found out my sister was a covert narcissist. Really shocked the he'll out of me. Odd thing was is when she was a kid she said my mom said she was evil. She always had a bad temper as a teenager and still has it at over 50.
Spot On 💯 %!
@jn2400 That's so sad 😞 😔 😟 It's so strange a thing, and it is not always easy to see, or know how or why they ended up possessed with a demon. Some of them have nothing to point to for their problem. 🙁
They can't change, they made a deal to sell their soul. Save yours by staying away no matter how crazy it gets for them. ❤❤
Exactly
Agreed reprobates
Do they know they did this ? He made his x loose her mind now he has a successful business , was this a deal with the devil I believe so
I say it's up to God whether these individuals can be free from these demons. If they were meant to be with God they can come out of this with His help.
@@SalvadorHernandez-to2gq god isn’t what you think. It’s like god wants these things to happen. Many are going to see this now in a harsh way
My oldest child who is genuinely frightening to me when it comes to his lack of love and decency, especially regarding his younger siblings. Off the chart entitlement.
Sorry for you. It's bad enough to suffer from narc parents, then spouse, but ultimate cruelty to then see it in our children we loved so dearly
Well, ask yourself, why is that.
you're the parent, stop blaming the child for your excuses
I hope you have not been his supply. I know a narc whose mom enabled him and still supports him financially. It’s so deranged as he is absolutely demon possessed and soulless.
Pray for him in Jesus name
"All NPD's, and I mean "All" NPD's in their adult lives, will at some point, suffer a huge, cataclysmic, complete and utter excruciatingly painful collapse."
Professor Doctor Sam Vaknin
And then what? They become normal--like you?
@@juliadixon8465
Dear Julia.
My apologies for the late reply.
I trust your well.
In accordance, with your question. I'm sorry for the misunderstanding. Please allow me to try and correct that below.
1). This is Professor Doctor Vaknin's quote that I wrote, not mine.
2). I'm not normal, and never have been either.
3). NPD's sadly, and furthermore, will never be normal. Moreover, and regrettably, there's no cure for NPD.
I hope that helps.
Kind regards.
God bless you.
Reverend Alexander B. Eley
BA Honours Degree Theology.
my narcissist mother since a couple of years is sleeping only max 2 h a night. She says she can't sleep more 'cause "some entities are chasing me". Could that be part of the collapse?
@@gimmelicorice
Possibly.
Demonic externally also.
Good for you! Were there children grandchildren and great grandchildren involved in your life at the time? Did you have to leave them behind as you left? This is my situation. If I leave, I will have to leave these precious people in pain because mom-grandma left grand dad…how can I do this? 51+ years with this man..
A narcissist will always reap what they sow. Pray for their deliverance from demon spirits from having "open doors" through pride, rebellion, a lying spirit, etc.
Not true for smart narcissists. Smart narcissists make more money and have more power than 99% of people.
HUGS TO REMI
He's gorgeous 😍 Biggest pet lover, they help us through so much in life. ❤
@@Jewels777. heeeheee… In the Lord God Almighty made awesome Remi also and adores him like we do. Actually, even more because the Lord God Almighty made dear Remi….smiles
@@MeCynthiaAnn🙏❤️
@@Jewels777. SMILES TO YOUR DAYS ALWAYS
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My narcissistic ex said I needed to change but wouldn’t say what I needed to change ,Then after the divorce at the Courthouse she said she was hopeful we could start new,been no contact 6 months,Thank you for your information it has saved me
It seems all narc being married/dated for over 10, 15, 20 years then you start seeing red flags 🚩 and their true colors….. WHY!!
Don't go back.
@@shans1986 NEVER go back to them!!! You MUST MAINTAIN YOUR INDEPENDENCE from them. It's very sad. They are really pathetic creatures.
I am a dog lover!! No apologies necessary for his snoring. Goodness isn't there bigger things to complain about. Your dog is precious and I love seeing him
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I love seeing the doggo, Remi aswell!
Snores and all!!
Took me 58 years to get away from my narcissist egg donor. Thank God I did. Go totally no contact when you leave. Totally. The peace is amazing.
Haha, I call my narcissist "dad" the sperm donor.
You must stay no contact. It's quite disgusting that they get supply off your emotional reaction.
My Narc friend if 25 years,, died very suddenly,, after being at my home 4 days earlier to “ help” after my major foot surgery. It almost seemed as though he could change,,,, but no,,, he didn’t intend to. I had to make him GO HOME, so
I could sleep/ heal/ recover. He had a few days to slander me and convince some people he was a victim. Then. He was dead.
Oh my! That is horrible!!! I hope you weren't blamed for his demise.
@@todddanforth8853 no. It was his alcohol related illnesses.
So...a confession, then?
Unfortunately, the world is a better place and Hell gained another demon.
I wonder where he went.
The narc shaves his head bald after each relationship crash and then reinvents himself...
OMG my ex narc shaved his head. When he came banging at the door asking when he could come back I never even remarked about his head shaved. I know he did it for effect but because I never said anything he was even more enraged than before. He disgusted me from the inside out and felt like throwing up as I was thinking how in the past I had let this demon touch my body. It sent shivers down my spine and my thoughts were too #$?¥%
@@user-ef2dl7wp9f yes, discusted here too. It's as if a spell was cast for them to be able to even be in our lives. Come to think of it, the ex husband shaved his head too! Beware of newly bald men, right ? God bless 🌸
@@shawnmarie1912 my prayers are with you keep strong and don’t be pulled down for any sob story is always a bunch of sinful lies and destruction. Mine shaved his head to get a reaction out of me. Don’t respond and know that the Lord understands and is constantly on your side you are never alone believe that each minute of every day 🙏
My dad was a narc and he would never cut his hair until there was a big narc blow up. Then he would get it cut real short... Almost bald. I could never figure that out. What is it about a man and his hair and his bad behavior
Oh my gosh my ex did this and sent me a picture of it. It was very odd. I'm not sure what he was trying to do, but it didn't motivate me to go back to him. Love to you all. ❤
After 100’s upon 100’s of videos about NARC abuse and behaviors, THIS is by far one of the Top Five MOST accurate and most important videos to learn from. I realize now how much we need each other for advice, guidance and support. Thank you for this video.
Thank you amen we do need each other 🌹🙏
WHO IS GOING TO BE SO PETTY TO COMPLAIN ABOUT HER DOG SNORING ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS!!!!! PROBABLY A NARC!!!!! 🙄
MUST be a Narc!!! How stupid!!! Dogs are so lovely and precious! I always enjoy watching Remy, especially since the narc monster took away my beloved dogs almost 2 years ago!
THIS is still the biggest pain I have to learn to live with, hope to overcome it one day, but it's just hard and painful.
Get a life.
True! Must be a narc !
That’s what I thought .. a narc
I have to admit one time she was talking about demons and I thought Remy snoring was demons getting angry and making themselves heard 😂 I was relieved when I realized what it actually was
Your fur baby is welcome to stay, in my opinion. He can snore, fart, or burp. He's adorable.
Ooh I won’t encourage him as he doesn’t need much..he gets embarrassed when he farts truly and sometimes wanders off 🤓
Paula, This description of the mini collapse is Exactly what happened to me. When my narcissist sister's husband died, I actually felt so sorry for her bc I saw the real her. I helped her tremendously, sacrificing my needs, to get her through that tough time. I really believed that we'd be sisters again. In the end, she did get back up, kicked me in the gut and stabbed me in the back - once again! I am 4 years & 3 mos No Contact. Im never going back!
Remy ( and his loud snoring ) is the cutest thing ever! The sight of him sleeping fitfully behind you exudes a sense of calm and peace which makes your channel one of my favourite channels! Thank you Paula for your great insights!❤
I agree - I'm new here & the adorable doggy got my attention right away! I love him
Remy is a peaceful dog. Our animals are often our best support! 🐾
When I met him he had lost half of his money to his exwife who left him for another man. He was discarded and I guess he experienced it at a huge mortification. So he called himself his version 2.0. But that was just an illusion. 4 out of 5 years relationship he managed to con me and maybe himself. Due to a smart Business decision he got money again even more than before and his demons came out again, more and more every day. After I finally broke up he bought himself a very expensive sportscar immidiatley and there he is again the full blown narcissist.
Whatever they tell you about the x just reverse it.
My x told his new supply he had to divorce me because I was having an affair with his best friend and I raped him of all his money. He had 2 affairs on me( probably more) and didn't pay me 1 penny.
She believed him and she was the one having an affair with him! behind me while I was pregnant with our son I haven't seen in 13 yrs now! And she sees everyday.
Can't make this stuff up...!!
I m et mine in a major collaps... Homeless, vulnerable, lost all the money and I fell in love with his vulnerable human side, I wanted to give him all my love, heal him and he started saying WOW! You give me my fire back! And I did not know what it meant at that time. His finances started growing very quickly and he offered me to rent a house together, I was not able to pay it because of my other financial obligations and he promised to pay it completely and efforttlessly. I rented a new house (he manipulated me to go for the most expensive option, promising to pay for it, but I was the only person on the rent contract). Three months later he left abroad and left me with my problems and obligations but wanting to keep me as a source of supply to regularly come to visit him in another country... Feeding me with promices of his return and false future promices... He kept me busy with him on the messenger online non stop distracting me from my own purpose and focus, breadcrumbling me and letting me to survive my own struggles. On the meanwhile his financial situation was flourishing by day, however the more financially abundant he became, the more he started breadcrumbling me and just using this financial situation as one of the hooks and strings to manipulate and control me. God helped me to see through it and to free myself.
Same.
Shame shame
This video is a great tool to protect healthy people from narcissistic. I've survived and graduated from narcissistic abuse. It's very important to understand that these people never change. They never completely grow up. They never see the light. They only have cycles. If you're compelled to do anything for them out of ceremony, or any civil cause know that it's ultimately not appreciated and there will be no reciprocation.
God Bless
This is dead on to what happened to me. I found he was gambling. Moved out. And then he collapsed. I ended up paying all bills at both homes to “keep him alive” as he wanted to die supposedly and then he was about to move back in with me and the night before he moved in, I found out he had another relationship going. He Denied it and then said we can’t be together because I’m toxic (for reacting to the cheating). Now Im in worse financial situation and he moved on and got a place with money he supposedly didn’t have all those months. Evil. Evil. EVIL. Sixteen years together
So sorry you went through that.
Sending strength & peace ur way cause I went tru the same with my soon 2 be ex hubby of 20 yrs
I had a lot of time with that person too. Now I have gotten back withy old ways and found out a certain lady understands what it was like. And, no I'm not married yet , she isn't either.
😢ooh my goodness I pray you are OK now.how evil.
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I believe that both empaths and narcissists can go into addiction. The way we deal with trauma is same sometimes. And it's not the addiction that makes the difference, it's a lot deeper. Thank you!
Once you've helped them, propped them back up to where they want to be and feel entitled to be ( off your efforts ) then you'll see the smirk cos they're thinking " still got it, I've got her/him to do I wanted " yucky scheming people. You'll flourish in life they inevitably perish cos they self sabotage. People walk away or at best just tolerate them. Not your problem. Thank you Paula I GET it...
😢my brother is narcissist and kept treating us to get money to pay for his addictions. He becomed so violent toward parent , breaking down the bathroom and blaming us his family for his failed life, he does not take responsibility at all and manipulate to the extent and you just don't argue with him and just say sorry for what he went through 😢😢 Finally my father asked police to take him out of the house and he is on streets or with enabling friends 😢 it is so heartbreaking because he called me ask for help but i didn't answer his call 😢I am scared because talking with him doesn't change anything, he thinks he has a right to hurt us he is entitled for this. i think he had narcissistic collapsed. I'm just praying to God for his recovery.
Sounds like my story my dad is a narc and my brother was addicted to drugs. He would brake stuff, ask for money, blame and has been homeless for quite some time. I have moved states away for my own sanity, peace of mind and can only pray for him from afar because I have kids and have to keep them safe. It was said from my family history my mother's brother was the same way until they all moved away and got married except for one sister. They tried many times to help him but he go back to his same behavior and would not want to work. It take a toll of us to stay and keep helping. I am in a huge debt for trying to help, but I have moved away and finally feel free and at peace.
Love the doggie sleeping there, so peaceful, safe, and at ease in his or her cozy home with a caring, loving owner.
It stands to reason that the hardest part of living with a narcissist is that you are part of the script. I have come to regard my role as part of the audience watching a movie or drama. Sometimes I analyze the situation and even say: oh that isn’t going to work…. It is essential not to get into the act so to speak.
Yes, during those mini collapses, they gather more information to manipulate further. I wish and really wish these folks can be helped.
@@missbearlockholmes mostly shame isn’t it. It feels like they are buried underneath it and can’t access to their real selves. The ones I’ve known are quite intelligent. Sad.
Same
Just remember, you can always pray for your narcissist, and let the God Almighty deal with them. I understand how much you love a person may have for them. Let me tell you this, the Lord, that the Lord God, Almighty created them and also loves them. Remember, you can still pray that all demonic spirits can be brought down in Jesus mighty name out of your loved ones. All you can do is what you can do and take care of you and the Lord God Almighty does the rest. Yes, God also answers prayers for those who intervene and also God gives man always free will.
Indeed God/The Divine Oneness Loves us all. Even and especially the ones that have strayed from their truth - from Spiritual love and light. Only God can help the narcissist, but they have to want it and ask it in their hearts. I’ve prayed for my ex and it is my hope she would choose a better way, but sadly I don’t think she wants it in this lifetime. They will live in suffering until they open their hearts to our loving mother/father.
GOD gives free will!
@@charlottemuller2233 yes.. He certainly does……and God bless you very much.
Romans 10:13 (NKJV)
For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.”
Narcissists are the devils soldiers and we should NOT pray for them.
The narc is in the past for me, fortunately. One of the best quotes that links to this video is "the leopard never changes its spots". Like you said Paula, the narcissist isn't going to change into another kinder and more considerate species as the NPD will not allow for that as it's largely fixed within the narc's defensive character. Detachment really is the only way as it takes you past their bs and into healing and beyond. With dedicated detachment and education then we really can get past all of their destructive and hurtful behaviours and feel (deservedly) much better. Wishing all good empaths all the best on the route to recovery.❤ Thank you Paula and Remi.
I was married for 40 years did not realize it was narcissism that my husband habout 5 years before his collapse.
I started withdrawing fell into a mass depression. Because everything was all about him. I didn't know how to cope. I stayed to myself.
An April of 2022 I caught him on the telephone with another. I finally confronted him. He said she was married. He met her at work. I told him he better stop because this was not a good thing to be doing because he is destroying 2 families. And so is she the next day he had me falsely arrested and removed from my home. I had to live with my sister an hour away was not allowed to come back to my house. One month later, in May he took her for a birthday outing for that weekend. She broke up with came back home here. My grandson who has ashburger's was still at the house. He was 23 years old at the time. Said my husband was acting very strange. Crying leaving and coming back getting in his computer. Writing things down after about a couple hours of that. My grandson met him in the hallway. He headed my grandson a letter and he had a Glock under his arm. My grandson asked him what he was doing and he said he couldn't handle it anymore. My grandson tried to stop him.He told him if he didn't leave him alone.He was going to do it right there.He left.My grandson contacted me at myes.She called him.I called the police.I was too afraid to call him because of the restraining order.I didn't want to go back To jail I did not like that place My sister said he was crying.Uncontrollably said he had done things.He can't come back from my oldest son contacted him.He told him the same thing And told him that he had been a liar all of his life. Nobody could talk him out of the time. I got back here to the had already killed himself.
He was selfish and destroyed a lot of people doing what he did. Especially our children.
It's almost been 2 years and I'm still trying to put the pieces back together.I don't really understand narcissism, but I'm trying to understand it.I have a lot of healing to do.My advice is If you're in a relationship with a narcissist you better run they will destroy your life
They Never Build you up.They will, as this person, and many others have said, DESTROY YOU. It's so hard to believe. They cannot be redeemed.
@@TimelessKnowledge Yes! read about Covert Narcissist. It's about control and extreme selfishness.
Yes they do!!!
My covert narc mom is going through the downward spiral at 81 when her apology for her horrible behavior did not put her daughters back in line. She says there is a distance (gray rock) and she is heartbroken. We sisters have agreed that operation gray rock is permanent. We shall see. I dread Mother’s Day….
Be thankful you even got an apology. My mom is 82 and has no recollection of her past abuse. She doesn't understand why my sister and I won't be a part of her life now that she's old & lonely. It's a shame she can't even admit anything.
I was pacing around the house with thoughts racing about everything he’d said and done to me. This was normal but the end was approaching. While standing at the sink I heard a loud, powerful, DEEP, SCARY voice say “GETTTT OOOUUT.” It spoke OVER the racing thoughts in my head. This voice came from my gut and it was not mine. I knew it was nothing to ignore. My 7th and last time leaving him came shortly after, then I was hearing everywhere that it takes an average of 7 attempts to leave an abusive relationship. I’m so thankful I was able to GET OUT. I pray for everyone who’s stuck living with these demons, especially those with children.
Im fascinated to hear you call out the demon. As a teenager I poured holy water on the narcissists door handle to see if he got burnt. I was convinced he was possessed by Satan.
Narcissistic people are in fact possessed by demons
Trust your instincts!
I've lost everything, but that was because of the narcissist. Not because I am the narcissist. I'm back at home and now realising that my mother has also got narcissist trates. She always complained about the girlfriends I had in my teens.
When I came back home in my 50s, I was in a mess. Couldn't sleep on a night, so snoozed on the couch. She would be silent until I started dropping off then she'd start talking. She's deliberately late when I cook. These pod casts are are an eye opener. It's a really steep learning curve. I've been blind to people's behaviours for so many years. I've been mugged off by my family and ex wife. All I ever wanted to do was try to be the person that I thought they wanted me to be. Not anymore, I now have boundaries.
"...During this time their demon is dimmed and you see them in their most vulnerable, best form..." This can also happen when they get caught or admonished for something they did during this time and they become contrite, begging for forgiveness, swearing it will never happen again, please believe them - they don’t want to hurt anyone, etc etc. They will change their ways so they don’t lose you, etc. etc. And then they start to feel better and within days or two weeks, will be right back to doing what they have been doing not giving a shit that they are hurting you again. Remind them what they said during their down time and they gaslight you saying they never said that and never would say that.
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I spent over 10 years tangled up with a person like this. To this day I can't say he's a text book narcissist but he has alot of the qualities. It took years to get away from the madness, therapy helped. My therapist told me he's probably a covert narcissist from our discussions. I played into it for so long. When I finally made the break he stalked me for over 4 years.
Interestingly the way I've finally gotten rid of him was to make a (public) Facebook post..... because I know he watches me.....and directed it at him. I said if I ever caught him stalking or following me again that I was going PUBLIC, NAMING NAMES and GOING TO THE POLICE.
We both live in a small town. I have hardly seen him since. I'm guessing he still watches me but I feel like I won a big battle. He would be mortified to know the people in town might be talking about him.
I feel empowered, especially after dealing with this for years.
I was listening through headphones and couldn't even hear the snoring in the other videos. It did not distract me at all. I saw the positive comments that it was soothing to some people. Those complaining were probably narcs.
Thank you for this... it's the saddest, most tragic thing to witness -- especially to the narcissist you love.
Be careful with that.
You think you love the demon but what has he done for you consistently ....??
Paula, you save lives all across the world. Thanks from the Netherlands. 🤗
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Narcissist's exist In the Netherlands?
I was about to end my life, but when I found out that it was a mental illness, I gave it up.
This mental illness is not known in our country. I found out by chance when I was watching your channel.
She left me when everything was ruined. In addition, she took our children too, and now I am in a lot of pain.
Everyone runs away from me. I am confused. When she left me, I didn't know who she was, so I closed the door of my house for a month and I was crying and blaming myself. I started leaving home when I was watching your channel by chance. I have seen evry single diagnosis of covert narcissism on her day to day life. But now I am woring about our children.
Praying for you 🙏
Its demon possession 💯
Nope it’s not…stop the misinformation.
Correct. Anyone that disagrees I urge to take the narcissist to receive exorcism from the Catholic Church to see.
@@lisyclare Definitely don’t look into medical science and data that proves and shows exactly how NPD and other disorders came about.
Yes.
They like it that way, that's why people fail to understand. The demon can't stay and grow where it's not welcomed
Such an amazing video. I am a year no contact. By the behavior of the flying monkeys, I believe my ex isn't doing well. I am holding firm. I would never go back because I know exactly what she is. It would be devastating for me. Love to you and Remy. ❤
It frightens me that they are multiplying tho. Like cockroaches, as I’ve said in other channels, they are multiplying fast. Is there ANY HOPE THAT ANY NORMAL
PEOPLE WILL BE LEFT?? That we can trust and allow into our lives ???😵😵😵😵😪😪😪🤐
I don't think they're multiplying as much as being outed. Saw a whole video on this somewhere.
We’re here
I think they are multiplying. At least it seems like everyone is fake. It's the dividing of the goats from the sheep. I am very isolated because of my insights and I can't be fake. I had a plan to go to a new friends house for the holiday. Her mom was in the hospital so it will probably be postponed. Prayers for her mom. I was looking forward to getting to know this new friend better. It feels like a spiritual attack to keep me isolated. I hope the mom is ok. I feel kinda selfish for thinking this.
I’ve been saying the same things. They’re multiplying like gremlins
In God we trust ❤
Your dog does his job very well: simply being a dog - caressing our wounded hearts with love and cuteness.💓
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narcissism is anger. anger is darkness preventing seeing what’s right to do. anger is a result of unforgiveness. from mad to madness.
Resentment
I have come to believe, in all of my years, that there are demons dressed up as people. I'm so glad that I'm free of that Narc & will NEVER have to see that person again. I say, don't even try to help them. You can pretend sympathy, but don't get sucked in & don't give love. Believe me, the love will die, probably sooner than the collapse comes.
A demon can’t be rehabilitated ….my 92 year old CN mother passed away last month and I finally feel peace and hope- good luck on the other side, you’re gonna need it!
😮😮 damn that bad
I am experiencing precisely the same thing with one right now. I've been fairly good at keeping my boundaries this time. I know she's only being decent because she's desperate for help to move and has burned all other bridges. She never directly asks for help. Instead she talks about how no one will ever help her and everyone that screwed her over. When i come with the requested help, she tries to distract us with a fashion show or show and tell and talk but not actually pack and move. Then it's just constant venom about everyone who has done her wrong. Demons definitely present when she isn't getting her way. The energy is so toxic and the demand for sympathy is over the top.
LMAO - complaints about Remi snoring?! So glad you cannot comment with a straight face!
Just started listening to get help with a very close co-worker who is driving me out of a job I absolutely love. I've had personal relationships with two people who I believe to be narcissists. It was brutal and I carry the scars 20 & 35 years later. i didn't realize the same behavior from a co-worker until I started trying to get advice dealing with one.
Personally, I would love more content on c0-workers - but I understand people in personal relationships or just out of a relationship need so much support and help healing so I understand why you've offered so much help.
Love listening on my walks. I'm American and your Irish accent is very soothing. My situation is improving each day. Adore Remi and just, thank you for all your help.
Good luck dealing with the co-worker situation, I know how bad that can be. Regarding Remi - I wish I COULD hear his snoring! Haha. He looks so comfortable. Paula has provided the best couch space for him! 💗🐕🦺
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Thank you for bringing up the aspect of demonic possession. It is key to understand the narcissistic dynamics, and why relationships with narcissists are so incredibly draining and entangled.
Thank you for this video. Now I understand why after my dad's sister died in April 2022, he started having so many health problems. My mother HATED my aunt. She hates EVERYONE who might take my dad away from her (whether it's a reality or NOT, and it's NOT). My dad had cognitive dissonance. My mother brainwashed him that his sister was trying to get money from him. She was always complaining to me, "His sister doesn't know how to spend money. She's spending too much money." My aunt was taking care of three adults (her mother/my grandmother, her elderly sister with Parkinson's, and a younger brother who had severe depression and possibly schizophrenia) for DECADES. And I'm just now realizing how ABUSIVE my mother was to deny my dad the ability to care for her. She was demonic. We are no-contact because her demon is so powerful, she was refusing to let me talk to my dying dad towards the last months of his life. As soon as she learned he had pancreatic cancer, she was doing bizarre things... always asking me to take her to the bank. She's a psychopath. I understand that now. I never saw her cry in all my 51 years of life, and I went no-contact after my dad died January 27, 2024. After he died, one of his friends sent me a video of my mother laughing in the funeral home. Creeped me out. I blocked him. I blocked ALL of her evil family. Matthew 19:29-30 was my absolution. "Consider the lilies." Life is good. Choose love. Not money. I may die poor, but I am surrounded by good people, and my mother has surrounded herself by sharks who are just waiting for her to die. It's so sad. But Satan dominates. God lets you choose. My mother chose Satan. I chose to walk away and not spend my energy helping someone who hurts people without remorse. My love and energy is better spent helping people who trust and love goodness.
I know one of these things. As they get older they typically crash one to three days per week although at times they may go a month without crashing and other times be in bed 5 days per week. The crazy thing is after they crash it doesn’t skip a beat. They show up loud and aggressive the following day like nothing happened. They told me they are not depressed, just exhausted. I definitely believe this person has a demon, or several demons.
My ex Narc refers to all of the loss he has experienced because of his bad choices as “Collateral damage”
That quote used to drive me crazy and I would correct him and say “you’re hurting the people you love immensely and you’re hurting yourself”.
But then I realized he sees people as objects, property, and “collateral damage” is the best description he can come up with. Now looking back it’s so revealing to the way he looked at our marriage and anyone in my family , that he could see as something he could use.
Thank God for these videos. They are so enlightening. God‘s mercy is upon us when we find these.
that sentence: "he finds narcissists particularly boring and doesn't want to listen" took me out lmao I love it
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I really find comfort in comments like this. I have never been a person with low self esteem, I didn’t realize what narcissistic abuse was until the last 3 years of a 15 yr marriage. His insecurities and accusations had me questioning my reality, convincing me that maybe I am subconsciously trying to attract other men. We couldn’t even go out in public together and even made the concious effort at looking at the floor avoiding any accidental eye contact with anyone. I’m so thankful that God removed me from a table where I was being served poison for so long.
One line that stood out for me that truly helped me break the soul ties was from a pastor Blake on YT. It was no longer love, but bondage.
My experience with narcissism is that you find yourself in an entangled web of entrapment, torture, lies and manipulation not to mention under attack financially, spiritually and often physically. During my experience I had to stand back and study narcissism to see through what I was living through and obtain the skills and tactics to carefully manoeuvre through and out of it. As the narcissist does not accept the word no, you can find yourself in a seriously dangerous situation. I'm glad to see this Chanel as there are so many people stuck in these situations in fear and confusion, however some other channels are making light of narcissism in our characteristics. Narcissistic abuse is a serious violation of any human being whether it be covert, overt, malignant or otherwise.
Oh my goodness...people complained about Remy snoring? That indicates he is comfortable....Nevertheless, I always hear you just fine and receive your message....only when you were outside a couple times I had a hard time hearing you but thats not a complaint...because I just hit rewind when I needed to....i guess people still focus on the wrong things even when its a bigger picture to see...and you make that picture so vivid and clear...I love the relationship you have with your dog.....I love my cats the same way....I appreciate you and Remy....lol....😂❤
Yuuuuuuup…that is what NARCS do…..let them sit and have it because if you do care about them, you will need to let them hit bottom.
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Me Cynthia Ann
Cedarburg, Wisconsin. Howdy neighbor 😊
@@Bob-zh6dw ooooooh wow…. I go to Cedarburg so so so much. You have awesome STRAWBERRY FEST FUUUUN days. Your main street with all the beautiful shops are so so fun. OOOOH MYYY..THEY ARE SOOO FUN! Thank you for your comment here and God bless you and I certainly do love, Cedarburg Wisconsin.
I appreciate your compassion towards the narcissist - who evidently cannot be other than they are - while still cautioning us that we do have to take care of ourselves, knowing the narc will always be the narcissist. A lot of people who study this and lecture on it don't seem to have that compassion.
I disagree that they cannot be other than they are. They can be charming and nice to certain people, and meanwhile back-stabbing and villifying behind their backs. They hide the abuse in public, and then abuse their victims in private. They KNOW right from wrong, and they CHOOSE to commit heinous acts that hurt people.
@@mvbigmagic4048 all true - on the behaviors.
great video.
I witnessed the collapse a few times. once I spent 3 straight days with the ex. 5 minutes after I left her place to go back to mine, she called me and said "I'm bored'.
for me, there's nothing better than imagining a narcissist with no supply, sitting at home gnawing on their own leg.
Yes there is. Imagining you both are narcissists doing this to each other forever 😈.
Wow. Thank you so much for explaining it in this way. I am not religious, but I recently came to believe there was a demon inhabiting these narcissistic individuals, and it all makes sense now. You can’t save a demon 🤍